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WHOA. The last few months were in-sane.

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e dealt with homeschool. We dealt with isolation. We dealt with grief. We dealt with boredom (well, bored kids anyway).

We dealt with curveballs we never thought life would throw

our way.

It certainly wasn’t easy. My honor student son flunked homeschool. My social butterfly daughter cried for her friends. I woke up each day with a heavy heart, knowing my own struggle to balance my job and my life as a newly single parent -- amidst a global pandemic -- felt like a no-win situation.

My heart ached for everyone. The nurses and doctors, the essential workers,those caring for elderly relatives, those without jobs, the parents, the children; everyone struggled in one way or another.

But you know what? In the end, we handled it like absolute CHAMPS. We turned our children’s boredom into family time with movie nights, board games and virtual field trips. We fulfilled our longing to see friends with lengthy Zoom sessions and Facetime calls. We showered those celebrating birthdays and graduations with as much socially distant love as possible, parading by in decorated cars and bright, happy smiles. We checked up on each other, no matter what.

We shielded our beloved older generations and our immunocompromised friends from illness, abiding by all rules and recommendations fiercely. We stayed home for them. We wore masks for them. We stayed six feet apart for them. And by doing so, we saved countless lives.

We supported our community. We cheered on essential heroes with words of encouragement and gestures of gratitude. We donated food to hospitals, we made masks for those on the frontlines and we thanked those keeping us safe, every single day, in any way we could.

Say what you want about Staten Island -- and we know outsiders always will -- but we show up for each other in the good times and the bad. I’m proud to be part of this community. And I’m proud of you all (and of myself!) for helping your families, and helping each other, and most of all helping yourselves, to get through these harrowing months.

As restrictions begin to lift and the city opens up, I hope you will continue to wear your masks and follow guidelines to ensure the safety and health of those around you -- and to ensure we have the kind of exciting summer we all deserve! That’s right, pandemic talk aside... It’s finally summer! Homeschool is over (for now, at least) and two months of warm sunshine are upon us. I’ve never welcomed July with such open arms.

Stay happy, stay healthy, and stay sane!

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WELCOME A 4-LEGGED FAMILY MEMBER WITH CARE Tips for a successful, lifelong pet adoption

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ringing home a new pet can be exciting and heartwarming. Before you get caught up in the excitement of adopting a pet, however, it’s important to do a bit of homework and have conversations to ensure you’re choosing a lifelong fit for your family.

When considering adopting, keep in mind that pets can provide as many benefits to you as you do them, such as helping to reduce stress, providing companionship, getting the daily recommended amount of physical activity and more. As you take your options into account, remember these guidelines from the experts at PetSmart Charities to prepare for a successful homecoming for your newest family member.

Life Stages If you prefer a lower energy pet, seek a senior (age 7 or above) who may move a little slower. For higher energy, look for young puppies and kittens or active breeds such as Labradors, hounds, American terriers (commonly known as pit bulls) and mixed breeds.

For first-time pet owners, a healthy adult dog or cat can help teach new pet parents the joys of having a pet and may not require as much attention as a puppy or kitten.

Families with young children might consider a family-friendly breed or mixed breed such as a hound. Older kids may benefit from additional responsibilities such as walking the dog or cleaning the litter box.

Living Environment In addition to the type and age of pet you adopt, you’ll need to consider the space you have available to welcome your furry friend.

If you live in a home, consider fencing your yard for more relaxed playtime. If

you live in an apartment, discuss any restrictions with your landlord and find out where the closest dog parks are to ensure your dog gets plenty of exercise.

Dogs need a place to call their own where they’re contained overnight and while you’re not home until they can be safely left to roam. Get a crate so your new pet can have an ‘apartment’ within your home.

You should have more litter boxes than you do cats; for example, if you have one cat make sure you have at least two litter boxes. Litter boxes need to be scooped daily and completely changed weekly.

Veterinary Care Most adoptions come with a free veterinary check-up within the first week.

Visit the veterinarian to have your pet’s vaccine records reviewed and ensure you know the best options for food, exercise and preventative care.

You can prevent many common diseases by keeping your pet at a healthy weight, current on flea, tick and heartworm prevention, fully vaccinated and on a high-quality diet. Preventing diseases costs less money than treating them, so discuss concerns you have with your veterinarian.

Financial Considerations Most pets come with annual veterinary bills between $200-500 and food bills between $200-400. Adopting a pet can provide cost savings, however, as fees at shelters and adoption events are typically lower than breeders and many of these pets are already spayed or neutered.

To ensure your pet is covered in case of emergencies, consider options like pet insurance or opening a designated savings account and depositing 5% of your pay each pay period. If you take out an insurance policy as soon as you adopt your pet, he or she will not have any “pre-existing” conditions excluded from your insurance plan.

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At-Home Learning Throughout Summer Tips for keeping students sharp over the long-haul

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his year’s shift to at-home learning has provided plenty of resources parents can use to keep their children’s minds engaged and actively learning. The shift has also prompted families to create new routines and healthy learning habits. Continuing these best practices over the summer may prove beneficial in setting students up for success when they return to the classroom.

With schools closed for the last several months, many parents have been feeling the stress of taking more active roles in their children’s education. And as time away from the classroom extends into summer, parents also face the challenge of helping their children maintain what they’ve learned through a summer of uncertainty.

• Set a clear daily schedule with realistic goals and be sure to allow flexibility. A

child’s attention span grows longer with age – typically 2-3 minutes per year of age – so the amount of time an elementary school student will focus on a task may be significantly shorter than a high school student.

• Build in time for kids to play. According to the journal, “Pediatrics,” playing promotes healthy brain development and boosts academic skills. Play time also helps children manage stress – making it an important and fun way for parents to support kids coping with stress or anxiety.

• Create a conducive learning environment at home. If possible, set

up a designated desk and distraction-free workspace children can use for everything from completing school assignments to playing educational games.

While routines are important, they may not be the only key to summer learning success. Research from Harvard indicates parents who engage with their children in simple activities over the summer – like reading together or talking about baseball statistics – can have a greater impact on their children’s academic performance than popular summer activities, such as summer camps, travel or summer school.

Since education can happen anywhere as part of everyday life, there are many activities families can do together to create

a sense of summertime fun while fostering academic growth.

• Spend some time cooking or baking together. Use these experiences as

opportunities to practice reading recipes or practice math by measuring and adding ingredients.

• Work with other parents or family members to find summer pen pals. Have

kids write letters back and forth to practice reading and writing skills.

• Extend story time with read-and-do activities that lay the groundwork for

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developing engaged readers. For example, the Pizza Hut BOOK IT! Program offers free online activities at bookitprogram.com children and parents can do together, such as drawing, letter recognition or sight-word bingo.

• Explore science and nature by taking a walk. Try and identify different types of clouds, trees, plants, rocks and animals. Take pictures of any you find interesting. Then look up additional information when you return home to practice research skills.

• Watch the news or read about current events together.

This can provide practical lessons on social studies and help kids raise questions about the world around them.

ABC’S OF COMBATING SUMMER SLIDE

While on summer break, kids commonly lose some of the learning momentum from the previous school year. It’s a phenomenon casually referred to as the “summer slide.”

A report from the Northwest Evaluation Association found students in third-fifth grades lost about 20% of their school-year gains in reading and 27% in math, on average, during summer break.

After such an abrupt end to formal curriculum, the slide could be a little steeper for kids in the fall. However, summer plans for families likely look different this year. More free time may make it easier to build in time for educational activities, which can also offer an escape during this uncertain time.

Allow for reading aloud. According to the National Association for the Education of Young Children, reading aloud is the single most important activity for reading success as it helps build word-sound awareness. Encourage your child to play teacher and read aloud books, magazines, or comics to family members, pets or even stuffed animals.

Begin a book club. Read the same books as your children then discuss what you all read over a shared snack or gathered around the dinner table. Joining in shows the importance of prioritizing reading during the summer.

Check into services offered by libraries. If possible, make use of local libraries, many of which offer free online resources and have extended due dates. Inquire about online services offered in your area and how your family can participate in programs taking place over the summer.

WHERE AND HOW TO ACCESS ONLINE RESOURCES

From educators helping their students to organizations lending support in trying times, dozens if not hundreds of online resources have emerged to help parents navigate teaching at home.

Internet access: While many at-home learning resources can be found online, some families lack access to reliable and affordable internet connections. For information on free or low-cost home internet access, as well as other resources for teachers and families, visit firstbook.org/coronavirus-educator-resources.

Online field trips: While school and family outings are limited, it’s still possible to explore the world from the comfort of home. Zoos, museums and other places of interest are sharing everything from educational videos and live webcams to guided tours on their websites and social media. Go to https://www.siparent.com/virtual-field-trips for a comprehensive list of exciting virtual destinations.

Reading programs: Literacy is the foundation for all learning, so focusing on activities that promote reading gives children a chance to practice that essential skill, often in ways that don’t feel like learning. Visit bookitprogram.com,

by PIZZA HUT Book It, which offers a number of activities designed to help children find joy in reading. Resources include book recommendations, activity and book pairings, video messages from best-selling authors Tom Angleberger and Kate DiCamillo and printable worksheets, story maps and more.

Educational websites: Many academic websites have opened their subscription-based content for free or reduced access. You can find videos, interactive programs, lesson plans and more.

Before creating an account, check if your school has secured free or discounted access codes.

New skills: From learning the basics of keyboard typing to trying a new instrument or mastering a new language, there are sites dedicated to helping students develop new skills while they’re at home.

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EDUCATION GUIDE

The new school year will be here before you know it! Whether it’s your child’s first school or you’re looking to make a switch, now is the time to find the right place for your child.

MULTIPLE PROGRAMS Wagner College Department For Lifelong Learning

631 Howard Avenue • 10301 718.390.3221 lifelong-learning@wagner.edu wagner.edu/lifelong-learning Programs: Friday after school & Saturday classes for ages 4 to 17. ACT Theater & Performing Arts, Architecture, Art, Business, Ceramics, Coding, Digital Art, Dungeons & Dragons, Esports, Magic The Gathering, Mindfulness, Photography, SHSAT/TACHS Test Prep, Filmmaking, Lego Robotics, Sign Language, Spanish, STEAM, Video Game Design.

JCC of Staten Island

1297 Arthur Kill Road • 10312 718.475.5224 485 Victory Boulevard • 10301 718.475.5290 1466 Manor Road • 10314 • 718.475.5230 2221 Richmond Avenue • 10314 718.475.5100 sijcc.org Programs: Infant/Toddler Care–12 mos; ages 3 mos-2.8 yrs; 3, 4, 5 days/week 7am-6pm; extended hrs 7-9am & 4-6pm. Full Day 3K and PreK for All. Contact facility for specific programs.

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75 SkyLine Drive • 10304 877.826.2060 brightmindsacademysi@gmail.com bma.school facebook.com/brightmindsacademy_ instagram.com/brightmindsacademy_ Programs: Voucher and private pay accepted. Pick-up/ drop-off services. Fun educational curriculum, nutritious meals, certified teachers.

Activities: Arts & crafts, sewing, baking, music, dance and more.

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Programs: We are an early education center that provides free Full-day 3K and Pre-K programs for kids three and four years old.

Activities: Children engage in a critical thinking and fun environment through arts and crafts, music and movement, learning technology, and science lessons. Gaining stronger social, problemsolving, and creative skills.

St. Joseph Hill Academy 850 Hylan Boulevard • 10305 718.981.1187 egregor@stjhill.org stjosephhillacademy.com

Programs: Pre-K3 – 8th grade. Aftercare available. Call for info. Alignment of ELA and Social Studies Curriculums, Project Based Learning including STREAM Pre-K to 8, Project Lead The Way Science Curriculum aligned with NGSS K to 8.

Activities: Sports: Soccer, Swimming, Golf, Basketball and more to come. Clubs: Theater, Band, Chess, Fencing, Robotics, Computer Repair, Wacky Science, Hill Explorers, Creative Chefs, Story and Craft, Hill Herald, Book Club. _____________________________________

Tender Care Preschool

6581 Hylan Blvd • 10309 718.317.2849 or 2858 bquinn@mountloretto.org mountloretto.org/tender-care-preschool facebook @ tender care preschool Programs: Free full day UPK and 3-K, half & full days for 2 year olds. Summer Camp.

Activities: Large playground & indoor gym, computers, library. French classes. Extended hours 7am-6pm. Sprinkler park on campus for Summer Camp. Located on the grounds of beautiful Mount Loretto. Plenty of parking.

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505 Watchogue Road •10314 718.981.3623 zlcpsdirector@zion505.org Ms. Linda Herman, Director zionlutheranpreschoolsi.com FB: zionlutheranpreschoolstatenisland Programs: Terrific 2’s, Thrilling 3’s, PreK for 4’s, Tiny-Totz: Parent/Toddler Interaction, Gigglez: all-day daycare, Zion Zummer Adventurez Camp. Varied attendance schedules are offered for children to best meet their needs and the needs of the families, ranging from 2, 3, & 5 day. This includes AM & PM class options.

Activities: Providing a loving, learning Christian environment through a comprehensive, developmental program designed to help children acquire the basic competencies and skills for full development and social participation. Also assuring that the quality of the child’s experience is emotionally satisfying, personally meaningful, and provides a basis for future learning.

SPECIAL NEEDS AHRC– Staten Island Preparatory School

23 Summit St. (formerly Our Lady Help of Christians) Staten Island, NY 10307 212.895.3386 john.goodson@ahrcnyc.org schools.ahrcnyc.org/sponsor/siprep Programs: Staten Island Preparatory School (SI Prep) is an NYSED approved private school for students with disabilities, primarily autism –preschoolers 3-5 and elementary 5-12. All of the children are placed by the NYCDOE’s Committee on Special Education and the Center Based Support Team.

Activities: Students receive special education in small, structured classroom settings with high adult to student ratio. All therapies are provided as per IEP. School follows all state standards in ELA, Math, Science, Social Studies, and Health and participates in NYS standard assessments or alternate assessments as warranted.

JCC of Staten Island First Foot Forward 1466 Manor Rd • 10314 1297 Arthur Kill Rd • 10312 2221 Richmond Ave • 10314 718.475.5225 sijcc.org

Programs: Special education preschool for ages 2.5-5.

Full day. Center based & integrated classes. Related services. Transportation & tuition at no cost to eligible children.

Activities: Multi-disciplinary evaluations. Speech & language, occupational, physical & play therapy. Movement & music. Mainstreaming.

Parent support groups.

TUTORS Resource Room Tutoring Center 534 Forest Avenue • 10310 718.873.5323 info@resourceroomsi.com resourceroomsi.com FB @resourceroomsi • IG @resourceroomsi Programs: Private tutoring for all academic subjects.

K-12 and test prep including SAT, SHSAT, TACHS, Regents. S.T.E.M. Lego Robotics.

In-person and online.

Activities: Led and owned by licensed NYS teachers, Resource Room provides tailored individualized academic instruction for students of all ages, in all academic subject areas, with a personalized approach to student learning. _____________________________________

The Write Place

Staten Island, NY 10314 347.461.0135 thewriteplacecoach@gmail.com facebook.com/thewriteplacecoach instagram.com/thewriteplacecoach thewriteplacecoach.com Programs: Writing tutoring for: High school & college reading & writing assignments, application essays, resumes & cover letters, research, MLA & APA citations, and creative writing coaching.

Activities: Custom one-on-one or small group tutoring for any struggling writer by an experienced college writing professor. Services: one-time or on-going meetings online or in-person.

It’s no secret this summer will be unlike any other we’ve had. Social activities are limited, quarantine continues and no one is really sure what to expect. But we plan to help you every step of the way with up-to-date news and information, activities (both virtual and in person), and lots of family fun ideas for kids in Staten Island. Find links to everything you need to know about post-pause parenting in Staten Island for summer 2020.

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Important Educational Questions EDUCATORS WEIGH IN ON CURRENT TOPICS

LOOKING AT SCHOOLS IN FALL

Experienced educators and authors Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts give solid advice about everything school and education-related.

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PARENTS: The big question is whether your children’s school will be open in the fall or not. The experts are certainly not in agreement on the wisdom of opening schools. Those in favor of opening schools argue that few school-age children appear to get covid-19, or at least its worst symptoms.

Furthermore, they say that schools that have opened in Australia where there was close contact between staff and students and those with the virus have shown a very low spread rate. Those who are against opening schools feel that such closures could reduce the incidence of infection.

While reasonable people disagree on opening schools, it is possible that there will soon be evidence on the positives and negatives of actually opening them. This will come from the experience of summer camps and daycare centers that have opened as well as that of schools in other countries. This will make the decision of whether to open schools or not easier.

When schools reopen, they are likely to look quite different for a while. Here are a few changes that your school district may decide upon until the danger of contracting covid-19 is greatly reduced:

• There may be staggered attendance with students attending either morning or afternoon class or just a few days a week.

• Much schoolwork will still be done online.

• Meals will be served in the classroom.

• Students will stay with the same classmates and teachers. They will not move to other classrooms.

• Both teachers and students will wear masks.

• Emphasis will be placed on frequent cleaning and sanitizing.

• Most schoolwork in the classroom will be done on individual laptops.

HELPING YOUR CHILDREN DEVELOP ACADEMIC GOALS QUESTION: School is just starting for my children in middle and high school. I would like to sit down with them and help them develop goals for this year. How can I help them develop realistic goals? – Goal Oriented ANSWER: Setting goals is definitely a great idea for students. However, most children will need help from their parents to make sure that the goals they set are realistic.

So, sit down with you children and ask them

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Children may set off with lofty goals. For example, one may want to become a better reader. This goal is more likely to be realized if it becomes more specific such as choosing to read for 15 minutes every night before bedtime. Or if the goal is to become better at math, a more specific goal might be to solve 5 to 10 more problems every night than are assigned. Parents also need to be aware of the dangers of setting too lofty goals for their children. Expecting your child to be an Einstein or a Stephen Hawking can put too much pressure on them.

Goals should also be measurable. Children always like seeing the progress they have made towards achieving them. For young children, a star chart could be used to show how often they are meeting a goal of doing extra math problems. An older child could see progress in math as moving from B to B+ grades. Showing progress in meeting a goal can be motivating.

Children should only set a few goals definitely not more than five, and less is even better. And if a child is making no progress toward meeting a goal. The goal needs to be revised to one that is more realistic or even dropped. Another reason for revising a goal depends on how schools are responding to covid-19.

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KEEPING YOUR CHILDREN IN TIP-TOP SHAPE PARENTS: It is important to keep your children in tip-top physical shape. You certainly don’t want them to miss much school as it could impinge upon how well they do academically.

Your first thing to do is to be sure that they have a physical exam every year before or at the start of a school year even if it has to be a video examination.

You definitely want to discover any problems before they become serious. This is extremely important for elementary school children as hearing and eye problems as well as growth and development problems need to be detected early before they become serious. And for older students participating in sports, physicians can detect any serious problems that might be dangerous for students participating in them. Also, at puberty, physicians can detect problems with weight, strength, growth or scoliosis.

When parents take children to their doctors in person or online, they should make the visit as meaningful as possible by writing down any questions that they might have. If the doctors do not bring up the topic of booster shots or new vaccinations, parents must do this. Also, it is wise to ask if the children need more frequent checkups than once a year.

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SHOULD YOU LET YOUR CHILD TAKE THE FIELD?

BY JOE LOVERDE

A local sportswriter and coach for youth sports on Staten Island for nearly 40 years.

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hat’s the question dogging many parents of young athletes as life begins to get back to normal with the easing of coronavirus restrictions. Organized sports for children, such as Little Leagues, soccer leagues and flag football leagues, were forced to at least delay the start of their seasons. If and when they return, they are sure to look different from what we are all used to.

Barring any unforeseen spikes in coronavirus cases in the region, Little Leagues on Staten Island are targeting early July as their open date. It remains to be seen whether or not other sports can follow suit.

But what if you aren’t ready for your child to return to organized sports? Like beauty, sufficient precautions are often in the eye of the beholder. Some parents say they won’t be ready to send their children back to their school buildings come September no matter what safety precautions are in place, and the same may hold true for when they will feel comfortable allowing their kids to rejoin their sports teams.

None of us had experienced living through what we were forced to endure this spring.

Little Leagues in the borough had never missed a season since Staten Island leagues began popping up during the 1950s!

Little Leagues have one advantage over other sports when it comes to their ability to salvage some of the season: they have their own fields. The leagues that use the public parks are at the mercy of those who run them. At this point, the New York City Parks Department and Gateway Federal Recreational Park, which controls Miller Field in New Dorp, have informed leagues that they will not be issuing permits to use their facilities until Sept. 1.

When organized sports do open up again, there are sure to be guidelines. The Staten

Island Soccer League, through which nearly 5,000 boys and girls in the borough play recreational soccer, will follow the protocols set up by its parent organizations — U.S. Youth Soccer and Eastern New York Soccer. Those protocols call for play to be opened in phases: first individual and small group instruction, followed by team training, team competitions with restrictions and competition with no restrictions. However, these phases won’t begin until after New York City is upgraded by the state to Phase 4.

Since field permits won’t be issued, players will not be insured and the league has informed parents it will not be liable for injuries or the contraction of COVID-19.

Parents and coaches need to be aware of this.

Bowling centers also are unable to open until the state reaches Phase 4.

If Little Leagues on the Island begin their seasons in early July, as the district commissioner is targeting, it will need for teams to have practiced for at least two weeks. Once games begin, the district is asking masks be worn, six-foot social distancing guidelines be maintained, only one parent be in attendance and a number of other restrictions — including having the child miss games if he, she or someone in their household displays symptoms of the virus until it is confirmed they are not due to COVID-19.

Parents may be asked to sign a clause holding the leagues not responsible should a child contract coronavirus as a prerequisite for their child being allowed to participate.

If you choose to let your child participate, it would be wise to comply with the league’s safety measures and follow CDC guidelines. If you choose to skip the season and not let your child return to his or her organized sports until things return to normal, try your best to keep them involved in outdoor activities — shooting basketballs, throwing baseballs, kicking around soccer balls, bicycle riding and running — to promote their physical well-being.

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Staten Island-based writer Christine Albano remembers when her toddlers had lots of time to clean up their toys, but now at 22, 18, and 16, they help her with errands in between making Tik Tok videos, social media posts, and Zoom meetings.

From Toddlers Tidying up to Teens Earning Allowances, Staten Island Parents Feel Chores Build Life Skills At All Ages

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LIPM Being on pause during the COVID-19 pandemic doesn’t mean parents have to bear all the household responsibilities from 9 to 5 and beyond.

Juggling a lot more work and responsibilities during the stay at home order is a perfect time for parents to encourage young children and teens to take on household chores.

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Our kids know that we are a team and everyone has responsibilities,” Melissa Illuzzi of Princess Bay said of Sophia, 11, Isabella, 10, and Angelo, 4. “They are all very independent for their age.”

She feels blessed that her children began doing chores at a young age.

The girls cook about five mini meals each week with supervision from her and her husband; as well as clean their rooms, take out the trash, and do laundry, while their brother sets the table and has started making his bed.

Staten Island parents, like Mrs. Illuzzi, agreed that chores are a stepping stone to teaching kids teamwork, independence, and responsibility -- and that it’s never too early to start. With all the extra shopping, cooking, cleaning, organizing, yard work, and other household jobs, the quarantine period is a good time for parents to enlist their kids’ help around the house -- especially if they’ve never done chores before.

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They are all very independent for their age.”

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“It definitely takes longer to get things done, but I hope this is an investment and as she grows, I won’t have to spend as much time teaching her how to tidy up after herself.”

“I feel it’s important because it teaches them life skills,” Christine Sengel Stanley of Rossville said. “It also makes them become more independent, and it does help me out -- especially when all our activities were going on” before quarantine, she explained.

Her three kids -- Dylan, 15, Donovan, 11, and Victoria, 10 -- unload the dishwasher, take care of the recycling, and just recently started putting away their clean laundry, according to Mrs. Stanley. Her kids have

easily been able to keep up with their chores during the stay at home order, she said. “Most of their chores they do at night, so it doesn’t interfere with their remote learning,” Mrs. Stanley said.

Other parents, like Katherine Van Dyk, say incentives, like allowance, encourage kids to treat housework as their “job” and rely on getting a “salary” for their hard work.

“There is no battle because if they don’t work they don’t get paid,” the Graniteville mom explained of her 12-year-old daughter Katelynn and 14-year-old daughter Angelina under her pre-corona chore policy. Allowance has been put on

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hold while Ms. Van Dyk was out of work during the COVID-19 pandemic.

“Now they do chores and don’t get paid because I am not working,” she said in April. “Under the circumstances they understand what’s going on in the world,” she continued. “When we get back to normal we will resume.”

Under typical circumstances, however, she posts “jobs” with a compensation amount for each chore. For instance, they receive a dollar each time they do the dishes -- for a weekly total of $7 if they do the dishes once a day for seven days.

Other chores she posts include cooking, pet care, laundry, mopping, sweeping and cleaning their rooms, with appropriate payment amounts. She’s among other parents who believe chores teach kids how to be self sufficient.

Her kids are pros in the kitchen as they have been cooking since they were as young as seven - and they share the weekly cooking duties, each responsible for cooking a meal and the other doing the dishes.

“Angelina cooks on Wednesday and that’s the day we eat cereal or starve!” she said.

In fact, she said they could cook an entire Thanksgiving meal all by themselves. “It has been implemented since they were young, so to them it’s just part of their routine,” Ms. Van Dyk said.

For her, childhood memories -- like going to her grandparents’ house every Sunday with all her cousins -- play as much a role in raising her own children as teaching independence. “If any of us were there during the time my grandfather was making the sauce you can bet your last dollar we were cooking it with him, no matter how young we were,” she recalled.

The early lessons she has enforced so far have paid off. “When I am sick they are completely capable of taking care of things and have,” she said, adding that they showed an early interest in what she was doing around the house.

“Then when they started to get older they wanted to be out more and do less around the house,” she said. She explained that if they wanted money they had to earn it -- and that kept them interested. At Christmastime, Angelina saved $180 and Katelynn saved $200, which helped them purchase gifts for family members, she said.

Ms. Van Dyk tries to instill the traditions she shared growing up with her kids whenever possible. “It was an amazing time when I grew up,” she said. “I hope my kids will have the same memories.”

Meanwhile, other Staten Island parents say they have opted to start a chore routine with their children -- even though they are still just toddlers.

Little Anna Sophia Steidell likes to help her mom sweep and mop with her own toy set -- but on her own terms when she wants

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“Chores are definitely tough for a two and a half year old,” the Dongan Hills mom said. “We try to implement once you play with some toys, you can’t take out more until the first set of toys are cleaned up,” she added. “Some days it works, some days it’s a battle. Some days she’s in full on cleaning mode, which makes her feel she’s helping and has a responsibility,” Mrs. Steidell said.

At three and a half, Donovan Schumacher helps his mom Nicole set the table, cleans his room, helps his dad with the garbage, and helps feed the cats.

The Annadale mom began teaching Donovan small chores at a year old. “He does not do these things everyday, but it’s a start,” his mom said. “I think it’s good for them to have some sort of responsibility.”

“It’s the routine I believe is what works,” Mrs. Schumacher said. “I know for us, my husband included, routine keeps us on track.”

It’s game time when it comes to chores for Lucas Bouderau of Westerleigh.

The two and a half year old loves to shadow his mom Sara Bouderau around the house and enjoys making a game out of chores. She said they toss dirty laundry down the stairs from the hamper, then pick it up and race it to the laundry room.

“When I mop, he mops. He loves to vacuum. He tells me when I’ve missed a spot,” and sometimes tells her the house is dirty, she joked. “He’s more of a neat freak than I am,” she continued.

“I guess because he sees me cleaning all the time, he thinks it’s just something else we do.”

As a toddler, though, he also loves to make messes, and getting him to pick up his own toys is never an easy task, Mrs. Bouderau said. “I know he’s very young, but I feel like if we start teaching him to keep things clean now, it’s less of a ‘chore’ later on,” she said.

Shaina Sarah of Great Kills agrees. She is teaching her 14-month-old daughter Savannah Joy how to tidy up during the day -- with the hopes that the activity will become the norm as she grows up. Putting her “jammies” in the hamper, wiping up any messes, putting her toys away are all a precursor to building more responsibilities later on, according to her mom.

“It definitely takes longer to get things done, but I hope this is an investment and as she grows, I won’t have to spend as much time teaching her how to tidy up after herself,” Ms. Sarah said.

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Leukemia and Lymphoma Society lls.org (888) LLS-7177

American Heart Association heart.org (800) 242-8721 American Public Health Association apha.org (202) 777-APHA American Speech, Language & Hearing Association asha.org (800) 638-8255

Lighthouse International lighthouse.org (800) 829-0500 Lyme Disease Association lymediseaseassociation.org (888) 366-6611 NYS Department of Health nyhealth.gov (866) 881-2809

Arthritis Foundation arthritis.org (212) 984-8730

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa anad.org (630) 577-1330

Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America aafa.org (800) 7-ASTHMA

National Eating Disorders Association nationaleatingdisorders.org (800) 931-2237

Carmel Richmond Healthcare and Rehab Center 88 Old Town Road, 10304 (877) 271-5941 archcare.org Eger Health Care and Rehabilitation Center 140 Meisner Avenue, 10306 (888) 481-8704 eger.org Golden Gate Rehab and H C C 191 Bradley Avenue, 10314 (866) 603-1221 goldengaterehab.com Northwell Health University Hospice 78 Meisner Avenue, 10306 (718) 226-6450 siuh.northwell.edu Silver Lake Specialized Rehab and Care Center 275 Castleton Avenue, 10301 (877) 665-7585 silverlakesc.com

Al-Anon Support Group al-anon.alateen.org (757) 563-1600 Addiction Angel (646) 404-0637 addictionangel.com

Play It Forward Anti-Bully Support Group playitforwardny.com (646) 239-1825 Child Preparation Classes at SIUH siuh.edu (718) 226-9000 Community Health Action of Staten Island chasiny.org (718) 808-1300 Parent to Parent NY, Inc. For Families of Children with Disabilities parenttoparentnyinc.org (718) 494-4872 Parents Without Partners (Staten Island Chapter) parentswithoutpartners.org (718) 816-5370 Resolve: National Infertility Association resolve.org (703) 556-7172 Safe Horizon (Domestic Violence) safehorizon.org (800) 621-4673 July 2020 • siparent.com

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RETURN TO NORMALCY

HOW TO REASSURE YOUR KIDS THAT IT’S SAFE TO GO OUT

Talk to your kids about the risks of returning to some places and the rules of your area as you begin to go back out again.

BY SHANA LIEBMAN

Shana Liebman is the features editor of NYMP. She’s a writer and editor who has worked for magazines including New York Magazine, Salon, and Travel & Leisure—and she is the mom of two energetic little boys.

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s New York slowly opens up, many parents are wondering how their child will react to reentering it. Most kids will have some natural hesitations—about parents going back to work, about the safety of playdates, about returning to camp or school. To make matters more complicated, the world they know will be changed. Since it’s our job as parents to help them through any anxiety they may be feeling, we spoke to experts about how best to reassure kids as they get back into the new normal.

If They’re Worried About Getting Sick

Your kids may have overheard more about COVID-19 than you realize—from conversations with other adults, social media, or the news. So it is important to understand what your kids are thinking and feeling about the virus and its risks. The best way to do this is to talk to them about it—find out what they know and be honest with them about what’s truth and rumor.

Amy Altenhaus, P.h.D., a psychologist in private practice in the New York area, says parents need to remain calm during these conversations, because kids will be looking for cues. “You need to listen to what they are actually asking you and respond in a calm manner,” she says. Also kids from different age ranges will have different responses to fear. “A very young child may worry that everyone who gets COVID-19 will die. They may worry that their parents or teachers will die,” she says. Jenna Velez, a social worker and the vice president of External Affairs at the Mental Health Association of Westchester, says “preoccupation or worry about a caregiver getting sick could manifest in difficulty concentrating, headaches/ stomachaches, irritability and/or trouble sleeping.” Dr. Altenhaus urges parents to reassure both kids and teenagers that there is

a very small percentage of kids who become infected with COVID-19.

Teenagers might also need to hear logic and statistics—they might need to understand how the chances of getting infected are low for people who take precautions. “Older children may benefit from studying how we have survived other pandemics. You can point them to information from reliable sources like the CDC, Mayo Clinic and Johns Hopkins, on how to protect yourself and follow established guidelines for getting back to established activities,” Dr. Altenhaus suggests.

Jessica Dym Bartlett, developmental scientist and co-director of Early Childhood Research at the nonprofit research organization Child Trends who recently published a paper about how to support children’s emotional well-being during this time, urges parents to emphasize the positive. “All the way through the age spectrum, kids need to hear, in some form, ‘you’re going to be okay, it’s going to be okay, and the grownups in this world are working really hard to make sure of it.’”

“You can check in with your child a day or two later after a discussion to see if they have any questions,” Dr. Altenaus adds. “Do a lot of listening. Encourage them to come to you. If you do not have the answer, tell them you will help them find the answer.”

If They’re Worried About Going Back into the World

Reentering real life will be tricky for some kids. Institutions and businesses will have different rules and regulations. People will be wearing masks, social distancing, and avoiding certain activities. Velez suggests parents “help them understand that familiar places may feel unfamiliar due to physical changes and different practices that may be implemented.” She also urges parents to practice wearing masks at home. “Younger

children may not be able to make the direct connection between these actions and public safety, so making a game out of it could be helpful, having them imagine they are superheroes who protect the world by wearing their masks and washing their hands.”

Bartlett thinks it will help to maintain your routine—both at home and when things start to open up. “This is true for both adults and kids, but especially kids, and the younger you go, the more structure is needed for kids to feel safe and secure,” she says. Having a clear sense of when things are going to happen each day gives kids a sense of well-bring.

For example, if you’re going to the doctor, Altenhaus recommends calling the doctor ahead of time to find out how she will conduct the visit. Then let your child know exactly what will happen when you arrive.

“It is ok to feel some anxiety,” she says.

“You want to help your child deal with their anxiety in healthy ways at the level they can understand.”

Velez notes that younger children may experience separation anxiety as they adjust to post-quarantining real life. “The child may be more clingy, whiny, upset during transitions,” she warns. For teens, social anxiety that has been minimized during the quarantine might return when they are re-introduced to social settings.

In general, parents should not avoid activities that provoke anxiety, Velez says.

“Avoiding feared activities can unintentionally strengthen the fear, so rather than avoiding situations, help the child develop coping skills that will enable them to re-enter with more confidence and control. These coping skills can include deep breathing, positive imagery/creating a safe place, talking to a trusted adult, art, music. ...whatever helps your child to feel more calm and grounded.”

And make sure your child know that he is not alone. “Remind them that we are all in this together,” Velez says. “And what they are doing at school or camp is what you will be doing at work and in the community.”

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Dr. Santoro accepts most health insurances. He and his office staff speak English and Spanish. Rated 4 out 4 stars on vitals.com. Dr. Santoro has won several honors including Compassionate Doctor Recognition in 2012, 2013, 2014 and 2015, Top Doctor - State in 2014, Patients’ Choice Award in 2012, 2013, 2014 and 2015. Physicals, immunizations, vaccinations, check up and pediatric diabetes. Dr. Santoro sees patients from birth to early adulthood.

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rom backyard barbecues and family picnics to a bright addition to seasonal recipes, sweet cherries not only provide a boost of flavor but also pack a punch when it comes to nutrition, helping keep you and your family healthy during busy summer months.

Cherries can help reduce inflammation and lower blood pressure as well as relieve stress and gout, and can improve sleep quality.

The perfect time to take advantage of the goodness of Northwest-grown sweet cherries is through August. Eat fresh cherries straight out of hand as a snack, bake them into a pie or pair with ice cream for a sweet summertime treat.

The rich fruitiness of sweet cherries helps blunt the sharp edge of dried fruit in a quick and easy Cherry Sauce recipe. Low in sugar and versatile, this sauce can be used as a base ingredient for cocktails, a glaze for meats, a spread for sandwiches, a topping for yogurt and more.

Add some ginger or orange peel to complement your menu and you may have a new, nutritious summer favorite. Or, for a sweet, simple snack, use cherries to make an appetizer like Cherry Bruschetta.

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Cherry Sauce

Ingredients 18 slices (1/2-inch thick) small baguette-style bread 1 tablespoon olive oil, divided 1 1/2 cups pitted Northwest fresh sweet cherries, coarsely chopped 1/4 cup chopped cilantro 1/4 cup diced yellow sweet pepper 2 tablespoons finely chopped green onions 2 tablespoons lime juice 1 teaspoon grated lime peel 1/2 teaspoon garlic salt 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper 2 ounces fresh mozzarella cheese 1 tablespoon thinly sliced fresh basil

Directions: 1. Heat oven to 350° F. 2. Arrange baguette slices on cookie sheet and toast one side 5 minutes. Turn slices, brush with 1/2 tablespoon olive oil and bake 5 minutes.

3. Combine cherries, cilantro, sweet pepper, green onions, lime juice, lime peel, garlic salt, pepper and remaining olive oil; mix well.

4. Top each baguette with thin slice cheese, 1 tablespoon cherry mixture and sprinkle of basil.

Serve warm or cold.

Ingredients 3/4 cup water 3/4 cup maple syrup 4 cups fresh Northwest-grown sweet cherries 4 cups dried cranberries 4 peels (2 inches each) fresh ginger (optional) 3 tablespoons citrus zest (optional) black pepper (optional) fresh herbs (optional) raspberries (optional)

Directions: 1. In medium saucepot, add water, syrup and sweet cherries. Bring to simmer, stirring occasionally and more frequently as sauce begins to form.

2. Add cranberries; continue stirring. Once reduced, remove from heat and add fresh ginger, citrus zest, black pepper, fresh herbs and raspberries, if desired.

3. Cool 30 minutes-1 hour before transferring to wider, shallow pan for speed cooling.

4. Once cooled, store refrigerated in airtight container up to 2 weeks.

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On the following pages you will find important special needs resources and Staten Island special needs professionals.

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Joan & Alan Bernikow JCC of Staten Island Taking good care of our community members with disabilities is a priority at the JCC. At the JCC, we believe that providing services to people with disabilities is a core component to everything we do, and we have a long history of creating programs to support their needs. Throughout our programs, the JCC offers inclusion opportunities wherever possible for individuals with disabilities so they can engage with their peers. We support the families of these individuals, too.

The JCC is proud to be a place where people of all abilities can feel safe and included, and most importantly, where they can learn and have fun.

Our programs for children and young adults with disabilities include: • First Foot Forward – A preschool, supported by the NYC Department of Education and Department of Health and Mental Hygiene, with speech, occupational, and physical therapy services available.

• Marvin’s Camp for Children with Special Needs – A summer camp program for children and teens, with a small camper to counselor ratio, offering swimming, sports, arts and crafts, special event days, and trips.

• Inclusion Program – We offer inclusion opportunities in many of our traditional programs, including sports, camp, and after school programs, so that children and young adults with disabilities are able to take part in a wide array of activities.

• After School Programs – Our after school program for children and teens with Autism Spectrum Disorders and related disabilities presents an opportunity for them to so¬cialize and engage with peers in an inclusive environment. We also offer an inclusion program for our Explorers After School Program.

• Self Direction – Individuals with disabilities choose the mix of supports and services that work best for themselves, such as aquatics, music, and gymnastics.

• Day Habilitation Without Walls Program for Young Adults – This program offers social, recreational, and vocational activities at the JCC as well as in collaboration with our partner organizations. We engage our participants in opportunities to be healthy, social, and active members of the community with a maximum degree of independence.

• Scouting – Girl Scout access troop for children and young adults with disabilities

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CLOTHING LINES

for Teens and Young Adults with Special Needs

BY JACQUELINE NEBER

Jacqueline Neber is an assistant editor and a graduate of The Writing Seminars at Johns Hopkins University.

When she’s not focused on writing special needs and education features, you can find her petting someone else’s dog.

clothing protectors that come in cool prints and colors. Ross Daniel is motivated by “a core belief that people with disabilities, and young people, in particular, don’t want to be overlooked by the fashion world.”

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Land’s End uses MagnaReady’s magnetclosing technology for school uniforms, and MagnaReady also sells its own boys’ and mens’ shirts. Duluth Trading Company uses MagnaReady technology for clothing sold in Kohl’s, Macy’s, Men’s Warehouse, and other retailers. Magnet technology allows clothes to snap closed, eliminating the hassle of buttons and zippers.

PATTI & RICKY PATTIANDRICKY.COM/KIDS

This inclusive marketplace consists of more than 65 designers making functional, adaptive, stylish designs for adults and kids with disabilities. However, Patti & Ricky isn’t just for clothes–the kids section also features art supplies, bibs and bandanas, Braille-printed jewelry, books, “chewlery”, eye patches, wheelchair bags, weighted blankets, and more!

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nce your child with special needs gets bigger, it can be even harder to find clothing that ensures he is comfortable and feels good about his style. These clothing lines provide pieces that adapt to many different situations, so teens and young adults with all kinds of special needs can feel independent, stylish, and comfortable.

SILVERT’S SILVERTS.COM

Silvert’s offers affordable styles for a variety of special needs, such as jeans and pants suitable for wheelchairs, pants with easily-accessible zippers and closures, shoes that are slip-resistant and easy to remove, tops that snap on and off and can be removed from a wheelchair, comfortable and easily removable undergarments, cute adaptive

sleepwear, dress shirts with magnetic buttons on the cuffs, slip resistant socks, and so much more. The Silvert’s selection is huge, so no matter what your child needs, you can find something they love–and will be comfortable in!

RACKETY’S DISABLED-CLOTHING.CO.UK

In Rackety’s clothing, teens and young adults can be “fresh, dry, confident, and comfortable.” The UK-based brand (which ships internationally) offers a selection of outwear, shirts, pants, vests, pajamas, and more that are accessible and colorful. You can also find wheelchair capes, accessories, and underwear.

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This line offers slip resistant socks, waterproof bandana scarves, and ProtecTees

This store has specialized in individualized adaptive clothing since 1993. You can find almost anything you need on the website, from arm and leg warmers, to bags, to footwear, to capes and jackets, to shirts and pants, to suits and more! Adaptations

by Adrian offers gift cards as well. All of ABA’s clothing is easily accessible, very comfortable, and made with real people in mind.

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Just like its adaptive kids clothing, Tommy Hilfiger’s adaptive clothing for adults is fashion forward, comfortable, and easily accessible–and made in Tommy’s distinctive style. Tommy’s 16-year-old daughter Kathleen has autism, as does his stepson.

Tommy’s experience underlines Tommy Adaptive’s commitment to innovative, adaptive clothing for teens and young adults searching for stylish clothes.

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A VERY SPECIAL PLACE, INC.

To keep everyone safe during the pandemic, AVSP has been following all safety guidance from NYS Office for People with Developmental Disabilities (OPWDD) and CDC, for all buildings/residences and has instituted daily formal safeguarding procedures.

A Very Special Place, Inc., (AVSP) provides a comprehensive network of programs and services for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities and their families. With the guidance and support offered at AVSP, people of all ages find opportunities to achieve independence and self-fulfillment. Participants who utilize our services range in physical and intellectual abilities from highly functioning individuals who can live and work independently with minimal guidance/supervision to those who have profound needs.

AVSP was established in 1974 as a not-for-profit corporation and today serves more than 1,200 people in Staten Island, Brooklyn and Manhattan. It is the continued commitment of the agency to provide the highest quality programs with the intent of continually improving services. Through a system of comprehensive, yet individually tailored programs, participants and their families are assisted in meeting immediate needs, as well as in planning for the future.

Vast arrays of offerings are available depending upon the

needs of the individual and what they wish to achieve. Services include: day habilitation programs, employment training,

residential services, recreation programs, and after-school respite for children under the age of 18. Recreation programs include a Community Center, Creative Arts Program, and Teen Weekend Respite program. Also offered, assistance with Medicaid, waiver services and benefits, as well as in-home support with daily living. For those choosing Self-Direction Services, AVSP is a Fiscal Intermediary Agency that provides administrative and billing support to individuals and their families.

Our After School Respite Program is a center-based program that takes place five days a week which offers recreational activities such as, sports, crafts, games, karaoke, trips to the local park and homework assistance. These activities are chosen by the individual based on their personal interest and preference. The After School program encourages individuals to interact and build meaningful relationships with their peers through chosen recreational activities.

AVSP’s various programs and services work to address the needs of individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities with a primary goal of promoting and attaining independence, inclusion, individuality and productivity.

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE LOCAL ORGANIZATIONS A Very Special Place avspny.org (718) 987-1234

Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese catholiccharitiesny.org (718) 447-6330 Child Mind Institute Healthy Brain Network healthybrainnetwork.com (347) 934-2880 Committee on Preschool Special Education (718) 420-5788 Community Resources cr-si.org (718) 447-5200 Cooley’s Anemia Foundation cooleysanemia.org (212) 279-8090 Crossroads Unlimited, Inc. crossroadsunlimitedinc.org (718) 420-6330 Department of Education schools.nyc.gov (718) 390-1662 Eden II and Genesis Programs eden2.org (718) 816-1422 Elizabeth W. Pouch Center for Special People simhs.org (718) 448-9775 Families Helping Families Resource Recreation Center fhfnyc.org (718) 227-2171 Freedom From Fear freedomfromfear.org (718) 351-1717 Grace Foundation of New York graceofny.org (718) 983-3800

Institute for Basic Research in Developmental Disabilities opwdd.ny.gov (718) 494-0600

Person Centered Care Services 150 Granite Avenue, 10303 pccsny.org (718) 370-1088

Attention Deficit Disorder Association add.org (856) 439-9099

Jewish Community Center Special Needs Department sijcc.org (718) 508-5291

Richmond Behavioral Associates rbany.com (718) 317-5522 ext 3

Autism Asperger Syndrome (219) 662-1311

Lifestyles for the Disabled lfdsi.org (718) 983-5351 NY Public Library nypl.org (212) 206-5400 Mastermind Behavioral Services mastermindbehavior.coom (732) 813-7333 NYC Department of Education School Based Support Team (Special Education) schools.nyc.gov (718) 935-2000 NYS Speech-LanguageHearing Association nysslha.org (800) 697-7542 New York State Office for People With Developmental Disabilities (OPWDD) opwdd.ny.gov On Your Mark onyourmark.org (718) 720-9233 P.A.N.D.A.S. Network pandasnetwork.org Parent to Parent NY, Inc. S.I. Special Education Parent Center parenttoparentnyinc.org (718) 494-4872 Parent to Parent NYS Support and Connect Families of Individuals with Special Needs parenttoparentnys.org (718) 494-3469

Sunny Days, Inc. sunnydays.com (718) 556-1616 Staten Island Developmental Disabilites Council siddc.org (718 )983-5276 Vocational & Educational Services for Individuals with Disabilities vesid.nysed.gov (800) 222-5627

Autism Society of America autism-society.org (800) 328-8476 Autism Speaks autismspeaks.org (888) 288-4762 Better Hearing Institute betterhearing.org (800) 327-9355 Cerebral Palsy Support cerebralpalsyguide.com (855) 329-1008

Wishes of Literacy Inc. wishesofliteracy.webs.com (718) 568-4177

Children and Youth with Disabilities nichcy.org

NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS

Cystic Fibrosis Foundation cff.org (800) 344-4823

AHRCC New York City ahrcnyc.org (212) 780-2500

Allergy & Asthma Network/ Mothers of Asthmatics aanma.org (800) 878-4403 American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry aacap.org (202) 966-7300 American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy aamft.org (703) 838-9808 American Heart Association heart.org (800) 242-8721 American Speech, Language & Hearing Association asha.org (800) 638-8255

Dyslexia Association – NY Branch nybida.org (212) 691-1930 Epilepsy Foundation epilepsyfoundation.org (800) 332-1000 Feingold Resource Center for Attention Deficit Disorder feingold.org (800) 321-3287 Learning Disabilities Association of NY lda.org (212) 645-6730 Lighthouse International lighthouse.org (212) 821-9200 March of Dimes modimes.org (212) 353-8353

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE Muscular Dystrophy mda.org (800) 572-1717

Richmond County Civil Court 927 Castleton Ave., 10310 (646) 386-5700

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa anad.org (630) 577-1330

Richmond County Criminal Court 67 Targee Street, 10304 (718) 675-8555

National Deaf Education Center clerccenter.gallaudet.edu (202) 651-5206 Resources for Children with Special Needs, Inc. resourcesnyc.org (212) 677-4660

Richmond Country Family Court 100 Richmond Terrace, 10301 (718 ) 675-8800

SENSORY FRIENDLY MOVIE THEATERS AMC Jersey Gardens 20 – 651 Kapkowski Road Elizabeth, New Jersey 07201

Spina Bifida Association sbaa.org (518) 399-9151

AMC Freehold 14 101 Trotters Way Freehold, New Jersey 07728

Stuttering Foundation of America stutteringhelp.org (800) 992-9392

AMC New Brunswick 18 17 US-1 New Brunswick, NJ 08901

Tourette’s Syndrome Association tsa-usa.org (646) 389-1872 United Cerebral Palsy ucpnyc.org (800) UCP-CONNECT Center for Independent Living 470 Castleton Avenue, 10301 siciliving.org (718) 720-9016

LEGAL SERVICES Legal Aid Society 60 Bay Street, 10301 legal-aid.org (718) 273-6677

Richmond County Bar Association Lawyer Referral Line 152 Stuyvesant Pl, Ste 203, 10301 (718) 442-4500 Staten Island Legal Services 36 Richmond Terrace, 10301 legalservicesnyc.org (718) 233-6480

AMC Wayne 14 67 Willowbrook Blvd Wayne, New Jersey 07470 AMC DINE-IN Essex Green 9 495 Prospect Avenue West Orange, New Jersey 07052

SENSORY FRIENDLY THEATERS

Union County Performance Art Center Sensory Friendly Theatre 1601 Irving Street, Rahway, NJ 07065 Hamilton Stage: 360 Hamilton Street, Rahway, NJ 07065 ucpac.org/ sensory-friendly-theatre (732) 499-8226 TDF Autism Friendly Performances (Broadway) tdf.org/nyc/40/Autism-TheatreInitiative New Victory Theatre 209 W. 42nd St., Times Square Theater District newvictory.org (646) 223-3010 New York City Children’s Theater’s Sensory-Friendly Performances nycchildrenstheater.org/sfp sensoryfriendly@ nycchildrenstheater.org

SUPPORT GROUPS Child Mind Institute Healthy Brain Network healthybrainnetwork.org (347) 934-2880

Mastermind Behavior Services (732) 813-7333 mastermindbehavior.com National Alliance on Mental Illness namistatenisland.org (718) 477-1700 S.I. Mental Health Society simhs.org (718) 442-2225 S.I. Mental Health – Teen Center (718) 720-6727

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AMC Bay Plaza Cinema 13 2210 Bartow Avenue Bronx, New York 10475 AMC DINE-IN Levittown 10 3585 Hempstead Turnpike Levittown, New York 11756 AMC Fresh Meadows 7 190-02 Horace Harding Blvd.

Fresh Meadows, New York 11365 AMC Shore 8 37 Wall Street Huntington, New York 11743 For more info on the above theaters visit: amctheatres.com/programs/ sensory-friendly-films

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HOW TO NAVIGATE THE TURNING 5 PROCESS FOR YOUR CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

BY JACQUELINE NEBER

Jacqueline Neber is an assistant editor and a graduate of The Writing Seminars at Johns Hopkins University.

When she’s not focused on writing special needs and education features, you can find her petting someone else’s dog.

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ew York City’s Turning 5 process occurs when children transition from preschool to kindergarten, and for a child with special needs, it’s complicated. Turning 5 involves transitioning from services provided by the Committee on Preschool Special Education to services provided by the Committee on Special Education. Your child will move into a public or private mainstream school, or head to a school specifically designed for kids with special needs. Sarah Birnbaum of New York Special Needs Support and Abbie Smith, an attorney at Skyer Law, teamed up with Brooklyn Conservatory of Music for a webinar that helped parents understand their children’s rights and options during

the Turning 5 process on May 14.

Your zoned school will contact you in early 2021 to begin the Turning 5 process, Birnbaum says, but you can begin the process way before then. Here’s everything you need to know about Turning 5 in 2021 for your child with special needs.

The Continuum of Services Your Child Could Receive in Kindergarten Your child’s Turning 5 meeting will determine her eligibility to receive Committee on Special Education services in kindergarten. Not every child will qualify for CSE services, but every child who receives CPSE services will automatically get a meeting, according to Birnbaum. You should not have to

ask for one. Keep in mind that under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA), you child is entitled to a free and appropriate public education, offered in the least restrictive environment that is right for her. Your preparation for the Turning 5 meeting should focus on figuring out the best learning environment—and then, convincing the Department of Education that it is the best environment—for your child.

The following are your child’s kindergarten environment options, which Birnbaum categorizes through a “ladder of support” that goes from the least restrictive classroom possible to most supportive.

• The least restrictive environment your child could be placed into is a general education classroom, with related services, at a community school.

• The next least restrictive environment is integrated co-teaching, where the classroom has one regular education teacher and one special education teacher.

Two-thirds of the children in the class are usually regular education kids; one-third are special education kids.

• Next is a special class in a community school (the student-to-teacher ratio is usually 12-to-1. A 12:1:1 class includes 12 students, 1 teacher, and 1 paraprofessional. (A paraprofessional is NOT an assistant teacher.) Students can be up to three years apart in age, and will join general education students for lunch, gym, recess. Birnbaum says these types of classes are increasingly hard to find.

• Next is a special class in a school specifically for children with special needs (District 75). Class ratios include 6:1:1, 8:1:1, 12:1:1, and 12:1:4. The DOE recommends District 75 for the students it feels needs the most support, according to Birnbaum. Think of schools like this as suitable for kids who don’t fit into any one box above.

• The most restrictive environment is something like ASD Nest, ASD Horizon,

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE or the AIMS Program. These programs are specifically for kids with an autism diagnosis. The DOE website provides info and applications for all of them.

Your child could be placed into your zoned public school, a different public school, a private school, a charter school, a state-approved nonpublic school, or an independent special education school such as ASD Nest.

Presenting the Best Picture of Your Child to the DOE Your Turning 5 meeting is all about showing the DOE why the environment you believe is right for your child, is right. Your child’s current teachers and support staff can provide input on what they believe is the right classroom for your child. However, since they are only able to evaluate your child based on his current environment, you’ll want to go down other avenues. The single most important tool you can bring to the DOE is an independent report from a neuropsychologist who has assessed your child’s cognitive, social-emotional, and executive functioning skills. This report will show the DOE: • A detailed picture of your child’s potential and how she learns • What kind of kindergarten setting your child needs, and why • Your child’s needs—so you can advocate for her Without adequate testing, Birnbaum says, you lack a “critical tool in your kit,” and the arguments you make during the Turning 5 process will be listened to, but most likely not be followed. An evaluation from a neuropsychologist is the strongest weapon you can get if you need to fight for your child’s rights.

The Turning 5 Timeline—Which Starts Right Now Things are in flux because of coronavirus, but this is Birnbaum’s suggested Turning 5 timeline:

1. Call neuropsychologists now to talk about scheduling an evaluation, whether that happens in-person or virtually. Many psychologists do not accept insurance, but you have options in terms of your budget.

Talk to the neuropsychologist about how to obtain a preschool evaluation during this time.

2. In the summer and fall, have your child evaluated. “Once you know what your child needs, the next step is to figure out where to obtain it and how to pay for it,” Birnbaum said. The DOE prefers seeing evaluations that are no more than six months old at the time of the Turning 5 meeting.

3. Attend a Turning 5 orientation meeting and gather information about your zoned school, nearby public schools, and District 75 programs, as well as information on private schools. If you’re interested in a state-approved nonpublic school, Birnbaum recommends reaching out to the school proactively and forming a relationship ahead of the Turning 5 meeting.

4. In the fall, it’s a good idea to consult with a special education attorney if your neuropsychologist finds that your child might struggle to meet their potential in a larger classroom, or without specific support. Put applications in to private schools in the fall, too.

5. In the coming winter, you’ll go through the admissions process for private schools, expect to hear from your zoned school, and have a firm plan for articulating and advocating for what your child needs in his Turning 5 meeting.

6. In the spring of 2021, gather the documentation and personnel you need in order to advocate at the meeting.

Don’t go into the meeting alone—bring someone to take notes!

7. Go into your Turning 5 meeting prepared to advocate for your child. Bring anecdotes to tell his story.

Things to Keep in Mind During the Turning 5 Process The DOE will offer your child a classroom out of the options available.

They cannot offer you a classroom that doesn’t exist, Birnbaum says, even if that’s the perfect classroom for your child. You as a parent will naturally want what is best for your child—you just have to remember that he is not guaranteed he best education for him. He’s guaranteed a free and appropriate one.

“There’s often a big difference between what your child needs and what is available through the system,” she said. “[Throughout this process], really see your child. See what they need, and prioritize what they need.”

DOE classroom services, Birnbaum says, exist along two axes: your child’s need for support versus his cognitive potential/functioning level. The smaller and more supportive a public classroom is, the higher the likelihood kids might not get what they need to meet their full potential. Keep this in mind as you figure out what is right for your child.

Birnbaum acknowledges that New York City is a difficult place to be for kids who need special education. She says getting your child the support he needs may involve a fight—a financial, legal, or emotional fight. If this reality might be too much, consider moving to a suburb— but make sure you move to the right suburb whose schools have the services your child needs. Contact Birnbaum to be connected with resources to help you find the right suburb for your family. Make a choice that works for your whole family.

Above all, Birnbaum says, be kind to yourself during the special education Turning 5 process. It’s a long road. Seek out people around you who are going through the same journey. Seek support and help, learn how to advocate for your child early, research, and always ask questions. Both you and your child will benefit.

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Jacqueline Neber is an assistant editor and a graduate of The Writing Seminars at Johns Hopkins University.

When she’s not focused on writing special needs and education features, you can find her petting someone else’s dog.

The Black Lives Matter movement is not new, but this might be the first time your child is old enough to have questions about what’s happening in the news or how he can help.

It’s never too early to talk to your kids about racism, race, and current events.

Experts are here with strategies for starting a conversation, fostering empathy, and helping your kids create change.

MEET YOUR KIDS WHERE THEY ARE. ASK THEM WHAT THEY UNDERSTAND ABOUT WHAT’S GOING ON AND BUILD A CONVERSATION AROUND THAT. When Kenneth Braswell returned home from protesting the death of Freddie Gray in Baltimore in 2015, during which he had been depicted on CNN, his 6-year-old son immediately asked him why he was in the same space as all the police and troops.

“He’s six years old, has some sense of what’s taking place, that something is not right about that. He’s heard us in our household talk about police and the narrative around police and Black boys, which he is,” Braswell says. “He was aware of what was going on and maybe even thought I was in danger or in trouble.”

Braswell is CEO of Fathers Incorporated and author of Daddy There’s a Noise Outside and other books about the rise of Black Lives Matter. He explains that kids are aware—from a young age—of race, maybe more aware than we think they are. But they can still have questions.

Meeting your child where he is developmentally and making the situation easy for him to digest can help him understand concepts like protesting and police brutality.

“I had an answer [to my son’s question], but I didn’t have a six-year-old answer. And so I decided to talk to him about what was happening, but not why it was happening. At six years old, he didn’t need to know Freddie Gray’s name. He didn’t need to know the history of racial tensions in this country. He needed to be explained the situation in the moment that he was living in,” Braswell says. He explained that people were protesting for Freddie Gray because they did not agree with how Baltimore leaders were handling the situation

and voicing their opinions—and that protesting is just one way to voice an opinion.

Concrete examples help kids understand concepts as well. Braswell gave his son an example of what a protest is by explaining how his son would probably react if Braswell asked I him to do homework instead of play. His son immediately understood—and this conversation helped inspire Braswell to write Daddy There’s a Noise Outside to help more families have these conversations.

Annette Nunez, Ph.D., licensed psychotherapist and founder of Breakthrough Interventions, also advocates for asking your older kids about what they know about current events and using their understanding to spark a conversation.

“Have some of those difficult, uncomfortable conversations. Start asking: Do you feel like you’re racist? Why? How do you feel when you’re around people who look different than you? And why is it that you feel that way?” Dr. Nunez says.

It can be difficult to know how to start a conversation, Braswell adds. The most important thing to do is start one.

“Parents: Do not shy away from hard conversations,” he says. “Once you start the conversation, you will figure out what to say. But be transparent. Don’t be in protective parent mode.”

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LIPM licensed educational psychologist and board-certified behavior analyst. But no matter how old your child is, one of the first steps in having a conversation about race is acknowledging racism exists, Dr. Nunez says. “It’s okay to talk about race and that racism exists. Don’t brush things under the rug. When we do ignore the problem and act like everything is okay, what we’re saying to children is that people of color are not being seen and not being heard.”

Beyond acknowledging that racism exists, continue to encourage your child to play with, watch, listen to, and engage with characters and stories that look different than her.

Oftentimes we see “different” as “bad,” Dr. Nunez says, but in talking to your child, redefine difference as good. This will help her develop compassion and kindness and help everyone learn. Furthermore, you can talk to her about how injustices and

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inequalities feel so she develops an understanding of how other people live, which will further encourage empathy.

One of the most helpful things you can do for your child is confront your own biases, Dr. Nunez continues, and be mindful of your words. For Nathan Chomilo, M.D., a pediatrician and Minnesota’s Medicaid medical director, parental reflection is paramount.

“You have to be actively anti-racist. In teaching our children to be anti-racist we have to look at our own histories,” he said in a Common Sense Media panel entitled Helping Kids Process Violence, Trauma, and Race in a World of Nonstop News on June 2. “[Kids are] noticing differences in how people are treated based on the color of their skin. Talking about how you may be explicitly or implicitly sending messages about race is important.”

TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT RACE IS A CONTINUOUS AND EVOLVING PROCESS. Your kids’ questions will likely evolve as they get older, as their understanding of issues change, as your own understanding changes.

So keep talking about race and racism. “Keep going back to this conversation with your children. It’s not a one-time conversation,” Dr. Chomilo said.

Allison Briscoe-Smith, Ph.D., the director of diversity, equity, and inclusion at The Wright Institute Clinical Program, explained in the Common Sense panel that having small, foundational conversations with your kids over time will allow you and your family to be proactive, not just reactive.

“I think many families are concerned that their proactive conversations will incite or overwhelm children,” she said, adding that it’s important for all families to be proactive, do the work, and figure out what they want to communicate to their kids, especially if talking to your kids about these issues has not been a necessity.

Dr. Briscoe-Smith and Dr. Chomilo spoke on the panel with Jacqueline Douge, M.D., a pediatrician, creator of the podcast What Is Black?, and co-author of the American Academy of Pediatrics policy statement The Impact of Racism on Child and Adolescent Health.

The panel was moderated by Jasmine Hood Miller of Common Sense Media and aims to help kids process violence, trauma, and race in a world of nonstop news. You can watch the whole discussion, including answers to questions from parents, on YouTube.

Remember that while discussion is powerful, talking is exactly that—talking. Modeling actions to create change and help others is even more beneficial for your kids.

“It’s not just about discussion. It’s taking a stand and doing something about it,” Dr. Patel says. “We are kids’ first models, first teachers. Just because you may have not done anything prior [to this] doesn’t mean you can’t now.”

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