The Knot Fall 2022 by The Knot

a moment in time

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Why You Need It

Chances are you’re proudly rocking your new ring every day, and the last thing you want is to be stuck with the cost if it gets lost, stolen or damaged. (Trust us: These things do happen.) Plus, the sentimental value alone is worth ensuring you can replace it with the exact style you love.

How To Get It

The two most common ways to insure a ring are through specialized jewelry insurance or a traditional homeowners’ or renters’ policy or rider. Consider what level of coverage you need, and compare plans and deductibles to find the right policy for you. Also be sure to have a sales receipt or an appraisal for your ring in case you need to prove its value when applying for insurance or filing a claim.

How Much It Costs

It can vary based on your location (some cities have a higher risk of theft), but on average the yearly cost of jewelry insurance is about 1 percent to 2 percent of the value of your ring. That’s a small price to pay for peace of mind.

What Insurance Covers Jewelers Mutual

Why Jewelers Mutual? Jewelers Mutual has been insuring rings and other priceless pieces for over 100 years. A policy with them protects your ring from loss, damage and theft—even mysterious disappearances and during worldwide travel. And if you do need to replace your ring, you can work with any jeweler so you can be sure you’ll get a ring of the same quality as the original.

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CONTENTS

in F E AT U R E S 30

LESSONS IN LOVE

Nikkie rocked a timeless illusion mock-neck dress and diamond pendant.

YouTuber NikkieTutorials on makeup and wedding planning.

AFTER HOURS The keys to a perfect wedding night.

WHEN TO SPEND AND HOW TO SAVE

The ins and out of budget prioritization.

114

THE ULTIMATE FINANCIAL WELLNESS GUIDE Must-know money tips from experts.

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IT’S A VIBE

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WANDERLUST FOR EVERY WALLET Tips for honeymoons on any budget.

LESSONS IN LOVE

MEIS BELLE WAHR & JIP MERKIES

Accessories inspired by hot internet aesthetics.

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CONTENTS

FALL 2022

REAL LOVE 87

One-of-a-kind real-life celebrations to inspire every to-be-wed.

FA S H I O N + B E AU T Y 43

BEAUTY BEAT Beauty looks from the runway to steal for your own nuptials.

I N E V E RY I S S U E

RUNWAY REPORT Designers’ hottest styles, from blue dresses to mock-neck gowns.

HEIRLOOM APPEAL

REAL WEDDINGS

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EDITOR’S LETTER TR ADITIONS EVENTS ADVICE ESSAY NEW + NOW TOOLS LAST LOOK

These sparklers are proof that what’s old is new again.

SAV V Y STYLE

Dress shopping tips that won’t break the bank.

STYLE + PLANNING 68

REDEFINED R ANCH Bucolic wedding inspiration you’re sure to love.

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BUY ONCE, USE FOREVER Workhorse investment pieces to add to your registry.

ON THE COVER PHOTOGRAPHERS Meis Belle Wahr & Jip Merkies MAKEUP NikkieTutorials using Maybelline HAIR Mandy Nijland STYLING Marja Bennenbroek SET DESIGN Gloudy

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: COURTESY OF DESIGNER (2); D’ARCY BENINCOSA; COURTESY OF VENDOR; GETTY IMAGES; COURTESY OF VENDOR; MEIS BELLE WAHR & JIP MERKIES; JAMIE CHUNG; COURTESY OF VENDOR

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E XECUTIVE E D ITO R

Lauren Kay

E D ITO RIAL O PE R ATI O N S MANAG E R S E NI O R FA S HI O N & B E AUT Y E D ITO R S E NI O R E D ITO R , WE D D IN G S VI S UAL S E D ITO R D E S I G NE R CO NTRIB UTIN G CO PY E D ITO R CO NTRIB UTIN G RE S E ARCH E D ITO R CO NTRIB UTIN G PRO D U C TI O N A S S O CIATE

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Morgan Gibson MaryKate Callahan Esther Lee Kim Forrest Samantha Iacia Sarah Hanlon Chapelle Johnson Emily Platt Naoimh O’Hare Monica Mercuri Emily Rumsey Whitney Little Clair Belleveau Mina Garagozlo, Danielle Savoy Lucy Ferut Meghan Ho, Kerre Jo Lattanzio Heather Kon Kimberly Brown Jeffra Trumpower Amanda Miller Daniela Kelley McInerney Siobhan Carty Malu Frasson Nori Raul Ferrari Jessica Kane

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ACCO U NT MANAG E RS ACCO U NT CO O RD INATO RS

Priya Junnarkar Jessica Bendes Zoe Ferranti, Katharine Lindskog Carly Kleinman Elizabeth Roehrig Kate Traverson Sarah Fine Amanda Kocis Gallagher Anahí Garza-Runfola Nicole Fornabaio Gabriela Maceira Nicole Vogel, nvogel@theknotww.com Courtney Carlesimo, ccarlesimo@theknotww.com Jessica Van Alphen, jvanalphen@theknotww.com Morgan Fahey, mfahey@theknotww.com Elena Semenza, esemenza@theknotww.com Alaina Gosh, agosh@theknotww.com Melanie Hurley, mhurley@theknotww.com Kaitlin Fitzgerald, kfitzgerald@theknotww.com Isabella Falcone, ifalcone@theknotww.com Daniela Lopez, danlopez@theknotww.com

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EDITOR’S LETTER

For Love AND Money O.G . W E D D I N G VOW S consisted of promises “to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer.” And while vows have evolved over the years, conversations about finances are still an essential part of saying “I do.” Protecting and nurturing your financial wellness as a couple is especially important while wedding planning—full stop. So much so that we’ve devoted this issue to that very topic. We have tips from experts (p. 114), guidance on prioritizing your budget and stories

from couples about combining finances. We’ve also got love! You will not want to miss our cover story (p. 30) or any of the epic real weddings, which are packed with inspo (p. 87). We also have fashion and beauty trends straight from the runway (p. 43), the perfect after-the-after-party setup in a hotel suite (p. 65) and a new line of invites from Vera Wang x The Knot Paper (p. 41). Have the tricky money talk. You won’t regret it. — L AUREN K AY, E XECUTIVE EDITOR

MEET OUR CONTRIBUTORS

N I K K I E T U TO R I A L S

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It’s a little girl’s dream come true [to be on the cover of The Knot]. Growing up, you always think about marrying the love of your life. And having that special moment celebrated in a beautiful magazine like this is just like, ‘Is this real? Is this really happening?’

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Nikkie swears by Maybelline New York’s Fit Me foundation, which comes in 40 shades for a perfect match.

M E I S B E L L E WA H R + JIP MERKIES COVER PHOTOGRAPHERS P. 3 0

W HAT W AS YO UR FAVO RITE PAR T OF TH E CO VER SH O O T? W HAT W AS IT L IKE WO RKIN G W I T H A CREW CO N N ECTIN G R E MOT E LY FRO M TH E US? Nikkie’s such a warm, inspiring and lovely person. Our favorite part of the shoot was the stages of the ombré lip—we loved watching Nikkie work her magic! Thanks to technology, it was nice to have some of the crew connecting from the US. We hope they felt the Nikkie sparkles through the screen. @meis.jip

SARAH SMART

PROP STYLIST P. 1 2 4 WH AT IN SPIRES YO U CREATIVEL Y? WH AT DID YO U L O VE M O ST ABO UT TH IS SH O O T?

I find inspiration everywhere, like in the gesture of a painting, in film and in nature. Travel is a great catalyst for creativity for me. For the shoot, I was especially happy to source props and materials from some tried-and-true shops in New York City. So much shopping has become remote and online; it was great to rediscover places that still remain. @sarah.smart.style

LY N N D U N S T O N

REAL WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER P. 1 0 8 WH AT’S YO UR BEST ADV ICE FO R CO U PL ES FEEL IN G N ERVO U S ABO U T BEIN G IN FRO N T O F TH E CAM ERA O N TH EIR WEDDIN G DAY?

I always advise couples not to focus on the camera. Movement really helps shake the nerves, so I often capture them while walking, dancing and embracing on the wedding day. Once they’re comfortable, I start mixing in more portraits of them looking directly into the lens. @lynndunston

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We asked some of the pros from this issue for the inside scoop on their areas of expertise.

creating memories for 40 ye a rs What creates the per fec t moment? It ’s pristine white - sand beaches enveloped by the bluest waters, where couples can play, or relax. It ’s luxurious sanc tuaries made for romance at water ’s edge, or direc tly over the water. It ’s a mouthwatering gourmet creation and a creatively craf ted cock tail. But , most of all, the per fec t moment is found in the details, an ar t that we ’ ve per fec ted with our Luxur y Included® Vacation. Sandals ® Resor ts, turning moments into memories for 4 0 years.

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TR ADITIONS C O M F Y A N D C U S T O M Although she slipped

N E E R E L LY N + M A R Q U I S

SHOES FOR “I DOS” Wedding day style doesn’t end with the perfect dress or tux. Round out your nuptial ensemble with personalized shoes—whether casual and eclectic or sparkly and glam—that fit your vibe.

PERFECT PEARLS

SA L I M A + M AT T H E W

Salima settled on strappy gold-andpearl Gucci heels for her City Hall wedding to ensure the intricate henna designs on her feet took center stage.

A NEW TAKE ON BAREFOOT Waterfront weddings are the perfect excuse skip shoes. To accessorize her feet, Deja donned lace soleless sandals for her SoCal day.

BY HANNAH NOWACK

C H A N T E L + E M I LY

CUSTOMIZE YOUR KICKS Your wedding is your day to plan your way, and the footwear you choose is no exception. Many brands offer customization, from monograms to navy soles that can be your “something blue.” Follow this link to get inspired by an array of personalized kicks to consider.

P O P O F P R I D E Chantel sported rainbowhued Converse sneakers for her wedding to show off her LGBTQ+ pride in style.

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DEJA + MICHIAH

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: ZYAIRE PORTER OF PORTERHOUSE LA; SPOSTO PHOTOGRAPHY; CAITLIN ALOHILANI PHOTOGRAPHY; MAJIDE/NOUN PROJECT; APOLLO FOTOGRAFIE

into gold platform heels for the main event, Neerellyn rocked Crocs at the reception. She decked them out with wedding charms.

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EVENTS

The couples took a stroll downtown to see the Santa Catalina Arch.

MEET THE CREW Our 12 couples experienced the culture of Guatemala by partaking in local chocolate and coffee workshops.

GETAWAY TO >> We gathered our Influencer Crew for a few days of prewedding fun in Antigua, Guatemala.

GUATEMALA

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ON THE MENU In addition to enjoying local Guatemalan cuisine like fish tacos, attendees also got to see day-of stationery options available from The Knot.

EVENT PLANNING Aimee Monihan HOST PROPERTY Villa Bokéh PHOTOGRAPHY Allan Zepeda Photography EVENT DESIGN Addy Florales; Nestor Gamez OFF-SITE CATERING Casa Troccoli STATIONERY The Knot Invitations LOCAL HOSPITALITY + TOURISM Ayuntamiento de La Antigua Guatemala; La Cámara de Turismo de Guatemala; Wed in Guatemala ATTIRE Men’s Wearhouse VIDEOGRAPHY Elysium Productions BEAUTY LeJeune Artistry TRAVEL ACCOMMODATIONS The Travel Siblings

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M I C H A E L M E N D I E TA @sluttypuffin

W H I TA K E R I R V I N J R . ERIKA BRITO

@erikaxpriscilla

SCOTT CORIZZI

CALMING COCKTAIL Traditional Mayan worry dolls, which are said to help you throw your cares away, garnished refreshments. One of the signature sips was a mix of local rum, pineapple and Campari.

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CANDICE CRAIG @candice

OMAR BOLDEN S E A N TAY L O R

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ERIC CARLSTROM STEPHANIE FROSCH

TRENDY THREADS To-be-wed Michael Mendieta donned a JOE by Joseph Abboud linen suit from Men’s Wearhouse, while his partner, Whitaker Irvin Jr., opted for a light blue Calvin Klein look to celebrate the final dinner of the trip.

@ellosteph

MELISSA BARNETT JUSTINA SHARP

@abentpieceofwire

JORDAN SCHAUBERGER M I R E YA R I O S @mireyarios

ARI MENASE MARY SKINNER @mary.cj.skinner

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MAGICAL MELODY Marimba musicians serenaded attendees, setting the tone for the getaway.

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D AV I D L O P E S

FABULOUS FLORA Basket chandeliers and vibrant birds of paradise decorated the dining room at a tropical breakfast.

DACEY CASH @dacey_cash

LUCAS DEVENNEY

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ADVICE

ASK THE KNOT SQUAD You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers. We tapped our team—and one of our go-to industry pros—to solve some of your most of-the-moment planning asks.

O U R TA K E

W H AT AD V I C E D O Y O U HAV E F O R G I V I N G AN E N GAGEMEN T GI FT T O A C O U PLE B E F O RE T H EY ’ V E C R E AT E D T H E I R W E D D I NG REGI ST RY ? MONICA MERCURI Assistant Commerce Editor

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A R E THE R E U P - A ND -C O M I N G W E D D I N G T RE N D S Y O U ’ RE ESP ECIA L L Y E X CIT E D AB O U T ?

To be honest, I’m not the biggest lover of trends. I always feel that a classic, timeless wedding is the way to go. I look at my parents’ wedding album from 1964, and it still looks current almost six decades later because the whole aesthetic was classic. Trends have a way of making your wedding show its age—like those with blue leisure suits from the 1970s. Can you add fresh colors to your wedding? Sure! But don’t go so far into the realm of what’s hot that you lose a sense of timelessness. Your wedding images should be as lasting as your love. While we’re on the topic of trends, there is actually one fad I would love to see go away: the idea of nonconsumable wedding favors. Unless you can eat or drink it, wedding favors are worth skipping. I love seeing guests focus their budget elsewhere on things that make a greater impact on the guest experience. For our clients who love the idea of favors, we have the valet team place gifts in guests’ cars with a note that says, “So sweet of you to come! Please enjoy this sweet treat on your way home.” This is a nice way to enhance the guest experience without gifting a useless tchotchke.

An engagement gift is a wonderful way to celebrate a newly betrothed couple, but the absence of a registry can definitely make it more challenging. You can’t go wrong with a present that the couple can enjoy together. I’m currently loving experiential gifts for couples: A romantic cooking class, a weekend nature getaway or a surprise date-night subscription box are just a few ideas. But if you’re looking to keep things simple, the couple’s favorite bottle of wine with a sweet card is a perfectly appropriate gift option too. The to-be-weds are sure to appreciate your thoughtfulness in selecting something meaningful to celebrate their new season of life.

W H AT AD V I C E D O Y O U HAV E FOR TO-BE-WEDS WHO ARE O V E RW H E LM E D B Y AL L O F T HE I N S PI R AT I O N T H E Y S E E O N L I N E? MEGHAN HO Social Media Coordinator

If you find that social media is becoming more stressful than helpful to your wedding planning, it may be time to limit your consumption. Set a onehour time limit or designate a single day of the week when you search social media for wedding ideas. It’s also wise to remember that everyone has different styles and perspectives. Don’t let opinions you hear online cloud your own thinking.

FROM LEFT: THEO MILO PHOTOGRAPHY; INIJE PHOTOGRAPHY; COURTESY OF SUBJECT (2)

This chandelier proves that some ideas can be both au courant and timeless.

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ESSAY

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ACCESSIBILITY Disability rights activist and author Judy Heumann opens up about the questions couples should ask themselves while wedding planning to ensure their celebration is as accessible as possible.

especially helpful to have grew up in a society where the someone coordinating our big disability rights movement was day. Planning with disabilities just beginning to emerge. My battle in mind isn’t a cookie-cutter with polio as a child, in the 1950s, endeavor, but there are some led me to start advocating for disabled questions you can ask yourself people. Clearly, a lot has changed to make sure your own wedding in terms of public policy in the last is accessible for all guests. 40 years, but I believe there’s still much to be done. I care deeply about W H AT T Y PE S O F D I S AB I LI T I E S D O intergenerational work and educating Y O U R G U E S T S H AV E ? Not younger people about accessibility, everyone has a visible especially since disabilities are not disability, and there is no onealways visible. I’ve found that the size-fits-all approach to “out of sight, out of mind” mentality accessibility. If you have deaf guests contributes to a stigma around attending, you may need a sign disabled people that I’m working to language interpreter present, while dismantle in all arenas, the wedding you would have to make different industry included. accommodations for visually I met my now-husband, impaired people. Understanding Jorge Pineda, in 1991, and the unique needs of your we got married a year later wedding is the first step in California. We actually toward identifying how you had two weddings, a civil can accommodate everyone. JUDY HEUMANN one and a religious one, to ARE PE O PLE C O M F O R T AB LE celebrate our marriage. Award-Winning Activist and Author D I S C LO S I N G T H E I R The process of planning our WASHINGTON DC D I S AB I LI T I E S ? Some people own weddings taught me In her memoir, are afraid to reveal their a lot about the steps couples Heumann opens disability if they feel like it can take to make their up about fighting isn’t significant. As the hosts nuptials more accessible to belong in a world that of a wedding, you can invite to disabled people. wasn’t built for guests to share what they’re A decision I’m grateful we everyone. $16, comfortable with, helping made was to hire a wedding JudithHeumann.com ensure everyone is at ease. planner. She listened really The RSVP cards in your well to all of my thoughts invitations are a simple place and concerns, which helped to gather information from make the wedding planning guests. You can ask about process a success. We had food allergies and also 32 people in the wedding include a spot for guests to party, many of whom were share any other information in wheelchairs, so it was

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that would be helpful. Even considering the legibility of the stationery you’re sending guests is key to improving accessibility. Is the font easy to read for those who may have limited sight? Doing your due diligence ahead of the wedding will go a long way in making sure everyone is comfortable. D O Y O U R V E N D O R S H AV E EX PERI EN C E W O RK I N G W I T H D I S AB LE D PEO PL E? In addition to making accommodations for my own disability, it was important to me that the wedding be accessible to all of my guests and vendors. Part of that involved hiring both vendors with accessibility experience as well as disabled vendors. Our DJ had a disability and needed extra space for his music booth. If you have entertainment that you plan to place on a stage, it’s important to think through how easy it is to get onto the stage. As you interview potential vendors, ask about their experience as well as accommodations they might need. In the end, you want to find a vendor who is open to working with you and meeting your needs.

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“Accessibility to me means that facilities consider all people and adapt to ensure guests can enjoy a place,” says Vanessa. “While planning, I had a hard time telling if venues were accessible, so we made sure to physically visit locations. Our venue was not fully accessible, so we made certain adjustments. Notably, we had our brother-in-law build a ramp to enable me to smoothly go over a step that was in the path of where I would be going down the aisle toward Erick to say our vows.”

H OW AC CESSI B L E A R E Y OU R VEN U E A N D RENTALS? When it comes to finding a venue, you want to book a place that will enable your guests to participate. Accessibility can inform other decisions too. What is the height of your guest-book table? If it’s too tall, wheelchair-bound guests won’t be able to write you notes. We had a lot of guests in wheelchairs at our wedding, so we made sure to rent a larger dance floor to give everyone space. At the tables, we removed chairs at the places of guests who were in wheelchairs. Even the amount of space between tables will impact the freedom that those with limited mobility feel during the wedding. Each of these decisions involved special planning based on the specific needs of our wedding. Also keep in mind the transportation to the venue. Having your ceremony and reception in one spot, instead of requiring travel between two locations, might be a way to make the day feel more accessible. Our bigger wedding was held at the University of

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California, Berkeley, and we made sure to recommend hotels to out-of-town guests that we knew were close by and wheelchair accessible. HO W AC C E S S I B LE I S T H E F O O D Y O U ’ R E SER V I N G ? Asking about food allergies on your RSVP cards is one of many ways to ensure that everyone can enjoy the meal. It’s also important to consider the style of food service you’re planning. Some details are small and simple—like reminding servers passing hors d’oeuvres to bend down as needed so guests in wheelchairs can easily reach the appetizers. And then on a larger scale, if you’re having a buffet instead of a seated dinner, wheelchair-bound guests may need extra assistance from servers. HO W AC C E S S I B LE ARE T H E R E S T R O O M S ? One question I had while wedding planning was how I would use the restroom. My planner helped me come up with the idea of making my dress have two parts. The skirt section had a slit down the back so it could be easily removed. I also made sure that our guests could visit the restroom.

During a site visit, check the paths to the restroom and look for steps, rocks, uneven ground or anything that would be hard to navigate with a walker or wheelchair. W H E RE ARE Y O U S E AT I N G D I SAB L ED G U E S T S ? Where people are seated can have a big impact on their ability to enjoy the wedding. You don’t want guests to feel stuck, so ensure the ceremony aisle and walkways throughout the venue are easy for them to maneuver. Also think about where you seat guests who are hard of hearing. They should be close to the speakers and, if you have one, in sight of a sign language interpreter.

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The spacing of aisles and walkways is a key accessibility consideration.

D O Y O U F E E L E M PO W E R E D T O MAK E T HE AC C O M M O D AT I O N S Y O U R W E D D I N G D E S E R V E S ? Ultimately, in establishing what accommodations you need to make for a wedding, it really comes down to creating an openness between the couple and the vendors. You should feel empowered to have these discussions in advance, so you’ve covered all the bases when the wedding day comes along.

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NIKKIETUTORIALS, YOUTUBE’S FAVORITE BEAUTY GURU, GIVES US A PLAY-BY-PLAY ON FINDING LOVE, PLANNING A WEDDING AND (OF COURSE) THE LOOKS SHE’LL SERVE ON HER DAY.

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M A X I M U M I M PA C T The maximalist aesthetic is both on trend and totally Nikkie's style. There's nothing subtle about a ruffled ball gown plus a statement lip. Dress, Watters.com; earrings, Gassan.com; hair clips and bracelet, Nikkie's own

SOFT GLAM Nikkie's take on understated wedding makeup: flawless dewy skin, neutral eye shadow, fluttery lashes and glossy nude lips. Dress, stylist's own; earrings, necklace, Gassan.com; bracelets, Nikkie's own

ikkieTutorials (whose real name is Nikkie de Jager) posted her first YouTube beauty tutorial in 2008, at the age of 14. Fourteen years later, she has 13.9 million subscribers, her own makeup line, Nimya, and a fiancé named Dylan she lovingly refers to as her “person until the end of time.” But it hasn’t all been lipstick and falsies. In January of 2020, Nikkie posted a video called “I’m Coming Out,” where she revealed she was trans after being blackmailed by someone who threatened to publicly expose her assigned sex at birth. In April of 2020, the COVID-19 pandemic derailed her wedding planning (along with millions of other couples worldwide). That August, Nikkie and Dylan were robbed at gunpoint in their home in the Netherlands. Despite the adversity she has faced, Nikkie’s message—and presence—is overwhelmingly positive and inspiring. She’s looking forward to “living the bridal fantasy” and, like every nearlywed, can’t wait to make it official with the love of her life—in a stunning custom gown and flawless makeup, naturally. Here, she talks how coming out affected her relationship, her wedding plans and her top beauty tips.

him. I woke up that day and we had our game plan. I did my hair and makeup. I had this gorgeous orange-red dress on. And the entire day Dylan was in a great mood. And I remember that before we went to the restaurant, we went to get coffee and he did something with his phone that alarmed me, because he kept putting it away. And he’s never really secretive about stuff like that, so I was like, ‘What is this all of a sudden?’ But I just let it go. The closer we got to the dinner, the more anxious he became. As soon as we got to the dinner, he said, ‘Now let’s take that picture.’ So I see the staircase that we’ve seen online. I’m like, ‘That’s where we’re going to take the photo and I’m really going to kill this picture.’ So he walks up, he takes my photos, and after a while, I feel like we got it. And, he never says stuff like this, he goes, ‘Do you mind taking a picture of me?’ And I’m like, ‘Okay, Mr. Influencer!’ So we switched places, and I took his photo and he didn’t move for 10 shots. And I was like, ‘Give me some variety, baby.’ He had the same pose for every shot. And he says, ‘Can you turn around and grab that for me? I left something up there.’ When I turned back around, he was on one knee. And my favorite moment is that it started off with ‘Dear Nikkie,’ and then emotions took over and I couldn’t understand a word. And it ended with, ‘Do you want to be my wife?’ The first thing I said was, ‘Are you sure? Really, with me?’ And then after he insisted that, yes, he wanted me to be his wife, I said yes. I guess this restaurant sees a lot of engagements. So I’m on cloud nine, living my best life: ‘Oh my God, I’m engaged, I’m engaged, I’m engaged.’ Then the waiter comes over and I’m like, ‘Look, I just got engaged.’ And she literally says, with no emotion, ‘That’s great.’ And then, because we were in a cave, there was no phone connection. We couldn’t call or text anyone. So it was great to really celebrate that moment with each other, just the two of us. It’s a moment I’ll never forget. S B: I love that story and that your reaction was, ‘Me? Are you sure?’ NJ: I really said that! S B: You came out in a pretty public way. How did it affect your relationship? NJ: Oh my gosh. While my coming out was one of the scariest moments of my life, I had a couple of rocks surrounding me. And one of those people was Dylan. He was everything I hoped he would be for me in that period because he was super, super supportive. He was with me throughout every second. When I had to click publish on my coming-out video, it was a very scary moment, because you don’t know what the future will bring. He took my hand and looked me in the eyes and said, ‘You’re going to publish this. We’re going to be fine. You got this. Whatever happens happens, but know ››

WHILE COMING OUT WAS ONE OF THE SCARIEST MOMENTS OF MY LIFE, I HAD A COUPLE OF ROCKS SURROUNDING ME. AND ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WAS DYLAN.

S H ELLE Y B ROWN: When did you know that you wanted to marry Dylan? N I KKI E DE JAG ER: Dylan is such a great guy and a loving, caring person. I think we were in a relationship for, I don’t know, six months, and everything felt right. I’d never felt that comfortable with a person before. After my previous relationship, I put away the idea of marriage, because it wasn’t working out. I was like, ‘Okay, well, I’m never getting married.’ But then when I found Dylan, I was like, ‘Wait, this could be the one. This could be the one where it actually happens, and where I could have my happy ending.’ S B: Will you share your proposal story? NJ: Oh, yes. It’s a fun one. So Dylan and I went on vacation to Puglia in the south of Italy and we got this gorgeous hotel. It was just stunning—what dreams are made of. Whenever I go on a trip, I always try to get one perfect photo for the ’gram, as the life of an influencer goes. And there was this one restaurant inside of a cave. I don’t remember the name, but if you see a restaurant in a cave in Italy, it’s that one. And Dylan said, ‘Look at this place. It’s beautiful.’ I said, ‘Wow, I guess that’s my photo. That’s where I have to take it.’ The entire trip we had been talking about the photo I was going for. He was like, ‘Stand at the top of the stairs and pose as if you’re walking.’ He’s so invested—I love that about

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S B: Are there any other important

questions to ask your glam team?

NJ: Are you comfortable doing this

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that we have each other and it’ll be just fine.’ When he said that I was like, ‘This man is never leaving me, and I’m never leaving this man.’ I thought, ‘That’s my person. He is mine until the end of time.’ S B: That’s really amazing. Now that you’re planning your wedding, what beauty trends are you loving? NJ: This is my first and, hopefully last, wedding. I’m so excited to see how I make the bridal trends mine. As you can see [gestures to red lips] I love a bit of color. So there will be something colorful, but I’m also all about the glam. So think of rhinestones, little crystal gems scattered across the face. But I also want to be careful, because these wedding pictures will live until the end of time—and that makeup has got to be perfect. So, better to keep it classy. I know that’s a lot coming from me, but better to keep it a bit more safe than to go too over-the-top. S B: Will you be doing your own wedding makeup? NJ: I’ve gotten this question a lot. And the answer is, of course, yes. Can you imagine? I do all my makeup all the time. I do it for big events. And can you imagine me waking up on my wedding day being like, ‘I’ll have someone else scoot in and just do it for me.’ I could not have that trust. Nobody can touch these brows like I do. It’s all going to be me. S B: Do you have tips for to-be-weds looking to hire a professional makeup artist? NJ: It is really important to get to know your pro. I think meeting up at least once prior to the wedding, even prior to your makeup trial, is super important. Go for coffee if they have time. Get to know them. Really dive into their work. Basically become besties with them for about a week. You want to make sure that the style you’re looking for is something they can comfortably do with a time limit. Ask if they have done weddings before. Have they mastered the style of makeup that you want? And please, trust me, test out your makeup first. Plan a makeup trial so you can see what it looks like and if it’s what you want.

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Finish up with a lip gloss (either clear or in a shade that matches your lipstick) to give your pout a lustrous shine.

style? And how long do you need? Plan, plan, plan! The last thing you want on this magical day is to stress over time limits. Make sure that they are comfortable with the amount of time they’re given and ask for examples of their previous work so you can really zoom in on the details. And above all, make sure they have a foundation that matches your skin tone. S B: Are you building a wedding registry? NJ: What is a wedding registry? S B: Maybe this isn’t a Dutch custom, but it’s when you register for gifts that your wedding guests give you. NJ: Oh! S B: Yes! Gifts. NJ: You call it what? S B: A wedding registry. NJ: A wedding registry. I actually am working on a wedding registry. What’s funny is the dress that I’m working on is pushing the budget a little bit, and by a little bit I mean a lot, so my invite is literally going to say, ‘Please send scented candles and/or some money, because the budget got pushed by a lot.’ S B: That’s very honest and straightforward. What’s the most outrageous item you’ve registered for? NJ: Oh, I don’t really have a crazy item I’ve registered for. If I get at least two scented candles, I’m a happy girl. I’m also a little bit scared because I feel like I’m going to get like 50 scented candles, but it’s fine. S B: Do you have a favorite brand? NJ: God, scented candles by Diptyque. Please. Yes. S B: Which part of wedding planning are you enjoying the most? NJ: If I’m being a hundred percent honest, I’m going to taste some food this week and I cannot tell you how excited I am about that part. I’m a huge foodie—I love food. I have been dreaming of this day for so long. The day after the wedding we’re doing a big breakfast, since it’s my favorite part of the day. We’re tasting all of the breakfast food this week. I’m so excited. ››

LIP SERVICE Nikkie's signature ombré lip color (shown here in vibrant shades of red) is wedding-worthy for two reasons: It's nontraditional, but still feels timeless. Dress, Watters.com; hair clips and bracelets, Nikkie's own

ALL HAIL THE VEIL Bold glam not your style? Consider an embellished birdcage veil like the one Nikkie is wearing. It's a chic way to add some personality to your wedding look. Dress, stylist's own; birdcage veil, DemureAmsterdam .com; earrings, Nikkie's own

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S B: What has been the biggest challenge?

going to be surrounded by food. I think our theme is food. I might just pull up in a Lady Gaga meat dress. We love food so much, so of course, we have to give our guests the best of the best. I’m really excited for even our guests to see what we came up with. S B: Are you serving a certain kind of cuisine? NJ: We did taste the dinner food already. We were between two restaurants and one was this very high-end type of food, like Michelin-star food. Like ‘ugh’ food. But it was so niche. So we found this other restaurant that has hints of Michelinstar food but is more accessible. I can’t wait, because I know my brother, who’s not about fancy food at all, will love it, and I know that my mom, who is all about fancy food, will love it as well. S B: Are you incorporating any details to honor your families or loved ones? NJ: A few years ago, my little brother Mikai passed away, and his favorite color was red. We are paying tribute to him by incorporating the color red somewhere. I’m not going to tell where yet, but it’s going to be there. S B: Are you incorporating any Dutch wedding traditions? NJ: In the Netherlands, you have typical Dutch snacks. We have frikandel, croquettes and kaassoufflé. If you’re not Dutch, you have no clue what I’m talking about, but they’re amazing fried snacks. You can serve the best food in the world, but people will go nuts for a FEBO food wall. Again, if you aren’t Dutch that won’t mean anything to you, but it’s a food wall you can get snacks out of. We’re going to have a FEBO food wall at the end of our wedding. It’s brilliant. S B: What’s not to love about that? NJ: Ugh. Yes. S B: What’s another wedding-themed word in Dutch? NJ: The Dutch word for wedding is bruiloft. You’re cordially invited to Nikkie and Dylan’s bruiloft. But actually, please don’t show up. I don’t have room for too many people.

NJ: Easily the biggest challenge has been the dress. So much

depends on the dress. Creating a dress from scratch—because that’s what we’re doing—has not been easy. You have to find a designer who really connects with you, someone you trust. But also, in my case, someone who I want to give that special moment to, because this dress will be seen by the world. I want someone genuine and talented to make that dress for me, because it will be a huge moment for them as well. It has been very difficult. And then with designing the dress comes deciding on the shape, the material, the fabric. It’s a nightmare. S B: Have you chosen a designer? NJ: My wedding is this year and we are still working on sketches, if that gives you any idea. What happened was—I’m giving you the real tea, all the tea—I had a designer and their budget was just...not even a scented candle could fix that. Like that budget was a no. So we switched designers. This new designer is incredible. And I’m so honored that they even want to do it for me, but still we are in a little bit of a time crunch, and we are starting over with sketches again. S B: Is there anything else you can reveal about the dress? NJ: Well, first of all, look at me. It’s not going to be simple. It’s going to be a lot of dress. It’s going to be shiny. It’s going to be glamorous. It’s probably going to be a lot for a lot of people out there, but that’s what’s perfect for me. S B: Why the decision to go custom? NJ: Your girl is large and in charge. I’m 6’3”. And basically I can’t find the craziness, the madness that is in my head, in a store. I need someone to physically create that for me because I’m a little cuckoo up in here. S B: Which part of your wedding day are you most excited about? NJ: I’m looking forward to putting that ring on and kissing each other, knowing that we’ve sealed the deal. I think every bride says that. I’m also really looking forward to the food. Oh my God. Like I said, I’m a big foodie and this wedding is

I'M LOOKING FORWARD TO PUTTING THAT RING ON AND KISSING EACH OTHER, AND KNOWING THAT WE'VE SEALED THE DEAL.

Other wedding-related words in Nikkie’s native tongue.

HUWELIJK

BOEKET

(hue · lick)

MARRIAGE TROUWJURK

(boo · ket)

(bruhd · start)

BOUQUET

WEDDING CAKE

PAK

PROOST

(trow · yurk)

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WEDDING DRESS

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BRUIDSTAART

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After a six-year engagement, The Bachelorette’s JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers were more than ready to tie the knot. They finally wed in an intimate ceremony in May 2022 at Sunstone Winery in Santa Ynez, California. The picturesque venue played an integral part in their wedding details, especially the invitations—which they designed exclusively with The Knot. “We knew that we wanted our invitations to give guests an idea of what our wedding would feel like,” JoJo told us before the nuptials. “Having the illustration of the vineyard was a beautiful way to show them what to expect.” The duo personalized just about every element of their stationery suite, from the font and colors to the paper itself. Now you can shop their invitation collection too. “We hadn’t realized to what extent you can customize these invitations,” she added. “Being able to work with The Knot was perfect for us and our wedding.”

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DESIGNER NAME TK INES DI SANTO

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GALIA LAHAV: @EYALNEVO; ALL OTHERS COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

GALIA L AHAV

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FASHION + BEAUTY

MIR A ZWILLINGER

SACHIN & BABI PETER L ANGNER

THE TREND

ASYMMETRICAL NECKLINES

ANNE BARGE

Channel your inner Greek goddess with an angular neckline that shows off your décolleté and shoulders.

THEIA

HONOR

GALVAN LONDON

ROMONA KEVEZA

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SAVANNAH MILLER

PETER LANGNER: MARCO GUASTALLA; HONOR: YELENA YEMCHUK; ALL OTHERS COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

INES DI SANTO

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FASHION + BEAUTY LEGENDS ROMONA KEVEZA

SACHIN & BABI

NADIA MANJARREZ

CUCCULELLI SHAHEEN

THE TREND

BLUE DRESSES

Who says your “something blue” can’t be your dress? Gowns in every shade of this dreamy hue took over the runways.

INES DI SANTO

INES BY INES DI SANTO

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COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

SAREH NOURI

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NATIONAL 2 LIGHT 8PT +40

FR ANCESCA AVIL A

LIHI HOD

SAREH NOURI

THE TREND

STRAIGHT NECKLINES

ALYNE BY RITA VINIERIS

The sleek neckline that defined the gowns of the ’90s and early aughts is all that once more.

MARCHESA NOT TE

JUSTIN ALEX ANDER SIGNATURE

GALIA L AHAV

AMSALE

INES BY INES DI SANTO

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GALIA LAHAV: @EYALNEVO; ALL OTHERS COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

RIVINI BY RITA VINIERIS

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FASHION + BEAUTY

GAL A BY GALIA L AHA AV

THE OTHER WHITE DRES S MORILEE BY MADELINE GARDNER

JUSTIN ALEX ANDER SIGNATURE

DANA HAREL

THE TREND

HIGH SLITS

Dare to bare. A gown with a high slit both elongates your frame and gives even a formal ball gown some sex appeal.

FR ANCESCA AVIL A

CUCCULELLI SHAHEEN

ALYNE BY RITA VINIERIS

ANNE BARGE

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GALA BY GALIA LAHAV: @EYALNEVO; ALL OTHERS COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

SAVANNAH MILLER

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BEAUTY

REN

TH E T

FASHION + BEAUTY

HAIR BOWS No veil? No problem. Oversize bridal hair bows are equal parts classic and fashion-forward.

GET THE LOOK Simone Bow

barrette, $250, JenniferBehr.com

TEMPERLEY LONDON

Your guide to this season’s freshest wedding hair and makeup looks—plus how to pull them off IRL.

TH E T

BOLD LIPS A vibrant lip color both accentuates your pout and gives any wedding day ensemble a festive splash of color.

REN

TH E T

BY SHELLEY BROWN

SMOKY EYE Goth and gorgeous, smoky eye makeup brought a dramatic edge to the Bridal Fashion Week runways.

PRO TIP Use a long-wear formula that will stand up to first kisses and champagne toasts.

PRO TIP Don’t overdo it— keep the rest of your makeup dewy and natural, and let your sultry eye shadow do the all the talking.

GET THE LOOK

HERMIONE DE PAUL A

Cake Batter lipstick in Maraschino Cherry, $24, PoundcakeCosmetics.com

GET THE LOOK

TH E T

REN

Super Nudes Easy eye palette, $57, CharlotteTilbury.com; Superhero No-Tug gel eyeliner in Super Black, $24, ITCosmetics.com

MIDDLE PART It’s baaack. This sleek Y2K throwback has officially replaced the side part as the “it” look of the moment. PRO TIP Prep your damp hair with a smoothing cream or balm before styling it for a frizz-free ’do. GET THE LOOK

Oribe Imperial Blowout Transformative styling crème, $68, Sephora.com YOL ANCRIS

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GALIA L AHAV

FROM TOP: COURTESY OF DESIGNER; COURTESY OF VENDOR; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; GETTY IMAGES; COURTESY OF VENDOR; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; @EYALNEVO; COURTESY OF VENDOR (3)

BEAT

PRO TIP Pair this polished hair accessory with an undone updo or messy ponytail for an effortlessly glamorous effect.

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AFLORAL FOREVER FLORALS

F LO W E R P O W E R Channel the classic style of royals like Kate Middleton and opt for a bold gem surrounded by a floral halo. Edwardian ruby, diamond and platinum-topped 18k gold cluster ring, $8,140, FoxandBond.com

S H A P E O F YO U Invented during the reign of King Louis XV of France in the 18th century, the marquise cut is back as the musthave diamond shape. Art Deco marquise engagement ring, $31,000, ErstwhileJewelry.com

C O LO R C R U S H Not ready to commit to a non-diamond ring? Consider an Art Deco design with a vibrant colorblocked halo instead. Art Deco old European-cut green target ring, $10,000, AshleyZhangJewelry.com

RETRO REDUX An octagonal halo and mixed-metal design update a vintage Europeancut diamond center stone dating back to the early 1900s. Savannah old European diamond ring, $13,400, SingleStone.com

COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

CALLING ALL OLD SOULS. ANTIQUE AND VINTAGE RINGS—AS WELL AS NEW DESIGNS INSPIRED BY BYGONE ERAS— ARE HOT RIGHT NOW. HERE, A GUIDE TO STUNNING SPARKLERS WITH A SENTIMENTAL VIBE. BY SHELLEY BROWN

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FASHION + BEAUTY

EMERALD CITY

You might think the terms vintage and antique are synonymous, but they’re actually different. Vintage rings were created around 40 years ago, whereas antique ones are at least 100 years old.

Dazzling green emeralds have a rich history dating back to 330 BC. Another plus? They symbolize loyalty and new beginnings. Belford Modern Era emerald, diamond and platinum ring, $6,500, TrumpetandHorn.com

JAZZY GEOMETRY Nod to the great era of Gatsby with an antique step-cut diamond set in a geometric design comprised of smaller baguettes. Moira Art Deco carré-cut diamond ring, $44,000, VictorBarbone.com

CLUSTER STRUCK Made up of several smaller stones, a cluster setting is a totally unique and budget-savvy alternative to a large center stone. Judy diamond and yellow gold ring, $2,950, DevereuxCollection.com

COURTESY OF DESIGNERS

Something old can also be something new. If you’re on the hunt for a contemporary ring with nostalgic charm, consider an antique- or vintage-inspired design or an upcycled stone in a modern setting.

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STEP IT UP

DOUBLE DELIGHT

Inspired by archive pieces, this stunner pairs a contemporary round brilliant-cut diamond with pavé side stones set in an Art Deco–esque stepped band. Round diamond and stepped-band ring, price upon request, Kwiat.com

Made popular when Napoleon proposed to Josephine in 1796, a toi et moi ring (or two-stone ring) represents the union of two souls. Platinum Ceylon sapphire and diamond twin-stone ring, price upon request, OscarHeyman.com

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savvy

FASHION + BEAUTY

Here’s how to find a wedding dress that’s big on style without blowing your budget.

all us biased, but in our opinion, there are few things more exciting than shopping for your wedding dress. It’s a oncein-a-lifetime opportunity to go all in with your look and wear something that’s entirely you—whether that means lacing up the corset back of a dramatic ball gown or opting for an understated slip dress that’s tailored to perfection. But when you first start looking at dresses, it’s not unusual to feel a little dazed by the sticker shock of designer gowns. According to The Knot Real Weddings Study, which surveyed more than 15,000 couples who married in 2021, the average cost of a wedding dress last year was $1,800. Spending money on a made-to-order wedding dress is justified by the fact that you’re getting a brand-new design created especially for you, but if you’re working with a limited budget, you might be feeling stuck for options. The good news: There are several work-arounds you can use to save money and still find a wedding dress you truly love. Start planning now and follow these expertapproved shopping tips before you hit the salon.

ABOUT THE EXPERTS These bridal salon owners gave us the inside scoop on how to dress shop on a budget.

MALLORY THORBURN Co-Owner of The White Magnolia FL, GA, TN, SC

T I P : SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY, SIMPLIFY

T I P : BEGIN YOUR DRESS SEARCH EARLY

When you first get engaged, it might seem like you have plenty of time to find a wedding dress, but it’s better to start shopping as soon as possible (especially since it might take a few appointments

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to find your dream gown). You should plan to purchase your dress at least nine months before your wedding day to give yourself the most options. “This is a comfortable range to make sure you have the choice of any gown you would want without having to risk paying the rush fees associated with shipping or alterations,” says Mallory Thorburn, co-owner of The White Magnolia, a bridal boutique with locations in Florida, Georgia, Tennessee and South Carolina. Starting early also means that you won’t feel as pressured to make a purchase right away—and you can keep tabs on discounts and special offers at local bridal salons as they come up. “Many bridal shops offer firsttime appointment incentives or have different sales throughout the year,” adds Thorburn. “Do your research on a bridal shop before you start the process so you go into your appointment prepared to take advantage of discounts."

CHRISTINE GREENBERG Co-Owner of Urban Set Bride Richmond, VA

One foolproof way to reduce the cost of your wedding dress is to choose a simple style, not only when it comes to embellishments, but also the silhouette and the amount of fabric required. All of these elements factor into the

Remember to factor accessories like a veil into your budget.

total price of the design and the time required to make it. The more time and materials needed, the more you can expect to pay. “Most wedding gowns are made by hand, so the more details there are, the more expensive the gown will become,” says Christine Greenberg, co-owner of Urban Set Bride in Richmond, Virginia. “If you love beading, hand-placed European laces, fine fabrics and unique embellishments, be ready to invest.” If your heart is set on an ornate gown, don’t give up just yet. With the help of your bridal stylist—and an open mind—you can get the same effect with a few budget-friendly tricks. “There are different variations of all types of gowns, so you can achieve your bridal vision at almost any price point,” says Thorburn. “For example, if you love the look of head-to-toe sparkle, search for a gown that has a layer of sparkle tulle versus hand-sewn Swarovski crystals throughout."

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BY SAMANTHA IACIA

the store. Sample dresses may need extra TLC or alterations (due to limited sizes and wear and tear), but you can potentially find a designer gown that would otherwise be a stretch for your budget. “Most bridal shops have a sample sale or two per year where they sell their samples at a fraction of the standard price,” says Thorburn. “Find a shop that carries designers you love, call to ask when their next sample sale is and mark your calendar.” TIP:

PLAN AHEAD FOR CUSTOMIZATIONS

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TIP:

The baseline cost of the dress isn’t the only expense you need to budget for. “Almost every wedding gown will to need to be altered in some form to perfectly fit your body,” says Thorburn. “Keep in mind that alterations are typically not included in the cost of a dress.” When you’re considering purchasing a gown, Thorburn advises asking your bridal stylist to estimate the cost of alterations before you commit—knowing that the final price depends on your seamstress. During your appointment, you can also ask about any customizations you have in mind, such as lining the bodice or adding straps, in case it’s easier for the designer to do while they’re making your dress. “As you are being measured for your gown, be open with your

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stylist about what you hope to achieve with the final product," says Greenberg. "They’ll be able to guide you on changes you can make directly with the designer that could save you time and money once you're ready for alterations. Most seamstresses charge by the hour or by the amount of adjustments needed.” T I P : SHOP SAMPLE AND OFF-THE-RACK STYLES

Whether you’re in a time crunch or looking to snag a couture gown at a discount, sample sales and off-the-rack dresses are great alternatives to consider. “From short engagements, unexpected pregnancies, military deployment and more, there are so many reasons why you may need a gown to take home that day,” says Greenberg. With a sample dress, you save money by purchasing the actual dress that customers try on in

The average cost of a wedding dress in 2021 was

1,800

according to The Knot Real Weddings Study.

ATTEND TRUNK SHOWS

Are you already obsessed with a specific wedding dress designer? If so, be on the lookout for their trunk show at a boutique in your area. “Waiting for a trunk show is a great way to get a discount on the retail price and a nice way to see the full collection of gowns that may not be present in the shop full-time,” says Greenberg. If you attend a designer’s trunk show, have your ideal dress and budget in mind ahead of time. “Trunk shows usually only last a weekend or two, so if you're looking for a specific gown, be ready to make a purchase,” says Thorburn. “There is typically a discount associated with the trunk show, allowing you to get a great deal on your dress.” If there isn't a trunk show anytime soon, Greenberg recommends being open with your bridal consultant about your budget and asking if there are any other discounts available, especially if you’re a service member, teacher, nurse or first responder. “Your occupation could save you the same amount of money as a trunk show discount.” Ultimately, remember that any gown you choose will be a special one—and the dress is only one part of your wedding day. “Don’t take things so seriously,” says Greenberg. “If you invest more in the gown that makes you feel the best, there is plenty of time to adjust your overall wedding budget to accommodate.”

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S T Y LE+PL A N N I NG

after hours

Expectations for the “perfect wedding night” stressing you out? Just focus on how psyched you will be to bask in your newlywed status. BY HANNAH NOWACK PHOTOGRAPHY BY SEAN COOK WEDDINGS EVENT DESIGN BY CASSY ROSE EVENTS VENUE DAXTON HOTEL FLORAL DESIGN BY STUDIO TERRAIN

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STYLE + PLANNING

REDEFINED BY HANNAH NOWACK P H O T O G R A P H Y B Y D ’A R C Y B E N I N C O S A E V E N T D E S I G N BY EAST MADE CO. F LO R A L D E S I G N BY LE BLOOMERIE

PHOTO CREDIT

A CELEBRATION BRINGS HIGH FASHION TO THE COUNTRYSIDE AND REIMAGINES WHAT IT MEANS TO HAVE A FOLIAGEFILLED, RUSTIC MOUNTAIN FETE.

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HOST: THE HYBRID COLLECTIVE; VIDEOGRAPHY: K. LAFLEUR FILMS; MODELS: @TSHIKAMBA, @MR.KENNETHBOGGS

V E N U E RIVER BOTTOMS RANCH

N AT U R E ’ S PA I N T B R U S H

HOST: THE HYBRID COLLECTIVE; VIDEOGRAPHY: K. LAFLEUR FILMS; MODELS: @TSHIKAMBA, @MR.KENNETHBOGGS

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PHOTO CREDIT

Look to the landscape for color palette ideas. A milky pink mountain sunset inspired these tabletop hues. Linens, @BBJLaTavola

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B E S P O K E PA P E R

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PHOTO OPPOSITE: CREDITBACKDROP: @LOCUSTCOLLECTION

PHOTO CREDIT

Create a cohesive design with a floral envelope liner that hints at the arrangements to come. Stationery, @Isidore_Augustine

STYLE + PLANNING

B R I DA L B A U B L E S Invest in over-thetop kicks you can wear again—letting you reminisce about the big day. Shoes, @JimmyChoo

P E R F E C T LY P O L I S H E D Personalize a classic suit with a chic bout and patterned pocket square.

BARN BEAUTY Highlight a bucolic landscape by setting tables within view of the venue’s grounds.

PHOTO OPPOSITE: CREDITBACKDROP: @LOCUSTCOLLECTION

PHOTO CREDIT

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PRETTY IN PEARLS Don’t limit hair accessories to combs and crowns— pearl pins are a timeless must-have. Dress, @NardosDesign; accessories, @TwigsandHoney; hair and makeup, @CaitlynMeyerMua

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STYLE + PLANNING

V I N TAG E G E TAWAY

EXTRA ENSEMBLE Have a little fun with your reception look. From bold colors to unique silhouettes, a second outfit lets you cut loose. Suit, @Mr.KennethBoggs; dress, Martina Liana from @WeddingAngelsBridal

A retro ride is the perfect way to cap off an upscale barn wedding in style. Car, Something Vintage Something Blue

WITH THIS RING A manicure isn’t the only way to draw attention to your new jewelry—body makeup can also do the trick.

Cake, @Ballerina_Baker

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PHOTO CREDIT

L U M I N O U S L AY E R S Give a timeless all-white cake a modern upgrade with sugar-pearlencrusted staircase tiers.

PHOTO BACKDROP: CREDIT @ULTRAVIOLETBACKDROPS

Rings, @VictorBarboneJewelry

PHOTO CREDIT

PHOTO BACKDROP: CREDIT @ULTRAVIOLETBACKDROPS

REINVENTING THE RUNNER

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Trade traditional floral centerpieces for a festoon of blooms running the length of the dining tables. Rentals, @Wild_EventStudio

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STYLE + PLANNING

NOT A

LIFETIME, LONG TIME

C U T T I N G B OA R D A well-cared-for, solid-wood cutting board will be a mainstay of your kitchen. It’s easy on knives and is an ideal surface for dicing, slicing and mincing. A large board is also perfect for serving charcuterie or cheeses, and can be used as a trivet on dining tables. Hand-washing and frequent oiling will keep your chopping block looking its best, but this Cuisinart pick is dishwasher-safe and comes with a lifetime warranty.

BUT A

Acacia cutting board, $23, Cuisinart, TheKnot.com/registry

These quality registry additions have real staying power and deserve a spot on your wish list.

TOOLBOX + HAND TOOLS

13-cup food processor, $200, Cuisinart, TheKnot.com/registry

P Y R E X C O N TA I N E R S Pyrex is legendary—it goes back over 100 years—for its heat-resistant glassware. These containers are your leftovers’ best friend, moving from the freezer to the microwave with complete ease. Nesting bowls and stacking lids make this a lifetime set—it's nearimpossible to lose a piece of the food storage puzzle. Glass storage set, $36 for set of 14, Pyrex, TheKnot.com/registry

These containers are microwave- and dishwashersafe—the glass dishes can even go in the oven for reheating.

C A S T- I R O N S K I L L E T Cast-iron skillets are workhorses. Today’s models come pre-seasoned and ready to use, heat quickly and evenly, and maintain a steady temperature regardless of your cooktop (even an open fire on your annual camping trip). A skillet is ideal for searing meat, sauteing vegetables and pan-frying. Thanks to its heavyweight design, the skillet can be transferred to an oven or broiler to finish the cooking. 12” seasoned cast-iron skillet, $40, Lodge, Williams-Sonoma.com

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LUGGAGE With proper care and some luck from the travel gods, a good suitcase will take you on many adventures. A polycarbonate case is lightweight but offers protection against the baggage turnstile. A duffle or soft-sided tote is great for weekend jaunts and doubles as a carry-on for long excursions. Carry-on Pro, $306, Monos.com

You may be a renter with a super on call, but everyone can benefit from a good set of tools. Invest in a steel toolbox and quality hand tools like a screwdriver, wrench, hammer and pliers. Unless you take on a DIY home reno, these basics will last you a long time. Toolbox, $90, Big Red, Amazon.com

MATTRESS

WEBER GRILL

You spend a lot of time in bed, sleeping, bingewatching and...you know. A supportive mattress will help you to reach REM sleep every night, key for cell recovery and that well-rested feeling. Consider your sleep style (side, back, stomach) and any sleep issues you have (like back pain or hot nights). Lay on a few beds if you can to ensure you find the right one. Queen foam mattress, $995, Casper, Amazon.com

This charcoal grill is a classic of backyard grilling. With proper cleaning and care, it will be the star of BBQs for years to come. The porcelain-enameled lid retains heat beautifully, while an ash catcher makes cleanup easy. It’s rust-resistant and has all-weather wheels too. There’s nothing better than a charcoal-grilled burger or hot dog on a summer night. 18-inch original kettle charcoal grill, $119, Weber, HomeDepot.com

COURTESY OF VENDORS

FOOD PROCESSOR Much like a stand mixer, a food processor will cut your kitchen prep time in half and help bring your culinary dreams to life. Think of it as a blender and knife in one. With a large feed tube, it can slice fruit whole, shred potatoes for hash browns or mix dough for a pie crust. Food processors are also great for blending soups and making purees.

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Most couples start here

Get your invites in order

Set up a (free!) matching wedding website

Pick save the dates

Spread the word

Solidify your day-of paper

Find a design that makes sharing the news feel even more special.

Laura Metzler Photography

And so much more...

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when to

F U N FAC T

spend to how &

save

PUT YOUR MONEY TO WORK, SPENDING ON THE DETAILS THAT GUESTS WILL REMEMBER LONG AFTER YOUR WEDDING DAY.

BY L AU R E N K AY PHOTOGRAPHY BY YUNHEE KIM

udget doesn’t have to be a dirty word. Figuring out how much you have to spend on your wedding day can be one of the more stressful parts of planning—we get it. But you don’t have to sacrifice style to bring your wedding vision to life. There are a few ways to save, from wedding flowers to the cake and place settings. Here are some tricks of the trade that will keep you in the black.

75% of couples served cake at their wedding reception

P R O TI P

Who said cake has to be the only dessert you serve? Some catering packages come with sweets; check with your pro. If dessert is already on the menu, ask your baker to whip up a simple design and surprise guests with passed bonbons or late-night confections on the dance floor.

S PR I N G

SUMMER

FALL

WI NTE R

vanilla cake with passion-fruit curd; lemon cake with whipped cream and raspberries; pistachio cake with honey buttercream

strawberry shortcake with white-chocolate ganache; coconut cake with mango curd; confetti with vanilla buttercream

pumpkin with cream-cheese frosting; apple spice cake with salted caramel; coffee and cognac

hazelnut cake with chocolate ganache; red velvet cake with creamcheese buttercream; cinnamon dulce de leche cake with brown sugar buttercream

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FL AVO RS by S EASO N

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STYLE + PLANNING

let them

Most wedding cakes are priced per slice—the more guests, the more slices you’ll need. A baker’s time is a big factor in the cost of a cake too. If you’re the “eat dessert first” type, you may want to set aside a big chunk of your budget for your dream wedding cake. A healthy budget will let you indulge in complex flavors and speciality fillings. You’ll have more leeway with the design too— from sugar flowers to fondant cutouts, the options are sure to delight your sweet tooth. If you’re looking to save money on dessert, stick to simple designs with minimal embellishments. Fresh flowers will always cost less than their sugar counterparts. Another idea is to have a beautifully decorated small cutting cake, and then serve guests the same flavor from a sheet cake in the kitchen.

FO N DANT VS BUTTE RCREAM

BAKER: JAY MUSE FOR LULU CAKE BOUTIQUE; PIPING ICON: SLIDICON/NOUN PROJECT

Fondant is an icing sheet draped over a cake to create a supersmooth exterior. It’s made of sugar and corn syrup but doesn’t have much taste. Most bakers will ice the cake in buttercream before draping it in fondant. The smooth finish of fondant allows for endless design possibilities, from hand-painting to gold-leaf detailing. Buttercream, as its name suggests, is a butter-based frosting that can be spread or piped on cakes. It absorbs flavor brilliantly and is the more affordable option when it comes to cake. It still offers plenty of design possibilities, including the rustic naked cake, where tiers are lightly coated in frosting to show off the cake and filling.

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smell the Flowers are synonymous with weddings. From centerpieces to bouquets and personals, flowers will undoubtedly stretch your budget regardless of how much you have to spend. To make the most of every dollar, opt for in-season stems, grown locally if possible. Not only will this guarantee you the freshest flowers, but you’ll save a little money too. Share your vision with your pro and strategize on the best ways to achieve it. Some stems can be bought in bulk, resulting in savings, while some arrangements can do double duty in the ceremony and reception. Less can be more too. Opt for minimalist arrangements, like ikebana-inspired centerpieces, or an artfully displayed single stem in a special vessel. Mix standout blooms with a variety of less expensive filler stems for a high-impact arrangement. Or supplement your tabletop florals with other decor pieces like lanterns or candelabras. If you’re a flower fanatic and have money to spend, go big on blooms, complementing classics like garden roses and ranunculus with unexpected—and more costly—stems (think grape hyacinths and kumquats). You can also opt for elevated vessels like a copper urn or a pedestal vase. Add florals to other areas of the venue too, like the escort card display, a photo backdrop or the bar.

AN O D E to the CARNATI O N This hearty stem with fringed petals symbolizes love—need we say more? Dianthus caryophyllus, aka the carnation, comes in a wide variety of colors and is almost always in season. It mixes beautifully with roses and ranunculus for a romantic, budget-friendly arrangement.

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Supplementing your flowers with a robust mix of greens will add texture and visual interest to bouquets and arrangements.

P R O TI P

Most florists have a variety of decor pieces available for rental. Instead of buying a dozen hurricanes and a large frame to display your seating chart, rent them from your pro.

CARNATION ICON: RACHEL SIAO/NOUN PROJECT

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F U N FAC T

On average

couples spend

$2,300 on wedding flowers

P R O TI P

CARNATION ICON: RACHEL SIAO/NOUN PROJECT

Give your flowers a second life by arranging to donate them to a nearby hospital after your wedding. You might not save money, but your blooms will bring double the enjoyment.

5 FILLE R FLOWE RS

On their own, these florals aren’t showstopping, but when paired with other blooms, they can make a huge difference and add instant sophistication. S TO C K

S TATI C E

S N A P D R AG O N

BELLS of IRELAND

D E LP H I N I U M

These stems boast colorful clusters of fragrant blooms.

Hearty and colorful, statice has lasting power and represents memory.

These tall, delicate blooms come in a wide variety of hues.

These emerald bell-like blooms can double as greenery.

Unrivaled height in coveted blue make these stems head-turners.

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F U N FAC T

39% of couples served a sit-down, plated meal at their reception

P R O TI P

A NAPKIN

ICONS FROM TOP: ART SHOP/NOUN PROJECT; BISMILLAH/NOUN PROJECT; NHOR/NOUN PROJECT; STATS: THE KNOT REAL WEDDINGS SURVEY 2021

Planning to enjoy your first meal as an official couple at a sweetheart table? Set your places with some of your registry gifts, like fine china or toasting flutes.

4 WAYS

The way you present your napkin can add visual interest to a place setting at very little cost. Here are a few ways to elevate the look. TI E I N A K N OT

ADD A RIBBON

ADD A NAPKIN RING

FO LD I NTO A DESIGN

This simple twist adds instant style.

Add a pop of color with a coordinating bow.

Dress up your setting with table “jewelry.”

Create height with napkin origami.

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seated Treating your guests to a good time means something different to every couple. Food and drinks are part of most celebrations, along with entertainment and, in some cases, experiences. If you are setting aside a chunk of your budget for entertainment or a live oyster shucker, there are plenty of ways you can save on your tabletop rentals and still wow your guests. The more formal your menu, the more sophisticated the settings should be. If you’re opting for a buffet or treating guests to a variety of culinary stations, simple rentals are a perfect choice. Most venues have white plates that you can accent with a linen or printed menu for a pop of color. Have a little more wiggle room in your budget? A charger or speciality flatware can add instant interest to a setting. If you plan to have a multi-course meal, you’ll need additional plates, flatware and stemware (if there are wine pairings) to serve this special dinner. You may want them to match the formality of the meal too, which might mean upgrading your plates or adding a lustrous linen to the table.

WO RTH the INVE STM E NT ICONS FROM TOP: ART SHOP/NOUN PROJECT; BISMILLAH/NOUN PROJECT; NHOR/NOUN PROJECT; STATS: THE KNOT REAL WEDDINGS SURVEY 2021

When it comes to rentals, try to stick to one pro. This will help you save on delivery fees and taxes. If your venue doesn’t have everything you need, double check with your florist—perhaps you can add a few decor rentals to your flower order.

Some extras deserve, well, extra consideration. These table additions can make a big impact.

P R O TI P

G L A S SWARE Adding colored stemware or vintage glasses can change the look and feel of a setting. Or opt for a specialty glass for your signature sip.

C HARG E R A charger plate is the ultimate backdrop for a plated meal. If you’re skipping linens, a statement plate can help distinguish a setting.

LI N E N S Napkins and tablecloths can instantly elevate the look of a table setting, especially those with a print or a textured design.

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STYLE + PLANNING

YOUR ‘I DO’ HOW-TO S TA

N AIL D OWN YO U R

B U D G ET

Envision your wedding and decide how much you want to spend (and if anyone else will be contributing).

FIN D YO U R

WE D D I N G S T YLE Not sure where to start (totally normal, btw)? Download The Knot Wedding Planner app and take our Style Quiz. Zero in on your vibe—think industrial with bohemian details—and we’ll generate a personalized Wedding Vision you can share with your pro squad.

P H OTO G R A P H BY J ES S I CA P E T T WAY

G AT H E R YO UR

C RE W

Ask your besties to stand by you at the altar and in the months leading up to your day. Celebrate your peeps and your engaged status!

KEEP

O RG AN I Z E D

Not sure what to do when? Enter: our app’s totally customizable checklist. If you’re asking a friend to officiate, you can cross “find an officiant” off your to-do list. There’s also a budgeter to track spending.

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PROP STYLING: ALEX SILVA/BA REPS; MANICURE: SHIRLEY CHENG USING DIOR VERNIS. BRACELET BY KEMI DESIGNS. ALL ICONS NOUN PROJECT, FROM LEFT: OKSANA LATYSHEVA; DAILYYOUTH; PAVEL N.; MALIKOV; ERIS NATANSA; VASILY GEDZUN; NOCICONIST; OKSANA LATYSHEVA; PIXELICATOM; CHINTUZA; LASTSPARK

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ALL YOURS

FIN D A

EDITOR TIP It’s okay to go out of order or not tick every item off the list. Ask for help from your wedding VIPs—they want to help, trust us.

VE N U E

Search for the perfect place to celebrate, keeping budget and guest count in mind. Then set the date.

EDITOR TIP Think about what you love as a couple. Are you homebodies or the types to dress up and hit the dance floor? Your wedding should be a true reflection of who you are, so let your personalities define your style. (FYI: Most couples aren’t just one style.)

H IRE YO UR

TE AM

Research and book pros—anyone you have to have should be locked in ASAP. If you share your info with us (budget, location, guest count), we can recommend vendors and help you assemble a stellar pro squad. You can find tons of talent on The Knot Marketplace and check out reviews from newlyweds who hired them.

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G O FOR A

FIT TI N G

Have final attire fittings and arrange for dress and/or suit pickup.

FI NALI Z E OT HE R

PART Y D ETAI L S

EDITOR TIP Get ready to celebrate! From engagement soirees to couples showers and bach weekends, there are lots of ways to party. Be sure to keep your registry stocked with gifts at various price points. And always show your gratitude for the hosts of these fun occasions.

Plan your rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch.

SH O P FO R

Meet with your officiant to discuss the details and attend prewedding counseling, if required.

Try on and purchase your wedding rings—then get insurance. (Now it’s starting to feel really real, right?)

RINGS

THE KNOT INVITATIONS

BUY YOUR

PAPE R

D O SO M E M O RE

Select invites, thank-you notes and other day-of stationery. Need help with the design? No problem. You can get free paper samples and customize all the details of your wedding suite at TheKnot.com/paper.

We meant what we said—we’ve got you. Check out our best planning helpers.

INVITES

PLAN T HE

C E RE M O NY

TOP TOOLS

S H O PPI N G Find personalized decor, unique party favor ideas and wedding party gifts for all your peeps at TheKnotShop.com.

We’re here to help with all of your paper needs. Choose from tons of original designs— including those in our Black and Women’s Artist Collectives (bonus: you can coordinate with your wedding website)—and save time with guest addressing.

GET YO UR

WE D D I N G WE B S ITE Head to TheKnot.com to start your very own website. Share the link so guests are in on the details, like room blocks and your registry. Include any FAQs or changes due to COVID-19. You can even stay on top of your RSVPs with our built-in tool.

MAK E A

REG I S TRY People will want to shower you with gifts from “we’re engaged” to your wedding day, so a wish list is a must. Build yours on The Knot and add items from our expansive store or wherever you shop online using our universal registry tool. The Knot Gifts Back makes a donation to a charity of your choice for every gift purchased off your registry!

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Shop for your attire and schedule necessary fittings—don’t forget accessories. Choose what your wedding party will wear too.

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EDITOR TIP The Knot Registry also lets you ask for cash for things like a down payment on a home or an epic future trip to Bali. Yes, you read that right: It’s okay to ask for $$$.

Head to the state registrar’s office in the county where you’ll wed for this must-have doc.

CH O O SE A

P O I NT PE R S O N If you don’t have a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, task an attendant or family member to be the go-to so you can relax and enjoy the day.

PRO M PT

PH OTO S Share your personalized wedding hashtag with guests to encourage picture posting. Bonus: It will be easy to collect all those wonderful moments you may miss.

M ET AR

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D EC I D E W H AT TO

MARRIAGE LICENSE

CR E AT E A

The planning and hard work are behind you— time to celebrate your new status.

VIP TEAM

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WISH LIST

THE KNOT REGISTRY Build an epic wish list on The Knot with handpicked products, experiences, cash and even gift cards. And you can link your registry to a charity of your choice to give back with every purchase made.

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Find a dream venue

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Book a bridal salon appointment

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R E A L L OV E

IN MY VOWS, I SHARED HOW PHIL WAS THE FIRST PERSON I C O U L D T R U LY B E M Y S E L F AROUND. I ENDED BY COMPARING H I M T O A R O C K E T S H I P, A S HE IS THE CREATIVE FUEL THAT DRIVES OUR ADVENTURES.

-Kellen P H OTO G R A P H BY RYA N G R E E N L E A F

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Kellen + Phil

10�23�2021 | LOS ALAMOS, CA

MAKE A SPLASH P H OTO G R A P H S BY RYA N G R E E N L E A F E V E N T P L A N N I N G BY K A R S O N B U T L E R E V E N TS

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COMPLEMETARY COLORS Instead of matching, Kellen (left) opted for a blue suit while Phil donned a yellow one.

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GUEST GUIDEBOOK In their welcome booklet, the couple “highlighted experiences that were special for us in our relationship and recommended wineries and sights to give people a feel for Los Alamos and Los Olivos.”

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DESIGN DUALITY “We juxtaposed buttoned-up elements in the midcentury modern aesthetic with the lightness of the color palette, all set against a beautiful backdrop of golden rolling hills, autumn colors and vineyards,” says the couple. BURST OF LIGHT For their cake topper and stationery, Kellen and Phil took inspiration from their home decor and elements of the hotel. The Skyview’s restaurant, Norman, has a gold-and-brass sunburst design reminiscent of the chandelier in the couple’s living room. FESTIVE FLOWERS The couple describes their floral arrangements as “magical designs full of texture and interest, made up of cactus, ranunculus, orchids, anthurium, dahlias and dried palm leaves with fun pops of blue.”

oth the East and West Coasts hold immense meaning for Kellen Schefter (36 and a clean energy professional) and Philip (Phil) Javellana (38 and a nonprofit professional). Though the couple has roots in Washington, DC, where they live, they serendipitously met in Los Angeles and got engaged in San Luis Obispo, California. The couple jumped right into planning a wedding in their beloved Golden State, but when the pandemic forced them to postpone, Kellen and Phil said “I do” at a minimony in DC. A year later, the couple celebrated at Skyview Los Alamos, a revamped 1950s motel, with a bicoastal-themed event befitting their jet-setting love story. “We combined East Coast sophistication with West Coast fun and the rustic surroundings of wine country,” says Phil. — HAN NAH N OWAC K

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LET’S DANCE Kellen’s mom suggested that the mother-son dance transition from a slow song to an upbeat number. “We started with some basic ballroom dancing to ‘Theme From Mahogany (Do You Know Where You’re Going To),’ by Diana Ross, before breaking into ‘Shining Star,’ by Earth, Wind & Fire, for choreographed disco moves,” Kellen says. SPECIAL SIPS One of the signature cocktails on offer, a vodka soda with a splash of cranberry and pineapple juice, carried over from the couple’s minimony menu. As Phil’s go-to, it was a must for both events: “It’s a nod to my typical order at the bar after dodgeball games,” he says. REST AND RELAX Phil loved the velvet couches and black ottomans in the lounge area because they “brought a chic and sophisticated vibe to the rustic surroundings.”

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REAL LOVE Level up your prewedding pool party with floats matching your color palette.

WEDDING VISION KELLEN + PHIL 1 WEDDING STYLE A mix of R ETRO, M I D - C E NTU RY and M O D E R N vibes . Welcome guests to a S TO R I E D R ESO RT or CO NTE M P O R ARY ART M U S EU M .

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E AS T COAS T C L AS S I C M E ET S CALI FU N Even the couple’s hues showcased the duality of their day—bright oranges anchored by crisp blues.

1 Tie, $25, TheTieBar.com 2 Tie, $22, TheTieBar.com 3 Pool float, $20, Target.com 4 Sofa, $1,029, UrbanOutfitters.com 5 Suit, jacket in sizes up to 54, pants in sizes up to 58, $149 to rent, TheBlackTux.com 6 Jacket in sizes up to 58, $260, pants in sizes up to 54, $150, Guess.com 7 Loafers, $275, TaftClothing.com

G MUST-HAVES AQ UATI C WE LCO M E The weekend began with a chill pool party with rosé and tacos, so guests could relax after a day of travel.

U N I FI E D PROC ES S I O NAL “It was important to us to walk in together as equals, rather than having one of us wait for the other at the altar,” explains the couple. PL AN N I N G PR I O R ITI ES Phil says it’s critical to be

“clear about your values and what matters to you before you start the wedding journey.” INGREDIENTS

C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Skyview Los Alamos, Los Alamos, CA PH OTOG R APHY Ryan Greenleaf VI D EOG R APHY Amora Cinema E VE NT PL AN N I N G + D ES I G N Karson Butler Events FLO R AL D ES I G N Noonan’s Wine Country Designs O FFI CIANT Tyler Schefter (Kellen’s brother) S U IT S Brimble & Clark, Washington, DC TI ES Kellen: Jos A. Bank; Phil: Tie Bar S H O ES Kellen: Ted Baker; Phil: TAFT ACC ES SO R I ES Shinola; Tie Bar E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Baxter Moerman S TATI O N E RY Emily Baird Design R E NTAL S Avenue Twelve; Bright Event Rentals; Found Rental Co.; Freestyle Event Services; La Tavola CATE R I N G Skyview Los Alamos CAK E Bell’s; cake topper: Delovely Details M U S I C Ceremony: Mariposa Quartet; reception: DJ Malik Miko PH OTO BOOTH Bessy the Foto Bus G U ES T BOO K Fête Fone WE LCO M E BAG Ah Louis Store

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Only Phil’s sister and brother-in-law were present at the couple’s DC elopement, with his sister officiating. The chance to gather more loved ones in person was a highlight of their sequel wedding. “We had a nice symmetry in our officiants thanks to our siblings. For our wedding in California, we asked my brother to do the honors,” explains Kellen.

W E O R I G I N A L LY P L A N N E D OUR CELEBRATION FOR O C T O B E R 1 7, 2 0 2 0 , B U T D E C I D E D I N J U LY 2 0 2 0 TO DO A MICROWEDDING IN WASHINGTON, DC, AND SAVE THE CALIFORNIA EVENT FOR WHEN IT WAS SAFER TO TRAVEL AND GATHER.

-Phil

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Mili + Jai

1 1 � 2 0 � 2 0 2 1 | P L AYA D E L CA R M E N , M E X I C O

B R I G H T A N D B E AC H Y PHOTOGRAPHS BY MERARI TERUEL PHOTOGRAPHY EVENT PLANNING BY XB DESTINATION WEDDING PLANNING

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PURPOSEFUL PLANNING “It was helpful to be introspective about what we wanted our wedding to be at the beginning of the process, so we could be more efficient in making decisions as we got into the planning,” says Mili.

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SUITABLE SITE

Mili and Jai settled on Mayakoba because the gated community is near Cancún, which is accessible by direct flights from the East Coast. Plus, guests could use golf carts to get around upon arrival.

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TROPICAL TRIMMINGS In addition to sourcing carnations, anthurium and protea for the arrangements, the couple’s floral designer included unconventional elements, such as coconuts, in some of the weekend’s designs. COLORFUL COLLECTION The couple wanted the wedding events “to be filled with color to complement the lush tropical venue.” The weekend started with bright oranges and pinks on display at the mehndi party, while the reception leaned into darker shades of teal and red. WELL CARED FOR Mili and Jai kept the guest experience top of mind, providing fans and parasols for friends and family to protect against the heat. They also gifted loved ones welcome bags with mezcal, survival kits and a weekend itinerary.

ili Shah (31 and a VP of corporate strategy) and Jaidav (Jai) Reddy (32 and an investment banker) wanted a destination wedding so they could gather loved ones in a unique location where attendees could make memories of their own. Thanks to five events and ample entertainment, they were able to do just that. A mentalist kicked off the weekend by reading guests’ minds at the mehndi, which doubled as the welcome party. At the sangeet, attendees enjoyed a guided tequila tasting before being wowed by a surprise fireworks display. The next day, Jai’s arrival by horse preceded the couple’s Hindu ceremony, which was performed in Sanskrit. To top it all off, Mili and Jai made an epic entrance to their reception by boat and danced with loved ones until 3 am. — H N

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MADE OF MEMORIES The couple displayed seating arrangements on a hand-painted blue board, naming each table for a place they’d traveled. Guests who shared in those fun times sat at the corresponding tables. “For example, we recently had a great trip to Miami with a group of our friends, so we sat them at the Miami table,” says Mili. MEANINGFUL MUSIC The couple shared a first dance to “This Will Be Our Year,” by the Zombies, because it’s a tune they listened to frequently in the early days of their relationship. “After having to postpone our wedding by a full year due to the pandemic, this tune felt even more appropriate as our first dance song. Finally our year had come to celebrate our marriage after waiting longer than expected,” shares Mili.

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WEDDING STYLE A G L AM O RO U S take on a TRO PI CAL B E AC H wedding. Host your “I dos” at a WATE R FRO NT R ESO RT or aboard a YAC HT .

COLOR PALETTE

WEDDING VISION

1 Pillow, $89, AriasHouseOfStyle, Etsy.com 2 Pillow cover $55, MskWsk, Etsy.com 3 Charger, $19 for set of 6, EFavorMart.com 4 Lehenga in sizes up to XL, $965, RidhiMehra.com 5 Sherwani in sizes up to XXL, $2,400, AnitaDongre.com 6 Candle holder, $54 for 2, HolisticHabitatClt.com 7 Parasol, $32, BohoShoppie, Etsy.com

VI B R ANT J E WE L TO N ES A collection of

guava, ruby red, gold, teal, emerald green, sapphire blue and deep purple.

7 MUST-HAVES S I G NATU R E S I P S Mili is a fan of spicy margaritas and Jai loves Hendrick’s martinis, so they offered an array of both cocktails to guests.

Source on-palette parasols as functional favors that double as decor.

D ECAD ENT D ES S ERT S The reception’s sweets

menu included tres leches cake with passion fruit, carrot cake and cheesecake. FR ES H E AT S The couple had fresh tortillas

and churros made on-site for the sangeet so guests could enjoy the local cuisine.

INGREDIENTS

C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Banyan Tree Mayakoba, Playa Del Carmen, Mexico SAN G E ET S ITE El Pueblito Maykoba PH OTOG R APHY Merari Teruel Photography VI D EOG R APHY Ismael Gonzalez E VE NT PL AN N I N G + D ES I G N XB Destination Wedding Planning FLO R AL D ES I G N Mehndi: Dia Uno Events; sangeet & wedding: Canteiro Weddings O FFI CIANT Kirankumar Murapaka M E H N D I AT TI R E Mili: Ridhi Mehra; Jai: Dolce & Gabbana SAN G E ET AT TI R E Mili: Tarun Tahiliani; Jai: Manish Malhotra C E R E M O NY AT TI R E Mili: Sabyasachi; Jai: Tarun Tahiliani R EC E PTI O N AT TI R E Mili: Gaurav Gupta; Jai: Dolce & Gabbana S H O ES Mili: Aquazzura; Converse; Gucci; Loeffler Randall; Jai: Edhèn Milano; Salvatore Ferragamo; Tod’s ACC ES SO R I ES Mili: heirloom; Jai: Patek Philippe; Rolex; heirloom WE DD I N G RI N G S Greenwich St. Jewelers; Jennie Kwon Designs HAI R + MAK EU P Sara Tamargo S TATI O N E RY Invitations: Ceci New York; day-of paper: La Crafteria R E NTAL S Bash House by Luis Bandha; Canterio Weddings CATE R I N G Patravali Indian Cusine; YD Dream Management; coconuts: Ko’coo CAK E Banyan Tree Mayakoba M U S I C Band: Party Crashers; DJ: DJ Rishi Rex/M4U Events; dhol: Drums in Paradise PH OTO BOOTH Photo by Natalia M E NTALI S T Matt Cooper FI R E WO R KS Pyrotech

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The dance performance at the sangeet, which preceded the fireworks display, was one of Mili’s favorite parts of the entire weekend. “Our family members all performed high-energy dances, and then we took part in a huge group number with our wedding party that included a fireworks show as the finale,” she says. “It was amazing to see everyone put in the effort to perform such amazing acts.”

WE WANTED ALL OF OUR EVENTS TO HAVE AN ELEGANT VIBE WITH INCREASING FORMALITY FOR EACH PARTY AS THE WEEKEND PROGRESSED. FOR OUR THIRD A C T I V I T Y, T H E S A N G E E T, WE ENDED THE NIGHT WITH A F I R E W O R K S D I S P L A Y.

-Mili

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Haley + Jason

9�18�2021 | WOODY CREEK, CO

B U C O L I C B E AU T Y PHOTOGRAPHS BY RACHEL HAVEL EVENT PLANNING BY GOLD LEAF EVENTS

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LOVE LETTERS Jason kept every note Haley ever wrote him and included excerpts of her words in his self-penned vows.

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“I wanted to bring in ample color in addition to natural Colorado elements such as wildflowers, leaves and trees,” says Haley.

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DREAM DAZZLER Jason designed Haley’s platinum engagement ring, which has an oval center stone framed by tapered baguettes. He based it on one she saw in a magazine 15 years earlier and the jewelry her late grandmother wore. WHAT IS LOVE? “Instead of a traditional guest book, we created a wall that said ‘Love is…’ and prompted guests to write their thoughts. I’m glad we did this, because after the wedding, it was special to read all of the responses,” says Haley. CUSTOM CREST The couple commissioned a personalized crest with “our initials, local wildflowers, sunflowers, yellow Aspen leaves, a bear, a bison and our wedding date,” says Haley. “The bison is an ode to the mascot of the University of Colorado Boulder, where we met, while ‘bear’ is what Jason and I call each other.”

aley Burridge (31 and an educator and recent law school graduate) and Jason Chrestionson (30 and an antitrust attorney) met in Colorado and got engaged in the foothills of the Rockies several years later. So deciding to head back to the peaks to say “I do” on their nine-year anniversary was a simple choice. In a beautiful stroke of symbolism, the state also happens to be “almost exactly halfway between where we are each from: Chicago and San Francisco,” says Haley. Since most of the couple’s guests were coming from out of town, Aspen won out as the mountain town of choice, thanks to the many direct flights available. To make the weekend even more memorable for everyone making the trip, the couple hosted a welcome party with a Western theme as a festive nod to the locale. — H N

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PLENTY OF PERSONALIZATION “We incorporated several sentimental elements, from a Rupi Kaur poem in our ceremony to cocktail napkins that listed fun facts about us,” says Haley. For further customization, the couple named their signature drinks after their pets and pulled reception table monikers from places around Boulder that are meaningful to them. “I loved that our wedding decisions were intentional and special,” says Haley. BOOT SCOOTIN’ FUN “For favors, each guest left with a note from us thanking them for coming, a bag of Chicago-style popcorn, water bottles with cowboy-boot koozies and lightup silver-and-white sequined cowboy hats. The koozies were such a big hit that our wedding planner had to save two for us because so many people took them,” recalls Haley.

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WEDDING STYLE A R E FI N E D and RO MANTI C take on RU S TI C nuptials. Book an upscale BAR N or M O U NTAI N C HALET for an ideal venue. COLOR PALETTE L AYE RS O F AUTU M N A fall-inspired mix of burnt orange, honey yellow, sage green, olive green and slate grey with wood accents.

MUST-HAVES M OTH E R-SO N DAN C E Jason danced with his mom

to “God Only Knows,” by the Beach Boys, as an ode to his home state of California and one of his mom’s favorite songs.

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INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Chaparral Ranch, Woody Creek, CO PH OTOG R APHY Rachel Havel VI D EOG R APHY Elysium Productions E VE NT PL AN N I N G + D ES I G N Gold Leaf Events FLO R AL D ES I G N Aspen Branch Design O FFI CIANT Scott Burridge (Haley’s uncle) GOWN S Ceremony: Monique Lhuillier, Ultimate Bride, Chicago; reception: Happy Isles, Los Angeles VE I L Ultimate Bride S U IT Vicegerent, Chicago S H O ES Haley: Manolo Blahnik; Jason: Brooks Brothers E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Gold Creations HAI R + MAK EU P Gambuti Robson Hair and Makeup WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Jenny Yoo S TATI O N E RY Julie King Studio; Paper Plane Paperie R E NTAL S Halcyon Productions; Premier Party Rentals CATE R I N G + CAK E The Little Nell M U S I C Taylor Pace Orchestra PH OTO BOOTH Social Light Photo FAVO RS Any Promo; Garrett Popcorn; Windy City Novelties TR AN S P O RTATI O N CTS Aspen

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#MAKETRADITION Haley and Jason met as sophomores at the University of Colorado Boulder, but didn’t become an item until their senior year—after Jason asked Haley out three times. They worked the college mascot, Ralphie, into their crest design and commissioned a cake resembling the CU logo.

INSTEAD OF A TRADITIONAL WEDDING CAKE, WE HAD A ‘CAKE’ MADE FROM STACKED WHEELS OF OUR FAVORITE CHEESES. HOWEVER, WE DID HAVE A RALPHIE GROOM’S CAKE FOR GUESTS WHO WANTED ACTUAL CAKE.

-Haley

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FUNCTIONAL FAVORS “At each place setting, we gifted guests a gold frame with a note inside encouraging them to fill it with pictures from the photo booth,” Diana says.

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HONORING HERITAGE Diana and David held a tea ceremony as a tribute to their parents. In addition to the ritual, Diana says that her father-daughter dance was a meaningful part of the wedding, because “my dad whispered that he was so proud of the person I’ve become.” SUBSTANTIAL SPREAD The couple’s catering focused on variety. “We wanted our guests to enjoy different types of foods and have fun with ones they may not have tried before,” says Diana. The menu included ice cream push pops, a milk-and-cookie station and gummy bear martinis with pea-flower syrup. PERSONAL PROMISES “We’ve rowed through rivers...and ventured to beautiful lands,” said David during his vows. “But these experiences only tell one part of our story. Every day we continue telling it.”

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hades of pink inspired Diana Le (33 and a clinical pharmacist) and David Ngo’s (34 and a psychiatrist) glamorous wedding. They wanted to showcase the color in all of its beautiful varieties and leaned into an ombré palette ranging from dusty pink and blush to deep berry. The couple first introduced the color scheme in their invitations, sealed with wax stamps, and carried it throughout the whole wedding. Even the menu got the pink treatment, as guests enjoyed raspberry frangipane tarts at the reception. To add a luxe feel to the design, Diana and David layered in a variety of textures and surfaces, from a mirrored ceremony aisle to glass tabletop decor, like delicate cloches that served as table numbers. — H N

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WEDDING VISION D I A N A + D AV I D

1 WEDDING STYLE A G L AM O RO U S and RO MANTI C celebration. Host the nuptials at a LUXU RY H OTE L or B E AUTI FU L ES TATE . COLOR PALETTE PR ET T Y I N PI N K A collection of rosy hues ranging from light blush to deep mauve with gold accents.

Instead of vases, get creative and place floral arrangements or table numbers in glass cloches.

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DO U B LE D UT Y Escort cards were magnets that guests could keep.

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T WI C E AS N I C E Both Diana and David changed

into second looks for the reception. Diana began in a ball gown, then donned a trumpet dress. David started in a blue suit and ended the night in a black tux.

performed for the first part of the reception and a DJ spun beats for the latter half.

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C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE The Waterfront Beach Resort, A Hilton Hotel, Huntington Beach, CA PH OTOG R APHY Caroline Tran Photography VI D EOG R APHY Hoo Films E VE NT PL AN N I N G , D ES I G N + S TATI O N E RY A Good Affair FLO R AL D ES I G N Square Root O FFI CIANT JP Reynolds GOWN S Ceremony: Estee Couture; reception: Berta VE I L Estee Couture S U IT S The Grotto, Costa Mesa, CA S H O ES Diana: Jimmy Choo; David: Christian Louboutin ACC ES SO R I ES Diana: Panache Bridal Costa Mesa E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Capri Jewelers HAI R + MAK EU P Kimmy V; Vivian Tran Artistry WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E The Grotto CATE R I N G Furiwa CAK E Intricakes D ES S E RT S Mr. & Mrs. Creamery M U S I C Ceremony and cocktail hour: Tang Instrumentals; reception: DJZ Productions PH OTO BOOTH MirMir I C E SCU LPTU R E Ice Bulb

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The couple celebrated their cats— Gummy, Bear, Lexi and Boba— and their dog, Butters, in multiple ways throughout the wedding. In addition to commissioning an ice sculpture bearing the likeness of the five animals, David surprised Diana by adding “pictures of our pets to the lining of his custom blue suit jacket, so they could be with us on our special day,” says Diana.

WE HAD AN ICE SCULPTURE OF OUR FUR BABIES DISPLAYED DURING THE RECEPTION. WE ALSO CHOSE TO NAME OUR SIGNATURE COCKTAILS AFTER OUR PETS, BOTH THOSE THAT ARE STILL WITH US AND THOSE THAT HAVE PASSED.

-Diana

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MEANT TO BE “Before we even began planning, I wanted to wear this dress,” says Hawa.

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BOUNTY OF BABY’S BREATH “The softness of the flower makes me smile every time I look at the photos,” says Hawa. “We make it a point to have baby’s breath in our home almost weekly. I couldn’t find any other flower that complemented the space so well. Everything else seemed to compete with the venue.” CULTURAL CUISINE “It was important to honor my family’s heritage with our food choices,” says Hawa. The menu included Liberian chicken gravy, Chianti-braised short ribs, jollof rice and fried plantains. “At the tasting, I actually shed a tear because I was hit with a wave of nostalgia.” GRANDMA’S LOVE Hawa’s parents surprised her by flying her grandmother in for the wedding, something she hadn’t initially thought possible due to COVID-19.

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hile the tall ceilings and marble pillars of the Baltimore Museum of Art impressed Hawa Boyce (27 and a registered nurse and soon-to-be-licensed esthetician) and Tony Douglas (29 and an entrepreneur), the museum’s art collection—which would serve as a backdrop to the big day—sealed the deal. With the art and architecture as a starting point, Hawa and Tony planned a wedding with a theme of modern elegance. “We wanted to complement the design of the museum rather than hide it,” explains Hawa. Their minimal wedding was filled with baby’s breath, lots of candles and black-and-white details. “The contrast of our decor against the marble was striking yet not abrasive,” Hawa says. “I wanted guests to walk in and feel like they entered an ethereal evening of magic.” — H N

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COLOR PALETTE LES S I S M O R E A contemporary collection of black, white and green that complement the venue’s marble architecture.

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FAS T- FOO D FAVES “I’ve always said ‘I’m going to

have Popeyes at my wedding,’” says Hawa. She did just that by serving the chain’s chicken tenders as a late-night snack. M E AN I N G FU L M U S I C The duo chose “My Song,”

by H.E.R., as their first dance because “every sentence felt like it came from our hearts.” N E W H E I R LOO M Hawa’s mother gifted her a crystal headband that she hopes to give to her own future daughter one day.

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C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Baltimore Museum of Art, Baltimore, MD PH OTOG R APHY Lynn Dunston Photography VI D EOG R APHY Sok Vision E VE NT PL AN N I N G Favored by Yodit Events & Design FLO R AL D ES I G N Designs by Oochay O FFI CIANT Leora Willis GOWN S Ceremony: Eva Lendel, Anjolique Bridal, Cornelius, NC; reception: WONÁ Concept, Anjolique Bridal H E ADPI ECES Jennifer Behr TUXE DO Black Lapel S H O ES Hawa: Kate Spade; Tony: Gucci ACC ES SO R I ES Hawa: Jennifer Behr; Tony: Hugo Boss; John Henric; Movado E N G AG E M E NT R I N G Appelblom Jewelry Co. WE DD I N G RI N G S Tiffany & Co. WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Lady Black Tie; The Black Tux HAI R Dominique Norton; Yene Damtew MAK EU P Marquia James S TATI O N E RY Invitations: Minted; day-of paper: LePenn Designs CATE R I N G The Classic Catering People CAK E Fluffy Thoughts Cakes M U S I C DJ No ID R E NTAL S Select Event Group; Table Manners PH OTO BOOTH EZ Motions FAVO RS Edamommy TR AN S P O RTATI O N Limousines Inc.

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Hawa used the wedding favors to showcase Edamommy, the skin care company she is building. “We couldn’t think of a better way to share the hard work that I put into creating my brand’s first product,” says Hawa. “It was an amazing way to share my favorite skin care product with everyone that I love, while getting feedback before our official launch.”

FOR FAVORS, WE HANDED OUT BOTTLES OF MY SKIN CARE BRAND’S F I R S T P R O D U C T. M Y C O M P A N Y, E D A M O M M Y, I S A M AT E R N I T Y- F O C U S E D WELLNESS BRAND WITH O U R F I R S T P R O D U C T, E A R T H OIL, LAUNCHING SOON.

-Hawa

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DO I NEED A PRENUP? I can’t tell you exactly what you should do, because I’m not a lawyer (and I’m also not you). But prenups—or postnups—can be a great and healthy beginning. They’re really just a thorough look at what might happen in your financial future. Prenups aren’t just for self-preservation; they’re particularly useful if one of you owns a business or has children from a previous relationship.

Financial wellness begins with grasping the basics of money management and discussing everything from your income to credit scores.

HOW SHOULD COUPLES MERGE ASSETS? There’s no one right way to combine your finances. Some people merge everything into a shared account and some use a designated joint account to pay bills. They then split expenses according to their proportion of the household income. Others choose to keep everything separate.

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WILL CREDIT SCORES COME INTO PLAY IN MY RELATIONSHIP? It’s important to be transparent about each of your finances. Your credit scores are a big part of that, but they don’t have to be a deal breaker. If you or your partner have a low score, what’s important is whether you make an effort to fix it. It’s also worth noting that in the event of a divorce, a woman’s credit score typically falls more than a man’s.

WHY DOES MONEY CAUSE FRICTION IN RELATIONSHIPS? We all manage money differently and so much of that comes from our childhoods and past experiences. There’s a lot of emotional baggage with money. Being in financial sync with your partner makes it easier to make decisions and respect and support one another’s goals. You want to trust one another to protect your joint future.

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HOW DO YOU AVOID NEGATIVE FINANCIAL SURPRISES IN MARRIAGE? It feels uncomfortable at first, but at the end of the day, what could be more intimate than unpacking that emotional money baggage together? A statistic worth remembering: Some 78 percent of couples who talk about money every week report being happy, while only 50 percent of couples who talk about it very infrequently say the same.

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WHO SHOULD MANAGE THE MONEY? Research shows that 74 percent of women who outsource the management of their money to their partners will have a negative surprise when that money comes back to them (often after a divorce or death). Both parties should be involved, stay informed and communicate regularly.

HOW DOES DEBT WORK? The laws are different in every state, but usually, the debt you took on before you married stays your personal responsibility. Debt you take on after you get married becomes your joint responsibility. This is all the more reason to stay involved in your joint finances—to avoid any negative surprises.

WHAT SHOULD I BE AWARE OF REGARDING TAXES AFTER MARRIAGE? Taxes can shift in quite a few ways when you get married, from your filing status and workplace benefits to adjusting the name on your social security card. I encourage you to consult a tax pro together before the big day, just so you both know what to expect.

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Here are various insurance policies you can get for your wedding and marriage. iability, risks and insurance aren’t exactly the most alluring topics, but proactive preparation has been trending since the onset of the pandemic. Couples planning their weddings and honeymoons—even looking ahead to marriage—should understand the ins and outs of insurance policies. “COVID-19 made it clear that there are risks involved in wedding planning that people often take for granted,” says Michael Giusti, an analyst at InsuranceQuotes.com. Here’s the 411 on insurance, broken down by type. WHILE PLANNING

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Perhaps the biggest jewelry purchases a couple will ever make,

engagement and wedding rings require protection—after all, accidents happen. (Remember when a certain celeb heiress chucked her $2 million diamond into an ice bucket while partying in Miami?) Rings are considered personal property and are generally protected by your renters' or homeowner's policy. However, most home and renters’ policies will only cover $500 to $2,000 per bauble— paid only after the deductible is met, says Giusti. “When it comes to big rings, look for a separate insurance policy that only covers the jewelry. You can go with a specialized policy or get a rider through your primary homeowner’s or renter’s insurance.”

Both couples and wedding professionals will remember 2020, a time when the term “force majeure” had its moment in our lexicon. Liability protects you if something goes wrong at the event. “For example, if a guest damages the venue, a waiter trips and falls, or the potato salad gives everyone food poisoning.” While these less-than-optimal circumstances aren’t exactly on your wedding day schedule (as planners can attest, things go wrong all the time), imbibing guests do require extra protection.

CANCELLATION INSURANCE The other type of wedding insurance is related to canceled or postponed events. “Cancellation protects you if something prevents things from going the way you planned. For example, the venue closes and you have to reschedule or relocate, a hurricane prevents guests from attending or the mother of the bride gets food poisoning (hopefully not from the potato salad),” says Giusti. “The cancellation policy would help pay for nonrefundable deposits and ideally help you reschedule the event.” Certain policies will also cover the cost of a vendor who’s MIA or doesn’t uphold their end of the contract. In a few instances there are even “change of heart” clauses that protect innocent parties if someone calls off the wedding.

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Honeymoon insurance is a specific kind of travel insurance that protects you if your trip is canceled or interrupted by something outside your control. “It’s meant to refund you for nonrefundable deposits,” says Giusti. “If someone gets cold feet and cancels, the policy won’t kick in. But if a hurricane hits your resort, your policy will protect you.”

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Try to negotiate a custom package deal.

Dip into the buffer fund you already set aside for moments like this.

WHEN MAKING A MAJOR PURCHASE, WEDDING-RELATED OR NOT, YOU TEND TO: A

Overthink and talk yourself out of buying it.

Almost always buy it, especially if it's a luxury or brand-name item.

Get it right away with little to no consideration.

Search for a more affordable option before committing.

Check your savings to make sure you can comfortably afford it.

STICKING TO YOUR WEDDING BUDGET FEELS: A

Like the best way to stay organized and control your money.

Really restrictive, particularly for big expenses.

…what budget?

Like a challenge you're excited to tackle.

Easy, because money doesn't stress you out.

WHEN IT COMES TO WEDDING SPENDING, YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF: A

Super conservative.

Generous, especially for high-value items.

Very generous.

Savvy.

Strategic and calculated.

It's almost always more expensive to have two policies than one, so after the wedding, partner up. “In some cases, [marriage] may make the driver appear less risky to the insurer. For instance, married men tend to get lower rates than unmarried men,” explains Giusti.

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Big Spender Big spenders usually have an affinity for the finer things in life, like luxury items. You want the best of the best for your big day! Consider a few ways you can adjust your vision to stay within budget.

Search for the most affordable option.

Splurge on fancy items that'll look great on the 'gram.

Do what your heart tells you. It's your wedding!

Consult the budget first to make sure your spending is on track.

Reference your budget, but know you have buffer funds set aside.

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Laid-back Buyer Laid-back spenders tend to buy things without much thought, which can lead to overspending or unhealthy money habits. Use the budget tool from The Knot to keep your spending in check. OSTL D

Shopper You probably always want an online shopping package en route to your house. On the flip side, you love a good deal and are always down to go bargain hunting. Lean into that trait while planning your wedding.

BEFORE MAKING WEDDING PURCHASES, YOU GENERALLY:

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Get it anyway—it's your dream, after all!

Saver Money matters may stress you out—you definitely don't want to go into debt for your wedding. Your money-conscious mindset is a fantastic trait to have, but don't be afraid to splurge on a few nice items every once in a while.

Ask a family member to chip in so you can still book it.

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It’s best to be prepared for the unthinkable. Add your spouse to your life insurance policy to ensure your benefits go to them if you die. If you don’t have a life insurance policy yet, a new marriage is a time to reevaluate your insurance needs. “Life insurance is there to help pay for your obligations after you die,” he adds. “Without your income, how will your spouse cover your portion of the bills? Who would repay debts? Term life insurance policies are excellent tools to help plan for these obligations.

Find a different one within your price range.

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Combining health insurance plans will save you money. “A wedding is considered a ‘change-in-life event,’ meaning once you’re married, you’re allowed (for a limited time) to make changes to your health insurance, even though it isn’t open enrollment,” says Giusti. Shop each other’s policies and decide if you want to keep both or drop one.

YOUR DREAM VENUE COSTS SIGNIFICANTLY MORE THAN YOU PLANNED TO SPEND. YOU:

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For those merging lives, Giusti recommends updating your policy after the wedding. Add any expensive wedding presents that should be specifically addressed too (think: collectibles, high-priced electronics, etc.). If you’ve just purchased your first home together, you’ll want a standard homeowner’s policy which protects your house and your things in case of unexpected damage (like fire or weather). “Some policies also protect you from intangible dangers, like defamation lawsuits and liability in the event someone claims you have caused damage to them,” says Giusti .

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VENUE CATERING + CAKE

CATERING + ALCOHOL

ALCOHOL PHOTOGRAPHY

OTHER ATTIRE + JEWELRY

VENUE

DECOR

118

OTHER DJ

ATTIRE