SEEMA September 2023

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Stars September of

And just like that, the summer is gone. I’ve barely made it through a quarter of my long to-do list of things I planned to do during the so-called summer slowdown, but I am glad I got a few things done, including getting back to writing, and doing a new promo for Sundays with SEEMA.

As we closed out August, I was thrilled to watch India shine in space, becoming the first nation to land a spacecraft, Chandrayaan, on the moon’s south pole. A moment of pride for sure. In the Experience section in this issue, we highlight India’s lunar triumph, exemplifying the nation’s indomitable spirit of exploration. As a young girl in India, I had always been interested in space, even considering majoring in astrophysics at one point, inspired in part by the launch of India’s first artificial satellite Aryabhata.

India has always been at the leading edge of science and space research, and it has inspired generations of young girls into space, including Mamta Patel Nagaraja (see story on page 62), who works as the Associate Chief Scientist at NASA. We speak to the NASA scientist about her journey and her

dream of going into space and celebrate the dedication of two remarkable South Asians honored by the Department of State for their tireless efforts in championing change.

India has also made great strides in many other arenas, including fashion. As the New York Fashion Week kicks off this month, we bring you a few South Asians who are teaching us that fashion is more than about clothes and jewelry. Fashion today has become a canvas for self-expression and art, as our cover star Falguni Peacock shows. An international designer who has dressed big name stars including Beyonce and Taylor Swift, Peacock stands as a visionary creator, redefining elegance with every stitch. The cofounder behind the international brand Falguni Shane Peacock, unveiled to SEEMA her journey to fame as she and her co-founder husband get ready to present their collection at the NYFW 2023. We delve into the story of this trailblazing designer, her inspirations, innovations, and the magical moments that have made her a venerated name in the global fashion arena.

In the Nourish section, we embark on a culinary journey to decode the secrets to achieving the perfect, fluffy naan. Also, discover the power of storytelling in Prosper as Soundari Mukherjea, unveils the transformative impact of strong narratives in shaping perceptions on the personal and professional fronts. We also explore the threat of AI

and the challenges it throws towards employment dynamics of the future.

Our regular features in Indulge explore the trends in fashion and beauty. We give you the chance to immerse yourself in the allure of fall fashion and the everevolving world of CBD-infused beauty products. This month we also focus on a couple of serious issues that affect South Asians in particular. The Breathe section uncovers the significance of a proposed bill advocating heart health within the South Asian community. We also encourage you to join the movement to raise awareness about suicide prevention within the South Asian diaspora during the month of September. Another issue which is rampantly becoming common amongst the community is Divorce. The feature “Divorce Doulas” navigates the

complexities of separation through the insights of a divorce doula specializing in assisting South Asian women. As we bid adieu to another summer and set our sights ahead to September, I leave you with a diverse collection of stories. I hope that your journey through the pages of SEEMA will recharge your life with that resolute spirit that courses through South Asians—a spirit that finds expression in fashion, innovation, unity, and the unbreakable pursuit of a brighter tomorrow. I’ll see you again in the next issue; remember to draw strength from that spirit and enjoy September.

• Seema Kumar, Founder, SEEMA Network •

M. CLARK VISIONS

The Skies the Limit

In August, India became the fourth country to land a spacecraft on the moon

Honored for Activism

U.S. State Department recognized two South Asian social activists with 2023 Global Anti-Racism Champions Award

Women in

Showbiz Everywhere

The ensemble group tour celebrates its first studio album in more than 45 years

The Sky’s the Limit

In August, India became the fourth country to land a spacecraft on the moon

The Indian Space Research Organization’s (ISRO) Chandrayaan-3 lunar mission was a success, landing on the moon’s south pole, an unexplored region that no other spacecraft has landed on before. Nearly 7 million watched the YouTube live stream, and celebration broke out across India and among South Asians worldwide, as India followed only the U.S., Russia, and China in landing a spacecraft on the moon. “This moment is unforgettable. It is phenomenal. This is a victory cry of a new India,” said Prime Minister Narendra Modi, who waved the Indian flag as he watched the landing from South Africa where he is attending a BRICS summit.

The feat occurred shortly after Russia’s Luna-25 spacecraft lost control and crashed onto the lunar surface. ISRO’s successful landing is a milestone moment for India, but it’s also meaningful in space exploration— the south pole of the moon is a region containing water, ice, and valuable minerals. The feat is expected to capture valuable data for further space missions.

In July, Prime Minister Modi forecasted success for this mission. “Chandrayaan-3 scripts a new chapter in India’s space odyssey… It soars high, elevating the dreams and ambitions of every Indian. This momentous

Honored for Activism

U.S. State Department recognized two South Asian social activists with 2023 Global Anti-Racism Champions Award

Rani Yan Yan and Saraswati Nepali were among six social activists recognized last month, at the First Annual Ceremony for the Secretary of State’s Award for Global Anti-Racism Champions. This group of global civil society leaders has courageously advanced the human rights of members of marginalized racial, ethnic, and Indigenous communities and combatted systemic racism, discrimination, and xenophobia worldwide.

Rani Yan Yan – Bangladesh

Rani Yan Yan is an Indigenous human rights defender and women’s rights activist who has brought international attention to the plight of her community at great risk to herself. Yan Yan serves as a tribal leader from the Marma Tribe in Bangladesh and actively advocates for vulnerable populations facing government-sponsored discrimination, land grabbing, violence and the adverse effects of climate change. As a direct result of Yan Yan’s activism, the international community has gained new awareness of the violence committed against minority groups in Bangladesh. Throughout her career, Yan Yan has advised and trained domestic and international

organizations on climate resiliency and gender equality, researched the political participation of Indigenous women, and mentored youth activists on diversity and social inclusion. Yan Yan has emerged as a fearless voice and outspoken advocate for equal rights, despite facing immense discrimination and even violence.

Saraswati Nepali – Nepal

Saraswati Nepali is an acclaimed social activist and President of the Dalit Society Development Forum, and a lifelong defender of the human rights of marginalized castes, the disabled, and the poor. For over twenty years, Nepali has demonstrated sustained leadership in advancing the human rights of members of the most marginalized ethnic communities in Nepal. Born into a Dalit—or so-called “untouchable” caste—family in Nepal’s underdeveloped far-western region, Nepali played a crucial role in Dalit social justice movements to acquire land rights, gain access to education, and obtain equal justice from the courts. Nepali’s decades of advocacy on behalf of those in the most need and her demonstrated success in attaining justice and providing a voice to the marginalized are a model of courage in the pursuit of dignity and human rights.

Hues of Heritage

Women in Showbiz Everywhere hosted its first-ever event celebrating South Asians in film and television

Women in Showbiz Everywhere hosted the first Hues of Heritage event at Baar Baar in Downtown Los Angeles in celebration of South Asians in film and television and in honor of South Asian Heritage Month.

South Asian creatives, writers, journalists, were joined by other entertainment industry members to simultaneously mark the launch of the RATNA fellowship, which Vineesha Arora-Sarin, Founder & Executive Director of WISE, terms a “movement dedicated to identifying and supporting emerging South Asian female writers worldwide who aspire to make their mark in the global entertainment industry. And what better time to launch it than now when we’re going through a major cultural and a much-needed revolution in Hollywood to give writers and creators fair play as we speak.”

The fellowship will select five writers from South Asia (including India, Bangladesh, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, and others) and the diaspora to join a oneyear program and collaborate on a project alongside talented mentors.

Director Sundeep Morrison expressed her gratitude for WISE

creating such an event. “It’s so powerful to enter a space where we can all feel seen, heard, and appreciated,” Morrison said. “Gatherings like these help us build bridges. Thank you for creating this space, WISE!”

Krishna Consciousness

The Hare Krishna movement is on the rise in North America

The Hare Krishna movement, officially known as the International Society for Krishna Consciousness (ISKCON), has a significant presence in the United States. ISKCON is a spiritual and cultural organization founded in 1966 by A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada, with the aim of promoting the teachings of Bhagavad Gita and the practice of devotional service, or bhakti-yoga, centered on the worship of Lord Krishna.

In the United States, ISKCON has established temples, centers, and communities across various states. These centers serve as hubs for spiritual and cultural activities, including daily worship, meditation, study circles, and community outreach. The movement has gained recognition for its distinctive practices such as chanting the Hare Krishna mantra and promoting vegetarianism as part of a holistic spiritual lifestyle.

The most famous ISKCON temple in the U.S. is the New Vrindaban community in West Virginia. This community features a majestic temple, gardens, and a cultural center where visitors can learn about Krishna consciousness, participate in devotional activities, and experience the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita.

The Hare Krishna movement has also played a role in introducing Eastern philosophy and spirituality to Western audiences. The annual Ratha Yatra parade, held in various cities across the United States, is a colorful and vibrant celebration that showcases the movement’s culture and philosophy to the general public.

Beyond its religious and spiritual activities, ISKCON in the US is involved in various humanitarian and social service initiatives, including providing free meals to the needy through the Food for Life

program, promoting environmental awareness, and supporting educational initiatives.

One of the most prominent followers of ISKCON has been former Apple CEO Steve Jobs who in his commencement speech at Stanford recalled how he depended on ISKCON temples to feed himself. However the most famous follower has undoubtedly been former Beatle, George Harrison.

Janmashtami will be celebrated at the beginning of this month. While the scale of the celebrations in the U.S. might vary, the underlying spirit of devotion, joy, and unity remains a central theme of the celebrations. The Hare Krishna movement in the United States continues to offer spiritual guidance, cultural enrichment, and a sense of community to those seeking a deeper understanding of Vedic philosophy and a connection with the teachings of Lord Krishna.

Nourish

Make the Perfect Naan

Believe it or not, you can make delicious naan at home without a clay oven. Here’s how.

Lessons from the Darjeeling Express

Why “it’s more than possible” to hire a diverse kitchen staff, according to Asma

Said Khan

Rice on Ice

With extreme weather and the war in Ukraine impacting the world’s food supply, India curbs rice exports

Make the Perfect Naan

by Maureen Petrosky

There’s nothing quite like savoring the last taste of vindaloo or sopping up the sauce from your favorite dal with a swipe of pillowy naan. It’s akin to winning the final conquest, leaving no drop behind. While our tables can be graced with dozens of different dishes one common thread is naan. It is integral to many South and Central Asian dining experiences, and for as many family stories at a table there are just as many versions of this seemingly simple bread.

So I set out to find an easy recipe. The requirement being that anyone can create it in their home kitchen. Traditionally naan is cooked in large clay kilns that get up to 900 degrees. Seeing as most home cooks are working with an oven that hits 500 to 550 degrees tops, I was going to have to get creative. Welcome the cast-iron skillet to the picture.

Cast-iron is adored by chefs and home cooks alike for its ability to retain high heat, create beau tifully charred steaks and impart roasted flavors to

The most universally beloved ingredient in a scrumptious Indian meal is almost always that warm, savory naan. Believe it or not, you can make delicious naan at home without a clay oven. Here’s how.

even the most delicate of vegetables. More importantly it can get hotter than a stainless-steel pan. This would turn out to be the perfect tool for my at-home naan. Now that I had the cooking vessel it was time to dissect the recipe.

For the most part the basic naan recipes include yeast, sugar, salt, and flour and then variations of egg, yogurt, milk, or some combination of those three. My goal was to replicate the soft, pillowy naan from my favorite Indian restaurant. I found that recipes that called for egg left my flatbread a little too flat. Milk and egg created a good version but still was a bit dense for my liking. I wanted air pockets and a softness to the finished dough that those did not achieve. My final batch used no egg or milk and opted for yogurt instead. This was the secret ingredient to getting my perfect naan.

Once I had mastered the basic recipe the flavor options were endless. Here’s my at home no fail naan and the most popular variations for you to try.

Plain Naan Recipe

1 teaspoon sugar

½ cup warm water

¼ ounce active dry yeast

2 ¼ cups all-purpose flour

½ cup plain yogurt

½ teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon oil, plus some for greasing the pan 3 tablespoons butter, melted

In a small bowl, add the sugar, warm water, and yeast together. Stir to combine well. The yeast will dissolve and becomes frothy after about five to 10 minutes. In a bowl, add the flour and make a well in the middle.

Add the yeast mixture, yogurt, salt, and oil into the well and knead until the surface of the dough becomes smooth.

Cover the dough with a damp cloth and let it rise in a warm place (for example: beside the stove top or warm oven). The dough should double in size, about 30 minutes.

Divide the dough into 8 equal sized balls. Using a rolling spin, roll the dough balls into a circle.

Heat your cast-iron pan over high heat. Add just enough oil to lightly coat the surface. Place the dough on the skillet. When it puffs up and bubbles and burnt spots appear, flip it over and cook the other side. Repeat.

Naan Your Way

The variations of naan are endless but here are a few favorites to add to your repertoire.

• Garlic - Add chopped fresh garlic and butter

• Peshwari - almonds, raisins, and coconut shavings

• Roghni naan - made with milk, sesame seeds, and nigella seeds

Lessons from the Darjeeling Express

Why “it’s more than possible” to hire a diverse kitchen staff, according to Asma Said Khan

Writing in British Vogue, Asma Said Khan, founder of the Darjeeling Express in London reflected on the importance and significance of prominent chefs hiring a diverse staff, including people who are less able-bodied, and those of different genders, ages, and races. “My team is a diverse collective that delivers world-class food and service to each and every customer. I see the way that they respect and value each other, and how they are inspiring the next generation.”

The 54-year-old, Indian-born British restauranteur and cookbook author wrote the Vogue article in response to an Instagram post of chef and TikTok sensation Thomas Straker, who posted a picture of his all-male, all-white staff in front of his Notting Hill restaurant. “Many commented on the lack of diversity within Straker’s team, particularly given its location in one of the most multicultural areas of London. But for me, it came as no surprise.”

In the article, she expressed concerns about how women are often devalued, mistreated, and even abused in the hospitality industry and lamented that the fine-dining industry is “long overdue its #metoo moment.” She closed the article with key advice for other restauranteurs, especially those with influence: “My advice for fellow chefs…Recognize your biases, take a chance on someone even if they aren’t fully qualified, and remember you aren’t recruiting a Premier League team. Then, together, we might finally stop reinforcing the barriers to progression in fine dining.”

Origin Story of Darjeeling Express

Asma Khan first opened Darjeeling Express in 2017. But before it was a renowned Indian restaurant in the heart of London, it began as a dinner for 12 guests at home, with the home cooks serving up their favorite Indian food cooked from family recipes that go back to generations. “The food is a true homage to my royal Mughlai ancestry and the busy streets of Calcutta, where I grew up. What results is a lovely mélange of street food like channa chaat and slow-cooked tamatar gosht, which takes you on a journey from Calcutta in the east of India to Hyderabad in the south. Food here is served the way Indian food is meant to be eaten—platters of dishes boasting texture and flavors which complement each other, encouraging you to gather and share in the style of the traditional ‘daawat’ (feast).”

Follow the restaurant’s adventures on Instagram @darjeelingldn.

Rice on Ice

India, which is often referred to as world’s “rice bowl” because it accounts for more than 40% of the world’s rice exports, imposed a ban on exports of non-basmati white rice at the end of July, reacting to heavy monsoon rains over the summer that damaged crops. Last month, India imposed a 20% duty on exports of parboiled rice. “In order to ensure adequate availability of non-basmati white rice in the Indian market and to allay the rise in prices in the domestic market, the government of India has amended the export policy,” the food ministry said in a statement that cited a 11.5% increase in retail prices over 12 months.

With extreme weather and the war in Ukraine impacting the world’s food supply, India curbs rice exports

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Prosper

ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE • ELECTRICITY • BRANDING

The AI Threat

Job losses are already occurring in professions once thought safe from automation

Climate Cooperation

A new electricity deal has brought South Asian nations closer together

The Brand Builder

CEO Soundari Mukherjea shares the importance of strong storytelling

The AI Threat

Since last year’s launch of Open AI’s ChatGPT, generative AI has been the latest tech trend to dominate workplace conversation. The technology, which can automatically produce content like images and text, is already having an impact on jobs once thought to be safe from automation.

Recently, Sharanya Battacharya, a Kolkatabased copywriter, told the New York Post that she saw her earnings dwindle to nearly nothing. “It has been really tough since the reduction in my workload—not just for me but my family, too,” said Battacharya in an interview with the New York Post. “I can hardly make 10% of what I used to make.”

But rather than fear the new technology, experts say now is the time for professionals to familiarize themselves with the technology and work on cultivating AI-resilient skills. Here’s a few ways to start:

FOCUS ON UNIQUELY HUMAN SKILLS. Machines still lack creativity, empathy and critical thinking. If you can show off your ability to come up with innovative solutions and understand nuance, you’ll prove you’ve got skills the bots lack. Double down on your emotional intelligence too. Leadership, collaboration, and relationship building are skills that AI can’t replicate.

LEAN INTO LEARNING.

By getting more com-fortable using and experimenting with this emerging tech, you can develop skills in working with these systems instead of competing against them. Understanding how AI functions will help you spot biases and errors too, which will become even more valuable in this changing era.

AUGMENT WITH AI

Find ways to use AI to boost your own abilities instead of replacing you entirely. If you can outsource more tedious tasks to automation, it can leave more time for creative tasks and professional development.

Job losses are already occurring in professions once thought safe from automation

Climate Cooperation

Though it produces less than 1% of all global emissions, Bangladesh continues to be one of the most vulnerable countries when it comes to climate change. The effects of the climate have already been seen this summer, as temperatures climbed over 100 degrees in the country’s capital of Dhaka, and experienced power cuts for more than 100 days.

In nearby Nepal, on the other hand, the country produces more electricity than is actually used. But this imbalance is finally on its way to being corrected, as the two countries (along with India for its infrastructure) have agreed to a deal to send some of Nepal’s surplus power to Bangladesh.

The deal represents more than just a smart strategy to address energy needs; leaders are looking to the promise of South Asian countries working together to combat climate change and grow trade. The region lags behind others when it comes to economic integration across countries, in large part due to longstanding political and religious differences. But deals like this could increase both trade and cross-country cooperation, which would be a boon to development and the growth of the green energy sector.

A new electricity deal has brought South Asian nations closer together

Bangladesh has pledged to reduce its carbon emissions by more than 20% by 2030

The Brand Builder

CEO Soundari Mukherjea shares the importance of strong storytelling

After serving in prominent roles at Lipton and ANZ Grindlays Bank, Soundari Mukherjea decided to blaze her own trail. When she noticed that many business leaders lacked the ability to clearly communicate change, she knew she could fill the gap. Today, she serves as the CEO of Soundbytes11, which helps businesses build culture. We spoke to her from her office in Hong Kong about the importance of building personal and professional brands.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO LEAVE A SUCCESSFUL CAREER AND GO THE ENTREPRENEURIAL ROUTE?

Life has been like a river, gushing and flowing sometimes, sometimes being within the guardrails, especially when I had my children and I was trying to navigate that balance. Sometimes it went underground, like when I took a break from work, but always finding a way to stay in motion. That’s what my career has been, and I’ve had the ability to shape it and do some of the things that I wanted to do and not just stay put.

Leena Nair (CEO of Chanel), who is a friend, mentioned what one of her mentors told her: “Don’t live your life by a clock, but live by a compass.”

WHAT CAN BE DONE TO ENGAGE WOMEN IN THE WORKPLACE?

Arundhati Bhattacharya (CEO of Salesforce India) said that one of the things that women are faced with is the 3M challenge: marriage, maternity and mobility. She said that the only way to deal with that is to look at one P—partnership—both at home and at work. How is support at home coming up in a way that you’re able to then bring that in into the workplace? Having that conversation with your partner really makes a difference and gives you the courage to go out and have the conversation at the workplace as well.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO YOUNG SOUTH ASIAN WOMEN?

Put in the time to build your skills early in your career, because life will ebb and flow. Build relationships. Be great at building your brand. Networking, sometimes especially for South Asian women, is seen as artificial and not authentic. You just have to go ahead and do it.

HOW DO YOU BUILD A PERSONAL BRAND?

It’s all about communication and being part of the conversation. You don’t need to be an expert in tech or AI to start these conversations. Build your brand as if you’re a communicator, by getting involved with the conversation, asking those questions, and getting leaders to think about it. Look for other people in the firm that you can be talking to. Who can you reach out for a coffee? Who can you reach out for advice? It’s putting your own content out, but at the same time giving, sharing, and helping.

See the full interview on seema.com.

“Networking, sometimes especially for South Asian women, is seen as artificial and not authentic.”

Indulge

FASHION WEEK • HAIR

FALL TRENDS • CBD

Runway Ready

Four South Asian designers looking to make their mark on New York Fashion Week

Smashing Hair

Stigmas

South Asian make-up artist

Nikki Patel pulls back the curtain on naturally darker hair

Focus on Fall Fashion

Forget the muted tones of autumns past. This season is all about making a statement to be remembered.

Harnessing

Hemp

5 brands banking on CBD

Runway Ready

Four South Asian designers who look to make their mark at this year’s New York Fashion Week this month

Each year, while the press and fashion retailers revel over New York’s Fashion Week frenzy, at SEEMA, we’re looking for designers who are making an impact on the South Asian fashion world. Here’s our preview of four must-watch South Asian designers who are sure to have an impact on what we’re buying in the seasons to come.

Archana Kochhar

During this year’s Spring Fashion Week, Archana Kochar presented handloom textiles, woven by women from Madhya Pradesh. As one of the most sought after designers in the wedding space, she’s known for her glamorous designs, intricate embroidery, and global sensibilities.

What to expect: Plenty of bold colors and a mix of draped lehengas, saris, and gowns. The brand has also always taken a stand for inclusivity in fashion, featuring differently abled models and acid victim survivors on the runway. The designer is one of the most sought-after in Bollywood, so

don’t be surprised if you see designs here echoed in places like the Cannes Film Festival in the upcoming season.

Website: archanakochhar.com

Instagram: @archanakochharofficial nyfw.com/designer/archana-kochhar

Bibhu Mohapatra

Bibhu credits his mother for instilling a deep appreciation for textiles and clothing, and how fashion could translate to something both powerful and functional. Not only that, but she also taught him to sew, an inspiration that continues to influence his designs. He grew up on the east coast of India until he moved to the US in the 1990s giving him a global perspective.

What to expect: Formal occasion clothing is this brand’s go-to. Expect seamless tailoring, dramatic sleeves, and tulle embroidery. The brand often picks a muse as an inspiration—last year the designer opened with the reading of a poem, Nancy Cunard’s “Cunard’s “Wheels,” which he said pointed to who he wanted to be as a person.

Website: bibhu.com

Instagram: @bibhumohapatra nyfw.com/designer/bibhu-mohapatra

Naeem Khan

Studying under his father and grandfather who designed for India’s royal family, Khan doesn’t lack in design history. Every piece in his collections, which tend to include gowns and elegant separates, is embroidered by hand. Ubah Hassan, newly cast in the remake of Real Housewives of New York, is a noted fan.

What to expect: Last year’s show, celebrating the brand’s 20th year, had no shortage of drama, and included a sparkling cocoon dress, feathers, and intricate geometric beating. Known as a hard worker, Khan always has a high level of craftmanship that always surprises.

Website: naeemkhan.com

Instagram: @naeemkhannyc nyfw.com/designer/naeem-khan

Prabal Gurung

After a tenure at Cynthia Rowley and Bill Blass, Gurung launched his own line to high acclaim. Both Michelle Obama and the Duchess of Cambridge have worn his designs. Plus, the designer stays dedicated to his New York roots, manufacturing 90% of his collection in the city.

What to expect: His past shows have continued to push toward questioning rigid gender binaries. Last year, Gurung mixed mini dresses with trench coats and cocktail attire with street shoes, and featured male models in corsets and makeup. Whatever the theme may be this year, expect it to have strong social undertones.

Website: prabalgurung.com

Instagram: @prabalgurung nyfw.com/designer/prabal-gurung

Smashing Hair Stigmas

South Asian make-up artist Nikki Patel pulls back the curtain on naturally darker hair

As a semi-finalist in BBC’s Glow Up to find the next big make-up star, Nikki Patel has long shared beauty tips with her one-million plus fans on YouTube and TikTok. But she wasn’t always open to talking about all aspects of her beauty routine—especially hair removal.

As a teen, Nikki was mocked for her darker facial hair. She felt pressure to remove it to conform to traditional beauty standards. “I was teased for my upper lip hair,” she told The Mirror newspaper. “Having hair-free skin is an aspirational beauty standard in South Asian culture.”

Today, she finds it’s important to show facial hair removal on her social media channels to let young girls know it’s okay to have thicker, darker hair. “That doesn’t mean it should be a taboo,” she says. “We should feel comfortable in our own skin, our own color and embrace who we are.” She often films close-up videos of threading of her upper lip and chin.

She started her social media channels in part because she saw a lack of South Asian role models online across her favorite makeup channels on YouTube, and decided to fill the gap herself. “If we conform to the ideology that Westernized beauty is the most beautiful, everyone would start to look the same.”

Follow Nikki:

Instagram/TikTok: @nikkissecretx

YouTube: youtube.com/user/N1kk1sSecr3t

Trend Alert: Latte Makeup

It may not quite be Pumpkin Spice season yet, but latte makeup is the latest trend taking TikTok by storm. Like the name implies, the trend focuses solely on shades of browns and nudes. To help her achieve the look, Nikki recently raved about the L’Oreal Paris True Match Tinted Serum in 6.5 medium tan.

Focus on Fall Fashion

Forget the muted tones and understated sensibilities of autumns past. This season is all about making a statement to be remembered. We spoke to fashion expert Harman Awal from yourgirlknows.com to find out how to rock the latest looks for this fall:

Ravishing Red

Forget the little black dress—this year’s all about the real reds. “From deep velvety tones to bright crimson hues, this color says it’s time to turn some heads and rule the season,” says Awal. “Forget black and burnt orange, red is where it’s at if you want to know the ‘It’ color of the season!”

Spanx The Perfect Sheath Dress

$198

Big Bow Ties

Normal neckties are out in favor of a bigger, bolder statement. “Made for the bold and daring, these oversized ties can be worn with a sleek suit, or add a quirky twist to a more casual look,” she says. “You’ll see them on tops, dresses, as an add-on accessory and everywhere else.”

Anthropologie Hutch

Bow-Tie Maxi Dress

$218

Blazing Blazers & Trendy Trench Coats

A staple of fall fashion, the right jacket can up-level any outfit. “These timeless, fall staples let you strut down the streets anytime in total style,” says Awal. “Pair your blazer or trench coat with a loose shirt, slim jeans, and your favorite ankle boots for a chic, head-turning ensemble.”

Reformation the Classic Relaxed Blazer

$278

Harnessing Hemp

brands banking on CBD beauty

Derived from the hemp plant, Cannabidiol (CBD) oil has only recently been studied as a beauty boosting ingredient, with research finding that the molecule helps in moisturizing the skin and calming inflammation. Not to be confused with its plant cousin marijuana and THC, hemp-derived CBD doesn’t produce a high, but rather has relaxing and soothing effects similar to valerian, chamomile, and lavender. Here are a few of our favorite products using the new star ingredient.

SHANTI RELAX BATH BOMB

Combining eucalyptus, spearmint, and chamomile essential oils plus and 50mg CBD, this Ayurvedic-inspired bath bomb promotes relaxation and ease muscle tensions.

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Breathe

HEART HEALTH • SUICIDE • REPRESENTATION

A Huge Step for Heart Health

A new bill may better support South Asians in the United States

A September to Stop Suicide

More research needs to be done to study suicide in South Asian populations

Diversity in Doll

New toy brands offer cultural touchstones to connect children

A Huge Step for Heart Health

A new bill introduced to the U.S. Congress may be one of the first of its kind to protect South Asian Health. Sponsored by U.S. Representatives Pramila Jayapal (WA-07) and Representative Joe Wilson (SC-02), the bipartisan South Asian Heart Health Awareness and Research Act would put funds toward reversing the deadly trend of heart disease among South Asian communities living in the U.S.

“I have seen the devastating impacts of heart disease on our community firsthand,” said Rep. Jayapal, the first South Asian American woman ever elected to the House of Representative. “I’m

A new bill may better support South Asians in the United States

fully committed to increasing understanding of heart disease and the unique risk factor in the South Asian community while ensuring that all those living with it get the resources, treatment, and support they need.”

Studies show that South Asians in the United States face four times the risk of heart disease compared to the general population. Despite making up 25 percent of the world’s population, South Asians account for a disproportionate 60 percent of the world’s heart disease cases and over 50 percent of the world’s cardiovascular deaths. Nearly two-thirds of middle-aged South Asian Americans are at intermediate or high risk for heart failure within the next 10 years, but studying accurate data remains nearly impossible because the Department of Health and Human Services doesn’t disaggregate data for Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders.

Rep. Jayapal continued to say that no community should face disproportionate health outcomes because of lack of research, understanding, or awareness. Last year, similar legislation was passed in the House, it was blocked in the Senate. But Rep. Jaypal has no plans of slowing down her efforts. “I won’t stop fighting for this legislation to make sure we have the research resources and treatments to prevent heart disease cases and deaths in the South Asian community and across the world,” she said.

A September to Stop Suicide

More research needs to be done to study suicide in South Asian populations

Like all mental health conditions, suicidal thoughts can affect anyone, and often can be a sign of an undiagnosed mental health issue. In the United States, the prevalence of suicide among South Asians is understudied due to a lack of demographic data, but studies suggest depression is four times more likely to prompt suicidal behavior in Asian youths, and parental conflict is a much more major factor (17 times higher) in suicide and suicide attempts in Asian adolescents.

• Suicide is the second leading cause of death among people aged 10-14 and the 12th leading cause of death overall in the U.S.

• 46% of people who die by suicide had a diagnosed mental health condition, but 90% may have experienced symptoms of a mental health condition

• Lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide than straight youth.

One research study fount that Indian immagrants had higher incidences of suicide after they migrated to other countries than when they lived in India. But these sobering statistics can still be changed with awareness and advocacy.

With September serving as Suicide Prevention Month, the National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) encourages everyone to be more open about mental health and stay aware of behavioral changes in their friends and family, and check in with them.

Early Warning Signs:

• Increased alcohol and drug use

• Aggressive behavior

• Withdrawal from friends, family and community

• Dramatic mood swings

• Impulsive or reckless behavior

Suicidal Behaviors:

• Collecting and saving pills or buying a weapon

• Giving away possessions

• Tying up loose ends, like organizing personal papers or paying off debts

• Saying goodbye to friends and family

If you or a loved one is taking these steps, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. 988

Diversity in Dolls

New toy brands offer cultural touchstones to connect children

South Asian-owned brands are paving the way when it comes to expanding representation in the children’s toy market. Here are a handful of companies dedicated to making all children feel seen.

ROOTED. Based in Vancouver, Canada, this family-run company offers two toys, Manu and Mahi, based on the companion children’s book (free to email subscribers). The story traces the journey of the two children in the village of Anokhi and the challenges of belonging and the joys of friendship. rootedtoys.com

MODI TOYS. To help foster Hindu heritage across the world, this toy shop creates Hindu deity plush toys with matching books to help tell the stories of each deity, and also play the associated audio mantras. Every toy is 100% made in India and workers are paid a fair wage. moditoys.com

LITTLE LADOO. With books exploring a visit to India, puzzles featuring deities, and interactive toys like the Let’s Eat Chapati Felt Food, this Canada-based company aims to showcase Indian culture in an accessible way for children. The website also has colorable free sheets for download. shoplittleladoo.com

Small acts of kindness can have a big impact in making people feel welcome. When we reach out and connect with others, we can build a stronger community where everyone – regardless of their background – feels like they belong.

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Savoir Faire

Falguni Peacock is a leading luxury couture designer and cofounder of the global powerhouse Falguni Shane Peacock, a brand that pushed boundaries of fashion worldwide.

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Walking a fine line between the rich heritage of India and International sensibilities, Falguni Peacock has dressed Hollywood stars, icons of music, Bollywood celebrities, and countless brides.

Falguni Peacock, co-founder and CEO of the global luxury design house Falguni Shane Peacock, has presented at Fashion Weeks all over the world including shows in Miami, New York, London, and Los Angeles. A favorite within the entertainment industry, her intricate designs have been worn at high-profile events such as the Cannes Film Festival, Academy Awards, Emmy Awards, Grammy Awards, and many more.

The global brand is the creative offspring of the designer-duo— Falguni and Shane who share a passion for fashion and a keen eye for creativity. Beginning their journey in the vibrant streets of India to the glamorous fashion runways of the world, the couple has stamped their authority through creations that have transcended boundaries.

CREATIVE COUPLING

The bustling city of Mumbai has given shape to many dreams, making celebrities out of regular people with a passion. In less than twenty years, against the backdrop of the skyscrapers and glittering lights, it has witnessed and fulfilled the dreams of a designer who is now known the world over through the brand she co-founded with her husband. Falguni and Shane had met during their college years. Despite the difference in backgrounds and personalities, they found a common ground in their love for fashion. Falguni recalls how the passion for fashion and art brought the two together. “I used to paint a lot at that time and he was designing a collection,” she says. “We met through a common friend. We started working together.” What began as work would soon turn into something more special, with a little nudge from Falguni’s mother. “Before we could realize we were working so much together. He would come home and my mom just told him, ‘You guys just go out.’ And yes, within a year and a half we got engaged, and then

we got married.” It was a marriage of not just two artistic individuals but it also brought their independent brands together. “There was no point having two different brands. We decided, why not just work together? Have a brand together. Work for it together,” explained Falguni.

TRIUMPHANT VALIDATION

While Falguni was dreaming up intricate designs, her husband—Shane was meticulously bringing those designs to life by his impeccable craftsmanship. “At the India Fashion Week in 2004-2005, we were fairly new, really young,” she says. There had been months of dedicated hard work leading up to India’s most prominent fashion extravaganza. Falguni poured her heart into the new collection. Every stitch, every bead, and every embellishment carried a piece of her soul. The hard work paid off. The designer recalls the first moment of recognition and triumph. “The most amazing moment was when we got approached by Harrods, and they said that we wanna buy the entire collection. We were kids back then and we were so excited.” The resounding success gave them the courage to spread their wings. “Then we just started getting more and more into it. And we thought; why not show at international fashion weeks? That’s how the journey kicked off,” said the Indian-rooted designer with a global footprint.

HUSBAND-WIFE TAG TEAM

Doing business with your spouse as a partner can be a blessing, but keeping it from becoming a curse can be tricky, especially when it’s a creative concern. For the couple, the journey to success must have been fraught with disagreements, misunderstanding and the urge to vent frustrations at each other. Falguni shares the secret of their long and unhindered relationship—both personally and professionally. “I feel if you understand each other, don’t have misunderstandings unnecessarily, and let go of a lot of things,” she reckons has helped them navigate the ebbs and flows.

“With me and Shane, we always found a midway to everything. There are times when he’s stubborn. Then I would give way to things, and then there are times when I feel very strongly about things, and he understands me. It’s not

about marriage, it’s about being best friends in a marriage,” she adds. Knowing when to stop and their unwavering friendship has perhaps helped them face rejections and setbacks together, yet be resilient to produce creations that are innovative and unique.

DESIGNING FOR GLOBAL SUPERSTARS

Understanding each other and avoiding the trigger points for each other has been an integral ingredient for the success of the brand. Their designs quickly gained attention from fashion enthusiasts, media and celebrities. With every new collection, Falguni continued to push boundaries which soon got International recognition. “Its super exciting,” admits the designer on being approached by Bollywood and International celebrities which include global associations with stars like Beyoncé, Lady Gaga, Kylie Jenner, Kim Kardashian, Nicky Minaj, Taylor Swift and many more.

“When we work on outfits, it’s really exciting, it’s sort of a validation to everything that we are doing when you get chosen to be worn. It’s a very amazing feeling,” she adds. Falguni in her experience feels a certain freedom when designing for international stars. “We can really work on edgy outfits and in terms of styling; they allow us to work on our creativity and are open to different ideas. Like, when we designed for Fergie for the Fifa World Cup, that was one of the first outfits we had done for an international musician. We were just given a brief—it has to look edgy and these are the few colors you gotta work with,” she says.

DRESSING QUEEN B

The one line brief from Beyonce was short and simple—‘Do something in gold, make it artistic and think out of the box.’ Falguni recalls the moment and considers designing for the ‘Crazy in Love’ singer as one of the most cherished experiences. “Till date I get super excited talking about it, because of how nervous I was and excited. The outfit was so large and it just broke the Internet. Then we got a call from the Boston Museum requesting the dress for the museum. We called up Beyonce’s team and they said - No, this dress is going to be with her. She loves it so much.”

FINDING INSPIRATION

The rule-breaking approach has propelled their Indian-rooted creations into a global spotlight, adorning runways, red carpets, and rock ‘n’ roll icons. Falguni has emerged as a trailblazer, forging an international brand alongside her husband Shane. The enduring success of their brand lies in the art of reinvention. Both draw inspiration from a common love—music. “Both of us are really musically inclined. Our morning starts with music. It just takes us away from reality. It is stressful, each time trying to create something better and making sure it is better than the last one,” she explains the role of music as an inspiration and release. Dressing up a few of their favorite singers has been an added bonus. “When we were growing up, we would listen to

“Before we could realize we were working so much together. He would come home and my mom just told him, ‘You guys just go out.’”

“The most amazing moment was when we got approached by Harrods, and they said that we wanna buy the entire collection. We were kids back then and we were so excited.”

QUICK FIRE WITH FALGUNI

DESCRIBE YOUR DESIGNS - Global, edgy, and futuristic.

WHAT MAKES A FALGUNI SHANE

PEACOCK BRIDE DIFFERENT - We have a different language to create bridal wear. It’s memorable. It’s unique. It’s comfortable.

A CELEBRITY IN YOUR DRESS THAT REPRESENTS YOU BEST - Beyonce.

CELEBRITY YOU WOULD LOVE TO SEE IN ONE OF YOUR OUTFITS

If I was at that age, I would love to dress Coco Chanel or Audrey Hepburn. It would have been an amazing feeling.

YOUR FAVORITE KIND OF OUTFITA beautiful cut suit

YOUR FAVORITE KIND OF CLIENTWho trusts me, who believes that we can do an amazing outfit for her.

IF YOU WERE TO BE DRESSED BY ANOTHER DESIGNER - Maria Graziano. She’s a very inspiring woman. I really look up to her.

ONE THING COMMON IN ALL YOUR DESIGNS - Every outfit that goes out of our studio has that little bit of a sweet prayer.

HOW WOULD YOU DRESS MATURE WOMEN - We are designing for mature women as well. Whether you’re young or mature, it’s just a mindset. You can wear what you like as long as you can carry it off.

Ozzy Osbourne, Shane’s favorite and when we dressed him for the video; it was like a dream come true. Then we did Britney’s video. It was fun working on something which can let your creativity flow and that is when you really feel that you are in a dream world.”

BRIDAL BUYING BEHAVIOR

The secret of Falguni and Shane— the dynamic designer duo—and their brand is the attention to detail and the unique styling that is put in each of their garments. Falguni feels that the taste for bridal couture is common and the buying behavior is quite similar around the world. “It’s just that in India we have lots of occasions like - the Pujas, Mehendi, Haldi, Sangeet, and lots of other functions. Whereas internationally, I’ve noticed that brides have few functions, but overall the mindset is the same. The kind of embellishments, detail and perfection they want in weddings, is the same,” she says.

INSIGHT INTO BRIDAL TRENDS

“I feel like bridal trends come and go,” says the designer who encourages her brides to not be shy in outshining everybody else on their big day. On the question of the current trends in bridal wear she said, “I feel that red is the true symbolic color of a marriage. It just looks so beautiful on brides.” She is also mindful and respects the shift from the regular red to more unconventional choices. “A lot of them are opting for blush pink on ivory. A lot of them want to do red, but they want to do it for their Sangeet. So there’s a little bit of a shift in the way brides are thinking,” she added. Luckily, the range of colors and styles can be accommodated in the various functions that are part of a South Asian wedding.

While Falguni understands the

desire for a wide color palette, her recommendation is a mix of glamor and practicality. “Though they want to look a bit different, classic outfits are really recommended, because post the wedding, you don’t want to wear the same look again and again. So I would prefer a more classic silhouette. I tell my brides that even after one year when you get it out, it should look current.”

FUTURE OF FASHION

The success of a fashion house lies in the art of reinvention, the fluidity in adapting to the ever-evolving fashion landscape. This requires an uncanny ability to foresee the future, a trait that has helped Falguni and her brand in good stead. According to her, fashion is cruising towards consciousness. “There was a phase where people would not repeat their outfits. And now I think people are getting conscious about it which is such a good thing. We need to get sustainable,” she said. But the awareness for sustainability shouldn’t mean the stalling of style. “Fashion is at a point where everyone’s putting an effort to look good, to up their fashion game, which is so good. It’s getting better and the way people are putting things together, even if they’re repeating a jacket, the way they are making it look new, is interesting to see.” To be relevant and to remain current necessitates the need for innovation, feels the designer who will be returning to the New York Fashion Week this month.

NYFW – 2.0

This will not be the first outing for Falguni Shane Peacock at the NYFW. The brand had showcased their line for 10 seasons until their last show in Fall/Winter 2015. Falguni gave a cautious sneak peek of what to expect. “It’s so exciting. The collection is street-couture. We wanna bring couture to the streets. What better way to do it than do it at Fashion Week,” she revealed.

“We wanna bring couture to the streets. What better way to do it than do it at Fashion Week.”

“We decided, why not just work together? Have a brand together. Work for it together.”

Tapping into the current trends and sticking to her futuristic vision, Falguni is targeting Gen Z and Millennials. “Currently, they are into this new trend of having a little bit of embroidery, upping their fashion game with an accessory, keeping the silhouette minimal, but doing it with a difference,” she says. Not giving too much away, however there was an inference of embroidered boots and jackets.

Like in the past, with every new collection, Falguni continues to push boundaries and redefine fashion norms. She blends the past and the present, tradition and modernity, seamlessly creating garments that celebrate diversity and self-expression. Falguni Peacock continues to rise, becoming a global phenomenon that symbolizes creativity, innovation, and the power of collaboration.

Shane on Falguni

How easy is the communication between Falguni and Shane?

I think the crazy thing between Falguni and myself is that we’re always speaking each other’s minds. I’ll ask her a question and she’ll say, “Shane, I was just going to ask you this.” I think that’s the crazy connection we have between us.

What do you admire most about Falguni the life partner?

As a life partner, she’s very grounded, and there’s a lot of peace and harmony. That’s what I really like.

What do you admire most about Falguni as a business partner?

When I need someone to step up and tell me what’s right and wrong, in a nice way. She’ll calls a spade a spade, with no filter on it. At the same time making sure I don’t get hurt or I don’t feel bad about it.

How do you feel about returning to NYFW?

We’re really excited because this is a comeback. It’s called 2.0, so this is technically a second beginning. We’re putting each and every effort to make sure this is a successful one, and a great start for us to show the coming season.

I’m tired of seeing people struggle through divorce and feel broken after. This story needs to change, especially in our South Asian societies. It’s crucial to redefine our perspective. Shifting away from the taboo surrounding divorce is essential.”

Compassionate Divorce

The ending of a relationship can be the beginning of radical self-acceptance. Here’s how one divorce doula is helping other South Asian women navigate the complex challenges of separation.

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Divorce is rarely easy for anyone. Processing the end of a relationship, both emotionally and financially, can take an emotional toll, but navigating this choice within South Asian communities can be even more challenging, where divorce can still carry immense stigma.

Farhana Hussain knows these struggles all too well. As a British Bangladeshi woman, she faced tremendous backlash from her family and community when she made the decision to leave her interfaith marriage. But having grappled with divorce herself, she decided she wanted to help other women, especially South Asian women, navigate the emotions, family dynamics, and parenting concerns that often accompany the end of a marriage.

That’s why in 2020, she started her practice as a life coach and divorce doula, helping people compassionately understand themselves through this process and emerge more whole on the other side. Though not all of her clients are South Asians, she finds that her own experience helps those who are better navigate the complex family dynamics that can be at play. “When you’re South Asian, there are so many more complexities of religion and culture,” she explains. In her own journey, she was referred to therapists and counselors, but they were predominately white, and she felt it just wasn’t working for her. “At first, I thought it was just because I wasn’t connecting with those people. But what I realized was that many of these therapists hadn’t been through a breakdown of a serious relationship or a divorce.”

Just like grief counseling requires specialist training, divorce requires the understanding of that specific type of grief. “It’s the death of a life, a relationship that you thought would last forever,” says Hussain. “In my own experience and from working with my clients, it really needs to be done by somebody who gets it, who’s experienced it.”

The Culture of Understanding

Even though she found her own therapists perfectly fine at their jobs, they didn’t have the expertise around her culture and religion. “It’s not as simple as ‘you got to live your life, walk away, do things your way,’” she says. “I would love to, but I love my family. It’s part of my identity, my heritage. I don’t want to be ostracized from my community and society.”

When she works with South Asian clients, it’s a lot about unlearning some old scripts and bringing in some more up-to-date scripts and stories that allow them to feel safe and grow at the same time. By being culturally sensitive, she understands the importance of preserving some of the culture and religion, while also understanding there might be pushback from family members.

To handle that most effectively, she advises her clients to be very selective about what family they share with, especially during the stressful initial stages. Sometimes family, even when they love you, will try and give advice that isn’t necessarily in your best interest. “That doesn’t mean they’re bad. That doesn’t mean you don’t love them. They may have their own generational trauma that they are unlikely to be aware of,” says Hussain.

For instance, people might say to do what is in the best interest of the children, which she cautions isn’t necessarily in the best interest of the children, let alone the best thing for you. She says it’s okay to keep your trusted crew small during this

time. It’s most important to find a safe and trusted community, especially people who understand your culture and religion. “I’m tired of seeing people struggle through divorce and feel broken after. This story needs to change,” says Hussain. “Especially in our South Asian societies, it’s crucial to redefine our perspective. Shifting away from the taboo surrounding divorce is essential, as it enables us to acknowledge that separation doesn’t have to equate to deep shame or devastation.”

She notes that it isn’t about “winning” or “losing,” but finding a path to mutual growth and well-being. “While the legal aspects are important, they represent just the final step in the divorce journey,” says Hussain. Instead the focus needs to be on nurturing one’s emotional and mental well-being. “This approach allows individuals to navigate the challenges of divorce with resilience, enabling them to clearly envision their future and that of their family, while riding the waves of change with strength and self-assuredness”

Taking the First Step

In fact, before talking to your family, spouse, or partners about separation, it can be helpful to spend the time to better understand yourself away from the cultural scripts. “It can be really powerful to have a space that is away from the cultural conditioning, religious conditioning, and fear that South Asian women can face,” she says.

Processing that with a coach or even in a journal can be the best first step. “At the very beginning, you don’t have to take any action,” she says. “No one is going to see your words in a journal, but you start to create a habit where you can speak out authentically and be vulnerable with yourself.”

Though they may seem simple, tools like journaling and meditation actually allow the space to understand your own values. “Whether you are South Asian or not, so many of our stories and maps are imprinted and inherited from our families,” says Hussain. “We don’t question the family or societal conditioning.”

By being able to clarify what’s actually important to us as individuals and unconditionally offering ourselves self-love, the emotional process of divorce becomes more manageable to navigate.

The First Conversations

The practice of radical self-acceptance also makes it easy to take responsibility for your part in the end of a relationship. All too often, Hussain has seen how acrimonious divorce can get when one or both sides don’t take responsibility for their role in the end of the relationships. “It gets people nowhere, and it gets very expensive,” she says. “Nobody really gets what they want out of it.”

Desi Divorced Women’s Support Group

Needing some extra support during or after a divorce? The South Asian Mental Health Initiative & Network holds a twice monthly virtual gathering for South Asian women who are separated, divorced, or contemplating divorce. These peer support groups led by trained facilitators provide a safe, confidential, non-judgmental space for participants to express their thoughts, feelings, challenges, and difficulties in coping with divorce. Find details at samhin.org.

She reminds her clients that there’s no easy way to do this. She says throughout the process of divorce, you may face shame, judgment, and guilt from your partner and your family and friends. And you may lose some relationships in the process. But that’s why so much of her work aims to help people understand anxiety and understand how the nervous system works, so they can stay grounded and regulated during tough conversations.

As you tell your partner what’s going on, it’s important to remember why you’re doing this, take responsibility for your role, and be okay with the turbulent emotions that come with the process—knowing there’s a precious life to live on the other side.

Parenting Under Pressure

Many of Hussain’s clients understandably worry about the effect that a divorce will have on their children, and face anxiety over the challenges that future co-parenting, or single parenting may present. But she reminds clients that being in touch with your emotions and your true self can actually set a wonderful example for children. “When you’re willing to experience your emotions, even if it feels scary, you’re giving the children permission to do the same,” explains Hussain. “You may cry in front of your children, and that gives permission to accept that this is really sad. But what they also see is mum or dad being able to regulate in a time of crisis— being able to then say ‘I feel safe, and now we’re going to move on to the next thing.’” Then the child can trust that they can do the same.

She reminds her clients that children rarely remember what they hear, but will remember what they see. By being present and available throughout the process, and being yourself and holding on to your values, you can set an example that can leave children with a powerful example of how to lead a more authentic life.

Life After Divorce

Even years after a divorce, life can come with ups and downs, especially navigating family relationships and oftentimes changed social circles. “Life after divorce is really exciting, but it’s still challenging because we are still rewriting stories and practicing those,” says Hussain.

For her clients, that means sometimes spending less time in social gatherings that might have been once done just to people-please. “Their social circles might be smaller, but they’re so much more rich

because they’re more accepting,” she says. Many of her clients start to feel more calm, and their children often have a more safe and predictable environment where they can thrive.

While each of her clients face their own unique path and journey on the next steps in their lives, they each have the tools to navigate old and new relationships more authentically. “They all begin to understand how to find that inner peace, how to be their own version of a good daughter, or a good mother,” says Hussain. “They realize they can still be that good daughter, that good mother. They can still be that person.”

Book a Divorce Doula Session

While not every client is a good fit for Farhana Hussain, she does take 15-minute introduction calls to find out if there’s a good fit. Virtual sessions can be booked at mydivorcedoula.org.uk.

Star Power

In her role at NASA training astronauts, Dr. Mamta Patel Nagaraja has big dreams for herself and the future of space exploration.

• Seema Kumar •

It’s my job to make sure that they do that in the way of today’s technology and today’s priorities of the President of the United States as well as the administrator of NASA. I work to advise the chief scientist on what’s happening in the science and what it takes to get the astronauts to space and the science they do when they’re in space.”

Dr. Mamta Patel Nagaraja has had a lifelong dream: to be an astronaut and travel to space someday. Her dream is yet to come true, but Nagaraja is doing the next best thing as associate chief scientist for exploration and applied research at NASA. Nagaraja trains astronauts to fly space missions, including the U.S. Space Shuttle and the International Space Station, is a technical expert on spacecrafts, designs instruments to study planets, and advises the chief scientist on areas of exploration and science performed by humans in space.

She is excited about the recent successful Chandrayaan-3 lunar South Pole landing. NASA released a statement saying “Congratulations, ISRO, on your successful landing, and congratulations to India on being the fourth country to successfully soft-land a space craft on the Moon. We are glad to be your partner on this mission!”

Nagaraja says one of her favorite projects at NASA was working in mission control, where she was responsible for ensuring the safety of

astronauts and spacecrafts on a mission, operating from the very seats made famous by the words of Neil Armstrong and memorialized by Tom Hanks in the movie Apollo 13: “Houston, we have a problem.” She also has designed an instrument to study Venus, and worked on a US mission to the moon, bringing back key scientific data and insights, an effort that led her to a senior advisory and management role in the Chief Scientist office.

The daughter of immigrant parents with limited means from rural India, Nagaraja grew up in a small, predominantly white town in Texas, where she looked different from everyone else and was told she smelled funny (of curry). Born into a family with little formal education, young Nagaraja had a penchant for fixing broken things and an insatiable curiosity about the world, which led her to pursue higher education with a vengeance, all of which would take her far—as far as space exploration.

“My parents immigrated to this country, leaving behind two daughters in the care of my grandmother, because they didn’t have the means to take care of them. They worked in the assembly

line of an electronics factory in California with a goal to save enough money to bring their daughters to the country. And then, they got pregnant. I became the first one in the family to be born in the U.S.,” says Nagaraja, whose sisters were reunited with the family soon after she was born.

The family moved to Texas and purchased a motel, a common trend among many families who immigrated from the state of Gujarat. Growing up in small town Texas, Nagaraja was raised with traditional Indian values and strong ties to the culture through gatherings with other Indian families, which she says made for the “happiest upbringing and blending of two cultures.”

Her passion for science and engineering took hold when she began helping her parents fix broken things at the motel the family owned. “Money was tight when something would break, we had to fix it ourselves.” Two-year-old Nagaraja would follow her parents around figuring out the tools they needed and watch her moth-

er be a builder who fixed things and put broken things back together.

Nagaraja soon helped her parents with “fixer uppers” peppering them always with annoying questions. “I would look up at night and wondered what was out there. It was a small town, and nobody from NASA came there. I didn’t really know what an engineer or a scientist was. Instead of being annoyed, my family joined me in the quest for knowledge,” says Nagaraja, resulting in family outings to understand the earth and explore the skies with a telescope.

With the encouragement of teachers and through internships and student programs, she got a foot in the door to NASA as a student, and never left the organization and never lost the love for space.

Her “Aha moment” came when she finished building the International Space Station. “This was an endeavor of many countries across the whole world, and I worked the very last mission to finish the space station, and I turned

on pieces of equipment here from Earth all the way out in space. And I was the young engineer that got to push the buttons and test out all that equipment out in space. And I think for me that was big formative time in life and in my career.”

She still hopes to continue her quest to be an astronaut herself and experience space firsthand and hopes that the younger generation of engineers and scientists will enjoy and learn from the work she did early in her career. “Now it’s my job to make sure that they do that in the way of today’s technology and today’s priorities of the President of the United States as well as the administrator of NASA. I work to advise the chief scientist on what’s happening in the

science and what it takes to get the astronauts to space and the science they do when they’re in space.”

As a woman of color, Nagaraja says that early in her career and life she let discrimination and microaggressions roll off my back and ignore them. “But as I become older, I don’t have the patience for it anymore. And I think things have happened in our nation here, in the U.S. And across the world that have shifted my perspective. I’m just as tolerant of such behavior, and I’m more likely to speak up now. If I see somebody being mistreated for those kinds of reasons, then I am much more likely to say, hey, not cool. Let’s not do that. That’s not fair to that person.”

The Karma Map – Nisha Sharma

Ayouth group’s temple road trip through India is a liberating escape for a former mean girl and sunshine boy to explore their past and their feelings for each other in the much-anticipated novel about self-discovery by the award-winning author of My SoCalled Bollywood Life.

Nisha Sharma is the critically acclaimed author of YA and adult contemporary romances including My So-Called Bollywood Life, Radha and Jai’s Recipe for Romance, The Singh Family Trilogy and the I f Shakespeare was an Auntie series. Her books have been listed in best of lists by The New York Times, The Washington Post, Cosmopolitan, Entertainment Weekly and more.

The Karma Map, released earlier this year, is the story of of Tara and Silas. Born and raised in the US, Tara Bajaj hides her family secrets. With beautiful clothes, a popular social media presence,

and a spot on the Rutgers High Bollywood dance team, she does it well—until her carefully cultivated image shatters. Shut out by friends and with her future in flux, Tara accepts a guide position for a youth group’s temple tour through North India. Rediscovering the heart of her ancestry is as good a place as any to start over. On the other hand, Silas D’Souza-Gupta is an aspiring photojournalist retracing the journey his two mothers took when they fell in love. The last thing he expects on this road trip is a girl with a history of her own. As Tara and Silas embark on remote pilgrimage sites from Punjab through the Himalayas, they discover what it means to be a child in the Indian diaspora, the significance of karma, and the healing power of love.

SEEMA’S VIEW:

A heartwarming and realistic telling of a large majority that live out their lives struggling to hold on to a culture passed down by their parents, while trying their hardest to assimilate in to mainstream America. Like most road trips, a tale of discovery, self understanding and falling in love.

BE FIT & FINE

In honor of New York Fashion Week, try these dishes that not only taste delicious but will help you look your best.

• Bindu Gopal Rao •

You are what you eat and making the right choice can ensure that you look good inside out. Choosing food that is well balanced with the right amount of nutrients, fats and carbs means that you can look and feel your best. Here are some recipes for you to try.

Kiwi Matcha Smoothie and Smoothie Bowl courtesy Dinakaran , Corporate Chef, Paper & Pie

“The Kiwi Matcha Smoothie is a lively blend that is about treating your skin right. The smoothie is a vivid green mix with matcha which is loaded with antioxidants for that inner glow. Sweet kiwi and almond milk bring their A-game with vitamins, giving your skin a healthy boost. Frozen bananas and ice cubes add hydration to your skin. Infused with omega-3 from super seeds,

FOR THE SMOOTHIE

● 150 ml almond milk

● 15 ml honey

● 3 grams matcha powder

● 1 banana

● 50 grams ice cubes

FOR THE SMOOTHIE BOWL

● Frozen banana

● Granola

● Butter crumbles

● Super Seeds (flax seeds, sesame white & black, poppy seeds & pumpkin seeds)

METHOD

● To make the Kiwi Matcha Smoothie, in a blender, add 150 ml of almond milk. Pour in 15 ml of honey for sweetness. Add 3 grams of matcha

powder for a vibrant green color and unique flavor. Peel and slice a banana, then place the banana slices into the blender. Add 50 grams of ice cubes. Cover the blender with its lid. Make sure you start the blender on low speed to break down ingredients. Gradually increase the speed to high and blend for about 20 seconds until all ingredients are well combined and the mixture is smooth.

● Once the smoothie or smoothie bowl is ready, pour it into a glass for the smoothie or a bowl for the smoothie bowl.

● To garnish the smoothie bowl, sprinkle granola over the top for crunch and

flavor. Add butter crumbles for an indulgent touch.

● Sprinkle a mixture of super seeds, such as flax seeds, sesame seeds (white & black), poppy seeds, and pumpkin seeds, for added texture and nutrition.

● Your Kiwi Matcha Smoothie or Smoothie Bowl is now ready to be enjoyed. Serve it immediately and savor the delightful combination of flavors and textures.

Note: Adjust the sweetness by adding more or less honey according to your preference. You can also adjust the consistency of the smoothie by adding more almond milk or ice cubes if desired.

Next Level Avocado

Toast courtesy Ravi

Ranjan

, Executive

Chef, Ditas Mumbai

“Avocado Toast is the perfect recipe to help you slim down. This super food is simple and packed full of nutrients, yet easy on the waist. The advantages of adding avocado to your diet are many. Despite being caloriedense, the healthy fats and dietary fibre in avocados can help promote satiety and reduce overeating. Including avocados in your diet can help you feel fuller for longer, potentially aiding in weight management. All with the result to help you look your best. The healthy fats and vitamins present in avocados, such as vitamin E and vitamin C, can contribute to healthy and vibrant skin. These nutrients may help protect the skin from oxidative damage and promote collagen production. So do not wait for glowing skin, avocados are the way to go.”

INGREDIENTS

● 2 ripe avocados

● Juice of 1 lime

● ½ tsp salt

● 100 grams cherry tomatoes, quartered

● ½ small red onion, chopped

● ½ jalapeño, chopped

● 4 slices sourdough bread, toasted

● 2 tbsp cream cheese

● 1 no seed cracker

● 1 tbsp fresh coriander, chopped

METHOD

● In a bowl, mash together avocado with lime juice and salt. Stir in tomatoes, onion, jalapeno, until combined.

● Spread cream cheese on bread toast and put avocado mixture

on slices of bread, then sprinkle with coriander, garnish with seed crackers and lime wedge.

Pan-Seared Spinach and Sweet Potato Kebab Courtesy Anil

Sangal , Sous Chef, The Connaught, New Delhi IHCL SeleQtions

“Rich in nutrients, vitamins and antioxidants, our pan seared spinach and sweet potato kebab is a tantalising delicacy that will leave your skin aglow. Stylishly presented, it is a ramp ready favourite and perfect for those pictures too. Enjoy guilt free indulgence with this signature special.”

INGREDIENTS

● 500 grams Spinach

● 75 grams Sweet Potato

● 30 grams peanuts

● 15 grams Cumin Powder

● 5 grams Garam Masala

● 3 grams Cardamom Powder

● Salt to taste

● 50 ml Mustard Oil

● 150 ml Sunflower oil

METHOD

● Blanch the spinach, drain, and put in ice water bath for a few minutes.

● Remove and squeeze water.

● Chop the blanched spinach.

● Boil the sweet potato, peel, and make a mash.

● Mix the spinach, mashed sweet potato, peanuts, cumin powder, garam masala, cardamon powder.

● Make a tiki of this mixture.

● In a pan mix the mustard oil and sunflower oil and pan seared the tikki.

ARIES

March 21April 19

Your plans may seem to zigzag a bit, however don’t stress. You’ve got the determination to chase those dreams. Tune in to your heart’s desires and watch as the pieces of the puzzle, gracefully fall in place. If your relationship is a bit of a rollercoaster, time for a heart-to-heart talk or a graceful exit, if needed. In the career realm, a hiccup might just launch you toward success. Flex those tact and focus muscles to steer you on the path of victory. New beginnings are knocking, so stand tall and resolute and shine with your unique spirit leading the way. You can’t let fear take the joy out of life, relinquish your worries and just breathe.

TAURUS

April 20 - May 20

If you feel outplayed at work, it is time to hit the reset button. Think of it as just a single chapter, not the entire story. Keep your focus for the real challenges, and let the small stuff slide. If someone’s negativity gets under your skin, either radiate them some fierce love or take a step back for some space. Hold your ground and let confidence be your shield – victory is right around the corner. Your unique talents are like bright spotlights that shine on their own. Be cautious money-wise. Choose your words, wisely. Embrace teamwork, set clear boundaries to create the tranquil

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relationships you are aiming for. You’ve got this!

GEMINI

May 21 - June 20

It’s hard to say how things are stacking up. If the situation seems confusing, now; sit still instead of forcing your way into things before they are ready. Be on top of your financial dealings. If you are waiting on an answer from someone in a relationship, career or a financial decision, it may take a tad longer than expected. Patience is a virtue to adopt now. Live in the present instead of worrying, unnecessarily of the future. There are no coincidences therefore focus on integrating and learning the lesson at hand. Look for patterns around your relationships. Follow your intuition about people and stay vigilant. Set lowkey, doable goals for yourself, then go from there.

CANCER

June 21 - July 22

This month is the harbinger of news we all dream about - wedding proposals, surprise job offers, or even new friendships blossoming out of the blue. Change is doing a happy dance, bringing in freshness, especially in the love department. If you are single and smitten, don’t wait – ask them out! While you’re not in a hurry, remember, dreams need action to turn into reality. So, don’t let them just float – make them happen. That financial move you made earlier is

now ready to pay off in a big way. Stay open to exploring your passions and ambitious ideas. If you’ve been battling illness, take heart, your recovery is on the horizon.

LEO

July 23 -

August 22

This is your moment to spark a remarkable change. Although it might catch you off guard, view it as an exciting invitation to pivot and steer your life down an uncharted, yet promising path. If you are eyeing a new career, it’s yours for the taking. Dreaming of a promotion, it’s achievable. Thinking about property or investments? Go ahead and seize the opportunity. If you are single, you will soon meet your soulmate. Cherish the blissful moments in your life and make the most of them while they are within reach because in the blink of an eye, they may slip away. Radiate the positive energy you wish to receive and be in gratitude.

VIRGO

Aug 23 - Sept 22

If there’s a hint of mystery or a bigger picture unfolding, it’s an opportunity to step back, reassess, and strategize. While shortcuts and backdoors might tempt you, sticking to the process is the surest path to achieving your desires. Be cautious of colleagues who may not have your best interests, and avoid hasty, suspicious endeavors in financial terms. Love-wise, communication with your partner might

be tough, but working through it together will forge a stronger bond. Singles, be wary of a slick new romance. Ditch old relationship games and go real. If you’re grappling with any addiction, take steps in overcoming them without delay. Trust your instincts; genuine opportunities are your golden ticket to victory.

LIBRA

Sept 23 - Oct 22

If you have had challenging times, recently then brace yourself. Your motivation is making a comeback to boost you up. Tune into your heart, find your strength, and trust that good things are coming for you. Life’s shifting into a serene mode—think calm, self-discovery, and better vibes with others. Get ready to grow, for blessings are lining up. Peel off those doubts, show your real self, and be ready for change. Listen to that inner voice, it’s your compass. Share your blessings with others. Money struggles or work blues? Change is brewing, hold on tight. If you are wanting to find love or grow a current relationship, practice the art of letting go.

SCORPIO

Oct 23 - Nov 21

Life’s giving you a crash course in relationship juggling and self-worth elevation. If you seem stuck in the fog of decisions, take a pause and let your calming breath do its magic. Clear your head, zoom in on your goals and be flexible. Review your relationships, work dynamics, and financial situation. Sometimes, being still paves the way to victory. What looks like taking a step backward may be a calculated process, to realign your path with something, more fulfilling to you. Moving on, is your tip of the month. Trust in the grand symphony of life— the crescendo of transformation will serenade you in the most enchanting,

unforeseen ways and all will work out.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov 22 - Dec 21

Do you feel like you’re a human yo-yo, pulled every which way? Or feel like you are in a tug of war where no one’s giving in? When clashes are inevitable, don’t be afraid to keep your cool and restore some order. Setting clear boundaries and speaking your mind might just be the road to peace. Remember, your support system is there for you. Embrace workplace shifts and steer clear of the drama. The changes could lead to opportunities for the move you’ve been eyeing. In matters of the heart, it’s all about open conversations and not bruised egos. And when it comes to finances, play it smart – save and invest wisely.

CAPRICORN

Dec 22 - Jan 19

This month, you may need to tighten your belt, and hold on what you’ve got. Any bouts of loss could be because you have hitched yourself to the wrong wagon. Time for a financial check-up. Hold off on any fancy spending or risky investments right now. If someone’s let you down, find it in your heart to forgive. Life has got a way of surprising us, even when things seem a bit off track. New opportunities could be lurking around the corner, but they’ll tap you on the shoulder only when you’re ready. So don’t beat yourself up too much. We all stumble and fall, but those missteps are just pit stops on the road to learning and growing.

AQUARIUS

Jan 20 - Feb 20

It’s showtime for your A-game! Ready or not, it is time to move forward.

Stretch your limits, think big, and let that competitive streak shine even if you’re not fully armed. Triumph catches eyes. Some may see your success and may either challenge your point of view or position. Stay put, protect what you have and believe in yourself and your capabilities. You have what it takes to get what you want. Giving up is not an option especially when it comes to those you hold dear and love. They are the battle you never back down from. You may have big plans on the horizon, perhaps a home, huge savings, or retirement daydreams. Any way you slice it, these moves are future goldmines.

PISCES

Feb 21 -

March 20

Get ready for a whirlwind ride as your life gears up for an actionpacked chapter. Time to give your dreams the green light and watch them soar. The spotlight’s on so embrace the opportunities at work and in your relationships. Any hurdles that slowed you down are likely to be history. Be daring but cautious and mindful. Take a moment to connect with your heart and let the flame of love burn bright. Pause before leaping into new situations, especially regarding, property, money and legal matters. Weigh the pros and cons, sketch out a solid game plan, map your route, and buckle up for some serious hustle – victory’s waiting with open arms.

Farzana Suri is a victory coach who coaches people through their life’s challenges to take the leap to victory, using the science of numerology. For a personalized forecast, you may contact Farzana at surifarzana@gmail. com or visit her website www.farzanasuri.com