HOW ARE YOU COPING, WORKING, MOTHERING, LIVING?
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contents MAY 2020
spotlights
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ENCOURAGE
4 Manifesto 14 So, maybe it’s time to
let the future unfold, not strive to control it
26 Grieving without the comfort of others
INFORM
6 Today’s Woman In The Now
8 Your World: What Does it Look Like Now?
A peek into how the pandemic has changed our way of life.
16 Home: Flipping Into a
Functional Home
Three tips for aspiring house flippers.
36 35 Today’s Family • Like Mother, Like Daughter (p. 36) • Inspiring Books by local authors (p. 40) • Camp Directory (p. 44) 46 Caregiver Guide • What should a caregiver be doing? (p. 46)
24 The ultimate
• Ways to make caregiving easier on you (p. 52)
28 28 Things Happenings,
• Calming Down: Anxiety in Your Loved One (p. 56)
wedding crasher news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month
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May 2020 MAY THE 31 DAYS OF THIS MONTH BRING US MORE THAN WARMER WEATHER. MAY WE rise together to be stronger. MAY WE embrace one another’s needs and abilities. MAY WE be present in our moments. MAY WE have gratitude for the little things. MAY WE support each other. MAY WE move forward to a safer future. MAY WE appreciate our freedom, our health, our liberties, our fellow humans. MAY WE be kind to one another. MAY WE be forever changed, in every positive way. May 2020 Today’s Woman Manifesto
ON THE COVER: Realtor Carrie King’s outlook for the future is bright. Read about what she’s doing to maintain normalcy in her life (p. 10). Photo by Chris Witzke
MAY 2020 | VOL. 30 | NO. 6
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Equality
Matters
MEET SARAH MARTIN
Sarah Martin, 44 Civil Director, Jefferson County Attorney’s Office Treasurer, Yarmuth for Congress
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he daughter of an Ashland, Kentucky, lawyer who was also the city attorney, Sarah Martin says, “I grew up appreciating the significance of being a public servant and the importance of being engaged in good government.” She enjoys her work advising local government, including Metro Council, on a variety of legal issues, whether it concerns drafting legislation, employment arbitration/ mediation, or tax collection.
HER COLLEGE PATH TO WOMEN’S EQUALITY
In college, Sarah started a women’s rights organization, and she has continued to be interested in issues and policies that impact women. “I keep on my wall a signed copy of the first document that came out of the Women’s Rights Convention in 1848 called The Declaration of Sentiments. It’s the Declaration of Independence, but every time it says men it includes women, and it was radical,” she says. “It’s important for me to be reminded of how far women have come and to continue to work and advance women.”
THE ROLE OF MENTORS
Mentors come in all shapes, sizes, and genders. Sarah gives credit to Mike O’Connell and John Yarmuth, whom she has worked for and been mentored by. “They’re terrific leaders in Louisville, and I’ve sort of hitched my wagon to both of them, which has worked out pretty well,” she says. There is a long list of women who have served as instrumental role models for her, including her mother, teachers, and leaders. She also credits female writers like Virginia Woolf and Betty Friedan with sharing stories of women’s struggles and providing inspiration.
WHERE EQUALITY IS NEEDED
While in many ways women have come a long way legally, such as having the right to vote and own property, they still have social and economic issues that haven’t been fully addressed. “Women are still earning less than men in most categories, and women experience poverty at a higher rate than men,” Sarah says. She notes that women still bear the largest portion of child-rearing responsibilities, which means they often have to choose between having a family and having a career.
BY CARRIE VITTITOE PHOTO BY MELISSA DONALD
IN CELEBRATION OF THE 100TH ANNIVERSARY OF WOMEN’S SUFFRAGE, which granted women the right to vote, an anonymous supporter joins us in celebrating today’s Suffragettes, who continue to work for political and economic equality as well as social reforms.
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YOUR WORDS
What’s one thing you’ve done during the pandemic that has been a waste of time, and something else you did that was a good use of time? (Waste) I have been watching 90 Day Fiancé. (Good Use) Every Sunday night, I make some homemade masks.
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I discovered that eye shadow can cover my gray roots! That was not a waste of time, and also, was a waste of time! Lol
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Photo by Melissa Donald
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YOUR WORLD:
What Does it Look Like Now? “WHEN I THINK ABOUT WHAT I WANT TO GET DONE IN A GIVEN DAY, I’M CUTTING THAT DOWN BY ABOUT 75 PERCENT.”
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JESSICA HILL POWELL
Owner of Meridian Integrative Wellness, currently shut down At Home with four children, ages 3, 7, 9 and 10. (Husband is working away from home four days a week.)
MOST DIFFICULT RIGHT NOW My typical day has included homeschooling three kids and entertaining a wild preschooler, cooking, cleaning, and trying my best to hold on to a shred of sanity. I’m coming around to finding some sort of new normal, but I’m not exactly there yet. My stubbornness told me to continue with business as usual. Here are some of the “business as usual” (aka BS) expectations I had of myself and my loved ones: • The house must be clean! • The children must listen to me the first time I ask them to do something! • I must figure out a way to make money, and fast! • I must not gain any weight! • I must contain my anger about having my work life interrupted! • I must ignore my fear that the business I just spent the last two years of time and resources building will not recover after the pandemic! • I must hide my grief in order for my children to be OK during this time. At the beginning, under the weight of expectations, I screamed at my kids, constantly. I felt like I was coming out of my own skin with the noise level in my house. I had an unexplainable, very physical sensation of weight and muscle soreness in my rib cage that wouldn’t allow me to take anything but super-shallow breaths. My mind was cycling between “my business will never make it out of this pandemic” and “all is lost” to scrambling for ideas to help keep it afloat. What happened next was so predictable, yet I didn’t see it coming — full-blown autoimmune flare up. Everything in my body physically hurt. I emotionally hurt for the better part of two weeks, with tears seeming to just leak out of the corners of my eyes even when I wasn’t actively crying. Deep grief and anger was literally pouring out of me. MOST POSITIVE RIGHT NOW I’m only writing this now as I’m on the upswing. My mind, body, and spirit were furiously waving red flags, and I didn’t take the time to investigate. Finally choosing to wave the white flag, here are the lessons I learned: • Lesson #1: For the love of God, don’t ignore the red flags. They’re waving for a good reason. • Lesson #2: Lower my expectations of myself and others; they aren’t fair to anyone involved. • Lesson #3: In the hardest of times remember to lean into my support system and my self-care toolbox, not away from them. • Lesson #4: Make room for emotion even when it’s severely inconvenient; it’ll come out anyway. • Lesson #5: Work with just being with what is, not moving to force change. FROM MY PERSPECTIVE Read more about Jessica’s recommendations and the detail of her decisions on her business website at meridianiw.com/ red-flags-white-flags-and-non-negotiables/
SARAH DAVASHER-WISDOM President & CEO, Greater Louisville Inc.
Working at home with Duchess, a 16-year-old Himalayan cat. (She loves to sleep on the printer so that she can be petted while I am on calls and Zoom meetings.) Husband Rodney Wisdom, a chiropractor, is at home because of the government mandate to close. He is working on house projects.
MOST DIFFICULT RIGHT NOW I am concerned about the long-term impact on the economy. I know we will recover, but how long will it take and what will our region look like when we can start that recovery? My hope is that this will have brought us together in ways that can accelerate our rebound. MOST POSITIVE RIGHT NOW The truth is that I love working from home, and I am very productive doing it. You may be able to tell how comfortable I am as I sport my pajama bottoms in this photo while sitting at my desk in full jewelry and makeup, waiting for the next Zoom call. THIS DAILY PRACTICE HELPS I still get up at the same time, exercise, and get dressed. I would not feel like myself if I did not do these things. I will admit, however, that I haven’t worn mascara in a month. That might be one of the things I say goodbye to after this “Great Pause.” FROM MY PERSPECTIVE I like to think of this time as mandated reflection on the busyness of life. We need to value this time to reflect on what is important and consider which things we might not want to hurry back to.
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(on the cover)
Your World: What Does it Look Like Now? CARRIE KING
Co-Founder and Realtor, Homepage Realty Currently working at home giving tours via Matterport, a 3D virtual walkthrough. Can show houses in person but with precautions. She’s home with Annabelle, Shih Tzu and Lucky, Wonder Dog.
JAMIE WARFIELD
Director of Recruiting, Waffle House, Inc. Furloughed initially but started back to work securing catering orders and conducting meetings and interviews via Zoom. Working at home with children Carlos, 14, and Bella, 7.
MOST DIFFICULT RIGHT NOW Making difficult business decisions that affect other people’s lives has been difficult. We began temporarily closing locations and furloughing employees. All of the decisions were necessary and understood, but my days, alongside many others, were full of hope and tears. My position was then furloughed the same day and panic set in. The kids were running around crazy with no idea that they’re mom, the sole provider, had just lost our main source of income. The first day I could not get out of bed — anxiety, sadness, and uncertainty completely took over. Later that night, I looked at my personal journal of gratitude and found a quote by Oprah Winfrey that put everything into perspective. “When you meet obstacles with gratitude, your perception starts to shift, resistance loses its power, and grace finds a home within you.” At that point I started to look at this time as an opportunity to relax, restore, and recoup.
goals by creating a vision board, revamped my resume, and put actionable plans into place. What I initially thought was a nightmare became an opportunity.
MOST POSITIVE RIGHT NOW The kids and I began spending time just talking and enjoying each other, no electronics, just communication. I started to declutter and organize home and life. I reconnected with family and friends just by calling and letting them know they were in my thoughts during this time. I focused on my
FROM MY PERSPECTIVE “What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? Our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty has an opportunity.” — J. Sidlow Baxter.
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These past few weeks I have had the opportunity to spend uninterrupted, quality time with my family. I think we all have appreciated the time to relax and recharge. When life begins to speed up again, we’ll remember to be grateful for our blessings and appreciative of our loved ones. THIS DAILY PRACTICE HELPS It seems insignificant, but every morning when I rise I verbalize three things I am grateful for, and I begin my typical morning routine (brushing my teeth, brewing coffee, and getting dressed). This process has allowed me to begin my days on a positive note, and I’m more motivated to be present and productive by continuing my morning routine.
This too will pass. Use this time to find the opportunity.
MOST DIFFICULT RIGHT NOW Our agents are the heartbeat of our entire business. I miss sharing positives in our sales meeting, “family” lunches, collaborating with agents on cool and upcoming projects, working alongside fellow realtors on listings, strategizing video shoots, I could go on and on...I miss my people! MOST POSITIVE RIGHT NOW The most positive thing for me right now is seeing everyone's face on Zoom calls. Although our sales meetings, training, and clubs are all done remotely, it's been fun connecting even if it has to be over a computer screen. Realtors are “essential,” and we are fortunate enough to be able to continue to work and help buyers and sellers. THIS DAILY PRACTICE HELPS Get up, dress up, and show up! I wake up every morning and get ready as if I am going to the office — only I am going down the hall to my home office. Getting ready helps me to start my day off and make it as normal as possible. FROM MY PERSPECTIVE We feel very confident that our economy will recover, the real estate market will flourish, and we are very hopeful that our friends, families, and loved ones will remain healthy so we can get back to living and have a great rest of the year. PAGE 12 >>
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LEXA DANIELS Dancer, Louisville Ballet
Your World: What Does it Look Like Now?
At home by herself.
MOST DIFFICULT RIGHT NOW There are so many difficulties that people all across the world are facing: The vastness of the effects of this pandemic is staggering. I think the uncertainty is what is most taking its toll on me and the people I know. We are unsure of when we will be able to emerge from these essential hibernations, and what each of our individual lives will look like when that time comes. Of course, we all hold a particular concern about our own personal corner of the world, it’s only natural. It’s what is most familiar to us, what we understand most intimately. I am a ballet dancer and normally our days are regimented, filled to the bursting with creating, exploring, and conquering. We are conditioned to push past any perceived boundaries, to rise above any limitations placed upon us. But this is something that cannot simply be pushed out of the way with willpower and creativity. And that realization has been hard for me to accept. This pandemic has universally stopped all of us in our tracks. The only thing to do is to take each day one at a time, thankful for what I have, and to try to continue on in the best ways I know how. For me, that looks like doing what I can for the people I love, and attempting to maintain as much normalcy as possible with my career by dancing and teaching from my living room. MOST POSITIVE RIGHT NOW The most positive thing I have experienced throughout all of this is a renewed sense of connection, which may seem to be strange in this time of self-isolation. Part of the fundamental essence of dance is connection. So it is interesting to me that at a time when I am incapable of participating in any of these outlets, I would be finding even more connection. In being given a little more time and space (and believe me, it is not lost on me just how much of a luxury that is right now) I’ve become fiercely protective of the connections I had sometimes taken for granted. Each conversation with my parents and
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“I REALIZE WE ALL ARE OUR BEST VERSIONS OF OURSELVES WHEN WE KEEP OUR OWN PERSONAL JOYS ALIVE.” siblings is just a little bit sweeter. Video chats leave me completely awestruck by the strength and resilience of my friends sprinkled across the country. Watching my coworkers navigate around pets and plants, as we gather for virtual ballet classes in our respective homes, makes me laugh until my eyes water. And what all of this has taught me is that our connections to each other are too precious to ever be taken for granted. THIS DAILY PRACTICE HELPS Dance is so joyful! And we are all dealing with so many conflicting emotions right now that at times it feels insensitive to be finding my own personal moments of joy. But those thoughts are fleeting because I realize we all are our best versions of ourselves when we keep our own personal joys alive. For me, that’s been a little bit of dancing in my apartment, doing what I can with the limited space while trying not to bother my downstairs neighbors. It’s the daily routine I know best, the one that best clears my head and focuses me. It’s even brought me a new appreciation for my practice, making me realize dance is just as beautiful whether you are performing on a bright stage for a full audience or all alone just for yourself.
“OUR CONNECTIONS TO EACH OTHER ARE TOO PRECIOUS TO EVER BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.”
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omen In BUSINESS
By Barbara Myerson Katz Photos by Melissa Donald
meet Melissa Huff Owner of Mamili
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elissa Huff has raised four children, three of whom are triplets, so she knows a thing or two about managing big projects. Blend that with a Spencerian College degree in fashion merchandising, experience in retail, and a knack for crafting beautiful items from hats to wreaths, and it was natural for the Louisville native to open her own boutique.
Offering casual and sophisticated women’s clothing, jewelry, and accessories, as well as select men’s and youth apparel, home accessories, and gifts.
Mamili, which means “to shop” in Tagalog, an homage to Melissa’s heritage, opened in March at 826 E. Main St., part of the NuLu Marketplace development. Housed in a fully renovated 1,800 square foot space, there’s plenty of room for Melissa’s hat business, Mad Hatter 502, which last spring sold Derby headwear out of a pop-up store in Prospect. Mamili features casual and sophisticated clothing with personalized customer service. Melissa describes her own taste in fashion as eclectic, from Hale Bob dresses to casual Sanctuary tops with Paige jeans and stylish sneakers. Mamili also places an emphasis on locally sourced and individually crafted merchandise. Hats and fascinators that range from sophisticated to wild and crazy can be custom made by Melissa and Sonni Carter. Mamili also features hand-crafted items by other local friends of Melissa who likewise have their own businesses: Jewelry by Julie Day of Jewels by Jules; jewelry by Brenda Sullivan; photo greeting cards by Laura Weis of Whispered Light; and glassware, ornaments, and decorative bourbon barrel staves by Gail Corso of Designs by Gail.
826 E. Main Street | Louisville, Ky |
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SO, MAYBE IT’S TIME TO LET THE FUTURE UNFOLD, NOT STRIVE TO CONTROL IT By Bob Mueller
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ince I am a driven, Type A, hyper person, the melody that best brings me to reality and inner peace is: Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream. As I age, I realize as so many have before me that it’s more about non-striving than striving. Non-striving is like going down the rapids as my wife and I did years ago on the Colorado River. You don’t fight against the current, but neither do you just sit there and let it toss you about. You also don’t fix your gaze on the rock wall you’re trying to avoid. Rather, you paddle with deep concentration to stay on course, and you keep your eyes on the river ahead. When you let go of your fears (smashing into the rock wall) and your expectations (staying on course), you allow the experience to naturally unfold. I have learned over the years that striving has its costs. It’s ineffective and inefficient. I believe that my striving is motivated by the fact that I am a highly conscientious person and possess excessive personal standards for success. It’s just so easy to overcommit, rush to meet deadlines, put out persistent effort to not let yourself and others down, and then burn out. Even when you do fulfill your goals, you may feel disappointed and depleted because your energy has been directed away from yourself and toward external measures of success. Striving sets up a vicious cycle. Although your desires may be positive (for example, you may desire to feel good about yourself) the mere thought that you should feel a certain
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way causes you to strive for it. Ironically, this in and of itself creates increased striving and decreased happiness. Non-striving doesn’t mean being lazy or uncaring, or not having desires or interests. In fact, it means the opposite. Non-striving means having clear intentions, staying focused, being a keen observer, and allowing life to unfold as it will. Recently I read about second-century Jewish scholar Simon ben Zoma, who said that there are four elements that make a person truly wise. As I work to row, row, row my boat gently down the stream, they speak volumes to me: 1. People who are wise are not those who know more but those who learn from everyone. 2. People who are mighty are not those who appear strong but those who conquer their reactive impulses. 3. People who are rich are not those who have the most money but those who are content with what they have. 4. People who are honored are not those who are bestowed with titles, recognized with awards, or credited with accomplishments but those who honor others. There’s really nothing to chase after. There are no external measures of true success and no need to be separate and distinct to prove your true worth. You can come off the neverending spiral of wanting more and more and finding less and less. Only when you stop striving, as I keep learning, can you truly be the wise, mighty, rich, and honored person you already are. Bob Mueller is the mission & stewardship officer at Hosparus Health. bobmueller.org
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HOME
Flipping Into A Functional Home By Taylor Riley Photos by Melissa Donald
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n the first home Brenna Brooks and her father, Barlow Brooks, worked on together, they did the contracting themselves and quickly realized it wasn’t a “sustainable business model for us,” Brenna says. She confessed that the first house taught her a lot about construction, but also about the way women are treated in the industry. “People assume because I’m a female I don’t know [anything about the process],” she says. “It taught me a lot. I had to be a lot more assertive. Older men [in construction assume] I don’t know what I’m talking about.” PAGE 18 >>
Get more information from our home advisors: WR Realtors: wrrealtors.com (p. 19) Idea Source: ideasourceky.com (p. 21) Bliss Home: blisshomefurniture.com (p. 23)
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Brenlow Properties owner Brenna Brooks redid this St. Matthews area home that she now lives in, taking out walls between the kitchen and the dining room, creating a large open living space.
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Barlow Brooks, who Brenna says is “comfortably retired,” began the projects with his daughter as she attended a nighttime MBA program. Brenna designed the project and lead sourcing and worked with Brooks to plan and execute the project with the client. The two have mostly concentrated on purchasing, upgrading, and reselling homes in the St. Matthews, Indian Hills, Highlands, and Middletown areas, 13 projects since 2012. With her father’s retirement, Brenna is ready to begin her own business journey with Brenlow Properties. What gives her a leg up is being a realtor, too. “I do understand how houses are constructed and the potential concerns someone may have with a property,” she says. While real estate sales is currently her main focus, she has the desire to flip more properties into rentals and Airbnbs.
ROLLING FIELDS REDO One of Brenna’s largest projects thus far was a home in the Rolling Fields subdivision. A 3-bedroom, 3-bathroom home, in the upscale neighborhood for 13 years. She and her father bought the property from another investor who did not have the time to finish the home after gutting it into an empty shell. “Given the area and standard for the area, (we knew) it needed to be really nice,” she says. The home did not have a master suite or walk-in closet, which is typical of the area, and only a small bathroom with a single vanity. The layout was a pain, too, with the front door of the home leading to the basement. “It wasn’t up to the standards of the neighborhood,” she says. PAGE 20 >>
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(Above) Here is the opposite view of the room on the previous page with Brenna by the front door. (Below) This is the before photo of the dining room and kitchen space, and back door.
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l The beforeand-after photos for one of Brenna’s favorite projects so far. Here in the stunning after, it shows how she reworked the flow of the main floor and updated finishes.
The duo created two additions: a master suite with a large bathroom and walk-in closet in the back, as well as an office and full bathroom in the basement. They added a front door to the upper level of the home, a mudroom entryway to the garage, and even a doggie bedroom underneath the stairs. When completed, the project was a 4-bedroom, 4-and-a-half bathroom home with refinished floors, high quality finishes, new HVAC and water heater systems, and a new driveway. “We made it into a gorgeous family home for a young couple with two kids,” Brenna says.
MIDDLETOWN MID-CENTURY One of their latest, and most memorable, projects was a mid-century modern ranch home in Middletown. The home was owned by a woman for 30-plus years but had most recently been occupied by renters. It was neglected and in “bad shape,” Brenna says, but it had potential at 4,000-squarefeet on a 2-and-a-half-acre lot with a pool. As one of her favorite projects, Brenna says they kept the character of the home to create a “magical” 5-bedroom, 4-bath home with a daylily garden and a beautiful pool area. Brenna even kept the house for a year and set up movie nights on a projector with her friends while floating in the pool. She would have kept the home, she says, but as a single person, the home was just too big. The house went on the market and sold in three days for the full asking price. In the future, Brenna said she would consider buying it back. “That was the hardest one to let go of,” she says. She is pretty happy though, living in St. Matthews in a home she flipped with the help of her father.
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Brenna says she and her father were never in the flipping game as a main source of income. “It’s not how we paid the bills or put food on the table,” she says. So, when looking at a potential property, she suggests to be picky. Location is everything, she says. Check into what is around the location, because that will determine the sellability. “You can change anything about the house for some amount of money, but you can’t change what’s around it,” she says. Brenna also suggests being conscious of the quality of the flip. She asks herself, “Is this what I would do for my house?” If she puts her name on it, she wants to be sure it’s her idea of perfect. “There will be a family living there, so we ask, ‘Would we live in this house?’ If the answer wasn’t ‘yes,’ then we reevaluated our approach,” she says. Another tip Brenna suggested was to make sure the home is functional. Good design, she says, isn’t just about looking good, it’s about being functional for the family who lives there. Considering functionality in the layout of the property is essential; it’s all about how the doors and drawers open, she says.
The bathroom redo shows how beautiful a functional room can be, while still keeping main plumbing lines in place
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THE ULTIMATE WEDDING CRASHER By Megan M. Seckman Photos submitted
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essi Winner, 29, secured the perfect venue for her wedding, all the vendors were paid, and her bachelorette party and honeymoon flirted on the horizon. She was in the homestretch of wedding planning and eager to walk down the aisle on April 18. But the ultimate wedding crasher — a global pandemic — shut down the country and turned her dream wedding into a surreal nightmare. On March 18, a month before their big day, Jessi and her fiance made the difficult decision to cancel their wedding after Kentucky Governor Andy Beshear’s social distancing mandate. Jessi, a project manager by trade, had coordinated a 235-guest ceremony at Churchill Downs, but once her wedding planner explained that the race track was trying to figure out how to run the Kentucky Derby with six-feet of social distancing space between all the guests, she knew her wedding was going to be impossible to pull off. Churchill Downs offered Jessi a full refund and attempted an August reschedule date, but the couple decided to forgo the venue due to new language that would not guarantee a full refund in these uncertain times. “At the end of the day, we couldn’t put our grandparents, our friends, and family members at risk,” Jessi said. “At first, it was heartbreaking, but I realized that we aren’t breaking up — we still have the same relationship and love — it is just that our plans have changed. We won’t be having a 235-person wedding. I really don’t know what type of wedding we will have or when it will take place, but I know it will be something more intimate. I’ve had friends cancel their weddings and head to the courthouse. It helps to have others around who are experiencing the same thing.” Upon deciding to postpone the wedding, Jessi had to mail a letter to every guest saying that she would keep them posted on their future wedding plans but had no idea what those might be. She also took inventory as to which vendors were independent, local companies and called them to establish credit. “The wedding industry was hit hard by the coronavirus, and many small businesses can’t honor a refund. We prioritized which deposits to refund and which ones to roll over. We decided to support our florist by keeping the money in an account, and we plan to send flowers to people all year with the credit.” Jessi had to cancel her bachelorette party and honeymoon to Costa Rica as well. “It has been more work canceling this wedding than it was to plan it. It has been draining, but I suppose that is where the project manager in me thrived.” Diana Vela of Essential Details of Louisville, a destination management and event planning company, has had to reschedule three May/June weddings due to the coronavirus. “So far, most of the suppliers in the industry have been understanding and accommodating. We are all in this together, and we realize that every situation might look different right now. We are trying to help our clients reschedule and alleviate some of the stress during these uncertain times,” Diana says. Essential Details created a Change-the-Date Coordination Service in response to its clients’ changing needs. The service helps to review vendor contracts and cancellation policies, research and secure replacement vendors, negotiate refunds, and reschedule venues. Diana and her colleagues are navigating our new normal, oftentimes attempting to ease a bride’s stress or choose a place setting from their couches via Zoom.
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Grieving Without the Comfort of Others By Tonilyn Hornung
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o everything (turn, turn, turn), There is a season of togetherness is missing as soon as the phone is turned off. (turn, turn, turn), And a time to every purpose, under Looking to the future, the family continues to discuss funeral heaven.” The folk-rock group The Byrds took this and burial plans, but even those remain uncertain until air 2,000-year-old text from the Book of Ecclesiastes and turned travel is a safe option and hotels reopen. it into a number one hit. The poetic lyrics illustrate that there Louisvillian Taylor Buckner says when it came to her is a time and purpose for every predictable life experience. grandmother Edith Johnson’s local funeral, finding that sense However, for the people dealing with the loss of a loved one of closure was slightly easier. She and her immediate family during this time of COVID-19, grieving from a distance was not were allowed to have a more traditional, although smaller, a life experience anyone could have predicted. farewell service. Funeral homes have had to place restrictions “Usually, when someone passes there are on how many family members are allowed to hugs and crying on people’s shoulders. There’s “USUALLY, WHEN attend services, and she was one of 10 family the family grieving together. We’ve had none members in attendance at the visitation. “I feel SOMEONE of that,” says Jeffersonville, Indiana, resident a sense of closure because I was able to be at PASSES THERE Ronald Allman of his mother Anne Marie the funeral home, but it was hard not having as Allman’s passing. These days the traditional many people as we wanted to be there,” Taylor ARE HUGS steps taken to mourn a loved one have been says. AND CRYING altered. Due to social distancing and protective Similar to Ron and his family, Taylor and ON PEOPLE’S health measures being taken, relatives no her immediate family have also talked about longer show up at a doorstep laden with celebrating their loved one’s life in a way that SHOULDERS.” comforting casseroles or stacks of pies — or brings the larger family unit together once the consoling hugs that go along with them. it’s deemed safe to do so. “We’ve talked about “Up until this month, if someone died you were able to grieve having a remembrance dinner for people to come and go as in a predictable way,” Ron says. That has made this situation they want,” Taylor says. impossible with Ron’s parents and siblings spread across the Saying our final goodbyes to those we love is never easy. country. Leaning on the shoulders of family, friends, and casserole Finding ways to maintain some level of traditional makers has offered support during every season until this connection with his family, Ron, his three siblings, and his deeply life-altering one. Let’s hope that the turning of the father have been using the technologies available to them next season brings families back together to a place of support to stay in touch. It does help, but Ron says, “It’s still not the and comfort. same thing as looking into the person’s eyes.” That element
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28 THINGS (Why 28? Because we are 28 years old!)
Happenings, news, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s eye this month By Anita Oldham
Linda’s Refuge
“From 1983 to last year, I’ve been designing the garden to make it like separate rooms where you can sit or investigate different areas,” Linda Jackson says. There’s a topiary garden and a brick patio area. To Linda it’s important because of her heritage, being born in Scotland and raised in England. “My family always decorated their yard — using every inch instead of just looking out and seeing grass. It’s creating a place that’s beautiful to them.”
Photo by Melissa Donald 2-3. Linda Jackson is owner of Ballroom East Dance Studio (currently shut down) and co-owner with her husband of Aesthetics in Jewelry (curbside only). Her garden was scheduled to be on Crescent Hill Garden Tour, which was canceled this year but celebrating its 25th anniversary next year on June 5, 2021.
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Melissa McCarty says she favors neutrals and dark tones but pairs them with brighter colors. She is a big fan of colorful accessories but uses them judiciously. “My rule is that I don’t wear bold earrings with a bold necklace.”
We’ve heard a lot about how staying home is the safest place we can be during the COVID-19 pandemic. Yet, isolation can be dangerous for some. According to Angela Yannelli, CEO for the Kentucky Coalition Against Domestic Violence (KCADV), the risk factors for abusers to perpetrate domestic violence increases during a pandemic because it can be stressful on everyone, especially those facing unemployment, economic stress, social isolation, and depression. If you need help, contact The Center for Women and Families at 1-844-237-2331 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
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Noel’s Garden “It’s very therapeutic to be in the garden,” says Noel Ruff. “We garden year-round, unless it’s really awful weather. We have a rain garden, vegetable garden, flower garden, and patio garden, where I grow all my herbs and vegetables that I can go right outside and pick when I’m cooking dinner.
Any time you’re dealing with any kind of a challenge, and obviously these are challenging times, I think it can be very good for the heart and the soul to get your mind off your anxieties and troubles, and there’s nothing better than digging up weeds and planting things.”
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EATING, BUT NOT COOKING PICK UP FRESH FOODS Farmers markets are open this month: 12. D ouglass Loop Farmers Market On Saturdays: Clients must pre-order their food and pick it up from 10am until 1pm. @DouglassLoopFarmersMarket 13. N ew Albany Farmers Market Until they open find vendors from The New Albany Farmers Market at Facebook.com/ NAINFarmersMarket 14. P hoenix Hill/Nulu Farmers Market Open Tuesdays starting May 19 from 3-6pm. Vendors adhere to the social distancing guidelines. @PhoenixHillNuLuFarmersMarket 15. W estport Road Baptist Farmers Market Saturdays from 9am-1pm. Vendors adhere to the social distancing guidelines. @WestportBaptistFarmersMarket 16. O r order straight from a farm: barrfarmsky.com offers an online store or a weekly CSA pickup.
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11 How easy to put out a beautiful, bountiful, room temperature spread of pretty much anything you might want to eat and simply let your family members graze. For balance, remember that the best meals have components that are sweet, sour, bitter, salty, and crunchy. Umami, a further category of taste, is also something to consider — it occurs naturally in foods like soy sauce, balsamic vinegar, red wine, tomatoes, black olives, and aged cheeses. Find the step-by-step at TodaysWomanNow.com. (Created by Madeleine Dee, TheSeasonedCynic.com)
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Contributing editor Lucy Pritchett is not known for her cooking skills. This was evidenced on Easter when she decided to treat herself to a bit of steak. When she plopped the meat into her cast iron skillet it immediately started smoking and set off the smoke alarm which is connected to her security system. The system dispatcher attempted to call, but Lucy couldn’t hear her phone as she was trying to open windows and get the smoke alarm turned off. That’s when the fire truck showed up. Fortunately, there was no flame, just smoke which was cleared with the help of the fire department’s powerful fan. At least her chocolate Easter eggs didn’t melt.
l 8-9. “When I retired (from her full-time job) I became a master gardener. We live in Crescent Hill on a one-acre lot — unusual for being in the city — so we could have a big yard with gardens.” Noel Ruff, who retired from local government, works part-time at Just Creations store (currently shut down). She is at home with husband Art Williams, Scout, the neurotic old hound dog, and Tuna the cat. Her garden was to be on the Crescent Hill Garden Tour, though canceled this year, is planned for June 5, 2021.
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RECREATING FAMOUS ARTWORK If you aren’t following the #MetTwinning action of setting up a scene to mimic famous artwork, then you are missing out. If you try one yourself make sure you share with us @TodaysWomanNow.
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Teachers are bringing their top game and trying all kinds of methods of engaging their students for this last month of online instruction. One theater teacher appears in costume for her daily classes. Share some of your teacher wins with us on Facebook or Instagram @TodaysWomanNow.
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21. “Currently we are doing Shakespeare so they have to film a Shakespeare monologue. I told them they could do it like a TikToc if they want to. Dramatic Criticism is working on a parody of Alice in Wonderland called Alice in Quarantine for an online Theatre festival.” says Carrie Bellew.
One of our favorite local women, Carrie Cooke Ketterman, along with her husband Jeff are creating stories on video directly from their local home. The two have multiple businesses and multiple talents: they are the actors and singers in the videos as well as doing the vocal recording, costuming, filming, and editing.
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Are the flowers planted at Churchill Downs? Today’s Woman stopped by the greenhouse in late April to find that the horticulture team is growing some beautiful plants and the greenhouse is busting at the seams. According to Matt Bizzell, director of horticulture at Churchill Down, the planting started a little later because it was possible this year since the delay of Derby and Spring Meet. Never fear the plants will be beautifying the Churchill Downs property, waiting for us, the track lovers to return.
“We’ve been doing music videos featuring songs we sing in our 1950s band “Rosie & the Rockabillies” and our 1920s band “Tin Pan Alley Cats”. We’ve also been using our costumes to do singalongs and story times like we would normally do at The Old Capitol Tea Room.” Find them at ourtechnicolorlife.com. Carrie has also been drawing tutorials for kids in coordination with Arts Alliance of Southern Indiana (sointoart.org ).
+ OTHER KID STUFF 26. S chedule a virtual Art and Storytime Playdate for your child and up to 10 friends with a Carnegie Center educator! Best for ages 4-6. carnegiecenter.org/events/virtual-art-playdates 27. Or go and follow a tutorial at Speed Art Museum’s Art Sparks. speedmuseum.org/speed-online/
28. FOLLOW LIFT UP LOU ON FACEBOOK: If you do nothing else, listen to the Lift Up Louisville song, a collaborative effort with many local notable musicians. The site was created to provide the community with activities and resources to boost spirits. Original content related to mindfulness, health and fitness, education and the arts provided daily at 9am, 11am, 3pm, 7pm.
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MAY 2020
Like Mother, Like Daughter
THE MOTHER-DAUGHTER BOND
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Madison Durr and her husband, Dalton, live in Versailles, Kentucky, on a thoroughbred farm, which gives their almost 2-year-old daughter, Sadie Jane, lots of space to run around. “We have plenty of places to roam and explore,” Madison says, adding that there are horses literally in her front yard. Seeing the world through a young child’s eyes is like seeing it for yourself for the first time, and it does feel magical. “Sadie has made my life so much more fun! Watching her learn and grow every day is, by far, my favorite thing I’ve ever done,” Madison says.
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Kaneisha Hoosier-Gravell (left) and her sister Keyasia (not pictured) share a love of cooking with their mother Cynthia (right) that goes beyond just the stove or oven. Their creativity comes in not only the preparation of the food but the decorating and display of the food on the table.
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Cynthia Hoosier has had a life full of unique experiences. She worked as a model for many years, which allowed her to travel and work for some of the top European fashion designers. A love of travel deepened into an over-three-decade career as a flight attendant for American Airlines. She is also a published author of two books. With all this on her resume and under her belt, she might be an intimidating presence to her two daughters, Kaneisha Hoosier-Gravelle and Keyasia Hoosier. However, they have only ever seen their mother as an inspiration. “I just wanted to be like her,” Kaneisha says. That feeling of pride goes both ways. “As a mother, I am so proud to witness the perseverance of each of my daughters as they continue to grow as young women. My heart is filled with so much pride,” Cynthia says.
THE MOTHER-DAUGHTER BOND MOTHER-DAUGHTER 3THE WORK PARTNERSHIP
Working together, for some families, could jeopardize their close relationships, but Amanda says she and her mom are committed to keeping work at work. “If [working together] starts to impair our relationship as mother and daughter, we’re not willing to sacrifice that,” Amanda says.
Jean Schumm, the president and founder of Operation Parent, is the mother of five children and has the opportunity to work with her daughter, Amanda Gale, who is the director of community partnerships at the nonprofit. Jean founded the organization 14 years ago to support parents as they navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of raising children, especially pre-teens and teenagers. She and her husband faced their own parenting challenges.“The kids we were struggling with? One of them was Amanda,” she says with a laugh. About three years ago, Jean asked Amanda to join the organization. “I had seen so many miracles at work, and I wanted her to see them,” Jean says. Since joining Operation Parent, Amanda has brought her marketing skills and social media finesse to the office, which is very different from how Jean operates. While Amanda is paperless and likes to work from home, Jean carries a pen and notepad and likes to meet face-to-face with others. “These differences between us have shown us how our organization has to change to connect to today’s young parents,” Jean says.
3“MODEL” DAUGHTERS AND THEIR MOM When Denise Richardson thinks about what she wants for her daughters Chelsea and Kenedraa, she says, “I want them to make something of their lives that I wasn’t able to accomplish.” Denise says she had a child at a young age and lost her own mother soon after, which forced her to forge her own path. She is proud of what her daughters have accomplished in their young lives. Chelsea is a student at the University of Louisville and an Army reservist, while Kenedraa attends Jefferson Community and Technical College and models in magazines and fashion shows. We photographed Denise and her daughter Kenedraa Richardson last year at Churchill Downs. Although Denise faced challenges as a young mother, her daughters understand how difficult that experience was for her. “We admire our mom’s strength; she always made sure we had the things we needed to succeed,” they say. For her part, Denise admires her girls’ determination to get through college and accomplish the goals they set for themselves.
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THE BASICS OF CARING FOR YOUR KIDS’ TEETH
Jenna Schulten, DMD, and owner of Dupont Pediatric Dentistry, teaches children how to brush.
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eing proactive about your child’s dental hygiene at an early age is the key to preventing cavities, says Jenna Schulten, DMD and owner of Dupont Pediatric Dentistry. Based on guidelines from The American Academy of Pediatrics, children should start going to the dentist after their first birthday or first tooth eruption. Afterward, a child should visit the dentist every six months. “We’ve had parents who bring their kids in for their first dental check-up at age 5 or 6. When we take X-rays of their teeth, we find a lot of decay and the parents are shocked,” she says. Dr. Schulten also says parents should limit their child’s snacking to protect their teeth. “Now that everyone is home, it is important to watch for frequent snacking because it can keep food on the teeth longer and makes your child’s caries risk high.” Dr. Schulten gives all patients a caries risk assessment which determines their likelihood for developing cavities. In between dental visits, she suggests using fluoridated toothpaste. “You don’t need to use a lot of toothpaste. Children between the ages of 1 and 2 need a rice-sized amount of toothpaste, and children between the ages of 2 and 5 only need a peasized amount,” she says. When selecting a toothbrush for your child, Dr. Schulten suggests choosing whatever works best for your child — whether it is a mechanical or manual toothbrush. “For younger kids, the head of the toothbrush needs to be smaller to fit in the back of the mouth. You should always use soft bristles to protect the gums.” Do not use mouthwash until your child learns how to spit. 3934 Dutchmans Lane | Louisville, KY 40207 502.897.0625 | dupontpediatricdentistry-louisville.com
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INSPIRING BOOKS
IMPORTANT HISTORICAL TOPICS Marie Bradby, a former full-time journalist, began writing for children after becoming pregnant with her son. “One day I went shopping for books for him before he was born,” she says, “I couldn’t find any books that featured children of color in characters or illustrations.” At this point, Marie decided she would write those books herself. Marie says diversity
in childrens’ books “builds empathy, keeps stereotypes from being perpetuated, and exposes children to new and exciting voices.”
Marie is an historical fiction writer, covering the 1800s through the 1960s, from times of slavery through the beginning of integration. Throughout her storytelling, she covers a number of heavy issues, although she notes that she uses her characters and their predicaments to keep things light. “There’s a funny side to almost anything,” she says. Marie has received multiple awards and honors for the following titles, More Than Anything Else; The Longest Wait; Momma, Where Are You From?; Once Upon a Farm; and Some Friend.
“There’s a funny side to almost anything.” — Marie Bradby, author
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After Marie’s experience with a girls’ book club at a local elementary school, and learning they were anxious for a follow up to Some Friend, she has been hard at work on its sequel, Some Trip.
“I’ve always tried to answer important questions as they relate to children and to address them in an entertaining and informative way that looks at the present and the past.”
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DIVERSE POSITIVE CHARACTERS WISHES AND CHARITY Meet Jane Brown, a first time author, who is using her own personal inspiration to inspire children. Jane, a Louisville resident, was visiting family in England when she received the news that she was becoming a grandmother. That very evening, Jane saw from her window a rabbit in the bright light of a full moon. That sight, she says, is what gave her the idea for her debut work, My Moon Wish. Focusing on the power of children’s wishes, Jane
has partnered with the Make-a-Wish foundation, where all proceeds from My Moon Wish are donated to her local chapter of Kentucky, Ohio, and Indiana. Both author and illustrator, Jane, a long-time artist who had primarily worked with colored pencil and ink, used My Moon Wish as a way to expand her artistic technique. In order to attain the more vibrant colors she desired for this book, Jane shares that she taught herself to use Procreate, a digital illustration application on her iPad, for the imagery. “The whole idea of this first book was to give money to a charity,” Jane says. ”Make-a-Wish fit so well. Why not go to the moon to wish?” My Moon Wish is dedicated to her first grandson, Ollie. Jane is currently in the plan-
ning stages for a second book, to be dedicated to her second grandson, George, and hopes to find an equally fitting charity to partner with in the future.
“The major part of the book, and Make-a-Wish, has become about taking it into classrooms and teaching children about the power of a wish.” Jane says. “ It is more about philanthropy and giving back.”
Tiffany Robinson is using her background in and passion for public health issues to create stories for children, representing families of African descent. A five-time published author, Tiffany has written books for young children focusing on a variety of everyday issues that can affect all families including how to get along with others, understanding those who are differently-abled, various family interactions, and introducing a new baby to the family.
“I think it’s important for all kids to see diverse characters and African American families who are positive and living average lives based in present times,” Tiffany says. “That is really important to me.” Tiffany is in the final stages of her next book, which will center on a mother who has been deployed, leaving a baby at home. Tiffany herself is a military veteran, deployed for several months while her first son was very young. Inspired by her own experiences, she wants to tell a story from the perspective of a mother who is away and the emotional impact that can have on a family, while still keeping the story on a level that is relatable to children.
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INSPIRING BOOKS BY LOCAL AUTHORS EVERYDAY HEROES Tytianna Nikia Maria Wells, CEO and founder of Honey Tree Publishing, has self published seven books since its creation in 2013. Prompted by a desire for more freedom and control over her work, Honey Tree was formed. “I have such a strong love and appreciation and respect for stories,” Tytianna says. “I’ve always been intrigued by stories.” Coming from a family of artists and storytellers, she adds, “Storytelling has always been very important in my life growing up.” Tytianna’s first book, Sweet Pea & Sugar Tea’s Country Family Adventures, turned into a four volume series that she both authored and illustrated. Targeted toward early readers and up, Tytianna notes that “early exposure is important.”
With empowering stories of everyday heroes, she writes with a focus on family, identity, history, and community. She used this series to touch on a number of issues including black history, homelessness, adoption, anti-bullying, forgiveness, and hope.
All of Tytianna’s work includes an interactive component. For example, The Bridge Kids: An African Heritage Family Activity Book follows six characters’ daily lives taking place in three cities around the world, including Louisville. With coloring pages, stories, puzzles, and more, she has found a way to engage young readers while they learn about different cultures.
Tytianna has also written for more mature readers, including a book of poems entitled The Healing Tree and the award-winning When Hip Hop Met Poetry: An Urban Love Story. “I learned at a young age to appreciate the power of storytelling, and the power of words,” Tytianna says, “because words are powerful.”
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HUMOR AND HEART Amanda Driscoll is a Louisville native and longtime artist. After becoming a mom, she transitioned from her background and education as an artist and graphic designer, into a successful author and illustrator of children’s picture books. “Picture books are such an important part of the reading process,” Amanda says. “To me,
picture books are where the love of reading really begins.”
Currently working on her fourth book, Little Grump Truck, to be released in 2021, Amanda has also written Duncan the Story Dragon, Wally Does Not Want a Haircut, and Klondike, Do Not Eat Those Cupcakes! When asked which of these books has been her favorite, she says, “That would be like picking a favorite child!” Excited to be writing her first female character in the upcoming Little Grump Truck, Amanda says she tries to keep the themes and emotional impact of her stories universal for all children. “I like the characters to show a range of emotions,” she says. “To have humor and heart. I want to make kids laugh
but also want them to have a solid takeaway from the book.”
WHAT SHOULD A CAREGIVER BE DOING? By Carrie Vittitoe
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he decision to hire a caregiver for a loved one might come after long, slow deliberation, or it may need to happen quickly if a loved one experiences an unexpected hospitalization. Either way, families must consider a number of issues to make the best, most informed decisions for their loved ones.
DECIDE WHAT CAREGIVING LOOKS LIKE FOR YOUR SITUATION
EXPECT AN ASSESSMENT AND A CARE PLAN Most reputable home health companies will perform an assessment of the patient to determine what needs he or she has and then provide a care plan that details what caregiving will specifically look like. “Having some sort of a written contract is a good idea,” Elisabeth says. “It eliminates possible confusion. When a caregiver is supported and knows what their expectations are, they provide the best level of care.” A care plan not only protects the client, ensuring that caregiving requirements are spelled out, it also protects the caregiver from being tasked with services that are beyond his or her scope.
CARE PLANS CAN CHANGE Elisabeth says it is common for care plans to change. Sometimes this happens because a loved one isn’t keen on bringing a caregiver into the home so the family opts for care to be minimal at first. It often happens that once a caregiver develops a relationship with the client and provides care, the loved one realizes how beneficial it is, which means the care plan is expanded to include other duties. “I think you May 2020 / TodaysWomanNow.com
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Families that are considering hiring a caregiver should ask what the caregivers cannot do or are not allowed to do. “We explain to our caregivers that we do not want them to do anything that is out of their skills of practice,” Elisabeth says. A caregiver who doesn’t feel comfortable transferring a patient from bed to wheelchair, for example, shouldn’t do it, HAVE AN IDEA OF both for their own safety and the client’s. WHAT SPECIFIC When it comes to money and medicine, NEEDS YOUR LOVED some companies have specific rules. “We ONE HAS PRIOR TO don’t allow our caregivers to assist with writing checks or finances. Our caregivers YOUR CAREGIVER are not allowed to fill medication planners,” SEARCH. Elisabeth says.
Caregiving is a huge umbrella term that means different things to different people. Elisabeth Knight, clinical manager at Caring Excellence At Home, says, “What we normally recommend is asking what caregiving looks like, due to the fact that there is such a wide range of services and needs that can be provided.” For some people, caregiving is mostly companionship, while for others, caregiving means helping manage a health issue such as diabetes or stoma care. It is important for families to have an idea of what needs they think their loved one has prior to contacting a company or home health care agency.
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can almost guarantee that if somebody has had a trip to the hospital, they’re going to need an updated care plan when they get home,” she says.
WHETHER TO HIRE AN INDIVIDUAL OR A COMPANY Some families may opt to hire a company that provides caregiving, while other families may use an individual who is not affiliated with an agency. While hiring an individual might be less expensive than hiring a company, working with a caregiving company means the caregiver will be overseen by someone besides the family, which could be reassuring and worth the extra cost. Families that hire individuals need to ask questions about liability protection and insurance to ensure their assets are protected should an accident occur. No matter what type of caregiver a family hires, Elisabeth urges them to get references.
CAREGIVING CHARACTER VERSUS EXPERIENCE “Oftentimes, people look at somebody who has five years, 10 years of experience as a caregiver and think that automatically means they are a good fit for their family member. In our opinion, hiring for character and somebody who enjoys helping others is something that is much more important,” Elisabeth says. Just because a caregiver only has a year of professional experience may not mean much in terms of the quality of care they provide. Sometimes the best caregivers are the ones who have provided care to their own family members. “I can train somebody how to do the work, but I can’t train somebody to have a heart to do this work,” she says.
Questions to Ask A Potential Caregiver Debbie Tuggle, a retired clinical nurse specialist who has been a caregiver for various family members, offers some questions she recommends that families ask if they opt to hire a caregiver privately. Are you willing and able to transport my loved one? Make sure to verify that they have a valid driver’s license and insurance and check for any DUIs. Are you willing and able to do personal care? Some caregivers may be comfortable with bathing and dressing but cannot handle toileting. Are you willing to provide nutrition? Is the caregiver going to cook for and feed your loved one? Are you willing and able to provide exercise safely? A bedbound loved one still needs range-of-motion exercises.
“Hiring for character and somebody who enjoys helping others is something that is much more important” than years of caregiving experience. Elisabeth Knight, clinical manager, Caring Excellence At Home
If there are pets, are you willing to care for them? Debbie says it is important to ask specific questions about a caregiver’s training, such as where he or she received training and asking to see the certificates themselves. However, she also advises families to be fully aware and appreciative of the professional skills of the person they hire. “If you’ve requested a nurse, don’t expect them to do laundry and dishes,” she says. Finally, Debbie says families should be “firm but kind” and avoid becoming chummy with a caregiver. The relationship between the employer and the employee should always remain professional to protect everyone.
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Approaching her job with energy and enthusiasm By Carrie Vittitoe, Photo (at right) by Melissa Donald
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What do you do as a caregiver? My job is to come to work to love on and support my residents by giving them the best possible care I can. I enjoy making them smile and laugh, but on a hard day, I’m a listening ear and a hug if needed. I’m checking up on them. If needed I’m giving showers, I’m doing laundry, or I’m helping get them to bed since I work second-shift. It is individual based on each resident and their level of care. What traits do caregivers need to have? I’m very much a people person. I think if you are a “sit-behind-the-desk” person, this is not the job for you. It’s a busy job, and there’s a lot of work involved. There are multiple tasks you have to complete during your shift. You have to have compassion and patience. I’m very energetic, and I’m constantly on the move with this job. You have to be very loving as well. Caregiving is never just an 8-hour shift. How do you support residents and their families? Being the consistent person for your residents is a good thing because it builds trust. I’m a consistent face and
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lthough Nikki Merrifield’s professional background is in early childhood education, she brings her skillset to her role as a care manager at Anthology of Louisville. Her enthusiasm, energy, and patience served her well when she worked with small children in the past, and these traits continue to serve her with assisted living residents. “I love the very young and the very old,” she says.
Nikki works second shift as a care manager at Anthology of Louisville.
person they see. I’m a listening ear [for families]. Sometimes supporting a family can include being a comfort at the end-of-life stage, even attending a visitation or a funeral. What are some challenges of being a caregiver? Sometimes it is hard to figure out what a resident is communicating, especially if they are frustrated. You have to be a listening ear and have time. You have to sit down and take the time to listen. Because you’ve built relationships, end of life is a hard thing to deal with when you have to let them go. How do you care for yourself to ensure you’re a good caregiver to others? I’m a night owl; I’m not a morning person.
I enjoy sleeping and spending time with friends. Everyone at work knows I’m a beach person, and that’s my relaxation. When I’m going on vacation, I’m going to the beach. The beach refreshes me and allows me to come back as an all-new person. It gives me the rest I need.
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502.493.6919
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“WHEN YOU’RE A CAREGIVER, YOUR HEART HAS TO BE IN IT. WHEN YOU’RE THERE FOR THEM AND YOU CARE ABOUT THEM, EVERYTHING YOU DO HELPS MAKE THEIR LIFE BETTER. YOU’RE THERE TO GIVE THEM THE BEST QUALITY OF LIFE.” — NIKKI MERRIFIELD
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[ caregiver guide ] PAM MEREDITH | COMFORCARE HOME CARE
Caring for others since she was a teen By Carrie Vittitoe, Photo by Melissa Donald
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hile not everyone who goes into the caregiving profession has a lifetime of experience, many caregivers do. Pam Meredith, who has been providing personal care as a staff member of ComForCare Home Care since they first opened over six years ago, dates her caregiving experience back to when she was a teenage candy striper at Norton Audubon Hospital. Her three decades of experience, which includes working in skilled care and intensive care cardiac units, gives her the knowledge to know she can handle anything that comes up. What are your responsibilities as a caregiver? We develop a care plan at the outset based upon the family’s needs or wants for their loved one. This can include, but is not limited to, bathing, assisting in getting dressed, meal preparations, medication reminders, and even taking [clients] to doctor appointments.
“MANY TIMES, WE ARE VIEWED AS AN EXTENSION OF IMMEDIATE FAMILY. OFTEN, OUR ELDERLY MAY NOT HAVE ANYONE VISIT, AND WE BECOME THE CLOSEST THING TO FAMILY. THEY MAY CONSIDER US THEIR DAUGHTER OR GRANDDAUGHTER.” — PAM MEREDITH
What traits should a caregiver possess? A good caregiver should have compassion, patience, and a loving heart. What are some of the challenges of being a caregiver? Some of the biggest challenges come about when providing care to someone who is in the dementia journey. So often, someone with this diagnosis will be confused, frustrated, and combative. It is important to be patient and loving and recognize the full range of emotions can be displayed but not when you may expect. What steps do you take to ensure you have the energy and motivation to be a caregiver for others? It is most important to get a good night’s sleep. Be careful not to take personal matters to work and, in reverse, make sure not to take your work concerns home with you. Love yourself, and do your very best!
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“I pray that somebody will take the time and amount of effort I take with my clients and do the same for me,” says Pam Meredith.
308 Evergreen Rd, Suite 140 Louisville, KY
502.254.0850
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[ caregiver guide ] ANN DREISBACH | NAZARETH HOME
Meeting elders right where they are By Carrie Vittitoe, Photo by Melissa Donald
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t Nazareth Home, Ann Dreisbach brings her social work background to her role as program director of Charity Court, the 48-room memory care neighborhood. She strives to ensure the safety and emotional well-being of the elders for whom she cares while also keeping herself abreast of the continuously changing field of dementia care.
“When the families are comfortable, and they know their loved ones are well cared for, the process works best for everybody. It’s easier for staff when the families are comfortable; it’s easier for the elders when families are comfortable,” Ann Dreisbach says.
What do you do as a caregiver? As caregivers in memory care, we do a lot of one-on-one behavior management and intervention. We are a secured neighborhood so some of our elders are, at times, exit-seeking. [I offer] continuous reassurance for anybody who is going through exit-seeking. A lot of times, we can go into the room and turn on music, dim the lights, or do reminiscing therapy that can help someone who is having “YOU CAN’T an agitated day. I [also] do a HELP BUT TAKE lot of memory care education YOUR JOB HOME with the staff. WITH YOU. THESE ARE PEOPLE’S What traits do caregivers LIVES, AND YOU need to have? Our caregivers need the DO BECOME knowledge of dementia care EXTREMELY and the willingness to continue ATTACHED.” to learn. [They need the] ability — ANN DREISBACH to be flexible because each of our ladies is at a different place in their disease progress, and we need to meet each one of them where they are. We need the flexibility of knowing that what works for one does not work for another; what works today for one may not work tomorrow. How do you support residents and their families? The most important thing that I can do for them is actively listen. For a lot of families, this is the first time they’ve had a loved one in a nursing facility or a loved one with any kind of memory impairment. There’s a lot of grief. Hearing and validating that grief is super important. This disease is so unknown on a daily basis that I want families to always know what to expect. How do you care for yourself? I’ve been in long-term care for 20 years now, and it’s still a passion, but it’s because I have made myself a priority so that I can continue to make this job in this field a priority. [I do] lots of walking. If I can get home, get my shoes on, and go for a walk, whether it be alone with my music or with one of my kids or the dog, that’s my go-to for exercise. If I can get out and get the physical exercise of a walk, it also helps to clear my mind a little bit. My boys are very into sports, and it helps to encourage socialization, which I enjoy and is very needed. PROMOTION
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Personal Care Directory Personal Care offers residents minimal assistance for bathing, grooming, toileting, and dressing. The resident must be able to move around (even if in a wheelchair or scooter). Some health care is provided and medications are given. These facilities are licensed.
WAYS TO MAKE CAREGIVING EASIER ON YOU Besides this drastic move, there are ways to make life easier.
Anthology of Louisville
1105 Dorsey Ln, Louisville, KY 40223
(502) 966-7077 • anthologyseniorliving.com Number of beds: 53 Cost per day: starts at $167 Special services: Located at the corner of Hurstbourne and Dorsey lanes, Stonecrest of Louisville offers a caring and compassionate staff 24 hours a day. We can provide a spectrum of services tailored for each resident. Our team members are selected for their knowledge and abilities, but also the way they value and honor residents. Owner: Anthology Senior Living Payment Accepted: private, private ins., LTCi, VA
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aring for your loved one can be a rewarding, yet difficult experience. You show love and compassion by making your loved one’s everyday life easier. You selflessly take care of their day-to-day needs, and your giving heart puts a smile on their face. But, we all know pouring from an empty cup is not productive. We recently set out to discover ways to make the caregiving experience easier and less complicated for you. We spoke with a few experts and gathered useful tips to help more efficiently navigate the world of caregiving.
TAKE AWAY THE MEAL PREP
The Forum at Brookside
200 Brookside Dr, Louisville, KY 40243 Louisville, KY 40243 (502) 245-3048 • theforumatbrookside.com
Number of beds: 24 Cost per day: studio $155, Alcove $193, 1 BR $231 Special services: Heartfelt care and skilled staff provide personal care for your loved one’s comfort, quality, and engaged lifestyle. Beautiful campus conveniently located in eastern Jefferson County. Owner: Five Star Senior Living, Inc. Payment Accepted: private, private ins., LTCi
Marian Gosling, coordinator of home delivered meals at Senior Care Experts (SCE), gave us all the details on its convenient meal delivery service that can certainly make your caregiving experience easier. SCE offers a seamless meal delivery program that is cost-efficient and delicious. For a $7/meal fee, meals are prepared by the experienced chefs on the Masonic Homes campus and are then delivered to your loved one’s doorstep. Menus are overseen by a dietician and include a wide variety of options. Since delivery is limited to weekdays only, your loved one can receive frozen meals on Fridays so that they have access to healthy, delicious meals over the weekend. Wondering how to sign up for this service? It’s easy. You’ll submit a short packet that covers your loved one’s food allergies, emergency contacts, pay a $100 deposit, and submit payment information. Meals are delivered between 10am and 12:30pm, and can be left in a cooler or on the doorstep if no one is home at the time of delivery.
PLAY SOME GAMES
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Yahtzee, Uno, Memory Game, a deck of cards, and a children’s coloring book — these are all great items to keep in your arsenal of games and activities to play with your loved one. “Live in their world. Don’t make them live in yours,” said Cindy Caple, who was the primary caregiver for her mother. Cindy stressed the importance of playing games their way and letting them make the rules. “If she didn’t do it correctly, that’s OK. We always let her win,” she says. Cindy’s mom enjoyed activities like sorting a deck of cards by face and painting children’s coloring book pages. “Just a few days before she passed, she
Personal Care Directory Glen Ridge Health Campus
6415 Calm River Way, Louisville, KY 40299 (502) 297-8590 • glenridgehc.com
Number of units: 26 Cost per month: $3,145-$3,700 Special services: Compassionate, tenured staff; licensed RNs 24/7; chef-prepared meals; activities designed to nourish the mind, body and spirit; gated courtyard; salon; skilled nursing, short-term care, therapy services on-site. Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private
The Grand Senior Living
9300 Civic Way, Prospect, KY 40059 was playing my grandkids’ Memory Game,” Cindy says. Cindy also discovered a website specifically geared toward activities that help to engage people, even those with some dementia. Jigsaw puzzles, matching games, word games, and other activities can be found at keepingbusy.com.
BUY ADAPTIVE EQUIPMENT Dan Heins, director of IT at Humana Inc. and chairman of the board at Parkinson Support Center of Kentuckiana, says a combination wheelchair and transport chair provides convenience for a caregiver whose loved one has mobility issues. “It’s a regular wheelchair that can be converted to a transport chair with big wheels that can be easily removed. The lighter weight transport chair is so much easier to store in the back of your vehicle, and it’s sturdy enough to handle most patients.” A lightweight transport chair can be purchased through Amazon. If your loved one is suffering from severe arthritis in the knees and hips and standing up from a seated position has become virtually impossible, consider a lift chair. A lift chair is a basic recliner that uses machine power to raise the seat to an upright position, assisting in the painful, unsteady dance of upright mobility. For medical necessities, lift chairs are sometimes covered by Medicare, so check with your physician to see if your loved one qualifies. Lift chairs are also available for rental if the condition is temporary. Locally, chairs can be rented at Gould’s Discount Medical. Kayla Cook, RN, owner of Caring Excellence Personalized Home Care, says caregivers can use a cloth gait belt to help an older loved one out of bed. She says, “The caregiver stands in front of their loved one with legs in a wide stance, knees bent and back straight to prevent caregiver injury. The gait belt is very helpful and prevents painful pulling on loved ones’ arms and skin tears.” She recommends, though, that a loved one sit for 3-5 minutes at the side of the bed before standing up to normalize blood pressure and prevent dizziness. Non-skid slippers or shoes are a must.
ASK FOR HELP Caregivers can order groceries for their loved one to be picked up or delivered to the home. Lynn Welch, director of business development for Home Instead Senior Care, says respite care is another option caregivers can use to alleviate stress — whether they are using a home health agency or requesting help from friends and family. “Take a break for a day or even a week of vacation and while you’re away, stay away. Talk about different things, read a book, take naps, whatever relaxes you and makes you happy. Do things that make you feel good so that you can provide great care for your loved one,” she says.
(502) 310-1542 • thegrand-sl.com
Number of units: 62 Cost per month: efficiency $4,350; 1 BR $5,950; 2 BR $6,800 Transportation available: yes Special services: Weekly housekeeping, laundry service, 24/7 staff on site, activity program, fitness center, 3 meals daily, assistance with medications and care services, Signature Passion Program Owner: Management, Civitas Senior Living Payment Accepted: private, LTCi, VA
Westport Place Health Campus 4247 Westport Rd, Louisville, KY 40207 (502) 893-3033 • westportplacehc.com
Number of beds: 26 Cost per month: $3,574-$4,366 Special services: Compassionate, tenured staff; licensed RNs 24/7; chef-prepared meals; activities designed to nourish the mind, body and spirit; gated courtyard; salon; skilled nursing, short-term care, therapy services on-site. Owner: Trilogy Health Services, LLC Payment Accepted: private
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[ caregiver guide ] PATRICIA HARRISON | SYMPHONY AT VALLEY FARMS
Caring for her family and others By Carrie Vittitoe, Photo by Melissa Donald
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any people who become caregivers professionally do so because they have been caregivers personally for their own loved ones. This is the case for Patricia Harrison, a caregiver at Symphony at Valley Farms, who not only took care of her grandmother who had dementia but now cares for her mother. The love and care she brings to her family members at home is the same love and care she brings to the Alzheimer’s and dementia residents in the memory care wing at work. What is your caregiving role? I take care of Alzheimer’s and dementia residents. I assist them with everything, their dressing, their hair care, their nail care. I’m a lead resident assistant (RA) who trains new RAs. I’ve been doing this for eight years since the building went up. It’s a blessing to take care of these residents. We have fun with them. We have a human-size Connect 4 game we play; they see me enjoying it, and they jump right in. We laugh and have a good time together. “IT’S NOT JUST A JOB TO US. WE’RE LIKE A BIG FAMILY. I WANT PEOPLE TO BE AT EASE WHEN THEY PUT THEIR LOVED ONES IN ASSISTED LIVING.” — PATRICIA HARRISON
How does a person be an effective caregiver? A caregiver has to have a heart, and you have to have patience. You have to be able to understand [residents] by developing a relationship with them. It’s not just a job; it has to be like a family. You can’t get in this position just for a paycheck; it’s not about a paycheck, it’s about loving. You have to connect with the residents. How do you support residents and their families? I make the residents feel comfortable and let them know I’m here for them. I have to make them feel that this is their home just like the home they came from. I have to let them be able to trust me. I have to let their families know I will do the best I can do. I try to meet every family’s needs. If I see things they do with their loved one, I try to do it as well. I’ve got their back. How do you keep your spirits up and engage in self-care in order to continue to care for others? I’m very, very involved in church activities. I direct a choir, and when I come to work I sing a lot. That’s how I lift my spirits. Those things will lift other people’s spirits up. They know me as ‘the singing bird.’ To ease myself, I stay ‘churched up.’ I love doing hair and cleaning. Cleaning calms me down a lot. My kids don’t like it. (laughs)
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“For someone to trust you with their mother or their father, it’s awesome,” says Patricia Harrison.
10201 Valley Farms Blvd Louisville, KY
502.937.3028
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[ caregiver guide ] JENNIE HILL | TWINBROOK ASSISTED LIVING
Greeting everyone with a smile By Carrie Vittitoe, Photo by Melissa Donald
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ennie Hill has spent much of her professional life in jobs that serve the public. She retired from the police department and then moved to long-term care for older adults. “I really do enjoy meeting people, and I love helping people,” she says. As a receptionist at Twinbrook Assisted Living, she is the face that greets residents and their families each day. In addition to handling administrative responsibilities, she serves as a caregiver to anyone who needs help in the building. What is your caregiving role? I’m a receptionist, but I assist with needs [residents] have on a daily basis, such as walking to the dining room and helping them to get seated. I help them when they’re trying to get their mail out of their mailboxes. Everybody has a key, and the box has the number of their apartment “CAREGIVERS on it. Sometimes they get the SACRIFICE TIME wrong key, or they can’t reach AND EFFORT. IT’S it. I take food trays to people A TREMENDOUS who don’t want to come EFFORT, AND down to eat lunch or dinner. YOU HAVE TO What traits should a REIGN IN YOUR caregiver have? EMOTIONS AND I think you have to be very MAINTAIN CALM.” compassionate and very, very — JENNIE HILL patient. You also have to try to understand the client and what it is they need and want. Compassion really helps a lot because they may be confused, upset, or even angry. What are the challenges of being a caregiver and how do you cope with those? The challenge is [reminding myself that] I have to be patient, and I have to show kindness because this person doesn’t understand that I have other people to wait on and help. [I have to explain that] if I don’t come exactly when you call me, I’ll be there, but you have to give me some time. There are times when you can get pretty frazzled or impatient. Sometimes I have to tell myself, “Take a deep breath.” And I do. I might walk down the hallway and regain my composure. I have to give myself a pep talk. I’m practically a senior myself so that’s why I try to be very understanding. In what ways do you support residents’ families? You have to let them know that you really care for their loved one and that you are trying to take care of their loved one’s needs. You have to really listen to them as well. They have concerns that they’re voicing. You have to do a lot of listening and reassuring them that we’re working hard to make their loved one is being taken care of. PROMOTION
“I really love my job. When you have really good bosses and really nice people that you see on a daily basis that you assist, that helps a lot,” Jennie Hill says.
3525 Ephraim McDowell Dr Louisville, KY
502.452.6330
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Calming Down:
ANXIETY IN YOUR LOVED ONE By Tonilyn Hornung
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veryone experiences a bit of anxiety. My palms get sweaty the moment I realize I have to parallel park. I’m worried I’ll misjudge the space and bump into another parked car. Wondering if I was the only person who felt these twinges of nervousness, I asked my husband what made him anxious. He said, “Your parallel parking.” According to the National Alliance on Mental Health, anxiety in small doses can help “keep us alert and cautious to avoid accidents.” It’s when this anxiety prevents us from engaging in everyday activities that a larger anxiety disorder may be the root cause. How can we gauge when anxiety might be a deeper issue for ourselves or a loved one? Dr. Christian D. Furman, medical director of the Trager Institute/Republic Bank Foundation Optimal Aging Clinic says, “Anxiety is an internal feeling, and only you can judge for yourself. It starts as a feeling of unrest and not being calm.” Dr. Furman says that if you’re able to take deep breaths through your anxiety and go about your day, your anxiety is functioning at a level that works for you. Difficulties arise when a person’s anxiety begins to interfere with their daily routine. Crippling feelings of panic and fear take over and it becomes a struggle to accomplish tasks like eating, sleeping, or going to work. These are all outward signs of an inward struggle. Along with feelings of overwhelming worry and foreboding, physical symptoms can manifest. “Chest pain, not being able to breathe, and feeling like you’re having a heart attack are all symptoms of anxiety,” Dr. Furman says. These symptoms can set the stage for a much talked about and overpowering physical expression of anxiety: The Panic Attack. “The worst symptoms of anxiety go toward panic attacks. They have
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“Meditation, yoga, and breathwork all help to alleviate a great many symptoms of anxiety disorder.” a flavor to them where the sufferer believes that there is a catastrophe that is going to occur,” says local Psychiatrist Dr. David Easley. Panic attack symptoms can include feelings of intense fear and worry accompanied by physical sensations like shortness of breath, heart palpitations, dizziness, and nausea. The good news is there are many medical and non-medical treatment options available. These run the gamut from talk therapies, to mindfulness practices, to medication. When seeking help for anxiety, “a good first step would be to talk to your primary care provider. They can offer help and also refer you to a professional,” Dr. Furman says. One professional referral might include talking to a counselor or therapist. “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a good way to explore the intensity of the emotions involved,” Dr. Easley says. CBT is an appropriate treatment for people of all ages and is a version of “talk therapy” that focuses on present-day circumstances and emotions and generally doesn’t spend a great deal of time delving
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into past events. The focus is placed on what a person is telling themselves in the current moment that might result in their anxiety. It’s proven to be helpful for many patients. Another successful treatment option is mindfulness practice. Dr. Furman says, “Meditation, yoga, and breathwork all help to alleviate a great many symptoms of anxiety disorder. All of these techniques work, and it’s really individualized.” Trained counselors are able to guide a patient through these modalities to give them a practice designed specifically for them. Dr. Easley adds, “With techniques such as meditation or exercise, these are healthy ways sufferers have learned to distract from physical symptoms like a racing heart or rapid breathing.” Medication is also a way sufferers can find relief from the exhausting cycle that anxiety creates. “Nonhabit forming medications can be prescribed by a licensed professional,” Dr. Easley says.
CAMP DIRECTORY
Assumption Enrichment and Athletic Camps Assumption High School is the place to be this summer! Campers will enjoy stimulating new experiences in a safe and caring environment. Assumption offers multiple enrichment camps in areas including drama, hand lettering, girl empowerment, art, and mythology to name a few. In addition, our top-ranked coaches will lead athletic camps in volleyball, soccer, basketball, field hockey, cross country, softball, lacrosse, cheer, and archery. There are affordable opportunities for every interest! Multiple camps are available to both girls and boys in grades K-11 beginning in early June and run throughout the summer. Camp sizes are limited and will fill up fast! Early registration is recommended. Visit ahsrockets.org for a complete list of camps, dates, times, and easy online registration. Or call 502.271.2675 for more information.
Camp J Splash into Summer Summer Camp is a transformative experience that your children will remember for the rest of their lives. Every camper will discover, grow and learn within the supportive and safe environment that Camp J provides.
Aqua-Tots Swim Lessons
Best in Class Education Center
Get your child water-safe by enrolling in swim lessons at Aqua-Tots! With small class sizes and a year-round 90-degree pool, your kids will have a SPLASH-tastic time learning life-long swimming skills. Since 1991, Aqua-Tots has been an industry leader in swimming instruction and serves our Louisville families with consistent and quality lessons. Not only will your child learn to love the water, they will leave feeling confident and accomplished after each lesson.
Learning Rocks! School’s out for the summer, but the learning doesn’t have to stop! Best in Class Education Center offers a variety of summer camp programs to engage children in learning to sharpen their academics over the summer, while having fun. No summer s-l-i-d-e here!
With classes starting as young as 4 months, AquaTots is great for children of all ages and swimming abilities. Our state-of-the-art swim schools are designed with you in mind; our goals are to keep your family safe and to ensure your family enjoys every swimming class. Call today to schedule a free trial swim lesson at 502.242.6388! To learn more, visit aqua-tots.com/ location/usa/kentucky/louisville.
Camp Palawopec A good old-fashioned fun camp in the hills of Brown County, Indiana. Activities include swimming, mountain biking, canoing, soccer, basketball, climbing, campfires every night, Indian lore, crafts, horses, archery, etc. Great summer fun in a relaxed outdoor setting.
We offer two types of summer camp experiences:
One staff for every three campers.
1. T raditional Summer Camps that include daily swimming, and a variety of special areas including sports, art, science, music, drama and much more.
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Ages: 8 – 15 years
COST:
One week session = $795 Two week session = $1495 Three week session = $2195
2. S pecialty Camps that range from cooking, sports, STEAM, theatre, dance and much more. There is something for every camper, at every age! Registration and more information can be found online at www.jcclouisvillecamp.org or by calling the camp office at 502.238.2718. 44 May 2020 / TodaysWomanNow.com Virtual JCC Bringing Community To Your Home
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Our summer program focuses on problem solving and critical thinking experiences through Math and English exercises and game play. Also enjoy various other activities from Best in Class and our partners’ programs such as: Arts & Crafts • Coding • Financial Literacy • Health & Nutrition • STEM Activities • And More MON-THU: Throughout June and July SESSION 1: 9am-1pm, $150, English, Math, & Play SESSION 2: 1:30pm-4pm, $99, Additional fun (TBD) *Combined session and full program discounts available. After-hours extension available. Boost academic skill confidence over the summer, gradually one week at a time or intensely with a full 6-week program, as is best for YOUR child! Call or text 502.874.4100 or email LouisvilleSE@BICedu.com for more information TODAY!
Derby Dinner Playhouse Performing Arts Academy - Summer Musical Theatre Camp Derby Dinner Playhouse Summer Musical Theatre Camp is a one-week performing arts camp for students ages 7 to 17 exploring drama, music, and dance. Taught by Derby Dinner theatre professionals and focusing on creative dramatics and scenes, songs, and dance from Broadway musicals, the camp culminates in a final sharing on the Playhouse stage. Five Weeks of Options Week 1: June 8-12 Week 2: July 6-11 Week 3: July 13-18 Week 4: July 20-25 Week 5: July 27-August 1
Coed sessions: May 31-June 6, June 7-13, June 28-July 4, July 5-11, July 12-18 Boys session: June 14-20, June 21-27 Girls session: July 19-25, July 26-August 1
Tuition: $175
3497 N Clay Lick Rd, Nashville, Brown County, IN, 47448 • 812.988.2689 camppalawopec.com • mail@camppalawopec.com
Limited Availability – Register today! For more information contact wallace@derbydinner.com or visit derbydinner.com/classes
Ages: 7 to 17 Time: 9am to 3pm
Weeklong Sessions, $225, June 22-26 and July 6-10 Ages 9-12 At this camp, kids run the place. Sam Swope JA BizTown is a 7,000 square foot mini metropolis where they hold jobs, receive paychecks and run their own businesses! JA BizTown is home to Kroger, UPS, Stock Yards Bank, LG&E, WDRB-TV and other regional corporations. By working in one of 16 JA BizTown shops, kids learn what it takes to run a successful business, manage a debit card and checking account, and work as a team. • Indoor academic camp • Daily lessons, hands on activities and games • Afternoon snack provided At all camps, kids will experience two complete JA Biztown simulations – with different jobs. Concepts learned and applied at camp include: Entrepreneurship, Interviewing for a Job, Business Expenses, Marketing, Customer Service, Profit and Loss, Teamwork, Personal banking, AND MUCH MORE! 1401 W. Muhammad Ali Blvd (40203) | 502.561.5437
Kentucky Science Center School’s Out Science Camps Is your child ready for a fun experience at a place they love? At Kentucky Science Center’s Schools Out Summer Camp, your child will develop skills and make friendships that will last a lifetime. Our camp encourages all campers to play, tinker, and investigate the world around them with plenty of time to explore their favorite science center. Challenge your child’s mind with a breakout style escape room and learn how the master puzzle makers develop their craft. Take a look behind the cape of a superhero or villain and the technology they created to enhance their powers. Or come back to camp for favorites like LEGO robotics, Potter’s Potions, and Exploding Science! All camps are hands-on, interactive, and engaging – the best way to combat summer slide and keep your kids ready to learn all year long. Do Science with us! Week-long camps for ages 4-14 begin June 1 and continue through August 7. Prices range from $250-$280. Call 502.561.6100 or visit kysci.org/camp to register.
Oldham County Schools Arts Center Summer Camps in Theatre, Visual Arts, Music and Dance New camps every week! June 8 – July 31 Are you hoping to improve your acting, auditioning, or musical theatre skills? Would you like to dance to tunes from the NEW Frozen movie or go on a Scooby-Doo mystery adventure? Do you prefer to explore painting, mixed media or clay sculpting? Dream of playing in a Rock Band or learning a new instrument? Summer is a great time to try something new, improve a skill and have a fun time with some newly made friends! You can do it all with over 40 camps for ages 4 -18! Most camps are half-day which can be combined to create a full day camp experience. Ballet/Tap classes and private music/voice lessons are also available. Please call the Arts Center at 502.241.6018 for more information or visit www.ocsartscenter.org for a complete listing of camps and to register online.
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YMCA – Camp Piomingo
YMCA - Summer Day Camp
We are in our 8th year of camp and are excited to focus on five more unique artists to our summer camp this year. Along with our camp favorites, we have added some new camp themes and five new artists!
YMCA Camp Piomingo is the region’s premiere overnight camp for kids ages 6-16. Campers share outdoor adventures and experience fun activities like high ropes, the zip line, horseback riding and swimming in our awesome aquatics center. Our experienced and high-energy staff help campers gain self-esteem, make new friends and develop interpersonal and leadership skills.
Your child can enjoy a happy summer that lives forever! At the Y, campers will discover a sense of accomplishment and belonging, while staying active and engaged. One week or the whole summer, your child will build confidence and friendships in an enriching environment.
2020 Art Camp Themes: • Dots & Dots & Dots & Dots • Messy Slimy • Alice in Fairyland • Animals & Shadows • By the Sea
• Flowers & Bugs • Monsters! Ah! • Pixar & Disney • Marvel & D.C. • Harry Potter
Your child will grow on the inside …. by being outside.
Multiple camp themes offered every week through summer. WHEN: Starts May 25th AGES: Age groups 4-6, 7-9 and 10-12. COST: Starts at $95
We offer a variety of overnight and equestrian camps from June 7 – August 1. Nestled in the beautiful woods of the Otter Creek Outdoor Recreational area just 45 minutes south of Louisville, a week at YMCA Camp Piomingo will create memories that will last a lifetime.
All Day options and One Day camp options available. Discounts for siblings and all day camping. Space is limited. Register early!
Visit us online at ymcacamppiomingo.org or call us at 502.942.2616. Reserve you bunk today risk-free. Delays or cancellations will be fully credited.
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The Y is for everyone. Financial assistance is available.
Choose from over 30 locations in Jefferson, Bullitt, Clark, Floyd and Oldham counties. We offer a full day of exciting activities for ages 3-15 including field trips, swimming, sports, games and plenty of fun. Staff focus on safety and helping children thrive, while modeling our core values of caring, honesty, respect and responsibility. Register online at ymcalouisville.org. Sign-up today risk-free. Delays or cancellations will be fully credited. The Y is for everyone. Financial assistance is available.
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