Adoptions Doubts and How to Address Them Doubt is a feeling that we all experience at some point or another. Whether it is doubt about something small like a purchase or a life event like marriage, doubt often finds it way into our hearts and makes us question our decisions.
The adoption world is full of doubt as well. Parents, both prospective and adoptive, have experienced doubt about adoption for a variety of reasons. Doubt can be crippling, and some parents don’t know what to do about it. To help with doubt, here are three items for your reflection: Doubt is Normal Whenever a big, life-changing decision is to be made, doubt should be expected. Adoption will forever change the lives of the parents, the child, and all those involved in
their lives. It is only natural that some prospective parents interested in adoption would have doubts. If there is doubt about the adoption process and your ability to be good parents, do not fret over it. The last thing prospective parents should do is make a decision based on doubt without actually reflecting on it. Doubt Can Be Good When you are unsure of adoption and growing your family, you start to think about the pros and cons of adding that child into your lives. This can actually be a good thing as you begin to reflect even more about adoption and your desire to raise a child. When someone doubts, they tend to start listing reasons why they should or should not go through with a decision. This type of reflection, especially with their spouse, can lead to true and real discussions about adoption, parenthood, and family. With good discussion, prospective parents will be empowered to make the right decision.
Doubt Can Linger For some, doubt does not simply go away even after the adoption. There are many times when some parents will still question whether or not they should have adopted their child. While they love their child, the doubt still creeps up. Many parents will truly begin to feel that they made a mistake if the doubt is still there, and some will question their ability to be good parents.
Much like how scared a child can be once they are adopted, it is fine to be anxious or doubtful once the child is in your home. Much like for the frightened child in a new home, it takes patience, love, and kindness for the negative emotions to go away and for hearts to truly become open.
It is natural to wonder if adoption is the best decision for your family. This wondering is actually good for the adoption process, as it will really make prospective parents sit down and think deeply about what they want in life and for their family. Deep reflection and patience will help combat doubt and lead prospective parents to make the best decision for their family. About Action Adoption at Providence Place: Adopting a child is an important decision that requires careful consideration. Are you contemplating adoption, or are you already planning to adopt a child? Do you have any idea about how or where to start? Action Adoption at Providence Place of San Antonio, Texas will guide you through the adoption process while making sure all your questions are answered. Contact them today to learn more about adoption and ways to get involved with our organization.