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Q Mid-Atlantic Staff Publisher & Editor-in-Chief Justin Ayars, JD

It is my deepest pleasure to welcome you to Q Media’s 3rd annual Travel Issue!

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In this special issue, we take you from Anchorage to Ibiza and from Palm Springs to Sydney. There are so many wonderful destinations across America and throughout the world, it was hard to choose where to go!

That said, we focused on locations that are historically LGBTQinclusive or those that are rapidly becoming so. With the LGBTQ travel industry valued at $200 billion, it’s safe to say that everyone in the travel and hospitality industries—from airlines and cruise ships to hotels and destinations—are becoming increasingly inclusive, which means there is no shortage of fabulous locations for our community to explore!

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In addition to globetrotting, we’ll teach you how to pack like a pro, beat jetlag and enjoy a staycation at home. We also take a deep dive into the world of men’s fashion so that you look your best no matter where you go. Finally, we travel across the zodiac in a cocktail glass (you’ll have to read the story to see what I mean).

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With that, I welcome you all aboard as we set sail into the sunset, cocktail in hand and looking like a million bucks!

Bon voyage!

Cheers,

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Featured Contibutors

Jenn T. Grace

Jesse LaVancher

John Tanzella

For more than a decade Jenn T. Grace, the Professional Lesbian, has helped organizations connect with the lucrative LGBTQ market as a business strategist, speaker and author. Her work guides corporate and non-profit clients as they navigate the space where doing business and managing the workplace intersects with LGBTQ issues. She has written multiple Amazon Best Selling books and is a nationally recognized speaker and podcaster.

Jesse is the Chief Strategic Officer for Q Media, which publishes Q Mid-Atlantic magazine. He has a strong background in project management, contract negotiations and labor relations, as well as almost 20 years of experience as an entrepreneur in industries ranging from entertainment and hospitality to media and technology.

John Tanzella leads International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association (IGLTA), the leading member-based global organization dedicated to expanding LGBT tourism for the benefit of travelers and members.

Founded in 1983, IGLTA assists its business members in reaching LGBTQ travelers/ customers.

A proud graduate of Leadership Metro Richmond, Jesse is committed to his local community in Richmond, VA and has served with various nonprofit organizations throughout the region and across the state.

Since his arrival in 2005, IGLTA membership has increased to over 6,700 tourism and media contacts in more than 80 countries, and oversees a staff in Fort Lauderdale, Washington, DC, Madrid, London, Paris, Sao Paulo, and Bogota, as well as volunteer representatives in 20 countries/regions.

Passionate about helping people share their stories of adversity, Jenn is the Founder of the Publish Your Purpose Authors Academy and Publish Your Purpose Press.

She holds a M.S. in Integrated Marketing Communications from Golden Gate University and a B.S. in Communications from Salem State University. She lives in Hartford, Connecticut with her family.

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Jesse is passionate about providing the LGBTQ community—a vibrant demographic that’s often underserved— with a powerful voice. His background, experience and passion are critical as Q Media launches a new technology product called Equality Rewards. Equality Rewards will connect inclusive businesses to equalityminded consumers and provide the LGBTQ community an opportunity to be a part of our nation’s evolving economic narrative.

Under his leadership, IGLTA took a giant stride forward and established the IGLTA Foundation as a means to both give back and raise the profile of the LGBTQ tourism community worldwide. The Foundation specifically collaborates on research, education and providing leadership opportunities for future LGBTQ leaders in tourism. Leading up to this, IGLTA joined the United Nations World Tourism Organization, as its only LGBTQ member.

Table of Contents

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Cocktail Attire for Men

From defining the aforementioned phrase to learning how to accentuate your best features, gentlemen, treat this guide as your closet’s closest companion.

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What’s Your Sign? Sorry, I Meant Zodiac Cocktail?

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A Word from the LGBTQ Travel Tzar

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Mom First, Lesbian Second

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Book Review: Fair Play

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Book Review: Marilyn Forever

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Travel Guide 2019

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How to Beat Jetlag

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Pack Like a Pro

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Staycation 101

John Tanzella, President & CEO of the International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association (IGLTA), shares a few words about community, travel and the world.

The Professional Lesbian, Jenn T. Grace, explains why when she travels with her family, her identity as a lesbian takes a backseat to the needs of her family.

A nationally renowned sportswriter tackles the issue of homophobia in sports head-on.

More than five decades after her death, we still can’t stop talking about Marilyn Monroe and, perhaps, we shouldn’t.

From the winter wonderlands of Aspen and Anchorage to the sunny beaches of Ibiza and Sydney, our travel guide will make you want to start packing!

Before you fly away with us, you’ll need to know how to beat jetlag so you can hit the ground running as soon as our plane lands. We don’t wait for stragglers.

Get your mind out of the gutter and grab your suitcase.

This thing isn’t going to pack itself. We’ve got work to do!

Some of the best vacations don’t require you leaving your home city—or even your home! Rock out your next staycation with our tips and tricks.

Learn what luscious libation you should be sipping based on your birth sign.

More than an astrological forecast, we predict what cocktail should fill your earthly chalice.

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Foreword I am pleased to support Q Media, as a member of the International Gay & Lesbian Travel Association (IGLTA), in their efforts to amplify the voices of our community and promote equality through storytelling. They show through their work that no matter how crowded it has become in the digital universe, there is ample room for regional publications like Q Mid-Atlantic that support diversity and inclusion in their local communities. I’m especially proud Photo: Rachel Stevenson

to support this edition, the Travel Issue, because it is the place where our missions intersect.

The IGLTA is dedicated to advancing LGBTQ travel globally. We provide information and resources for LGBTQ travelers and help to educate the tourism industry worldwide on the importance of making those travelers feel safe and welcome. Our membership—consisting of tour operators, travel agents, hotels, airlines, events, destinations and media in more than 80 countries—is committed to treating all travelers with respect. We have a great collection of members, like Q Media, in the mid-Atlantic region, as well as across the United States. But you’ll also find businesses ready to welcome you in places as far-flung as Sri Lanka, Colombia, New Zealand and South Africa. This globe-spanning array of welcoming travel companies is waiting to for you at iglta.org, where you’ll also find travel discounts and calendars that showcase LGBTQ tours, events and Prides around the world.

Travel has a remarkable way of uniting people, regardless of background, sexual orientation or gender identity. This becomes even more profound for LGBTQ travelers when they are able to connect with other members of their community while on the road, which is why LGBTQ Pride events and festivals have become such a magnet for travel. We get to experience a new place alongside people who share our struggles and dreams—definitely a reason to celebrate!

We understand that travel is a luxury for many, so it’s important to note that it doesn’t have to involve a journey at great expense. Traveling is about a change of scenery, a way of breaking free of daily routine. Why not spend a day wandering around Richmond’s Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden? Or drink in the gorgeous Virginia mountain views on Skyline Drive, which runs through Shenandoah National Park? Whether you are driving to another town in Virginia, crossing a state line or flying to another country, the decision to explore and embrace a different destination is the first step to erasing borders and becoming more open to the world in which we live. It’s beautiful out there!

I hope that the readers of Q Mid-Atlantic will take inspiration from this issue and plan an adventure of their own, near or far, very soon.

Yours in travel,

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Mom First, Lesbian Second

BY, JENN T. GRACE As the “Professional Lesbian,” I am often asked questions about how to engage lesbian consumers.

Unfortunately, lesbians are not viewed as huge target markets to big advertisers. Often big brands will focus their energy on marketing to the cisgender gay man.

This is certainly frustrating from my vantage point, but this by no means does not mean there isn’t a vibrant lesbian community to work with. You just have to know how to authentically connect.

I walked away from a discussion one day thinking, how could I, as the Professional Lesbian, reach more lesbians?

Unable to come up with a definitive and clear answer I thought, well, if someone was trying to market to me, what would be their best approach?

Let me explain with a story. A few years ago, while traveling with my family to Lake George, New York I had an “ah-hah” moment of sorts. Lake George is a quaint area in Upstate New York that attracts visitors from around the globe. My wife and I, along with our two children, were playing tourists for the weekend. In our travels, we passed a motel on the main stretch of road that had visibly hung a rainbow flag outside. I quickly pulled out my phone to search and see if this motel was outwardly marketing to the LGBTQ community – it was! The average passerby would never have known that the rainbow flag hanging outside the motel was a signal to the LGBTQ community that it is safe to stay here, but I noticed, and my wife noticed, which is all that matters.

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At that moment, it hit me - my family of four was traveling simply as a family, not as a lesbian family.

Being a lesbian couple didn’t have any bearing on anything we were doing that day. We were a family seeking ways to entertain our children, not a lesbian family seeking ways to entertain our children—there is a significant difference.

The way to market to our family, in that moment, was by connecting with us as the parents of young children, not lesbian moms of young children. Our identities as lesbians came second to being mothers in this scenario.

This really got me thinking about those pesky labels we use to define ourselves.

As your takeaway, I want you to quickly write down eight ways in which you define yourself. There is no right or wrong answer. This is about you. Take a look at what you wrote and how you defined yourself, and if your experience is similar to mine.

For more than a decade Jenn T. Grace, the Professional Lesbian, has helped organizations connect with the lucrative LGBTQ market. In Beyond The Rainbow she takes us behind the scenes of her professional and personal life as she shares stories that illustrate the do’s and don’ts of doing business with the LGBTQ community. Woven into her stories, which are sprinkled with Jenn’s signature style of unapologetic honesty and lighthearted humor, are proven strategies to help readers navigate this highly nuanced demographic – sensitively and profitably. For more info please visit www.BeyondTheRainbowBook.com.

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Book Review: Fair Play: How LGBT Athletes are Claiming Their Rightful Place in Sports By, Terri Schlichenmeyer

As long as your team wins.

That’s all that matters, isn’t it – just that they win? You don’t care what they ate for breakfast. You don’t give a rat what they weighed this morning. And, as in the new book Fair Play by Cyd Zeigler, you don’t care who they sleep with.

Less than a generation ago, if a professional athlete came out publicly as gay, it was cause for controversy (at best) and harassment (at worst), from the stands and from the locker room. In today’s arena, however, gay and lesbian athletes enjoy wider acceptance from fans and followers; sadly, the intolerance that formerly came from the bleachers can now just as easily come from behind the scenes.

It used to start early, but while there are still some problems with hazing in high school locker rooms, Zeigler indicates that many public schools are more inclusionary of gay athletes and staff than they’ve ever been. High schools are also less willing to put up with incidents of homophobia.

In college sports, though, something different emerges: teasing (which is mentally depleting, despite that it’s ostensibly meant for bonding), hazing (of which Zeigler demands an end), anti-gay rhetoric (at religious institutions), and general torment are all practiced and are psychically hurtful to anyone, but particularly to gay athletes.

Conversely, lesbians and transgender athletes’ experiences almost bookend those of gay men. On one hand, lesbian athletes receive unusually high fan-tolerance, which may be because higher numbers of lesbian athletes are matter-of-factly uncloseted; indeed, when a female athlete comes out as lesbian, it’s rarely newsworthy anymore. On the far other hand, many transgender athletes still receive fierce backlash.

Yet, times are changing, albeit gradually. Teammates and staff who voice homophobia might now receive punishment along with negative fan reaction. Mere humanity makes a difference, too. The biggest change, though, seems to come from fans, and from their quiet acknowledgement that a players’ sexuality doesn’t matter at all to an enjoyment of the game itself.

With bullying as such a hot topic in schools and media these days, it was only a matter of time (and it’s about time) that someone tackled the subject in context of the sporting world. Even so, I was rather disappointed to see that Fair Play, although its subtitle indicates that it’s about LGBTQ athletes, is more about gay males in sports. I suppose one could argue that most professional sports are male dominated, but author Cyd Zeigler, though he admits his focal point, truly needed more about lesbians, bisexual and transgender players. That slim coverage left me wanting.

Still, it’s hard not to be fascinated with what’s definitely not your usual game coverage. Zeigler is a nationally-known sportswriter and this book is filled with insider peeks, big-name examples, astonishing incidents and up-and-comer encouragement—therefore, ultimately, what’s in this book overshadows what’s not and it becomes something that I think will be enlightening for fans both straight and gay. Despite a little lacking, if you’re an armchair cheerleader, then, Fair Play will really score.

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Book Review: Marilyn Forever By, Terri Schlichenmeyer

People will talk.

And that can be a bad thing: gossip is often mean, and its shelf-life is sometimes longer than we’d like. On the other hand, a bit of scandalous chatter can be great: as in the new book Marilyn Forever by Boze Hadleigh, if people are talking about you, they’ll remember you.

Through the years, plenty of people have had plenty to say about Marilyn Monroe, both during her career and after her death. Much of the snark was just that: Anne Baxter said she “got fed up” with studio bosses fussing over Monroe and ignoring “those of us who could actually act!” Elizabeth Taylor had nothing good to say about Monroe and was reportedly scandalized by rumors of Monroe’s affair with another woman.

And yet, some saw deep into Monroe’s soul, and they loved her for it.

Shirley MacLaine remembers Monroe as being an intelligent woman, despite the personae Monroe cultivated; Jerry Orbach remembers Monroe’s “heart,” and

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shares a story of what she did for soldiers in Korea. Likewise, Shari Lewis tells of Monroe’s brave stand, in pre-Civil Rights America, on behalf of Ella Fitzgerald.

Michael Jackson said that just thinking about Monroe “makes you want to cry.”

Just before Monroe died, she was said to be excited about being a new homeowner. She was in perhaps the best shape she’d been in for years and was ready for a resurgence of her career. Her death made no sense: did she make a mistake with champagne and drugs? Or was it something more sinister? No one knows, but at least one Hollywood star muses about roles Monroe might have had in her later years, had she still been alive.

Will we ever forget her? Will we ever stop talking about Marilyn Monroe?

No, says Hugh Hefner, and “… fortunately there’s certainly a lot left to dream about her.”

Everyone knows that names hurt just as much as sticks and stones, despite what you once claimed on the playground. But how affected

was Marilyn Monroe by the things others said about her? In Marilyn Forever, you’ll see.

Through this collection of quotes and thoughts on Monroe, author Boze Hadleigh offers a portrait of the star through the eyes of people who knew her and worked with her.

As readers might expect, there’s quite a good bit of nastiness here; the claws come out and “meow” fairly drips from those sentences.

Monroe, it’s said, was naturally quite hurt by such comments.

But Hadleigh doesn’t let those things drive this book.

There’s love here, and it’s striking: stories of a make-up artist who, years later, couldn’t bear to discuss his friendship with Monroe. Tears are admitted by “He-Man” types, and more than one star spoke with sympathy about a woman they greatly admired.

That gives this book a good balance and further insight to an actress who’s been gone for (can you believe it?) more than five decades.

If you’re a fan, time flies and Marilyn Forever is a book you won’t stop talking about.

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Cocktail Attire for Men By, Jerome West

What Exactly is “Cocktail Attire?”

Essentially, it’s a semi-formal look or outfit that is designed to bridge the gap between Silcon Valley’s casual day wear and Downton Abbey’s formal evening attire.

This “between the hours” dress code applies to any occasion that requires a little more refinement such as cocktail parties (duh), weddings, anniversaries, formal birthday celebrations and timeless sporting events, such as the races. qmediaco.com | 23

Cocktail Attire Do’s Do go for something tailored. A tuxedo is too much, but a suit or blazer/trousers combo is required.

Do add personal touches, but consider them carefully.

Don’t be the “neon pink jacket guy” at your friend’s wedding.

Do remember that it’s always safer to over-dress (but keep your penguin suit at home).

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Cocktail Attire Dont’s Don’t upstage the guest of honor—ever. If you’re attending a birthday or any other occasion in which the spotlight is meant to be on someone specific, leave the bright colors and flashy accessories at home.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you’re unsure about what constitutes appropriate attire for an event, ask the host. They are, after all, the most invested in avoiding confusion and uncomfortable situations.

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Key Cocktail Attire Pieces Suits & Tailoring Tailoring means the suit: a two piece, peak or notch lapel number in a slim fit. Black is always suitable, but try something more contemporary like is navy or gray. Light gray is fresh for a summer wedding while dark gray is the perfect, sophisticated winter look. If the dress code isn’t super strict, explore darker colors such as burgundy, olive green or khaki (nothing too flashy). Keep patterns to a minimal, like small scale windowpane check and thin pinstripes. Not sure about prints? Opt for texture. This is achieved from suit fabric: mohair for a subtle sheen and herringbone or a slub design for a grainy finish. It’s also perfectly acceptable to mix and match a jacket and trousers.

But, please leave your denim at home for less formal occasions.

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Key Cocktail Attire Pieces Shirt Always ensure that your shirt pairs well with your suit or blazer. A solid color in a neutral tone (blue, white or gray) is your safest bet, especially when wearing a checked or striped jacket. Wearing a plain blazer?

Look to low-key checks or stripes or even a floral jacquard for a romantic edge.

Beware the collar. Avoid floppy, limp shirt collar types. Make sure it’s made from cotton and crafted from a formal fabric weave. It should feel and look crisp, and sharply pressed on the collar and cuffs. Also, avoid French cuffs for daytime events but feel free to break them out for dapper evening soiÊes.

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Key Cocktail Attire Pieces Ties & Pocket Squares At less formal cocktail events, you can ditch the tie. However, if one is required, get creative.

If you opted for a simple shirt and suit, go for a bolder tie. If your shirt or suit has a pattern, it’s best to choose a simple tie in a complementary color. While bow ties can be fun, save them for ultra-formal occasions when you dust off your tux. However, do explore pocket squares. Like the tie, the square should be silk and neutral in color.

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Key Cocktail Attire Pieces Dress Shoes When dressing for a cocktail party, you can never go wrong with the classic Oxford shoe. Black and dark brown are superior color options for the streamline shoe, while a brogue punch hole design will give you a step up in the texture department.

Alternatively, monk strap shoes are entirely appropriate. Only go with loafers if your event is less formal. If it’s a special event, invest in a new pair of shoes or give your tired, old leather some TLC with a fresh polish.

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Key Cocktail Attire Pieces Accessories Saving that embossed, ostrich leather belt for a special occasion? Now’s the time to whip it out. Suede belts are also a nice touch for texture. Logo belt buckles like are becoming increasingly acceptable, just don’t go for anything cowboy.

Finish the look off with calf-length socks (no one wants to see your leg skin when you’re seated). Stick to colors that complement your trousers or another color in your outfit such as tie, shirt or blazer. If you’re feeling brave—like Albert in The Birdcage—colored or patterned socks could be an opportunity to let your personality shine through.

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PERFECT COCKTAIL FOR EACH ZODIAC SIGN By, Jesse La Vancher

Have you ever wondered why some people gravitate towards, say, a dirty martini over a gin and tonic?

Well, it might have more to do with your astrological sign than your taste buds.

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Aquarius “Lovers Potion” An Aquarius loves to have a sense of independence. We combined the independent, distinctive flavors of passion fruit and pumpkin to make a delicious cocktail.

1.5 oz passion fruit puree 1 oz pumpkin juice infused with pepper .5 oz POM juice .75 oz cranberry/cinnamon syrup 2 oz pear green tea Mint sprig Passion fruit caviar pearls Top with elderflower tonic Garnish with passion fruit caviar pearls & mint sprig 42 | Q Mid-Atlantic

Pisces “Royal Flush” Pisces have a wild imagination and great artistic ability. We used our imagination to design a refreshing cocktail using unique flavors.

6 raspberries 3⁄4 oz simple syrup 1⁄4 oz Chambord 1 oz Hendrick’s 1⁄2 oz Lillet Blanc 1⁄2 oz Lillet Rouge 1⁄2 oz fresh lemon juice Dash egg whites

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Aries “Herbaceous Monk” Aries, as the first astrological sign, desires to lead the way for others. The essence of this cocktail is led by a velvety texture and subtle bitterness with a bold finish.

1 oz Leopold’s Navy Strength gin 1⁄2 oz Green Chartreuse 1⁄2 oz Luxardo Cherry Liqueur 3⁄4 oz sage & honey syrup 3⁄4 oz lemon juice Egg whites Dash of Bittercube Bolivar Bitters Lemon twist to garnish Loose leaf tea (preferably rose petal or chamomile buds) for garnish

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Taurus “Brazilian Delight” A Taurus is focused and stable. The components in the Brazilian Delight cocktail encompass the best of everything by using the finest ingredients.

3 large basil leaves 1 1⁄2 oz Grey Goose Le Melon vodka 1⁄4 oz green chartreuse 1⁄2 oz passion fruit puree 1⁄2 oz lime juice 1⁄4 oz simple syrup 1⁄2 oz egg whites

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Gemini “Werly Cup” A Gemini tends to have a sense of duality to their nature. Like the Gemini’s personality, the joining of sweet and sour, the simple syrup and lemon juice, creates a sense of duality in this cocktail.

1 cubed strawberry 1 slice cucumber 1 orange slice 2 oz Pimm’s 1 oz Lemon juice 1 oz simple syrup Mint sprig for garnish

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Cancer “Pineapple & Ginger Daiquiri” A Cancer personality is extremely innovative and pays attention to detail. The distinct characteristics of ginger and pineapple in this cocktail provide a harmonious finish.

1 1⁄2 oz Cruzan Spiced Rum 3⁄4 oz Domaine de Canton 3⁄4 oz pineapple juice 3⁄4 oz fresh lime juice 3⁄4 oz simple syrup 1⁄4 oz Luxardo Maraschino 2 dashes Angostura bitters Lime twist for garnish Luxardo cherry for garnish qmediaco.com | 47

Leo “Ginger Sparkle” Leos are cheerful, sociable and full of excitement. The Ginger Sparkle is the perfect cocktail to match their bubbly personality.

1⁄2 oz Domain de Canton Ginger Liqueur 1 1⁄2 oz fresh pear puree (Perfect Puree) 1⁄2 oz fresh lemon juice 4 oz Fleuraison Brut Champagne Candied ginger for garnish Lemon twist for garnish

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Virgo “Pineapple Basil Cocktail” Virgos are dependable, rational and work well with others. This cocktail combines flavors that work wonderfully together.

3 basil leaves 1 1⁄2 oz Brooklyn Gin 1 oz pineapple 1⁄2 oz lime 1⁄2 oz simple syrup Elderflower tonic Pineapple leaf for garnish

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Libra “Lemongrass Mojito�

A Libra personality enjoys peace, stability and being surrounded by others. We took a classic cocktail and paired it with lemongrass to create a sense of companionship.

2 oz Cuca Fresca Blanco cachaca 1 oz lemongrass syrup 1 oz lime juice Mint leaves

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Scorpio “Eastern Drop” Scorpios are resilient, determined and confident. The Eastern Drop uses strong, bold flavors to appeal to the Scorpio’s personality.

1 1⁄2 oz Belvedere Vodka Citrus 1 oz lemongrass simple syrup 1⁄2 oz St. Germain Elderflower 1⁄2 oz fresh lemon juice 1⁄4 oz pineapple juice Dash egg whites Mint leaf for garnish

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Sagittarius “Spiced Apple Fizz” A Sagittarius is expressive, focused and free-minded. This cocktail uses Daron Calvados, an apple based cognac that is aged freely.

Dash peychauds 1 oz Sazerac six-year rye 1⁄2 oz Daron Calvados 1⁄2 oz Benedictine 1⁄2 oz lemon juice 3⁄4 oz apple juice 3⁄4 cinnamon simple syrup 1⁄2 oz egg whites 1 oz soda Cinnamon stick for garnish One crab apple for garnish 52 | Q Mid-Atlantic

Capricorn “Robin’s Hood” Capricorns are ambitious, well-disciplined and highly intelligent. In order to appeal to the Capricorn’s personality, we stuck to the beauty of simplicity when creating Robin’s Hood, inspired by Walt Disney and his love of scotch.

2 dash peychauds 1 dash angostura bitters 1 oz apricot infused 10-year Glenmorangie 1 oz Hennessy VSOP 1⁄2 Benedictine 1⁄2 oz Drambuie 1⁄2 oz Antica sweet vermouth Dried apricot for garnish

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Visitors enjoy the proximity to Washington, D.C. with often lower rates at its 45 hotels.

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Take Advantage of Arlington’s Fitness Culture

Boasting over 90 Capital Bikeshare, the Washington, D.C. region’s bikeshare provider, stations plus 94 miles of biking, walking and jogging trails, you’ve got no excuse not to elevate your heart rate as you take in some of the nation’s most iconic views. Bike along the Potomac River—the famous waterway that divides Arlington and Washington, D.C.—on the beloved Mount Vernon Trail. Or take on the Arlington Loop, a 16.2-mile route which includes scenic views of the 56 | Q Mid-Atlantic

Washington, D.C. skyline, Reagan National Airport, Arlington’s ample green spaces and much more. Try attending one of Arlington’s many fitness classes in unique locations like Yoga & Beer at New District Brewing Co. or join a group of runners on their weekly 5K run to Theodore Roosevelt Island, 88.5acre island and national memorial dedicated to our 26th president.

Home to the Pentagon and Arlington National Cemetery, Arlington has natural ties to the mil-

itary and hosts the Marine Corps Marathon, the Army Ten Miler and the Armed Forces Cycling Classic. If you’re in town during any of these events, they’re not to be missed even from the sidelines.

Care to stay indoors? Check out the dizzying experience of Crosshairs Garage Bike Races where you can cycle in underground parking garages! Looking for something to do on a rainy day? Try scaling walls at Earth Treks Climbing Center or

Care to Stay Indoors?

strap on some ice skates at MedStar Capitals Iceplex—home of the 2018 Stanley Cup Champions, the Washington Capitals—and ice skate, play hockey or try your hand at broomball. Speaking of ice, if you’re visiting during winter, go ice skating at the Pentagon Row Ice Rink, the largest outdoor rink in Northern Virginia.

wellness bar, Lebanese Taverna or any one of these nourishing venues: True Food Kitchen, Sweetgreen, CAVA, Sweet Leaf, Vitality Bowls and The Little Beet. Do you like to get your juice on? Look no further than South Block, Jrink, Natural Café or Chill Zone where you can literally drink to your health.

After you’ve worked up a sweat, continue enjoying Arlington’s healthy culture by eating at DIRT, a farm-to-counter fast casual and

While many of the region’s outdoor activities are especially attractive during the autumn months when the trees are as colorful as a Bob

Ross painting, visitors can enjoy Arlington’s culture of healthy living and fitness activities all year long—especially since the miles of trails are kept clean and snowfree year-round. Whether you find yourself in Arlington for work, pleasure, a wedding or to pay your respects to our nation’s heroes, take time to enjoy the region’s unique blend of health, fitness and fun!

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ANCHORAGE More than twice the size of Texas, there’s nothing quite as big as America’s 49th state: Alaska. From breathtaking glaciers to a fascinating array of wildlife, it’s difficult to describe Alaska’s terrain and scenery without resorting to trite superlatives. You must visit this land to comprehend it.

Anchor your trip in the state’s largest city.

Culture and cod.

Sail away.

Although Anchorage is a relatively small city, it is surprisingly modern and has a diverse community. You’ll find excellent museums (like the Anchorage Museum at Rasmusin Center), restaurants (check out the Bear Tooth Theatrepub Café & Grill) and artistic venues (including the Alaska Center for the Performing Arts and Cyrano’s Off-Center Playhouse).

Several LGBT-oriented cruise ship operators—notably RSVP Vacations, Olivia and Atlantis—book all-gay charter trips on some of the major lines that ply Alaska waters, including Holland America, Princess, Carnival, Celebrity, Norwegian and Royal Caribbean. Another way to explore the state’s rugged and largely unspoiled interior is via the scenic Alaska Railroad. From Anchorage, you can take an amazing day trip to Denali National Park (home to North America’s highest peak, the 20,320-foot Mt. McKinley) or hop aboard the Glacier Discovery train to Grandview where you can, as the train’s name implies, discover magnificent glaciers.

Arctic Pride.

Anchorage is also home to many gayowned and gay-friendly accommodations (Hotel Captain Cook is our favorite), as well as a couple of gay bars. Like most smaller cities, Anchorage’s gay bars tend to attract people of all ages, genders and affinities. One bar you can’t miss is the extremely fun and friendly dance club, Mad Myrna’s—considered one of the best gay bars in America. Each June, the Alaska Pridefest events bring the whole rainbow community together against the backdrop of the city’s majestic landscapes.

Terrific tundra.

Anchorage is known around the world for its legendary outdoor pursuits like exploring glaciers, whale watching and, most notably, the annual Iditarod Trail Sled Dog Race each March. While Alaska is ideally suited for outdoorsy travelers, the numerous cruise ships and trains that routinely depart from Anchorage and venture into the vast interior make it easy to enjoy the state’s natural beauty from a comfy and controlled environment.

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Gentlemen, start your engines.

For a less structured adventure, rent a car in Anchorage and explore nearby wonders at your own pace. Don’t miss the quaint town of Talkeetna, the charming village of Girdwood, the popular fishing town of Homer and Whittier, where you can kayak on Prince William Sound and enjoy several stunning glaciers.

When seasoned travelers talk about “trips of a lifetime,” they’re often referring to adventures had in Alaska. Book your trip to Anchorage next summer!

Tips To stay informed about the city’s goings on, check out The Anchorage Press, a local alternative weekly publication with listings, events, news and reviews.

When you come to Anchorage, give yourself at least seven days to enjoy the city and explore the surrounding majestic land.

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Copenhagen, Denmark Copenhagen, one of the most gay-friendly cities in the world, has a special kind of charm. The identifiable emblem of the city, Edvard Ericksen’s whimsical 1913 sculpture “The Little Mermaid,” stands guard over the picturesque harbor.

The colorful 400-year-old buildings are on a bustling shopping street where cars are forbidden. Quiet parks where swans glide on placid lakes and busy city squares where people congregate to feed the birds provide fascinating vistas. On every side, you’ll find things that will delight all your senses. If you consider yourself an avid LGBTQ traveler, then you simply must visit

Copenhagen! “Love of freedom. Freedom to love.” That was the slogan during the World Out Games 2009 in Copenhagen. That slogan continues to ring true today in Copenhagen. Copenhageners are open-minded, relaxed and tolerant people, and the capital city has long been a playground for both gay Danes and tourists.

Here you can be free, open and, most of all, yourself.

Be free, be safe and most of all, be yourself anywhere you go.

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The LGBTQ Scene

Let it all go in this truly serene city.

The country’s National Association for Gays and Lesbians was founded in 1948 as the first of its kind. Forty years later, Denmark became the first country in the world to grant same-sex civil partnerships. Locals and tourists celebrate Copenhagen’s Gay Pride Festival in mid-August every year. It’s been held in Denmark’s capital since 1996. Across the Oresund Bridge in Malmo, Sweden is the Rainbow Festival, which takes place during the last week of September. Visit

Copenhagen, a tourism hub, maintains a list of annual gay events. When you visit Copenhagen, you will find that the gay scene is alive and thriving in this accepting city. Don’t be surprised to see same-sex couples walking down the street hand in hand. There are three gay beaches in the city: Amager Strandpark is a beautiful beach just south of Copenhagen; Bellevue Beach, Klampenborg is in the north; and, Tisvildeleje Beach is a gay nudist beach with a forest behind it. qmediaco.com | 65

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ocated in the western parts of Massachusetts and Connecticut, about two hours from Boston, the Berkshires is both a specific highland geologic region and a broader associated cultural region.

Gay travelers visiting the Berkshires will feel like they just stepped into a Norman Rockwell painting.

Idyllic creeks run alongside the road as you drive in past farmhouses from another era and picturesque scenery. If you’re a gay art lover, the Berkshires offer more culture per capita than anywhere else in the world. The Clark Art Institute has one of the premiere collections of Impressionist works and brings in travelling shows that rival its big city counterparts. The Williamstown Art Museum is in a building designed by renowned architect Charles Moore and features the famous floating “Ironic” columns in the courtyard below. Newer to the art scene is the Massachusetts Museum of Contemporary Art in North Adams, which features a wide variety of contemporary works. Gay theatre lovers can’t miss the Williamstown Theatre Festival, which takes place every summer.

Gay or straight, Hollywood comes to town for this one of a kind experience that celebrates the beauty of theatre.

In autumn, gay travelers are stunned by the magnificent fall foliage that bathes the surrounding hills creating a 360-degree kaleidoscope of color. If you visit the Berkshires during this season, we’re certain you’ll fall in love with this magical place. Athletic gay travelers will enjoy a variety of outdoor activities from golf to hiking to skiing.

The Berkshires may be small, but they offer a high-impact gay travel experience for the artist and adventurer in all of us.

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Ibiza, Spain

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assy and cosmopolitan, Ibiza is one of the wildest, most scenic ports in the entire Mediterranean. The floodlighted battlements and colossal walls of the old town (Dalt Vila) provide a startlingly evocative and historic backdrop to the dynamic bar and club scene, with venues spread around a breathtaking bay.

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Ibiza Scene

In the summer months the party scene revs into the red, then right off the scales! At times, it seems like all the world’s raving head-cases are rammed into one insane whitewashed little Spanish town. There is a lot for LGBTQ travelers to take in. From the glut of funky places to explore to countless cave-like drinking dens to the sumptuous splendor of überclubs, there is no shortage of things to do on this island! Ibiza’s appeal is immediate and addictive. On essential activity you must do on a balmy summer night is explore the warren of cobbled harbor-side streets, replete with oh-so-hip fashion boutiques and quirky market stalls.

Aside from the tide of party people that flow from bar to bar to down a vodka limón or a chupito shot, troops of costumed club-sponsored parades add diversion and fantasy to the Ibizan night. Grab a bar table and expect the unexpected, as near-naked dancers spray painted gold, fluffy pink bunnies, G-string-toting gays, bondage queens and leather kings flounce through the streets bearing club banners and dispensing promo flyers. The more ferocious the exhibitionism, the better the response. There can be few other places in the world where locals, LGBTQ travelers, holidaying families and party freaks congregate so amiably. Ibiza truly is a permissive paradise where the routine is derided and the excessive celebrated.

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Charleston, South Carolina

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oted No. 1 on Travel + Leisure’s list of the top cities in the U.S. for the eighth year in a row, Charleston continues to garner gay fans with its rich history, well-preserved architecture and distinct Lowcountry cuisine. Its cobbled historic district, a National Historic Landmark, offers European flair mixed with Southern charm, where tropical plants and blooming flowers add bursts of color to rows of antebellum façades. Similar to New Orleans’ French Quarter, but devoid of the rough-around-theedges feel, Charleston woos gay travelers with its endlessly romantic vibes.

Amble along the scenic waterfront park, or spend hours popping in and out of the antiques stores on the southern end of popular King Street. Come for a whirlwind weekend, a gay honeymoon or a seaside escape... but, be warned—one trip to Charleston is never enough!

Gay Scene in Charleston As a diverse city attracting people from all walks of life, Charleston boasts a relaxed attitude, and most LGBTQ travelers will feel welcome. The South has a reputation as a deeply religious region, and Charleston, filled with churches, is no exception. However, you’ll find some gay-friendly churches among them, such as Circular Congregational Church. Pride is alive and well in Charleston, evidenced by the annual Charleston Pride event, going strong for the last decade.

When to Visit The summer heat and humidity in the South is nothing to shake a stick at. To stay a bit cooler, come in spring or fall, but be prepared to shell out more for your hotel room, as you’ll be competing with other tourists for availability. In winter, Charleston’s off-season, you’ll experience mild weather, a calmer atmosphere and twinkling holiday lights. qmediaco.com | 73

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Napa Valley, California

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very sophisticated LGBT traveler must experience a wine country getaway at least once! Napa Valley is the second most popular tourist destination in California, second only to Disneyland. There is so much to see in this beautiful wine country! The rolling hills dotted with vineyards are magnificent, and the area is cultured, quaint and serene.

The picturesque town of Napa is filled with historic Victorian homes, stunning contemporary architecture, world-famous wineries, exclusive restaurants and charming mom-and-pop stores. A vibrant and modern city, Napa is just perfect for a relaxing vacation away from the hustle and bustle of urban life.

The proximity of Napa to the Bay Area and San Francisco have made the region especially welcoming to the LGBTQ traveler. There are several gay specific things to do including Out in the Vineyard, a gay tour and event company which hosts the annual “Big Gay Train” train ride through the valley, along with gay wine weekends.

The LGBTQ Scene in Napa Valley Napa Valley is an escape from city living. The area doesn’t have a gayborhood per se, but the entire region is inclusive and extremely gay-friendly. There are no LGBTQ specific nightclubs, but you certainly won’t have to worry about hiding who you are. Because there aren’t any LGBTQ bars in Napa, the community there has decided to make a local bar “Gay For A Day.” Every few weeks or so, the local community picks a different bar, pub or eatery and makes it fabulous for a day! The point? Have fun, spend time together and support the inclusive businesses in the beloved valley.

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Cabo San Lucas, Mexico Right at the tip of the Baja California peninsula lies Cabo San Lucas, one of the most popular resort destinations in Mexico. Jimmy Buffet and Sammy Hagar, who espouse their love of Cabo in various forms, made Cabo famous: Buffet with “Margaritaville” and Hagar with “Cabo Wabo” Cantina and tequila.

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Los Cabos, Mexico

The gay scene in Cabo San Lucas is low-key, but very friendly. In recent years, many gays traveling to Mexico have been drawn away from some of the more popular destinations nearby, like Cancun and Puerto Vallarta, in favor of Cabo San Lucas.

The sophisticated beach resort culture and the diversity of activities have gradually come to accommodate gay travelers, ensuring that any LGBTQ visitor will feel right at home.

Thankfully, there is a whole lot more to Cabo than country stars shilling stereotypes. Cabo San Lucas distinguishes itself from many other Mexican destinations with a variety of top-notch activities, including

world-class dining, traditional eateries, lush golf courses, calm surf, epic sports fishing, every water sport imaginable and a wild-as-you-want-it nightlife.

This unique travel destination pulls off a wonderful balance of contemporary luxury and local traditions. Cabo has become a favorite among travelers of all sorts, and it’s not hard to see why.

TIPS: If you don’t want to find empty or semi-empty venues don’t go out before 10:00 P.M. because clubs don’t generally get going before midnight. Here, you can eat late and go out even later! Los Cabos is also known for its water sports, deep sea fishing, whale watching, golf courses and restaurants.

Los Cabos, or San Jose del Cabo, is just 25 miles from Cabo San Lucas but totally differs in style and ambiance. Los Cabos is laid back, low-key and known for its amazing art galleries, restaurants and architecture. Like its neighbor, Los Cabos has beautiful beaches with breathtaking desert and ocean views.

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Aspen, Colorado

Aspen will surprise anyone who thinks that it’s just a skiing destination. No matter the season, Aspen is the perfect destination for any LGBTQ traveler!

The Colorado peaks are purely picturesque and you’ll be awestruck by 360-degree views of 14,000-foot mountains. Nestled within these giant mountains, Aspen is a small, quaint and upscale town. Downtown is comprised of four blocks by three blocks of beautiful 19th-century buildings.

Throughout the year, you’ll likely meet some gorgeous and down-to-earth (in that millionaire kind of way) locals, as well as tourists eager to frolic on the mountainous playground.

Aspen winter activities aren’t limited to skiing. But, lesbia-honest, skiing is the premier attraction. Aspen offers for world-class mountains and over 4,100 acres of terrain for every level of skier. Besides skiing, there is an ice-skating rink and plenty of frozen ponds for the tiny dancer in all of us. Also, you can discover miles of groomed cross-country trails, dog sledding, guided snowshoe tours, snowmobiling, snowboarding and even hot-air ballooning. Aspen’s summer activities include rafting down the Colorado River, fishing and golfing.

The gondolas are open during the summer and winter, and you can use them for hiking, biking or just going

to the top of the mountain for lunch.

A free bus also offers transportation during summer months.

If you’re planning a trip to Aspen, you should check out the Roaring Forks Gay & Lesbian Community Fund site, www.rfglcf.com. This organization is responsible for Aspen Gay Ski Week. Check out the other awesome events they have going on and consider making a donation to the group you can blame for all the fun you’ll be having!

The Gay Scene in Aspen If you’re awestruck by the gorgeous scenery, you’ll be just as entranced by the people-watching. Both locals and visitors, alike, are tanned, toned, beautiful and pleasant. Aspen’s gay scene is lively and outgoing, as you would expect from an international ski resort town. Feel free to stroll hand-inhand with your loved one (or newfound “friend”) through the charming grid of neatly preserved 19th-century buildings downtown.

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Palm Springs Palm Springs is best known as the “playground of the stars,” a reputation earned during Hollywood’s Golden Age when the friendly desert oasis was both close enough away to attract the silver screen’s A-list. With an average of 332 days of annual sunshine and 360-degree mountain views, it’s easy to understand the appeal.

So gay!

In recent years, Palm Springs has become, per capita, one of the gayest cities on earth, constituting an estimated 40-60% of the local population. The current Mayor, Robert Moon, is gay, as were the two previous mayors, along with most members of city council.

Resort casual.

The quiet, relaxing ambiance of Palm Springs is best described as “resort casual.” This laid-back character compliments its many charming shops and unique specialty stores, especially in the Uptown Arts and Antique District. If you’re looking for a bigcity atmosphere with a booming club scene, look elsewhere. While there is a thriving nightlife, the city’s main appeal is sunshine, swimming pools, world-class golf courses and tennis courts, great restaurants and aweinspiring mountain vistas.

Food in the nude?

The “playground of the stars” offers numerous gay-owned or gay-friendly businesses including pampering spas (e.g. – Ace Hotel & Swim Club) and first-class hotels (e.g. – East Canyon Hotel & Spa), as well as clothingoptional resorts and guest houses that cater to male clientele (e.g. – Hacienda Warm Sands). When it comes to food, our favorite restaurant is The King’s Highway. Located at 84 | Q Mid-Atlantic

Ace Hotel, this retro-chic renovatedto-distress restaurant was formerly a Denny’s and serves redefined roadside dinner fare, Tex-Mex breakfasts, tequila-cured lox and has a life-saving “reviving” coffeehouse. From there, stroll to the Amigo Room (also in the Ace Hotel) where you can order artisanal cocktails and craft beers in a cool, cavernous space.

Hip happenings.

This desert oasis has an exciting lineup of LGBTQ events throughout the year including the International Film Festival, Cinema Diverse (the gay and lesbian film festival), the Dinah Shore Weekend (the most popular gathering of lesbians in the world) and, of course, the infamous White Party (a gay men’s circuit party). The city’s annual Gay Pride Festival includes a fabulous parade followed by live entertainment, food and dancing, which continues long into the evening and especially at Arenas Street’s many gay bars. At Halloween, Arenas Street is converted into a huge gay block party, complete with a costume contest! Every Thursday night Palm Springs’ main street, Palm Canyon Drive, is closed to traffic and opened for an extensive street festival featuring food vendors, local artists and live entertainment.

Fun Facts Liberace had an 8,000 square-foot mansion in Palm Springs called Casa de la Cloisters. This was the favorite of his seven luxurious homes and where he spent his final days in 1987.

Iconic Hollywood movie stars like Rock Hudson, Greta Garbo and Joan Crawford flocked to Palm Springs from Los Angeles to escape prying eyes and “carry on� without fear of being outed.

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Sydney, Australia

Sydney, Australia is famous for its magnificent beaches, topnotch tourist attractions, thriving gay community and two world-class landmark structures, the Sydney Opera House and the Sydney Harbour Bridge.

Sydney is built around its huge harbor, where most of the main attractions and the city center are located at the southern shore. It’s a beautiful city where you’ll find no shortage of exciting activities, friendly locals and plenty of eye candy!

The Harbour Bridge The Harbour Bridge, which was built during the Great Depression, is the widest single span bridge in the world. Today, the Harbour Bridge is the major link between Sydney’s southern and northern suburbs. At the Pylon Lookout Museum, located at the bridge’s southeastern pylon, you can enjoy breathtaking views of the harbour and city from its viewing platform. Alternatively, you can book a 3.5-hour climb to the bridge summit and enjoy priceless views from the top of the bridge.

Sydney Aquarium Located at Darling Harbour, Sydney Aquarium presents a fascinating view of the underwater world which includes over 12,000 aquatic animals from 650 species, saltwater crocodiles and giant sea turtles. The aquarium showcases the world’s largest Great Barrier Reef exhibit and amazing underwater viewing tunnels with sharks and stingrays swimming above your head! If you have kids, they’ll love the touch pool and the marine mammal sanctuary. If you’re trying to find Nemo, this is the place to be!

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Sydney Opera House The Sydney Opera House, which opened in 1973, is the city’s most famous (and most photographed) landmark. In 2007, it was listed as a UNESCO World Heritage site, placing it alongside the Taj Mahal, the ancient Pyramids of Egypt and the Great Wall of China as one of the most outstanding places on Earth. Designed

by Danish architect, JØrn Utzon, the construction of the opera house was so arduous and troubling that the building’s completion was considered nothing short of miraculous. Visitors can enjoy guided one-hour tours every day between 9am and 5pm. For a special treat, book a twohour backstage tour, which begins daily at 7am and includes breakfast.

The Rocks

Sydney’s Beaches

The Rocks is Sydney’s most historic district, the birthplace of modern Australia and is one of the city’s most popular destinations. Years ago, The Rocks served as Sydney’s main port with warehouses lining the waterfront, backed by hotels, banks, offices, merchant shops and brothels.

Today, The Rocks has transformed into a hot spot of quaint boutiques, restaurants and cafés. This district gets really crowded on Saturday nights.

There are more than 30 ocean beaches within Sydney, all with rolling surf and golden sand. If you prefer calmer waters, there are several more around the harbor. Of all the Sydney beaches, Bondi Beach is the most famous (and the most crowded) with surfers, sunbathers and bronzed muscle gods playing volleyball— actually, it’s more of a speedo modeling competition (not that I’m complaining).

Coogee Beach is more relaxed with calmer waters, a grassy headland overlooking the beach and an excellent children’s playground. However, for a truly special beach experience that’s more popular with the locals, take a 30-minute ferry ride from Circular Quay to Manly Beach on the northern side of the harbour.

Once there, stroll along The Corso (a

Sydney Tower The best way to enjoy breathtaking views of Sydney is to visit the top of Sydney Tower. This 1,000-foot golden turrettopped spike is Sydney’s tallest building and the view from its indoor observation deck covers the entire city. On clear days, you can see the Blue Mountains, which are more than 30 miles northwest of the city.

There are two restaurants in the Sydney Tower’s turret, which boast delicious food and artisan cocktails.

pedestrian-only street lined with bars, cafés and shops filled with indigenous art), enjoy killer surfing and take in unique sights along The Cabbage Tree Bay EcoSculpture Walk all the way to Shelly Beach (which offers incredible snorkeling).

Gay Sydney Sydney is a thriving gay metropolis.

Its huge Asian and Latino immigrant populations make it one of the most multicultural cities in the world. In this city of 4 million people, gay life is centered around Oxford Street in the Darlinghurst neighborhood on the eastern side of town.

This area is lined with pulsating clubs (like Arq), restaurants and pubs. Oxford Street is also the main drag for the annual, world-famous Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras Parade in late February-early March. You won’t want to miss this the pageantry of this Pride celebration!

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HOW TO BEAT JETLAG BY, MEREDITH JENKINS

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Jetlag can wreak havoc on your body and make enjoying your farflung adventures more challenging.

Here are some tips to help you beat jetlag so you spend less time feeling groggy and more time enjoying your vacation!

Before You Fly Take care of yourself.

Seriously, folks. You’ve got to eat right, exercise and sleep well. Doing these things is the single best way to make jet lag less of an issue on your trip.

Pack a pillow.

Foam cushions on airplanes just don’t compare to your comfy pillow. So, bring it along and you might be able to catch some more restful zzzz’s.

Pack your headphones.

Noise-cancelling headphones (or ear plugs) are a godsend! No one likes to have their rest interrupted by screaming children or the crackling voice of the captain over the PA system. I also recommend bringing a sleeping mask that blocks out all light and has an adjustable Velcro strap (rather than those cheap ones the airlines gives you).

During Your Flight Set your watch.

Make sure your watch reflects the time of your destination.

Watch what you eat.

It’s easy to get into “vacation mode” on the plane. Don’t over eat and keep your alcohol and coffee consumption to a minimum.

Drink plenty of water.

Plane rides can dehydrate your body, which makes jetlag worse. So drink up (water, that is).

Try to sleep.

Break out your headphones or earplugs (and fancy sleeping mask) and try to get some rest. Even a few hours of sleep will make a world of difference if you arrive at your destination in the morning.

Try to exercise.

No, don’t bench-press the toddler in front of you or do a downward dog in the aisle. But you should get up and walk around every once in a while. Just don’t wander the aisle when the seatbelt sign is on and, for the love of God, don’t disturb meal service.

At Your Destination Don’t make important decisions on the first day.

If you’re travelling for work, be sure to arrive a day before your big business meeting so you can be super-sharp.

Sync up with local time.

If you arrive at your destination in the morning, don’t go to bed. Force yourself to get into the rhythm of your destination. Drink coffee. Walk around. Maybe take a power nap. Do whatever it takes to stay up until 9pm local time. Then you can hit the sack.

Soak in some rays.

Daylight is a powerful stimulant for regulating your biological clock. Staying indoors will make your jetlag worse. So get out there and enjoy the sun!

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Portland Portland’s incredible arts community, vibrant nightlife and progressive politics make it an accepting and welcoming destination for any traveler. It’s a laidback, big city that still has a small-town feel to it—and reasonable prices to match. Portland is known as a great place for lesbians… but don’t worry boys, there’s plenty for you here, as well!

Progressive.

Portland was the first top-30 U.S. city to elect an openly gay mayor (Sam Adams, 2009-2012) and city commissioners recently decided to make two-thirds of city restrooms gender-neutral. In 2016, Oregon became the first state to elect an openly bisexual governor, Kate Brown.

tribute to Hollywood’s Golden Era. Portland also has a ridiculous number of microbreweries, microdistilleries, international food carts, coffeehouses and bookstores.

The great outdoors.

Portland is serious about art. The Center for the Performing Arts—a cluster of downtown theaters—stages a wide variety of shows year-round. The Native American art collection at the Portland Art Museum is second to none.

The Northwest Film Center presents a year-round exhibition program of foreign, classic, experimental and independent cinema.

The Willamette River, which runs through the town’s mix of modern towers and renovated warehouses, provides ample opportunities for outdoor pursuits. Gay beaches with nude stretches can be found on the Columbia River at Sauvie Island to the west of town and at Rooster Rock State Park to the east. Pacific Ocean beaches, temperate rain forests and Mt. Hood (Oregon’s highest peak and one of the most prominent of the Cascades’ volcanoes) are all just a short drive from downtown.

Avant-garde?

Outlook hazy.

Culture.

Portland’s alternative performing arts venues stage some of the most incredible and unorthodox productions in the nation. Check out the Vagabond Opera for dark and ironic vaudeville; Star Theater for burlesque shows and eclectic musical performances; Darcelle XV for glitzy-glamorous drag shows; and, both Silverado and Stag for naked male dancers.

Hungry?

For classic American fare with an innovative Pacific Northwest twist, grab a bite at Gracie’s Restaurant, located in the fabulous Hotel DeLuxe—a boutique, Art Deco hotel that is a fabulous 90 | Q Mid-Atlantic

Now that recreational-use marijuana is legal in Oregon, consider consuming cannabis-themed events in Portland like the Oregon Dope Cup and the Cannabis Classic (a statewide competition and award.)

Gayborhoods.

The Hawthorne District in southeast has a long reputation as the center of the city’s lesbian scene, but it’s popular with anyone who has an alternative, progressive bent. Burnside Triangle (aka – “Pink Triangle”) contains a plethora of LGBTQ-friendly independent shops and restaurants.

Tips Don’t miss a fabulous evening at the Tony Starlight Showroom, a Hollywood-inspired dinner theater that’s called “The Las Vegas of Portland.” Be sure to attend on a night when legendary piano player Bo Ayars is tickling the ivories. Ayars was Liberace’s long-time conductor and musical director and is the last living member of Liberace’s “inner circle.” He also toured with Elvis Presley, wrote music with Barbra Streisand and brought the D.C.-based musical political satire troupe, the “Capitol Steps,” to national fame. He’s very approachable, so say hello during a break… and tell him that Q Mid-Atlantic sent you.

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MAKE TH E M O S T O F

YO U R S TAYC AT I O N Have some time off but don’t feel like leaving home?

No worries! There are plenty of ways you can you make your “staycation” as enjoyable as an exotic getaway! Sure, you could spend a week on the couch binging Netflix shows with your cat and a bag of chips, but that’s not good for you (or the cat). Follow these essential tips that will help you break the monotony and routine of your everyday life and make your week at home feel like a relaxing getaway.

Go off the grid. Don’t let people at work know that you’ll

actually be in town during your vacation, otherwise they’ll be tempted to contact you. Don’t answer work emails. In fact, limit your Internet use entirely. Better yet… PUT. THE. DAMN. PHONE. DOWN. Seriously, turn it off. You’ll be ok, I promise. This tip is so important, I’m actually going to make it a commandment: Thou shall limit the use of technology on your staycation as much as humanly possible.

Do something where you live that you wouldn’t normally do. Act like a tourist in your own

city. I’m sure there are plenty of attractions in your town (museums, parks, restaurants, etc.) that you’ve never been to because, well, you happen to live there. Pretend you’re a tourist and make the most of what your city has to offer!

Forget Netflix and go to the movies.

Don’t fall down the Netflix K-hole! Force yourself to get off your butt and go to the movie theatre. Just the act of going will feel like an experience rather than something you casually do every day.

Read a book… a whole book. Do you

remember what books are? Good, now grab one and get to it.

Reading is actually a great way to relax and a fabulous way to keep you far, FAR away from technology (see Tip #1). Plus, you’ll forever associate whatever book you read with your awesome staycation!

Treat yourself. Get a massage. Spend a

day at the spa. Go shopping (but NOT on Amazon… see Tip #1). Do something that makes you happy and relaxed.

Turn your backyard or roof into a relaxing oasis. If you have the space and

the weather is cooperative, create an outdoor area that you’ll never want to leave. It’s important to get out of the house (and away from technology, see Tip #1) to enjoy nature. Say hello to the sun and get some healthy vitamin D while you’re at it.

Interrupt your routine. Routines govern our lives.

So, when you’re on a staycation, break the routine! Sleep later. Visit places you wouldn’t normally go (see Tip #2). Do things that are fun and different (see Tips #3-6).

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BY, JUSTIN AYARS, JD

PACK LIKE A PRO

BY, JESSE LA VANCHER

If you’ve ever packed for a trip, you know it’s a daunting task that you probably wait till the last minute to do. Follow these simple tips and you’ll be able to pack faster and more efficiently. Better yet, you’ll be able to worry less about your luggage when you travel and spend more time enjoying your trip!

ROLL, DON’T FOLD. Finding it hard to fit everything in your suitcase before your trip? Or do you find it impossible to pack for your return trip once you’ve purchased goodies from your travels? Let me help you out. Don’t fold your clothes—roll them up. While this may cause some wrinkles, it will save you a ton of space.

Also pack toiletries, socks and other smaller items inside your shoes. This is a great spacesaving technique.

THE 2-TO-1 RULE. No one wants to lug an over-packed suitcase around with them while traveling. Follow the 2-to-1 rule: pack two tops for every bottom (get your mind out of the gutter). This will force you to limit what you pack and lets you mix and match tops and bottoms so you have more outfits to assemble while you travel.

Tip: Pack neutral, solid colors because they’re easier to mix and match.

KEEP YOUR JEWELRY SAFE. If you wear jewelry, it can be hard to pack and also manage when you’re travelling. To help you out, pack your jewelry into a weekly pill organizer. This will prevent chains from getting tangled and keeps everything in one place. You might feel like an old fart doing this, but you’ll thank me later.

STAY FRESH. If your journey lasts more than a few days, pretty soon your suitcase will begin to smell like a locker room. Prevent this by placing dryer sheets throughout your suitcase’s dirty laundry. This will not only make your clothes and suitcase smell fresher, but you can reuse the dryer sheets when you get home and do your laundry!

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