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YOUR FAMILY z from the editor August/September 2014 Vol. 18, No. 4 Publisher The Village Family Service Center Gary Wolsky Tammy Noteboom Editor-in-Chief Kelly Lynch Graphic Design & Layout Jared Zimney Advertising Sales Manager Joy Ryan Advertising Sales Jeff Meyer Calendar Editor Shayna Hendricksen Copy Editor Shayna Hendricksen The Village Family Service Center Board of Directors Carrie Bjorge, David Dougherty, Richard Duysen, Judy Green, Matthew Hallaway, Dr. Richard Hanson, Tammy Hauck, Richard Henderson, Dr. Karen Mellum, Nancy McKenzie, Tom Nelson, Dr. Joy Query, Becky Walen

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Children and money. How many ways can this combination go wrong? I think many money habits are the result of nature, not nurture. I have three sons, all with very different relationships with money. When your kids were little, maybe you diligently monitored their allowance or carefully calculated their stash of cash, but eventually, those children grow up and you have to send them out into the world to manage money on their own. This is when it gets tricky, because grown-up monetary decisions can have expensive consequences. Do you help them make the rent payment to avoid the $50 late fee they can’t afford to pay anyway? Should you donate money toward a car fund which would give them greater employment options? If you’re helping them with living costs, what expenses are reasonable—do they get the cable package with all the movie channels…do they even get cable? And, once you start contributing to your adult child’s expenses, when and how do you stop? We offer some suggestions in our article, “Still Supporting Your Adult Kids? 5 Steps for Cutting Them Off.” It includes a few ideas to make the transition less painful for you and for your adult children. Our feature article deals with a difficult issue, domestic violence. Statistics show that one in four women will be a victim of domestic violence—and, though the number seems to vary depending on the resource—one in seven men. Area police departments responded to over 3,000 domestic violence calls in 2013. Their job is challenging, but officers say they have an improved understanding of the victimology and more resources on hand to diffuse situations than they did in the past. When victims are unable or unwilling (70% of domestic violence victims will retract their stories) to pursue the perpetrator, video and audio recordings from the crime scene can help law enforcement build a case for prosecution. Hopefully, most of you have seen the local domestic violence awareness campaign, “It’s Everyone’s Business.” The premise for the public service announcements is that domestic violence is pervasive and it’s everybody’s responsibility to educate themselves and to act. Thanks for reading.

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6 Is Your Child Ready for School? Are You?

Don’t say goodbye to summer just yet, but there are a few things you can do now to help your student make the transition back to school.

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14 Still Supporting Your Adult Kids? 5 Steps for Cutting Them Off

More than half of American parents are financially supporting their adult children in some manner. Learn how to gradually eliminate your funds from their budget. z online

18 Where to Find the Best Free Educational Videos Online

Educational videos litter the internet, but which ones have value? Here is a selection of sources with a short description of the videos available. z wellness

22 Snack Attack: 50 Snacks for 50 Calories...or Less

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38 Domestic Violence in FargoMoorhead: “It’s Everyone’s Business” Through education, training, and advocacy, law enforcement in our community is taking on domestic violence.

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Are You? By Judy M. Miller

Anticipation builds as the new school year approaches. Every year my kids become antsy as the stores fill up with new backpacks, fun colorful accessories, and the latest in locker and school supplies. And even though I am not ready to begin the process of letting summer with my kids slip though my fingers, I grudgingly give in and get to work. The excitement of, and preparation for, a new school year can be stressful for the parents and children. So, what can parents do to make the transition smooth— especially for the child who is attending a traditional school for the first time or going to a new school? Here are some ideas to get everyone ready.

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SCHEDULE A VISIT

Meeting the teacher and walking through the building does a lot to ease the stress of change. If your child’s schedule requires changing classrooms and the use of a locker, take them to school, encourage them to physically walk through their schedule and become familiar with their locker. “We love to have parents bring their new students to the school and wander the halls before schools starts. It helps them feel a bit more at home once classes begin,” says Ben Franklin Middle School Principal John Nelson. This solves two problems: Your child gains a sense of the familiar and you, when you think of your child during the day, can be calm knowing where your child is.

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SHOPPING FOR SCHOOL SUPPLIES IS OUR ANNUAL FIRST STEP IN GETTING READY FOR SCHOOL...

GET THE PAPERWORK DONE

Mark this task off your to-do list early. Doing so allows you the time to address anything that may have been overlooked, like a copy of your child’s inoculations. Make and keep copies in case paperwork is misplaced. Keep a folder at home for each of your children with all required school paperwork, class list, phone numbers, class schedule, and any other important papers. If you need something, you’ll know where it is. Last minute worries and misplaced paper add to stress. You’re working towards smooth, yes?

TAKE YOUR CHILD SHOPPING

Shopping for school supplies is our annual first step in getting ready for school, part of our tradition for transitioning from summer back to school. In the early part of August, we wade through the aisles with shopping carts and our lists of required school supplies. Each of my four kids has a copy of their list and runs through the aisles, grabbing items on their list and throwing supplies into the carts. I check what is in the carts against my master list. I also adjust supplies to account for the myriad school projects that will pop up throughout the school year and the items that may not go the distance over the course of the school year (extra poster board, erasers, folders, plastic rulers, highlighters, dry erase markers).

CHECKUPS

If your insurance allows, consider scheduling checkups as early as possible. Seeing the dentist and doctor earlier, especially when inoculations are required, disassociates them with the start of school. Middle and high school sports physicals will need to be completed before your child begins practices for fall sports.

CONNECT OR RECONNECT

Consider a simple get together or picnic with school friends and families you may not have seen over the summer. Reestablishing friendships and catching up does wonders for everyone. This is a great opportunity for new families to get acquainted as well. If you are the new family, ask for a mentor family who has a child the same age as yours. The mentor family can “hold your hand” as you and your child transition into the new school environment, answering questions and helping you become familiar with the system. family

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STARTING SCHOOL RIGHT AS A STEPPARENT

BY KAREN ALLEY

THE EXCITEMENT OF THE NEW SCHOOL YEAR, ADJUSTMENT TO CLASS WORK AND STUDYING, AND ADDED EXPECTATIONS WEAR YOUR CHILD OUT, SO MAKE SURE THEY START OFF RESTED AND READY TO LEARN.

MOVE THE CLOCK UP

Summer is time to replenish; to slow down. Even if you work, your child, whether at camp or at home, has been sleeping in and staying up later. Gradually begin moving bedtimes and wake-up times back to school schedules. Changing the schedule should help you get some added sleep, too, since you aren’t staying up as late. The excitement of the new school year, adjustment to class work and studying, and added expectations wear your child out, so make sure they start off rested and ready to learn. In addition to schedule adjustments, Fargo mom Kelli Bourke says she and her husband start talking about the upcoming school year with the kids to get them prepared and excited for school. “This year, Ella will be going into first grade, so we’ll read books about starting first grade. Last year, she couldn’t get enough of the book about starting kindergarten,” says Bourke.

GO OVER EXPECTATIONS

Sit down with your child and go over what you and your child’s school expect of them. Some schools require signed agreements from the student that hold them responsible for their actions, like cheating, turning work in on time, responsibility, and treatment of other students. If these are required by your child’s school, make sure you discuss the agreement and that your child understands what they are signing. If 8

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you or your child feels anything needs clarification, get it, and keep a copy of the signed agreement. “Our oldest, Aiden, changed schools last year, so we arranged to have him see the classroom and meet his teacher—who took the time to go over classroom expectations,” says Bourke. “That really helped him with the transition.”

ORGANIZE AND MARK EVERYTHING

When you are shopping for school supplies with your child, get yourself some new supplies too. I always get myself a new supply of sticky notes, permanent markers, highlighters, paint pens, and notebooks. I purchase storage bins if I need them. Extra supplies go into the bins and are used by my kids as needed throughout the school year. My personal supplies go into the desk drawer, necessary for marking clothing, new backpacks and school supplies. Permanent markers won’t work on every surface, so paint pens come in handy (and they come in white). Making an effort to prepare your child to return to the classroom helps you and your child get ready for the school year with less hassle and stress. Judy M. Miller is a freelance writer living in the Midwest with her husband and four children. She is the author of “What To Expect From Your Adopted Tween.” villagefamilymag.org

The beginning of the school year is an important time in the life of every parent with school-aged children, and that includes stepparents. It’s the time when you’re establishing routines that will set the standard for the rest of the school year, whether it’s bedtime rituals or homework schedules, and as with all things in a child’s development, all the parents in a child’s life have an important role to play. The first order of business is to introduce yourself to all of your child’s teachers and explain your family’s particular situation. A good way to do this is to attend the open house, whether you can make it there with your child or not. Some families might be able to all go together, but if it is better not to have the biological parents there at the same time, it’s OK to go at different times. If it’s not possible for all parents to attend the open house, set up a conference with the teacher as soon as possible to introduce yourself. Whether it’s at the open house or a conference, the important thing is to let the teacher know that, as a stepparent, you are also involved in your child’s life and care about his or her success. It also helps the teacher be better equipped to work with your child once he or she knows the custody arrangement and any other pertinent information that might affect a child’s attitude at school. Having a clear line of communication from the school to you is also important. Now’s the time to make sure all parents, biological or not, are listed on the child’s information forms, so both households receive all calls and communications. Multiple sign-ons for PowerSchool are available for blended families making it easy for parents to track attendance, grades, and schedules online. Contact the school for additional information or inquire at registration. Though getting communication from the school straightened out is important in blended families, even more important is letting the kids know you’re concerned about their success in school. As a stepparent, it’s just as essential for you to help with homework and attend school functions and athletic events as the biological parents. After all, you’re all parenting, and the more love a child receives, the better off he or she is. family

YOUR FAMILY z gary’s opinion

Keeping an Eye Upstream By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center Four villagers working along a river bank see children floating by and out of sight. The first villager works frantically to pull out as many as he can. The second villager decides the best approach is to teach the children to swim. The third villager rallies the rest of the village to understand the plight of the children, but the wise fourth villager marches Wolsky upriver to find out who is throwing them in. I heard this story many years ago and have always thought it quite profound. I believe it is worth pondering from the standpoint of The Village’s work with kids and families for the past 123 years. Sometimes we don’t get the opportunity to go upriver to find the “source” of the children floating by. When that happens, we deal with the reality of the situation—knowing that whatever the source may be, appropriate interventions by trained professionals can be the key in helping kids and families chart a new and successful course. Many (or most) people don’t show up at one of our offices until the situation that gets them there has been going on for some time. The damage is greater, the problem(s) more ingrained and, naturally, the recovery more difficult, than if the issue were addressed early on. Although nearly all of us have heard that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, not all live by it. It’s probably a simple matter of human nature. So, we invest a great deal of energy and dollars to “pull kids out of the river.” And we’re really good at it. Our outcome measurements show we are successful in helping people through tough times. Client and referral survey results clearly show The Village has an exemplary reputation, and is very well known for its work in “pulling kids out of the river” and saving them from the dangers downstream. The other aspect of our work that is equally, if not more, gratifying is when we send people up river. Big Brothers Big Sisters is one example of this work. After four decades of commitment to these kids, we know the impact can be huge and life changing—and all based on the concept of prevention. Another example is our work with children in Minnesota— nothing we do from a prevention standpoint is more encouraging. The Village is one of the “go to” agencies in dealing with children’s mental health issues in the state. Our counselors in Minnesota are experts in diagnosing early childhood mental health issues, and are well-trained in a host of distinctive approaches that can change the course of a child’s life—and the course of their parents’ lives as well. And last but not least, Nokomis Child Care Centers represents one of our best opportunities at intervention in the lives of young people and their families. Nokomis is a community jewel. For 40 years Nokomis has been attending to the special needs of kids who, for a variety of reasons, require the attention of a unique group of trained and dedicated professional educators. At Nokomis, teachers, family

speech therapists, family therapists, and others work together to make sure these kids get a good start in preparation for the challenges of life. Nokomis is a great example of The Village’s longstanding commitment to work “upriver” in an effort to create a level playing field for all children, regardless of their circumstances. And we’re not done with our vision of what Nokomis can be. Our dream of even going farther up river in applying our holistic approach to these kids can take our work and Nokomis, along with other programs, to unprecedented levels. The Village’s success in these areas couldn’t happen without a caring and dedicated community that recognizes the vital importance of early support and intervention, and its importance in a child’s ability to develop his or her full potential. To the donors that make it happen, I extend our thanks on behalf of all the children and families we serve. Your partnership allows us, together, to go up river and ensure a greater likelihood of success for thousands of kids and their families. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.

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Staff Pick: Jared

PG On DVD Modeled after Pixar’s “Cars,” this animated film tells the story of Dusty, a crop dusting plane with a fear of heights, but a desire to race. Dusty is the underdog as he competes with enormous planes in the Wings Around the Globe race. After sizing up the competition, he enlists the help of Skipper, a navy war plane to teach him how to win. Dusty encounters many obstacles in his race across land and sea. Each time, friends come to the rescue. “Planes” has a good message for kids to reach beyond their limitations and pursue their dreams. Voices include Dane Cook, Stacy Keach, Brad Garrett, Teri Hatcher, and Julia Louis-Dreyfus.

“Batman: Mask of the Phantasm” PG Available on DVD Criminals are dropping like flies in Gotham City, but it’s not Batman who is stopping them. A new, mysterious crimefighter has emerged, dealing out justice on a more personal level— one-on-one. Unfortunately for Batman, the other criminals in the city blame him for their fallen friends. In this fast-paced adventure from 1993, Batman is faced with his toughest © Warner Bros. Family Entertainment challenge to date. Does he give up fighting crime to be with the love of his life? Can he maintain a relationship while the Joker is on the loose? And who is behind the Mask of the Phantasm?

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“Guardians of the Galaxy”

G On Netflix Instant Stream Glenn Close takes on the fiendish role of Cruella De Vil in this live-action remake of the Disney animated classic. Dalmations Pongo and Perdy fall in love and their humans, Roger and Anita, fall in love, too. Anita works for Cruella De Vil, who is a leader in the fashion industry. Cruella decides the spotted fur of the dalmation is the next big fashion craze. After Perdy gives birth to 15 cuddly, spotted pups, Cruella wants those puppies! She hires two goons to kidnap the puppies and dozens of other dalmations for their fur. A variety of animals come to the rescue and the ensuing antics give this movie its comedic edge. The film also stars Jeff Daniels, Joely Richardson, and Hugh Laurie.

PG-13 In Theaters August 1 A ragtag team of misfits comes together to save the galaxy. From Marvel, the studio of “Iron Man,” “Thor,” Captain America,” and “The Avengers,” this action-packed adventure is led by half human/half alien bounty hunter Peter Quill (Chris Pratt). After stealing a mysterious orb, Quill draws the attention of a powerful villain named Ronan (Lee Pace) who is determined to control the entire universe. Quill teams up with Rocket, a gun-toting raccoon (voiced by Bradley Cooper); Groot, a tree-like humanoid (voiced by Vin Diesel); the deadly and enigmatic, Gamora (Zoe Saldana); and the revengedriven, Drax the Destroyer (Dave Bautista). Watch these “Guardians of the Galaxy” as they take a stand to save the world.

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Baby & Preschool “Dinnertime for Chickies” by Janee Trasler Wash your wings, and take a seat. What will these tiny chickies eat? With the help of Cow, Pig, and Sheep, soon the chickies learn to cheep, “Pass the carrots. Pass the peas. Pass those yummy broccolis!” With engaging rhymes and endearing illustrations, this book is perfect for babies and toddlers to enjoy, especially those picky chickies.

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Ages 4 to 8 “Flashlight” by Lizi Boyd Inside a tent it’s cozy. But what is going on outside? Is it dark? Is it scary? Not if you have your trusty flashlight. Told solely through images and using a spare yet dramatic palette, artist Lizi Boyd has crafted a masterful exploration of night, nature, and art. Both lyrical and humorous, this visual poem—like the flashlight beam itself—reveals there is magic in the darkness. We just have to look for it.

Teenagers “The Coldest Girl in Cold Town” by Holly Black Tana lives in a world where walled cities called Coldtowns exist. In them, quarantined monsters and humans mingle in a bloody mix of predator and prey. Once you pass through Coldtown’s gates, you can never leave. One morning, after a perfectly ordinary party, Tana wakes up surrounded by corpses. The only other survivors of this massacre are her endearing exboyfriend, infected and on the edge, and a mysterious boy burdened with a terrible secret. Shaken and determined, Tana enters a race against the clock to save the three of them the only way she knows how: by going straight to the wicked, opulent heart of Coldtown itself.

Ages 9 to 12 “Sidekicked” by John David Anderson Andrew Bean might be a part of H.E.R.O., a secret organization for the training of superhero sidekicks, but that doesn’t mean life is all leaping tall buildings in single bounds. First, there’s Drew’s power: He’s got super senses—his hearing, sight, taste, touch, and smell are the most powerful on the planet. There’s his superhero mentor, a former legend who now spends more time straddling barstools than fighting crime. And then there’s his best friend, Jenna—their friendship would be complicated enough if she weren’t able to throw a Volkswagen the length of a city block. Add in trying to keep his sidekick life a secret from everyone, including his parents, and the truth is clear: Middle school is a drag even with superpowers.

Adults “The Orphan Train” by Christina Baker Kline Between 1854 and 1929, so-called orphan trains ran from the cities of the East Coast to the farmlands of the Midwest, carrying thousands of abandoned children whose fates would be determined by pure luck. Would they be adopted by a loving family, or would they face an adolescence of hard labor and servitude? Vivian Daly was one such child, now retired and living on the Maine coast with memories of her turbulent past tucked away in the attic. Seventeen-year-old Molly Ayer is assigned community service, helping the elderly widow clean out her attic. As Molly helps Vivian sort through her keepsakes, they discover they have much in common: Molly is an outsider being raised by strangers, and she, too, has unanswered questions about her past. Author Christina Baker Kline will be appearing at The Stage at Island Park (333 4th St. S., Fargo) on Wed., Aug. 13, 2014 (See ad page 30). It is the kickoff event for the area libraries’ One Book, One Community reading project.

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YOUR FAMILY z mom’s view

Wish I was Making This Up By Gwen Rockwood My favorite humor writer, Pulitzer Prize-winning humorist Dave Barry, is famous for the line “I am not making this up.” He uses it when writing about things that are so absurd any sane person would assume he’s taking creative liberties with his description when, in fact, the description happens to be ridiculous AND true. I thought of Dave’s famous line when my daughter spotted a toy recently and brought it over to the shopping cart to show me. “Mom, this is kind of weird…and gross,” she said, holding it up for inspection. The toy is called “Poopsy Pets,” and it’s part of the Moxie Girlz line of dolls made by the MGA Entertainment company. The package includes a doll holding a leash attached to a small pet. In the upper left corner of the package, there’s a speech bubble near the pet that says, “I poop JEWELS!” If that’s not quite descriptive enough for you, there’s also an up-close photo of the pet’s behind where you can plainly see small pink jewels protruding from a round hole under said pet’s plastic tail. “Kate, where did you get this?” I asked, wondering if this might be some kind of practical joke doll. She pointed to a low shelf, and, lo and behold, the Poopsy Pet had friends. Another doll had a bunny that said, “I poop GLITTER!” The third one was a unicorn pet who proudly proclaimed, “I poop RAINBOWS!” Now I’m not above a little gross humor. As the mother of two boys and a girl all under the age of 13, I’ve heard and enjoyed my share of funny bathroom jokes. But glitterpooping bunnies? Unicorns defecating rainbows? Have toy makers lost their collective marbles? To be fair, I have heard of actual dogs pooping out jewels in the form of engagement rings that were accidentally gobbled up like treats. But I can guarantee they didn’t look as pretty coming out the back end as they do in those Poopsy Pet photos. And are rainbows still special if they come squirting out your pet’s behind? I think not. What amazes me most about these unusual poopers is that they made it all the way from the “crazy idea” stage to actual store shelves. Maybe it happened like this: Desperate product engineer walks his dog one day and stops to pick up the dog’s “deposit” in a pet poop bag. He thinks to himself, “Wouldn’t it be great if the dog pooped diamonds instead of this crap? Wait a second…EUREKA!” Then that same guy sits in a brainstorming meeting at work and says something like this: “So what if we make a line of dolls with fantasy pets who poop jewels, glitter, and rainbows? Wouldn’t that be awesome?” And then, in an equally stunning turn of events, the other people around the table say, “Oh my gosh, YES! That would be awesome and not the least bit gross or disturbing. It’s the new frontier of toy making!” 12

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It takes a relatively long time for a new toy to go from concept to product launch. How is it possible that Poopsy Pets made it through so many stages with no one slowing down to say, “This is kind of weird…and gross”? My 7-year-old knew it at first glance. And let’s not forget how literal young kids can be. At this very moment, some of them are digging through poop piles in the backyard and the cat’s litter box, searching for the “jewels, rainbows, and glitter,” that must surely be hiding there. Imagine how disappointed and disgusted they and their parents will be when the search turns up nothing but a big pile of poo. Sure do wish I was making this up. Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Her book, “Reporting Live from the Laundry Pile,” is available on Amazon and at Nightbird Books. Email her at rockwoodfiles@cox.net or write to her in care of this magazine.

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Pint-sized Demolition Crew By J. Shane Mercer

Brands like Gerber and Pampers like to show you pictures of sleeping babies taken with soft filters so they look all sweet and cuddly. Have you seen those Carter’s children’s clothing promo photos with all of those happy, contented, clean children? Well, that’s all a whole lot of hooey aimed at selling stuff. The real truth is that kids are designed to soil and break things. If the aforementioned companies wanted to tell the truth, they’d have pictures of kids playing T-ball on that priceless vase that’s been in your family for four generations or chewing through the cord on a lamp. I think children may serve the same function in nature as the microorganisms that break down wood and leaves and such, except children break down home appliances and valuables. One day, not long ago, I came home for lunch and my daughter had destroyed the lid on the honey bottle. Having desired honey for her sandwich, and being unable to open the sticky lid, she took a kitchen knife to it. When I arrived on the scene, she had already progressed to complaining that her sandwich was too sweet. All that was left were shards of honey lid and discontent. But, usually, the destruction is less malicious. Sometimes you just find stuff in the midst of the slow process of deterioration. And you can be baffled by it until you turn a corner and some child is dangling the full weight of their 8-year-old body from the handrail on the stairs or riding the refrigerator door like a cattle gate. (“Oh, yeah, that’s why everything’s broken.”) It’s frustrating. “Don’t hang on the refrigerator door, honey,” you say, but you say the word “honey” like you’re saying “you big dummy.” But you can’t say “you big dummy” because all the parenting articles say it’s bad to call your kids “dummy,” even though it’s hard to find any other explanation for their behavior at this point. So you say the word “honey” with your brows all furrowed and angry. And you use that growly, daddy bear voice that goes really high-pitched at the end of the word because, along with being angry, you’re also mystified your offspring could be such a big…honey. Because of these destructive tendencies, you find yourself in a race against the clock to save your home. The question is: Can you fix things faster than the children can break them, or at least repair things at such a rate that the entire home does not collapse before you ship the last of the children off to college, at which time they can only destroy your home on weekends and during summers? And children are getting more destructive. At least it seems that way in my home. Maybe today’s kids have been genetically altered by all the food coloring in their breakfast cereal. Or maybe it’s video games, or the internet, or the Teletubbies. I don’t know, but I can pick up a toy car that I played with as a child over the course of a decade, hand it to one of my children, and the wheels will instantly pop off. They break toys like those guys who claim they can bend spoons with their minds. They just think about a toy and it explodes. And with kids, finding out what happened only leaves you more befuddled than before you asked. “Well, I…um…there were things that looked colorful…and so I hit them with a hammer.” family

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(Blank stare from me as I try to make sense of the words, which I fully comprehend individually, but which, when taken collectively, have no meaning.) “So you meant to break them?” “Well…I…no…I just meant to hit them.” “With a hammer?” “Yes.” “Three times?” “Well…I…The second one was an accident.” And they’re not being evasive (well, maybe a little). They just have no more insight as to why they do the things they do than their mother and I do. There was a hammer. There was stuff. And for some reason I struck the former with the latter. That’s all they know. Maybe I shouldn’t be too hard on my kids. I remember cutting my mother’s sewing ruler in two with scissors as a child. My explanation for my behavior was, “I wanted to see if it would cut.” I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. And when it does fall, my children will be there to stomp on it and crush it with a hammer for no discernable reason. J. Shane Mercer is the digital marketing specialist at The Village Family Service Center. He and his wife, Amy, live in Fargo with their three children, Ariana (10), Talia (10), and Will (5).

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STILL SUPPORTING YOUR ADULT KIDS?

If you’re the parent of young adults, you may be wondering if the kids are ever going to make it on their own. It’s small comfort but, if you’re helping support grown kids, you’re in good company. Nearly 60 percent of American parents were financially supporting adult children, the National Foundation for Financial Education and Forbes reported in 2011. That included help with housing, insurance costs, spending money, living expenses, transportation, and medical bills. More than half of the baby boomers responding to a 2012 survey told Ameriprise Financial that they’d let their adult children live with them rent-free. Many boomerang kids are overstaying their welcome. Younger Workers Wobbling The recession may be mostly behind us but young American workers still are struggling to stand on their own feet financially. The recession dealt them a tough blow but it’s not the only reason that 20-somethings, 30-somethings, and even 40-somethings are wobbling on takeoff, says “Failure to Launch: Structural Shift and the New Lost Generation,” a report by the Georgetown University Center on Education and the Workforce. 14

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Younger adults’ difficulty finding steady work and accumulating savings is also the result of longer-term economic trends. More jobs today require advanced skills. Fewer high-paying factory jobs are available for workers who have only a high school diploma, The Wall Street Journal writes. Student loan debt is holding back younger workers, too. Between 1984 and 2009, the net worth of households headed by someone 35 or younger fell by 68 percent—from $11,500 to $3,700, says the Georgetown University report. Supportive Emancipation If you’re the parent of one of these late bloomers, you know the trends firsthand. You may have taken on debt or delayed your retirement to help your kids. Your questions are likely to be practical ones: • Does supporting grown kids really help them? • How do you wean them from the bank of Mom and Dad?

It’s important to consider whether your support is really good for the kids. By helping them financially, you may be subtly signaling you don’t trust them to be capable of caring for themselves. Also, helping your kids may endanger your own financial stability. Interviewed by email, Gail Cunningham, spokeswoman for the National Foundation for Credit Counseling, says: “This is, of course, an additional financial burden on the parents, and one they had not likely planned for. What was intended to be a temporary situation often turns into a permanent one, potentially burdening the finances and the relationship.” Here are five steps to help break your financial ties with your kids: 1. S et Boundaries Gently but Firmly When you do decide to cut off financial support from your adult children, cut the cord gradually. Begin with a conversation. Tell the kids how much you love them. Tell them you believe in them, and mean it. Of

course they have failed sometimes. Most of us need to try and try and try again until we figure out how to get it right. Pointing out their failures undermines their confidence. Their confidence is likely to be shaky enough right now, even if they appear to be full of bravado. Try to focus on the times when they got it right, on ways they’ve proven their capacity to succeed. Tell them you’ll be there for them as you gradually shift more and more of the weight for their financial responsibilities to them. Ask them to help identify non-financial ways you can be supportive and then commit to the ones you can, in the place of money. 2. Make a Plan to End Help, With Dates This is a big change and it could be tough on all of you. Tell the kids what they can and can’t expect from you. Make a road map for this journey, with milestones—goals and the dates for achieving them. If possible, include your kids in setting these goals and in discussing how to

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reach them. Involving them respects and supports their independence. It also may give you important information about what’s realistic for them to achieve and when. Of course, not all kids will be able to respect their parents’ need to pull back. Some won’t be able to participate in this planning with you. One way of defusing the difficulties may be to get help from someone who’s neutral, a nonprofit financial counselor. NFCC certified financial professionals at The Village Financial Resource Center can act as “an independent third party, helping to peacefully and reasonably facilitate the transition to independence,” Cunningham says. Contact The Village Financial Resource Center at 1-800-450-4019 to set up an in-person, online, or telephone appointment.

3. Help Them Create a Budget “You have to teach them the basics of finance,” Kimberly Foss, founder of Empyrion Wealth Management in Roseville, Calif., tells U.S. News & World Report. One practical way to do this is to create a budget together. Try not to make it overly complicated. You might use one of the free online budgeting sites like PowerWallet. Or maybe the kids will go for a simple spreadsheet like Excel or Google Docs. Foss advises clients to budget 50 percent of their income for needs, 30 percent for wants, and put 20 percent in savings. 4. Pull Back Gradually Foss suggests parents take 12 to 24 months to get their children on their own two feet financially, starting by removing support for smaller expenses first. For example, you could tell them

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SEEING SIGNS How Clear is Your Child’s View of the World

You’ve noticed your child squinting, covering one eye when reading, and standing extremely close to the TV. Are these silly games, or something more serious? Dr. Maggie Suby Kelly, optometrist at Sanford Southpointe Eye Center and Optical in Fargo, says it most definitely can be serious. And these signals shouldn’t be ignored. “These are some signs of a potential vision problem, and it’s essential to get your child checked out as soon as possible,” she stresses. “If your child is unable to see well, it affects so many areas of their life.” Children who cannot see well may struggle with reading, and may even avoid this activity if at all possible. Their attention span may be shortened simply because they can’t see what’s happening, so they lose interest and move on to another activity. “While it’s not frequent, children can be misdiagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD,” says Dr. Kelly. “So it’s very important to make sure the real issue is identified— and maybe your child simply can’t see and needs help.” And that’s where Sanford Eye Center comes in. Dr. Kelly wants to see kids starting at age 3 to get a good start. Once the initial examination is complete, she usually recommends returning to the clinic at around age 5, or before they start school. She will compare the tests to see if there have been any changes. “Once children reach age 5, I want to see them every year after until age 18,” Dr. Kelly says. “Children grow and change so quickly, and if they hit a growth spurt, it can also affect their vision, so annual exams are vital.”

It’s also important for parents to pay attention to their children from the beginning. Children younger than age 3 can experience problems, such as a crossed or turned eye. “A turned eye is something that needs to be addressed sooner than later,” Dr. Kelly says. “If your child appears to have a turned eye that has remained consistent for several months, go ahead and bring them in for an examination, even if they are younger than 3.” Dr. Kelly also wants parents to be aware of the different kinds of vision exams that exist. They are not all the same, and certain conditions may go undetected without a proper evaluation. “The vision screenings performed at schools are helpful, but many parents consider these a comprehensive exam—they are not,” she says. “These screenings seem to catch children who are nearsighted well, but don’t always identify children who are farsighted.” “Parents are usually very intuitive about their kids,” she says. “If you notice some signs in your child, bring them in for a complete evaluation just to be safe—even if they passed their

school vision exam. Your child’s vision is way too valuable not to take that precaution.” If you are concerned about your child’s vision, or would like to schedule an appointment, call Sanford Southpointe Eye Center at (701) 2343640 or Sanford South University Eye Center at (701) 461-5194.

Signs your child may have trouble seeing: • Squinting • Excessive blinking • Eye-rubbing • Head tilt • Poor hand-eye coordination • Holding books too close • Standing too close to TV • Headaches • Poor performance at school • Short attention span

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By Carolyn Jabs

As every good teacher knows, a well-chosen video can fasten a concept into a child’s head much faster than a lecture or a textbook. Happily, this is the golden age for mini videos. Charismatic educators have condensed their best lessons into short segments that are as entertaining as they are educational. Since kids are already snacking on videos of cute animals and favorite music groups, parents might as well expand the menu to include something a little more nourishing. Bite-size videos have several uses: they can keep young minds engaged in the summer, supplement classroom lessons during the school year, be mini18

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refresher videos for parents attempting to help with homework, or a valuable teaching tool for homeschool families. YouTube is bursting with educational videos. However, for parents, this creates a “wheat from chaff” problem because the good stuff is mixed in with plenty of other videos that are, at best, time-wasters and, at worst, inappropriate for kids. The following YouTube channels meet the ABC standard—they are Accurate, Boredom Busting, and Child-friendly—and they are fun! If you find a channel your kids really like, consider subscribing so you’ll know when new videos are posted.

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CGP Grey has a simple tagline— “complex things explained”—and it delivers on that promise. These short videos feature stick figures that explain everything from the debt limit and daylight savings time to the Electoral College and net neutrality. Vi Hart is one of the few vlogs hosted by a woman. Victoria calls herself a “recreational mathemusician,” and her videos are quirky, fast-paced explorations of the intersections between math and art. Check out the hexaflexagrams! Crash Course is the collaboration of two brothers who are also teachers. (One of the brothers happens to be John Green, author of several wildly popular young adult books including “The Fault in our Stars.”) Videos on this site are a bit longer than others, but the brothers talk fast. (Occasionally they use edgy language.) At this point, they’ve posted videos for entire semesters of material in U.S. and world history, literature, chemistry, biology, ecology, and psychology. Science Music Videos are the creation of Mr. W., a science teacher in Berkeley, California, who makes up infectious folk, rock, and even rap songs about complicated biological concepts like DNA, photosynthesis, mitosis, and osmosis. family

Veritasium is a grab bag filled with experiments, discussions, interviews, demos, and random interesting facts. The host, Derek Muller, has a special interest in correcting scientific misconceptions. MinutePhysics prides itself on making very short videos that explain “cool physics and other sweet science” using stick figures and bad puns. Not surprisingly, the narrator talks very fast so kids who are completely new to a topic may need to watch the videos more than once. Numberphile is produced by the Mathematical Sciences Research Institute with the goal of getting young people to “love numbers.” The videos, created by a talented team of mathematicians, explain a wide variety of mathematical concepts in idiosyncratic ways. To calculate the value of pi, they use pies! The Spangler Effect is the product of a science teacher who turns “ordinary science experiments into unforgettable learning experiences.” If your kids want to replicate some of the experiments, books and science kits are sold on a complementary website. TED-Ed is part of the growing empire of TED products. Unlike the well-known talks, TED-Ed segments are shorter lessons from exceptional villagefamilymag.org

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teachers. Many have been developed in consultation with animators and screenwriters. They vary widely in length and subject matter but all are intended to spread great ideas and spark curiosity. Videos on YouTube tend to be short and distinctive. Like a good appetizer, they can create hunger but they may not satisfy it. For videos that are a little more substantial and systematic, turn to these websites. Khanacademy.org is a non-profit that posts free video lessons on a wide range of subjects from art history to economics. Started by a young man who was trying to help his cousin do her math long distance, the site is especially good at helping young learners master mathematical concepts from counting to differential equations. Neok12.com has a well-organized list of videos on almost any topic a child might want to explore. In addition to the video lessons, the site offers games and worksheets that may be helpful to students who are trying to master unfamiliar concepts for school.

WatchKnowLearn.org has indexed 50,000 educational videos on everything from physics to physical education, foreign languages to social studies, ethics to ecology. In addition to searching by subject matter, parents can zero in on videos suitable for specific ages by using the slider at the top of the page. Watching a video isn’t the same as mastering a subject. Kids also need discussions, exercises, and lots of opportunities to practice new skills. However, the right video at the right time may ignite a child’s curiosity and perhaps a lifelong interest. Just as important, sharing one of these little videos is an opportunity for families to talk, learn, and laugh together. Carolyn Jabs, M.A., raised three computer savvy kids including one with special needs. She has been writing Growing Up Online for ten years and is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. For other Growing Up Online columns, visit www.growing-up-online.com © Copyright, 2014, Carolyn Jabs. All rights reserved.

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50 Snacks for 50 Calories…or Less By Kelly Lynch

Whether you’re hoping to shed a few pounds, trying to maintain your weight, or attempting to help your children or yourself eat better, experts agree a few sensible snacks interspersed with smaller meals is a healthy way to consume daily calories. Smaller food portions throughout the day can speed up your metabolism and curb your hunger. Nutrition specialist and NDSU professor, Julie Garden-Robinson talks about the benefits of snacking. “Snacks can fill nutrition gaps. Besides providing valuable nutrients, snacks can promote better concentration and can prevent eating too much during meals.” Because childhood is a time of rapid growth, supplementing your children’s meals with healthy snacks is a way to boost nutritional deficiencies and keep them energized throughout the day. “Wellchosen snacks help fuel children’s growth. Most children cannot eat enough during the three typical meals per day to meet their nutrition needs. Healthful snacks, such as fruits, vegetables, whole grain crackers, and yogurt, provide nutrients that might be missing in the child’s overall diet,” says GardenRobinson. For adults trying to watch their weight, low-calorie 22

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snacks between meals alleviate hunger which can lead to overeating. Being hungry depletes your willpower, so sensible snacking will help you maintain your weight loss goals. It’s important to snack only when you’re hungry and fight the urge to munch on food because you’re overwhelmed, stressed, or upset. Garden-Robinson reminds us that sometimes kids, like adults, might ask for a snack when they’re not really hungry—just bored. “Snacks, and food in general, should not be provided as an ‘activity’ or as a reward for good behavior. Parents and caregivers play a vital role in helping children learn to recognize when they are hungry and when they are full, and that awareness will serve them well throughout their lives.” Here is a list of 50 snacks that contain 50 calories or less. Happy snacking!

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50 Snacks for 50 Caloriesâ&#x20AC;Śor Less 1/2 cup skim milk 1/3 can sardines in water 1 medium tomato 1 small peach 2 broccoli spears 1 cup of tomato juice 1/2 cup blueberries 1 small plum 6 Tbsps. Frosted Cheerios 1 mini snack box raisins 2 medium carrots

1 cup strawberries 5 stalks celery 7 tiny pretzel twists 1/2 cup pitted cherries 1 serving sugar free Jell-OÂŽ 1 cup chicken broth 1 cup sugar snap peas coffee with chocolate creamer 4 Tbsps. lowfat yogurt 1 medium cucumber 6 almonds 2 Hershey's Hugs or Kisses 1 cup zucchini 5 maraschino cherries 10 plain M&Ms 1 cup green beans 1/2 grapefruit 1 piece pickled herring 1 small tangerine 2 marshmallows 1 medium kiwi

1/2 medium orange 1/2 cup grapefruit juice 10 green olives 5 whole grain crackers 1 cup watermelon 1/4 cup shelled edamame 1/4 cup lowfat cottage cheese 2 iced animal crackers 1 Popsicle ice pop 1/2 cup cantaloupe 3 bite-sized pitted prunes 1/2 medium banana 1/2 cup diced pineapple 1 cup of vegetable juice 1 rice cake 1 medium bell pepper 1/2 medium apple 1 cup white mushrooms Kelly Lynch is the editorin-chief of The Village Family Magazine. Send comments to her at magazine@TheVillageFamily.org.

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AUGUST 2014 EVENTS 8.1 Friday • Monty Python’s “SPAMALOT.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com • “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-4776500 or www.trollwood.org 8.2 Saturday • Youth Day at the Races. Youth ages 14-18 can spend an entire day at the track—watch morning workouts, talk to trainers and jockeys, visit the

announcers stand, and more. 8 a.m., North Dakota Horse Park, 5180 19th Ave. N., Fargo, www.hrnd.org •F M Posse Horse Show. 9 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-428-3397 •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • M onty Python’s “SPAMALOT.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com •H orse Racing. 1 p.m., North Dakota Horse Park, 5180 19th Ave. N., Fargo, www.hrnd.org

• “How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-4776500 or www.trollwood.org 8.3 Sunday • FM Posse Horse Show. 9 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-428-3397 • The BLOCH Party. Features music and artistic demonstrations. 1-4 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org • Horse Racing. 1 p.m., North Dakota Horse Park, 5180 19th Ave. N., Fargo, www.hrnd.org

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•F M RedHawks vs. Wichita Wingnuts. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.6 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com •C reatively Kids. Painting classes for kids and their parents. No painting experience needed. Bring your own snacks and beverages, painting supplies provided. 3-4:30 p.m., Elmwood Park, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, www.creativelyuncorked.com •C oncert in the Park. 7-8:30 p.m. Elephant/Percy Godwin Park, 100 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com •F M RedHawks vs. Wichita Wingnuts. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.7 Thursday •C ommunity Play Day. 9-11 a.m. and 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

• Jail and Bail for March of Dimes. 10 a.m., Texas Roadhouse, 4971 13th Ave. S., Fargo, www.marchofdimes.com/ northdakota • The American Legion Central Plains Regional Tournament. Eight teams will compete for one spot in the American Legion World Series. 10 a.m., Jack Williams Stadium, 1137 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-886-8000 or www.post2baseball.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Madison Park, 3010 11th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org • Cruisin’ Broadway. 5-9 p.m., downtown Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • Heading Home. Fundraising event for Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch. Social hour at 5:30 p.m., dinner at 6:30 p.m., program at 7 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo. 701-364-0264 or c.isom@dakotaranch.org (See ad page 23)

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8.7 Thursday (cont.) • FM RedHawks vs. Gary RailCats. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Monty Python’s “SPAMALOT.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com. • Rockin’ the Rourke: Pert’ Near Sandstone. 7 p.m., Rourke Museum Courtyard, 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org 8.8 Friday • The American Legion Central Plains Regional Tournament. Eight teams will compete for one spot in the American Legion World Series. 10 a.m., Jack Williams Stadium, 1137 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-886-8000 or www.post2baseball.com • FM RedHawks vs. Gary RailCats. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Monty Python’s “SPAMALOT.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com

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8.9 Saturday •U nited Way School Supply Drive Distribution. Registration forms at www.unitedwaycassclay.org. To receive a backpack, each child must bring ID (social security card, report card, birth certificate, passport, or student ID) and completed registration form. 8-11:30 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-237-5050 •F iber Arts Festival. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fiberartsfest.com •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-2811002 or www.bn.com •T he American Legion Central Plains Regional Tournament. Eight teams will compete for one spot in the American Legion World Series. 1 p.m., Jack Williams Stadium, 1137 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-886-8000 or www.post2baseball.com •F M RedHawks vs. Gary RailCats. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com •M onty Python’s “SPAMALOT.” Presented by West Fargo Summer Arts Intensive. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com

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8.10 Sunday • Fiber Arts Festival. Noon–5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fiberartsfest.com • FM RedHawks vs. Gary RailCats. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • The American Legion Central Plains Regional Tournament. Eight teams will compete for one spot in the American Legion World Series. 3 p.m., Jack Williams Stadium, 1137 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-886-8000 or www.post2baseball.com 8.11 Monday • The American Legion Central Plains Regional Tournament. Eight teams will compete for one spot in the American Legion World Series. 11 a.m., Jack Williams Stadium, 1137 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-886-8000 or www.post2baseball.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Movie Night. Dusk (approx. 8:45 p.m.), Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com

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8.12 Tuesday • Arc Awareness Day. Hot dogs, chips, cookies, and beverages for sale. 11 a.m.-2 p.m., The Arc of Cass County, 215 North University Drive, Fargo. www.arccassnd.com (See ad page 23) • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • United Way School Supply Drive Distribution. Registration forms at www.unitedwaycassclay.org. To receive a backpack, each child must bring ID (social security card, report card, birth certificate, passport, or student ID) and completed registration form. 4-7 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-237-5050 • Microchip Clinic. 5-7 p.m., Humane Society Fargo-Moorhead, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-239-0077 or www. humanesocietyfargomoorhead.org • RiverArts. Performance by 8th Hour, River Keepers fishing clinic, barrel train rides, horse-drawn carriage rides, food, art and craft vendors, and more. Free. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Adopt-A-Pet Furry Friends Pet Walk. 5:30 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-232-5856

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8.13 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • Concert in the Park. 7-8:30 p.m. Brunsdale Park, 1702 27th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • One Book, One Community. Free presentation and book signing by Christina Baker Kline, author of “Orphan Train.” 7 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org (See ad page 30) 8.14 Thursday • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Centennial Park, 4101 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Big Screen Movie Matinee. “Despicable Me 2.” 1-3 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

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• Symphony Rocks @ Bluestem. VIP pre-party at 5:30 p.m., concert at 8 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org • Music Montage. 7-9 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 Broadway N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 8.15 Friday • Fargo Blues Festival. 12 bands over two days, great food, beverages, and on-site camping. First band performs at 2 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 218-287-7775 or www.fargobluesfest.com • Arrival from Sweden: The Music of ABBA. 8 p.m., Fargo Theater, 314 Broadway, Fargo, www.tickets300.com 8.16 Saturday • ND Appaloosa Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-391-9455 • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-4457361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Pioneer Days. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org

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8.16 Saturday (cont.) • Pride 5K Run/Walk. 10 a.m., Dike East, 100 2nd St. S., Fargo, www.pridecollective.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Pride in the Park. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Davy Park, 700 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, www.pridecollective.com • Fargo Blues Festival. 12 bands over two days, great food, beverages, and on-site camping. First band performs at noon, Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 218-2877775 or www.fargobluesfest.com • BMX Jam. 3 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 8.17 Sunday • YMCA Bus Trip to Twins Game. Twins vs. Royals, leave YMCA at 7:30 a.m., YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo. www.ymcacassclay.org/twins • ND Appaloosa Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-391-9455 • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Pioneer Days. Noon–5 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org 8.18 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

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• Dog Swim. 4-7 p.m., South Park Wading Pool, 2102 14th St. S., Moorhead; Northeast Park Wading Pool, 1817 8th Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com 8.19 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Arts Educators Exhibit Opening Reception. 3-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org • Community Quest: Building Memories. Free. 5-8 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • West Fargo Parks Dog Show. 5-7:30 p.m., North Elmwood Park Shelter, 500 12th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet animals available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-232-5856 or www.adoptapetfm.org 8.20 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Creatively Kids. Painting classes for kids and their parents. No painting experience needed. Bring your own snacks and beverages, painting supplies provided. 3-4:30 p.m., Elmwood Park, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, www.creativelyuncorked.com • Moorhead Corn Feed. Corn provided. Food available for purchase. 5:30 p.m., Prexy’s Pond, Concordia College, Moorhead 8.21 Thursday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • West Fargo Cruise Night. Classic cars and bikes cruise Sheyenne Street in West Fargo. 4:30-9 p.m., 701-443-5300 or www.topperscarclub.com 8.22 Friday • Potato Days Festival. Visit www.potatodays.com for event schedule, Barnesville, Minn., 1-800-525-4901 • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.23 Saturday • Potato Days Festival. Visit www.potatodays.com for event schedule, Barnesville, Minn., 1-800-525-4901 • Go Far Woman 5K/10K/Half Marathon. A fundraiser for the Essentia Health NICU. 10K Half Marathon and Relay start at 7 a.m., 5K Run/Walk start at 7:15 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.gofarwoman.com • ND Pinto Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-793-3176 • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Island Park Show. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Hog Wild for Wishes. Motorcycle fun run benefiting MakeA-Wish® North Dakota. Check-in 11 a.m.-1 p.m., HarleyDavidson of Fargo, 600 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, www.hogwildforwishes.com

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• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Katy Perry Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com 8.24 Sunday • ND Pinto Horse Show. 8 a.m., Horse Arena, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-793-3176 • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Island Park Show. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Streets Alive! Three miles of city streets closed to cars so you can walk, run, bike, rollerblade, dance, and move in the streets. Includes special events, demonstrations, and vendor booths. Noon-5 p.m., downtown Fargo-Moorhead, www.fmstreetsalive.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.25 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 8.26 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • FM RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.27 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Creatively Kids. Painting classes for kids and their parents. No painting experience needed. Bring your own snacks and beverages, painting supplies provided. 3-4:30 p.m., Elmwood Park, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, www.creativelyuncorked. com • FM RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.28 Thursday • FM RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2356161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Bluestem Summer Concert Series: The Temptations with Post Traumatic Funk Syndrome. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www. trollwood.org 8.29 Friday • Western Minnesota Steam Threshers Reunion. Gates open at 6 a.m., Rollag, Minn., 701-212-2034 or www.rollag.com

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• FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Miranda Sings. 7 p.m., Fargo Theater, 314 Broadway, Fargo, www.tickets300.com 8.30 Saturday • Western Minnesota Steam Threshers Reunion. Gates open at 6 a.m., Rollag, Minn., 701-212-2034 or www.rollag.com • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 8.31 Sunday • Western Minnesota Steam Threshers Reunion. Gates open at 6 a.m., Rollag, Minn., 701-212-2034 or www.rollag.com • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Bluestem Summer Concert Series: Goo Goo Dolls and Daughtry. 7 p.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.orgv

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September 4 - 13

*Activities subject to change

Thursday (9/4) •CCRI Superhero Run & Walk Friday (9/5) •M|State Greater Moorhead Days Parade Saturday (9/6) •Roots on the Red Music Festival •Moorhead Sings Competition •Miss Moorhead Pageant Sunday (9/7) •Bocce Challenge Monday (9/8) •Medallion Hunt Begins •Kids Fest Tuesday (9/9) •Farmers Market Saturday (9/13) •Wings and Wheels Fly-In and Car Show

Full details for all Greater Moorhead Days events can be found on our website or in our Fall/Winter program guide

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SEPTEMBER 2014 EVENTS 9.1 Monday • Western Minnesota Steam Threshers Reunion. Gates open at 6 a.m., Rollag, Minn., 701-212-2034 or www.rollag.com • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Canaries. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 9.2 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com 9.3 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 9.4 Thursday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • 61 for 61 Radiothon. Enjoy a silent auction, cookouts, family fun night, candle lighting ceremony, and more! For schedule of events, go to www.61for61.sanfordhealth.org • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• Cruisin’ Broadway. 5-9 p.m., downtown Fargo, 701-364-9867 or www.downtownfargo.com • Superhero 5K Run ‘n’ Walk & Roll-a-thon. Dress up as your favorite superhero and raise money for CCRI. Youth Run at 5:30 p.m., 5K at 6 p.m., Walk ‘n’ roll-a-thon at 6:30 p.m. Gooseberry Mound Park, 100 22nd Ave. S., Moorhead. Register by August 21. 218-236-6730 or www.creativecare.org • Zoolebration! Celebrate the zoo’s past, present, and future under the stars. Featuring music by Tucker’d Out, delicious food, wine, and drinks, and a silent auction. 6-10 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo. 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org (See ad page 35) • The Internet Cat Video Festival. Meet some of the screen stars of the cat video world. Cat costume contest with prizes. 7-9 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Rockin’ the Rourke: Charlie Parr. 7 p.m., Rourke Art Museum, 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org 9.5 Friday • 61 for 61 Radiothon. Enjoy a silent auction, cookouts, family fun night, candle lighting ceremony, and more! For schedule of events, go to www.61for61.sanfordhealth.org • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • Chocolate Fantasy and Chili, Too. Annual fundraiser for the YWCA emergency shelter, 11 a.m.-7 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-232-2547 or www.ywcacassclay.org 9.6 Saturday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • Walk to Defeat ALS. To register, contact Jessica at jessica@ alsmn.org or 612-672-0484. Check-in at 8:30 a.m., walk at 10 a.m., Lindenwood Park, 1905 Roger Maris Drive, Fargo, www.walktodefeatals.org • YMCA Re-Grand Opening. Open to the community all day with special activities from 9 a.m.–12 p.m. Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-293-9622 or www.ymcacassclay.org • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Roots on the Red. A family-friendly celebration of Americana, bluegrass and folk music. Doors open at 11 a.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org • ILLUMINIGHT 5K. Street festivities start at 6:30 p.m. Nighttime fun run begins at 8:24 p.m., Old Broadway, 22 Broadway, Fargo, www.illuminight5k.com 9.7 Sunday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Grandparents Day at the Zoo. All grandparents receive free admission. 10 a.m.–5 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org

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• Roots on the Red. A family-friendly celebration of Americana, bluegrass and folk music. Doors open at 11 a.m., Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org • Walk of Hope. A walk for suicide remembrance and awareness. Registration at 1:30 p.m., walk at 2 p.m., courtyard between Fargo’s Downtown Library and Fargo Civic Center, 701-293-6462 or www.myfirstlink.org 9.8 Monday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 9.9 Tuesday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • Big Iron Farm Show. 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, West Fargo. 701-282-2200 or www.bigironfarmshow.com • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com 9.10 Wednesday • Big Iron Farm Show. 9 a.m.- 5 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, West Fargo. 701-282-2200 or www.bigironfarmshow.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 9.11 Thursday • Big Iron Farm Show. 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, West Fargo. 701-282-2200 or www.bigironfarmshow.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Music Montage. 7-9 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 Broadway N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 9.12 Friday • Big Iron Farm Show. 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, West Fargo. 701-282-2200 or www.bigironfarmshow.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• Ride the Red. A fundraiser for Hospice of the Red River Valley. Check in at 9 a.m., Ride begins at 9:30 a.m., Trefoil Park, 1321 Elm St. N., Fargo, www.facebook.com/ridethered • Walk for Autism. Registration at 9 a.m., walk at 10 a.m. Aurora Elementary/Rendezvous Park, 3420 9th St. W., West Fargo, 701-277-8844 or www.ndautismcenter.org • Pigs ‘n a Blanket. Quilt preview at 10 a.m., lunch 11 a.m.1 p.m., live quilt auction at noon, Davies High School, 7150 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-364-0264 or c.isom@dakotaranch.org (See ad page 23) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org 9.14 Sunday • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation Walk. To register contact Tammy at 605-312-6438 or tbeintema@jdrf.org. Registration at noon. Walk starts at 1 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

August 16 - September 28, 2014

Opening Reception Aug. 16, 3-5pm Guest Artist Reception Sept. 18, 3-5pm Hjemkomst Center

9.13 Saturday • Greater Moorhead Days. 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad page 29) • 61 for 61 Home Run/Walk. Registration at 7 a.m., Warms-ups at 8 a.m., 10K starts at 8:30 a.m., 5K Run/Walk starts at 8:45 a.m., Youth Run starts at 10:15 a.m. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-234-6246 or www.61for61.sanfordhealth.org • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26)

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9.15 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 9.16 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Art Open House. Free. 6:30–8 p.m., Museum and Center for Creativity, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100, www.plainsart.org (See ad page 27) 9.17 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 9.18 Thursday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • West Fest Cruise Night. 5-9 p.m., Sheyenne Street, West Fargo, www.westfargond.gov/westfest • Nurtured Heart Approach® FREE Parent Night. Featuring Lisa Bravo. 6:30-8:30 p.m., Ramada Plaza Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, www.ag.ndsu.edu/pen/conferences/cass-county • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 9.19 Friday • West Fest. Pancake breakfast, 10K/2 mile run/walk, horseshoe tournament, softball tournament, food court, parade, and more. See schedule at www.westfargond.gov/ westfest

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• Junk Market. 80 vendor booths of repurposed furniture and vintage pieces. Early bird 8-10 a.m. (early bird tickets available online), general admission 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, 1805 West Main Avenue, West Fargo, 701-356-6600 or www.beingecochic.com • Indian Summer Quilt Show. 8 a.m.-6 p.m., Centennial Hall, Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.ndquilts.com • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 9.20 Saturday • Mudman Race. Buffalo River Race Park, Glyndon, Minn. Details and registration at www.mudmanrace.com • West Fest. Pancake breakfast, 10K/2 mile run/walk, horseshoe tournament, softball tournament, food court, parade, and more. See schedule at www.westfargond.gov/westfest • Fall Rummage Sale. Crafts, garage sale items, antiques, and collectibles. 7 a.m.-1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org (See ad page 28) • Indian Summer Quilt Show. 8 a.m.-5:30 p.m., Centennial Hall, Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.ndquilts.com • Walk to End Alzheimer’s. Registration at 8 a.m., walk at 9 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9757 or www.alz.org/walk • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Junk Market. 80 vendor booths of repurposed furniture and vintage pieces. 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Valley Fairgrounds, 1805 West Main Avenue, West Fargo, 701-356-6600 or www.beingecochic.com • Fall Festival. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Alley Fair. Community gathering bringing together some of Fargo’s best arts, music, and food. 11 a.m. – 11 p.m. Alleyway south of Main Ave, between 9th and 10th Streets South, Fargo. www.facebook.com/alleyfairfargo • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • International Day of Peace Observance. Song, dance, and readings from several faith traditions. 7 p.m., NDSU Alumni Center, 1241 N. University Drive, Fargo, 218-233-3138 • “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 9.21 Sunday • Indian Summer Quilt Show. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Centennial Hall, Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.ndquilts.com • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952-445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Fall Festival. Noon-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com • Honkin’ Haulin’ Hands on Trucks. 1-3 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena parking lot, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Recycling the Clay Community Day. Create clay vessels from recycled clay. 1-4 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100, www.plainsart.org

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• “Oscar and Felix.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 9.22 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 9.23 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Different Styles of Grieving, Different Ways of Healing. Free and open to the public. 7-9 p.m., Ramada Plaza & Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 1-800-237-4629 or www.hrrv.org/ journeyinghome 9.24 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 9.25 Thursday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

•M icrochip Clinic. 11 a.m.-2 p.m., Humane Society Fargo-Moorhead, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-239-0077 or www.humanesocietyfargomoorhead.org •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com •4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org •M asterworks Concert I: “Viva South America.” 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org

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9.28 Sunday •M innesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) •F all Festival. Noon-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-4996060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad page 28) •M asterworks Concert I: “Viva South America.” 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org

9.26 Friday • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Home Builders of FM Fall Home Show. Noon-8 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.hbafm. com/events/home-shows/fall-show.html • Listening Room Concert: Sarah McQuaid. 7:30 p.m., The Spirit Room, 111 Broadway, Fargo, 701-237-0230 or www.spiritroom.net 9.27 Saturday • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Shakopee, Minn., 952445-7361 or www.renaissancefest.com (See ad page 26) • Home Builders of FM Fall Home Show. 9 a.m.-6 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.hbafm. com/events/home-shows/fall-show.html • Fall Festival. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad page 28) • German Culture Day. Celebrate with traditional music and dance, children’s activities, and folk traditional crafts. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org (See ad page 31)

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9.29 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • FM College & Career Fair. Visit with more than 80 colleges and prospective employers. 9-11 a.m. and 6-7:30 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 9.30 Tuesday • Farmer’s Market. 3-7 p.m., Moorhead Center Mall northeast parking lot, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com

PUBLIC LIBRARIES

Call or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required.

Dr. James Carlson Library

2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org

• Weekly Storytime for Toddlers and Preschoolers. Registration required. Call for details. • Free Friday Movie. Aug. 1 & 8, 1 p.m. • Crafts for Adults: Simple 3 Tier Necklace. Aug. 2, 10 a.m. • Tea Time Book Club. Aug. 4, 6:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 months). Aug. 7 & 21, Sept. 4 & 18, 10 a.m. • School Supply Bingo. Aug. 18, 2 p.m. • Little Squirt Science. Sept. 11, 11 a.m. • Saturday Storytime. Sept. 13, 10 a.m. • Magic Tree House Book Club. Sept. 21, 2 p.m.

Fargo Public Main Library

Northport Branch

• Weekly Storytime for Toddlers and Preschoolers. Registration required. Call for details. • Chess Club. Thursdays, 5:30-8:30 p.m. • Free Friday Movie. Aug. 1, 1 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 months). Aug. 7 & 21, Sept. 4 & 18, 6:30 p.m. • School Supply Bingo. Aug. 19, 11 a.m. • Little Squirt Science. Sept. 11, 6:30 p.m.; Sept. 12, 11 a.m. • What Happened to the Passenger Pigeon? Sept. 16, 6:30 p.m. • Saturday Storytime. Sept. 20, 10 a.m. • A Taste of Pakistan. Sept. 28, 2 p.m. • Current History Book Club. Sept. 30, 7 p.m.

• School Supply Bingo. Aug. 18, 11 a.m. • Saturday Storytime. Sept. 6, 10 a.m. • Classic Book Club. Sept. 17, 6:30 p.m.

2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org

102 3 St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org rd

Moorhead Public Library

118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org

• Open Computer Practice. Mondays, 2 p.m. • Origami Club. Mondays in September, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime Tuesdays. Tuesdays, 10:30 a.m. •S torytime Wednesdays. Wednesdays in September, 10:30 a.m. • Baby Bounce. Thursdays, 10 a.m. • Origami Skillshare. All ages and experience levels welcome. Aug. 4, 6:30 p.m.

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School Age Learning Centers

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• Legos and Coloring. Aug. 6, 2 p.m. • Storytime Plus. Saturday, Aug. 9 & Sept. 13, 10 a.m.; Tuesdays in September, 6:30 p.m. • Teen Craft: Hedgehog and Trivia. Aug. 11, 6:30 p.m. • Lego Club. Aug. 14 & Sept. 11, 6 p.m.; Aug. 23 & Sept. 27, 2 p.m. • New Movie Release. Aug. 16, 2 p.m. • Game Guild. Aug. 18, 6:30 p.m. • Classics Book Club. Aug. 19, 6:30 p.m. • Board Games and Wii. Aug. 20, 2 p.m. • Legacy Event: Poetry Jazz Trio. Aug. 21, 6:30 p.m. • Yarn Circle. Aug. 28 & Sept. 25, 6:30 p.m. • E-reader Basics. Sept. 3, 6:30 p.m. • One Book, One Community Film. Orphan Train, Sept. 6, 2 p.m. • Computer Basics. Sept. 10, 2 p.m. & 6:30 p.m. • One Book, One Community Book Discussion. Orphan Train, Sept. 13, 2 p.m. • Internet Skills. Sept. 17, 2 p.m. & 6:30 p.m. • Intro to Email. Sept. 24, 2 p.m. & 6:30 p.m. • Legacy Event: David Geister. Sept. 24, 6:30 p.m. West Fargo Public Library

Fargo Park District

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

• Checkers Anyone! Construct a Checkerboard (for ages 13-16) • The Art of Selfies (ages 13-16) • Accelerated Artists (ages 9-12) • Artmania (ages 6-8) • Arts Sampler (ages 5-7) • Create and Explore (ages 3-5 + adult) • Me-N-My Shadow (ages 3-5 + adult) • Penny and Pals Workshop (ages 4-5, 6-9) FM Ambulance

701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com • B.L.A.S.T. Babysitter’s Day Camp • Citizens Academy • CPR/First Aid Fraser, Ltd.

2902 S. University Dr., Fargo 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • CPR/First Aid

109 3rd St. E., West Fargo 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org

• Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays, 10:15 a.m.; Thursdays, 12:30 p.m. • Storytime with Craft. Tuesdays, 1:30-2 p.m. • Back to School Bash. School-aged children. Aug. 21, 2:30-3:30 • “Image Transfer to Fabric” Workshop. Sept. 25, 7 p.m. • Creative Corner. Open to all adults. Sept. 10, 12:30 p.m. • Memory Photo Album. Open to all adults. Sept. 11, 7 p.m. • Share Your Story. Open to all adults. Sept. 29, 7 p.m. • Introduction to Watercolor. Open to high school students and adults. All supplies included in this free class. Limited to 12 students. Thursdays, Sept. 18-Oct. 9 • Teacups Book Club. Open to all adults. Aug. 11 and Sept. 15, 7 p.m. • Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available. Saturdays. Noon-4 p.m. • Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Saturday New Release Movies. Aug. 9 & 24, Sept. 13, 2 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group. Bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.

Plains Art Museum

701 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Meet the Artist: Back to Nature Camp • Clay for Couples • Drawing Comics • Introductory Mosaic • Rock Cutting 101 • Introduction to Ceramics • Kid Quest

CLASSES

Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. Bonanzaville

1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo. Call West Fargo Parks at 701-433-5360 to register • Lil Pioneers Day Camp

The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm

1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseaum-yunker.org • O.I.N.K.S. (Outside Inside Neat Kids Stuff) Essentia Health OB Education

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• Lamaze • Basic Training for New Dads • Breastfeeding Class • Car Seat Help • Mom’s Helpers

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Red River Zoo

The Village Family Service Center

• Critter, Discovery & Explorer Camps

• Anger Management • Mindfulness • Relationships 101

4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org

701-451-4900 or www.TheVillageFamily.org

Trollwood Performing Arts School

218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

The Village Financial Resource Center

U of M Extension

• Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education

701-235-3328 or www.HelpWithMoney.org

• Lucha Music: Tour Mexican Music & Culture

218-236-2005 or www.extension.umn.edu/parentsforever • Parents Forever

YMCA

Sanford Health Community Education

701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org • Baby’s First Ride • Better Choices, Better Health • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • C.A.R.S. (Children and Restraint Systems) • Honor Your Health • Family and Friends CPR • Infant Massage • Lamaze • Labor: What to Expect • Our Family is Having a Baby • Safe & Sound—Preparing Your Home for Baby

701-293-9622, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org • Zumba for Families • Family Bootcamp • Zumba Kids • Aqua Zumba for Families

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS Call for additional information. Cass County Museum

1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org

• Fighting the Fires of Hate: America & Nazi Book Burnings from U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum. Ends Aug. 17. Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm

1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org Fargo Air Museum

You Do Your Thing, Leave the Rest to Us.

1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org • Legends of Aviation • ND Wall of Aces

Historical and Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center (See ad page 31)

202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org

• Doing our Part: Clay County in WWII. • Quilt National 2013 Exhibition. August 16-September 28. • Art Educator’s Exhibit. Begins August 19. Plains Art Museum

704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org

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The Ramada Plaza & Suites Sales & Catering Team has built a reputation for excellent service and complete attention to detail from planning to the execution for your next business meeting. Featuring 23,000 square feet of meeting space, whatever your meeting needs, we offer a variety of impressive meeting rooms to accommodate your groups.

• Heart/Land: Sandra Menefee Taylor’s Vital Matters • Sabrina Hornung: Trail Dust and Sentiment • 47° North: Daybreaks at Bad Medicine Lake by Wayne Gudmundson • Bee In Flight • The North Dakota Mural • International Harvester Photographs • Island Park Ramp Installation—Maria Friberg: Atlanter The Rourke Art Museum

521 Main Ave., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org

• 55th Midwestern Art Invitational. Ends Aug. 31 • Art for Sacred Spaces • Impressions II: Woodcuts and Wood Engravings • Transformations: The Art of the Mask

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Saakwa Mante, MD Asthma & Allergy Essentia Health South University Clinic

Dr. Saakwa Mante, an allergist, has joined the Essentia Health-South University Clinic in Fargo, ND. Dr. Mante will care for both adults and children. “I enjoy my specialty because it allows me to exercise a wide array of diagnostic skills,” says Dr. Mante. “I look forward to starting my practice in Fargo and welcome the opportunity to care for the people in this community.” Dr. Mante earned his medical degree from the University of Ghana Medical School in Accra, Ghana. He completed a residency in internal medicine at St. Luke’s-Roosevelt Hospital, New York, NY, and a fellowship in allergy and immunology at Yale School of Medicine in New Haven, CT. He is certified by the American Board of Medical Specialties in internal medicine and allergy/immunology. To schedule an appointment with Dr. Mante, please call 701.364.8900.

To see his profile, go to EssentiaHealth.org and click on “Find a Medical Professional.”

“The care I provide to my patients can have a profound impact on their daily lives. Finding the right kind of treatment can ultimately improve their quality of life, and that is very gratifying.” – Dr. Mante

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BUSINESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN FARGO-MOORHEAD

By Patricia Carlson

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He tried to make it look like a suicide.

DOMESTICS

After shooting his wife, Elizabeth, in the head in February 2013, Ronald Rogers, Jr. carefully placed the gun near her hand and called the Fargo Police Department. Rogers told officers that he and Elizabeth had been arguing when she pulled out the weapon and unloaded twice in his direction. He tried to disarm her, Rogers said, but before he could take the gun away, she turned it on herself and pulled the trigger. The thing is, Rogers was lying. He’s serving 30 years in prison. Nine months later, David Stevens showed up at his exgirlfriend’s apartment in Fargo to pick up some personal items. When Stevens discovered his ex and her new boyfriend at the apartment, something snapped and he pulled out the serrated knife he’d been carrying. Stevens methodically stabbed the couple, leaving the knife lodged in his ex’s head. When he called police, Stevens calmly admitted to the murders. “She’s out in the parking lot dead,” he told officers. Fargo recorded three homicides in 2013. All of them were victims of domestic violence. Domestic violence can look, sound, and feel different each time. Extremely violent or deadly incidents that include severe beatings or the use of weapons, grab the most attention. Subversive or less-visible domestic violence like emotional abuse, coercion, isolation, and intimidation is equally gut-wrenching. Even though the Fargo-Moorhead community is generally thought of, and referred to, as “safe,” we are not exempt from the harsh realities of domestic violence (as evidenced by the trio of murders last year). The Village Family Magazine compiled statistics from several local law enforcement agencies and advocacy groups to demonstrate the prevalence of intimate partner violence in our region. Here are the numbers of domestic violence calls to 911 that area police departments responded to in 2013. Fargo Police Department: 2081 West Fargo Police Department: 334 Moorhead Police Department: 635 Dilworth Police Department: 96 “There isn’t a certain age, race, gender, or economics behind domestic violence,” says Lt. Duane Sall, a 22-year veteran of the West Fargo Police Department. “Every situation is different because domestic violence doesn’t happen to one type of person and isn’t perpetrated by one type of person.” The majority of victims, however, are women. For this article, we will refer to victims as women, but we acknowledge that men are victims of abuse, too (see sidebar on page 41). The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey from 2010 states that “more than onethird of women in the U.S. have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime.” Most cases are never reported to the police. FBI data gathered from police records shows that one-third of female homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner. family

The bulk of domestic violence calls to which F-M area police officers respond result in charges of simple assault. Yet there is nothing simple about policing and prosecuting a domestic violence incident. These service calls are among the most challenging for law enforcement officers because they are turbulent, unpredictable, psychologically demanding, and heartbreakingly sad. “It’s got to be one of the least favorite calls an officer goes on,” says Tod Dahle, a former longtime Fargo police officer who is currently earning his doctorate in criminal justice at NDSU. “You know you’re going into a volatile situation that can often be dangerous to everyone involved. It’s one of those things that officers have to learn to deal with and some of them struggle with it their entire career.” Domestic violence service calls, or “domestics” as they’re referred to in police culture, are broken down into several categories. These categories are relatively similar in North Dakota and Minnesota. Threats of intimidation are just that—when your intimate partner uses coercion or threatens violent action against you or your loved ones, or damage to your property. Simple assaults involve things like slapping, scratching, and hitting that leave a person with minor injuries that don’t require medical care.

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A misdemeanor assault results in more significant injuries like cuts requiring stitches, swollen or black eyes, or maybe a broken nose. An aggravated assault leaves a person with serious bodily injury. They might suffer a permanent disfigurement or a broken bone or are repeatedly struck in the same place (like the face or stomach). If anything was used as a weapon, it’s an aggravated assault. One of the biggest changes in domestic violence laws in the previous decade is making strangulation a felony. Minnesota upped the charge from a misdemeanor in 2005; North Dakota followed suit a couple of years later. Under the new definition (we’ll use Minnesota’s wording), strangulation is considered the “intentional impediment of normal breathing or circulation of the blood by applying pressure on the throat or neck or by blocking the nose or mouth of another person.” In other words, strangulation doesn’t just mean grabbing someone around the

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neck with two hands and choking so she could work out her exit strategy them until they black out. It could for her and her children,” explains mean covering McKibben. “She hired their mouth and “Domestic violence a cab to bring her and preventing them children over to us doesn’t happen to one her from calling for so her husband would type of person.” help. still see her car in their — Lt. Duane Sall, West Fargo Due to the driveway. Whether delicate and they’ve planned it, Police Department complicated nature or are leaving from of domestics, officers go through an the emergency room, or because law extraordinary amount of training to help enforcement helped them, they arrive in them communicate with victims and crisis.” collect evidence. Officers now try to spend more time learning the backstory WHY DO of the domestic abuse situation, how THEY STAY? often it escalates, why it is happening, It’s not the first time many of and what occurs when it does. “We try them have left, though. In fact, says to ask more open-ended questions like, McKibben, many victims attempt to ‘What was happening before he got violent?’ and ‘How did it make you feel?’ leave up to ten times before it sticks. Many people wonder, “Why do victims so victims have an opportunity to tell us stay?” McKibben suggests the question about themselves,” says detective Chris needs to come from the other direction Nichtern, a domestic violence specialist and examine the perpetrator. “We need to with the Fargo Police Department. “If we challenge ourselves. Why does the abuser only concentrated on the injury we could hit? Why does he use verbal abuse? see, like a black eye, we’d be missing the Emotional? We need to look at these whole rest of this victim’s story.” situations through a different lens.” Understanding why victims stay may WHEN VICTIMS be crucial, however, in building a greater LEAVE understanding of the barriers toward In the Red River Valley, female leaving an abusive relationship. Until domestic violence victims needing shelter you can grasp what prevents a battered are referred to the YWCA Emergency woman from escaping her abuser, it’s Shelter (men are referred to Churches hard to build compassion for her as a United for the Homeless). This secure victim. and anonymous facility offers women Domestic violence victims stay for and children a safe place to live while reasons the rest of us don’t understand— they transition into their next stage like because they still love him or he of life. In 2013, 665 women and 664 promised to change. But more than that, children considered the Y Emergency it’s about fear. Women are afraid what Shelter their home for part of the year; will happen if he catches them trying to 54% of those women sought shelter leave. They are afraid they won’t be able because of domestic violence. to support their children. They’re afraid Victims arrive on the YWCA’s they’ll end up on the streets. They are doorstep at all hours of the day and afraid they’ll never find another man who night and in every condition imaginable, will love them. For women who have says Angela McKibben, shelter services been beaten down and not allowed to director at the YWCA Emergency Shelter make decisions, these are very real and in Fargo. compelling fears that don’t have easy “We see people who strategically plan solutions. their escape. We see women who show Children are also a huge part of the up at 3 a.m. with only the clothes on their equation. Victims are often concerned backs. We had one woman visit us during their abusers will hurt their kids or try to the day while her husband was at work, take them away if they find out they’re

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planning to leave. Some victims are widespread misunderstanding about also worried they won’t be able to abuse. Thanks to education, advocacy, care for their children on their own, training, and changes to laws, police especially if they’ve been prevented and court systems are much more from having a job and earning money. understanding of the circumstances Children who grow up in violent that precipitated an event like this and homes, though, have a high rate of investigate further. continuing Now, law the cycle of enforcement “We see people who abuse. Break always has digital strategically plan recording devices the Cycle, a nationwide and squad car their escape.” nonprofit cameras running —Angela McKibben, shelter agency that to capture all services director at the YWCA provides the sound and Emergency Shelter dating abuse video when they education, reports the number one arrive. In most cases, they keep these reason that abuse transfers generations devices running as they separate the is because of kids seeing violence perpetrator and the victim and begin between their parents or caretakers. interviewing key witnesses. Officers One study suggests boys who witness take multiple pictures of the victim’s domestic violence are twice as likely to injuries and of the scene to corroborate abuse their own partners and children what the victim tells them. They use when they become adults. worksheets designed to help them Anna Frissell, Executive Director assess the victim and the situation. If of Red River Children’s Advocacy warranted by the information gathered, Center—an FM area agency devoted the officers will recommend victims to preventing and treating child abuse seek counseling and services from area victims—says kids who see their agencies. moms stay in an abusive relationship develop long-lasting characteristics that are hard to reverse. “A common theme we see in parents from violent households is this sense that their children aren’t affected by the abuse because maybe they don’t directly see it. Maybe it happens behind closed doors,” explains Frissell. “But most, if not all, children who live in a home with violence are aware of it. Toddlers are not too young. They will eventually take on roles and responsibilities to try to keep the peace, and in turn, are often put in the middle of the fight.” Despite these long-lasting side effects, and regardless of why a woman may choose to stay, it’s important to remember the abuse is not her fault. She is the victim of a crime.

Domestic Violence Isn’t Just Against Women By Patricia Carlson It was the elevator fight seen around the world. When singer Solange Knowles kicked and punched her brother-in-law, Jay Z, following a famous ball in New York City last May, the internet lit up with comments. Most notable among them, “What did Jay Z do to her?” You may not think of that as domestic violence, but ask yourself this: “How would you feel if their roles had been reversed?” While many victims of domestic violence are women, abuse of men happens more often than most people realize. The statistics are alarming: 28.5% of men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime. 4% of men have been injured as a result of intimate partner violence in their lifetime. An estimated 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually. 5.5% of male homicide victims were murdered by a spouse, ex-spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend. Men and boys are much less likely to come forward if they’ve been victimized by violence. The National Center for Victims of Crime reports men and boys share many of the same emotions that women and girls who’ve been abused feel: shame, guilt, humiliation, anger, anxiety, and depression. “There’s a real gender divide between men and women on how to deal with violence,” says former Fargo police officer Tod Dahle. “Some men even see it as OK and they’re less likely to seek help.” Men don’t want to admit they’re being abused for a number of reasons, including: • Failing to fit the “macho” stereotype • Fear of not being believed • Lack of support The Rape and Abuse Crisis Center has trained advocates who can help men and boys who are victims of, or affected by, violence. Men who are trying to escape an abusive relationship are referred to Churches United for the Homeless. Statistics provided by the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, National Violence Against Women Survey, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

BUILDING A CASE

The way officers approach the scene of a domestic has changed dramatically in recent years. “In the old days, if police would’ve shown up and found the guy knocked out, she [the victim] would’ve gone to jail no matter what,” says Nichtern. Victim blaming, where people would ask, “What did you do to provoke him?” was common and there was family

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Where to Turn for Help Locally

Rape and Abuse Crisis Center 317 8th St. North Fargo, ND 58102 701-293-7273 800-344-7273 www.raccfm.com email: info@raccfm.com (general inquiries only) YWCA Emergency Shelter 3000 South University Drive Fargo, ND 58103 701-232-3449 www.ywcacassclay.org/ Churches United for the Homeless 1901 1st Ave. N. Moorhead, MN 56560 218-236-0372 www.churches-united.org/ email: info@churches-united.org Red River Children’s Advocacy Center 100 S. 4th Street, #302 Fargo, ND 58103 701-234-4583 www.rrcac.org/home.html email: annarrcac@yahoo.com

Nationally National Domestic Violence Hotline www.thehotline.org/ 800-799-7299

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence 303-839-1852 www.ncadv.org/ National Resource Center on Domestic Violence 800-537-2238 www.nrcdv.org/ National Sexual Violence Resource Center 800-656-4673 www.nsvrc.org/

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When you finally feeling that “In the old days, she it was OK to make consider that 70% of all change,” he says would’ve gone to jail.” aquietly. domestic But then —Det. Chris Nichtern, Fargo Police violence victims she started putting Department will take back his calls directly their story, you begin to understand why to voicemail. She wouldn’t answer her advocates to prevent domestic violence door. She refused to cooperate in court. lobbied federal and state governments and One day, she mistakenly answered her law enforcement departments to beef up phone and Nichtern could hear her in the their protocols. background telling her abuser that, “this “Recanting is the most frustrating thing Fargo cop won’t leave me alone.” Now I encounter,” confides Nichtern. “You Nichtern was the bad guy. know it’s so bad for victims. But I get “That really sucked,” is all he can say calls every day from victims who want about it now, although the disappointment to take back a police report. They don’t and sense of failure reflects in his eyes. want their husband, boyfriend, whatever The changes that investigators have in trouble.” made are paying off in the courtroom, There is one case in particular that though. Even if a victim recants, the haunts Nichtern to this day. When he video and audio recordings, photographs, showed up on scene, a woman was beaten and documents and questionnaires that to a pulp and just coming back from the a victim fills out on scene, can all be throes of unconsciousness after being entered into evidence. No longer does a knocked out from a vicious sucker punch. victim have to testify against her abuser He talked with her several times a day (although she is guaranteed that right for weeks, visited her at home, showed by law if she wants to). Juries can hear her pictures from the attack, and offered the hysterical 911 calls, the shouting her advice and support. “I really thought as officers arrive on scene, and audio I was getting through to her and she was interviews of the victim and abuser.

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The process seems to be working. Law enforcement recognizes there are still an extraordinary number of victims who recant, but more abusers are pleading out and heading to jail because they can’t dispute the evidence. Nichtern says, as a nation, law enforcement and the court system have come a long way in protecting victims and charging abusers. Every state now has a mandatory arrest law that requires officers to make an arrest if they find evidence of domestic violence. Even still, there are countless incidents that police never hear about. According to the National Violence Against Women survey, only about one-quarter of all physical assaults against women are ever reported.

EDUCATION/ AWARENESS

Domestic violence isn’t kept behind closed doors anymore, either. Besides changes to cops and courts, public awareness campaigns are paying off. One attention-grabbing concept puts images of victims onto billboards throughout Fargo-Moorhead with the tagline, “It’s Everyone’s Business.” Nichtern says more domestics are being called in than ever before, whether from victims or witnesses. “I think it’s working,” he says. “If our numbers are going up, maybe that’s a good thing. Maybe everyone is making it their business.” Of course, the other way of looking at it is that more domestic assaults are happening in Fargo-Moorhead. There isn’t a way (yet) to quantify a correlation between the campaign and the numbers of domestic violence incident calls and subsequent arrests. A groundbreaking awareness program, pioneered by Rape and Abuse Crisis Center in Fargo, is called “I Wish the Hitting Would Stop,” and it educates kids about the issue of domestic violence. It’s available to 4th and 5th graders in Fargo and West Fargo schools and Dahle, who has studied this program extensively, says very few places in the country have attempted elementary education on domestic violence. “It’s right before they’re entering into dating relationships and it’s the perfect time to start introducing this issue,” says Dahle. “Some of them might have been exposed to violence at home and they’ll

bring that into their own relationships if they’re not taught otherwise. This program, hopefully, can break the cycle in some homes.” The sad truth is that domestic violence will always exist. And stories about the victims will continue to shock and sadden us. Even after 17 years as a police officer, Nichtern doesn’t understand why it happens. “I’m 40 and I get mad sometimes. But it’s never, in my entire life, entered into my mind that it would be OK to hit a woman in the face or push her down. How does that happen for people? How do you get to the point where physical violence against someone you love is OK?” That is an impossible question to answer. After a decade spent in Fargo-Moorhead, freelance writer Patricia Carlson now calls Florida home. She writes for publications across the country and crafts strategic website and marketing content for small businesses. Check out her work at www.patriciacarlsonfreelance.com.

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Q:Am I “cool” enough to be a mentor?

The thought of working with a young person can be intimidating for some people. Let’s face it, it’s been a loooooong time since you were a child. You may not feel like you’re “cool” enough. But being a mentor isn’t as much about being “cool” as it is about being present—being there—for a child. And that sends a strong message: “You’re important to me. You have significance.” Children are hardwired to look up to adults, in part, because they need role models after which they can pattern their own behavior and attitudes. Think about the people you looked up to when you were growing up. I remember those people in my own life. They were like superheroes to me. Now it’s your turn! So, instead of being “cool” or “hip,” just be…there.

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What is an HSA and what are the benefits? HSAs are set up like a personal savings account, only the money you set aside is used for qualifying medical expenses. In order to be eligible for an HSA, you must be under age 65 and enrolled in a High Deductible Health Plan (HDHP). The purpose of an HSA is to help defray the out-of-pocket costs until the deductible in your HDHP is met. The great thing about an HSA is that you are the owner of the funds and you decide how to best utilize those funds for qualifying medical expenditures. Read about all the benefits of an HSA by checking out our blog at blog.firstintlbank.com

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YOUR FAMILY z food & fun

Gluten-Free Corn Footprints Chocolate Chip Cookies • White and green construction paper • Yellow paint • Scissors • Dark-colored marker • Glue • Child willing to stick their foot in paint Paint the bottom of child’s foot yellow. Place footprint on white construction paper. Use a marker to draw leaf/stem shapes on green construction paper and cut them out. Glue the leaves at the bottom of the footprints to look like the husk of the corn. (Submitted by: Pretoddler Room II at Nokomis I)

Summer Memories Mouse Pad • Craft foam • Old magazines • Photos/copier prints • Glue • Clear, self-adhesive laminate

• 1 cup sugar • 1 cup peanut butter • 1 egg • 1 cup semisweet chocolate chips*

Cut the craft foam into a roughly 8 inch x 8 inch shape. Look through magazines for images and words that remind you of your summer and cut them out. Print off memorable summer photos, too. Create a collage of images on the craft foam and glue in place. Cover with a piece of clear laminate—trimmed to fit.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a bowl, combine the sugar, peanut butter, and egg. Mix well. Add the chocolate chips, stirring in completely. Drop by rounded tablespoons onto an ungreased cookie sheet, roughly two inches apart, and flatten slightly. Bake for 10-12 minutes, watching for just the slightest browning around the edges. Remove from oven and let stand on cookie sheet for a few minutes before transferring to a wire rack or wax paper on your countertop to cool completely. *Most chocolate chips are gluten-free, but always check the labels.

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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom

Education is the most powe rful weap on which you can use to change the world . —Nel son Mandela

REMEMBER:

• If you want children • You can never be to keep their feet on overdressed or the ground, put some overeducated. responsibility on their —Oscar Wilde shoulders. ’t isn ion cat edu n A • —Abigail Van Buren how much you have • Live as if you were to die committed to memory, tomorrow. Learn as if or even how much you you were to live forever. know. It’s being able to —Mahatma Gandhi differentiate between what you know and what • Focus on treating children as if they are you don’t. who, how, and what —Anatole France you would like them to • An investment in be. Treating people as knowledge pays the best if they are responsible interest. increases the chances of —Benjamin Franklin their becoming so. ct odu pr a t • Wisdom is no —Marvin Marshall, Ed.D. of t bu of schooling • Intelligence plus the lifelong attempt to character–that is the goal acquire it. of true education. —Albert Einstein —Martin Luther King Jr. t • I have never let my • Children must be taugh schooling interfere with to at wh t no , nk thi how to my education. ad Me t are arg —M think. —Mark Twain • Education is the key to unlock the golden door of freedom. —George Washington Carver

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You Don’t Have To Go It Alone

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