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Physiology of Fitness Understanding that Healthy Earth = Healthy You

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Volume 1 Issue 9 Cover The Physiology of Fitness Understanding that Healthy Earth = Healthy You Feature Thelma Houston: Exclusive One on One Ms. Houston brings it to AAP’s Disco Tea Dance Watch This HGTV’s newest renovation stud Francis Toumbakaris Travel Health, Fitness & Well Being Things to take on your next trip view For Activists, Gay Gets Complicated Road to Pride Ron deHarte catches us up on the latest PS PRIDE news september, 2013 3

Commentary Get Inspired, Get fit.

Fitness usually refers to two different things, nutrition and exercise.

Both of these are essential aspects to having a healthy life and when you are able to improve them, you will begin to feel better about yourself and others will begin to respect you more. Fitness is not just about looking great but more importantly it is about feeling great.

Reach your fitness goals by planning backwards. Pick when you plan to complete your goals and then work back from there by listing what short-term goals you plan to achieve along the way. This method of thinking causes you to want to achieve those short-term goals because you are no longer viewing them as goals, but as deadlines.

Improve your life by making fitness a priority. Plan your fitness strategy carefully, so that you can get on the road to a healthier, fitter you.

Do not become too focused on any one aspect of getting fit; keep your eyes on the big picture and learn to love your body and treat it with respect. Consistency is the hallmark of ANY fitness routine. If you can maintain your plan, you will succeed.

Remember, we only get one body; treat it right.

The Standard Magazine 1111 Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs CA 92262 760-831-4869 Nino Eilets Publisher Luciano McNulty Editor Maya Kalabic Art Director Photographer David A. Lee Contributors Jack Barnes, Steven Bolerjack, Andre Carthen, Ron deHarte, Mona deCrinis, Dr. Jeff Dunham, Chris Heritage, Dennis Mason, George Zander, Jesse Melgar, Forrest P. Murphy & Ken Toth www.thestandardps.com Editorial Credits : BrandPoint, Huffington Post, LGBTQ Nation & Project Publicity The Standard Magazine is published monthly. Opinions expressed are not necessarily the opinions of the Standard or its staff, advertisers or readers with exception of editorials.

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We Are All a Part of the Organism Called Earth Dennis Mason, BFA, CPT and Dr. Kenneth Toth, MAT, DC, RN, CPT

We are face-to-face with a situation that threatens to compromise not only the health and fitness of the planet, but that of our children, our children’s children and ourselves as well. If we continue on our present course of using more and more of the natural resources than we need, and destroying our oceans, lands, drinking water and air supply, the danger is clear, eminent and unavoidable.

We can no longer disassociate ourselves from the world in which we live. We are all part of this living, breathing organism that we call Planet Earth. Things that we do to our environment will ultimately come back around to us. If we nurture our planet, it will in turn nurture us. However, if we take it for granted and abuse it (as we have done for the past century or more) it will surely return

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to us in a negative fashion and we will all suffer the consequences.

cases is treating the symptoms.

When we were boys growing up in the mid-west, our parents had home gardens that we helped tend as we got older. The bulk of our daily meals came from those gardens. We had a small compost area to return vital minerals and other nutrients back to the soil to become part of what we would be eating next harvest. Things are not like that anymore. One of the major concerns is the condition of the soil from which our basic food chain begins. Of primary importance is the mineral, or micronutrient, content. Plants such as vegetables, fruits and nuts absorb the minerals from the soil. Sunlight, clean air and water combine to facilitate the creation of vitamins, amino and fatty acids. But, they do not “make” minerals. Minerals must come from the soil.

What we eat, drink, breathe, use up, dispose of, change, add to, subtract from, and react to, is all connected. Break the chain and things start to fall apart. General Electric’s key word in its advertising program following World War II was “progress.”

Thus the trademark that everyone knows: “Progress is our most important product.”

Yet, unbridled progress has had a high price tag. It presents in the form of air and water pollution, increasing levels of daily stress, reduced nutritive value in foods we eat, and new diseases related to all of the above.

New medical technologies cannot keep pace correcting all of the problems arising from the so-called progress we are currently experiencing. At best, all they can do in most

The soil however, can become depleted of vital minerals within five to ten years, unless properly tilled or “worked.” Fertilizers can be of value in supplying some minerals back to the soil. But sadly, for most of the last century commercial fertilizers have been used that provide only a few of the minerals required for good health. For at least the past sixty years only one type of fertilizer has been used extensively. NPK is the farming industry’s standard fertilizer. That stands for the minerals Nitrogen, Potassium and Phosphorous. These three minerals help grow substantial size crops, but do not address the problem of the missing or waning eighty-seven other essential minerals we need for good health and nutrition. As

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far back as 1936 we have been aware of the seriousness of the soil’s ongoing mineral depletion and its effect on our health. The research and studies to testify to this were noted in U.S. Senate document 264, which stated that due to the decline of minerals in our farm soil, “foods are starving us From the world of Mason jars and sauerkraut crocks of the past, we’ve pleasantly evolved into the modern day of brightly colored frozen packages, microwaves, fast foods, and many added chemicals—err, additives. What, then, might we expect in the not too distant future? More exactly, what do we have to look forward to in our health future? Let’s see, tea leaves anyone?

alone as a result of preventable medical errors. That breaks down to roughly 268 people per day dying needlessly from totally preventable medical errors. That’s the equivalent of 13 nine-elevens per year!

But, even right now in present time, where is the outrage? Shouldn’t it be at least 13 times the outrage we felt after 9-11? And, even aside for this tragic loss of human life, the preventable waste of healthcare dollars on preventable medical errors would easily be in the billions annually. But we never hear anything about how we need to fix this particular and needless waste of healthcare dollars from the congressional leaders whose constant mantra is to cut “waste.”

What do we do now? As Glenda said in the Wizard of Oz, “It’s always best to start at the beginning.” Obviously, the quality of the soil needs to be recharged. Twentieth Century concepts generally don’t work too well in the Twenty-First Century. Our politicians and business leaders have gone off in the direction of corporate wellness as opposed to wellness of the people. Basically, the order of the day has become “wealth over health.” Pesticides are killing the very bees that facilitate necessary pollination.

These same chemicals are winding up inside of us to potentially create serious disorders and diseases of our bodies. This kind of madness MUST stop if we are to survive.

So, what’s in store for the future? That is, but isn’t, a simple question. The simple answer is to will a cultural commitment to attack environmental/biological pollution on many fronts. This means regulate emissions from everything--from cars to gasoline lawn blowers, to municipal water (we are being forcefully medicated with fluoride, even in many bottled varieties) to the food supply, to sometimes unnecessarily utilized CATscans (which the medical community has finally recognized in the light of escalating healthcare costs). Yes, that will sound like “big government” to some, but if you honestly look at the mass, persistent deregulation that has been going on for the last 30 years, and then look at the mess we’re in, it’s a nobrainer. Business has for the most part been left to police itself with the financial gutting

According to the Institute of Medicine, a full 98,000 people per year die in the U.S.

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cover a wide variety of fruits and vegetables on a daily basis. Other plants that provide still more nutrients would include yams, sweet potatoes, rice and grains, sprouts, nuts and seeds. Go organic as much as possible for a number of reasons. Organic foods are those grown without the use of chemical pesticides. Often, organic produce is grown on smaller farms where the mineral content of the soil might be of greater value due to a higher stewardship of the land… and in our opinion, it tastes better too.

of one regulatory agency after another, just as Wall Street was left to regulate itself before the financial crisis--about which we are all acutely aware. Thus, look around.

Brakemen on top of railroad cars in the 19th century were frequently falling off and being maimed or killed, and the railroads refused to assume any responsibility or to install Mr. Westinghouse’s new invention, air-brakes, for railroad cars (citing prohibitive cost as the reason), until the government forced them to do so. Incidentally the ensuing costs of doing so did not seem to destroy the railroad industry. When you look at the real math, reasonable regulation always returns a higher yield for the total biological, financial and social health of the country. The toxic air and everything else that we take into our bodies has an ultimately huge price in human suffering and healthcare expense down the road. Think cumulatively. The healthcare industry is totally behind overall in being able to “fix” the higher and higher level of

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general disease. The pharmaceutical houses haven’t kept pace in developing antibiotics to treat the newer strains of more and more antibiotic-resistant diseases, because the bulk of their research dollars has been going into developing other medications (with a higher total profit margin, because the patient will probably take/refill it for life).

The future is already upon us, and positive changes need to be made...not just personally, but also culturally whether we sincerely want better health or not. The public will continue to be served more of the same and probably worse based on history, as long as its level of acceptance continues to be so high. It’s really our choice. We must decide individually and collectively on what we are willing to settle for regarding health, or the decisions will be made for us.

The first line of defense against inadequate nutritional value can be selecting and eating

If enough people speak up, and advocate for better health with the prudent but powerful use of their consumer dollars wherever possible, we can affect positive changes. Making changes in the real world is similar to growing muscle. You must give it a reason to change. With muscle, it could be resistance, duration and a combination thereof. With social and business matters, (they are ultimately inseparable), it could be letters and emails demanding action for a state of better health and well-being of our nation. Remember, we have a very powerful advocacy tool in our wallets---targeted spending—which some say is the most powerful reason for nonresponsive business models to affect more positive changes. In the words of Anthropologist Margaret Mead, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

If you need help with your physique training, post injury retraining or nutritional guidance, please contact me on my cell at 760 219-5877; email at the address below, or visit my web site: www.dennismasonfitness. com Dennis Mason, B.F.A., C.P.T. dennis@ dennismasonfitness.com Dr. Kenneth Toth, MAT, DC, RN, CPT, holds multiple degrees as a science educator, chiropractor, and registered nurse. He is currently limiting his professional activities to Personal Training & Nutritional Counseling and accepting new clients at WorkOUT Gym, Palm Springs, California. He may be reached at 949-235-9408.

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Fitness Trends Fitness Trends come and go, from the Vita Master (the belt that wrapped around your waist and shook you until you felt like bringing up your lunch) to the Thigh Master and the Inflatable Air Shorts.

We’ve compiled a short list of several of the latest fitness trends that upon further scrutiny might be around a bit longer than some of the aforementioned crazes.

Wellness Coaching Wellness coaching often uses a one-on-one approach similar to a personal trainer, with the coach providing support, guidance, and encouragement. The wellness coach focuses on the client’s values, needs, vision, and goals. According to this trend survey (and results from past surveys), it seems as though wellness coaching and its principled techniques of behavior change have been adopted by personal trainers and other health and fitness professionals. According to a recent survey by the American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM), “educated and experienced fitness professionals” now constitute the most important fitness trend in the world, having jumped from third to first place since last year. Through the supportive and self-empowering environment provided by a wellness coach, you can learn what kinds of things you may personally experience each time you undergo making changes in your life. Developing a history of success over time creates positivity towards change and thus gives you more incentive to continue making healthier decisions all on your own.

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Circuit Training Circuit training is a group of 6 to 10 exercises performed one after another and in a predetermined sequence. One does each exercise for a specified number of repetitions or for a set period before having a quick rest and moving on to the next exercise. Circuit training is short bursts of resistance exercise using moderate weights and frequent repetitions, followed quickly by another burst of exercise targeting a different muscle group. Because the exerciser switches between muscle groups, there is no rest required between exercises. This gets the heart rate up, which usually doesn’t happen during resistance exercise.

Boot Camp Boot camp is a high-intensity structured activity patterned after military-style training.

Boot camp includes cardiovascular, strength, endurance, and flexibility drills and usually involves both indoor and outdoor exercises typically led by an enthusiastic instructor. Boot camps also can combine sport-type drills and calisthenics. The term “boot camp” is currently used in the fitness industry to describe group fitness classes that promote fat loss, camaraderie and team effort. They are designed to push people a little bit further than they would normally push themselves in the gym alone. The idea is that everyone involved works at their own pace as they team up and work towards one goal, either in pairs, small teams of three or four, or even two teams head on.

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Outdoor Activities This is a trend for health and fitness professionals to offer more outdoor activities to their clients. Outdoor activities can be done with family and with friends, with a group or by yourself.

Outdoor activities typically include hiking, canoeing, kayaking, and games or sports. Outdoor activities also can include highadventure programs such as overnight camping trips.

Group Personal Training This trend allows the personal trainer to continue providing the personal service clients expect but now in a small group of two to four, offering potentially deep discounts to each member of the group. In these, continuing challenging economic times, personal trainers must be more creative in the way they package personal training sessions.

Body Weight Training Body weight training did not appear as an option in previous surveys because it has only now become popular (as a defined trend) in gyms around the world, this is not to say that body weight training has not been used previously. On the contrary, people have been using their own body weights for centuries as a form of resistance training. Packaging it as an exercise program has now made it popular in all kinds of gyms. Body weight training often uses minimal equipment, which makes it an inexpensive way to exercise effectively. Body weight training may be a trend to watch as more people get “back to the basics.�

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FEATURE

CANCER STUDY

AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY SEEKS LGBT COMMUNITY HELP FOR CANCER STUDY

What if you could personally make a difference in the fight against cancer in the LGBT community?

The American Cancer Society is recruiting hundreds of adult men and women between the ages of 30 and 65 years with no personal history of cancer for a new research study, the Cancer Prevention Study-3 (CPS-3), with enrollment in the Coachella Valley at these locations: Eisenhower Medical Center: Tuesday, Nov. 12 from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m.

Eisenhower Medical Center: Friday, Nov. 15 from 9 a.m. to 1p.m.

Desert AIDS Project: Sat., Nov. 16 from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Desert Regional Medical Center: Tuesday, Nov. 19 from 11:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.

Desert Regional Medical Center: Friday, Nov. 22 from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

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A particularly important feature of CPS-3 is that for the first time the American Cancer Society will ask enrollees to identify as straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual in a major study, which may lead to valuable insights about cancer in those specific communities.

“There is a lot of room for more understanding about cancer risks in the LGBT community, and the first step is taking part in CPS-3,” said Russ Russell, a member of the LGBT community, and chair of the Society’s Desert Palms Community Leadership Council. “The study is an unprecedented opportunity to enroll in a study that could provide us with this valuable information and possibly open the door to more sexual minority-specific cancer research.”

Troubling is the fact that research shows smoking causes 80 percent of all lung cancers. Current evidence suggests lesbians and gay men are more likely to smoke than heterosexual men and women.

Several studies also suggest that lesbian and bisexual women get less routine care than other women, including breast and cervical cancer screening. Economic data shows that much of the gay and lesbian community is “medically underserved,” which increases the risk of developing and dying of cancer.

Enrollment in CPS-3 is a simple, two-phase process, one phase at home and one phase at a local enrollment venue. Individuals will be asked to read and sign an informed consent form; complete a brief

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Enroll in Cancer Prevention Study-3.

Members of the LGBT community are at greater risk for certain types of cancer. By enrolling in the American Cancer Society’s Cancer Prevention Study (CPS-3), you can help us understand how to prevent cancer, which will save lives and create a world with more birthdays for everyone.

To enroll you need to: • Be between 30 and 65 years old • Have never been diagnosed with cancer • Be willing to make a long-term commitment to the study which simply involves completing a mailed or emailed follow-up questionnaire every few years

Enrollment locations: Eisenhower Medical Center written survey; provide waist measurement and give a small blood sample (similar to a doctor’s visit). A trained, certified phlebotomist will draw the sample.

While the study is expected to last for years and yield lifesaving results, initial enrollment will take just 30 minutes. For the next 20 or more years, the Society will “follow” CPS-3 participants to study factors that are associated with cancer occurrence or prevention. For the enrollees, this will mean completing mailed questionnaires every two years (questionnaire information is kept strictly confidential and used for medical and statistical purposes only). Researchers will stay in touch with all CPS-3 participants through a variety of mechanisms, including newsletters and emails.

For more information or to learn how to participate, visit www.cps3palmsprings.org, e-mail cps3@cancer org, or call toll-free 1-888-604-5888. The Society also hosts an LGBT Facebook page at facebook.com/ACSCaliforniaLGBTTeam.

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FRANCIS TOUMBAKARIS CRAFTS HIS OWN STAGE

HGTV’s newest renovation stud, Francis Toumbakaris, is as comfortable in a pair of tights and slippers as he is in boots and overalls. Trained in classical ballet since he was twelve, Toumbakaris has high kicked his way onto the national tours of Fosse and Dirty Rotten Scoundrels and on Broadway in the revival of Fiddler on the Roof starring Alfred Molina and later Harvey Fierstein and Rosie O’Donnell. Other theatrical career highlights include the award winning Susan Stroman dance musical Contact, and Candid at The New York City Opera.

“Drama is in my blood,” he says.

“I am Greek, after all.

Drama was born in my country.” His animation shines in Brother Vs. Brother, HGTV’s latest competition show where renovators are split into two teams – Team Drew and Team Jonathan – to compete for a $50,000 cash prize. “I’m out and loud,” he continues. “I’m not afraid to get dirty and I thrive on making decisions on the fly.

“I want to think I am a likable character, but it’s a show where even within our own teams, we are pitted against one another. The show is filled with conflict.”

Conflict is nothing new to Francis Toumbakaris. “My whole professional career has been an uphill battle.”

Francis Toumbakaris has been financially independent since he

was 15, when he left his Athens home on scholarship to attend the prestigious Rudra Béjart dance school in Switzerland. The same year Toumbakaris entered high school; he signed a lease on his own studio apartment. “It was a bit scary,” he remembers. “I was a boy living in a very grown-up world.”

To make the tiny studio a home away from home, he painted, decorated and, with the help of his stepfather, constructed customized furniture for it. “I designed a dual purpose kitchen island that would allow me extra counter space and storage. What 15-year-old thinks of that?” he laughs. “But I loved it. I felt the same thrill handling tools as I did pointing my toes and trying to leap higher than anyone else in my ballet class.”

In 2000, on a tourist visa, he set out for New York City. He had only $2000 in his pocket, money he had saved from being a backup dancer for a pop singer in Greece. But he was young, driven and ambitious.

He would land the occasional theatre and film job. In addition to his stage work, Toumbakaris appeared on the big screen, with speaking parts in two major motion pictures: Joaquin Phoenix’s We own the Night and Tim Robbins’ Noise. But he needed another job

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watch to see him through the lean months in-between show biz gigs. after returning from touring with scoundrels, he placed an ad on the internet looking for small painting projects, repair work and other odd jobs. “I would ride around the city on my bicycle and a backpack full of tools,” he laughs.

The big surprise was when his survival job began to take on a life of it’s own. One satisfied client referred another, which led to another and so on. within a year, Toumbakaris went from completing simple jobs to doing full-scale renovations in manhattan apartments.

He hired an assistant, filed for insurance and in 2007, his contracting and design company, greek & handy was established.

Toumbakaris believes his years as a dancer helped prepare him for design. The stage taught him to be fearless, to perform under tremendous stress and to make the job work even when all appears to be going wrong. It taught him to trust his gut instinct and most importantly, dance taught him about the art of space.

“Dancers learn to appreciate how bodies and objects flow through space. I bring that philosophy into my renovations, striving to find the perfect balance in a room through smart design and efficient layout.” according to Toumbakaris, good design is not simply about pretty colors, fabrics and accessories. It is an art that requires

precise and intricate problem solving. “I am constantly calculating new ways to improve my clients work and living environments.”

Toumbakaris describes his style as comfortable luxury with a classic urban feel. “I like to think of myself as the orchestra conductor. although I may not play all the instruments, I direct all the moving pieces to create one beautiful harmony.” his theatrical training even helped to land brother Vs. brother. “I auditioned three times for the network, hoping to compete on season four of hgTV’s design star.” however, producers felt Toumbakaris’ background in home construction was better suited for drew and Jonathan’s new show. he’s excited that brother Vs. brother is giving him the opportunity to combine his love of show biz with his passion for renovation. “I never thought wearing a tool belt would give me the chance to perform on a new stage,” he says. “but why not? I’m an artist. I’m always looking to create something new.” his ambition extends beyond the show. a greek & handy line of tools, paints and home goods is in the works. Toumbakaris also aims to find a husband and build a family. Yes, the dancer-turnedhandyman-turned-interior renovator admits he is anxious for his next big role, that of “daddy”.

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Thelma Houston

Adds Sugar & Spice to Tea Dance Disco legend will make a special appearance at AAP fundraiser

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Thelma houston’s honeyed voice drips from the phone like warm maple syrup on a winter’s morning — sweet and comforting. her openness invites familiarity, like catching up with an old friend. recognizing the desert area code, the motown recording star greeted me with a welcoming hello. “I have several friends who live in Palm springs,” she says. “but enough about me, how are you doing?” we laugh, knowing this call is all about houston and her upcoming appearance at the aIds assistance Program’s disco Tea dance september 29 at the saguaro hotel in Palm springs. “we’re very excited about you coming,” I say.

“I’m excited too,” she replies with tangible enthusiasm. “when they said the theme was a tea dance, it reminded me of way, way back in the days of disco. you would have the disco dances at night in the clubs, usually very late, and then the tea dances would be on sunday, kind of putting the cap on the weekend — the weekend is officially over,” she adds with a laugh.

I ask whether those tea dances were mellow wind-down events, because in 21st century gay society these events can be rather raucous. she chuckles. “It sounds like it would be like an unplugged kind of thing, where you’d sit with maybe a piano and just kind of chill out, right? nah. not so.” decades after her grammy award-winning hit “don’t leave me this way,” the disco legend still brings people to their feet with her infectious energy, which is precisely her plan for the aaP fundraiser later this month.

“I’m going to bring back the fun of those tea dances,” says. “whenever I perform, I love to see people have a good time, people dancing to my music. I like for them to participate, because that’s what the afternoon is about.”

fun and, of course, fundraising. houston’s dedication to charitable causes is widely known. In 2003, west hollywood proclaimed January 29 as “Thelma houston day. she has donated her talents to numerous nonprofits, including Devine Design for Project Angel Food, AIDS Project los angeles, and the minority aIds Project, to which she donated her $20,000 winnings from the TV show hit me baby. she is also very active in the beverly hills/hollywood branch of the naacP. her humanitarian involvement, she believes, comes with the star package.

“I feel that part of the responsibility of being given a talent, which for me is singing, is giving back,” she explains. “That’s just what I think you should do. Period. but in my heart, I do it because it’s something I’ve been doing for a very long time.” houston has rallied behind aIds and hIV issues before they were acronyms. “before we had a name for what aIds was, we had friends who were getting sick and we had to try to do whatever we could,” she remembers. “somebody might need a dog walked or have a bill paid or might need help getting to the doctor. People just came together.” while she acknowledges the progress that has been made over the years in the treatment of hIV and aIds, she recognizes that we are not out of the woods yet.

“I’m still involved in, because it still needs to be done, unfortunately,” she says. “and I say unfortunately, because we haven’t found a cure and that’s what we’re striving for. and we need to educate people. not just here in the united states, but in countries like africa, where they don’t have access to medicine. There’s still so much work to be done.” work for houston is a four-letter word that brings experience and insight. Time spent on this planet has only served to fuel houston, both as an artist and an activist. almost 45 years after the mississippi native began performing gospel music with the art reynolds singers in the late ’60s, she is releasing a new album that, she says, cannot be defined by genre.

“It’s not definite R&B. It’s not definite dance — but you can dance to it. It’s not alternative, although there are some approaches that could be considered alternative,” she says of her latest work, a conglomeration of fresh songs called Thelma houston and Janitor: fortytwo, which she created with gabe noel, or Janitor as he is professionally known, who is 42 years her junior (hence the album title). she met noel at a fundraising gig for an animal shelter, where he was playing bass. They clicked.

“I had some ideas for some new kind of music — I didn’t know exactly what kind of music —and gabe said he wanted to work on

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something, so we started writing together,” Houston recalls. “Even with the difference in our age, there are certain things we agree on about life, about love, about how we treat each other — things that don’t have to do with age, but about being respectful, loving, and creative.

“When someone my age is still able to have a career in the music industry, it’s kind of rare, you know what I mean?” she continues. “It’s rare in that people tend to think that after a certain age you’re done, and you don’t have anything left to say. That’s how our society is. We value the young — we think the young know everything and we want to stay looking young for as long as we can. We don’t want to embrace wisdom, and wisdom comes from living. It comes from experiences. And, at the same time, we don’t know everything. And young people ARE smart, and they DO have another way of looking at things.”

Houston hopes that her collaboration with Janitor — the marriage of youth and knowledge — may spill out to other areas as well. “If we can do it on this level, it can expand beyond the music industry to life period,” she explains. “That no matter our ages, we can still exchange ideas and we can still be creative. And we can be creative together when we’re respectful of each other and what we bring to the table.”

Houston has brought much to the table over the years — a veritable smorgasbord of talent and tenacity. The disco diva signed with Capitol Records in 1967 and had her first hit song called “Baby Mine.” Soon after, record labels clamored for her and she signed with ABC/Dunhill, where she recorded and released her first solo album called Sunshower written, arranged, and produced by the legendary Jimmy Webb. Although critically acclaimed, the album did not shoot Houston to the top of the heap. That didn’t happen until she signed with Motown Records. It was at Motown that Houston claimed the top of the Pop, R&B and Dance charts with her highpowered rendition of “Don’t Leave Me This Way,” which went gold so fast that it spun Houston right into the distinction of being the first

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solo female artist at Motown to win the Grammy Award for Best R&B Female Vocal Performance.

Since then, Houston’s influence on music has spanned generations, genres, and mediums. Singing competition shows such as America’s Got Talent and American Idol — both in which she participated — have reshaped the search for stardom in today’s music industry. Houston agrees that these programs have provided unprecedented exposure for emerging artists, but also notes the skewed perception that if you’re not on any of these shows, you must not be any good. And if you do make the cut, you are expected to hit the road running and many young artists just aren’t prepared.

Exceptions, she says, are AI’s Adam Lambert and Jennifer Hudson — both of whom performed like seasoned artists right from the get-go.

“I think it puts a lot of pressure on people,” she observes. “If that was going on back in the day when I made the decision that that music was the career I wanted to have, I would’ve been left out, because I never would have gone down there, or up there, or wherever it is you have to go to stand in those long lines, you know?

And if I did go, I might have been rejected.”

Houston did make it, of course, the old-school way by performing in cover bands in Downy and hustling her talent whenever and wherever she could until she rose like sweet cream to the top. And she continues to rise. In addition to Fortytwo, Houston recently covered the Donna Summer epic “Last Dance” on the album Disco Tribute to Donna Summer.

“She was a wonderful person,” Houston says about Summer. “I was, of course, devastated —as everyone was — because nobody even knew that Donna was ill. I wanted to record “Last Dance” in a way that would pay homage and not to try to copy her and the way she did it, but hopefully in a way that she would like and enjoy.”

Houston sees much promise in today’s artists. “I listen a lot of newer stations on Sirius radio because I have grandkids, and I listen to a lot of the music they listen to,” she admits. “But as for music I have personally bought … let me see. Adele and Beyoncé — I think she’s a very good entertainer — and I like Jessie J and Alicia Keys.

The ones I think are going to have longevity.”

IF YOU GO AIDS Assistance Program 2nd Annual Tea Dance Sunday, September 29 Featuring DJ Jerry Bonham and a special performance

by Thelma Houston. $45/$60 at the door 5 pm The Saguaro Hotel 1800 E. Palm Canyon Dr., Palm Springs www.aidsassistance.org

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psp focus Comedy Night at Azul kicks off a new season Comedy Night at Azul Starring LA’s Hottest Comics, now in its fourth year announces its Saturday, September 14 show featuring comic stars Nico Santos of E! Network’s Chelsea Lately, opener for Sandra Bernhard and of The World Famous Comedy Store, Henrietta Komras of The World Famous Comedy Store, The Hollywood Improv and Laugh Factory and Dana Goldberg of One Night Standup on Logo TV, Caroline’s on Broadway in New York and The Hollywood Improv.

Nico Santos A rising star, Nico Santos appears regularly on Chelsea Lately on E! Network and has worked with some of the best names in the business including Margaret Cho, Sandra Bernhard and Dave Chappelle. He has quickly become a regular at The World Famous Comedy Store and The Hollywood Improv. He made his television debut appearing on Showtime’s Pride Comedy Jam. He has also written for E! Network’s hit show Fashion Police.

Henrietta Komras Before she started doing comedy, Henrietta was married to a rabbi for twenty years, “For our honeymoon, we went to Israel. He took me to an Israeli disco called “Let My People Go Go.” She started thinking about doing comedy because everyone said she was funny at temple. Finally, she left the rabbi and headed for Hollywood. Henrietta is now a comedian, actor, producer and writer.

Audiences and critics alike describe Henrietta Komras as “a hilarious blend of a female Rodney Dangerfield with tinges of Carol Burnett, Joan Rivers and Gilda Radner.”

Dana Goldberg Raised by a wild pack of Jews, otherwise known as her mother and siblings, Dana Goldberg is a force of nature on stage. She

sets the standard for smart comedy, timing and tongue-in-cheek edginess. Goldberg has performed in clubs and theaters all over the world, including Caroline’s on Broadway in New York and The Laugh Factory and Hollywood Improv in LA. She was recently voted one of the “Top Five Funniest Lesbians in America,” by CURVE Magazine.

Blackwell – Black Productions, a Palm Springs production company founded by local residents, Michael Blackwell and Randal Black, produces the monthly Comedy Night at Azul Starring LA’s Hottest Comics and the quarterly A Very Special Performance by ….

The monthly stand-up comedy show features the latest standup comics from Los Angeles and New York’s top comedy venues, including the Hollywood Improv, The World Famous Comedy Store, Laugh Factory, Jon Lovitz Comedy Club, Caroline’s on Broadway and Gotham Comedy Club. Audiences may have seen their television appearances on many of the major network and cable channels. In addition, several have appeared in films, including Almost Famous, The Backup Plan and Get Shorty. Many performers have also appeared at clubs in Las Vegas, San Francisco, Chicago and London.

Co-producer Randal Black said, “We are thrilled to be in the fourth year of Comedy Night at Azul Starring LA’s Hottest Comics.

We are glad we can bring nationally known stand up comics of film and TV to Palm Springs. The show has gotten national attention and renowned comics are asking to do the show. The show has definitely put Palm Springs on the comedy map.

The pre-show starts at 6:30PM and the show begins at 7:30PM. With 41 sold-out monthly shows in a row, reservations are highly encouraged. Please call 760.325.5533. Cover for this great show is only $15. Azul is located at 369 N. Palm Canyon Drive in vibrant Downtown Palm Springs.

ES Collection Opens Retail Store In Palm Springs

By Jack Barnes

An ES Collection men’s fashion boutique will open October 1 at La Joya Inn (545 S. Warm Sands Drive) in Palm Springs. The store will be a full lifestyle concept store featuring the complete line of men’s athletic gear, sports underwear, swimsuits, and loungewear

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from ES Collection and its sister brand, Addicted.

ES Collection has become a favorite among stylish, athletic men.

“We’re for all guys that like fashion, great fit and amazing quality,” says Nir Zilberman, the US agent for the Barcelona-based brand.

psp focus garments never lose shape in the wash and are supported by a money-back guarantee. some of the newest items that will be available at the Palm springs store will be the brand’s new Velvet collection, updated versions of their athletic and street wear collections and new this year: their resorts wear, including bath robes and towels.

The Palm springs store will be the third of four retail shop openings for es collection. “we’re excited to come to Palm springs,” continues Zilberman.

“The la Joya Inn is the perfect resort to carry our brands.”

“That includes active men, business men, and trendy guys. we are all about sexy fun with class.” best known for its wonderslip brief, the form-enhancing underwear that includes a removable pack-up system (giving its wearer the perfect jeans bulge), the brand produces a wide assortment of unique briefs, boxer trunks, jockstraps and less mainstream undergarments, such as spandex and cotton body suits. many feature form-complementing technology.

The company prides itself on its commitment to quality and design, as well as its use of high-end fabric meant to stand the test of time.

he and the es team spent two weeks at the Inn and were won over by the resort’s cleanliness, exceptional customer service, and overall experience. “we are thrilled with the remodeling, as well as the new owners’ intention to keep the resort a drugs free environment,” Zilberman adds.

ES Collection’s first US boutique will open in Los Angeles on september 1. a second store opens in dallas on september 14. a miami store will open later in the fall. It is all part of the company’s strategy to expand its north american presence.

VIsIT escollecTIonusa.com.

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news

national

Same-Sex Couples Recognized Under New Tax Guidelines

The U.S. Department of the Treasury announced last week that when it comes to taxes, it would recognize same-sex couples’ marriages even if they live in a state that does not. The decision, which was prompted by the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act, marks the latest political progress for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. Prior to this spring, the Internal Revenue Service did not recognize samesex married couples pursuant to section 3 of DOMA. Once DOMA was overturned in June, the question became; What about samesex married couples who moved to a state that didn’t recognize their marriage (a couple married in Massachusetts who moved to Arkansas, for example)?

Last week’s ruling by Treasury Secretary Jacob Lew provides a uniform policy for the IRS; the state of celebration -- where the wedding took place -- now trumps the state of residency when it comes to federal tax status for same-sex married couples.

“Today’s ruling provides certainty and clear, coherent tax filing guidance for all legally married same-sex couples nationwide. It provides access to benefits, responsibilities and protections under federal tax law that all Americans deserve,” Lew said in a statement.

“This ruling also assures legally married same-sex couples that they can move freely throughout the country knowing that their federal filing status will not change.”

The new policy, which was first shared by Lew in a conference call that included LGBT advocates, holds a bit of political significance.

It was the burden of federal tax law on same-sex couples, after all, that prompted the legal challenge to DOMA in the first place.

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Edie Windsor, the plaintiff in the DOMA case, sued the government after being forced to pay estate taxes following the death of her wife, Thea Spyer. Had they been a heterosexual couple, Windsor’s tax burden would have been zero. After DOMA was overturned, it was reported that the IRS owed Windsor $363,053.

Under the new Treasury policy, all federal tax provisions where marriage is a factor, including filing status, employee benefits, IRA contributions, earned income, child tax credits, and income, gift and estate taxes, will apply to same sex couples regardless of where they live. On the other side, gay couples also will now be subjected to the so-called marriage penalty, in which some (usually uppermiddle class) joint filers incur a higher tax burden than they would if they filed as single people. The policy only applies to married couples, and not those in domestic partnerships or same-sex unions.

“With today’s ruling, committed and loving gay and lesbian married couples will now be treated equally under our nation’s federal tax laws, regardless of what state they call home,” said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin. “These families finally have access to crucial tax benefits and protections previously denied to them under the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act.” The Treasury’s actions on Thursday are just the latest in a set of LGBT policies offered by agencies within the Obama administration following the DOMA ruling. The Federal Election Commission, and Departments of Health and Human Services and Homeland Security, also extended federal benefits to gay couples in states that don’t recognize their marriages.

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australian PriMe Minister onCe aGain Goes to Bat For the lGBt CoMMunity

days before the australian elections, Prime minister kevin rudd publicly and passionately defended same-sex marriage during a question and answer session. a pastor of a local church who works for national christian radio network attempted to pin rudd down about his stance on gay marriage. “They [citizens] won’t be voting for you because they’re disillusioned because you seem to be chopping and changing your beliefs just to get a popular vote with regards to things like marriage,” said the man in the video above. after announcing in may that he supported same-sex marriage, many speculated that Rudd would lose a significant percentage of australia’s christian vote. rudd, however, sees his support as faithbased.

“I concluded in my conscience, through an informed conscience, and a christian conscience, that it was the right thing to do,” said rudd

in the above Q&a, “and let me tell you why. number one, I do not believe people when they are born choose their sexuality. They are gay if they are born gay -- you don’t decide at some later stage in life to be one thing or the other. It is how people are built. Therefore, the idea that this is somehow an abnormal condition is just wrong. I don’t get that -- I think that is just a completely ill-founded view.” support for same-sex marriage in australia has steadily gained traction this year with a July Parliamentary Inquiry finding that New South Wales could become the first state in the country with the political power to pass such legislation. australian politicians not supporting the initiative have also come under fire lately, with katy Perry publicly blasting Tony abbot over the issue of same-sex marriage during a radio interview in mid-august.

The australian federal elections are slated to taken place on sept. 7.

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eqca update Join us at the Palm Springs Equality Awards!

By Jesse Melgar, Communications Director

Leslie Jordan

congressman Mark Takano

congressman raul ruiz

California holds an extraordinary place in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender movement for equality, and within California, Palm Springs holds a unique and special place in our community. The population of Palm Springs is so rich with pioneers and trailblazers within the LGBT movement that it is one of the preeminent regions for EQCA’s work.

EQCA maintains one of only four regional offices in Palm Springs, with dedicated staff, and we are specifically expanding our Coachella Valley health and education outreach in conjunction with Obamacare and our Health Happens with Equality campaign through the generous support of the California Endowment.

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kimberly caldwell

Make no mistake, the issues facing the LGBT community are serious, from health care to elder care, from bullying to transgender equality, but we know Palm Springs isn’t just serious business — Palm Springs also knows how to have a good time!

Which is why we’ve been so pleased to present the annual Palm Springs Equality Awards, now going into the ninth year. Hosted this year by the raucous, fun and unpredictable Leslie Jordan, and honoring Congressman Mark Takano, special guest Congressman Raul Ruiz, with entertainment from Kimberly Caldwell and Bobbie Eakes, the Palm Springs awards have always had a life of their own.

In 2004, we honored Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, who were

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twice the first same-sex couple to be married in California, in 2004 and 2008. we also honored then assembly member mark leno, now a state senator, whom we’ve worked with on more bills than any other legislator. we’re currently working with sen. leno to urge calPers and calsTrs to divest from russia due to their recent homophobic legislation.

In 2006, we honored the national center for lesbian rights for their pioneering legal work. Just weeks ago, we won an important court case to protect lgbT youth from psychological abuse at the hands of licensed therapists, with nclr serving as our legal counsel. and in 2008, we honored dear abby (Jeanne Phillips) for her bold defense of marriage for same-sex couples in syndicated papers throughout the country. That year, lorna luft, daughter of Judy garland and sid luft, belted out broadway classics, while leslie Jordan (who is also hosting this year) kept the crowd rolling with his irreverent wit.

This is our history and we have celebrated it together over the years.

This year, we have more to celebrate than ever before, from the final victory on marriage at the Supreme Court to the passage of the first law in the nation to fully protect transgender students, to the reinvigoration of EQCA under the first full year of Executive director John o’connor’s leadership. and we’re looking forward to celebrating those victories with Palm springs on october 12.

Visit http://eqcaawards.org/palm-springs-equality-awards/ to purchase tickets today!

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LEGALLY SPEAKING

Same-Sex Couples

Questions For The Marriage-Go-Round

By Christopher Heritage

We have been partners and shared everything for many years. Is our relationship a Common-law Marriage?

The relationship must meet very specific requirements, which vary by jurisdiction: - Length of time - Cohabitation - Couple must present themselves as a married couple

(with documentation) - Each person must be free to marry

California does not validate common-law marriage, so no matter the length of time or the circumstances of your personal or financial relationship, if you resided in this state during that time, you are not in a common-law marriage. However, such marriages are valid for residents in nine other states and the District of Columbia. Only four of those jurisdictions permit same-sex marriage and have ruled, or could find, that same-sex common-law marriages of their residents are legal: Iowa, Rhode Island, Washington D.C., and New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only).

California and all other states do recognize common-law marriage if it was legal in the state where it occurred. This means that you can’t move from a state where it was valid, to another state not validating such marriages, and just have it go away. Like all traditional married couples, common-law marriages have to be dissolved under state divorce laws. If you are in a common-law marriage which was valid in Washington D.C. and you move to Los Angeles, you are legally married under California law, and you must file for a dissolution here if you want to end the relationship.

Since the U.S. Supreme Court DOMA decision, and return of same-sex marriage to California, I have been bombarded with questions from couples who are in a marrying mood. Here are two common queries:

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We are getting married next month. We heard we should have a Pre-marital Agreement because California is a Community Property state. What does Community Property mean?

When you marry and establish residence in California (or one of the other eight community property states in the U.S.), generally all property acquired during marriage that is not established to be separate property belongs to both spouses. Each spouse acquires an automatic half interest. Community property includes: - Salary, wages, compensation for work performed during

the marriage - Assets from labor and skills of each spouse; income from

community property assets, and any separate property

that has been changed into community property - Anything that can be bought or sold, such as a house, cars, furniture - Bank accounts, cash, pension plans, stocks, a business, life insurance - Any other assets (and debts) that are not a gift or an inheritance Separate property is anything you have that you owned before you were married, and that you have kept separately after the marriage. Commingling community and separate property will change the separate into community property, unless the separate component can be clearly traced.

For example, a person was working and vested in a retirement fund before he married. Once married, his continued work and contributions to the fund are community property. The amount earned in the fund before marriage remains as his separate property. The amount earned after marriage belongs half to his spouse.

If you have been partners for many years, do you want to maintain your established financial arrangements after marriage?

Are there assets you want to keep separate? Have you commingled your separate assets over the years? A Pre-marital Agreement can sort out your finances and keep your property where it works best for you. Already married? Post-marital Agreements can provide the same legal protection and security.

This article is part of an ongoing series of articles pertaining to legal issues relevant to the LGBT community, and is intended for general information purposes only – not legal advice. Christopher Heritage is an attorney in Palm Springs and San Diego, who focuses on LGBT estate planning, domestic partnerships, same-sex marriage, probate, trust administration, and bankruptcy. He welcomes questions and comments and can be contacted at 760-325-2020 or at chris@heritagelegal.com

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travel

Health, Fitness, Well Being Makes This Escape Fabulous

by George W. Zander

The Oaks at Ojai This is an almost one of a kind spot. Nestled in downtown Ojaia wonderful franchise free village, the small and compact Oaks provides exercise, healthy food, and beautiful suites and cottages for its guests. The Oaks provides plenty to do for two days, or a month or longer! The embrace of a really personal and caring staff will amaze you and it becomes the real reason for the stay!

Omni La Costa- Carlsbad Thirty miles north of San Diego, is this world famous, large and elegant Spa Resort. The minute you arrive, you will be treated to a relaxing atmosphere and a full range of services. Guest will be staying in the tranquility of a Colonial Spanish village yet close enough to all the attractions in and near San Diego.

Montage- Laguna Beach Nearly everyone says that this resort is the best experience in Southern California. Laguna is a wonderful town, in a drop-dead setting. The rooms and grounds of this massive building of California Craftsman design is an experience. The beach is lovely and the restaurants on site match some of the finest anywhere in the area.

You will be able just to dive in a stay surrounded by this lovely spot, but exploring Laguna Beach is worth some time as well!

All vacations whether, 3 day weekends, or month long sojourns have a huge element of elation- hopefully. All trips away from you and your group’s routines can be planned with an eye for health, well-being and fitness. Nutritious food, good exercise, and relaxation take some work at the beginning of planning your trip.

There is also the amazing idea of going to a health resort and spa for a total immersion in good wellness and health and a great time! Here are some suggestions from personal experiences that should give you and your party a variety of experiences from rustic and unique to 5 diamond pampering!

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L’ Auberge Spa and Resort, Del Mar This lovely resort is a medium size spot that sits directly on the beach. Views and sounds of the pounding surf will surround you. As with Ojai, you and your group will be able to step out of your hotel and walk a couple of blocks into downtown Del Mar. The staff is very professional and caring. The food is delicious, and the bar- again with a sweeping view is festive, and has live music!

The Golden Door, Escondido Situated on 377 acres on the western slopes of southern California’s mountains, Golden Door is a Zen-inspired oasis for those looking to refocus their minds and reenergize their bodies. Find peace among the stone walkways and waterfalls of our Japanese gardens. You and your party will engage your muscles with a personalized fitness program.

This spa was founded in 1958 and grew into a world famous

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l’ auberge sPa spiritual and health center. you will love the antiques from around the world and the 20 miles of hiking trails. red mounTaIn resorT, sT. george uT. Voted best spa in the united states by several sources, this lovely small sized spot will be worth the full day drive. blended naturally into a landscape of vivid red rock cliffs and canyons of southern utah, red mountain resort has everything you need to relax, renew and rediscover your passion for adventure. eighty-two beautifully designed rooms and twenty-four villa suites are carefully sited on fifty-five acres of black lava gardens and fragrant mesquite with stunning vistas of the surrounding mountains. red mountain’s ideal location allows convenient planning of a customized adventure to Zion or bryce canyon national Parks.

rancho la PuerTa rancho la PuerTa, TecaTe, mexIco This ranch style escape provides acres of space, lovely accommodations, and emphasizes the possibilities of changing people’s lives! for the better. located just south of san diego, it is in a perfect site for relaxing and taking over your life. The food is healthy and tasty. an expert a “slow cooking,” the experience from over 70 years of recipes will enthrall your taste buds. many folks come here for the world-class cooking school. There is exercise, lovely rooms and a very caring staff that will make you stay in this fabulous spot very memorable for you and your friends! so there you have it. now you know how to mix a vacation that includes health and well-being and you can make it exciting as well! enjoy.

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hey doc!

What Vitamins and Supplements Should I Be Taking?

By Jeffrey S. Dunham, M.D. This is one of the most frequently asked questions I hear in my practice. About one-half of all Americans take some type of vitamin, mineral or supplement – an estimated 30 billion dollars worth in 2011! But are they healthier because of it, or are they just wasting their money? Could some of those supplements even be harmful?

I always ask my patients to bring me a list of all the supplements that they’re taking. Most are taking a multivitamin, but some bring me a list two or even three pages long. What I’ve found is that many patients are taking a lot of unnecessary supplements, and usually not a high enough dose of the ones they actually need. I only recommend the supplements that have shown to be beneficial in studies published in highly regarded medical journals. I continually update my list when new, well-designed studies are released.

Here’s my current list (in order of importance): 1. Vitamin D3, 5000 units per day. Vitamin D has been shown to kill precancerous cells and lower the risk of colon, skin and prostate cancer. It’s necessary for the absorption of calcium to maintain strong bones, and can prevent osteoporosis and bone fracture. Most doctors now recommend 1000 units per day, but I’ve found that most patients don’t achieve optimal levels at this dose.

I usually recommend 5000 units, and will even recommend up to 10,000 units for patients with a strong family history of colon cancer or patients taking HIV medications (who typically have very low levels of vitamin D).

2. Low-Dose Aspirin (81 mg), 2 tablets/day. Aspirin not only lowers risk of heart attack and stroke, but also can lower risk of cancer.

3. Selenium, 200 mcg per day. Selenium lowers risk of prostate cancer and probably other cancers as well.

4. Vitamin B6 (100 mg per day), Vitamin B12 (300 mcg per day) and Folic Acid (1600 mg per day). I’ve grouped these vitamins because taken together they will lower homocysteine levels (an important risk factor for heart disease). Most multivitamins will contain the appropriate amounts of vitamin B6 and vitamin B12, but not enough folic acid (usually only 400 mcg), so you’ll usually need to take an additional folic acid supplement.

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5. Vitamin C, 1000 mg per day. One of the best antioxidants, vitamin C can supercharge your white bloods cells to prevent infections.

6. Coffee. You’re probably asking, “Coffee? Really?” If you don’t have high blood pressure, coffee is actually good for you!

Multiple studies have shown the same effect: drinking coffee lowers mortality rates for all causes except cancer. The more you drink the better. And surprisingly, it doesn’t matter if it’s regular or decaf!

There are about 1000 active ingredients in coffee, but so far, researchers haven’t figured out which ones provide the benefit.

7. Coenzyme Q10 (200 mcg per day). Also known as, ubiquinone, this vitamin is a key player in generating energy in all cells. It’s especially important if you’re taking statin-type, cholesterollowering medications (like Lipitor), because statins inhibit your body’s own production of this critical vitamin.

I no longer recommend Fish Oil or Vitamin E. Recent studies have shown that both may increase the incidence of prostate cancer, so the risk of taking these supplements may outweigh the benefit for some patients.

Recommending supplements can sometimes be a hard sell. You’ll never know if that vitamin, mineral or supplement actually prevented you from having a heart attack or getting cancer. My patients on testosterone replacement often thank me for their increased energy, libido and erectile functioning, but no one has ever thanked me for not getting a disease. That one extra heart attack per 1000 patients followed in a study doesn’t mean much, unless, of course, that one extra heart attack is yours.

Dr. Jeffrey S. Dunham is Medical Director of BioFit Medical Group, and creator of the BioFit Diet™ App for iPhone and iPad (available on the Apple App Store). He has a M.D. from Harvard Medical School, a Ph.D. in Biology from M.I.T., and a Master’s degree in Public Health from the University of California, Berkeley. He is certified by the American Board of Preventive Medicine, and is a member of the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine.

Learn more about the BioFit Program at www.biofitmedical.com.

epicurean Food, Fitness and Fun!

By Chef Andre Carthen

For most, the thought of the working out and dieting doesn’t sound like Fun! Nevertheless, it can be, you just have to look at it differently. It becomes a lifestyle change, instead of I can’t have this or that, and working-out is so hard, think of the flip side, the results… fabulous at 50 or sexy at 60.

I get asked often about diets, can I recommend one to lose 10 pounds. I say sure, but what is your goal? To attend a wedding, high school reunion, or some other special event. OK, just as long as you know you’re going to gain the weight back shortly thereafter.

People have to know that the (diet) is everything you eat; your diet is the food you consume. We have to stop looking at a diet as restricting.

Many fitness trainers, nutritionist, and doctors, will say no dairy, no carbs, no bread, no, no, no, no, and unless there is a medical reason, it doesn’t have to be no. It’s more about moderation and healthier choices.

In moderate terms, you put bad gas in the car, good luck! Good gas, oil changes, etc…you get a smooth, clean running machine.

For some, the no theory is very helpful, especially in the beginning; it shocks your system into change. And yes, you do lose the initial weight. But how many times have you heard or said, “I have tried every diet in the world and to no avail”.

So, going back to the initial question 10 pounds short-term or changing your diet for a happier healthier you.

A healthy diet consists of smart carbs, protein, fruits and vegetables and a good fitness program.

Now of course, there are some restrictions…like that overpriced, double mocha latte that is screaming healthy. But don’t look at it as no, think of it as a treat, instead of it being a daily have, go for once a week. Your wallet and body will thank you.

For fitness, go to the experts. Tell them what you want to accomplish, and ask questions…and that’s just what I did.

I asked my good friend Eli McIntyre Owner – Solid (Palm Springs), for his take on fitness?

MIX IT UP, “Your body can easily adapt to a weekly workout routine, not to mention you can get bored and loose interest. Mix it up with some classes, cross training, Olympic lifting or a game with friends in the park. Goals are key: whether it’s a personal best in the gym, training for the AIDS Life Cycle or a mud covered obstacle course with friends it will give you a reason to keep training on days you just want to give up. …don’t kill yourself for unattainable goals. Being healthy and confident is much more sexy . . . it’s also more attainable & sustainable.”

As Eli says, Mix it up…that’s where the fun comes in. Set goals, workout with a partner, listen to your favorite music. As for your diet, remember it can also be fun. Think of new ways to do healthy. Two of my favorites are color theme dinners and veggie night.

Solid – Owner Eli McIntyre (760) 537-0751 rusolid.com 536 S. Vella Road, Palm Springs, California 92264

Celebrity Chef Andre Carthen a.k.a. the Fit Chef, is featured in Kathy Ireland’s book “Real Solutions for Busy Moms: Your Guide to Success and Sanity,” and Janet Jackson’s first book, NY Times #1 Best Seller “True You” where he contributed over 30 recipes for a healthy meal plan. To learn more http://kathyireland.com/entertaining/entertaining-about/

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medical 411

ASK THE DOCTOR Forrest P. Murphy, MD, FACS

Question: Angelina Jolie has been in the news lately following her brave decision to have a bilateral mastectomy.

It seems very radical to have both breasts removed. My girlfriend and I BOTH have a family history of female –related cancer.

Should we consider something this radical?

Jane, Palm Springs, CA Answer: That is a tough question, Jane.

I definitely recommend yearly mammograms and a frank discussion with you and your partner’s gynecologists as part of your yearly physical evaluation. In the case of Ms. Jolie, she had her DNA analyzed after she lost her Mom and Grandmother to ovarian cancer.

She has a positive genetic marker, BRCA1, for the development of breast or ovarian cancer possibly in her future. She runs an 87% risk of breast CA and a 54% risk of ovarian cancer. She, fortunately, has the means to be extremely smart and proactive in support of her future health and welfare. There is a website called 23andme.com where you can order DNA testing kits and find out if you have any genetic markers placing you at increased risk of the known markers for cancer and other chronic debilitating diseases. This is extremely beneficial information that can prompt testing of your children, if applicable.

Question: I have a question about the safety of BOTOX. It is hard to find anyone who hasn’t had an injection in his or her face. I am turning 50 and would love to ‘get rid of my wrinkles. Is it safe to inject this toxin into your face, really?

Lois, Rancho Mirage, CA Answer: BOTOX is pharmaceutical,

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very dilute botulinum toxin. It also is available as Dysport as well. BOTOX is the original solution that has been used for a variety of purposes including lessening or eliminating migraine headaches, and relaxing facial tics. It is extremely effective at relaxing the smooth facial muscles of the face, thus smoothing your deep and superficial wrinkles. Like all pharmaceuticals, it has some potential negative side effects.

More and more, there are neurological contraindications to using this injectable in the face including Guillain-Barre syndrome, and several others. It also is temporary and has to be repeated every 3 to 6 months.

If you like the effect, you may become psychologically addicted and ‘need’ your injection when the effects start to wear off. Ultimately, you have to inform yourself fully and weigh the potential desired result against the negative contraindications.

Question: I have a follow-up question regarding high blood pressure from last month’s issue. My doctor told me that I have high blood pressure, but when I check my pressure in the morning at home, as you suggested, it is normal. He wants me to take HCTZ, a diuretic. What is your advice?

Jason H., Palm Springs, CA Answer: First, you need to tell your physician that your blood pressure is normal when you are not in his office if you haven’t already. Historically, blood pressure is lowest first thing in the morning. In addition, there is a well-documented symptom called White Coat Syndrome, which can cause your blood pressure to rise when you are anxious, like

waiting to see the doctor or using excessive caffeine in the morning. There are many causes of elevated blood pressure so make sure that you are fully worked up by your physician to see what the real cause of your ‘transient’ elevated blood pressure is.

Forrest P. Murphy, MD, FACS is a board-certified Ophthalmologist and board eligible in Emergency Medicine and Anti-Aging. He has agreed to answer medical questions for the Standard Magazine. If you have a question for Dr. Forrest, simply send us an email with your question to info@standardps.com. The Content provided in this column is for informational purposes only and is not medical advice, diagnosis, treatment or care, nor is it intended to be a substitute. Always seek the advice of a physician or other qualified health provider properly licensed to practice medicine or general health care in your jurisdiction concerning any questions you may have.

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For Activists, Gay Gets Complicated

By Steve Bolerjack

You found the conviction (and some testosterone or estrogen, as the case may be) to come out, already. (Again, I stress the good fortune involved here: if you did all this and somehow avoided estrangement, banishment, substance abuse, exploitation, depression or suicidal contemplation, you were indeed lucky or maybe just stronger than you thought.)

For those of us in a certain age bracket, it used to be fairly straightforward (if you were lucky): you survived the silent anxiety of your confused adolescent sexuality, fumbled around experimenting here and there, worried, maybe found some kindred spirits at college or anyplace away from home, worried some more, furtively educated yourself, learned about Stonewall, finally had a meaningful same-sex experience and gained a little confidence. You realized that gay people are indeed part of society and deserve the same rights as everyone else. There’s nothing wrong with you after all!

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If you were especially assertive, passionate or really liked to talk, activism probably appealed to you. From there it was a clear path. Gay liberation movements and pride parades were active on both coasts in the 1970s and it was immensely satisfying to march and dance and shout with newfound colleagues, even if it tended toward stuff like “we’re here, we’re queer” and “hey, hey, ho, ho, homophobia’s got to go.” Early gay rights efforts could certainly have used some better writers but the message was simple: “it’s perfectly alright to be gay, we’re just as good as you so stop persecuting us about it.”

Well, there is obviously still a need for even that plain message to be constantly reiterated. But it’s now only one of many. “Gay liberation” has evolved from simple, heart-felt and probably

view naïve grass-roots activism into an unwieldy directory of LGBTQ “communities” with various messages, objectives, spokespersons, audiences and grudges. Sometimes their efforts are in sync, but sometimes, there is disagreement if not outright conflict. The latest row has been between groups working on two major gay issues: marriage equality and HIV/AIDS. Some in the latter group feel that media focus, funds and volunteerism have been overly shifted toward the marriage issue, to the detriment and decline of interest and resources to fight the disease. A serious rupture? I don’t think so, but illustrative of how complex gay-related public policy issues have become since the early days. Yet at closer glance, they remain truly interrelated. Marriage equality has repercussions for those living with HIV/AIDS in terms of longtime support, shared insurance, medical benefits and survivorship rights, while the option of actually being legally married may help reduce risk of new HIV infections.

Were I a freshly out, energetic, activist-minded (and much younger) man, I’d be somewhat nonplussed as I tried to figure out where I might fit in today’s multi-faceted world of LGBTQ-HIV/AIDS (and whatever other abbreviations I can’t remember) activism. The menu is quite lengthy—in addition to marriage equality and AIDS,

it includes immigration rights, adoption, passage of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), ending gay-bashing and worse violence, fighting religious prejudices, addressing substance abuse, preventing suicides, rescuing runaway, homeless teens, working to elect pro-LGBT candidates and helping transgendered people overcome tremendous bias. And as if that weren’t enough, we now must add Vladimir Putin, his ominous anti-gay persecutions in Russia and the 2014 Winter Olympics to boot. It’s rather like choosing electives on your college syllabus--which courses shall I take? Or more realistically, which issues do I have the time, energy and passion to work on?

The point is, if you have the slightest outrage or concern about addressing anything on the above lists, don’t hesitate to become an activist. In fact, please do. It’s an item on your resume you’ll never regret. Despite some successes, saying that much needs to be done among all gay communities is a vast understatement--they all need any help you can give. I concur with ACT UP founder Peter Staley, who has dedicated his life to AIDS activism: “No one is asking to give up the fight for marriage equality. We are a strong community. We are capable of doing more than one thing at a time.”

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NOVEMBER 1-3, 2013

Two Day Festival Palm Springs Stadium Parade Downtown Palm Springs November 2 & 3 - 11am-6pm November 3 - 10am FREE Block Parties ▼ Get Married in the Pride Chapel ▼ Tea Dance ▼ Parade VIP Party Pool Parties ▼ Wang’s Dance Party ▼ Boudoir Ladies' Party ▼ Uptown Chill-out

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PRIDE

Behind the Rainbow Flag

Coachella Valley’s Pride Organization

By Ron deHarte Pride 2013 might be a distant memory for many across the country but for us in Coachella Valley we are just getting started. In just a few weeks, our community will host the largest celebration of equality and diversity it has ever seen and I thought it would be a good time to share some of the fundamentals of Palm Springs Pride.

I’ve had the pleasure of serving on the board of directors of Greater Palm Springs Pride and managing operations for the organization for four seasons. As a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization, Pride serves as a catalyst for celebrating the strength, equality, dignity and self-determination of the LGBT community.

Formed in 1986, Palm Springs Pride produced its first Pride Festival in Palm Springs to celebrate the 1969 Stonewall Rebellion on New York City’s Christopher Street. We work year round to bring together the skills, talents and vision of our diverse community to produce the Coachella Valley’s Pride parade and two-day festival, which last year attracted 70,000 participants to downtown Palm Springs and Sunrise Park.

Programs of the organization have included the Pride Parade and Pride Festival, Pride Honors Awards, and the unique Arenas Block Party. We also serve as the lead collaborator with Equality California to host the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast Coalition. We are raising awareness and drawing our community together with new programs that include the free Stonewall Equality Concert, the free OUT PSP Block Party, hosting free same-sex wedding ceremonies in the Pride Wedding Garden at Forever Marilyn, and presenting a Parade VIP Party. We will also host High Tea with the beloved Bear DJ and producer John LePage.

As an organization, we are focused on four core areas of activism, awareness, community service and youth engagement.

We support LGBT civil rights activism and mentorship of other Pride organizations around the world and promote awareness of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender individuals. Locally the Pride Parade is the largest equal rights celebration to be held in the Coachella Valley. The Pride Festival provides an inclusive and diverse celebration in an affirming and safe environment for all ages. We help raise awareness and educate a new generation with the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast. Palm Springs Pride is the fiscal sponsor of this annual coalition building effort. The event seeks to bring together all who support equality and justice to celebrate the memory of this influential civil rights activist.

Palm Springs Pride recognizes the importance of the Pride movement worldwide. We provide support to other organizations through mentorship, providing financial support and by sharing our experience and skills.

Documenting the history of Coachella Valley’s LGBT movement is critical and Palm Springs Pride is the lead organizer of the Landmark Monument Wall of Honor Campaign to preserve and highlight the history of the local LGBT movement for future generations. The landmark monument will honor and remember important local LGBT community members and allies who have had a significant and positive impact on the LGBT community. The monument will be a visible and lasting reminder of our rich history of courage, spirit, achievement, and activism.

Our community service is supported by grant funding, providing direct support and through partnerships. Palm Springs Pride provides grants to organizations that directly affect the LGBT communities in the region. Various fundraising vehicles are used to raise and earmark donations to the Pride Fund. This year, special emphasis is placed on supporting Coachella Valley Gay-Straight Alliance organizations at the region’s high schools.

From time to time, we directly support community organizations by purchasing tickets, making charitable contributions, and sponsoring various events. In addition to donating event tickets, the Pride organization also subsidizes thousands of dollars annually for parade and festival entry fees. We also create partnerships with organizations enabling them to raise funds in exchange for their involvement in Pride events.

Our fourth core focus is on youth engagement. Incorporating youth in the activities of Pride is a key priority for us and we are constantly looking for ways to create safe and affirming opportunities for youth to participate with the organization.

As you make plans to participate in Pride events this year, please keep in mind that your support is important to make a statement and to help sustain the operations of the organization that works year round fostering pride in and respect for the LGBT community locally and globally.

Ron deHarte is a champion for human rights and equality and serves on the board of directors of InterPride and Greater Palm Springs Pride. He is a frequent guest contributor to The Standard Magazine Palm Springs.

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events calendar is sure to be another dance-til-you-drop party to be remembered! Please join us poolside at The saguaro with san francisco dJ Jerry bonham and a performance by the legendary Thelma houston! for tickets go to www.aidsassistanceprogram.org or call 760-325-8481.

sePt 11 The lgbT community center of the desert (The center) is pleased to announce ruff nite, a social event and fundraiser designed for lgbT pet-owners plus their supporters. The event will be held from 5:00 – 8:00 p.m., at oscars café & bar, located at 125 e. Tahquitz canyon way in Palm Springs. This fun-filled evening will include a walk down the “green carpet”, a “Puparazzi” photo opportunity for pets and their owners, drink specials, and a raffle including pet products and services. a $5 suggested donation is requested, with all proceeds from the evening supporting programs offered by The center. for more info go to www.thecenterps.org

sePt 15 boo 2 bullying presents exclusively to Palm springs studs & suds charity car wash. event to take place at best of the best Tours 490 s. Indian canyon dr. Ps. 100% of all proceeds benefiting anti-bullying organization boo2bullying.org . for further info go to www.boo2bullying.org

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dBa sePteMBer events sept 9 dba mixer hosted by hunter’s nightclub. sept 23 advanced lgbT social media marketing strategies. www.desertbusinessassociation.org

oCtoBer 5 living free animal shelter will hold a fundraiser featuring grammy award winner melissa etheridge. The outdoor festival will include arts & crafts, silent auction, great food and fantastic entertainment. living free animal sanctuary is located in mountain center. for details and directions on how to get there call 951-659-4687 or go to www.living-free.org sePteMBer 28 The mccallum Theatre is delighted to present comedian bill maher for a onenight-only performance on saturday, september 28, 8:00pm. for the last eighteen years, bill maher has set the boundaries of where funny, political talk can go on american television. first on “Politically Incorrect” and on hbo’s “real Time,” Bill’s combination of unflinching honesty and big laughs have garnered him more than twenty emmy nominations. for tickets visit www.mccallumtheatre.com sePteMBer 29 aIds assistance Program presents 2nd annual disco Tea dance disco diva Thelma houston will perform at this year’s second annual disco Tea dance. our sequined sequel is happening on sunday, september 29 from 5-10 pm. This

Currently thru oCtoBer 20 agua caliente cultural museum continues a great exhibition, where are the Tipis?

The changing perceptions about Indians.

Views of Indians, past and present, are often based on misinformation. where are the Tipis? provides insights into these perceptions and how they have been perpetuated. for more information about where are the Tipis? and other museum programs and events call 760-778-1079 or visit www.accmuseum.org

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EVENTS CALENDAR

Ongoing - Every Other Saturday Boudoir at Georgie’s Alibi (Above Azul). Stop in for a great time, bringing something new and refreshing to the PS nightlife, Boudoir is quickly becoming the go-to event for the lesbian community in the valley. By women and for women. All are welcome. For details go to www.boudoirnightlife.com

Sundays “The Playgirls” at Toucans Tiki Lounge featuring Tommi Rose! Performances 8, 10pm.

These darling Divas of drag really deliver with their very own brand of entertainment to packed houses. Special guests appear weekly.

DJ in the sound booth.

Complete list of events go to www.toucanstikilounge.com

ongoing Wang’s in the Desert. The weekly Wang’s Live Entertainment series features the best in local and regional musical talents.

Guests can relax from cabaret and Broadway show performances to upbeat, jazzy showcases on the Zen Patio, with its beautiful stone outdoor fireplace, giant red Buddha statue and lush tropical surroundings. The Sunday series is becoming the new performance showcase for weekends and holidays in downtown Palm Springs. It’s the perfect, casual venue for great music, cool cocktails and of course, a fantastic crowd. www.wangsinthedesert.com

Hunters Nightclubs® Palm Springs, Palm Springs’ go-to gay bar and dance club, has been leading the way in full-out fun for 13 lucky years now! And we keep it pumping, making it better for you all the time with our unparalleled event line-up. We enjoy having the desert’s most sought-after and friendly DJs, full-on themed events, and a staff that has it all without the attitude. And of course, we are proud to hold the longest happy hour in the entire Valley. Remember: Size Matters. Come by for our happy hour from 10am – 7pm. Yes, that’s right: 9 hours long! For a list of all events and specials visit www.huntersnightclubs.com

Tuesdays The weekly Bella da Ball Cabaret Variety Dinner Revue at Azul features a different show each week with a cast of male and female vocalists and drag personalities.

The highly popular show is hosted and produced by Palm Springs’ area social ambassador, Bella da Ball, and features

music-comedy-song-dance-costumingheaddresses-photo ops-door prizesaudience participation and more. The 95+ minute production features musical numbers ranging from show tunes to country to pop and everything in between. Don’t miss the fun every Tuesday at 7:30pm!

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events calendar events for the whole family. full details are available at www.lasVegasPride.org

world. In addition to arts and entertainment, fluxx fest will feature numerous workshops and seminars. www.fluxxfest.com

sePT 1 - 8

austin Pride ausTIn / Texas following the largest and most successful PrIde celebration in austin’s history, the austin gay and lesbian Pride foundation (aglPf) looks forward to welcoming over 80,000 members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (lgbTQ) community and its allies to austin, Texas, for the 23rd annual austin PrIde celebration. more than a party, austin Pride is a celebration of diversity and community that raises funds for, and awareness of, the numerous resources and charitable/nonprofit organizations available to the LGBTQ community in central Texas. www.austinpride.orgm

seP 13 - 16

Great aMeriCan teChno Festival. denVer / colorado great american Techno festival is dedicated to the past, present, and future of american Techno. not only does gaTf focus on topnotch talent from the united states, but the Festival also highlights some of the finest electronic music talent in the state of colorado.

Join us across various venues in downtown denver. www.gatf.us

sePT 26 - 29

orlando Bear Bash iii orlando / florIdaa orlando bear bash brings in friends, bears, cubs, and their admirers from over twenty different US States and five foreign territories. This year promises to be an even bigger “bash” with numerous parties, shows and events. so don’t miss out, come on down to orlando, you’ll be happy you did. for more info visit www.orlandobearbash.com

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las veGas Pride las Vegas / neVada las Vegas’ gay and straight business communities, nonprofit organizations, LGBT service agencies, civic groups and more come together on sept. 6 for the annual PrIde night Parade in downtown las Vegas. warm up with the pre-party at the fremont street experience and enjoy the parade through downtown las Vegas at 8 p.m. on sept. 7, head to the clark county amphitheater for the 2013 las Vegas Pride festival from noon to 10 p.m., with

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Fluxx Fest 2013 Tucson / arIZona fluxx fest is a three-day arts festival celebrating art, music, pride and queer culture. unlike most Pride events, fluxx fest sparks conversation and extends past boundaries, generating the kind of progress the queer community strives to achieve. fluxx fest will feature local artists and music, as well as the works and talents of queer-identified or queer-supporting individuals from around the

FolsoM street Fair san francIsco / calIfornIaa The folsom street fair takes place during san francisco’s leather Pride week, eight days of leather at the end of september.

This is a week’s worth of intense activity, with the folsom street fair being the crowning finale to a festive time! Many bars, clubs and organizations have parties and events all during leather Pride week. more than 400,000 people attend this major leather event from all over the world every year. our events raise funds to sustain san franciscobased and national charities. we value sexual freedom, diversity, and volunteerism. go to www.folsomstreetfair.com

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EVENTS CALENDAR lessons, sport lessons, excursions, game and fun, animation, muscle contest, street theater, gay pride… and more… You can also use all the facilities of the park: tropical swimming pool, different restaurants with theme buffets, bowling and gay sauna or enjoy the beautiful nature and surroundings In the evening the main dome will be transformed into a magical party location where we will have the main party and also small theme parties. www.sugarlandweekend.be.

Sept 8 - 15

Benidorm Gay Pride Benidorm / Spain The ALGTB (Association of Lesbians, Gays, Transsexuals and Bisexuals) Benidorm and Marina Baixa, is pleased to announce, as Official Organizers, their second Benidorm Pride 8 to September 15, 2013.This event is accompanied by a cultural week as well as leisure activities, in which is included a diverse range of cultural, leisure, festivals and sporting events. Something to interest all areas of the LGBT community. www.benidormpride.com

Sept 13 - 16

Sugarland Weekend Mol / Belgium Bungalow Park Kempense Meren near the Belgium village of Mol is hired exclusively for a full weekend of gay fun. Be surprised by the Sugarland Entertainment team, dance

Sept 14 - 15

Folsom Europe Berlin / Germany The European edition of the infamous Folsom street party. Folsom Europe stirs your imagination and makes you go wild.

And wild you will be! Thousands and thousands in fetish gear will be flocking the streets in the Berlin-Schöneberg district for the 10th edition of Folsom Europe. Seldom has a European event attracted so many fetish people from all over the world. And 2013 promises to set new standards: extra parties catering for all tastes and fetishes.

Plus a fetish chill-out zone in Fuggerstrasse.

Our success continues to receive worldwide recognition, not only through international Awards, but also through the growing number of visitors, from “down under” to the Kazakh Steppe, they will all be there!

The number of countries represented at Folsom Europe is unmatched. Meet the world at Folsom Europe and the world meets you! Enjoy Berlin, enjoy Folsom, live your fetish! www.folsomeurope.info

Sept 29

Rosa Wiesn, Oktoberfest Munich / Germany The traditional Munich Oktoberfest is the biggest beer drink festival of the world.

Every year on the first Sunday after the opening of the Oktoberfest, there is a special Beer Tent were thousands of gays and lesbians from all over the world come together, many dressed in traditional Bavarian Lederhosen or Dirndl dress! This Bräurosl Tent is only for 1 day gay, normally always on the first Sunday after the opening of the Oktoberfest. www.rosawiesn.de

Sept 14 - 22

AIDS Walk for Life Several Locations / Canada Canada’s most important HIV/AIDS fundraising and awareness event is the annual Scotia bank AIDS Walk for Life. During the national event, cities and communities from across the country host Walks to raise funds for local services and programming and to increase awareness about HIV/AIDS. www.aidswalkforlife.ca

Oct 4-13

MIX Copenhagen LGBT Film Fest Copenhagen / Denmark Founded in 1986, it is Copenhagen and Denmark’s oldest film festival of its kind.

Besides a huge variety of LGBT films from around the world, the festival is a competitive event offering a grand jury award to the best full length films in the competition program, as well as jury awards for best shorts and best documentary films, and audience awards for best film. www.mixcopenhagen.dk.

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Bars and Night Clubs

Wang’s in the Desert 424 S Indian Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA 92262 Phone: (760) 325-WANG (9264) www.wangsinthedesert.com

Las Casuelas Terraza 222 S Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 325-2794 www.lascasuelas.com

Zin American Bistro 198 S Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 322-6300 www.pszin.com

Hunters Nightclub 302 East Arenas Road, Palm Springs, CA 92262 760-323-0700 www.huntersnightclubs.com

Nature’s Health Food & Cafe 555 S Sunrise Way Suite 301 Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 323-9487 www.natureshealthfoodcafe.com

LuLu California Bistro 200 S Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 327-5858 www.lulupalmsprings.com

Birba 622 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 327-5678 www.birbaps.com

Toucan’s Tiki Lounge 2100 North Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA 92262 760-416-7584 www.toucanstikilounge.com

Pomme Frite 256 S Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 778-3727 www.pomme-frite.com

Cheekys 622 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 327-7595 www.cheekysps.com

Rainbow Bar and Grill 216 South Indian Canyon Palm Springs, CA 92262 760-325-3989 www.rainbowbarngrill.com

Rio Azul Mexican Bar and Grill 350 S Indian Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 992-5641 www.rioazulpalmsprings.com

El Mirasol 140 E Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 323-0721 www.elmirasolrestaurants.com

Trio Restaurant 707 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA 92262 Phone: (760) 864-8746 www.triopalmsprings.com

Thai Smile Palm Springs 651 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 320-5503 www.thaismilepalmsprings.com

Hamburger Mary’s Bar & Grille 415 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 778-6279 www.hamburgermarysps.com

Studio ONE 11 Cocktail Lounge 67-555 East Palm Canyon Drive, Suite A103, Cat. City CA 92264 760.328.2900 www.Studio-One-11.com

Trio Restaurant 707 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 864-8746 www.triopalmsprings.com

Rick’s Restaurant 1973 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 416-0090 www.ricksrestaurant.biz

The Tool Shed 600 E. Sunny Dunes Road, Palm Springs, CA 92262 760.320.3299 www.toolshed-ps.com

The Tropicale 330 E Amado Road Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 866-1952 www.thetropicale.com

Pinocchio in the Desert 134 E. Tahquitz Canyon Way Palm Springs, CA 92262 760-322-3776 www.pinocchiops.com

Spurline Video Lounge 200 Indian Canyon Drive Palm Springs CA 92262 760-778-4326 www.spurline.com

Sherman’s Deli & Bakery 401 E Tahquitz Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 325-1199 www.shermansdeli.com Acqua Pazza / The River at Rancho Mirage 71800 Highway 111 Suite A167 Rancho Mirage, CA Phone: (760) 862-9800 www.acquapazzabistro.com Azul Restaurant 369 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 325-5533 www.azultapaslounge.com Casa de Frida 450 S Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 459-1681 www.casadefrida.com Copley’s on Palm Canyon 621 N Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA Phone: (760) 327-9555 www.copleyspalmsprings.com

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Mitch, D.A.P. client

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