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In 2010, I remedied what began as a high school injury by getting a partial knee replacement. Throughout the experience— from pre-op, to surgery, to recovery, to rehabilitation—medical personnel commented on how young I was to be getting a partial replacement. “You’re the first person under 65 we’ve seen in here in weeks.” “This is an unusual procedure for someone your age.” In most instances, comments that I’m “so young” make me feel great—especially now that I’m over 50. However, these remarks didn’t work that way. They made me feel as if I was aging prematurely. The fact that I had to use a walker for a few weeks following surgery didn’t help things. I compensated by trying to out-do the octogenarians all around me at physical therapy. Of course, it’s difficult to judge the distance your neighbor travels on a recumbent bike. In late September, as I was maneuvering down a narrow staircase in some higherthan-usual heels, I heard a faint pop and felt a sharp pinch behind my knee—the one with the fake parts. “This can’t be good,” I thought. It was excruciating to bend my knee. I hobbled to the orthopedic walk-in clinic, where they took X-rays and put me in an examination room. I gave the PA my abbreviated medical history—focused on the issue at hand. After commenting how young I was to have had a partial knee replacement already, she examined the X-rays, and was delighted to learn the hardware was fine. The problem was on my end—a pulled hamstring. The solution: physical therapy. Physical therapy and chiropractic care, the subject of our feature article this issue, are common methods people use to ease pain and repair injuries. But it’s difficult to know which one is the best choice for what ails you. Writer Patricia Carlson spoke to physical therapists, chiropractors, and others in both industries to outline the basics of each discipline, and to explain the differences. Like much of medicine in the 21st century, physical therapy and chiropractic care are constantly evolving. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, employment in both professions is increasing at a much faster rate than the average for all occupations—a result of an increase in the demand for service. People are interested in the nonsurgical methods of treatment afforded them through physical therapy and chiropractic. Also, both can be used to help the aging baby boomer population remain active. I know a few people who have injured themselves recently and ended up using physical therapy or chiropractic care to reduce their pain and discomfort. My own injury—a pulled hamstring—was remedied with half a dozen physical therapy sessions with a very skilled therapist, Merry Pat Beyer, PT, at Sanford Physical Therapy. I’m not racing up and down the stairs just yet, but I’m getting there. Thanks for reading and Happy Holidays!

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6 What a Child Can Learn Playing Cards Counting, addition, subtraction, vocabulary, and more can all be taught while enjoying a game of cards with the family. z money

8 College SAVE in North Dakota: 529 Plan Basics

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39 Ease Your Pain: What You Need to Know About Chiropractic Care and Physical Therapy

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What a Child Can Learn Playing Cards By Carol J. Alexander

A deck of cards makes a small, inexpensive stocking stuffer for any kid. Since December 28th is National Card Playing Day, pop one into your child’s stocking and learn a few new games. It’s a great way for a family to have fun and keep up academic skills during the holiday break from school. When my son struggled to add long columns of numbers, I taught him to play Rummy 500 and had him keep score. He enjoyed it so much, we played Rummy every evening for an entire summer. I’ve been using card games for learning ever since. They can teach, or reinforce, skills from the most basic skill of matching to complex logical thinking. Let me share with you a few games we enjoy.

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Rummy—(for two or more players, singly or in partnership) Rummy comes in many variations. Consult a card game book or website for the one that suits you best. I taught this game to my middle-schooler to help him add long columns of numbers, and my 7-year-old to teach him to count by fives. In Rummy, you play cards in runs of three or more. This reinforces counting, sequencing, and matching. Or you play the cards in sets of three or more, which requires matching of numbers. Children can also learn by calculating their own scores. If a player goes out and is left with points in his hand, those points must be subtracted from those he played. Sometimes this results in a negative score. The child learns to add and subtract columns up to three digits, including negatives. Also, deciding which card to play when, and remembering which cards your opponents pick up, requires a certain degree of logical thinking. Pig—(for any number of players) Prepare your deck so you end up with only four cards for each player. If you have five players, you will only play with 20 cards—four 2s, four 3s, etc. Shuffle well and deal each player four cards. To play, everyone simultaneously passes one card to the player on the left. Play continues in this fashion until someone gets four-of-a-kind. When a player gets fourof-a-kind, he quietly puts a finger on his nose. As each player notices, they put a finger on their nose. The last player to put his finger on his nose is the pig. Playing Pig taught my 4-year-old number recognition, matching, and how to lose gracefully. Concentration—(for any number of players) I prepare the deck for this game as well. For my younger children, I use fewer cards and make sure I only have two-of-akind (two 2s, two 4s, etc.). As they get older, I add more to the deck. Deal cards face down on the table in uniform rows. Players take turns flipping over two cards. If they do not match, they are turned back in the same place. When someone turns over a matched set, they keep those cards. When all the cards are matched, the player with the most sets wins. While Concentration (or Memory) teaches younger children number recognition and matching, it helps older children sharpen their memory. We also like to add variations to the rules, like requiring the player to multiply the cards before keeping the matched set. Use your imagination. Through the Window—(three or more players) Play this game with a deck of alphabet flash cards. Deal four cards to each person. The dealer begins by saying, “I looked through the window and saw…” He then turns up one of his cards for all to see. Each player then tries to complete the sentence with a word beginning with the same letter of the alphabet as the card turned up. The first player to call out a correct word takes the card. Play continues to the left until all the cards are taken. The player who takes the most cards, wins. To make this game more challenging, add cards that have blends. Or complete the sentence with a word that ends with the sound. Through the Window supports any phonics family

program, covering the alphabet, letter sounds, spelling, and precomposition skills. Klondike Solitaire—(for one player) I won’t go into the rules of this game because most folks have it on their computer and already know how to play. But don’t be tempted to have your child play this on the computer. He will not learn to deal, nor will he have the tactile stimulation of handling the cards. The basic play of Klondike, building the cards from king down, alternating red and black, teaches children to count backwards and strengthens patterning skills. Building the cards up on the aces reviews forward counting. In addition to counting and patterning, Klondike trains children to look at all options for a solution by looking at every possible card for a move.

Make Your Own Playing Cards Using card stock and a paper cutter, you can manufacture your own cards. Have each of your children make their own deck of cards. If they are old enough, they can make their design on the computer and you can print it from there. For younger children, mark cutting lines on card stock (the typical playing card measures 2½ by 3½ inches) and have them decorate the cards using markers or crayons. For the final touch, use a corner rounder (a scrapbooking tool) to finish off the corners. Carol J. Alexander has used card playing and other unconventional methods of teaching her six children at home.

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A 529 plan is a tax-advantaged savings plan designed to encourage saving for future college costs. Legally known as “qualified tuition plans,” 529 plans are sponsored by states, state agencies, or educational institutions and are authorized by Section 529 of the Internal Revenue Code. All 50 states and the District of Columbia sponsor at least one type of 529 plan. In addition, some private colleges and universities sponsor a prepaid tuition plan. Bank of North Dakota administers North Dakota’s 529 plan, College SAVE. This higher education savings plan provides many advantages for students (and their families) pursuing a college education. The North Dakota College SAVE plan offers:

• Valuable tax benefits: Earnings from College SAVE accounts are exempt from federal and state income tax when used for qualified withdrawals. In addition, North Dakota taxpayers can deduct up to $5,000 in contributions to their College SAVE account (up to $10,000 if married, filing jointly) from their state taxable income. • Low minimum; generous maximum: Participants can open a College SAVE account with as little as $25 and contribute up to $269,000. • Range of investments from Vanguard: By investing with College SAVE, you have access to a range of investment options managed by Vanguard, one of the nation’s leading mutual fund managers. James Barnhardt, College SAVE administrator for Bank of North Dakota, explains that anyone from parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, to family friends can contribute to a College SAVE account. It’s a great gift idea. “And if they are a resident, they can also get the in-state tax deduction every year up to $5,000 for single filers and $10,000 for married filers,” says Barnhardt. North Dakota offers two grant programs for 529 plan participants: • Matching grant opportunity: College SAVE investors who are North Dakota residents, and who earn less than $30,000 annually ($60,000 if married, filing jointly), may qualify for a matching grant of up to $500 for three consecutive years. North Dakota residents who earn less than $60,000 annually ($100,000 if married, filing jointly), may qualify for a one-time matching grant of up to $500. Match funds are available for the first 1,000 North Dakota applicants each calendar year, so apply early. • Children FIRST: Bank of North Dakota will contribute the first $100 for college through a Children FIRST grant into a College SAVE account. The North Dakota newborn need only be 12 months old or younger. Funds must be matched by the time the child turns 4 years old. “As soon as we get a Children FIRST application, we verify it and then deposit the $100 into the account,” says Barnhardt. The account holder has until the child’s fourth birthday to match the deposited funds in order to keep the contribution. These matching grant programs are a wonderful opportunity to grow your college savings account. “Not many states have the funding to offer a match,” says Barnhardt. For additional information, visit College SAVE’s full-service website at www.collegesave4u.com. 8

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Ellie’s Story By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center I’m passing on the true and accurate story about a young girl who, for reasons of confidentiality, we’ll call Ellie. Please take a moment to read about Ellie’s incredible journey through Wolsky challenges that are difficult for most of us to comprehend. Ellie is a beautiful, talented, smart, and kind young woman. When you meet her, you’d never guess the mountains she and her family have climbed to get her to such a happy place. Ellie’s is a story of family love and triumph that The Village is honored to be a small part of. Ellie lived in an overseas orphanage until she was 11. She was then adopted by a wonderful family that went into the adoption with their eyes wide open. The first couple of years Ellie was here were great, and her mother said Ellie could be the “poster child” for older child adoption. Then Ellie started to crumble. Ellie’s pain was so deep she couldn’t see the bottom. She’d done pretty well stuffing it, but now that she was a teenager, the images and memories from her childhood were starting to overflow, and she was terrified. She went from being on the honor roll to failing her classes. She started lying, running away, and cutting herself. When she became severely depressed and suicidal, Ellie was hospitalized. During her hospital stay, Ellie’s parents learned about The Village and set up an appointment for Ellie to see Amber, a Village therapist who specializes in the areas of adoption, trauma, and reactive attachment disorder. It took a while for Ellie to open up to Amber, but when she did it became very apparent just how much she had been through in her short life. And, as often happens with severe trauma and reactive attachment disorder, things got worse before they got better. She was hospitalized again. Her mom continued to meet with Amber, and together they worked to build for the time when Ellie would come home and they’d hopefully be able to move on as a family. When Ellie did come home, she and family

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Amber went back to work. Through Amber’s specialized work using interventions like Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, experiential therapy, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), they began to make progress. Ellie began to see herself and her potential the same way everyone around her did. A year ago, Ellie wouldn’t speak to Amber and now she asks to see her. Amber has helped her work through the pain and to step out of her past and into her present. She has also taught Ellie’s mom and dad how to parent Ellie in a way that works…for her and for them. Ellie also works with Nora, a Village therapist who comes to the family’s home twice a week to help with the dayto-day issues of family living and school stressors. Ellie was in pain, angry, and afraid to feel the love of her family. As she continues to work through the memories and the pain, she feels her family’s love and isn’t terrified that love will hurt her. I share Ellie’s story for two reasons—first to display the dedication, training, and passion represented by our therapists, Amber and Nora. Ellie now has an opportunity for a healthy, productive, and happy life that simply would not exist without The Village’s intervention. Amber and Nora are only two of over 260 Village staff, and I’m proud to publicly display their good work. The second reason I share this is to thank the many people and communities who support the work of The Village. Kids like Ellie have been given a chance for a better life through The Village since 1891. And we couldn’t do that, now or anytime in the last 122 years, without the support of individuals and corporations throughout North Dakota and Minnesota. Thousands of people contribute regularly to make stories like Ellie’s possible—and to all of you, I say thank you. Thank you for the confidence in our work your support represents. Our good work will continue because of you. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors. villagefamilymag.org

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PG On DVD December 10 According to Bruce Diones of the New Yorker, “This is one of those rarities, an animated sequel that improves on the original.” In this follow-up to the 2010 worldwide blockbuster, Steve Carell returns to voice Gru, the newly-reformed master criminal now attempting to live a normal life after discovering his true calling of being a father to three orphan girls. Audiences are introduced to the Anti-Villain League (AVL), which recruits Gru to track down and stop a threatening new supervillain. There is lots of Minion mayhem in this warm, funny, and suspenseful sequel. Carell leads a voice cast of comedy © Universal Pictures stars that also includes Kristin Wiig, Benjamin Bratt, Miranda Cosgrove, and Russell Brand.

“Cheaper by the Dozen” PG Available on DVD This family-oriented comedy tells the story of two very busy parents trying to raise their 12 children while keeping their careers on track. The father (Steve Martin) is offered his dream job and moves the family from the country to the suburbs of Chicago to coach Division I college football. At the same time, the mother (Bonnie Hunt) has to leave on a book tour. The situation creates havoc as the kids try to adjust to life in the © 20th Century Fox suburbs, with Mom on the road. Cast includes Hilary Duff, Piper Perabo, and a cameo appearance by Ashton Kucher.

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PG On Netflix Instant Stream This is an artfully hand-drawn caper set in the shadowdrenched alleys of Paris, France. Dino is a cat that leads a double life. By day he lives with Zoe, a little girl whose mother is a detective in the Parisian police force. At night, Dino sneaks out to work with Nico—a sly cat burglar with a big heart—who travels effortlessly from rooftop to rooftop across the Paris skyline. “A Cat in Paris” includes the voices of Marcia Gay Harden (“Mystic River”), Academy Award® winner Anjelica Huston, and Matthew Modine (“Full Metal Jacket”), along with a jazz soundtrack featuring Billie Holiday.

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Not yet rated In Theaters December 20 Thanks to recent breakthroughs in technology, audiences will experience the most realistic prehistoric adventure ever. Moviegoers will truly see and feel what it was like when dinosaurs ruled the Earth. “Walking With Dinosaurs” promises to be the ultimate big screen adventure for all ages. “Experience the adventure so real, you’ll believe you’re there.” The film features three Pachyrhinosauruses (Patchi—our hero, his brother, Scowler, and a female called Juniper) living in what is now the Arctic Circle but which then had a more temperate climate. The action follows these three from hatchlings to adulthood, through the herd’s mass migrations, until Patchi becomes the leader of the herd.

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Baby & Preschool “The I LOVE YOU Book” by Todd Parr In his newest picture book, Todd Parr explores the meaning of unconditional love in a heartfelt, playful way. Each spread describes a situation and its opposite, such as “I love you when you are scared. I love you when you are brave.” Parents and caregivers are sure to be inspired by Parr’s vibrant illustrations and tender sentiments, and will enjoy sharing this very special book with the little ones they love.

Ages 4 to 8 “Little Cub” by Olivier Dunrea What’s an Old Bear to do when he finds a Little Cub all alone and afraid of the dark? Adopt him, of course! And help him try to get over his fears. In this book we see the father and son from “Old Bear and His Cub” meet for the first time— and grow to love one another. With the same bold art and humorous twist on parenting, Olivier Dunrea’s tumbling bears will melt your heart and show how strong the bond is between any father and son pair.

Teenagers “Hollow City: The Second Novel of Miss Peregrine’s Children” by Ransom Riggs “Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children” was the surprise bestseller of 2011—an unprecedented mix of YA fantasy and vintage photography that enthralled readers and critics alike. This second novel begins in 1940, immediately after the first book ended. Having escaped Miss Peregrine’s island by the skin of their teeth, Jacob and his new friends must journey to London, the peculiar capital of the world. Along the way, they encounter new allies, a menagerie of peculiar animals, and other unexpected surprises. Complete with dozens of newly discovered (and thoroughly mesmerizing) vintage photographs, this new adventure will delight readers of all ages.

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Ages 9 to 12 “I Even Funnier: A Middle School Story” by James Patterson In this follow up to the #1 New York Times bestseller “I Funny,” middle-schooler Jamie Grimm has big dreams of being the best stand-up comic in the world—and he won’t let the fact that he’s wheelchair-bound stand in his way. After winning the New York state finals in the Planet’s Funniest Kid Comic Contest, Jamie’s off to Boston to compete in the national semi-finals. But when one of his best buddies runs into trouble at school, and a sudden family health scare rears its head, Jamie has to put his comedic ambitions on hold and stand by the people he cares about. Can Jamie pass up the big competition for the sake of his friends and family? Adults “Command Authority” by Tom Clancy with Mark Greaney There’s a new strong man in Russia, but his rise to power is based on a dark secret hidden decades in the past. The solution to that mystery lies with a most unexpected source, President Jack Ryan. Due for release in December, “Command Authority” is destined to follow the path of Clancy’s 13 previous novels and reach the New York Times bestseller list.

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The Great Debate By Gwen Rockwood

There’s a lot of Santa speculation around our house this season. The kids are now 11, 8, and 6, and they’re asking much more specific questions about the man in red. I’m both thankful and surprised it hasn’t happened before now. Our goal has always been to extend the mystery as long as possible, especially since there’s a kindergartner in the house and older brothers are lousy at keeping secrets. But the other day, our 8-year-old put the question to me as directly as he could: “Mom, is Santa Claus really real?” His 6-year-old sister was standing right next to him when he asked, and she looked at me expectantly, like an innocent little Cindy Lou-Who. I weighed my options and decided to go with the old answer-a-question-with-a-question reply: “If Santa isn’t real, then who keeps leaving those presents under the tree every year with tags that say ‘from Santa’?” Dubiously, Jack considered my non-answer and said, “Well, my friends and I have been talking about it, and we have mixed feelings.” “I see,” I said. “When I was a kid, I wondered about it, too. But I sure hope Santa is real because I want him to bring me a present. What are you hoping he brings for you?” At that point, the conversation segued into a long list of Lego toys, video games, books, and Nerf guns, and we didn’t circle back around to those “mixed feelings” about jolly old St. Nick. A few days later, we let the kids invite a few friends to go with us to see a movie matinee. The animated movie was called “Rise of the Guardians,” and it’s an adventure starring some of childhood’s most beloved personalities including the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, Jack Frost, the Sand Man, and Santa Claus. At the heart of the movie is this age-old question about believing in the magic of things unseen. During the drive home from the movie, the kids talked about their favorite parts of the story and one of our kids offered his analysis: “You know, I don’t think some of those people in the movie really exist. Like Jack Frost and the Sand Man. They’re probably make-believe. But I think the Easter Bunny and Santa are real.” “Why do you think those two are real if the others aren’t real?” asked one of his friends. “Well, for one thing, last Christmas my present was a Kindle Fire. And I know it came from Santa because my parents can’t afford that kind of thing.” I shot a quick look over to my husband, who was driving the minivan and biting down hard on his lip so he wouldn’t laugh. Later in private, we both agreed that the kids are lucky that Santa isn’t nearly as destitute as we are.

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We also agreed that, even though we know things will change in seasons to come, for now it’s awfully nice to have a house full of kids who keep on believing. Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Her new book, “Reporting Live from the Laundry Pile,” is available on Amazon and at Nightbird Books. Email her at rockwoodfiles@cox.net or write to her in care of this magazine.

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Born Second, Born Free By Rick Epstein

When our first child, Marie, was born, she instantly became the center of our universe. Three years later when Sally came along, she found a much easier job. At 20 months of age, Sally’s life was a carefree whirl. She sang. She danced. She would put a colander on her head and wear it like a helmet. At mealtime she’d shout, “Done!” and fling a plate of food to the floor. She’d tear up books. She’d scribble on the walls. She’d claim her name was “Jessica” (a cousin) and laugh happily at her joke. I attribute it to birth order. Years ago, working for a newspaper, I went to photograph Colleen O’Reilly, a teenager who had won a beauty contest. At the O’Reilly home, Mom was fussing over Colleen, getting her ready for the photo while the kid sister sulked conspicuously nearby. “I guess I’ll never get my picture in the paper,” she said. “Now Bonnie,” her mom said soothingly while brushing the big sister’s bangs into formation, “Colleen does well in these pageants, but you have special talents…like the way you play the flute so nicely.” “Mom!” Bonnie yelled in anguish. “Colleen plays the flute; I play the clarinet.” She ran to her room and demonstrated a flair for percussion, too, with a good, resonant slam of her bedroom door. Poor Bonnie didn’t get it. With her parents preoccupied with their lovely and talented firstborn, Bonnie needn’t have bothered with the clarinet. She could have taken up skydiving and Mom wouldn’t have noticed. I know because I’m a secondborn myself. Many firstborns are great achievers. But they achieve under the pressure of parental expectation. They shine like diamonds, but diamonds would just be lumps of coal if it weren’t for the pressure. Secondborns are free. For one thing, we usually aren’t as smart as the firstborns. That’s because our tired and distracted parents weren’t stimulating our little brains every waking moment—adoring us, tickling us, petting us, photographing us, and reading to us. So, to offset our inability to think great thoughts and do calculus, secondborns develop other qualities, such as charm, cunning, and joie de vivre. Also, because our parents have gotten over the worst of their fears, we don’t imbibe from them the exaggerated sense of caution that firstborns have. While young, we trespass freely, splash through creeks, play with fire, seek out bad company, and ride our bikes like Sioux warriors. At age 7, while my big brother was reading “The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire” in his room, I fell out of a tree onto my head. My mom didn’t rush me to the hospital for X-rays, like she would have if her firstborn had been knocked senseless. She took me to Mr. Angelotti. He was only a middle-school biology teacher, but a darn good one. “How many fingers am I holding up?” he asked, and pronounced me fit. They didn’t do a lot of unnecessary medical testing back then, so that was it. But even prompt repair of my head injury wouldn’t have made me as smart as my big brother. All grown up, he works family

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for the State Department, assigned to bring peace to the Middle East. It’s the price he pays for all that extra parenting. No one expects much from me. It’s enough that I hold a job, do some laundry, and put on my pants before leaving the house. Less parental focus on secondborns allows a kid more room in which to operate. Which brings us back to Sally, who is now 20 years old and taking a semester abroad. Is she in Europe studying its culture and dutifully visiting art museums and ancient cathedrals like her big sister did? No, Sally has hung her hammock at the University of the South Pacific in Fiji. She scuba dives by day, and evening finds her doing easy homework by the festive light of tiki torches. The photos she posts on her Facebook page are all palmy beaches, blue water, tanned bodies, and big smiles. The Fiji interlude is her biggest coup since she talked her way out of doing eighth grade. Two highlights of a great life. How does she do it? I give her no credit; it’s an accident of birth. Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@ yahoo.com.

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“Why do you have a badger skin?” inquired my 6-year-old nephew. My family, along with a small group of other adults and children, formed a semicircle in the shadowy quiet of a reconstructed Indian encampment earth lodge at a children’s nature center. Christine Freeman, an employee, had been guiding us through the lifestyle of the Kanza Indians, showing us how the Plains tribe crafted bows and arrows and used turtle shells for soup bowls and as calendars. She reached over and picked up the skin. “This is actually a raccoon,” she said as she placed it over her shoulder. Sitting down, she ran her hand along the fluffy, circled tail. “If you have time for a story, I’ll tell you how the animals worked out night and day,” she said. We all leaned in a little closer. Listening to Freeman recount the myth about the animals, we learned how the Indians taught their children about why days are split into nighttime and daytime hours. Freeman, who is also a mom of two adult sons, knows that when she weaves information into a story, her audience is more likely to listen and retain the information. “Storytelling is ageless. It appeals to everyone,” she says. “With children, it’s a great way to catch their attention.”

Learn through storytelling

Stories put our experiences into perspective, comforting us with the knowledge that we aren’t alone in our human experiences. Stories serve to entertain, inspire, teach compassion and other values, and stoke admiration and respect for the generations of individuals who came before us. Studies also show storytelling enhances a child’s language development, emergent reading, and comprehension skills.

“A story is a way to be in connection with our children and be in empathy and sympathy with them without giving advice or laying down the law,” says Robin Moore, professional storyteller and author of “Creating a Family Storytelling Tradition: Awakening the Hidden Storyteller.”

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Nicole Keck, mom of three boys, ages 6, 4, and 2, finds storytelling is like a window into her children’s minds. Her sons take turns telling stories before bedtime. “[The stories] may be funny or serious, true or fiction. We like that it gives us precious insights into what they’re thinking about,” Keck says. “Knowing what makes them tick is an invaluable tool in guiding and supporting them. Besides, they’re very witty and it’s just great entertainment!”

Expand creativity

Just like imaginative play, stories help children sort through problems and work through issues. “The more stories kids can relate to others, the more ability they have to use their imagination and to become problem solvers,” says Joyce Slater, artistic director for the Kansas City Storytelling Celebration, performing arts teacher, and a Missouri Touring Performer for the Missouri Arts Council. Research suggests that families who tell stories report higher levels of happiness, closeness, and adaptability. “My favorite thing about storytelling has to be showing my kids how fun it is to really embrace one’s own creativity and to not be shy about exploring and sharing one’s imagination,” says Kevin Doyle, a children’s book author and father of two, ages 7 and 3. He began telling stories to his daughter when she was just a toddler.

Doyle’s children especially desire imaginative, adventurous stories with pretend characters. “Those are my favorite to think up and the kids’ favorites to hear. Bedtime is our primary story time. That’s the best time to unwind and help everyone relax,” he says. As a staff writer for Knowonder.com, an online children’s story site, Doyle knows a thing or two about spinning yarns that appeal to kids. But you don’t have to be a professional storyteller to entertain your kids with your tales.

Tell life stories

Kids love to hear about parents’ adventures when they were kids. Family stories, in particular, shape a child’s understanding of his family’s values, a sense of right and wrong, and appropriate social behavior, both in the family and in the world. “One of the stories that kids should always know is the story about their birth,” Slater says. “‘What was the day like? Who was there? Why do I have this name?’ It becomes a real self-identifying process if you know how you came into being and why somebody chose your name.”

Encourage listening

Most of all, storytelling creates space for you to connect with your children. Begin with books. “Find a subject that you like, read the story, and then talk about it. It’s a great way to open up a conversation with your children,” Freeman says. “Listen to each other. Sometimes we don’t listen enough. There’s nothing wrong with just sitting and talking.” Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Hines thinks it’s magical how the question “Can I tell you a story?” turns her two rambunctious sons into captive listeners.

Other segues to storytelling:

• Use a puppet or act out a story instead of reading it. • When your child asks a question, try providing the answer in story form. • Look through the family photo album together and share stories about the people in the photos. • Play charades to tell a story. • Take turns pulling an object out of a box or bag and telling a story about the object. family

• Integrate old photos into your home decor of grandparents, interesting relatives, or ancestors to spark storytelling opportunities. • Check out Knowonder.com’s The Story Game, a family storytelling game using collectible cards that promote creativity, literacy, the elements of a story, and family engagement. To learn more, visit http://www.knowonder. com/storygame/.

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Dear Santa: Top 10 Gif t Ideas for Caregivers

There is no denying, caregiving is hard work. Between full- or part-time jobs, doctor appointments, medical research, and the demands of everyday life, family caregivers are pulled in many directions, usually with little time left to rest, relax, and refresh—time they so desperately need. And caregiving during the holiday season is especially difficult. As you think about what to get the people on your holiday shopping list, consider giving something special to the caregivers in your life. Ask yourself, what would make a caregiver’s life easier, simpler, more fun? Consider the following gift ideas:

1. Sleep.

4. Help.

Who can’t use extra sleep? Coordinate a morning free from responsibilities so the caregiver in your life can get an extra wink. The average person will spend one-third of his or her lifetime sleeping. Buy a caregiver luxury sheets and pillows. Help make their bed a haven for rest and relaxation.

2. A listening ear. Caregiving can be isolating. Often, caregivers are so focused on getting through each day’s challenges and obstacles, their personal lives are neglected. Ironically, this is a time they need support more than ever. Set a regular date to visit. Bring coffee or special treats. Simply listen, without judging or offering advice (unless explicitly asked for). Reconnecting can go a long way toward helping a caregiver rejuvenate.

3. Encouragement. Each and every day caregivers navigate uncharted waters. This can be a time filled with doubt and insecurity. Recognize the amazing sacrifices caregivers make. Send funny cards or “thinking of you” notes with words of encouragement and support. Tell them how well they are doing. Family caregivers are unsung heroes.

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How often have you said, “let me know what I can do” or “just call if you need anything”? And then, how often have you received a call asking for help? My guess is not often. Offer to help a caregiver in specific ways. For example, shovel the sidewalk, wash laundry, do household repairs, pick up groceries, run errands, or make or bring a meal. Read between the lines and hear what a caregiver is not saying.

5. G ift certificates to a favorite restaurant, grocery store, or gas station. Treat a caregiver to their favorite restaurant. Better yet, coordinate a night off so your loved one can enjoy an evening while indulging in a favorite meal. Or purchase gift cards to a local gas station or grocery store—these practical gifts will be much appreciated.

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6. Respite.

9. Movie rental subscription.

Give caregivers the gift of time. Offer to visit Mom or Dad in place of the caregiver so he or she can take a nap, take a walk, go to a movie, or catch up with friends. You might consider creating a “coupon book” with respite options.

Give caregivers the gift of immediate gratification via Netflix or other rental subscriptions. With movies delivered directly to your mailbox or streamed online, your favorite caregiver can enjoy a “night off” without leaving the house.

10. M erry Maids or other house cleaning service.

7. A spa appointment. Caregivers give so much of themselves, often at great expense to their own health and well-being. A massage, haircut or color, pedicure or manicure appointment will help them feel pampered and taken care of.

8. E-reader, tablet, or smartphone. Technology may make a caregiver’s life easier. Consider devices with dual purposes, for fun and function. These electronics may make coordinating schedules easier, or allow a caregiver to shop for groceries online, or simply do research while waiting at the doctor’s office.

The hustle and bustle of the holidays can make everyday life a little more chaotic. Eliminate several tasks from a caregiver’s list by enlisting help from a cleaning service. Keep in mind, gifts for caregivers don’t need to cost a lot of money. Often, what caregivers really want are intangible—the gift of time, empathy, and understanding. Article courtesy of Hospice of the Red River Valley. Written by Bonnie Oelschlager, Marketing and Communications Specialist, Hospice of the Red River Valley.

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My Journey to Stop Yelling at My Kids

By Janelle Brandon

Seven months ago, I overheard my son say something quite profound to my mother, whom he calls Nino. “Nino, I’ve never heard you yell.” I had a sinking feeling upon hearing his simple observation of his grandmother. I was guilty of yelling at my kids. There were times when I felt like my children were dawdling, or challenging me at every turn, or disrespecting me and their father, friends, and grandparents for the sole purpose of getting under my skin. I thought their behavior was a reflection of me and my parenting skills and felt it was my duty to “keep them in line,” by asserting my authority over them, by yelling at them. That all changed on March 29, 2013. That was the day I met The Orange Rhino. The Orange Rhino is, in fact, not a rhino at all. She’s simply 18

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a stressed-out, stay-at-home mom to four boys under the age of 5, and a popular blogger. She started The Orange Rhino blog last year after getting caught yelling at her kids by a handyman doing some remodeling in her home. She was mortified she’d been caught in a rageful moment by a stranger, someone from whom she desired respect. She realized she wanted to display more respectful behavior toward her handyman than her progeny. And, right then, she stopped yelling, started blogging about it, and now helps others formulate a plan to stop yelling. And so I took the challenge. For six months, I’ve kept my pact to not yell at my children as a form of discipline or punishment. I hope to go a full year. In the beginning, it was very difficult and I found myself shedding tears of frustration as I worked to fill my parenting toolbox with tools to parent my children respectfully.

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On one warm evening last May, only two months into my challenge, my 3-year-old daughter tested the limits of my patience. Between 6:30 p.m. and bedtime, she managed to do the following: • Snatch and spill a wildberry smoothie (mine) all over herself and the couch • Poop in the tub (still baffled by that one—act of defiance or urgency? I was watching her and all of a sudden a turd floated by) • Dump my favorite essential oil (lemongrass) on her naked body post-tub (after promising to “just sniff it”) • Find my mascara in my purse and paint her face mostly black with it (she wanted to hold mommy’s purse during a car ride to the store) • Drop an entire ice cream twist cone on her lap After I put my daughter to bed that night, I cried about these things, but I did not yell at her once for the three-ness she exhibited. She had helped me clean up and apologized for some of her actions. I’m learning, and at the same time, gaining moments with these little ones that might have been overshadowed by yells. My no-yelling transformation was illuminated again in September. My husband and I were on a date at Costco (sometimes grocery shopping without children is a date), and we witnessed a mother yelling at her son. The boy looked about 7 or 8, tired, and distracted. He was walking while looking at a display when his foot caught the side of the shopping cart his mother was pushing and he fell. He grabbed his ankle and started to cry as a slew of customers bottlenecked behind him. This is how the mother chose to handle the situation: “Get up! GET UP!” she yelled down to him on the floor. “Stop crying! This is your fault! If you had been looking where you were going, this wouldn’t have happened!” The boy hung his head and continued to cry. He looked embarrassed and broken. Tears sprung to my eyes. I was shaken. I’d gone nearly six months without raising my voice to my children and this public display of shaming shocked my sensibilities and made me want to run and protect the boy. I looked over at my husband and said, “She’s me. She’s the yelling mom I used to be.” I knew she must have felt anxious and stressed and pressured to deal with the situation in the moment. I just wish I could have shown her that she could take the challenge, too, and learn to yell less and love more in those moments. Let’s get one thing straight. I have yelled exactly twice since the challenge began. The first yell happened when my new bike-riding son, sans training wheels, came to a screeching halt in front of my bike on a busy trail. I was startled and didn’t want to run over him with my bike. He was so surprised by my raised voice that he immediately started crying and told me that I broke my challenge and was now going to be a yelling mom again. I explained that I needed to protect him from harm and used my voice as a tool to alert him of imminent danger. The second yell came when I had fallen asleep next to my daughter on her lower bunk. My son dropped the book he was reading off the upper bunk and its jagged edge poked me in the ribs. In my half-sleep state I yelled, “Ouch! Did you just throw your book at me?” He assured me it was an accident. So you, dear readers, can be the judge as to whether I’ve broken my challenge or not! family

Yelling at Young Children Wendy Troop Gordon, associate professor in the psychology department at North Dakota State University, says there are consequences to yelling at your children. “Some forms of yelling are more harmful than others,” says Troop Gordon. “If a parent is belittling, demeaning, or making the child feel fearful or guilty, this is harmful to the child’s confidence. It is a form of bullying.” Troop Gordon encourages parents who are angry with their children’s behavior to calm themselves before reacting to a child. She says it’s important to model self-control and teach children to express themselves in healthy ways. “Small children simply cannot understand the greater world around them,” she explains. “They are not at that cognitive level yet and sometimes may not even know what they did wrong or why their parent is so upset with them.” Troop Gordon suggests parents try to see things from their child’s point of view and reinforce positive behaviors. And last of all, she says that parents need to forgive themselves for past bouts of yelling. “No parent is perfect,” says Troop Gordon. “All parents have bad days, so don’t beat yourself up if you yell at your kids once in a while. Just correct your behavior and model emotional control.” Continued on page 21

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10 Things to Do Instead of Yelling As parents, it can be way too easy to slip into a pattern of yelling more than we’d like to. Not only does this create a scary, toxic environment for everybody, but it’s not even effective. Here are 10 things to try instead. They might not always work, but neither does yelling, and you just might find you need to use these suggestions less after a while. 1. Take a deep breath. If you’re going to react, breathe first and think of what you’re going to do or say. Nine times out of 10, just that breath will help you react in a better way. 2. Put on your granny glasses. Pretend you’re many years older, looking back at the scene from years in the future. Will any part of you miss the mayhem? Will this scene not seem so catastrophic? Would you regret yelling or acting ugly in this moment later? 3. Play Grandma for real. Take it a step further and think of how you’d react if these were your grandchildren instead of your children. What would a good grandma do? Chances are, you’d use a mix of wisdom, understanding, love, and humor (and let a little more slide). 4. Walk away. If it’s something that really doesn’t matter (the couch cushions are all on the floor after you’ve just straightened them the fifth time today), let it go. Fix it later and let a little low-level trouble go for now. 5. Laugh or smile (even inside). Kids are really good at making us crazy and they’re often really creative, too. We can get so caught up in how much work they make for us that we can lose sight of the fact that sometimes their actions are really pretty funny when we stop to think about them. If you’re likely to look back and laugh at it years later, why not start now? 6. Tell them what to do instead. You don’t need to yell to get good behavior. Kids often listen better when they’re spoken to purposefully, slowly, respectfully, and with eye contact (sometimes with physical contact too, such as a hand on the shoulder). Instead of yelling for five minutes, try simply stating what is going on and what you want done about it. 7. Be silly. If what you’re doing isn’t working, try a little goofiness. Cluck like a chicken, threaten to carry the kids upside down if they don’t stop what they’re doing, or suddenly grab your throat and cough, gasping out, “I

can’t breathe from all the bickering! Save me! Save me! Please be nice to each other before I’m a goner! Gasp, cough, sputter...” 8. Hand them a note. Write down what you’d like them to do, walk in wordlessly, and hand it to them. Walk out again, and see what happens. 9. Think back to your childhood. Before you holler, take a minute to remember yourself at that age. Think about what troublesome things you did and how your parents acted. Also think back to times you were troublesome and were treated kindly anyway (by parents, grandparents, teachers, babysitters, anybody) and how that felt. 10. Give them a hug. Yes, they may be acting rotten right now. They may be making you crazy. Yes, they should know better. Yes, they should act better. Yes to all of it. But at the end of the day, these are the small things in life. They are healthy and in your life. They are good little people at the heart of things. Besides, hugs make everything seem better—for the donor and the recipient!

Remember the old adage: The days are long but the years are short. Parenting is hard, but so is being a child. Try responding in some new ways and see if the days get a little easier for everybody. Be sure to be gentle and loving to yourself, too! —Alicia Bayer This article originally appeared on examiner.com at http://www.examiner.com/article/10-things-to-do-instead-of-yelling. You can find more of Alicia’s articles at http://www.pinterest.com/magicandmayhem/.

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There is never a better time than the present to make a change and with the new year right around the corner, why not take a no-yelling challenge for 2014? Learn how at http://theorangerhino.com/join-me/ Continued from page 19

back at his childhood and conjure up images of a stressed-out, red-faced, emotions-out-of-control mother. I want him to think of me as he does his grandmother—remembering that he’s never heard her yell. So the answer is, “No, my dear son. I’m not returning to my yelling ways.” Janelle Brandon is a wife to Lukas, mom to Dylan (6) and Julia (3), writer, doula, and marketer living in Moorhead. To learn more, visit www.janellebrandon.com.

Yelling at Adolescents A University of Pittsburgh study conducted by Ming-Te Wang released in September in the journal, Child Development, finds that shouting, cursing, or using insults may adversely affect the long-term well-being of the adolescent. Wang, an assistant professor with the department of psychology at the University of Pittsburgh School of Education, and his researchers conducted the study in 10 public middle schools in eastern Pennsylvania with 976 two-parent families and their children. Respondents completed surveys over a period of two years on topics related to their mental health, child-rearing practices, the quality of the parent-child relationship, and general demographics. The study concluded that instead of minimizing bad behavior in teens by parents using yelling as a form of discipline, the behavior is in fact aggravated, and teens in the study exhibited signs of depression and antisocial and aggressive behavior. “Most parents who yell at their adolescent children wouldn’t dream of physically punishing their teens,” says Wang. “Yet their use of harsh verbal discipline—defined as shouting, cursing, or using insults—is just as detrimental to the long-term well-being of adolescents.” “Importantly, we also found that ‘parental warmth’ did not lessen the effects of the verbal discipline,” Wang says. “The sense that parents are yelling at the child ‘out of love’ or ‘for their own good’ does not mitigate the damage inflicted. Neither does the strength of the parent-child bond. Even if you are supportive of your child, if you fly off the handle it’s still bad,” he points out. family

Sticking with the Challenge As I’ve moved through the last six months without yelling, I’ve witnessed beautiful moments. Instead of yelling at my kids to hurry up from another room in the house, I walk to where they are, to talk to them face to face. And when I get to them I often find beautiful things. These little creatures are lost deep in imagination while playing dominoes or with the dollhouse. Now instead of accusing them of dawdling and being disrespectful toward Mommy, I realize they often have no hidden agenda or are not trying to intentionally bother me. They are just being kids. My greatest takeaway has been a more peaceful house, and better and more loving exchanges with all my family members. And I intend to keep it that way. My son asked recently, “Mom, when your no-yelling challenge is over, are you going back to being a yelling mom?” I don’t want my child to look villagefamilymag.org

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This is . He knows it's his job to teach his son Scotty what this whole gaming thing is about. The age rating helps him pick the right games, but being a good dad means he always wants to know more. That’s exactly what the ESRB’s rating summaries are for. Search for a game’s rating summary at ESRB.org.

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Heart Screen™ Convenient Tool Tracking Your Risk

Prevention is the best medicine You have heard it over and over but what does prevention look like when it comes to your heart and achieving or maintaining heart health? Discovering or knowing your risk factors for developing heart disease or a heart attack is your first step. The second step is adjusting your lifestyle to a healthy one that supports your heart for a long and happy life. How do you know if you are a candidate for heart issues now or down the road? By learning and monitoring your risk factors for heart disease and stroke. Now there is a tool to help you quantify your risks. The Heart Screen ™ is available at Sanford Health in Fargo. Should I get screened? You decide! According to the American Heart Association, many first-ever heart attacks or strokes are fatal or disabling, so prevention is critical. The more risk factors you have, the greater your chance of developing heart disease or stroke. Also, the greater the level of each risk factor, the greater the risk. The sooner you begin comprehensive risk reduction, the longer and stronger your heart will beat. A heart screen is recommended if you have: • Early family history of heart disease (less than 50 years old) • A history of smoking or are currently a smoker • Hypertension • High Cholesterol (Total cholesterol greater than 200 mg/dL) • Obesity • Diabetes, or are a • Postmenopausal Woman “Early diagnosis and preventive therapy for heart disease is the best line of defense for our families and our community,” says Sanford’s interventional cardiologist, Thomas Haldis. “It is a very treatable and preventable disease as long as it is identified in its early stages. Most people over the age of 40 have at least one risk factor and many have multiple risk factors. That’s why it is important to know your risk factors and have a heart screen. The Heart Screen at Sanford is the best way to facilitate early diagnosis and treatment.”

The Heart Screen ™ The Heart Screen ™ at the Sanford Center for Screening is unique. At one easy to find location, it offers a convenient and effective means to track your heart disease risks by using advanced tools and diagnostics to uncover critical details about the health of your heart. Screenings may include: • EKG – Records electrical impulses as they travel through the heart. Patterns in heartbeats and rhythms may indicate various heart conditions. • Cholesterol (non-fasting) – Measures Total Cholesterol and HDL (good) Cholesterol. Abnormal results increase the risk of heart disease and stroke. • Blood Pressure – Measures the pressure of the blood against the wall of the arteries. Elevated blood pressure increases the risk of heart disease and stroke. • Framingham Score – Estimates risk of developing heart disease within the next 10 years. • Exercise Assessment / Nutrition Assessment • Body Mass Index (BMI) • CT Scan – May or may not be done, depending on your screening results. This will indicate the amount of buildup of calcium on the coronary arteries. Elevated levels of calcium may indicate risk of future coronary disease. How can I get screened? The Heart Screen is available for $50 at the Sanford Center for Screening located at 1720 University Drive S., in Fargo. Screens take less than an hour and are scheduled in advance. Heart disease doesn’t have to be inevitable. Start by scheduling your screen: (701) 23-HEART (701-234-3278), or 800-821-2232.

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Calendar of Events

To include your event in our family-friendly calendar, email shendricksen@TheVillageFamily.org. Deadline for the February/March calendar is December 31, 2013. Although we strive to be as accurate as possible, please call ahead to verify information, registration requirements, or event fees. Due to limited space, we are unable to include all submissions.

DECEMBER 2013 EVENTS 12.1 Sunday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Grinch Day. Grinch-themed activities and a reading of Dr. Seuss’s “How the Grinch Stole Christmas.” 1 p.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad below) • Holiday Brass. 2 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 650 2nd Ave. N., Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org 12.2 Monday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org

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12.3 Tuesday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Tri-College Jazz Combos. 7:30 p.m., Fox Recital Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 12.4 Wednesday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Fargo Force vs. Sioux City Musketeers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www. fargoforce.com 12.5 Thursday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Michael W. Smith & Third Day Christmas Concert. 7 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.scheelsarena.com 12.6 Friday • FM Kennel Club Dog Agility Trials. Expo Building, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-232-7693 • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Polar Express Storytime. A reading of “Polar Express,” activities, and holiday treats. 7 p.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Parent’s Night Out Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-9 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www. tntkidsfitness.com • Extreme Night. Grades 6-8. 7-10 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-281-0126 • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • MSUM Choirs & University Orchestra Holiday Concert. 7:30 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 650 2nd Ave. N., Fargo, 218-477-2271 12.7 Saturday • FM Kennel Club Dog Agility Trials. Expo Building, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-232-7693 • Jingle Bell Run/Walk 5K for Arthritis. Register at 701-3881988 or www.arthritis.org/JingleBellRun. Registration at 8 a.m., run/walk at 9 a.m., Courts Plus, 3491 S. University Dr., Fargo

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• 3P’s in a Pod. Holiday art sale. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., Marcil Commons, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-6588 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Jaws, Paws & Lunch with Santa Claus. Ride the carousel, create presents for the animals, and make holiday crafts. Space is limited; please purchase tickets in advance. 11 a.m.-1:30 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Santa Fly-In. Noon-2 p.m., Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-282-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org (See ad pg. 30) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www. adoptapetfm.org • Kid Quest: Muddy Hands. Please register 2 weeks in advance. 1-4 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Christmas on the Prairie. Cookie decorating, carolers, wagon rides, and photos with Santa. 1-7 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-2822822 or www.bonanzaville.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. Register at www.ymca. org/funnights. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo • FM Opera Snowball Gala. Dinner, dancing, and silent auction. 6 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-239-4558 or www.fmopera.org (See ad pg. 27)

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• “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 12.8 Sunday • FM Kennel Club Dog Agility Trials. Expo Building, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-2327693 • Holiday Treats & Tours. 1-4 p.m., Historic Comstock House, 506 8th St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-4211 • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • FM Area Youth Symphonies Winter Concert. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-388-4536 or www.fmays.org • Wind Ensemble. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 12.9 Monday • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Percussion Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 12.10 Tuesday • Bethany’s 28th Annual Silent Auction & Food Fest. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Bethany Retirement Living, 201 University Dr. S., Fargo, 701-239-3246 • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Jazz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Buxton/Hanson Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515

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12.11 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • March of Dimes Bowls for Babies. Choose your favorite bowl designed by local artists, and enjoy soup provided by area restaurants. Tickets at the door and all FM Gate City Bank locations. 11 a.m.-1:30 p.m., Ramada Plaza & Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, www.marchofdimes.com/ northdakota • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) 12.12 Thursday • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Annie.” Presented by Davies Theatre Department. 7:30 p.m., Davies High School, 7150 S. 25th St., Fargo, 701-4465768

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12.13 Friday • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • Holiday Lights Display. Drive-through tours from 5-8 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org • Holiday Pops Family Concert: Christmas in the Caribbean. 7 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org • Holiday Open Gym. Ages 5-14. Bring a new toy to receive half off admission. 7-9 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • 87th Annual Concordia Christmas Concert: “Before the Marvel of This Night.” 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 888-477-0277 or www.ConcordiaChristmas. com • Fargo Force vs. Sioux City Musketeers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Annie.” Presented by Davies Theatre Department. 7:30 p.m., Davies High School, 7150 S. 25th St., Fargo, 701-4465768 12.14 Saturday • Storybook Breakfast. Food, fun, and fairytale faces presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 9 a.m.-noon, West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, www. westfargotheatre.com

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• Farewell to Annie & Orabel. Open house with free admission to see the Prairie Daughters exhibit. 9 a.m.5 p.m., Historical and Cultural Society of Clay County, Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-2995511 • Gingerbread & Jingle Bells. 10 a.m.5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www. childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Jaws, Paws & Lunch with Santa Claus. Ride the carousel, create presents for the animals, and make holiday crafts. Space is limited; please purchase tickets in advance. 11 a.m.1:30 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www. redriverzoo.org • Sertoma & Quota Club Signing Santa. Holiday celebration for hard-ofhearing and/or deaf children and their families. Pre-registration required; call Bruce at 701-261-9734. 11 a.m.2 p.m., Marcil Commons, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S., Moorhead • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www. fargoparks.com • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • Holiday Pops Family Concert: Christmas in the Caribbean. 2 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony. org • 87th Annual Concordia Christmas Concert: “Before the Marvel of This Night.” 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 888-477-0277 or www. ConcordiaChristmas.com • Movies in the Pool. Two short holiday movies in the small pool. 4 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-293-9622 • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. Register at www.ymca.org/funnights. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo • Holiday Lights Display. Drivethrough tours from 5-8 p.m.,

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Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www. bonanzaville.org • Fargo Force vs. Sioux Falls Stampede. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-3567656 or www.fargoforce.com • The Nutcracker & Holiday Show. Presented by Bonnie Haney Dance. 7:30 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, www. bonniehaneydance.com • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2356778 or www.fmct.org • “Annie.” Presented by Davies Theatre Department. 7:30 p.m., Davies High School, 7150 S. 25th St., Fargo, 701446-5768

Night.” 2 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 888-477-0277 or www.ConcordiaChristmas.com • The Nutcracker & Holiday Show. Presented by Bonnie Haney Dance. 2 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, www.bonniehaneydance.com • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2356778 or www.fmct.org • “Annie.” Presented by Davies Theatre Department. 2 p.m., Davies High School, 7150 S. 25th St., Fargo, 701446-5768 • Skating with Santa. Skate to holiday music while visiting with Santa. 7-8:30 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

12.15 Sunday • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • 87th Annual Concordia Christmas Concert: “Before the Marvel of This

12.16 Monday • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org

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• The Blenders Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-205-3182 or www.fargotheatre.org 12.20 Friday •S anta Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) •H oliday Lights Display. Drive-through tours from 5-8 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-2822822 or www.bonanzaville.org •H oliday Parent’s Night Out. Ages 6 wks-11 yrs. Call 701-364-4166 to register. 5:30-9 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo • The Classic Nutcracker. Presented by FM Ballet. 7 p.m., Reineke Festival Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-234-9440 or www.fmballet.org • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2356778 or www.fmct.org • The Blenders Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-205-3182 or www.fargotheatre.org

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12.18 Wednesday • FirstLink’s Giving Tree of Hope & Connection Fair. Gifts will be distributed to children and adults with special needs who would not otherwise receive a gift. 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Fargo Civic Center Centennial Hall, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-235-7335 • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) 12.19 Thursday • Noon Holiday Concert. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 4-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2356778 or www.fmct.org

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12.21 Saturday •H oop it Up: 3 vs. 3 Basketball Tournament. Grades 2-5. Register by Dec. 13 at www.ymcacassclay.org/ hoopitup •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com •S anta Fly-In. Noon-2 p.m., Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-282-8043 or www. fargoairmuseum.org (See ad pg. 30) •4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org •F M Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Meet pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., Petco, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, www.adoptapetfm.org • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • “The Wizard of Oz.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2356778 or www.fmct.org • The Classic Nutcracker. Presented by FM Ballet. 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., Reineke Festival Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-2349440 or www.fmballet.org

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• Holiday Lights Display. Drive-through tours from 5-8 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-2822822 or www.bonanzaville.org • The Blenders Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-205-3182 or www.fargotheatre.org 12.22 Sunday • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24) • The Classic Nutcracker. Presented by FM Ballet. 2 p.m., Reineke Festival Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-234-9440 or www.fmballet.org • The Blenders Concert. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-205-3182 or www. fargotheatre.org 12.23 Monday • School’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-8 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 24)

10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www. childrensmuseum-yunker.org 12.28 Saturday •R umble on the Red Wrestling Championships. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargorumble.com •F amily First Week. Free admission for grandparents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker. org •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com •F argo Force vs. Sioux City Musketeers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com 12.29 Sunday •R umble on the Red Wrestling Championships. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargorumble.com •F amily First Week. Free admission for moms. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www. childrensmuseum-yunker.org

12.26 Thursday • School’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Winter Adventure Days. Activity camp for children. Space is limited; call 701364-4116 to register. 9 a.m.-4:30 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo • Family First Week. Free admission for grandparents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker. org

12.30 Monday •S chool’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Winter Adventure Days. Activity camp for children. Space is limited; call 701364-4116 to register. 9 a.m.-4:30 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo •F amily First Week. Free admission for kids. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www. childrensmuseum-yunker.org

12.27 Friday • Rumble on the Red Wrestling Championships. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargorumble.com • School’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Winter Adventure Days. Activity camp for children. Space is limited; call 701364-4116 to register. 9 a.m.-4:30 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo • Family First Week. 2-for-1 admission.

12.31 Tuesday •S chool’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com •F amily First Week. Free admission for dads. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www. childrensmuseum-yunker.org •F argo Force vs. Sioux Falls Stampede. 6:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-3567656 or www.fargoforce.com

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JANUARY 2013 EVENTS 1.1 Wednesday • FirstChoice Clinic’s Largest Baby Shower. Drop off new baby items to help refill FirstChoice Clinic’s Family Boutique. Donations will be accepted the entire month of January at all FM Hornbacher’s locations. Visit www.teamfirstchoice.com for details • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 1.2 Thursday • Cirque Ziva. Presented by The Golden Dragon Acrobats. 8 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-205-3182 or www.fargotheatre.org 1.3 Friday • “The New Year’s Revue – Gems of Broadway.” Presented by FMCT. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 1.4 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s Meet the Dogs. Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • “The New Year’s Revue – Gems of Broadway.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

• Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. Register at www.ymca.org/ funnights. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo 1.5 Sunday • “The New Year’s Revue – Gems of Broadway.” Presented by FMCT. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 1.8 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 1.10 Friday • Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com 1.11 Saturday • Jazz Day. Hvidsten Hall of Music, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Youth Ice Fishing Derby. 12:30-2:30 p.m., South Woodhaven Pond, 4202 Woodhaven Dr. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www. fargoparks.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Masterworks Concert III: American Genius. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www. fmsymphony.org 1.12 Sunday • Masterworks Concert III: American Genius. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www. fmsymphony.org

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1.15 Wednesday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 1.16 Thursday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

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1.18 Saturday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Winnie the Pooh Day. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Fargo Force vs. Indiana Ice. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com 1.19 Sunday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

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1.17 Friday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Fargo Force vs. Indiana Ice. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • Performing Arts Series: Improvised Shakespeare Company. 7:30 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-499-4366

1.20 Monday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

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• School’s Out Day Camp. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave. Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Hockeyfest. 1-5 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com 1.21 Tuesday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org 1.22 Wednesday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 1.23 Thursday • West Fargo Winter Days. 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org • Admissions Scholarship Concert. 7 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • The Fab Four Concert. 8 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701205-3182 or www.fargotheatre.org 1.24 Friday • Red River Valley Boat & Marine Products Show. Noon-9 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www. fargodome.com • Fargo Force vs. Waterloo Black Hawks. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • Performing Arts Series: The Singers. 7:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218299-4366 1.25 Saturday • Red River Valley Boat & Marine Products Show. 10 a.m.-8 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www. fargodome.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Snow Dance Celebration. Presented by Red River Dance & Performing Company. 1:30 p.m. & 4 p.m., Shanley High School, 5600 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-280-0004 • Candlelight Ski. All ages and abilities welcome. Call 218-498-2124 for information on equipment rental. 6-9 p.m., Buffalo River State Park, Glyndon, Minn.

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• Fargo Force vs. Waterloo Black Hawks. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • ETHEL & Robert Mirabal: Music from the Sun. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 1.26 Sunday • Red River Valley Boat & Marine Products Show. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www. fargodome.com 1.27 Monday • St. Joseph’s School Open House. Tour the school, meet teachers, and discover how St. Joseph’s School could be a part of your family’s life. 6-7:30 p.m., St. Joseph’s School, 1005 2nd Ave. S., Moorhead, www. stjoesmhdschool.com 1.29 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com

1.30 Thursday • 14th Annual Cares for Kids Radiothon. Benefiting Children’s Miracle Network at Sanford Children’s Hospital. 6 a.m.-6 p.m., 801 Broadway N., Fargo, donation line 701-4785437(KIDS) • Midwinter Piano Festival. 7:30 p.m., Christiansen Recital Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4414 1.31 Friday • 14th Annual Cares for Kids Radiothon. Benefiting Children’s Miracle Network at Sanford Children’s Hospital. 6 a.m.-6 p.m., 801 Broadway N., Fargo, donation line 701-4785437(KIDS) • Fargo Force vs. Omaha Lancers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www. fargoforce.com • Midwinter Piano Festival. 7:30 p.m., Christiansen Recital Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4414 • Monster Jam. 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-2419100 or www.fargodome.com (See ad pg. 34)

Happy, Healthy and Delicious Holidays with Soy Why not stuff a little soy into your stocking (and diet) and give the gift of health this holiday season? Soyfoods have numerous benefits, including heart-healthy protein, fiber and isoflavones. They are also versatile in taste and texture and can be found throughout grocery stores.

No Bake Soynut Butter Pie 1 cup chocolate soynut butter 1 deep-dish graham cracker crust 2 ounces soy cream cheese 2 ounces dairy cream cheese 1 cup confectioners’ sugar, sifted 1 cup crunchy soynut butter ½ cup milk 8 ounces frozen whipped topping, thawed In a microwavable bowl, on high power, microwave the chocolate soynut butter for approximately one minute or until it is pourable. Spread chocolate soynut butter over graham cracker crust. Set aside. In a large mixing bowl combine soy cream cheese, cream cheese and confectioners’ sugar; mix well. Add soynut butter and mix.

Slowly add milk and continue to mix. Fold in whipped topping. Pour in pie shell and cover with lid that is provided with the graham cracker crust. Freeze for at least 30 minutes before serving. **Note: This pie freezes well for several days. For more information on soyfoods or FREE recipes, contact the North Dakota Soybean Council. Phone: (888) 469-6409 www.ndsoybean.org swolf@ndsoybean.org

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• Free Friday Movie. Dec. 27, 1 p.m. • LEGO Mania. LEGO design contest for kids 12 and under. Registration required. Dec. 30, 2 p.m. • Muslim Journeys “Point of View” Launch Event. Screening of “Persepolis” with discussion to follow. Jan. 12, 2 p.m. • Current History Book Club. Jan. 28, 7 p.m. Dr. James Carlson Library

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PUBLIC LIBRARIES

Call or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required. Fargo Public Main Library

102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org • Chess Club. Open to players of all levels. Thursdays, 5:30-8:30 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Registration required. Dec. 5 & 19, 4:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos) and their caregivers. Dec. 5 & 19, Jan. 2, 6:30 p.m. • Intro to Lefse Making. Registration required. Dec. 5, 6:30 p.m.; Dec. 7, 10 a.m. • Digital Library Class. Registration required. Dec. 9, 6:30 p.m. • Snowman Ornament Craft. Ages 4-9. Registration required. Dec. 10, 4 p.m. • Blue Plate Special. Storytime for adults; bring a bag lunch. Dec. 11, 12:15-12:45 p.m. • PAWS for Reading. Grades K-6. Registration required. Dec. 14 & Jan. 11, 1 p.m. • Lemony Snicket Book Club. Grades 3-6. Registration required. Dec. 17 & Jan. 21, 4 p.m. • Saturday Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Dec. 21 & Jan. 18, 10 a.m.

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• Tea Time Book Club. Dec. 2 & Jan. 5, 2 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Registration required. Dec. 3 & 17, 4:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos) and their caregivers. Dec. 5 & 19, Jan. 2, 10 a.m. • Unraveled Crafters Club. Dec. 8 & 22, 1 p.m. • Snowman Ornament Craft. Ages 4-9. Registration required. Dec. 9, 4 p.m. • Digital Library Class. Registration required. Dec. 11, 2 p.m. • Saturday Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Dec. 14 & Jan. 11, 10 a.m. • Magic Tree House Book Club. Grades 1-4. Registration required. Dec. 15 & Jan. 19, 2 p.m. • Free Friday Movie. Dec. 13 & 27, 1 p.m. • Great Chemistry for Teens! Handson science program for teens in grades 6-12. Space is limited; registration required. Jan. 18, 1 p.m. & 3 p.m. Northport Branch

2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-4764026 or www.fargolibrary.org • Saturday Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Dec. 7 & Jan. 4, 10 a.m. • Northport Classic Book Club. Dec. 18 & Jan. 15, 6:30 p.m. West Fargo Public Library

109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary. org • Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays (except Dec. 24 & 31), 10:15 a.m. • Storytime with Craft. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays (except Dec. 24 & 31), 1:30 p.m.; Thursdays, 6:30 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group; bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.

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• Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m. • Santa Visits the Library. Dec. 7, 2-4 p.m. • Creative Corner. Open to all adults. Dec. 11 & 18, Jan. 8, 12:30 p.m. • Saturday New Release Movies. Dec. 14 & 21, Jan. 11 & 25, 2 p.m. • Fun with Food: Healthy Snacks. Nutrition program geared for preschoolers and their caretakers. Please register. Dec. 16, 10:15-11 a.m. • Homework Center. Grades 1-8. Mon.Thurs., 3-5:30 p.m. on days school is in session • Ham Radio Operators. Call for details • Tech/Computer Classes. Call or stop in to register Moorhead Public Library

118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-2337594 or www.larl.org • Open Computer Practice. Mondays, 2 p.m. • Origami Club. Mondays, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime Plus. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime. Wednesdays, 10:30 a.m. • Baby Bounce. For parents and babies (up to age 2). Thursdays, 10 a.m. • Wii Wednesday. Dec. 4, 6 p.m. • Yarn Circle. Open to all ages and experience levels. Dec. 5, 6:30 p.m. • LEGO Club. Dec. 12, 6 p.m.; Dec. 28, 2 p.m. • Make It Yourself: T-Shirt Bag. Please pre-register. Dec. 12, 7 p.m. • Classics Book Club. Dec. 17, 7 p.m. • Adult Book Club. Dec. 19, 7 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details

CLASSES

Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm

1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseumyunker.org • Super Science Saturdays • Yunkie Club Early Childhood Family Education (See ad pg. 26)

Classes for infants to kindergarten entry. Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S., Moorhead, 218-284-3400 or https:// communityed.moorheadschools.org

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• Designing Our Community Through Folk Dress • Felting Workshop • Holiday Floral Arranging Demonstration • Primitive Tin Punch Workshop • Spin-In Roc Day

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Fargo Moorhead Community Theatre

701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • Create-A-Play with Darren Sitz (Grades 3-5) Fargo Park District

701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Accelerated Artists • Artmania • Create & Explore • Holiday Fun • Mr. Claus Class • Mrs. Claus Class FM Ambulance

701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com • First Aid • Heartsaver CPR/AED Fraser, Ltd.

202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-2995511

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218-284-3400 or https:// communityed.moorheadschools.org Plains Art Museum

704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-5516100 or www.plainsart.org • Artful Yoga • Kid Quest Adult Art Classes • Clay for Couples • Intermediate/Advanced Painting • Intro to Ceramics • Intro to Screenprinting • Functional Ceramics • Moldmaking • Rock Cutting Youth Art Classes • Pottery on the Wheel • Story Time Art

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701-241-5700 or www.ag.ndsu.edu/ casscountyextension/home-andfamily • Parents Forever Red River Zoo

4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-2779240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Feast or Famine • Pint-Size Explorers Sanford Health Community Education

1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www. sanfordhealth.org • Baby Signs • Baby’s First Ride • Better Choices, Better Health Workshop • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • C.A.R.S. (Children & Restraint Systems) • Family & Friends CPR • Infant Massage • Labor – What to Expect • Lamaze • Our Family is Having a Baby • Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home for Baby U of M Extension

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1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-2353328 or www.HelpWithMoney.org • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Mindfulness • Money Management Education • No More Diets • Parenting the Love & Logic Way • Tenant Education

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MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS Call for additional information. Cass County Museum

1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org • Prairie Expressions Concordia College Cyrus M. Running Gallery

901 8th St. S., Moorhead, 218-2994623 • Annual Concordia Faculty Art Exhibition. Begins Jan. 16 Fargo Air Museum

1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2938043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County

Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www. hcscconline.org • Sheep to Shawl. Ends Dec. 31 • Prairie Daughters: The Art and Lives of Annie Stein & Orabel Thortvedt. Ends Jan. 6 • The Piga Project: Women, Immigration & Resilience. Begins Jan. 12 • The Vikings: Master Mariners, Traders, Colonists MSUM Planetarium

Bridges Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2920 • Season of Light. Dec. 5-23 • One World One Sky. Begins Jan. 11 • IBEX: Search for the Edge of the Solar System. Begins Jan. 13 Plains Art Museum

704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-5516100 or www.plainsart.org • Wing Young Huie: Hidden Fargo in Plain Sight. Ends Dec. 29 • T.L. Solien: Toward the Setting Sun. Ends Jan. 12 • Kim Bromley: The Moby Dick Series. Ends Jan. 19 The Rourke Art Museum & Gallery

Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www. therourke.org • Zhimin Guan & Brad Bachmeier: Confluence: New & Collaborative Works. Ends Dec. 31

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You Don’t Have To Go It Alone

For over 120 years, The Village Family Service Center has helped area children and families improve their lives. The Village was founded as a home for orphaned children, and for decades provided a sanctuary for those who often had no other place to go. Times have changed, and we discovered it wasn’t just kids who needed help. Every year, The Village reaches out to more than 75,000 people, and we are constantly adapting our services to meet the needs of modern life. From individual and family counseling to child care, mentoring and adoption to financial counseling and workplace issues, The Village is a place for all individuals and families. As the definition of family evolves, so do we and no matter how you define family, at The Village, you will never go it alone.

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By Megan Bartholomay

When Adrian and Abbey Dawson-Becker found out they were pregnant with their second child, they wanted their then 18-month-old son, Drake, to be a big part of getting ready for the new baby. One way to accomplish that was to have him help put a fresh coat of paint on the nursery walls to get it ready for “Sister.” Painting a room alongside your children—whether to welcome a new baby, transform the look, or just refresh the space—is a wonderful way to teach a useful skill to kids while accomplishing a task together.

Paint, Primer, and Supplies

Experts recommend you choose a paint that matches the purpose of the room. Let the kids help you select a color. Drake chose the color for his baby sister’s nursery. Keep in mind, paint is a relatively inexpensive product and if the kids choose something wild now, you can paint over it when they (or you) get tired of their selection. For a nursery, or an area that a young child will be spending time in, Don Woodbury, paint expert at Scheels Home and Hardware, suggests a satin or semi-gloss paint. “The shinier the paint, the easier it will be to clean.”

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Prepping the Room

For those who are concerned about toxins, modern latex paint is generally quite low in VOC (volatile organic compounds). However, manufacturers do suggest painting You have a couple of options when it comes to getting a in a well-ventilated area. Some paint brands boast a minimal room ready for a new coat of paint: 1) Move all the VOC rating, but toxin levels can increase with the furniture to the center of the room, giving you addition of coloring, so it’s best to investigate access to the walls, or 2) clear the furniture which paints are appropriate for your space. from the room. After you and the kids Do your walls need a primer? have done the heavy lifting, the Some DIY painters avoid this step next step is to thoroughly prepare altogether because they think a the walls. Take a scraper and previously painted room doesn’t scrape away any loose paint. need primer—not necessarily. You may need to do some Applying a primer will give light sanding or patch work your paint a better-looking, if the walls are riddled with more durable finish, and help After removing outlet holes. Next, clean the walls with overall uniformity of by taking your vacuum covers and switch paint application. If the wall extension and sucking is in rough shape, with visible any dirt and debris from plates, tape the screws stains or marks, a primer will every surface that will help seal out old stains and be receiving paint. Then, to the back of the cover mask wall blemishes. thoroughly wash the walls. or switch plate so they Use high quality paint, rollers, Woodbury suggests using a and brushes for maximum effect. mild solution of warm water, don’t get lost. “The quality of your paint job is a few drops of dish soap, and only as good as your applicator,” a bit of vinegar to remove any says Woodbury. Other supplies to residue. Rinse with plain water. consider gathering include drop cloths A sponge and some elbow grease (old sheets or shower curtains work well), can knock this task out quickly. Allow buckets, scrapers, paint trays, painter’s tape, time for the walls to dry completely before old rags, stir sticks, a ladder, and gloves. moving on.

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Protecting surfaces with painter’s tape is the next order of business. While this step is time consuming, it is important. Use painter’s tape along wall and ceiling edges, on fixtures, and around trim and molding to keep clean, sharp paint lines and to shield surfaces from drips and splatters. When taping, Woodbury suggests starting with the baseboards first, and moving to window sills and door frames. Don’t worry too much about the tops of sills or frames unless you’re expecting a lot of eight-foot-tall basketball players to be hanging out in the room. This is a good time to put down tarps or drop cloths to protect flooring, as well as remove all the switch plates and outlet covers. If you have little ones helping, be sure to note the dangers of an open outlet and caution them. If you feel removing them is just too unsafe, tape the covers and plates to protect them from paint instead.

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Clean-Up Time

A painting project comes with a lot of clean-up, which is a great opportunity to teach kids to care for tools and supplies so they will last. How you clean paintbrushes, rollers, and trays depends on the type of paint product. Read the instructions on the paint can and use the appropriate solvent. Mineral spirits or turpentine may be recommended for oilbased paint; brushes used to apply latex paint can generally be cleaned with soap and water. Remove painter’s tape from the walls and trim when the last coat of paint is no longer tacky to the touch (one to two hours). Pull it off slowly and, if it seems to be bringing the paint with it, use a razor to carefully score the edge. Experts suggest waiting 12 to 24 hours until a freshly painted room is move-in ready. A completed DIY project like painting a room should give you and your kids a great sense of accomplishment. Don’t forget to enlist their help to restore the room to livability, too. A North Dakota native, Megan Bartholomay is a freelance writer and editor with an addiction to grammar, cats, wine, and good food. She lives in downtown Fargo with her husband, Mike, and their bevy of fuzzy babies.

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Keep a damp rag handy while you’re painting to immediately wipe up drips before they set.

Most of your wall space can be painted using a roller. However, you can’t get right up to the edges of molding, trim, or baseboards with a roller, so you’ll need to use a brush and a process called “cutting in.” Pour some paint into a bucket. Painting professionals recommend you don’t load up a paintbrush directly from the can to keep residue that might get on your brush out of the original batch of paint. Dip a two-and-a-half-inch brush into the bucket, gently shake off the excess, and “cut in” a line of paint along all the edges in the room you won’t be able to reach with a roller (molding, trim, baseboards, corners, etc.). To use the roller, start by filling the well of a paint tray with paint. Move the roller back and forth in the well and then drag it up across the grid of the tray to eliminate the excess paint. Apply the roller to the wall in a V or W pattern, 38

filling in a blocked section about three feet wide, working from ceiling to floor. Let young children paint with a small roller and then incorporate their painting into yours. Paint each adjacent block before the previous one dries to blend the edges together. Continue painting in three-foot sections until the first coat is complete for the entire room. Wait for the appropriate drying time (as indicated on the paint can) before repeating the process with a second coat.

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Ease Your Pain:

What You Need to Know About Chiropractic Care and Physical Therapy By Patricia Carlson Fawn Krosch is in pain. It’s 2 in the afternoon, but she is lying in bed with the shades drawn; all the lights are off and her rural Hawley, Minn., farmhouse is exceedingly quiet. She has a migraine. If she tries to move, the pain radiates through her head and down her neck. Her whole body shudders with nausea and dizziness. Pain is something the 30-year-old Clay County Sheriff’s Department deputy has lived with since her days as a cross country runner in high school. But now the pain is affecting her health, quality of life, and her job. “Anything that provides me relief from pain is worth it,” says Krosch. “A pain-free day is a good day for me.” To try to regulate her pain—and hopefully alleviate it altogether—Krosch visits physical therapists and chiropractors. While neither treatment has eliminated her chronic pain, she believes in their therapeutic and healing abilities. So do thousands of other people around Fargo-Moorhead, and for that matter, millions of folks across the nation. The Institute of Medicine of the National Academies reports family

that 100 million Americans suffer from chronic pain. That’s more than diabetes, cancer, and heart disease combined, according to the American Academy of Pain Medicine. An estimated 1.5 billion people around the world deal with pain on a routine basis. Physical therapy and chiropractic care are two methods people use to treat pain. Their histories, practitioners, and methodologies are different, but each seeks to remedy pain without costly medications or invasive surgeries. Depending on your overall wellness or recovery from an injury (like whiplash from a car accident), you may have wondered which practice is best for you. Here’s what we found out.

History: Physical Therapy

The first school of modern physical therapy opened in 1881 in Boston, and physiotherapeutic (as it was called then) medicine continued to grow in popularity during the polio epidemic and wars of the early 20th century. In 1946, the American Physical Therapy Association (APTA) officially

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formed, cementing the practice’s place in modern medicine. Today there are more than 184,000 licensed physical therapists in the United States. Physical therapy is most often used to help patients reduce or eliminate their pain and improve or restore mobility and function. You might seek out physical therapy if you are recovering from surgery, struggling with muscle injury or muscle weakness, or recuperating from a stroke, among other things. Keith Leikas, Director of Therapy Services for Sanford Health in Fargo, graduated from the University of North Dakota’s physical therapy program in 1978. “I like the idea of patient interaction and working one on one,” he explains. “I enjoy working from beginning to end to do the most that I can to help a person recover to their highest degree.”

History: Chiropractic

The American Chiropractic Association says chiropractic roots can be traced all the way back to early Chinese and Greek civilizations. Some writings hint at spinal manipulation to ease pain. But chiropractic care didn’t gain traction in the United States until the late 1800s when Daniel David Palmer opened the first clinic in Iowa. Chiropractors initially looked at three primary things: mental health, nutrition, and physical health. Over time, chiropractors began concentrating on disorders of the musculoskeletal and nervous systems. If you have back, neck, or joint pain, or suffer from migraines, you might be a good candidate for chiropractic care. The core belief was, and is, the healthier your spine, the healthier you’ll be. “The idea of addressing the spine to improve health and function has been around for a long time,” states Jeff Lotzer, a Doctor of Chiropractic at Moorhead Chiropractic Clinic. “The application of how to do it is always evolving in chiropractic.”

Education: Physical Therapy

Like many health professionals, students of physical therapy have an intensive curriculum. They are required to earn a graduate degree—either a master’s or a clinical doctorate— from an accredited program before taking a licensing exam that allows them to practice. “There is a theory that the expansion of medical information doubles every three years,” states Leikas. “This is certainly true over the course of my career. Specialization has become big in the profession. We tend to have physical therapists whose sole practice is working with neurological disorders or orthopedics or children’s therapies.” Physical therapists can earn board certification in eight areas through the American Board of Physical Therapy Specialties including Pediatrics, Sports, Geriatrics, Women’s Health, Cardiovascular and Pulmonary, Neurology, Orthopedics, and Clinical Electrophysiology. Because of this diversity, physical therapists can work in a huge range of settings like hospitals, inpatient rehabilitation facilities, clinics, private practices, schools, fitness facilities, home health agencies, and nursing homes. The opportunities for advanced training in mobilization and manipulation are extensive, including year-long residency training.

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Education: Chiropractic

Chiropractors are educated more like doctors or osteopaths and they are licensed to diagnose. Chiropractic college (candidates are required to have a bachelor’s degree from an accredited institution) runs anywhere from four to five academic years. In most cases, chiropractic candidates spend as much, if not more, time in the classroom and laboratory than medical doctors. Chiropractic students are required to log an incredible number of training hours learning spinal mobilizations and manipulations. It was for these reasons that Dr. Thomas Solien of Sanford Health in Fargo decided to become a chiropractor after practicing physical therapy for nearly a decade. “My training as a physical therapist was very much limited when it came to spinal mobilization and manipulation in terms of recovery,” he states. “That’s a very important part of managing pain. In chiropractic school you become very adept and skilled at those techniques. When I was a physical therapist, I thought I might be apprehensive in those techniques because I wasn’t trained thoroughly enough.” Solien breaks down both professions like this: “Generally speaking, physical therapists have been better prepared for rehabilitation and chiropractors are better trained in spinal mobilization and manipulation.” However, he adds that both professions are closing the gaps in their weaknesses.

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Ideal Patient: Physical Therapy

After spending the early part of her career practicing general physical therapy, Kerry Petsinger recently made the switch to specializing in post-acute care, long-term care, and outpatient care at Ecumen, a senior housing provider in Detroit Lakes, Minn. On any given day, she might be evaluating and treating patients who have had strokes, traumatic brain injuries, cardiac surgery, or joint replacements. She enjoys helping patients reduce pain and restore function, and stresses that the ideal physical therapy patient is one who will follow the advice of the therapist and maintain their course of treatment. “Patients may be asked to do a home exercise program, improve worksite ergonomics, or change their body mechanics,” says Petsinger. “Patients that comply with the therapist’s recommendations and take an active role in their health care tend to have great success with physical therapy.” Typically, physical therapy patients go through a course of treatment and once they’re healed, they are able to stop the therapy and go back to their normal activities.

amps – help re-learn the use of R lower limbs or re-train patients to walk xercise Balls – help strengthen E balance and core strength esistance Bands – strengthen R muscles irror – allows patients to see M themselves perform movements ardiovascular Equipment C – treadmills and bikes aid in strengthening legs and lung function raction Units – decrease T compression ltrasound – generate heat in soft U tissues and increase tissue length lectrotherapy – stimulate muscles E to prevent atrophy, decrease pain or swelling ydrotherapy - delivers heat and H cold Not all of these tools are used on every physical therapy patient. Therapists are highly trained in evaluating their patients and creating a course of treatment tailored to your specific needs.

Ideal Patient: Chiropractic

Chiropractic patients may find themselves needing several visits to get lasting results. The American Chiropractic Association says this is due to the hands-on, drug-free nature of chiropractic treatment. However, your chiropractor should fully explain his or her recommended treatment and how long you can expect it to last. In some cases, like when Krosch is suffering from acute pain, instant relief is possible. “I can tell when my neck or my back has something out of place because it sends a sharp pain immediately through my body,” Krosch explains. “If I don’t get that back in place, I won’t get relief, no matter what medications or stretching I do.”

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Tools of the Trade: Chiropractic

The most common expression you’ll hear from anyone who has visited a chiropractor is that they were “adjusted.” According to the American Chiropractic Association, this means that “the chiropractor used his or her hands—or an instrument—to manipulate the joints of the body, particularly the spine, to restore or enhance joint function.” Sometimes there is a popping sound when a joint is adjusted. The simplest explanation for this is that a gas bubble is being released by the change in pressure. It should not cause more pain, although mild discomfort is possible. Sometimes you might have lingering soreness—the type of muscle ache you’d get from exercising—but that should vanish within a day. The types of tools a chiropractor might use include: igital X-ray – help identify the location of the joint D problem Activator – small metal tool to aid in spine adjustment raston Technique® – stainless steel instruments to G detect and treat soft tissue fibrosis or inflammation pecially designed tables or chairs – aid chiropractor in S positioning client for adjustment ltrasound – generate heat in soft tissues and increase U tissue length lectrotherapy – stimulate muscles to prevent atrophy, E decrease pain or swelling Fear is the biggest hurdle that chiropractors face when treating patients, particularly new clients. Because of the hands-on approach and movement and positioning required to perform an adjustment, clients may tense up in fear, making the adjustment difficult. Good communication between a chiropractor and his or her patient is key to easing everyone’s emotions.

the plan,” Kaslow further explains. “In these cases, benefits will vary from plan to plan depending on the benefits the employer has chosen.” Regardless of your insurance provider, both therapies are available through direct access but physical therapy still operates mostly through a referral system.

Lifestyle

Some trainers and coaches caution that physical therapy and chiropractic should be used in conjunction with an active, healthy lifestyle and not as a quick fix. Most physical therapists and chiropractors agree. Steve Tangen, a certified personal trainer and strength and conditioning coach who has trained a Heisman Trophy (college football’s top athletic honor) winner, says neither therapy is a substitute for disciplined eating and exercise habits. Tangen, who recently relocated to Moorhead from Lincoln, Neb., says physical therapy and chiropractic are tools that should be used to help you maintain your fitness goals and recover from any injuries. “Being healthy is a lifestyle choice, obviously,” says Tangen. “You need to constantly remind your body that it can still move and be strong and flexible with exercise.” Too often, Tangen says, people use physical therapy or chiropractic as a Band-Aid, and they don’t follow a fitness plan to keep up the results they achieved with either therapy.

Just as the practice of medicine is a combination of science and art, so too are the practices of physical therapy and chiropractic.

Insurance

In most cases, both physical therapy and chiropractic are covered by insurance, although there are often visit limits in place for physical therapy during a specific time period. Dr. Eunah Fischer, Blue Cross Blue Shield of North Dakota Internal Chief Medical Officer, says the services must be medically appropriate and necessary, and meet BCBSND Medical Policy. Coverage depends on your benefit plan so you’ll want to read the fine print carefully. According to public relations specialist Laura Kaslow, Blue Cross Blue Shield of Minnesota offers something similar. If you buy insurance on your own or work for a company that offers small group plans (usually less than 50 employees) the coverage for chiropractic and/or physical therapy will generally mirror the coverage you have for medical office visits, says Kaslow. “In the cases where people receive coverage though a larger employer or corporation, many of those businesses are ‘self-insured,’ meaning they design their own benefits and pay their own claims, with Blue Cross administering 42

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The Horizon

Several factors keep physical therapy and chiropractic care at the forefront of modern medicine. One reason is our aging population’s search for a longer, healthier life. Petsinger says as baby boomers grow older, more of them are discovering that physical therapy and chiropractic care can help them remain active. “Many older people desire to live in their homes as long as possible, and physical therapy is required to improve balance and strength in order to maximize safety and prevent falls at home.” People are also more aware of the health benefits of physical therapy and chiropractic and are actively seeking methods that prevent injury or stave off surgery. “This means

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physical therapists will be called upon more to treat people with early phase injuries instead of acute care, like, say, after a joint replacement surgery,” says Sanford’s Leikas. Evolution in our everyday behaviors is playing a role, too. Dr. Solien says society’s reliance on computers and its effects on our posturing is assurance that chiropractors and physical therapists will be needed for a long time. “One of the things that I’ve found in my research is the epidemiology in neck pain. The rate of occurrence around the globe is increasing, and it’s likely related to the common use of computers and our seated posturing,” he says. Moorhead Chiropractic Clinic’s Dr. Lotzer, who is a third generation chiropractor (his grandfather founded the clinic), says word of mouth has certainly played a role in chiropractic’s surging success. “In the last 20 years of my career, chiropractic is becoming more mainstream and accepted. People have come to see that medicine is very good at some things, but other problems may be better addressed by something else.” Both fields are capitalizing on their increased exposure. The American Physical Therapy Association has gone so far as to create a long-term vision for its members. According to its website: “By 2020, physical therapy will be provided by physical therapists who are doctors of physical therapy, recognized by consumers and other health care professionals as the practitioners of choice to whom consumers have direct access for the diagnosis of, interventions for, and prevention of impairments, functional limitations, and disabilities related to movement, function, and health.” Just as the practice of medicine is a combination of science and art, so too are the practices of physical therapy and chiropractic. This constant evolution will hopefully continue to help people who suffer from chronic pain, like Krosch, for generations to come. Patricia Carlson is a freelance writer from Dilworth whose work regularly appears in publications across the country. She also crafts strategic website and marketing content for small businesses. Check out her work at www. patriciacarlsonfreelance.com.

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ESTATE PLANNING

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Development Officer The Village Family Service Center

Program Director ShareHouse-Genesis

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Janet Zinke

reviewing my estate, my wife and I feel we Q:After may have more life insurance than our family will need. Is there a way to use my life insurance to

make a charitable gift? Life insurance is an excellent tool for making a charitable gift. The original purpose for purchasing life insurance is to provide financial security for your family. In many cases, we don’t need as much life insurance as we age. When you no longer need the safety net of life insurance, you can redirect it to support a worthwhile cause. One option is simply to name a charity as a beneficiary, while you retain ownership of the plan. This allows you to give a sizeable end of life gift by just continuing to pay your monthly premium. Another option for some types of policies (like whole life) is to assign ownership of the policy to the charity. Doing this allows you to take a current tax deduction. Either option can be put into effect with a simple call to your insurance agent, and incurs no fee. If you have any questions, call me at 701-451-5036.

The Village Family Service Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo 701-451-4900 www.TheVillageFamily.org

ADDICTION

Beth Brantner, LPCC, M.Ed. Counseling Director Lost and Found Ministry

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ow do I find peace if I’m living with H an alcoholic/addict?

Addiction, a no-fault disease, affects not just the person with the disease, but 15 to 18 other people in that person’s world. Consider a toy mobile that hangs over a crib. Move one piece and all other pieces must adjust to find some sort of equilibrium. This is what happens to those around an alcoholic/addict: everyone adjusts. The effects can be stressful, painful and interfere with daily life. No matter what happens to your alcoholic/addict, your life can be better. You can learn healthier ways to adjust. You don’t have to stay stuck in the pain, the craziness, or chaos. Call Lost and Found Ministry at 218-287-2089 to talk with a counselor, check out a book or DVD to help you find some peace during stressful times, or get info on an Al-Anon meeting. You deserve happiness, too.

Lost and Found Ministry 111 7th St S., Moorhead 218-287-2089 www.lostandfoundministry.org

have a loved one who is abusing alcohol and is Q:Iready to seek help, what is the first step?

First of all, being ready to seek help is a great start to addressing your loved one’s potential chemical dependency issues. An initial chemical dependency evaluation is given to assess for the most appropriate form of treatment which is provided by a Licensed Addiction Counselor. At the ShareHouse Genesis facility, we offer walk-in evaluations every Tuesday between the hours of 9:00-3:00pm. It is a simple process in that you do not have to schedule an appointment, any person can just walk-in, fill out proper paperwork, and complete the evaluation. The process is set up to be on a first come first serve basis. There are several counselors on staff ready to assist individuals seeking help by conducting the evaluation. Most individuals will know about treatment recommendations by the time they leave or within 48 hours. If an individual is recommended some form of treatment, they would be able to start by the following day. If you have any further questions regarding the walk-in day clinic, please contact our facility at 701-478-8440. ShareHouse, Inc. 701-282-6561 www.ShareHouse.org

Ask The Expert The Ask the Expert section in The Village Family Magazine identifies YOU as “The Expert” in your field. The ad promotes you as the “go-to person” when there’s a question or problem in your field of expertise, and promotes your business as the place to get the answers, products, and services our readers need. Contact Jeff Meyer for more information, 701-451-5000

YOUR FAMILY z food & fun

Butternut Squash Soup

• Scrabble letter tiles for whichever word you choose to make, plus an equal amount of extra tiles to use for the back • Yard of 1⁄8” Ribbon • Large eye needle •B eads •S cissors •H ot glue gun Fold ribbon in half and tie a knot near the looped end for hanging. Thread both loose ends through the needle and slide a few beads onto the ribbon, pushing them up to the knot. Leave the needle on the ribbon. Take one of your extra scrabble tiles and place it letter-side up on your work surface. Put hot glue on the letter tile, and lay ribbon vertically on the glue. Take the first letter in your word and lay it letter-side up on top of the ribbon and glue. Squeeze two tiles together until glue dries. Add more beads below your first letter and repeat until all letters are glued in place. Finish with a few more beads, remove needle, double knot the ribbon, and trim ends.

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• 8 cups cubed butternut squash • 3 Tbsps olive oil • 3 small carrots, diced • 4 ribs of celery, diced • 1 onion, diced • 8 cups water, divided in half • 3 Tbsps chicken base • 1⁄2 tsp dried thyme • 1 tsp salt • 1 tsp pepper In a 6-quart soup pot, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add carrots, celery, and onion. Cook for 5-7 minutes until vegetables soften. Meanwhile, heat 4 cups of water on the stove or in the microwave. Dissolve chicken base in the hot water. When celery/carrot/onions are soft, add the 4 cups of chicken base water and 4 more cups of water to pot, along with the butternut squash and remaining spices. Increase heat to medium high. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to simmer until squash is fork-tender—approximately 20-30 minutes. Purée the soup. If you have an immersion blender, you may purée it right in the pot. Otherwise, allow the soup to cool down a bit and purée in small amounts in a blender.

Handprint Christmas Wreath • White paper • Red and green washable paint Have child put hand in green washable paint. You may have to even out paint on their hand with a soft brush. Help child make handprints in a circle on white paper to form a wreath. When green paint dries, use red paint to make a bow on your wreath with two handprints. Add fingerprint berries. (Submitted by: Pre-Toddler I Room at Nokomis II)

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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom

“Every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page. Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.”

This is my wish for you: peace of mind, prosperity through the year, happiness that multiplies, health for you and yours, fun around every corner, energy to chase your dreams, joy to fill your holidays! —D.M. Dellinger

—Henry Ward Beecher

The Art of Achievement You hold in your hand the camel’s-hair brush of a painter of Life. You stand before the vast white canvas of Time. The paints are your thoughts, emotions and acts. You select the colors of your thoughts; drab or bright, weak or strong, good or bad. You select the colors of your emotions; discordant or harmonious, harsh or quiet, weak or strong. You select the colors of your acts; cold or warm, fearful or daring, small or big. You visualize yourself as the person you want to be. You strive to make the ideal in your mind become a reality on the canvas of Time. Each moment of your life is a brush stroke in the painting of your growing career. There are the bold, sweeping strokes of one increasing, dynamic purpose. There are the lights and shadows that make your life deep and strong. There are the little touches that add the stamp of character and worth. The art of achievement is the art of making life—your life—a masterpiece. —Wilferd A. Peterson

Winter is the time for comfort, for good food and warmth, for the touch of a friendly hand and for a talk beside the fire: It is the time for home. —Edith Sitwell

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Save on Your Taxes There has never been a better time to show your commitment to North Dakota’s children with a new expanded state tax credit. North Dakotans may now receive a 40% tax credit for gifts made to endowments of charities such as The Village Family Service Center*. 40% for Individuals Contributions of $5,000 or more (cash or planned gifts) will qualify for a 40% tax credit of up to $10,000 per person or $20,000 for a married couple. A donor in the 28% tax bracket may see these benefits: GIFT AMOUNT Federal Tax Savings North Dakota Tax Credit

$5,000 -1,400 -2,000

$50,000 -14,000 -20,000

Net cost of gift:

$1,600

$16,000

40% for Businesses & Financial Institutions C corporations, S corporations, estates, limited liability companies, and trusts may qualify for a 40% tax credit, up to a maximum credit of $10,000. (This information is accurate as of date of publication.)

For FREE information on the North Dakota State Tax Credit and other Estate Planning tools, complete and return the form below, or call Janet at 701-451-5036. Complete and mail to: Janet Zinke, The Village Family Service Center, P.O. Box 9859, Fargo, ND 58106

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 Please send me additional information on how I can use North Dakota’s expanded tax credit to save on my taxes. Name:__________________________________ Telephone:_________________ Address:___________________________________________________________ City:______________ State:____ Zip:________ Email:______________________

* The Children’s Village Family Service Foundation was created solely to support the ongoing work and legacy of The Village Family Service Center. The Village is North Dakota’s oldest child-caring agency and has served North Dakotans throughout the entire state since 1891.

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