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FEBRUARY 18, 2021 | The Jewish Home OCTOBER 29, 2015 | The Jewish Home
Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
I started dating relatively recently, and I see a huge discrepancy between what my parents are looking for and what I am looking for. My parents are more yeshivish than me and are looking for the perfect package. They want a
family more like my family religiously but I couldn’t care less if, for example, my future father-in-law wears a hat. I couldn’t care less if my mother-in-law covers her hair. The list goes on. I feel powerless because my parents are determined to take care of my shidduchim themselves. They say it is how it’s done, and if done differently, I will be ostracized by shadchanim. First of all, is this true? Will I really be ostracized for taking care of my own shidduchim? And how can I manage to convince them to be more open-minded when looking into ideas? Thank you, Rachel*
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
