50 Shades of Paid Magazine - October 2016 Issue

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Editor's Note We each have a calling.

It’s the drumbeat of your Soul, the pulsing energy that fires you up to pursue a particular path or direction.

We gravitate towards our callings because it’s through living them that we unlock the experience of being our truest, most fulfilled selves.

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

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EDITOR IN CHIEF Kadena Tate-Simon

MANAGING EDITOR Frenetta Tate

LAYOUT EDITOR Karena Simon

PHOTOGRAPHY EDITOR All photographs used with the permission of Dee Hill, http://www.DeeHillPhotography.com

HAIR AND MAKEUP Vivienne Vermuth, http://www.makeupartbyvivienne.com

it’s an honor and a blessing to share this information with you.

Thank You for joining me on this journey.

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CONTENTS

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BRIGHT, BEAUTIFUL STAR - OTITI JASMINE

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CELEBRATING CREATIVITY

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WITH LUCINDA CROSS-OTITI http://www.LucindaCross.com

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THE COURAGE TO PLAY BIGGER - KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com BEING AUTHENTIC MAKES YOU

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MAGNETIC AND UNIQUE - KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

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Bright, Beautiful Star

BY OTITI JASMINE http://www.OtitiJasmine.com Your energy and vitality

Come, come, come into this magical place

Turn them up, bring them out

Your love and passion and mercy and grace

Light your fire and burn crazy bright

Are waiting to fill you up, fill you all the way to overflowing

Let your flames singe you and dare you and lift you

Stretching, leaping, blooming and growing.

To do more, more, MORE!

Let yourself go; let yourself feel

More than you ever imagined or dreamed or

The power in you that is real

hoped for Take your place in the cosmos and rise Glowing with your truth and flowing with your intuition

You bright, beautiful star with luminous eyes.

With your spirit wild and free And your mind light and open.

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Hello, I'm Lucinda Cross: Chief Activator, bestselling author, internationally known speaker, writer and spokesperson and creator of products and services. Attendees love the high

Celebrating Creativity with Lucinda Cross BY

LUCINDA

energy of my personal and professional development classes.

In 2006, I started the brand Activate Your Life Today!, a leadership services firm that specializes in the delivery of personal and professional development enrichment programs. I developed seminars, workshops, curricula and training specifically for professional women, young adults

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and at risk women and youth. Professional

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women seeking personal growth invariably tell me how my programs enrich their lives.

Ultimately my work is about helping women live a life of fire, fun and freedom.

What inspired you to start your company?

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I wanted financial freedom and peace of mind.

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Celebrating Creativity with Lucinda Cross What does being creative mean to you?

Being creative for me means expressing myself without feeling the need to fit in or be accepted. I find my creative power through my kids by enjoying their freedom of expression. This reminds me to give myself permission to be free.

How Do You Handle Stress?

I handle stress by praying or visiting my favorite bench by the water. One of my habits, taking a walk before I start my day, helps me to work more efficiently.

How do you help people?

I help people by getting exposure for their brand and business.

How does creativity support your life purpose?

My annual Activate conference and online classes support my clients in writing books, creating signature products and signature messages. I offer products and services that help my clients create their own unique product or services. My creativity aids their creativity, which fuels my purpose of expanding their brand.

Where is your virtual residence?

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Schedule Your Portrait Session With Dee Hill Today!

I get the luxury of making clients feel great, both from behind the chair and through the art of photography. While the beauty of and good feeling from their great hair styles doesn’t last forever, my portraits will make the smile a lot over the years.

Clients can even pass these works of art down to the next generations.

Celebrating Creativity with Dee Hill | http://www.50shadesofpaid.com/deehill/ Dee Hill Photography, http://www.DeeHillPhotography.com Hair and Makeup Vivienne Vermuth, http://www.makeupartbyvivienne.com Cover Model: Kadena Tate-Simon

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The Courage to Play Bigger

BY KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

When you summon the courage to play bigger, you decide to take up more space on the stage of life. You’re willing to unfurl your huge wings and take flight, to stand up and be counted.

Playing bigger is elevating your game and showing up bright-eyed & bushy-tailed. This takes courage because fear keeps us playing small, unsure of our gifts, strengths, and talents.

I’m here to tell you that you’re bigger than your fear and you DO have what it takes to nail it. And whatever you don’t have yet, you can pick up along the way.

What’s stopping you from stepping up? Why are you afraid to shine your light and be all you can be? At the risk of trotting out 1 cliché after the other, why are you sitting on

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your gifts?

The Courage To Play Bigger

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You already know what you need to do. I bet you know the next 5 steps to take to elevate your game.

So why aren’t you doing any of them?

You’re waiting to have more time/money/energy.

If you’re singing yourself this lullaby, you already know it’s getting you nowhere fast.

If you’re really serious about feeling deeply fulfilled, that means leaping before you’re ready. You can spend an eternity waiting to be ready, and you’ll still find a reason to dally even when you swear you won’t.

I know you know what I’m talking about.

There IS no perfect time. There’ll always be more to do, factors to consider, quibbles to steamroll past. If you don’t decide to work what you’ve got, you’ll keep spinning your wheels in limbo, and that’s not why we’re here. Dare to shine!

Even if you REALLY don’t have the money or energy yet, do everything else you can to get the ball rolling. Look up books, blogs, and podcasts. Rope in a girlfriend as an accountability buddy. Build some momentum and commit to staying on track. Eat more nourishing, healthful foods. Hydrate. Get lots of sleep. Move your body as much as you can. Get going.

You’re afraid you’ll fail.

Honey, we’re all going to fail at something, so it might as well be something that matters. Failure doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a brave person. It’s not easy to take a chance on your dreams, but it’s even worse to slog through each day with your song still inside you.

Inventors treat failures as learning tools on the way to building something that works. Babies fall all the time while they’re learning how to stand up and walk and run.

Why should you expect instant perfection at something new to you?

Get your ego out of the way, put on your big girl stilettos, and accept the learning curve on the way to mastery.

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The Courage to Play Bigger You’re afraid you’ll look like a fool or they’ll make fun of you.

Out of curiosity, who’s “they,” and why should that matter to you?

If you’re hanging out with people who get you (and you ought to be), you won’t have time to listen to the critics and naysayers because you’ll be too busy figuring out what works and what doesn’t.

If you approach everything with curiosity, you nudge your ego out of the way and stop fretting over dinging it. So what’ll you be doing instead? Exploring what’s before you and soaking up all the wisdom you can get from it.

Besides, if you’re willing to risk looking like a fool for your art, you’re willing to go where most people avoid going. You’re willing to venture into the unknown and not be held back by the fear of what people think.

Playing bigger is about boldness, after all.

You’re afraid you don’t have it in you to succeed.

Nonsense! You’re a bright, talented woman with a lot to offer the world. You may not have all you need to succeed right now, but that doesn’t mean you won’t have it at all.

Our callings come so we can stretch to meet them. We get our callings so we can learn what we need to learn and pick up the skills required to execute said callings.

Now, I can sing your praises ’til the cows come home, but if you don’t believe in yourself, it’ll all slide off your back without doing you any good.

It’s up to you to do the inner work it takes to have a healthy sense of your own capabilities. Call up your past successes and soak them in. Witness your triumphs and the strengths you never knew you had. Rally your loved ones if you need help seeing your own awesomeness. Dare to believe you are brighter than you feel, and dive in with your spirits high & pumped for success.

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At the end of the day, the courage to play bigger

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The Courage to Play Bigger

is largely an inner process. You have to rise to the occasion of the vision in your head and expand your thinking to meet it. When you expand your thinking, you take the expansive actions to make your thinking a reality.

BY KADENA TATE

Your dreams can’t materialize until you have a

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sturdy container to receive them, so pay attention to your self-talk, attitude, and energy.

Do what you need to do to keep surging forward and picking up what you need along the way.

You are here to shine, and you only do that when you’re willing to play bigger.

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Being Authentic Makes You Magnetic and Unique BY

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I always say that authenticity has no competition−how can there be when you’re utterly magnificent and unique? There may be other people doing the same job as you, but there can’t be anyone doing it exactly like you unless you’re both following a mass formula, and that’s not what you came here to do, is it? You started your business to stand out and make a difference, not to blend in and be indistinguishable from the masses.

If you feel like you’ve lost sight of what makes you magnetic and unique, you’re not alone. We all have our

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doubt pops up to make us wonder if we’re really such hot stuff. Please know that doubt is part of the human experience and it doesn’t have to stop you in your tracks unless you let it. And you’re here because you refuse to let it squander your joy, right?

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PART 2

Being Authentic Makes You Magnetic and Unique Authenticity may be an overused buzzword, but

You burn precious time and energy when you tie

it still has meaning once you get past the hype.

yourself down with projects and practices that don’t stimulate you and make you feel good. Running your

Simply put, being authentic is being your truest

own business isn’t a laugh a minute, but it shouldn’t

self, who you really are deep inside, and being

feel like you’re trying to catch up with the other

unafraid to share that with the world.

innovators in your space.

If your deepest desire is to be a musician and

Forever trying to catch up just means you don’t have

you’re taking singing lessons and performing

the time and space to discover your own way of

every night, you’re being authentic. If you dream

doing things that makes you feel good, plumps up

of eco-friendly everything and join the movement

your bottom line, and brings clients in the door.

to educate yourself and others about it, you’re being authentic. If you really, really want a safe

Being authentic is a daily process. You need to know

space for women to gather in fellowship and you

who you are (not who you think you are), what you

start a sisterhood or women’s circle, you’re being

want, and why you want it.

authentic.

You need to know what you’re willing to do in your If you’re not being authentic in your business,

business, how much service you’re prepared to give

what’re you waiting for? If you can’t be yourself

your clients, and where you draw the line so you have

in business, what’s the point of being the boss?

healthy boundaries in place to protect you and your heart.

You don’t have to do what everyone else in your industry is doing if it doesn’t feel true and

You want to be there for your clients, but you also

expansive to you. Do you hate the idea of a

don’t want to leave yourself open to the wrong clients

telesummit but do it anyway? Cut it out. Can’t

who’ll walk all over you.

stand the idea of curating a Facebook group but keep gritting your teeth through it?

Being authentic means reconnecting with your core self. I’ll say that again: Being authentic means

Enough already. If you’re doing anything popular

reconnecting with your core self.

or trendy that chafes at your Soul, take a deep breath and exit with grace.

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PART 3

Being Authentic Makes You Magnetic and Unique There’re many ways to do this. Maybe you’ll take up

Working out, running, swimming, and dancing

yoga and meditation. Maybe you’ll sweat it out in

are just a few ways to clear your head, burn up

Zumba or push yourself to the limit in CrossFit.

nervous energy, and leave you calm enough to

Maybe you’ll find yourself through some kind of

hear the voice of your true self.

physical movement, a hobby you enjoy, a trip to a beautiful locale, or a passion project that stirs up

The more alert and aware you are, the easier it

your creativity and nourishes your well-being.

gets to figure out what makes you different from the other business owners in your industry and

Whatever you choose, it’s important to have time for

how to best package those differences so you’re

reflection afterwards so you can tap into your true

magnetic and unique.

self beneath the superficial layers of your conscious mind and day-to-day thoughts.

Being authentic also makes you an expert in your niche−listening to your core self vaults you into a

Your core self is at the centre of your being, and you

class of your own because you’re working with a

have to journey within to find your way back to her.

dynamic creativity wholly unique to you.

Skating on the surface of your mind won’t get you there, and just thinking about it won’t do it either.

This means you find your way to the people and resources who expand your knowledge base,

You have to quiet your mind, cut through the layers,

hone your business skills, and point you towards

and mine the silver and gold within. In other words,

your true path, all of which combine to make you

you have to be still and alert so you hear what your

an expert doing what you came here to do.

core self has to say; journaling is great for this.

And because your life experience fuels your I suggest physical movement as a way to reconnect

business, the expertise from your life experience

with your core self because the effort of moving your

seeps into the way you do business and draws

body in a controlled manner strips away everything

your right people to you. They see that you’ve

unessential to the movement, so it clears your mind

been where they are so you know what they’re

of the white noise that crackles over the voice of your

talking about, and they trust you enough to lead

core self.

them on their own journey.

She’s always talking, but you’re not always listening to or aware of what she’s saying.

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PART 4

Being Authentic Makes You Magnetic and Unique It’s impossible for everyone to like you, and worrying

Having a written reminder of the ‘why’ behind

about that just stops you from fully showing up every day.

your vision makes it easier for you to find your way back when you veer off your path and feel

You’re not here to appeal to everybody, you’re just here to

lost in the dark.

reach the right people who need what you have to offer and are waiting for you to give them what they need. Your

We all get distracted and off course, and what we

job is to attract the clients who resonate with you, who

do when that happens makes the difference

need you, and you can’t do that if you’re losing sleep over

between getting back on track ASAP and

who does or doesn’t like you.

wandering in the wilderness indefinitely.

Once you accept that you’re not here for everyone, you

You need to be able to navigate the bumps and

free yourself to focus on who you’re here to serve and

twists of entrepreneurship with grace so you can

how you can give them the highest levels of service.

stay on top of your game and pull off your best work.

Focusing on your ideal clients means you can’t be bothered who does or doesn’t like you and what you

Being authentic isn’t throwing around a

stand for.

buzzword; it’s embracing a way of life that brings out the best in you and makes you indispensable

When you’re connected to your core self, you’re grounded

to your ideal clients and customers.

in who you are and what you’re here to do, so you’re confident about the way you do business and the goals

When you know what makes you different from

you set for yourself.

the other people in your industry, you’re better able to attract your right people because you’re

Being in touch with your core self means you’re always

acting on what makes you magnetic and unique.

checking to make sure every project, business decision, and service or offering matches the vision you have for

Allow yourself to be in relationship with your

yourself and your business. And to do all that, you need to

core self so you can be the bright beacon your

write down why you’re in business in the first place so you

clients and customers need you to be.

have something tangible to refer to when things get rough and you start wondering why you do what you do.

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