Bella Magazine October 2023

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The Breast ISSUE

The power of support; AI changes the landscape of detection; survivor stories inspire; fall fashion brings bold colors and structured lines.

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from the editor

This seems to have been the year for pink (thank you, Barbie), and so I think it apropos of the occasion to keep it rolling right through October, which is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

Forget the dark, fading colors of fall and break out your lively, vibrant magentas, or your soft, blushing roses. Whatever your shade, show it off to support the cause.

What I love about pink is how it’s become a color to represent strength, sisterhood and support. Pink ribbons tie us all together, after all, whether we see them or not. We have all been touched by breast cancer in one way or another. Maybe it was a sister, a teacher, a friend. Maybe it was you. This issue brought so many stories to me that I am grateful to have read. Between these covers are stories of strength and resilience, stories of care and hope. Each writer feels deeply connected to their subjects. My wish is that every woman who picks up a copy takes it home and reads it cover to cover, then shares it with someone who needs it. Then schedules her own mammogram.

As I was trying to find words to condense my thoughts after reading these stories, I took a break and watched the recent Sheryl Crow documentary. In it, she recounts her experience with breast cancer, saying exactly the same things the survivors, doctors and caregivers in this issue said again and again. The number one thing someone needs to get through a cancer diagnosis is support. Crow had a group of friends who brought food, held hands, listened and sometimes just came over to hang out.

This is something I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older. We need to nurture our female friendships. I didn’t know to do this when I was younger, or maybe I was just too busy to see it. Time and again in my life, I’ve watched as women cheer each other on, celebrate success together and hold each other up in the wake of tragedy. We need each other.

Somewhere in these pages might be just the remedy for your worry or the inspiration you need to lift your head up and keep moving forward. Or you might find the words you’ve been looking for to say to someone you love who has recently been diagnosed.

But whatever you do, take a note from Sheryl Crow and keep rocking. And rock that pink.

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from the publisher

I sometimes push back against the color pink. For one thing, it’s just never been my favorite color; and for another thing, why does everything to do with women have to center around pink? Well, I have been surrounded by pink lately! Since the Barbie movie came out, pink seems to be everywhere.

I can certainly support and rock the pink for Breast Cancer Awareness Month though. It’s likely we have all been impacted by breast cancer in some way. Every year Bella’s October issue focuses on breast cancer treatments, diagnosis and survivor stories. We hope to provide valuable information and share stories that – while challenging – also provide inspiration. These stories often inspire me to remember what is most important in life. I try to live a life without regrets, and I try to not put things off until tomorrow.

One thing that provides meaning in my life is supporting women. I really want to know how we at Bella can do more to support, uplift and inspire women.

If you have suggestions, please drop me a line, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at kelly@bellamagazinecom.

Bella Staff

PUBLISHER / Kelly MacLeod

EDITOR / Lisa Player

ART DIRECTOR / Elizabeth Meyer

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Liz Biggs, Sloane Stephens Cox, Bradley “Beej” Davis, Jr., Alice Crann Good, Sharla Gorder, Allison McCrory, Lisa Player, Magi Thomley Williams

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Toni Sparks, Kate Treick

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inside this issue

Jamie LaPointe’s cancer chapter Page 34

10 SPEND OR SAVE

OUT & ABOUT: Capstone’s Wine a Little, Dine a Lot Page 60

12 FASHION: Fall feels like jungle cats, structured lines, blazers

20 BEAUTY: Self-care during cancer treatments

22 CAUSES: 13th Ribbons of Hope Breast Cancer Awareness Charity Ball

24 COVER STORY: The power of support with a breast cancer diagnosis

36 PROFILE: Laura Baker shares her experiences 40 BODY & SOUL: A holistic approach to health and recovery with Tammy Copley 42 BODY & SOUL: Artificial Intelligence helps detect breast cancer 44 BODY & SOUL: ADHD Awareness Month through a woman’s lens 48 WORTH THE TRIP: Make your own history in Washington, D.C.

52 OUT & ABOUT: Baptist Health Care Foundation Women’s Night Out

56 OUT & ABOUT: Making Strides Kickoff Event

64 HER PERSPECTIVE: The thing with feathers

66 HER PERSPECTIVE: Did she jump or was she pushed?

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Fall Feels

Jungle cats, structured lines, blazers

Pensacola Embellish Boutique owner Donna Zampino can’t keep jaguars in her shop. A shipment of midi dresses featuring the popular cat flew off the rack prompting Zampino to restock.

Besides jungle felines, blazers – particularly in Barbiesque hot pink — denim midi skirts and matching sets are stars of the autumn 2023 fashion lineup.

A divergence from typical fall hues, bright colors and metallics are trending. Hot pink and red are both strong fall 2023 statement colors. Yet traditionalists still gravitate to warm hues that invoke leaf-changing dreams.

“More tailored and fitted looks will push the oversized out,” Zampino added.

The jewelry of the hour includes crystal on crystal and mixed metals.

“The pump is back and so are Mary Janes. Boots that lace up will be in,” noted Zampino, adding that national fashion news predicts denim footwear will make a fall statement.

Be weather-wise this season by dressing in linen and cotton and keeping a denim jacket or cardigan nearby for layering.

“A scarf is a nice added touch too!”

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fashion

Shopping list: Wear a pop of pink this October in this versatile houndstooth dress, which can also be worn as an oversized shirt or jacket. Pair with white jeans, which are acceptable year-round on the Gulf Coast, according to fashion experts. Or make it a dress with comfy tennies or trendy lace-up boots and tights. Dress by 143 Story, $68.

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Shopping list: When a special occasion calls, respond with this stunning halter jumpsuit by Andre’, $98. To add even more elegance, top with a regal duster embellished with pearls by GiGi, $44.

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Shopping list: A fuchsia blazer may just be this year’s musthave wardrobe staple. This one by Fate, $92, features a feminine floral lining. Team with a versatile white bodysuit by Active Basic, $18, and classic dark wash jeans by Risen, $68.

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Shopping list: Accessorize this one in fall-friendly rust with autumnal trendy lace-up booties, an animal print bucket bag and a fun hat! Romper by Acura, $58.

Kendall Taylor

As a pediatric infusion nurse, Gulf Breeze native and resident Kendall Taylor spends her days caring for children facing the challenges of cancer and chronic disease.

After a stint as a pediatric oncology nurse in San Antonio, Taylor returned to her community and now works at Sacred Heart. She, her husband and their baby are building a life in Gulf Breeze, close to their parents.

Her top health tip for women is to attend their annual healthcare visits.

“Be your biggest advocate and push for what you know you need!”

When it’s a loved one battling cancer, she advises presence above perfection.

“Please reach out. Be kind and offer a laugh. Provide genuine company, sit and chat, go outside, do childish arts and crafts because why not? And just smile and laugh. The battle might be a little easier knowing you have people to get through it with you. People don’t always need big gestures; sometimes they just need a friend. Be that friend.”

When not working with sick children, the mother of a one-year-old son is busy with her own, who she describes as “so fun and such a joy.”

Taylor and her husband often spend free time engaged in game night competitions with both of their families. And they enjoy taking in the best that Pensacola has to offer.

“My husband and I spend lots of time having game nights. We love to go to Blue Wahoos and Ice Flyers games. We love spending weekends on the beach with our family and friends.”

Shopping list: It’s a cat’s world in fashion currently. Join the trend in this midi dress crawling with exotic jaguars in warm toffee – perfect for autumn. Dress by Style U, $64.

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stylingthe shoot

Photography: Kate Treick / Fashion styling: Allison McCrory

Where to shop: Embellish Boutique

Embellish owner Donna Zampino is a thriving survivor of stomach and colon cancers.

“This issue really hits home for me. I might not be a breast cancer survivor, but being a cancer survivor of any type is still a survivor,” said Zampino.

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Accity Cool as CoCo floppy hat, $34. Urbanista bracelets, $4. Tan leather crossbody saddle bag, $289. PV Studio circle earrings, $30. HOBO black leather wristlet, $128. Urbanista bracelets, $4. HOBO fuchsia pink Shelia bag, $289. Outwoods white and sliver metallic sneakers, $10.

Mimi Nguyen

Pink Goddess Palace owner Mimi Nguyen always loved nail art. But it was not until she was 23 and lying in a hospital bed – hair gone and skin pale – that she believed it could become a career.

“While I was in the hospital, the nurses kept saying I needed to do nails for a living because my nails were beautiful even when in the hospital.”

In an ironic way, the cancer gave Nguyen a belief in her own iron will that wasn’t there before.

On June 25, 2022, Nguyen opened her salon on Fairfield Drive in Pensacola, fully funded without loans.

“I wanted to get back on my feet and live again,” she said. “After everything you go through with cancer, you become fearless. If you can beat death, what can you not do?”

For others coping with challenges, Nguyen has a message: “Where you are now doesn’t define where you will be heading.”

Creating a happy moment in women’s lives is Nguyen’s favorite aspect of the job.

“My inspiration is to see women smile – make them happy even if it’s just for a moment. Life is hard and full of obstacles, but if I can make them happy just for that nail appointment, I feel good.”

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Clothes Compliments of Embellish Boutique, 7 E. Gregory St., Pensacola; 850-530-6988; embellishboutique.com

Model Compliments of Izon Models & Talent LLC, 301 N. Barcelona St., Suite E, Pensacola; 850-433-2099; izonmodels.com

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Charlie Leather small cowhide bucket bag, $130. PV Studio silver dipped lava stone bracelet, $25. PV Studio hammered brass patina earrings, $30. Hair by Kat Chapron and makeup by Tonya Laumann

Self-care during cancer treatments

therapy, skin can become very sensitive, dry, oily, itchy and may have differences in texture and color. Aches, pains, fatigue, anxiety, depression and nausea can be constant reminders that the body is being attacked.

“I was diagnosed with cancer when I was 23. Before I had cancer, I was the girl who got her nails done every two weeks and her hair done every eight weeks. My diagnosis brought all of that to a complete stop. As a young female, I had to find something that wouldn’t put me at risk for infection but still allow me to do the girlie things I loved doing,” Macchia-Cleckler said.

Redirecting focus on something that could possibly make Macchia-Cleckler feel better at such a low time was a saving grace.

My love for skin care and makeup grew during that time of my life. During chemo I would watch YouTube videos of beauty blogs and would purchase some of the products they used. When I had the energy, I would try some of the new techniques I learned. Skin care and makeup were great distractions for me during such a terrible time.”

— Brittany Maccia-Cleckler

WHERE TO GO

Cordova Skin and Body, 5043 Bayou Blvd., Pensacola; 850-741-2496; cordovaskin@gmail.com

All of us know someone that has gone through the horrible experience of cancer. The diagnosis is shocking, and treatment can be hard. The worry is overwhelming and what happens both physically and mentally can be challenging. Life changes in an instant and takes all the little things that can mean so much with it.

Brittany Macchia-Cleckler is a local esthetician, makeup artist and cancer survivor. She is passionate about her work which evolved through her own treatment journey.

As Macchia-Cleckler learned, skin and body changes during treatments can be unexpected. While going through chemotherapy, radiation or hormone

“My love for skin care and makeup grew during that time of my life. During chemo I would watch YouTube videos of beauty blogs and would purchase some of the products they used. When I had the energy, I would try some of the new techniques I learned. Skin care and makeup were great distractions for me during such a terrible time,” she said.

It is best to stay clear of any toxins inside and outside of the body while going through treatment. Some of the things you would normally do or use can put you at risk for infection when your immune system is low. Hair and nail appointments are typically put on hold. Products once used are not always the best option or may be too harsh with skin sensitivities. Reading labels and looking for clean ingredients is more important than ever. Finding the right esthetician and massage therapist can help relieve symptoms most cancer patients face during long months of treatment.

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Brittany Macchia-Cleckler applies gentle pressure during a soothing facial with lymphatic techniques. Story and photos by Leslie Peck “

“When going through chemotherapy, your immune system is low, so even the smallest little scrape can put you at risk for infection. It is best to stay away from dermaplaning, microdermabrasion and harsh chemical peels. Your skin is changing, so it might be more sensitive and possibly more dry or oilier than what it was before you started treatment,” Macchia-Cleckler said.

Self-care can do wonders with self-esteem, relaxation and managing symptoms.

“Cancer takes you through so many changes physically and mentally. You

lose yourself. You hate how you look but you don’t have the energy to do anything about it. You’re doing everything you can, just to survive. As a cancer survivor myself, I fully understand the concept ‘look good feel good.’ Taking care of your body and skin with a professional that has the correct training can definitely help,” she said.

Twanda Bell is a well-known Pensacola massage therapist for over two decades. Her nickname is “Magic Hands,” and after having a session with her, you will know why. She became certified in oncology massage and lymphatic drainage five years ago to help some of her clients while they were going through cancer treatments. Little did she know it would hit close to home when her husband was diagnosed with cancer just over two years ago.

“As a trained oncology massage therapist, I always ask clients about their diagnosis, treatments, symptoms, activity level and any restrictions they may have. It is important to tend to every aspect of how they feel that day and what might help ease any symptoms they are having. I always want to make my clients feel comfortable throughout a session,” Bell said.

Her experience comes from the heart.

“I know from going through this with my husband, the smallest things can trigger pain and nausea. I really care about my clients and only want to help them feel better,” she said.

Jennifer Walden is the owner of Cordova Skin and Body, and she is passionate about self-care as well.

“Both of my siblings had stage 3 cancer in their 40s. This led me to want to give Pensacola a place where clients that were going through cancer treatment could still come and have services. Oncology massage and facials are tailored to the specific needs of a patient undergoing chemo and/or radiation. Also, the products used in services are plant based and non-toxic,” said Walden.

Finding someone that has talent to help ease what any cancer patient is going through is a gift. Cordova Skin and Body is fortunate to have both

Macchia-Cleckler and Bell along with other therapists certified in oncology treatments.

“Twanda and I have worked together for years and always had a bond. She’s Magic Hands! But her heart is even greater. Brittany (initially a client of mine) and I bonded over her oncologist also being my family’s oncologist. Both are such knowledgeable, caring service providers who are also well studied in their craft,” said Walden.

Leslie Peck is a local makeup artist, aesthetician and lash artist with almost two decades of experience. She has worked 11 seasons of NYC Fashion Week as well as several beauty shoots while living in New York City. Leslie also has experience in TV, film, print and celebrity makeup in Los Angeles. She specializes in bridal makeup and skin care education and was featured on the front page of the Wall Street Journal in 2007.

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Twanda Bell Brittany Macchia-Cleckler

WOMEN ON A MISSION Ribbons of Hope

Lynda Cavener recollects a somber day two decades back to emphasize her passion for assisting women in the fight against breast cancer.

“I lived through helping my mother and others navigate the process of cancer and heard a physician say, ‘Well, you probably can’t afford that treatment,’’’ said Cavener, treasurer of the Pensacola Breast Cancer Association and founder of the Ribbons of Hope Breast Cancer Awareness Charity Ball.

now on the 13th Ribbons of Hope.”

13TH RIBBONS OF HOPE BREAST CANCER AWARENESS CHARITY BALL

• WHEN: 6:30 to 10:30 p.m., Oct.7

• WHERE: Pensacola Yacht Club, 1897 Cypress St., Pensacola

• COST: $50 per person; $95 per couple; $375 per table

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Lynda Cavener, 850-6191269, pensacolabreast cancerassociation.com

“This made me so angry, and I have been a part of the solution ever since,” said Cavener, whose mother died of cancer in 2003.

Moving from Christmas, Florida, to Pensacola in 2004, Cavener jumped right in helping indigent and under insured women by raising money for education, screening and diagnosis of breast cancer in the Florida Panhandle via the PBCA.

“I have always had a passion for helping people,” she said. “I did not know anyone at the time and developed a love for ballroom dancing. I was in my home office one day talking to myself, and I could hear my mom say, ‘Put your two passions together and start something phenomenal to help your new community.’ Well, that was many years ago, and we are

Cavener said she and the other allwomen volunteers on PBCA’s board of directors are relentless in trying to raise funds for the indigent and under insured.

“I believe in the butterfly effect. What you do today can affect generations to come! It is my hope that our efforts make a difference in the lives of others.”

All PBCA monies go to its mission. It has donated about $1 million since its inception, helping thousands of women, Cavener said. Currently, funds raised by PBCA are donated to local, nonprofit medical centers that provide free mammograms to women (and some men) who are underinsured or without insurance altogether.

For more information about PBCA, to donate or volunteer, go to pensacolabreastcancerassociation.com.

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If early detection can save the life of one mother, one sister, one aunt, the work is worth it.”
— Cristi Malone, Pensacola Breast Cancer Association president
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An Evening of Fashion

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47thAnnual Fashion Show

Oct. 26, 2023

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5:30 p.m. Cocktails, Silent Auction and Hors D’oeuvres

6:30 p.m. Program and Live Auction

7 p.m. Fashion Show

Fashions provided by Bluetique, Dillard’s, The Market & Mainly Shoes, and The South Outfitters

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The power of support

When Jennifer Kughn shares her breast cancer survival story, you instantly feel the palpable anguish, fear and panic she experienced in her early forties – from her initial mammogram to a double mastectomy with reconstruction to a rare chest infection to more surgeries and painful recoveries.

You can’t help wondering, “How did she handle all this?”

It’s a one-word answer. Support.

“I went from life being somewhat normal to being turned upside down and having a part of my body amputated,” said Kughn, 47, a wife and mother of three children who teaches at East Hill Christian School.

“In addition to the physical trauma I was enduring, I was dealing with the emotional and psychological trauma, too, which was harder,” she said. “Looking back at my journey, I see the impact of the support I had around me.”

That support was multilayered.

“Outside of my family, I was blessed that my reconstructive surgeon happened to be a close friend and was a huge source of encouragement and comfort for me,” Kughn said. “I also had a close friend from church who was diagnosed right before me with breast cancer, and she and I were there for each other in our suffering and struggles.

“With these two women walking close beside me in my journey, we kept discussing how important it is to have a strong support group in the journey that can relate

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Photos by Kate Treick Photography Breast cancer survivor Jennifer Kughn co-created the support group Table Talk: Journey Through the Unknown. The group meets monthly via Zoom and is open to women across the country.

to the pain and struggles physically, mentally and emotionally,” Kughn said. “We ended up starting a support group called Table Talk: Journey Through the Unknown. We first started it in person in Pensacola, but COVID forced us to go virtual, which opened doors to meet with women across the country who are battling breast cancer or are survivors.”

When fighting breast cancer, support is an essential weapon to battle decimation of the human spirit, said Dr. Pat Dial, an oncologist practicing at HCA Florida West.

“I’ve been doing this for 38 years, and I’ve seen the devastation,” said Dial, Fellow of the American College of Surgeons/general surgery/surgical oncology, and clinical assistant professor of surgery at the University of Central Florida.

Currently, in the United States, the risk of developing breast cancer is one in eight or around 13%, and most women who develop breast cancer do not have a known family history of

breast cancer or significant risk factors, Dial said.

“As a result, the diagnosis of breast cancer can come as a devastating surprise, and although breast cancer is a physical diagnosis, the emotional turmoil that results can cause significant psychological effects,” Dial said.

“I recently had a patient with a known diagnosis of breast cancer on who we performed a lumpectomy as breast conservation surgery,” he said. “When she returned to the office, the tumor was noted on the pathology report as showing there was still

cancer in the breast. My surgical recommendation changed from lumpectomy to bilateral mastectomy. I could immediately see the change in her demeanor from calm to anxiety and fear.”

A recent study shows a substantial number of patients experience clinically significant symptoms of distress after being diagnosed with breast cancer – including depression, anxiety, distress and posttraumatic stress disorder, or PTSD, Dial said.

Some approximate statistics Dial shared:

• 34% of breast cancer patients experience anxiety manifested as restlessness, irritability, inability to concentrate, fatigue or difficulty sleeping.

• 38% show symptoms of clinical depression including frequent crying, losing interest in previously enjoyable activities, irritability or restlessness, isolation from others, difficulty

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— Kelly Ward, LCSW, breast health navigator at the institute

concentrating, lack of energy and finally thoughts of self-harm or suicide.

• 31% of patients receiving a breast cancer diagnosis experience PTSD. This includes nightmares, flashbacks, selfdestructive behavior, persistent negative emotions like fear, anger and guilt, and finally feelings of alienation or detachment.

The good news is that there are support options, Dial said.

Across the board, oncology medical professionals stress the utmost importance of support, whether

OUTPOURING OF SUPPORT

• American Cancer Society/Reach to Recovery: This support program helps people cope with their breast cancer experience – as early as the first possibility of a diagnosis and continuing for as long as breast cancer remains a personal concern to them. Through its website and mobile app, you can create an online profile and match with a volunteer who has experienced a similar type of breast cancer, stage and treatment. You can also choose how you want to connect with a volunteer – through online chat, a phone call or exchanging messages. To join Reach to Recovery and create a profile, visit reach. cancer.org or download the mobile Reach to Recovery app.

• Ann L. Baroco Center for Breast Health and Mammography/Breast Cancer Support: Sacred Heart Oncology offers a free cancer support group for current or former cancer patients and their family members. It offers life-changing encouragement, support and hope, regardless of your specific cancer, phase of life or religious affiliations. Meetings are 5:30 p.m. to 7 p.m., the second and fourth Thursdays each month. Sacred Heart Medical Oncology Building, 27 E. Mack Bayou Loop, Santa Rosa Beach. For more information, contact Chaplain Jeff Carlton at 205-5426212.

• Baptist Cancer Institute/Baptist Health Care: The institute offers monthly support groups for its patients and their families to gather and connect with other individuals who have survived or who are currently going through treatment. It has three locations –Kugelman Cancer Center at Baptist Hospital, Ciano Cancer Center at Gulf Breeze Hospital and Baptist Medical Park/Nine Mile. For more information about Baptist Cancer Institute, visit ebaptisthealthcare.org or call 850-469-2222.

it’s in person at a support group or communicating with patients undergoing treatment and breast cancer survivors via Zoom or social media, Dial said.

Baptist Cancer Support Services offers a monthly support group for its patients and their families to connect with others who have survived or who are currently going through treatment. The group includes any cancer diagnosis, as well as stage of treatment, from those who are newly diagnosed and looking to connect to those who have transitioned to survivor to those wanting to encourage others going through their journey.

• Pensacola Breast Cancer Association: This non-profit, all-volunteer organization assists the indigent and under-insured. For support information, contact PBCA at 850-7800468 or pensacolabreastcancerassociation.org.

• Susan G. Komen Breast Care Helpline: A national effort, the helpline provides information about breast health, breast cancer, local and national resources and information about clinical trials. Call the Breast Care Hotline, 877465-6636 (option 1).

• Table Talk: Journey Through the Unknown: The Pensacola-based support group meets monthly via Zoom, 7:30-8:30 p.m. A Zoom invitation is sent before each meeting. Everyone is welcome. To join, email or call to be added to the group. Contacts: Jennifer Kughn, j_kughn@ehcseagles.com; 850-532-0122; Dr. Lusharon Wiley, lwiley@innisfreehotels.com; 850-748-7641.

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Kelly Ward is a breast health navigator at Baptist Cancer Institute.

PELVIC FLOOR PHYSICAL

“Baptist Cancer Institute’s support programs help our patients feel better and encourage hope and strength in their healing journey,” said Kelly Ward, LCSW, breast health navigator at the institute.

“We want our patients to know they are not alone,” Ward said. “During our support groups, we talk about our patients’ feelings and work through them so that they can heal their minds, body and spirit while managing their cancer diagnosis and treatment.”

Dr. Jada Leahy with The Surgery Group said a support group is a lifeline.

“Women who get support do better, have better outcomes and a better quality of life,” said Leahy, a boardcertified general surgeon specializing in many areas including breast surgery. “If I have a patient who does not have a support group, I work with other professionals to make sure she gets one.”

She explained the benefits of a group like this.

“When you attend a support group, you meet women in different stages of breast cancer, you get to ask questions such as – How do you tell your children you have cancer? When is my hair going to fall out? How do you talk about intimacy with your spouse or partner? I can never tell my patients what it’s like to go through chemo, but these women can.”

But Leahy said there is something she can do, something she always does.

“I am a hugger, and I cry with them,” she said. “There is so much value in telling a patient after her visit, ‘I care about you. I am here for you.’”

Breast cancer patients may feel alone, but they are not, explained Jessica Hornedo, BSN, RN, breast cancer navigator at Ascension Sacred Heart/Ann L. Baroco Center for Breast Health and Mammography.

Nurse navigators are with breast cancer patients throughout their journey – empowering, advocating, educating, guiding, supporting, coordinating treatments and much more.

“As a nurse navigator, I treat every patient as an individual, and I am with

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them each step of the way,” Hornedo said. “I am with a patient from the mammography diagnosis to the oncologist to treatment to support, all the way to survivorship.”

Witnessing how breast cancer affects more than just the patients, this expansive care and outreach extend to caregivers, Hornedo said.

“We absolutely reach out to caregivers and let them know they are not alone,” she said. “As a caregiver, you can feel alone, and the stress can affect you physically and mentally. We can always hook them up with support

groups and social workers.”

Many resources exist.

Thousands of caregiver support groups exist across the country organized by hospitals, breast health clinics/centers, senior centers, churches and disease-specific organizations such as The American Cancer Society.

The teams of medical professionals, including the ever-essential nurse navigators, are “always there to help those diagnosed with breast cancer,” Hornedo said.

“We help everyone we come in contact with.”

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Dr. Jada Leahy with The Surgery Group said a support group is a lifeline that provides women a better quality of life and even better outcomes.
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Finding beauty & strength

Emily Hardin’s triumph over cancer ignited her passion for a business

In life’s most challenging moments, the true essence of one’s character often shines through. Emily Hardin, a remarkable woman, discovered this firsthand as she navigated her own battle with breast cancer. Inspired by her mother’s battle with the disease and then her own, Hardin experienced a transformation that led her to create a haven of support and encouragement for other women facing similar challenges – The Boobie Boutique.

The process began with her mother’s cancer diagnosis.

“She was diagnosed in 2019 and I received my diagnosis two years later. Her experience, as well as my own, made me want to have a resource for the community,” Hardin said.

Despite facing her own diagnosis, Hardin continued to work full-time in a demanding job, intermittently taking time off for her treatment.

Through her own battle, Hardin underwent a profound change in mindset.

“I went from being very, very driven. I went from feeling like work was such a priority to realizing that cancer changed me. It’s emotional and mental just as much as it is physical, if not more,” she shared.

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This change in perspective sparked a desire for more fulfilling pursuits, a desire to leave behind a legacy that would resonate beyond her lifetime.

During treatments and recovery, Hardin’s heart and mind were consumed with a newfound purpose.

“I realized that not everyone gets that second chance at life the way that I have. What would I really want to do with my life?” she reflected.

This question led her to conceive The Boobie Boutique, a place that would cater to the unique needs of cancer patients, especially women.

The name itself, The Boobie Boutique, reflects Hardin’s intention to create an atmosphere that’s lighthearted and inviting rather than clinical and intimidating.

“I wanted something memorable, something that would stick in people’s minds,” she explained.

The boutique’s offerings extend far beyond bras and wigs; it’s a sanctuary of hope, understanding and

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empowerment.

Hardin’s husband Mike and children Rose and Raiden stood by her side as pillars of strength throughout her journey. Even during unimaginable challenges, including her husband’s stroke, their unwavering support became a driving force behind Emily’s pursuit of her dream.

“My family 100% said yes, you’re exactly the type of person that should be doing this for other people,” she said.

TBB caters to three primary groups: newly diagnosed patients, those in recovery and the friends and families of those battling cancer. From comfortable mastectomy bras and wigs to inspirational gift boxes and supportive reading materials, cute T-shirts and beautiful gowns, Hardin has thought of every detail that can help ease the journey for others. She even became a Certified Bra Fitter to help women achieve a balanced postmastectomy silhouette.

Hardin recognizes the isolation that often accompanies a cancer diagnosis.

“You sometimes isolate yourself without even realizing it,” she explained.

This realization led her to organize “Tea for TaTas,” a gathering where survivors and patients can connect, share stories and find camaraderie and support in their shared experiences.

As Hardin looks ahead, she envisions her boutique as more than just a store; it’s a sanctuary where beauty meets strength, where empowerment takes root in the hearts of those who walk through its doors. Hardin is proof that the pursuit of dreams, even in the face of adversity, can lead to transformative and meaningful outcomes.

For more details on TBB products, upcoming events, and online orders, visit theboobieboutiquellc.org or The Boobie Boutique LLC page on Facebook.

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“ I realized that not everyone gets that second chance at life the way that I have. What would I really want to do with my life?” — Emily Hardin

Jamie LaPointe: IT WAS A CHAPTER

When Jamie LaPointe called to schedule her annual mammogram and Pap smear in 2019, her regular gynecologist was on hiatus. Her initial thought was, “Nobody else is doing my Pap smear,” and she was on the verge of hanging up the phone.

But a nagging hunch told her not to.

“Before I hung up, I said, ‘You know what? Just schedule my appointment. This is silly.’”

So she had her Pap smear, then as she’d done many times before, walked directly to get her mammogram with Sherry, a cancer survivor and technician who had performed LaPointe’s mammograms for years. But this time was different.

“When we were done, she said, ‘I want to take another image.’ That had never happened before. She said, ‘I think there was a little shadow,’ and I said, ‘Stop it. I don’t have enough to cast a shadow!’”

In the hours and days that followed, LaPointe remembers a lingering “weird” feeling. A second mammogram and an ultrasound followed. Because the disease was “sneaky,” attempts to place a marker were challenging. But finally, after mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy, accompanied by family members, LaPointe heard the words: invasive lobular carcinoma. It was not the most evil cancer, but it was a sneaky, elusive one that hides well.

Her first reaction wasn’t fear – that came later.

“That didn’t startle me. I think I was just prepared. I’m like, God, this is your

will,” LaPointe said.

Tears and fears mixed with strength and peace followed: Her biggest fear was that a predisposition to the disease may have been passed on to her daughter or granddaughters. She recalls one day soon after her diagnosis sobbing for hours, then being unable to sleep with emotions swirling, only to feel a palpable embrace that she believes was God. And after that – assurance that whatever might happen, she would be alright.

“Not everybody has the same faith, but I think everybody has something to believe in. For me, it was my faith in God. I felt his presence always to take care of me,” she said.

Despite the chemotherapy, LaPointe kept working as the Outreach Coordinator at Lutheran Services Florida-Currie House where she’s been for 34 years.

There were defining moments like losing her first tuft of hair when boating with friends. But through it all, she assumed a victor’s stance.

“That day my first chemo ended, Heather, my daughter, said, ‘Are you riding home with me?’ I said, ‘I’ll ride with you but we’re not going home. We’re going to eat.’ She said, ‘You can’t go to lunch, what if you get sick?’ I said, ‘What if I wasn’t a cancer patient and I got sick?’ She said, ‘Well, we would go home.’ ‘Well we’re going to do the same thing,’ I said. ‘I’m not going to go home and sit and wait to get sick. I’m just not going to do it.”’

And she didn’t!

She prayed, she juiced, she tapped,

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she listened to hope-inspiring music, she traded supplement tips with others dealing with cancer. She felt guilty that others were so sick while she was rocking chemo.

And she leaned on friends and family. Like many cancer patients, LaPointe says they were an integral part of her healing.

Many moments with her support team are emblazoned in her memory, like the day she came home after her mastectomy to homemade chicken and dumplings and welcoming friends.

“They come by and they bring it, hang out for a bit. And then they notice if you’re tired.”

When she was especially weak, one friend climbed into bed with her and they watched television together. Others kept friends updated on her progress.

Tapping into the wisdom of others who have walked the path is crucial, advised LaPointe, who remembers mentioning a natural supplement to a friend dealing with chemo-induced neuropathy. It was a game-changer for her.

“If I had a testimony from it, reach out to others who have gone through it.”

Now cancer-free for more than three years, LaPointe no longer has to check in with her surgeon and only has 14 months remaining to take the chemo pill.

Despite her good prognosis, she reflects on the season as spiritual, tough and growth-inducing. Yet still “just a chapter.”

Her fierce spirit earned her the title of “poster child” with her oncologist. But to LaPointe, believing the best was the only option.

“I tell our kids in shelter all the time, there are some things you can’t change. If you can’t change it, live in the moment. Enjoy it right now. And if things don’t come out the way you want, at least you have some good memories.

“It wasn’t all a party by any means. It was a soul-searching time. You’re reevaluating everything. Wherever you are, you have to embrace every moment for that part of your life whatever it may be.”

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LAURA BAKER Uses her experience to help others

If anyone is a great example of how to live life in spite of cancer, it’s Laura Baker. She’s been through three separate bouts –breast, ovarian, breast – and yet, she wakes up every day looking for another adventure, another way to squeeze something magic from every moment.

She goes on morning bike rides along the beach. She paddleboards and goes sailing with friends. She snorkels and is so thrilled with her finds when the tides are just right that she posts about it on Facebook.

“Everyone get out there! Shells are EVERYWHERE!”

You might not even realize that cancer has been a part of her story, except that she is so forthcoming with details. She thinks it’s important to share what she’s been through. Baker said that hearing the stories of other survivors helped her through her journey.

“Just seeing somebody alive helps,” she said. “You know – just like – there they are. They made it. That helped a lot, especially the first time, because it’s very frightening.”

Her first time was just over 20 years ago. She was 30 years old and had just had her second child.

“And I had been breastfeeding and so my breasts had gone from the hard cantaloupe to marshmallow fluff,” Baker explained. “And I felt something.”

She knew something wasn’t right, so she called the doctor. Back then, she says, it was faster and easier to get the tests she needed. She went right in, had an ultrasound, then

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CALM IN THE STORM

One friend’s tale of adventure with Laura Baker

A story I have told many times that to me shows a perfect example of Laura’s unflappable spirit is one day a few years ago when we went out together on our boat on a beautiful summer day to go snapper fishing with our husbands and sons.

As often happens in the summertime, storms exploded everywhere while we were about 30 miles offshore. The waves grew to five to six feet; we were in blinding rain and dangerous lightning.

Laura and I went below to the cabin with the boys and Lane and Bill stayed up at the helm trying to navigate through the storms back to the pass. We put a movie on the TV for the boys to distract them. I was literally on my knees praying – I was absolutely terrified.

To this day, it was the worst storm I’ve ever been in on the water. And we were out there for hours in it; no matter how much they tried, Lane and Bill could not find a break in the storms – we were zig zagging all over the Gulf.

And just when I thought this is it, we are all going to die out here on this boat, I look over at Laura and she’s...asleep. Peaceful, calm and relaxed enough to take a nap after a long hot day on the water. She wasn’t worried at all.

In that moment, I realized she REALLY doesn’t sweat the small stuff. Or even the big stuff.

That was a big learning moment for me – to realize the things I have control of and the things I don’t. As Jesus says in scripture, “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?” This is Laura’s mantra. I know she has had moments of sorrow and pain and probably fear, but they are fleeting. She chooses to be joyful in the face of crisis.

a biopsy the next day. But she wasn’t worried because she didn’t have a family history that she knew of. When the biopsy came back positive for cancer, she was shocked. Then it turned out she had breast cancer in both breasts.

The doctors recommended chemotherapy first since treatment was complicated because of breastfeeding. But it worked, and the tumors shrank significantly enough they told her she could choose between a lumpectomy or a double mastectomy.

“I was only 30 years old,” Baker said. “I thought double mastectomy was kind of terrifying.”

So she chose lumpectomy, and was assured her chances were excellent.

Genetic testing for the BRCA gene mutation was available at the time, but between a lack of family history (that she was aware of) and the fact that insurance could still deny coverage based on preexisting conditions, she was advised not to have the test.

“And I don’t have any trouble,” Baker recounted. “From 2000 on. And I always have my little MRIs and CT scans and mammograms…and I remember being really scared.”

She worried the cancer would come back, but her results were always good. Then her doctor said she didn’t need to come back.

“I get fired from the oncologist because I’ve timed out of the system,” she explained.

Nearly 16 years went by with no problems, and Baker thought she was in the clear.

“And then my sister gets ovarian cancer,” she said. It was 2016.

Baker’s sister then had the genetic testing and found out she did have the cancer marker. This caused them to start asking questions of family members.

Before then, “people just didn’t talk about it,” Baker explained. After finding out multiple female relatives had had breast and ovarian cancer in the past, Baker said she remembered the family talking about “lady problems,” but no one actually ever talked about cancer.

Baker’s cousin did the genetic testing and also tested positive, so Baker tested, too. And she had the marker as

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“As Jesus says in scripture, ‘Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?’ This is Laura’s mantra. I know she has had moments of sorrow and pain and probably fear, but they are fleeting. She chooses to be joyful in the face of crisis.” — Lori Lynchard

well. That led to the decision to have a preventative hysterectomy.

Always pragmatic, Baker scheduled the surgery around her tennis schedule. Then came the day of the surgery.

“I wake up and they’re like, ‘So it turns out you’re riddled with cancer, and we had to sew you back up.’”

She’s told she threw a tissue box at the doctor.

She had to wait two more weeks to get an oncologist and the right surgeon to handle the new diagnosis.

“At that point, they took out everything they could,” Baker said.

This is when the power of friendships took over. Her band of friends rallied around her and did everything from hosting a Charlie’s Angels wig modeling party when her hair fell out to cooking meals and providing transportation to appointments.

“I had a little chart, and I filled it up with 18 different people,” Baker said of that round of chemotherapy.

A different friend drove and sat with her for each appointment, which she said could actually be fairly pleasant due to the energy she got from steroid shots beforehand. She had to remind her friends that she wasn’t that joyful when the steroids wore off.

Baker made it through her second cancer diagnosis and treatment, and she returned to living life to its fullest. She and her husband became empty nesters and moved out to the beach. They sold their business, they retired and they learned to play pickleball.

And then came diagnosis number three in the spring of 2022.

“I see a dark spot,” said the doctor after a mammogram. This time it was weeks of waiting and anxiety to finally get the bad news that breast cancer had returned. She had a double mastectomy this time, with a tricky reconstruction due to previous radiation.

Her doctor recommended The Center for Restorative Breast Surgery in New Orleans, the only specialty hospital of its kind, which turned out to be a posh place to be treated. They served her eggs benedict, and one nurse even gave her hair a blowout. Even so, it was a tough surgery, but she has recovered and is back to doing the things she loves.

In fact, when you talk to her friends, you can see that she’s an inspiration in more ways than one.

Baker taught friend Teresa Helms “to never let anything steal your joy.” She is warm and joyful, always smiling and laughing about the crazy turns life can take.

“Laura has taught me to not be afraid to say yes to new experiences,” said Wei Ueberschaer, another longtime friend.

Independent. Positive. Adventurous. Resilient. Intelligent. Joyful. The same words come up over and over when you talk to Baker’s friends, a testament to her impact.

That passion extends to strangers who are also battling cancer. Baker has volunteered for the American Cancer Society’s Reach for Recovery program.

“I’d call patients and just listen. A male doctor can’t really tell you exactly how things are going to feel after breast surgery. I can,” she said.

Baker has excellent advice for newly diagnosed breast cancer patients: When people offer help, take it. Having a network of support is important, and Baker is proof of that.

The other words of wisdom she offers are for every woman out there:

“Everyone needs to go get their mammogram when it’s time. People say, ‘I don’t have time for that.’ Well guess what you really don’t have time for? Chemotherapy! If you catch it early, it’s so much easier.”

Baker should know. She’s here to tell us about it.

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TAMMY COPLEY’S ADVICE FOR A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE

• Drink half of your body weight daily from a good water source.

• Limit sugars, meats, dairy and processed and fried foods.

• Take supplements such as vitamin C powder and turmeric, which may reduce inflammation.

• Find a source for monthly IV hydration treatment.

• Look into natural hormone balancing, essential oils and herbs that support healing.

• Have regular chiropractic treatments to improve your overall health.

• Balance your mind, body and spirit while removing any toxic relationships.

• Detox your body and make sure your digestive system is functioning properly.

• Be as active as possible. Reduce stress and sleep at least eight hours each night.

• Reduce chemicals in your environment, such as having air filters running to clean the air in your home and vehicle.

• Find a work/life balance that creates happiness for you.

• Take responsibility for your health and find what works best for you as there are many natural resources available.

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A holistic approach to health and recovery

Navigating wellness BEYOND CONVENTIONS

In the realm of holistic wellness, Tammy Copley emerges as a passionate advocate for nutritional and natural practices. Her growth toward vitality and empowerment began with a diagnosis that could have shattered her spirit. Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2014, Copley embarked on a remarkable path of healing and self-discovery, embracing unconventional approaches to health and well-being.

Copley’s research into holistic wellness was borne out of an intense quest for knowledge. Hours spent watching documentaries, reading books and engaging with experts, including physicians, formed the foundation of her health insights. She champions a holistic approach, emphasizing juicing, intermittent fasting, detoxification and intentional self-care as cornerstones of achieving and maintaining health.

“I learned there are many reasons for a cancer diagnosis, and I decided this was a wakeup call to take better care of myself, not a death sentence,” Copley asserted. Her realization that stress and emotional pain can contribute to disease underscores the intricate connection between mind and body. She diligently works to cultivate emotional well-being, seeking peaceful relationships and harmony.

Rebuilding her compromised immune system emerged as an immediate priority.

“My immune system was compromised for cancer to thrive, and the treatments only made it weaker,” Copley shared.

This led her to a clinic where a comprehensive blood panel identified deficiencies in iron, vitamin D and other indicators that she had been exposed to environmental elements known to cause various health issues. Through supplementation and innovative treatments, she succeeded in normalizing these factors within a year.

The following year brought the challenge of hormone balance, prompting Copley to explore natural solutions. One way she felt she was able to improve that balance was with the natural supplement DHEA.

The pain in her arm, a lingering reminder of eight removed cancerous lymph nodes, became a catalyst for dietary change. Limiting sugar and dairy intake, coupled with the addition of alkaline water to her diet, alleviated inflammation and discomfort.

Embracing alkaline water as a daily staple, Copley emphasizes the significance of maintaining an alkaline environment within the body to deter disease.

A pivotal insight emerged for Copley: cancer’s affinity for sugar and animal protein. This led her to embrace a predominantly plant-based diet, aligning her nutritional choices with

her commitment to holistic wellness.

“This is surely a journey and not a destination.... I am still learning and growing in trying to build new habits,” she said.

Copley maintains that post-cancer life has brought greater physical wellbeing due to her focused self-care regimen. Her work as an owner at Homeland Neighborhood Management, a role demanding long periods of computer-based work, only amplified the importance of adding physical activity to a sedentary lifestyle. While her professional life revolves around HOA management and accounting, her personal experience underscores the value of alternative treatments and proactive self-care.

Copley reports that a session with Margie Kalaluhi at Heart Centered Wellness, a Pensacola-based alternative and holistic health service, released her from negative emotions she had been carrying and left her feeling balanced and stable.

“I believe she helped me be in the present and release some old trauma emotions that I didn’t even realize were still affecting me,” Copley said.

This information is based on the personal experiences and perspectives of Tammy Copley, who has no formal medical training. Readers are advised to consult qualified medical professionals before making any health-related decisions.

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ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE: Tool to detect breast cancer

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Good • Photos by Kate Treick Photography body & soul Dr. Laura Landrieu is lead radiologist/breast imaging at Ann L. Baroco Center at Optimal Imaging. Landrieu said the advantage of AI is that the technology can learn on its own to become more and more accurate, but it still hasn’t reached the point where it is equal to a radiologist’s level of expertise.

While artificial intelligence artists create flawless images of women for superfluous reasons, radiologists use AI to help save women’s lives.

Radiologists around the globe, including radiologists in the greater Pensacola area, use AI algorithms to detect breast cancer.

“AI is here to stay,” said Dr. Jada Leahy, a board-certified general surgeon with The Surgery Group who specializes in several areas including breast surgery. “It is quite useful when used in tandem with computer-assisted detection (CAD) and the trained eye of a radiologist.

“But AI technology isn’t designed to be used on its own,” Leahy said.

Right now, one major advantage is AI speeds up the reading of mammograms, allowing radiologists to see more mammograms accurately and much more quickly, according to MIT Technology Review.

“AI is CAD on steroids, and it’s everywhere,” said Dr. Laura Landrieu, lead radiologist/breast imaging at Ann L. Baroco Center at Optimal Imaging.

“CAD is the original technology that AI is based on, at least when it comes to mammography, As computer detection has improved over the years, beginning with the early version approved by the FDA in 1998, it has basically morphed from CAD to AI. The advantage of AI is that the technology can learn on its own to become more and more accurate,” Landrieu explained.

“But it still hasn’t reached the point where it is equal to a radiologist’s level of expertise.”

Radiologists must consider many points when interpreting an exam – for example, whether a finding is significant or not, and whether it should be biopsied versus followed versus excised, Landrieu said. And decisions of this nature are dependent on many variables, she said.

“It’s important to understand that AI is a tool; it’s artificial,” Landrieu said.

“If you have ever used a computer, you know you must input information accurately. It is the same for AI.”

Today, countless questions and debates about AI exist, but one aspect is certain: This groundbreaking technology keeps advancing, agree radiology and imaging experts.

Due to advances in deep learning, the quality of AI is rapidly improving for breast imaging, according to the Radiological Society of North America (RSNA). And it will likely “play an important role for mammography and digital breast tomosynthesis in all steps – from image generation and denoising to risk prediction, cancer detection, and, ultimately, therapy selection and outcome prediction,” RSNA stated.

“My personal belief is that breast imaging radiologists and breast imaging technology have become exceedingly good in finding breast cancers when the (cancers) are quite small,” Landrieu said.

The next helpful advancement Landrieu hopes to see is “a pathology assay or identifying characteristic that predicts cancers that have the propensity to grow and spread versus those that may never develop into anything life threatening, thereby minimizing unnecessary treatment.”

There are more new technologies on the horizon as well.

“From an imaging standpoint, the next advancement will be utilization of contrast-enhanced mammography

(CEM),” Landrieu said. “For now, I think the best utilization of CEM will be determining if an equivocal finding is significant and needs to be pursued, versus an insignificant finding.”

CEM is likely to be utilized in evaluating high-risk patients, Landrieu said.

“CEM requires an IV with intravenous contrast, so I think it will not be suitable for routine screening of average risk patients.”

Meanwhile, AI research is escalating, and all types of companies are entering the AI algorithm arena to help detect breast cancer – even Google.

About a year ago, Google publicized that it licensed its AI technology to iCAD, a medical technology company that provides breast cancer detection services to health care facilities around the world.

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ADHD AWARENESS

AWARENESS

It’s fair to say that many people face some sort of distractions throughout the day, and even at night when it gets quiet, and they are alone with only their thoughts. Perhaps that is when a person has time to reflect on what they accomplished or didn’t accomplish.

Was there something holding them back? Can that feeling possibly be traced back to childhood?

With advancements in recognizing, diagnosing and treating many conditions and disorders, it’s possible to find out the problem all along has been Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention describes ADHD as one of the most common neurodevelopmental disorders of childhood. The CDC further describes that while usually initially recognized and diagnosed in childhood, ADHD can often continue into adulthood. And while we may be familiar with the signs of ADHD in youth, including trouble paying attention, fidgeting and controlling impulsive behaviors, there’s actually another layer to consider while recognizing these signs, and sometimes it comes down to our perception of genders.

“The difference in diagnosis lies entirely in gendered expectations around behavior,” said Casey Becker, LMHC, therapist and life coach with Azure Skies Counseling and Coaching.

Becker said that while diagnosing ADHD primarily happens during childhood, some individuals do not get tested and carry around these life-altering signs and symptoms into adulthood. But sometimes even diagnosing during childhood has some drawbacks when it comes to social roles between girls and boys.

defining social roles hinder proper diagnosis

“There is individual variation in symptom intensity but again, the differences that people experience and that shows up in research is better explained by social expectations,” said Becker. “For example, women typically do more unpaid domestic labor than men but do the same amount of paid labor. The difficulty organizing is harder for women but only because women typically have more to organize.”

Becker further explains that sometimes in youth, it’s more acceptable for boys to be “wild” but when girls show signs of ADHD, they are sometimes negatively labeled as “ditzy” instead of looking at diagnosing this disorder objectively.

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How

Becker, it should be done as early as possible, but the focus shouldn’t be just about diagnosing ADHD, but other similar disorders that may or may not be a root cause.

“Ideally, testing would be standard at a pediatrician’s office. With my clients, I will recommend testing once we have treated or ruled out anxiety. In general, though, I would recommend testing for anyone that is concerned about their memory, attention and/or executive functioning,” said Becker.

Sometimes this anxiety is derived from these social expectations of children. As mentioned, it can be easy to label little boys as simply rambunctious or even apply the adage “boys will be boys.” But differing expectations of young girls and them being expected to act a certain way even as very young individuals in the same exact setting as boys might mean a diagnosis is missed.

“Women get diagnosed later because the typical ADHD behavior is not tolerated in girls,” said Becker. “Girls

get in more trouble earlier, which leads to an anxiety disorder and then the anxiety behaviors are masking the ADHD. It is one of the many insidious types of social predetermination.”

While this “battle of the sexes” seems to start very early in life with diagnosing ADHD, regardless of gender, there are ways to treat this and other disorders. The good news for some is that medicine isn’t the only resort for treatment. The key is openness when approaching testing and treatment and, of course, doing what’s best for you or your own child, as there are undoubtedly a number of options.

“Medications are the front line because it’s easy and effective,” said Becker. “Medication isn’t the only option, but you have to actively search for someone who has the training in organizational and coping skills. Psychotherapy is typically used to help manage low self-esteem or co-occuring disorders, but there are effective behavioral treatments.”

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Therapist and life coach Casey Becker, LMHC, said common gender-based behavior expectations can be the reason many women aren’t diagnosed with ADHD earlier in life. Medication, psychotherapy and behavior treatments are all options for someone battling this disorder. Photo by Kate Treick Photography

ADHD

DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT

Is it harder to diagnose this disorder in women?

While it’s not always prudent to compare men and women, there certainly are some gender aspects to consider when diagnosing ADHD. Katie Perry, Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner with Anchor Clinic, addresses questions of how to approach recognizing this disorder that often involves societal roles and expectations. It also may come as a relief to some that medication is not always the only way to treat ADHD, as there are additional therapies.

BELLA: Are there any fundamental differences in diagnosing ADHD in men vs. women?

PERRY: Historically we have been taught that ADHD was more prevalent in men versus women. However, research done in recent years actually suggests that ADHD is grossly underdiagnosed in women. It is speculated that this is due to boys/men being more likely to display the hyperactive symptoms of ADHD. Most of these symptoms (inability to sit still, difficulty waiting your turn, fidgeting, bouncing, tapping, wringing hands, impulsivity, etc.) are disruptive to the person’s environment, often to the point that others around them are noticing or perhaps annoyed. Studies suggest that women are more likely to display inattentive symptoms, such as forgetfulness, daydreaming and feeling easily distractible even in the middle of a conversation. The nature of these symptoms is generally less disruptive and in return more difficult to spot, especially in young children. Personally, I do not believe there are fundamental differences between ADHD symptoms in men and women. It is my opinion that society has presorted these symptoms through a lens of traditional gender roles; I have treated plenty of predominantly hyperactive women throughout my career.

BELLA: How does ADD/ADHD affect women specifically?

PERRY: As women we are generally culturally responsible for more daily tasks than men: child rearing, scheduling, cooking, cleaning and simultaneous fulltime jobs. ADHD often encompasses impairment in executive functioning. Executive functioning is your ability to manage your thoughts and emotions, as well as prioritize, organize, initiate and complete tasks. With a to-

do list that never ends, you can see how ADHD could make the day-to-day much harder than it should be, especially if it is untreated. In this way, undiagnosed ADHD often leaves people feeling lazy, incompetent and irresponsible when this is not the case at all. In reality, our brains are just different from our neurotypical friends.

BELLA: When should someone consider getting tested/treated?

PERRY: There’s no wrong answer here. Testing would be appropriate at any age. Even getting tested and diagnosed at an older age can be incredibly validating, and that can go a long way. The earlier an accurate diagnosis can be made, the sooner you can work with a professional to develop a treatment plan that works for you. However, treatment with stimulant medications such as Adderall, Vyvanse or Ritalin is not recommended for everyone. Factors such as age, weight and cardiac health should be taken into consideration. These medications should be used as a tool, not a crutch.

BELLA: Are medications the only way treatment?

PERRY: Nope! Cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, aimed at ADHD symptom management can do wonders. This process is essentially working with a trained therapist to troubleshoot your brain and find out which ADHD management tips and tricks work best for you. Additionally, you can find many options for self-guided ADHD management workbooks online. There is even a video game that you can play on your mobile phone that can improve sustained and selective attention. Meditation, maintaining a structured routine and regular exercise can also be beneficial for overall ADHD management.

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Make your own history during

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worth the trip

a trip to Washington, D.C.

Regardless of your political affiliation, a trip to the nation’s capital is inspiring. With countless historical sites, Washington is quite simply a place for everyone. And it’s not just for those born on American soil, which is evident by the vast number of international visitors any time of the year.

It’s incredibly easy to make a visit with a tentative or even no itinerary. No matter where you stay in or near the city, D.C.’s Metro system – comprised of trains and buses – is easy to navigate and will often stop in close proximity to a number of attractions providing countless options during your visit.

Are monuments your thing?

The popular National Mall is a triedand-true spot to take in majestic structures including the U.S. Capitol Building, the Lincoln Memorial and precisely positioned in between, the Washington Monument obelisk, which can be seen rising above the treeline or skyline from any number of spots throughout the city. Luscious lawns stretching for nearly two miles are host to incredible outdoor adventures and photo opportunities. Or perhaps bring a picnic or grab a nosh at an armada of food trucks parked throughout the area.

Another notable point of interest, or rather points, is the Smithsonian Institution, which is the world’s largest collective of museums and educational complexes. Visitors are hard pressed not to find something of interest, as headliners include the National Museum of Natural History and the National Museum of American History, arguably two of the most robust in their exhibition selection. In fact, it has been estimated that if a visitor were to spend only one minute at each of

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TOP: The rotunda of the Museum of Natural History is a focal point from all levels of the museum. BOTTOM: Exhibits of the Museum of Natural History are often colorful and engaging, much like the visitors themselves. TOP RIGHT: Positioned directly on the Anacostia River, the Navy Yard District features trendy hot spots for dining and shopping. MIDDLE RIGHT: The National Museum of American History features timeless treasures like Dorothy’s ruby slippers from “The Wizard of Oz.” BOTTOM RIGHT: The Hope Diamond, the largest blue diamond in the world, is estimated to be worth $250 million. OPPOSITE: The DC Metro system is easily accessible from most tourist attractions and is a great way to avoid traffic and parking issues in the city.

the Smithsonian’s exhibits, it would take over 258 years.

Some of the most significant historic items reside in the neighboring buildings, including the famed Ruby Slippers from the motion picture The Wizard of Oz and a majestic 52-foot replica of a Carcharocles megalodon shark. Anything pertaining to natural or American history that the mind can conjure will most likely be found at these museums, and the best part is, admission is completely free.

As previously mentioned, the Metro system is an efficient and cost-effective way to get around town while providing a true metropolitan experience. A 20-minute Metro train ride from the Mall will take you to fascinating areas of D.C., including the revitalized (and revitalizing) Washington Navy Yard Neighborhood, which is considered Washington’s

fastest-growing neighborhood. It is home to chic and environmentally green hotels, residences, retail and office spaces.

The crown jewel of the Navy Yard is the Washington Nationals baseball stadium. The team, which was formerly the Montreal Expos, made Washington its home in 2005 and certainly makes a lively addition to the Anacostia Riverfront just south of the heart of the city.

It’s safe to assume there will be something for everyone in Washington, D.C., from those making new memories to repeat visitor history buffs. Experiencing big city sights and sounds while surrounded by history is unique and memorable. Pensacola International Airport offers direct flights to Reagan National Airport (DCA), so maybe it’s time to make some history of your own.

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out&about

Baptist Health Care Foundation Women’s Night Out

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Photos by Toni Sparks KC Gartman, Laura Cole, Heather Moorer The Women’s Board of Baptist Health Care Foundation hosted a Women’s Night Out on Aug. 22 at The Grand Marlin Pensacola Beach. Attendees enjoyed hors d’oeuvres, door prizes and socializing.
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Mellissa Schmiedeskamp, Anna Kisor Victoria Watson, Kelly Wulzer, Yvonne Murphy Alivia Kust, Heather Koester Anne Frechette, Christi Haynes Ciequinita Vaughn, Tabitha Cristopher Heidi Huerta, Erin Mayfield, Courtney Eoff
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Alivia Kust, Kristin Longley, Heather Koester CJ Lyndon, Meagan Leonard, Laura Worthylake Tracey Hughes, Tiffany Cambell, Quana Gable Nicole Hall, Michelle Brooks, Emily Mikel, Melanie Pipes Lynne Taylor, Thy Baton, Lilly Lino Connie Crosby, Bette Thomas, Monica Sanford
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ABOVE: Kay Mitchell, Carrie White LEFT: Rachel Herman, Karen Brantley, Jennifer Lee

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Making Strides of Pensacola

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Photos by Toni Sparks Breast Cancer Survivor group photo Making Strides of Pensacola had its annual kickoff event on August 24, at the Sanders Beach-Corrine Jones Community Center. The 2023 Men Wear Pink Ambassadors were revealed during the fabulous Pink Paradise open house event. Geneva Logan, Alice Knight, Sharon Thomas Rachel Forehand, Kelly Ward, Melissa Salter, Samantha Motley, Stephanie Young
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Kathy Dunagan, Tammy Ward Vicki Walborn, Amanda Raber, Donna Bryant Angie Morris, Sally Bergosh Samantha & Jack Motley and son Jack Motley ReJenea Rondot, Patty Scott, Jamie Ferbezar, Emmie Hagar Chip Simmons, Whitney Lucas, Christal Bell-Rivera, Ronnie Rivera
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Wine a Little, Dine a Lot Charity Dinner

Capstone Adaptive Learning & Therapy Centers hosted their annual “Wine a Little, Dine a Lot” charity dinner on August 25, at the Sanders Beach-Corinne Jones Resource Center. This exciting event entailed a wonderful dinner prepared by local celebrity chef Gus Silivos and expertly picked wine pairings. The wine dinner was accompanied by a silent auction and culminated in a live auction.

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Photos by Toni Sparks Rick & Grace Byers, David & Susan Peaden, Jennifer Simon, Wes Hudgens
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Mary Anderson, Alicia Ahern, Dana Anderson, Kathy Williamson Brandi Johnson, Stephanie Sasser, Cori Riesberg Jody & Kevin King Lance & Lorie Howerton, Kelly & Joe Campbell Jack Ettelson, Olivia Parkhill Ashley & Alex Monti
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Vanessa Naquin, Denise McCoy, Karen Goldsmith Rick & Grace Byers Rica Rogers, April Davidson Courtney & Will Campbell Kevin & Lina Stephens Elena & Wadih El Khoury Janelle Bricker, Carla Ziglioli Hong Potomski, Becky Merlin Quachelle Hestle, Toni Washington
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The thing with feathers her perspective

I write about hope. I try to write about other things – I even start out writing about other things, but, alas, I always end up writing about hope.

I didn’t start out particularly Pollyanna-ish. I’m a worrier and an over-thinker – two regrettable qualities that can cloud even the sunniest of outlooks. But I am also naturally inquisitive and creative.

My mind is a rambunctious toddler most days – not without its charms and very curious –but exhaustingly tangential and needy.

But there is hope for me, and that hope lies in hope itself. I have trained myself to be constantly on the lookout for encouragement. Walt Whitman wrote, “The sidewalk is littered with postcards from God.” I’m sure the beach is too. And the mountains. And your own backyard.

Why, just this morning, the sky came addressed specifically to me. I have been walking the beach most mornings at dawn for nearly a decade, and the variety from day to day still astonishes me. Some mornings, the sun blazes into the sky like an explosion, spraying hallelujah-chorus-sunbeams heavenward and beyond. Other days it is a perfect pink orb pressing slowly up into blue. And some mornings, like today, the light is fleeting and dear. The sun rose into a low mattress of clouds, offering only a sliver of radiance along the horizon before it disappeared into the gray.

The rest of the day has been overcast and stormy, but that first light was glorious, and I was there to revel in that ephemeral ribbon of light before it was devoured by clouds. Sometimes a sliver is all you get.

My cat knows this. Every evening she finds the final sunbeam that flows through the west-facing window onto the green chair. There she sits in the last lambent light, purring like a Kawasaki.

I am learning – from my cat and other hopeful beings –to seek out that sliver of comforting light, however subtle, however ephemeral. It’s more than simply noticing the “silver linings” in my metaphorical rain clouds. It’s more assertive than that. It’s an active positioning of myself to be in the way of fortuity – no matter how quotidian it may seem in the

moment, no matter how early I must rise. Like my cat, I have to move with the light.

Even when the light is hard to find. Especially then.

A few years ago, grief blinded me; I wrote in my journal on July 23, 2012, that the stars went out. My precious niece, my friend, one of the brightest stars in my cosmos, died suddenly in a freak accident. She was 27. I had never felt such anguish. Just a few weeks later my best friend was discovered dead in the back of a taxi.

Grief turned to despair – which, by definition, is the loss of hope. Insomnia drove me to the beach by my house at dawn where, eventually, I began to notice those postcards fluttering in the morning breeze, washing up on the incoming tide, floating on the rays of the rising sun. I reached for one, then another. I began sharing their messages with others in a column I write for the beach newspaper. Others began sharing their messages of hope with me.

I listen carefully to those messages. I know how hard-won they can be. Often, in order to find hope, you must first have suffered from its absence, to have plummeted into despair. I admire and learn from those “hopeful beings” who find that subtle ray of light on the green chair under the window at dusk, the slender sliver of light at the horizon before the storm.

Last year, one of my dearest friends called me with “good news.” My heart leaped. She had just been diagnosed with cancer – for the third time. Of course, I wanted to hear that the tests had been wrong, that there was no cancer. But her “good news” was even more impactful than that.

“I only have to have a double mastectomy, no chemo,” she said.

Only a double mastectomy. Talk about finding the sliver. Wow.

I don’t know if hope can be stockpiled, but, just in case, I am amassing as much of it as I can. I place myself on the beach at dawn. I surround myself with people who laugh a lot. I’m even making a conscious effort to slant my screen time toward humor, positivity and beauty. No more watching “Very Scary People” on HLN. No more lurking on social media rants. I’ve got better things to do.

I’ve got hope to gather. It’s everywhere, y’all.

Sometimes it’s a blazing sunrise and it rocks your soul. Sometimes it’s not.

Sometimes a sliver is all you get.

And it is enough.

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Sharla Dawn Gorder is a Pensacola Beach resident and columnist for the Island Times newspaper. She is the author of “My Vices Collide; a Celebration of Being a Little Messed Up,” and is currently working on her next book, tentatively titled, “Crayon Dawn.”
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Did she jump or was she pushed? her perspective

Recently I cheated on the YMCA and took a free trial class at a more cutting-edge, high-tech gym. I followed all the commands and did all the exercises just like the robot on the video, but I was kind of embarrassed that my heart rate was the lowest on the brag screen. I could barely stay in the green zone, and only got to the red zone twice. The handsome young instructor assessed my results and stated, “I noticed that you really don’t push yourself – it’s like you’re saving your energy, not expending it 100%. You could burn way more calories if you pushed yourself.”

Amen, brother, you just summed up my life.

I still play competitive tennis at my age for this very reason. On a hot summer day, sometimes I open the door to get the mail and the heat hits me like a brick, so I close the door and decide to get the mail later. But on that same hot summer day, if I’m playing a doubles match, I will sprint like my life depends on it to get to a drop shot or a lob over my partner’s head. More than I hate to lose, I hate letting my partner or my team down. That’s the push I need to exert extreme energy. I just can’t duplicate that in a gym. Once, during a lesson, my favorite tennis pro, Bruce Caton, spoke these words of wisdom, “Don’t smash an overhead or hit a power stroke when you can dink a short angle to the open court. Don’t waste your energy trying to look cool – just win the point.”

I try to live by his advice.

I hate to run but I did not know this about myself in high school, so I joined the track team. I ran the hurdles, mostly because the jumping distracted me from the fact that I was running. I liked the 100-meter hurdle race because it was over in less than 20 seconds. But I placed more often in the 300-meter race because, you guessed it, I like to conserve energy and not exert myself. So, the fast girls who blew by me in the 100-meter race would run out of steam in the longer race, and I had a chance to get ahead.

I suppose that’s why I’m in two book clubs. My daughter cringes at my messy book table – countless half-read books in multiple stacks. I’m really good at starting a book, just not skilled at finishing. Most of the time, the only books I finish reading each month are the ones we will be discussing at book club. God forbid I be that girl who just shows up for the wine. I will finish that book even if I have to stay up all night. Book clubbing pushes me to read even if I don’t love the book or am extremely busy. Sadly, I have passed my “exert the least amount of effort possible” gene on to my children. They are all smart and capable of making A’s, but the four of them competed in the lowest-effort-possible-to-earn-an-A contest every semester. If a 90 is a 4.0, why try for a 100? If you’re ranked 10th in the class, you still get a medal that says Top Ten. I remember one of them delighting in his 89.7 A. I think I remember one of them saying to me, “We may be nerds, Mom, but at least we’re not overachievers.”

Before I got this gig, I never dreamed of being a writer. I’m not one to jump – a friend pushed me, and I’ve been tiptoeing toward the deep end ever since. Having a deadline and a team depending on me pushes me to spill words onto the page even when life gets in the way. Without a deadline and dear readers who motivate me with their kind words, I’d conserve my energy for something else. Or piddle all day, I’m very good at piddling. This quote from David Bowie sums it up for me:

“If you feel safe in the area that you’re working in, you’re not working in the right area. Always go a little further in the water than you feel you’re capable of being in. Go a little bit out of your depth and when you don’t feel that your feet are quite touching the bottom, you’re just about in the right place to do something exciting.”

What about you? Are you self-motivated? Do you jump off the high dive of life? Or, like me, do you need to be pushed?

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Liz Biggs is a Pensacola native and mother of four. Once upon a time, she had a high-pressure career but now she has a pension and is a freelance writer for Bella Magazine. Liz enjoys music, dancing, tennis and travel and tries to find humor in everything.

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