Conquering Connecting
“Everyone looks so much better when they smile.” That is a quote from Jimmy Fallon, who you now know of as the host of the legendary “The Tonight Show.”
What a meteoric ride that guy has had to the top? How did he do it? How did Jimmy, son of an IBM machine repairman, get to the chair once occupied by maybe the most legendary figure in comedy TV for 30 years straight, Johnny Carson? Oh yeah, the same chair Jay Leno sat for 20 years too. He did it through exceptional networking. In the span of about five years, Jimmy Fallon went from a “Saturday Night Live” alum unsuccessfully navigating Hollywood to a late night star to the host of NBC’s “The Tonight Show,” one of the most respected franchises in entertainment. This did not happen by accident.
Fallon’s meteoric rise is partly due to his intense focus on developing relationships with people who could advance his career, as pointed out in Shane Snow’s book “Smart cuts” and a recent interview with the comedian.
And he proves that this type of networking doesn’t have to be some kind of Machiavellian manipulation, but rather can be based on a genuine interest in personally connecting with influencers.
Another key, Fallon worked his butt off. While still a computer science major at Albany’s College of Saint Rose, he performed comedy at small clubs and obsessed about the comedy industry.
Fallon had interned at a New York alternative newsweekly, and his former boss Peter Iselin passed on his audition tape to one of his new colleagues in Los Angeles, entertainment agent Randi Siegel. Siegel was only 26 but managed to make her way into the SNL crowd with clients like David Spade and Adam Sandler.
Siegel found 21-year-old Fallon’s performance to be charmingly amateur, but she could see that he was naturally talented. She gave him a call and was surprised to hear after introducing herself, “Randi Siegel! I know who you are!”
Siegel was impressed by his knowledge of the comedy industry coupled with his enthusiasm that Randi agreed to take him on as a client. Fallon was so dead-set on joining SNL that he dropped out of school one semester shy of graduating. Due to Siegel’s connections, Fallon was able to eventually get two SNL auditions. Two because he bombed the first one bad. He was hired as a cast member in 1998. At SNL, Fallon developed the relationship that would come to define his career. The show’s creator, Lorne Michaels, is so powerful and respected in the industry that he often intimidates cast members. As a rookie, Fallon was no different, but he wanted to befriend Michaels. Fallon asked SNL producer Marci Klein how to do it, and she said he needed to find a way to make it into Michaels’ exclusive SNL after-parties.
Fallon asked her how and she said, “After every show, go over to Lorne and you thank him for the show.” And Fallon did. He thanked him after every single show. After a few weeks of this, Michaels invited him to sit down and have a drink with him and a clique of celebrities. Within a few seasons, Fallon habitually joined Michaels after every show to go over the night’s performance. It’s amazing what a little gratitude can do, right?
Michaels developed a rare friendship with Fallon. Michael later said of Fallon, “There’s some kind of very strong connection. I can’t really describe it beyond that. But it just has always been there.” Interesting, right?
Fallon left SNL in 2004 to pursue a movie career, and after a few flops, he felt stuck. When the late night world started to shift, Michaels convinced Fallon to take Conan O’Brien‘s vacated seat on NBC’s “Late Night” in 2009.
After “The Tonight Show” drama of O’Brien’s short stint as host and Jay Leno’s return, Michaels decided that his trusted Fallon would take the renowned position. That’s what great connections can do for you.
Fallon made a point of connecting with Leno while he was host of “Late Night,” and would call him to ask for advice. Leno says their conversations gave him insight into what made Fallon so successful in such a relatively short time. Leno said, “Most people in show business think they know everything. They don’t really listen to the other person. They just wait for the other person to stop talking. Respectful is the best word I can use for Jimmy.” Fallon sees no need for bad blood with anyone. He speaks highly of his competitors Stephen Colbert and Jimmy Kimmel, and he broke Johnny Carson’s decades-old “Tonight Show” ban of the late Joan Rivers due to a perceived betrayal.
His approach has worked. Since starting in February 2014, Fallon has attracted around 4 million viewers each night, with a much higher share of the 18-49 demographic than his predecessor, helped by many of his skits going viral on YouTube.
Fallon doesn’t see his ascension to the coveted late-night seat as the result of careful strategizing. “I just kind of did what I do. Maybe Lorne was playing the chess game more than I am. I could be just a piece that he’s playing. But if he is, it’s a great move for me. We’re both winning,” Fallon said.
What Fallon did do, even if he was just doing what he does, is 1) worked hard, (let’s not forget that), and 2) networked brilliantly by asking questions of others, listening, acting on the advice, showing gratitude and being a genuinely good human being that people wanted to help and now watch on television and YouTube incessantly.
Muhammad Shahroz Award Winning Coach, Entrepreneur &
Word Smith The dictionary defines entrepreneur as ‘a person who organizes, manages any enterprise, especially a business, usually with considerable initiative and risk’. Entrepreneurs can rightly be called the force that drives economic and social progress. They are the innovators and the source of employment, productivity and progress. We owe these famous entrepreneurs since they are the ones who keep the world in the continuous evolution that it is in. It is solely because of them that we can enjoy the products that we do and use the excellent and useful services brought to us because these famous entrepreneurs were willing to work towards achieving the ideas that led to these products and services. Whether they had their name printed in famous magazines and newspapers or a movie made on their lives, all these famed entrepreneurs might seem like they were born with a silver spoon, many of them actually had to go through a lot of hardships to gain success. Entrepreneurs are often interesting, inspiring people that anyone can learn from, but other innovators can benefit from examining the lives of ambitious businessmen and women. Whether they’re rising from poverty, picking up the pieces and trucking on after multiple failures or ditching the familiar Muhammad Shahroz have not only stories, but lessons to share “Not every entrepreneur gets it right the first time, or even the fifth, but persistence pay”.
Started his career as a young coach. The word “YOUNG” has been used here because at that age majority of the boys and girls are often involved in enjoying their lives. But Mohammad Shahroz is out of an extraordinary person, instead getting involved in useless activities he engages himself in personal and professional development of his life, not only his life but the life of others. “If you wish to be successful do for others what you like to do for yourself”
Started his career as a coach, he faced a number of hurdles. The painful hurdles involve his young age. Can you believe Young teacher and aged students????? Just like that a young trainer against corporate of highly reputed organizations and firms, its like “Ant” Against an “Elephant” but why do we always forget that a simple ant can bring a gigantic elephant to the ground, similarly a tiny matchstick is enough to bring light to the darkness. Mohammad Shahroz took it as a personal challenge and showed the world that it doesn't matter how young you are, what does matter is how much committed you are.Let’s learn the ideology of Muhammad Shahroz towards Success.
Philosophy of Life: My philosophy of life is simple “We should live a Balanced life” Majority of people are famished to earn a lot of money or someone wish to have fame in his/her life. As per my personal experience is concerned, i have seen a number of people who are displeased even after making a huge pile of money, why? Because they only focus on a single goal only. Everyone wishes to have Money, fame, respect, well balanced health and an attractive personality. In order to fulfill these wishes one should live a balanced life. A person should struggle for all of his wishes even if he/she is not able to get everything at least try, even in a little quantity. If you live an impartial life you'll be able to cope with your problems successfully. This is the my ideology with which I am living a successful life. Causes of failure: Failure is a natural phenomena. Every problem has a specific procedure to get the compulsory results/ solutions. If you follow them appropriately you will get the desired results, I but if you don't follow you will end up in vain and you become a failure. Another major cause of the failure is
people don't know how to do the accurate things at precise time in a suitable way that's why a person fails. I have a strong belief that there is always a solution, but we are not aware of the procedure. Keep up the hard work you will get what you hunt for. Secret of Success if failure, Do you agree?: Couldn't agree more. The reason is simple, people will be successful if he/she prepares him/herself at the right time for the right task in a right way and right manner. If someone is doing something for the first time it is not possible that he/she got success in every aspect in life and if he/she is not getting success in every aspect, they become unsuccessful. In order to be successful, one should have to follow the actual procedures completely. Anyone may face the failures during the struggle for success, if you truly want to be successful than increase the quantity of your failures, because one can learn from mistakes not from reward. Remember failures or setbacks are meant for learning.The harder you fall the higher you bounce and at the end of the day you will be a Success. My Most Painful Failure and how do I cope with it: Everyone in the life are facing setbacks and failures, but I can't rank them because whenever we face such setbacks I myself never give significance to them. Everyone will feel pain after a setback. While nurturing a child, parents have to guide them towards excellence and teach them how to see dreams about their goals. On the other hand, during the time of failure, parents should guide them that this is not his/her failure, it is the failure of their performance because if we give an ugly face to the failure some of the key factors will take place in his/her mind. (I) A child we become afraid of failures (II) Child will feel ashamed of getting failed. As a result a child will never proceed towards new ideas and his exposure will be less and he/she will get hesitate and they may lose their self esteem. You can't learn horse riding unless you fall from the horse's back. I myself never took my failures personally. I myself always focus on the reasons of my failures and how to improve them in order to prevent it in the future.
Key Steps of achieving Success: God has created things trouble-free for human beings. If you really want to be successful be committed to yourself. Commitment with yourself for your dreams means that a person is ready to sacrifice whatever is required in order to reach his/her goal. One should have a burning desire to achieve his/her goal. Such people are ready to sacrifice the enjoyment and leisure time unless they acquire what they wish for. FIRST of all stay focused and concentrate on your goals. List them out and remain alert. Think twice and focus on your goal and ways to get them. What will be the key steps required and how to implement them in your daily life to achieve success. Second and the most important, develop a plan of action. Only thinking won't bring what did you seek, plan of action is mandatory because planning and thinking will bring ideas only and taking an action on your plans will bring the results. Remember, positive action will bring +ve results and negative actions will bring –ve results. Third and most important step, while you'll take action, you will get failed. After a failure don't panic and never lose hope, if you can look up you can get up. So take a fresh start, do some home work, personal evaluation and restart your actions, ask questions to your self that why you get failed? Ask yourself, ask your mentors, if you can't get an answer, then ask a book. Be patient, be happy and be thankful what you have and what you are going to get. Last step surround yourself with the key performers. If you surround yourself with a key performer than you will ultimately become a key performer. Keep up the company of those who are doing what you want to do because eagle fly with eagles only. If you really wish to have a sky high glory, keep good mentors, stay in the company of gentle people stay with optimists .Muhammad Shahroz has earned a good and a respected name at a young age. An overview of his achievements. Trained more than 22000 youth across Pakistan Excellence award winner Youth icon award winner Executive member of open Karachi
Thinking of the reasons why and how Muhammad Shahroz has got fame at the young age? Because he never forgets his mentors well wishers.
Let us meet Mentors and Well wishers of Muhammad Shahroz which he himself admires the most:
SHIREEN NAQVI FOR GIVING COURAGE AT THE START OF CAREER
SUBHAN MIRCHAWALA FOR MAKING HIM READ THE FIRST PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT BOOK "7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
FARHAD KARAMALLY FOR BEING HIS MENTO FOR ACTIVITY BASED TRAINING HE IS VERY MUCH INSPIRED BECAUSE OF FARHAD’S AGGRESSIVELY COMPETITIVE PERSONALITY
ZAKIUDDIN AHMAD PRESIDENT OPEN PAKISTAN FOR BELIEVING IN HIS CAPACITY.
SAYED JAVED QAMAR PRESIDENT OPEN GLOBAL FOR CONSTANTLY APPRECIATING HIM FOR TRAININGS
FARHAN ESSA CEO OF ESSA LAB FOR BEING HIS MENTOR.HE LEARNS THE ART OF MAKING TOP NOTCH RELATIONSHIP FROM FARHAN ESSA.
IJAZ NISAR MUHAMMAD SHAHROZ IS LOOKING FORWARD TO IJAZ NISAR TO MENTOR HIM
RIZWAN JAFFAR AS A MENTOR FOR LEARNING HUMILITY AND LEADING YOUTH
Zahid Mubarik FOR BEING VERY SUPPORTIVE AND FOR HIS APPRECIATION
MIR MUHAMMAD ALI KHAN AS A MENTOR FOR PERSONAL GROOMING AND DEALING WITH SETBACKS
Roger Banister 4 Minutes Barrier Breaker
In the sport of athletics, the four-minute mile is the act of completing the mile run (1,760 yards, or 1,609.344 metres) in less than four minutes. It was first achieved in 1954 by Roger Bannister in 3:59.4. The "four-minute barrier" has since been broken by many male athletes, and is now the standard of all male professional middle distance runners. In the last 50 years the mile record has been lowered by almost 17 seconds.[2] Running a mile in four minutes translates to a speed of 15 miles per hour (24.14 km/h, or 2:29.13 per kilometer, or 14.91 seconds per 100 meters). Sir Roger Gilbert Bannister, CBE (born 23 March 1929) is an English former middle-distance athlete, physician and academic, who ran the first sub-four-minute mile. In the 1952 Olympics in Helsinki, Bannister set a British record in the 1500 metres but finished fourth. This strengthened his resolve to be the first 4minute miler.
He achieved this feat on 6 May 1954 at Iffley Road track in Oxford, with Chris Chataway and Chris Brasher providing the pacing. When the announcer declared "The time was three...", the cheers of the crowd drowned out Bannister's exact time, which was 3 min 59.4 sec. Bannister's record lasted just 46 days. He had reached this record with minimal training, while practising as a junior doctor.
Bannister went on to become a distinguished neurologist and Master of Pembroke College, Oxford, before retiring in 1993. When asked whether the 4-minute mile was his proudest achievement, he said he felt prouder of his contribution to academic medicine through research into the responses of the
nervous system. Bannister is patron of The MSA Trust. He was diagnosed withParkinson's disease in 2011.
Bannister was born in Harrow, England. He went to Vaughan Primary School in Harrow and continued his education at City of Bath Boys' School and University College School, London; followed by medical school at the University of Oxford (Exeter College andMerton College), and at St Mary's Hospital Medical School (now part of Imperial College London) Bannister was inspired by miler Sydney Wooderson's remarkable comeback in 1945. Eight years after setting the mile record and seeing it surpassed during the war years by the great Swedish runners Arne Andersson and Gunder Hägg, Wooderson regained his old form and challenged Andersson over the distance in several races. Wooderson lost to Andersson but set a British record of 4:04.2 in Gothenburg on 9 September. Like Wooderson, Bannister would ultimately set a mile record, see it broken, and then set a new personal best slower than the new record.
Bannister started his running career at Oxford in the autumn of 1946 at the age of 17. He had never worn running spikes previously or run on a track. His training was light, even compared to the standards of the day, but he showed promise in running a mile in 1947 in 4:24.6 on only three weekly half-hour training sessions.
He was selected as an Olympic "possible" in 1948 but declined as he felt he was not ready to compete at that level. However, he was further inspired to become a great miler by watching the 1948 Olympics. He set his training goals on the 1952 Olympics in Helsinki. In 1949, he improved in the 880 yards to 1:52.7 and won several mile races in 4:11. Then, after a period of six weeks with no training, he came in third at White City in 4:14.2. The year 1950 saw more improvements as he finished a relatively slow 4:13 mile on 1 July with an impressive 57.5 last quarter. Then, he ran the AAA 880 in 1:52.1, losing toArthur Wint, and then ran 1:50.7 for the 800 m at the
European Championships on 26 August, placing third. Chastened by this lack of success, Bannister started to train harder and more seriously.
His increased attention to training paid quick dividends, as he won a mile race in 4:09.9 on 30 December. Then in 1951 at the Penn Relays, Bannister broke away from the pack with a 56.7 final lap, finishing in 4:08.3. Then, in his biggest test to date, he won a mile race on 14 July in 4:07.8 at the AAA Championships at White City before 47,000 people. The time set a meet record and he defeated defending champion Bill Nankeville in the process. Bannister suffered defeat, however, when Yugoslavia's Andrija Otenhajmer, aware of Bannister's final-lap kick, took a 1500 m race in Belgrade 25 August out at near-record pace, forcing Bannister to close the gap by the bell lap. Otenhajmer won in 3:47.0, though Bannister set a personal best finishing second in 3:48.4. Bannister was no longer seen as invincible.
His training was a very modern individualized mixture of interval training influenced by Franz Stampfl with elements of block periodization, fell running and anaerobic elements of training which were later perfected by Arthur Lydiard.
Sub-4-minute mile
This historic event took place on 6 May 1954 during a meet between British AAA and Oxford University at Iffley Road Track in Oxford. It was watched by about 3,000 spectators. With winds up to 25 miles per hour (40 km/h) prior to the event, Bannister had said twice that he favoured not running, to conserve his energy and efforts to break the 4-minute barrier; he would try again at another meet. However, the winds dropped just before the race was scheduled to begin, and Bannister did run. The pace-setters from his major 1953 attempts, future Commonwealth Games gold medallist Chris Chataway from the 2 May attempt and future Olympic Games gold medallist Chris Brasher from the 27 June attempt, combined to provide pacing on this historic day. The race was broadcast live byBBC Radio and commented
on by 1924 Olympic 100 meters champion Harold Abrahams, of Chariots of Fire fame.
Bannister had begun his day at a hospital in London, where he sharpened his racing spikes and rubbed graphite on them so they would not pick up too much cinder ash. He took a mid-morning train from Paddington Station to Oxford, nervous about the rainy, windy conditions that afternoon. Being a dual-meet format, there were 7 men entered in the Mile: Alan Gordon, George Dole and Nigel Miller from Oxford University and four British AAA runners Bannister, his two pacemakers Brasher and Chataway and Tom Hulatt. Nigel Miller arrived as a spectator and he only realized that he was due to run when he read the program. Efforts to borrow a running kit failed and he could not take part, thus reducing the field to 6. The race went off as scheduled at 6PM, and Brasher and Bannister went immediately to the lead. Brasher, wearing #44, led both the first lap in 58 seconds and the half-mile in 1:58, with Bannister (#41) tucked in behind, and Chataway (#42) a stride behind Bannister. Chataway moved to the front after the second lap and maintained the pace with a 3:01 split at the bell. Chataway continued to lead around the front turn until Bannister began his finishing kick with about 275 yards to go (just over a half-lap), running the last lap in just under 59 seconds. The stadium announcer for the race was Norris McWhirter, who went on to co-publish and co-edit the Guinness Book of Records. He excited the crowd by delaying the announcement of the time Bannister ran as long as possible:
"Ladies and gentlemen, here is the result of event nine, the one mile: first, number forty one, R. G. Bannister, Amateur Athletic Association and formerly of Exeter and Merton Colleges, Oxford, with a time which is a new meeting and track record, and which—subject to ratification—will be a new English Native, British National, All-Comers, European, British Empire and World Record. The time was three..." The roar of the crowd drowned out the rest of the announcement. Bannister's time was 3 min 59.4 sec.
50th anniversary of Bannister's four-minute mile, commemorated on a 2004 British fifty pence coin.
The claim that a 4-minute mile was once thought to be impossible by informed observers was and is a widely propagated myth created by sportswriters and debunked by Bannister himself in his memoir, The Four Minute Mile (1955). The reason the myth took hold was that four minutes was a round number which was slightly better (1.4 seconds) than the world record for nine years, longer than it probably otherwise would have been because of the effect of World War II in interrupting athletic progress in the combatant countries. The Swedish runners Gunder Hägg and Arne Andersson, in a series of head-to-head races in the period 1942-45, had already lowered the world mile record by 5 seconds to the pre-Bannister record. (See Mile run world record progression.) What is still impressive to knowledgeable track fans is that Bannister ran a four-minute mile on very low-mileage training by modern standards.
Honours
In 1978, he was awarded an Honorary Degree (Doctor of Science) by University of Sheffield In 1984, he was awarded an Honorary Degree (Doctor of Science) by University of Bath Honorary Degree, University of Pavia 1986 Honorary Degree, Brunel University London, 2008 Honorary Doctorate,Oxford Brookes University, 2014 He was given freedon of the City of Oxford in 2004 Sir Roger Bannister is an Honorary fellow of his University of Oxford Alma Mater, Exeter College
Start Small Win Big 2015: Houston House Flipper Wins the Annual Entrepreneur Contest Hector Perez, real estate investor, competed against hundreds of entrepreneurs to win the challenge. A few years ago, Hector Perez of Houston met a friend with 16 rental houses who used the equity from those properties to quit his corporate job and start his own insurance agency. “The cash flow from those homes helped him pay the living expenses for his family,” Perez says. “When I learned that, I was convinced real estate was the way to financial freedom.” Perez started learning everything he could about real estate, picking up books and reading blogs. After convincing his wife, Sarah—which he says was the hardest part—the two embarked on the “crazy new venture.” “As we were learning, we made lots of mistakes,” Perez says. “It was harder than I thought to get the business going. It seemed very simple in books, but in real life, it was way harder. At one point, I questioned if this was a good idea after all.” That’s when Perez teamed with Daren Jennings, a co-worker who was also interested in real estate. After a few meetings, where they exchanged ideas and tips with each other, Jennings and Perez joined a local real estate club, took classes from local investors, began networking and even hired a mentor. They called their business Sell Your House Any Condition. Perez and Jennings renovate older homes and then either sell or rent them. “Our goal is to provide quality homes to our buyers and renters, so they will be proud to call it home, as well as make older neighborhoods beautiful once again, one house at a time,” Perez says. As a birthday present, Perez’s wife gave him a subscription to SUCCESS. In the first issue he received back in May, he learned about the Start Small Win Big challenge for business owners and spent a few days contemplating whether he wanted to participate. Contestants must read eight weekly blog posts, following the prescribed steps to improve and grow their businesses, and share the results with fellow competitors. “I realized that if I wanted to be coached by the best,” Perez says, “the only way was to take action and to commit. So I registered and started reading the
articles each week, doing the assignments and implementing some of the ideas into our business.” Perez says the most difficult aspect of the contest was time management. In addition to running his real estate business, Perez holds a day job in sales at Pipe line Machinery International, which sells and rents heavy equipment for the pipeline industry. During his lunch breaks, rather than wasting time surfing the web, he makes calls to potential home sellers and conducts other real estate business. When he leaves the office, he’s on his way to appointments, courses, networking events and more phone calls. “All of us have the same amount of hours in a day, but to learn how to maximize every minute is the hardest part,” Perez says. While Perez was learning to maximize his time for his business, one of his biggest challenges was making time for his family. “I got so caught up in the business and making the most of my time for the company, that my wife and kids were left aside,” Perez says. “My son cried one day because he had not seen me for almost two weeks. I had been coming home when they were asleep and leaving before they woke up. My biggest obstacle is balancing. I want to have a successful company while continuing to put 100 percent effort into my full-time corporate job and have quality time with my family. After all, my family is the reason we started the company.” As Perez continues to strive for balancing work and family, he says the biggest lesson he learned from Start Small Win Big was overcoming a fear of failure. “There is a quote I love—I even have it on a large whiteboard in my home office: ‘What would you do if you knew you could not fail?’ Fear is what stops us from making the next move, and this is something I always have to remind myself. “When we started this business, we didn’t know anything about real estate, but we put a plan together from the steps we thought were essential and kept track of it. Along with taking massive action, we were able to see the results and progress right away. This gave us confidence that we were on the right path. “Daren and I think the best way to overcome fear of failure is to do what you fear. If you are afraid to make calls, call more people. If you are afraid to speak in front of large audiences, introduce yourself to everyone in the room.” Perez competed against hundreds of entrepreneurs in the Start Small Win Big challenge. When he was selected as the winner by a panel of SUCCESS judges, he could hardly believe it. “I had to read [the email] three times, to make sure it was real. Then when reality hit, I started jumping up and down in my office
and celebrating like I was watching my favorite sports team win the championship.” As the winner of the contest, Perez will receive personal coaching sessions with contest mentor and CEO of GrowBiz Media Rieva Lesonsky and SUCCESS Publisher Darren Hardy. Perez says he hopes to learn tips on organization, delegating, marketing and fundraising. By the end of the year, Perez aims for his business to own 20 single-family homes and generate $250,000 in net revenue. In early 2016, he wants to begin acquiring small commercial properties while continuing to grow a network of private lenders. “[We want] to organize ourselves better and start adding personnel to do some of the tasks we are doing ourselves so we can focus on growing and expanding the company into other areas,” Perez says. “Also, I hope to learn how to become a marketing expert so we can market for success and bring our company to the next level.”
SO, YOU FEEL LIKE BECOMING A DENTIST???
Attiya Anjum YOUNG MOTIVATED SUCCESSFUL PERSONALITY Doctor Attiya Anjum reflects on her experiences so far as a young dentist and the challenges she faced.
I am sure that this is a question that is too familiar to most newly qualified dentists. I often smile back and take it as a compliment. However, a part of me cannot help but feel insecure about a possible perception of a young dentist being an inexperienced and even incompetent dentist. Entering the 'real world' of dentistry following graduation can be a very exciting yet testing
time. The challenges faced by young dentists are often similar in nature and you soon come to realise that you may not be the only one facing a particularly daunting situation.
After years of the cosy sheltered hospital environment, seeing patients in practice for the first time can feel like the safety bubble around you has finally popped. I completed a survey during my first year, which questioned whether being a 'young-looking' dentist affected the patient's perception of the dentist. Specifically, I researched into whether this made the patient feel the dentist may lack in knowledge and skill in comparison to a more 'mature-looking' dentist. However, there may be an element of truth in this perception. After discussion with my peers and other colleagues, undergraduate clinical experience in comparison to graduates from the earlier decade, does actually seem to be limited. Students are lack of confidence in a number of procedures and therefore these may be avoided during the first year in practice. A risk of a vicious cycle of poor clinical experience is thus created. Hence, the young dentist seems to already be at a disadvantage even before the patient journey begins. Thankfully, most first practices and trainers are very supportive and encourage the newly qualified dentist to gain as much experience as possible.
Vulnerability is also associated with the surrounding environment, not only the individual. We are living in an increasingly litigious society and every year there is an upsurge in the number of complaints received by the Dental Council about dentists and dental practices. Individuals are far more confident and better practiced at complaining than ever before. Whether the complaint concerns the supply of faulty goods, poor customer care at a shop or slow service in a restaurant, we all seem to be more willing to express our dissatisfaction and demand an appropriate solution. Dental patients are of no exception. As a young dentist, I found that some aspects of the general practice environment were initially very alien. For example, the business and management skills of primary care are rarely taught or otherwise discussed at dental school. Thus, these skills need to be rapidly developed on starting in practice; otherwise vulnerability then exists in this aspect of patient care. I
certainly feel there is a gap in the current undergraduate curriculum for formalised teaching of these skills. After all, business and management does directly affect the quality of care that is provided to the patient.
Being part of the younger generation, which is often referred to as 'Generation Y' (1980-2000), and treating the 'Baby Boomers' (1943-1963) or 'Generation X' (1964-1979) can often bring its own challenges. Generational theory assumes that the prevailing social, economic, political and cultural milieu in which different groups spend their formative years, gives them their own unique generational 'character'. Essentially, this means that the older generations may differ from the earlier generations when considering their values and priorities; they also seem to have a preferred set of vocabulary and may interpret a phrase differently to another generation.
From personal experience, I find my communication style does vary according to the age of the patient I am treating. For example, when treating 'Generation Y', communication seems straightforward and no special adjustments in communication method or style are required. The 'Baby Boomers' and 'Generation X' often feel they know better, they may question your judgment and it is not uncommon for a few to also try to coerce you into performing certain treatments. These communication difficulties can create stressful situations that may be difficult to manage. It often helps to remind myself that the older generations may have a slightly different focus. For instance, the intricacies on a new technology may interest me as a young dentist; to the older patient, they may just be interested purely in the benefits it provides rather than the minor details themselves. Thus, the communication needs to be tailored accordingly. A mismatch in expectations and any other discrepancies needs to be identified and addressed early on through clear communication. After completing my first year in practice, I have realised the importance of self-confidence and a strong belief in your abilities, even if you feel apprehensive initially. During the first few weeks, several patients mistook me to be the nurse rather than the dentist. This didn't provide the best confidence boost! Discussion with my peers highlighted that I was not the only one facing this problem. Thereafter, I started to change the way I introduced myself,
including the fact that I was the dentist. I also then wore a name badge highlighting the title. When explaining diagnoses and treatment plans, I provided as much relevant supportive evidence as possible. I would regularly offer the patient a second opinion from my trainer or other dentists in the practice. All of this helped to create a professional image; patients trusted me and had full confidence in my skills and abilities.
It is just as important to be aware of your limits. As mentioned, many young dentists may not be confident in several procedures due to lack of experience. Here, I found it helpful to be open and honest to the patient. Often there would be a second dentist present, usually my trainer, to guide me for certain procedures that I was unfamiliar with. This also made the patient feel more comfortable. Until you receive your first letter of complaint it's hard to describe the feeling you will get, especially if it's unjustified. I received my first letter mid-way through my first year in practice. My heart sank on reading the lines. At first, it was demoralising and the stress of handling the complaint affected my work and personal life. However, although it was an unpleasant and disheartening experience, especially so early in a career, I swiftly decided to use the complaint positively and handle it according to the current requirements. Support of your peers and colleagues is invaluable during these times. Moreover, the yearly indemnity fees surely felt worthwhile! Through this experience, I realised that even the most careful dentists receive complaints. As a young dentist, there is a higher risk of complaints and handling them effectively is crucial. Complaints are a valuable method of feedback that can help to improve the service you provide. Furthermore, research has shown that when a complaint is handled effectively, the loyalty of that patient is usually strengthened. As a young dentist, I believe this is a particularly exciting time to start a dental career. Technology, materials and techniques are rapidly improving and we are heading towards the optimal patient experience. I believe that we should embrace all challenges and grab every opportunity that comes our way, allowing us to thrive in what I believe to be a very rewarding career!
Why Genius people failed in life??? By Qaiser Mukhtar As a matter of fact here I’m going to discuss that why genius people or the majority of the people even doing a great hard work got failed. God almighty has blessed us with lots of supreme power, the power which we even don’t know or we can say that we can’t even imagine. Among all of us there are certain types of people who are a bit different than us all; these people are like salt in flour i.e. Very unusual, they always want to gain something and if given a task to them, they work to complete that task as soon as possible. Now the question is if they are genius then why they got failed. Here I’m going to discuss some of the facts and mistakes made by some of the genius people and due to them, they got fooled and from time to time failed roughly, moreover if they get failed, then it becomes very hard for them to start over, because their philosophy is different, their habits are different and their temperament is different.
Over self-belief
First of all I want you to pay attention that if you are accepting any task think, first that are you capable for it or not? But the problem with the genius people is that they never think they accept it and start working on it so quickly, it is marvelous that you took the opportunity as I have said earlier, but started working on it so quickly is not worthy and it can cause you a lot of problems in near future about which you are not aware, you might got distracted and if once they got diverted it is very difficult for them to accept it and very difficult to bring them back because they never listen to anyone, they think what they are doing is right. Why this happens? Because genius people are over confident, they think that they are the best, they can achieve anything at any time, and they no need to study so hard or work hard because they already
knows everything and they are successful as always and they will be the winner for sure. This is the biggest mistake they made.
Underestimation
Secondly, they underestimate everything, even their task and time frame which have been granted to them for the specific assignment. They always try to delay the task. For example, if they have got 7 days time to complete their task, they will waste 3-5 days and than they’ll try to utilize remaining 2-3 days to complete it. Due to lack of time they always make and finally they face failures.
EGO…………..
This is one of the major problems of most of the genius people. Their EGO is bigger than their own heights. They don’t like to listen to any one’s advice; they think that they know each and everything. If somebody tries to explain them the solution of their problem, they would never agree, they can’t afford to take any one’s help because they can’t tolerate that someone is more intelligent than them. We can learn anything from anyone even there is a saying that sometimes you can learn from a fool or mentally retard. All human beings are like you, if you are intelligent, they are intelligent too, if you are educated, they may be less educated but it is a possibility that they know something that you don’t know. Think for a while about the abilities which has been granted to you by Almighty God, on the other hand other people also have some abilities which maybe you don’t have, there is no harm in asking somebody’s help even your subordinates or juniors.
Awful Attitude
Most of the genius people have terrible social relations, their attitude is so dreadful that not even they but other people also don’t want to talk to them, they think that others are stupid or how is it possible that they know more than me, I have a postgraduate degree, I’m an expert. Due to that other people also try to avoid such types of people and you know the biggest disadvantage for this behavior is if you are going to make any sort of mistake and if your
subordinates are noticing, they will never bother themselves to warn you because they know that your behavior is already horrific and if they tell you anything, you will never agree and there are possibilities that you may insult them. Due to this alarm they will ever warn you about your mistakes which you are going to make. And finally you are on your own.
Shortcuts
Most of the genius people as I have said earlier that they want to draw to a close as soon as possible, they always search some easy and shortcuts to finish/complete their task. For example, if they have given a test and they have to prepare 4 books, they will study and prepare from 2 or 3 books to learn fast and wish to finish preparation quickly, in order to complete the paper in haste they sometimes fail to spot some of the important points.
So these are the reasons due to which genius people normally got failed, they lose respect, honor, courage, and most of all confidence. Beware of the consequences if you are doing the same. Change yourself and your world will get changed.
How to Overcome Failures By Mir Muhammad Ali Khan
Globally Recognised Investment Banker, Entrepreneure and capital markets Advisor Never be afraid to fall apart...Albeit for a little while..Because when you fall apart it is an opportunity from the Almighty to rebuild yourself the way you wanted to be all your life. To get rid of your habits that you did not want in you and to add the HABITS YOU ALWAYS WANTED IN YOU. Do not ever be afraid to fail, because failure will teach you the importance of success and it will teach you lessons that Success could have never taught you. Success is EUPHORIC, And when your mind is in the state of EUPHORIA, it wants MORE of what you are having and it gets in the habit of wanting more and more. When you are successful, your mind wants more of success and it is FROZEN in the WANTING MODE, it is rarely LEARNING meaningful lessons. If you have a Mercedes, it wants a Bentley, When you have a Bentley, it wants a Private Plane, Once you get a Private Plane..It wants....And the list goes on and on. BUT when you have FAILED in something temporarily, it is a PAINFUL EXPERIENCE. And the way HUMAN MIND works, it DETESTS pain. It does not like pain. It wants to avoid pain so it immediately goes int a Protective Mode, it goes into a mode where it is looking for ways to get out of the PAINFUL STATE and wants to learn ways how to avoid experiencing that pain AGAIN. Thus it is willing to learn to PROTECT ITSELF from experiencing pain the future. What you learn while you are in pain will GUIDE YOU for the rest of your life IF you are willing to practice it when you are successful again. Success is a natural phenomena. You are NOT put on this earth to suffer. You are put on this earth to enjoy your life, to benefit others, to help yourself and to help the less fortunate. And help is NOT only monetary help..People confuse help with money..Money is
just one way of helping others. Looking at someone and greeting them with a smile is also helping them..helping them feel better about themselves. Helping them feel welcomed. Do not ever be afraid to explore your inner self. To really get to know who you are. What your STRENGTHS are and what your WEAKNESSES are because without knowing where you need improvement in yourself, how can you get better. The biggest problem becomes that when you see a side of you that you do not like, NEVER go into denial... Do not say to yourself that NO THIS IS NOT ME, Admit to yourself IMMEDIATELY that OK, I have this bad side in me, I dont like it, I do not want it, Thank You Allah for pointing it out, Making me realize that this bad side needs to be gotten rid of, and IMMEDIATELY go to work on getting rid of that side. Do not ever be afraid to live DIFFERENTLY than others, the way your heart desires. Conforming to the society has NEVER brought any happiness to any individual. Do not get confused about CONFORMING and BEING A REBEL against the society. I am not suggesting you become a Rebel..I am asking you to respect the norms of society and after showing respect, be a person of your choice who can benefit the society. Always count your blessings, NOT your problems. Whatever you concentrate on will multiply. If you concentrate on your problems, your problems will multiply. And Vice Versa. Everything DOES HAPPEN for a reason but the most difficult thing to do in life is to wait and witness those reasons. People very easily say that everything happens for a reason but they get depressed RIGHT AFTER SAYING that instead of being happy because if you know that something happened for a reason and you believe that the reason was for your own betterment, THEN CELEBRATE THAT HAPPENING.
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