50 Shades of Paid May 2016 Issue

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Editor's Note You will be misunderstood.

You will be correctly understood and people may judge, criticize and condemn you for what you say.

Say it anyway.

The world needs your voice and wisdom.

Unlock the Power of Your Voice.

EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

The month of May offers you the opportunity for rebirth and renewal.

You are encouraged to nurture your inner child with unconditional love, acceptance, gentleness, patience, encouragement and compassion.

Happy Mother's Day!

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EDITOR IN CHIEF Kadena Tate-Simon

MANAGING EDITOR Frenetta Tate

LAYOUT EDITOR Karena Simon

PHOTOGRAPHY EDITOR All photographs used with the permission of Dee Hill, http://www.DeeHillPhotography.com

HAIR AND MAKEUP Vivienne Vermuth, http://www.makeupartbyvivienne.com

it’s an honor and a blessing to share this information with you.

Thank You for joining me on this journey.

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CONTENTS

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LOVE LETTER: SHE - OTITI JASMINE http://www.OtitiJasmine.com

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CELEBRATING CREATIVITY WITH AMY APPLEBAUM http://www.AmyApplebaum.com THE COURAGE TO FOLLOW YOUR CALLING - KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

8 WAYS TO BUILD YOUR BUSINESS THROUGH PUBLIC

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SPEAKING - KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

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YOUR SILENCE WILL NOT PROTECT YOU - KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

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Love Letter: SHE

BY OTITI JASMINE http://www.OtitiJasmine.com She is Soft. Warm. Compassionate. Soothing.

Her bright eyes sparkle with love and laughter as she speaks and spreads joy around her.

Her vibrant spirit buoys you up on your good days, bad days, and all the other in-between days.

Her enchanting quirks crack you up with great big belly laughs.

Her glowing aura keeps you centered and lights the way home when you are lost.

She is Magnificent. Magnetic. Precious. Beautiful.

She is Mother, Mum, Momma, Mummy.

She is Timeless.

She is.

Dedicated to all the mothers who have captured our hearts.

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Celebrating Creativity with

Amy Applebaum Hello! I’m Amy Applebaum, a certified Hypnotherapist with a collection of over 100 Meditation Downloads & Apps on my website.

I’ve helped thousands of female entrepreneurs around the world break through barriers inhibiting their success and happiness via my groundbreaking “Six Step Process.”

My Ambitious Women’s Success Club targets women entrepreneurs & network marketers.

I’m also an author, consultant, speaker, success coach and frequent television guest, with appearances on ABC, CNN, TLC, and Martha Stewart Radio; as well as features and quotes in major publications such as the NY Times and Cosmopolitan.

Visit my website http://www.AmyApplebaum.com to learn more.

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Celebrating Creativity with Amy Applebaum What inspired you to start your company?

After years of struggles to be a successful entrepreneur and eventually finding great success, I committed myself to “make it easier” for others.

There was a time I would just go, go, go. While I was productive, I wasn’t enjoying success or the process. I wasn’t enjoying my life. My balance was off. So I started selfhypnosis and daily meditation. It changed my life and brought me to a place of reflection. A place where I could create my own state of being. It made such a difference in my life that I created a library of over 100 meditation downloads and apps for all the people struggling with the same challenge (www.AmyApplebaumAlbums.com).

My epiphany? If you love it, you can share it. If you can share it, others can love it. So… just do it! Stop making excuses, stop waiting for the perfect moment and JUST DO IT. If you have fun doing it day to day, there can be no regrets. Love life everyone… each moment is so valuable.

What does being creative mean to you?

Creative means “letting go” – releasing what’s inside without fear of judgment. Creative means “going for it.” Editing and fine-tuning can happen later. When you’re releasing your creative power, you have to just GO FOR IT…ALL THE WAY.

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PART 3

Celebrating Creativity with Amy Applebaum How Do You Handle Stress?

MEDITATION!! Daily. Having been someone who battled with anxiety and stress, I had to find a way to doscover my “zen” place. Daily meditation got me there. As I mentioned before, self-hypnosis also helped change my life. Both brought me to a place of reflection. A place where I could create my own state of being. Oh… and yoga. Yoga helps me get grounded, maintain my state and release a load of energy.

How do you help people?

I just launched my most significant project yet, “The Ambitious Women’s Success Club.” It’s a coaching club dedicated to women and it’s freaking awesome. We are the only company offering On-Demand Business Coaching. And for the first time EVER a coaching platform doesn’t cost thousands of dollars. Women finally get access to the best coaches in the country at a price that makes sense for their growing business. This has taken me years to develop, and I’m very excited to make a difference in so many people’s lives.

How does creativity support your life purpose?

My life’s purpose is to enjoy life. Enjoy my family. Enjoy my day to day. And… make a difference. It’s that simple. So when I create a meditation, or coaching service, I create something “I love”, something “I need”. If I need and want it, maybe someone else does. It took me a long time to merge who I really am with what I do day to day. Creativity supported, nurtured and helped me solidify that effort.

Where is your virtual residence?

Amy Applebaum Success Coach for Women; CEO & Founder of Amy Applebaum, Inc., The Ambitious Women’s Success Club, and The Hypnosis, Meditation & Coaching Group http://amyapplebaum.com http://www.facebook.com/amy.applebaum MAY 2016 • 50 SHADES OF PAID | 9

Considering a Brand Rebirth?

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I get the luxury of making clients feel great, both from behind the chair and through the art of photography. While the beauty of and good feeling from their great hair styles doesn’t last forever, my portraits will make the smile a lot over the years.

Clients can even pass these works of art down to the next generations.

Celebrating Creativity with Dee Hill | http://www.50shadesofpaid.com/deehill/ Dee Hill Photography, http://www.DeeHillPhotography.com Hair and Makeup Vivienne Vermuth, http://www.makeupartbyvivienne.com Cover Model: Melisa Robledo

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The Courage to Follow Your Calling

BY KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com

We each have a calling. It’s the drumbeat of your Soul, the pulsing energy that fires you up to pursue a particular path or direction. We gravitate towards our callings because it’s through living them that we unlock the experience of being our truest, most fulfilled selves. When we give ourselves permission to answer our callings, we give ourselves permission to live our richest, fullest lives. We call up the courage to surge forward into the unknown and try something we’ve never done before.

Courage, then, is the deciding factor when it comes to following your calling. You probably already know this, but I’ll say it anyway−following your calling is meant to expand you, nourish you, and purify you. Answering your calling is a daily commitment to whatever it takes to get where you’re headed, to make the necessary sacrifices so you can reap the rewards. A calling is a holy task assigned to you

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because you’re the best person to do it.

The Courage to Follow Your Calling

PART 2

I’ll say that again: A calling is a holy task assigned

Shifting your focus can shift your perception and your

to you because you’re the best person to do it.

mood so you see things in a different, more favorable light.

That means the Universe didn’t screw it up giving you that calling. That means the Divine has your back and

Having the courage to follow your calling is simply

wants you to leap forward, bold and unafraid. That

having the courage to try something new, to experience

means you’re uniquely suited to the task ahead of

something different, to trust the intangible and believe

you and you know enough to start right now with

that your nebulous ideas can become reality.

what you’ve got.

When you view your callings as soul assignments, you Like Tara Mohr says in her brilliant book Playing Big,

realize that you’re here to live out those assignments,

you don’t have to have it all figured out before you

and you walk a little taller knowing your unique

pursue your calling. We think we need to have all

purpose in the world.

skills in place before we begin or can be successful, but that’s false thinking. We’re meant to learn along

So what are some ways you get the courage to pursue

the way because learning those skills is part of the

your calling?

calling. Instead of beating yourself up for what you don’t know or can’t do yet, focus on the learning

Educate yourself on it.

process and give yourself the freedom to experiment with different approaches.

Maybe you yearn to be an advocate for green energy and “eco-friendly everything.” Read up about it. See

That said, it can still be scary to pursue your calling.

what other people in that space are up to and what

While it’s a challenging experience, it shouldn’t feel

speaks to you. Immerse yourself in the culture so you

heavy or overwhelming. If it’s either of those things,

can take your place in it and share your thoughts in

take a step back and see how your perspective may

uniquely articulate ways.

be skewing your feelings. Maybe you’re focused on what you don’t have, or the difficulty of learning

You have to get your toes wet before you learn how to

something new, instead of why it’s important to start

swim. Dive in!

learning what you don’t know.

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The Courage to Follow Your Calling Write out your mission statement/manifesto.

PART 3

When you decide on your daily actions, commit to staying consistent. Tweak your schedule to

You believe in this so strongly that you’re willing to

make room for your new commitments, and treat

devote your time, money, and effort to exploring and

them as top priority. Since these are small daily

mastering it. Why is it so important to you? What do

actions, they don’t have to be elaborate rituals

you hope to achieve by doing it? And what would

that eat up your time and energy. Keep it simple

keep you going even when things don’t go the way

so it’s a no-brainer to do, as easy as brushing

you want them to?

your teeth or making your first cup of coffee in the morning. Once you master the little things,

Take your time and craft something especially potent

you can gradually move on to bigger, more

to you. Write it down in your truest, clearest voice

complex actions that catapult you forward.

and share it with the world. It can be a 1-page declaration. It can be a wall-sized poster. As long as

Find your tribe and gather their support.

every word is true to you and steeped in your values, you’ll have something powerful to guide your focus,

There’re other people who believe what you

intentions, energy, and actions. Ante up!

believe and want what you want. Where do these people gather online & offline? How can you

Start small and stay consistent.

recruit them to your cheerleader squad and sparkling posse? By going where they are and

You’ll get a lot more done if you do a little bit every

reaching out to them, that’s how.

day instead of waiting for huge floods of inspiration to hit you every once in a while. Daily actions keep

Depending on your calling, your family and

your calling front of mind so you’re always getting

friends may or may not be your most ardent

closer to it with every step you take. Even if you feel

supporters. You need to be prepared for the

yourself stuck or going backward, you’re still learning

latter so it doesn’t make you feel alone and

something useful to enhance your experience. Trust

misunderstood. Instead, seek out your tribe for

that everything is valuable as long as you keep

the hand-holding and safe space you’ll need as

moving forward.

you navigate the brand new world of following your calling.

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PART 4

The Courage to Follow Your Calling

Ask your friends and colleagues for places/people they can recommend to meet your needs. Do some online searching to cast your net wide. And if all else fails, you can always become a focal point for your tribe. Tell everyone you know what you’re up to and ask them to connect you to the like-minded people in their networks. Set your intention to find your tribe, and the Universe will deliver.

These aren’t the only ways you can pursue your calling, but they’re certainly helpful to get started.

You want to be relaxed and alert as you do them so you all your actions are fueled by love, not fear.

As long as you stay mindful and intentional, you’ll find it easier to educate yourself on your calling, write down your mission statement/manifesto, start small & be consistent, and find your supportive tribe. Once you have these moving parts in place, answering your calling goes a whole lot smoother and life gets a whole lot easier.

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8 Ways to Build Your Business Through Public Speaking

BY KADENA TATE-SIMON

In my opinion, speaking is the fastest way to grow your coaching business or consulting practice. This is because you have the advantage of speaking to several people at one time.

There is a synergy when we come together whether online or offline that is simply not present in one-to-one interactions.

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8 Ways to Build Your Business Through Public Speaking

PART 2

In Person or Virtual Conferences

Voice Overs and Commercials

These are considered outreach and visibility campaign

You can offer to be the voice for a colleague's audiobook,

strategies designed to establish credibility and upsell

voicemail, product demo, book trailers and/or short film.

attendees into your high priced products, services and programs.

Retreats, Seminars, Boot Camps

Teleseminars and Webinars

A live audience is a fantastic outreach and engagement strategy. Inside of your presentation, present case studies,

Telephone or video based seminar delivered over one or

white papers, workbooks, multi-media products and card

more sessions. Webinars provide you a simple, cost-

decks to help the participants.

effective way to: * Increase visibility

Live events are a great way to present your high priced

* Attract prospective clients who might be interested

products, services and programs.

in your product, service or program offering * Move prospective clients further into your sales

Spokesperson

funnel * Share your ideas on how you solve relevant client problems

If you truly believe in a company's products, services and mission, offer to be the “face” of their brand.

Online/Offline TV Show

Tradeshows and Exhibitions

People love to watch tv for informational and educational

Speak at conventions, conferences, trade-shows and

purposes. Showcase your expertise for broadcast on

exhibitions as these will provide opportunities to showcase

television or on video-streaming channels like YouTube or

and demonstrate your new products and services. This is

Vimeo to gain visibility.

also a great place to meet potential JV partners.

Online/Offline Radio Show Package your knowledge into short segments for broadcast on radio or on audio-streaming channels like ITunes, Soundcloud, and Stitcher. This allows people to listen to you during their commute and/or while relaxing.

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Your Silence Will Not Protect You

BY KADENA TATE-SIMON http://www.KadenaTate.com Editor's Note: As entrepreneurial women, it is imperative that we learn how to communicate with clarity, brevity and authority. Whether you are a daughter, sister, wife, mother, aunt, cousin, author, coach, consultant, speaker, trainer or small business owner, communicating your truth is required.

Whenever the voice of self-censure reveals itself, find comfort int he wisdom of Audre Lorde: “Next time, ask: what’s the worst that will happen? Then push yourself a little further than you dare.

Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal.

And the world won’t end … And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you …

And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”

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