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Milestones

BY MICHAEL AARON

If you’ve

been within 50 feet of me or stalked me on Facebook for longer than 10 seconds, you likely know that QSaltLake Magazine is celebrating its 15th anniversary and 300th issue with the magazine you are holding in your hands right now. It’s a milestone of which we are proud, and it got me thinking. Is this issue any more important simply because it has a number with a few zeros in it? Like birthdays and anniversaries, we tend to celebrate those with fives or zeros at the end of the number more than others.

Milestones are important, though. They help measure your success in increments. We tend not to celebrate each day we woke up (though it is arguable that we should), but we do celebrate when we make it around the Sun one more time. While on a road trip, I watch for mile markers like 100, 200 and 300 so I know that I’m that much closer to exit 309 that drops me close to home.

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This year, our movement is celebrating a milestone, as it was 50 years ago this June when a riot took place as queer folk stood up to police and said, “That is enough.” Stonewall is looked on as the birth of Pride, even though our struggles were organized for many years before the event.

As I hear people say that our fight for civil rights was won in such a “short amount of time,” I remind people that 50 years is a long fight. This wasn’t won in the last five or ten years. It was won after decades of blood, sweat and tears by many, many people.

This 50-year marker doesn’t mean we’ve reached our exit. Anyone who reads the news sees how precarious our civil rights and acceptance are.

As other civil rights movements show, this is an ongoing battle.

So let’s celebrate this milestone and keep on driving towards the next.

Happy Pride. Q

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news The top national and world news since last issue you should know Mayor Pete and Chasten on ‘TIME’ cover TIME magazine featured presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg and husband, Chasten, on a cover with the headline, “First Family.” The article reveals the division of labor in the marriage. Mayor Pete does the dishes and laundry and takes out the garbage. Chasten takes care of the dogs, the kitchen and shopping. It remains a mystery as to how this prompts anti-gay advocate, Bryan Fischer, to say it doesn’t matter if Mayor Pete is a “Top or a bottom, he’s not getting into heaven.”

Conscience Rule for medical altered The Department of Health and Human Services today announced its final “conscience rule” excusing health care

personnel from participating in procedures to which they have religious or moral objections. This may affect those seeking gender-confirmation procedures or HIV treatment and prevention services. It will have a major effect on women seeking contraception or abortion. This changes a 2011 HHS Rule which made it difficult for medical providers to use religious reasons for service denial. The City of San Francisco announced it will sue HHS to block the rule from going into effect.

with someone other than their partner. Tennessee adoption Tennessee lawmakers will not consider a proposal allowing faith-based adoption agencies to refuse to place children with lesbian or gay parents, this year. The sponsor asked for the proposal to be taken up next legislative session — essentially killing it for the year. There was no debate or explanation of why the bill was withdrawn. It joins other anti-gay and lesbian legislative bills which have been defeated or withdrawn.

Serodifferent study Good news from a European study of nearly 1,000 male couples, where one partner with HIV was taking antiretroviral therapy to suppress the virus.

Data shows there were no new cases of transmission to the HIV-negative partner during sex without a condom. The results are the same for gay men as for heterosexual couples, the risk of HIV transmission when HIV viral load is suppressed is effectively zero for both anal and vaginal sex. Not surprising, 15 men were infected with HIV over the course of the eight-year study but that was a result of sexual relationships

are unhappy because the coin suggests credit for equality should be given to “the Canadian government — specifically … former prime minister Pierre Elliott Trudeau.” Mint president Marie Lemay tried to make lemonade out of lemons, saying the design was “inspirational” and, “I see this morning it already has and spurred reflection on 50 years of progress while acknowledging … that the journey towards full equality for Canadians of all genders, identities, and sexual orientations was hard fought and is not yet over.”

Methodist novitiates say no

Canada Equality loon decried Canada isn’t pleasing anyone with a new $1 ‘Equality coin’ commemorating the 50th anniversary of the decriminalization of homosexuality. Some LGBTQ activists are unhappy because they say equality was not achieved in 1969 and has not yet been achieved. Others

Just say no to inequality. An entire confirmation class at First United Methodist Church in Omaha announced they have decided not to become members due to the church’s stance against marriage equality and gay or lesbian clergy. The mostly teenage class said in a letter, “We want to be clear that, while we love our congregation, we believe that the United Methodist policies on LGBTQ+ clergy and same-sex marriage are immoral.” The church’s decision is spurring rebellion at Methodist churches nationwide.

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The gay cure is in Kuwait In Kuwait, a college professor claimed that she has found a cure for homosexuality. It’s a suppository that will kill what she calls a “sperm-eating anal worm that facilitates excessive sexual urges.” Dr. Mariam Al-Sohel in a TV interview said, “This is science, so there is nothing to be ashamed of. The sexual urge develops when a person is sexually attacked, and afterward it persists because there is an anal worm that feeds on semen.” Whew, can’t make this stuff up.

Doc accused of unwanted rectal exams A University of Southern California doctor is accused by 39 students of sexual misconduct. In what is reminiscent of a night in a 1980s gay bar full of willing participants, they complain he subjected them to invasive questions about their sexual preferences and gave them unwanted prostate exams. He seemed to target gay or bisexual students after learning of their sexual orientation. He asked questions about each student’s sexual partners, if they were into “twinks” or older men, their preferred sexual practices and positions, and if they ever used sex toys. The suit also alleges the doctor would perform rectal examinations without wearing gloves and fondle patient’s genitals. He told one plaintiff that anal penetration was a “normal sexual activity” that “people do for pleasure.” The students are suing USC for allowing the doctor to practice for 20 years without taking action.

Tumblr may again become a nice place to see men’s angry junk and other porno if a proposal by Pornhub to buy it from the puritanical Verizon, which acquired it in 2017, goes through. Shortly after the acquisition, Tumblr ceased linking to naughty content.

Pornhub, reportedly the single most-visited internet site in the US, is very interested and, not surprisingly, has a goal of removing the ban and freeing users to post sexually explicit images and videos. Verizon’s action was decried by advocates as hurting the gay and lesbian community by “Taking away a vital social component to a community that is bound together by their sexual orientation and sexual desire.

Without social media that allows this kind of exploration, we are losing a lot.” No word from advocates from the Down Low community.

twitter outrage mob, tried to get Patrick to walk the phrase back, saying, “Now Dan, you just meant not consequential, correct? You didn’t mean any pejorative.” Patrick replied, “Yeah. Yeah. You know, he flaps his arms around a lot.

He’s a lightweight.”

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online petition with 14,000 signatures was produced and the Irish government acted.

For the record, Anderson has been banned from The Netherlands, Jamaica, South Africa, the United Kingdom, Botswana, and Canada.

No Conga, so Cubans parade Pride Cuban State-run National Center for Sex Education canceled its 12th annual CONGA against homophobia — a government approved gay pride equivalent. So rights activists held an unauthorized pride parade in Havana. The Communist government said it was subversive, which is what Pride Parades in the US used to be. In an island paradise which looks like it was designed to make men gay, a hundred Cubans chanting “long live a diverse Cuba” and carrying rainbow flags marched from Havana’s Central Park down to the seafront boulevard before being stopped by security officials.

There were arrests and the crowd dispersed. Officials said the event would undermine the government and the US was accused of organizing the parade to promote the fall of the Cuban-supported Venezuela Maduro regime.

Dog, Whistles

No luck with the Irish

One of the most anti-gay politicians in the country, Texas Lt. Gov.Dan Patrick, pretended he didn’t whistle at his homophobic pack while being interviewed by the execrable Laura Ingraham on her nightly televised screed. In discussing former Texas Member of Congress and presidential candidate, Robert Francis “Beto” O’Rourke, Patrick said Beto is, “So light in the loafers he floats off the ground at times.”

Ingraham, sensing bait for the

A pastor who praised the Orlando Pulse massacre, saying there are “50 less pedophiles in the world,” has compared gays (he says “filthy faggots”) to ax murderers, and prayed for the death of President Obama, thought Ireland’s green acres was the place he’d rather be. The Irish government said the US is the place for you and pastor Steven Anderson was banned from entering Ireland. He was due to preach in Dublin but an

The Met and Camp don’t mix “Camp is esoteric. To talk about Camp is therefore to betray it,” Susan Sontag wrote in her 1964 essay, “Notes on Camp.” The Metropolitan Museum of Art betrayed Camp horribly in NYC at the annual Anna Wintour organized fundraiser for the Costume Collection. The attendees showed that most people shouldn’t even be allowed to think Camp, let alone, portray it. The Met wanted Camp and got kitsch. Instead of the time-honored Camp costume typified by drag performers, it got pretty pale models and actresses wearing chandelier headdresses and other silly dreck. Even RuPaul decided not to do Camp, saying he dressed for comfort and being in drag is painful. He wore a subdued hot pink and black zebra-striped tuxedo. The Twitter mob jumped on Freddie Mercury actor, Rami Malek, for wearing a black tux and not attempting a Camp look. “Rami Malek should have to give back his Freddie Mercury Oscar” tweeted one critic who should be sent home from Camp. Q

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Equality Act passes U.S. House The Equality Act, sponsored in Congress by Rep. David Cicilline (D-RI) and Brian Fitzpatrick (R-PA) and in the Senate by Sens. Jeff Merkley (D-OR), Susan Collins (R-ME), Tammy Baldwin (D-WI), and Cory Booker (D-NJ) passed the House of Representatives.

The act does many things but generally adds “sexual orientation and gender identity” to the 1964 Civil Rights act. Its fate is iffy in the Senate.

The usual suspects surfaced to criticize the bill; Pat Robertson said passage would ruin “the sanctity of America. If you want to bring the judgment of God on this nation, you just keep this stuff up,” he said. He brought up the Biblical Book of Leviticus as evidence. He was silent on stoning insolent teenagers and those mixing polyester and cotton also prescribed in Leviticus.

A group organized by African American pastors, Gone 2 Far Movement, criticized the Congressional Black Caucus for backing the Act. Their statement suggests the Act

will set back minority rights.

The CBC, “have determined to vote in favor of trivializing the historical suffering of Blacks as akin to a sexual desire,” said the pastors.

An interfaith coalition of over 70 Washington DC religious leaders, organized by an African American leader in the Unitarian Church, has announced support of the measure at a Capitol Hill rally. “As people of faith, we are preaching people of all gender identities and gender expressions deserve federal protections against discrimination.”

Jessie Tyler Ferguson joined a growing chorus of celebs in pushing for passage of the Equality Act. The Modern Family star and his husband, Justin Mikita, made a video for the Human Rights Campaign. Ferguson used his home state of New Mexico, which has a non-discrimination law and next door Arizona which doesn’t, as an example, “No one’s rights should be determined by what side of the state line they’re on.”

Taiwan first in Asia for Marriage Equality-‘lite’ It took a court ruling and a contentious fight over an anti-marriage referendum but marriage equality was approved for Taiwan. Almost.

The law allows for registration outside the “civil code,” which is reserved for hetero-marriage. The 66–27 vote recognizes same-sex marriages and gives couples many of the tax, insurance and child custody benefits available to male-female married couples.

Taiwan’s high court ruled on May 24, 2017, that barring marriage equality is unconstitutional and gave the legislature two years to pass a law or same-sex marriage would be

legalized automatically. A public referendum in November 2018 voted to deny same-sex couples full marriage rights.

Taiwan’s ruling Democratic Progressive Party submitted legislation complying with both the court ruling and the referendum. Lin Tai-Hua, the legislation sponsor, said the law represents a major step forward. “But we will keep on fighting for full marriage rights.” Taiwan is the first Asian country to recognize same-sex marriage rights.

Thailand has allowed registration of civil unions for some time, China says not only no, but Hell No.

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LDS Church opposes Equality Act The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints opposes a national nondiscrimination bill making its way through Congress, saying it would remove religious freedom protections. In a statement, church leaders wrote that the Equality Act lacks balance and does not meet the “standard of fairness for all.” The bill has passed the House, but is likely to stall in the U.S. Senate.

“The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is deeply concerned that the ongoing conflicts between religious liberty and LGBT rights are poisoning our civil discourse, eroding the free exercise of religion and preventing diverse Americans of good will from living together in respect and peace,” church leaders wrote in a statement. “Lawmakers across the nation, including members of Congress, are working to enact or strengthen laws that ensure LGBT persons fair access to important rights, such as nondiscrimination in areas like housing, employment, and appropriate public accommodations. The Church is on record favoring reasonable measures that secure such rights.”

“At the same time, we urgently need laws that protect the rights of individuals and faith communities to freely gather, speak out publicly, serve faithfully and live openly according to their religious beliefs without discrimination or retaliation, even when those beliefs may be unpopular. This includes the right of religious organizations and religious schools to establish faith-based employment and admissions standards and to preserve the religious nature of their activities and properties,” the statement continued.

“Conflicts between rights are common and nothing new. When conflicts arise between religious freedom and LGBT rights, the Church advocates a balanced ‘fairness for all’ approach that protects the most important rights for everyone while seeking reasonable, respectful compromises in areas of conflict. The Church affirms this as the best way to overcome sharp divisions over these issues. The Church supported the 2015 ‘fairness for all’ legislation in the Utah Legislature that successfully protected both religious freedom and LGBT rights in employment and housing and that has helped facilitate greater understanding and respect.

“While providing extremely broad protections for LGBT rights, the Equality Act provides no protections for religious free-

dom. It would instead repeal long-standing religious rights under the federal Religious Freedom Restoration Act, threaten religious employment standards, devastate religious education, defund numerous religious charities and impose secular standards on religious activities and properties. The Church joins other religious organizations that also strongly oppose the Equality Act as unbalanced, fundamentally unfair and a path to further conflict.”

The Southern Baptist Convention, the Roman Catholic Church, and other religious organizations oppose the measure.

The bill seeks to add “gender identity

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and sexual orientation” to existing federal nondiscrimination laws covering such things as employment, housing, education, and public spaces and services. It has widespread Democratic support and passed the U.S. House, but faces serious opposition in the Republican-controlled Senate.

Both Utah senators Mitt Romney and Mike Lee, who are both members of the LDS Church and Republicans, oppose the legislation.

Lee released a statement calling the bill “seriously flawed” and that it would “dangerously undermine the First Amendment and the freedoms it was designed to protect.” Romney has told media outlets that the bill doesn’t contain “essential” strong religious liberty protections. Q

Rep. Curtis speaks against Equality Act Rep. John Curtis, R-Utah, spoke on the House floor Thursday to express his concerns with what he calls the “lack of balance” in the “Equality Act” between the absolute rights of both LGBTQ individuals as human beings and religious institutions protected by the first amendment.

Curtis also explained his frustration that no consideration of amendments was allowed. He says he considers himself a “willing partner” who has introduced what he sees as common sense amendments that would help achieve a balance of protection for both interests and maintain the standards set by the Religious Freedom Restoration Act. The bill is widely expected to easily pass the Democratic-held House but is expected to fail in the Republican-controlled Senate.

Curtis started his speech by saying he respects the LGBTQ community.

“First and foremost, I must begin by saying that I believe the LGBTQ community is a critical part of the fabric of our country. They are deserving of our unequivocal love and respect, and their contributions to my home state of Utah are utterly invaluable,” he said. “As the mayor of Provo, I prioritized inclusion and love, and sought to ensure my administration did everything possible to recognize the intrinsic value of all our citizens, including our LGBTQ community.

I fought hard against discrimination and was grateful for my association with organizations like Provo Pride, Equality Utah,

Encircle, and others who I was honored to stand with to ensure our policies in City Hall reflected the love in our hearts.”

“With the Equality Act, we face a unique challenge of balancing needed protections for the LGBTQ community with the importance of protecting religious liberty — one of the fundamental rights enshrined at the founding of our nation,” Curtis continued. “I believe this compromise is possible because I’ve seen it before in my home state with something called the ‘Utah compromise,’ — historic legislation that effectively balanced the absolute rights of both LGBTQ individuals as human beings, and religious institutions protected by the first amendment.

“The Equality Act fails to strike that balance,” he asserted. “Instead, these two interests are treated as a zero-sum game and no good faith effort has been put forth to allow both sides to win. This bill would end long-standing religious liberties under the Religious Freedom Restoration Act, a historic bipartisan legislative victory fought for by the current Democratic leader in the Senate, Chuck Schumer, my own Utah mentor Orrin Hatch, a Republican, and liberal lion Ted Kennedy. It was also signed into law by Democrat President Bill Clinton.”

“I’m frustrated that House Democrat leaders have decided there will not be any consideration or even debate of amendments on the Equality Act. Instead, they have established a model of legislative gas-lighting.” Q

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LGBTQ-Autism Utah will be part of the Utah Pride Festival for first time. Author will speak.

LGBTQ-Autism Utah will be part of the Utah Pride Festival for first time. The three founders of the new project are honored to announce its inclusion with the upcoming Utah Pride Festival on Saturday and Sunday, June 1-2, 2019, at Washington Square.

The decision for this first-time inclusion in the festival could have spawned from late last year’s LGBTQ-autism Training Exchange that set out to bridge the gap between the two communities: LGBT and autism spectrum disorder. The University of Utah Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinic partnered with the Utah Pride Center to host a day of training between the communities.

ASD characterizes as difficulty with social interaction and communication as well as restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior. Recent research has shown a disproportionate number of individuals are both LGBTQ and autistic. While not all LGBTQ or autistic individuals comprise this new community, it is among the

largest groups within the overall LGBTQ community.

David Nelson, who has been an LGBTQ activist and lobbyist in Utah, California and Washington, D.C., for more than 37 years, was diagnosed with ASD at the University of Utah Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinic in 2015. His work involved creating and directing new LGBTQ organizations, many of which remain mainstays in the Utah and national LGBTQ communities.

His work has involved local, state and federal government agencies. When he learned of the disproportionate number of LGBTQ autists, he reached out to Jimmy Lee and Dr. Kristina Feldman to share abilities and interests in creating a new community. Together, they are launching the LGBTQ-Autism Utah project at the 2019 Utah Pride Festival.

While participating in the Pride Festival, autists will have a safe, quiet space to go to as needed. They may gather throughout the festival hours at the cafe inside the Leonardo Museum, which is located across

the street from the Festival grounds.

Also, Grant Hamilton, author of the ‘Heroes of Karth’ series, which weaves themes of family, LGBTQ, autism, tolerance, and racism throughout a fantasy setting, will speak during the festival.

Grant’s lecture will expand on his experiences as a new author in the fantasy genre and how his life experiences have informed his writing. Growing up in a small town in Quebec, Grant was exposed to intolerance in many forms. Essentially, anyone who was “different” in that type of rural setting had a difficult life and as a child, when that’s all they saw around them every day.

His son with autism was bullied in school and he experienced his pain and frustration, seeing him realize that he wasn’t the same as everyone else but not understanding why. This experience hurt Grant to his soul. It solidified in his mind that he had to do something, and it had to be more than just donate money.

Grant Hamilton’s presentation takes place Sunday, June 2, 1:30–2:30 p.m., in the Nancy Tessman Auditorium, Salt Lake City Public Library, 210 E. 400 South. Q

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BYU VALEDICTORIAN TO HIS GRADUATING CLASS:

‘I AM PROUD TO BE A GAY SON OF GOD’

BY MICHAEL AARON

A few weeks

ago, Brigham Young University student Matt Easton had told but a handful of people — very close friends and immediate family — that he is gay. Today, he’s taking calls from media around the world, getting high-fives from national celebrities, and taking time to talk to me at QSaltLake Magazine. As valedictorian of BYU’s Department of Political Science, Easton spoke to a full Marriott Center for the convocation of BYU’s Family, Home and Social Sciences College. But it was the words “I am proud to be a gay son of God” during the speech that caught the world’s attention.

“It has been a whirlwind,” Easton said of the phone calls and social media posts he has received since the speech.

Easton began his speech congratulating those who had “tackled” challenges while attending BYU. “I’d like to begin by saying congratulations. Congratulations to each of you for making it here; for pushing through an incredibly difficult, rigorous, and impressive degree at BYU. Congratulations to those that seriously considered dropping out but stuck with it,” Easton started his speech. “Congratulations to those who at some point have felt alone, or afraid, or uncertain while here. To those of us who have struggled with our faith, and to those who have strengthen it. Congratulations to my siblings of color, my LGBTQ friends. To students who are walking with mental illness. To all those who have constantly have stood in the face of adversity to make our campus better for future generations. You are seen,

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you are loved. And today you are here to celebrate.”

What Easton didn’t know was that the reaction to him saying “LGBTQ friends,” was a whoop and applause from the crowd that would stop his speech.

“I wasn’t really expecting any sort of response,” Easton said. “For me it was important to say these things, for me and the other gay kids, I needed to do this.”

“It was very overwhelming to me, in the best way possible,” he said.

“For me, I am celebrating a few of my own personal victories,” Easton continued in his speech. He regaled a story about being knocked to the ground as he was walking to class ... by a deer, then becoming known in the school as “The Deer Boy.” “But I’d like to tell that deer that it didn’t get the best of me. I’m still here and I’m still hungry for venison.”

He then talked of his mother being diagnosed with terminal cancer and the family’s victory that she was in the audience to watch his speech.

“We don’t know what awaits us, or her, but we are learning to celebrate the time we have left.

Easton told the Book of Mormon story of Enos and his battle before God in prayer, then shared his own battles “in prayer with my Maker.”

“It was in these quiet moments of pain and confusion that I have felt another triumph, that of coming to terms, not with who I thought I should be, but who the Lord has made me to be.

“As such, I stand before my family, friends, and graduating class today to say that I am proud to be a gay son of God.” The audience once again erupted in screams and applause and some who stood.

“I am not broken. I am loved and important in the plan of our great Creator.

Each of us are,” he said.

“Four years ago, it would have been impossible for me to imagine that I would come out to my entire college,” Matt said. “It is a phenomenal feeling, and is a victory for me in and of itself.”

He then turned his attention to others in the audience who may be traveling the same path.

“Perhaps there are those of you here today who are afraid or uncertain about how to deal with unique challenges.

I hope that my stories can serve as a reminder the BYU has given us the foundation to face difficult problems, both

secular and spiritual, and that in the Lord, all things are possible.”

Celebrate Your Pride!

The coming out process As a young man, Easton thought he knew he was gay, but “pushed it to the back of [his] mind.”

“I said to myself that I’ve got to get through high school and my mission, so I’m not going to think about it,” he said in an interview. “But when I got to college, people started asking me, ‘who are you dating?’ ‘when are you going to get married?’ ‘how many kids are you going to have?’” he said. “These were questions I couldn’t dodge any more. As I laid in bed thinking about these things, I just decided I couldn’t hide anymore.”

“But I was in an environment where thinking about those things and vocalizing them, there’s not really space to do that,” he said. “It was only two years ago that I came out to my parents. Their first concern was, ‘are you in jeopardy at BYU?’ They were very supportive and advised me to be very careful.”

He found a group of friends at the college who would listen and not “pressure me in one way or anther. Then slowly, in just the past year, I began to come out to my closest family members and friends.

I had written about it in class, so I guess some of my professors knew.”

Then, a few weeks ago hundreds of students protested on campus about how BYU enforces its honor code.

“Almost on a whim, I think I channeled Henry David Thoreau or something and I made a poster that said, ‘I’m here, I’m queer and I deserve to feel safe.’”

The Salt Lake Tribune snapped a shot of Easton waving the banner and put it on its website.

“That was my first taste of what it would be like to be open. It was equal parts terrifying, and incredible. It was this juxtaposition of being so totally vulnerable and afraid, and feeling so totally liberated.”

“So I kind of came to this thought where I’m graduating in three weeks, I’m starting this new chapter in my life, and I’m so, so afraid I’m going to keep hiding in this closet,” he said. “So I think that’s where the idea first sparked in my head.

I wanted to take any opportunity I can to be really true to myself and put myself out there.”

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“So when I got offered the chance to speak at graduation, I thought this might be a good chance to come out in a way I can’t take back,� he said. “I saw my own struggle and those of my fellow classmates and I thought it would be great to take this platform and tell people that we are here, and we’re not pariahs, that we can have value and do meaningful work and be gay.�

School approval It may surprise many to know that Easton’s speech, in its entirety, was approved by the deans of the Political Science department. “I put my name in as one of the eight or so valedictorians in the department who wanted to speak and was chosen,�

Easton explains. “So they sent me an email with the guidelines of the speech, like the theme of celebration for all, like remember to write your speech as if a general authority was present, and your speech needs to be approved two weeks before.� “I wrote the speech being very inspired

by Ellen [Degeneres]’ commencement speech, by Pete Buttigieg’s speech, Charlie Bird the Cosmo Cougar mascot who just came out. I went through a lot of role models,� he said. “I kind of had it in the back of my mind that it might be flagged as too controversial or maybe not appropriate for the graduation ceremony.

So I thought I’d just throw it to them and see what they’d think.� “To my surprise, they emailed me back saying, ‘This is great. It’s right in line with

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what we are wanting to say, so go for it,’� Easton said. “At that point I was so in shock that the dean’s office would be okay with giving this speech. I thought, ‘Oh my gosh, now I have to give it.’�

The reaction “So, when I came out on the stand and people started cheering and applauding and some people stood up, I was just taken aback,� he said. “This community that I had so long been afraid of rejecting me, hating me, were now sending me this audible form of love and support.�

He wasn’t quite ready to go to his home ward the following Sunday, so he met up with a number of high school and other friends and went to a singles ward.

His extended family, though, has been incredibly supportive. “We had our normal Sunday dinner with the family, and some of my aunts showed up. We pulled up some of the stories written about me and laughed about them, so it was real nice.� “Everything I’d been so afraid of ... I was afraid my family would look down on me, and they haven’t,� he said.�

The public comments through social media have varied from he went too far to he didn’t go far enough. “Ultimately, though, I’m at peace with what I did and I think it was a very important step.�

The list of celebrities who have congratulated Easton for his speech continues to grow as nearly 200,000 people have viewed it on Youtube.

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Kristin Chenoweth tweeted, “I’m very proud of you. As a straight Christian woman, I stand beside you!! I say to you: YOU ARE LOVED!�

Both Pete and Chasten Buttigieg tweeted their approval, with Chasten saying, “’I am not broken.’ Bravo, Matthew! đ&#x;’Şâ€?

Jamie Lee Curtis wrote, “A valedictorian. A hero of faith and family. A ‘deer’ boy. (watch the clip) a DEAR boy. A good man. Everything we would want in a son, sister, father, mother. Just WOW! #freemomhugs�

Billie Jean King tweeted, “Living an authentic life takes strength and courage.

There’s nothing you can’t accomplish now, Matthew Easton! đ&#x;‘?đ&#x;?łď¸?â€?đ&#x;Œˆ #LoveAllâ€?

Daniel Tosh of Tosh2.0 wrote, “if that out & proud byu valedictorian wants a job at #tosh, i will hire him, sight unseen. he’ll fit right in — we’re probably the only show in hollywood that already has a mormon on staff!� to which Easton replied, “Tell me when I start @danieltosh and I’ll be sure to bring you some @BYU fudge.�

And yes, Ellen DeGeneres with “I’m proud of you, Matty. ��

Pete Buttigieg told BuzzFeed News he looked forward to calling Easton. “I know that kid is going to make it easier for somebody else,� Buttigieg, told BuzzFeed News. “Imagine if you’re a terrified closeted kid in that audience at BYU and what it does for you to have that student lead that way.�

The Future Asked about his future plans on relationships, his church, and his career, Easton says he is taking it one day at a time. “Right now I’m focusing on my relationship with my God and my family and what the next steps are, like will I go for a graduate degree.�

He hopes that, like him looking for examples of mentors and people who inspire him through the way they run their lives, others might hear or read his words and “feel a little less alone.� “I hope my speech can inspire other students,� he said. “I didn’t know there were so many people waiting in the wings to love and support me. When I decided it was time to do that for myself, that’s when I found out they have been here all along.�  Q See the video at youtube.com/watch?v=rLeMVykzvKY

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Summer Sports Masters Swimming, Water Polo, Swim Classes

QUAC

QUAC is Utah’s largest US Masters swimming club with workouts three days a week — Tuesday and Thursday evenings at 7 p.m. and Sunday mornings at 11 a.m.

They have coach-led workouts for beginning to advanced swimmers.

“Everyone is welcome to come as a guest to see if our club matches their needs and interests,” said QUAC President of the Board Kevin McDaniel. “We ask, however, that people who choose to continue working out with us join QUAC as a US Masters swimmer.”

They also offer free adult swimming lessons. The six-week program teaches the basic strokes and water safety to adults who have never learned how to swim. This program is offered through a grant from the US Masters’ Swimming Saves Lives Foundation.

QUAC Water Polo also has practices twice a week through Salt Lake County Parks and Recreation. Practices are at the Northwest Recreation Center and Steiner Aquatic Center. Days and times can be found on their website at quacquac.org.

“QUAC members are participating in the annual International Gay and Lesbian Aquatics Championships in New York City June 23–30,” McDaniel said. “We are excited to represent Utah at the international event.”

The group has also participated in previous Gay Games events, including in Paris last year.

QUAC is a 100 percent volunteer-run organization. If people are interested in financially supporting the club through swimmer or team sponsorships, they can donate to the Val Mansfield Memorial Fund at shop.quacquac.org.

Visitors and new members are welcome throughout the year. For more information, go to quacquac.org or on Facebook at fb.me/quacquac/. They are on Instagram at quac_aquatics and Twitter at @QUACAquaticClub.

Flag Football

Utah Gay Football League The Utah Gay Football League offers co-ed flag football for players 18 years of age or older. Their Spring season started in April

and goes through June 12th. Registration is closed for this season. They will, however, be holding a Fall season with pre-season events starting in late July and the first game being the last Sunday in August and going through mid-November.

Spring season games are Wednesday Evenings at 6:30 p.m. at Sugarhouse Park through July 12. Fall season games will be on Sundays.

Everyone is welcome to come to watch the games. The league is trying to build up their FanZone.

“Our league is really going through a renaissance right now. We grew the league by over 50 percent from last season,” said Kyle Hess, the league commissioner.

“This season we changed our name from Mountain West Flag Football League to Utah Gay Football League to really focus on who we are.”

“We are an LGBT+ organization,” Hess continued. “Our organization is doing some great things with local leadership and people who really know and understand Utah.”

“We host socials and fundraisers throughout the year. Attending these events is a great way to help support the league,” said Kyle Hess, the league commissioner. “This year, we will be holding several fundraisers to send a team to GayBowl in New York City.”

The group is an official member of the National Gay Flag Football League, a nonprofit LGBT flag football league of 200 teams in 24 leagues in the United States and Canada.

Those looking for more information on the league or wishing to donate can do so on at UtahGayFootballLeague.com.

They have a Facebook page at fb.me/ UtahGayFootballLeague. You can contact the league at Info@UtahGayFootballLeague. com or messaging them on Facebook.

Kickball, Volleyball

Stonewall Sports Salt Lake City Stonewall Sports, a national LGBT nonprofit sports organization, founded in 2010, and based in Washington, D.C., recently expanded its organization to Salt Lake City. It’s the 16th city to be added to this national organization that has over 12,000 athletes throughout the US. It’s also the first West Coast city.

While many other chapters have an extensive array of sport options, the Salt Lake chapter will kick of with only a “summer kickball league, a volleyball tournament, and maybe some other clinics to test out yoga and some other sports,” says Commissioner Jacob Banks.

Registration will open for the summer season in early June and Banks recommends checking their social media for updates. “Our goal is 350 people for the summer season.” Banks said. “Once registration closes there will be no additional sign up.”

The games will be played on Sundays, 10 a.m.-4 p.m., at the Sugar House baseball fields, and family/friends are invited and encouraged to spectate.

To find out more, visit the website at www.stonewallsportsslc.org and the Facebook group at stonewallsaltlakecity.

If you’re not much of an athletic type but would like to support the group, donations are accepted and any questions, email treasurer.slc@stonewallsports.org for more info, or to saltlakecity@stonewallsports.org. Q

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The makers of Five Wives Vodka announced a special Utah Pride Festival label — Five Husbands Vodka Ogden’s Own Distillery is releasing a Five Husbands Pride Festival version of their vodka. The rainbow-striped label features obviously Photoshopped members of their staff in cut-off shorts and mimics the notorious Five Wives Vodka label’s kitschiness. The label was inspired by QSaltLake Magazine publisher Michael Aaron, who made a version of the label and printed it in the magazine when Five Wives Vodka was banned in Idaho in 2012.

The meme that spawned the idea for a limited release of “Five Husbands Vodka” was created by QSaltLake Magazine publisher Michael Aaron in 2012 when the state of Idaho refused to allow Five Wives to be sold in stores.

“I’ve always had it in the back of my head that we’d like to use the concept for a Pride Festival branded product,” Ogden’s Own CEO Steve Conlin said.

The distillery loves to “poke fun” at Utah culture and Conlin told Ben Winslow of Fox 13 News that they wanted to “have a little fun with it.”

Ogden’s Own also sells Madam Pattirini Gin, named after the drag personae of Brigham Morris Young, son of Brigham Young. It also produces the Porter’s line of flavored liqueurs and Underground Herbal Spirit.

Ogden’s Own also announced they will be the official spirits sponsor of The Utah Pride Festival, held June 1–2, 2019, in Salt Lake City. It is the first time in the

festival’s 44 years that a local spirits company will be the primary liquor sponsor.

“Having a local company willing to support our event is really meaningful,” Liz Pitts, Utah Pride Center, Director of Community Engagement, explained. “We are a festival that celebrates our local community, and we are excited when homegrown companies want to be part of it in such a fun way.”

“We have long been an active supporter of Utah’s diverse LGBTQ+ community, and it’s exciting to step up to support this weekend,” Conlin said. “We’ve taken part in the pride parade, sponsored smaller events during the week of pride, and even had a small presence in the local’s bar at the festival in the past, but developing something memorable as part of the festival has been a lot of fun.”

“We encourage everyone — all the husbands and wives — to join the 50,000+ who already celebrate the LGBTQ+ community this June weekend,” Conlin said.

The company shipped 2,880 bottles to the Utah Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control on Tuesday, and expects to see distribution to limit Salt Lake City area DABC stores in the coming weeks. It will also be available at the DABC Club Store and Ogden’s Own Distillery’s package store in Ogden. It is expected to be available at Hitimewine.net the second week of May as well for shipping around the country. Q

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15th Annual HRC Utah Dinner

This conference will present an overview of the various issues that impact interpersonal violence for sexually and gender diverse individuals and families. The conference will prepare professionals and advocates to address a range of issues including trauma-informed care and prevention.

Hope and resilience will be an underlying theme for all sessions, providing inspiration for expanding resources. This year we’ve added two additional options for breakout presentations allowing attendees to more fully customize their conference experience.

Box lunches will be provided (included in registration fee). Register here: https://latgou. wildapricot.org/event-3309654

The HRC Utah Steering Committee and Dinner Team cordially invite you to join us in an elegant evening of togetherness and community. The 15th Annual Utah Dinner brings together nearly 1,000 of HRC Utah’s members, friends, families, and allies for an evening of inspiration and celebration at the landmark Grand America Hotel in Salt Lake City.

The evening begins with a cocktail reception, where guest mingle while they review a dazzling array of silent auction items. The action then moves to the ballroom, for a memorable dinner followed by thought-provoking speakers and live entertainment.

This event regularly attracts some of Utah’s leading-edge businesses and political figures, and it has become one of the “must-attend” events of the year. Don’t miss this opportunity to be a part of history as we celebrate the LGBTQ milestones achieved and rise to face the many challenges still ahead.

Friday, May 31, 8:45 am – 4:15 pm LGBTQ Affirmative Psychotherapist Guild of Utah, 1399 S 700 East, Ste 2

Saturday, July 20, 4–11 pm The Grand America Hotel, 555 S Main St Tickets at hrcutah.org

Reducing Intimate Partner Violence for Sexually & Gender Diverse Individuals Conference

Peter Christie will speak at Historical Oratories event The Utah Queer Historical Society presents its popular monthly Oratories the last Wednesday of the month. In May, Peter Christie of Ballet West joins them to talk about his life in Utah as a dancer, community activist, and his involvement with the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire, first as Prince Royale XVIII and then reigning as Emperor XX in 1995–96.

Wednesday, May 29, 6:30 pm at the Utah Pride Center, 1380 S. Main Street.

Bingo for Veterans The Matrons of Mayhem are teaming up with Continue Mission June 21, 7–9 pm to help veterans with service-connected physical, mental, and emotional injuries. Third Friday Bingo has been calling out ball numbers to standing-room-only crowds the past several months, so they suggest coming early. Doors open at 6 p.m.

All seating is general admission. $6 for one card or two for $10. Kitchen concessions available for purchase: First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 East.

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quotes “Openness may not completely disarm prejudice, but it’s a good place to start.”

— Jason Collins, first openly gay athlete in U.S. pro sports

“When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.”

— Barack Obama

“The only queer people are those who don’t love anybody.”

— Rita Mae Brown

“This world would be a whole lot better if we just made an effort to be less horrible to one another.”

— Ellen Page

“Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?”

— Author Ernest J. Gaines

“I hate the word homophobia.

It’s not a phobia. You’re not scared. You’re an asshole.”

— Morgan Freeman

“I believe that no one should ever have to choose between a career we love and living our lives with authenticity and integrity” — Out & Equal Executive Director Selisse Berry

“It takes some intelligence and insight to figure out you’re gay and then a tremendous amount of balls to live it and live it proudly.”

— Jason Bateman

“Every gay and lesbian person who has been lucky enough to survive the turmoil of growing up is a survivor. Survivors always have an obligation to those who will face the same challenges.”

— Writer/actor Bob Paris

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who’s your daddy

Proud. And grateful.

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

Man,

am I ever proud — this edition marks the 10th anniversary of Who’s Your Daddy! Ten years!

The first column debuted in the Pride Issue back in 2009.

It was titled, “Coming Out as a Gay Dad.” (You can still find it on the QSaltLake website.)

I’m proud that 120 columns later, you’re still reading.

Over the past decade, I’ve shared some pretty personal experiences — having “the talk” with our then-12-year old straight son, my dad’s passing, and my 30-year love affair with my husband. I’ve tackled topics around institutional homophobia, duplicitous politicians, and decrees from the LDS Church. I’ve been open in my pride of my kids and the job we’re doing raising them, and transparent about my insecurities as a father.

Sometimes readers reach out to me via email or social media. I’ve even had people chat me up in bookstores.

Sometimes they have a bone to pick with me about what I’ve written — usually it’s their belief that I haven’t been outspoken enough about an issue. Sometimes they want to tell me they appreciate learning about a segment of the LGBTQ community so different from themselves.

I like it when the magazine’s readers engage with me — even if we disagree. I want to make people think. But if I’m being totally honest, I like it more when I can make people laugh.

There’s a lot of laughter in

our family, and in an odd way I’m proud of that. The boys have developed a wry, sarcastic sense of humor that cracks both Kelly and me up. We often joke that being raised in Utah by two non-Mormon gay dads practically guarantees the boys will be just dysfunctional enough to always be the funniest guys in the room.

I’m proud that over the past decade I’ve been able to share real-life experiences that illustrate how our kids are at the forefront of the always-evolving demand for full equal rights. They make friends and parents, classmates and teachers, and coaches and teammates rethink their views of family. It’s ironic that some of the reticence to our becoming fathers that we faced was exclusively based on how the kids of two dads would be treated. The boys seem to have answered: Treat our family with the respect we deserve and with which we treat your family, or get out of our lives.

This column has also been a tremendous source of learning for me. What started out almost exclusively as a first-person narrative of my own parenting experiences, has evolved to be a source of what I hope is seen as educational on a variety of important topics for LGBTQ parents.

Over the years I’ve talked with experts about everything from dating for single parents to job discrimination.

You know what makes me crazy proud? Writing about the advancements of our com-

munity. Seriously, what other minority group has come so far in the fight for equality in such a short time? I love seeing younger gay or lesbian couples walking hand-inhand. I get excited when some TV reality contestant mentions his husband or her wife.

And much to Kelly’s chagrin, I still point out when a gay couple shows up in a commercial. For many younger people, this everyday inclusion and

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acceptance of LGBTQ people is something they’ve always known. I like to remind them that this new atmosphere is the result of years of struggle by previous generations.

As you celebrate Pride, I’d like to thank you for letting me share my voice and experiences as a gay dad with you for the past decade. I’m grateful and proud — very proud indeed. Q

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Bryan Fischer

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

While

scrolling through my Twitter feed I stumbled upon a photo of Jonathan Van Ness walking hand in hand through Capitol Hill with Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. Van Ness, one of the stars of “Queer Eye,” was wearing a pink sweater and skirt, Ocasio-Cortez, a Democrat representing New York, was wearing a magenta pantsuit. Someone had Tweeted, “THIS is the future Democrats want.” My first thought: Oh, hell yes. That future cannot come soon enough.

Van Ness, who was joined by three of his “Queer Eye” co-stars, also visited Nancy Pelosi’s office. But they weren’t there just for photo ops. The Queer Eye guys were in D.C. advocating for the passage of The Equality Act, which would amend the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to prohibit discrimination based on gender identity and sexual orientation.

Because even though Van Ness can twirl his beautiful brown locks through the halls of Congress, the fact remains that in too many states he could legally be fired for being gay. Marriage equality may be the law of the land (for now. You’d best believe that all of the right-wing judges Trump is getting rammed through are working hard to undo that), but legal discrimination is, too.

So it’s about time we right this wrong so that LGBTQ people can live their life with dignity and the protection they deserve.

Oh, but what’s that I hear? Somebody’s upset about the idea of LGBTQ people being protected from discrimination?

Yes, yes. You, sir, in the back. What’s your name?

“Why my name is Bryan Fischer and as I wrote on the internet: ‘It’s not the Equality Act, it’s the Homosexual Supremacy Act.’” Ugh. I should have known.

On April 7, Fischer, who is part of the American Family Association, wrote on

the BarbWire site, “Don’t let the left and the Talking Snake Media (sic) lie to you.

They lie to us all by the words they hope will drive and dominate the narrative.

One of those words is ‘equality.’”

As Fischer points out, the left is just so darn tricky with their words since “equality” sounds like a good thing and makes people who are against it seem like bad people! It’s just not fair!

“If we oppose it they tag us as people who are against fairness and equal rights for all and as people who are nothing more than blackguards and bigots,” Fischer writes.

Exactly A guy who believes that LGBTQ people are not human and are thus incapable of feeling love or contributing anything positive in the world just can’t get a break these days!

“But the reality is that not all behaviors are equal in moral value and should not be treated the same,” he continues. “The behavior of a man engaged in the act of sodomy with a homosexual partner is not morally equivalent to the behavior of a man who is engaged in loving and conjugal union with the wife of his youth. It is moral blindness and even stupidity to pretend otherwise.”

Well, color me morally blind and stupid then.

What confuses me most about what Fischer is saying here is the use of the word “youth.” What is he saying? That only young people can get it? Can’t the olds get down? Right-wingers are so confusing.

“There is no equality in this bill for anyone who believes that homosexuality is non-normative sexual behavior and something that should not be promoted, subsidized and celebrated, especially in our schools,” Fischer writes.

Subsidized? Is there an LGBTQ tax break I’m missing here? Oh, wait. I think

he means that he’s opposed to taxpayer money being used to enforce laws that protect LGBTQ people. Damn, he almost had me supporting the Trump tax cut (just kidding. I would never).

Also, boo-hoo, dude. You can think LGBTQ people are gross or immoral or whatever you want. But you don’t get to demand that your feelings trump another person’s humanity.

“I call this bill ‘The Homosexual Supremacy Act,’ since it elevates homosexuality and gender confusion above anything and everything else in the moral universe,” Fischer writes. “Everyone will be required to bow the knee before the Baal of Sodom or face punishment.”

Oh, please. Accusing supporters of the Equality Act of being “Homosexual Supremacists” is ugly and an especially ignorant thing to say at a time when white supremacy, an actual problem that does real, measurable harm to more than just feelings, is on the rise and supported by the White House.

“The reality is that in any circumstance covered by this bill, somebody is going to be discriminated against, either a Christian vendor or a member of the LGBT community,” Fischer writes.

Right now in many places in the United States, a lesbian can be fired for marrying her wife. Fischer is crying about the thought police when LGBTQ people have had every aspect of their lives policed. So as far as I’m concerned, Fischer can point at two women and their children and say, “Your family isn’t real,” but he doesn’t have a right to have his hatred enforced by policy. Q D’Anne Witkowski is writer, poet, mom, comic, book hoarder, political nerd, public school fan, heavy metal enthusiast, breast cancer survivor. See her at @MamaDWitkowski

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LGBTQ Autism:

Our Families, Our Friends and Ourselves

BY DAVID NELSON

Now

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that LGBTQ autism is recognized by researchers and others in the clinical world, what does it mean to those of us who live with it every day?

In the same way that some individuals were LGBTQ before they were born, so too are those who were autistic before they were born. The growing knowledge that a disproportionate number of individuals are both LGBTQ and autistic is fascinating our families, our friends and ourselves.

LGBTQ autism can be difficult to understand, leaving many families overwhelmed.

But, better angels touch everyone in amazing ways. For most LGBTQ-autism children or adults of any age, our families protect us. We know that they are our heroes.

Our friends are those in our lives who, like so many others, are helpful to us even if our behaviors seem unusual. We see eye rolls from others, and hear stage whispers from some.

And, we know criticism. Most of us were taught criticism before we learned how to respond to it.

Criticism intensifies the current suicide crisis among Utah youth, and particularly LGBTQ and autistic youth with higher rates of early death.

With acceptance, inclusion and love, we will stop this crisis.

We are complex and varied individuals with exceptional abilities and disabilities. We are diverse. Many autists prefer being regarded as individuals rather than a group because we are so different. The same is true about LGBTQ individ-

uals who reinvent ourselves personally, politically and socially.

Because many of us grew up before there was much understanding of sexual and gender differences, much less the autism spectrum, I call ourselves “survivors” as we were left to our own skills in the pursuit of improving our lives. Evolving accommodations improved LGBTQ lives since the Stonewall uprising, and ongoing accommodations are improving LGBTQ-autism lives now.

The late San Francisco supervisor, Harvey Milk, would have loved watching these developments. He expressed himself as a clown almost as often as he expressed himself as the gay elected official that he was. Learning that different communities would embrace his enthusiasm for reimagining our world in some new ways would have excited him.

I describe our LGBTQ-autism community as “living at the intersection of Fabulous Boulevard and Cosplay Street.”

Each of us has prodigious interests in our fantasies, our identities, our orientations, our genders and our inclusion in the global community.

Through those of us who persevere, all lives can surely get better. Q David Nelson is an LGBTQ autist and LGBTQ-autism advocate, and has served as a political activist for over 37 years with abilities which include conducting public relations, developing legislation, and advising or working with government agencies and corporations … without having spent a moment in a law-school classroom as a student.

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The 1993 March on Washington, and ... Logan

BY BEN WILLIAMS

On April

25, 1993, there was another March on Washington. This time for “Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberation.” The Utah planning committee and contingency was orchestrated by gay activist Val Mansfield. However, I wrote in my journal at the time that “Dale Sorenson and David Nelson are certainly Channel 2’s media queens when it comes to news coverage of the March on Washington.

Cameramen had pictures of them packing up and leaving for Washington and pictures of them arriving. It was actually good coverage but kind of funny also, as I know those two.”

A Deseret News account reported that about 100 activists from Utah went to the march. The article also mentioned gay activists Dale Sorenson, who was a Utah delegate to the Democratic National Convention last year, Kathy Worthington, and Sara Hamblin, who “married” each other in the mass “wedding” in front of Internal Revenue Service headquarters, and Val Mansfield who was on the National March Committee, and who also “married” his partner in front of the IRS at the mass wedding of over a thousand couples.

The article reported that some of the group of gay Utahns were “pleasantly surprised” after meeting with Republican Sen. Bob Bennett that he said he would support gay rights bills, depending on the wording, because “he feels no one should suffer discrimination.”

Here in Utah, there was a rally on the day before the Sunday march, at the Salt Lake Federal Building. It was planned by union supporter and gay activist, Calvin Noyes to support the goals of the March on Washington and to show support for lifting the ban on gays in the military.

I wrote in my journal, “Nearly 150 people showed up to hear speeches from Ed Mayne, president of Utah’s AFL-CIO, Lenoris Bush, who is the vice-director of the National Association for the

Advancement of Colored People, Calvin Noyes, Chris Brown director of the Anti Violence Project, and Melisa Sillitoe, director of the Utah Stonewall Center, all who gave pep talks for gay civil rights.

“The crowd was a good size but not very energetic. Perhaps the weather had something to do with it. It had rained buckets last night and had barely let up just before the rally began. Still, you would hardly know it was a Gay and Lesbian Rally as there wasn’t even a rainbow

were protesting that the Logan Herald Journal had dumped the “For Better or Worse” comic strip from their paper because of its homosexual theme when one of its characters came out as gay.

“Anyhow, the rally was at 2 in the afternoon so we left at noon to be there on time and my, was it festive. I was impressed. Perhaps 200 or more gays and lesbians along with their supporters showed up on the county courthouse lawn carrying balloons, rainbow flags,

flag present.”

I could not attend the March on Washington as I did in 1987 because I could not get the time off, being a school teacher. However, I did attend a protest rally in Logan that day. The following account is of the protest of the Logan Herald Journal for its refusal to run Lynn Johnston’s comic strip “For Better or Worse.” The strip featured a character named Lawrence Poirier who came out as gay. The strip generated controversy with readers who were opposed to homosexuality and threatening to cancel newspaper subscriptions as they believed that a homosexual character was highly inappropriate for a family-oriented newspaper comic strip.

This is what I wrote: “I made an arrangement with Melissa Sillitoe and Michelle Davies to go with them to Logan for the Cache Valley Gay and Lesbian Alliance’s first ever march and rally. They

and multi-colored signs and posters. It really put Salt Lake’s rally to shame. The media was out in droves and I had to ask cameramen not to put my face on camera, although I spoke to reporters.

“The speakers were excellent, especially Rebecca Wheeler from the National Organization for Women and Darryl Ferman representing the American Civil Liberties Union. Ken Johnson, this gorgeous blond man, was the protest rally’s organizer. Ken said he was only expecting 50 or so people so he was grateful for the turnout. A lot of folks from Salt Lake City came up to lend support.

“After the speeches, we all marched the half mile to the Herald Journal’s office building. Along the way, this very sweet little old lady came up to me and said she was the mother of a gay son who died horribly last year of AIDS. She said she knew that the Lord loved him and the Lord loves us. That was a very compas-

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sionate thing for this woman to say. She also warned us that there were a lot of hateful people gathered over at the Herald Journal.

She said that they professed to be Christians but she couldn’t stand to be over there because they were so full of venom and hate.

She said that she could sense that our group was full of love. I thanked her and said that her true Christianity is what will keep many gay people in the faith.

“Anyway, over at the Herald Journal, there were nearly 300 people as far as I could tell, acting as a counter-demonstration. They were spewing hate jargon at us and carrying signs trying to show where in the Bible it says ‘God hates Gays’. The crowd was made up of mostly skinheads and cowboy trash who tried to block the marchers, but the police were out in full force to make the bigots let us pass.

“As the hateful catcalls were hurled at us, I took notes, copied down the vile slogans, and looked into the faces of the folks who hated us. They wore red armbands, which are what the Nazis and Hitler’s youth wore as one of our speakers had pointed out. If we are so different from them why do they have to wear armbands to tell themselves apart from us?

“As I walked through the jeers and taunts, I thought to myself, ‘Though I walk through the valley of death I will fear no evil’ to bolster my nervousness. We all had our anxious moments fearing that the police might not be able to keep some nut from shooting at us.

“I said to this older woman who was marching with us that this really does draw a line in the sand between good and evil and I know which side I want to be on.

“Needless to say it was an anxious and yet exhilarating day. It was a truly historic occasion and I’m so glad I was here to stand with these courageous Loganites, especially since I couldn’t be in Washington, D.C. It’s one thing to be marching far from home and another to be marching in Logan.” Q The full set of strips of For Better or Worse‘s gay coming out series is here. Q

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100 words on Pride from the SLC Mayoral candidates

Erin Mendenhall ERINMENDENHALL.COM

David Ibarra IBARRA4MAYOR.COM

D Christian Harrison IAMFORSLC.ORG

I firmly believe that city government should serve inclusively; this means that a Mayor should lean in — and give our LGBTQ community leaders a seat at the table. As Salt Lake City grows, I will ensure we intentionally cultivate and foster local talent from tech to creatives to entrepreneurs. Those seeking a vibrant and progressive community should be able to grow roots here in Salt Lake City free of discrimination. Affordable housing, clean air, and well-paying jobs are LGBTQ issues, and we need to treat them as such.

To me, Pride is making sure no one feels like they’re on the outside looking in. Growing up in the Utah foster care system, I learned the value of compassion and inclusion — everyone in our community must be valued, protected, and respected. I am proud of our strong LGBTQ+ and queer communities. We still have a lot of work to do and as your mayor, I will begin with prioritizing a ban on conversion therapy centers in our city.

I am proud to be an ally to our LGBTQ+ community. Happy Pride and 50th Anniversary of Stonewall!

Pride is a reminder that 50 years ago, trans women of color sparked a movement that continues to bless the lives of people around the world. Pride drives the queer community to seek justice — not just for ourselves, but for the intersectional world we live in; where it is true that “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere”. Pride is a community that coaxes us into the full light of day.

I benefit from Pride. You benefit from Pride. Gay, straight, trans … whatever road you walk, you’re free to walk it with more authenticity because of Pride.”

Luz Escamilla LUZFORMAYOR.COM

Stan Penfold STANFORMAYOR.COM

Jim Dabakis DABAKISFORMAYOR.COM

Salt Lake City Pride and its festivities are critical and are an extension of the love shared amongst the LGBTQIA+ community. The growing visibility of all members of this community shows that Salt Lake City values diversity and progress. Salt Lake City residents have a long-standing reputation for making members of its community feel valued.

We are a family and all parts are integral here. Our culture is vast and has space to expand. Looking forward to pride!

A full-throated “Happy Pride!” to one and all! Our community is strong because we embrace everyone, regardless of who you love, what you believe or how you live your life. As the first openly gay person elected to Salt Lake City government, I served eight years on the city council advocating for equality. Designating Harvey Milk Boulevard and hiring social workers to help people experiencing homelessness are among my proudest accomplishments.

Our next mayor must have the experience, expertise, and temperament to keep us moving forward. Consider your options carefully; I hope you’ll agree I’m the right person for the job.

These are the things that Pride means to me: Dr. Reese and Maggie, who loved us and fought for us during the plague throughout the late 80s and early 90s.

Being inspired in 1996 by the women who courageously stood up for the first GSA in Utah. Rejoicing in 2013 with hundreds of other LGBTQ+ people when marriage equality was legalized in Utah.

Standing together in 2015, with government leaders and two apostles from the LDS Church as the historic non-discrimination bill was signed. Almost every day saying, kindly and bravely, “this is who I am, and I’m proud of it!”

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“I’m proud to be an ally to our LGBTQ+ community.

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Pride Means: • Dr. Reese and Maggie who loved us and fought for us during the plague throughout the late ʻ80s and early ʻ90s.

• Being inspired in 1996 by Ivy Fox, Kelli Peterson, and Leah Farrell who courageously stood up for the first GSA in Utah.

• In 1997, Wendy Weaver who was fired because she was a lesbian, but fought back and changed the law for all Utah teachers.

• Rejoicing in the City County Building in 2013 with hundreds of other LGBTQ+ people, when marriage equality was legalized in Utah.

• Standing together in 2015, with the government leaders, and two apostles from the LDS church as the historic non-discrimination bill was signed.

• 'Encircle' standing up in 2018-19 to the bullies at the Freedom Festival. And winning.

• Almost every day saying proudly, kindly and unafraid, “this is who I am, and Iʼm proud of it!”

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Awards presented at Pride Spectacular The Utah Pride Center presented its annual awards at the Utah Pride Spectacular May 17. 2019 Kristen Ries Community Service Award Recipients were Pepper Prespentt and Sue Robbins.

The 2019 Utah Pride Lifetime Achievement Awards went to Ben Williams and Connell O’Donovan.

SUE ROBBINS has been an incredibly dedicated and effective advocate for the LGBTQA community. She was a founding member and inaugural president of Phi Delta, a local tri-ESS chapter in SLC. After coming out more publicly as a transgender woman she became a member of the board of directors of the Utah Pride Center and served as board president 2017–2018.

Sue recently became Chair of Transgender Education Advocates, working to build and

grow that organization and to help it be more effective in its mission.

PEPPER PRESPENTT started as an activist for LGBTQ rights in the 70’s and is still active today. She saved lives by funding and supporting the establishment of the Gay Help Line and made it easily accessible. Pepper was one of the founders of the RCGSE, in 1976, and is one of the most active members, to this day – having earned a Lifetime Reign as Emperor 1 of the Golden Spike Empire.

BEN WILLIAMS was one of the primary librarians shaping the permanent/archival lending Utah Stonewall Library.

Ben focused on archives and keeping the collection ordered during his off-time hours from 1993-1994; his community historian skills have expanded the commu-

Award winners: Sue Robbins, Pepper Prespentt, Ben Williams, Connell O’Donovan

nity’s knowledge both then and now; he was the first full-time volunteer librarian.

Ben also has been educating LGBT Utah History through his years-long Lambda Lore column. In 2015, the State of Utah recognized Ben as having preserved the history of the LGBTQ+ community in the state.

CONNELL O’DONOVAN spent decades on research and writing with focus on LGBT Mormon History, Black Mormon History, William Smith (youngest brother of Mormon

founder Joseph Smith), and LGBT Anthropology/Archaeology; his interest in this area having lived several years in Moab, Utah and explored Anasazi and Fremont ruins all over the Colorado Plateau ecosystem. He’s written a dozen articles on homosexuality in pre-Christian Europe, as well as contributed to several publications on similar areas. He currently serves as the Chair of the “Oratories” Oral Project Committee of the Utah Queer Historical Society. Q

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Pride Interfaith

Many faiths and traditions come together to celebrate the sacred in all of us and unite for a service of song, prayer, and inspiration. Each of the many communities represented welcome and embrace the LGBTQ community.

This year’s service commemorates the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, with the theme “Exist. Resist. Persist.” The speaker will be Bishop Karen Oliveto, the first openly lesbian bishop in the United Methodist Church. Music will be presented by the Recovery Worship Band, the One Voice Choir, and a combined community choir. Hosted at Christ United Methodist Church, 2374 E 3300 S.

Youth Lounge On Saturday and Sunday at the Utah Pride Festival will be the 1st Annual Youth Lounge — a chill space for youth ages 10–20 at the Utah Pride Festival. This is a space the Festival wanted to set aside for folks to snack, hang out, make friendship bracelets, paint nails, do coloring pages, charge devices, relax, and refresh.

The Youth Lounge, co-hosted by Salt Lake County Youth Services, will offer water and light refreshments.

For accommodations or additional questions, email Jimmy Lee at jimmylee@utahpridecenter.org. Note that accommodations requests must be received no later than 48 hours beforehand.

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Youth Pride Dance

The third annual Youth Pride Dance will once again be held on the Pride Festival Grounds — a dance for all LGBT-friendly youth 14–20 years old.

A number of youth drag performers will take the stage and otter pops and yummy mocktails will be served.

Bring a government issued ID, a school ID, or you will ask for your birthday.

8pm at the Pride Festival Grounds — Washington Square and Library Plaza (Enter at 300 E 500 S) Tickets available at the door $5 These events are designed to be non-cost prohibitive. Reach out to Liesl Archbold at lieslarchbold@utahpridecenter.org if cost is a barrier.

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OUTdoors & Proud 5K

8–11am, Jordan Park & Peace Gardens 1060 S. 900 West.

Yoga in the Peace Gardens, fitness challenges, volleyball in the park and other healthy lifestyle activities.

5K $40 online registration closes May 29. Onsite registration $45 at 8. Race at 9.

Pride March & Rally

Gathering at the south stairs of the Utah State Capitol Building, we’ll rally, then march to Pride Festival Grounds. Come out and celebrate, agitate, and stand united!

1pm at the Utah State Capitol South Steps / Free. Rally Begins 1:45pm March steps off and heads down State Street to South Temple, east to 200 East, then south to the Festival Grounds.

PRIDE FESTIVAL

Gates are open, vendors are eager to meet you, food is cooking, and the entertainment is bangin!

1–11pm at the Festival Grounds $8 online at utahpridecenter.org/festival and $10 at the gates

Pride Speakers and Films

Free & Open to the Public at the Salt Lake City Main Library, 2–9 p.m.

Attend a series of speakers, panels, workshops, and films on topics related to LGBTQ+ life.

Main Stage Defying the rock genre, SHECOCK AND THE ROCK PRINCESS will hit you hard in the face, leaving you to question everything you knew about gender and sexuality. Heavy hitting drums, grungy bass, screeching guitar, and The Rock Princess’ raspy voice will leave you wanting more

REBEL REBEL is Salt Lake City’s premier glitter trash band ormed in 2016 by three friends who didn’t know how to play instruments. Inspired by acts like Screaming Females and PUP, as well as Tears For Fears and Talking Heads, they started with solid punk on their 2017 EP, The Gospel Truth and moved into more complex and personal pop songs without sacrificing their intensity

Opening for AJA will be MYZCHIEF DU VOODOO, a buxom belly dance and burlesque with a big ....personality and presence.

You originally heard of AJA because they were on season 9 of Ru Paul’s Drag Race and last year’s All Stars 3, but Aja is now a singer/songwriter who has dropped nearly two dozen songs, 15 of which on a new album released in February. Aja embarked March 16 on 14-city tour beginning in New Zealand, then Australia, China, and the U.S. They will be heading back from Birmingham, U.K. to join us at Utah Pride.

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THE AGENDA SATURDAY

SUNDAY

PRIDE MARCH & RALLY 1 pm Utah State Capitol

FESTIVAL OPENS 11 am Washington Square

DJ/SPOKEN WORD STAGE 1 pm When She Speaks I Hear The Revolution 2:05 pm Wanting To Die Poetry Club 3 pm Pride SlamFest Prelims 5 pm Skittish and Bus 7 pm DJ Flame Fatale 9 pm Pulse Regime MARY KAY. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-311 MASSAGE CENTER. . . . . . . . . . . . . N-221 MEXICAN CURIOSO. . . . . . . . . . . . S-407 MICHELLE STEVENS ART INSPIRATIONS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-314 MIDWEST PROMOTIONAL PRODUCTS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-328 MORMONS BUILDING BRIDGES. S-221 NAIL THERAPIST (TRISHA REYNOLDS). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . W-317 NATALIE PERRY, LLC. . . . . . . . . . W-102 ONE MARRIOTT/MARRIOTT INTL. N-121 ONLY HUMAN . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-229 OUT FOUNDATION . . . . . . . . . . . S-110C OUT OF THE SHADOWS THEATER GROUP. . . . . . . . . . . . S-316 PARLIAMENT MARKETING, LLC..S-239 PAUL MITCHELL THE SCHOOL. N-431 PECULIAR . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-209 PELLA WINDOWS AND DOORS. S-200 PERFORMER STUDIO . . . . . . . . . N-233 PETSMART . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-326

MAIN STAGE 11:35 am Soul Correction 12:35 pm Salt Lake Acting Company 1:10 pm Salt Lake Men’s Choir 1:50 pm Talia Keys and The Love 3 pm Lafemmebear 4 pm Those Bitches @ Club Try-Angles 4:55 pm Parade Winners 5:25 pm Mary Tebbs 6:30 pm Samba Fogo

400 EAST

100 S

300 EAST

DJ/SPOKEN WORD STAGE 12:05 pm Ashley Finley 1 pm Pride SlamFest Finals 2:55 pm Miss City Weekly Winners 3:15 pm DJ Suzy Solyom 5:15 pm DJ Legs

UTAH PRIDE PARADE MAP

200 EAST

STONEWALL STAGE 11:25 am MiNX 12:25 pm Sincerely, The Universe 1:25 pm Wiltavious 1:55 pm Provo United 3:05 pm The Plucky Vigors 4:15 pm Keyvin VanDyke 5:20 pm Phobia The Greatest 6:10 pm Alicia Faith

STATE STREET

STONEWALL STAGE 1:10 pm Good Company 2 pm Music and Art Collective 3:05 pm Pride Revue 3:55 pm LASN 4:55 pm Fists In The Wind 5:55 pm Stop Karen 6:55 pm Contagious 7:55 pm Toda 9:05 pm The Violet Temper 10:10 pm The Phe3nix Child

PRIDE 5K ROUTE

MAIN STREET

MAIN STAGE 1:40 pm Marina Marqueza 2:35 pm Opening Ceremony 3:05 pm The Performer Studio 3:30 pm Cheer Salt Lake 4:10 pm Mel Soul & The Messenger feat. Rufio 5:20 pm Orphans Cabaret 6:30 pm Ginger & The Gents 7:40 pm Rebel Rebel 8:50 pm Shecock & The Rock Princess 9:50 pm AJA

PRIDE MARCH ROUTE

WEST TEMPLE

FESTIVAL OPENS 1 pm Washington Square

UTAH PRIDE PARADE 10 am Second South from West Temple to 4th East

200 WEST

OUTDOORS & PROUD 5K 8-11 am Jordan Park & Peace Gardens 1060 S. 900 West

200 S

FESTIVAL CLOSES 7 pm Washington Square LEGEND

PFLAG SLC/UTAH COUNTY . . . . N-100 PHANTASY REALMS ART STUDIO. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-420D PHURBU’S SHOP . . . . . . . . . . . . N-320C PIONEER THEATRE COMPANY. W-209 PLAID TECHNOLOGIES. . . . . . . . . NI-Z6 PLANNED PARENTHOOD ASSOCIATION OF UTAH . . . . . . S-429 PRIDE COALITION OF UTAH . . . . S-300 PRIDE MASSAGE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-315 PRIDE SOCKS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-119 PROGRESSIVE LEASING . . . . . . . W-100 PUBLIC SAFETY PRIDE ALLIANCE. N-308 QSALTLAKE MAGAZINE. . . . . . E-300 QUEER FRIENDS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-238 QUEERMEALS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-110-D QUIET MISCHIEF & COMPANY. S-210B RAINBOW ISLAND. . . . . . . . . . . . N-300 REALTOR HUBBIES . . . . . . . . . . . . S-425 RED’S ESSENTIAL BOUTIQUE. N-320A REGENCE BLUE CROSS BLUE SHIELD. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . W-403

TICKET GATES

EXIT GATES

FOOD

DRINKS

CENTER ZONE

PORT-OPOTTIES

KIDS ZONE

INTERACTIVE ZONE

MAIN STAGE

RED ROCK STAGE

MEMBER GARDEN

PUBLIC GARDEN

FIRST AID

FREE WATER

VOLUNTEER GATE

VENDOR OFFICE

DANCE STAGE

KARAOKE STAGE

VIP LOUNGE

ATM

INFO KIOSK

PRIDE STORE

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RENEWAL BY ANDERSEN . . . . . . N-211 SACRED ENERGY EMPOWERMENT CENTER . . . N-222 SACRED SYMMETRY. . . . . . . . . . . S-130 SAFEUT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-310 SALT LAKE ACTING COMPANY. W-203 SALT LAKE CITY CORP. . . . . . . . . N-408 SALT LAKE CITY POLICE. . . . . . . . S-422 SALT LAKE CITY WEEKLY. . . . . . . N-104 SALT LAKE CO ANIMAL SVCS . . . S-317 SALT LAKE CO HEALTH DEPT . . . S-325 SALT LAKE CO SHERIFF’S OFC. . . N-103 SALT LAKE FILM SOCIETY . . . . . W-116 SALT LAKE MODERN DENTISTRY . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NI-Z4 SALT LAKE PAGAN SOCIETY . . . . S-411 SALT LAKE TRIBUNE, THE . . . . . . S-225 SALT LAKE WOOD & METAL SIGNS . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-120 SEGO LILY CENTER FOR THE ABUSED DEAF . . . . . . . . . . W-111 SENEGENCE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-400

SKULL AND BONES, INC. . . . . . . . S-312 SLCC COMMUNITY WRITING CTR. SI-Z3 SLUG MAG & CRAFT LAKE CITY.W-310 SNAPHAPPY PHOTO BOOTH. . . . SI-Z5 STATE FARM-AJ VALENZUELA. . . NI-Z8 STEVENS HENAGER COLLEGE. W-406 STEWIE’S GOT PRIDE . . . . . . . . . . E-110 STONEWALL SPORTS - SLC . . . . N-339 STREET DAWG. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-413 STRONGEST LINK . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-427 SUN TREASURES . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-229 SUTTER HEALTH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-116 TEE TURTLE, LLC . . . . . . . . . . . . . W-319 TELEPERFORMANCE. . . . . . . . . . W-104 THREADS OF HOPE/ COMMUNITY OF CHRIST . . . . W-205 TIBETAN ART ANDJEWELRY . . . . E-318 T-MOBILE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-210 TOPGOLF. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-219 TRANSGENDER EDUCATION ADVOCATES (TEA) OF UTAH . . . S-322 TRANSGENDER INCLUSION

PROJECT. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-407 TRIFECTA INK. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-402 UNIVERSAL WINDOWS DIRECT OF SALT LAKE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NI-Z2 UNIVERSITY FEDERAL CREDIT UNION . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-323 UNIVERSITY OF UTAH . . . . . . N-401–3 UTAH AIDS FOUNDATION . . . . . . E-223 UTAH ANIMAL RIGHTS COALITION . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . W-115 UTAH BEARS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-212 UTAH CENTER FOR EVIDENCE BASED TREATMENT. . . . . . . . . W-302 UTAH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COALITION . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-327 UTAH GAY RODEO ASSOCIATION . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . NI-Z1 UTAH LGBTQ+ CHAMBER OF COMMERCE. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-207 UTAH MUSEUM OF CONTEMPORARY ART. . . . . . . . NI-Z3 UTAH NALOXONE . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-106

UTAH POLE STUDIOS UNITED FOR PRIDE. . . . . . . . . . NI-Z7 UTAH POLYAMORY SOCIETY. . . . S-305 UTAH SASTSANG SOCIETY OF ECKANKAR. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .N-206 UTAH TENNIS ASSOCIATION. . . . SI-Z2 VA MEDICAL CENTER. . . . . . . . . W-300 VALLEY BEHAVIORAL HEALTH. . N-113 VOLUNTEERS OF AMERICA. . . . . E-305 VOTERISE . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-132 WALMART. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-204 WATER WELLNESS AND WALK THE EARTH. . . . . . . . . . . S-308 WHIMSY PROTOCOL/OUTER DARKNESS. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-301 WOMEN’S DEMOCRATIC CLUB OF UTAH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-125 WORKDAY, INC.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . S-321 XISTENTIAL LOVE . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-319 ZARIFA USA . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . E-306 ZOMBIE NATION . . . . . . . . . . . . . N-306

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Pride Parade

The Pride Parade begins in the same location as last year, West Temple and Second South, heading east on Second South to Fourth East.

10am / Free, Second South downtown

Pride Festival Opens

Gates are open, vendors are eager to meet you, food is cooking, and let the entertainment begin!

11am–7pm at the Festival Grounds $8 at UtahPrideCenter.org/festival/ or $10 at the gates

Drawing on rich Brazilian culture and mythology, SAMBA FOGO ignites the stage as they weave traditional and contemporary dance, fire spinning, pounding drums, and diverse live music. Samba Fogo brings passion, fire and pure joy to their performance, as they bring Brazilian Carnival traditions to life on stage.

Raffi and Ischa are MiNX and they infuse their performance with campy and vaudevillian visual elements, costumes and stage-props taking their show over the top.

PROVO UNITED brings together two queer performance scenes in Utah County: the youth performers of Glamatuer Hour and Provo’s Divine Sister-Misters.

Among their ranks are Provo’s reigning queen of horror, Miss Fortune, Righteous Miss Provo 2017, Brigitte Kiss, Provo’s current titleholder Melanie Fox, and the youngest youth titleholder in Provo’s history, Pandora Fox. Together, these performers have entertained hundreds of people, raised thousands of dollars for local queer causes, and made herstory again and again as they fight to make Provo a better place to be queer.

PHOBIA THE GREATEST is

Salt Lake’s very own rising artist bringing new sound to the music industry with her single “Blue Band$”.

TALIA KEYS is a genre crossing multi-instrumental “musical powerhouse” bringing you her brand of Soul-Funk-Rock n’ Roll, with unique vocal stylings and a storytelling flow.

THE LOVE formed with the release of Talia’s first full length solo album, Fool’s Gold (July 2015). Tracking a majority of the album herself she invited some of Salt Lake area’s finest to recreate it live. Including Dave Brogan (ALO) on drums and Ryan Conger (Joe McQueen Quartet) on keys, shortly after adding Josh Olsen on bass and Lisa Giacoletto on backing vocals.

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CHEER SALT LAKE is an adult cheerleading group of all ages, body types, races, religions, genders and sexual orientations who serve and raise money for people with life-threatening conditions.

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Salt Lake County Council member Shireen Ghorbani is also known as DJ LEGS and she knows how to deliver what’s best for people — whether that is shaking it all on the dance floor or accessing affordable healthcare.

Those Bitches @ Club Try-Angles Drag queens, kings, and non-binary performers creating a safe place to express queer culture and queer diversity through performance art.

Those Bitches show their talents through lip syncing, dancing, spoken word, live singing, comedy, and so much more! If you haven’t seen them in action you are missing out on Utah’s best drag secret!

SALT LAKE MEN’S CHOIR is “Utah’s Other Choir” — one of the state’s oldest member-supported arts organizations. Started by 13 men in 1983, it is now 90 members strong, under the Artistic Direction of Dennis McCracken, accompanied by Aaron Flood. This year they will perform songs from Disney concert as they head to Anaheim to sing during Gay Days at Disney.

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A FULL LIST OF ENTERTAINERS SATURDAY, JUNE 1 MAIN STAGE 1:40 pm Marina Marqueza

Ambitious, uplifting, and sensual lyrics and their energetic synths will get you in mood for a celebration. She was recently named the #1 artist to watch in Salt Lake City by City Weekly.

2:35 pm Opening Ceremony See who will be carrying the torch!

3:05 pm The Performer Studio A vocal arts school and production company whose purpose is to empower people of all ages, backgrounds, and abilities to confidently express their singing voice, and with it, create positive change in their lives, their community, and the world.

3:30 pm Cheer Salt Lake Adults of all ages, body types, races, religions, genders, and sexual orientations serve and raise money for people living with HIV/AIDS, breast cancer and other life threatening conditions through the sport of cheerleading.

4:10 pm Mel Soul & The Messenger feat. Rufio The Messenger’s 25 years of experience and Mel Soul’s 8 years performing as a singer and songwriting brings a sound with spiritual meaning behind their music and their message nourishes the soul.

MEL SOUL & THE MESSENGER, RUFIO

7:40 pm Rebel Rebel Three friends who didn’t know how to play instruments started a band in 2016 and have been playing punk ever since.

Salt Lake City’s premier glitter trash band.

8:50 pm Shecock & The Rock Princess Drag. Punk. Call it what you want, this power trio is relentless! With their driving rhythms, groove-heavy bass and shrieking guitars under The Rock Princess’ deep raspy outspoken voice, Shecock continues to twist the lines of gender and genre.

9:50 pm AJA As a nonbinary queer artist and performer, Aja brings the art of drag into the mascdominated world of hip-hop. With their critically-acclaimed debut EP, In My Feelings and breakout on RuPaul’s Drag Race and All Stars 3, Aja performs epic live shows around the world, dedicated to uplifting their fans and empowering them to be in control of their own destiny.

STONEWALL STAGE 1:10 pm Good Company Downtown Ogden’s only theatre company promotes high-quality and eclectic theatrical productions that forge new relationships between audiences, performers, and spaces.

2 pm

Music and Art Collective A safe and nuturing place for youth ages 8–18 to express themselves artistically, this program gives kids the tools and experiences to help them in their current world and to go through life.

3:05 pm Pride Revue

5:20 pm Orphans Cabaret Once upon a time, a group of musicians awoke to discover they had been left all alone. Not to let fate rule with a ragged and ugly fist, these musical orphans began to create. It was unlike anything they had done before; it had a certain “flair pour la fantaisie” that sounded reminiscent of the cabarets and soirees they had all attended in countless lives past.

6:30 pm Ginger & The Gents No frills, just gritty rock n roll, with a whole ’lotta soul to blow your hair back, hit you in the gut and pluck on your heart strings.

We hope you’re hungry. It’s supper time.

3:55 pm LASN Local scene legends Ben Sears and Duncan Reynolds, joined by recent Utah transplant Joe Tamasonis, grapple with modern politics and social issues through classic punk stylings and high-tempo rock riffs. In an era where bigots are emboldened and the most vulnerable among us are at risk, they build community, solidarity, and a safe space to express anti-establishment rage.

4:55 pm Fists in the Wind SLC QWR PUNX/ SING-ALONG feat.

Matttherat prttyxprtty 5:55 pm Stop Karen Ugh! Stop Karen is not another folk punk band.

6:55 pm Contagious Punk A bunch of Salt Lake teenagers doing music and stuff.

7:55 pm Toda Singer, songwriter, producer, warrior, existentialist, queer. Angry, dissatisfied, anxious, sleepy and hungry.

9:05 pm The Violet Temper A two piece shoegaze doom band made up of Cache Tolman and Lindsay Heath.

THE PHO3NIX CHILD

10:10 pm The Pho3nix Child An unapologetic, feminine presence spreading a conscious message through an original hip-hop sound. Lyricist, poet, and rapper combining poetry, art, and hip-hop to paint a lyrical portrait of love.

DJ & SPOKEN WORD STAGE 1 pm

When She Speaks | Hear the Revolution One-of-a-kind open mic space in Salt Lake where the voices of marginalized individuals — women, trans, queer/LGBTQ, PoC — highlighted and celebrated.

2:05 pm Wanting to Die Poetry Club Celebrating the inherent beauty of literature with featured readers: Kenan Ince, Jo Corbett, Ysa Pitman, Rose Rat, Prtty Prtty, and Elena Rogers.

3 pm

Pride SlamFest Prelims SLC’s best spoken word artists compete.

5 pm

Skittish and Bus Married Salt Lake DJ/producer duo playing all kinds of events, clubs, and festivals throughout the west, but being part of SLC Pride is extra special.

7 pm

DJ Flame Fatale Drag queen-turned-DJ who believes the dance floor is Queer church and music the uniting communion.

9 pm

Pulse Regime Trance pusher who creates a diverse uplifting and dark musical melodies. Known for his high energy live performances, you won’t want to miss this unique act.

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SUNDAY, JUNE 2 MAIN STAGE 11:35 am Soul Correction A Salt Lake project digging up our roots with British and American Blues Rock, Rock n’ Roll and funky soul.

12:35 pm Salt Lake Acting Co. The 41st Saturday’s Voyeur with raucous Utah politics and culture fun.

1:10 pm Salt Lake Men’s Choir Over 35 years of bringing diversity to Utah through song and building bridges, this year with Disney faves.

1:50 pm Talia Keys and The Love A multi-instrumental “musical powerhouse” of Soul-Funk-Rock n’ Roll, with unique vocal stylings and a storytelling flow.

3 pm

4 pm

LaFemmebear A genre-blending experiment in soulful and rhythmic afro-beats mixed with hip hop and jazz.

Those Bitches @ Club Try-Angles Drag queens, kings, and non-binary performers creating a safe place to express queer culture and queer diversity through performance art.

5:25 pm Mary Tebbs Singer/songwriter sharing and exploring her journey and discovering her connection to the universe.

6:30 pm Samba Fogo Bringing joy, celebration and history of Brazilian Samba to life with elaborate costuming, fancy footwork, and deeply-rooted movement to the pulse of live drums.

STONEWALL STAGE 11:25 am MiNX Raffi and Ischa infuse their performance with campy and vaudevillian visual elements, costumes and stage-props taking their show over the top.

12:25 pm Sincerely, The Universe Hi, we’re a band, so that’s pretty fun! Abigail | Gavin | Ginger | Gwen | Hanna | Hannah

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1:25 pm Wiltavious Lanett, Alabama recording artist whose new single “Dontplaywitme” is available on iTunes and Spotify.

1:55 pm Provo United Enjoy this collective of performers.

3:05 pm The Plucky Vigors Bass, ukelele, fiddle, guitar, banjo and vocals join to create an energetic and varied sound that highlights harmonies, original lyrics, and each instrument’s talent.

4:15 pm Keyvin VanDyke I was born between worlds.

Stretched thin by words that do not define ME. I am NOT straight nor gay.

I am NOT black nor white.

We were NOT made for boxes. We are not clean, we are Vibrant with Color.

We radiate...with LOVE... we are here to harmonize 5:20 pm Phobia The Greatest Salt Lake’s very own rising artist bringing new sound to the music industry with her single “Blue Band$”.

6:10 pm Alicia Faith Let Alicia and her band get you moving through music.

DJ & SPOKEN WORD STAGE 12:05 pm Ashley Finley Poet/writer inviting the world to accompany her on a journey of self discovery and self-realization.

1 pm

Pride SlamFest Finals Who tops the spoken word?

2:55 pm Miss City Weekly Meet this year’s winners of the most prestigious drag competition in Utah.

3:15 pm DJ Suzy Solyom An incredible open format DJ who prides herself on the ability to please a crowd throughout any setting playing her 4th Utah Pride.

5:15 pm DJ Legs Salt Lake County Council member Shireen Ghorbani knows how to deliver what’s best for people — whether that is shaking it all on the dance floor or accessing affordable healthcare.

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Myths About the Home-Buying Process

As the

real estate industry has changed, the home-buying process has, too. Years ago, there were a number of “facts” that buyers, sellers, and agents took at face value.

These facts were, for almost every case, true. Today, however, that has changed.

While some of these facts are still a part of the home-buying process, others are not. Some were never really that true or that helpful to begin with. Before you begin searching for your next home, it does help to understand these myths and the truths that go along with them.

DON’T BUY NOW – RATES OR PRICES WILL BE LOWER IN A FEW MONTHS Despite what people—even experts—may say, no one can fully predict what the real estate market or loan industry will do in the upcoming months. While prices or interest rates may have been falling for several months, that could change.

It’s tempting to put off buying a home because you have been assured you’ll save on your mortgage next month, but this is not always the case. You may find that instead of a lower rate or price, you have to pay more for the property you were considering because you waited.

The truth is that you should buy a home when you are ready to do so and have found the right property for you.

Waiting for rates to go down often results in waiting too long and seeing rates increase, plus the properties you

may have found that fit your needs could go under contract while you watch loan rates change.

YOU SHOULD SPEND AS MUCH AS YOU QUALIFY FOR Another myth is that you should always buy a property that is near what you have been approved to borrow. Unfortunately, this myth often leads to buyers purchasing a home that is too large for them or that stretches them too far financially.

The formula a lender uses to determine how large of a mortgage you qualify for may not take into account your actual monthly budget. Lenders also do not take into account future financial obligations you may have. If you know you will be purchasing a new vehicle soon or helping a child with college tuition, you certainly want to factor those expenses into your budget before you add a high mortgage payment to your obligations It is always best to determine how much you can commit to yourself, regardless of how much you have been approved for. You also want to base your decisions on your needs rather than buying the most expensive home you can. If you don’t need a large home, it’s perfectly fine to purchase a smaller, less expensive property.

YOU MUST HAVE A LARGE DOWN PAYMENT When your parents purchased their first home, they may have had to put down 20

percent of the purchase price, but that is no longer the case. Some loans, especially VA and FHA loans, no longer require much, if any, down payment. You will likely need less than 5 percent for your down payment.

It is important to note that if you can pay 20 percent without any financial difficulty, you should. Doing so may allow you to avoid having private mortgage insurance on your loan. If you can avoid this extra monthly fee, you should.

APPLYING TO MULTIPLE LENDERS HURTS YOUR CREDIT SCORE People often believe shopping around for loans or credit damages their credit score. It is true that inquiries on your credit, also called hard credit pulls, do affect your score. However, if you have several hard credit checks for the same type of loan, it only affects your score once if these multiple checks occur in a short period of time. This means if you apply for a mortgage with three lenders in one month, your credit score only gets hit once with a mortgage inquiry. You are free to shop around with multiple lenders to determine who offers you the best mortgage. Q Gay and Lesbian Real Estate Agents, offering FREE buyers representation can be found at www.GayRealEstate.com, a website that has been helping the LGBTQ community with home buying and selling since 1991.

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BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

‘Inside an Honor Killing’

BY LENE WOLD C. 2019, GREYSTONE BOOKS $26.95, 224 PAGES

Your father’s hands were always rough.

In your memories, they were nimble, too; enough to fix a doll or thread a hook as easily as holding a fork, and it was never a problem for your little fingers to fit around his. Your father’s hands were calloused and strong but, unlike the new book Inside an Honor Killing by Lene Wold, they were not meant for murder.

She had to lie to set up the interview.

Lene Wold knew that, as a lesbian, she was in danger just traveling through Jordan, so she made up a fictitious husband for her own safety. She lied to be prepared, should the subject come up during conversations she had with “Rahman” who, after over a year of effort, finally sat across from her in a small cafe.

He was a killer, but she knew that he deserved to tell his side of the story.

When he was a child, Rahman told her, he witnessed the death of a young classmate buried up to her shoulders in desert sand. The 7-year-old had been raped, he said, but that act brought shame on her family because villagers believed that she had caused it. Stoning her brought honor back.

Rahman wasn’t supposed to have witnessed the killing, and when his mother learned that he had, she packed her things and left, a departure that

impacted him for the rest of his life. He vowed that what happened in his father’s house wouldn’t happen in his when he married a very conservative woman, and raised two daughters and a son.

Years later, as the younger daughter, 17-year-old Amina, prepared for marriage, she noticed that her 19-year-old sister, Aisha, seemed preoccupied.

Only when Amina overheard intimacies and learned that Aisha had fallen in love with another woman, did she understand her sister’s fears: There is no law against homosexuality in Jordan, but it’s a cultural sin that brings shame on a family, and Aisha’s secret couldn’t be held.

And so, pressured by his wife, Rahman acted to restore honor…

There is no way to soften this: Inside an Honor Killing is absolutely chilling.

An ice-down-the-spine account of a rape that inexplicably didn’t happen opens this book, illustrating the dangers author Lene Wold endured to get the interviews she needed to tell the story. That, and the how and why of it, are the introduction and while you’re there, Wold also shares statistics that will put you in a heightened state of anticipation, though you ultimately know what happens. Take a quick breath, then, before you plunge into Chapter One, because that’s the last chance you’ll get for air as this story alternates between Arabian Nights and Nightmare on Elm Street, between idyll and magic, and horrors we can only imagine.

This book isn’t one bit easy to read but if you’re concerned about women’s rights or current events, it’s essential that you do. But beware: Inside an Honor Killing will stun you almost the minute you get it in your hands. Q

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Millennium Dance Complex Pre-Professional Company presents their collection of work in a two-performance showcase. Choreography by Ashlee Vilos, Jeffrey Louiza, Kylie Bronk, Patrick Cubbidge, and more.

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THURSDAY — THE SHOWCASE

Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. 300 South, 6 & 8:30 p.m. Tickets $15, artsaltlake.org

Tony’s Gay Agenda

BY TONY HOBDAY

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DRAG SHOWS/PRIDE AFTER-HOURS

Come in your greatest genderfuckery and stand in solidarity with our transgender/gender non-conforming friends kick offing this year’s Utah Pride festivities with GenderFuQ Pride Kick-off Party. Hosted by Mona Diet, the evening includes an eclectic mix of punk rock, cabaret and plenty of drag to fit your non-conforming needs. Starring Shecock & The Rock Princess, Fists In The Wind, Press Gang Union, and Stop Karen with performances from Gene Banner, Havoq Luscivia, and Pall Maul. Over the Pride wekend, JRC Events presents three nights of SLC Pride 2019. Night One is with Naomi Smalls — a fabulous evening of performances by special guests Gia Bianca Stephens, EllissDee, Icky Rogers & Wiltavious, Kay Bye, The Whore of ’94, Eva Chanel Stephens, Agony Ray, Izzy Lovely, badlucy69, Linnox Green, Jude Wanders, Lilia Maughn, and Terra Flesh. Night Two celebrates with Kim Chi and special guests Feral Ann Wilde, Aphrodeity, London Skies, Mi DVRSTY, Rose, Bunny Bang Bang, Ryanna Woods, Nadia Nice, Indi Skies, Jafabulous, Mandy Morphine, Janice Janice Janice, and Austin Bakaric. Night Three brings in Reyna and Totem City … Bam! Blaq Void is an underground Electronic and Hip-Hop event company that was founded in 2014. Journey through the mysterious place between dreams and discover the most illusive sounds in electronic music.

Blaq Void conquers every terrain from Ambient to Hip Hop. Upon this vessel lies pinnacles of genres not fully uncovered.

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And on Saturday, June 1, they are PROUD to bring you KANDY’s LOUD AND PROUD tour; a first of its kind LGBTQ PRIDE festival tour. A full lineup of LGBTQ artists will be performing to help us make 2019 PRIDE the biggest yet. The Void beckons you.

THURSDAY — GENDERFUQ PRIDE KICK-OFF PARTY

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Metro Music Hall, 615 W. 100 South, 7 p.m., age 21+.

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FRIDAY — SLC PRIDE 2019: NAOMI SMALLS

Metro Music Hall, 615 W. 100 South, 9 p.m., age 21+.

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SATURDAY — SLC PRIDE 2019: KIM CHI

Metro Music Hall, 615 W. 100 South, 9 p.m., age 21+. Tickets $20-150, eventbrite.com — Kandy’s Loud and Proud Tour The Complex, 536 W. 100 South, 9 p.m. Tickets $15, showclix.com

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SPECIAL ENGAGEMENTS

Presented by Jazz Arts of the MountainWest will be Emilee Floor’s album release celebration. Audience members will be part of the promotional video in a ‘night club’ atmosphere.

Special guests and friends Jack Wood, vocalist, and Doug MacDonald, guitar will join in the programming.

Join Laziz Kitchen for the third monthly Drag Branch at Laziz Kitchen – International Pride edition!

In celebration of Pride and 50 years since stonewall, they are taking this time to honor the LGBTQ community globally, especially for those who continue to fight for their right to exist.

Every queen will be doing a number from a different country, and will give context about current LGBTQ laws globally throughout.

It’s a boozy, casual, standing room brunch to support our sisters in their act, and nosh on tasty Lebanese bites.

Be sure to bring some dollars to tip the performers you love!

SATURDAY — EMILEE FLOOR ALBUM RELEASE PARTY

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SUNDAY — DRAG BRUNCH AT LAZIZ KITCHEN

Laziz Kitchen, 912 Jefferson St. W, noon-2 p.m. Tickets $35, eventbrite.com

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Utah Rep brings ‘Angels in America: Millennium Approaches’

The Angel

of the Waters statue in New York City’s Central Park Bethesda Terrace, designed from the Biblical account of an angel blessing the Pool of Bethesda with healing powers to cleanse of disease, has become associated with “Angels in America: A Gay Fantasia on National Themes,” with playwright Tony Kushner’s clever references in his groundbreaking two-play masterpiece, one of the most honored American plays in history.

“The angel statue is a physical representation of everything in this play,” said JayC Stoddard, Utah Repertory Theater Company artistic director. “All of the themes tied together in a single idea of stationary movement. Stillness that has wings. A universal healing love that belongs to everyone, without boundaries.

Eternal and fixed, but never stagnant.”

Stoddard directs Part 1 of “Angels in America,” Millennium Approaches, at the Rose Wagner Performing Arts Center May 30-June 9, with the Part 2, Perestroika, to be produced next year by the same cast and creative team. The epic work, which demands to be revisited again and again, spans the Reagan-Bush eras and spirals around the AIDS crisis in 1980s New York, weaving the lives of fictional and historical characters into a feverish web of social, political and sexual revelations.

“The play was written at the height of the AIDS crisis, and used that moment in our history as a narrative point, but it is not at all what this play is about,” he said.

“It is so much more than that. Racism.

Abandonment. What happens when your religion and your repression collide and how that affects the people closest to us. How to be our best selves in a world designed to crush us. These are just a very few ideas presented to us in this work.

Concepts that will never stop being relevant.”

As part of the fanfare at its 1991 Broadway premiere, “Angels in America” received a Tony Award for Best Play, the Pulitzer for Best Drama and multiple other awards. A recent revival, also a Tony winner starring Nathan Lane, Andrew

Garfield, Russell Tovey, and Lee Pace, was proclaimed a “brilliant, maddening and necessary masterwork” by the New Yorker.

Part of the brilliance of “Angels in America,” along with the interwoven storylines and richness of ideas, is its remarkably drawn characters.

“Kushner delivers characters that are all flawed. Not one of them is all good or all bad, but each takes a journey of potential growth, or damnation, and we get to slowly unravel the destination of those journeys,” Stoddard said.

“Every single day of this rehearsal process has been filled with discovery. In an

attempt to unravel the most honest way to tell this story, I have been able to look at these characters, and understand something deeper in myself. I believe that any audience member who takes this journey with us will share a similar experience.”

Tickets to Utah Rep’s production of “Angels in America: Millennium Approaches” are available at www.artsaltlake. org/production/angels-in-america-part-1-millennium-approaches.

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IN ‘WINE’ THERE’S TRUTH, AND GAYS Amy Poehler and Rachel Dratch talk gay wine buddies, LGBTQ fans and Amy’s ‘soft butch’ style

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

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Poehler and Rachel Dratch are as thrilled as I am over Netflix’s meta itinerary for journalists like myself who have landed in Napa Valley, California to cover their new heavy-on-the-imbibing dramedy, Wine Country. Appropriately, the itinerary is: first, wine; second, wine; fifth, wine.

On an outdoor rooftop deck overlooking the idyllic, rolling views of Artesa Vineyards and Winery, one of their first interviews of the day and where they shot part of the film, Dratch, amused, told Poehler she didn’t realize Netflix was actually flying journalists to wine country for the occasion and hooking them up with a private tasting.

“And then they have to go write the thing,” enthused Dratch, rightfully beloved for her hilariously dry “Debbie Downer” skit on SNL. A laugh. “We’re golden!”

An impromptu in-the-moment sketch is born, as Poehler whoops a booming laugh herself and looks ahead to a day full of blitzed on-the-job reporters essentially reliving their movie, impersonating a juiced journalist who maybe enjoyed too much of Artesa’s very drinkable Rosado before assessing Wine Country: “I LOVED IT! What’s not to love?! Life is short!”

Dratch cracked up at the thought of Netflix’s wine-soaked vision. Buzzed writers! Buzzed TV reporters! The laughs kept coming and they weren’t even drinking yet (and, oh hey boss, full disclosure: neither was I).

“It’s genius, it’s genius!” Dratch raved in a conspiratorial tone.

But it’s no stretch: Wine Country is marinated in wine and women. Based on a girls getaway they took to Napa for Dratch’s 50th birthday with a tight posse of fellow SNL besties, including Maya Rudolph, Tina Fey, Ana Gasteyer, Paula Pell and Emily Spivey (who all star in the film), the boozy but heartfelt friends-gone-wild romp is Poehler’s feature-film directorial debut, after already checking multiple career boxes: producer (Difficult People, Russian Doll), Golden Globes host, author (Yes Please) and actress (Parks and Recreation; Mean Girls, as the “cool mom”).

Like the Pinot being generously poured inside the winery, our gay morning conversation flowed freely. Poehler’s “soft butch” aesthetic (during our sit-down: orange slacks, a white button-up and a textured gray suit coat), living like the Golden Girls and how Wine Country passes the “Jeffdel test” (no two cis straight men converse!) were discussed, and Poehler, all smiles and hearty laughs, was so pleased she extolled, “We have nowhere to go but down after this interview. This is gonna be the interview of the day.”

Dratch beamed back: “Let’s just go to the wine tasting now.”

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Have you been known to enjoy a glass of wine with a gay friend or two?

Amy Poehler: Are you kidding me?

Rachel Dratch: I have a standing rosé Tuesday with my gay bestie. Ha! We’ve been doing it for a couple of years now ’cause he’s always in the neighborhood on Tuesdays at my apartment. Among many other gay pals who I imbibe with!

Amy, do you partake in these wine nights?

Poehler: Sometimes! Rachel and I live in different cities, but when we do see each other we joke, “Shall we head to the Pinot Grigio Islands?”

We do that! We sail to the Grigios! Ha! Do you party with the gays when you go on your girls trips?

Poehler: Oh yeah! I mean, we had an amazing dinner in Palm Springs for Ana Gasteyer’s 50th.

Dratch: At Sparrows.

Poehler: We stumbled across an amazing group of middle-aged gentlemen who were big fans of our work and knew one of Ana’s characters, specifically. Remember those guys we met? We had an awesome night with them. It was a really fun night. And you know, I would say Rachel borders on gay icon status. I’m sorry, but…

nials are obsessed with Fran Drescher,” and, to be honest, because I’m a Gen-Xer, I didn’t quite get it. I was like, “You know, are they? OK! Oh, sure!”

Did you not watch The Nanny?

Poehler: I didn’t watch The Nanny because I was a little older than you.

Dratch: Me too! Ha! Poehler: And so every young female in my office was like, “Oh my god, it’s so true: I love Fran Drescher!”

The film honors Fran through a queer lens. There’s a real LGBTQ presence at that Fran Drescher art show.

Poehler: Yes, everybody is dressed very neutral and everyone is very fluid, and we wanted to quickly show the stark representation between the options and fluidity of the younger generation compared to us, ’cause at the time we are out of touch with ourselves, personally, in the movie. Also, we come upon a hip scene that we get very defensive about.

And I’m proud to say that this film not only passes the Bechdel test, it passes what we like to call the Jeffdel test, which is that no two straight men talk to each other. Ha!

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Poehler: Oh, I combed through.

There’s no two cis straight men who talk to each other.

Dratch: Ha! Oh, I’ll take it!

Speaking of gay icons, let’s talk Fran Drescher.

Poehler: Hahaha! Well, it’s a fun thing to try to strive for!

Poehler: Yes! Fran Drescher!

OK, let’s talk Spring Breakdown.

Poehler: Emily Spivey and Liz Cackowski, who wrote the script, were so funny because they were like, “We have to do a scene where these Millen-

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Wow, it does.

Is this a standing rule for all future Amy Poehler projects?

If she wasn’t already a gay icon, Wine Country makes her one.

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Picnic with us all day & group photo at 4pm at the Canyon

(Poehler and Dratch gasp in unison while looking at each other gleefully with wide eyes.)

Pavilion at the

Memories, right? How would you compare the gayness of that film, which I think is –

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Ha! Yes! How would you compare its gayness to the gayness of Wine Country?

Poehler: I will say that the lovely (openly lesbian) Paula Pell ups our gay quotient pretty high in this film because the only real romantic element of the film is between two gay women and so we were really excited about (that). I mean, even though — spoiler alert! — Rachel

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night at dinner about our generation. There wasn’t any — there were certainly no LGBTQ organizations at my high school, but there was not one openly gay person at my high school.

Dratch: Or barely even in college.

How does this current time for the LGBTQ community compare to your high school experience?

wanna transition, and there’s all this discussion about that too. The young kids are just way ahead of us in terms of how they accept. So I feel like our generation of women who are now in their late 40s and 50s, we’re kind of the straddle technologically because we didn’t have the internet when we were in college, and from an LGBTQ perspective because we just didn’t have

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like, “Here’s the gay part of the movie!”

Poehler: Maya Erskine (who plays the character Paula Pell’s Val is interested in romantically), who’s also in a great TV show right now called Pen15, just says, like, “I’m mad at my girlfriend,” and she walks away and Paula turns to Maya (Rudolph) and she’s like, “Did you hear about her girlfriend?” Maya (Rudolph) just goes, “Jackpot!” Then they high-five and there’s not that real estate taken up with someone being like – Dratch: “And I’m gay, first of all.”

Poehler: “I need to tell you something.”

Looking back at the beginning of your career, when did you know you had an LGBTQ audience?

Poehler: Remember when you did “The Girl With No Gaydar” (on SNL)? That was such a good sketch! Such a funny sketch!

and I’s character sleep with the same guy, we don’t even really discover it till the end and it’s not even part of the story. Haha! But I would say Spring Breakdown maybe had a higher gay quotient.

Dratch: Well, ’cause it was written and directed by Ryan Shiraki, who’s quite a gay man.

Poehler: A professional gay man!

You have both played gay before, so that’s something.

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Dratch: We have little kids and I just like that they’re like, “Oh, that person has two dads.” It’s not a big thing at all. It’s not like (teacher voice), “Let me sit you down and explain.” They’re just used to it, so that’s kind of refreshing and cool that they won’t have any prejudices — or whatever they are, they won’t have any fears. I don’t know if that’s because we live in big cities or what.

people coming out or living authentically, or feeling like they could. That’s something that’s been a huge change in our lifetime.

Poehler: Yeah, our kids know some kids who are figuring out their gender and if they

Dratch: I also like that Paula’s storyline is just so, “Oh yeah.

She likes this person.” It’s not

LGBTQ representation also seems to be an important part of what you do as a filmmaker, Amy. Obviously that is reflected in Wine Country as something that was necessary and important to you.

Poehler: Yes! Thank you. It was.

Dratch: By the way, that came from a real party I was at! I was at my gay friend’s birthday party and there were literally like 80 gay men there and two women.

I mean, it was like, What am I doing in terms of trying to find a date?

Poehler: Hahahaha!

Dratch: I mean, that wasn’t my goal that night, but uh, I was just joking, like, “I’m gonna get lucky tonight! Look at the ratio!” So that’s how that scene was born. I love those things in life when something happens and you’re like, “Let’s go write this as sketch.” That’s my favorite way to come up with sketch, ’cause when you just sit there and you’re like, “Let me think of a sketch,” it just doesn’t work. You have to have the real-life situation.

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So that’s why that scene was really fun.

And was it when that sketch ran that you realized you had a gay following?

Dratch: I feel like the SNL ladies have this. Like, SNL ladies have a built-in gay following.

Poehler: Yeah — yes! I think so. It felt that way (for me), and because we were a little bit of a gang, like a little pack.

I mean, well, let’s first just say that on a daily basis Rachel and I get mistaken for each other. So her success is my success.

Dratch: Sometimes people just go like, “Amy Poehler!” and I’m just like, “Yep.” Like, why correct them? I’ll be Amy Poehler.

Poehler: Haha! Absolutely the same people are like, “Rachel Dratch!” Someone will come up to me and go, “Debbie Downer!” Ha! I’m like, “That’s right! That was me!” And so that didn’t really answer your question.

Dratch and Poehler: Hahahahahaha!

Poehler: But I’m gonna speak for Rachel because – Dratch: Because you are me.

Poehler: Ha! But because Rachel has such a cadre of good, good friends and amazing gay men in her life, I have to say.

Dratch: That’s true.

Poehler: You really do have an army of besties who love and support you, and you right back to them. And I surround myself with young gay women! Ha! Because they’re very good at how they dress.

This might explain your recent Vanity Fair shoot with Maya Rudolph.

And Maya, high femme.

Dratch: Maya is high femme?

That is awesome!

Poehler: That’s right: Maya’s high femme, yeah.

I’m gonna reference a tweet I read recently about those VF photos.

Poehler: Oh dear, is it a bad one? I’m not on Twitter.

Dratch: No, it’s complimentary!

“What in the gay heaven are these photos?”

Dratch and Poehler: Hahahahahaha!

Dratch: High compliment!

Poehler: Well, I would take any of these women as my wife if they allowed me to, and Maya loves dresses and dressing up and I had a revelation a few years ago.

You know, it’s nice to get to a point — it doesn’t even have to be in your career, but in your life — where you do start dressing the way you want or having always wanted. But I had a moment recently with Maya: When Maya puts on a gown for an award show, I see her relax. She loves fashion and when she puts a dress on her body, she loves it. When I put on a dress on, I just stare at everybody else dressed in jeans and t-shirts and I just wanna be back over there.

It took me a long time to really come to terms with that because we have a job where we have to dress up a lot and I just thought it was my awkwardness about dressing up, but the older I get the more I realize I feel much more comfortable in menswear. I like the feel of it. I feel much more myself.

Poehler: Hahaha! Soft butch?

Are you conscious of challenging gender norms when dressing in men’s clothes?

Dratch: Soft butch?!

Poehler: I don’t know if I would

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EVENTS THIS MONTH

Coming up IN THE BLOCKS 5.24–25 UTAH SYMPHONY SEASON FINALE: MAHLER’S SYMPHONY NO. 1 @ Abravanel Hall

5.25–26 VICKI BARBOLAK @ Wiseguys Comedy Club 5.29 JOE MCQUEEN QUARTET presented by EXCELLENCE IN THE COMMUNITY @ The Gallivan Center

5.30 RIO GRANDE CONCERT SERIES presents GEOGRAPHER @ The Gateway

6.1–2 UTAH PRIDE PARADE AND FESTIVAL @ Washington Square 6.9 URBAN FLEA MARKET @ Granary District (400 West 700 South)

6.14–15 UTAH BLUES FEST @ Gallivan Center

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say I’m that conscious of it.

Dratch: You’re sort of letting yourself embrace what you actually like.

Poehler: I had a moment where I was in heels and a stupid-ass dress walking down the carpet of a premiere with all the women I worked with and I literally couldn’t walk, and I remember thinking, I can’t do this again. It just didn’t feel like what –

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Poehler: Because it made me feel really comfortable, and I think Maya really liked it. And whatever my beautiful wife wants, she gets. Haha!

Has this same group given any consideration to remaking The Golden Girls?

Poehler: Oh my god, it’s funny you say that!

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But then there’s plenty of successful things like that.

from peasant stock. And we have the ankles to prove it.

Poehler: Also, what is shocking is, if you go back and look at the ages of the Golden Girls, they were in their late 50s, early 60s. They were not that old!

Poehler: Haha! We do! We have the shtetl ankles to prove it.

Let’s really narrow this down: If this were to happen, which Golden Girl would you be?

Dratch: We have the CANKLES to prove it. She of the Irish potato family. I, of Russian peasant descent.

Poehler: I’m supposed to live in a cave. It is amazing that if you put a babushka over either one of us we immediately look like Russian peasants.

There is nothing high society about us. But someone like Ana or even, say, Tina, they have an elegance that makes them, I would say, upstairs.

And, you know, we’re fine with that. Ha!

Dratch: You were?! I didn’t realize that.

Dratch: We talked about living like that! We talked about later on just having a house Golden Girls-style, and I think we each claimed which character we were gonna be.

Someone said they were gonna be the Rue McClanahan; our other friend just said, “I’m gonna get laid all the time!”

I don’t know which one I would be, but we talked about living like that. In terms of actually (remaking the show), I’m so old-fashioned. Like, don’t touch the classics.

Poehler: Yeah! I asked for it.

Poehler: Yeah!

Poehler: Dratch and I always joke that if there was an upstairs/downstairs kind of film like Downton Abbey we would definitely be downstairs. We would be scrubbing potatoes. We would never make it upstairs.

Dratch: That’s so cool.

Dratch: Don’t remake them!

Dratch: Because we come

As editor of Q Syndicate, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in GQ, Vanity Fair and Billboard.

Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

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Dratch: What a powerful executive!

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Salt Lake County restaurants where you can pig out with your pooch on the patio The Salt Lake County Health Department announced which Salt Lake County restaurants and cafés have received the regulation variance that allows them to welcome dogs to their outdoor eating areas.

Currently, 22 food establishments in Salt Lake County received the variance for the 2019 season and can legally welcome canine companions to their patios. Health officials expect additional establishments to apply for the variance as the season continues. Last year, 20 establishments received the variance.

The variance applies only to dogs, not other animals, and does not affect qualifying ADA service dogs in any way.

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vice dogs individually trained to do work or perform tasks for the benefit of an individual with a disability must be allowed in all public areas of a food establishment. Emotional support animals, comfort animals, companion animals, and therapy animals are not considered service animals under the law.

To receive “dog patio” approval, dog-friendly food-service businesses need to submit a special processes safety plan, pay a fee of $315, and agree to a few rules, including: • The patio must be cleaned with animal-friendly chemicals at the beginning of each shift, or every six hours if the business does not have defined shifts

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closer to June, everyone’s attention turns towards Pride. The parade, the parties, the events — it’s all about the events being better than last year. I am not one to decline a social invitation, however, my thoughts this year have been centered more on considering why we tend to rely on allowing these events to validate us. Don’t get me wrong, this is a time for celebration and coming together, but I fear that we have been sidetracked into focusing more on the social station and less on the meaning of who we are. Let me share a story.

I recently read the story of a young man who shared his challenges in preparing for a job interview. He shared that his interviewing routine consisted of researching the company, studying topics and concepts that he may not have seen in a while, and most of all, dressing to impress. He goes on to cite studies which showed that the better you look, the higher your chances are of getting the job. This young man said that dressing in a trim fit Italian suit paired with leather oxfords made him feel like he was on top of the world and gave him the confidence he needed during job interviews.

As is you can probably guess, this individual experienced some travel delays en route to his job interview, and the bag containing his suit was misplaced. He had to do an entire day of interviews wearing sweat pants and a hoodie!

However, even without his beloved ensemble, he was suc-

cessful in the job interview.

The moral of this story is the suit does not make the man; the man makes the suit.

Too often, we get a false sense of confidence and power from material things and external forces. Music cannot motivate a body without a mind to consume it. Clothes cannot make you feel confident without a body to fill them and without a mind to convey that confidence. You have the power to unlock forces in your mind to accomplish and achieve anything in this world. The power is in you.

I tell you this story because I don’t want the focus of Pride to become the search for the perfect “party.” This should be a time to understand ourselves and appreciate the true meaning of what we are celebrating. Just like the story I shared, we don’t need party plans or certain attire, to be able to be our most authentic selves. Take a moment and ask yourself, “are you allowing an external source to be the main cause of your internal validation?” Or, “are you embracing the spirit of the celebration and welcoming one and all in the name of inclusion?” The answer to that question may surprise you.

Pride is a time of remembrance and coming together as a community. Naturally, there will be social events, but the underlying reason for the celebration is to celebrate diversity and inclusion. So, this year, I challenge each of you to rise to the occasion. You cannot be defined by rags or expensive tags. Q

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TAURUS Apr 20–May 20

The long road to finding a purpose in a career goal may be coming to an end. Whether success of failure is the result, be mindful of the reasons for the result. A work associate or supervisor may be rooting for you behind the scenes. Try to figure out the best possible outlook for the changes.

GEMINI May 21–June 20

A snarky friend has forgotten how sensitive you can be. Bruised feelings are natural but consider the source. Spend time with

people who lift the mood and keep a positive outlook. A party season is about to start up, and there will be many demands for good times. Have a good time and relax.

CANCER June 21–July 22

A family member is becoming a bigger part in the daily grind. An entanglement regarding a relationship or friend is bound to create a few waves. Keep a healthy separation to avoid conflicts that you’re simply not ready to deal with. It’s not a matter or avoidance, but emotional preservation here.

LEO July 23–August 22

Now is a good time to make a change in your financial situation. A new job or a role could be a good idea, but examine the big picture before making a swift move.

A strong personality from someone you don’t like could prove distracting.

Show some tough love and use anger to your advantage.

VIRGO August 23–Sep. 22

The threshold has been reached in attaining a long desired goal.

It may comes as a surprise become of the ease of the accomplishment. For

once, going with the flow has paid off.

Share your good cheer with someone you care about. No celebration can take place unless you share.

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22

Whatever you decide to do in a relationship, keep in mind that it’s for the best. It may be worrisome that a key figure has been somewhat detached, but it’s not lack of interest driving this individual. It’s more a matter of contemplation as a reaction to your own. It takes two to tango, so dance.

SCORPIO Oct. 23–Nov. 21

Not everything fits into a tidy little box, especially when the box is your heart. Take time to sort out feelings regarding a personal loss or change. Transformations are all around you, and it seems like it’s happening everywhere at once. Stay firm and simply observe. It will make sense soon.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22–December 20.

While it may feel as though you’ve been charged with caring for others, the risk of being overbearing is possible. Ride the wave of feeling responsible but know where the lines are drawn. A friend or associate might

feel uneasy, so take time to take their feelings into account. Love counts.

CAPRICORN Dec 21–Jan 19

You’ve been handed a gift that you’ve always wanted: control over a special projector or task. There is a sense of liberation in this, but realize how much you’ve relied on others up to this point. Being in the lead is a lot of fun, but be sure you know the way. Don’t be afraid to accept help.

AQUARIUS Jan. 20–Feb. 18

Fight for a cause you believe in and stand tall. A slight improvement in your work/life balance means a passion project can take center stage.

Examine a few options when figuring out how collaborators will influence your work. While it may seem wise to rely on others, going solo is the best.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19

Fix a problem with a family member. A sense of security has been lost. The best course of action is to have a conversation.

Provide a brief summary on what’s bothering you. It may be revealed that this person mirrors your feelings. There is no golden standard for happiness, so make one.! Q

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National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 YWCA of Salt Lake  ywca.org/ saltlakecity 322 E 300 S 801-537-8600 HEALTH & HIV

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BY DR. LAURIE BENNETT-COOK

Happy Pride!

— is the greeting of the season. Many of us find ourselves feeling hornier than usual this time of year — as well as ready and willing to celebrate that feeling with whoever else may be feeling the same.

Below are some ways to prevent bringing anything home that may linger and be an unwelcome reminder of an otherwise salacious, albeit fun, encounter.

to enter your body. Less friction equals less tearing which equals less risk of contracting an STI. TIP: Coconut oil may be super popular these days, but it is not lube and can actually breakdown latex making many condoms ineffective.

Don’t Shave:

Know Your Status! Getting tested is the single most responsible thing a sexually active person can do. You may be carrying a sexually transmitted infection (STI) that you aren’t even aware of. Without knowing it exists, there’s no way to treat it. Some places to check out for testing: The Salt Lake County Health Department, Utah AIDS Foundation, Planned Parenthood.

This may sound counterintuitive to prepping up your sexy bits for a potential rendezvous with a new lover, but shaving can cause many little micro abrasions which in turn offer a point of access for infections and bacteria to enter your body. Ever experience razor burn? Those minor little injuries to the skin are all the opening your body needs to invite something unwanted in. If shaving is how you keep yourself manicured, do so 24 hours before heading out to play.

Carry the right equipment:

Wax in Advance:

Condoms and Dental Dams are your friends! It’s up to you to protect yourself.

Someone may believe they are free from all STIs, but should you contract something in spite of that, the responsibility is really on you. We are each responsible for our own bodies — and that means protecting it from potential infections.

If the person you’re hooking up with has sexual practices and/or partners that are little known to you, it’s best to err on the side of caution and use protection. Think it’s not sexy to insist on using a barrier?

Know what’s even less sexy? Contracting an STI and having to take a trip to the doctor’s office for treatment that could’ve been prevented.

If waxing is your jam, do so at least 48 hours prior to play time. Like shaving, waxing can cause an injury to the skin creating an opening for unwanted STIs to enter. Waxing injuries to the skin take a bit longer to heal than shaving as many waxes remove a bit of skin along with the hair follicle.

First things First:

Lube Up! Lube lessens friction and therefore lessens the possibility of micro tears or abrasions. Tears and abrasions offer an access for unwanted bacteria or viruses

Fresh Breath?

Brushing our teeth is not only necessary but also greatly appreciated by everyone we encounter. However, doing so right before playing orally may put you at a higher risk for STI contraction. Much like shaving and waxing, brushing can create micro-tears in our gums. It’s not uncommon for the gums to bleed a little when brushing your teeth. That bleeding is a sign of a (minor) injury to the gums and therefore — you guessed it — another potential opening for STI contraction.

Thankfully our mouths heal super fast

and if you happened to brush your teeth in the morning, by afternoon you should be good to go. However, if you do find yourself with a mouthful of someone else’s deliciousness …

Swallow or Spit but Don’t Let It Sit. Our mouths are acidic and have the ability to kill a lot of bacteria. But let’s not test just how much they kill by allowing another person’s body fluids, no matter how tasty, to simmer in it for too long.

Your Safest Barrier: Closed Skin. Think of how we all work to prevent the spread of a cold or flu, which are simply other viruses that are not (usually) sexually transmitted. The best way we work to prevent them is to wash our hands often and disinfect areas that may be infectious. Treat your genitals the same way. Clean yourself often; tend to any openings in the skin; don’t knowingly expose yourself to something that may potentially infect you.

There certainly is a lot of unwarranted shame and stigma around STIs. Fortunately, there are cures and treatments and plenty of ways to prevent oneself from contracting a new STI or passing along an already existing one. Keep yourself knowledgable and appropriately protected so you can enjoy any and every sexual encounter that comes your way and thus — keep your Pride Days not only Happy but Sexier too. Q Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook is a Clinical Sexologist with a private practice in Salt Lake City. She can be reached at DrLaurieBennettCook@gmail.com

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Last night a drag queen saved my life How drag queens are becoming the heroes of HIV prevention

BY DESIREE GUERRERO

My love

affair with drag queens goes way back. Since my childhood in the suburbs of East L.A. (an area noticeably lacking in glitz and glamour), I have been fascinated with these magical creatures. My first glimpses of queens were on daytime talk — which, in the pre-internet ’80s, was also my only window into “the real world” that existed beyond my ’hood.

Geraldo would have the club kids on, and on The Jenny Jones Show and Ricki Lake, my beloved queens. (I made sure to scour the TV guide daily for such appearances.)

Part of my devotion is due to the fact that — aside from the pure fun, fantasy and escapism that drag queens have to offer — drag queens often bring hardearned wisdom, strength, love, empathy and support, especially for the LGBTQ+ community. And many queens have used their platforms for good, both literally and figuratively. These hardworking performers, most often gay men but sometimes trans women, are also often fierce activists speaking out on bullying and suicide prevention, transgender awareness, marriage equality, substance dependence, and HIV awareness and prevention.

Of course when the ’90s hit, along with RuPaul and his 1993 album Supermodel of the World, my drag curiosity had become a full-blown obsession — and now I had a Queen Motha to worship. Of

course, I’ve gone on to become a fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race (though I admit I feel a vague sense of resentment toward all you Johnny-come-lately fans). One of the most amazing and powerful aspects of the show is its ability to bridge gaps that would not otherwise seem traversable.

Not only have many estranged familial relationships been healed through the series, but it has also been instrumental in increasing HIV awareness among both queer and straight audiences.

Famously in season one, petite and bubbly queen Ongina (Ryan Palao) disclosed his poz status after winning a challenge in which contestants created their own HIV awareness PSA. Though in its fledging season on Logo, the show was not nearly to its current level of viewership, the moment was historic.

Palao was one of the first people since Pedro Zamora (The Real World, season 3) to come out HIV-positive on reality TV and helped reignite the conversation in the new millennium.

And that was just the beginning. Since June of last year, the show has started showing Truvada ads, Gilead’s branded PrEP treatment, which features gay men and cis and trans women of color. In case you haven’t heard, PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a highly effective HIV prevention pill. If taken daily, Truvada can be up to 99 percent effective in prevent-

ing HIV transmission. With the show’s now-massive VH1 audience, this could easily become one of the most effective PrEP campaigns to date.

In addition, season eight winner, Bob the Drag Queen, has become a major PrEP ambassador. Shortly after taking the crown, Queen Bob (aka Christopher Caldwell) was quick to use his new national platform to increase PrEP awareness with an educational and entertaining video. “I have three goals: to give back to the community, [support the] children, and make people laugh,” he told The Advocate at the time. “Now that I’m America’s Next Drag Superstar… I’m not gonna stop being political.”

As effective as things like national ads and star-power are, sometimes our local queens are the ones bringing PrEP awareness to where it’s needed most — in the club.

Astoria, N.Y. queen Gilda Wabbit, who incorporates PrEP awareness into her live shows, told the The Advocate last summer that the stigma of the “Truvada whore” label is “real and damaging. It is sex-negative, cruel, and discourages safer-sex practices. I understand the fear… but my friends who [use PrEP] are tested more often and are more informed about their sexual health than any people I’ve met before.”

So the moral of the story? Listen to a drag queen. It just may save your life — or at least your health. Q Desirée Guerrero is the associate editor of Plus magazine.

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Rosie acting again in ‘I Know This Much Is True’ Rosie O’Donnell is acting again! This pleases us very much, frankly. People forget that the embattled former co-host of The View was once a much more regularly delightful presence in films like A League of Their Own, the very weird BDSM-themed detective comedy Exit To Eden, The Flintstones, Sleepless in Seattle, and Harriet The Spy. But now she’s back in I Know This Much Is True, a limited series from director Derek Cianfrance (The Place Beyond the Pines) and screenwriter Gina Prince-Bythewood (Beyond The Lights), based on the novel

by Wally Lamb. It’s about a middle-aged man trying to get his mentally ill twin brother released from an institution, and it stars Mark Ruffalo in a dual role, Juliette Lewis, Kathryn Hahn, Melissa Leo and The Good Wife’s Archie Panjabi.

We don’t know what role Rosie has here, but we assume it’s a serious one, and that there will be no place in this drama for the Betty Rubble giggle, but we can dream. And we do.

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If you’re

not dripping in head-to-toe rainbow this Pride season, are you even Priding? Lock down your lewks with these somewhereover-the accessories that’ll make a haus begin to pitch.

cessories, including headbands, bandanas, travel wraps and more featuring the month-long celebration’s official logo. $12-$29, echodesign.com

men and a wrestler performing the controversial “butt drag” on his opponent. A whole new collection will debut at RuPaul’s DragCon LA (and subsequently for sale online), celebrating Tom of Finland, glitter unicorns and something called Camp Cockalot, which, we’ll take the versatile bunk, please. $9-$17, stephen-mcdermott.com

1 Toms Unity Collection

Toms Unity Collection canvas classics for men and women have a rainbow connection in a multicolor text style that features uplifting words and phrases like “love,” “shine” and “one4one” in a handwritten print plus an inverse version save for a ROYGBIV triangle on top and Pride flag on the heel. Perfect for stomping out hate and homophobia all year round. $60, toms.com/pride-collection

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6 JanSport backpacks

As LGBTQ people, it sometimes feels like we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders, but JanSport can help with that. It’s line of Pride-themed bags, mini-bags, not-so-traditional traditional backpacks, and fanny packs (or

3 Tipsy Elves Pride Line

Keep your Pride essentials at your fingertips with Tipsy Elves’ super-camp (because who needs the Met Gala?)

Pot of Gold fanny pack with suspenders or suit up in a selection of other rainbow fashion statements like its Love Is Love leggings or hooded horizontal-stripe onesie that’ll only enhance your assets. 10% of all Pride sales benefit the Trevor Project. $12-$80, tipsyelves.com

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Is it even Pride if 2(X)IST doesn’t have something with which to barely cover you? This year’s collection is a gay leprechaun’s wet dream with rainbow cropped joggers, shorts, swim briefs and trunks, and when you get down to the nitty-gritty, a couple kaleidoscopic jock straps to hang on his hotel doorknob.

Through June, 2(X)IST will donate $1 per sale from the collection to The Audre Lorde Project, TGI Justice Project and Montana Two Spirit Society. $24-$75, 2xist.com

“fag bags” as people called them in the ’90s — so yeah, appropriate) is a comfortable option to stow all your Pride-festival swag, sunscreen, makeup, costume changes, and maybe even your feelings if you start to catch ’em for that fucc boi over there. $17$42, jansport.com Q Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. He spends his time writing from the beach with his dog Jaxon. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyrox.

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The Tale of a Dairy Queen

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

The road

to a queenly lifestyle is fraught with danger and excitement.

One day last year, I was safely ensconced in the basement of Chateau Pap Smear, with a smoking hot glue gun in my paws, busily bedazzling a new pair of breasticles when Mr. Pap Smear came into my glittery lair to inform me that if I were to continue to purchase glitter and sequins at the current rate, we would soon have to file for bankruptcy. Oh, horror of horrors! How shall I be able to maintain the lifestyle to which I aspire to become accustomed? It was clear that I needed a supplemental source of income, so I started working for one of those food delivery companies.

One night last month I was keeping a relatively close eye on the clock as my scheduled block was about to end at 8 p.m., which was a very good thing because I was feeling the need to pee. The clock read 7:55 when I dropped off what I thought would be my last order of the evening, so I pointed QueerTanic toward home and put the pedal to the metal before my panties became moist.

I had just turned onto my block when I received another order. “Drat,” I thought to myself, “surely, I can hold it in for another 20 minutes.” This order was to pick up some ice cream clear up to Sugar House, so I drove right past my driveway and headed to the restaurant. When I got

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there, the order was only for a half pint of ice cream and was to be delivered to room #401 in the Holiday Inn clear out past the airport at the International Center. “Holy crap, that’s a long way to go for such a minuscule order.”

I steered onto the freeway on-ramp and began the journey. After I had reached the point of no return on the freeway, a sudden wave of urgency to see a man about a horse hit my bladder.

“Just hold on girl, we’ll be done in 20 minutes.”

It seemed to help me keep from watering the upholstery if I wiggled in the seat and repeatedly slammed my thighs together. I began wishing that I was wearing a catheter so I could hold the hose out of the window, and I could water the wildflowers as I drove. The clock read 8:25 as I pulled into the parking lot of the Holiday Inn. I quickly got out of the car and walked into the hotel, rode the elevator up to the fourth floor and, of course, wouldn’t you know it — room #401 was at the far end of a very long hallway.

I knocked on the door. No answer.

I’m squeezing my legs together holding back the flow. I call the customer on the phone, stating that I’m standing at his door, then hang up and waited. My phone rings, it’s the customer asking which hotel I’m in, because he is standing outside #401 and he can’t see me. He informed me that he is in the Comfort Inn not Holiday Inn. WELL SHIT! I hustle back to QueerTanic and set off for the new destination.

I arrived at the Comfort Inn where there was nary a restroom in sight and repeat my ordeal. Of course, room #401 in this hotel was also at the far end of another long hallway and my urgency was now so extreme that, oh sweet Mother of God, it was necessary for me to waddle as if I were wearing a tight pencil skirt, to hold back the river.

Again, no answer to my knock on the door. I phoned him again. “Oh, I’m so

embarrassed. I’m actually in the Fairfield Inn,” he said apologetically. “OH, FOR GOD’S SAKE! He had better be damned cute, or I just might have to kill him.”

I’m beginning to sweat now. A very embarrassing incident was about to happen, and to top off the occasion, the ice cream was melting.

After getting a little lost and another tense 15 minutes, I entered the third hotel and, of course, another long, torturous walk to the end of the hallway. I knocked on the door. “Please, dear God, let him be here.” A wave of pressure welled up in my nether regions. I could feel a pounding in my temples from the strain. Finally, I could hear a rustling behind the door.

I crossed my legs and leaned my arm against the wall to steady me from falling over. I actually had to hold my breath so as not to disturb the force… The ice cream was beginning to drip out of the bag.

The door opened and an absolutely beautiful specimen of manly gorgeousness opened the door. He apologized for all the confusion as he handed me a one-dollar bill. I stood there mesmerized by his heaving chest and bulging biceps, but I cut him off saying, “Oh it’s no problem at all, I’m happy to do it,” as I totally forgot I was about to engage in impromptu water sports.

The clock read 9:35 when I got home.

That one order took 95 minutes and 18 miles for a $1 tip.

This story leaves us with several important questions: 1. Should I begin carrying a catheter in my purse?

2. Would it be painful if I bedazzled the catheter?

3. If one empties their bladder via a catheter hose while driving on the freeway, will the “draining of the dragon” end up sprinkling onto the windshields of following cars?

4. If I had performed water sports would I have earned a larger tip?

5. If a queen was to yell “Wee, wee, wee” all the way home, would she get a traffic ticket?

These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q

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