Tallahassee Woman Magazine April - May 2022 by Tallahassee Woman Magazine

APRIL / MAY 2022

Autism Awareness Wedding Flowers Social Self-Care Grief & Loss Spray Tanning Confidence Dressing Cover Women Reflections

Dr. Michelle Mitcham

DARING TO DREAM

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Walker Breast Program Claude, along with family, friends and supporters, has raised more than $750,000 to support the Walker Breast Program at Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare (TMH). He and his mother, Maye, served as the honorary chairs of Golden Gala XXXVII held in April. Proceeds from the Gala benefited the Walker Breast Program.

How did the Walker Breast Program become a reality? Breast cancer has been in our family a long time. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 39 and had a mastectomy. And, this past year, she was again diagnosed with cancer and underwent her second mastectomy. She’s now 88 and volunteers as the master gardener in the Tallahassee Memorial Cancer Center’s Healing Garden. My sister, Claire, was first diagnosed with breast cancer at age 42 and had a recurrence at age 51. My late wife, Sharon, was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was just 33 and died in 2005 at the young age of 42. We wanted to do something to honor her, so we started a fund at the TMH Foundation. We’ve carried it on all these years because we know the need is great.

How have you seen cancer treatment at TMH improve over the years? When Sharon was diagnosed with Stage IV Breast Cancer, TMH did not have a dedicated cancer treatment program. We had two young boys, and it was exhausting driving back and forth to Tampa for treatment. Now, people in our region have a place to receive treatment in Tallahassee. We have a phenomenal radiation/oncology team with the best equipment available right here through a dedicated cancer program.

What has it been like to work with the TMH Foundation? They’ve really given me a voice in the process. I’ve met a lot of people who are of the same mind as I am and want to raise money to help move the hospital forward.

What advice do you have for others who want to make a difference? You’ve got to find out what motivates you. What has had an impact in your life? Is it heart disease? Is it diabetes? Is it pediatrics? Figure out what your passion is and then find a way to help.

Your gift to the TMH Foundation will help other families receive the best cancer treatment right here in Tallahassee. Give today at TMHFoundation.org or call 850-431-5931.

CONTENTS

10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER

CULTURE & CUISINE

12. SAFE SUNKISSED SPRAY TANNING 14. CONFIDENCE DRESSING 16. WEDDING SEASON: FLORAL TRENDS WE LOVE 18. THE DISH: SPANISH FLAN

LIVING LOCAL

20. HAUTE HAPPENINGS: LOCAL TALLAHASSEE EVENTS

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP WWMB JOURNAL 32. FEATURE: WENDY CRAWFORD 33. WOMEN TO WATCH: NEWS, AWARDS AND MILESTONES 34. KNOW YOUR WORTH INTERVIEW WITH ELIZABETH ROSARIO 36. LEGAL WRITES: DANA BROOKS 37. WORK LIFE ERA OF COVID 22. ON THE COVER: DR. MICHELLE MITCHAM PUBLISHER COVER WOMEN REFLECTIONS

TRAVEL

38. MADAME XHALES AT TREE HUGGING SITES 41. THOMASVILLE, GEORGIA

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT 42. THE BENEFITS OF WORRY 44. SOCIAL SELF-CARE

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS 46. AUTISM AWARENESS 48. GREIF AND LOSS

W.E. INSPIRE

51. LETTER FROM CREATIVE DIRECTOR: OLIVIA HEYWARD

22. ABOUT THE COVER: | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MUA: IMAGE BY LISA | WARDROBE: DIVINE CONSIGN / PRIVATE COLLECTION

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WOM A N

MAGAZINE

April - May 2022 • Volume 17 • Issue 3

Publisher | Editor-in-Chief Dr. Michelle Mitcham

EXECUTIVE EDITOR Laci Swann EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Tavia Rahki CREATIVE CONSULTANT Briana Smith RELATIONSHIP MANAGER Cristina Carter INTERNS Emily Burkett Ashley Dickey Sofia Jimenez Amber White

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CONTRIBUTORS DANA BROOKS WRITER Dana Brooks of Fasig & Brooks law firm, is an author, attorney, champion for women, collaborator, mother, mentor and one of Tallahassee’s 25 Women You Need to Know. Dana is passionate about empowering women and advocating for justice. She is a tireless advocate for social justice.

REGINA LYNCHHUDSON WRITER Veteran publicist and luxury lifestyle experience-aholic, JANE MARKS OLIVIA ALFORD Regina Lynch-Hudson, WRITER WRITER pens MadameXhales, Olivia Alford, owner of Jane Marks, licensed slated towards the 38 Expressions LLC, has psychotherapist “life coach” with more than 50 vintage of woman that a passion for writing, years specializing in child enjoys more time to building relationships, travel. MadameXhales and adolescent behavior. encouraging, and motivating others. She Host for “From the Heart” explores destinations, cruises, resorts, spas and and the Mental Health is a contributor for the extracurricular activities. and Wellness expert for Tallahassee Woman the Black News Channel. Magazine, Speaker Jane is a motivational Series Coordinator for speaker / lecturer with a Women Wednesdays, focus on mental health and a Content Coordinator and writer and adolescents. for Best Version Media.

CRISTINA CARTER WRITER Cristina Carter, owner/ SOFIA JIMENEZ founder of Tallahassee WRITER Notary, LLC, holds Sofia Jimenez, FSU a Master of Arts in student majoring in International Relations English Literature, from FSU and has taught Media, and Culture. several courses there. Having been enamored She also co-directed/cowith reading and writing produced, “Las Chica’s”. since she was little, she's excited to be on the path to what she truly seeks to study in life: striving to change the course of the world, one word at a time.

DORI GOMES WRITER Dori Gomes is a passionate writer, speaker, educator, and advocate. As a former journalist and adjunct professor, she merged her passions of writing, research, and mentorship to form her company which offers various writing, consulting, and editorial services. www.dorigomes.com.

KIRA DERRYBERRY PHOTOGRAPHER Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahasee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira's portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com

LISA DAVIS WRITER DR. DENISE BARRETT Lisa Davis is a wife, mommy of four, beauty WRITER blogger, Freelance Dr. Denise Barrett is an educator, author, mother, Makeup Artist, and and owner of Beautifully Owner of Image by Lisa. Educated Enterprises. God made her girly Her business is centered and she loves sharing on empowering girls and her tips and tricks with women to embrace the other women so that they power of education, self- can look and feel their love, and inner and outer absolute best. For more beauty. Follow her on information about Lisa Instagram at @beautifullyeducatedenterprises visit imagebylisa.com.

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Happy April!

Finally, springtime is here! Flowers are in full bloom and the grass is green. This is a time of renewal, reflection, and new beginnings. I am grateful for each season of my life. Having gratitude and being thankful fosters appreciation in the present and hope for the future. Adopting a practice of gratitude increases your overall mental well-being and nurtures positive relationships with others. In our daily lives, practicing grace, forgiveness, and compassion helps us to be kind to ourselves and others. In this 16th anniversary issue, TWM shares mindful reflections from dynamic and brave cover women about their dreams and hopes, offering inspiration during challenging times. I am thankful for these fierce women and all the women of Tallahassee t h a t practice u nit y and

community, embracing and celebrating the oneness of our humanity. I am forever thankful to be a part of this community of fierce, astute, innovative and empowered women that contribute to the success of Tallahassee Woman Magazine. Our fierce community of Women Who Mean Business includes contributors, FSU and FAMU interns and volunteers. All the women in my tribe and on my team make the magic happen and make our dreams and ideas come to fruition in the pages of every issue. On behalf of team TWM, congratulations to all the amazing women that have been recognized as one of the 25 Women You Need to Know and 5 Young Women to Watch in 2022. Special mention also to all of the 2022 Trailblazers, AAIM Honorees, Young Actors Theater Leading Ladies, TCC’s Women Providing Healing, Promoting Hope and all of the Women’s History honorees. Special thanks to all the advertisers. Without your support TWM, an OEV-certified minority and woman-owned business, would not exist. Thanks also to the readership and community for your continued encouragement and support. TWM proudly celebrates its 16th anniversary! Aspiring with grace and gratitude,

Michelle Mitcham, Ph.D., LMHC-QS, NCC, CCMHC, CFM

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AFTER

f the warmer temperatures and longer days have you dreaming of a sun-kissed glow, the harmful effects of ultraviolet (UV) exposure from the sun and tanning booths may have you rethinking it. Not only is UV exposure the number one cause of premature skin aging and wrinkles, but 86 percent of melanomas can be attributed to UV radiation exposure, and 419,000 cases of skin cancer in the U.S. are linked to indoor tanning each year. We now know achieving a tan the traditional way is not worth the risk, and that spray tanning is a safe, fast, effective alternative. The problem? Many of us have a sunless or spray tanning horror story that’s keeping us from trying it again. Trust me on this—gone are the days of orange, unnatural, blotchy spray tans when you find a reputable spray tanning salon. Spray tanning technology has advanced, now boasting natural and organic spray tan formulas, and a variety of depth/undertone options.

Spray tans and other sunless tanning products contain dihydroxyacetone, or DHA for short. DHA, a three-carbon sugar, reacts with amino groups in the proteins of the top layer of the skin called the stratum corneum. This chemical reaction with the outermost layer of the skin is non-systemic and causes the skin cells to darken. The process is called a Maillard reaction, the same process that leads to the caramelization of sugars and the browning of bread. Spray tans are a great option for vacations, special events, anytime you are on camera, or just want a beautiful glow. A good spray tanning salon should be able to educate you on the different types of spray tans and formulas, as well as how to prep before the tan and take care of it after for best results. For more information about spray tanning, prep, after-care and to book an appointment, visit www.imagebylisa.com. Lisa Davis, owner of Image By Lisa Boutique, Licensed Aesthetician and Professional Makeup Artist

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CONFIDENCE DRESSING How Clothing

Impacts Our Confidence By Denise P. Barrett, Ph.D.

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FIRST IMPRESSIONS ARE LASTING, MAKE YOURS A GOOD ONE You never get a second chance to make a first impression. This phrase is parallel with "Dress for the Occasion" I also like to align it with setting a fashion "goal" for whatever the event or occasion is you are attending and putting forth your best effort.

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An ill-fitted outfit can ruin the look you are aiming to achieve; the right fit is everything! Be sure your clothes fit well, invest in getting alterations, even for casual items like jeans and button-down shirts. 7

LESS IS MORE

IF YOU ARE QUESTIONING YOURSELF, DON'T WEAR IT

FIGURE FLATTERING FINESSE Research, learn and leverage the assets of your figure type and shape. Enhance your body with the appropriate clothing and accessories.

COLOR ME BEAUTIFUL Certain colors bring you to life, while certain colors wash you out, have fun experimenting with finding the right

ACCESSORIZE TO GLAMOURIZE Accessories make all the difference from drab to fab! Take the time to learn the art of accessorizing, and remember your hair and nails are the ultimate accessories to your fashion ensembles!

SHOES MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE

"A woman with good shoes is never ugly" – Coco Chanel, French Fashion Designer. Shoes can make or break an outfit and truly add the finishing touch.

This tip speaks for itself, "whenever in doubt, don't do it." 4

PERSONAL STYLES VS. TRENDS One's personal style is forever once established with intention. Trends pass like ships in the night. Which one do you wish to choose?

Enhance the positive, minimize the negative, focus on highlighting one or two of your most flattering features as a rule of thumb for "confidence dressing." 3

FIT IS EVERYTHING

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ashion and style can be overwhelming topics! The 10 essential tips below can work for women of all ages as "goto" guidelines to being "forever fabulous"!

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WEDDING SEASON Floral Trends We Love

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.5 million weddings are estimated to take place in 2022 - the largest amount of weddings in one year the US has seen since 1984.

Wedding vendors are in full force with more events than ever before; and with the challenges that come along with such high demand, it also brings a new wave of refreshed creativity that went underutilized as the event industry all but froze during the pandemic. Couples and wedding vendors alike have been waiting for this, and the events we are seeing this year are proving that it was worth the wait. Floral Trends We Love (and are likely to stick around through the wedding boom)

Color. Color Everywhere Couples are steering away from more classic styles, like white florals and romantic blush tones, and electing to add pops of color throughout their weddings – including in their floral arrangements. Adding bold, bright blooms, such as bright pinks and blues and/or deep red and orange hues have been trending upward rapidly. It’s almost as if waiting so long to plan their big days has allowed these couples to break free of what they thought they were supposed to want, and embrace styles that perhaps represent them better. While color is in full force, don’t rule out the earthy, neutral tones quite yet. This trend is not far behind the color obsession, providing a softer, more romantic style for those not as interested in a sea of color for their big day.

Texture & Height We’re seeing florals soar to new heights in the priority hierarchy for many clients. They’ve waited for their big day, and they are ready to make a statement. Texture has always been a component of floral arrangements; however, it has moved from being a subtle piece to a more upfront, focal component of many designs. What were once more Written by Christine Olive from Olive and Ivory Events in partnership with Tallahassee Nurseries Photographer: Rewind Films & Photography tallahassee woman | 16 | april • may 2022

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accent, filler pieces - like pampas grass and dried floral pieces – have now taken a larger role in the design of wedding arrangements, being featured heavily in arches, centerpieces and bouquets alike.

Floral Placement As we mentioned, creativity is in full – dare we say – bloom, and the placement of florals is another way we have seen the creativity of vendors and couples come alive. Adding floral accents to structures at your venue – such as having a statement floral piece hung on the tree in your ceremony space in lieu of a more typical arch or adding floral accents to golf carts, trolleys, mantles & planters – have become a frequent trend, adding design touches that remind us that sometimes embellishing on the beauty already present is greater (and more unique) than starting from scratch. ------Whether you want vibrant color or subdued romantic hues, large texture and height or a more minimal display, the floral designers at Tallahassee Nurseries are ready to bring your vision to life. Stop by the cottage gift shop or give them a call to schedule a meeting with one of their designers to discuss how they can work with you to make your event one to remember.

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INGREDIENTS:

1/2 cup of sugar 1/4 cup of water 5 eggs 1 can condensed milk 1 can evaporated milk

PREPARATION:

In a medium sauce pan, heat sugar and water stirring until color turns light brown. Pour into a 10 inch round baking mold. Tilt mold coating the bottom and sides. Set it down.

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LIVING LOCAL

HAUTE HAPPENINGS

FSU Flying High Circus 75th Annual Home Show Series

LeMoyne’s Chain of Parks Art Festival

Celebrate 75 years of the Flying High Circus as they debut their new show, “Cosmic.” With a show that is out of this world, watch science-fiction-themed acts soar above you, and support the hard work of students from Florida State University! For more information, visit tallahasseearts.org

Spend the weekend outdoors viewing fine art pieces from artists from across the nation for your enjoyment. You can even purchase pieces of artwork! With activities and entertainment for everyone, this is a weekend your family and friends won’t want to miss out on! Tickets are free to the public, for more information about the event, visit chainofparks.org

April 1st - April 16th, 2022 Shows Times Vary The FSU Jack Haskin Circus Complex 269 Chieftan Way Tallahassee, FL 32306

FAMU NAA – Leon County Chapter Annual Scholarship Gala

April 22nd, 2022 7:00 – 10:00 PM FAMU Grand Ballroom 1628 South Martin Luther King Junior Boulevard Tallahassee, FL 32307 Join the Leon County Chapter of the Florida A&M University National Alumni Association as they spend a night celebrating and fundraising to support future generations of FAMU students. For more information and tickets, visit eventbrite.org

April 23rd – 24th, 2022 10:00 AM Downtown Chain of Parks Tallahassee, FL 32301

Dance Theatre of Harlem June 1st, 2022 7:30 PM Ruby Diamond Concert Hall Tallahassee, FL 32304

Join FSU Opening Nights as they present The Dance Theatre of Harlem for a night of art from a professional ballet company. Don’t miss this unique opportunity to see a globally distinguished dance company. Tickets are $45 or $60. For more information and tickets, visit openingnights.fsu.edu

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O N T HE COVER

Dr. Michelle Mitcham

DARING TO DREAM

remember first meeting Dr. Mitcham virtually via Zoom during a Women United event in spring 2021 when we were two of the six women panelists presenting for the Feed Your Mind: Leading the Charge and Inspiring the Change. I was inspired by her comments and knew our paths would cross again and as fate would have it, we met, and the synergy was organic. Within several months of meeting and discussing ideas, Dr. Mitcham offered me the position of Executive Editor. This role was a natural complement to the women’s empowerment I was doing through my editorial/creative branding company. It was an honor to interview her for the 16th anniversary issue of TWM and find out more about her “fierce and flexy” philosophy, vision, and initiatives.

What led up to you being involved with TWM? What’s the backstory of purchasing the magazine? What skill sets did you have that would complement the magazine? I have been a fan of TWM since moving to Tallahassee in late 2015. I was blessed to have met two awesome women, the former owner, Kim Rosier and Executive Editor, Heather Thomas that fall and soon after, was invited to write for the magazine. Soon after, I rented an office in the TWM building and continued to write for TWM and was honored to be a keynote speaker and presenter at several of their events. I loved being a part of something bigger – a culture and community of women empowering the women of Tallahassee. The unlikely opportunity arose to purchase the magazine in summer of 2018 during an organic heartto-heart conversation with Kim Rosier. By the grace of God, it was meant to be and was not my plan, but His. I was honored that

Kim trusted her baby, TWM, with me and knew my vision would take the magazine to the next level. Kim ended up staying on as a consultant for the first two years and is always a phone call away. The skill sets that I brought did not include journalism, however writing and research are critical components of the university professor, for which I have been teaching and working in higher education since being in my doctoral program at UCF and graduating in 2005. As a former college chair and member of the executive leadership team, I prepared weekly and monthly reports and supervised faculty and staff. As a licensed clinical mental health counselor, I have been writing reports for years, which include treatment plans and progress notes. As a family mediator and former child custody evaluator, I wrote agreements and reports for the court for years. As a DEI trainer and consultant, I have prepared trainings and curriculum on many professional development topics. I had over 23 years of professional experience when I purchased the magazine. Thank goodness, many of the skills were and are transferable skills.

How has TWM evolved since purchasing it in 2018? TWM is committed to uplifting, inspiring and highlighting the women of Tallahassee. Since 2018, TWM has expanded its writers/ contributors, reaching out to several experts in the field on specific topics like women’s health, mental health, and finance. The creative design and branding of TWM has taken on a fierce, chic, bold but elegant style, experimenting with creative layout design, color, and new fonts. TWM has always featured the diverse women of Tallahassee, however, we are committed to diversity, equity, and inclusion tallahassee woman | 22 | april • may 2022

By Laci Swann

so there is great emphasis on diversity – all aspects of intersectionality. We want all women to “see themselves in the picture” so there is intentionality in all that we do. We had to pivot and acclimate for the last two years since Covid hit, maintain safety, and postpone some events, so it is exciting that the community is opening back up and we will be able to resume our events.

Since taking over TWM for approximately four years, what have you learned about women in Tallahassee? The women of Tallahassee are connected and believe in community, in sisterhood. They value faith and family, as well as education and hard work. I am so moved to see how compassionate the women are, offering incessant time volunteering and making a difference, helping others that are challenged. The women of Tallahassee are strong, fierce, compassionate, caring, and committed. I love this community! Empowered women empowering women. We are all in this together. I see the power of unity and community, women helping each other every day, and this is the way it should be.

I know the diversity in all formats/ aspects is very important to you as a DEI trainer. How does this influence the magazine and its contents? I am so glad you asked that question. I was taught to embrace and celebrate diversity, as a child, being surrounded with a diverse family, school, and community. As many know, I have a multicultural, multiracial background that includes South Asian/ Indian, Jamaican, African American ancestry and more. I have taught diversity at the university graduate and doctoral levels

since 2005, so this is very close to my heart for many reasons. As I stated, diversity and all aspects of our uniqueness should be celebrated so this influences all aspects of the magazine. TWM has highlighted in stories or graphics, women of all backgrounds to include diverse and minority groups such as Hispanic Heritage, African American, Asian, Pacific Islander, LGBTQ, single mothers, culturally/linguistically diverse women, and women of all ages. I believe that we are one people, and it is important to embrace the concept of the oneness of humanity.

Congratulations on your recent African Americans in Media (AAIM) award, the Cathy Hughes Media Mogul award presented to you last month. What was your reaction to this phenomenal award? I was speechless when I received notice of the award. I am still riding on a cloud of gratitude for this honor. As a leader in Tallahassee media, TWM plays a critical role in presenting authentic, true, and diverse stories amplifying the diverse women of this great city. To know that my efforts and the great efforts of my team have been recognized and applauded, is very humbling. I am dedicated to diversity, equity, and inclusion, which includes our African American sisters, as demonstrated in the magazine. I cannot thank Capital Outlook and Hallelujah 95.3, Darius “Doc” Baker, and Rev. RB Holmes for creating this special recognition to honor African American trailblazers in Media. I was honored and humbled to be recognized alongside the other amazing media honorees.

In celebration of Women’s History Month, congratulations on your recent recognition as being one of the Leading Ladies of the Community by the Board of Directors of the Young Actors Theater (YAT) and being honored at the inaugural breakfast. I

understand that you are being recognized for the impact of Tallahassee Woman Magazine and your role in mental health counseling. Please share what this recognition means to you? Again, I was speechless when I received the email and letter regarding this special recognition. I called Sarah Doolin and thanked her profusely. I am thrilled that the Board of Directors selected me as a Leading Lady for my “dedication to amplifying the stories of dynamic women in the community through TWM and my championship of mental health counseling in schools and for families.” To be recognized for Women’s History Month is truly an honor. I applaud YAT in their advocacy efforts to highlight strong women with their “Springtime of Sisterhood” to demonstrate women that dream without limits. My favorite word for 2022 is LIMITLESS. To be honored alongside other leading ladies in our beloved community means so much to me. I am honored to be a part of this community and play a role in empowering and inspiring women and being an advocate for mental health, as well as a licensed psychotherapist helping individuals and families. Mental health wellness is real, and we must have courageous conversations with our loved ones and community to stop perpetuating the stigma and let people know that it is okay to reach out for help and know they are not alone. I am

Lastly, please share more about the Fierce and Flexy community? The Fierce and Flexy community was born because of Covid and being shut in the house working from home. Professional women who are usually on the go were over Zoom and needed to connect with like-minded women to engage in conversations,

as well as exercise. Tallahassee Woman Magazine started a Fierce and Flexy walking group and created some other wellness events in the community through collaborations with Fit and Functional, and offered online self-care talks to support women during this time. This concept evolved to an ongoing Fierce and Flexy community of women. Fierce and flexy women are strong, resilient, determined, decisive women that push their limits and embrace the concept of limitless when it comes to what they can accomplish. They flex their minds and muscles and are innovative, creative, and resourceful. Fierce women believe in themselves, embrace, and amplify their voices and unapologetically follow their dreams and self-actualize. Fierce women are all different ages, single or married, mothers and grandmothers – that all want to live authentically, being true to themselves and their dreams – not settling for anything less than their dreams. TWM is excited about the Fierce and Flexy community and is looking forward to future walking, wellness and wisdom meet ups and events.

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CELEBR ATING Carrie Englert Zimmerman TWM Cover February/March 2010

I dream that every one everywhere of every age has the freedom to: Be curious. Be confident. Be spirited. Be hopeful. Be fearless. Be inspired. Be passionate. Be wild. Be brilliant. Be bold. Be humble. Be determined. Be bad. Be spontaneous. Be kind. Be creative. Be crazy. Be relentless. Be good. Be colorful. Be aggressive. Be silly. Be gracious. Be thankful. Be happy. Be loved. I have had the distinct privilege of being featured on the cover of TWM TWICE! Although I’ve been recognized globally and nationally in the business arena, it’s wonderful to have been tapped with a local distinction. Tallahassee is in my blood. My grandfather was mayor and our roots run deep. Yes, our company has/has had clients in 32 countries, but we have a corporate mantra which says “work global, live local.” I love Tallahassee and inspiration begins at home.

I have a tangible dream: to complete the flight hours needed to achieve (at last) my private helicopter pilot's license. I love every aspect of flying and as many before me have said, soaring above the clouds is like touching the hand of God. There is also a vision and a hope in my heart to continue to share encouragement and my enthusiasm for lifetime learning. I spoke this week with some young ladies coming to Florida State this fall. I see such promise in their hearts and their dreams. They see me as someone who has already achieved her dreams, but I assured them that dreams don't end - we expand them, and we may adjust them. Every day, we must strive to be better at something than we were before. I shared that the most important asset to achieving anything is our mindset. We have to have the confidence of a determined, unabashedly brave toddler and invest our time, actions, and energy into attaining whatever we dream of accomplishing. Also essential are solid and positive relationships and friendships. I think it is crucial to use your ability to lift one another and encourage other people. People remember how you treat them. And for every just one person, it may be the most positive part of their day. To make someone's day, just by a kind word, can be the most rewarding experience, and that small but intentional effort can also help our mindset. It was such an honor to be featured in the magazine. Although it has been years, I still am approached by readers who share their impressions of my story and how they were moved by reading it. I have even heard from people from other countries, showing how influential the magazine is and widely read! A few have tears in their

eyes and can relate to part of the experiences, which warms my heart. I have met new friends through Diane the magazine and have McCain Women been encouraged by A Resilient Preserving Heart others whose stories History are phenomenal and so Spring inspiring. Fashion Your Body Preview I think women in & Your Heart! Tallahassee and all Good Morning Soul Food around the world want to Gorgeous! Wake Up Beautiful be valued and recognized for their contributions to their families, the Diane McCain world of work, and their TWM Cover February/March 2016 community. Women help create a thriving society. They are the first teachers for children, the earliest and foremost influencers of tomorrow's leaders. Women often go further, do more, and break barriers to inspire others to have courage. Successful women are from a wide range of professions and backgrounds, and among the strongest are those who have experienced hardships. They have important messages to share and wisdom to impart about empowerment. I believe the women in Tallahassee desire the very best for our community now and for future generations. They dream of a vibrant, safe, and thriving city where dreams can be fulfilled and families can flourish.

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Turning hurt and pain into something wonderful is such a blessing. That is what Tallahassee Woman Magazine did with “my story”. When I was first contacted about sharing my story with our community of women, my first thought was “Really? No one would be interested in hearing how I can take care of myself and my journey to rebuild my life after divorce.” Boy was I wrong. Being featured on the cover of this amazing community magazine was a vulnerable and humbling experience. I had no idea I would touch the lives of so many women that had been or either were going through similar situations as I had been through. I received many calls, text messages, emails, social media messages and had in person conversations from women in our community that at one point had felt all alone or needed the encouragement from my story to keep going. Thank you Tallahassee Woman Magazine for allowing me to be a vessel to reach others to help them heal, regain strength, be encouraged, find confidence, but most of all learn to love themselves.

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Being on the cover of Tallahassee Woman magazine still blows my mind. The entire experience was memorable, from being interviewed for the story, to the photoshoot where the stylists and make-up artists made me look glamorous, to the encouragement and professionalism of the photographer and magazine staff. I honestly had no idea how much work goes into creating a top-notch magazine or the amazing photos of the women who grace the front page. The best part was the positive feedback I got from readers who were inspired by my story. I'll never forget this and the impact of being recognized has had on my life and others.

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The honor of being a TWM cover woman was more than a recognition. I recall how excited my husband, daughter, and closest friends were for me. But by the time the magazine was ready for print, we were in a full blown pandemic. Work was consuming me while at the same time giving me purpose. When many felt lost and unsure of the future, I relied on my training, both from home and from my education. My home training helped me remain grounded and keep my faith while my medical education helped me work with others to move forward through very trying times. I will forever be proud to have been a part of the Tallahassee community and what

we were able to accomplish working together in these unprecedented times. It was a different kind of TWM cover woman experience for me. Masks on for the photo shoot and makeup artist. Unfortunately, they were relying on my own personal wardrobe due to COVID restrictions. Typical magazine signing parties and celebrations were not happening. However what did happen was far more amazing. This cover was about the realization of what my hope is for every woman in the future…remaining unapologetic, fierce, courageous, and ready to take on whatever comes our way.

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Beth Corum

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My Dream: Last month, my daughter Stella and I worked on visioning boards with shortand longer-term dreams for each of us. While hers included friendships and mine included the color of our front door, we shared several common themes including traveling to new places in the US and abroad and opening our own boutique one day called “Yes, please.” My dream location would be in the old Henry’s Radiator Shop on North Monroe. Having had cancer twice in the past four years, my number one hope is to see Stella grow up and to grow old with my husband Chris. Health and wellness aside, I hope Stella is always curious about the world around her and that she is empowered to do whatever she wants with no limits imposed by others.

What do I think the hopes and dreams of other women are? More sleep. Less stress. World peace. Return of civility. A great pair of shoes. Equality. A good book and a glass of wine. A seat at the table. Being on the cover of Tallahassee Woman felt a little like being a rock star {not that I’ve been a rock star in the Billie Eilish way, I did win a karaoke contest once.}. I will readily admit seeing my face when I walked into stores or offices was a little jarring. While most who know me swear, I’m an extrovert, I’m actually introverted and would prefer to leave the spotlight to others. Reading Heidi Otway’s interview of me was humbling. But that dress though...

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Jane Marks

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"Having grown up in Tallahassee I've personally witnessed the growth and diversity and inclusion that has become a hallmark of this city. That was the dream I had as a teenager and one that still remains with me today. Having grown up with a mother who came from the Philippines and married a WW II Army officer, I, like many of my closest peers and friend grew up with the notion that we were tasked to be agents of change. We were tasked to cross boundaries, tasked to make a difference but most importantly tasked to make everyone count. Along this journey I have met countless women who like myself have had a strong sense of purpose. This is the community which we are privileged to live in. What I have learned about Tallahassee Dreamers is that they have valuable experiences, knowledge, strategies,

My hope for all women is that they will have the courage to go after their wildest dreams, knowing that there are other women who will be there to champion their cause and support them in fulfilling those dreams. Oftentimes we let fear of the unknown or elect to prioritize the dreams of others instead of choosing ourselves or those aspirations that we have buried deep inside. In Paula DeBoles this season, I am extremely Johnson grateful to have the support TWM Cover June/July 2021 of family and friends who are standing by my side, helping me to pursue my dream of running for public office. While I have been planning this journey for nearly twelve years, I could not have imagined the wealth of support that I have received from others in our community. Politics is an arduous journey, that is not for the faint of heart, so I am truly grateful for the tribe that have pledged their support to help me to realize my dream. I sincerely hope that every woman has the opportunity to know what this feeling is like. To know that, no matter what, you have the backing of others who are rooting for you. It really is a powerful feeling! tallahassee woman | 27 | april • may 2022

and a willingness to help each other bring success to their lives. I have seen women from all walks of life build networks, invest in others, build families and friendships which makes this community uniquely different. Even in the midst of adversity, I have witnessed women lift others up so that they are able to navigate some of life's most unexpected and oftentimes traumatic times. When I look around this community I am continually reminded that there are so many women dreamers who help each other not only find their voices but make huge differences in their perspective worlds. I believe the women of our community continue to dream big and shape a better more inclusive community and continue to inspire this generation to change the world. Look around"

built my business in an often overlooked and non-traditional space, as a leader in direct selling, in addition to my brick and mortar, Image by Lisa. As a mother of 4, business owner, and wife, I relate to the challenges women face in juggling roles and responsibilities. We strive to take care of the people we love, while caring for ourselves, and simultaneously growing our careers. I am continually inspired by the women I read about in Tallahassee Women’s Magazine. Lisa Davis I appreciate the leadership of the TWM Cover April/May 2021 magazine in choosing diversity in I was honored to represent the feature articles, highlighting the multifaceted role of women one year mission and dreams of our local ago, as the Mother’s Day cover girl rock stars. for Tallahassee Women’s Magazine. Truly was a dream come true. I have

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I MOVE BOLDLY TOWA R D MY DR E A M. I've had a dream for the past several years to own my own Gallery space! I currently create all of my art and decor in my home but it truly makes me happy just imagining each and every detail! The vibrant colors and sparkling art adorning the walls, a fun and inviting space that lifts the spirit. A place to collaborate with other artists, art lovers and anyone new to the art world. Ultimately having a gallery space would be the perfect way to share my passion in a personal way. A tangible way for others to truly experience and appreciate the journey of creation. I believe that regardless of our backgrounds, education, careers, wins or struggles: The

women of Tallahassee want others to see, hear and fully understand that each individual dream matters. Women are incredible because we are naturally able to connect on a deeper spiritual level through sharing our failures and fears, aspirations and goals. When you understand a woman's passion, you truly "see" her and once you've made that connection then you are in a position to empower and uplift. There is nothing more exciting than seeing a woman break through and overcome adversity to take hold of her dreams. I believe we all want a part of that excitement and we can have it by supporting one another in various ways along that journey.

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Trailblazers Women who transform our community TRAILBLAZERS Dr. Jana BuresForstoefel Trailblazer Award

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“Gender shouldn’t inhibit you or your dreams.”

“Be yourself and know that others are there to support you.”

Dr. Karen Moore Trailblazer Award

Barby Moro Trailblazer Award

“Never turn down your enthusiasm & be your first cheerleader.”

“Don’t lose sight of who you are and give yourself room to evolve.”

Deputy Chief Tonja Smith Trailblazer Award

Marjorie Turnbull Legacy Award

“The more you try something, the better you get.”

“Find 3 reasons to say YES - Will I learn? Will it help others? Will it be fun?”

Pat Holliday Unsung Shero Award

Amaya Waymon Girls Can Do Anything Award

“Mentor your community members and establish mutually giving relationships.”

“Be bold like Kamala, speak like Amanda, and be brave like Ruby!”

n March 8, 2022, The Oasis Center for Women & Girls celebrated Women’s History Month during their 14th annual Trailblazer Event. The Trailblazer event is the largest communitywide event celebrating the extraordinary contributions made by women and girls to our quality of life in Tallahassee/Leon County. The Oasis Center Board of Directors honored the women pictured at left. According to the National Women’s History Museum, of 737 historical figures taught in standard curricula, just 178 are women … including several fictional characters. The Oasis Center is committed to changing that locally by celebrating the extraordinary accomplishments made by local women. Our daughters and their daughters and granddaughters have a chance to be anything they want to be and can look to our Trailblazers to see the endless possibilities for their lives. Oasis believes it is imperative that our sons and their sons and grandsons recognize the power of women by introducing them to the women who helped make this community and our nation great. By highlighting the accomplishments of these extraordinary women and girls, we light a path for generations of girls to follow into their own futures.

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The Oasis Center for Women & Girls was founded in 2007 and it’s mission is to improve the lives of women and girls through celebration and support. Oasis envisions a community in which all women and girls thrive at every stage of life. Services and programs include support groups for single mothers, groups to develop resilience in girls and Girls Can Do Anything Summer Camp. You can learn more by visiting: www.TheOasisCenter.net tallahassee woman | 30 | april • may 2022

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What inspired you to get started with dance?

Since watching the Nutcracker with the Atlanta Ballet as a young girl, my love for dance was ignited and has never stopped. This inspired me to dance and train with the Atlanta Ballet from an early age. My preparation continued at a performing arts high school, and upon graduation I auditioned for Florida State University (FSU). Initially, it was not in my plan; however, the diversity spoke to me after attending predominantly white private school. I found myself wanting something different and FSU felt like home.

What inspired you to start a dance studio?

I've danced my whole life, then graduated from FSU, and subsequently toured and performed at various venues. After having our first daughter, we toured a few places with great techniques and specialities. There was a lack of diversity which was important to us, which led me to start my own studio. As a youth, I was one of two

African American dancers at the Atlanta Ballet, a prestigious ballet company. I was inspired my second to last year when they hired three dancers from the Dance Theatre of Harlem. This was my first time seeing anyone that looked like me. I naturally gravitated to them. They became mentors, and I am still in contact with today. Do you have to have experience to join in on the fun? Many of the kids at our studio come from all over. Some love to dance although not all want to become dance majors or be part of a competitive team. Our classes start from ages one to 19 for high school. We offer college, adult, and beginner mommy and me classes. We provide a diverse, engaging, safe, fun, nonjudgmental atmosphere for them to do so. How would you describe the most fulfilling part of your work? I love being on the Golden Girls team and coaching it; however, I miss being a part of the girls' lives. I went from having 18-20 girls, to having so many that I could barely

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keep up. I don't want to be a director closed off in an office that's not reachable or touchable. I know so much about these kids that sometimes I feel like a parent and that’s a very interesting place to be. I'm grateful for being a bridge that connects them to opportunities, shares helpful information, and stands in the gap for them. It's been an incredible experience. I especially love it when our dancers go into the world as representatives of what we're doing. I am proud to see them doing great things.

How has dance benefitted you?

I've done different things with dance in different forms. I judge internationally, participate in master classes around the US, and more. I enjoyed sharing those experiences with the girls. Many of them may not leave Tallahassee, so I try to bring some of the individuals to visit them at the studio or show them pictures as I share the experiences. It's been a really cool connecting point.

How do you capture the experiences?

I capture the memories created in a form that can last a lifetime. I only

have four pictures of me growing up dancing, so I'm really fond of capturing those moments for my girls. I realize that 95% of these girls are less likely to pursue a dance career, so one of my goals is to bring them a variety of experiences they may not receive otherwise. This leaves them with mind-blowing lifetime memories, and they love it. In what ways do you feel you serve Tallahassee through your studio? Many kids attend through our scholarship program that wouldn't

be able to participate. Adrian and I committed to that when we first started. I've always said that if I were a millionaire, I'd be the one that gives every amazing worker I encounter a job. Since I am not in the place to do that, I serve the community within my own reach.

What's one thing that makes you stand out as a dance studio?

have that experience. There are a lot of predominantly black and predominantly white studios. However, I am the most diverse studio in Tallahassee, and I am so proud of this. My daughter and I came together and started something called "Poise with Pride and Purpose" for dancers of color. It started out small, and now we have a huge group of beautiful shades. It's really fun to see how it's grown.

My daughters never grew up feeling like dancing around people that look like them wasn't normal. Many kids don’t

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SRI Management LLC announces Kim Hollingshed as its senior director of human resources. Bringing more than a decade of corporate HR experience, Hollingshed will oversee employee relations, performance management, and corporate policy and procedures. Hollingshed’s diverse professional background and passion for creating a positive workplace make her an ideal fit for the growing Tallahassee-based corporate headquarters.

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"Know Your Worth" An Interview With Elizabeth (Ely) Rosario By Cristina Carter

f you haven’t already met Elizabeth (Ely) Rosario, let me introduce you. With over 23 years of leadership, entrepreneurship, and marketing experience she is fierce leader and public speaker in our community and state. She is also a mother of three, author, accomplished runner/triathlete with an Ironman finish, Boston qualifier, fluent in Spanish and learning mandarin to name a few things. I couldn’t think of a better person to write a life manual. As her new book, “Know Your Worth” is being released in April, we were able to ask Ely a few questions.

What inspired you to write “Know Your Worth”?

I realized that we as individuals keep making the same mistakes throughout life. I wanted to connect with personal stories and share some of the mistakes that I made so that they don’t make the same ones I did. Overall, I wanted to help others help themselves.

Can anyone read and learn from this book?

Elizabeth "Ely" Rosario has a Masters of Business Administration from Colorado State University and an undergraduate degree from Florida State University in Communications with Business. She has spent the last 15 years as second in command at Jackson Properties and Financial Services, a pioneer and local company owned by Erwin Jackson Ph.D, dedicated to serving the college students in our community.

Absolutely! There are questions for the reader to answer at the end of each chapter that will help them gain a better understanding of who they are and what steps they need to take in order to live their best life. It’s an easy-tofollow self-paced life manual for anyone, not just women.

One final thought you would like to share:

I would like readers to walk away after reading my book with the knowledge of realizing that they need to take accountability for their actions. This life isn’t about blaming others, it’s about taking responsibility for our actions and making better choices to reach their goals.

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h, is there anything better than being in the love bubble? That phase of a relationship right at the beginning when you’re certain you’ve found “the one” and you can’t wait to start your life together. But ardor cools over time and it’s easy to find yourself feeling stuck. Other times you start to observe changes in your partner’s behavior that concern or downright scare you. You find yourself wondering how you ever got into this mess. When you love someone, you want to help them. But something as simple as loaning them your car or renting one for them in your name can turn into a liability nightmare should they injure someone or get caught committing a crime while operating the vehicle. If they get caught dealing drugs out of your vehicle, for instance, you could have to forfeit your vehicle and property, even if you ultimately are not convicted. It’s nothing to mess around with. Everyone knows one home is less expensive than two, so it’s common for partners to start cohabiting to cut down on expenses. But be very careful here. Once someone moves into your home, it’s not so easy to kick them out, even with a written lease agreement. There is a strict process in Florida for evicting someone. Even if you see it as an act of kindness on your part, the law may see your partner as having rights as a resident. This can make for a very unpleasant home and uncoupling process.

Similarly, if you own a home prior to marriage and you and your spouse live there during the marriage, you cannot simply assume that s/ he has no rights to anything associated with the home. Without a prenuptial agreement, any appreciation in the home between the date of the marriage and the date of divorce may be considered marital property. In a housing market like we’re experiencing right now, that could be a significant amount of money you have to pay in the divorce. If you don’t have the funds, you may have to sell your home to pay your partner’s share or take out a loan. Worst case scenario, you realize this person is truly dangerous and involved in some bad stuff. You may be afraid to leave because s/he’s made credible threats to you and your family. Maybe they’ve gotten violent with you or begun to psychologically abuse and terrorize you. You may exhaust your friends and family by continuing to take this person back, despite their abusive behavior. You may find yourself alone and even more dependent on your abuser because they’ve removed you from your entire support system. S/he might be into criminal behavior that puts you and your children in real danger. Or maybe they’ve done something truly horrible and are asking you to cover for them or hide them from authorities. Before you go down that dark road alone and let your love for someone else ruin your future, get help. Refuge House is an excellent resource but there are others as well. Help is out there. Never, ever give up.

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ith the pandemic still on people’s minds and safety being of the utmost importance to workers all around the world, the demand for remote work has undergone an overwhelming surge. While finding (and securing) a remote job can be a little stressful, with enough research and help, you’ll be on the right track in no time. On that account, as we approach the two-year anniversary of the pandemic, Tallahassee Women’s Magazine thought it best to not only give some tips as to finding a remote job but more importantly, a remote position that fits your needs.

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The first thing to understand is that not every kind of remote work is the same! Because of this, it is critical to ask yourself questions about scheduling, benefits, salary, availability, culture, and stability, that way you can narrow down your options and choose a position that highlights your desires. Moreover, you also want to make certain that you are on the proper application sites/accounts, as this will be the main way to network yourself. Some places to get started are LinkedIn, Indeed, We Work Remotely, FlexJobs, etc. The only catch with this, however, is that it is essential to have a profile/application that not only makes you stand out but at the same time, draws people in. Therefore, we would recommend taking some time to figure out what special qualities, talents, and accomplishments you have that will make you the perfect candidate. At the end of the day, remember that this remote job search is about YOU and finding what you deem necessary when looking for a remote job, so if your number one choice decides to not hire you, it’s their loss! Never put your energy into negativity, so remember your worth, embrace the hustle, and keep applying!

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Sometimes, in today's world of fewer handshakes, kisses, and smooches, all you want to do is hug a tree. And that's precisely what I did on the grounds of historic Black Mountain Inn, an original stagecoach stop. This inn dates back to 1830 and was once a summer retreat for fellow tree-huggers like Ernest Hemingway, Norman Rockwell, and Helen Keller. A marker honors the old oak tree, a landmark with its ginormous comforting branches. For me, the tree spells nostalgia, beckoning ‘just over the fence’ from my childhood home. Global communities and cultures have long carved out unique ways to show appreciation for nature’s most important bounty. Trees are by far Mother Nature's most essential component of our planet, providing oxygen for all inhabitants and balancing our fragile ecosystem. Two Spring holidays offer opportunities to embrace and protect our trees and forests. Arbor Day, typically held on the last Friday of April in most states, is a national holiday to promote tree planting, upkeep, and preservation. National Love A Tree Day is celebrated annually on May 16 (with World Tree Day happening on March 21, and National Tree Day observed annually in September).

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healing & peace: Trees not only provide shade and beauty, but some are also "healers of the land." Willow bark has been used for centuries as a medicinal compound to treat pain, fever, and aches, dating back to ancient Egypt. Imagine my surprise when I learned that an enormous Weeping Willow loomed over the house site of my medicine woman great-great-mother. Today, the retrieved sculpture-like remains of the original Willow sit center stage in my home gallery, as a symbolic token of healing and peace. The original tree, planted a near century ago, was struck by lightning and saved and sold to me by the present elderly resident of the property─as if the remnant had been magically awaiting my arrival.

A recent estimate of tree counts, recorded in countless studies, found there to be an estimated three trillion trees across the globe─or a generous 422 trees per person. I haven’t hugged my entitled 422 trees yet, but I’m up for the assignment. Join me for a Tarzan-like swing through a few of my favorite branches in the world:

Cat Ba Island, Vietnam

There are 13 prevalent species of Banana trees in tropical Vietnam. In traveling throughout over 9 cities and towns

on a month-long tour of the incredibly spectacular country, I devoured diverse Vietnamese cuisine created using the fruit and its roots, flowers and leaves. One of my most memorable sightings of the glorious fruit shrub was while canvassing Viet Hai Village, an 'isolated paradise' located in Cat Ba Island. The primitive hideaway evoked my 21st Century Jungle Jane, in a refuge of rain forests and rice fields.

Angkor Wat, Cambodia The root-snarled Ta Prohm, dubbed the ‘Tomb Raider Temple’ because it provided the otherworldly backdrop for the Hollywood hit starring Angelina Jolie, ranks as my most and whimsical tree sighting. The monstrosity of the limbs of the Giant Banyan Trees appear to alternately choke and caress the crumbling ruins throughout Angkor Wat. The energy field surrounding the Banyan Tree is mystifying.

Oranjestad, Aruba The alluring Divi Divi tree has become Aruba's reliable GPS system, with its dramatically twisted branches always pointing in a southwesterly fashion, due to trade winds that whoosh across the island from the north-east. The limbs of the Divi Divi tree have presented a throne for many a visiting diva to sit and admire the Caribbean Sea.

Veteran publicist and luxury lifestyle experience-aholic, Regina Lynch-Hudson, pens MadameXhales, slated towards the vintage of woman that according to studies: enjoys more time to travel, indulges in longer trips, and selects more extravagant travel accommodations. The exacting taste of MadameXhales finds her exploring destinations, cruises, resorts, spas, and extracurricular activities—where like-minded Xhalers have experienced inner-exhilaration! © Contact MadameXhales: thewritepublicist@earthlink.net tallahassee woman | 40 | april • may 2022

THOMASVILLE, GEORGIA

By Cristina Carter

rowing up in Tallahassee, I am always surprised by how many people have never been to Thomasville, Georgia. Located about 30 miles north of us it’s a special treat you won’t want to miss. Known as the “City of Roses” Thomasville is a place where you can tour a plantation, grab some fresh veggies at the farmers market and even check out one of the oldest live oak trees in the country all in the same day. However, Thomasville is much more than that. The cobble-stoned streets will take you back in time as you stroll through the historic downtown. Filled with one-of-a-kind boutiques, coffee shops, restaurants, and even a winery you will instantly feel at home as locals embrace you with small-town southern hospitality at its finest. Be sure to check out The Big Oak, located on the corner of Crawford and Monroe one of the oldest and largest live oaks in the nation. Dating back to 1680 it is one of the many little details that make Thomasville a one of a kind must see town. Speaking of one of a kind, there are 18 bronze quail statues hidden throughout the historic downtown. I know I’ve personally been trying to find all 18 of them throughout the many years I have visited Thomasville and am far from finding them all. Do you think you can find them? If you like the outdoors, Thomasville is home to more than 1,000 roses. In April, the town has rose growers from across the world to partake in the annual rose festival. Rose growers go before a panel of judges where they have the hopes in obtaining international recognition. Historic, charming and unique Thomasville, Georgia is a town you will want to check out year round.

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THE BENEFITS OF WORRY

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

By Jane Marks

ot a day goes by when we don’t spend time worrying about an event that happened, may happen, or will happen. These days we have plenty of material to work with as the unexpected happens minute-by-minute. While worry can be a nuisance in the short term, it can also be a powerful tool for change. So let’s focus on how we can make worry work for us: • Worry can be a great motivator: it not only prompts you to take action (like getting your yearly physical), but it can also lead you to better prepare for future challenges. Worry drives us to complete tasks, schoolwork, and unending chores—you know, the ones we like to postpone. • Worry, for so many of us, represents caring. You worry about your family because you care and love them. Worry often demonstrates deep compassion for things that matter to you. • Worry can be a great problem-solver. If something

feels wrong and you think about it, you’re also likely to prepare for it. In this way, worry helps you manage the worst-case scenario and strategize for the best. • Worry can prompt you to develop contingency plans. It will motivate you to rethink stale strategies and evolve your way of thinking—better preparing you to take on current challenges. • Worry can shift our attention to things that are important in our lives. When we have an important event coming up, it helps us to pay attention and recognize how valuable this experience is. So, when we worry just a little about the new job or the new baby, it turns out to serve a very valuable function. These last several years, we have had so many things happen that have been completely out of our control. But “good worry” has helped us navigate the toughest of times. So, as worry arises, let’s recognize the important role it plays in our lives.

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e have spent the last year talking about the importance of self-care, but not necessarily its components. So, let’s focus on social self-care. First, what is it? Social self-care is about cultivating our feelings of love, appreciation, and gratitude in connection with others. This social aspect of self-care is integral to our mental health and should be nurtured regularly. It’s about feeling cared for and special and generating that feeling for others. Let’s face it: The pandemic has made it much more difficult to maintain our friendships because we’ve had to prioritize the safety of ourselves and others first. Now, we know more than ever that having supportive social relationships is crucial for sustaining short-term health gains and longterm gains. The science says that social self-care reduces stress and anxiety, boosts self-esteem, leads to much healthier relationships, and helps us navigate setbacks and critical health crises. There is even evidence that suggests that it helps us as we experience trauma-related incidents. So, what are we waiting for? Consider these ideas: Schedule a regular phone touch-base time with family members, close friends, or loved ones. Write a card, text, or even post-it note to a person you value. Meet with a friend and walk and talk. Simply being a good listener and connecting creates a sense of belonging.

SOCIAL SELF-CARE By Jane Marks

Commit to regular social activity for your own wellness. Dedicate this time to yourself, especially if you are a caregiver or a caretaker. You all know my favorite: Zumba classes! Make time to play. Find time in your day to have an intentional, fun time with someone else—and if your time is limited, connect with a furry friend. This invites a renewed calmness. Give a small gift to someone you care about. This simple act not only feels good but the satisfaction and the anticipation of joy for both you and the recipient has a ripple effect for weeks. Take a moment to offer empathy, concern, trust, acceptance, encouragement, appreciation, and caring. Remember: being mindful of social self-care is the wisest investment you can make in the weeks to come. The rewards are there for you and the people in your world.

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The One Universal Rule You Should Know About Autism By Laci Swann

“Please, please be kind to my son,” I often whisper to myself, nearly pleading and crying to a nonexistence audience under my breath as I unbuckle my son from his car seat to take him to the playground. You see, my son is nonverbal, and my son has autism.

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utism, for our family, may look different from the next family, and that is because autism is not a one-size-fits-all diagnosis. No, not all people with autism are savants, and not all people with autism are nonverbal, either. For my son, a smiley, rambunctious, happy-go-lucky little fella, he appears neurotypical until you realize he may not want to engage with you or your child and does not yet respond verbally. So, afternoons at the playground or the trampoline park are often riddled with anxiety—not for him, but me. I see the confused looks when my son shrieks in excitement as opposed to verbalizing his joy. I see the distance people place between themselves and him when they can’t quite understand why he’s sitting on the ground and not engaging with the other kids. Worse, I hear the names people call him when they assume he’s being disobedient. With that said, I came up with one mustknow thing that every human should know when learning about autism. Adults, parents, kids, teenagers, you name it, they will benefit from this "one thing," and the thing you should know is this: Be kind.

I’ll admit – I’ve turned my head a time or 20 in church when I’ve heard a child scream, and I’ve certainly looked surprised when I’ve seen a child throw a tantrum in public. Life is funny, though, because any time I’ve cast judgment or let my facial expressions speak for me, I’ve been humbled twice as much, and as the mama to a child with autism, I can truly say that there is absolutely nothing that would make me cast judgment upon another. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, I realize there’s one universal rule that would do us so much good, not only during Autism Awareness Month but every day of the year, and that is to practice kindness. When a situation or circumstances seem confusing, alarming, and unfamiliar, train yourself to react in love. Consider biting your tongue and, instead, showing more grace. Also, feel free to ask questions. Speaking for myself, I welcome the opportunity to educate others on autism. We’re all this together, this as in life, and the same way autism is not one-size-fitsall, neither is humanity. So, let us practice kindness without needing a reason.

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SEVEN LESSONS LEARNED FROM GRIEF By Dori Gomes

rief is more than the loss of a loved one. It’s the loss of anything hoped for—a child, a relationship, or an opportunity. Grief is miserable; it disturbs our sleep, takes our appetite, steals our joy, and causes our hearts to ache, but is there more to grief? Can grief give as much as it takes? I tend to believe so. At the moment, grief’s weight is too distressing to make sense of, but with time comes perspective, and with experience, wisdom. If you ask me, life has afforded me too many opportunities to learn grief’s lessons. This is my vain attempt to share them before you learn them the hard way. 1. It changes you. You will be you again, but you will never be who you used to be. You will have perspective and wisdom that changes the way you move, breathe, and think. 2. Joy and grief are not mutually exclusive. Your joy, in the face of loss, is not betrayal (though it can feel that way). The rainbow appears with rain and sunshine. 3. Live in the moment. We spend too much time planning and not enough time living. We are so busy making a living we forget to live. 4. Grief offers perspective. It turns out most of the things we worry and argue about do not matter in the end. 5. Be intentional. Treat every goodbye like it’s the last. Forgive quickly and love like there is no tomorrow. 6. Seize second chances. If you get a second change to do something different, more, or better, take it. Apologize. Forgive. Take the leap in faith. Try again. 7. Surfers ride one wave at a time and so should we. It is fruitless to live in the land of what-ifs and worst-case scenarios. We must be willing to take life one wave at a time. Sometimes you will own the wave, and sometimes it will own you, and that is okay.

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DOING MORE OF WHAT MATTERS: MAKING THE MOST OF ONE-TIME DECISIONS By Dori Gomes

t never fails… I find myself feverishly making tons of last-second decisions— what to make for dinner, what to wear on Monday, what team snack to grab for the game. It’s exhausting.

At my disease management appointment, I learned half of all adults suffer from a chronic condition, and decision-making fatigue only exacerbates the situation. As a part of disease management, I was taught the importance of one-time decision-making. This would allow me to channel my energy and strength in more key areas. It is suspected that we spend seven and a half hours a week making decisions or approximately 35,000 choices a day (Sollisch. J, 2016). While most are unimportant (which route to take or where to park), their accumulative effect negatively impacts our behaviors and the quality of subsequent decisions. As a result, we end up feeling exhausted and unproductive. The goal of one-time decisions is to side-step fatigue and promote health and productivity by simplifying the decision-making process to create habits that streamline tasks. Many successful people, like Barack Obama, do this. They eat and wear the same thing daily so they can focus their energy on superior pursuits. I was concerned that one-time decisions would box me in and get old quickly, but I was wrong. It’s freeing. Here are ideas when you can make onetime decisions and eliminate overthinking: What you wear Sunday to church, wear Monday to work. Choose one meal to make every time you sign up to bring a meal or have guests. Choose one wedding gift to give every time. Meal plan (meatless Mondays, taco Tuesdays) Take annual leave at the same time each year. Pick one time to work out and stick with it. Become a product and brand loyalist. What areas of life can you make one-time decisions so you can dedicate your time and energy to doing more of what matters? Sollisch, J (2016) The Cure of Decision Fatigue. Wall Street Journal. Available at: The Cure for Decision Fatigue tallahassee woman | 50 | april • may 2022

W.E. INSPIRE

have always loved being around passionate, ambitious, caring, savvy and smart women. Women who are on the move, making things happen, being courageous, living their best life or creating their dream life inspire me. During the ten years that I lived in Tallahassee, I was privileged to witness a host of empowered, compassionate, and caring women. In Tallahassee, there is a special small-town quality that is hard to find anywhere else. To stay true to my creative personality, I launched my own branding business to shine a light on innovative and successful women inspired by the grit and grace that strong women demonstrate day after day while striving to reach their goals and see their dreams come to fruition. When I met Dr. Michelle Mitcham several years ago, there was an instant rapport and relational synergy that connected us. Within a very short period of time, I was honored to be asked to serve as Creative Director for TWM. Thrilled at the prospect of joining the team, I became an integral part of this awardwinning, powerhouse magazine for women, by women and about women. Impressed with the inspiring content and warm personalities that shone through the stories, I was excited to assist in cultivating Dr. Michelle's vision of unity, diversity, and community in all aspects of the publication. What a joy it is to work as a part of TWM's awesome team of women and play a part in making magic in each and every issue!

others are always an inspiration. Many times, the voice of my mom comes to me when I am in the middle of a difficult situation. For instance, I always think about the importance of surrounding myself with positive people. Growing up my mom would tell me, “Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres”. Translated, this means “Tell me whom you hang out with, and I will tell you who you are”. This phrase still holds a very special place in my heart. When I became a mother, I made sure to instill this notion into my child's life as well. The importance of surrounding yourself with positive people and those who reflect your inner self is key. Thanks, mom! Or should I say, ¡Gracias mamá!

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LETTER FROM CREATIVE DIRECTOR: OLIVIA HEYWARD

SOCIAL SELF-CARE

GREIF AND LOSS

AUTISM AWARENESS

THE BENEFITS OF WORRY

THOMASVILLE, GEORGIA

MADAME XHALES AT TREE HUGGING SITES

WORK LIFE ERA OF COVID

LEGAL WRITES: DANA BROOKS

FEATURE: WENDY CRAWFORD

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THE DISH: SPANISH FLAN

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