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�� �� ﻢ ا� ا�� ﻦ ا����ﻢ ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺖ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﺐ ﻣﻘﺪﻣﻪ 9 ................................ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 11... ................................ ................................ ﻣﻦِ ﻗﻮﻱ 11 ........................ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ 11 .................... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻓﻜﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻳﻚ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ 11 ....... ................................ ................................ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺑﺸﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ12 ............................. ................................ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ 12 . ................................ ................................ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ 12 .............................. ................................ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ13 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﺳﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ! 13 ............................. ................................ ................................ ﻛﻤﻚ! ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺍ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻢ! 13 ..... ................................ ................................ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ،ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺧﺒﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻋﻤﻞﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ 13 ... ................................ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﺍﺯﻳﺪ 13 ........................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 14.... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ :ﻭﺳﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﺑﺮﺍﺯ ﺷﮕﻔﺖﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ 14 ......... ................................ ................................ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ 14 ................... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻛﺎﻣﻞ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ 14 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ 14 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ15 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ...
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ،ﻛﻠﻴﺪﻱ ﺭﺍﻩ ﮔﺸﺎﺳﺖ 15 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ 15 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻭﺭﻭﺩ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻫﺎ 15 ............... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ 16 ...... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 16 ........................ ................................ ................................ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ؟ 16 ....................... ................................ ................................ ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻡ ،ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ...ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ 16 .......................... ................................ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻔﻆ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ! 17 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ 18 .................... ................................ ................................ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ...ﻳﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ 18 ........................... ................................ ................................ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ »ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ 18 .................... ................................ ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« 18 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ« 19 ............................... ................................ ................................ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 19 ........... ................................ ................................ »ﺑﻠﻪ« ،ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ 19 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ» ،ﺑﻠﻪ« 19 .................. ................................ ................................ »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺑﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ 19 ............ ................................ ................................ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ 20 ............ ................................ ................................ »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ،ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ20 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ ،ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«20 .............................. ................................ ................................ »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻌﻨﺎ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ 20 ................. ................................ ................................ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ 21 ........................... ................................ ﻓﻠﺴﻔﺔ ﻧﺒﺎﺧﺘﻦ 21 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ 21 ...... ................................ ................................ ................................
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ 21 ............................. ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺰﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 21 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 22 .......................... ................................ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 22 . ................................ ................................ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ 22 .............. ................................ ................................ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﺻﻼﺡ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺳﺖ؟ 22 ...... ................................ ................................ ﺁﺳﻮﺩﻩ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ 22 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ 23 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ 24........ ................................ ................................ ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ 24 ............... ................................ ................................ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ 24 . ................................ ................................ ................................ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ24 ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ24 ... ................................ ................................ ................................. ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 24 ............. ................................ ................................ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻏﺮﻏﺮﻭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟ 25 ......................... ................................ ................................ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ25 ........................ ................................ ................................ . ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻪ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﻢ؟ 25 ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ 25 ......... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ 25 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ 26 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ27 ............................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 27 ............................. ................................ ................................ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏﻛﺮﺩﻥ ،ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ 27 ................... ................................ ................................ ﺿﻤﻴﺮ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ 27 ...................... ................................ ................................
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ27 ............ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﺪﻳﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ 28 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻛﻠﻴﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶﺧﺎﻃﺮ 28 ........ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻳﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ 29 ............ ................................ ................................ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ 29 ................. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ 29 ........... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 29 ........... ................................ ................................ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ 30 ........... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺘﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ 30 ..... ................................ ................................ ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ 30 ...... ................................ ................................ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺭﻭﺩ 30 ....................... ................................ ................................ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺱ 31 ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﺨﻔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ 31 ............ ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ 31 ....................... ................................ ................................ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ 31 ........... ................................ ................................ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﻓﺎﻳﺪﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻴﻢ ﺁﻥ 31 ........... ................................ ................................ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﻧﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ! 32 ....... ................................ ................................ ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳﺒﺰِ ﺗﺮﺱ 32 ............. ................................ ................................ ................................ »ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﻩﺍﺵ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 32 ... ................................ ................................ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ »ﺁﻧﻬﺎ« ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 33 ............................. ................................ ﻏﺎﻓﻠﮕﻴﺮ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ!33 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺷﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ33 .................. ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ 33 ......... ................................ ................................
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﻪ ﻫﻢﺧﻮﺭﺩﻥ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 33 .............. ................................ ................................ ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ،ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ 34 ........................ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮﻧﺪ 34 ...................... ................................ ................................ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺎﻫﻢ ﻫﺮﺍﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ34 .................. ................................ ................................ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﻐﻨﺎﻃﻴﺲ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ 34 ............ ................................ ................................ ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﺘﺮﺱ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﻤﻊ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 35 .......................... ................................ ﻳﻚ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖﻛﻨﻨﺪﺓ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ 35 ...................... ................................ ﭼﻪ ﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ؟ 35 ............................... ................................ ................................ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟ 35 ........................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ 35 .............................. ................................ ................................ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ،ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ،ﺭﺍ ﺟﺬﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ36 ........................ ................................ ................................ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 36 .... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱﻛﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ 36 ..................... ................................ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ 36 .............................. ................................ ................................ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 37 ............... ................................ ................................ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ 37 .................... ................................ ................................ ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺳﺎﻟﻤﻲ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ 37 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 37 ........................ ................................ ................................ ﺗﻮﺭ ﻧﺠﺎﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ 38 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 38 .... ................................ ................................ »ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ« ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ 38 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ »ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ« ﻫﻢ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ 38 . ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ 38 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺍﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ 39 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ 39 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﻭﺍﺟﺐ 40......... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ 40 ......... ................................ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ،ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ؟ 40 ............... ................................ ﭘﺮﺩﺍﺧﺘﻦ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﺎ ﺍﺑﺪ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ 40 ........ ................................ ................................ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ 40 ........................... ................................ ................................ ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ 41 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ41 .................... ................................ ................................ ﻣﻮﺳﻴﻘﻲ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ 41 .............................. ................................ ................................ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ 42 ............................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻨﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 42 ............ ................................ ................................ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!42 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺍﻧﻌﻄﺎﻑ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ 42 ....... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﺳﺖ 42 .............................. ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﭼﺸﻢﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 43 ............................ ................................ ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ 43 .................. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ 43 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﺮ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 43 .... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ! 44 ................... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟ 44 ............ ................................ ................................ ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ! 44 ...... ................................ ................................ ﺑﺨﺸﻴﺪﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ 44 .............. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺩﺭ ﮔﻴﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ 44 .... ................................ ................................ ................................
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﻀﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ 45 .. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ 45 .................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺘﺸﻜﺮﻡ45 ...................... ................................ ................................ ... ﺍﺯ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ 45 ..................... ................................ ................................ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ 45 .... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 46 .......... ................................ ................................ ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ 46 ..... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ47 ...................... ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ 47 ........................... ................................ ................................ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ 47 ........................... ................................ ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ! 47 .................. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ 47 .. ................................ ................................ ................................ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ 48 .......................... ................................ ................................ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ 48 ............. ................................ ................................ ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ 49 ........... ................................ ................................ ................................
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ﻣﻘﺪﻣﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ؟ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻫـﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ .ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ،ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﻭ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻠﻖ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛـﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ. ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺍﻳﻨﺠﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ! ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻛﺘـﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻗﺼﺪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ،ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺸﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺪﻫﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺎﻟﺖ ﺑـﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺗﻜﺎ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﻳﮋﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﻫﻤـﺮﺍﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺑﺎ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻛﺘـﺎﺏ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﺁﻥ ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺫﻫﻦ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻧﻘـﺶ ﻣﻲﺑﻨﺪﺩ ..ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﺪ .ﺑﻨﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺍﻳـﻦ، ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴـﺖ ﺗـﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ. ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ ،ﺟﺮﺋـﺖ ،ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨـﺎﻥ ،ﻛﻤـﺎﻝ ﻭ ﻟـﺬﺕ ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺭﺍﻩ ﺣﻞ ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻟﻬﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ! ﻣﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﻠﺒﻲ ﺧﻮﺩﻡ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻘﺪﻳﻢﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ. ﺳﻮﺯﺍﻥ ﺟِﻔﺮﺯ
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ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ) (1
ﻣﻦِ ﻗﻮﻱ
F0
ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ،ﺟﺎﻳﻲ ﭘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻧﺸﺎﻁ ،ﺧﻼﻗﻴﺖ ،ﻓﺮﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺻﻠﺢ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ،ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ،ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻫﻤـﺔ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ،ﻣﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻦِ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻣﻲﻧﺎﻣﻴﻢ .ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺤﻞ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺑﺮﻭﺩ ،ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺻﺤﻴﺢ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ. ) (2
ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ
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ﺩﺭ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺟﺎﻳﻲ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻫﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ ،ﺟﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﭘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺷﻚ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﺍﺳـﺖ ،ﭘـﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺮﺱ ،ﺧﺸﻢ ،ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﻣﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻗﺴـﻤﺖ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﻴﻢ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻛﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﻭ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ. ﻓﻜﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻳﻚ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﺑﻠﻪ ،ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻳﻚ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻋﺎﺩﺕﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺮﻭﻧﺪ .ﭼﻄﻮﺭﻱ؟ ﺑﺎ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« .ﺍﮔﺮ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ.
-1ﺩﺭ ﻣﺘﻦ ﺍﺻﻠﻲ Higher selfﺁﻣﺪﻩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ »ﻣﻦ ﺑﺮﺗﺮ« ﻳﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﺑـﺎﻻﺗﺮ« ﺍﺳـﺖ ،ﻭﻟـﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﺠـﺎ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﺮﺟﻤﺔ ﻣﺘﻮﻥ ﺭﻭﺍﻥﺷﻨﺎﺳﻲ ﻣﻮﺟﻮﺩ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻌﺎﺩﻝﻫﺎ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻋﺪﻡ ﺗﺪﺍﺧﻞ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻔﻬﻮﻡ ،ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺑﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳﻢ.
-2ﺩﺭ ﻣﺘﻦ ﺍﺻﻠﻲ Lower selfﺁﻣﺪﻩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﻣﻦ »ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦﺗﺮ« ﻳﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻛﻬﺘـﺮ« ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻛﺘـﺎﺏ ﺍﺯ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻛﺴﻲ ﺑﺸﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﺸﺨﺺ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﭘﻴﻤﻮﺩﻥ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﮔﻨﺠﺎﻧﺪﻩ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟
ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﺸﺎﻁﺁﻭﺭ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؛ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺧﻼﻕ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؛ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﻧﮕـﺎﻩ ﻋﻤﻴﻖ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؛ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺻﻠﺢ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ،ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻦ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻗﺒﻴﻞ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺗﻮﻱ ﻓﻜﺮﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ؛ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺳﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺮﺍﺣﻞ ﺭﺍ ﻃﻲ ﻣﻲﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ. ﺍﺯ ﻛﺠﺎ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦِ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟
ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ ،ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭ ﺩﻟﻲ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ ،ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺑـﺎ ﺗـﺮﺱ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻳﺪ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺯﻭﺩ ﺧﺸﻤﮕﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺷـﻮﻳﺪ ،ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺯﻭﺩ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﻭ ﻳﺄﺱﺁﻭﺭ ﺍﺳـﺖ ،ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴـﺎﻱ »ﻣـﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ .ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﻟﺤﻈﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻣﺴـﻴﺮﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻋـﻮﺽ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻣﺴﻴﺮﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺎﻻ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺳﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ!
ﻣﺎ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺭﺍ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﻴﻢ .ﺻـﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﮔـﻮﺵ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻭﺯﻭﺯ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ» :ﻣﻦ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻢ ،ﻣﻦ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ ﻧﻤـﻲﻛـﻨﻢ ،ﻫﻤـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻣـﻦ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻧـﺪ ،ﻫﻤـﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱﺷﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ« .ﺍﻳﻦ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻﻫﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑـﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻧﺪ. ﻛﻤﻚ! ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺍ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻢ!
ﺑﻠﻪ ،ﺍﺯ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺎﺧﺒﺮ ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ ،ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ ﻧﻤـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﺻـﺪﺍﻱ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺑﻪ ﮔﻮﺵﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ .ﺗﻮﻱ ﺭﺧﺘﺨﻮﺍﺏ ،ﺩﺭ ﺣﻤـﺎﻡ ﻭ ﻣﻮﻗـﻊ ﺩﻭﺵ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ،ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻧﻨﺪﮔﻲ ،ﺣﺘﻲ ﺳﺮ ﻣﻴﺰ ﻏﺬﺍ ﻭ ...ﺳﻌﻲ ﻭ ﺗﻼﺵ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ ﻭ ﺍﺣﻤﻘﺎﻧﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻔﻮﺫ ﻛﻨﺪ. ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ،ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺧﺒﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻋﻤﻞﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﺍﺯ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺑﺎﺧﺒﺮ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻬﺘـﺮ ﻣـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺷـﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺧـﻼﺹ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ) ،ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺩﻳﻮﺍﻧﻪﻭﺍﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻔﻮﺫ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ(! ﺍﻣﺎ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﻣﻮﺫﻱ ﺑﻲﺧﺒﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺗﺎ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﺯ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣـﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ. ﺟﻌﺒﺔ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﺍﺯﻳﺪ
ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺵ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻﻫﺎ ،ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ ﺁﻥ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺭﺍ ﺑﺸﻨﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ» :ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺪﺍﺯﺓ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ«. ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺟﻬﺖ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻫﺪﺍﻳﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻛﻪ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ :ﻭﺳﻴﻠﺔ ﺍﺑﺮﺍﺯ ﺷﮕﻔﺖﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ
ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ،ﺣﺎﻟﺘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ» :ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ«. ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﺍﺋﻤﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺮﻣﻴﻢ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ. ﻛﺎﺭ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ
ﻓﻘﻂ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺣﺮﻑﺯﺩﻥ ،ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻳﺎ ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﻣـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻟﺤـﺎﻅ ﺟﺴﻤﻲ ،ﺫﻫﻨﻲ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺣﻴﻪ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺳﺎﺯﺩ .ﺣﺎﻻ ﭼﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺟﻤﻠﻪﻫﺎ ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ﻳﺎ ﻧـﻪ. ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻛﻮﺩﻛﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ﺁﺭﺍﻡ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺳﺎﻟﻢ ﻧﮕﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ. ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺟﺎﺩﻭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ! ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻛﺎﻣﻞ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ
ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺧﻼﺻﺔ ﻛﻼﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ» :ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺑﺮ ﻭﻓﻖ ﻣﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻴﺮ ﻣﻦ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ .ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭﺱ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻡ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﻢ«. ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ
ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺭ ﺫﻫﻦ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻡ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻣﺪﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻋﺠﻴﺒﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺪﻫﺪ» :ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ،ﺣﺘﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﭘﻮﻟﻢ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﻢ ﻳﺎ ﻣﺮﻳﺾ ﺷﻮﻡ ،ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ«. ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺁﺳـﺎﻧﻲ ﺣـﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ...
ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﻣﺜﻞ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ» :ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ«. ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﮕﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،...ﺫﻫﻦ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻣﻜـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻫﻢ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ. ﺩﺍﺋﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ» :ﻣﻦ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻢ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩﻡ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻢ« .ﺳﭙﺲ ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ. ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ،ﻛﻠﻴﺪﻱ ﺭﺍﻩ ﮔﺸﺎﺳﺖ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ .ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺭﺩ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﺪﺍ ﺭﺳﺎﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺭﻭﺯ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ ﻭ ﺿﻌﻴﻒﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﮔﺮﺩﺩ. ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺧﺎﻃﺮﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ! ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻫﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺕ ﻧﺎﻓـﺬﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖﺗـﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ. ﻭﺭﻭﺩ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻫﺎ
ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺳﺎﻟﻢﺗﺮﻱ ﻫﻢ ﺑـﻪ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻣﺜﻞ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺟﺬﺍﺑﻴﺖﻫﺎ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺟـﺬﺏ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻨـﺪ .ﺍﻓـﺮﺍﺩ ﻫﺮﭼـﻪ ﻣﺜﺒﺖﺗﺮ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ،ﺍﻧﺮژﻱ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ
ﺁﻥ ﻗﺪﺭ ﺁﺯﻣﺎﻳﺶ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺯﻣـﺎﻥ ،ﭼـﻪ ﭼﻴـﺰﻫـﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺘـﻲ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﻭﺣﻴﺔ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐﺗﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺳﭙﺲ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﭘﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ...ﺭﻭﻱ ﻣﻴﺰ ﺗﺤﺮﻳﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ،ﺭﻭﻱ ﺁﻳﻨﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ...ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﺟﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺘﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﻳـﺎﺩ ﺑﻴﺎﻭﺭﻳـﺪ ،ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌـﺎً ﭼﻘـﺪﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻤﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ. ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
»ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ» :ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻭﻍ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻟﻘﺎء ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ: »ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ«. ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺪﺍﻡ ﺻﺪﺍ ﮔﻮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ؟ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ؟
ﻫﺮ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ،ﻣﺠﺴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛـﻪ »ﻣـﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ«ﺗـﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻄﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ .ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴﻴﺪ .ﺍﮔﺮ ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺸﻨﻮﻳﺪ، ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﺍﻧﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩﺁﻭﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ» :ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺵ! ﻫﻤـﻪ ﭼﻴـﺰ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ«. ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻡ ،ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ...ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ
ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺰﺭگ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻼﺵﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺑﺸﻮﺩ؛ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺣـﺲ ﮔـﺮﻩﮔﺸـﺎﻳﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻳﺠـﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ .ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﭘﺸﺖ ﺳﺮ ﻫﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ» :ﻣﻦ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ ...ﻭ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ« ،ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩﺁﻭﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﺪﺍ ﺩﺍﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻔﻆ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!
ﻣﺎ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺍﺩﻋﺎﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺯﻣﻴﻨﺔ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺭﻭﺯﺍﻧﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻄﻠﻮﺏ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ﺗﺎ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻧﮕﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ .ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻴﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻧﺠﺎ ﭼﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺬﺭﺍﻧـﺪﻥ ﺑﻘﻴـﺔ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ...ﻳﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺿﻮﺡ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﺟﺰﺋﻴﺎﺕ ﺁﻥ ﺗﺠﺴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻛﺎﺭ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳﺪ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﻳﺎﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻨﺎﺻﺮ ﺣﻴﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼـﻮﺭ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﻨﺼﺮ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ: ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺧﻮﺵ ﺁﻳﺪ! ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ »ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ« ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻫﺎ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺗﺼﻮﺭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ،ﺍﺗﻔـﺎﻕ ﻣـﻲﺍﻓﺘـﺪ ،ﻧﺴـﺒﺖ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻣﺴـﺌﻠﻪ ﺑﻲﺗﻔﺎﻭﺕ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ .ﻭ ﺑﺮ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﺼﻮﺭﺍﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻧﻤﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ،ﺑـﺎﺯ ﻫـﻢ ﺑـﻲﺗﻔـﺎﻭﺕ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ .ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺭﺍﻫﻲ ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻣﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲ ،ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ .ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﻗﺎﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻃﺮﻳﻖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ،ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳﺪ. ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ«
ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﻳﺰﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺘﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ ،ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭﻱ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ: »ﻣﻦ ﺳﺎﻝ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩ ،ﺩﺭ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺯﺩﻭﺍﺝ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻢ ﻛﺮﺩ«. »ﻫﺮﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪﺍﻱ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻴﻢ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﻣﻦ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺷﺪ«. ﻭ..
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ« ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺳﺮﻧﻮﺷﺖ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻗﻢ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ ،ﺣﻮﺍﺩﺙ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻔـﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ .ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺎﺩﺛﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﺪ ﺟﻠﻮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻋﻜـﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻠـﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻣﻮﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﻮﺍﻇﺐ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﻫﻴﭻ ﻛـﺲ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻋﻜﺲ ﺍﻟﻌﻤﻞﻫﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﺩ. »ﺑﻠﻪ« ،ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ
ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺣﺎﻻ ﺳﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻜﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺑﺎﻻ ﻭ ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﻲ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«. »ﺑﻠﻪ« ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﺔ ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺳﻪ ﺣﺮﻓﻲ ،ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻳـﻚ ﻛﻠﻤـﺔ ﻣﻌﻤـﻮﻟﻲ ﺍﺳـﺖ ،ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻋﺼﺎﺭﺓ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻮﻳﺪ :ﻣﻬﻢ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ،ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻡ. ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ» ،ﺑﻠﻪ«
ﻫﺮ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺁﺷﻜﺎﺭ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ ،ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﺎ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻨﺪ. ﻣﻦ ﺭﻭﺯﮔﺎﺭﻱ ﺳﺮﻃﺎﻥ ﺳﻴﻨﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻢ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺭﻧﺞ ﻣﻲﻛﺸﻴﺪﻡ .ﺍﻣﺎ ﺭﻭﺯﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﮔﻔﺘﻢ» :ﺑﻠـﻪ« ﻭ ﺩﻳﺪﻡ ﻛﻪ ﻋﻮﺍﺭﺿﺶ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻦ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﻓﺮﻕ ﻛﺮﺩ. »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺑﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ
ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ،ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫـﺮ ﺷـﺮﺍﻳﻂ ،ﺧـﻮﺑﻲﻫـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺴـﺖ ﻭ ﺟـﻮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ .ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺟﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺟﻮﻱ ﺑـﺪﻱﻫـﺎ ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ
ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ،ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺴﺨﺮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ .ﭼﺮﺍ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺗﺮﺟﻴﺢ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ ﺭﻭﺷﻨﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻴﺮﮔﻲ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ؟ ﭼﺮﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺑﻲ ،ﺑﺪﻱﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻨﺪ؟ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ،ﺗﺠﺮﺑﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺳﻮﻱ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺍﻧﺘﻘﺎﻝ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻨﻄﻘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﻣﮕﺮ ﻧﻪ؟ »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ،ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ
ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺩﻳﺪﻥ ،ﺍﻧﻜﺎﺭ ﺣﺲﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ .ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺯﻣﺎﻥﻫـﺎﻱ ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺷﺎﻳﻨﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺎﻙ ﺟﺰء ﻻ ﻳﻨﻔﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺍﻋﺘـﺮﺍﻑ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﺑـﻪ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺳﺎﻟﻢ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻣﻔﻴﺪ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰ ،ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ »ﺑﻠﻪ«
ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ» ،ﺑﻠﻪ« ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺣﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩ! ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻃﺮﻑ ﻗﻀﻴﻪ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ )ﻭ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺁﻥ ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ، ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻋﺠﻴﺐ ﻭ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺭﺷـﺪ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ( ﻋﺎﻣـﻞ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ ﺍﺳﺖ. »ﺑﻠﻪ«ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻌﻨﺎ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ
»ﺑﻠﻪ« ﮔﻔﺘﻦ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺳﺘﻘﺒﺎﻝ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﻭ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﻓﺘﻦ ،ﺑـﻪ ﻫـﺪﻑﻫـﺎﻱ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻋﻤـﻖ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﺪ ﻭ ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﻫﻤﭽﻨﻴﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺟﺎﺯﻩ ﻣﻲﺩﻫـﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺑﻔﻬﻤﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ .ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ،ﺭﺣﻢ ﻭ ﺷﻔﻘﺖ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ﻓﻠﺴﻔﺔ ﻧﺒﺎﺧﺘﻦ
ﻣﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻡ ﺷﻜﺴـﺖ ﺑﺨـﻮﺭﻡ ،ﻣـﻦ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭﻫـﺎ ﻭ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢ ﮔﻴـﺮﻱﻫـﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﺳـﺘﻘﺒﺎﻝ ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻡ .ﻣﻦ ﻋﻘﻴﺪﻩ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻦ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﻧﺪ .ﻣﻦ ﻫﺮ ﺭﺍﻫﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻛﻨﻢ ،ﭘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﺩ
ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﻏﻠﻂ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻣﺤﺮﻭﻡ ﻛﻨﺪ .ﻣﺤﺮﻭﻡ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺍﺯ ﭘﻮﻝ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ،ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺖ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﻲ ،ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻋﺎﺷﻖ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻫـﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ، »ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺻﺤﻴﺢ« ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ. ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﺯ »ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩﻫﺎﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭﺱ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻫﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻣﺎﻧﺪ! ﺗﻜﻠﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ
ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻗﺒﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻫﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ .ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻧﺎﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ .ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ ،ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺟﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ ﺍﻃﻼﻋﺎﺕ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﻏﺮﻳﺰﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺗﻜﺎﻟﻴﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﺍﺩﻳﺪ ،ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺑﺼﻴﺮﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺗﻜﺎء ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺑـﻪ ﺣـﺲ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺍﺳﺖ ﺩﺭﻭﻧﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﭘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺼـﻴﺤﺖ ﻧـﺎﺧﻮﺩﺁﮔـﺎﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﮔـﻮﺵ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ، ﺣﻴﺮﺕ ﺯﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﻭ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺑﺎﺯﻧﺪﻩ ﻧﻤﻲﺷـﻮﻳﺪ .ﺍﮔـﺮ ﺑـﺎ ﭼﺸﻢ ﺑﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﺎ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻣﺸﻮﺭﺕ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﭘﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺟﻮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ...ﺑﻌﺪ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺷﻤﺎ ،ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎ ﺑﺮ ﻭﻓﻖ ﻣﺮﺍﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﺒﻮﺩ ،ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺳـﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ .ﺳـﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﻋﻤﻠﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻧﺎﺗﻮﺍﻧﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﻤﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺼـﻤﻴﻢﻫـﺎﻱ ﺩﺭﺳـﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈـﺮ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺑﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ! ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺭﻭﺵ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ
ﻫﺮ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺁﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﺍﮔﺮ ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺩﻳﺪﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ،ﺗﺠﺪﻳﺪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻋـﻮﺽ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ. ﺣﻘﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﻲ ﻏﻠﻂ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺑﺎﻳـﺪ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭼـﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺍﺻﻼﺡ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻤﺎﺕ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻊ ﺍﺳﺖ؟
ﭘﺮﻳﺸﺎﻧﻲ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺭﺿﺎﻳﺘﻲ ،ﺳﺮﻧﺦﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻧﺸـﺎﻥ ﻣـﻲﺩﻫﻨـﺪ ،ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻫـﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ .ﺁﻳﺎ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺎﻝ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛـﺮﺩﻩﺍﻳـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭘﺮﻳﺸـﺎﻧﻲ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺭﺿﺎﻳﺘﻲ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻨﺪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ؟ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻧﺎﺭﺿـﺎﻳﺘﻲ ﻭ ﭘﺮﻳﺸـﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎﻋـﺚ ﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﻏﻠﻂ ﺭﺍ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ،ﺑﻠﻪ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ. ﺁﺳﻮﺩﻩ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ،ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣـﺎ ﭘـﻴﺶ ﻣـﻲﺁﻳـﺪ ،ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔـﻊ ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ،ﻣﻔﻬﻮﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ» :ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻭ ﺑﻲﻣﻌﻨـﻲ
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺭﺍ ﺑﻲﺟﻬﺖ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻫﻤﻴﺖ ﺟﻠﻮﻩ ﻧﺪﻫﻴﺪ«. ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻲﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ. ﻧﻬﺎﻳﺖ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺍﺋﻢ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ: »ﻫﺮ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﻔﺘﺪ ﻭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﺔ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ،ﻣﻦ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ ﻭ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﺍﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻢ!« ﻭ ﻳﻘﻴﻨﺎً ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ
ﺫﻫﻨﻴﺖ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺣﺎﺻﻞ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻣﺎﺳﺖ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﻧﻘـﺶ ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺧﻼﻗﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ .ﺍﻣﺎ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﻣﺴـﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﻣﻲﭘﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻼﺵ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ. ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺤﺖ ﻛﻨﺘﺮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ
ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﺠﺎ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﻭﺍﻛﻨﺶﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳـﺪ ،ﻛﻨﺘـﺮﻝ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﺮﻧﺪﻩ ﻭ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺑﺪﺑﺨﺘﻲ ﻳﺎ ﺧﻮﺷﺒﺨﺘﻲ ﻣﻲﺁﻓﺮﻳﻨﻴﺪ .ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ »ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ«. ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺑﭙﺬﻳﺮﻳﺪ
ﭘﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ، ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴﺰﻱﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻳﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻣﻘﺼﺮ ﻧﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ. ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ.
ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺳﺘﻴﺎﺑﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﺎﻻ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ،ﺭﺍﻫﻲ ﻃﻮﻻﻧﻲ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺭﺍﻫﻲ ﻛﻪ ﭘﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺯ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯﻱ ﻭ ﺧﻄﺎ ،ﻻﺯﻡ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺧـﺎﻃﺮ ﺭﻓﺘـﺎﺭ ﮔﺬﺷـﺘﻪ ،ﺣـﺎﻝ ﻳـﺎ ﺁﻳﻨﺪﻩﺗﺎﻥ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻫﻤﺔ ﺍﻳﻨﻬﺎ ﺟﺰﺋﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻓﺮﺍﻳﻨﺪ ﻳﺎﺩﮔﻴﺮﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻗﺖ ،ﻋﺎﻣﻞ ﻗﺎﻃﻌﻴﺖ ﻭ ﺩﻝﺳﺮﺩ ﻧﺸﺪﻥ ﻭ ﻫﻤﭽﻨـﻴﻦ ﻋـﻮﺍﻣﻠﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑﺎﻋـﺚ ﺩﻝﺳﺮﺩﻱ ﻭ ﻳﺄﺱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺸﻒ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻣﻲﺑﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻭ ﻛﺎﺭ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺁﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ. ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻏﺮﻏﺮﻭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟
ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ،ﻳﻜﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ ﻫﺎﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨـﺪ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﻴﺖ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻬﺪﻩ ﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ. ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ.
ﻏﺮ ﺯﺩﻥ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﭼﻨﺎﻥ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺟﺎ ﺍﻓﺘﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺷـﺪﻩ ﻛـﻪ ﺣﺘـﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩﺷـﺎﻥ ﻫـﻢ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺻـﻤﻴﻤﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻛﻤـﻚ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﻫﻢ ﺗﻼﺵ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻫﻔﺘﺔ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨـﺪ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ ،ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗـﺖ ﻣﻜﺎﻟﻤـﻪﻫـﺎﻱ ﺑﺴـﻴﺎﺭ ﺳﺎﻛﺘﻲ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ! ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻪ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﻢ؟
ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﺰﺭﮔﻲ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﻭﻱ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ،ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻋﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣـﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺣﺮﻑ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ .ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺣﺎﻃﻪ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻧﺪ ،ﻣﻮﺿﻮﻉ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ. ﺑﺎ ﺧﻮﺵﺑﻴﻨﻲ ﻭ ﺷﺎﺩﻣﺎﻧﻲ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺳﺮﺷﺎﺭ ﺍﺯ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ. ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ
ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻟﺤﻈﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﭼـﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳـﻲ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﻴﺪ، ﺩﻝﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ ﻛﺎﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ﻭﻓﻮﺭ ﻭ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ؟ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺪﺑﺨﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻗﺪﺭ ﺷﻨﺎﺱ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ؟ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ. ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ
ﻏﺮﻭﻟﻨﺪﻛﺮﺩﻥ ،ﻫﻴﭻ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻧﻤـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ؛ ﻓﻘـﻂ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﻱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻳﻜﻲ ﻳﻜﻲ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ
ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﻛﻤﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﻜﻞ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩﺷﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ،ﻣﻲﭘﺬﻳﺮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺷﻜﻮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ. ﺷﻤﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺗﻌﻤﺪ ،ﻋﻤﻞ ﻭ ﺗﻔﻜـﺮ ﻣﺜﺒـﺖ ،ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﺎ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺷﻜﻞ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ .ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎ ﻣﺨﺮﺏ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ. ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏﻛﺮﺩﻥ ،ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ »ﻣﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ« ،ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﻛﻠﻤﺎﺗﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ »ﻣﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻢ« ،ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﺓ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺿﻤﻴﺮ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ
ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ،ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ »ﻣﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻣﻲﺷﻨﻮﺩ ،ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﺔ ﺿﻌﻒ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﺪ. ﺟﻤﻼﺕ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﺩﻫﻨﺪﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﺟﻤﻼﺕ ﺗﻀﻌﻴﻒﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩﺍﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺩ ﺁﮔﺎﻩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺴﻠﻂ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ. ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ
ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﻔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧﺰﺍﻧﺔ ﻟﻐﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﭘﺎﻙ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻋﺒـﺎﺭﺕ »ﺗﺠﺮﺑـﻪ ﺁﻣﻮﺯﻧـﺪﻩ ﺍﺳـﺖ« ﺭﺍ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕ »ﻭﺣﺸﺖﻧﺎﻙ ﺍﺳﺖ« ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕ »ﻣﻦ ﻛﺎﻣﻼً ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻝ ﻫﺴﺘﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ »ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩ ﺍﺯ ﻣﻦ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ« ،ﺑﺴﺎﺯﻳﺪ ﻭ... ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ،ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻋﺰﺕ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ ،ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺷﻴﻮﻩﺍﻱ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻫﺪﻳﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ
ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺎﻧﻌﻲ ﺑـﺮ ﺳـﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴـﺪ ،ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﻋﻨـﻮﺍﻥ ﻓﺮﺻﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛـﻪ ﻓﺮﺻـﺘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻇﺮﻓﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺣﻞ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺍﻃـﺮﺍﻑﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻮﺍﺭ ﺳﺎﺯﻳﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ. ﻛﻠﻴﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶﺧﺎﻃﺮ
ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﺠﺒﻮﺭ ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻮﻟﻨﺎﻙﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻠﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺳﺮﺑﻠﻨﺪ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﺁﻳﻨﺪ» ،ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻩﺍﻧﺪ. ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺑﺎ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺑﻪ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻧﻤﻲﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﻧﺤﻮﺓ ﺑﺮﺧـﻮﺭﺩ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻳﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ
ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖ ﻛﻨـﻴﻢ ﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺤـﺪﻭﺩﻩ ﺭﺍﺣـﺖ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺧﺎﺭﺝ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ .ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺜﺎﻝ :ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺑﺎ ﺭﺿﺎﻳﺖ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ ﻳـﺎ ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﻜﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻘﺎﻡ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ،ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ. ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻪ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻄﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﭘﺮﻫﻴﺰ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ
ﺍﺯ ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺗﺎ ﻗﻠﻤـﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘـﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓـﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ ،ﺑـﻪ ﻛﺴﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﻭﺣﺸﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺗﻠﻔﻦ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ .ﺑـﺎ ﻏـﺮﻭﺭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﺳـﺘﻮﺭﺍﻧﻲ ﻗـﺪﻡ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻭﺍﺭﺩ ﺁﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ... ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻴﺪ ...ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻫﺮ ﺑﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﺮﻭﻥ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻫﻢ ﺍﻧﺪﻛﻲ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ ﻭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﻭ ﺑﺰﺭگﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ. ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﺭﺍﺣﺘﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻫﺮﮔﻮﻧﻪ ﺗـﺮﺱ ﻭ ﺧﻄـﺮ ﺑـﺎﺯ ﻫـﻢ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺳﻴﻠﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴﺘﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﻤﺮﻭ ﻭ ﻧﺎ ﺁﺷﻨﺎﻳﻲ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ، ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﭼﻨﻴﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ. ﺩﺭ ﺣﻘﻴﻘﺖ ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻬﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﻢ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﺳﺘﺜﻨﺎ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ. ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ
ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ -ﻣﺨﺼﻮﺻـﺎً ﺍﻓـﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﺸـﻬﻮﺭ ﻭ ﻣﻬـﻢ -ﺧﻮﺷـﺒﺨﺖ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ،ﭼﻮﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ! ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻫـﻢ ﻣﺠﺒـﻮﺭ ﺷﺪﻩﺍﻧﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻳﻲ ﺑﻜﺸﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ...ﻭ ﻫﻨﻮﺯ ﻫﻢ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻨﺪ! ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻴﭻ ﻭﻗﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺭﻭﺩ
ﺗﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﺼﻤﻴﻢ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﻗﺎﺑﻠﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴـﺘﺮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻓـﻖﻫـﺎﻱ ﻓﻜﺮﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺩﻩ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻫﻢ ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ. ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺖ ﺑﺸﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﻫﻤﻴﻦﻛﻪ ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣـﻲﻳﺎﺑـﺪ، ﺗﺤﻤﻞ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﻢ ﺁﺳﺎﻥ ﻭ ﺁﺳﺎﻥﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﺪ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﻭ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﺨﻔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ
ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﺘﻬﺎﻱ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﺓ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺴﻲ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺳﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ .ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺪ ﻟﻤﺲ ﻛﻨﺪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻳﺶ ﭼﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ؟! ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ
ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﺎ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱﻛـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﻣـﻲﺗﺮﺳـﻴﺪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳـﻚﺗـﺮ ﺷـﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠـﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﺑﻘﺒﻮﻻﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺁﻥ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ. ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ
ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺯﺣﻤﺖ ﺑﺮ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﻏﻠﺒﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﻴﺪ ،ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻜﺘﺔ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻴﺰﺍﻥ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﺳﺖ .ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎ ﻭ ﻣﺸـﻜﻼﺗﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ. ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ! ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﻓﺎﻳﺪﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻏﻴﺮ ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻴﻢ ﺁﻥ
ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﺎ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻫﺴـﺘﻨﺪ، ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻄﺮ ﺁﻥ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﺭﻓﺘﻪ ﺭﻓﺘـﻪ ﭼﻨﺎﻥ ﺗﺮﺳﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺧﻨﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻫﺮ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻓﻠﺞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺧﻄﺮﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺧﻮﺏ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﻧﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺧﻄﺮﻱ!
ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻄﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ،ﺍﻋﻤﺎﻝ ﻓﻴﺰﻳﻜﻲ ﺧﻄﺮﻧﺎﻙ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ؛ ﻫﻤﻴﻦﻃـﻮﺭ ﺧﻄﺮﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺿﺮﺭ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ. ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳﺒﺰِ ﺗﺮﺱ
ﺍﻓﻜﺎﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻧﻮ ﺑﭙﺮﻭﺭﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻲﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺧﻮﺩ ،ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﭼﺮﺍﻍ ﺳـﺒﺰﻱ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺗﻔﺴﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻭ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﺑﻪ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺍﺳﺖ. »ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﻩﺍﺵ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ« ﺭﺍ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
»ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺑﻴﺎﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻫﺮ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﺑﻴﻔﺘﺪ ،ﻣﻦ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬﺪﺓ ﺣﻞ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺮﻣﻲﺁﻳﻢ« .ﭘﺸﺖ ﺳـﺮ ﻫﻢ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﻤﻠﻪ ﺭﺍ ﭘﻴﺶ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻜﺮﺍﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﭘﻲ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ،ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻋﻬـﺪﺓ ﺣـﻞ ﻫﺮ ﻣﺸﻜﻠﻲ ﺑﺮﺁﻳﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ »ﺁﻧﻬﺎ« ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻏﺎﻓﻠﮕﻴﺮ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ!
ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻓﻖﻫﺎﻱ ﻓﻜﺮﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﮔﺴﺘﺮﺵ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻧﻮﻋﻲ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺒﺎﺩﺍ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺮﻙ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺷﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ
ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻨﺜﻲﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﺛﺮﺍﺕ ﻣﻨﻔﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﮔﺬﺍﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ .ﺑـﺮ ﺍﻳﺸـﺎﻥ ﮔـﻞ ﺑﻔﺮﺳـﺘﻴﺪ ،ﻳـﺎ ﻫـﺮ ﭼﻴـﺰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻴﺎﻧﮕﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻮﺩﻥ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺑﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ
ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖ ﻫﺎ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤـﻪ ﺑـﺮ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴـﺖ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﭘﺎﻓﺸـﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺗﻲﻛـﻪ ﭘﻴـﺪﺍ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ،ﻣﻤﻜـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺘﺮﺳـﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻛﻨﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﻮﺕ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺿﻤﻦ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﺩﺍﻣـﺔ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺼﻤﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﻫﻢﺧﻮﺭﺩﻥ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻗﺒﻮﻝ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ »ﺩﺭﺟﺎ ﺑﺰﻧﻴﺪ« ،ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻟﻴﻞﻛﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﻃﻠﺐﻛﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ .ﺳﺮﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻃﻠﺐﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﻟﻄﻤـﻪ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ؛ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺣﺎﻝ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺍﻳﻤﺎﻥ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ،ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﺪ
ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﺮﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫـﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﻧﻬﺎﻳـﺖ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺕ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ. ﺍﮔﺮ ﺍﻳﻦﻃﻮﺭ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ ،ﺁﻳﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺍﻳﻦ ﻫﻤﺎﻥ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ؟ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻫﻤﺮﺍﻩ ﻳﻜﺪﻳﮕﺮﻧﺪ
ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﻇﺮﻓﻴﺖ ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ. ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ،ﺑﺎ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻓﺮﻕ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ. ﺩﺭ ﻭﺍﻗﻊ ﻫﺮﭼﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﺘﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺄﻳﻴﺪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺣﺘﻴﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻴﺸـﺘﺮ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ. ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻧﻴﺰ ﺑﺎﻫﻢ ﻫﺮﺍﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ
ﺑﺎ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ،ﻋﺸﻖ ﺟﺮﻳﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﻗﻠﺐﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻳﻘﻴﻨﺎً ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴـﺎﻥﺗـﺎﻥ ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺗﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ. ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ،ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨﺪﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺭﻭﺩ. ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﻐﻨﺎﻃﻴﺲ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍﻩ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﻫﺮﮔﺰ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻧﺘﺮﺱ ﺩﻭﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺟﻤﻊ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳﻚ ﺳﻴﺴﺘﻢ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖﻛﻨﻨﺪﺓ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺑﺎ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺣﺮﻛﺎﺕﺷﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺧـﻮﺑﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣـﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖﻫﺎﻱﺷﺎﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ﺗﺎ ﻣﺎ ﺯﻭﺩﺗﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻫﺪﻑ ﺑﺮﺳﻴﻢ .ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ، ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩ ﺍﻳﻦﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻓﺰﺍﻳﺶ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ. ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻦ ﺟﻤﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻣﻲ ﻭ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺻﻮﺭﺕ ﺣﻴـﺮﺕ ﺁﻭﺭﻱ ،ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻥ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ. ﭼﻪ ﺟﻮﺭ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ؟
ﺑﻪ ﺷﺶ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻳﺎ ﺍﻳﻦﻫـﺎ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈـﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﻧـﺪ )ﻣﻦِ ﭘﺎﻳﻴﻦﺗﺮ( ﻳﺎ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺖ )ﻣـﻦِ ﺑـﺎﻻﺗﺮ( .ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺻـﻮﺭﺕ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﻣـﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴـﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺟﻠﻮ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ ،ﻣﻲﺩﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺻﺤﺒﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ! ﺷﻤﺎ ﭼﻪ ﻧﻮﻉ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ؟
ﺁﻳﺎ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﺎﻥ ﭘﻴﺸﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ ،ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﻛﺴـﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﺗﺮﻗـﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﻳﺎ ﻳﻚ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﻣﺤﺎﻓﻈﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺋﻤﺎً ﺍﻣﻜﺎﻥ ﺍﺷﺘﺒﺎﻩ ﻛـﺮﺩﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺧﻄـﺎﺭ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ. ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ
ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﻣﺎ ،ﺁﻳﻨﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻣﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﭼﻨﺪﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺖ »ﻣـﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ« ﻛـﻪ ﺩﻭﺳـﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ،ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺳﭙﺲ ﺁﻳﻨﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻮﺳﻌﺔ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺧﺼﻮﺻﻴﺎﺕ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ،ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ،ﺭﺍ ﺟﺬﺏ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﭘﻴﺪﺍ ﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺩﻳﺪﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺗﺮﺗﻴﺐ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴﺖﻫﺎﻱ ﭘﻲ ﺩﺭ ﭘﻲ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﻴﺪ ،ﻳﻌﻨـﻲ ﺍﻳـﻦﻛـﻪ ﺍﻧﺴـﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﺘﻔـﺎﻭﺕ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ .ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﺑﺎ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ«. ﺩﻭﺳﺘﻲﻫﺎﻳﺶ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺑﻨﻴﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺑﻪ ﺷﺶ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ،ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﻋﻼﻗـﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﺪ ﺑـﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ .ﺑﻌﺪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻧﺎﻫﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﺷﺎﻡ ﺩﻋﻮﺕ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻨﺪ ﻧﻔﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺩﻋـﻮﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻧﭙﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ ،ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻭﺿﺎﻉ ﺭﺍ ﺭﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺧﻴﻠﻲ ﺭﺍﺣﺖ ﺑـﻪ ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ﺟﺪﻳﺪﻱﻛﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ
ﺑﻪ ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ؛ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ :ﺍﺳـﺐ ﺳـﻮﺍﺭﻱ ،ﻣﺴـﺎﻓﺮﺕ، ﺳﻴﺎﺳﺖ ،ﻋﻜﺎﺳﻲ ،ﻛﺎﺭﮔﺎﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ .ﺑﻌـﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﺩﻧﺒـﺎﻝ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴـﺖﻫـﺎﻱ ﻣﺤﻠﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﻼﻳﻖ ﺩﻭﺭ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ ،ﺑﮕﺮﺩﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻋﻼﻣـﺖ ﺑﺰﻧﻴـﺪ .ﺩﺭ ﺁﻧﺠـﺎ ﺑـﺎ ﺍﺷﺨﺎﺹ ﻫﻢﻓﻜﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﻼﻗﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﺮﺩ. ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺤﻘﻴﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺎﺩﺕ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ .ﺻﺪﺍﻱ ﭘﭻ ﭘﭻ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻴﺎﻡﻫﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺟﺎﻳﮕﺰﻳﻦ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺻـﻤﻴﻢ ﻗﻠـﺐ ﺩﻧﺒـﺎﻝ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻗﺎﻟﺐ ﺍﻧﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻌﺎﺩﻝ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺩﺭﺩ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﻩ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻓﻘﻂ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻳﻚ ﺟﻨﺒﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺜﻞ ﺭﻭﺍﺑﻂ ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻧﻪ ،ﻛﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﺑﭽﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺍﮔﺮ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻞ ﺑﺮ ﺧﻮﺭﺩﻳﺪ ،ﭼﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺳـﺖ ﻣـﻲﺩﻫـﺪ؟ ﺟـﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﻌﻠـﻮﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺧﺎﻟﻲﺑﻮﺩﻥ! ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ! ﺍﻓﺴﺮﺩﮔﻲ! ﻭﺍﺑﺴﺘﮕﻲ ﺭﺍﺑﻄﺔ ﺳﺎﻟﻤﻲ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻳﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻧﻮﻥ ﺍﺻﻠﻲ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﻋﻤﻴﻘﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺁﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺯﺑﺎﻥ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺁﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻧﮕﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ. ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲﻛﻪ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺟﻨﺒﻪ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻮﺳﻌﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺿـﻤﻦ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩﺗـﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮﺍﺑـﺮ ﺩﺭﺩ ﻓﻘـﺪﺍﻥ ﺣﻤﺎﻳﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﭼﻪ ﻧﺘﻴﺠﻪﺍﻱ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﻳﺪ؟ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺷﺪﺕ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﻳﺎﺑﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺗﻮﺭ ﻧﺠﺎﺕ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻣﺮﺑﻌﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺟﻨﺒﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺳﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺳﭙﺲ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻧُﻪ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺗﻘﺴـﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ، ﻫﺮ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﺔ ﻣﺤﺪﻭﺩﺓ ﻣﺘﻔﺎﻭﺗﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ ،ﻣﺜﻞ :ﺭﺷﺪ ﺷﺨﺼﻴﺖ ،ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ،ﺷﻐﻞ، ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﻩ ،ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ ،ﺩﻭﺳﺘﺎﻥ ،ﺷﺮﻛﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺍﺟﺘﻤﺎﻉ ،ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺗﻨﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﻭ ﺯﻣﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺯﻱ. »ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ« ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﻫﻤﺔ ﻣﺎ ﻋﻼﻗﻪ ﻣﻨﺪﻳﻢﻛﻪ ﻋﺸﻖ ﻭ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﭘﺨﺶ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲﻛـﻪ ﻣـﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻫﻤﻜﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ ،ﻗﻮﻱﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢ .ﺑﻪ ﺟـﺎﻱ ﺍﻳﻨﻜـﻪ ﮔﻴﺮﻧـﺪﻩ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﻢ ،ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﻨﺪﻩ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﻢ؛ ﻭ ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺍﻭﺝ ﻣﻲﮔﻴﺮﺩ. »ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ« ﻫﻢ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻥ ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﺷﺪﻳﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﻳﻚ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﻛﺎﻣـﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺭﻭﺯﻣﺮﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﻣﺘﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺤﻞ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺤـﻞ ﻋﺸـﻖ، ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﺍﻃﻤﻴﻨﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﻣﻲ ﺑﺮﺩ .ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻳﺖ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺭﻳﭽـﺔ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻗـﺮﺍﺭ ﺩﻫﻴـﺪ. ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﭘﺮﺗﻮ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﻜﻨﺪ. ﻧﮕﺎﻩ ﺑﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ
ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻧُﻪ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻳﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻫﺮ ﻳﻚ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻮﺍﺣﻲ ،ﭼﻄﻮﺭﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺑﺮﺳﻨﺪ .ﻭﻗﺖ ﺑﮕﺬﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺑـﺎﺭﻩ ﻓﻜـﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ، ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺭﺍ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺍﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ
ﺯﻣﺎﻧﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﭘـﺮ ﻭ ﻣﺘﻌـﺎﺩﻝ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ ،ﻫـﺮ ﮔﻮﻧـﻪ ﻛﻤﺒـﻮﺩﻱ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﻫـﻢ ﻧﻤﻲ ﺭﻳﺰﺩ؛ ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺳﻮﺭﺍﺥ ﻛﻮﭼﻜﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻧﺎﺭﺍﺣﺖﺗﺎﻥ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨـﺪ؛ ﻭﻟـﻲ ﺁﺳﺎﻳﺶ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻧﻤﻲﺑﺮﺩ؛ ﭼﻮﻥ ﺑﻘﻴﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻘﺪﺍﺭ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﻏﻨﻲ ﻫﺴﺖ. ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﻭﻟﻲ ﻳـﻚ ﻣـﻮﺭﺩ ﻣﺜـﻞ ﺍﺭﺗﺒـﺎﻁ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﻳـﺎ ﺑﭽـﻪ ﻭ... ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺩﻧﻴـﺎ ﻣﻬـﻢ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺳﺰﺍﻭﺍﺭ ﻳﻚ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻏﻨﻲ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺍﺿﺎﻓﻲﻫﺎﻱ ﻭﺍﺟﺐ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﺍﺩﺓ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ،ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﻛﺎﺭﻫـﺎﻱﺗـﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻣـﺮﻭﺭ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ، ﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﻧﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﻳﺎ ﺁﺭﺯﻭ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻱ ﻛﺎﺵ ﺩﺭ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ. ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲﻛﻪ ﺳﺮ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ،ﺁﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻣﺎﻧﻊ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﻧﺸﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺷﺮﻛﺖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ،ﭼﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻗﻲ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ؟
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻫﻤﺔ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ ،ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ،ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ،ﻣﺸﺎﺭﻛﺖ ،ﺷﺎﺩﻱ ،ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻭ ﺧﻮﺷﺤﺎﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺯﻧﺪﻩ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ ،ﻭ ﺁﻥ ﻭﻗـﺖ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻭﻟﻴﻦ ﺑﺎﺭ ﺗﺴﻠﻂ ﺑﺮ ﻫﻤﻪ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﻭ ﻣـﻲﻓﻬﻤﻴـﺪ ،ﭼـﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻜﻮﻫﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ! ﭘﺮﺩﺍﺧﺘﻦ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﺎ ﺍﺑﺪ ﻧﻴﺴﺖ
ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﻣﺎﺟﺮﺍﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﺭﻣﻐﺎﻥ ﻧﻤﻲﺁﻭﺭﺩ ،ﺭﻗﺎﺑـﺖﻫـﺎﻱ ﺟﺪﻳـﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﺍﻧﺘﺨﺎﺏ ﺷﻐﻞ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﻣﻨﺠﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻧﺪ؛ ﻣﻤﻜﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺭﻭﺍﺑﻂ ﻗﻄﻊ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﻳﺎ ...ﻭﻟﻲ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺻـﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻﺪ ﺍﺯ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻛﻢ ﻧﮕﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺗﺄﺳﻔﻲ ﺑﺎﻗﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻣﺎﻧﺪ. ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ
ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ،ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻓﺮﻕ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺍﮔﺮ ﻧﻤـﻲﻓﻬﻤﻴـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺍﺭﺯﺷﻤﻨﺪ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﺭﺍ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﺭﻓﺘﺎﺭ ﻧﻤﺎﻳﻴﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ
ﺳﺆﺍﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﺑﺎ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻣﻄﺮﺡ ﻣﻲ ﺷﻮﺩ ،ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ» :ﺍﮔـﺮ ﻭﺍﻗﻌـﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺍﻡ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻡ ،ﭼـﻪ ﻣـﻲﻛـﺮﺩ«؟ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﭼﻨـﻴﻦ ﺳـﺆﺍﻝ ﻣﺤﻜﻤـﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺩ ﻣﻲﭘﺮﺳﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺗﻌﺪﺍﺩﻱ ﺟﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﺤﻜﻢ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺒﺎ ﻭ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻥ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰ ﻫﻢ ﻣﻲﺭﺳﻴﺪ. ﺩﺭ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺆﺍﻝﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺩﺭ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﻭﺍﻧﻤﻮﺩ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﭘﺎﺳﺦ ﺩﺍﺩﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺧﻮﺑﻲﻛـﻪ ﺭﺳـﻴﺪﻳﺪ ﺣﺘﻤـﺎً ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺁﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﻣﻬﻢ ﺑﻮﺩﻳﺪ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻳـﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﻧﺘﻴﺠـﻪ ﺑـﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﺭﻙ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎﻱ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨﺪ ﻣﻬﻢ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ. )ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﻄﻠﺐ ﺭﺍ ﺩﻭﺑﺎﺭﻩ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ!( ﻣﻮﺳﻴﻘﻲ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ
ﺩﺍﻧﺴﺘﻦ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺻﺪ ﺩﺭ ﺻـﺪ ﻣﺘﻌﻬـﺪ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ» ،ﻣﻮﺳـﻴﻘﻲ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺩﻭ ﺳﻮﻳﻪ« ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎ ﻣﺴﺎﺋﻞ ﺣﺎﺷﻴﻪﺍﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻻﺯﻡ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺳﻄﺢ ﻫﻴﺠﺎﻧﻲ ﻋﻤﻴﻖ ﺑﺎ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﭘﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻢ ﻧﺘﺎﻳﺞ ﺟﺎﺩﻭﻳﻲ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺭﻳﭽﺔ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻨﻈﻴﻢ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻫﺮ ﺣﻮﺯﻩ ﺍﺯ ﻓﻌﺎﻟﻴﺖ ﻭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺳﻴﺪ» :ﺍﮔﺮ ﻣﻦ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺑﻪ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﻣﻲﺁﻣـﺪﻡ، ﭼﻪ ﻣﻲﻛﺮﺩﻡ«؟ ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺟﻮﺍﺏﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻭ ﺳﭙﺲ ﺷﺮﻭﻉ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻧﺠـﺎﻡ ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ. ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ: »ﺷﻤﺎ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺧﻠﻖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ«. ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ﺭﺍ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ!
ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﺳﻤﻲ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪ ،ﺩﺭ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺖ ﺭﻭﺯﺍﻧﺔ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻳﻚ ﻛﺎﺭ ﻳﺎ ﻛﺎﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮﻱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺪﺕ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴﻴﺪ ...ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺷﺎﻫﺪ ﻏﻨـﻲﺷـﺪﻥ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﺮ ﻋﻠﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺭﺷﺪ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ. ﺍﻧﻌﻄﺎﻑ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ
ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺮ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ﺗﺤﺖ ﭘﻮﺷﺶ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﻧﺪﺍﺩﻳﺪ ،ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻧﺒﺎﺷـﻴﺪ .ﺍﮔـﺮ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﺿـﺮﻭﺭﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺑﭽﻪﺗﺎﻥ ﻣﺮﻳﺾ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺩﺭ ﺗﻌﻄﻴﻼﺕ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺮ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻌﻀﻲ ﺣﻮﺯﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺎﻳﺪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺪﺕ ﻛﻮﺗﺎﻫﻲ ﻛﻨﺎﺭ ﮔﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣـﺎﻝ ﺧﻠـﻖ ﻧﮕﺮﺷﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ...ﻧﻪ ﻓﺸﺎﺭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ! ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﺑﺰﺭگ ﺍﺳﺖ
ﻧﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪﻥ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﺘﻀﻤﻦ ﻧﮕﺮﺷﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ،ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻭ ﻋﻤﻞ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﭘﻲ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﻏﻨﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺩﻳﮕﺮ ﻫﻴﭻ ﭼﻴﺰ ﻧﻤﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﺍﺣﺴـﺎﺱ ﺧـﻮﺏ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﺩ .ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ! ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﺪ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺑﻪ ﻣﻨﻈﻮﺭ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﭼﺸﻢﻫﺎﻱﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﺯ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ
ﻫﻨﺮ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ﻳﻌﻨﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﺎﻳﻲ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺑﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﺎﺭﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ. ﺑﻪ ﭘﻨﺠﺎﻩ ﻣﻮﺭﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﻱ ﺍﻣﺎ ﺧﺎﺭﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ﻳـﺎ ﺁﻧﻬـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻨﻮﻳﺴـﻴﺪ ،ﻭ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻛﺪﺍﻡ ﻳﻚ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺣﻖ ﺷﻨﺎﺱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ .ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺭﺍ ﻫﺮ ﺷـﺐ ﻗﺒـﻞ ﺍﺯ ﺧـﻮﺍﺏ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ. ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻧﻪ ﺗﻨﻬﺎ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻋﻈﻴﻢ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺑﻠﻜﻪ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭ ﻏﻨﻲ ﻧﻴﺰ ﻫﺴﺖ! ﻃﺮﻑ ﺭﻭﺷﻦ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ
ﺑﺎ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺁﻥ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻫﺮ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺧﺎﺻﻲ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﻌﻠـﻴﻢ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺮ ﺩﻗﻴﻘﻪ ﺍﺯ ﻫﺮ ﺭﻭﺯ ،ﺷﻜﺎﻳﺖ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻧﺒﺎﻝ ﻧﻌﻤﺖﻫﺎ ﻭ ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺮ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ،ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ. ﺑﺮ ﻓﺮﺍﻭﺍﻧﻲ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻭ ﺗﺮﺱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﻣﺜﻞ ﭘﻮﻝ ،ﻭﺳﺎﻳﻞ ،ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲ ،ﻋﺸﻖ ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﻱ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﺟﻤﻠﻪﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ» :ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻦ ﭘﺮ ﻭ ﻏﻨـﻲ ﺍﺳـﺖ ،ﻣـﻦ ﺑـﺮ ﺗﻤـﺎﻡ ﺯﻳﺒﺎﻳﻲﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻭ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻢ ﻫﺴﺖ ﺗﻤﺮﻛﺰ ﺩﺍﺭﻡ«.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ! ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﻓﻘﻂ ﻋﻮﺽ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ؟
ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺍﺳﺎﺱ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻈﺎﻡ ﭘﻨﻬﺎﻥ ﻣﻌﺎﻣﻠﺔ ﭘﺎﻳﺎ ﭘﺎﻱ ﻋﻤﻞ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﻢ ،ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻛﻤﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻲﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﭼﺸﻢﺩﺍﺷﺘﻲ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ ،ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ .ﺧﻮﺍﻩ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﻳﺎ ﻗﺪﺭﺩﺍﻧﻲ ،ﻋﺸﻖ ﻳﺎ ﻫﺮ ﭼﻴﺰ ﺩﻳﮕﺮ. ﺍﮔﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ!
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ ﻫﺪﻳﻪﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﮕﻴﺰﻩ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﻢ ،ﻫﻤﻴﺸﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻛﻪ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺩﺭ ﻋﻮﺽ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ،ﻫﺪﻳﻪﺍﻱ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﭘﺲ ﻧﺪﻫﻨﺪ ﭼـﻪ ﻣـﻲﺷـﻮﺩ؟ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﺫﻫﻦ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﭘﺮ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺗﺮﺱ ﺗﺒﺪﻳﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻫﻤﻴﻦ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺫﻫﻨﻲ ﻣـﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ. ﺑﺨﺸﻴﺪﻥ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺻﻤﻴﻢ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺗﻮﻗﻊ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ ﺟﺎﻱ ﺁﻥ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻭ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ ،ﺻﻠﺢ ﻭ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺣﻜﻢ ﻓﺮﻣﺎ ﺍﺳﺖ. ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣﺎ ﺷﺎﺩﻱ ﻣﻲﺁﻓﺮﻳﻨﺪ ،ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﻣﺎ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺑﺰﺭﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ. ﺩﺭ ﮔﻴﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻏﺎﻓﻞ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﻢ ،ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻣـﻲﺗـﻮﺍﻧﻴﻢ ،ﺍﺯ ﺻـﻤﻴﻢ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺑﺒﺨﺸﻴﻢ ،ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﺣﺎﻟﺖ ﺑﺪﻭﻥ ﺁﻧﻜﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﺍﺯ ﻣﺎ ﺍﻧﺘﻈﺎﺭ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫـﻴﻢ ،ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺁﺯﺍﺩﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﻻﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺗﻀﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﻲ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻣﺎ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑﻪ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻣﻲﺑﺨﺸﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ﺻﺮﻓﺎً ﺑﻪ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻧـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺭﻭﻱ ﭼﺸﻢﺩﺍﺷﺖ ،ﭘﻲ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﻢ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﺣﺪ ﺗﺼﻮﺭﻣﺎﻥ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻳﻢ. ﺑﺨﺸﺶ ،ﺗﺮﺱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﻫﺪﻳﻪ ﺩﺍﺩﻥ ﺟﺰﻭ ﺑﺮﻧﺎﻣﻪﻫﺎﻱ ﺭﻭﺯﻣﺮﻩ ﺗﺎﻥ ﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﮔﻴﺮﺩ ،ﺣﺲ ﻛﻤﺒﻮﺩ ﻭ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨـﺪﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﺩﺳﺖ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﺑﻲﻧﻴﺎﺯﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﭼﻴﺰﻱ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ ﻛﺴـﻲ ﻣـﻲﺑﺨﺸـﻴﺪ ،ﺣـﺲ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻭ ﻋﺸﻖ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ. ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﺑﮕﻮﻳﻴﺪ ﻣﺘﺸﻜﺮﻡ...
ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺘﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﻤﺎﻡ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﻣﻬﻢ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲﺗﺎﻥ ﺗﻬﻴﻪ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺳﭙﺲ ﺑﻪ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻣﻨﻈﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺳﺮﺍﻍ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﺮﻭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻧﺴﺒﺖ ﺳﻬﻤﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺜﺒﺖ ﺍﻧﺪﻳﺸﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺍﺭﻧﺪ ،ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺗﺸـﻜﺮ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ .ﻛﻠﻤـﺔ »ﻣﺘﺸـﻜﺮﻡ« ﻧﻴﺮﻭﻣﻨﺪﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻭ ﺑﺨﺸﻨﺪﻩﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﻠﻤﻪﺍﻱ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺣﺎﻝ ﮔﻔﺘﻪ ﺷﺪﻩ. ﺍﺯ ﻛﻤﻚ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ
ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﺣﺴﺎﺱ ﻧﻴﺮﻭ ﻭ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﻣـﻲﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ،ﻭ ﻭﻗﺘـﻲ ﺩﻳﮕـﺮﺍﻥ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻧﭽﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻳﺎﺩ ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪﺍﻧﺪ ،ﺍﺳﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻨﺪ ،ﺍﺛﺮ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﺴـﻴﺎﺭ ﺑـﺰﺭگ ﺟﻠـﻮﻩ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ. ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺩﺭﻳﻎ ﻧﻜﻨﻴﺪ
ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﭘﻴﺶ ﻣﻲﺁﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻧﺰﺩﻳﻚﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻣﺎ ﻛﺴﺎﻧﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﺮﺍﻱﺷﺎﻥ ﺩﺷﻮﺍﺭ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻭ ﻛﻠﻤﻪﻫﺎﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺣﺎﻛﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﻭ ﺗﺸﻜﺮ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺍﺯ ﺩﻫﺎﻥ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺧﺎﺭﺝ ﻧﻤﻲﺷـﻮﺩ، ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻟﻲﻛﻪ ﺗﺤﺴﻴﻦ ﺍﻓﺮﺍﺩ ﺑﻬﺘـﺮﻳﻦ ﺭﺍﻩ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﻫـﺎﻳﻲ ﺍﺯ ﺧﺸـﻢ ﻭ ﺭﻧﺠـﺶ ﺍﺳـﺖ .ﺗﺤﺴـﻴﻦ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﺪ ﻣﻮﺍﻧﻌﻲ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮ ﺳﺮ ﺭﺍﻩ ﻣﺤﺒﺖ ﻭ ﺍﺭﺗﺒﺎﻁ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺍﺯ ﺑﻴﻦ ﺑﺒﺮﺩ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻫﻢ ﺑﺎ ﭘﻮﻝ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﻓﺮﻗﻲ ﻧﻤﻲﻛﻨﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻳﻚ ﻧﻔﺮ ﭼﻘﺪﺭ ﺛﺮﻭﺕ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷـﺪ .ﻣﻬـﻢ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﺴـﺒﺖ ﺛﺮﻭﺗﻲﻛﻪ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ،ﻣﻘﺪﺍﺭﻱ ﻫﻢ ﺑﻪ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺳﻌﻲ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻣﻨـﺪﺍﻥ ﭘـﻮﻝ ﺑﺪﻫﻴـﺪ. ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺩﻳﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﻃﺮﻑ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺭﻭﺣﻴﻪﺍﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺍﻳﺠﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺷـﻮﺩ ﻛـﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺳﺨﺖﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﺸﻜﻼﺕ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺣﻞ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﻫﺪﻑﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻬﺎﻳﻲ ﺷﻤﺎ
ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﺭﺍ ﻛﻪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﻧﻈﺮ ﺁﻭﺭﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺟﺰﺋﻴﺎﺕ ﺁﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺸﺨﺺ ﺳـﺎﺯﻳﺪ ﻭ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺑﺒﻴﻨﻴﺪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭ ﭼﻪ ﺗﺄﺛﻴﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺤﻴﻂ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻑ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻭ ﺭﻭﻱ ﺍﻃﺮﺍﻓﻴﺎﻥ ﺷﻤﺎ ﮔﺬﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ، ﺣﺘﻤﺎً ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺎﺭ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺴﻴﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻮﺍﺭﺩ ﻣﺆﺛﺮ ﺑﻮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛـﺎﺭ ﻓﺎﻳـﺪﻩﻫـﺎﻱ ﺯﻳﺎﺩﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺑﻴﺸﺘﺮ ﺍﺯ ﻫﻤﻪ ﺍﻳﻨﻜﻪ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺁﺩﻡ ﻣﺆﺛﺮﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﻋﺘﻤـﺎﺩ ﺑـﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺎﻻ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﺩ.
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻗﺪﻡ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﻡ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻋﺚ ﺗﻜﺎﻣﻞ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﺩ
ﺩﺭﺳﺖ ﻫﻤﺎﻥﻃﻮﺭ ﻛﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﺘﻨﺎﺳﺐ ﺑـﻮﺩﻥ ﺑـﺪﻥﺗـﺎﻥ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺭﺯﺵ ﺍﺣﺘﻴـﺎﺝ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﺪ ،ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﻧﮕﻬﺪﺍﺭﻱ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﻫﻢ ﻧﻴﺎﺯ ﺑﻪ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ .ﺑﺎ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻭ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗـﻮﻱ« ﭘﻴﻮﺳﺘﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺁﻥ ﻗﺴﻤﺖ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ. ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﻫﺮ ﭼﻪ ﻛﻪ ﺍﺗﻔﺎﻕ ﻣﻲﺍﻓﺘﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﻊ ﺷﻤﺎﺳﺖ
ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﻭﻗﺖﻫﺎ ﻣﺘﻮﺟﻪ ﻧﻤﻲﺷﻮﻳﻢﻛﻪ ﺗﻐﻴﻴﺮﺍﺗﻲ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﻣـﺎ ﺍﺗﻔـﺎﻕ ﻣـﻲﺍﻓﺘـﺪ .ﺑـﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴـﺪ، ﻫﻨﮕــﺎﻣﻲﻛــﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﺑــﺰﺍﺭ »ﻣــﻦ ﻗــﻮﻱ« ﺧــﻮﺩ ﺍﺳــﺘﻔﺎﺩﻩ ﻣــﻲﻛﻨﻴــﺪ ،ﺷــﻤﺎ ﻓــﺮﺩﻱ ﻗــﺪﺭﺕﻣﻨــﺪﺗﺮ، ﺩﻭﺳﺖﺩﺍﺷﺘﻨﻲﺗﺮ ﻭ ﻗﺎﺑﻞ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩﺗﺮ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ .ﻛﻢ ﻛﻢ ﭘﺮﺗﻮﻫﺎﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﻳـﺪﻩ ﻭ ﭘﺬﻳﺮﻓﺘﻪ ﺧﻮﺍﻫﻨﺪ ﺷﺪ. ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ!
ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ،ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺻﺒﻮﺭ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﺩﺭ ﺣـﺎﻟﻲﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻘﻮﻳﺖ ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺗﻤﺮﻳﻦ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔـﺲ ﺑﻴﺸـﺘﺮﻱ ﺩﺭ ﺩﺭﻭﻥ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺑـﻪ ﻭﺟـﻮﺩ ﻣﻲ ﺁﻳﺪ ،ﺻﺒﺮ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻌﻨﻲ ﻓﻬﻤﻴﺪﻥ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﻣﺎ ﺩﺭ ﺣﺎﻝ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﻢ ﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺁﻥ ﺍﻣﻜـﺎﻥ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻴﻢ ،ﺗﻮﺟﻪ ﺩﺍﺷﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ،ﻳﻚ ﮔَُﻞ ﻫﻨﮕﺎﻣﻲ ﺷﻜﻮﻓﻪ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ ﻛﻪ ﺁﻣﺎﺩﮔﻲ ﺷﻜﻮﻓﺎﻳﻲ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻪ ﺑﺎﺷﺪ. ﺧﻮﺩﺗﺎﻥ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﮔﺎﻫﻲ ﺑﺪﺗﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺑﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ« ﺧﻮﺩ ﺍﺟـﺎﺯﻩ ﺑﺪﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ »ﺩﺭﺳﺖ« ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﻧﺪﺍﺩﻥ ﻛﺎﺭﻱ ﻳﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻗﺪﺭ ﻛﺎﻓﻲ ﻋﻤﻞﻧﻜـﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ﭼﻴـﺰﻫـﺎﻱ
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻣﺸﺎﺑﻪ ﺳﺮﺯﻧﺶ ﻛﻨﺪ! ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﻛﺎﺭﻱﻛﻪ ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺍﻧﺠﺎﻡ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﺍﺳـﺖ ﻛـﻪ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﻫـﺮ ﻗـﺪﻡ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﻣﺜﺒﺘﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﺮ ﻣﻲﺩﺍﺭﻳﺪ ،ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺗﺸﻮﻳﻖ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﺭﺷﺪ ﻣﻌﻨﻮﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﭙﺮﺩﺍﺯﻳﺪ
ﺍﺑﺰﺍﺭﻫﺎﻱ ﻗﺪﺭﺕ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ،ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕﻫﺎﻱ ﺗﺄﻛﻴﺪﻱ ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ :ﮔﻔﺘﻦ »ﺑﻠﻪ« ﺑـﻪ ﺯﻧـﺪﮔﻲ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻥ ﺳﺮ ﻧﻮﺷﺖ ﻧﺒﻮﺩﻥ ،ﺑﻪ ﺷﻜﺴﺖ ﻭ ﺑﺎﺧﺖ ﻓﻜﺮ ﻧﻜﺮﺩﻥ ﻭ ...ﺍﻳﻦ ﻋﺒﺎﺭﺕﻫﺎ ﺗﻔﻜﺮ ﻣﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﻪ »ﻣﻦ ﻗﻮﻱ« ﺳﻮﻕ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﻨﺪ. ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻋﻨﻮﺍﻥ ﻏﺬﺍﻱ ﺑﺪﻥ ،ﺫﻫﻦ ﻭ ﺭﻭﺡ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺑﻴﻨﺪﻳﺸـﻴﺪ ﻭ ﻓﺮﺍﻣـﻮﺵ ﻧﻜﻨﻴـﺪ ،ﺑـﻪ ﻃـﻮﺭ ﻣﻨﻈﻢ ﻏﺬﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺭﻳﺪ. ﺷﻤﺎ ﺩﺭ ﻣﺴﻴﺮ ﺩﺭﺳﺘﻲ ﺣﺮﻛﺖ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﻴﺪ
ﺑﻪ ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮﻳﻦ ﺣﺮﻑﻫﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭ ﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﺷﻤﺎ ﻣﻲﺯﻧﺪ ،ﮔﻮﺵ ﺩﻫﻴﺪ ...ﺻﺪﺍﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﻫﻤﻴﺸـﻪ ﻳﺎﺩ ﺁﻭﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ ،ﺷﻤﺎ ﻓﺮﺩﻱ ﻗﻮﻱ ﻭ ﺩﻭﺳﺖ ﺩﺍﺷـﺘﻨﻲ ﻫﺴـﺘﻴﺪ ﻭ ﭼﻴـﺰﻱ ﻧﺪﺍﺭﻳـﺪ ﻛـﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺁﻥ ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻴﺪ .ﺷﻤﺎ ﻛﺴﻲ ﻫﺴﺘﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﭼﻴﺰﻫﺎﻱ ﻓﻮﻕ ﺍﻟﻌﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﺗﺎ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺩﻧﻴﺎ ﺑﺒﺨﺸﺪ .ﺍﮔﺮ ﺗﺎﻛﻨﻮﻥ ﺑﻪ ﺍﻳﻦ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻧﺮﺳﻴﺪﻩﺍﻳﺪ ،ﺍﻣﺮﻭﺯ ﺑﺎﻭﺭ ﻛﻨﻴﺪ .ﺍﻳﻦ ﻭﺍﻗﻌﺎً ﺣﻘﻴﻘﺖ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ!
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺩﺭﺑﺎﺭﺓ ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ ﺩﻛﺘﺮ ﺳﻮﺯﺍﻥ ﺟِﻔﺮﺯ ،ﻧﻮﻳﺴﻨﺪﻩ ﻭ ﻣﻌﻠﻤﻲ ﺍﺳﺖ ﻛﻪ ﺷﻬﺮﺕ ﺟﻬﺎﻧﻲ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ ﻭ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻴﻠﻴﻮﻥﻫﺎ ﻧﻔـﺮ ﻛﻤﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺮ ﺗﺮﺱﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺩ ﻣﺴﻠﻂ ﺷﻮﻧﺪ ﻭ ﺩﺭﺩﻫﺎﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺭﺍ ﺩﺭﻣﺎﻥ ﻛﻨﻨﺪ. ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﻫﻤﺴﺮ ﺧﻮﺩ ﺩﺭ ﻟﻮﺱ ﺁﻧﺠﻠﺲ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﻣﻲﻛﻨﺪ. ﻣﻲﺗﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻭ ﺑﺎ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻲ ﺗﻤﺎﺱ ﺑﮕﻴﺮﻳﺪ: www.susanJeffers.com
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﻣﺆﺳﺴﺔ ﺍﻧﺘﺸﺎﺭﺍﺕ ﻗﺪﻳﺎﻧﻲ ﻣﻨﺘﺸﺮ ﻛﺮﺩﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ: ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺯﻭﺝﻫﺎﻱ ﺟﻮﺍﻥ ﺑﺪﺍﻧﻨﺪ
• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ ،ﺗﻮﻟﺪ ﺗﺎ 4ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ • ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ 5 ،ﺗﺎ 8ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ
• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ 9 ،ﺗﺎ 12ﻣﺎﻫﮕﻲ • ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ ،ﻳﻚ ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ
• ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ ،ﺗﻐﺬﻳﻪ ﺑﺎ ﺷﻴﺮ ﻣﺎﺩﺭ • ﻓﺮﺯﻧﺪ ﭘﺮﻭﺭﻱ ،ﺳﺎﻝﻫﺎﻱ ﻧﻮﭘﺎﻳﻲ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ
• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ ،ﺷﺶ ﻫﻔﺘﻪ ﺍﻭﻝ
• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ ،ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺧﻮﺏ • ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ ،ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﺗﻐﺬﻳﺔ ﺧﻮﺏ
• ﺗﺮ ﻭ ﺧﺸﻚ ﻛﺮﺩﻥ ﻛﻮﺩﻙ ،ﺭﺍﻫﻨﻤﺎﻱ ﻋﺎﺩﺕﻫﺎﻱ ﺧﻮﺏ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ
• ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ ،ﺗﻮﻟﺪ ﺗﺎ 2ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ • ﻛﻮﭼﻮﻟﻮﻱ ﺷﺎﺩ 2 ،ﺗﺎ 4ﺳﺎﻟﮕﻲ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﭘﺰﺷﻜﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺯﺑﺎﻥ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ
• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﻛﺎﻫﺶ ﻭﺯﻥ • ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﻗﻠﺐ ﺷﻤﺎ • ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﺩﻳﺎﺑﺖ
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
• ﺍﻧﻘﻼﺏ ﮔﻠﻮﻛﺰ ﻭ ﺗﻐﺬﻳﻪ ﻭﺭﺯﺷﻜﺎﺭﺍﻥ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ ﺯﻳﺴﺘﻦ
• ﻧﻴﺎﺯﻫﺎﻱ ﻣﻦ ﭼﻴﺴﺖ؟
• ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ ﺑﺮ ﻧﮕﺮﺍﻧﻲ ﻭ ﺍﺿﻄﺮﺍﺏ ﭘﻴﺮﻭﺯ ﺷﺪﻡ؟ • 5ﺭﻭﺯ ﻻﻏﺮ ﺷﻮﻳﻢ
• ﺍﺯ ﺳﺎﻟﺨﻮﺭﺩﮔﻲ ﻟﺬﺕ ﺑﺒﺮﻳﻢ • ﺩﺧﺘﺮ ﻣﻲﺧﻮﺍﻫﻴﺪ ﻳﺎ ﭘﺴﺮ؟ • 10ﮔﺎﻡ ﺗﺎ ﺟﻮﺍﻥﺗﺮ ﺷﺪﻥ
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135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
ﺭﻭﺍﻥﺷﻨﺎﺳﻲ ﺳﺎﺩﻩ 8 - • ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻣﺠﻤﻮﻋﻪ ﻣﻨﺘﺸﺮ ﺷﺪﻩ ﺍﺳﺖ: • 150ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺣﻔﻆ ﺗﻨﺪﺭﺳﺘﻲ • 60ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻬﺘﺮ
• 150ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﺳﻮﺩﮔﻲ ﺧﺎﻃﺮ • 150ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺁﺭﺍﻣﺶ ﺩﺭ ﻛﺎﺭ • 150ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻮﺍﺏ ﺭﺍﺣﺖ
• 60ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻣﻮﻓﻘﻴﺖ ﺩﺭ ﺍﻣﺘﺤﺎﻥ • 57ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺗﻮﺍﻧﻤﻨﺪﻱ ﺯﻧﺎﻥ
• 135ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ ﻧﻔﺲ
• 46ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﺭﻭﻳﺎﺭﻭﻳﻲ ﺑﺎ ﺑﺤﺮﺍﻥ • 148ﻧﻜﺘﻪ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﻟﺬّﺕ ﻭ ﺷﺎﺩﻣﺎﻧﻲ
ﺍﻋﺘﻤﺎﺩ ﺑﻪ »ﻧﻔﺲ« ﻳﻌﻨـﻲ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺧﻠـﻖ ﭼﻴﺰﻫـﺎﻳﻲﻛـﻪ ﺩﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﻲ ﺑﻪ ﺁﻧﻬﺎ ﻧﻴـﺎﺯ ﺩﺍﺭﻳـﻢ ،ﻣـﺎ ﺍﻏﻠـﺐ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﺗﻮﺍﻧـﺎﻳﻲ ﺭﺍ ﺍﺯ ﻳـﺎﺩ ﻣﻲﺑﺮﻳﻢ ،ﺍﻣﺎ ﺑﺮﺍﻱ ﮔﺮﻳﺰ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺷـﻲ ،ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎﻱ ﻋﻤﻠـﻲ ﻭ ﺭﺍﻩﻫﺎﻱ ﺳﺎﺩﻩﺍﻱ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﺩﺍﺭﺩ. ﺍﻳﻦ ﻛﺘﺎﺏ ﻛﻮﭼﻚ ﺭﺍ ﺑﺨﻮﺍﻧﻴﺪ ﺗﺎ ﺑﺎ ﺩﻩﻫﺎ ﻧﻤﻮﻧﻪ ﺍﺯ ﺍﻳـﻦ ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎ ﺁﺷﻨﺎ ﺷﻮﻳﺪ ،ﺑﻪ ﺧﺼﻮﺹ ﻭﻗﺘﻲ ﺑـﺎ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﻴـﺖ ﺗـﺎﺯﻩﺍﻱ ﺭﻭ ﺑـﻪ ﺭﻭ ﻣﻲﺷﻮﻳﺪ ،ﻣﻄﻤﺌﻦ ﺑﺎﺷﻴﺪ ﻛﻪ ﻛﺎﺭﺑﺮﺩ ﺍﻳﻦ ﻧﻜﺘـﻪﻫـﺎ ﺷـﻤﺎ ﺭﺍ ﺑـﺮﺍﻱ ﺳﺎﺯﮔﺎﺭﻱ ﺑﺎ ﺷﺮﺍﻳﻂ ﺗﺎﺯﻩ ﻳﺎﺭﻱ ﻣﻲﺩﻫﺪ.
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