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When you’re 25 and your life is at a crossroad by Felicia Vigliotti
Feeling lost and accepting it. A circumstance that many young people in the world face and that can even help them find themselves.
Since I was born in the early nineties, I do be-
long to the category “Millennials”. Millennials should be the productive generation, the one who grows, travels and has fun. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Indeed, many of my peers and I might experience anxiety about failure, disappointment about unfinished work and a sense of emptiness that was never known before. The period between the ages of 25 and 35 is the hardest for many people, as they are feeling what has been defined as the quarter-life crisis. That is the time when you feel lonely, lost and quite often unmotivated. This happens because rather than finding your place in the world, you are trapped in that phase of transition between being autonomous and being family dependent.
“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” — Marie Curie
The biggest problem for young people is that
they do not understand what exactly they are going through. They should take a deep breath and move on. Give up the haze for excellence and success, whether professional or personal, in order to live the life that they want. It is necessary to understand what they need, setting priorities, building a future without the need to succeed in everything. Well, there is a need to reconcile with failure, give it a space and take care of it.
What is the crisis? No more finding yourself
when you look in the mirror and having no prospects. It frequently manifests itself when you are looking for your first job, when you move out or when you end a relationship. It is something much more natural than we might have thought. The depressive state that comes with change. And it probably sounds bizarre, but this state of total abandonment is required - as it represents the first stage of the crisis - to be able to get back into the game again.
“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” — Steve Jobs
Finding out what you want can be painful. The
process of self-discovery, indeed, may require an extraordinary effort and even more time than one would have expected. Feeling lost and accepting it. A circumstance that many young people in the world face and that can even help them find themselves. Indeed, the second phase of the crisis reflects the awareness of what we are going through and the will to begin the change. In other words, the intention to give a form to negative thoughts and to be able to turn them into something positive.
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