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SUMMER LOVE

SLEEK TUX A fuchsia boutonnniere is beautifully juxtaposed with Ross’ black-andwhite ensemble. Tuxedo and shirt, Giorgio Armani; brooch, David Yurman

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SASHAY HIS WAY Ross Mathews opens up about planning his wedding to Wellinthon Garcia.

BY THE NUMBERS Get fashion advice based on your enneagram type.

GOOD AS GOLD

Ready your wish list— our annual registry awards are here.

ULTIMATE GUEST GUIDE We’ve gathered all the details you need to be an A+ guest.

BOLD AND BEAUTIFUL B OTA N I CA LS New York– based floral designer East Olivia packed the cover shoot with vibrant stems of anthurium and roses.

FRESH SQUEEZED Citrus inspires a sweet summer soiree.

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REAL LOVE 83

One-of-a-kind real-life celebrations to inspire every couple.

TREASURE TROVE Seriously stunning jewels in an array of colors.

GOING PRO Experts share the deets on popular professional skin care treatments.

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SOLEMATES

Everything you need to know about designing custom wedding shoes.

EDITOR’S LETTER CONTRIBUTORS ADVICE TR ADITIONS ESSAY NEW + NOW TOOLS LAST LOOK

STYLE + PLANNING 24

CALMING INFLUENCE Our Most Influential Weddings crew shares their wellness tips.

HOW TO TACKLE CONFLICT Gottman Institute–trained experts offer relationship advice.

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Ross Mathews: Suit, Indochino; shirt, Bar III from Macy’s PHOTOGRAPHER Rochelle Brock FLORALS East Olivia FASHION STYLING Traci Franklin GROOMING Miguel Lledo using R+Co at B-A Reps

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EDITOR’S NOTE

P R E VA I L S Despite an ongoing global pandemic and heavy world news, love charges on. More than 2.5 million couples are set to say “I do” this year—the biggest number in recent history— with most of the celebrations kicking off this summer. If you’re one of those lucky couples tying the knot, we’ve got you covered. In the market for the perfect dress? Let your enneagram lead the way (p. 44). Our annual Registry Awards (p. 55) features 44 of our trusted picks for your wish list. (See what our editors are eyeing below.) When decision fatigue sets in, we have tips for taking conflict in

stride and using it to strengthen your relationship (p. 64). We continue our wellness crusade (visit TheKnot.com/wellness) with an essay about wedding planning with type 1 diabetes, tips from real couples on de-stressing while wedding planning and nonalcoholic libations for your bach party. If you’re attending a celebration this summer and feel a bit rusty on your wedding etiquette, you’re not alone— it’s been a minute. Our Ultimate Guest Guide (p. 68) is the perfect refresher, with tips from navigating RSVPs to what “cocktail attire” really means. It’s the summer of love, and we’re ready for it.

Brianna and Meaghan’s rooftop wedding (p. 104) was as much a celebration of love as a reunion of friends finally reunited after more than a year apart.

— L AUREN K AY, E XECUTIVE EDITOR

We’re back with our annual Registry Awards (p. 55). With so many products to choose from, we asked our editors to earmark their favorites. Here’s what’s on our lists.

T R AV E L ESSENTIALS Sticking to a skin care routine can be challenging, and the last thing I need is the 3-oz travel limit upending my discipline when I embark on my honeymoon. These hexagonal containers are perfect for bringing just a few days’ worth of serum, moisturizer and eye cream. — HAN NAH N OWAC K , ED ITO R , R E A L W ED D IN G S

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HAPPY HOUR These gorgeous gold-rimmed coupe glasses jazz up even the most basic bar cart and make an end-ofthe-week cocktail feel like a special occasion. —S H E LLE Y B ROWN , S EN I O R FA S H O N + B E AU T Y ED ITO R

URBAN GARDENING Locally sourced organic produce is a staple in my cooking, and this clever vertical garden makes growing your own veggies a cinch for city-dwellers. Bonus points for its efficient self-watering design that conserves 95% more water than traditional gardening. —SAR AH E VAN S , CR E AT I V E D IR EC TO R

HIGH TEA Avid tea drinkers will adore the stylish colorways featured in SMEG’s electric kettle series. (Just take it from this editor!) Aesthetically pleasing and functional, the SMEG is constantly admired in my kitchen. — E S TH E R LE E , S EN I O R ED ITO R

R O S S , L AT E LY Cover star Ross Mathews dishes on finding love during a pandemic and planning his fairy-tale “I dos” to fiancé Wellinthon Garcia. The popculture guru compiled a playlist of his favorite love songs to inspire your first dance and beyond. Head to The Knot on Spotify to listen.

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CONTRIBUTORS OVER-THE-TOP COLOR Kelsea ensured the cover installations weren’t just bold, but balanced as well.

KELSEA OLIVIA FLORAL DESIGNER

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IS TH ERE A CH AN GE YO U’ VE SE E N IN THE FL O RAL IN DU STRY RECENTL Y THA T RE A L L Y EXCITES YO U ? As a true maximalist at heart, I am excited to see the bold use of color become more common in the floral industry. Along with that, I’m enjoying seeing dried and preserved elements grow in prominence. It’s great how people are working to find more environmentally friendly ways to make these types of products. What really inspired me on the cover shoot was using different colors and textures and finding the right balance between them. @EastOlivia

We asked some of the pros from this issue for the inside scoop on their areas of expertise.

ROCHELLE BROCK PHOTOGRAPHER

W H A T WAS Y OUR E X PE R I E NCE L I K E P H OT OG R APHI NG T HE C OV E R ? Every turn was a fun surprise since the whole experience was new for me. I’ll never forget getting caught in the rain and a sudden snowstorm on my way to my first cover shoot for The Knot! Plus, having Ross Mathews as a cover subject was great—he is amazing. It was so important for me to see people like Ross and his fiancé in love, and to hear about their journey. This is inclusivity that changes the world. I hope to create the kind of photographs that I want to see more of—work that inspires me. Being involved in such an iconic cover felt like doing just that. @RochelleFatLeopard

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WH AT’S O N E M ISCO N CE P TION CO UPL ES H AVE ABO UT W E D D ING PH O TO GRAPH Y? To-be-weds often forget that their wedding images are worth so much more than Instagram posts. These photos should be printed in unique ways, like in an album that becomes a cherished family heirloom. Don’t allow a day so timeless to be devalued as a digital experience only. Hire a photographer whose work you love and trust their judgment. My hope is that you will end up with images so beautiful, you can’t help but have them printed. @PorterhouseLA

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ASK THE KNOT SQUAD You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers. We tapped our team—and one of our go-to industry pros—to solve some of your most of-the-moment planning asks.

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CHANDA DANIELS Creative Director, Chanda Daniels Planning & Design Based in Oakland, California, Chanda is passionate about planning weddings that convey a couple’s unique story.

Wedding vending machines! Yes, vending machines at the venue can add a bit of spunk to the big day—hear me out. First, skip a signature cocktail and instead book a machine that dispenses singleserve bottles of champagne. Give guests tokens at the reception, and they can help themselves to mini sips. Next, offer up an essentials machine for anything your guests may need as the party continues. Pack this display, which should be free to guests, with emergency items like flip-flops, Band-Aids and fashion tape. But also have some fun and include things like Mad Libs–style speeches guests can grab and fill in for last-minute, offthe-cuff remarks.

WHA T A DVICE DO Y O U H AV E F O R C O U PLE S S T RU G G LI N G TO P L A N A WE DDI N G T H AT I S U N I Q U E LY T H E I R O W N ?

To start, write down your love story. Find the common thread and build off of that. What do you like to do? What music do you listen to? What do you like to eat? It’s important that every decision you come to makes you happy. Don’t do things just because you’ve seen them before. Maybe that means you serve a beloved dish at dinner; you can even write a short explanation on your menu card about why you’re serving it. Lately, I’ve seen couples breaking the mold by hosting epic weekend-long experiences. Instead of feeling limited to just a ceremony and reception, couples are making their weddings uniquely their own by planning an amazing welcome event, rehearsal dinner and an activity for guests the morning of the ceremony. They’re also including an after-party and a farewell brunch. At one event, we even planned a trip to the farmers market because that’s what the couple loved to do! For wine lovers, a postwedding drive to Sonoma to visit vineyards is another fun idea. Couples are telling their love stories through these experiences—doing what they love with those closest to them.

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TR ADITIONS B U L L ’ S - E Y E B A S H Archery was a highlight of this backyard wedding. As a surprise for the couple, Rose’s mom transformed the venue into a summer camp, which also included a firepit and drink-filled canoe.

ROSE + JESSIE READING, MA

It’s Time to Party As much as we love to break it down on the dance floor, that’s not the only wedding activity option. Celebrate your hobbies and interests by including them in your big day.

S L I D I N G I N T O M A R R I A G E If your reception site isn’t conducive to over-the-top entertainment, consider having it at a prewedding welcome party, as Jiabei and David did—complete with an inflatable slide.

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TAY L O R + A N D R E W ROSSVILLE, GA

N O T H I N G B U T N E T As a nod to the groom’s career as a pro baller, Cassidy and Skal had an arcade basketball hoop at their reception, along with other lawn games like a giant Connect 4 and Jenga.

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The options for unique activities are endless.

C A S I N O R OYA L E If you’re a fan of poker or roulette, set up a gaming station.

B AC K I N T I M E Cornhole isn’t the only lawn game out there. Guests will love a return to timeless classics like bocce ball and croquet.

TA K E A S W I N G

CAS S I DY + S K A L LEBANON, TN

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Who doesn’t love a piñata? Up the ante by filling it with boozy truffles or dance accessories like sunglasses.

F O R M A L F U N Taylor and Andrew wanted a black-tie wedding with a wow factor, so they invited guests to enjoy amusement park rides during cocktail hour.

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MOST INFLUENTIAL WEDDINGS

CAROLINE VAZZANA + DAVID LOPES

TANYA MARIE ZIELKE + ANTHONY JOSEPH ALVAREZ

ROSEY BLAIR + HOUSTON HARDAWAY

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New York City

When wedding planning gets to be too much, how do you unwind? We try to take a step back and encourage ourselves to enjoy the process as much as possible. Even though wedding planning is a lot of work, and almost like a full-time job, we remind ourselves that this only happens once in your life, so it’s important to enjoy the journey. In addition to focusing on mindfulness if we’re feeling overwhelmed, we’ll watch a movie or go out to dinner to relax and recharge.

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CALMING INFLUENCE

@RoseyBeeme @LifeofTanyaMarie

RAHNE JONES + BRIDGET KELLY @Rahne_Jones @HeyBridgetK New York City

Is there a moment from the wedding day you look back on fondly because of the joy it brought you? On the morning of the big day, it was so much fun to finally meet all of the vendors we had been planning with for over two years. It’s wild that you spend so long making decisions together and choosing the different pieces of your wedding puzzle, but you don’t actually see your vendors as one cohesive party until the day of the event.

Dallas

Was there something you stressed over that, in hindsight, wasn’t as important as you initially thought? We were stressed about how a destination wedding would impact our guests. We were worried that people wouldn’t make it or might complain. But we have experienced a totally different response. Everyone seriously can’t wait to celebrate with us. And hiring a fullservice event planner to bring the event to life has truly been the biggest blessing logistically.

MEGAN MACE + WITT MCKAY @MeganMaceMcKay Memphis, TN

Were there any surprises during the wedding planning journey you wish someone had warned you about? No one talks about the weird lull in the middle of wedding planning where you’ve made the big decisions, but can’t focus on the small details quite yet. Our advice is to enjoy that lull. Your engagement season goes by so fast, and that’s the only time you can enjoy it without any planning responsibilities.

Dallas

What tips do you have for couples planning their wedding who may find it impacts their well-being? Your wedding isn’t a deadline. It’s a celebration. Don’t get the two confused. In moments where we found ourselves stressed, we turned to the very charming show Ted Lasso on Apple TV+. It is sure to brighten anyone’s day. And for us, making the seating chart was a task that brought us joy, as it helped us visualize the day, relieving any tension.

NURYS MARCEL + ZACHARY EITMAN @NurysMarcel Verona, NJ

What advice do you have for to-be-weds who find themselves caught up in the minutiae of wedding planning? It’s not worth stressing over the smallest of details. You can’t cloud your thoughts with how the napkins will be folded, where guests will be spending the majority of their time at the reception and so on. It’s easy to get lost in the details, but focusing on the bigger picture is more important.

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CASEY WALKER + AUSTIN BROWN

BLAKE KNIGHT + GARRETT CLAYTON

TIERRA ANDREWS + ASIA SULLIVAN

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Dallas

What advice can you offer couples in the throes of planning who feel burnt out? Don’t over-exert yourself to the point of forgetting to take care of yourself. Stay on top of your personal habits such as journaling, therapy and workouts, and don’t forget to sleep, eat and drink water. We know that sounds simple, but it’s so easy to forget the little things when overly stressed. Also, lean on your partner and remember that the reason you’re planning a wedding is because of your love.

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KRISTINE AGABAIAN + JIVAN NAJARIAN @Krischerie Los Angeles

What tips do you have for finding joy in the midst of the planning journey? The anticipation leading up to our wedding and knowing that we had found each other brought us joy. If you’re having trouble finding joy amid wedding planning, our advice would be to try to keep your mind in a positive headspace. In the end, everything will fall into place and work out exactly how it was meant to be.

Los Angeles

What part of your wedding weekend delighted you the most? Both of our families arrived a few days early to help set up for the event and put together lastminute details. Being able to be with them all, as they’re from all over the country, was a special time. It helped us unwind a bit and took the load off of our shoulders. Those few last days leading up to the big day were some of the happiest moments of our whole wedding.

CHELSIE HILL + JASON BLOOMFIELD @ChelsieHill Huntington Beach, CA

What’s your best piece of advice for to-be-weds struggling with the weight of wedding planning? Remember it’s about your love. Big weddings are nice, but if you worry too much about how everyone else feels, you’re going to lose sight of the two of you. Write down the top three most important things for both of you, and focus on them. Also, we’re big proponents of starting the planning early, so you don’t have to rush.

Los Angeles

Looking back, is there something you worried about that wasn’t as big of a deal as you initially thought? We spent so much time worrying if people would show up. But once the save-the-dates were sent out, people started telling us how excited they were for the wedding. We can’t wait to spend this day with our friends and family. Even now when we find ourselves worrying over other wedding tasks, we make it a priority to go on dates to spend quality time together to relax.

BY HANNAH NOWACK

Find even more advice to help you decompress at TheKnot.com/ wellness

NOT EVEN INFLUENCERS ARE IMMUNE TO WEDDING STRESS. COUPLES FROM OUR MOST INFLUENTIAL WEDDINGS CREW DISH ON PRIORITIZING WELLNESS AMID PLANNING.

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JASMINE LUV + COREY BARRETT @Luv_JJP Los Angeles

What helped you decompress the most amid the stress of planning? Having an amazing, hands-on planner helped a ton. But in the moments that we did stress out, we had to give ourselves breaks. We would set a time and day of the week to focus on the wedding instead of letting it consume us. When one of us got overwhelmed, we would do things like go to the gym or the park to relieve stress.

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TO MY PATH THE ALTAR WITH T1D

Ariana Frayer is a bride-to-be and type 1 diabetic. She’s also a lover of the outdoors and small-business owner designing merch to inspire those with T1D through Cup of OJ Creative. Here, she opens up about planning a wedding while living with diabetes—without letting her chronic illness become an unwanted guest.

was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when I was 10 and had no idea how it would impact my life. My condition means that my body doesn’t produce enough insulin, which helps blood sugar enter your cells to get used for energy. Without insulin, my blood sugar can get too high or too low and can be a huge risk to my health. As a result, I inject myself with insulin multiple times a day and constantly monitor my blood sugar. Now, at 28, I’m thriving as a smallbusiness owner while documenting my journey with T1D on social media. My mission is not to let my chronic illness stop me from doing what I love, like hiking and being active every day. I like music festivals, going out with friends and having fun—and I never want my health dictating what I can or can’t do. My partner Adam (who I met on Twitter!) and I are getting married in September 2022 in Massachusetts. Just like I share my life with T1D online, I want to share my wedding planning with the world as well. Wedding dress shopping got me thinking more about I’VE ALWAYS showcasing my health FIT MY journey on the wedding DIABETES INTO day. While dress shopping, MY LIFE, NOT my future mother-in-law THE OTHER started snapping pictures WAY AROUND. of me trying on dresses. MY WEDDING WILL BE MUCH She said, “I’m going to get THE SAME. the Dexcom in a photo, since it’s visible through

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the dress.” I hadn’t considered how you might see the outline of my Dexcom monitor, which measures my blood glucose levels and tracks them via an app on my phone. But as she took photos of the outline through the fabric, I began pondering the role I wanted my condition to play in my wedding. I ultimately fell in love with an A-line dress (with pockets for snacks) that won’t necessarily show off my Dexcom. But I do want to celebrate my health journey as part of my wedding. I want getting-ready pictures where you can see my Dexcom. I want to remember, years from now, the role T1D played at the time in my life when I said “I do.” Beyond my dress, T1D will affect other decisions around my big day. I inject myself with insulin six or seven times a day, usually in my arms, and if I do it in the same place, scar tissue builds up. In the months before the wedding, I’m going to inject my insulin in different parts of my body to reduce inflammation. That’s not something many to-be-weds would have to consider during their prewedding wellness routine. Getting a facial? Sure. But as a T1D bride, this is something I needed to plan out. Food is another big planning priority. I’m going to schedule what I will eat and when. I’ll start with a breakfast that has

substantial carbohydrates to keep me going. One of my bridesmaids is also a type 1 diabetic, and I’ve appointed her my official glucose monitor for the day. She’ll have my phone to track my blood sugar, so I don’t have to worry about it, handing me a Capri Sun if I begin to dip. Lastly, to ensure I can enjoy myself at the reception, I’m having a low-carb cocktail as my signature sip. My biggest concern is that the ceremony goes smoothly and without interruption. I would hate to have to stop everything to chug a juice box—though it would be very on-brand for me. I’ve always fit my diabetes into my life, not the other way around. My hope is for my wedding day to be the same. Will my blood sugar go low at some point? Probably. Is my sugar going be perfect? Probably not. As long as I don’t let my blood sugar levels cloud my entire experience, that’s what matters to me. Obviously, your diabetes is your health, and you should take care of it (with a physician’s guidance). Even though your blood sugar may fluctuate, you may misplace the rings, and Aunt Sally may be late—it’s just one day. I’m not going to beat myself up, but enjoy every moment.

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Ariana’s Dexcom monitors her blood sugar levels to help stabilize her type 1 diabetes.

AS TOLD TO HANNAH NOWACK

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY ROCHELLE BROCK

BY ESTHER LEE

FROM THE RED CARPET TO THE AISLE, ROSS MATHEWS REFLECTS ON FINDING LOVE DURING THE PANDEMIC, NAVIGATING LOSS AND NOW, PLANNING A WEDDING WITH PURPOSE. 29

REPORTING LIVE WITH ROSS The to-be-weds are living what they describe as a fairy tale. “I met this extraordinary, smart man who loves me and whom I love,” says Ross. Ross (left): Suit, Prabal Gurung; shirt, Kenneth Cole; Welly: jacket, Ann Demeulemeester; shirt, Giorgio Armani; bow tie, Egara at Men’s Wearhouse

t’s the tail end of the Omicron wave of COVID-19 in New York City when I greet Ross Mathews and Wellinthon Garcia over video. It’s a cozy night in. A ring light is reflected in their window; laundry, in mine. Ross is seated to Welly’s left—hair coiffed, he’s fresh off work. Welly is in a cream turtleneck sweater; his demeanor is confident and calming. It’s something Ross noticed right off the bat when they met in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Welly’s friends had stood him up for breakfast. “I was hungry, so I ended up going down for a breakfast burrito,” he says. When he brought it poolside, there was a greater distraction: a nearby pair whispering and staring. “I didn’t know who they were,” he laughs. “It was weird because they kept looking at me.” In fact, Ross and a girlfriend were in cahoots over the man reading by the pool. Some eye contact later, Mathews (whose breakout role as “Ross the Intern” on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno launched his ››

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TV career) sauntered across the rooftop to introduce himself. “He said, ‘Hi, I’m Ross Mathews,’” chuckles Welly, who is clueless when it comes to pop culture and didn’t know who Ross Mathews was. “I replied, ‘Hi, I’m Dr. Wellinthon Garcia.’” Welly, an educational administrator, previously worked in Big Pharma. (“I wasn’t a fan of pharmaceutical sales for moral reasons,” he says.) He then pivoted to a think tank as a research associate. “One day, I was taking the subway and

WE KNOW THERE WILL BE KIDS OUT T H E R E W H O LO O K AT T H I S A N D S E E I T A S P E R F E C T LY W O N D E R F U L .

SCREW NORMAL! WONDERFUL! there was an ad that read, ‘Do you remember your first-grade teacher’s name?’ And I did. I applied and got into the New York City Teaching Fellows Program. That launched my career in education.” Born in the Dominican LOVE IN THE TIME OF COVID Republic, Welly arrived Ross and Welly dated via Zoom in the United States at age during the pandemic. five without speaking a Welly: Jacket, Paisley & Gray for Men’s Wearhouse; shirt, Giorgio Armani; word of English. “I tell Ross Ross: tuxedo and shirt, Giorgio Armani; brooch, David Yurman all the time that education is a field where every career has to pass through you before people become who they are,” he says. “We’re building society.” That’s emerged as their overall purpose as a couple. Both acknowledge the scrutiny that comes with a public romance, yet they have experienced the other extreme. Raised in the farm town of Mount Vernon, Washington, Ross didn’t see himself in love stories. “That’s what drives us, and that’s why we’re sharing our story,” he reflects. “We don’t need any more attention. Wellinthon doesn’t seek it—he’s an educator. But we chose, purposefully, to talk about our wedding because we didn’t have that example growing up. So if we can, by announcing our

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engagement on The Drew Barrymore Show or sharing our love story on the cover of The Knot? These are mainstream [outlets]. We know there will be kids out there who look at this and see it as perfectly wonderful. Screw normal! Wonderful. And that they can’t wait to find their person. That’s the goal.” Weeks after they met, the world shut down. “I went on a tour for my second book, Name Drop, and I was all over the country until March,” says Ross, who lived in California at the time. Welly was in New York. “He would visit me in cities, whether it was Chicago or Philly or Miami. And then bam! Everything shut down. We went from March until almost August without seeing each other. We dated over Zoom and FaceTime. We put the effort in: We’d do Taco Tuesdays or watch the same movie and be like, ‘3-2-1-play.’ We would find different ways to go on dates. In a way, it actually forced us

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to have deep conversations and get to know each other in a way that we wouldn’t have if we were just, you know, hitting it.” We all laugh. They are a classic example of how opposites attract. “He has a Ph.D. in education and I have a Ph.D. in pop culture,” says Ross. “It’s very, very different. But there’s just such value in what we both do. Our worlds are so completely different that I’m in awe of him every day.” Ross has risen to pop culture fame in the last two decades, from The Tonight Show to stints on Chelsea Lately and RuPaul’s Drag Race. It was actress Drew Barrymore who played an unlikely role in their relationship. “Drew has been instrumental in our love story,” says Ross. “I came to New York to visit Wellinthon, and she asked me to come on her show for a day.” The production team then requested he return a week later, then again to stay on for the season. “We were like, ‘I guess this means I’m supposed to be here.’ So we got an apartment. I don’t know that we would have been on such a fast trajectory if Drew hadn’t given me work in New York.” She’s also been a confidante in the planning process. “I have immense guilt that people are flying to our wedding. Drew said, ‘Just do it where you want to do it, and the people who are supposed to be there will come,’” says Ross. “I just want to make sure people have a party when they’re there.” This includes Barrymore, who is also a founder of Flower Beauty and will be a flower girl at the wedding. “It just came up as we were talking about the wedding [on the show]. And she was like, ‘Well, who’s the flower girl?’ I was like, ‘You want to do it?’ And she was like, ‘Wait, are you being serious?’” recalls Ross. “And I was like, ‘Wait, are you being serious?’” She was serious. “Drew and I talk about everything on the show, whatever the hot-button issues are, including relationships. We really go deep into them,” says Ross. “We challenge each other on our thoughts, feelings and who we want to be now. Drew’s had public relationships, and she holds nothing back. What I love about her is she’s the kind of friend who will give you the real truth. She’s the friend you would call if you did something bad and needed help covering it up. She would just be there, no questions asked: ‘I brought a shovel. What are we doing?’” The couple also signed on Michael Russo as their event planner. Russo—known for planning Shark Tank judge Robert Herjavec’s wedding in 2016—heard about their engagement and reached out over Instagram. Their mutual friend Carson Kressley, who emceed the Herjavec wedding, attested to Russo’s talents. “He just sang his praises,” says Ross. “I never thought I’d be the type of person who had a wedding planner. That always seemed like something a Kardashian would have.” The wedding events will be an extension of their West Coast lifestyle. “When we’re not in New York, we live in Palm Springs, which is a happy hour lifestyle. We are a caftan people. We are a poolside people. We live like active senior citizens,” Ross laughs. “So, I want to infuse part of our life in Palm Springs into the wedding.” He pauses and adds, “I wouldn’t be shocked if the night before there was some sort of karaoke party. I also wouldn’t be surprised if the day after the wedding, there was a drag bingo brunch. We love a really gay activity like that. And we want to bring that sense of fun into our wedding.” ››

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ST R A I G H T TAC O S “I have my Ross-ipes because I lost 60 pounds over the pandemic. I make my ground chicken black bean taco salad practically every day. Beans are a great healthy choice.” INGREDIENTS

1 lb. ground chicken ¼ tsp. paprika ¼ tsp. cumin ⅛ tsp. cayenne pepper 2 Tbl. chili powder 1 (15-oz) can black beans, drained 1 (7-oz) can diced green chilis

1 head iceberg lettuce 2 tomatoes, diced ½ red onion, diced 1 jalapeño, chopped 1 lemon 1 lime Salt and pepper Light sour cream Hot sauce

DIRECTIONS

1 In a skillet, brown ground chicken; add spices and the juice of 1 lime. 2 In a saucepan, heat beans with diced green chilis. 3 Cut lettuce in half to make little lettuce cups. 4 Assemble: top lettuce with beans, then chicken and toppings (tomato, red onion, jalapeño). Add a squeeze of lemon and salt and pepper to taste. 5 Add a dollop of sour cream and a dash of hot sauce. 6 Enjoy with Marianela’s guacamole! 31

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M A R I A N E L A’ S G U A C A M O L E “I told her I’d like guacamole, and she made me 15 avocados worth of it.” INGREDIENTS

1 tomato, chopped ½ red onion, chopped Palm full of cilantro, chopped

2 avocados 1 Tbl. olive oil 1 lime Salt and pepper

DIRECTIONS

1 Mix tomato, onion and cilantro in a bowl. Mash together with the avocado and olive oil. The olive oil makes it extra-silky and smooth. 2 Add the juice of the lime and salt and pepper to taste. (The trick is more lime than you think.)

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The two are planning a classic soiree in Mexico with Palm Springs flair. Welly: Suit, Paisley & Gray for Men’s Wearhouse; shirt, Lauren Ralph Lauren; lapel pin, M&J Trimming; Ross: suit, Indochino; shirt, Bar III; lapel pin, M&J Trimming

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every possible way and hope that somehow they are there.” “We’ll have photos of late loved ones placed around, and we’re incorporating family heirlooms into the ceremony,” says Russo. “They will be surrounded by family on their wedding day.” After they both lost their mothers within two years, the couple bonded over the emotional fallout. “When Ross went through it first, I wanted to make sure I was [with him] the whole time,” says Welly. “Then the same happened to me.” In September 2021, Welly’s mother died. “I was very much like, ‘I need to process this.’ I need to understand what’s happening,” he recalls. “I got to the point where I said to Ross, ‘Babe, I think I really need to see a grief counselor.’ Now I share with him the things [the therapist and I] talk about in those sessions. It’s been cathartic and therapeutic in the sense that he’s gaining from what I’m sharing. And vice versa.” “It’s hard when someone you love is going through that kind of pain, because you want to fix it,” Ross sighs. “You can’t fix it. So all you can do is be there. I could be there so he didn’t fall, and he was there so I didn’t fall.” When you lose a parent, they say, you join a kind of secret club. “If anyone reading this [has lost a parent], you know you aren’t just dented, scratched or damaged goods. You also know something that other people don’t,” Ross elaborates. “You know how great it is that you’re here. You know how precious it is that you are alive. Not to be a blind optimist, but I have to find that joy in it. I know how grateful I am to be here and what I want to do with my time here.” In their New York City living room, Ross proposed in February 2021. “I had coordinated over 50 people from across the world to be on Zoom: friends, colleagues,” Ross recalls. “Welly was running late. When we finally opened [the call], there were 50 people waiting for us. He just yells, ‘Pam from work? What’s Pam doing here?’ He was so confused.” Welly at one point was so overwhelmed by the gesture that he left the room just as Ross was about to drop to one knee. “I started crying. I was elated and just relieved,” Welly says. “One thing both of us have in common is that we didn’t think it was possible. I grew up thinking that I would never be able to get married, because we didn’t have the right to marry when I was a kid. So I needed that moment to walk away from the scene and reflect.” Moments later, he returned and tearfully declared, “Yes.” Shortly after this piece is published, the couple will have another pinch-me moment when they exchange vows in their dream destination wedding. “A gay wedding is simply a wedding,” says Russo. “Have you ever heard someone say they’re attending a hetero wedding? It’s a wedding.” It’s their wedding.

“Our approach is classic and chic with a tropical, festive flair,” Russo elaborates over text. Close to 100 guests, from all walks of life, will converge in Mexico for the couple’s wedding week. “I wanted a chicken finger buffet with a barbecue sauce fountain,” gushes Ross. “I was told no. I guess the barbecue fountain isn’t COVID-appropriate, now that I think about it. But we’re planning the menu. I’m hyper-focused on the appetizers and Welly’s more focused on the seated dinner options.” When the weekend is over, the couple simply wants their guests to feel valued. “I want them to understand how important they are to us,” reflects Ross. “And how important our wedding is, in general. This is for us. This is the one time we’ll ever do this.” Just as the pandemic hurtled into summer 2020, Ross’ mother, Gaye, died from breast cancer; 16 months later, Welly’s mother, Marianela, died. It wasn’t Ross’ first time grieving a direct family member; he lost his father when he was 24. “She was pretty far gone by then,” Ross says of his mom. “When I showed her a picture of Wellinthon, I said, ‘Mom, I met somebody.’ She looked at his picture and said, ‘I think I know him.’ And I said, ‘I think you do, I think you do.’ Maybe she could have pictured this, you know?” “My mom actually got to meet Ross,” recalls Welly. Their sit-down involved homemade guacamole—heaping mounds of ripe avocados. “She was one of those people who, if you said you wanted something, she would not only do it, but she would do it in abundance. I’m glad my mom got to interact with him. Her approval of Ross meant the world. I don’t think I’d be as overjoyed with everything that’s happening if my mom wasn’t happy with him.” “We loved each other,” affirms Ross. “I didn’t speak Spanish. She didn’t speak English. But we had great conversations.” “It’s such a time of great joy right now,” says Ross. “Like, ‘Hello, it’s the fairy tale.’ I met this extraordinary, smart man who loves me and [whom] I love. And we’re going to proclaim it in front of everyone we love. But there are going to be empty seats there, and those empty seats are so symbolic— of the holes in my soul because my parents are both gone.” When someone is recovering from a traumatic experience, psychologists say acknowledging your feelings is an initial step toward healing. “I want there to be actual seats that are empty—space for them,” reflects Ross. “I think about [my loss and my wedding] when it’s just me. I get very, very, very sad that they’re not going to be there. I would’ve loved an RSVP from them. They would’ve had such a freakin’ blast at this wedding too. My dad was hilarious. My mom would’ve loved Welly and been involved in every part of the planning. The goal is just going to be to honor them at the wedding in

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Weave in matte-black accents to anchor a colorful design.

B U R ST CO LO R Why settle on a palette of one or two shades when you can celebrate a riot of color? Instead of incorporating rainbows themselves, nod to their spectrum of hues with creative color blocking. PHOTOGRAPH BY ABBY JIU PHOTOGRAPHY

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Prismatic hues aren’t just for youngsters. Here are a few elevated ways to thread a kaleidoscope of color throughout the details of your wedding.

1 TABLE BY TABLE Instead of color blocking each place setting, apply the style table by table. Deck one 10-top in a solid hue from centerpiece to glassware. Choose another complementary color for its neighbor, or a different tone of the same shade for a subtle effect.

fashion buzz

NEW CLASSICS Luxury accessories brand Loeffler Randall is officially expanding into the wedding space with a core collection of bridal shoes, clutches and headbands—plus its first wedding dress. The Wedding and Event Shop includes an edit of both new and updated bestselling styles, including a rhinestone-encrusted version of the Camellia, a comfy block heel with pleated details beloved by fashion bloggers and editors alike.

This midi-length dress with romantic ruffle details is perfect for a civil ceremony or more casual nuptials.

From $65, LoefflerRandall.com

2 WEDDING PARTY Don’t limit this design concept to decor—there’s a place for it in wedding fashion as well. Assign each of your attendants a distinct color so they create a rainbow when standing beside you at the altar.

S E AT I N G CHART SUCCESS THE KEY TO

While it can be fun to design the look of an escort card display, actually deciding who sits where is often more daunting. To tackle this tricky task head-on, Hilda Awad founded The Guest Table, a digital seating chart tool that will quickly become your wedding planning bestie. As you sort through competing dynamics (your stepmother doesn’t get along with your future in-laws and the best man is dating your cousin), the tool lets you easily play around with assignments until the puzzle comes together.

3 INVITATIONS Introduce your rainbow palette at the onset. Instead of incorporating multiple colors on each element of the suite, use a collection of solids. An indigo envelope, magenta RSVP card and yellow details card will impress recipients.

From $40, TheGuestTable.com

FROM LEFT: CARLIE STATSKY; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; ALICIA RINKA; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; COURTESY OF VENDOR (3)

RAINBOW COLOR BLOCKING

B A C H PA R T Y C A P T I O N S You’re ready to let loose with your pals for a prewedding getaway, but how do you commemorate the celebration on social? These captions will do the trick.

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It’s the last fling before the ring.

You can call her Feyoncé.

‘Til death do us party.

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FEEL- GOOD SIPS These alcohol-free alternatives are perfect for fueling prewedding fun (bonus: their packaging is Insta-worthy). Cloud Water is a sparkling blend of botanicals and 25 mg of CBD that aims to relax and uplift. Mix Figlia with soda water for a clean “spritz” or pop the top of a hoppy Wild Bay kombucha, an expertly blended spin on classic IPAs.

CLOUD WATER $59 for 12, CloudWaterBrands.com

Ring box, $75, TheStylingReserve.com

P I CT U R E T I PS

WILD BAY

FIGLIA

$4, MobTownFermentation.com

$43, DrinkFiglia.com

Nailing the Perfect Flat Lay

FROM LEFT: CARLIE STATSKY; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; ALICIA RINKA; COURTESY OF DESIGNER; COURTESY OF VENDOR (3)

From invitations to rings and beyond, wedding day details shots are a key element to creating an album you’ll cherish. We tapped pro Alicia Rinka for her tips on curating the shot. Ribbon, from $6 per yard, TonoandCo.com

T H I N K AH E AD

C O M M U N I C AT E

Prepare a box with all the items you would like captured, so your photographer doesn’t have to track them down. A ring box is a great way to showcase your bling.

Some photographers have styling kits for flat lays with props they can use. Make sure to chat with your pro ahead of time.

ALLO T T I M E In addition to gathering cute trinkets, like an on-palette ribbon, give photographers one to two hours before the wedding to get these images.

Dishes, $55 for set of 3, SimpleThingsCeramics.com

PR E S E RV E MEMO RI ES Details carry a story. You might not wear your wedding shoes again and that beloved heirloom might get passed to someone else, but these items are part of your history. Capture them to make an impact. AliciaRinka.com

C U STO M CA R ATS Sustainable fine jewelry brand Aurate now makes engagement rings. The Modern Love Collection features 20 customizable sparklers. Choose from a natural or lab-grown diamond center stone, a setting style and a metal to create bling that’s all your own. Looking to go totally bespoke? Aurate also offers a new consultation service where customers can connect with an in-house “diamond whisperer” to build their dream ring from scratch. From $3,000, AurateNewYork.com

Brews before “I dos.”

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Aloha bride, aloha beaches.

It’s the final countdown.

Last sail before the veil.

Making one last splash.

Celebrating the bride’s last ride.

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NEW + NOW Dried flowers don’t have to be brown or beige—Olivia gets creative with lavender and tangerine dyes.

THE KITCHEN BY C R AT E Housewares icon Crate & Barrel has launched a signature line of cookware and kitchen tools, including bakeware and cutting boards. Its five-ply cookware is ergonomically designed, free of harmful chemicals and made with a copper core, which heats quickly and evenly.

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FOREVER FLORALS East Olivia founder Kelsea Olivia, whose work you can see on page 28, is known for embracing bold color and texture. A desire to make long-lasting arrangements widely available prompted her launch of a preserved bloom shop that’s perfect for a just-engaged gift or wedding party proposals. From $55, ShopEastOlivia.com

D R I N K M O R E W AT E R Good hydration increases energy and alertness—both essential for wedding planning. Waterdrop, a fizzy pod packed with vitamins, may entice you to drink more; just add it to still or sparkling water for tasty sips. Choose from over 10 flavors with coordinating—and sustainable—glass bottles. From $11, Waterdrop.com

The one where we drink all the champagne.

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Cheers to love, laughter and happily ever after.

We solemnly swear that we are up to no good.

She’s not a regular bride, she’s a cool bride.

[Partner] popped the question, so we’re popping bottles.

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CHIC STRANDS

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CROWNING GLORY

Shoes, $1,895, JimmyChoo.com

Akoya pearl necklace, $4,500, KBHJewels.com

Earrings, $295, JenniferBehr.com

Clutch, $498, CultGaia.com

Headband, $125, LeleSadoughi.com

cultures coming together. I wanted to acknowledge my Korean heritage without compromising my identity as a design-driven professional. At the time, it seemed like the options for home decor were either ‘classic American’ or ‘traditionally Korean.’ It would’ve been nice to see more than wooden wedding ducks as a registry option to represent my Korean side. OW C AN MULTICULTURAL COUPLES Q: HBUILD A R E G I S T RY T H AT H O N O R S

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Gifts That Honor Cultural Fusion Sunyoung (Sunny) Hong is a Kenyaborn Korean who married an American and struggled to communicate their family’s racial identity. When she noticed a lack of home goods that celebrate fusion cultures, she created Portmanteau Home. Her vision is for mixed-race couples to be able to fill their newlywed home with pieces that honor their complex heritage. W A S Y O U R O WN E X P ER IEN CE L IKE Q: WW HH ATEN REG ISTE R ING F OR WEDDING G IF TS? It was important for us to tell the story of how our union was one of two very different

Before you say “I do,” let’s have a party or two.

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Wine flies when you’re having fun.

T H E I R H E RI T AG E W H I LE ALS O C E LE B R AT I N G T H E I R B LE N D E D H O M E ? Creating a multicultural home doesn’t necessarily mean you have to fill your home with quaint and traditional artifacts like a museum. I recommend a nuanced and layered approach of finding subtle opportunities to introduce your culture and complement your existing style. If you’re a fan of farmhouse chic, you could accent a rustic dining set with a table runner that’s made with traditional textiles. If you want to create a sleek, modern home, perhaps you look for significant shapes and symbols from your own culture, then incorporate those design elements. Ultimately, it’s about asking yourself this simple question: “Is it beautiful and meaningful?”

BEAUTY SLEEP In the market for a luxe getting-ready look? KIP sleepwear and beauty brand Fancy Face have teamed up on a collection of robes, headbands and gift sets made for the entire bridal party. Our favorite part? The new mulberry-silk robe is washable and can be monogrammed with up to eight letters. From $42, SleepinKIP.com

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Get your wish list ready: Pearls of all kinds are experiencing a fashion renaissance. Called pearlcore, this aesthetic is about mixing and matching pearl-encrusted accessories with heirloom appeal.

From $14, PortmanteauHome.com

The only title I’d trade “countess” for is “wife.”

A sweet ending to a new beginning.

Besties? Check. Wine? Check. In bed by nine? Check.

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When it comes to choosing your rings, there’s no shortage of sparkle to discover. The most coveted styles are unexpected and seriously stunning.

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1 SHAPE UP The “it” diamond of the ’80s, the marquise is back. A sleek setting lets this unique shape really shine. Marquise solitaire ring, price upon request, MaterialGood.com

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2 THE X FACTOR

It’s all in the details. An undercover X setting plus a portrait-cut diamond are the makings of one edgy ring. The Undercover ring, price upon request, EvaFehren.com

3 BRIGHT IDEA Yellow diamonds are hot for a reason: They’re less traditional than their colorless counterparts but still feel timeless. Jupiter yellow diamond ring, $14,500, AARYAH.com

4 SOMETHING OLD

Give a nod to nostalgia with a vintage ring. This sparkler dates back to the great era of Gatsby. Art deco diamond and emerald ring, $30,000, ErstwhileJewelry.com

5 DOUBLE DELIGHT What’s better than one center stone? Two. This modern toi et moi ring gives a timehonored style an update. Endless Loop ring, from $15,000, LindseyScoggins.com

6 THRICE AS NICE A symbolic three-stone ring offers triple the bling and represents love, friendship and fidelity—what’s not to like? Three-stone ring, price upon request, MarisaPerry.com

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You don’t have to opt for a traditional diamond center stone. Dive into some of the most popular alternatives below.

1 SAPPHIRE Sapphires belong to the corundum family, and they come in many colors. As one of the most durable precious gems, they’re a classic choice. Sapphire ring with black rhodium accents, $38,000, OmiPrive.com

2 EMERALD

Though emeralds are associated with vibrant green, this variety of the mineral beryl can be found in a range of light green and blue-green shades. Chroma Grand emerald and diamond ring, $9,500, GreenwichJewelers.com

3 RUBY This jewelry staple is found in every shade of red. Made from the same mineral as sapphire, it’s a practical— and fiery—diamond alternative. Ruby and diamond ring, $70,000, OscarHeyman.com

4 AQUAMARINE

A less expected—and expensive—option than sapphire for “something blue,” aquamarine is in the beryl family and comes in a range of pastel blue hues. Aquamarine and blue diamond ring, $3,755, YiCollection.com

5 PEARL Formed inside a shelled mollusk, pearls are one of the most unique gemstones. Psst: They’re also among the most delicate and require extra-special care. Giverny pearl ring, $2,500, AshleyZhangJewelry.com 6 MORGANITE

A savvy alternative to a pink diamond, morganite is a semiprecious stone in the beryl family. Its hue can range from orange to pastel pink. Morganite ring with double-diamond halo, $5,195, NicoleRoseJewelry.com

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metals Explore your options before you choose a ring setting.

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YELLOW GOLD

WHITE GOLD

ROSE GOLD

PLATINUM

Besides the fact that yellow gold is on trend, the pure-gold look has plenty of other appeal. It’s easier to clean than white or rose gold and is a fairly hypoallergenic metal as well.

Yellow gold is turned into white gold when plated with rhodium (a white metal). If you don’t want to splurge on platinum, white gold is less pricey, though it may need to be replated over time.

This pink-tinted metal is gold with an added copper alloy. The more copper alloy in the metal, the deeper the rosy tones. Due to its pink hue, this metal symbolizes love.

A hypoallergenic white metal known for its strength, platinum is usually 95 percent pure. Its density makes it very durable, meaning it will keep your center stone secure and protected.

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Looking to make a splash with your wedding ring? Consider a statement band. These maximalist sparklers have a chic, genderless vibe.

1 CLUSTER STRUCK A grouping of smaller stones is a gorgeous way to repurpose gems. Plus, it’s a budget-friendly alternative to one large stone. Demi Globe Plus 9 diamond ring, $9,880, GraceLee.com

3 WITH A TWIST An avant-garde take on a classic eternity style, the graduated spiral design of this band is impressive enough to stand on its own. Diamond Twist ring, $10,625, AnitaKo.com

5 RETRO REDUX This reimagined signet ring feels au courant, thanks to a velvety gold finish and hexagon-cut diamond. The Dane hexagon signet ring, $4,000, MaterialGood.com

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6 COLOR CRUSH

Sometimes less is more. The open setting and sleek baguettes of this cigar band serve up effortless glamour. Double Baguette Gap ring, $3,970, ShahlaKarimi.com

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There’s nothing subtle about this look—and that’s the point. A wide band covered in diamond pavé shines from every angle. Megaband ring, $8,510, CarbonandHyde.com

Why choose just one color when you can have them all? This vibrant combo of gems brings the personality. Multi colored vertical baguette ring, $2,395, Eriness.com

Rainbow bling isn’t just trendy. It’s also a sparkly way to show your pride.

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BY SARAH HANLON

Brittany Thomas is a certified Enneagram coach. She’s the founder of Enneagram Explained, an online platform that connects people with resources to grow using the Enneagram system.

W HA T I S YOUR ENNEA G R A M T Y PE ? If you’re new to the Enneagram system, Thomas breaks down exactly what you need to know. “The Enneagram is a personality typing system with nine basic types,” she explains. “Your type is determined by your core motivation instead

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of your traits—and unlike many other typing systems, it does not just put you in one box.” A free online Enneagram quiz will give you a main number, as well as your wings, which are additional traits you may possess from adjacent Enneagram numbers. “Not everyone matches one Enneagram type exactly,” she says. “Understanding your unique type can help you learn why you are the way you are while offering insight on how to grow and live more fully.” So, how does this tie into your day? “Wedding planning can be stressful, but the Enneagram system provides information for how each type acts under pressure, along with how best to work through it,” Thomas explains. TLDR: If searching for a wedding dress is proving to be a difficult planning task, understanding your Enneagram number can actually be a major benefit. To help you find your dream dress, we’ve rounded up the best picks for each Enneagram type.

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t’s no secret that finding the perfect wedding dress can feel daunting, especially with so many dreamy designs on the market. And while you can find inspiration just about anywhere, from your venue to your color palette or your Instagram feed, narrowing down your choices certainly isn’t easy. Another thought? Your Enneagram number. Much like your Zodiac sign or Myers-Briggs type, your Enneagram number reveals quite a bit about your personality—and it can even be used to define your personal style. We tapped Brittany Thomas, Enneagram coach and founder of the website Enneagram Explained, to give us the scoop on all nine types, along with the dress style best suited for each.

THE REFORMER According to the Enneagram Institute, Type Ones are perfectionists with strong principles. “Type Ones tend to want to follow traditions, rules and order,” Thomas says. “They have a core desire to be good and right.” As such, you need a classic wedding silhouette that will never go out of style. This clean A-line gown with a simple strapless neckline and covered buttons that go all the way down the back will stand the test of time. ANNE BARGE

Dress in sizes up to 22, $5,050, AnneBarge.com

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THE ACHIEVER Type Threes are wildly driven by success, and they dream of becoming inspirational figures. “Type Threes have a core desire to be valued and admired,” Thomas says, noting that this type needs everything in their life to be top quality. It’s no surprise, then, that you should wear a luxe gown from a renowned designer. We suggest a regal high-neck, long-sleeved ball gown dripping in intricate beadwork. Reminiscent of celeb brides like Grace Kelly and Paris Hilton, this design fits your desire to be the best of the best.

INES DI SANTO

Dress in sizes up to 24, $13,990, InesDiSanto.com

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Dress in sizes up to 20, price upon request, HermionedePaula.com

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Open-hearted Type Twos have an innate desire to spread kindness and generosity to others. Given your warm and welcoming demeanor, we recommend choosing a soft, romantic style for your wedding day—and it doesn’t get more romantic than a pink dress. We love this blush gown and topper, which have cascading ruffles and an understated, hand-painted floral print.

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Dress in sizes up to 10, $2,598, CultGaia.com

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T H E LOYA L I S T As a Type Six, you’ve got everyone’s back all the time. “Type Sixes are one of the most loyal types,” Thomas says. “They stick with their trusted people and want to be prepared for everything.” Trust us when we say that your perfect wedding dress has subtle pockets to stash lipstick for touch-ups or snacks for when you need an energy fix. You’ll feel extra-calm on your day knowing you can keep the essentials close by.

THE INDIVIDUALIST Type Fours are one-of-a-kind—and, according to Thomas, you fear being just like everyone else. “Type Fours want to find deep meaning and individual significance.” You need a wedding dress that doesn’t fit the mold, and this curve-skimming sheath with a plunging neckline, sexy cutouts and a feather skirt is just that.

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Dress in sizes up to 24, $3,750, OdylynetheCeremony.com

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Dress in sizes up to 22, $5,495, Amsale.com

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The Enneagram Institute notes that Type Fives are “visionary pioneers.” You’re innovative and curious, earning you the title of “The Investigator.” Thomas says that Type Fives tend to heavily research topics, so there’s a good chance you’ve been deep in the search for your dream dress. Enter, this whimsical ball gown. With sheer ruffles juxtaposed with silk organza, this design pushes the envelope just enough to fulfill your creative tastes.

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Fun-loving Type Sevens have a fear of being boxed in. Known as “The Enthusiast,” you’re all about finding joy in the little things. “Sevens do not want limitations; rather, they want whatever promises them the most happiness,” Thomas says. As such, your ideal wedding outfit should be a conversation starter—something completely unexpected and eye-catching, like this jumpsuit with allover geometric beading.

NAEEM KHAN

Jumpsuit in sizes up to 18, $6,995, NaeemKhan.com

SAVANNAH MILLER

Dress in sizes up to 20, $4,250, SavannahMiller.com

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If there’s one Enneagram number that’s perfect for rocking an of-the-moment trend, it’s Eight. “Eights have a core desire to be independent,” says Thomas, noting that this type also has a strong and bold personality. Type Eights are self-confident, powerful and decisive, which means you’ll have no problem committing to a flashy style like this gown, with trendy puff sleeves and a high slit.

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Enneagram Nines are creative and easygoing. “People who are this type want to be at peace and connected to others because they fear conflict,” says Thomas. This free-spirited personality type is all about the boho aesthetic. You’d be most comfortable in something laid-back like this slip dress with back streamers, which will allow you to look effortlessly cool on your day.

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Going Pro LOOKING TO SERVE SERIOUS FACE ON YOUR DAY? WE GOT YOU. WE TAPPED THE EXPERTS TO GET THE DEETS ON THE HOTTEST PROFESSIONAL SKIN CARE TREATMENTS OUT THERE—PLUS HOW TO FACTOR THEM INTO YOUR WEDDING TIMELINE AND BUDGET. BY SHELLEY BROWN

EXPERT TIP To reduce swelling and bruising after getting neuromodulators or fillers, ice the injection site, lay off the booze and avoid vigorous exercise for two days.

n-office visits and elective procedures are back, and that means one thing: You’re free to inject, peel, laser and otherwise professionally refresh your skin like it’s 2019 again. Below, a breakdown of the editorapproved skin care treatments—from injectables and peels to noninvasive facials—to consider before your “I dos.”

NEUROMODULATORS HOW THEY WORK: A neuromodulator is any substance that interferes with the transmission of signals between neurons. In dermatology, neuromodulators are primarily made of Botulinum toxin type A, a neurotoxin that relaxes facial muscles. You might know some of the most popular ones by their brand names: Botox, Dysport, Jeuveau and Xeomin. “We use neuromodulators to inhibit nerve transmission,” says Marnie Nussbaum, MD, a dermatologist in New York City. “They bind the presynaptic nerve in the muscle and block a neurotransmitter called acetylcholine, which is responsible for contraction of the muscles.” Translation: These injectables soften the movement of facial muscles, minimizing and smoothing out fine lines like crow’s feet, the “elevens” between the eyes or other deep wrinkles.

HOW TO TIME THEM: Neuromodulators take anywhere from three days to a week to set in, so you won’t see results instantly. They also last for three to four months, so you want to make sure you work with a pro to schedule your treatment correctly. If it’s too far in advance of your day, they might wear off, but too close to your day and you might have noticeable bruising and puffiness at the injection site. Nussbaum suggests testing out neuromodulators six months before your wedding to make sure you like the results and can make any necessary adjustments. “Then, we replicate the treatment approximately four weeks prior to the wedding,” Nussbaum says. “I also recommend a touch-up one to two weeks after the injection, so the results are perfect.” WHAT THEY COST: From $400

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HOW THEY WORK: Dermal fillers are gel-like substances injected beneath the skin to volumize areas of the face that lose plumpness and definition with age. Like neuromodulators, dermal fillers go by many names. Some of the most popular are Restylane, Juvéderm, Radiesse and Sculptra. “There are many applications for filler depending on the desired results,” Nussbaum says. “They can lift the cheekbones, fill in the nasolabial folds, volumize the lower face and give lips an enhanced pout.” Dermal fillers can be made of several substances, have different effects and last varying lengths of time. “Many fillers are hyaluronic acid based, which can always be dissolved in the event you’re unhappy with the results,” Nussbaum says. “However, some fillers are semipermanent or even permanent—like Poly-L-lactic acid and calciumor silicone-based fillers.” Always ask your dermatologist or plastic surgeon which kind you are getting and if it is dissolvable. Before your wedding, it’s best to use dissolvable fillers, in case you aren’t happy with the results.

HOW IT WORKS: Classic microneedling creates microscopic injuries in the skin using an instrument containing dozens of very fine, short needles, which activate your body’s woundhealing processes and boost collagen production. Without getting too technical, an increase in healthy skin cells and collagen can reduce fine lines, scars and hyperpigmentation. Microneedling with PRP uses platelet-rich plasma from your own blood to help your skin regenerate even more dramatically. “The plasma in our own vascular system has a lot of great growth factors and proteins that help our skin regenerate,” says Babak Azizzadeh, MD, a plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills, California. “When you use microneedling with PRP, it creates a micro-pore that allows the plasma to reach deeper into the layers of the skin for a greater effect.”

HOW TO TIME THEM: As with neuromodulators, Nussbaum recommends testing dermal fillers six months before your wedding so you know what you’ll look like. It’s worth noting that these injectables can take two weeks to settle from swelling or bruising, so avoid getting them the month of your wedding. “I like to place the filler six to eight weeks before the wedding and touch it up two weeks after that,” Nussbaum says. WHAT THEY COST: From $800

HOW TO TIME IT: While you’ll only be swollen and irritated for about 48 hours after microneedling with PRP, Azizzadeh recommends avoiding all professional skin treatments for a full month leading up to your wedding. “There is a very rare chance of an adverse reaction or prolonged redness and swelling,” he says. Also keep in mind that if you have more severe skin concerns, like deep acne scars or extensive hyperpigmentation, it may take several treatments to see significant results, so plan accordingly. WHAT IT COSTS: From $500

CHEMICAL PEEL HOW IT WORKS: As the name implies, this treatment involves applying a chemical solution to the skin that peels off its top layers. This process helps skin cells regenerate; addresses texture issues, discoloration and breakouts; and creates a more even complexion. There are several strengths of chemical peels, and choosing the right one for you depends on your specific concerns—as well as how much time you want to dedicate to recovery. “I would not recommend a deep peel before a wedding, but rather a ››

Avoid all invasive treatments the month before your wedding in case you have an adverse reaction or prolonged redness and swelling.

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medium to light one to address issues like acne, hyperpigmentation and overall skin clarity,” says Azizzadeh. “A medium peel, like a TCA (trichloroacetic acid) peel, is strong enough to create great results, but does not require as much downtime as more intense options.” HOW TO TIME IT: If you’re opting for a medium to light peel, as Azizzadeh recommends, you can heal in as little as 10 days, but schedule it two months before your wedding date to be safe. Deep peels can take anywhere from six to eight weeks to heal and should be scheduled at least a few months prior to your day. WHAT IT COSTS: From $300

HOW IT WORKS: This noninvasive laser treatment uses quick bursts of energy (that don’t damage the skin’s surface) to gently heat the skin to speed up collagen production. It can help retexturize your complexion and reduce the look of wrinkles, fine lines, acne scarring and dark spots associated with sun exposure. It also helps control the redness associated with rosacea by constricting blood vessels. “This works well before any big event,” says Lian Mack, MD, a dermatologist and founder of GlamDerm in New York City. “There’s no recovery time, and it makes your skin glow.” HOW TO TIME IT: Mild side effects like slight redness and dryness should subside within a few hours after treatment. You should see noticeable results within three or four weeks as your collagen production revs up. Mack recommends a series of Laser Genesis treatments (which could take place three to six months before your wedding), because the results are more dramatic when cumulative. Consult a dermatologist to figure out the best plan for your specific skin concerns. WHAT IT COSTS: From $275

RADIO-FREQUENCY FACIAL HOW IT WORKS: Also called radio-frequency skin tightening, this procedure is a nonsurgical method of tightening your skin. It involves using energy waves to heat the deep layer of your skin called the dermis, which stimulates collagen production. “The target of the

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EXPERT TIP Needles not your thing? Consider less invasive treatments like Laser Genesis and radio-frequency facials that will boost your glow—no injections necessary.

heat waves are loose, disorganized collagen fibers that need to be ‘pruned away’ so new healthy collagen can grow back,” says Marius Morariu, cofounder of the Tracie Martyn spa in New York City. “It addresses concerns like saggy skin, lack of elasticity, dullness, fine lines and wrinkles.” HOW TO TIME IT: The strength of the radio-frequency treatment you receive determines when you should schedule it. “Check with your dermatologist or medi-spa, as the timing depends on the technology and equipment used,” Morariu says. If you opt for a stronger treatment at a dermatologist’s office, you should schedule the last session a couple of weeks before your wedding. “The heat can get very intense and you may have some residual redness and swelling,” Morariu says. But some versions are mild enough that you could book the day before the wedding. WHAT IT COSTS: From $200

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f custom wedding shoes are on your accessories wish list, you’ll need to plan ahead. As with wedding gowns and custom suits, delivery times for made-to-order shoes can be much longer than items you buy off the rack. We recommend shopping at least six months before your day. When it comes to bringing your unique vision to life, most retailers will give you a series of options to choose from online to customize your design: shoe style, heel height, fabric, color, embellishments and more. Depending on the merchant, you may be able to receive swatches in the mail and see customization options up close and personal before you place an order. Looking for something super specific? Drop a line to customer service. Some vendors will work with you over email for more specialized shoe designs.

Feeling sentimental? Nod to tradition and opt for shoes with blue interior linings or soles.

THE BRAND:

MARGAUX

Each pair of these bespoke beauties is handmade to order at Margaux’s factory in Spain. Select from five silhouettes and a wide variety of colors for the exterior of the shoe. For the interior lining, you have a choice between the signature tan color, beige or blue (a super-subtle way to incorporate your something blue, if you like). You can also personalize your pair with a date (up to six numbers) or monogram (up to four letters) for an extra $20. If you prefer to see and feel the material options before you order, the brand offers a swatch kit. For $18, Margaux will send you swatches of its bridalexclusive fabrications and linings, plus a look book with selected styles. MargauxNY.com From $228 Ships in 8 to 12 weeks

THE BRAND:

CONVERSE

You can now wear a custom version of some of the most popular shoes of all time, thanks to Converse’s wedding shoe shop. Personalize unisex high-top or low-top Chucks with an easy-to-use online customization tool. Pick from weddingthemed colors and graphics to trick out your Converse from the tongue to the rubber sole. Converse.com From $95 Ships in 6 to 8 weeks

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While there’s no shortage of ready-made options to choose from when shopping for your wedding shoes, selecting a personalized pair is an opportunity to make saying “I do” an even more memorable experience. Here’s everything you need to know about designing custom kicks for your day.

THE PROS + CONS Weigh the benefits—and drawbacks— of a personalized pair before you buy.

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You can wear your custom wedding shoes long after the celebrations are over.

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If you’re searching for flats or a low heel, you don’t have to sacrifice style for comfort.

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JIMMY CHOO

Even if you want the brand recognition that comes with wearing Jimmy Choos, you don’t have to wear the same heels as everyone in your social feed. The online, made-to-order service offers 11 styles in multiple heel heights— including flats—in a range of colors and luxe fabrics (think Swarovski crystals, glitter, exotic leather and velvet). Last but not least, you can add an extra-personalized touch to the soles with a monogram (choose up to four characters or icons) or a date plaque (six numbers for your wedding date or another significant date) in light blue or snazzy gold. JimmyChoo.com

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From $925 Ships in 10 to 16 weeks

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NIKE

Calling all sneakerheads: Nike By You lets you personalize your own pair of sporty kicks. Customize men’s, women’s and unisex silhouettes in a variety of styles—right down to the iconic swish. Not only will these Nikes be totally one-of-a-kind, but your feet will thank you after hours of dancing. Nike.com From $100

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Ships in 2 to 4 weeks

SOLELY ORIGINAL

Solely Original allows you to create shoes totally from scratch thanks to a virtual program that lets you view your design in 3D. Choose from 12 fully customizable shoe styles and more than 150 material and color combinations. Another plus? You can add arch support for an extra $8 to ensure you’re comfortable from the ceremony to the reception. SolelyOriginal.com From $152

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MALONE SOULIERS

Ships in 4 to 6 weeks

If Italian craftsmanship is your style, look no further than Malone Souliers. The luxury brand offers made-to-order options of its signature designs. Choose from 17 silhouettes, then select your material and colors for the upper, straps and heels. To finish, you can add a monogram of up to six characters. MaloneSouliers.com

A variety of metallic strap options give these chic steppers an über-glam feel.

From $765 Ships in 8 to 10 weeks

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Bespoke options are more likely to include a broad range of shoe sizes and widths.

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You’ll need to factor in longer wait times, especially for specialty fabrics.

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Our annual Registry Awards is an assortment of riches from gold-rimmed coupes to smart home technology. These tested (and trusted) picks deserve a place on your wedding wish list.

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MEASURE UP A kitchen staple, these measuring cups are accurate and attractive. They’re also dishwashersafe. The cups nest for easy storage, but we understand if you want to work them into your kitchen decor. Gold measuring cups, $47, Williams-Sonoma.com

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This complete set of ceramic-coated cookware is free of toxic chemicals, oven-safe up to 550°F and stove top agnostic. The set even comes with storage for pans and lids to keep you organized. Cookware set, $395, CarawayHome.com

Kitchen novices and seasoned chefs alike will benefit from essentials that raise the bar on function and design.

IRON MAN Every kitchen needs some cast iron. This 4-quart cocotte is ideal for braising, browning and making soups and stews. It is oven-safe and comes in a wide variety of colors so you can coordinate with your kitchen.

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Cocotte, $330, Staub, CrateandBarrel.com

What’s not to love about a retro look paired with modern features like auto-shutoff and a soft-opening lid that prevents a jolt of steam? This electric kettle even has a removable limescale filter to keep the inside as clean as a whistle. Electric kettle, $240, SMEG, Williams-Sonoma.com

This compact powerhouse transports you to Italy. It cooks custom pizzas in 60 seconds—you’ll never order delivery again. Koda 16” pizza oven, $720, Ooni, Williams-Sonoma.com

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H O M E B A R I S TA Whisper-quiet with a small countertop footprint, the CM5310 makes coffee with just the push of a button. Choose from 10 pre-programmed drink options.

GUT RENO Want to upgrade your appliances or overhaul the whole heart of the home? Put a kitchen renovation on your Knot Registry wish list. It will add value to your property and make meal prep more memorable.

Coffee and espresso machine, $1,650, Miele, CrateandBarrel.com

COOL COMPOST $40

FoodCycler, $400, Vitamix, CrateandBarrel.com

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Turn your vegetable scraps into fertilizer in under eight hours with this next-level composter. Carbon filters keep your kitchen odorfree, while the inner bucket is dishwasher-safe for easy cleanup.

GOLD RUSH Drain a pot of pasta or wash a pint of blueberries in this 5-quart stainless steel colander. Holes throughout (including the bottom) allow for quick drainage. Colander, $35, Gibson Home, Macys.com

A C U T A B OV E Made from Japanese stainless steel, this knife set was designed to tackle all of your chopping, dicing and paring needs. A magnetic stand showcases them flawlessly. Knife trio and stand, $225, MaterialKitchen.com

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DINNERWARE PLACE SETTINGS REGISTER FOR

8-12

WINE GLASSES REGISTER FOR

12-24 COFFEE OR TEA MUGS REGISTER FOR

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FLATWARE 5 -PIECE SETS REGISTER FOR

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BAKE-OFF Master the art of baking with the best tools. This nonstick set is made from aluminized steel—ensuring no broken cookies and a quick cleanup.

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Nonstick bake set, $130, Williams-Sonoma.com

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One part art, one part smart TV, the Frame is the MVP of your living room. QLED technology delivers an unparalleled experience. When not in use, the TV displays a piece of art, totally transforming your space.

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Tree napper blanket, $269, Bearaby.com

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SUBSCRIBE NOW Register for cash to cover your preferred video streaming services (like Netflix, HBO Max or Hulu) for the year. Or wish list a membership to Spotify or Amazon Prime.

The Frame Smart TV 50”, $950, Samsung.com

Found: a cooling weighted blanket that helps you sleep better. Choose from three weights and six colors to find your perfect calming combo.

SMART ART

58% of couples register for home appliances

C O C K TA I L C H I C Made by artisans in Europe, these blownglass coupes will elevate everything from bubbles to martinis and craft cocktails. A handpainted gold rim gives them an enviable retro vibe.

LIGHT IT UP Taper candles instantly transform a space. When not lit, these polished-brass candlesticks dazzle as decor too. Choose from three heights or mix and match for a dynamic centerpiece.

Pryce coupe, $15, CrateandBarrel.com

Nattlight candle sticks, from $95, Skultuna.com

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Set alarms and timers, hear the latest news or make video calls with the Echo Show. You can listen to music, play TV shows and movies and control smart devices like lights and cameras—all with your voice.

Set your preferred drinking temp and enjoy hot coffee from the first sip to the last.

Echo Show 5, $45, Amazon.com

Ember Mug 2, $150, Ember.com

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These top tech picks are game changers—keep your coffee hot and your home clean and rockin’.

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PICTURE PERFECT Get your photos off your phone and on display in your home. The Aura digital picture frame makes it easy to upload your favorite snaps via an app and showcase them in sideshow mode.

living room Mason frame, $199, AuraFrames.com

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CARD SHARK Play dozens of games with a single deck of cards. This coated gold deck is sure to give you a winning hand. Bonus: The cards are waterproof in case a drink spills, or you want to take the competition poolside. Playing cards, $8, EAY, Amazon.com

GAME ON Bring back old-school game night with this two-in-one set. A reversible board lets you choose between Monopoly or Scrabble, with built-in storage for game pieces. Serious competitors can add a custom nameplate.

Elevate your entertaining space with luxe additions like cocktail coupes and classic games. Don’t forget the ambiance.

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Scrabble and Monopoly games, $179, LLBean.com

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Home Cinema 3800 Projector with HDR, $1,700, Epson, Amazon.com

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Cordless lamp, $60, Amazon.com

H O M E T H E AT E R Projection technology takes movie watching to the next level. The brightness and contrast on this one is unmatched.

No plug? No problem. This USBrechargeable lamp goes anywhere and boasts a battery life of up to 24 hours. Illuminate a bookshelf, night stand or even an outdoor dining table. A built-in dimmer is icing on the cake.

B L AC K O U T COOKING PRO ROCK ON Don’t let the size fool you—this smart speaker is a powerhouse. Control with your voice or via an app for easy use. Bonus: You can pair it with other Sonos devices for a full home sound experience. One speaker, $219, Sonos.com

Say hello to your kitchen MVP, the June Oven. Unlike most countertop ovens, this smart appliance air fries, grills, roasts, dehydrates, toasts, broils and slow cooks, all with the push of a button. June Oven Premium, $999, JuneOven.com

HOUSEWORK HELPER This slim robotic vacuum has cleanup covered. Super-strong (yet quiet!) suction tackles both hard floors and carpets with ease. It can clean for up to 100 minutes before parking itself in the charger. It even comes with a remote! 11S Max RoboVac, $248, Eufy, Amazon.com

Outfit your home in blackout shades, perfect for sleeping in or mid-day movie watching. These are made-to-order and compatible with Alexa. Smart blinds, $169, Yoolax, Amazon.com

I N S TA- C O M F O R T Made from certified OEKO-TEX cotton, these 480-thread-count sheets are the best bedding upgrade. Choose from a dozen solids and prints. Bonus: These sheets get softer with every wash.

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Luxe core sheet set, from $135, Brooklinen.com

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20% M I N E A N D YO U R S Equal parts plush and absorbent, these luxe towels are made in Portugal from 100 percent organic long-staple cotton. Choose from multiple colors and monogram styles. Piped edge starter pack, from $230, WeezieTowels.com

P I L LO W TA L K Luxurious and supportive (you can choose from three densities), these European white down pillows are a dream to sleep on. There’s even a version for side sleepers.

COZY UP Stay warm wrapped in baby alpaca wool hand-loomed in Peru. A soft feel and subtle plaid pattern make this a classic throw that you’ll both want to curl up under. Stratton alpaca throw, $428, SerenaandLily.com

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Create a sanctuary for relaxation with these plush upgrades. You’ll never want to leave, trust us.

A NEW BED Treat yourself to a good night’s sleep. This GOTS-certified organic mattress delivers. Green Mattress, from $1,099, AvocadoGreenMattress.com

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Down pillow, from $109, Parachutte.com

Monthly couples massages for a year? Yes, please! Create a cash fund on The Knot Registry and let your guests know you would love a little R&R with your other half—instant date night!

B R E AT H E E A SY A four-stage filtration system captures up to 99.97 percent of air particles, including pollutants and allergens. Designed to clean the air in rooms up to 360 square feet. Airmega Purifier, $185, Coway, Amazon.com

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M E D I TAT I O N F U N D Wish list a clear mind on The Knot Registry. Choose your favorite meditation app or local workshop and ask for the funds to keep you and your partner Zen for your first year of marriage.

Become your best selves—together. Mix a smoothie, massage tired muscles or start a meditation practice. S TAY F I T Turn any room in your home into a full gym using your body weight. You set your training goals and increase the intensity at your own pace. Bonus: This complete workout packs light and can travel anywhere. Home2 System, $200, TRXTraining.com

PERFECT BLEND Whip up protein-rich smoothies or infuse your water for ultimate hydration in this compact blender. Once mixed to perfection, screw on the drinking lid and take it to go. Blender, $185, Beast, Amazon.com

K I N K- F R E E GIVING THANKS Gratitude is consistently associated with greater happiness. A journal is one way to seek positivity. This one has daily prompts, monthly check-ins and activities to enhance your practice. Gratitude journal, $38, Papier.com

Ease sore muscles with this handheld therapy device. Superquiet yet powerful, the Theragun Elite melts knots and releases tension in the body with customizable speeds and a long battery life.

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Theragun Elite, $399, Therabody.com

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Leakproof and BPA-free, these honeycomb pods are perfect for transporting skin care products and vitamins to and from the gym. Custom labels leave nothing to the imagination. Bonus: Cadence is TSA-approved.

CSA SUBSCRIPTION Join your local Community Supported Agriculture (CSA) and get your fruits and veggies directly from a farmer. Ask for an annual subscription and prepare for a bounty of freshness.

Storage capsules, $74 for 6, Cadence.com

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This 18-plant stand makes growing your own produce a breeze—it is self-watering. Hydroponic technology allows you to grow 10 times more plants per square foot than a typical soil pot—perfect for urban dwellers.

MASTERCLASS Stream videos from 150+ of the best of the best in cooking, acting, sports, photography and beyond. Put an annual subscription on your wish list and discover a new hobby or reignite an old passion.

Farmstand with seedlings, $519, Lettuce Grow, TheKnot.com/registry

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B A R T E N D E R O N TA P Insert a cocktail capsule (containing bitters, extracts and juices) and the Bartesian suggests proper glassware and mixes a drink to your preferred strength with the push of a button. Cocktail maker, $370, Bartesian, CrateandBarrel.com

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Bluetooth speakers, $50 for two, Lexon, Amazon.com

Perfect for jet-setters and casual travelers alike, this suitcase set is made from recycled plastic bottles and is completely carbon-neutral. Aviator Grand and carry-on set, $745, TourParavel.com

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P O R TA B L E F U N Bring your beats along with these chic palm-sized Bluetooth speakers. A one-hour USB charge will get you three hours of music time. Choose from a variety of hues—one for me and one for you.

To determine how many gifts to register for, multiply your guest list by two and add a few extras.

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ROCK ON Listen to your vinyls in style on this hi-fi turntable. Amplify the sound of your favorite hits by connecting a Bluetooth speaker. Bluetooth turntable, $550, TEAC, MomaStore.org

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TA L E N T S H O W This Bluetooth-enabled microphone is an instant karaoke party. Sing along to your favorite Billboard hits from the comfort of your living room.

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Wireless microphone, $31, Bonaok, Amazon.com

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GO TEAM Ask for tickets to your favorite sporting event or for a full home season courtside. You can request cash on The Knot Registry for the seats and some fan gear or include tickets to specific events.

LIGHT MY FIRE Crafted from stainless steel, this portable firepit is perfect for backyard entertaining or camping trips. A clever design means you get a low-smoke full burn—no logs go to waste.

COMING UP ROSES This plug-in wall diffuser will keep your home smelling fresh. Use the app to adjust intensity and timing. Choose from dozens of fragrances.

Bonfire and stand, $369, Solo Stove, TheKnot.com/registry

Smart fragrance kit, $76, Capri Blue x Pura, Anthropologie.com

Add a variety of gifts to your registry in various price points from $50-$200.

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Ask for exactly what you want. Don’t add something because you think you have to.

Update your registry often, ensuring there’s always a range of gifts for guests to choose from.

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Tackle Conflict + Strengthen Your Relationship Contrary to popular belief, couples can disagree while deepening their bond. Here are six studybacked tips for how to build your relationship.

n 2017, The Gottman Institute and the Gay Couples Institute conducted a joint study to see how 11 sessions of couples therapy impacted long-term gay and lesbian couples. The effects were positive and raised questions about how gay and heterosexual couples differ. Other studies have observed that gay couples have better communication and conflict-resolution skills (and, currently, lower divorce rates). What are those skills and how can they be shared by all couples? Certified Gottman Method therapists Alapaki Yee and Sam Garanzini, cofounders of the Gay Couples Institute, share some researchbased ideas for fostering productive conflict and strengthening your relationship even when you argue. (And did we mention they’re a couple too?)

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All couples disagree, but there are many ways to argue. Yee, the institute’s clinical director, says it’s important to keep a sense of humor. “Gay and lesbian couples use humor when they argue, while straight couples don’t as much.” Adds executive director Garanzini, “It’s often playful humor, not sarcasm.” With humor, couples are able to manage tension in a conflict. “It lessens tension so couples are not emotionally overwhelmed,” Yee says. “Say you give your partner the silent treatment or you start yelling at each other. When you bring in humor, you don’t go from zero to 100.” It creates a buffer.

“Same-sex couples work harder on their friendship. That’s how they’re able to use humor— to play—even when they’re fighting,” says Yee. This, of course, requires some effort. Look for ways to deepen your connection with your partner through shared interests or discovering new hobbies together. “When you leverage humor during conflict, for example, you’re leaning on your friendship and reminding one another that you’re also friends.” ››

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3 F IN D COM M O N G RO U N D It’s important for couples to view their relationship through the lens of commonality, whether it be culture, shared values or interests. It helps couples, even when arguing, to see themselves as “we” over “me.” One example of commonality in the study was shared gender, which played a role in disagreements. “When you’re arguing with someone of your same gender, there’s already this idea of commonality,” says Yee. But often in same-sex scenarios, there’s even more to that concept. “It could be two people sharing the same socioeconomic potential,” he explains. “For example, two males have an understood earning potential, so the power differential of ‘I’m able to earn more than you’ that would be present with a female isn’t there.”

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AVO ID B E L L I G E R E N C E W H IL E F I G H TI N G Earning power isn’t the only area that impacts commonality. Assumed gender roles also influence how couples argue, whether the topic involves money or household work. “Our research found there’s less of a power struggle between gay and lesbian partners,” says Yee. “They’re also less likely to be belligerent, domineering or fearbased when fighting.” Same-sex couples were also less likely to resort to shaming, name-calling or eye-rolling, adds Garanzini. “That’s mockery and sarcasm that’s intended to hurt. Heterosexual couples resorted to those tactics faster than same-sex couples [in our study].” Studies also suggest that same-sex couples took longer to become contemptuous, the worst among the key indicators of destructive behavior in relationships. Simply put, you should be kinder to one another when you argue.

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ABOUT THE EXPERTS THE GAY COUPLES INSTITUTE Husband-andhusband team Sam Garanzini and Alapaki Yee are both certified Marriage and Family Therapists and Gottman Therapists. They are the cofounders of the Gay Couples Institute, which is based in San Francisco. THE GOTTMAN INSTITUTE Founded by relationship experts John and Julie Gottman, The Gottman Institute is a global therapy leader that empowers couples to deepen their connection. It also helps prepare individuals for their best relationship yet.

The number one question couples want to discuss in therapy at the Gay Couples Institute (and beyond) is sex. “It’s something our profession talks about the least,” says Garanzini. “Our study found that samesex couples talk about the topic a lot.” He cites John Gottman, whose Art and Science of Love workshop says: “Heterosexual couples have a lot to learn about sex from same-sex couples…Because we know that when couples talk a lot about sex, they have a lot of sex.” Yee elaborates, “Sex is on the mind throughout the day. After you get married, you have to proactively keep talking about it, including preferences and what you find attractive. If you make sex actually part of the conversation regularly, then you will have a lot of it.”

6 F LIRT A N D E XPR E S S IN TIMACY You can also soften conflict by redefining sexuality and building intimacy with your partner. “People have a very narrow view of how they define sex—if they even talk about sex at all,” says Garanzini. But there’s a difference between having sex and being sexual, he explains. This could involve touch, tantra or a massage, as well as a passing remark or observation. By alleviating the pressure of simply having sex as a task, couples can be more receptive to flirtatiousness and communicating intimacy, adding a new layer of connection to the relationship.

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HONEYMOON WHERE EVERYTHING’S INCLUDED!

M A K E M E MOR I E S TO H AV E A N D TO HOL D At Beaches® Resorts you can celebrate the most special time of your life with the people who mean the most to you. Best of all, after your magical wedding day, the two of you can slip off to a private honeymoon in some of the most romantic suites in the Caribbean. Enjoy every land and water sport under the sun, including a scuba program* voted Top 5 in the Western Hemisphere by PADI®. Indulge in 5-Star Global Gourmet™ dining at up to 22 exceptional restaurants serving unlimited pours of premium liquors. Even the tips, taxes, and Beaches transfers* are included. So while you celebrate your love, your loved ones will enjoy their own unforgettable celebration, too! *Visit www.beaches.com/disclaimers/theknotsummer2022fp or call 1-800-BEACHES for important terms and conditions. Beaches ® is a registered trademark. Unique Vacations, Inc. is an affiliate of Unique Travel Corp., the worldwide representative of Beaches Resorts.

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HAVE YOU RECEIVED A SAVE-THE-DATE YET? IF NOT, IT'S COMING—TRUST US. THE YEAR AHEAD IS SHAPING UP TO BE THE BIGGEST YET WHEN IT COMES TO WEDDINGS: WE’RE EXPECTING 2.6 MILLION “I DOS” IN 2022. IF YOU’RE FEELING A LITTLE OUT OF PRACTICE OR JUST WANT TO BE GIVEN THE BEST GUEST AWARD, READ ON. WE’VE GOT THE DETAILS ON THE INS AND OUTS OF ATTENDING A WEDDING, FROM WHEN TO RSVP AND WHAT NOT TO DO.

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A couple needs to have a firm head count to share with their venue and caterer ahead of the wedding day.

Most couples will indicate how you should RSVP on the invitation by including a reply card or instructing you to respond via their wedding website. If the couple invited you and a guest, say if you are bringing someone. (And no, you cannot add a plus-one.)

You should ideally respond as soon as you know your plans, but no later than the requested date (usually noted on the reply card). Don’t make a couple track you down to confirm your attendance.

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR PLANS CHANGE If we’ve learned anything these past few years, it’s that plans can and do change. If you find yourself unable to attend after RSVPing “yes,” notify the couple immediately, ideally by phone or in a thoughtful email.

FROM LEFT: REBECCA SICILIA/NOUN PROJECT; SHUTTERSTOCK (2); CLAIRE BENOIST; ADRIEN COQUET/NOUN PROJECT; ALEKSANDR VECTOR/NOUN PROJECT

The initialism comes from the French phrase “répondez s’il vous plaît,” meaning, “please respond.” The French rarely use this abbreviation anymore, but most wedding invitations carry these four letters, some even on their very own reply card.

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Most to-be-weds include important details like the wedding date and locale. Some will share more, like the story of how they met, who’s in the wedding party and extra activities. Check the site before you make any travel plans (there may be a hotel room block) and revisit it as the date approaches to stay in the know.

The website should be your first stop for any questions you have about the wedding. Most couples try to anticipate questions and include everything from dress code details to driving directions on their website. This is also the best place to find out where a couple is registered.

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PRO TIP If you can’t find the answer to your question, try not to contact the couple, especially in the week leading up to the big day. Instead, reach out to a relative or a member of the wedding party who may be able to help.

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Good guests follow the requested dress code. If a couple asks for something specific, like all-white or Gatsby attire, check their website for more details. Here are general rules for the most common wedding dress codes.

BLACK TIE The most formal dress code (save white tie), this is generally reserved for events that take place later in the day. Tuxedos with bow ties and formal gowns are expected. This is one of the strictest dress codes, so there really isn’t room for interpretation.

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IF YOU GOT ONE?

If your wedding invite is addressed to you and your significant other, you’ve got a date. Just remember that wedding invitations are nontransferable. If you find yourself uncoupled by the time of the celebration, you cannot and should not invite someone else in their place without speaking to the to-be-weds. If you don’t have a long-term partner, but your friends want you to bring a date along, they will address the invite to you and a guest. If it is addressed to *just* you, you’ve been invited solo.

BLACK TIE OPTIONAL Still formal, but less rigid, this is a cross between black-tie and formal fashion. Tuxedos are welcome, but a dark suit will also work. Keep the time of day in mind too— an early afternoon wedding can skew less formal on the black-tie spectrum.

Q: WHAT IF YOU DON’T

FORMAL ATTIRE This wording is quite popular on wedding invites. It’s less formal than black tie and doesn’t have as many hard-and-fast rules. Cocktail dresses or a nice pantsuit are perfectly appropriate, as are traditional suits and ties.

GET ONE? You’re going to have to mingle alone. No, it was not a mistake. And no, you cannot ask the couple for a plus-one—sorry!

BY T H E N U M B E R S How do you measure up as a guest? Check out the latest stats from our guest study.

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One of the most flexible dress codes, this means that short or long dresses or even a jumpsuit are all fair game. A tailored suit with a crisp white shirt is a no-fail choice.

SEMI-FORMAL This can feel like a tricky dress code to nail because it’s in between casual and formal. A suit and tie is still appropriate here, as are simple cocktail dresses.

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Bottom line: It’s up to the couple. Traditionally anyone who is married, lives together or is in a serious relationship gets a plus-one. It’s also customary for members of the wedding party, regardless of relationship status. Couples may be less likely to give a plus-one to a guest who is casually dating, a coworker or a single guest who will likely know others at the wedding.

CASUAL ATTIRE This is the most relaxed dress code of all. It doesn’t exactly mean that anything goes—athleisure is never okay—but you can wear a comfortable outfit befitting a special event. Use business casual as a guide: think dresses, separates or slacks and a jacket.

PRO TIP Skip white at a wedding unless you’ve been explicitly asked to wear it.

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It’s go time. This is the day they’ve been planning for months and your time to shine as a stellar wedding guest. Be prompt, respectful and gracious. Don’t give a toast unless asked, hit the dance floor and remember to say thank you.

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You must attend the ceremony and reception. Unless you’ve only been invited to one event, you’re expected to attend both. Plan to arrive 10-15 minutes ahead of the ceremony start time; you don’t want to follow a wedding procession down the aisle. Let an usher seat you or follow signage cues (most couples skip the “sitting on sides” tradition).

TECH USE Couples hire a photographer for a reason. Don’t take any pictures at the ceremony (otherwise your smartphone will be in all their photos!) and set your phone to silent. Unless the couple has requested no phones, it’s okay to snap pictures at the reception, but stay out of the way of the hired pros. And no posting pics of the couple until they do! If they have a hashtag, be sure to use it.

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CHEERS! Express your gratitude to the couple or the hosts before the end of the night.

CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS Many couples incorporate religious or cultural traditions in their wedding ceremony. If you are unfamiliar with them, look to the families of the to-be-weds for cues. Couples may also explain traditions in the program.

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SHOP THE REGISTRY

Your assigned seat was a labor of love. Couples spend countless hours considering the placement of guests at the reception. Do not rearrange seating assignments or place cards— it’s a huge faux pas. Check the seating chart and sit where you’ve been placed. For an easy conversation starter, just introduce yourself to guests at the table and ask how they know the couple.

Couples carefully curate their wedding registry. Respect! Shop it—they know what they want better than anyone. If you can’t find something on the registry that’s within your budget, opt for a gift card or ask a few fellow guests to go in on a special item.

CASH IS KING With couples getting married later in life and living together before they say “I do,” many already have the traditional items found on a wedding registry. If a couple asks for cash, it’s what they want. Some may even share how they plan to spend it, from a home renovation to an epic honeymoon adventure.

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Have fun—but not too much fun. You don’t want to have to make amends with the couple in the morning. Socialize with other guests and enjoy the open bar responsibly (pace yourself and hydrate between signature cocktails). Be sure to congratulate the couple and sign the guest book too. Be present, hit the dance floor and be a gracious guest!

SHOP AND SHIP HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU SPEND?

PRO TIP Take a favor! Couples spend a lot of time thinking up the perfect parting gift for their guests (some even add a DIY touch) so don’t leave it behind. If it’s positioned at your place setting, loop by before heading out.

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There’s no magic number when it comes to gifting. According our data, guests generally spend about $160 on a wedding gift. Use your relationship to the couple to dictate what you spend—you might be more generous with a close family member or a best friend than, say, a coworker.

It may feel wrong to show up to a wedding empty-handed, but it’s best for everyone. You don’t have to lug a toaster to the wedding and, better still, the couple doesn’t have to find your gift a ride home at the end of the night. Want to earn bonus points with the couple? Mail the gift two months ahead of the wedding, allowing them to keep pace with their thank-you notes.

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A VIBRANT SPREAD OF BOTH SWEETS AND SAVORIES, WITH LUSCIOUS CITRUS INSPIRING EVERY TURN, IS THE PERFECT FOUNDATION FOR A BRUNCH WEDDING UNDER

BY HANNAH NOWACK PHOTOGRAPHY BY LARISSA CLEVELAND EVENT DESIGN BY ASHLEY SMITH EVENTS FLORAL DESIGN BY WILD CLUB V E N U E BEAR FLAG FARM

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Don’t limit maximalism to just your design—go big with culinary offerings too. Catering, @FoxtailCatering; wine, @ScribeWinery; olive oil, @BearFlagFarm

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Black-tie dress isn’t just for after sunset. Rock high fashion at high noon—and watch jaws drop.

V I N TAG E M E E T S VO G U E Nod to old-world glam with a birdcage veil and puff sleeves. Models, @Morgan__Mil; @AlexxPhillip; dress, Daalarna Couture from @Wild_Bride; suit, @TheBlackTux; styling, @TheKismetProject_LA

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BRUNCH BITES

CITRUS SEND-OFF

Doughnuts with pink-grapefruit glaze are an irresistible part of any morning menu. Gourmet granola, deviled eggs and roasted Brussels sprouts round out the delicious offerings.

Bid guests adieu with an edible reminder of the seasonal fun: fruit-filled boxes tied with beautiful bows.

S I G N AT U R E S I P Lemon and grapefruit juice shine with orange bitters, St. Germain, gin and sparkling wine served in an Art Deco coupe glass. Stemware, @TableMethod; menu, @ElsaMadelineDesign

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SUBLIME STEMS Peachy ranunculus and purple sweet peas pair together effortlessly. Earrings + veil, @Loho_Bride; makeup, @KatieNashBeauty

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BALANCED BITES When curating edible favors, a mix of savory (like olives and sardines) and sweet (like honey and pine nut brittle) is the perfect match. Menu, @CanyonCalligraphy

CHILIS ON ICE Specialty ice takes any signature cocktail from good to great. Aromatic chilis and lavender are frozen inside these cubes. Ice, @BlindTigerIce

C O U N T RYS I D E C U I S I N E

Capitalize on the long days of summer by dining outside. Rentals, @BlueprintStudiosEvents; @TheoniCollection; linens, @MarissaDPoulinDesigns

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To keep the design clean and simple, fill the back bar with a plethora of oranges instead of liquor bottles.

L A I D - B AC K LO O K S After formal vows, cool off in casual threads while you keep the drinks flowing. Dress, Bevza from @Loho_Bride; necklace, @TheRubyLA; rentals, @TheCopperRoseCollection

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Envision your wedding and decide how much you want to spend (and if anyone else will be contributing).

FIN D YO U R

WE D D I N G S T YLE Not sure where to start (totally normal, btw)? Download The Knot Wedding Planner app and take our Style Quiz. Zero in on your vibe—think industrial with bohemian details—and we’ll generate a personalized Wedding Vision you can share with your pro squad.

P H OTO G R A P H BY J ES S I CA P E T T WAY

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Ask your besties to stand by you at the altar and in the months leading up to your day. Celebrate your peeps and your engaged status!

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Download our app and get a personalized list of to-dos between now and wedding day.

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EDITOR TIP It’s okay to go out of order or not tick every item off the list. Ask for help from your wedding VIPs—they want to help, trust us.

VE N U E

Search for the perfect place to celebrate, keeping budget and guest count in mind. Then set the date.

EDITOR TIP Think about what you love as a couple. Are you homebodies or the types to dress up and hit the dance floor? Your wedding should be a true reflection of who you are, so let your personalities define your style. (FYI: Most couples aren’t just one style.)

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Research and book pros—anyone you have to have should be locked in ASAP. If you share your info with us (budget, location, guest count), we can recommend vendors and help you assemble a stellar pro squad. You can find tons of talent on The Knot Marketplace and check out reviews from newlyweds who hired them.

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Have final attire fittings and arrange for dress and/or suit pickup.

FI NALI Z E OT HE R

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EDITOR TIP Get ready to celebrate! From engagement soirees to couples showers and bach weekends, there are lots of ways to party. Be sure to keep your registry stocked with gifts at various price points. And always show your gratitude for the hosts of these fun occasions.

Plan your rehearsal dinner and morning-after brunch.

SH O P FO R

Meet with your officiant to discuss the details and attend prewedding counseling, if required.

Try on and purchase your wedding rings—then get insurance. (Now it’s starting to feel really real, right?)

RINGS

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We meant what we said—we’ve got you. Check out our best planning helpers.

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S H O PPI N G Find personalized decor, unique party favor ideas and wedding party gifts for all your peeps at TheKnotShop.com.

We’re here to help with all of your paper needs. Choose from tons of original designs— including those in our Black and Women’s Artist Collectives (bonus: you can coordinate with your wedding website)—and save time with guest addressing.

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WE D D I N G WE B S ITE Head to TheKnot.com to start your very own website. Share the link so guests are in on the details, like room blocks and your registry. Include any FAQs or changes due to COVID-19. You can even stay on top of your RSVPs with our built-in tool.

MAK E A

REG I S TRY People will want to shower you with gifts from “we’re engaged” to your wedding day, so a wish list is a must. Build yours on The Knot and add items from our expansive store or wherever you shop online using our universal registry tool. The Knot Gifts Back makes a donation to a charity of your choice for every gift purchased off your registry!

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Shop for your attire and schedule necessary fittings—don’t forget accessories. Choose what your wedding party will wear too.

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EDITOR TIP The Knot Registry also lets you ask for cash for things like a down payment on a home or an epic future trip to Bali. Yes, you read that right: It’s okay to ask for $$$.

Head to the state registrar’s office in the county where you’ll wed for this must-have doc.

CH O O SE A

P O I NT PE R S O N If you don’t have a wedding planner or day-of coordinator, task an attendant or family member to be the go-to so you can relax and enjoy the day.

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The planning and hard work are behind you— time to celebrate your new status.

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WISH LIST

THE KNOT REGISTRY Build an epic wish list on The Knot with handpicked products, experiences, cash and even gift cards. And you can link your registry to a charity of your choice to give back with every purchase made.

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Pick photos that showcase your love

Add your story

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R E A L L OV E

WHEN I NEED A FRIEND, YOU’RE MY BEST FRIEND. WHEN I N E E D H E L P, W E M A K E A GREAT TEAM. WHEN I NEED TO B E TA K E N C A R E O F, YO U ’ R E MY CARETAKER. WHEN I WANT TO TRY SOMETHING NEW, YOU’RE RIGHT BY MY SIDE.

-Stefano’s wedding vows PHOTOGRAPH BY FRANCESCO SPIGHI PHOTOGRAPHY

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ALFRESCO AFFAIR “For the reception area, we went with a Tuscan feel, with custom-built floors, rustic chairs and the Euganean hills in the background,” says James.

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SERPENT CIPHER The invitation suite included a crest with an S wrapping around the J like a snake.

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SINISTER STYLE Eve in the Garden of Eden inspired the day’s moody flowers. As a complement to the idea, Stefano says, “we were especially inspired by a textile design by William Kilburn, an Irish illustrator from the 1700s. It is floral and pretty, but has something dark and sinister about it.” RUNWAY READY Alexander McQueen was a must for the couple’s ceremony outfits because he “embodied everything I imagined the wedding to be: unconventional, theatrical and with elevated attention to detail,” says James (right). “For the evening, we wanted something a little more glitzy.” They changed into silver and gold jacquard suits. FABULOUS FLOWERS Roses, carnations, dahlias, thistles, snowberries, cosmos, amaranthus, gladioli and eucalyptus comprised the floral arrangements.

eclaiming and celebrating the concept of sin was at the center of Stefano Attardi (39 and a software engineering manager) and James Nguyen’s (32 and an apparel technical designer) wedding in Italy. The venue, a 13th-century villa that belongs to Stefano’s family, is covered in Renaissance-style frescos, many of which depict religious themes. However, since the couple isn’t religious, they wanted to find a way to imbue their own style and personality into the space. They settled on sin as a theme to celebrate their day of joyful indulgence. “Embracing the word felt like a small act of rebellion against the idea that a same-sex relationship is sinful,” Stefano says. “Each of the seven deadly sins turned into an opportunity for fun and celebration.” — HAN NAH N OWAC K

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SINFUL SIGNAGE Each of the seven deadly sins corresponded to an element of the wedding. “Gluttony for the dinner, sloth for the lounge area, pride for the ceremony, envy for the photo booth, lust for the dance floor,” says Stefano. “We chose a Renaissance painting to illustrate each one and connect the theme to the venue.” DELICIOUS DISHES As self-proclaimed foodies, Stefano and James say it was important to “showcase the best ingredients and dishes Italy has to offer, but—true to our theme—present them in their most sinful, indulgent, gluttonous preparation.” Guests first enjoyed five appetizers, like a crispy polenta sandwich with creamed salt cod, and quail eggs with bottarga. A nine-course tasting menu followed, which included a Bellini sorbet with basil.

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COLOR PALETTE FO R B I D D EN FO R ES T A rich combination

of charcoal, berry, blush and crimson with dark green and gold accents.

WEDDING STYLE An I N D U LG E NT and LUXU R I O U S flower-filled black-tie celebration. Tie the knot at a H I S TO R I C ES TATE or PE NTH O U S E BALLROO M.

1 1/4” velvet ribbon, $5 for 5 yards, AnastasiaMarieShop, Etsy.com 2 Gold charger, $14 to rent, CasadePerrin.com 3 Dinner plate, $40, HeathCeramics.com 4 Suit in sizes up to 50, $4,030, DolceGabbana.com 5 Suit jacket in sizes up to 44, $80, Mogusuit.com 6 Loafers in sizes up to 10, $995, BergdorfGoodman.com 7 Chair, $194, Walmart.com

Don’t limit blooms to the boutonniere. Infuse your fashion with botanical prints.

MUST-HAVES

B E AUTI FU L BALL AD The couple processed

together to “Perfect,” by Ed Sheeran. “There wasn’t a dry eye in the garden,” says Stefano. TOG ETH E R AT L AS T “I loved seeing people from

different parts of our lives all come together for us,” James says. “I couldn’t stop feeling all of the love and support from the group.”

PE RSO NAL PR ES E NT Guests departed

with bottles of olive oil from the farm Stefano’s family owns and runs.

INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE A private residence, Arquà Petrarca, Italy PH OTOG R APHY Francesco Spighi Photography E VE NT PL AN N I N G Kelly Hayes/The Italian Wedding Planner FLO R AL D ES I G N Ivy Flower Design O FFI CIANT Flavia Marzano (friend) TUXE DO S Ceremony: Alexander McQueen; reception: Dolce & Gabbana S H O ES Ceremony: Christian Louboutin; reception: Giuseppe Zanotti ACC ES SO R I ES Stefano: Gucci; James: Alexander McQueen; Stolen Girlfriends Club E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Satoru HAI R Letizia Cordella MAK EU P Letizia Maestri S TATI O N E RY Shindig Bespoke R E NTAL S Preludio CATE R I N G Alajmo M U S I C Josmil Neris TR AN S P O RTATI O N Lovivo Tour Experience

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In 1969, Stefano’s grandfather purchased the venue where the couple tied the knot, and over the years, he furnished it with locally sourced 17th-century pieces. “I would visit often while I was growing up, especially for family celebrations and New Year’s parties, so I have many memories in that villa,” Stefano says. “We also liked the idea of the villa because it was intimate, exclusive—and free!”

WHEN WE VISITED A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE THE B I G D A Y, I T B E C A M E C L E A R THAT RUMORS HAD SPREAD AND THE WHOLE AREA WAS ABUZZ WITH ANTICIPATION. IT WAS COOL THAT WITH JUST 50 GUESTS WE WERE ABLE TO TAKE OVER THE WHOLE TOWN.

-S tefano

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SOCCER SOIREE PHOTOGRAPHS BY SPOSTO PHOTOGRAPHY EVENT PLANNING BY AMOROLOGY

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MOMENT ALONE

The couple “loved seeing each other during the first look and having special alone time together.”

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Wicker chandeliers brought a residential vibe to the couple’s outdoor reception.

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SUMMERTIME STEMS The couple introduced their colorful, gardeninspired aesthetic in invitations with watercolor blooms. On the wedding day, the botanical designs were just as vibrant as their stationery counterparts. Tallia’s bouquet included orchids, dahlias, ranunculus, astilbe, roses and cosmos. NANA’S LOVE Flowers weren’t the only ingredient in the bouquet. The florist also wrapped Tallia’s late grandmother’s wedding dress sleeve around the bouquet. “My Nana was one of the most influential people in my life, so it meant the world to my family to know a piece of her was with us,” she says. BEST BUDS Tallia gave her bridesmaids robes to get ready in and earrings to wear with their mauve dresses on the wedding day.

deep love of soccer inspired Tallia Holland (30 and works in sales) and Matthew (Matt) Donaldson (30 and head of channel sales) as they planned their peach-and-taupe wedding. While dating, the couple would wear matching jerseys and get up in the middle of the night to watch Liverpool Football Club games from across the pond. The couple’s love of the British team runs so deep that Matt even selected Liverpool’s pregame anthem, “You’ll Never Walk Alone,” by Richard Rogers, for the dance he shared with his mother. The nods to the sport started earlier in the day as the couple exchanged vows in front of a ceremony arch decked out with netting that resembled a goal. Then, at the reception, calligraphed soccer balls helped guests find their seats. — H N

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TIME TO TRAVEL Tallia and Matt paid homage to their love of travel with a vignette of assorted luggage. Some pieces were emblazoned with calligraphed phrases from loved ones. TOUCH OF TEXTURE A mix of textures added depth the wedding style: Velvet imparted a luxe feel, while rattan brought softness. Striped tablecloths gave warmth to the day’s beautiful design. WICKER WATERING HOLE At the rattan bar, guests had the choice of two signature cocktails: the “Full Don,” an old fashioned, and “Something with a Kick,” an Aperol spritz. DOUBLE CHOCOLATE PERFECTION For their four-tier cake with buttercream frosting, the couple settled on a rich chocolate flavor with chocolate filling.

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WEDDING STYLE A FU N and WH I M S I CAL event that’s a fresh take on a garden wedding. Exchange vows at a TRO PI CAL R ESO RT or BOTAN I CAL G AR D E N .

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COLOR PALETTE C H E E R FU L CO R AL Bright shades of peach, salmon, marigold, papaya and lemon with ochre and white accents.

1 Dress in sizes up to 32, $4,000, Pronovias.com 2 Tuxedo in sizes up to 50, $1,098, BrooksBrothers.com 3 Chandelier, $445, LuluandGeorgia.com 4 3-piece vase set, $24, TheKnot.com 5 Invitation, $199 for set of 100, TheKnot.com 6 Soccer ball, $13, Amazon.com 7 Ring box, $89, TheMrsBox.com

G MUST-HAVES R ECOVE RY K IT S Tallia’s mom put together

welcome bags that included electrolyte powder, water bottles and a note from the couple.

PAN D E M I C PR ECAUTI O N S Tallia and Matt requested that all guests take COVID-19 tests within three days before the wedding. D I N N E R C H O I C ES After enjoying a pear

and candied walnut salad, guests chose a steak, sea bass or ravioli entree.

INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Park Hyatt Aviara Resort, Carlsbad, CA PH OTOG R APHY Sposto Photography VI D EOG R APHY SJ Videography E VE NT PL AN N I N G + D ES I G N Amorology FLO R AL D ES I G N Nectar + Bloom O FFI CIANT Dan Kelly (friend) GOWN Pronovias, Mon Amie Bridal, Costa Mesa, CA TUXE DO Suitsupply S H O ES Tallia: Badgley Mischka J E WE LRY Tallia: BHLDN E N G AG E M E NT R I N G Padis Jewelry WE DD I N G RI N GS MacTavish Jewelers HAI R + MAK EU P Beauty Bespoken WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Azazie S TATI O N E RY Four Things Paper R E NTAL S Back Up Backdrops; Folklore; The Hostess Haven; Witty Rentals CATE R I N G + CAK E Park Hyatt Aviara M U S I C DJ Live/Downbeat

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It was paramount for the couple to honor loved ones who were unable to attend the wedding. In addition to a flower arrangement for a late groomsman, Matt wore cuff links that originally belonged to Tallia’s late grandfather. The couple also had a table with photos of family members who had died. “They couldn’t be there with us, but were there in spirit,” says Tallia.

ONE OF MATT’S BEST FRIENDS AND GROOMSMEN U N E X P E C T E D LY PA S S E D IN 2020. WE MADE SURE TO HONOR HIM BY PLACING A FLORAL ARRANGEMENT IN HIS PLACE IN LINE WITH THE OTHER GROOMSMEN.

-Tallia

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SNEAK PEEK The invitation suite for the destination event included a custom map and an envelope lined with a drawing of the venue.

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BEAUTIFUL BOTANICALS From the ceremony arch to the cake, hydrangeas anchored the wedding design. Roses and ranunculus, meanwhile, were woven throughout Smita’s (left) and Christina’s bouquets. IMPACTFUL “I DOS” The couple wanted all of their attendees to approach the nuptials with intention. “We asked that our guests be grounded prior to the ceremony starting, so they could really be present in the moment.” DECADENT DESSERTS The chocolate cake with cookies-and-cream buttercream wasn’t the only sweet treat on deck. A dessert spread beckoned guests with whoopie pies (a Maine staple and Christina’s favorite), peanut butter brownies and chocolate chip cookies (Smita’s favorite). NUANCED DESIGN The pair envisioned an aesthetic that felt “coastal and romantic, but not preppy.”

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ew people understand the strain of the pandemic as much as health care workers Smita Sihag (42 and a surgeon) and Christina Valente (30 and a health care administrator). Which is why it was so special for the couple to have the chance to celebrate their love with their nearest and dearest, despite the hurdle of a postponement. The duo planned a wedding on the coast of Maine, near where Smita’s family owns a home and she spent summers growing up. The day embodied a romantic, coastal garden party with touches of culture from the couple’s Indian and Italian roots. The reception menu was one of the many elements that showcased this blending of cultures. Smita and Christina served Indian dishes like saag paneer, Italian pastas and salmon as a nod to the waterfront venue. — H N

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G WEDDING STYLE A RO MANTI C yet COAS TAL and NAUTI CAL event. Plan the big day at a WATE R FRO NT R ESO RT or even aboard a YAC HT . COLOR PALETTE S U M M E R B LU ES Vibrant hues of vermillion, clementine and blush add warmth to coastal shades of blue.

1 Dress in sizes up to 12, price upon request, SavinLondon.com 2 Scalloped charger, $21, Walmart.com 3 Sari in sizes up to 6XL, $403, PerniasPopUpShop.com 4 Bracelet, $175, ScullyandScully.com 5 Shoes in sizes up to 10, $395, BHLDN.com 6 Velvet vow book, $59, StylingArchives, Etsy.com 7 Invitation, $199 for set of 100, TheKnot.com

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M E AN I N G FU L FI RS T DAN C E The couple spun about to “The Bones,” by Maren Morris, because the “song really resonates with us.”

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dinner, the couple gave guests maple syrup as favors to celebrate the locale. HAN GOVE R CU R E Attendees received recovery kits at the after-party that included under-eye patches, makeup removal wipes, mints and gum.

INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Cliff House, Cape Neddick, ME PH OTOG R APHY Mary Claire Photography VI D EOG R APHY LoveLocked Films E VE NT PL AN N I N G + FLO R AL D ES I G N Rachael Ellen Events O FFI CIANT A Sweet Start FAS H I O N Smita: Kankatala; Christina: Savin London, Bridal Atelier Montclair, Montclair, NJ S H O ES Christina: Loeffler Randall E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Ring Concierge HAI R Smita: Hair That Moves; Christina: Maeghan French MAK EU P Melanie Handler WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Anthropologie; Azazie S TATI O N E RY Invitations: August Sinclair Stationery; day-of paper: Lustr R E NTAL S BBJ Linen; Peak Rentals CATE R I N G Tulsi CAK E Bear Brook Bakery M U S I C Radiance

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It was especially meaningful that the couple wore heirloom jewelry on the big day, because, they explain, “we went through a lot in our relationship in regards to acceptance from family.” Their journey as a couple is also why the vow exchange was Christina’s favorite part of the wedding day: “Smita already knew how much I loved her, so I wanted our family to feel our love.”

O N T H E W E D D I N G D A Y, WE BOTH WORE HEIRLOOM J E W E L R Y. I W O R E PIECES THAT HAD BEEN PASSED DOWN FROM MY GRANDMOTHER AND CHRISTINA DONNED A RING HER GRANDMOTHER HAD LEFT HER.

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Neerellyn + Marquis

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BURGUNDY BEAUTY Marquis’ plum-hued tuxedo complemented the burgundy calla lilies and peonies in Neerellyn’s bouquet.

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BOHO BLOOMS The flower arrangements included scabiosa, proteas, ruscus, roses, chrysanthemums, lisianthus and amaranthus. UNDERSTATED ELEGANCE “Since the wedding was outdoors, we wanted to enhance the natural beauty with elegant yet simple tabletop pieces,” says Neerellyn. A velvet tablecloth anchored the design, while matte black plates brought an edgy vibe to the setup. TASTY TREATS For the intimate dinner, the couple offered citrus roast chicken, seared halibut and braised short ribs paired with rice pilaf and herbed vegetables. Afterward, guests dug into a two-tier chocolate cake with Swiss meringue buttercream and strawberry compote. MUSICAL MIX The evening’s entertainment ranged from R&B to bachata and salsa tunes.

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amily was a central part of Neerellyn Hernandez (36 and a compliance officer) and Marquis Bridges’ (36 and a labor representative) “desert romance” wedding in California’s Yucca Valley. The couple, who met in middle school, got engaged at Marquis’ grandmother’s 90th birthday party. They set about planning a wedding with a mix of earth and jewel tones that celebrated their nearest and dearest. On the big day, the couple’s daughter acted as flower girl and inspired her mother’s vows. Neerellyn thanked Marquis for “not shying away from the challenges of fatherhood. You are such a present dad, and I could not be more grateful.” To cap off the heartfelt ceremony, the couple and their kids shared a group hug before decamping to the alfresco reception. — H N

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WEDDING STYLE A M O D E R N take on a BO H E M IAN wedding. Tie the knot at a D ES ERT R AN CH , VI N E YAR D or even in your own BAC K YAR D.

COLOR PALETTE D ES E RT H U ES Warm, earthy shades of burnt orange, rust, terra-cotta and burgundy with jet-black and antique-gold accents.

1 Tuxedo, jacket in sizes up to 58, pants in sizes up to 54, $179 to rent, TheBlackTux.com 2 Hair comb, $185, TwigsandHoney.com 3 Dress in sizes up to 30W, $1,400, DavidsBridal.com 4 Palo santo, $18, Bloomist.com 5 Linen napkin, $65 for set of 4, Sferra.com 6 Flatware, $119 for 5-piece set, Contemporum.com 7 Coupe glass, $64 for set of 4, PotteryBarn.com

MUST-HAVES WE D D I N G PART Y TALE NT One of Neerellyn’s

bridesmaids designed all of the stationery.

S TART TO FI N I S H The couple selected both

a first and last dance song for the wedding. “That’s How Strong My Love Is,” by Otis Redding, kicked things off. “Baby,” by Ariel Pink’s Haunted Graffiti, ended the night.

SYM BO LI C CAN D LES Neerellyn’s and Marquis’

mothers lit a unity candle, and another flickered in memory of those not present.

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INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Ma Sa Ya Ranch, Yucca Valley, CA PH OTOG R APHY Zyaire Porter of Porterhouse LA VI D EOG R APHY YD Weddings E VE NT PL AN N I N G + D ES I G N Elevated Room Events FLO R AL D ES I G N Poppy Lavender Florals O FFI CIANT Jessica Coleman (friend) GOWN + VE I L David’s Bridal TUXE DO The Black Tux S H O ES Neerellyn: ASOS; Crocs; Marquis: Aldo ACC ES SO R I ES Neerellyn: Amazon E N G AG E M E NT + WE D D I N G R I N G S Jared HAI R Tricia Michelle MAK EU P Nikki Face WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Bridesmaids: David’s Bridal; groomsmen: The Black Tux S TATI O N E RY The Book Plate Creative R E NTAL S Bright Event Rentals; MTB Event Rentals CATE R I N G Chef Joann CAK E Mama Soul M U S I C Check One2 Enterprises

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#MAKETRADITION Each element in the favor bundles carried meaning. “Palo santo is traditionally used to clear negative energy and purify spaces, people and objects. It also welcomes good energy. Selenite dispels negative energy and enhances clarity, focus and creates calm. Lavender sets the intention for a peaceful, grounded energy when engaging in any sacred ceremony.”

FOR OUR WEDDING FAVORS, WE WANTED SOMETHING SPIRITUAL AND BEAUTIFUL. WE WRAPPED PALO SANTO, SELENITE AND DRIED LAVENDER IN GOLD WIRE AND WHITE CHEESECLOTH.

-Neerellyn

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Brianna + Meaghan

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SOMETHING OLD Meaghan (right) had three pearl buttons from her maternal grandmother’s wedding dress sewn into her train.

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Floral garlands draped from the ceiling created “an effortless, simple, airy” feel.

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BESPOKE THREADS Before she even met Meaghan, Brianna knew exactly who would make her wedding suit one day. After watching a documentary about Bindle & Keep, a Brooklyn-based tailor that specializes in nonbinary formal wear, Brianna knew the designer was the perfect fit. GARDEN PARTY REUNION For their day, the couple wanted a vibe that felt like a “city kids’ version of a garden party with a healthy dose of high-school reunion kitschyness,” Brianna says. “The reunion feel came naturally considering most of the guests hadn’t been to a wedding (or any large gathering) in over a year.” PHYSICAL PROMISES Instead of reading their vows aloud, the couple exchanged them as letters during the ceremony. “It felt more intimate,” explains Brianna.

elebrating their beloved city was paramount for Brianna Brandon (30 and a vice president of operational excellence and risk management at a bank) and Meaghan Collins (30 and chief of staff at a venture capital firm) when planning their wedding. “We are Brooklynites and love this city,” explains the couple. “We wanted to support our city and local businesses recovering from the financial impact of the pandemic. We made a concerted effort to buy locally and enlist vendors from Brooklyn and the New York City area and aimed to have a sustainable event.” In the end, Brooklyn Grange, a rooftop urban farm that works with vendors that adhere to certain sustainability standards, helped them bring their locally sourced, eco-conscious wedding to life. — H N

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SEASONAL STEMS “Like in a garden, we wanted the flowers to be wild, informal, colorful and in-season,” says the duo. Their florist designed arrangements with rudbeckia, marigolds, foxglove, cosmos, dahlias and zinnias, as well as summer grasses, herbs and green vines. FARM FARE Many ingredients for the menu were sourced directly from the site. “Our menu was light, summery and fresh,” Brianna says. “The mac and cheese katsu sandos were my favorite, and I also loved the tuna tartare and lobster tostada.” To cap off the menu, the couple ordered cake from the bakery where they had their first date. PLEASE BE SEATED Instead of paper place cards, the couple ordered lasercut wood names that doubled as favors.

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WEDDING STYLE A CO N SCI O U S event focused on LOCAL and S U S TAI NAB LE elements. Invite guests to celebrate at an U R BAN FAR M or N U RS E RY .

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1 Dress in sizes up to 30, $5,000, Enzoani.com 2 Suit in sizes up to 20, $129 for jacket, $65 for pants, Suitshop.com 3 Linen napkin, $10, CrateandBarrel.com 4 Watch, $90, Madewell.com 5 Velvet armchair, $700, WestElm.com 6 Dried grass, $24, Bloomist.com 7 Shoes in sizes up to 10, $98, Yoox.com

COLOR PALETTE COO L S U M M E R S U N S ET A mix of tangerine,

teal, grass and marigold to “emphasize the vibrant natural colors of the venue.” Level up your reception space with coordinating lounge furniture where guests can recharge after dancing.

6 MUST-HAVES PAPE R- FR E E To be environmentally friendly,

Brianna and Meaghan opted for digital invitations, and they used chalkboards instead of printed day-of stationery. C E R E M O NY SO N G S The couple processed to

“Songbird,” by Fleetwood Mac, and recessed to “Love on Top,” by Beyoncé. CAS H R EG I S TRY “We set up an ‘Aspiring

Millennial Homeowners’ fund as a fun way of communicating that we’re saving for a home.”

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INGREDIENTS C E R E M O NY + R EC E PTI O N S ITE Brooklyn Grange, Brooklyn, NY PH OTOG R APHY Max McQueen Photo E VE NT PL AN N I N G Dawn Mauberret Events O FFI CIANT Dennis Chambers (friend) FLO R AL D ES I G N Indy Faso GOWN Enzoani, Lotus Bride, Brooklyn, NY S U IT Bindle & Keep, Brooklyn, NY S H O ES Meaghan: Kurt Geiger HAI R Jenny O’ Hair Salon; Done Up Beauty Salon MAK EU P Leya Graham WE D D I N G PART Y AT TI R E Various S I G NAG E Celebritem, Etsy.com R E NTAL S Big Dawg Party Rentals CATE R I N G Bonbite NYC; ice: Okamoto Studio CAK E Butter & Scotch M U S I C Sterling Strings

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#MAKETRADITION Customized ice wasn’t the only thing that made the specialty cocktails unique—the ingredients were just as creative. The couple served “Coming Up Roses” with vodka, rosewater, lemonhoney syrup and cardamom. A “Garden Spritz” was also on deck, with Forthave Red apertivo, cava, and orange twist and fresh herbs from Brooklyn Grange.

ONE OF MY OBSESSIONS IN THE WEDDING PLANNING P R O C E S S W A S S P E C I A LT Y ICE CUBES ENGRAVED WITH OUR INITIALS. A SMALL BUSINESS IN LONG ISLAND CITY MADE M Y V I S I O N A R E A L I T Y.

-Brianna

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Research shows that couples are happier when they share hobbies together. Use your honeymoon to discover a new activity or passion that will strengthen your bond and inspire more trips to come. BY

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ESCALANTE, UTAH WHY Grand Staircase-Escalante National Monument has some of the most scenic hikes in the state and fewer crowds than Utah’s Big Five national parks. WHEN TO GO For ideal hiking weather, visit in late March through June or early September through October. WHERE TO STAY Near Bryce Canyon National Park, Yonder Escalante is a hip 20-acre retreat with eclectic Americana-style decor. Bring your RV or book one of the A-frame cabins or vintage Airstreams, and catch a film at the property’s drive-in movie theater. From $169. RV sites from $99; StayYonder.com ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE Hike through the swirling sculpted sandstone of Buckskin Gulch, the world’s longest slot canyon, with experienced guides. $440 for two people; SeekingTreasureAdventures.com SOUVENIR Pose in front of Grosvenor Arch for a photo worthy of being framed back home.

SPLURGE Reward yourself with a meal at James Beard Award–nominated Hell’s Backbone Grill & Farm. The ingredients are sourced locally.

Due to COVID-19, reopening times and prices are subject to change.

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CALISTOGA, CALIFORNIA WHY Tucked away at the top of Napa Valley, Calistoga has maintained its laid-back, rustic charm even after the local Chateau Montelena put California wine on the global map by winning the Judgment of Paris competition in 1976.

ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE Guests can walk from their room to Elusa Winery for a guided tour as winemakers prune, ferment, barrel or bottle. Then you can taste some sought-after vintages. $400 for two people, ElusaWinery.com

WHEN TO GO Crush season, between August and October, has ideal weather and provides an opportunity to observe the harvest.

SOUVENIR After a connoisseur tour and tasting at Clos Pegase winery, take home a bottle of the acclaimed estate’s 2018 Cabernet Sauvignon. ClosPegase.com

SPLURGE The signature Mudslide couple’s treatment at the Spa at Solage is a modern twist on the region’s traditional mud bath. Slather mineral-enriched mud on each other, soak in geothermal mineral water, then relax in state-of-the-art sound chairs. $240 for 60 minutes; AubergeResorts.com/solage

HANG TEN

SURFING

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NORTH SHORE, OAHU beginner-friendly surf at Puaena Point and Chun’s Reef.

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WHERE TO STAY Nestled amid vineyards with an on-site winery, the new Four Seasons Resort and Residences Napa Valley is a five-star stay with just 85 rooms and suites. The spa even uses treasures from the vineyards in its specialized treatments. From $1,200; FourSeasons.com

ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE Legendary surfer Jamie O’Brien heads Turtle Bay Resort’s surf school. Personalized coaching helps newbies hang ten on a softtop board their first day, while experienced riders can refine their technique. From $119 per person; JobSurfExperience.com WHY The North Shore of Oahu is home to the 7-Mile Miracle, a celebrated stretch of some of the world’s best surf breaks.

WHERE TO STAY The only luxury hotel on the North Shore, Turtle Bay Resort is fresh off a dazzling renovation, and there’s a great surf break just beyond the pool. Spacious new Ocean Bungalows—with private lanais overlooking the Pacific—are worth springing for. From $799. Bungalows from $1,599; TurtleBayResort.com

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WHEN TO GO If you want to watch the planet’s top surfers in action, visit between November and February, when the waves are perfect at famed spots like Sunset Beach and Banzai Pipeline. You can find reliable,

SOUVENIR Once you catch the blue crush, you’ll want your own board. Visit Carl Schaper’s surfboard shop in the town of Waialua to buy a readymade board or get a custom design shaped to your riding style. SchaperHawaii.com SPLURGE Revive paddle-weary shoulder and back muscles with a lava shell massage at Nalu Spa at Turtle Bay Resort. $185 for 50 minutes

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CAPE MAY, NEW JERSEY

ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE Eat your way around town with Cape May Food Tours. Its West Side itinerary includes six stops for bites like empanadas at Homestyle to Go and French pastries from Chez Michel. $186 for two people; CapeMayFoodTours.com WHY America’s oldest seaside resort town is best known for its beaches, but it also boasts a vibrant restaurant scene, wine trail and breweries.

WHEN TO GO Perfect beach weather makes the summer months idyllic but busy. September is less crowded and often still warm.

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WHERE TO STAY Cottages at Beach Plum Inn, a 62-acre working farm, come with outdoor firepits, while the area’s best farmers market is steps from your door. Deluxe packages include farm and greenhouse tours, yoga classes

SOUVENIR Cape May has a microclimate similar to Bordeaux, France. After a vineyard tour and tasting at Willow Creek Farm & Winery, take home a bottle of its Chambourcin, a full-bodied red. WillowCreekWineryCapeMay.com SPLURGE The 10-course tasting menu at Jardin at The Hugh is a celebration of local produce and might include vegan foie gras and grilled Cape May Island scallops with sea vegetables.

GAME IN

LAKE OCONEE, GEORGIA WHEN TO GO Avoid the summer humidity and book in May, October or November, when temps are pleasant and there’s little rain. WHERE TO STAY Located in the heart of the Lake Oconee golf community, the 257-room Ritz-Carlton Reynolds, Lake Oconee resort offers guests access to five golf courses, a spa and a bar specializing in rare whiskeys. From $709; RitzCarlton.com ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE The Kingdom at Reynolds is known for its exceptional golf instruction. Facilities include a world-class short game area and open bays to fine-tune a player’s swing. $200 per hour; ReynoldsLakeOconee.com SOUVENIR Schedule a club fitting at the Kingdom and take home a custom TaylorMade golf club or an entire set designed to your personal swing specifications. SPLURGE After walking the greens, treat your feet to a Sole Reviver Massage at the Ritz-Carlton spa. $180 for 50 minutes

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WHY This reservoir near Greensboro, Georgia, is a water-sport mecca that’s also home to six championship golf courses designed by icons like Jack Nicklaus.

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and cooking demos. Guests can lounge by the pool or beach. From $621; BeachPlumInn.com

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MARFA, TEXAS WHY This unexpected art oasis in the West Texas desert was home to artist Donald Judd and today has a world-class collection of contemporary galleries.

ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE Minimalist artist Donald Judd helped put Marfa on the map. Guided tours of his residence and studio provide access to his first large-scale architectural projects and his personal library. $50 for two people; JuddFoundation.org SOUVENIR Invest in a piece of art. Rule Gallery showcases work by emerging and mid-career contemporary artists such as Martha Hughes and Molly Bounds. RuleGallery.com SPLURGE Take a hands-on workshop at the Chinati Foundation, a contemporary art museum spanning 34 buildings on 350 acres. Expert-led classes are always changing and have included fabric dyeing, paint making and textile weaving. Chinati.org

WHERE TO STAY A funky, boho glamping retreat on 21 acres, El Cosmico offers multiple styles of accommodation, including yurts, retro trailers, safari tents and a sleek tiny house. Take advantage of the wood-fired Dutch hot tubs on cool desert nights. From $75; ElCosmico.com

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FROM LEFT: GETTY IMAGES; COURTESY OF THE RITZ-CARLTON REYNOLDS, LAKE OCONEE; EAGLE EYE/NOUN PROJECT; YVONNE YUEN; SARAH THRONE-PLOEHN/NOUN PROJECT; ELIZABETH FELICELLA; NICK SIMONITE

WHEN TO GO Temperatures are most pleasant in September, October and April. Chinati Weekend, an annual celebration of art, takes place each October.

IMAGE: LA MANSANA DE CHINATI/THE BLOCK, JUDD FOUNDATION, MARFA, TEXAS. PHOTO © ELIZABETH FELICELLA. COURTESY JUDD FOUNDATION.

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