From the CEO
RANCHELLE IN THE RAW
Challenged by Play by Ranchelle Van Bryce
The definition of play is to engage in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose. When I share with people that I have a difficult time playing they are often surprised, especially after they meet me, because I love to have fun. I love laughing and I focus on things that bring me joy. The story of my difficulty with play came out last month when Danielle suggested that we get a photo of us on the Trampoline for our July issue. To be honest, I thought she meant that we would go on the trampoline together and pose jumping. You know, like the classic Sears Catalogue pose. I WAS WRONG! She seriously wanted us to jump on the trampoline. It brought up a whole bunch of stories in my head, like, what if I do this wrong? What if I hurt myself? What if I pee (sorry if this is TMI but this is Ranchelle in the Raw)? What if…. And now insert every crazy story and belief and past experiences I have had with play.
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I have always loved personal development but in early 2019 I made a commitment to unpack all of my limiting beliefs and create something new to replace them. BOOM!! Here I am, faced with my old childhood stories of not being good enough to play. UGH! Last one picked on every team, not feeling like I was good enough for any games at school - tag, hide ‘n seek, dodgeball, basketball, you name it I felt like I was not capable enough and the deep seeds of ‘not good enough’ were there every time we had Phys Ed or recess. As a child, I already felt like I didn’t belong and my inability to play didn’t help the situation at all. How beliefs are formed are an interesting thing. First, a statement (story) is made by someone of authority in your family (often a parent); then you experience the result of that statement or story. It creates an emotion, and you ob-
serve the result and feel the emotion. Rinse, repeat and you have a belief. It is that simple. The cool thing is that beliefs can be changed just as quickly, you can write a new story.
Here are a few things you need to know about Beliefs: 1. All of us have core wounds and core fears. An example of core wounds is I am not good enough (worthiness), or I am unlovable. An example of core fears is fear of abandonment and rejection.
Sharp Women Cofounders Danielle Klooster and Ranchelle Van Bryce
