The Knot Summer 2024

DOES EVERYONE HATE ME? HOW TO COPE WITH PLANNING ANXIETY

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The Game Plan 2024

FEATURES

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THE WEDDING DIARIES

Our new column dives into wedding planning—from the planner’s POV.

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GOING FOR GOLD

Discover how five engaged athletes are training for the Olympics and wedding planning.

82

MARRIAGE, MORTGAGE & THE MALDIVES

Set yourselves up for financial success with an exercise by YourRichBFF.

84

OWNING ONE’S WEDDING

Expecting others to take the blame when things go wrong is so yesterday.

90

ONES TO WATCH

Explore our selection of 2024’s most notable emerging wedding pros.

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ALL YOUR BRIDESMAIDS LIKE YOU (PROMISE)

That sinking feeling that everyone is mad at you? There’s a word for that.

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WHY WE DON’T BELIEVE IN THE WEDDING DIET

Enough is enough: It’s time to bid farewell to diet culture, especially when you’re engaged.

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THE ALL-INCLUSIVE EVOLUTION

Personalized amenities upgrade the resorts of your parents’ days.

The Game Plan 2024

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FASHION & BEAUTY

26

GOING FOR BAROQUE

Read our pearls of wisdom and more about these fascinating fine jewelry additions.

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THE BUSINESS OF DREAMS

The kids are taking over. Here’s how family-owned bridal businesses are modernizing.

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34

THE FINE PRINT

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SKIN DEEP

A bride-to-be details the beauty treatments that are worth the investment.

STYLE

Shop balletcore and everything you need for a good night’s sleep.

A wedding photographer-slashattorney addresses your questions about contracts.

46

WHAT YOUR WEDDING DATE

SAYS ABOUT YOU

Even if the stars don’t align, here’s what to deduce about your chosen date.

122

IT’S

budget with our tips and foolproof worksheet.

For one music-loving couple, a “creative black tie” dress code was a wedding must-have.

68

WOODLAND WEEKEND

A New York couple hosted their jewel-tone wedding at a luxury venue that was once a summer camp.

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MILAN MEETS

The scenic beauty of Italy inspired a lakefront rehearsal dinner in Wisconsin.

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

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I love to plan dinner parties. Before I was married, I’d host a couple of themed soirees a month, obsessing over the menu, the music and the tablescape. But when it came time to plan our wedding, I knew better than to go at it alone—weddings are the major leagues of dinner parties. I enlisted the help of a wedding planner (Hi, Lisa!) who was instrumental in filling my roster with fellow vendors who could carry out my vision, which included white ranunculus, a live band and a sailboat send-off. I was able to be fully present on my wedding day, knowing I had a team of experts who were just as invested in our party as I was. And that, friends, is the power of pros.

Before I was I’d host a of themed soirees a over the menu, the music and the But when it came time to our I

NATALIE ROMINE

According to The Knot 2023 Real Weddings Study, couples spend an average of seven hours per week planning their wedding over 15 months (the average length of an engagement). You do the math: That’s 455 hours of deliberations, decisions and sometimes angst (see page 100). We’ve got you—and a whole vendor marketplace to make it seamless.

This issue is devoted to the planning of your wedding day: the highs, the lows and the people who bring the magic to life (see page 90). If you’re just getting started, we’ve rounded up some nextlevel TV and movie locations where you can wed (page 32). And if you’re nearing the end of your journey, don’t forget a few extra enhancements (page 24).

Lastly, a bit of unsolicited advice: You plan to reduce uncertainty, but no plan is perfect. It’s YOUR day, so know what you’re agreeing to (page 34), and own your wedding (page 84). It’s ALL worth it.

— LAUREN KAY, EXECUTIVE EDITOR

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California Dreaming

WE MADE PLANNING EASY FOR OUR RECENT GETAWAY.

You may have seen the buzz from our trip to the Santa Ynez Valley, California, with engaged content creators. We recap the three-day affair for ways to inspire your wedding events.

When Jason Rhee started out in weddings in 2007, he had to rely on the phone book to contact his network. “Every few months, I’d call the numbers of local vendors to make sure they still existed,” he says. “The biggest change today is the amount of resources that are available. Without a marketplace to help navigate the industry, planning seems really daunting.”

We’re a super fun—not to mention knowledgeable—plus-one for your entire wedding journey. Our glossy will light up your mailbox with inspiration, planning tips, sage advice, editors’ shopping picks and more. Your wedding RSVPs deserve the company, don’t you think? BONUS: A subscription will save you more than 40 percent off what you’ll pay at the newsstand, so that’s actually money in the bank! (OK, #weddingmath.)

Farewell Dinner (above) Hundreds of candles illuminated the tablescape at The Genevieve.

Our Experts (below)

The Knot led a discussion with Jessica Carrillo, Jason Rhee and Maricela Matos.

To showcase just how easy it is thanks to The Knot Vendor Marketplace, we collaborated with Rhee (the lead planner and owner of Rheefined Company in Los Angeles) and other wedding pros to host a three-day getaway to California wine country for engaged influencers. (Yes, they got to bring plus-ones!)

The schedule was inspired by the rise of multi-day destination weddings (though no ceremony was involved this early in the process). “I love the ‘weekender’ trend where there’s a welcome party and a sendoff event,” says Rhee. “Having an experience for your guests throughout multiple days is special.”

The trip began in LA with a scenic ride along the Southern California coast on Amtrak’s Pacific Surfliner (Seoulful Charcuterie provided bites as everyone took in dreamy Pacific Ocean views). Transportation company Jump on the School Bus then drove the group through the sunsoaked, rolling vineyards of the Santa Ynez Valley in Central California, arriving at The Inn at Mattei’s Tavern in Los Olivos. After checking into their five-star accommodations, they dove into wedding planning and inspiration workshops and activities. One big perk for the content creators was having direct access to industry experts Rhee, Jessica Carrillo of Art & Soul Events and Maricela Matos of Alicia + Co. Events, who sat on a panel and helped answer wedding questions.

Between the activities, the couples bonded over how they each planned to make their weddings unique. “I’ve been finding more and more that people are sticking to honoring what’s important to them,” Rhee says. “That’s always been my biggest intention with weddings: making sure that each event represents the couple. The sojourn ended with a dreamy dinner at The Genevieve hotel, decked with lights from SoCal Candle Rentals and a floral chandelier. “It’s such an amazing gift that The Knot provided the couples,” he says. “We were so grateful to showcase some of our favorite partners who invest their time, love, energy and resources into weddings.”

Engaging the Five Senses

SEE, SMELL, HEAR, TASTE, TOUCH

Each workshop allowed the couples to engage with their senses— and each other—as they learned more about wedding planning. “We wondered, ‘What do I want to do with my partner?’” says Rhee.

Floral Design

First Dance Lessons

Choreographer James Alsop, who’s worked with Beyoncé, guided couples through their first first dance. TOUCH

THANK YOU TO OUR CREATIVE PARTNERS: Host: The Knot | Planning, Design + Florals: Jason Rhee of Rheefined Company | Venue, Accommodations + Catering: The Inn at Mattei’s Tavern | Photography: Patrick Quezada Photography | Cinematography: Sam Eng Films | Beauty: LeJeune Artistry | Off-site Dinner Property + Catering: The Landsby | Farewell Gala Property + Catering: The Genevieve | Industry Experts: Jason Rhee of Rheefined Company; Jessica Carrillo of Art & Soul Events; Maricela Matos of Alicia + Co. Events | Transportation: Amtrak Pacific Surfliner; Jump on the School Bus | Decor: Archive Rentals; Borrowed Blu; House of Hough; SoCal Candle Rentals | Calligraphy: Calligraphy Katrina | Experiences: James Alsop; Dart Collective; Highline Adventures; The Inn at Mattei’s Tavern; Jason Rhee + Jamie Rhee of Rheefined Company; LAIT; Mischels Truth | Entertainment: Dart Collective | Gifting: Calligraphy Katrina; Cheam and Sugar; De Soi; Seoulful Charcuterie; Sockerbit | Shoot Location: Gainey Vineyard | The Knot Events Team: Madison Bendorf; Susana Diharce; Amber Treinen

Wedding Playlist Curation A seasoned DJ from the Dart Collective helped couples determine their lovestory soundtrack. HEAR

Infused Olive Oil Bottling Couples flavored concoctions with rosemary, lemons and more at the hotel in (wink) Los Olivos. TASTE

Couples arranged roses, poppies, dahlias and more in a workshop by Rhee. (Appreciation for florists blossomed.)

Wedding Scent Creation Candle company LAIT hosted a fragrance workshop to inspire couples’ reception scents.

SMELL

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The Knot Registry Awards

OUR EDITORS SHARE THEIR FAVORITES HERE.

One of the trickiest (but arguably most fun) aspects of wedding planning is creating the almighty registry. While narrowing down your wish list from tens of thousands of products may seem overwhelming, our annual RegistryAwards help couples suss out the best options.

LiveFine Towel Warmer

Quiet luxury is a towel warmer. This neutral option comes with a timer to keep your bath linens deliciously fluffy and heated.

—Esther Lee, Deputy Editor

Airbnb & Delta Gift Cards

Like you, we’re big on romantic getaways. Stock up on Airbnb and Delta gift cards to prepare for future travel moments. (Hello, anniversary trips!)

—Esther

Yeti Roadie 24 Cooler

Tuft & Needle Mattress

If you can relate to Hans Christian Andersen’s The Princess and the Pea, then a quality mattress is likely in order. Melt onto this cooling foam mattress, ideal for back sleepers.

KitchenAid Stand Mixer

This timeless stand mixer was invented in the early 1900s and has become a beloved icon in the decades since. Needless to say, I’ve coveted it for years and finally got one (in a cheerful shade of pastel pink, no less). You’re probably wondering, “Is it really worth it?” Yes, and I have the brownies and sourdough loaves to prove it.

—Hannah Nowack, Senior Editor

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Dear Lennon…

IN EVERY ISSUE, OUR ADVICE COLUMNIST WILL ANSWER YOUR JUICIEST WEDDING PLANNING QUESTIONS.

How Do I Tell My Friends They Aren’t in the Wedding Party?

I have two close friends from high school. One is married, and I was a bridesmaid in her wedding a few years ago. My partner and I are keeping our wedding party small, with only our siblings and one best friend each. I know that my two friends will be disappointed that they’re not included. How do I tell them they’re not in the wedding party?

— Stressed Friend

Here’s the easy answer: You don’t. It’s nearly impossible to directly tell someone they’re not included in your wedding party without hurting their feelings. If they ask, you can tell them exactly what you said here—that you want to keep your wedding party small to match the intimate size of your event. Are these friends invited to the bach party or shower? Can you give them another role in the wedding day (ushers or readers at the ceremony, for example)? If so, that may soften the blow. Look at the bright side: Being a wedding party member requires a lot of time and money, so your friends may actually be grateful not to be included.

My Best Friend Won’t Attend My Son’s Wedding!

My son is getting married in August. I am friendly with his ex-girlfriend, whom he dated for many years. It was through this relationship that I became best friends with the young woman’s mother. My soon-to-be daughter-in-law agreed to invite only the parents of this family, thereby excluding the ex-girlfriend. I completely respect my future daughterin-law’s decision as she is my priority. My friend recently told me she would not be attending the wedding. Her feelings are hurt, and she feels insulted and betrayed by this decision.

I understand she could feel hurt. Given the circumstances, however, I had hoped we could share this special day. I would love some advice on the best way to handle the situation, as I’d like to maintain the relationship with my friend and her family.

— At a Loss

Got a question for Lennon?

Email advice@theknotww.com or slide into our DMs—we’ve got the answers.

I want to begin by saying that you are absolutely right for supporting your daughterin-law, and I applaud you for doing so and standing your ground. If you would like to discuss this situation with your friend, I’d ask her a simple question: “What would you do if the situation was reversed?” Would she steamroll her future child-in-law’s guest list in a way that makes them uncomfortable? I doubt it. And if your friend still can’t understand your predicament and refuses to attend the wedding, you’re probably better off. If she’s making you choose between your family and her, she’s (sadly) not a true friend.

My Mom Won’t Come to My Wedding if My Dad’s New Wife Is There!

My parents got divorced eight years ago, and three years ago, my dad married his former mistress. My mom has stated that she won’t attend my wedding if my dad’s new wife is there. My dad is paying for the wedding and is fine with my mom attending, but my mom’s side of the family is pressuring me not to invite my dad’s wife. I understand my mom’s feelings, but is it too much to ask to have both of my parents attend my wedding?

— Torn Daughter

It’s certainly not too much to ask, and I agree that this is a difficult situation. However, your mom needs to realize that her love and support for her daughter should come before her negative feelings toward your father and his new wife. The best thing for you to do is to invite both sets of parents and hope your mom will come to her senses. Yes, it may be stressful for her to be in the same room as your father and his new wife (even after such a long period of time), but you can assure her that they’ll be seated separately, walk down the aisle at different times, etc., and let her know that the decision to attend or not is hers and hers alone. Hopefully, she’ll put her feelings aside to be present for your day. In the end, this is your mother’s issue to work through, not yours.

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1. Snuggle in bed all day with these cozy silk sheets. Silk sheet set, $422, LilySilk.com

2. Embellish your bed with cotton matelassé shams. Pillow sham, from $64, TheCompanyStore.com

3. Capture your innermost thoughts on paper. Intelligent Change dream journal, $25, Amazon.com

4. This painted carafe set ensures you’ll never go to bed parched again. Carafe and tumbler, $95, PetraPalumbo.com

5. These glasses block artificial light to help you wind down before bed. Glasses, $60, Izipizi.com

6. Gently wake up with refreshingly non-alarming alarm sounds. Alarm clock, $120, ByLoftie.com

7. This nightie’s soft, lightweight cotton voile material lets your skin breathe. Nightgown, $228, ShopDoen.com

8. Work through prompts derived from cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia to alleviate restlessness. Anti-Insomnia notebook, $28, Shop. TherapyNotebooks.com

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So you never ated to Roger Vivier elevates the Mary Jane to new strass accents a heel Mini Très Strass Babies pumps, $1,575, RogerVivier com

2. Reconsider what you think an engagement ring should look like. Dior jewelry designer Victoire de Castellane presents quite the case for rose quartz. $6,000, Dior.com

Reconsider what you think an engagement like Victoire de Castellane presents the case for rose quartz. Rose ring, Dior com

3. Try this subtle but shimmery wedding day glow for lips, courtesy of Chanel. Baume,

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BALLETCORE IS THE NAME. RIBBONS, FULL SKIRTS AND BLUSH PINK ARE THE GAME FOR A BUNHEAD-APPROVED BRIDAL LOOK THAT IS, WELL, ON POINTE.

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4. A beribboned choker takes center stage when coupled with a tight chignon. Rose choker, $65, LeleSadoughi.com

5. For a modern take on classic pearl studs, Dior doubles up on the bridal-perfect accessory. Tribales faux pearl studs, $470, Dior.com

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6. Not only is this clutch ideal for corralling day-of essentials, but the brand will customize it with a tonal monogram. Maud satin clutch, $625, AnyaHindmarch.com

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Brandy Allen,

1. “Finding a product that can work for face and body is essential for my makeup kit. Westmore Beauty’s Supreme Crème is also a 12-hour waterproof product that’s won’t rub off. If you’re looking to use a one-step replacement for your foundation, selftanner, setting powder and moisturizer, look no further.” —Brandy Allen, Celebrity Makeup Artist

2. “Urban Skin RX has a multifunctioning Super C Brightening serum that is perfect for everyday use. For big events, it’s ideal for prepping the skin before applying makeup. It helps foundation glide on to create a smooth finish, and it’s weightless enough for clients with semi-oily skin.” —Allen

Beauty SHOP

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Having It All

FROM WONDER BALMS TO “MAGIC ERASERS,” WE (WITH THE HELP OF A FEW PROS) ROUND UP THE BEST BRIDAL BEAUTY MULTITASKERS.

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3. “Long-lasting with 12 hours of staying power and moisture thanks to vitamin E, my Molten matte liquid lipsticks will take a bride from wedding to reception. You can also use them to add color to cheeks or eyes.” —Natasha Moor, Celebrity Makeup Artist

4. “One of my favorite multipurpose products is Neova’s Silc Sheer 2.0 SPF 40. It’s moisturizer, primer and color in one. It’s also perfect to wear under a foundation for extra protection.” —Allen

5. “Bioclear is a transformative multitasker that is formulated with glycolic, salicylic and azelaic acids. It offers dramatic improvements in signs of aging, texture, acne, discoloration and rosacea.”

—Jan Marini, Aesthetician

6. “For once, the hype behind an Instagram-viral beauty product matches the results. Jones Road’s Miracle Balm is easy to apply and can be used on eyes, cheeks and lips. It’s translucence is ideal for makeup minimalists.”

—Naomi Rougeau, Senior Fashion & Beauty Editor

7. “Lake & Skye’s 11 11 Azure scent can also be used as a mood booster, uplifting and transforming one’s overall disposition. Weddings are all about the experience, so an aromatic atmosphere while getting ready will create a memorable vibe.” —Allen

ITEMS TO ADD TO YOUR CART, STAT.

CEREMONY:

• Blankets

• Fans

• Umbrellas

• Tissues

• Unity candle

• Programs

• Flower-girl basket

• Ring-bearer pillow

RECEPTION:

• Cake stand

• Water bottles

• Dance-floor props

• Toasting flutes

• Place-card holders

• Cake knife and server set

1. Three cheers for elevated customizable cocktail napkins. Bonus: They’re compostable! Cotton napkins, $50 for 50, us.MyDrap.com

2. Someone is bound to get a blister. Be prepared and have this mini first-aid kit at the ready. Quick Fix Kit, $8, GetWelly.com

Extra, Extra

READ ALL ABOUT IT. WE’RE ROUNDING UP THE LAST-MINUTE ITEMS YOU SHOULDN’T OVERLOOK WHEN PLANNING.

BY HANNAH NOWACK

3. Trust us, you’ll need a frame when you least expect it. Have one on hand, like this Aerin Lauder–designed piece, if Nana brings her wedding portrait to showcase or you forget a menu sign. 5" x 7" frame, $125, Williams-Sonoma.com

4. Party the night away without pesky chafing. Anti-chafe balm, $16, Kinfield.com

5. Colorful taper candles are a festive finishing touch for any table. 18" taper candles, $20 for two, TheFloralSociety.com

6. Order a custom guest book to show off your engagement pics. Pro tip: Don’t forget to stock up on high-quality felt-tip pens. Guest book, from $165, ArtifactUprising.com

7. Skip the random Postit—your vows deserve a notebook as memorable as the words contained within. Leather vow book, from $25, OxandPine.com

Despite how much emphasis we place on the (most often diamond) ring, pearls have retained their status in the wedding jewelry arsenal for well over a century. Unlike the former, where we often focus on perfection in terms of cut, clarity, color and carat, pearl jewelry designers (and their customers) are embracing asymmetry like never before.

“Perfectly spherical pearls will continue to be prized for classic strands,” says Leon Rbibo, president of online retailer The Pearl Source, whom we consulted for our guide to pearls on page 28. In case you’re curious, 18 inches is the most popular length for a necklace, with pearl diameter typically increasing with the wearer’s age and spending power (see: Nancy Pelosi’s Gobstoppers). That said, Rbibo admits that “perfectly imperfect” baroque pearls

(their unique silhouettes coming mostly from freshwater mollusks) have become quite fashionable, particularly for earrings, though the trend is by no means limited to jewelry.

The Bridal Fashion Week runways were teeming with (mostly faux) pearl-embellished dresses of every stripe, from minidresses at Dana Harel to floor-sweeping numbers at Ese Azenabor. (Word of caution with hard floors: Your guests may hear you before they see you.) Designer Alejandra Alonso Rojas took things a step further, creating anideal“somethingblue”withaslinkycharmeuseslipdress embellished with baroque freshwater pearls. Whatever you do, try to put aside any complexes you may have about the gems. There is truly a pearl accent to suit anyone.

—Naomi Rougeau

Going for Baroque

Pearls

Roll With It

TOSS THE TWINSET. THESE AREN’T YOUR GRANDMOTHER’S PEARLS.

When Japanese entrepreneur Kokichi Mikimoto perfected the process of harvesting cultured pearls in 1893, precision was the name of the game. For nearly a century, owning a graduated strand of perfectly spherical pearls that grazed the collarbone was a rite of passage for millions of women, its iconic status cemented by the likes of Grace Kelly and Queen Elizabeth II. Though long synonymous with a certain prim aesthetic, pearl jewelry actually has a far more interesting past (and future) thanks to several trailblazers.

In the 1940s, Sicilian Duke Fulco di Verdura—a New York City transplant, jewelry designer and founder of jewelry brand Verdura—embraced the whimsy and perfect imperfection of the natural world with his fantastical creations. In the ultimate mix of high and low (before such a blend was au courant), Verdura would frequently visit the gift shop of the Museum of Natural History to procure seashells that he embellished with pearls and other gemstones—to the delight of everyone from Coco Chanel to Cole Porter. Verdura’s designs continue to be regularly copied. Like any item associated with the Establishment, pearls had long been ripe for being taken down a peg, and Vivienne Westwood was the woman for the job. With her punk bona fides, the English designer introduced a three-row pearl choker in 1990 and challenged Britain’s power structure by placing a Sovereign Orb–inspired logo front and center. Westwood’s death in 2022 left a void in the industry, but her independent spirit lives on in countless fearless creatives. Case in point: Schiaparelli’s Daniel Roseberry (whose spring ’24 couture look, seen opposite on Karlie Kloss, featured a dramatic fringe of thread “pearls”) and Pharrell Williams, a man whose affinity for layering long strands of the gem is no secret.

PEARLS 101

SALTWATER PEARLS

Grading Types Trends

Akoya (Japanese): The most mainstream and affordable cultured white pearls. Typically small, they can have creamy or silvery tones.

Tahitian: Black pearls (can range from pale green or gray to nearly jet). These are rarer and more expensive than Akoyas.

South Sea (Australian): The largest and most expensive white pearls on the market. A single strand can easily run six figures.

FRESHWATER PEARLS

The lowest priced and lowest luster pearls on the market. They are formed in freshwater mussels as opposed to saltwater oysters.

While there is no universal pearl grading system as there is with diamonds, quality and price are determined by three main factors:

Shape

Luster

Surface Imperfections

Tahitian Baroque pearls are incredibly popular right now. There are thousands of different variations of greens, from pistachio to olive. Among the rarest shade is the multi-hued peacock green, which contains a purplish center that lends an almost oil-slick appearance.

Care

Most pearl necklaces require restringing every 5 to 10 years if worn infrequently and handled properly, with silk thread preferred over nylon.

Rbibo has a simple rule of “last on, first off.” If you’re going to be putting on perfumes or cosmetics, do so first, before donning your pearls. Then at the end of the evening, the pearls should be the first thing to come off.

GRACE KELLY IN MIKIMOTO PEARLS IN A PROMOTIONAL

PHOTO FOR 1954’S REAR WINDOW

PHARRELL WILLIAMS IN CHANEL PEARLS; PEARL LILY OF THE VALLEY BROOCH BY FULCO DI VERDURA

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SSphere of Influence

WHETHER REAL, FAUX OR MOTHER-OF-PEARL, ADDING A LITTLE LUSTER TO YOUR LOOK WILL ONLY ENHANCE YOUR WEDDING DAY GLOW.

FAUX OR ADDING A LITTLE LUSTER UR WILL DAY GLOW

1. Even quotidian objects deserve to be elevated for the big day. No. 2 comb,

2. The world is your oyster. Spring for a bag that encapsulates your wedding day bliss. Simone Rocha bag, $700, Matches Fashion.com

3. Slip on this headturning something blue, embellished with real freshwater pearls. Silk slip dress, $1,395, AlejandraAlonso Rojas.com

4. Fernando Jorge

statement earrings out of 18k yellow gold, diamonds, and mother-of-pearl. Surrounding earrings, price on request, Fernando Jorge.co.uk

5. With a large faux pearl seated atop delicate ivory lace, Jimmy Choo’s stiletto sandal

elevates any bridal look. Sacora 85 sandal $1,395, JimmyChoo.com

6. Faux pearl sunnies offer a playful party look perfect for photo ops. Pearl Elton sunglasses, $195, LeleSadoughi .com

$42, ShopMachete.com

fashions the ultimate bridal

AKOYA PEARL AND DIAMOND NECKLACE, MIKIMOTOAMERICA.COM

KARLIE KLOSS IN SCHIAPARELLI SPRING/ SUMMER 2024 HAUTE COUTURE

Making Cents of the Numbers

FEELING INTIMIDATED ABOUT ALLOCATING YOUR WEDDING FINANCES? EVEN IF YOU’RE NOT A NUMBERS PERSON, HERE’S HOW TO TACKLE THE BUDGET…ONCE AND FOR ALL.

BY SAMANTHA IACIA

Let’s get into the numbers. The average wedding cost $35,000 in 2023, according to The Knot Real Weddings Study, which surveyed nearly 10,000 couples married last year. Consider this easy-to-follow guide your financial bestie as you navigate the planning journey.

DON’T OVERLOOK PRIOR OBLIGATIONS

TAKE STOCK OF YOUR SPENDING

What does your current financial picture look like? Understanding the lay of the land will help you realistically set money aside each month for your wedding. Decide on payment methods (like a new savings account) for wedding-related costs.

Remember to factor in expenses for the near future, like vacations you’ve already planned, weddings you’re attending or other big-budget goals like moving.

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CONSIDER ALL CONTRIBUTORS

Before you cash that check from your future in-laws for the wedding fund, chat with them about how to best spend it.

OUTLINE MUST-HAVES

Gotta have that live jazz band you found? Prioritize what matters most to you—and where you’re willing to spend more money—before moving on to other details where you don’t want to invest as heavily.

DEVISE A PAYMENT PLAN

Some good news: Most vendors won’t need all of your money at once. Ask potential event professionals about the deposits they require up front and allocate the remaining payments over the next couple of months as needed.

TIME TO SPLIT THE BILL

Dividing the wedding budget among your vendors can feel like putting together a 1,000-piece puzzle. Luckily, we’ve got insider knowledge to help you get started. Here’s a quick rundown of how much of the total budget goes toward each vendor category on average, according to our internal data. Remember that your budget breakdown will look different based on your priorities. Couples hire

an average of 14 vendors, and these figures represent the typical percentages couples allocate to these categories if they choose to use a given pro. Use them as a starting point and adjust them up or down as needed for your priorities. Crunching the numbers isn’t the sexiest date-night activity, but you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment after filling out this worksheet. Reward yourselves with a celebratory drink.

WEDDING CATEGORY

Venue & Rentals

Photography & Videography

Flowers & Decor

Music

Attire & Beauty

Wedding Rings

Wedding Planner

Additional Entertainment

Transportation

Stationery

Officiant

YOUR BUDGET $

Quick math lesson! Multiply the category percentage (in decimals) by your total budget number. For single-digit percentages, remember to include a zero after the decimal point. Example: 0.29 x 20,000 = $5,800

The Wedding Setting

HOST YOUR WEDDING AT ONE OF THESE FAMOUS FILMING LOCATIONS. (CRITICS AND GUESTS WILL APPROVE!)

By Sarah Hanlon

Attention movie and TV buffs: If you’ve dreamt of getting married at a famous filming location, we have great news—you can. From historic castles to luxe resorts, some of the most iconic settings in pop culture are available to book for weddings. Explore a few favorites here, like the French-style estate from Taylor Swift’s “Blank Space” music video and the Sicilian resort where Season 2 of The White Lotus was shot. After all, if there’s a time for main character energy, it’s your wedding day.

“Blank Space” Music Video: Oheka Castle, New York

This Long Island venue surged in popularity after it played host to Taylor Swift’s 2014 “Blank Space” music video. With sprawling maze gardens, impeccable landscaping and majestic architecture, the French-inspired estate exudes sophistication and grandeur—perfect for weddings.

Couples who book the venue have access to multiple exquisite event rooms and whiteglove service. (Now if only you could score a performance by Taylor for the reception…)

Season 2 WhiteLotus: San Domenico Palace, Italy

While you can’t check into The White Lotus IRL, you *can* book a stay at San Domenico Palace, Taormina, A Four Seasons Hotel. The second season of HBO’s popular anthology series was filmed at this 14th-century Italian hotel on the southeastern coast of Sicily. Nestled by the Ionian Sea, the venue boasts lush gardens, ocean-view terraces and hidden courtyards—perfect for the destination vow swap of your wildest dreams. Jennifer Coolidge cameos not guaranteed.

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JurassicPark: Kualoa Ranch, Hawaii

GossipGirl: The Foundry, New York

Gossip Girl here. Want to swap vows at one of the hottest spots in town? You and your S.O. can get hitched at The Foundry, a buzzworthy venue in Long Island City, Queens, that served as the backdrop for Gossip Girl’s “Kiss on the Lips” party from the series’s pilot episode. With cool industrial features like exposed brick, tall windows and ivy-covered walls, it’s a sophisticated venue choice for New Yorkers at heart.

This private nature reserve has been the backdrop for a handful of famous movies and TV shows, including 50 First Dates, Lost, Godzilla and, perhaps most notably, Jurassic Park. In fact, Kualoa Ranch has become such a popular filming location that it’s been dubbed the “back lot of Hawaii.” When it isn’t reserved for filming, Kualoa Ranch can also be the site of your bespoke bash: The 4,000-acre venue on Oahu has plenty of indoor and outdoor spaces that all offer unparalleled ocean views.

BrideWars: The Plaza Hotel, New York

It doesn’t get more quintessential New York than a wedding at The Plaza Hotel. This Big Apple landmark is where frenemies Liv and Emma battled to throw their respective weddings in Bride Wars. Although the movie was mostly filmed at The Plaza’s sister location, the Fairmont

TheNotebook: The American Theater, South Carolina

Take a page out of Allie and Noah’s notebook and exchange vows at The American Theater in Charleston, South Carolina. This charming vintage movie house was the setting for the couple’s first date in the 2004 flick. The interior oozes old Hollywood glam with its Art Deco design and framed portraits of iconic films. Not only can you rent out the cinema for private screenings during your wedding weekend, but the team can also personalize the marquee sign overlooking King Street.

Copley Plaza in Boston, you can have your wedding at this iconic New York City staple IRL. Thanks to cavernous ceilings, ornate neoclassical architecture and classic big-city charm, the hotel’s prestigious ballrooms are incredible places to host your celebration.

TheLordoftheRings: Hobbiton, New Zealand

Exchange wedding bands more precious than the One Ring at Hobbiton, the real-life filming location of The Lord of the Rings movies. This New Zealand wedding venue brims with fantasy and magic for fans of LOTR and The Hobbit. Hobbiton includes key elements from the films (including Hobbit

Holes, gardens and the Party Tree), plus it has themed ceremony and venue spaces to make you and your guests feel like you’ve stepped into Middle-earth.

The Fine Print

BY KIM FORREST ILLUSTRATIONS BY NATALIE ROMINE

As you’re building your vendor team, you’re probably encountering one of the more unexpected parts of wedding planning: contracts. Didn’t think you’d need a law degree to put together a party, did you? Well, you definitely don’t have to be Elle Woods to understand vendor contracts, but since they’re legally binding, it’s smart to get familiar with the lingo so you can sign on the dotted line with confidence. We enlisted a wedding photographer-slash-attorney to give you a brief legal primer and decipher some frequently used jargon. What, like it’s hard?

As you’re your vendor team, you’re encountering one of the more parts of contracts. Didn’t think nee Well, you don’t have to be Elle Woods to understand vendo mart to get familiar with the so you can on the dotted lin rapher-slash-attorney to give you a brief primer and

Wedding Contract FAQs

So, you’ve found your dream [insert vendor here] and just received their contract. Where do you even begin? Magi Fisher

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The Artists’ Lawyer shares her advice on

The Artists’ Lawyer shares her advice on how to navigate vendor contracts.

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Q: Why should couples have contracts with their wedding vendors?

MF: It’s essential to make sure that locked in for the correct location and services everything the vendor’s payment terms and what in case of emergency in a document will prevent confusion

MF: It’s essential to make sure that you’re locked in for the correct date, location and services. Having everything—the vendor’s responsibilities, payment terms and what happens in case of emergency—in a legally binding document will prevent confusion should an unforeseen situation arise. Both you and your vendors will know exactly what to expect, which is crucial for major events like weddings.

Q: What are the most important parts of a vendor contract?

MF: All vendor contracts should include the following:

• Basic information about the event (date, time, location)

• A clear description of the services and/or products that will be provided and the expected delivery dates

• Exactly how much the couple will pay and when payments are due

• What happens in case of unexpected situations like cancellations (either by the couple or the vendor)

• Other policies or terms that are specific to that vendor

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The Artists’ Lawyer @TheArtistLawyer

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A Glossary of Contract Lingo

As you’re reading through the legalese, you may encounter some new-to-you words and phrases. Here, Magi Fisher defines terms frequently used in vendor contracts.

Scope of Services

The scope of services, sometimes referred to as a scope of work, outlines the specific services and/or deliverables a provider will deliver to a client. This is typically a detailed list of tasks, products and milestones. It should be clear and concise, leaving no room for ambiguity.

Payment Terms

The payment terms outline how, when and in what amount a party gets paid for goods or services. Think of it as the financial road map for fulfilling the agreement. This should cover timing (if payments are due up front, upon completion or in installments), how payments are made (bank transfer, credit card), total sum owed, and any late fees or conditions (milestones that must be met before payment or deliverables are released).

Q: How should a read a

Q: How should a couple read through a vendor contract?

MF: Both you and your partner should read it carefully and completely, and make note of any questions or concerns. It’s totally reasonable to request a call with the vendor to walk you through the contract if there are parts you don’t understand. Not only will you get clarity, but you’ll also get a feel for the vendor’s personality and your relationship with them.

Q: Can a vendor contract be changed?

MF: It’s okay to ask for changes to a contract as long as it doesn’t significantly impact the way the vendor provides their services. Things like adjusting the payment schedule or the deadline for rescheduling events are often acceptable changes. Note that a vendor is totally within their rights to refuse changes—and both parties have to agree to continue the relationship or walk away.

Q: Are there any red flags a couple should take note of when reading through it?

MF: The biggest deal-breaker is if a vendor doesn’t have a contract at all. If a vendor takes their contract seriously, they take their business—and therefore your wedding—seriously. If you’re paying a lot of money to hire a wedding pro, they should have a professional contract that shows that they are committed to your event. It should be several pages long, with no typos, and be clearly written and organized.

Q: How long does a couple have to review a vendor contract?

MF: Most vendors won’t hold a date without a contract. You can take five to seven business days to review it, but a vendor probably won’t hold your date for more than two weeks. Things can be fast-paced, so it does put some pressure on clients to make quick decisions.

Examples:

Net 30: Payment due 30 days after invoice receipt.

50% upfront, 50% on completion: Half paid before starting, half when they finish.

Timeline/Schedule

Stage payments: Payment released at defined project milestones.

A timeline/schedule is essentially a road map for the project or service you’re agreeing upon. It lays out the key milestones and deadlines that both parties need to adhere to, ensuring that the work is completed efficiently and on time. It’s like an itinerary for a road trip: You have your final destination (project completion), but you also need to know the key stops along the way (milestones) and the estimated arrival times (deadlines) for each.

Here’s a breakdown of what a timeline/schedule typically includes:

Key milestones:

These are the major markers of progress throughout the project, such as signing the contract, completing deliverables or reaching certain stages of development.

Deadlines:

Each milestone has a target date for its completion. Mark these on your calendar so you don’t forget

Dependencies:

Some milestones may depend on the completion of others before they can begin. The schedule should reflect these dependencies to ensure a logical flow of work

Flexibility:

While deadlines are important, it’s also useful to build in some wiggle room to accommodate unforeseen circumstances. This could involve buffer periods between milestones or contingency plans for potential delays.

Cancellation Policy

A cancellation policy outlines the terms and conditions under which either party can terminate the agreement before its completion. It’s essentially a safety net, protecting both the client and the service provider in case something goes wrong or circumstances change. The rescheduling or cancellation terms depend on how much time there is before the event and whether the vendor would be able to rebook a date. Don’t expect a refund, especially if you cancel last minute. If a vendor’s already ordered perishable items like food and flowers, for instance, those items will go to waste at great cost.

Force Majeure Clause

This is essentially a safety net for both the couple and the vendors in case of unforeseen circumstances that prevent either party from fulfilling their obligations under the terms of the contract. It outlines the conditions under which either party can be excused from their contractual obligations without penalty. A well-defined clause ensures fair treatment for both parties in case of a disruptive event (like a hurricane), minimizing potential conflicts and financial losses. This section may feel heavy with legal jargon, and it can help to have a transparent conversation with your vendor about how they handle these scenarios and what their contract states.

Liability

Liabilitiesconcern thelegalobligationofonepartytocompensate theother for any loss or damage arising from a breach of contract. It’s essentially who is financially responsible and to what extent if something goes wrong. This section typically determines the cost of damages caused by violating or failing to fulfill the terms of the agreement. This could include financial losses, property damage, loss of images or even personal injury.

Vendor Meals

Weather Contingency Plans

These outline various procedures and solutions for handling expected or unexpected weather conditions that could impact the event’s success or safety. They make sure you’re ready to adapt and ensure everyone involved knows what to do and who will make time-sensitive decisions.

Dispute Resolution

A dispute resolution clause outlines the how, when and where any disagreements between the parties will be resolved. Essentially, it’s a road map for finding fair and efficient solutions in case anything goes wrong. Dispute resolution methods may include: negotiation or informal discussions; mediation, when a neutral third party facilitates communication and helps parties reach an agreement; arbitration, a binding decision by a neutral arbitration, whose ruling is final and enforceable; and litigation, a formal legal proceeding in court, which can be expensive and time-consuming. Dispute resolution sections may establish any fees or costs, such as fees for a mediator, arbitrator or attorney. This section may also include the jurisdiction, which is where any legal proceeding will take place.

Model Release

A model release is where an individual grants permission for their name, image, likeness or other personal material to be used in specific ways, such as marketing materials, publicity or media coverage. For example, this affects whether your photographer can share your photos with The Knot for publication.

Intellectual Property

Intellectual property sections govern the ownership and rights to created works, including trademarks, copyrights, trade secrets and designs. These protect the value and ownership of creative work, and clauses will typically define ownership, usage rights and potential limitations on how created works can be used. Typically, a service provider will retain ownership of any created works (like photos or videos) and may provide clauses to protect how and where you share their materials. sustained energy A hot meal lets them take a refuel how and where you share their materials

Many wedding vendors include a clause regarding hot meals. This ensures that the service provider and their staff will be fed, typically on-site, after working a certain number of hours. It’s common for vendor teams to work long hours, which requires sustained energy. A hot meal lets them take a quick break, refuel and maintain focus.

The Business of Dreams

MEET THE NEXT GENERATION MAKING ITS MARK ON THE WEDDING FASHION INDUSTRY AND CREATING MAGICAL MOMENTS, ALL WHILE BALANCING THE RESPONSIBILITIES THAT COME WITH RUNNING FAMILY FIRMS.

By Lauren Whalley

During an age when so many fashion houses have moved light years away from their founders’ visions, the bridal industry remains steeped in tradition. It’s a somewhat insular world largely immune to trends, and for some of the industry’s biggest institutions—many of them family-owned—that’s just fine.

Built on strong foundations and infused with love, dedication and craftsmanship, these businesses have played a significant role in shaping the market and aiding countless tobe-weds in the search for their dream dress. That’s not to say they’re unaware of the changing tides. True staying power comes from the ability to evolve, and a new generation is emerging, armed with their forebears’ expertise and an innate love of design. While conscious of the weight of such an inheritance, they’re also keen to build their own legacies.

These trailblazers, though unafraid to challenge the status quo, must strike a balance between modernity and tradition. They have to meet the needs of the next generation of brides, many of whom are bucking tradition both in the designs they choose and how they shop. These heirs aim to bring fresh energy to their family firms by embracing virtual

showrooms, e-commerce sites and using social media to expand their audiences. But they still understand that a little champagne and hand-holding goes a long way toward easing the nerves of nearlyweds.

The next generation, with their own new ideas, will continue to inspire couples worldwide and act as custodians of their families’ histories, many of them incredible immigrant success stories. We sat down with six of these industry leaders to learn more about the evolution of their brands, their struggles and why they remain optimistic about the future.

Shine Brighter Together

Justin Warshaw

Brand: The Justin Alexander Group

Role: CEO and Creative Director

Justin Alexander is a household name in wedding fashion. The Warshaw family’s company’s journey began in 1946 when Justin Alexander Warshaw’s grandparents, Ted and Shirley, opened T&G Bridal in Brooklyn, NY, with a focus on bridal accessories. “Our early success was driven by our pioneering approach to inclusivity, featuring a diverse team and a female cofounder,” says Warshaw. The business soon evolved to include wedding dresses and quickly became a crowd favorite among salons and brides alike. Today, Justin Alexander is sold in over 2,000 stores in 62 countries.

Warshaw—who practically grew up in the offices while also traveling to trade shows around the globe—took to the business and absorbed everything there was to know about the merchandising, product and

design processes. Looking to the future, he aims to continue pushing the boundaries of the wedding industry and staying true to the brand’s identity. “I have made sure that our values and mission remain the same, while taking a new approach toward developing our future,” he says. “When there are opportunities, we honor our legacy. We developed a fragrance called ‘Thanks & Goodluck,’ from the name of my grandpar-

ents’ company, T&G Bridal; we brought back the accessories line that they founded, and we reintroduced the collection that my father created, Sweetheart Gowns.” Warshaw strives for greater connectivity between boutiques and consumers to provide the best service possible and promote inclusivity and diversity. He is constantly exploring new materials, techniques and technologies in order to remain a step ahead.

Crystal Lu

Brand: Casablanca Bridal

Role: Creative Director and Executive Assistant to CEO

The Casablanca Bridal story began with, of all things, the would-be cofounder’s broken engagement, followed by a chance meeting on a train in China, a whirlwind romance and a big leap of faith. What came next was a great American success story. “My dad gave up his career as a surgeon in China and moved to California for love,” says Crystal Lu. “He worked as a janitor and liquor store clerk to make ends meet before he and my mother decided to leverage their bilingual advantage to start a business.”

Today, Casablanca Bridal is renowned as one of the fastest-growing and most popular designers and manufacturers of wedding dresses in the industry. For Lu, who has vivid memories of making toys out of fabric scraps as a child, joining the family business was inevitable, but her business degree from the University of Southern California took things to the next level. As creative director, she works to balance tradition with innovation and is responsible for the launch of Casablanca’s Le Blanc line of minimalist dresses.

What sets Casablanca Bridal apart from other similar businesses is that it goes beyond the wedding day. Its mission is to design dresses that celebrate the start of a lifelong commitment. In fact, the company believes so strongly in the power of healthy relationships and families that Lu’s parents started a nonprofit organization in 2015. Called Celebrate Forever, it provides free education, skills and resources for creating

Gisele Del Busto & Annia Lopez

Brand: Maria Elena Headpieces

Roles: Fashion & Sales Director, Marketing & Communications Director

Maria Elena Headpieces & Accessories came to life when hands-on mother Maria Elena Fuentes designed a hair accessory for her daughter’s wedding. The elaborate, one-of-a-kind piece caught the attention of friends, sparking an idea that would become a booming business. Two generations later, Maria’s granddaughter, Annia Lopez, is set to take over the business along with Gisele Del Busto, who has been with the company for over 17 years.

The design studio has been Lopez’s playground and second home since childhood, a place where she has had the freedom to create her own designs and voice her opinions about others. “I always felt a spark when speaking about my grandmother’s business. It made me

Susan Parker & Erica Cohen Rosenfeld

Brand: Bari Jay Roles: Co-Presidents

Bari Jay was born out of a special friendship between Howard Bialick and Bruce Cohen. “Our dad, Bruce, was in sales in the garment center and was offered a partnership by Howard, who loved him like a son,” say Susan Parker and Erica Cohen Rosenfeld. “Howard handled production, and Dad handled all sales, merchandising, market weeks and retail.”

When Howard died, Bruce was uncertain about continuing the bridesmaid dress business on his own. With the unwavering support of his wife, he rose to the challenge and embraced his role as the leader of Bari Jay. This theme resurfaced in 2008 when Parker and Rosenfeld

found themselves at a crossroads after their father’s death. Again, with their mother’s guidance, they carried the business forward, leveraging their knowledge of finance and public relations to modernize Bari Jay while honoring its core principles. “Like our father, we watch all of the awards shows and stay close to the runway,” they say. “We maintain the same small, familyrun environment while keeping up with trends.”

Guided by their company motto, “making memories,” the sisters’ ultimate goal is to remain a family business that helps others create cherished memories. Hearing stories from those wearing Bari Jay has been especially meaningful, as it reinforces the bond they share with their father. One of the best pieces of advice he imparted was to always be good, honest and fair. He was, in their words, “one of the best.”

realize my true calling was to continue her legacy,” she says. Looking to the future, Lopez and Del Busto aspire to expand Maria Elena’s global presence, making the brand synonymous with unparalleled craftsmanship. They hope to not just stay on top of bridal trends, but set them.

“Our design process is collaborative and intuitive, often drawing inspiration from diverse sources such as art, culture and nature,” says Del Busto. Speaking of nature, Del Busto says they are also committed to fostering sustainable practices, helping the bridal industry become more responsible and ensuring that their creations become cherished heirlooms.

Veronica Di Santo

Brand: Ines Di Santo

Role: Managing Partner

It all started when Ines Di Santo found a discarded Singer sewing machine on the side of the road. “My mom left Argentina due to the political unrest in 1974, and with almost no money, she created a new life in Toronto,” says Veronica Di Santo. Having learned dressmaking skills from studies in France and Italy, she was able to establish her eponymous company.

Di Santo became involved in the business at a very young age. She grew up playing on the floor of the atelier and felt a deep connection to her mother’s work. In the early years, she even created jewelry to complement her mother’s gowns. “The business has been part of my life from the beginning, and I’ve always seen myself in it,” Di Santo says. She holds immense respect for her mother’s vision and sees her role as the strategic head, ensuring a harmonious blend of tradition and

Looking to the future, Di Santo’s goal is to further expand the brand globally. She also follows her mother’s invaluable advice. Success, according to Ines, is not solely defined by achievements, but by the integrity

and values upheld throughout the journey. This guidance constantly reminds her to align every step with purpose and value, ensuring that the brand’s creations reflect the excellence and pride synonymous with the Di Santo name. innovation.

The Watters story began in the colorful tapestry of San Diego in the 1970s. Sydney Watters’ mom, Vatana, had a flair for fashion and a love of vintage finds. Alongside her sister, she would transform these treasures into unique pieces for school formals and nights out. After Vatana graduated from the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising, the family moved to Dallas to start her business. The city holds a

Sydney Watters

Brand: Watters

Role: Brand Director

special place in the founder’s heart. “She always calls Dallas her lucky star because it was a great place to start a business in the ’80s. Everyone she met was so helpful and supportive,” says Watters. The initial success paved the way for Watters Brides, and eventually the brand expanded to include Wtoo, Willowby and By Watters.

For the younger Watters, it was natural to be involved in the business. Growing up, she often found herself on photo sets, surrounded by creative minds in beautiful locations. After college, she initially joined Watters for a summer while figuring out her next steps. Seven years later, she remains an integral part of the business alongside her mother. “We’re learning how our generations can work together best, not only between us but throughout the company,” says Watters. “This is what keeps it fresh.”

Looking to the future, she remains eager to explore new styles and product categories. “Being based in Dallas rather than New York or Los Angeles puts us in an environment where we have to push, explore and travel for inspiration and to find what’s next,” Watters says.

The Wedding

Wedding planning is so exciting and quite stressful. Trust me, I know: I’ve planned over 200 events, and I’m now engaged and knee-deep in planning my own. (Don’t worry, we’ve got this!)

Like anything in life, starting is the hardest part. Good thing I’m here. We’ll break this down in sections, pave the foundation, then have all the fun. The world will tell you exactly what your wedding should look, feel and be like, but the answer is no. Focus on what feels right to you and your partner. Trust your gut and do what makes you both happy, not what you think you have to do. When the unsolicited wedding advice arrives (and it will), take it with a grain of salt. People mean well, but you can be selective. Now back to the basics. Repeat after me: GMLD.

JOVE, WHAT IS GMLD?

GUEST

COUNT

MONEY

LOCATION

DATE

These four items are the building blocks of planning, and you must talk through them together. For the guest count, get on the same page with your partner and your respective families. Create one main list, then revisit it to see if there’s anyone you want to add or remove. Then refine it again.

Now, it’s time to talk about money. It’s crucial to have this conversation early,

and honesty is required. Money will impact the bigger decisions you make, including guest count and your venue. More guests mean more money, and fewer guests mean less money. (Easier said than done, I know.)

My fiancé wants a large wedding, I want a small one, and we are now nearing somewhere in the middle. Also, it is important to think about what you want in the future, including kids, a home and maybe a yacht. In all seriousness, can you afford all the things you want in the next five years?

Once you’ve come to an agreement, we’re onto location. If you’ve long dreamt of a destination wedding, remember that with great travel comes great responsibility: You will be hosting multiple days of events, including the welcome party, wedding and brunch. That adds up. It’s important to think through if you’re more of a city couple or a nature couple. Do you want indoor or outdoor spaces? Hyperlocal or simply, local?

As of now, I want to marry on a beach in Mexico, and my fiancé wants a cool space in New York City. They say marriage is made up of compromises, and wedding planning is the perfect place to start.

The all-important date is next. Pending location, seasonality may play a big role. Imagine a beach wedding in Bali during monsoon season. (Not under my umbrella.) If you want to get more bang

Diaries

OUR NEW COLUMN SPOTLIGHTS THE PLANNING EXPERIENCE …FROM THE PLANNER’S POV.

By Jove Meyer

Illustration by Shelby Warwood

“Theysaymarriageis madeupofcompromises, andweddingplanningis theperfectplacetostart.”

for your buck, weekdays are a great way to save, as are shoulder seasons (just outside of peak dates in the location).

Also consider accommodations and transportation. In fact, before even booking your wedding, check with local hotels to ensure rooms are available for your guests. You should also confirm there’s no major event in town, since transportation might be thin.

Once your venue is booked, it’s time to celebrate again. Say this to the mirror: I will not plow through planning. Celebrate milestones as you go and keep the joy and excitement flowing.

About the Author

Jove Meyer is a celebrated wedding planner and designer based in Brooklyn, NY. A true visionary and advocate for inclusivity in the wedding industry, Meyer is the creator of the Ally Pledge and the host of the podcast Weddings-ish with Jove. You’ve seen him on Rachael Ray and Good Morning America, as well as here inThe Knot magazine as our new columnist.

MEYER ILLUSTRATION: TIANA CRISPINO

THE PERFECT DATE

What Your Wedding Date Says About You

ILLUSTRATIONS BY TIANA CRISPINO BY CATHRYN HAIGHT

THE DAY YOU WED SIGNIFIES WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE. PLUS, IT’S A FUN EXCUSE FOR AN ANNUAL CHAMPAGNE TOAST.

When are you getting married? Your chosen wedding date isn’t only a number or an answer you endlessly repeat to those excited about the upcoming nuptials. Depending on the numeral, the month, where the planets are aligned and some other factors, your wedding date can signify meaningful characteristics about your relationship. We’re breaking down what’s in store, though you’ll be on cloud nine no matter the number.

Based on Astrology

Yes, your wedding has a zodiac sign. Astrologers maintain that marriages will pick up qualities of the astrology season in which they begin, just like we do when we’re born. (Maybe that’s why September and October are such popular wedding months: They’re mostly ruled by balance- and peace-seeking Libra.) There are more nuances to these interpretations, but a quick summary by element is as follows: Fire sign (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) marriages will be infused with energy and passion. Earth sign (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) unions will center on finding joy and romance in life’s little moments. Couples with marriages ruled by air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) will likely be the first to get on trends and have quirky shared hobbies. Lastly, water sign (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) marriages will be built on foundations of tenderness, sentimentality and spirituality.

Based on Numerology

So you’ve made a wish at 11:11 every day and night since middle school. Looking at your “I do” date through a numerology lens could indicate the dominant qualities in your marriage. Each number from one through nine has an ascribed meaning in numerology and—before you ask—one number isn’t luckier than the rest. However, your life-path number as a couple and angel numbers (sequences of numerals with repeating patterns or digits) are thought to be auspicious. Common angel wedding dates include Feb-

ruary 22 (222), which brings balance and trust to a union as well as August 8 (88), a day that plays on the number eight’s powerful connection to infinity (marriage + infinity = aww). If your special day isn’t, err, angelic, you can still glean some symbolism by evaluating the meaning of each digit in your date. Here’s a quick breakdown: one = individuality; two = harmony; three = joy/socializing; four = integrity; five = adventure; six = service; seven = spirituality; eight = strength; nine = compassion.

Lucky in Love

How to find your life-path number (aka your lucky number as a couple).

According to numerology, if you add together you and your partner’s individual life-path numbers, you’ll get a single digit that’s extra auspicious for your relationship. Here’s how to do it:

Add together each digit of the number representing your birth month, day and year using the following formula: (M+M) + (D+D) + (Y+Y+Y+Y) = XX. For someone born on May 29, 1995, it would look like this: (0+5) + (2+9) + (1+9+9+5). If you have any double-digit numbers in these three subtotals, add the digits together once more to get a number between one and nine.

Keeping with our example, 5+11+24 would turn into 5 + (1+1) + (2+4), which would become 5 + 2 + 6 = 13. We want to get down to one digit here, so we’ll add each of those to our total to reveal our life-path number: 1+3 = 4.

Now do the same thing with your sweetheart’s birth date. Once you have both single-digit numbers, add them together to find your final life-path number. If the total is more than one digit, (you guessed it) add each one together to get the final result.

Based on the Moon

Your love isn’t just a phase, but the state of the moon when you walk down the aisle could bring you luck. A waxing moon and waning moon symbolize growth and bring about partnerships that can adapt in the face of adversity. A marriage under a full moon represents passion and equity, while one beneath a new moon will bring pure intentions and compassion to your new beginning. If you’re lucky enough to marry during a rare lunar event, supermoon weddings connote connection to positive change, and eclipse unions promote spiritual transformation. Even more exceptional: A blue moon—the second full moon in a month on the Gregorian calendar—is said to bring luck, enchantment and divine connection, so it’s a great time for your wedding. (After all, a love like yours only comes around “once in a blue moon.”)

Based on the Sun

The sun heralds the arrival of each new season, and if you’re getting hitched on a solstice or equinox, it might bring meaning to your union too. The solstices represent two opposite extremes, but both bring good tidings for weddings. On the winter solstice, the sun is born anew and, since it’s the shortest day of the year, there’s nothing but warmth and sunshine ahead—a good omen for a marriage. The summer solstice brings rejuvenation and vitality, perfect for a

couple who plans on partying through that longest stretch of daylight into the evening. Both the autumnal equinox and vernal equinox represent balance, but the fall event is especially auspicious, since it also hints at harmony in relationships and two seamlessly becoming one. Its spring counterpart represents joy and new beginnings, similar to a solar eclipse.

Based on the Days of the Week

Maybe you’ve heard that old English rhyme in Every Woman’s Encyclopaedia that says to marry on “Monday for wealth, Tuesday for health, Wednesday the best day of all, Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses and Saturday no luck at all.” So if we’re working within this logic, those of you choosing to get married on a Wednesday are extra lucky (and not just because you’re saving cash with a weekday affair). In Judaism, Tuesdays are also thought to be fortunate, since the third day after Creation, when God observed the world and “saw that it was good,” was a Tuesday. Sunday is considered the most-blessed day to wed in the Greek Orthodox Church, while for practicing Hindus, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday are auspicious options. And if you’re still worried by that rhyme saying Saturdays—the most popular day of the week for a wedding—are unlucky, leave that to the universe. Discover some fortunate findings from the other sections of this article to counteract that notion.

5 Ways to Pick Your

5 Ways to Pick Your Perfect Wedding Date

Based on the Months of the Year

So you’ve always had your heart set on a June wedding, but will that make for an advantageous marriage? The Greeks and Romans would say most definitely. June is dedicated to Juno (or Hera), who is the goddess of love, marriage and childbirth. January is also a tribute to the divine lady. In Chinese culture, even-numbered months are thought to carry extra blessings—especially August (do it on the 8th for even more luck). Peak wedding season in India is between November

and February, considered auspicious timing in some South Asian cultures. While we haven’t covered every cultural meaning here, rest assured that your wedding month will likely have some kind of positive connotation attached to it. And, if you haven’t said “I do” to a wedding date yet, you could even consider January or February nuptials because, in addition to their meaning in Chinese culture, their rarity makes them particularly special.

Feeling lucky?

See the wedding dates that’ll bring you good fortune in 2024, 2025, 2026 and 2027.

NEED EVEN MORE WEDDING DATE INSPO? USE THESE DECISION-MAKING TACTICS TO TACKLE CALENDAR PLANNING.

1. SETTLE ON A SEASON

If you’re all about moody hues, dirty martinis and speakeasy venues, late fall is a fit. For those drawn to baby blues, lush hydrangeas and “my sailboat is out back” energy, book a summer wedding. Note: You’ll see differences in pricing and vendor availability during peak wedding season (May to October).

2. MATCH A MILESTONE

Get hitched on the day you “made it official,” or opt to say “I do” on your first-date anniversary (also known as the day you said, “Are you X from Hinge?”). Also consider when your parents and grandparents got married, especially if the idea of an heirloom anniversary date makes your sentimental heart swell.

3. VIBE WITH YOUR VENUE

If you care less about the actual date and more about getting married at the neighborhood loft with a rooftop deck (that you may or may not have saved on Pinterest many years ago), lead with the venue’s availability. Ask for open dates throughout the next year or two, and refer to pricing and your preferred month or season to refine your options.

4. HARMONIZE WITH HOLIDAYS

If “Kiss me, I’m Irish” was your pick-up line of choice, make a St. Patrick’s Day wedding a lucky interpretation of your romantic beginnings. If the Christmas season gives you as many fuzzies as cuddling with your partner, perhaps you book a December bash.

5. NOTE THE NO-GOS

Avoid problematic dates like those that fall during busy blocks at work or those considered off-limits in your religion. Also, steer clear of weekends featuring major sporting events, festivals and the like in your wedding location that could detract from getting reasonably priced flights and hotel blocks.

Skin Deep Skin Deep

Wedding beauty decision fatigue setting in? A bride-to-be details what’s worth it…and what isn’t.

BY LAUREN WHALLEY

As a to-be-wed and a beauty editor, I have found that navigating the world of bridal beauty treatments has left me feeling both excited and, if I’m being honest, a tad overwhelmed. From choosing the perfect venue to finding the dress of my dreams, there have been so many decisions to make, appointments to attend and a seemingly never-ending to-do list to address. Amid all the planning, I know it’s super important to take care of myself so I’ll feel my best on my wedding day. It’s why I strongly recommend that to-be-weds take time to plan out their bridal beauty regimens, especially when it comes to options such as facials, dental work and lash tinting.

A detailed timeline has helped me manage my treatments effectively, allowing for sufficient recovery time and optimal results. Once I had a clear idea

Hydrafacial

1 week

Facials were high on my beauty prep list, as they help improve the skin’s complexion and provide a healthy glow. But I didn’t want just any facial, I wanted the Hydrafacial. This non-invasive beauty treatment uses advanced technology to deeply cleanse, exfoliate and hydrate the skin, leaving a healthy and youthful glow. As a beauty editor, I’ve tried my fair share of facials, but the Hydrafacial has exceeded my expectations. In one session, friends were asking what I’d done to get such a clear complexion. What I love most about it is that there’s no downtime—perfect for busy brides. Schedule a week before your wedding for optimal results.

of my aesthetic goals, I searched for the best local professionals. It is crucial to find experienced and reputable practitioners who understand your desired outcome and are sensitive to your schedule. Next, I booked consultations to discuss my objectives, assess my needs and begin collaborating on a tailored plan that aligns with my wedding date.

I’ve also prioritized self-care. By maintaining a healthy lifestyle and taking care of myself, both inside and out, I now feel confident that, from a beauty perspective, I can to walk down the aisle looking and feeling my absolute best. Every couple deserves to feel equally confident, so I’m sharing my experience with three popular treatments—alongside expert insights on some of the most sought-after enhancements. I hope that it will help you address your unique concerns and amplify your natural beauty without any additional stress. on some of the most enhancements I that it will you address your concerns and your natural

LAUREN’S TOP 3 BEAUTY TREATMENTS

Lash Lift and Tint

3 days

There’s nothing more satisfying than when people ask if my lashes are real, because yes, they are. My secret: lash tinting and lifting. Lash tinting involves applying a safe, semi-permanent dye to your natural lashes, intensifying their color to appear fuller and longer. To take it a step further, pair your lash tint with a lift, which raises and curls your lashes for a bright-eyed look. Schedule this just a few days before your wedding to ensure fresh, long-lasting results.

Invisalign

6-18 months

I admit I wasn’t the most diligent retainer wearer, so my teeth had shifted a bit since high school. Invisalign has been a gamechanger for me. The teeth-straightening treatment involves a series of virtually invisible clear aligners that are custommade for you to wear throughout the day, sans poky wires. Length of treatment varies according to the complexity of your case. I wore them for a little over a year, but saw results after a few months.

How

NEEDLE-SHY? FEAR NOT. THERE ARE PERFECTLY VIABLE AT-HOME ALTERNATIVES FOR MANY OF THE MOST POPULAR COSMETIC TREATMENTS FOR TO-BE-WEDS THAT WILL SUIT ANY BUDGET OR WEDDING TIMELINE.

LED Light Therapy

House of Lashes

Iconic falsies, $12, Sephora.com

Give your skin a radiance boost with LED light therapy, which uses different wavelengths of light to target skin concerns. Opt for blue LED light to help fight acne or red LED to stimulate collagen production and reduce fine lines and wrinkles. Many at-home LED masks have been tested and deemed nearly as effective as those you might find at a dermatologist’s office (Omnilux

and Therabody are among the most popular)

5 days

Lash Tinting

8-10 weeks 1 week

Dermaplane starter kit, $12, MyBillie.com

Lash Tinting vs. False Lashes

DERMAPLANING

NING

Peach fuzz is a of the past thanks to a treatment that removes dead skin cells and hair

Peach fuzz is a thing of the past thanks to dermaplaning, a treatment that manually removes dead skin cells and hair using a dermaplane (a small blade). The process promotes smooth skin and product absorption, helping your skin care products work more effectively. You can also try it at home using specially designed razor such as the one in Billie’s Dermaplane starter kit. Just be sure to clean your face thoroughly and use gentle strokes to avoid irritation, though mild “purging” is not unusual.

MICROCURRENT VS. FACEGYM

A workout for your face? Say no more. During a microcurrent session, a handheld device delivers low-level electrical currents to stimulate facial muscles to create a more toned appearance.

For a free alternative, at-home facial massage techniques have become increasingly popular thanks in part to Instagram influencers such as @NaturalFaceBible and @FaceYogaMethod (expect less pronounced results without serious diligence).

Want to make your eyes pop without smudging or flaking mascara? Lash tinting is a low-maintenance option that uses a semi-permanent color solution for your natural lashes and can be done at a specialized salon. For instant volume and length, false strip lashes are a fantastic choice and come in a variety of styles and designs, from natural eye-opening wispies to dramatic and sexy cat eyes. Word of caution: You’ll want to do a test run about a week in advance for either option to ensure your skin doesn’t react to any dyes or adhesives.

Laser Hair Removal vs. Waxing

Say goodbye to unwanted hair with laser hair removal. The multisession process involves using a concentrated beam of light to reduce hair growth in the desired areas.

If you prefer a budget-friendly temporary approach, at-home waxing is another choice. Waxing kits, which cost $10 to $40, are widely available, but you’ll want to give yourself several days for any redness to dissipate.

vs. Patches

5 months

1 week or at home patches The in-office ensures skilled needles that puncture the skin

Microneedling, a popular treatment for skin rejuvenation, can be done professionally or at home using special patches. The in-office procedure ensures skilled application using tiny needles that gently puncture the skin to stimulate collagen and improve texture.

For a more affordable alternative, you can apply adhesive patches to the skin at home to help promote cell turnover. The result? A glowing complexion.

For a more affordable alternative, you can adhesive to the skin at home to promote cell turnover The result? A complexion

Microneedling patches, $24, PeaceOutSkincare.com

Chemical Peel

Chemical peels work their magic by using a mix of acids to exfoliate and revitalize your skin. They’re great for improving texture, minimizing fine lines and evening out your skin tone, but they do require some advance planning.

For another approach that’s gradual and gentle, Earthen InstantPeel ($60, Walmart.com) can do the trick. You can apply the botanical-based, editor-beloved formula at home to get rid of dead skin cells and impurities for a fresh-faced glow without the fuss, the day before your wedding.

Microneedling vs. Microneedling Patches BOTOX VS. BIOTULIN GEL

2 weeks vs. 1 hour

EXTRACTIONS VS. DERMAFLASH

Struggle with clogged pores and blackheads? Facial extractions with a licensed esthetician can help clear your skin in a jiffy without causing damage.

If you don’t have time to visit the spa, stay away from extracting on your own, as this can cause scarring. Instead, add a chemical exfoliant with lactic acid or enzymes to your routine or try a tool such as Dermaflash’s Dermapore+, which uses ultrasonic waves to send blackheads packing. You’ll want to allow at least a few days for any redness to dissipate.

Teeth Whitening

Dermapore+, $109, Dermaflash.com

Botox injections are wrinkle-fighting superheroes. This FDA-approved treatment uses a purified form of botulinum toxin to temporarily smooth out expression lines and fine wrinkles by paralyzing the underlying muscles. (No worries, you’ll still be able to smile for wedding pics!) Just remember, the effects can take up to two weeks to

Needle averse? There’s also Biotulin gel ($65, Biotulin.com). Often dubbed “organic Botox,” this Kate Middleton–approved topical gel uses botanical ingredients to reduce muscle contractions and smooth out fine lines.

When it comes to achieving a dazzling smile, professional teeth whitening guarantees the quickest results. Using high-strength bleaching agents, this in-office treatment can lighten your teeth in just one session. For a DIY approach, over-the-counter whitening strips are a convenient and cost-effective method for obtaining pearly whites, though they take time. NB: You might feel some temporary sensitivity, and you’ll be susceptible to staining for a few days, because the solutions open up the pores of the teeth (that means no coffee or red wine for a few days).

Crest 3D Whitestrips, $55, Crest.com

Amore e Famiglia

LIMONCELLO AND LOVE WERE THE PERFECT COMBINATION AT THIS COUPLE’S FAMILY-FOCUSED DESTINATION WEDDING IN POSITANO, ITALY.

CIARA & KAYLAH

STORY BY HANNAH NOWACK PHOTOGRAPHY BY JULIA KAPTELOVA

How often does the honeymoon planning come before the wedding planning? In the case of New York–based Ciara Allen (32, a supervising producer) and Kaylah Burton (31, a social strategy director), the dream of honeymooning in Positano, Italy, ended up leading to a destination wedding there instead.

The cliffside village on the Amalfi Coast was “next on our travel list, and we determined it would be the perfect honeymoon destination,” recalls the couple. “While daydreaming, we paused to consider: ‘What if we created a once-in-a-lifetime experience for our closest friends and family, our community, and got married in Positano?’”

The couple’s desire to focus their wedding on connections and kinship is no surprise. Family ties were a big part of what cemented their relationship early on. “We both knew that we had found our lifelong partner as we got to see each other with one another’s families throughout the pandemic,” they recall.

And so, for the May 17–19, 2023, wedding celebration, a sublime guest experience was paramount. “We celebrated the power of love and liberation for three days with the community that taught us how to love,” recalls the couple. “All 48 of us will truly always hold this time, and Positano, close in our hearts.”

To ensure they would cherish the event for years to come, Ciara and Kaylah settled on a “timeless, minimal and romantic aesthetic, so we could look back at our

Two Peas in a Pod Kaylah (right) explains that the couple shopped for wedding dresses separately, but they were “shocked on the wedding day to find that we had both selected the same exact designer: Pronovias.”

We celebrated the power of love and liberation for three days with the community that taught us how to love.

photos over the years and feel like our wedding could be planted in any era.”

The festivities kicked off with a pizza party welcome event, which was fitting given that the dish was invented in neighboring Naples. And what ups the ante? Limoncello favors. Ciara and Kaylah set a joyful mood that evening that didn’t abate over the following days.

Ciara and Kaylah didn’t want to compete with the vibrant scenery of Positano, so they opted for a muted color palette. The chairs and linens were all white and accented by simple flower arrangements. The designs included roses, hydrangeas, lisianthus, peonies and delphiniums in, you guessed it, soft shades of white.

Since the duo had been in town all week preparing, they’d grown accustomed to watching the sun rise and set from the steps

of the villa where the wedding took place. When the time came, it felt appropriate to have their first look on the stairs. They also descended the steps with their fathers when they processed into the wedding ceremony, entering to a string rendition of “Knocks Me Off My Feet,” by Stevie Wonder.

The couple personalized the ceremony by creatively incorporating a community vow into the proceedings. “With such an intimate wedding, hearing our closest friends and family commit to supporting us and lifting us up was such a special moment for us both,” recalls the couple. A resounding “we do” capped off the community vows, which nicely complemented the couple’s own. In their personal vows, Ciara and Kaylah “reflected on the memories we’ve built together thus far and our boundless love for one another. We celebrated our ability to love

openly, fully and freely.” Another meaningful component was when a close friend read from bell hooks’ All About Love.

To simplify the logistics of a destination wedding, Ciara and Kaylah legally married in the US at New York’s City Hall. In a full-circle moment, they asked the friend who introduced them at an art gallery in Brooklyn to officiate their nuptials.

Before exiting the Italian ceremony to “This Will Be (An Everlasting Love),” by Natalie Cole, the couple looked out at their guests. They recall it as one of their favorite moments from the entire celebration. “Seeing the faces of our closest friends and family, who had traveled miles and miles away to be with us, was an overwhelming moment of pure gratitude for us both.”

And now it was time to celebrate with those loved ones over Italian fare at cocktail hour. In addition to a Negroni signature cocktail, guests enjoyed fried panzerotti, arancini, fried stuffed olives and mozzarella bites.

The mouthwatering offerings didn’t stop there. At the seated dinner, caprese salad

Menu Must-Have

When the whole week is packed with regional fare, how do you pick a favorite? “To give our guests a taste of Italy” Ciara and Kaylah served classics like caprese salad as well as a typical Positano dish, Caserecce alla Nerano.

Wedding Date

May 18, 2023

Ceremony + Reception Site

Villa Oliviero, Positano, Italy

Photography

Julia Kaptelova

Videography

Urania Wedding Films

Wedding Planning + Design

La Calla Wedding Planner

Floral Design

FloraGarden

Officiant

Portia Lockett (Ciara’s godmother)

Gowns

Ciara: Ceremony: Pronovias; reception: Billy J Bridal; Kaylah: ceremony: Pronovias; reception: Mônot

Ciara’s Veil

Bel Aire Bridal

Kaylah’s Cape Varca

Shoes

Ciara: Badgley Mischka, Sam Edelman; Kaylah: Jimmy Choo

Accessories

Ciara: BridalStar, Etsy.com; Kaylah: Christie

Nicolaides, Isabel Marant

Engagement + Wedding Rings

Ciara: Stephanie Gottlieb; Kaylah: Nature Sparkle

Hair + Makeup

Beauty Livery

Wedding Party Attire Dessy

Stationery

Invitations: Studio Lavender; day-of stationery: Italy Wedding Accessories

Rentals, Catering + Cake

Villa Oliviero

Music

Ceremony: String 4 You; DJ: Wedding Deejay Amalfi Coast

Favors

La Calla Wedding Planner

Transportation EuroLimo

started the meal and was followed by pasta with zucchini. Guests chose between filet mignon or sea bass for the entree. A vanilla cake with lemon icing ended things on a sweet note. “It was the best cake we’ve ever had in our lives, and the lemon flavor felt so true to the Amalfi Coast,” says the couple.

Though most details focused on Italy, Ciara and Kaylah still wanted to celebrate their hometown. During the dancing portion of the evening, the duo recalls, the DJ “made us feel like we were back in Brooklyn for the night! Not a single person was missing from the dance floor.” The couple also shared a meaningful first dance to “Angel,” by Anita Baker. Early on when they were dating, the couple connected over Kaylah’s love of vinyl and spent many nights listening to records from her “vast record collection created over years and passed down from generations of collectors in my family. One of the first vinyls that Ciara gave me was an Anita Baker record that she purchased on a trip to Paris. I even got a lyric from the song engraved in Ciara’s wedding band,” says Kaylah.

So when the honeymoon inspires the wedding, where do you actually end up honeymooning? For Ciara and Kaylah, it was Lake Como, in Northern Italy. They share that the couple’s massage they registered for was unforgettable—their favorite gift.

“From the traditional welcome pizza party to the wedding day and postwedding beach day at Il Pirata beach club, every moment was one to be cherished and remembered,” recalls the couple. Ciara and Kaylah share that their intention was for the guests to feel “deeply loved and appreciated at every turn.” They also wanted the wedding events to be about more than their love as a couple, but also “a celebration and rededication to nurturing love in all of its forms in our guests’ lives, and we did just that. Connecting with our nearest and dearest was a dream come true.”

So Long, Stormy Weather The couple recalls how it rained “nearly nonstop from morning to night” in the week leading up to the wedding. However, when the wedding day rolled around, the weather cleared and guests were able to dance the night away under an open-air canopy of string lights. “It was a true ‘pinch-me’ moment that felt like a gift Positano made happen just for us,” says the couple.

It’s a Boogie Wonderland

Sunny Ceremony “Brian is a huge flower fan, so florals played a large part in the design,” says David (left). At the ceremony, an explosion of forsythia framed the altar.

THIS MUSIC-FILLED WEDDING IN FLORIDA TOOK DISCO-CHIC TO A NEW LEVEL.

DAVID & BRIAN

STORY BY CHAPELLE JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY BY LEDIA TASHI

Cruises and music: These two seemingly disparate things just so happen to be the perfect ingredients for love. For David Bevis (33, a real estate advisor) and Brian Gay (31, a real estate agent), fate brought them together on the open seas. The couple’s meet-cute embarked seven years prior to their March 25, 2023, wedding, while both were auditioning as main-stage performers for Disney Cruise Lines. (Spoiler alert: They got the parts.) “We met in our musical theater acting days. Little did we know, fate would put us together as roommates during the rehearsal period in Toronto,” Brian says. The pair spent plenty of time together, enough that by the end of the twomonth rehearsal period, they were officially together. “We set out for the six-month contract at sea, where you either grow to love each other—or the opposite. Fortunately, our love continued to grow. We spent every day together, exploring different ports and performing in the evenings,” Brian recalls. Once they disembarked from their own love boat, the adventure continued. The couple went backpacking around Europe for a month, eventually returning to their home base of New York City to start life together. They’ve been inseparable ever since.

In 2021, David proposed to Brian, who reciprocated with a proposal of his own the following year. Given that musical theater played such an integral role in their love story, it should be no surprise that a festive, over-the-top wedding was in store. “David and I entered our planning process with a specific vision of what we wanted our entire wedding weekend to look like. We decided to forgo many of the ‘traditional’ rituals and make the day our own,” Brian says. They didn’t want to lift a finger during

the wedding and enlisted a full-service professional to help cultivate their vision. “We went with John Campbell, a queer planner based in the Tampa Bay area.” The couple recalls how they immediately “felt the connection was a match made in heaven as soon as we spoke. We wanted someone familiar with the LGBTQIA+ community and who felt like family,” Brian says. They’re not the only ones to be impressed: The planner is also a notable rising star in the wedding industry and is a 2024 The Knot Ones to Watch honoree (read more on pg. 97). Campbell helped the couple create a wedding that felt formal but not pretentious at the James Museum in St. Petersburg, Florida, David’s hometown and a booming cultural city.

The ceremony and reception venue had the perfect striking architecture for David and Brian’s dream wedding. “With the guidance of our planner, we leaned into the qualities the museum possessed rather than trying to hide them. This was true in the colors, textures, patterns and lighting,” says Brian. They chose a “desert disco oasis” theme to highlight the venue’s look and their love for disco. They accomplished the unique aesthetic through the design and music.

Since Brian is a big fan of flowers, blooms were a focal point. “For the ceremony, we wanted a full landscape of flowers filling the stage, rather than a traditional arch.” He specifically requested forsythia, and Camp-

We’ve worked very hard over the years to build meaningful relationships with our friends, family and loved ones. Seeing everyone together in one space with love overflowing was so special.

bell suggested creating multiple large-scale installations of it. Earthy rocks completed the look, creating a “rustic natural feel that mimicked a bright yellow desert sun.”

“For the reception, we wanted an explosion of color playing off the many tones you can find in a sunset and the museum’s art,” says David. The color palette progressed as guests moved through the venue. The museum lobby showcased tannin and mushroom neutrals drawn from the canyon-hued walls, while the ceremony featured goldenrod yellow to highlight the architecture and draw

guests’ eyes toward the grooms. A space of warm desert-inspired oranges and yellows welcomed everyone to cocktail hour.

As guests enjoyed sips and light bites, they could explore and appreciate the museum’s gorgeous art and artifacts. “It was a huge selling point for us, because the art was such a big inspiration in the overall design and vision for the evening,” Brian says.

After cocktail hour, guests experienced a gradual color change that reached its climax at the reception through a burst of rainbow tones. Color-blocked spaces throughout the

Joyful Jewel Tones The reception was filled with cozy gem-hued seating, which surrounded the fun geometric dance floor inspired by the couple’s wedding invitations.

DJ Got Us Fallin’ in Love “The DJ booth was a big point of conversation for us, as we love our DJ and wanted that to be a huge feature,” says the couple. A mirrored booth, under a canopy of disco balls, was the music pro’s home base while she spun tunes all night.

Wedding Date

March 25, 2023

Ceremony + Reception Site

The James Museum, St. Peterburg, FL

Photography

Ledia Tashi

Videography

Evoke Photo & Film

Event Planning + Design

John Campbell Events and Design

Floral Design

Kaleidoscope Floral

Officiant

Jana Goldman (friend)

Tuxedos

Suitsupply

Shoes

David: Florsheim; Brian: Golden Goose, Magnanni

Tie

David: Prada

Engagement + Wedding Rings Cartier

Hair + Makeup

Euphoria Salon and Day Spa

Stationery

Pratto Paper Shop

Rentals

Vivant Event Rentals

Catering + Desserts Datz

DJ

Amber Valentine

reception area created a sensation-driven experience as guests entered each vignette.

With the couple’s passion for dancing and music, it was crucial that the dance floor be a focus of the reception area. The invitation inspired the dance floor, creating continuity in the wedding design: Its fun geometric pattern appeared on the dance floor wrap and custom hand-held bamboo fans. But the dance floor wasn’t the only highlight. The DJ booth was also a prominent feature in the decor to reinforce the disco vibes. They installed an incredible collection of disco balls above the mirrored DJ booth that “caught the lights all evening and gave the room such a fun and playful vibe,” Brian says. One of the couple’s friends even memorably stormed the DJ booth to sing “Haus of Love,” by RuPaul, during the reception since “it has become a staple in our friend group over the years.”

To keep the party going all night, the couple also prioritized their catering and bar services. Instead of a conventional sitdown dinner, they had food stations and no assigned seating. The bold choice allowed loved ones to mix and mingle all night while enjoying small plates: pork belly glazed in maple and black pepper, chicken sausage bao buns with caramelized Mexican kimchi, and Asian vegetable dumplings and noodles served in mini takeout boxes. David and Brian also skipped a wedding cake. “After all, who wants to leave the dance floor when the music is so good?” Brian asks. When it was time for sweets, they served up a delicious assortment of handheld desserts like churros with chocolate sauce. Meanwhile, espresso martinis kept everyone energized through the evening.

The tasty food, stunning decor and epic playlist (featuring Donna Summer, Beyoncé and Betty Who) were major highlights for the couple. However, their favorite aspect of the wedding was having their nearest and dearest in one place. “We have worked very hard over the years to build meaningful relationships with our friends, family and loved ones. We are very blessed to have such amazing people in our lives, so the most anticipated moment was bringing everyone together. Naturally, many people hadn’t met one another, so seeing them together in one space with love overflowing was so special,” Brian concludes.

Sequined Superstars

The happy couple settled on a “creative black tie” dress code to give their guests the chance to “turn a look.” David and Brian were elated their loved ones showed up and showed out.

Woodland Weekend

TWO NEW YORKERS BROUGHT LOVED ONES UPSTATE FOR A JEWEL-TONE WEDDING AT A FORMER SUMMER CAMP.

ALEX & JOHN

STORY BY HANNAH NOWACK PHOTOGRAPHY BY TWAH DOUGHERTY

For New Yorkers, a perk of city life is the ease of upstate weekend getaways. Relaxation in nature is just a short jaunt away, giving them a break from the urban hustle.

Fittingly, the relationship between Alexandra (Alex) Caulfield (29, a nonprofit fundraiser) and John Love (36, an M&A attorney) first took root during a trip upstate. Just four months into dating, the pandemic hit and Alex decamped to her family’s home in Saratoga Springs, New York, to quarantine. A short while later, John joined her pod. During this time, he says, “I saw how welcoming her family was. When it was all said and done, Alex and I and the rest of our group spent almost 100 days together.” John admits that “the pandemic was a very sobering and dark time, but despite all the fear and uncertainty, Alex and I had a beautiful opportunity to get to know each other well and for our relationship to really blossom.”

“I don’t think most people spend over three months straight living with their inlaws, let alone the parents of the person they are newly dating,” Alex says. “So this was incredibly unique and, fortunately, we all got along extremely well.”

Alex and John traveled north once again when it came time for them to marry. This time, they descended upon Cedar Lakes Estate in Port Jervis, New York, for their

wedding on July 3, 2023. The couple loved the location’s beautiful woodland setting and laid-back vibe. “It was the only venue we visited, and I knew right away that it would be perfect,” recalls Alex. “One major plus was that it used to be a sleepaway summer camp, so there were plenty of accommodations for our guests to stay on-site and enjoy all the venue has to offer. The lake and pickleball courts were a big hit.”

With the lush Hudson Valley landscape as a backdrop, Alex and John settled on a William Morris–esque aesthetic for their event, drawing from Alex’s collegiate study of Victorian literature. “I’ve always appreciated William Morris, a pioneer of the Arts and Crafts Movement. We tried to stick to his ethos of ‘beautiful, useful things’ and incorporated a lot of prints inspired by his work,” she says.

Much like Morris’ art, the wedding weekend was packed with rich, vibrant colors. For the rehearsal dinner, the couple focused on pops of red to complement the red cheongsam Alex wore in honor of her Chinese heri-

tage. The next day, the ceremony prioritized soft shades of blue and muted earthy green. From there, “the colors became more rich and saturated throughout the evening, culminating in our reception tablescapes of lush, bright florals dotted with pomegranates and grapes on teal linens,” says Alex. “I would describe the reception look as being

evocative of works by Dutch still-life painter Rachel Ruysch.”

A prismatic selection of blue tweedia, hellebores, peonies, roses and sunflowers decorated tables throughout. The color palette was also prominently on display in a custom watercolor crest that appeared on many stationery items, from the invites to the cocktail

Family Fashion Alex’s mother is of Chinese descent, so she donned a red cheongsam, a traditional Chinese dress, for the rehearsal dinner to celebrate her heritage. Her accessories came from John’s mother. “My mother was born in Iran, and after Alex and I got engaged, she gifted Alex a bracelet made of gold that had belonged to my great-grandmother, which Alex also wore at the rehearsal dinner.”

Mix-and-Match Moment Alex and John didn’t want each centerpiece to be identical, so their floral designer created eclectic groupings of flower arrangements that ran the length of the tables. The tablescapes also included fruit like pomegranates, apricots and grapes, as a nod to John’s Persian heritage.

It is so special to be surrounded by your friends and family, while celebrating your joy—and that’s what really matters.

napkins. It was one of Alex’s favorite details from the wedding design, as it was a personal way to tie everything together.

Despite the couple’s meticulous planning, there was one detail on the wedding day they couldn’t control: the weather. While unexpected showers could put a damper, literally, on a celebration, Alex and John embraced the downpour and “kind of said ‘f*** it’ with regard to the rain.”

John notes that many of his favorite photos from the wedding day came from their time traipsing around the estate’s grounds in the drizzle. “The hem of my dress maybe got a bit muddy, but we had an absolute blast,” recalls Alex. “I think that our levity and joy really translate to our photos. I wouldn’t change a thing.”

Another bonus of the rain was that Alex and John’s first look moved inside. “We ended up having a fairly big audience of our wedding party and families, which made it so sweet and fun. They all cried happy tears,” says Alex.

Alex and John still made sure to find time alone during the day. Instead of making a big deal of cutting the cake, the couple snuck away to have a private cake-cutting moment. The main one was a peach-blackberry confection with thyme Swiss-meringue buttercream and blackberry jam. “For our guests with food sensitivities, we also had a gluten- and nut-free chocolate cake with salted dark chocolate and espresso buttercream,” adds Alex.

At the end of the day, a wedding is all about the couple entering into marriage, and the intimate cake-cutting allowed Alex and John to bask in that exciting reality. They further celebrated their new journey through the song they selected for the first dance: “Coming Home,” by Leon Bridges. “We thought this would be a great firstdance song since we’ll be coming home to each other for the rest of our lives.”

Looking back on the weekend, Alex says that while she had fun throughout, “I think my favorite part was how it felt so special and wonderful to bring together our friends and extended family under one roof.” She reminds to-be-weds that “the big picture is that you’re getting married and starting the beginning of the rest of your lives together. It will be so special to be surrounded by your loved ones while celebrating your joy, and that’s what really matters.”

Action-Packed Agenda There were fun activities for guests to enjoy over the course of the weekend. At the welcome dinner, they roasted marshmallows over a campfire. The next day, a vintage bus served as a photo booth for attendees to visit.

Wedding Date

July 3, 2023

Ceremony +

Reception Site:

Cedar Lakes Estate, Port Jervis, NY

Photography

Twah Dougherty

Videography

Derek Chan Films

Event Planning

Leslie Mastin Events

Event & Floral Design

StoneKelly Events & Floral

Officiant

Mary Frances Jeffrey (friend); ceremony consulting: Lisa Traina

Gowns

Rehearsal dinner:

Sylvia’s Boutique, Flushing, NY; ceremony: Reem Acra; reception: Markarian

Tuxedo

Manolo Costa

Shoes

Alex: Bella Belle, Teva; John: Belgian Shoes

Accessories

Heirloom

Fashion Styling Maisie-Kate

Engagement + Wedding Rings

Suzy B Jewelry

Hair + Makeup Makeup by Flynn

Wedding Party Attire Reformation; various

Stationery Ipanema Press

Lighting Eventlights, Inc

Rentals

Luxe Event Rentals; Nüage Linen; Party Rental Ltd.

Catering

Cedar Lakes Estate

Cake

From Lucie

Music

Welcome party: Citigrass; ceremony & reception:

The Eleven; after-party DJ: Eric Visa/Élan Artists

Photo Booth WanderBus

Favors

Gracious Goodies

Transportation

Rolling V

Milan Meets Milwaukee

THIS COUPLE’S STATESIDE WEDDING CELEBRATION BEGAN WITH A REHEARSAL DINNER INSPIRED BY ITALY.

CAROLINE & ROBERT

STORY BY HANNAH NOWACK PHOTOGRAPHY BY TAMARA GRÜNER PHOTOGRAPHY

Picture this: The sun is setting over the Mediterranean Sea while you enjoy a dinner with close friends. You’re mid-laugh with an Aperol spritz in hand. A salty sea breeze wisps through the vegetation on the oceanside cliffs. Sounds immensely relaxing, right? That laid-back vibe is exactly what Caroline Marks (26, an account executive) and Robert Flaherty (27, a real estate developer) wanted to bring to their rehearsal dinner in Milwaukee on August 18, 2023.

But before celebrating their Italianthemed meal in Wisconsin, the couple had to revisit a few other locales: spots where they dated and fell in love. Caroline and Robert met in college in Indiana and first bonded while watching a movie and eating takeout in Caroline’s dorm room. Upon graduation, they moved to Chicago. Despite dat-

A Butterfly Bond Caroline and her late grandmother shared a love of butterflies. To honor the matriarch, Caroline and Robert released freshly hatched monarchs at the rehearsal dinner.

ing in college, their love wasn’t truly sealed until a fateful trip to Naples, Florida, during the pandemic. The couple lived together for the first time when they decamped to the South for a few months to work remotely in the sun. “We both knew a week into living together that we were going to be together forever. It truly was too easy, fun and per-

fect,” says Caroline. That effortless love continued to blossom and culminated with a rooftop proposal at sunset in New York City. And the next day, where did the couple jet off to? You guessed it: Italy.

The tricky thing with a rehearsal dinner is this: How do you avoid competing with the main event that’s just around the corner?

Caroline and Robert settled on an Italianvilla vibe that would feel different from their wedding day and nod back to a trip that had meant so much to them. The couple invited 62 guests to Caroline’s mother and stepfather’s home for a cozy dinner before a larger 130-person welcome party that same evening.

While the wedding day was designed to have a whimsical garden-party aesthetic with a light and airy color palette, Caroline and Robert selected richer hues for the rehearsal dinner. Vibrant textured greenery

Splendid Sketches Custom illustrations added thoughtful personalization to the evening. The bar menu included mouthwatering drawings of the signature cocktails. Additionally, the welcome sign featured a

suspended from the ceiling of the clear-top tent, dark wood farm tables and deep blue water goblets anchored the event’s look and captivated guests. Instead of traditional floral centerpieces, the long wood tables were adorned with potted rosemary topiaries that mirrored the hanging foliage. The aim was to enjoy the fresh air but still be protected from the elements, and Caroline recalls that “the tent was truly stunning, and every detail was perfect.”

Under

Stars

We wanted our guests to have fun and feel relaxed the entire weekend.

the guests arrived for the welcome party portion of the evening, a dessert station opened serving ricotta cheesecake and Nutella cannoli; roaming waiters offered affogato and gelato.

Not only was the visual design impeccable, but the menu was sublime. The signature drinks were, appropriately, two Italian classics: an Aperol spritz and a Negroni. Guests also enjoyed a four-course meal that began with a chopped salad before a primi course of Italian classics: rigatoni with tomato vodka sauce and cacio e pepe. The secondi course wowed with a selection of three grilled entrees: beef tenderloin, branzino and seasonal veggies. Once all

It was important for Caroline and Robert to curate a team of talented wedding pros to bring the entire weekend together. Caroline urges other couples, “Hire vendors that you feel comfortable with. You will know after the first call if they’re a good fit or not.” Another key piece of advice she has for tobe-weds? “Remember to have fun and don’t stress about the little things. At the end of the day, you are marrying your person and that is all that matters.”

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The event’s clear-top tent ensured guests could enjoy the twinkling stars as the sun set. Additionally, string lights speckled the tent’s roof to add to the magical ambiance as the evening progressed.

Rehearsal

Dinner Date

August 18, 2023

Rehearsal Dinner Site

A private residence, Milwaukee

Photography

Tamara Grüner

Photography

Videography

Michael J. McDaniel

Event Planning

NSWE Events

Floral Design Life in Bloom

Dress

Alexis

Suit

The Armoury, New York City

Shoes

Caroline: Kate Spade

Accessories

Heirloom

Engagement & Wedding Rings

Tiffany & Co.

Hair & Makeup

Reiman Condron Beauty

Stationery

MITE Printing Graphics

Rentals

BBJ La Tavola; Blue Peak Tents; Elegant Event Lighting; Nüage Designs

Catering

Entertaining Company

Music

Arlen Music Productions

Transportation

M&M Limousine Services

Going for Gold

THESE ENGAGED ATHLETES ARE PLANNING THEIR WEDDINGS AND TRAINING FOR THE GAMES. HOW DO THEY DO IT ALL?

YOU’RE ABOUT TO FIND OUT.

BY SARAH HANLON

Gold

Stating the obvious: Wedding planning can be a time commitment. In fact, according to The Knot 2023 Real Weddings Study, engaged couples spend an average of seven hours per week planning. Now imagine adding “train for the Olympics” to the to-do list. In the years leading up to the next Games, most athletes fill their schedules with rigorous physical training, tournaments and qualifying matches, leaving limited time for celebrations and recovery during off periods. Who else is exhausted just thinking about it?

With all that goes into representing their country on the world’s biggest athletic stage, it’s common for athletes’ personal milestones (like engagements and weddings) to coincide with training. So what’s it like to go from the gym to the rehearsal hall and back again? Ahead of the 2024 Summer Games in Paris, we caught up with five hopeful couples to explore how they’ve planned their weddings while chasing their Olympic dreams.

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Abbey Weitzeil and Michael Jensen

SPORT: WOMEN’S SWIMMING (US)

Olympic swimmer and two-time American record holder

Abbey Weitzeil has competed in the 2016 and the postponed 2020 Games and won gold, silver and bronze medals. She has her sights set on a third run in Paris—less than two months before she marries Michael Jensen in September.

Maggie Steffens and Bobby Conner met in December 2016. They got married in Puerto Rico on November 11, 2023.

Kaleigh Gilchrist and Tom Gehret crossed paths in Santa Barbara, California, in 2017. They’re planning to marry in August 2024.

Charlotte Caslick and Lewis Holland met in 2013. After getting engaged in 2020, they hope to swap vows after the 2024 Olympics.

Justine Wong-Orantes and Andrew Pham met through mutual friends and got engaged in 2022. Their wedding is set for October 2024.

Abbey Weitzeil and Michael Jensen met at the University of California, Berkeley. Their wedding date is set for September 2024.

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The couple, who met as swimmers at the University of California, Berkeley, says the timing wasn’t intentional. But Weitzeil acknowledges that the Olympics inadvertently determined when they’d swap vows. “We didn’t think about it like that, but we do plan our lives around four-year cycles. You have to live a certain way to have this kind of lifestyle,” Weitzeil says.

TRAINING DAYS: As of early 2024, the Olympic hopeful has been in what she calls “grind mode,” a strict schedule that consists of six or seven training sessions a week, often with multiple workouts a day (both in the water and at the gym).

“Every day, everything I do is around swimming,” she says.

With Paris potentially marking her third appearance at the Games, Weitzeil acknowledges that the pressure is different this time around. Now that she’s no longer a rookie, expectations are high. Plus, she’s using her off days to get through the final items on her wedding to-do list. Luckily, though, she’s no stranger to the balancing act. “I thrive under pressure,” she says with a smile. “I always have.”

THE WEDDING DAY: For Weitzeil, planning for her nuptials has been a welcome break from training. With plans to marry in Napa Valley, she and Jensen have thrown themselves into the fun details, like securing a live band and choosing signature cocktails. “I’ve always said my dream for my wedding is to dance all night long,” she says. “I want to celebrate. To be with all of our friends is what I’m so excited for.”

The couple has hired a full-time wedding planner and relied on the suite of planning tools from The Knot to simplify the process. (“They’re so easy to use,” Weitzeil says.) In an effort to be present, Weitzeil is savoring the engagement. “I see planning not as a chore, but as an exciting thing I get to look forward to,” she says. Her priorities are as clear as the water she treads in: “It’s definitely swimming first, wedding second. That’s in my blood, and it’s just the way it is.”

If there’s one golden lesson Weitzeil has picked up, it’s that having perspective is key. “It’s really not that deep,” she laughs. “Know what you need to be picky about, and have fun with it.”

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PHOTOS: COURTESY OF THE OLYMPIANS; SWIMMING: GETTY IMAGES

Charlotte Caslick and Lewis Holland

SPORT: WOMEN’S RUGBY (AUSTRALIA)

Power couple checking in. Charlotte Caslick and Lewis Holland are both Australian rugby stars: She took home gold with the women’s team in 2016 and advanced to the quarterfinals in the postponed 2020 Games; he competed in both Games as well. They met through rugby in 2013, and dated for seven years before getting engaged in 2020.

TRAINING DAYS: Holland has since retired from the sport and begun a career as a farmer in Australia, but Caslick has set her sights on a third consecutive Olympic appearance. In the months leading up to the Games, her schedule is filled with training and travel. “We train five or six days a week, depending on what time of the season it is,” she says. Before they can compete in Paris, Caslick and her team will be collecting passport stamps from Canada, the US, Hong Kong, Singapore and Spain. “Then before Paris,” she says, “we’ll probably spend a few weeks in Montpelier [France] at a training camp.”

THE WEDDING DAY: Caslick admits that wedding planning has been on pause—not only so she can focus on her training, but also because they’ve had to change their plans twice so far. The couple intended to swap vows in 2020 until the pandemic forced them to postpone. “By that stage,” Caslick explains, “the original wedding that I wanted wasn’t the wedding I wanted two years later. We’re going to come back to it when we’re ready.”

The athletes were initially going to host a 300-person ceremony at the barn Holland built on their farm. They still want a celebration with their loved ones, but Caslick has a new vision. “I’d love to get married in Vegas,” she says coyly. “I still need to convince him.” While planning the 2020 wedding, Caslick quickly realized the importance of working with professionals. “My original wedding planner was so helpful, especially with my busy schedule,” she says. She’s also picked up tips from her fiancé’s mother, who happens to be a wedding caterer.

Now that Caslick’s reimagining her wedding, she’s downsizing her original concept. “I love the chapel-style wedding—they’re really cool,” she says of her Vegas vision. And once the Games are over and the vows (finally) exchanged, she envisions a new, more peaceful milestone: “We kind of live married life already, but I’m excited to be able to live together on our farm.”

Maggie Steffens and Bobby Conner

Megan Rapinoe (US soccer) and Sue Bird (US basketball) met at a Team USA photo shoot in Rio de Janeiro in 2016. They got engaged in 2020.

Three-time Olympian Maggie Steffens got engaged to her now-husband, Bobby Conner, in 2022—but the moment was orchestrated about a year in advance. “As Olympians, we work in four-year increments,” Steffens says. “After Tokyo, we had our eyes on the calendar. I was like, ‘Bobby, you better propose quick. If we want to get married, we don’t have a lot of time.’”

TRAINING DAYS: Steffens is no stranger to the pressure of preparing for the Olympics. The US water polo player was an immediate star in the sport: In her debut at the 2012 Games, she tied the Olympic record for the most goals scored by an individual player in one match. This time around, her Olympic prep for Paris consisted of 25 to 35 hours of high-intensity physical and mental training six days a week. (Four or five of those are double-practice days.) The cycle didn’t leave a lot of time for planning her November 2023 wedding in Puerto Rico—but that’s where her vendors came in.

THE WEDDING DAY: Since the US water polo team calendar largely determined Steffens’ schedule, it was easy to select a wedding date. “If I wanted to get married in 2023, I essentially had one open date,” Steffens says.

The art of multitasking is something she’s had to master as an Olympian. “This is what we’ve been doing our whole lives: balancing and prioritizing,” she says. Steffens also relied heavily on her destination planner, who helped complete tasks from afar and connected her with local pros. “I’ve gotten on a call with my florist three times and she’s been like, ‘Hey, how are you doing? Still like these colors?’”

SPORT: WOMEN’S WATER POLO (US) events back-to-back, she had to tap into her comskills to give each moment

The couple’s November 2023 wedding took place one week after the team’s Olympic qualifying tournament in Chile. (US won gold, securing their spot in Paris.) With two major life events back-to-back, she had to tap into her compartmentalization skills to give each moment its proper attention.

“You have to have perspective on what’s important in life,” Steffens shares. “My wedding is a very important milestone, as is training for the Olympics. It definitely has moments of high stress, but it also has moments where it’s a fun thing to talk about with teammates and friends.”

Evan Bates and Madison Chock (US ice-dance partners) met as kids. They began skating together in 2011, but didn’t date until 2017. After winning a silver medal at the 2022 Games, they got engaged the same year.

Spain’s Ander Mirambell (skeleton racer) met Irina Rodríguez (a former artistic swimmer) in 2010 when he needed a physical therapist during training—and the multiskilled Rodríguez was recommended. Now, they share one son together.

teammates

PHOTOS:

Justine Wong-Orantes and Andrew Pham

SPORT: WOMEN’S VOLLEYBALL (US)

It’s fitting that volleyball brought Olympian Justine WongOrantes and her fiancé, Andrew Pham, together. After meeting at a tournament, their friendship blossomed into romance— and in May 2022, Pham popped the question.

TRAINING DAYS: “When we first got engaged, the Olympics were always in the back of my mind,” Wong-Orantes says. “I didn’t want to get married and then have to play an eight- or nine-month season abroad and be away from him. I asked him if he’d be okay with having a long engagement and to get married after the Olympics. Then I could be home for good. Since he plays volleyball, he understands my lifestyle.”

The couple’s wedding will take place in Texas in October, and Wong-Orantes—who’s currently on a team in Germany— has done much of her planning from abroad. In the spring, she hopes to rejoin the US women’s national team to prepare for her second Olympic run. (She won gold during her first appearance at the Tokyo Games.)

THE WEDDING: The couple has used their long engagement to their advantage, securing key vendors well in advance, like their venue, photographer, videographer and glam team. “We’ve had such a team effort,” Wong-Orantes says. Pham has taken on plenty of tedious planning tasks, like mailing save-the-dates. “He’s been all hands on deck.”

Despite the mounting pressure for the 2024 Games, WongOrantes has used her wedding planning journey as a creative reprieve from the intense physical regimen that comes with Olympic training. One of her favorite activities was a vision board night with her teammates, which she used to help conceptualize the wedding. “I wouldn’t say I’m the most creative, but I found a lot of joy and peace in having this vision board,” she muses. “It’s been a relaxing and calming thing to do outside of training.”

Looking past her second potential Olympic run, WongOrantes is excitedly awaiting her Texas nuptials, which will include Asian wedding traditions to honor both her and Pham’s heritages. Considering the two have yet to put down roots, she says she’s looking forward to creating their home as newlyweds—hopefully with another gold medal on display.

Kaleigh Gilchrist and Tom Gehret

SPORT: WOMEN’S WATER POLO (US)

Maggie Steffens didn’t go through her wedding journey alone. She experienced the thrill of planning and training with her close friend and teammate, Kaleigh Gilchrist. In September 2022, two-time gold medalist Gilchrist got engaged to her partner, Tom Gehret.

TRAINING DAYS: When it comes to balancing work and wedding to-dos, it helps that both Gilchrist and Steffens are seasoned athletes who know how to manage Olympic pressure. “This is Maggie’s fourth time going through this and my third,” Gilchrist reflects. “Now that we’ve done it a few times, we understand ourselves and what we need as athletes. Plus, knowing what this process looks like helps us understand when it’s time to focus on weddings and when it’s time to focus on water polo.”

For Gilchrist, wedding planning has become a welcome distraction from her strenuous training. “I haven’t gotten to the stressful part of planning yet, so my break from water polo has been wedding planning,” she says, adding that it lets her tap into a creative side she doesn’t often get to use.

THE WEDDING DAY: The couple will marry this summer in Santa Barbara, California, two weeks after what could be the women’s water polo gold medal match. With the date fast approaching, Gilchrist and Gehret have wasted no time. “I signed a contract for our venue in 2022,” she says. “It was almost two years before the date and my planner was like, ‘This might be the earliest anyone signed their venue.’”

Laura and Jason Kenny (British track cyclists) were photographed kissing behind David Beckham at the 2012 London Olympics. They took their romance public after the Games and married in 2016. Today, they have two sons.

Beyond securing her vendors early, Gilchrist relied on her partner for support through the challenge of wedding planning while training for an Olympic run. “Our guys are both hands-on and help with decision-making,” she says of her and Steffens’s beaus. “They don’t say, ‘Do what you want.’ They have an opinion and are organized. Plus, when we’re traveling or practicing, they can quickly jump in.”

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If there’s one piece of advice Gilchrist has for other to-be-weds, it’s that, above all, communication is critical. “Know what’s most important to you on your wedding day, because it’s your day,” she says. “You’re not having it for family or your guests. They’re there to celebrate you. If you can communicate what’s important, it makes planning much easier.”

Kristie Mewis (US soccer) and Sam Kerr (Australian soccer) played against each other in the bronze medal match in 2021 and shared an emotional moment on the field after Team USA won. The couple got engaged in November 2023.

Tara Davis-Woodhall (US track and field) and Hunter Woodhall (US track and field Paralympian) met at an athletic competition when they were 16. Hunter proposed in September 2021, just after the Tokyo Games. They got married in October 2022.

PHOTOS: COURTESY OF THE OLYMPIANS; VOLLEYBALL, WATER POLO: GETTY IMAGES

Marriage, Mortgage & the Maldives

YourRichBFF (fact: Vivian Tu’s made many millions) wants to help you have it all.

BY ESTHER LEE ILLUSTRATION BY ABBY MCCARTIN

For some to-be-weds, the very mention of finances makes the heart beat faster. After all, didn’t you *just* review your budget? What if someone told you it’s possible to have it all, just as long as you’ve planned? Perhaps a marriage, a mortgage and a honeymoon in the Maldives are all within reach. Take it from TikTok star Vivian Tu, who’s planning her own 2024 destination wedding.

One big tip, she says, is to create separate sinking funds. (We know what you’re thinking: That doesn’t sound good.) On the contrary, a sinking fund is a

What financial account setup makes the most sense for us? (Joint or separate accounts or both?)

strategy for working toward big savings goals or unexpected expenses—like Fido’s vet bills or a wedding. “This is a great way to slowly set aside small amounts of money over time for specific purposes,” says Tu. “It will feel much more manageable than withdrawing hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars for things such as a venue deposit or a home down payment.”

We get that it’s challenging to incur multiple big costs at once. “Have a money date every month,” Tu suggests. “The open line of communication will help.” Tu shares some thought-provoking questions here.

What do we do if we divorce or if one of us unexpectedly dies? Should we consider a prenup?

Do you have any financial goals, debts or known future expenses that we’ll need to work on together?

At the age of 27, Wall Street trader-turned-marketer Vivian Tu made her first million dollars. The founder behind Your Rich BFF Media, she is known as “your favorite Wall Street girlie” on TikTok and social media, and is also planning her wedding. Read her book, Rich AF: The Winning Money Mindset That Will Change Your Life, on sale now.

Scan for more money conversations to have with your partner.

Owning One’s Wedding

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO TAKE EXTREME OWNERSHIP OF YOUR ENGAGEMENT OR TO BE RADICALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR WEDDING? EXPERTS WEIGH IN.

By Esther Lee Photo Illustrations by Tiana Crispino

At the start of the year, a story about a pop-up wedding in a coffee shop went viral. The couple had told a local cafe that they wanted to sign documents before an intimate group of loved ones. There was no indication that there would be an actual pop-up wedding ceremony with a crowd, so imagine how the owners of the Indianapolis spot reacted when a large wedding party converged there. “We were taking orders, slinging drinks, and we couldn’t stop a wedding ceremony midway,” Mansion Society’s team wrote on Instagram. “The social media backlash would have been cancel-worthy if spun the right way.” After some back-and-forth with the couple, the business started an online fundraiser to make up for that day’s losses.

The internet was ablaze with commentary. One observer on Reddit wrote, “Only a huge apology and a decent cash payment can save this fiasco. I am so happy this is all over the internet.” Wedding planners and venues chimed in, many upset that the full extent of the event wasn’t originally disclosed. Overwhelmed by the attention, the couple told one media outlet that they wanted to move past the incident.

Fulton Kuchemba of Fulton Events in Pennsylvania. “The reality is it’s a lot of work to plan a wedding—and that involves taking responsibility.”

In the age of cancel culture, a lack of self-awareness can lead to a world of issues, sparking a he-said-she-said debate that often overlooks accountability. When wedding planning, it’s important for couples, loved ones and vendors to align their expectations via conversations and contracts (more on that in this issue). To be a responsible adult, you need to understand what those documents mean before you sign them. Rather than placing the blame on others when things go wrong, true ownership is accepting whatever outcomes may arise. Say hello to the concept of taking responsibility for your nuptials or OOW: owning one’s wedding.

The reality is it’s a lot of work to plan a wedding and that involves taking responsibility.

This isn’t the first time this kind of story has inflamed the wedding world. Such tales occasionally find their way from Reddit to our desks. Take, for example, a couple invoicing a no-show wedding guest in 2021, prompting questions around etiquette and entitlement. We also hear about embarrassing blunders. Mishaps occur, but some are completely within the couple’s control. That’s why this dialogue is important. “Much of what we do as planners is set that expectation from the start: that this is not the journey couples expect,” says Caitlin

“I know of someone who got married in Northern New Jersey on the first Saturday of December. Because it’s so rare to get heavy snow that early in the season, no one even considered that weather could postpone the wedding,” says New York City business litigator Martin Krezalek. “As it turned out, New Jersey got slammed with an early-December blizzard. On their wedding day, the couple woke up to every tristate mayor and governor imploring people to stay off the roads. Imagine how the groom felt when he got a call from the bandleader to remind him of the terms of the contract, which released the band from showing up in the case of dangerous, inclement weather. This also included a possible total forfeit of advance payments.”

Despite that heart-palpitating convo, the band pulled through in the blizzard. “The wedding was memorable, but the groom could have spared himself a near heart attack if he had

just reviewed certain gray area expectations,” says Krezalek. “I would’ve asked the band, ‘How bad does the snow have to get to trigger the no-show clause?’ It’s all about peace of mind.” That’s the driving force behind taking responsibility for your wedding and related events in 2024.

How Do I OOW?

Radical responsibility and extreme ownership both promote the notion of taking utmost possession of a situation. “Extreme ownership” was coined by retired Navy SEAL Jocko Willink, bestselling author of the self-help book of the same name. Willink applies the strategic leadership principles of US special operations forces to business and life, yielding high success rates. The phrase “radical responsibility” originated with Fleet Maull, an author and meditation teacher who spent 14 years in prison on charges of drug trafficking. During his imprisonment, he reflected on the cause-to-outcome correlation. “It’s the belief,” he teaches in his program materials, “that your current situation, whatever it is, has the power to determine your future.”

“For me, this includes claiming space, which is living the life of your choosing, unapologetically and bravely,” says communication strategist Eliza VanCort. “That doesn’t mean doing what you want for yourself all the time. It means living a life where you choose to honor your truth while exercising empathy. Radical responsibility is doing the things that aren’t easy to do.”

Couples intend to throw beautiful events for their loved ones.

30 hours, it may be equal to make both of them contribute equally to the wedding, but is it equitable?” says VanCort.

Offer Clarity

Historically, the parents of the bride paid for the wedding, but that is no longer the norm. “Women were once considered a burden, and the family was off-loading her to a man. Therefore, they gave him a special ‘present’ by paying for the ceremony,” says VanCort. Today, it’s a generous gesture for parents of either party to contribute to the wedding. (Families contributed to half of all wedding costs in 2023, according to The Knot Real Weddings Study.) Let’s say a family contributes to the wedding. Does that mean they can overrun the guest list and make the couple overlook their own needs? “Think of it like any other relationship where someone does a favor,” VanCort advises. “If you give someone a gift, it should be without strings attached and without expectation. Or else you’re just manipulating somebody.”

Most aren’t aware of what goes into planning their nuptials.“ It’s a lot of decision making, plus it’s a time commitment,” says Kuchemba. Here are steps to help you take ownership (and feel true responsibility) for your wedding.

It Starts With You

If you and your partner want an equitable planning experience, discuss where each of you would like to get involved. “Often with weddings, people are so in love that one party goes, ‘Sure, honey. Do whatever you want,’” notes VanCort. “That may seem fine at the moment, but it can carry on throughout the marriage. The most important thing is that nobody is abdicating responsibility for the sake of letting someone else do it.”

Adds Kuchemba, “You need to come prepared and willing to broach hard conversations to make the overall experience smooth, enjoyable and fun.” That includes time commitments. “If one person is working 90 hours a week and the other,

“It adds so much pressure to planners and vendors if a couple isn’t clear on the overall investment,” says Kuchemba. Doing the work up front, VanCort says, could help avoid conflict later.

Exercise Empathy With Your Support Group

We’ve seen the headlines too. Bach parties have become prohibitively expensive, sometimes requiring travel and days off work. (This editor has heard one too many stories about friend groups returning from a Miami getaway bickering about the cost.) Agreeing to being a wedding party member is also an investment in the friendship, and there are duties that come with being part of the crew. It’s why you need to make the expectations—and the price tag—clear.

“What’s really interesting about weddings is that some people go into planning and all of these rules that we live by are suddenly thrown out the window,” says VanCort. “The same common decency and communication that we use with our friends in everyday life can simply be applied to weddings. Of course, it’s your day and it’s special, but if somebody’s struggling financially, you wouldn’t ask them to make a large purchase. So why would you do it now?”

Leading with empathy can serve as an antidote. “Being empathetic with your friends is what we’d expect from our friends in life,” VanCort adds. “We shouldn’t expect anything less from them or ourselves when we’re getting married.”

Review Your Contracts

To most, this is obvious, but 14 vendors later (the average number of wedding professionals hired by 2023 newlyweds), you might overlook the fine print. Amid the excitement of tastings and fittings, OOW means reviewing your contracts like any boss would before hiring an employee. It is one of the most tangible and clear ways you can take responsibility for the wedding. (Find more on page 34.)

“A couple will enter into wedding services contracts typically once in their lives. Vendors do so every week. It’s what they do,” says Krezalek. “They have gone through every scenario, and their contracts reflect protections that have been added through years of their experience. Follow the rule of: ‘It never hurts to ask.’ Some vendors may be unwilling to deviate from the language in their contracts, but consider suggesting changes or striking provisions that you see as onerous or one-sided. The worst that could happen is that they say no.”

Vibe With Your Vendors

Here’s the great news: About 67 percent of couples said their vendors calmed their nerves. That means most couples share a trusting relationship with the team they’ve hired (and rightfully so, TBH). We also noticed a seven percent increase of couples hiring planners within the last year, a signal that to-be-weds appreciate the value of handing it to the professionals.

Sifting through reviews is also time well spent. Ratings don’t always give a complete picture of a vendor’s professionalism and care, but couples should know who they’re hiring before making deposits. (Fifty-eight percent of vendors, in fact, confidently stand behind their work and want a review once the wedding is over.)

Follow Up, Follow Through

You might get along with your vendors, but question marks may arise around exact roles and responsibilities. Without clarity, unspoken expectations can create a rift. One tip for creating a healthier working foundation is the art of following up. “Any time you have a meeting or conversation with somebody, follow up. Say, ‘Thank you so much for this conversation. This is what we talked about and agreed upon. If anything here doesn’t make sense, please let me know before we move forward,’” says VanCort. “Every bit of research shows two people can be in the same room and have a completely different experience. Making sure you’re on the same page is a good idea.” She urges couples to strive for clarity.

ABOUT THE EXPERTS

Caitlin Fulton Kuchemba is a Pennsylvania-based event planner and the owner of Fulton Events. The president of Philadelphia’s Wedding

Accept the Unexpected

We have a saying at The Knot: It’s not a matter of “if,” it’s a matter of “when.” Let’s say the best man forgets the rings en route from the hotel to the ceremony, and there isn’t much time left before the wedding. You might understandably react out of frustration, but that won’t resolve the issue. “You handle it the way you would handle life,” reflects VanCort. “If there’s anything you can do about it at that point, it’s your gig and you need to fix it. This may mean delegating. Usually drenching people in shame is not going to get you the outcome that you want. It’s probably better to figure out what needs to be done.”

Respect Is Responsibility

Loved ones and those involved closely in the wedding planning process often feel the brunt of disrespect from couples. While you should address family dynamics, sometimes with the help of a professional, vendors are a different story. “You’re hiring professionals to be on board to bring this to life for you,” says Kuchemba. “Just as you would respect a doctor that you’re seeing or an attorney that you’re hiring, we are professionals. But sometimes we don’t get treated that way.” Kuchemba notes that leading with kindness often yields greater returns: Vendors are willing to go above and beyond for couples who show responsibility and respect. “The reality is the kinder you are to your vendors, the more they want to put into your wedding,” she says. “We also have couples who push back on pricing and ask for discounts. They push to get things, and that’s one way to do it. But it doesn’t get you the best result in the end.”

Own Your Outcomes

It’s natural to experience some stress with planning. If it feels burdensome, you’ll want guidance from someone who’s balanced and trustworthy enough to gently raise issues, should they arise. By asking a friend or family member, or even your partner, to provide honest feedback, you’re taking ownership and building self-awareness. “It’s a time in your life where people will be generous and loving with you, and you’re generous and loving with them,” says VanCort. “I believe that the more you are true to yourself and the more you take responsibility for your actions, the more fulfilling and beautiful your life will be. That applies to the wedding too.”

International Professionals Association chapter, she was one of our 2023 Ones to Watch

Eliza VanCort is a communication strategist and Alice Cook House Fellow at Cornell University. She is the author of A Woman’s Guide to Claiming Space.

Martin Krezalek is a New York City–based business litigator with the Blank Rome law firm.

THE SEASON’S INGREDIENT

Write It

As editors, we’re big fans of ticking that satisfying check mark when an action item is complete. In fact, research shows that those who take notes on paper work 25 percent faster than those on devices. That frees up months of extra time to plan. How’s that for wedding math? Check, please!

PHOTOGRAPHY BY GIEVES ANDERSON

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Color-code your wedding journal with Post-its and sticky tabs to differentiate tasks, ranging from planning tips and wedding tastings to budgeting and contracts.

You won’t forget to prep for the next call with your DJ, because we know how much you want to cross yet another wedding task off your to-do list. Highlight your top priorities.

Take a beat from the organized chaos of planning and schedule selfcare appointments. Enjoy some quiet time alone with a spa day or getaway. We support both.

Regularly arrange date nights that remind you of why you’re doing this in the first place. It could be dance lessons or dinner. (But avoid wedding talk during the latter.)

Say goodbye to the jarring yellow highlighter of the past. Use aesthetically pleasing hues to get excited about tasks like creating your registry. (Find inspo on page 13.)

One of the great joys of journaling is writing with a crisp ballpoint pen or dressing up the pages with stickers and eye-catching paper clips. Accessorizing your to-do list will scratch your brain just right.

INSIDE OUR LIST OF 2024’S MOST NOTABLE EMERGING WEDDING PROS

By Hannah Nowack

Finding the perfect team to bring your wedding vision to life is no small task. According to our internal research, couples book an average of 14 different vendors to make their celebration happen. But how do you find the right pros to help you plan a wedding that’s uniquely your own?

That’s where we come in. Among the many talented pros across the country, we’ve scouted a cohort of 27 especially outstanding businesses we know will inspire your wedding planning.

One of the most fulfilling parts of researching this year’s honorees was seeing how many of them founded their businesses during the peak of the pandemic. The innovation and beauty they were able to foster is nothing short of astounding.

Without further ado, here are our 2024 Ones to Watch honorees.

The Making of Ones to Watch

Given that there are thousands of wedding professionals across the US, you might wonder how we landed on these 27 standout businesses. These parameters guided us in our search for rising talent across all categories. Notably, we sought values-driven pros who are pushing the industry forward through their commitment to advocacy, innovation and connection. Our honorees are the future of weddings.

Requirements for consideration:

• Fewer than eight years in business in the wedding industry.

• Have a cutting-edge, authentic and creative approach to their field.

• Further vetted through reviews from industry peers and colleagues.

• Vetted by a nine-person committee made up of six folks from The Knot and three esteemed industry experts.

• Well-respected and aligned with the editorial policy (and core values) of The Knot.

The Connector

HONOREES WHO DEMONSTRATE A COMMITMENT TO PUSHING COMMUNITY FORWARD THROUGH NETWORKING. THESE PROS ARE BRIDGE-BUILDERS, CHEERLEADERS AND MENTORS. THEY’RE SUPPORTIVE TEAM PLAYERS WHO CARE ABOUT CREATING SPACE FOR EVERYONE TO THRIVE.

Drew Coleman Films

Drew Coleman

@DrewColemanFilms

Based in: North Carolina

Expertise: Videography

Founded: May 2020

Fun Fact: Drew was still in college when he founded his business.

Drawing inspiration from his parents’ “hearts for service, unrelenting work ethic and sheer indefatigability,” Drew is on a mission to create wedding videos that stir up deep emotions. He wants his work, which involves a candid, nontraditional artistic approach, to bring clients back to the intimate moments they shared on their wedding day.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Drew is a five-star vendor. He is responsive, efficient and full of charisma. His videos capture memories that last a lifetime.” – @ANobleEventsandDesign

“Drew is the type of human that our industry needs more of. He’s a team player, and he respects the time and effort of the other artists he collaborates with. Simply put, he’s a young man with a good heart and immense talent.” – @KatBraman

@Ahna__Han

Based in:

New York

Expertise:

Florals

Founded: May 2019

Motivated by:

“Unveiling the secret life of wedding flowers.”

Ahna Han Ahna Han

Ahna is keenly aware of the emotions her designs evoke. She views flowers as a “beautiful through line that furthers a couple’s narrative and reflects their individuality.” She shares that perspective when mentoring fledgling designers. Ahna is focused on “pulling back the curtain” on floristry. She believes transparency and educating fellow florists is necessary to the success of the industry at large.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Not only is she the kindest soul, but she radiates positivity onto those around her.”

– @DiwanbyDesign

“Her talent and professionalism stand out so much.”

– @ChelliseMichaelPhotography

Willow Hill

Nicole Wineland–Thomson Fisher and Greg Fisher

@EventsatWillowHill

Based in:

Connecticut

Expertise:

Venue

Founded:

August 2023

Motivated by: Building relationships and fostering trust.

What do you do when you see a gap in the industry? Willow Hill’s founders, who have years of experience in the wedding industry— Nicole as a travel agent and Greg as a videographer—decided to fill it. “We know what it takes behind the scenes to execute a fabulous event,” they say, which is why the couple decided to open up a wedding venue where “everyone is thought of and cared for.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“The thoughtful property design allows for a seamless event experience for both guests and vendors.” – @BaciareEvents

“Nicole and Greg understand that clients want their guests to feel cared for and welcome at all times.”

– @StephanieVegliante

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: DAKOTA HERSEY PHOTOGRAPHY; STEPHANIE VEGLIANTE; BROOKE NASH PHOTOGRAPHY; KATE EDWARDS WEDDINGS; GAJA LK.

TableMade

Tammy L. Noel

@TableMadeCo

Based in: Georgia

Expertise:

Tabletop Rentals

Founded: June 2018

Motivated by: Elevating hospitality.

“Tammy is an unbelievably dedicated team player with a mind-blowing work ethic and unrivaled professionalism. Even rarer, she is genuinely kind to everyone in her orbit and an absolute joy to be around.”

– @PearlandSkyEvents

“She leads with kindness, meticulous attention to detail and friendliness.” – @Glorianna.Chan

Tammy’s business motto is “People first. Style always.” That ethos doesn’t just influence how she treats clients, but it informs her approach to leading a business. “Being Haitian, I was taught to take the safest, most typical route in life,” she says. “Risk wasn’t celebrated, since survival was the primary goal growing up. I want to inspire others to go after what they want. We all deserve to.”

Nikki Daskalakis Nikki Daskalakis

@NikkiDaskalakis

Based in: Maryland

Expertise: Photography

Founded: August 2018

Motivated by: Getting to know people beyond their walls.

Nikki’s first career as a clinical forensic social worker taught her a valuable lesson: “Leave space for people’s emotions to live, never rushing past an uncomfortable moment or trying to change a truth into something neat and compact,” she says. “I spent years in the court system helping people who needed someone to bear witness to their most challenging experiences. That work demands presence and authenticity.” That experience now informs her approach to photography. “I hope the people I meet along the way feel deserving of being seen.”

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A forever student, Brittany approaches her work through a set of beliefs. She’s focused on capturing “a person’s essence,” and her adaptability helps her achieve that aim.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Nikki is your personal hypewoman. When we work together, we walk away feeling motivated and fully energized, even after 10+ hours on our feet.”

– @SimplyBreatheEvents

“She captures not just beauty, but the feelings expressed in a moment, and that’s incredibly impressive.” – @IdaRoseEvents

“Learning the rules is just as important as breaking them,” she says. “I hope to be remembered as someone who created her own path while helping others create theirs.” Notably, she brings perspective and creativity to the field.

@BrittanyBoote

Based in: Pennsylvania

Expertise:

Photography

Founded: March 2017

Fun Fact: Her first camera was a GoPro.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “Her commitment to authenticity and capturing genuine emotions sets her apart.”

– @BriggsandCoEvents

“Brittany brings inclusivity and community to the forefront of her business.”

– @LavishHausCo

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: SAVANNA STURKIE; SARAH LAWLESS; BRITTANY BOOTE PHOTOGRAPHY (2); EAST MADE CO.; NIKKI DASKALAKIS.

Veronica Joy Events

Veronica Joy Gurl

@VeronicaJoyEvents

Based in: New Jersey

Expertise: Planning

Founded: December 2016

Advice for couples:

“Put your blinders up. Stop comparing yourself to others.”

“The process is as important as the final product,” says Veronica, who leads her business with a focus on intention, humor and ease. “We are calm and confident in the

Your Big Day ATL

Deianna Hamilton

@YourBigDayATL

Based in: Georgia

Expertise: Planning

Founded: June 2020

Fun Fact: She studied journalism in college.

midst of the magic we are creating. We always come back to: Is it luxuriously fun? I want our clients and their guests to remember the way they felt at an event we produced.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Upon meeting Veronica (everyone calls her V), a genuine warmth fills the room. A certain magic she

contains is that everyone who works alongside her feels supported, uplifted and taken care of.”

– @PatFureyPhoto

“She’s been called an orchestra conductor, a positive force and a best friend by her couples, and it’s easy to see why.”

– Cathryn Haight, Editor, The Knot

“There would be no wedding without the union, so focus on the union.” This mantra guides Deianna’s approach to working with couples. The planner likes to “bypass any fluff” and focus on the deep, meaningful stuff that resonates with couples. It’s how she sets about planning events. “I want couples to build their relationship to ensure they’ll have more than a beautiful wedding.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “In an industry that can appear closed off, Deianna radiates warmth and approachability. As a Black woman in the South, she is fighting for representation in an industry that has traditionally done a lackluster job of showcasing minorities. No matter the odds stacked against her, she’s tackling her career goals with grace and tact.” – @HelloHelaine

“She is professional, thorough, thoughtful and calm in everything she does.”

– @BowmanandClark

Swoon Union

Michelle LaBuwi

@MichelleLaBuwi

Based in: Maine

Expertise: Officiant

Founded: January 2018

Fun Fact: A newspaper column about love inspired her business name.

“A guest once approached me after a ceremony and said my voice was so soothing, she felt like she was listening to her sleep sounds app. She proceeded to share about her recent divorce and said the ceremony gave her hope for finding future love,” says Michelle, who is both a wedding officiant and ceremony consultant. Even if couples don’t have her officiate, Michelle can still ghostwrite a one-of-a-kind ceremony that, she says, “lets their love story, values, intentions and dreams shine.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“She radiates positive energy and is fascinated by people, which makes her a wonderful interviewer. It also helps her craft beautiful ceremonies for her couples.” – @NicoleMowerEvents

“Michelle’s ceremonies often bring guests (and vendors) to tears and remind everyone of the power of true love.”

– @Kara_Patten

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: HOLTZ WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY; WEDDINGS BY NATO; CHRIS BENNETT PHOTOGRAPHY; CODY JAMES BARRY PHOTOGRAPHY; RARE LOVE STORIES; CHAISE HELAINE TINSLEY.

The Connector

Kait Peña

Kaitlin (Kait) Peña

@KaitPenaPhoto

Based in: New York

Expertise: Photography

Founded: March 2018

Fun Fact: She is also a fashion designer.

Kait’s drive for storytelling is rooted in her past as a photojournalist, when she documented life in Iraq throughout the ISIS occupation.

Through photography, Kait says she’s focused on creating work that spins seemingly ordinary snippets into “a profound narrative of your most significant moments. I want to reveal the beauty hidden in the overlooked and unexpected.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Kait’s inspiration, which is drawn from the world beyond weddings, helps her bring a unique perspective.”

– @Judson_Rappaport

“Her eye for photography and storytelling is far beyond her years.”

– @SaraLandonEvents

The Innovator

HONOREES WHO DEMONSTRATE A COMMITMENT TO PUSHING DESIGN FORWARD THROUGH CREATIVITY. THESE PROS ARE TRAILBLAZERS AND VISIONARIES. THEY’RE TRENDSETTERS AND TASTEMAKERS WHO THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX TO DREAM UP NEW AND INVENTIVE WEDDING IDEAS.

Yana and Diego seek inspiration from fashion, beauty and nature to inform their unforgettable designs. They love thinking outside the box to create what they call “dreamscapes that are just ahead of the trends.” And to make those unique concepts a reality, the duo emphasizes the importance of trusting “your designers to create something extraordinary.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

Arizmendi Events

Ianina (Yana) Nikolaeva and Diego Arizmendi

@ArizmendiEvents

Based in: New York

Expertise: Florals

Founded: February 2020

Motivated by: Creating unique and unforgettable designs.

“Their level of talent and hard work is only surpassed by their loyalty as friends and as humans.” – @LePetitePrive

“They’re not afraid to try something new or to step out of the box.” – @CalenRose

Flour House Cakes & Co.

Lincoln Alexander

@FlourHouseCakes

Based in: Michigan

Expertise: Cakes

Founded: March 2018

Fun Fact: He is a thirdgeneration baker.

Lincoln’s inspiration for cakes is far from typical. “I tap into many diverse aspects of my life when designing cakes,” he says. He sources ideas from his Caribbean roots, his health sciences degree and his love of textile design and travel. “My unique perspectives influence the structure, taste and beauty of my cakes.” When designing a confection for a couple, he always asks himself one question: “What haven’t we seen?”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “The level of professionalism, dedication and creativity Lincoln exhibits sets a new benchmark in the wedding industry. His capacity to bring innovation, fresh ideas and a disruptive perspective to the established norms of the industry is commendable.” – @StanloPhotography “He is easy to work with and a great vendor partner to have. He conducts business with a high level of love and integrity.” – @LePennDesigns

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: AJ TAMARI; SUSAN SHEK PHOTOGRAPHY; JAMIE GENS PHOTOGRAPHY; LINCOLN ALEXANDER.

Vidhi Dattani Designs

Vidhi Dattani

@VidhiDattaniDesigns

Based in: New York

Expertise: Stationery

Founded: January 2019

Fun Fact: She takes a walk in nature every day to find inspiration and stay grounded.

Vidhi is renowned for her meticulously handcrafted stationery and delicate yet vibrant paintings. She says she’s focused on creating “compositions that captivate the eye and spark joy for couples who want something truly special and charming for their wedding stationery. Each piece of paper is a canvas for couples to express their story.” For Vidhi, stationery shouldn’t be an afterthought, but a central element in the narrative of a wedding. “My hope is that future generations will view stationery not merely as paper goods, but as cherished keepsakes that evoke memories and emotions,” she says.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She is a talented artist who creates beauty and is kind, caring and thoughtful with her clients and industry peers.” – @JaineKershner

“She knows how to make a lasting first impression with her gorgeous suites. Bonus points that they’re worth displaying on your fridge.” – Lauren Whalley, Editor, The Knot

Sarah is on a mission to “consistently produce weddings characterized by peace, order and breathtaking beauty,” she says. “These values govern our entire approach to wedding planning, ensuring a serene and joyful journey for our couples. I want to be known as the individual who not only excels at crafting memorable events, but also goes above and beyond to assist and unite others.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Sarah and SG3 Events have consistently provided exceptional service, demonstrated creativity and innovation, and impacted the lives of their couples.” – @Sok.Vision

“She has a calming yet joyful demeanor. She keeps an extremely level head while always being positive.”

– @JoshPlusDana

SG3 Events

Sarah Nickens

@SG3Events

Based in: Maryland

Expertise: Planning

Founded: March 2019

Fun Fact: Her business is named after her daughter, because the “joy I felt bringing her into the world” inspires Sarah’s work.

Tyler Varnell

Tyler Varnell

@TylerVarnell

Based in: California Expertise: Music

Founded: January 2017

Fun fact: He once played the saxophone while wakesurfing.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“He’s passionate, hardworking and overall the coolest human.”

– @PureLavishEvents

“Beyond his natural talent, the versatility he provides couples is outstanding.”

– Lauren Kay, Executive Editor, The Knot

Ironic Reports

Andrew Leavitt

@IronicReports

Based in: New York

Expertise: Meteorology

Founded: November 2020

Motivated by: Raising awareness about climate change and figuring out safe ways to approach wedding planning as weather patterns shift.

A meteorologist is the wedding vendor you didn’t know you need. Andrew’s ability to help couples and planners make informed decisions sets him apart. “We provide context and actionable insights based on science,” he says. “Instead of couples having to play amateur meteorologist, we connect you with a professional who understands the intricacies of your specific wedding.” While weather apps give you information, Ironic Reports helps you make sense of it.

Stuck between booking a live band and a DJ for your wedding? Thanks to Tyler’s hybrid approach to wedding music, you can have it all. He plays piano and saxophone while mixing tunes as a DJ and emceeing a reception. Who needs a Jack of all trades when you can have a Tyler instead?

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “His knowledge makes him an invaluable extension of my team.” – @AndreaEppolito

“His next-level weather prep plans are the epitome of innovation.” – Taylor Whitten, Content Strategist, The Knot

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: VIDHI DATTANI; SAWYER BAIRD; CHARD PHOTO; VALORIE DARLING; STACY MARKS; ANGELIKA JOHNS PHOTOGRAPHY.

The Innovator continued

Sonic Sommelier

Keanna O’Quinn

@SonicSommelier

Based in: California

Expertise:

Music Curation

Founded: February 2020

Fun Fact: She loves cotton candy because its beautiful impermanence reminds her of the work she does for couples.

Keanna is a sommelier, not of wine, but of music. She uses the science of sound to curate immersive auditory experiences. “We transform the landscape with something called cross-modal perception, or how the senses interact. We take into account the elements of an event and use them to shape our sound design and music approach.” The goal of all this? “We aim to be recognized as pioneers who touched hearts and created lasting impressions of joy in every moment we were part of,” she says.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She is a true professional with the biggest heart. The fact that it’s a Blackowned company is the cherry on the top for me. Its team does everything with great finesse.”

– @KunbiEsq

“What stands out about them is their commitment to delivering outstanding results by making sure the mood and sound truly reflects the client.”

– @StaffordCreative_Co

Hype Queen Media

Leshay Reed

@HypeQueenMedia

Based in: Missouri

Expertise:

Content Creation

Founded: August 2022

Motivated by: Revolutionizing the way vendors collaborate and showcase their work.

“With a passion for storytelling and an iPhone in hand, I’m committed to capturing every unforgettable moment in a way that’s fun, thoughtful and authentically you,” says Leshay of her cutting-edge business. Within 24 hours of the

Amy believes that “kindness, teamwork and creativity go a long way.” She draws on those virtues when planning weddings that incorporate the five senses. “They look like a dinner party my clients host each Friday and smell like the peonies my client would steal from their grandmother’s garden,” she says. “The food tastes like their favorite local restaurants all came together to create one big menu just for them. When guests arrive, they immediately feel at home, which brings an unmatched energy to the wedding day.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She puts together one-of-a-kind events.” – @SarahTribettPhoto

“Amy is a creative genius at translating couples’ interests into design.”

– @RemiandGold

wedding, Leshay provides the couple with videos they can share on social media while they eagerly await their photographer’s and videographer’s work. “When I’m at your wedding, it’s more than just capturing the moments for me. My mission is to infuse every event with positivity, excitement and hype,” she says.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “Leshay embodies a welcoming ‘you can sit with us’ energy, ensuring that her work and collaborations reflect a commitment to inclusiveness.”

– @KateandCompany

“Her personality is electric. Leshay is someone you remember and hope to see again.”

– @CarleyJeansFloral

Hawthorne & Poppy Events

Amy Küntz

@HawthorneandPoppyEvents

Based in: Texas

Expertise: Planning

Founded: October 2020

Advice for couples: “Always push for what feels right and most authentic to you.”

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: SARKIS STUDIOS; TRENT BROGLIN PHOTOGRAPHY; LILY NOTZ; MATT ERICKSON PHOTOGRAPHY; ABBY JIU PHOTOGRAPHY.

The Advocate

HONOREES WHO DEMONSTRATE A COMMITMENT TO PUSHING DIVERSITY FORWARD THROUGH INCLUSIVITY. THESE PROS ARE UNITERS AND AMPLIFIERS. THEY’RE MOTIVATED BY A DESIRE TO INVITE PEOPLE IN WHILE CREATING WORK THAT AUTHENTICALLY REFLECTS A COUPLE’S ROOTS.

Keen Events

Elise Handler

@KeenEvents

Based in:

Oregon

Expertise: Planning

Founded: December 2017

Fun Fact: Elise named her business after her dog. “The average wedding produces 400 pounds of waste,” says Elise, whose business is dedicated to eco-friendly planning. She helps couples minimize their wedding’s carbon footprint and says she hopes “more vendors commit to implementing sustainable practices. If we can inspire others to follow and be more mindful and intentional with their planning, that would be the greatest legacy.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“She keeps sustainability at the forefront of all of her weddings. She’s innovative and isn’t afraid to try new things.”

– @TillDeathDoWeAdventure

“Elise is a great advocate for her clients and fellow vendors alike.” – @SongbirdFloristry

John Campbell Events and Design

John Campbell

@JohnCWeddings

Based in: Florida

Expertise: Planning

Founded: January 2017

Motivated by: Fostering mutual trust.

John is on a mission to inspire people “to be dedicated to kindness and compassion.” Tensions and expectations can run high during wedding planning, he says, but it’s important that the journey be joyful. “I become invested in the human beings behind every project.” That includes both the couple and their guests. “Are there spaces or situations that might make someone uncomfortable? Have we thought through the guest experience in a way that sets them up to enjoy themselves as much as possible?” This care and consideration is the central principle in his business.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “John has made such an impact, not only on his clients, but on the people who he works with. He is as kind and caring to each wedding vendor as he is to his clients. He puts the same attention to each vendor’s needs and makes sure they’re also getting the same level of service. He’s gentle in his approach to his clients, but also firm about what’s in their best interest. And he’s always putting their best interest first.”

–

@LaurenGallowayPhotography

“John is one of the kindest planners that we have the privilege to work with. He makes it a point to treat everyone as an important part of the wedding day. (As they are!)”

– @NamesakeCreative

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP RIGHT: JUSTIN DEMUTIIS PHOTOGRAPHY; LAUREN GALLOWAY PHOTOGRAPHY; TILL DEATH DO US ADVENTURE; MEGAN VANDORAN PHOTOGRAPHY.

Modern Love Productions

Michele Harvey and Osiris Rojas

@ModernLoveProductions

Based in: Florida

Expertise: Videography

Founded: August 2017

Fun Fact: A David Bowie song inspired their business name.

Together Events

Justine Broughal and Maryam Shariat Mudrick

@Together.Events

Based in: New York

Expertise: Planning

Founded: December 2016

Motivated by: “The hope that the world we build will outshine the one that we leave behind.”

Michele and Osiris are committed to bringing a “fresh approach to a space that’s often overtly traditional,” they say. “As biracial wife-and-wife videographers, our goal is for all couples to feel seen, represented and celebrated in our work.” Giving back is also at the core of their business. “We have a donation matching system. If our couples donate to one of our selected charities—helping youth and homeless women and children—we match it,” they say.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “Part of their magic is being a married couple: wives who work together. It’s wonderful for all couples, but extra-special for queer couples. They understand the nuances of queer weddings and relationships.”

– @JoveMeyer

“They embrace diversity and inclusivity on all fronts. It’s a breath of fresh air working with them.”

– @KyleeYee

deMelis Atelier

Melissa Lynn Oddo

@deMelisAtelier

Based in: Connecticut

Expertise: Wedding Dress Alterations

Founded: August 2018

Motivated by: “Bringing the industry into the 21st century with modern flair.”

Justine and Maryam are focused on creating inclusive and socially conscious celebrations that disrupt heteronormative wedding traditions. “By creatively rethinking the status quo and sourcing vendors thoughtfully, we carve our path in a more equitable

way,” they say. “We celebrate partnership, not patriarchy, and ensure our clients and collaborators are actively invited to engage their full selves in the planning process.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING:

“Everyone deserves to feel seen, welcome and uplifted, and their team makes this a top priority.”

– @KarenObrist

“They are voices of passion and inclusion in the wedding industry. They are hardworking, open, kind, talented and driven to create a healthier industry and world.”

– @SarahBodeClark

In addition to growing her own alterations business, Melissa is committed to supporting the wedding dress industry as a whole through Stitched Collective. “It’s a community focused on connection, education and awareness for the sewing trades,” she says. “We really try to make our craft visible to both clients and retailers alike and show people that wedding dress alterations shouldn’t be in the shadows,” she says. “It’s hard work, but tailoring has been slowly dying. If I see that needle move in the other direction, I would be so proud of that legacy.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She leads with the highest level of integrity, professionalism, education and positivity.” – @AJubileeEvent

“Melissa is a core leader in wedding alterations and tailoring. She is building community for those within the trade.”

– Esther Lee, Deputy Editor, The Knot

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: PHILLIP VAN NOSTRAND; COPPOLA PHOTOGRAPHY; KELLY PRIZEL PHOTOGRAPHY; ANNIE KLEBANOFF, COURTESY OF VOGUE.

Nearlywed Coaching

Tirzah Stein

@NearlywedCoaching

Based in: Colorado

Expertise: Officiant and Coaching

Founded: September 2021

Words to live by: “Not everyone getting married identifies as a bride.”

Tirzah’s goal is to help nearlyweds plan a ceremony “outside of the traditional confines of what society says a ceremony should be.” She doesn’t just care about a couple’s nuptials, but also about helping them build a strong foundation to their relationship through premarital coaching that offers judgment-free support. She says, “Many couples are happy to find this service without having to go through a religious institution.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She’s throwing caution to the wind and building a business (and community) that doesn’t conform to norms but encourages individuality.” – @KaitlinSheaWeddings “She is the definition of inclusive.” – @LPCreativeEvents

Willow House Beauty

Michelle Schultz

@WillowHouse.Beauty

Based in: New York

Expertise: Hair and Makeup

Founded: January 2019

Words to live by: “We are in the business of love, and love has no gender or race.”

“We are not a bridal hair and makeup business,” says Michelle. “We are a beauty company for all couples who want to feel like their best selves for their wedding. Feeling great is something all folks across the gender spectrum deserve. I’m proud of having a team that reflects the diversity and inclusivity that Willow House portrays in

its work. Our team is made up of people of all genders, the LGBTQIA+ community and folks from different backgrounds.” Looking ahead, Michelle hopes to continue making the wedding industry more diverse.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “She is inclusive, kind and does stunning work.”

– @TPIMWeddings

“I absolutely adore her. There’s no one better.” – @DavisRow

DJ Chan Don

Donnie Young

@DJChan_Don

Based in: Maryland

Expertise: Music

Founded: December 2018

Motivated by: “Showing that talent knows no gender.”

In addition to serving couples as a DJ, Donnie is also committed to supporting other musicians through mental health advocacy. “A branch of my business is a nonprofit focused on mental health for women in entertainment,” she says. “It’s a passion project of mine since I have so many friends who are in all areas of entertainment. We are all experiencing the same issues in some form. It’s meant to be a community to help guide others and be a safe space to let it all out.”

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING: “It’s always important to me to find a DJ who can balance out the dynamic of the guests like she does. She has so much potential within the wedding and event industry.” – @BAstonishedEvents

“Donnie is a versatile and creative force in the industry. She’s a pro who contains multitudes—a DJ, a classically trained pianist, a mental-health advocate and an educator.”

– Kim Forrest, Senior Editor, The Knot

Where are they now?

2023 was the inaugural year of Ones to Watch. We checked in on last year’s honorees to see what’s new with them and their businesses.

Over the last year, Alex Moreau (@XOMoreauWeddings) worked with “clients who are the best match for me,” which gave her space to “continue being an innovator and inspire the world of weddings by seeking out unique ideas.”

Afrik Armando (@AfrikArmando) is excited about the connections with new planners he’s made recently. He encourages pros who are discouraged about growth: “Keep at it, friends. It’s just a matter of time before you see the fruits of your hard work.”

Xin Huang (@LePetitePrive) enjoyed “meeting and connecting with fellow honorees. It was lovely to form a supportive community that shows up and cheers you on. We are excited to nourish this community so we can all grow and thrive.”

Afrik Armando Photographer

XO Moreau Planner

Le Petite Privé Planner

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: JAY BEGAY PHOTO; NIKK RICH; KYLEE YEE; AFRIK ARMANDO; FEATHER & TWINE; ANNA GIANFRATE; ANGELA CULP.

This Just In: All Your Bridesmaids Like You (Promise)

By Jamie Cuccinelli Illustrations by Jordan Kay

YOU KNOW THAT SUDDEN, SINKING FEELING THAT EVERYONE IS AGAINST YOU? THERE’S A WORD FOR THAT.

The “Do all my friends hate me?” sentiment is a familiar one (hello, middle school lunch table)—but it can be especially pronounced during wedding planning. It creeps in when your crew is turning to you to make decisions, or when you’re occasionally asking them for help. Instead of passed notes during study hall, the trigger could be that one group chat you’ve been excluded from.

Hear us out, though: What if we told you that these intrusive thoughts are not only wholly untrue, but they have an actual name? Known as cognitive dissonances or distortions, they can be the ultimate wedding crashers if you let them.

“Cognitive distortions are essentially our brain playing tricks on us, taking a benign situation and adding anxiety by creating what-ifs or worstcase scenarios,” explains Jacqueline Plante, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the co-director and relationship specialist at Gather & Grow OC in Fullerton, California. “They are fairly common, but tend to ramp up in times of stress—like planning a wedding.”

This intrusive mental chatter can take a few forms (see sidebar on next page), such as catastrophizing—think: your secret fear of no one showing up to your wedding—and it can quickly drown out the more joyful noise of your experience.

With your own self-esteem on the line, how can we break out of the narrative and into a more secure, healthy mindset? To disrupt the pattern, reach out to a mental health pro. They can help you talk through your distorted thoughts, realign them and learn how to vocalize what you need—both during your wedding journey and beyond.

Meghan Watson, a licensed clinical psychotherapist and founder of Toronto-based therapy collective Bloom Psychology & Wellness weighs in: “Experiencing cognitive distortions can feel very uncomfortable and emotionally overwhelming. Because they’re related to how we perceive our inner and outer worlds, they can shape our interactions in relationships. They also add to pre-existing insecurities and mental health issues— like depressive episodes, obsessive compulsions and rumination—and affect how we feel about our own abilities.”

“Noticing and understanding these unhelpful thought patterns is an important first step toward shifting ourselves into balanced and healthier ones,” says Watson. “One way to do this is through labeling and reframing our thoughts and mindsets.” Known as mental reframing, this tool taken from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) challenges you to consider other explanations and examine the fact-based evidence behind certain thoughts. Does everyone really want to burn their bridesmaid dress and hate your taste? Or are you simply catastrophizing someone’s request for a fit adjustment? “The key is to slow the process down between perception (what you take in) and action (how you respond both internally and externally),” says Watson.

As an oh-so-proud member of the wedding world and frequent bridesmaid (not to brag), I feel closer than most to this particular brand of cognitive dissonance. Case in point: It’s been five years since my friend’s picturesque mountainside bachelorette party, but that doesn’t stop her from sending the occasional text to our bridesmaid group chat: “I still feel guilty over that hike I had us all go on,” she writes.

Consider this your sign to let go of the guilt. Your loved ones want you to be happy—fancy that!—and are more than likely to help you get there. And that secondary wedding party group chat? They’re probably just planning your bach! (Well, most likely.)

COMMON COGNITIVE DISSONANCES

SINCE THIS MENTAL HEALTH TERM CAN TAKE ALMOST AS MANY FORMS AS BRIDAL BOUQUETS, EDUCATING YOURSELF ON COMMON TYPES OF COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS CAN HELP YOU SPOT THEM AS YOU GO ABOUT WEDDING PLANNING AND EVERYDAY LIFE.

Control Fallacies:

The idea that we can either control everything around us or, alternatively, that nothing is within our control. “This might look like becoming hyperfixated on details or timelines for the wedding day,” explains Plante.

All-or-Nothing Thinking:

“This is the tendency to only see things in one extreme or another,” says Watson. “Think: ‘Everything must happen perfectly or else the whole day is ruined.’”

Overgeneralization:

When you make lofty assumptions or predictions based on a singular situation. An example is believing your in-laws don’t like you after one small conflict arises.

Emotional Reasoning:

This is when you base your beliefs on how you feel in the moment without considering other evidence. “A wedding-related example might be, ‘I’m feeling anxious and nervous about the wedding, so that means I won’t be a good partner,’” says Watson.

Should-ing or Must-ing:

“This is using ‘should’ or ‘must’ statements to place unreasonable pressure and demands on ourselves and others,”

Watson explains, such as thinking your partner should never make a mistake or miss a planning deadline.

Reality Check

We could all use a reality check from time to time—especially when you can’t seem to get out of your own head. “Mental reframing is not a perfect process,” reminds Watson. “So practice compassion for yourself as you work to unlearn these styles of thinking.”

With practice though, the goal is to recognize negative thought patterns you regularly fall into and be able to reframe the narrative by integrating additional evidence and perspectives.

Give it a go. The next time you imagine a pile of “No” RSVPs, pull out this cognitive reframing worksheet to return to reality.

First, start with your negative thought. Jot that bad boy down.

How does it make you feel? (Be honest!)

Time to play detective: What evidence do you have to back up this narrative?

What would you tell your best friend, partner or maid of honor if they shared similar feelings?

Let’s change that mindset! What’s an alternative thought that might be more useful?

What about against it? Are you looking at all the evidence or just what supports your thoughts?

Believe

BOMBARDED BY WEIGHT-LOSS MESSAGES BEFORE THE WEDDING, COUPLES ARE FACING A MESS OF ‘PERFECT PROPORTIONS’ WHILE PLANNING. WE EXPLORE WHY.

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BY ESTHER LEE

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WELLNESS

Let’s start with a question: What is perfect, anyway? Diet culture has influenced the prewedding prep dialogue for far too long with phrases like “shedding for the wedding” or the thinly veiled “bridal body boot camp” of recent years. The fitness and diet industries promise toned arms for the bouquet toss, a six-pack for the tropical honeymoon and a Mia Thermopolis–like transformation in time for the wedding. (Miracles happen!) Ozempic has added fuel to the fire by subliminally sending messages to an appearance-driven culture that thinner is better and that you can obtain semaglutide for off-label use if you’re willing to pay the price. Unfortunately, what these marketing programs don’t teach is how to sustain results by healing within.

The emphasis on the exterior over the interior, coupled with weddings, has inspired a reality TV show called Shedding for the Wedding and plenty of pop-culture fodder about magical makeovers and confidence-shattering fittings. Subconsciously, our brains have been programmed to approach weddings with a scarcity mindset: We must scale back on calories and reduce our measurements to throw a big event. “Diet culture becomes even more prevalent during the engagement because of societal messages that the wedding needs to be ‘perfect,’” says Dr. Erin Birely of The Renfrew Center for Eating Disorders in Pennsylvania. “Beyond the décor, these messages are internalized by brides or grooms as needing to look ‘perfect’ on the wedding day, which leads to restrictive diets or increased exercise to obtain the ‘perfect’ body.”

ness wasn’t about negating the cacio e pepe from the previous evening in pursuit of a lithe body. The endorphins, combined with energy-boosting nutritional habits, made me feel…dare I say, my best. Conversely, self-criticism of my body—and denying myself pasta—did very little to motivate me to lift weights.

That precise feeling of self-acceptance and accomplishment is the energy that Roup wants couples to take into wedding planning, a time when deprivation and restriction are especially prevalent. “While we want results from our workout, and there’s nothing wrong about desiring change, it needs to be done in a healthy and sustainable way,” she says. “I want us to feel less pressure to be at our ‘thinnest,’ which is often associated with our ‘best.’”

Building a habit requires a mental shift in the beginning. Once you’ve completed five minutes, you’re now onto 10 minutes. Those smaller commitments develop a routine. That is powerful.

To be clear, there is a difference between losing weight and feeling healthy. The intention matters. For years, I didn’t understand the difference, often resorting to extreme tactics to “detox” and lose weight. Then I fell in love with my gym routine and a fitness class called The Sculpt Society. I first connected with its founder, Megan Roup, when she launched the program in New York City in 2017. The movements combined dance, cardio and some Pilates, and I religiously attended the classes until the pandemic. Though I was relegated to working out in my apartment living room, a routine was set. I discovered that fit-

Forget what you know. Our perceptions of “ideal” have been influenced by other decisionmakers who want to commodify our relationship with our bodies. “The age-old marketing tactics of the fitness industry work,” says Roup. “That’s why we still see before and afters and talk about thigh gaps.”

Diet culture also speaks to something beyond physical changes: It embodies our need for control. “It perpetuates the belief that people have to look a certain way in order to be viewed as attractive, productive, successful and competent,” says Birely.

For couples, planning a wedding can further exacerbate that desire for control. Diets and deprivation typically don’t address what’s within (including factors like the mind-body connection). This often results in short-term “wins” and long-term frustration.

How do we modify the narrative? “It can be helpful for engaged couples to shift their mindset around the day,” says Birely. “Shifting from creating a ‘perfect day’ to a genuine day can reduce overall stressors and the desire to pursue unrealistic expectations for the body.” We live in a society that’s evolving and focusing more on intentionality, and the hope is that we can move beyond extreme transformations. Instead, let’s place an emphasis on the inner work that inspires lasting change. Now that’s worth celebrating.

How to Transform Your Energy While Wedding Planning

BY MEGAN ROUP

Often, couples get caught up in the minutiae of the planning, but I always say, “It’s not like you remember those small details.” I’m more of a Type B personality anyway, so I can’t honestly remember my place settings nor tell you what I ate for dinner at my wedding. What I can remember is the feeling of having my family celebrate my wedding during COVID-19 and feeling so connected to my husband. I can recall the pure joy of the day. Here’s how you can bring those feelings into the wedding planning process.

SHIFT YOUR INTENTION

Creating overwhelming stress over small details is out. Instead, ask yourselves: “How can we take those planning details and make them more fun?” Bring that same energy into making lifestyle changes. Again, instead of saying, “Let’s shed for the wedding,” tell yourself that you want to feel confident and powerful in your body. That’s a completely different feeling and posture.

Altering the intention from simply working out to actually enjoying a class or run transformed me both mentally and physically. It’s important to find something you like so you can show up consistently. It’s an energy shift, especially when you’re moving around.

Maybe you are someone who’s embracing a healthier lifestyle leading up to your wedding and you want to incorporate movement. Your energy has to match that intention. It could be as simple as saying, “I want to feel empowered on my wedding day.” Versus, “I want to be smaller. I want to take up less space.”

START WHERE YOU ARE

It can feel more doable to follow a program, whether you’re on a beginner, intermediate or advanced track. I put together a wedding program because fitness can be overwhelming, especially if you don’t have that habit and routine built in. The other part is making sure you’re participating in a movement or practice that you enjoy. If you’re going to work out, you have to enjoy it.

The Prewedding Conversation I Had With My Wife, Megan Roup

COMMIT SMALL

My mantra is commit to less so you can show up for more. To me, it starts with short workouts, especially when you’re building a habit and a routine. I preach it all the time: Exercising for 10, even 5, minutes every day is better than having one long workout once a week and being sedentary the rest of the time. Each day, simply carve out 5 or 10 minutes. Building a habit requires a mental shift in the beginning. Once you’ve completed 5 minutes, you’re now onto 10 minutes. Those smaller commitments develop a routine. That is powerful.

VALUE REST

I’m no doctor, but I do know stress and cortisol levels can impact women and our hormones. While planning, you’ll want to prioritize rest days. Sleep is also a priority (more on page 17). Don’t be triggered by those who say, “I only got five hours, and I’m a machine.” I need eight or nine hours each night, and I prioritize that. Sometimes, that means saying no to things so I can get great sleep.

WALK OUTDOORS (WITH YOUR PARTNER!)

Getting outside is so important. With work from home culture, I could stay indoors all day. But getting outside to absorb Vitamin D and up your step count are great for your overall health (and for bonding with your partner). I love to go for a walk to get coffee every day with my husband as a way for us to connect. We’ve had some of our deepest conversations shoulder-to-shoulder.

BE YOURSELF

My husband, Morgan, is the type of guy who prefers I don’t wear makeup. He thinks I look pretty when I have air-dried frizzy hair, and he wants me to show up just as I am. It’s helped my confidence to know I have a partner who wants me to look like me. We had a conversation before our wedding where he said, “I want you to feel really confident and good. I want you to be you on the wedding day.” After all, he fell in love with me and not 10-pounds-lighter Megan.

HYDRATE

Oh, and water. General water intake (about 9 to 13 cups per day) is a no-brainer and will help you feel alert and balanced.

BY MORGAN HUMPHREY

In everything big we do, Megan and I discuss life milestones and what we want out of them. Before the wedding, we talked about how we both wanted to feel on the actual day. Rather than applying external pressures and incorporating things that aren’t normal for us, I wanted to ensure the Megan I fell in love with felt her very best.

We also both said we wanted to be present. I didn’t want to feel like I was performing for anyone. I wanted to be fully present during our vows, while expressing the words I had written. Fun fact: During the ceremony, we were harboring a little secret of our own. We were up there getting married, and no one knew that we were soon-to-be parents too. We ended up unveiling her pregnancy to the family at the reception. I remember it vividly.

Past & Present Megan Roup and Morgan Humphrey (pictured) on their wedding day in Santa Barbara on 10/18/2020.

KICK UP YOUR HEELS AT A COCKTAIL-HOUR CEREMONY WITH BOLD LOOKS, COLORFUL TWISTS ON TRADITION AND AN EXTRA DOSE OF MAGIC FROM SOME TRUSTED KNOT VENDORS.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY SOPHIE ELGORT STYLING BY REBECCA DENNETT

Gloves by Wing + Weft; ring by Ritique; heart clutch by Judith Leiber Couture; rings on fork by Alexis Bittar.

Top and pants by Carolina Herrera; headpieces by Erickson Beamon, Jennifer Behr and Lelet NY; earrings by Jennifer Behr; rings by Ritique.

Dress by Honor; gloves by Wing + Weft; earrings by Jennifer Behr; brooch by Erickson Beamon; shoes by Roger Vivier.

Glassware from Ella Jane Vintage.

Above: Shoes by Larroudé; hair comb and choker by Erickson Beamon.

Below: Blazer by Sans Faff; rings by Alexis Bittar and Ritique. Glassware from Ella Jane Vintage; bug dish by Armitano Domingo.

Above: Dress by Retrofête; gloves by Wiederhoeft.

Below: Tuxedo and cuff links by Brooks Brothers; shirt by John Varvatos; shoes by Jimmy Choo.

From far left, on Noa: Tuxedo and cuff links by Brooks Brothers; shirt by John Varvatos.

On Luisa: Dress by Retrofête; gloves by Wiederhoeft; shoes by Jimmy Choo; earrings by Jennifer Behr; headpieces by Erickson Beamon, Jennifer Behr and Lelet NY.

On Sage: Gown by Norma Kamali; vest by Sans Faff; crown by Erickson Beamon.

On Charlie: Jacket, pants, bow tie and cuff links by Brooks Brothers; shirt by Todd Snyder.

Above: Shoes by Roger Vivier. Vase by Armitano Domingo.

Opposite: Dress by Viktor&Rolf; gloves by Wing + Weft; shoes by Roger Vivier; choker by Erickson Beamon; clutches by Judith Leiber Couture.

From left, on Sage: blazer by Sans Faff; earrings by Alexis Bittar. On Noa: shirt by Palomo from Cloak Wardrobe; ear cuff by Erin Fader Jewelry.

Above: Dress by Christian Cowan.

Opposite: Gloves by Wing + Weft; tuxedo jacket by Brooks Brothers; T-shirt by Todd Snyder; ear cuff by Erin Fader Jewelry.

Hair by Shin Arima; makeup by Misuzu Miyake; grooming by Hector Simancas; nails by Jazz Styles; set design by Elaine Winter; casting by Gillian Avertick/Inner Circle NY LA. Models: Sage/Elite Models; Charlie Ferguson/Wilhelmina; Luisa Laemmel/Noa Bell/New York Model Management. Shot on location at Wythe Hotel, Brooklyn. Floral design by Buunch NYC. Pastries by Le Crocodile, Brooklyn.

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LUSIVE

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Tennis and land activities (pay extra for a private guided hike)

Over-the-top accommodations

Sailboats, paddleboards and kayaks

EVOLUTION

BY JEN MURPHY

ROMANTIC GETAWAYS

THESE AREN’T YOUR PARENTS’ ALL-INCLUSIVES.

Once associated with budget travelers and bottomless, umbrella-studded tiki drinks, the all-inclusive resort model has gone luxe. Couples will find intimate independent properties and adults-only havens with Michelin-starred meals, fine wines, butler service and private guides.

Even package vacation pioneers like Club Med and Sandals have reinvented themselves with upscale offerings. (Think overwater villas, private excursions and daily champagne service.) Allinclusive subdivisions of the Hiltons and Hyatts of the world have also doubled down on exclusive packages, without compromising on the quality of their products and services.

Whether your dream honeymoon is a ski trip in the Alps or an island escape in Southeast Asia, the following all-inclusive resorts offer excellent value, plenty of experiences, and promise the ultimate stress-free escape. (All prices are for two people per night, all-inclusive, unless otherwise noted.)

For a Ski Trip

Why go: Discover legendary après-ski, delicious Savoyard cuisine and almost guaranteed snow, suitable for snow bunnies and powder hounds alike. Where to stay: Club Med handles all the logistics of planning the perfect ski trip, including rentals and lessons. Its chalet-inspired, ski-in/ski-out hotel in Val d’Isère is the only alpine property in its über-luxe Exclusive Collection, which means you get perks like breakfast in bed and daily champagne service. From $820; ClubMed.us

What’s included: Your deluxe suite comes with concierge service, private airport transfers, and drinks and meals at four on-site bars and two restaurants. The latter includes Les Millésimes, which serves

For a Beach Vacation LOS CABOS, MEXICO

Why go: This fabled Spring Break party destination has transformed into a sophisticated coastal escape with dreamy beaches and fantastic dining. Bonus: It’s a quick nonstop flight from many US cities.

Where to stay: Grand Velas has long been synonymous with all-inclusive luxury in some of Mexico’s most popular resort towns. In January, the brand raised the bar with Grand Velas Boutique, a 79-suite, adults-only hotel with an oceanfront location next to its larger sister property. From $1,200; LosCabosBoutique.GrandVelas.com

What’s included: Enjoy meals and drinks at the hotel’s three bars and two restaurants, including Loto Robata Grill, helmed by a Michelin-starred chef; dinners at the five restaurants next door at Grand Velas; activities like a Mexican-chocolate tasting; nightly entertainment; and gratuities.

When to go: Between December and January you have a good chance of spotting migrating humpback whales from your suite’s spacious terrace.

Splurge: Spa pass experiences include access to a sauna, steam room, ice room and magnesium pool. Try the Ocean Sounds therapy, a massage enhanced with sound and vibration ($395 per person).

refined French and Italian dishes with wine pairings from the sommelier. Lift passes, group lessons, daily yoga classes and après-ski sessions with live music are also part of the package. When to go: Snow cover is guaranteed December through April thanks to a combination of highaltitude slopes and one of the largest snowmaking

facilities in Europe.

Splurge: Post-ski treatment packages at the Club Med Spa by Cinq Mondes let you choose suitable treatments for six hours of pampering throughout your stay (from $55 per person).

For a Surf Trip JACÓ, COSTA RICA

Why go: Just a two hour’s drive from the San Jose airport, Jacó is a bustling surf town with a half-dozen beaches, including a recently designated World Surfing Reserve, Playa Hermosa.

Where to stay: Surf Synergy is a small, landscaped oasis 10 minutes from the beach. Accommodations range from spacious bungalows to the new Villa King Room suite

For a Safari MASAI MARA, KENYA

Why go: Experience the Maasai people’s distinct culture and see why this area is known as the home of three of the five big cats (lion, leopard and cheetah). Where to stay: Cottar’s 1920 Camp will make your Out of Africa fantasies come true. Situated in a private concession, just outside the Masai Mara National Reserve, the property has two dedicated honeymoon tents with vintage decor and outdoor verandas complete with bathtubs. From $2,300; Cottars.com

with an exclusive infinity pool and hot tub. From $2,765. Villa King Room from $2,975; SurfSynergy.com

What’s included: The focus is improving your surfing skills, whether you’re experienced or a first-timer. Guests receive a one-on-one coaching session with video analysis, plus postsurf snacks like fruit and coconut water. The rate also includes: airport transfers, daily yoga classes, breathwork sessions, ice-bath and massage therapy, hyper-local healthy meals, and an adventure like a hike in nearby

What’s included: The price covers wildlife drives, wilderness runs or walks with a Maasai warrior, a one-hour Maasai beading session, a foraging walk, a stargazing experience, a reforestation activity, a bush bath, educational meals and sundowners. When to go: It’s easier to spot wildlife during the dry season, between July and October. These months also offer a chance to witness the bucket-list wildebeest migration.

Splurge: Get a bird’s eye view of the Masai Mara during a sunrise hot-air balloon flight ($1,010 for two people).

Manuel Antonio National Park.

When to go: Dry season, December through April, is known for blue skies and mellow, beginner-friendly waves. Green season, May through November, delivers consistent waves suited to experienced surfers.

Splurge: The hotel can arrange a private, four-hour catamaran sailing trip ($300 for two people).

For the Views

SACRED VALLEY, PERU

Why go: The gateway to Machu Picchu offers world-class hiking through stunning landscapes dotted with archaeological sites and indigenous communities. Where to stay: Tucked between Cusco and Machu Picchu, Explora Valle Sagrado’s 50 rooms enjoy dazzling views of quinoa fields, original Incan terraces and the majestic peaks of the Andes. The hotel offers nearly 20 half-and full-day trekking options. From $3,960 for two nights; Explora.com What’s included: The rate covers a full-day visit to Machu Picchu, including train and entry tickets; guided excursions to archaeological sites like Pisac and Moray; meals at an in-house restaurant conceived by Peruvian star chef Virgilio Martínez; an open bar with top-shelf spirits; use of spa facilities; and airport transfers.

When to go: The shoulder months of April, May, September and October have excellent weather, but you’ll have the trails largely to yourself.

Splurge: Reward your hiking efforts with an Inca Feet massage at the hotel’s Pumacahua Bath House ($80 per person).

For an Island Escape THE MALDIVES

Why go: Powdery beaches, secluded resorts with stilted bungalows over turquoise lagoons, and fantastic snorkeling and diving make the Maldives a honeymoon mecca.

Where to stay: Hurawalhi, a 90-villa, adults-only resort on a private coral island, is an aquatic Eden—and it’s a quick 40-minute seaplane flight from Malé, the archipelago’s entry point. From $995; Hurawalhi.com

What’s included: The package covers three meals a day at the

resort’s Canneli restaurant, multicourse lunches and dinners at other on-site options, alcohol, a group snorkeling session with a marine biologist, windsurfing lessons and yoga classes.

When to go: Skip the holiday rush and visit in the dry season between mid-January and April.

Splurge: Experiencing the sevencourse tasting menu at the all-glass undersea restaurant is worth the extra charge, especially considering there are just 10 tables ($560 for two people).

SACRED VALLEY: COURTESY OF THE RESORT; MALDIVES: GETTY IMAGES

For an Eco-Friendly Expedition ANAMBAS ISLANDS, INDONESIA

Why go: Significantly quieter than the neighboring destination of Bali, the six main Anambas Islands exude quiet luxury with sustainable principles and well-being practices to provide guests with the ultimate relaxation. If you want an actual private-island feel without the tourists of other Southeast Asia spots, check out these remote islands in the South China Sea.

Where to stay: The eco-conscious Bawah Reserve offers the atmosphere of a retreat, with discrete service and luxury at every turn. Book one of its 36 carefully designed suites.

From $1,900, BawahReserve.com

What’s included: You’ll get all meals (but not alcohol) across the six-island resort’s restaurants and bars; daily movement and mindfulness classes (yoga, Pilates and meditation); water and land activities; and (the kicker) one spa treatment a person per day.

When to go: Visit in the shoulder seasons of March to June and September to November to increase your chance of seeing wildlife. The Anambas Foundation partners with Bawah for

couples who want to join in on sustainability efforts like turtletagging.

Splurge: Bawah’s transportation package makes the entire journey simple after you land in Singapore. The

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team transfers guests to its private seaplane, so you can take in views of the resort’s three lagoons, 13 beaches and conservation area from above ($1,900 for two people).

Getaway SAINT VINCENT AND THE GRENADINES

Why go: This off-the-beaten-path island nation stands out for its azure waters, phenomenal diving and snorkeling, unique black-sand beaches, and a plethora of hiking opportunities.

Where to stay: Nestled between rainforest and sea, Sandals’ newest Caribbean resort, Sandals Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, debuted on the southwest coast of Saint Vincent island in March. The 301-room property has the brand’s most over-the-top accommodations to date, including two-story overwater villas with rooftop lounges. From $846; Sandals.com

What’s included: Guests can dine in any of a dozen venues, ranging from an upscale dock-

to-dish restaurant to a laid-back pizzeria, plus five bars. Activities like scuba diving (certified by the Professional Association of Diving Instructors), snorkeling, kayaking and paddleboarding are included in the rate, as are round-trip airport transfers and gratuities.

When to go: For sunny, lowhumidity weather and great diving conditions, visit during the dry season, December through May. Shoulder season, May through June, is still balmy, but quieter. Splurge: Test your mettle on a private guided hike of La Soufrière volcano. The trail winds through rainforests and bamboo ridges before delivering you to the 3,196-foot summit, which promises unbeatable views ($568 for two people).

I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.

— Arwen, The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring