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MOD MOM

LaRessa Mattson

WORDS OF WISDOM

OTMOM brings together the best need-to-know nuggets from a variety of virtual events for women, parents

PARENTING PERSPECTIVES

My kids have boundaries too, and I should honor them

BOOK NOOK

“A Little Round Panda on the Big Blue Earth”

COVER STORY

Local mom creates a life she loves, one goal at a time

GOOD FOOD

Gear up for the holidays with these simple, yet satisfying recipes

EDUCATIONAL UPGRADE

What parents need to know about the new grading standards

RAD DAD

Kris Kerzman

OLYMPIC OPPORTUNITY Wahpeton native spent summer in Tokyo promoting surfing

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On the Minds of Moms is grateful to have the following women contributing their expertise and voice to this issue of the magazine.

Melissa Davidson is a mom to three girls and writer for Click Content Studios, a marketing and video production agency. In addition to writing, she’s passionate about health and wellness, wishes she could get through all the non-fiction books out there, and thrives on learning new things, like the cello!

Jessica Rerick of Grand Forks is a freelance writer, trained chef and mom to four boys. Her food blog, wineandhotdish.com, is filled with recipes that quickly become new weeknight favorites. She also owns and operates Craveable Kitchen, an expanding line of dry mixes and seasonings.

Danielle Teigen is managing editor of On the Minds of Moms magazine as well as the author of two nonfiction local history books. She and her husband have three children who keep every day filled with laughter, craziness and caffeine.

Mary Jo Hotzler is the editor of On the Minds of Moms magazine and chief content officer at Forum Communications Company. She lives in Fargo with her husband, two boys and two cats. In her free time, Mary Jo enjoys interior design and amateur woodworking.

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On the Minds of Moms is dedicated to providing a community of local support and real-life advice for the modern mom who is on the go and needs to know. We are inspired to help the woman behind “the mom” balance it all by offering support, validation and reassurance she is a good mom wanting only the best for herself and family. On the Minds of Moms is an online community and magazine for and about local moms. We strive to achieve a balance between useful information and entertaining content. Written to serve as the local reading alternative to family magazines that are produced for a national audience.

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OTMOM magazine is growing. Literally. I

f you regularly pick up On the Minds of Moms magazine when you’re out running errands, you’ve probably already noticed something different about the way we look. Your eyes aren’t deceiving you. The magazine is bigger. This fall marks the two-year anniversary of Forum Communications Company’s ownership of this publication. We assumed the reins from Sheri Kleinsasser Stockmoe and Dani Parkos Fluge, who created On the Minds of Moms in 2008. During the ownership transition, I recall joking with Sheri about the magazine being like a child. Sheri and Dani gave it life, raised it, and got it through all of those early and important milestones. Then it got older and like all teenagers, it needed a little more attention — a different kind of attention, and Forum Communications was up for the challenge. Today, it feels like we’re sending this kid off to college: a full-size magazine that we are so very proud of, ready to take on the world — or at least our little part of the world. With the change in size comes a few new and exciting things. We’ve freshened up the design, colors and logo. We’ll be adding even more local content, expanding into some new areas and topics that we hope

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moms will enjoy. We’ll still cover important parenting topics, but we’ll also cover more topics of relevance for the woman behind that “mom” title. I’m talking about topics like health, wellness — physical and mental, home and garden, and even business. We know the moms who read this magazine are at different stages of their parenting journey and we plan to do more to reflect all of the stages of parenthood. Don’t worry, we’ll still throw in a few stories for dad, too. We’re open to story ideas you have for us as well, so feel free to connect with me or with On the Minds of Moms Managing Editor Danielle Teigen. With this “relaunch,” we also hope to do even more online, at www.inforum.com (just scroll to the On the Minds of Moms section) and on social media. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Likewise, if you’re a local business and are interested in advertising, in sponsored content or in having your business highlighted, don’t hesitate to be in touch. All of our contact information is noted on page 6 of the magazine. We appreciate all of your support for this magazine and are excited for a brand new year and for all of the new things to come.

Mary Jo Hotzler is Forum Communications Company’s Chief Content Officer and the editor of On the Minds of Moms. She lives in Fargo with her husband Heath and twin boys.

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LaRessa Mattson is a mom of three and new entrepreneur who left her longtime career in veterinary medicine to team up with a business partner to open Simply Swag, a store offering food, clothing and home decor from local makers. David Samson / The Forum 8 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

MOD MOM LaRessa Mattson Local mom takes creativity and launches a new career BY DANIELLE TEIGEN After being in the veterinary field for 15 years, LaRessa Mattson made a bold decision to leave and change course entirely: she wanted to open a retail store to sell the handmade products of local crafters like herself. She found a fellow crafter who soon became her business partner, Jessica Erickson, and the two began exploring options for a space. Once they settled on a storefront — located west of Target — the duo began filling it with products from vendors who wanted to get their goods in the hands of customers. And they did all this nine months after the coronavirus pandemic started. “We just decided to take a leap,” LaRessa said as she stood behind the counter at Simply Swag on a Tuesday afternoon just before the store celebrated its first anniversary. The store is a collection of home decor, food, clothing and more, and because the crafters are making new items all the time, the inventory changes constantly. “No one’s stuff is the same,” LaRessa said. “And no two things are the same.” With three teenagers at home — LaRessa’s kids are Elle, 17; Emerson, 16, and Dru, 13 — the career change required some adjusting for the

family. Yet because her kids are able to handle so much of their busy schedules, LaRessa has been able to focus on the store and her own creative projects. She started crafting through scrapbooking but has since branched out to producing wooden signs, gnomes, bath bombs, candles, chapsticks and more. “I just love crafting,” she said. “I started scrapbooking years ago to have reminders of when my kids were little, and after I finished those, the hobby just grew from there.” The life she’s created for herself is still a work in progress, but this mod mom is enjoying learning as she goes. You switched careers and started a business during a pandemic; how scary was that? Many people thought we were crazy for opening a business in the midst of the pandemic. But it worked in our favor. There were no craft shows in 2020 so a majority of our vendors were sitting on a bunch of inventory, which we got to have for the store. Leaving a stable career in the veterinary field after 15 years was a very hard decision to make. I love the veterinary world and everything about it, but it was time for a change. After 15 years, your heart starts to hurt a little.

What is your favorite part of owning a store that showcases the creativity of yourself and other local crafters and creatives? As a store owner, I see all the other crafters’ projects that they bring in to me to sell, and it makes me see how truly talented people are. My vendors always amaze me with the creative things they come up with. How do you maintain a balance between your family life and work life? My kids are so much more selfsufficient than they used to be. They know that if I’m late coming home from work, it’s because I had things to finish up. At their ages, they understand a lot more than they would if they were very young. And they support that. What is your favorite thing to do as a family around the holidays? We love to gather with both sides of our families whenever we can. My only sister is in Wisconsin, and my parents are in Arizona in the winter. So Christmas is usually spent with my husband’s family. The kids love hanging with their cousins and being tormented by their uncles!

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LaRessa’s family includes son Emerson, daughters Dru and Elle, and husband Brad. Photo courtesy of Kaytlin Dargen Photography

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MOD MOM

I’ve always told (my kids) I don’t care what they do as far as a career is concerned, as long as they are happy doing it. LARESSA MATTSON

What message do you hope to send to your children about their own dreams and aspirations through the decision you made regarding your career? I’ve always told them I don’t care what they do as far as a career is concerned, as long as they are happy doing it. They loved me working in the veterinary field because I’d usually paint a beautiful picture of the puppies and kittens I’d get to snuggle. But they also understood how my heart hurt after a particularly difficult euthanasia, or my distress over not being able to save every single animal that came through the door. What does your family love to do together? We try very hard to eat dinner together every night. With three teenagers, though, that is difficult. We love heading to the lake together on the weekends in the summer. The kids love tubing, skiing and hanging out on the Maui mat! (And Grandpa usually has a chore or two for them every weekend!) Can you share a bit about Simply Swag Promotional? Simply Swag Promotional is a sister company of the craft portion of the store.

We supply any kind of promotional item you can think of. Our list includes over a million items to choose from. From T-shirts and pens to tumblers and hats, we have it all. You have older kids; what do you wish you would have known back when you were a mom of young kids? People always say toddlers are the most difficult age. I think teenagers are more difficult but in a different way. You have to deal with three different stages of maturity and emotions. You deal with that first boyfriend/girlfriend and all the questions that come with that. And puberty. The driver’s license and first car. The first job. Getting ready for college, grades and scholarship applications. And so much more. How do you unwind after a long day of working and parenting? My favorite way to relax at the end of a long day is a glass of wine and chilling with my husband, catching up on each other’s day. We try to make dinner together as often as we can. And a good book is never far from my hand.

To learn more about Simply Swag or Simply Swag Promotional, visit https://www.facebook.com/simplyswagnd or stop by the store at 4302 13 1/2 Ave. S. in Fargo. You can also check out inventory online at https://simply-swag-nd.myshopify.com/.

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Words of wisdom

OTMOM brings together the best need-to-know nuggets from a variety of virtual events for women and parents BY DANIELLE TEIGEN

hanks to the pandemic, virtual events have become the norm for so many daily meetings as well as large events. The downside, of course, is the lack of real interaction with other meeting goers or attendees. The upside is these events can be attended from anywhere, and in the world of working remotely, it has been a real blessing the past year and a half. While I have certainly missed sitting around a conference room chatting with my co-workers

or hopping a plane to a fantastic yet professionally intense conference, I am grateful I’ve been able to virtually attend a variety of events that all offered some really interesting nuggets of information or pearls of wisdom. I’ve gathered all my pages and pages of notes (because I still like to be old school and take notes with a pen and paper), and I’m sharing some of the best things I’ve learned or resources I’ve been pointed to that I think you readers may find useful as well.

Parenting and relationships

Good Inside with Dr. Becky: She has a newsletter and podcast, but her IG stories are also amazingly insightful yet short bursts of parenting wisdom I look forward to every day. Her presentation about reducing rage and resentment made the point that setting healthy boundaries is necessary for everyone (moms, dads, kids, etc.). She also offered tips for moving from a reflexive “yes” to a reflexive “no” when asked to take on a new project or commitment, such as replying “I have to think about that. I’ll get back to you” or “I promised myself I wouldn’t add anything to my calendar right now, but thank you for asking.”

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WORDS OF WISDOM

Pediatrician Kelly Fradin (also author of “Parenting in a Pandemic”) talked about how to be more aware of our children’s mental health state. She noted that especially for younger children, emotional wellbeing is indicated through behavior, so parents should consider a tantrum as a mental health fever that needs to be addressed and remedied. She also shared that it’s

important for children to have a “trusted three” as in three trusted adults a child can go to when they need to talk about their anxiety and stress. She also said we don’t want to teach children not to deal with their big emotions; we want to equip them with the tools they need to deal with those emotions, and both parents and kids often need to learn that.

Denaye Barahona wants to see all moms thrive in motherhood, and she talked about finding meaning in the mess kids often create in the home. She shared that our houses are meant to be places where our kids learn responsible actions, imaginative play, conflict resolution and more. Moms often get frustrated by messes without seeing the connections kids are making through them, so it just takes a moment to re-shift your perspective and remember that your house is meant to serve your people, not the other way around.

Leadership expert and pastor Andy Stanley Lawyer and nonprofit founder Reshma Saujani spoke about the need for reform when it comes to caregiving and protections for moms. She highlighted that tax code reforms often force low-income women to work to pay for child care, yet middle-class, white-collar workers are taxed so much that it makes more sense for working mothers to instead stay home with children. She advocated that moms should start marching for moms and demanding better policies and infrastructure that results in a better caregiving system for mothers and families.

Marriage365.com by Megan and Casey Caston: They offer a monthly membership for couples who want to strengthen their marriage, and the breakout session I attended on apologizing was so refreshingly simple and poignant. Membership offers access to videos, worksheets and courses.

and his wife Sandra shared their own parenting philosophy that followed four stages: Discipline (ages 1 to 5 when kids are learning consequences to behavior); Training (ages 5 to 12 when kids learn the “why” behind the “what”); Coaching (ages 12 to 18 when parents need to make connections more than corrections); and Friendship (ages 18+ when you just get to be friends with your children). He offers great resources and more information on these stages on his website and through his podcast. He also has some great coaching sessions available for couples on his website.

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WORDS OF WISDOM

Personal and professional

Author Daniel Pink shared tips for making the most of your time based on knowing your own chronotype, which is the research-backed productivity indicator for when you work at your best. You can take an assessment online to learn your type and then schedule your day around your natural peaks and valleys. Based on his book “When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing”, he also highlighted the importance of taking breaks during the day that involve going outside whenever possible, leaving your phone behind and preferably walking with another person.

Author Glennon Doyle spoke about getting real and shared some honest observations. She said it’s okay to be grateful for what you have but still want more from life; she noted that being discontent is often a signal that you’re ready for something bigger and better. She also notes that people often misunderstand what true bravery is; she defined bravery (in her book “Untamed”) as doing what is good and true to you, even if it means letting other people down. True bravery requires honoring your own true self despite the world’s expectations. More of that, please! (Note: I’ve only recently read her books, but I’m surprised by how many nuggets of wisdom like that she drops in a single chapter. She has some fantastic parenting insight as well.)

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Journalist and author Catherine Price: She spoke about how to build a better relationship with your phone through some basic changes you can make right now. One of them is reorganizing your homepage to focus on just tools you need rather than the fun apps that end up sucking away hours of your life. Another is turning off all notifications for apps that end up disrupting your day and productivity. I also downloaded her lock screen that reminds me to make a conscious decision about using my phone, and I love it.

Apps: • Mindful Mama • The One Minute Pause

Podcasts: • At Home with Linda & Drew Scott • Simple on Purpose • How She Moms • Thriving in Motherhood • The Double Shift

Books and newsletters: • “Fair Play” by Eve Rodsky

Nothing included in this article has been sponsored by any of the individuals listed. Links to these resources have been included in the digital version of this article at inforum.com/on-the-minds-of-moms.

• “Modern Mom Probs” by Tara Clark (also a podcast) • “When Work & Family Collide” by Andy Stanley • “A Grown-Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring” by Kathleen Edelman • ParentData weekly newsletter by Emily Oster (also author of 3 parenting books)

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My kids have boundaries too, and I should honor them BY MELISSA DAVIDSON

arenting is hard. Just as you think you’re getting a moment to come up for air, “hard” slaps you in the face with something new. It’s a great shapeshifter, too, morphing right alongside those little humans and eventually replacing sleepless nights with complicated emotions and social issues. The latter is where I’m at — new territory and a double dose with 10-year-old twin girls. A few weeks ago, one of my daughters came to me nervous and teary-eyed. When I asked her what was wrong, she reluctantly told me she didn’t want to play in her upcoming basketball game because she was too nervous and scared she was going to screw up. I wasn’t surprised. During her first game, I could see the fear of failure take over and paralyze her as she fought back tears. She would rather have been anywhere but there. It broke my heart. I felt helpless and wanted

Melissa Davidson poses with her 10-year-old daughter Mya. Special to On the Minds of Moms

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nothing more than to wrap my arms around her and take her home. But what good would that do? A few weeks prior, as we were talking about enrolling her in the sport, I told her I expected her to try her best, see it through and finish the season. Because up until then, she had a pretty decent rap sheet of ditching out on activities. I thought it was best to let her work through it. So my first reaction was to tell her “no, you need to power through and you’ll come out stronger and more comfortable in these situations in the end.” But really, I had no idea if pushing her into playing would have benefitted her. She’s a different human than, well anyone, with different perspectives and life experiences. What if pushing her would send the wrong message? One that said her feelings and fears were not real when I could clearly see, to her, they were very real.

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So, I shifted. Like I’d done for myself when things got to be too much, when my energy was being drained, my emotions needed a reset, or my senses were overstimulated. I’ve focused a lot on being honest with myself and setting healthy boundaries. What about hers? What would she get from this experience if I listened, comforted and supported her? What if I honored her mental and emotional boundaries that were being pushed and gave her the room she needed to just sit with her thoughts and emotions, then process them, allowing her boundaries to expand when they’re ready. So, that’s what I did. I told her she had to continue to go to practice and she could tell her coach when she was ready to play in the games. My daughter ended up playing in the game and was excited to tell me she even got the ball. She was very proud of herself, as she should be. Because this was about more than basketball. She not only had the space to process what was going on inside, which to her was a lot, but she also had ownership. How important is that in life? Being able to not only have insight into how you’re doing but taking it a step further and honoring what you need at that moment. Not just powering through because “that’s just what you do.” I’m not sure if the experience impacted her quite the way it did me, but I will say it gave me a new perspective on handling this new hard stage. Will I continue to push my kids out of their comfort zones so they can grow? Absolutely. But I’m going to let them be the captain of their ship while I shift over to being the first mate.

“A Little Round Panda on the Big Blue Earth” For author Tory Christie, writing a children’s picture book, geared toward the littlest of readers, challenged her in ways she wasn’t expecting. Christie focused on keeping the text simple while still conveying a story about how important every being’s place is in the world. Then her publisher Amicus Ink found an illustrator who brought the story to life through beautiful pictures, and her “Big Blue Earth” series came to life. The second book, “A Little Round Panda on the Big Blue Earth”, debuted in August, just two years after the first “A Tiny Brown Monkey on the Big Blue Earth”. “These books focus on putting something very small like a monkey or panda in a big world, so I wanted a child to be able to realize that he or she takes up a special spot on this earth, and that we’re all connected through it,” Christie explained. Christie’s “Curious McCarthy” series features a young scientist and her adventures, most of which are based on Christie’s own childhood explorations. Her books are available at NDSU as well as Zandbroz, Barnes & Noble, Amazon as well as her own website. Teachers or librarians interested in inviting Christie to speak to their students are invited to send a message through her website at www.torychristie.com. - Danielle Teigen

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Kari Hatfield

Living with intention

Local mom creates a life she loves, one goal at a time BY DANIELLE TEIGEN

e’ve all heard the stats: of all the people who make a New Year’s resolution, only 75% of them are still sticking to it within a week, and that number drops to 64% after one month. And less than half of the people who made resolutions keep it within six months, according to research. Not very encouraging, right? But take Kari Hatfield: she’s a pretty regular mom with three daughters who works full-time for Sanford and has been married for 14 years to the man she met on a golf course in high school. And for the past couple of years, Kari has been setting real, intentional goals to work on throughout the year, and she’s steadily been achieving them, one by one. Here’s how she does it, so you can too.

You have to start today Kari is frank about her habit of setting goals. “I’ve always been a list person and very goal-oriented,” she said. “I would not necessarily refer to it as a New Year’s resolution list; it’s just what I want to complete in the year.” Being intentional with her time has become much more of a priority as her children grow older and get more involved in activities. She and husband Rob have three daughters: Mackenzie, 11; Sydney, 9; and Madison, 4. These three go-getting girls keep the Hatfield family busy with cheerleading, hockey, dance and more, which means carving out time for herself is no easy task for Kari. “Time just goes so fast, and if you don’t think about what you want to do or where

Kari Hatfield works full time at Sanford and is a busy wife and mom to three daughters. She also recently completed a master’s degree, a goal she set for herself years ago and began working toward just before the pandemic started in 2020. Photo courtesy of Jennifer Peters Photography

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you want to be, how will you ever go anywhere?” Kari said.

Tips for setting yearly intentions Stats are grim about goals set at the beginning of a calendar year (less than 8% of people actually stick to a resolution), but that doesn’t have to be the case for you. Here are some ideas to help you achieve the goals you’ve set: • Make a plan. Just like Kari Hatfield started doing through her journal, you need to set a goal and then identify the steps needed to accomplish it. Be as specific as you can, but also realistic about the time it will take for you to reach each step. • Identify reasons behind the goal. Research indicates that certain goals (think weight loss, healthy lifestyle, saving money, quitting smoking, etc.) are easier to achieve if you spend some time thinking about why that goal is important to you. That allows you to stay focused when you get discouraged and motivated when you’re on a roll. • Schedule time for your goal. Don’t be afraid to block out time on your calendar so you can work toward your goal. Want to finally write that book that’s been swirling around in your head for years? Schedule it. Want to take a weekly yoga class? Schedule it. Hoping to learn a foreign language in the next year or so? Schedule it. You get the idea. You only have 24 hours in a day, so make sure you spend that time how you want to. • Enlist help to keep you accountable. The buddy system is your friend when it comes to achieving your goals, so reach out to a friend or family member who can be relied on to check in with you regularly. Knowing that someone else is hoping to see you succeed will increase you odds greatly. Bonus if that friend or family member can also participate in the goal with you! • Consider asking, not telling, yourself. New research has shown that framing your goals or resolutions as questions (“Will I exercise today?” or “Will I spend time being present with my kids this evening?”) can significantly affect your behavior and produce consistent changes. • Get more sleep. Most people know they need to get more sleep, but now research shows that getting more sleep can be hugely beneficial when it comes to accomplishing goals. So many common resolutions are already hampered because the people making them are chronically sleep deprived. 22 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

When best-selling author Rachel Hollis spoke to a sellout crowd of nearly 4,000 women at The Chamber’s annual Women Connect celebration in 2019, Kari was there. And she decided to purchase a Start Today Journal, a Rachel Hollis product that asks the user to decide what she wants her life to look like in 10 years, then determine the 10 dreams that will get you there and finally one goal to focus on. For Kari, the first big goal she wanted to focus on was getting her Master’s of Business Administration. She knew putting that item on any list was just one step in the process; she’d have several other small steps along the way. “It was something I had been thinking about for a while, and I realized the time would never be good because the kids will always be busy, so I decided to just register and go and figure out how to get it done,” she said. She enrolled with the University of Mary in the fall of 2019 and began working toward that big goal, one day at a time in January 2020. Two months later, everything changed.

Adjusting but still moving forward Kari, who is originally from Fargo, works full time for Sanford as an enterprise pharmacy business manager. She began working in the finance department six years ago as an analyst and moved into her current role in 2020. She earned a degree from MSUM in finance and accounting, so her goal of earning an MBA was a natural step in her career path. However, starting a master’s program while still working full time and raising three children and then dealing with a global pandemic was not part of the plan. But Kari was undeterred. Working on a master’s degree while doing all of that was certainly not an easy task, but things did work out thanks to all of her children’s activities getting canceled in the spring of 2020 as well as into the summer, providing Kari with the time she needed to complete her work. Kari even jumped on the pandemic pet bandwagon and adopted two kittens who have become cherished and beloved pets, even though Kari is allergic to them. Mocha and Jazzy were a surprise for the girls, Kari said, and gave them a welcome distraction. Kari kept moving forward, working each day toward that MBA. And in April 2021 — after her kids went back to school and some activities resumed — she earned it.

LIVING WITH INTENTION

Life happens, you have to be flexible. It’s about intentionality and picking out what is important to you. KARI HATFIELD

And the hustle it took for her to do it was noticed, most especially by her younger sister, Rachel Corneliussen. When the sisters, who also happen to live just a few doors away from one another in their hometown of Fargo, sat down around Christmas a few years ago for lunch, talk turned to New Year’s resolutions. “Most people have the same generic goal year after year, but Kari brought out a notebook with 10 things written down and bullet points for each of them for how to get that thing done,” Rachel shared. “She had put so much thought into it and was being completely intentional about what she wanted to do for the year.” When Kari shared that she was going to go back to school to work on her MBA, Rachel was supportive. “I said, ‘Good for you,’” she said. “She just has an awesome drive to get it done.”

Purpose and priorities Kari speaks humbly about her habit and insists she is not engaging in some ground-breaking activity. She said so many people are already thinking about things they want to accomplish, but the Start Today Journal forced her to think small as well as big. “Everyone wants to lose weight, but making a plan about what is realistically going to make that happen is necessary,” she said. “I knew an MBA would span two years, so I had to start somewhere.” The things on her list are not all as time-consuming or as big as working toward that MBA. “It doesn’t have to be earth-shattering; if you want to travel more with your family, start by making a list of places you want to go and pick one,” she shared. Her list has included things regarding self-care,

Kari’s daughters include Sydney, 9; Mackenzie, 11; and Madison, 4. Kari and Rob met in high school on a golf course and married in 2007. Photos courtesy of Jennifer Peters Photography

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Top: The Hatfield family stays busy with activities and athletics their daughters participate in, but they also love to travel, go bowling, or enjoy a movie night whenever they have free time. Photo courtesy of Jennifer Peters Photography Bottom left: Kari and her younger sister Rachel, left, grew up in Fargo and now live close to one another with their families. Special to On the Minds of Moms Bottom right: Kari bought a Start Today Journal after seeing Rachel Hollis speak in Fargo in 2019, and she has been setting intentional goals for herself ever since. Photo courtesy of Jennifer Peters Photography 24 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

LIVING WITH INTENTION seeing friends regularly, saving money, scheduling dates with her husband, etc. Once she’s identified the things that are important to her, she makes plans to accomplish the smaller steps needed for those things to happen, like signing up for gym classes, setting aside a specific amount of money or enlisting the help of nearby grandparents who can take the kids for a night. “Not every item is a huge mountain to climb,” she said. While the Start Today Journal is meant to be used daily, Kari honestly shared that she doesn’t journal every day. “Life happens, you have to be flexible,” she said. That goes for her list too, which fluctuates throughout the year as priorities shift. “It’s about intentionality and picking out what is important to you,” she said. Kari’s humility is noteworthy, as is her perseverance. Sharing her list made a lasting impression on her sister, who noted it’s just one of many qualities she admires about her sister, who is four years her senior. “She’s very good at giving advice, and I definitely look up to her as a mentor mom,” Rachel said. “She’s always been someone I’ve looked up to, and I know I can go to her for anything.” Not only that, but Rachel said she’s glad to know her sister is getting some credit for all the wonderful things she does for her family and herself. “She does it all, and she’d do anything for her kids,” she said. “She’s a great mom, and I think it’s nice to be seen for everything you do as a mom.” The other people who are seeing Kari accomplish her goals are her three daughters (as well as Rachel’s 2-year-old daughter Haylee). That fact is not lost on Kari. Even though her daughters don’t know exactly what’s on that list she creates, Kari knows that they are seeing her signing up for a race, going to the gym, planning a family vacation, or working toward a higher education degree. “Kids watch what you’re doing more than they listen to what you say,” she said.

Resources Books: • “Start with Why” • “Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming SelfDefeating Behavior” • “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” • “Before Happiness: The 5 Hidden Keys to Achieving Success, Spreading Happiness, and Sustaining Positive Change” • “The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success & Happiness” • “The Achievement Habit: Stop Wishing, Start Doing, and Take Command of Your Life” • “Better Than Before: What I Learned About Making and Breaking Habits” • “The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level”

Podcasts: • “How To Be a Better Person” • “The Goal Digger Podcast” • “Better Life Lab” • “The Mindset Mentor” • “The Habit Coach” • “Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris” • “The Productivity Podcast with Paul Minors”

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Tortilla Bowl Quiches are customizable crowd pleasers. Recipe on page 28. Jessica Rerick / On the Minds of Moms

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Craveable crowd pleasers Gear up for the holidays with these simple yet satisfying recipes BY JESSICA RERICK

‘T

is the season for gatherings and time together with friends and family!

Naturally, that means additional people to feed on lazy mornings, and neighborhood kiddos coming in for a warm cup of hot chocolate after playing in the snow. It’s that time of year when you Google recipes that will feed everyone and be impressive at the same time. I am going to share a few tricks on how to look like the “Hostess with the Mostest” without a lot of additional work or one-time-use ingredients to purchase. To start with, Tortilla Bowl Quiches are great for a crowd because the flavor possibilities are endless. Think: individual quiches that are made inside of tortilla bowls. Tortilla bowls can be found in the taco section of the grocery aisle and come eight per package. Quiche sometimes gets a bad rap as being dull and boring, but really, it’s what you make of it. You can spice up the base with the addition of green chilies and top with black beans and salsa after it’s cooked, or you can go mild and have cheese only. My boys get to be as picky as they want, and all of us can be equally happy with our choices while enjoying our meal. As an additional bonus, I’ve found most kiddos will be more likely to eat their meals when they are in charge of picking out what’s in it.

When we made these, my 5-year-old was positive that his bacon and cheese was the best ever even though my 11-year-old believed that his bacon-only version was the way to go. I, however, knew all along that my spinach, bacon, mushroom, and feta was the real winner! While quiche is simple enough, the key to a light and creamy quiche is to use plenty of cream and a lower oven temperature. Too many eggs can make a quiche dense and rubbery, and too high heat will scramble your eggs instead of letting them slowly cook to remain soft. If you are making this milk-free, you can use a dairy-free cream base, and it will work just fine. It’s better to have some type of cream in there than to omit it completely. The possibilities for add-ins are endless, but here are a few of my favorites: • Cheese: cheddar, mozzarella, smoked gouda, goat, feta • Meats: diced ham, bacon, sausage, crab • Veggies: sauteed garlic spinach, broccoli, sauteed peppers, caramelized onions, cooked asparagus, sun dried tomatoes, sauteed mushrooms • Other: chopped parsley, green chiles, Old Bay seasoning, all purpose seasoning

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Remove the cinnamon roll dough from its packaging and set the icing aside.

Unroll cinnamon rolls and reshape into trees.

Add green food coloring to the icing and frost the trees. Add sprinkles and mini M&Ms for ornaments.

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Tortilla Boat Quiches Ingredients: 8 tortilla bowls 6 eggs 1 cup half and half 1

/2 teaspoon salt

/2 teaspoon cracked black pepper

/4 teaspoon garlic powder

Add-in fillings

Directions: Preheat your oven to 350 degrees, and prepare your add-ins.

Crack the eggs in a large mixing bowl. Add half and half, salt, pepper, and garlic powder. Whisk together until smooth. Add your add-ins to each boat. They should not be higher than 1/2 the height of the tortilla bowl walls. Fill each boat with 1/3 cup of egg mixture or until the eggs are within 1/2 inch of the top of the tortilla boat. Carefully place the sheet pan in the oven, and bake for 25 minutes or until set. Remove from the oven and serve. Note: Leftover Quiche can be stored in the refrigerator for up to three days for an easy, on-the-go meal.

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Once everyone has added in their favorite meats, cheeses and veggies, fill the bowls with the egg mixture and bake. Jessica Rerick On the Minds of Moms

GOOD FOOD Christmas Tree Cinnamon Rolls are not only festive but also adorable! They are such a fun and easy baking project that the kids can help with. Of course, you can use your own homemade cinnamon roll dough, but for me, using pre-made refrigerated dough takes away 90% of the dishes and leads to full stomachs and smiling kiddos in less than 30 minutes. That leaves me with plenty of time to drink my morning coffee in peace!

Snowman Hot Chocolate Toppers Ingredients: Large marshmallows for snowman bodies Candy corns for noses Pretzel sticks for arms, legs, and bodies Melted chocolate for eyes, mouth, and buttons

Christmas Tree Cinnamon Rolls Ingredients: 1 tube of refrigerated cinnamon roll dough with icing (8 count) Pretzel sticks Green food coloring Sprinkles Yellow Chocolate Candies (one for the top of each tree)

Directions: Place three large marshmallows onto one pretzel stick. It’s ok if the two end ones are only half on because that will allow for the head to bend on the edge of the cocoa mugs. Use two pretzel sticks to create the arms, and one pretzel stick cut in half as the shorter legs. Add the candy corn nose, and then either pipe on or use a toothpick to draw the eyes, mouth, and buttons. Let dry, and store in an airtight container until ready to serve.

Directions: Preheat your oven to 400 degrees. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Open the tube of cinnamon rolls and separate each roll out. Unroll the dough and then arrange dough onto a sheet pan like you would be drawing a christmas tree. (narrow at the top and wider on the bottom). Bake at 400 degrees for 13-17 minutes or until cooked through. While the cinnamon rolls are still warm, insert 2 pretzel sticks into the bottom of each “tree”. Let cool. Add green food coloring to the icing container and stir until blended. Spread the icing over the cinnamon rolls. Top each “tree” with a yellow chocolate candy and cover the tree with sprinkles. Enjoy!

Snowman Hot Chocolate is a cute surprise regardless of the time of day. They also make a great gift. They can be made several days in advance, which is often ideal when you are planning for company to come. No matter what your hot chocolate recipe is, these little guys are sure to grab all the attention! Jessica Rerick / On the Minds of Moms On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022 | 29

Educational upgrade

What parents need to know about the new grading standards BY MARY JO HOTZLER

or generations, school-aged children (and their parents) have measured academic progress the same way, with a single letter grade of A, B, C, D or F. It was a simple way of knowing if you were passing, failing or something in between. But times are changing, and if you’re a parent of a child in an area school district you’ve probably already noticed that. In recent years, schools everywhere have shifted to something called standards-based grading. The old A, B, C-letter grades have given way to something equally simplistic — 4,3,2,1 — but the philosophy behind this new grading system is more nuanced and less rigid than the one many of us grew up with. The focus is on learning. “As we think about the traditional letter grade system, it is very subjective and can

include reduced grades for late assignments, absences, extra credit or other behaviors of students,” explained Dr. Liann Hanson, Fargo Public Schools director of standards based education. “The traditional grading system does not tell us what areas of the learning students have mastered and what areas they need to continue to focus on.”

Understanding the approach A quick explainer for those new to the topic: Students today have a prioritized set of standards known as Essential Learning Outcomes, or ELOs. These standards define what students will learn in multiple content areas. They emphasize critical thinking, creativity, problem solving, collaboration and communication. When it comes to measuring success, “4” means advanced, “3” means proficient (the student has met expectations), “2” means

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EDUCATIONAL UPGRADE

The traditional grading system does not tell us what areas of the learning students have mastered and what areas they need to continue to focus on. LIANN HANSON

Heather Sand progressing and “1” means not yet. There are a few unique features with this approach: • Students have multiple opportunities to demonstrate proficiency. • Grades aren’t penalized for practice attempts early in the learning process. • Students can demonstrate proficiency in different ways. • There’s a priority on behaviors like being responsible, respectful and safe, and those are reported separately from the number grade. • There’s still homework, but it’s considered practice. Perfection isn’t the aim. “Standards-based grading supports learning and fosters a growth mindset,” said Heather Sand, director of curriculum and instruction for West Fargo schools. “Through research we know that experiencing failure is a big part of the learning process, and that students need to experience failure to build resiliency.” With traditional grading, Sand explained, receiving a low or failing score on the first assessment in a subject could create a “hole” that a student couldn’t get out of and would essentially shut down the motivation

to work and learn: “It doesn’t matter that they were ‘slower’ or needed to be ‘retaught’; we are measuring whether or not they achieved the goal that was set,” she said. Another change with grading and students assessments today is the ability for parents to be an active part of the process. Technology has allowed for dashboards where parents can log in and see exactly how their student is coming along. This allows parents to know the areas in which their child needs more support.

Education in context Standards-based education has been building momentum since the early 1980s, when a landmark report known as “Nation at Risk” was published, sparking concern that the nation’s schools were failing. The report highlighted new federal education goals and led to education reform.

Dr. Liann Hanson

Then came No Child Left Behind in 2001, which also contributed to the ways in which schools assess student achievement and progress. It required states to adopt standards, along with a way to measure those standards. While there are certain requirements states must comply with, they also have some freedom within the framework. For area school districts, they say it’s been a journey to get to where

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Many teachers are also working on student-centered learning and moving toward standards-referenced grading, which allows for a conversion back to a letter grade for grade point average calculations. iStock / Special to On the Minds of Moms

they are today. There have been ups and downs.

Adding to the challenges has been the booming growth of area schools.

grading, although each has taken a slightly different approach to get there.

“The only drawback that we continue to work on is that it is different from how the parents were graded when they went to school,” Hanson said. “We will continue to communicate with parents and students on these progress reports.”

Sand noted that West Fargo has experienced tremendous growth over the last decade. That has meant a lot of new teachers each year, new buildings and the need to reconfigure professional learning communities. And yet, student performance “continues to be top-notch.”

It’s a similar situation in West Fargo and Moorhead.

“Many districts would use these external factors as an excuse for slides in scores and struggling programs, but the team here just works harder to achieve our mission of educating today’s students for tomorrow’s world,” Sand said.

In Fargo, standards-based grading has been in play at the elementary level for quite some time, but middle school and high school remained under a traditional grading system until last year. That’s when standards-based grading was introduced at the 6th grade level, the first year of middle school in the Fargo district. Those students will carry standards-based grading with them through the remainder of middle school and high school, and eventually the entire district — all grades — will be included.

“We still have more to learn in regards to providing clear feedback for our students and parents on what the standard score represents,” said Dr. Jeremy Larson, assistant superintendent for learning and accountability for the Moorhead School District.

A local look Area districts are all on track with expectations around standards-based

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“We will continue to adjust and evolve as standards change and as we use data to guide instruction and learning,” Hanson said.

In West Fargo, the schools are using standards-based grades in K-8. The district started with K-3 and then rolled efforts up to grade 8, achieving that goal in the fall of 2019. Sand said they are now working on proficiency scales to clarify the prioritized standards at the high school level. In Moorhead, middle school has been transitioning to a standards based grading format over the past 5 years, though the standards-based grading system began before that at the elementary level with a change in report cards. The elementary schools went to a trimester reporting based on skills and attributes that a student needed to be successful in a given grade level. According to Larson, this includes both social/ emotional skills as well as grade level standards and benchmarks. At area high schools, many teachers also are working on more studentcentered learning and are moving to something called standardsreferenced grading. While colleges across the country have been working with standards-based grading for decades and education leaders say there is not a negative impact on college admissions, “standardsreferenced grading” allows for a conversion back to a letter grade for grade point average calculations. “This will allow the process of a standards-based learning environment to prevail, while still providing an overall GPA for our students and families,” Sand said.

A closer look at standards-based education For students • Essential Learning Outcomes (ELO) are clearly defined and aligned with state standards. • Students demonstrate proficiency through multiple opportunities. • Students are empowered to monitor their own progress toward the ELOs.

For parents • The grade report is in a format that can be easily understood. • Parents are aware of exactly what their child knows, is able to do, and next steps for progress. • Parents know in what areas their child needs more support.

For teachers • Teachers know exactly where students stand in their progress toward ELOs and what support needs to be provided • Teachers of the same courses have aligned expectations and standards • Assessment results help teachers determine when students need extra help and when they need more challenging work Source: Fargo Public Schools

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RAD DAD Kris Kerzman He’s keeping it real BY MELISSA DAVIDSON Kris Kerzman is a dad who is as authentic as it comes. In fact, he’s kept it so real as a parent, he’s written an entire article about poop... or lack thereof. And that’s what makes him a rad dad.

was Britta and they’ve been married 15 years.

when a cat gives you a sandwich? It’s a sandwich, but a cat gave it to you!

“She is my best friend, a wonderful mother, and the best partner I could have ever hoped for in life,” he said.

They crack me up every time, and I tell them they’re brilliant.

“As any parent will tell you, things like constipation, fevers, or sleepless nights are the little things that can build into extraordinary issues with young children,” he said. “It’s also a bit absurd; one of those things they leave off the glossy cover of “You Should Have Kids!” That made it a perfect idea for a parenting column.”

Here’s more about what makes Kerzman a rad dad.

Kerzman is a social media manager at The Forum and has two kids, Edith and Anton, with his wife Britta Trygstad, aka Britta the Photographer, who works primarily with portrait and commercial projects in Fargo. Rounding out the Kerzman family is a corgi named Rosie and an old cat named Pauline.

What’s the funniest thing your kids have done or said? Both of my kids love to tell what I call “anti-jokes.” They both somehow came to the conclusion that you can make up a joke on the spot and it’s funny no matter if it’s really funny or not. For example, what do you get

Kerzman grew up in Garrison and attended UND, graduating with degrees in communication and philosophy. His initial goal was to get into journalism or work in public radio, but he fell in love with philosophy and wanted to take it to the next level in grad school. At first, he did neither but instead chased a girl down to Fargo in 2003. That girl 34 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

What are your proud dad moments? I’m really proud of my kids when I see them treat others with respect and courtesy, because that makes me feel proud as a dad, but I think seeing them enjoy something with pure, unabandoned joy is the most incredible parenthood experience. People don’t mention this much, but it’s a really cool aspect to parenthood: You get to observe a

She is my best friend, a wonderful mother, and the best partner I could have ever hoped for in life. KRIS KERZMAN

Britta and Kris met while attending UND and have been married for 15 years. Photo courtesy of Penny Burns of Northern Stories On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022 | 35

Kris Kerzman is a social media manager, video game enthusiast, husband to Britta and dad of Anton and Edith. Photo courtesy of Penny Burns of Northern Stories.

person’s life from the very beginning. You learn so much about humanity that way.

If you could sum up parenting in one sentence what would it be?

How about the most rewarding?

Parenting sucks sometimes and also inspires your life’s most profound, rewarding and joyful moments.

Hearing your child voice kindness or understanding toward another person. I know they don’t learn it all from us, but I’m so glad they’re picking it up from somewhere. Also, a hug out of nowhere or getting a drawing they did for you is also pretty rad. Best parenting tip for first-time parents? Love your kids. It’s lousy advice, really, but for me, it means building that intentionality towards every interaction with them and making it the basis of your relationship for them. It means saying it to them every day. It means carving out time for them for things you like to do together. Oh, and let your kids play video games, and play video games with them. 36 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

What kind of feedback did you get from your poop article? I think I recall some of my kidless friends telling me, “boy, now I’m even more sure I don’t want kids.” How did you and your wife meet? We met in college through Britta’s cousin, who lived in the same fraternity house that I did. I came home from work the night of a really bad thunderstorm, and the power was out on the UND campus, so everyone was hanging out outside. I sat down next to her and struck up a

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conversation, and we talked all night. We’ve been talking ever since, really. If that thunderstorm hadn’t knocked out the power, I don’t think we would have met. What are your favorite things about your wife? Britta has owned her own business for almost 10 years now, and I’m immeasurably proud of her. It hasn’t always been easy for her, but I love seeing her overcome obstacles and keep getting better as a photographer and a business owner. I’m also a big fan of her cooking. She makes really good soup. What was your indicator you’ve made it as an official adult? I heard a saying once: Being an adult means you pretend to be an adult around other people who are pretending to be an adult. That’s how I knew I made it. On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022 | 37

Wahpeton native spent summer promoting surfing at Tokyo Olympics Becky Fleischauer-Jewell leaned on family’s love of the sport to show the world how great it is BY DANIELLE TEIGEN

ix months ago, Wahpeton native Becky Fleischauer-Jewell landed a really cool gig: media contact and public relations representative for the U.S. Olympic Committee’s National Governing Body for surfing. And she had a big job to do: promote the sport of surfing in its Olympic debut during a global pandemic and after the original event had been postponed. No big deal, though. For a seasoned communications professional who is a principal at Boardwalk Public Relations, Fleischauer-Jewell approached the job with enthusiasm; she knew her educational background (she has a master’s degree in media and public affairs from George Washington University in addition to her bachelor’s degree in English writing and communications from Concordia) would serve her well, plus she has a personal interest in the sport: her two teenage sons are amateur surfers. After returning to the states following a busy summer abroad, Fleischauer-Jewell took time out of her hectic schedule to answer a few questions about her job, her family and how surfing became such a big part of her life. What’s the cliff’s notes version of how you went from Wahpeton to New Jersey? I’ve been blessed to live and work in so many great places, getting to know people I will remember forever. After graduating from Wahpeton High School, I went to Concordia in Moorhead, then became a reporter at WDAY before moving to Washington, D.C., to be Sen. Byron Dorgan’s deputy press secretary. I met my husband Tony in DC and both our sons were born in Virginia. We moved to New 38 | On the Minds of Moms • December | January 2022

Becky Fleischauer-Jewell, right, receives a hug from Carissa Moore, the first Olympic gold medalist in the sport of surfing. Moore was waiting to be on the TODAY show via Zoom from Fleischauer-Jewell’s laptop. Special to On the Minds of Moms Jersey for my husband’s job and fell in love with the beach and the ocean and just did a cross-country move to Oceanside, Calif. My family grew up spending summers at Minnesota lakes, where we developed a love for the water that is still in full effect for me. What does your day job entail? I get to work with a bunch of great clients, doing interesting things — from health, education, and business clients to surfing. I help them tell their stories through social media, news and opinion pieces, videos and

Team USA Olympic surfers and staff gather at the Makinohara wave pool for the pre-games training camp. Included in the photo, left to right, are Coach Brett Simpson, Becky Fleischauer-Jewell, trainer Tracy Axel, Japanese liaison Jon Omori, Olympic surfers John John Florence and Kolohe Andino, Olympic women surfers Caroline Marks and Carissa Moore, medical director Kevyn Dean, CEO Greg Cruse, Photographer Justin Jung. Special to On the Minds of Moms

other channels. I started working with USA Surfing in the lead up to the Olympics and during the sport’s debut this summer in Tokyo. Having a background working with so many media outlets and understanding what they need to do their jobs, and having immersed myself in surfing for several years gave me the perspective to be a good translator for those who had never watched surfing before. How did your sons get into the sport of surfing? I have two sons: 16-year-old Jackson and 14-year old Cooper. We started going to New Jersey beaches when our boys were around 4 and 6. They would spend all day in the water and we never wanted to leave. They both love to surf and be in the ocean. Surfing is such a great sport and lifestyle. It’s an incredibly beautiful and athletically demanding sport played on a constantly changing field. Every wave is unique, so it’s never boring. While they work really hard at getting better, it’s fun and makes them so happy. As a parent, that’s so awesome to see - especially knowing that it’s something they can do for the

rest of their lives and pass on to their kids. The experience gives them good life skills too. They learn to separate the things you can control and those you can’t and be fully present. How did your sons handle the fact that their mom spent her summer promoting the sport they also happen to love? My sons definitely thought I was slightly more cool, having traveled with surfing’s first Olympic team to Japan to run the social media channels and work in the Olympic surfing press operation. Slightly. Ha ha. They really look up to the surfers on the Olympic team: John John Florence, Kolohe Andino, Carissa Moore and Caroline Marks. They are incredible athletes and humans. I sent my sons pictures and video from Tokyo every day, and they followed USA Surfing’s Instagram account closely to see what we were doing and how the surfers were preparing to compete. My youngest son Cooper’s favorite picture was of the two Gold Medalists — Italo Ferreira and Carissa Moore — standing next to each other being interviewed by the

Olympic press corps. He was really stoked that I had a front-row seat to Olympic and surfing history. Looking back on your Olympic experience, what’s your most cherished moment? Carissa Moore winning surfing’s first Olympic Gold Medal. She is just such a fierce competitor, while also being the kindest, most thoughtful person you will ever meet. The sheer joy on her face when she learned she won gold was profoundly moving. To be there for that moment in Olympic and surfing history with the world’s greatest ambassador for surfing was incredible. In between her media interviews, I got to hold her medal (it’s super heavy!). Will either of your sons try to compete for a spot on a future Olympic team? Both Cooper and Jackson love the challenge of competing and work at it every day. We’re just enjoying more time in the water and seeing where it leads. I love seeing them have fun and grow in a sport they can enjoy for the rest of his life.

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Little Leapers at Skyzone Saturdays 9 to 11 a.m. SkyZone

DECEMBER EVENTS 1 Photos with Santa Through Dec. 24 | West Acres Mall Santa Village Through Dec. 23 | Rheault Farm

Xcel Energy Lights Parade 6:30 p.m. | Downtown Fargo Traditional Norsk Christmas 2021 6 to 11 p.m. | Sons of Norway Skate with Santa 2:15 to 4:15 p.m. | Sports Center

17 The Classic Nutcracker Varied times depending on day; through Dec. 19 NDSU Festival Concert Hall

Hands-on Grief: Elements of Nature Remembrance Candle 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. Online at www.bit.ly/griefclassregistration or call (800) 237to4629.

Have Yourself a Funky Little Christmas 8 p.m., again on Dec. 18 Sanctuary Events Center

A Big Band Christmas 7 to 9 p.m. | First Lutheran Church

Theatre B presents YULE B JOLLY: A Holiday Cabaret Dec. 2 - 5 & 9-12 at 7:30 p.m. or 2 p.m. | Theatre B

Rink & Reels Skating and a Movie 7 to 9 p.m. | Broadway Square

3 Holiday Nights @ Red River Zoo Dec 3 - 4, 10 - 11, 17 - 18 at 6 p.m. Red River Zoo Concordia Christmas Concerts 2021 Dec. 3 & 4 | Concordia College

4 Christmas on the Prairie 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. | Bonanzaville Holiday Express at Winterfest Noon to 4 p.m. | Broadway Square

Santa Fly-In 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Fargo Air Museum Cookies with Santa! 9 to 11 a.m. | Tupperware Studio

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13 Parents Forever via Zoom Noon to 1 p.m. Online; register at https://www.ndsu.edu/agriculture/ extension/events/parentsforever-zoom

Christmas Vacation Movie Night Drive In 6 to 8 p.m. Fargo Public Library (Main)

31 New Year’s Extravaganza 10 a.m.to Midnight Broadway Square Replay Games All Night New Year’s Bash! 8 p.m. to 8 a.m. | Replay Games

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S’Mores & More 5 to 7 p.m.; again Jan. 24 Broadway Square

Cardboard Sled Race 11 a.m. to noon | Mickelson Park

Parenting the Love and Logic Way Noon to 1 p.m. (again Feb. 2, 9, 16, 23 and March 2) Online at https://www.ndsu.edu/ agriculture/extension/events/ parenting-love-and-logic-way

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Full scope family medicine with an approach that combines BOARD CERTIFIED American Board of both contemporary and Family Medicine holistic medicine.

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my patients, to be empathetic, p r e n a t a l • o b s t e t r i c s • n e w b o r n scompassionate • e l d e r l y /and sen iors straight forward. Your care should be a collaboration between you and your doctor. Cheryl Bauer-Olson A native of Fargo-Moorhead, Cheryl Bauer-Olson graduated from Oak Grove and Minnesota State University Moorhead. After graduating from Des Moines University Osteopathic Medical Center in 2004, Cheryl began practicing locally and has done so for 13 years. She is board certified by the American Board of Family Medicine, a member of the American Academy of Family Physicians, and a member of Heartland Healthcare Network. Cheryl and her husband, Jamie, have 6 kids: Celia, 21; Cale, 18; Lilia, 15; Elijah, 13; Jaylee, 10; and Gage Axel, 3. Her parents and kids th are her biggest supporters!

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