Bengüce Mutluluk

What is HAPPINESS?

Before changing the world we need make a couple of changes in ourselves. We can start this from making the people around us happy. Be empathic and just watch their happiness. You will realize their smile. Don’t forget to make sure your intentions are good; you are looking at the right direction when you are alone and love.

:) Happiness is finding the serenity. Be restful. Leave your dominant, vulnerable and pitiful side. It is your choice to look at the situations from a positive perspective, look at the full side of the world. Smiling will make you happy and will also affect other people’s energy positively. Increase your capacity of loving. Do not look for a reason to love something or someone, and don’t have any expectations. - Don’t look for excuses: Biggest enemy of reaching to success is finding excuses. Complaints around our environment, economical situation, family and friends are viruses that keep you away from success. Instead of finding excuses we need to find solutions. We need to set a goal, make a decision and more importantly you need to believe that you can be successful. You also need to make sacrifices that will follow. The key to success is effort. You need to sleep less and work harder. - Don’t be selfish: Everyone is a little bit selfish. Selfishness is one of the basic motives in today’s world where competition rules. If we replace having the best and charming instead of sharing and cooperation we will feel better, feel joy and happiness since we will socialize faster. Selfish person put own self in the centre of everything. Thinks everything and all the circumstances needs to shape according to him but is wrong. This is nothing but being alone. Selfish person puts his friends and family’s wishes, happiness and likes to a side. Because other people’s happiness, sadness or wishes are not important at all. Day by day, this tunes to an obnoxious situation. Many marriages, friendships and partnerships, family relations, relations with relatives come to an end because of narcissism and egoism of selfish people. Bernice Peers quotes “The egotist always hurts the one he loves-himself”

- Do not want everything as it is the only condition of happiness: Because wishes never come to an end. Human being is insatiate and since the first day of existence asked for more. If you want things that you cannot have, you become unhappy. This is not good for your inner peace. You can think that you would be the happiest person on earth once you have everything you wanted. This will not take long and right away you will ask for more. Asking and having is not only conditions of happiness. This only block outs your need for happiness for a short time. ağır basacaktır. Mutluluğun tek koşulu istemek ve elde etmek değildir. Bu sadece kısa süreli mutluluk ihtiyacınızı bastırmaktır.

- Be yourself: Don’t act and fake. If you are original it is easier to be objective. Get to know yourself and don’t alienate yourself from your own self. Make sure all your behaviours are like yourself like when you are smiling and crying. Of course everyone needs to improve his nature but roles we pick up makes us fall apart from others, situations and more importantly from you your ego. People exist with their emotions, decisions and success. If a person acts different that his real self he cannot be mature, be noticeable and becomes just like a manufactured product. Never separate from your own nature. Because the essence you hide has the solution for everything including happiness.

I am one of the people who believe that angels hide happiness inside of us. Don’t look for happiness everywhere, in politics, in the jungle or between the waves, in the wine glass or in the power of money. If you want to find the happiness and find the answer for real happiness you don’t need to go far. You are the happiness and pleasure to waking up to a new morning.

Before changing the world we need make a couple of changes in ourselves. We can start this from making the people around us happy. Be empathic and just watch their happiness. You will realize their smile. Don’t forget to make sure your intentions are good; you are looking at the right direction when you are alone and love.

Once we put our heart and emotions in parallel to our brain and use it correctly, we can live happily and with quality.

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