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For my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary, which was 13 years ago this month, each of their eight children was tasked with coming up with some memories to include in a video. Sprinkled among the pictures of their 50 years together were snippets of daily events, as we each recalled them. I remember not having too much difficulty coming up with a few memories to share about my mom. But, tapping into a strong memory of my dad was a bit more difficult. Dad was a very typical parent of the times. He raised children for three decades— from the ‘50s through the ‘80s. He was an insurance salesman who worked all day and then went out again in the evenings, visiting clients and helping them set up policies that would protect them from the unexpected events of life. I remember he would take a short nap each afternoon before eating dinner and heading back out to sell, sell, sell. The need for an afternoon nap, considering his grueling schedule, seems incredibly obvious to me now that I am a working adult with children. Back then, I’ll admit, it seemed odd. So, what is my most vivid memory of my dad? It is one I’ll cherish forever. I had a very bad reaction to poison ivy one summer when I was a teenager. The blisters between my fingers forced them apart and my face was swollen beyond recognition. My dad couldn’t look at me without utter helplessness showing in his eyes. It was difficult for me to open my mouth very far because of the combination of the swelling and the blisters. Dad worked at Bridgeman’s Ice Cream in his youth. He tapped into those long-dormant skills and made me the best banana milkshake I have ever had in my life! It was thick and creamy and banana-y. I could drink it through a straw. I think he used half a gallon of ice cream for that one shake. The gesture was loaded with love and wraps my heart in a hug every time I think of it now. Fatherhood is as tough as motherhood, maybe tougher. Women receive a lot of moral support from their peers, their family, and society. In our article, “Defining Dads,” we talk about the changing roles of fatherhood and what it means to be a dad in 2013. Fathers are just starting to garner the encouragement and support they need to function as not only breadwinners, but also caregivers and emotional supporters for their children. Happy Father’s Day, dads!

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Seniors: Smart Options for Part-Time Employment By Sean Brotherson

spotted a headline the other day that claimed, “70 is the new 30!” That particular claim may or may not be true, but it does seem true that individuals entering their senior years have many life options available to them besides retirement. Many seniors continue to work, and part-time employment offers several advantages. Jane Strommen, extension aging specialist at North Dakota State University, says there are a few reasons seniors may consider part-time work instead of full retirement. “First, people may move to part-time work due to economic concerns in our current economy or not having enough savings,” she says. “Next, people are living longer and staying healthier, so they often want to stay engaged in working and not retiring. And third, staying engaged and actively involved is a positive thing for senior well-being.” Art Williams, who recently retired from CoreLink Administrative Solutions in Fargo, agrees with Strommen. He works part time for a number of reasons. “I like to keep my mind active,” says Williams. He also enjoys interacting with people and making additional income for activities, emergencies, or other needs. If you’re a senior interested in a part-time job, there are a number of things you can do to find something suited to your needs and wishes. Take the time to consider your personal situation, evaluate your employment options, and find opportunities available for someone with your skills and experience.

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Consider Your Situation

To make the most of your search for a part-time job, think about your lifestyle and what you want to get out of working. Keep in mind your health, how much time you want to devote to a part-time job, economic needs, and personal interests as you examine employment opportunities.

Health

Evaluate the type of work your health allows you to pursue. For example, a healthy senior might enjoy summer employment with a parks and recreation department or something that involves physical activity. Orville Janzen, a former high school science teacher from Minnesota who is nearing 80, now spends six months of each year working with his nephew’s family on their farmstead near Harvey, N.D. He explains, “At my age, the number of things I can do is limited, but I help with taking care of the animals and do other things that allow them to do heavier chores. I am having a good time doing things that other people would call ‘work.’”

Time

Another factor to consider is how to balance working with other interests or needs. Simply ask yourself the question: “How do I want to spend my time?” Williams volunteers and pursues part-time, temporary work options that allow him to stay engaged, but give him a flexible schedule for other priorities.

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Economic needs must also factor into the choices you make about part-time employment. Joyce Remmick, a local senior who works part time in her own cleaning business, says, “I work because it is something to do, but also because I need the extra money.” As you near retirement, calculate your expenses, along with retirement income and savings, to get an idea of the funds you’ll require. Most experts say you’ll need anywhere from 70 to 90 percent of your current annual income to cover your expenses in retirement. This range is broad because of a number of variables. At what age will you retire? Do you own your home mortgage-free? Do you plan to travel in retirement? What will you do for health care expenses? Consider your overall financial picture as you examine various job scenarios.

Personal Interests

Another important factor is your personal interests. Strommen points out, “The senior years offer a time for people to reinvent themselves, especially if there is the opportunity for flexible work options, so consider the passions and personal interests you might want to explore.” Janzen thought about his interests and opportunities before deciding to work on his nephew’s farm. “I tried to match my activities with some of my interests. I’ve been an outdoorsman all of my life and I saw no reason to change that. Working on the farm with my nephew’s family allows me to enjoy driving a lawnmower for a few hours or do other light work. I enjoy those activities.” He has chosen to work in a setting that allows him to spend time with family members and also to have access to outdoor activities he greatly enjoys.

Evaluate Work Options

Once you have considered your personal situation, it’s time to consider employment possibilities. Sit down with a friend or consultant to brainstorm part-time jobs that align with your skills, hobbies, and areas of interest. Strommen says this process is sometimes called re-careering, and it “offers a chance to pursue other interests you have had that perhaps you have not been able to explore.” AARP (American Association of Retired Persons) has an interactive section on their website called “Life Reimagined” that can walk you through a six-step process of making changes in your life (www.aarp.org). family

Local staffing firms, like Preference Personnel, will conduct a skills assessment and then match you to available employment opportunities. Another resource, Experience Works, is a national organization with local offices that helps match seniors with jobs that fit their needs, skills, and interests (www. experienceworks.org). Some retirees enjoyed their full-time work and choose to find work in the same field. For instance, Williams picks up short-term projects in the information technology field, where he has years of experience and training. He says, “I like to do anything that allows me to use my management abilities, my ability to communicate with others, and my technical background.” Others may want to look for work outside their field. Gerald Cluff, employment resources specialist for a local faith community, encourages people to keep their options open. “If you worked in a health care setting, perhaps you may find a public sector job that matches the skills you have but is more consistent with interest in an hourly work schedule,” says Cluff.

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Now that you’ve considered your options and made some decisions about the type of work you’d like to do, it’s time to start the job search. Many work opportunities are found through networking. Let your relatives, friends, acquaintances, and former work colleagues know you are interested in a part-time position. Look in the classifieds in your local paper and view online job databases such as monster.com (see sidebar for more resources). You can also visit businesses to inquire about part-time positions and request an application. Consider using the resources of an employment assistance organization like Job Service, Experience Works, or an employment agency. Tania Cook, administrative consultant at Preference Personnel, invites seniors to stop in, meet with a consultant, and get their information on file. “We can conduct an informal interview and gather information about what you are looking for and, perhaps, share a position that is open at the time,” says Cook. Preference Personnel has a selection of short-term, temporary jobs and others that are permanent part-time. “We work with many people who have retired but want to remain in the work force, and such options are wonderful for them because they also have flexibility to travel or pursue other interests in life.” villagefamilymag.org

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If you decide to work for yourself, then let people know about the type of work you’re able to do and that you are available to be hired. Consider creating some marketing tools and developing a business plan, if appropriate. After she retired, Remmick got started in the cleaning business through word of mouth. “A neighbor of mine asked if I would clean up a friend’s trailer and so I did. My name got referred to others, and so I began to learn step by step along the way,” recalls Remmick. She let friends and acquaintances know about her cleaning services. Her business grew by word of mouth and she’s been doing this for over a decade. Remmick sets her own schedule, enjoys the part-time work, and is able to make additional income. Go ahead and turn your personal skills into a job you love. Cluff related the story of his wife’s grandfather who took a class in making jewelry and polishing stones after he retired. His hobby became a business as he made things for others and generated extra income. “Do what you love and the money will follow,” says Cluff. “Find something that you really enjoy. Don’t be afraid to take some of your knowledge and expand on it, and it can become something that keeps you busy, active, useful, and vital.”

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You may land a part-time job by first volunteering with an organization. Once potential employers see the type of worker you are, they may be inclined to offer you a paid position. It’s not unusual for volunteer positions to evolve into part-time work.

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Full-Time to Part-Time

If you haven’t yet retired, you may wish to transition from your full-time position to part-time responsibilities with the same organization. When Margaret Tweten retired from the NDSU Extension Service, she stayed on part time to guide orientation and training for new employees in the organization. “Having worked full time for many years, I thought the gradual transition into retirement would allow me to stay connected to the organization while giving me the opportunity to do some volunteer work,” says Tweten. “The ability to work somewhat of a flexible schedule was very appealing when I agreed to work part time.”

Experience Matters

Many companies are opting to hire for experience and are starting to see seniors as desirable employees. Experience matters and employers want to hire people who have a track record of reliability, teamwork, and a good work ethic. As a senior, you can highlight a lifetime of relevant employment experience, ability to interact with others, and flexibility in your available hours. Learn to view your life experience as an asset—it can be your greatest advantage in landing a job or marketing your services to clients.

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“I’ve been an outdoorsman all of my life and I saw no reason to change that.”

If you retire at age 65 and live beyond 90, you may spend 30 years or more in retirement. That’s a lot of time to fill even if you have a long list of hobbies, volunteer work, or vacation plans. Part-time work can give you the chance to pursue a second (or third) career, stay engaged and active, seek out interests and activities you enjoy, and earn extra income. As Orville Janzen says, “I do things that I consider to be fun but other people call it work. I enjoy keeping busy with work projects and they also allow me to engage one-on-one with others. I am getting close to 80 but I’m not slowing down!” Sean Brotherson is an associate professor of child development and family science at North Dakota State University. He lives in Fargo with his wife, Kristen, and their eight children. He enjoys reading, writing, horses, fishing, and serving his faith community.

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Be the Best Dad You Can Be By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center There is probably nothing quite so gratifying for a dad as to watch your children grow up and do well— to become productive citizens contributing good values to their Wolsky families, neighborhoods, and communities. It’s especially delightful to watch them become parents themselves. Two of our three kids are at that stage of raising little people of their own. To see them displaying the love, discipline, and guidance we tried to instill in them is wonderful. They’re doing a great job and to “ride along” as grandpa…well, there’s just nothing better. The concept of fatherhood has changed since I was a kid. I grew up in a traditional family in the small town of Enderlin, N.D., where my dad was expected to bring home the bacon (he was a brakeman/conductor for the railroad), and Mom’s job was to manage everything else. He wasn’t particularly involved in my activities, but frankly, there weren’t many activities to be involved in. My dad was hugely influential in his own quiet way. He worked hard with never a hint of complaint. He had witnessed, in living color, the depression, when there was truly plenty to complain about. He knew what a real struggle looked like and was simply grateful to have a good job, food on the table, and a roof over his head. His job as a father, as he saw it, was to display and pass on values that counted, such as hard work, thrift, honesty, a strong sense of extended family, and so on. He did that well. When I became a father, things had changed. Our kids were involved in many school, sports, club, and church activities, and I felt it was important to be there for them. And, of course, I still had the responsibility of putting food on the table. It was also important to me to build more memories with my kids than I had with my dad. Because my work has always required considerable travel, I would oftentimes take them with me, one at a time, to get to know them without the hustle family

and bustle of the rest of the family. Each one, in turn, would come along and we would go by car, plane, train, motorhome, or whatever for a few days or a week or more. I would usually be working so they could get a sense of what work was like for me, but we also made it a point to have fun. We went horseback riding in the Rockies, whitewater rafting in the Royal Gorge, tubing in the Salt River, and canoeing through the Boundary Waters. Or, we sat around the camp at night and stargazed with a good cigar (me, not them). It was “our time” and it was fabulous. As a family, we traveled thousands of miles for our kids’ sports activities— hockey, soccer, volleyball, and track. I suppose the assumption was that the hundreds of conversations we had during our travels all framed a view of the world that would be relevant to them as they grew up. This is what we all do, in our own way, as parents. To be a good dad, you have to be present, interested, and involved. The family is the cornerstone, the very DNA, of a healthy society. Dads are a critical part of a healthy family, and in many families, dads are absent. According to 2011 data from the U.S. Census Bureau, 33% of all children in the U.S. live without a father; and 64% of all African American children live with their mothers only. The cost to these kids, their families, and ultimately our society, is beyond comprehension. There is a reason that most of the $13 million The Village invests annually on behalf of our kids and families is spent to minimize the destructive effects of family dysfunction, breakup, and in many cases, absent dads. My advice to dads is simply to know that your kids only get one shot at childhood. You only have one shot at being Dad, and making their childhood a good experience. A lot of pain, agony, and dysfunction are passed on from one generation to another. Few people grow up in perfect circumstances. I didn’t, and I’ll bet many of you didn’t either. I’ve written before in this column that, for all his good traits, my dad also had a lifelong struggle with alcoholism—a disease that ultimately killed him and caused some considerable challenges as his disease villagefamilymag.org

progressed. If you grew up in situation that was hurtful or damaging, it’s time to get over it. Make a decision to change it for the benefit of your kids, get some help, straighten out your life, do whatever you have to do. Sooner or later, someone has to decide that transmitting problems from one generation to another needs to stop. Is this you? It’s not easy to make big changes in your life, but it all starts with a simple decision. If you think you need help being the kind of dad you want to be, countless resources are available throughout the community—The Village, other nonprofits, churches, etc. Your job as a father is very important—so decide today to be the best dad you can be. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.

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Theaters Not Yet Rated In Theatres July 19 Turbo, a simple garden snail, has always been fascinated with speed. His need for speed makes him stand out in the slow-moving snail community and is a huge embarrassment to his older brother. A freak accident turns Turbo into a super-charged speed demon. Turbo decides to try to achieve his life’s ambition of becoming the fastest snail ever by competing in the Indianapolis 500. From the makers of “Kung Fu Panda” and “Madagascar,” this 3D comedy is a story of the quintessential underdog overcoming incredible odds to achieve his dream. Stars’ voices include: Ryan Reynolds, Paul Giamatti, Michael Pena, Luis Guzmán, Bill Hader, Richard Jenkins, Ken Jeong, Michelle Rodriguez, Maya Rudolph, Ben Schwartz, Kurtwood Smith, Snoop Dogg, and Samuel L. Jackson.

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“Escape From Planet Earth” PG On DVD and Blu-ray June 4 This show takes moviegoers to the planet Baab (pronounced “Bob”). There we meet Scorch Supernova, a highly admired astronaut and his nerdy, mission control specialist brother, Gary. Scorch takes on a risky mission to the “Dark Planet”—Earth. Gary believes it’s too dangerous and quits his job in protest. On Earth, Scorch gets snared in a devilish trap set up by Area 52 military commander General Shanker—voiced by William Shatner. Gary is relegated to rescue his brother and uncovers a secret plot that could not only destroy his home planet of Baab, but every planet. Voice cast includes: Brendan Fraser, Rob Corddry, Ricky Gervais, Jessica Alba, Sofia Vergara, and Sarah Jessica Parker.

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“Spy Kids 2: Island of Lost Dreams” PG On Netflix Instant Stream Family teamwork is the name of the game in this delightful sequel to “Spy Kids.” Young Carmen and Juni Cortez are now operatives for a spy agency. Their mission is to go up against an evil scientist, living on a volcanic island, who is determined to take over the world. The duo teams up with two other spy kids. This fast-paced adventure includes returning cast members Antonio Banderas and Carla Gugino as the kids’ parents and Ricardo Montalban as their grandfather. Prepare to be entertained with super-cool gadgets, outlandish creatures, and fantastic special effects.

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PG Available on DVD Scotty Smalls has just moved to a new town. Although he can’t throw or catch a baseball and hasn’t a clue who Babe Ruth is, he follows a group of eight boys to the sandlot to join them in a game. Benny, the leader of the pack, invites him to be the ninth player on their team. When one of the boys hits a ball over a high, wooden fence, Smalls learns about “The Beast” who lives on the other side. Legend has it that the gigantic killer dog eats everything and everyone in its path. Over the summer, the boys—Benny, Smalls, Ham, Squints, Yeah-Yeah, Bertram, Kenny, Timmy, and Tommy—bond through baseball, adventure, trouble, and the terror surrounding the mystery of “The Beast.” This comedic, feel-good tale of friendship, accompanied by fun ‘60s music, is a great summer flick for tweens and up.

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Baby & Preschool “PuzzlePal Books: Dear Dinosaur” by Megan Coy Magnayon Who says dinosaurs are extinct? Our dear dinosaur is very much alive and well in this new twist on the oldest creatures to ever roam the earth. This book is great for young readers and pre-readers alike. Kids can read and rhyme along with “Dear Dinosaur” and discover the differences between shapes and sizes in the world around them. This adorable plush dinosaur storybook doubles as a puzzle and a toy! “Dear Dinosaur” is sure to keep little hands busy while they have fun learning.

Ages 9 to 12 “The Watcher in the Shadows” by Chris Moriarty, Mark Edward Geyer (Illustrator) At the turn of the 20th century, New York’s Bowery District becomes the scene of a terrible murder when the Klezmer King gets fried to a crisp by his Electric Tuxedo—on stage! The Inquisitor’s apprentice, 13-year-old Sacha Kessler, tries to help find the killer, but the closer he gets to solving the crime, the more it sounds as if the creature that haunted him in his first adventure is back. Worse still, his own Jewish family is in danger. Sacha has avoided learning magic until now, but as his world falls apart around him, he changes his mind.

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Ages 4 to 8 “Poems to Learn by Heart” by Caroline Kennedy, Jon J. Muth There’s a poem to celebrate every moment in life, whether it’s hitting a home run, watching a sunset, or laughing with your best friend. A poem is a gift of the heart that can inspire, reassure, or challenge us. Memorize it, share it, it’s yours forever. In this diverse collection, illustrated with striking watercolor paintings by award-winning artist Jon J. Muth, Caroline Kennedy has chosen more than a hundred poems that speak to all of us: the young and young at heart, readers new to poetry, and devoted fans.

Teenagers “The Fault in Our Stars” by John Green Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist named Augustus Waters suddenly appears at Cancer Kid Support Group, Hazel’s story is about to be completely rewritten. Insightful, bold, irreverent, and raw, “The Fault in Our Stars” is award-winningauthor John Green’s most ambitious and heartbreaking work yet, brilliantly exploring the funny, thrilling, and tragic business of being alive and in love.

Adults “Ordinary Grace” by William Kent Krueger Thirteen-year-old Frank Drum begins the summer of 1961 preoccupied with the concerns of any teenage boy. But when tragedy unexpectedly strikes his family—which includes his minister father, artistic mother, older sister, and kid brother— he finds himself thrust into an adult world full of secrets, lies, adultery, and betrayal. Told from Frank’s perspective 40 years after that fateful summer, “Ordinary Grace” is a brilliantly moving account of a boy standing at the door of his young manhood, trying to understand a world that seems to be falling apart around him.

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Summer Break’s Three Little Words By Gwen Rockwood There’s a countdown underway. My boys announce it each morning as they bound down the stairs to leave for school. “Seven more days of school, Mom!” Jack called out happily as he slung his backpack over his shoulder. They’re even coordinating their clothes around the countdown. Yesterday Adam wore a t-shirt with the number eight on it, and Jack wore a shirt with the number seven on it today. As I drove them to school, I overheard a bit of their backseat conversation and learned that Adam is planning to wear a basketball jersey to school tomorrow that’s emblazoned with the number six. They want the whole world to know about their impending freedom. I, on the other hand, am not quite as jubilant as the boys. They’re so eager to shake off the scholarly shackles of second and fourth grade. And for a couple of days, it’ll be pure bliss. They’ll revel in their newfound freedom. They’ll sleep in and eat breakfast at a leisurely pace. They’ll ride bikes in the cul-de-sac and plan water balloon fights with their neighborhood buddies. But then one day—and I’m guessing it’ll happen before we even make it to mid-June—they’ll come to me and say the line every mother dreads as summer break approaches: “Mom, I’m bored.” We mothers find it so charming when our children say those three little words while standing in a house that’s brimming full with the toys of Christmases and birthdays past. It seems ridiculous, in a world with bikes and sports and books and apps, that anyone could be bored even for a second. I can’t even remember the last time I was bored, but I’m sure it was before I became a mother. Since then, there has always been a long list of things to do that usually begins with three loads of laundry on any given day. One thing I’m not planning to add to that list is acting as cruise ship director for the kids’ summer break entertainment. I’ve lined up a few basketball day camps for the boys and a gymnastics camp for their little sister. But beyond that, they’re going to have to figure it out on their own. To make sure they do, I’m adopting a philosophy a fellow mother shared with me not long ago: “Get Bored, Do Chores.” Brilliant, isn’t it? I have no idea why I didn’t think of it before. Since my to-do list is long, I’ll just share some of the chores on it with the kids, if and when they come to me needing things to do. Something tells me the new policy will cut down dramatically on the number of boredom complaints. Even if it doesn’t, I still win. By the end of the summer, I’ll either have kids content to dream up their own entertainment or I’ll have a really, really clean house. Score one for the mama. Now that I’ve got a plan of attack for the age-old boredom 12

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problem, I have a whole new outlook on summer break. I have nearly 12 weeks off from packing lunch boxes and checking math homework. There will be no early morning wake-up calls and rushing around to make it to school on time. Instead we’ll make snow cones and play in the sprinkler. We’ll go bowling or catch a matinee. That’s the great thing about summer—this dose of unstructured time to do whatever your imagination dreams up. And if for some reason their imaginations fall short, I’ve got a vacuum cleaner that’s ready and waiting. Happy summer. Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Send comments to her at rockwoodfiles@cox.net. Archives of The Rockwood Files can be found online at www. nwaMotherlode.com.

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Smart Fathers Were Perfect Boys By Rick Epstein “Dad,” said my 16-year-old daughter Wendy, “can Mary and Jessica sleep over tonight?” “Mary the Thief?” Wendy replied angrily, “That was a long time ago.” Wendy’s circle of “frenemies” rotates swiftly, and when she is on the outs with them, she tells us about their wickedness. And Mary had been the central figure in a story of a shoplifting spree at the mall that ended with her capture, followed by a craven attempt to take the rest of her crew down with her. Wendy then asked me, “Haven’t YOU ever stolen anything?” After a thoughtful pause, I admitted, “Three things, although one of them was a box of thumb tacks, so you could say it was about 100 things. But each crime is burned into my memory and I’m ashamed of them.” The PERFECT father wouldn’t have ever done anything wrong. The SMART father would know when to lie. And then there’s me. In that brief exchange, I had lost the moral high ground and practically given Wendy permission to steal anything she could get her hooks on. I had also forfeited my right to indignation and disappointment if she gets caught. Me and my big mouth. I know every kid transgresses, but if you’re lucky you won’t find out about it until they are grown up. My 23-year-old daughter Marie now tells me that when she was 10, she and the neighbor boy used to fill his red wagon with twigs and branches, light it up, and then pull it around the back yard for the sheer joy of running around with a wagonload of fire. (This is just a sample.) Sally, my 20-year-old, now away at college, has let me know that as a high schooler she used to sneak out of the house at night for booze parties with her friends. Kids will cross the line; it’s what they do. But there has to be a line, drawn by parents and enforced with commitment if not success. What about my own father? I found an old snapshot of him at age 13 standing beside a sign that says: “QUIET. Hospital Zone.” His arms are outstretched and his mouth is open wide as if he is singing opera. Although it’s clearly a gag, the photo is the only evidence I have that he ever even considered misbehaving. He certainly never confessed to anything. Dad had the right idea. He created his own legend and then lived it. The way he told it, as a youth he never stole, drank, smoked, fought, cursed, made a bigoted remark, or peed outdoors. He read voraciously, but his library books were never overdue. If there had been a Congressional Medal of Homework, he would have won it. The model boy was made believable by the man I knew. He shaved on Saturdays, paid his bills early, and never started eating until Mom had lifted her fork. Dad would no sooner swipe a hotel towel than he would commit a triple ax murder. He never appeared outside of his bedroom in his underwear. He never sped, parked illegally, took an undeserved sick day, or tried to reuse a postage stamp. family

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Youthful shenanigans? He could never remember any. Some fathers might’ve said, “Drugs? Pull up a chair, son, and I’ll tell you about the time my pals and I dropped acid and tried to steal a horse.” But not mine. I was never 100 percent comfortable with having such a righteous father. It seemed that his excruciatingly moderate lifestyle and apparent freedom from temptation prevented him from fully appreciating a lively and adventuresome boy like me. But when my children arrived, because of my dad’s example, I was able to become the paragon of virtue that he was. But with one virtue too many—honesty of a self-indulgent sort that likes to tell all to whoever asks. So as a Father’s Day gift to all you rookies, here’s a piece of advice: Someday Junior will ask, “Daddy, did you ever lie, steal, or cheat?” Have your answer ready ahead of time. And for the good of humankind, please try to come up with something better than “yes.” Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@ yahoo.com.

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Living in an Era of “Monsters, Inc.” By Corey Bjertness In Disney’s movie, “Monsters, Inc.,” the story revolves around monsters that generate power for the city of Monstropolis by scaring children. The city’s top “scarer” is Sulley, a large, blue creature that shows up in bedrooms and frightens kids. Perhaps this movie demonstrates how art imitates life. There are a growing number of things that show up in our children’s lives that frighten them, and as a culture we ought to be increasingly worried about them. The unfiltered media blitz of all the monstrous events that happen in our world has worn away the filters of time, distance, and innocence from our families and our children. Since 9/11, the families of America have been exposed to horrific acts that bring war and tragedy into our living rooms and, consequently, into our hearts and minds. Just this past April, the nation witnessed and grieved the tragic events of the Boston Marathon bombing. It seems we have been imprinted and the stamp says “VULNERABLE.” We live in a time when media brings the specter of evil to the supper table and to the classroom. There is a constant flow of dreadful stories, like a leaky faucet. And I doubt seriously that we will be able to turn the faucet off. And, if we could, I suspect the naïve innocence we would create would not prepare children well for the future. As Dorothy said to Toto, “I have a feeling we are not in Kansas anymore.” So, if we cannot—and perhaps should not—shut the faucet off, then what can we do? Let me suggest a worthy goal. Rather than removing the truth of a harsh world, how about providing a balancing truth about goodness and God? When the world imprints fear, healthy families imprint

faith. When the world imprints indecency, healthy families imprint goodness. When the world imprints evil, healthy families imprint God. According to the University of Cambridge, 95 percent of Americans believe in God. Regardless of progress, the advances of technology, the scientific method, and the milieu of modernity, Americans still choose to believe there is a benevolent creator who is actively participating in our ongoing well-being. We are near unanimous in our opinion, and it shows us that even in the midst of “Monsters, Inc.,” the vast majority of us are compelled to find ways to look for God, goodness, and faith. And in that searching, we find that the fingerprints of God,

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goodness, and faith are far more numerous than those of fear, indecency, and evil. We are conditioned by the media’s mandate to let that which bleeds, lead, but we are wrong! To balance that, here are three ways we can help our children see that God, goodness, and faith show up in the world. First, always watch for the heroes. My father once told me there are two types of people in the world, “those that run away from a fight and those that run toward a fight.” In every “Monsters, Inc.” event, God sends heroes. When the World Trade Center fell, there were men and women running into the building to save those engulfed in fear, indecency, and evil. If you watch the footage of the aftermath of the explosions in Boston, you will quickly spot two soldiers running into the wreckage. They had just completed a 26-mile march with 40-pound backpacks. They sprang to action, “running toward the fight” for the sake of others. In the midst of fear, indecency, and evil we saw goodness, faith, and God. We are diligent in our search for heroes because children need heroes. They need to know there are people who come to the aid of others. They need to know there are people in the world who put love and altruism at a higher value than self-preservation. They need to know there is someone who is willing to stand between them and “Monsters, Inc.” Second, look at the world—really take a close look. Yes, the bad guys get to vote. They vote by blowing up bombs at the Boston Marathon and other tragic activities launched from the dark. But, they are not the only vote. God votes, too. Fifteen thousand children are born every hour across the globe. That’s God’s vote. God has not given up on us. New life is being created every day and 95 percent of Americans say they believe in this giver of new life. This truth which is right here in our midst is often missed because we are too distracted to take notice.

As I sit writing this article, spring is all around me. The sun is warming the earth; the geese have returned from the south; a robin flies past my window. God is voting. God is continuing the cycle of life and once again bringing new life upon us. Take a look. Children need to be led to a world view that acknowledges and celebrates that God has not given up on us. Life continues to come to planet earth. God continues to bless us with cycles of life that cannot and have not been depleted by modernity. Show children the splendor of the world. Finally, listen to the voice within. One of the characters of the Bible is a man named Elijah. One day, he became discouraged with the world around him and he fled to a mountain. In his discouragement, he wanted to hear from God, so he listened for him in the wind. He couldn’t hear God in the wind. He listened for God in the earthquake, but he couldn’t hear God in the earthquake. He then listened for God in the fire, but he couldn’t hear God in the fire. When he finally heard the voice of God, he found that it was in what the Bible describes as a “still small voice.” It seems with an acknowledgement rating of 95 percent, nearly all of us continue to hear a still small voice. There is something within us that says there is a God: benevolent, kind, loving, and full of peace and goodness. We hear this voice best when we slow down long enough to listen. Children need time to hear the voice of God within, just like adults. We live in an era of “Monsters, Inc.”—there is no question about that. But, we also live in an era where faith, goodness, and God are all around us. Don’t let the frenzied world we live in cloud your vision or your child’s vision. Corey Bjertness is the senior pastor at First Lutheran Church, Fargo.

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Defining Dads: What It Really Means to be a Father

By Patricia Carlson

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Ward Cleaver. Archie Bunker. Al Bundy. When you think of the American fathering experience, these iconic television characters might spring to mind—for all the wrong reasons. Cleaver was a typical 1950s suburban dad portrayed on “Leave it to Beaver.” He came home from work every day expecting a hot meal from his housewife. At the end of every episode, he would dole out some moral lesson to his two young sons. Contentious Bunker, the 1970s patriarch of “All in the Family,” used slurs and insults to get his point across, be it to his wife, his daughter, his son-in-law, and even the neighbors. And you could always count on Bundy to ‘assume the position’ in the 1990s sitcom, “Married...With Children.” Inevitably in each episode, viewers would see Bundy propped on the sofa with a beer in one hand and his other hand tucked under his pants belt, while his promiscuous teenage daughter and mischievous son trotted in and out of the house, unsupervised by either Bundy or his flaky wife, Peg.

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What is a Dad?

Boy, how times have changed. While the ding-dong dad might still be a beloved television character (I’m talking to you, Phil Dunphy of “Modern Family” fame), the modern day dad comes in various forms. “We’re asking dads to be as engaged and as flexible as women are today,” says Sandi Zaleski, regional program supervisor at The Village Family Service Center. Across the country, the traditional ideal of a heterosexual married breadwinner and disciplinarian is fading. Dads can be single, partnered, or married. They can work outside or within the home. They can be gay or straight, a biological father, or a stepdad. They can provide emotional and loving support as well as financial and ethical support. “It’s clear that the expectation for fathers has shifted over the last 25 years,” states Sean Brotherson, associate professor of human development and family science at NDSU. “Men have a natural interest in being good fathers.” This concept holds true for men that may not be biological dads. Stepfathers, adoptive fathers, uncles, grandfathers, and even men who are actively involved in kids’ lives as role models or coaches can profoundly impact a child’s selfworth. The American Psychological Association reports in its article, “The Changing Role of the Modern Day Father,” that psychological research across families from all ethnic backgrounds suggests that fathers’ affection and increased family involvement help promote children’s social and emotional development. The impacts are immediate and long-lasting:

when we were children,” says Jeremy Anderson, a married father of two boys from West Fargo. “I appreciate everything my parents have given me and if I can give the same to my children, plus work hard to provide a little more, I will have succeeded.” Conversely, children who grow up without a father (or any positive male influence like a stepfather, grandfather, or mentor) in their lives are at risk for certain hardships like: • child abuse • juvenile violence • dropping out of school • anti-social aggression • substance abuse Even though society has made great strides in recognizing the importance of dads, father absence is still a problem. The 2011 U.S. Census Bureau data shows that over 24 million children live apart from their biological fathers. That is one out of every three (33%) children in America. Nearly two in three (64%) African American children live in father-absent homes. One in three (34%) Hispanic children, and one in four (25%)

white children live in father-absent homes. In 1960, only 11% of children lived in father-absent homes.

How Did We Get Here?

Part of the shifting role of fatherhood can be linked to the growing number of dual-career families, like Anderson’s. Beginning in the 1950s, and for a few decades thereafter, fathers were breadwinners and that was how they showed their love and support for their children. Just because a father didn’t attend his kids’ events or help with homework didn’t mean he was less of a father or didn’t love his children. The perception back then was that if you worked hard and made a good living for your family, you were a good dad. It was the norm and families thrived in that context. However, it was stressful to be the sole breadwinner, and some dads found themselves feeling as if they sacrificed part of their fathering experience to be a provider. As more women started to work outside the home in the 1980s and ‘90s, dual income couples became more common. Fathers had more opportunities to connect with their children and

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• Children whose fathers are involved in rearing them score higher on cognitive tests than those with relatively uninvolved fathers. • A father’s involvement in children’s school activities protects at-risk children from failing or dropping out. • Father involvement is associated with positive child characteristics such as empathy, self-esteem, self-control, psychological well-being, social competence, and life skills. “I think every dad has a goal to provide more, whether it be his time, money, ethics, education, or understanding, than we received family

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Brian and his dad, Rob.

learn more about what it takes to be an emotional caregiver, not simply a monetary and disciplinary provider. Perhaps unsurprisingly, they liked it. A recent fatherhood research study of more than 1,000 fathers commissioned by The Goddard School and Dr. Kyle Pruett, clinical professor of child psychiatry at Yale School of Medicine, shows that dads are active decision makers and caregivers. Dads surveyed said providing basic needs of food, shelter, and clothing was most important. But they also placed a high value on telling their children they love them. “That’s been a growing trend since the 1980s, but this is the first survey that’s really solidified that finding,” explains Pruett. “It’s not the mother telling them to do it, but fathers have discovered the strength of that emotional relationship.” Specifically, the results demonstrate that in the last 30 years, dads have become much more aware of the importance of spending time with their kids, even if they’re still figuring out how to accomplish that in everyday life. Brotherson says most men look to their own experience of being fathered to learn how to be a father. “If a father hasn’t had a great experience himself in seeing how a man can share roles in a family and do housework and connect with children and provide financial support and be a good listener, then he needs to think about where he can identify a role model he can learn from,” states Brotherson. The art of observation served TJ Tibbetts, a married father of two from Hawley, Minn., well when he was figuring out what kind of dad he wanted to be. Tibbetts says he not only learned things from his own parents, but from other parents he admired. “I have taken mental notes about dads ever since I used to babysit as a teenager,” says Tibbetts. “I saw how kids responded to their parents and tried to remember what meant the most to those kids.” Tibbetts says observation allowed him to identify qualities he wanted to emulate as a dad, long before he even had children. He knew that showing love, providing care, promoting respect, and teaching discipline would be important to him. He also recognized he would follow a different path than the one he experienced while growing up when it came to disciplining his own children. “I know growing up I had some hard love for my dad because at times I thought he was too tough on me,” says Tibbetts. “As it turns out, I love my dad for what he taught me as a kid. Although my technique of discipline is different, I hope to achieve similar results.”

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Just as our kids are watching us, we grew up watching our parents. This plays a huge role in how today’s dads choose to parent. “I want to be a good role model,” says Derek Gooselaw, a married father of three from West Fargo. Gooselaw says he draws inspiration from his own father, “a great man with a huge heart. He loved my mom, us kids and our spouses, and his grandchildren.” Al Aamodt, a father of three and grandfather of five from Horace, N.D., is Gooselaw’s father-in-law. He’s been incredibly impressed with his sons-in-law’s parenting. “They commit to villagefamilymag.org family

their kids 10,000 percent,” says Aamodt. “Despite all of the work that they have to do—and they both work very hard— their kids are basically what their world revolves around. They always have time. They always make the time.” Aamodt says his sons-in-law’s involvement in their children’s lives is quite different than the type of father he was while raising his children in the 1980s. At the time, he felt defined and restricted by the traditional role of a father because that’s what he was witnessing around him from other men. He spent a good portion of his children’s younger years cultivating a professional career and providing for his family. Aamodt’s motivation was threefold: he wanted to set an example to his children that you had to work hard to earn success; he felt a responsibility to his employer and his profession; and he wanted to provide for his family the way his father wasn’t able to (his dad suffered a debilitating stroke when Aamodt was 14). “I know what that sounds like. Like my family came second,” says Aamodt. “But I tried really hard to keep them both on a level playing field. It’s just that my profession was really important to me and I wanted to make sure my family would be financially secure. I regret not being around for my kids as much. Maybe I could’ve changed that, I don’t know.” What Aamodt does know, and admires about dads today, is that many of them seem to have their priorities lined up differently than in his generation. “I think there is maybe a little bit more perspective that your job or career isn’t as important as when I was growing up,” he says. “There was a definite routine you followed as a man, as a father. Today, there seems to be more emphasis on finding a job that not only helps you support your family, but also allows you the flexibility to be the type of dad you want to be.” Dual-career families also twisted traditional gender roles within the household, giving children another platform from which to view “dad.” Fathers are expected to perform housework like cooking and cleaning or pitch in with their children’s homework. This not only increases a father’s role, but it gives children another opportunity to understand what being a father is really all about. Anderson recognizes the example he’s setting for his sons and hopes it imprints family

on them as they grow up and become dads themselves. “I think that I not only have a responsibility to my children as a caregiver, but also to my wife so she isn’t fried because she is taking care of our kids as well as working at her job,” he says.

Riley and his dad, Ryan.

Barriers to Being an Active Dad

Nonetheless, Glen Palm, a professor of child and family studies at St. Cloud State University in St. Cloud, Minn., with more than 30 years of early childhood education experience, says most men still primarily view themselves as a breadwinner and this affects how they parent. “If you’re really dedicated to your job and working your way up the ladder, you’re going to put lots of time into it,” he says. “There is still that sense that it’s not a good idea to take off too much time for your kids.” According to a 2007 CareerBuilder. com survey, fathers who wish to be more committed to their families continue to face increasing workplace demands: • 48% of working dads have missed a significant event in their child’s life due to work at least once in the last year and nearly one in five have missed four or more. • One in four (25%) working dads spend less than one hour with their kids each day. 42% spend less than two hours each day. • 36% of working dads say their company does not offer flexible work arrangements such as flexible schedules, telecommuting, job sharing, and more. In fact, many men in our region still grew up in heavily defined, traditional patriarchal households. This is creating a difficult cultural change where fathers are being asked to provide this flexible caregiving role in addition to their provider role, yet they probably didn’t grow up in that type of environment. NDSU’s Brotherson cautions men to remember that parenting is a choice. “You need to accept, with as much enthusiasm as you do your work opportunities, the opportunity to build a relationship with your children and make a difference in their lives. That may mean coming home earlier, examining your work schedule to find something more compatible with your family villagefamilymag.org

life, spending more time together, and making adjustments in your life to be more available to show your kids that they’re a priority.” St. Cloud State’s Palm says gender socialization among boys as children and teens still plays a role in preparing them to be caring, active dads later in life. “We don’t give them lots of chances and opportunities to care for kids when they’re younger,” says Palm. “In some ways, we’re leery of boys who want to do babysitting. But if we don’t change the socialization of boys, how would we expect that when men get to the point of wanting to be dads, they have an established value system as a father and are ready to take on those parenting responsibilities?” Additionally, says The Village’s Zaleski, fathers in Fargo-Moorhead face a deficit of father-involvement groups in which to be active participants, find mentors, and learn parenting strategies, among other things. There is an June/July 2013

abundance of groups for moms in our area such as MOMS Club and Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS). But try to find a dad-only parenting group and you come up empty.

Where Can You Turn?

Minnesota Fathers and Families Network brings together all of the dad-related services across the state to promote healthy father-child relationships and inform public policy (i.e., help dad-specific programs and agencies get funding). It is also a platform for non-traditional fathers to turn to for help. The group provides booklets for unmarried fathers about paternity, custody, and child support; connects incarcerated dads with resources; helps inner-city fathers find role models; and helps dads build stronger, healthier relationships with their daughters. Moorhead’s Early Childhood Family Education (ECFE) is a program for all families with children between the ages of birth to kindergarten. ECFE offers a number of classes that are just right for kids and dads. Palm is a big proponent of ECFE but admits that ECFE classes are still mostly attended by women. Much of that has to do with moms still being the primary at-home caretaker (although the latest U.S. Census Bureau data shows that the number of men who have left the work force to raise kids has more than doubled to 176,000 in the last decade). Researchers like Palm and Brotherson and advocates like Zaleski agree that a few simple changes could make all the difference in getting more dads involved in these classes and their children’s lives. “A lot of parent education is geared toward the experience of women,” notes Brotherson. “There is a conversation to be had about making those classes fatherfriendly experiences.” NDSU Extension Service offers a number of resources for dads, too—just google NDSU Parenting Resource Center. One of the most important things dads can do is spend time with their kids, and our community offers plenty of activities and opportunities. Check out our calendar of events on page 24, area park district websites, or contact gym facilities around town like TNT Kid’s Fitness, Courts Plus, or the YMCA of Cass and Clay Counties.

The Benefits of Being an Involved Father Regardless of the kind of parenting situation you find yourself in—a traditional married household, a single parent, a stepfather, or a non-residential dad—being active in your children’s lives brings you benefits, too. A report by the University of Florida Institute of Food and Agricultural Sciences Extension Service shows that being involved in family life helps fathers to: • cope well with stressful situations • enjoy a secure relationship with their children • feel as if they can depend on others more • feel more comfortable in their occupation Perhaps Tibbetts sums it up best when he says the biggest benefit to being an active father is knowing that his children feel loved and love him in return. “If my kids love me at the end of every day, I’ve done my best as a dad,” he says. And, in most cases, all it takes is your time. Patricia Carlson is a full-time freelance writer, editor, and media coach who divides her time between Minnesota and Florida. See more of her work at www.patriciacarlsonfreelance.com. 20

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Father to Father: We asked local fathers to tell us about their own fathers and the lessons they’ve learned. Roger Reierson (62 ) about his father, Milton: One of the most remarkable lessons I took from my dad is to be kind. I can’t remember my dad saying anything bad about anyone. He looked for the best in people; as a result he made friends of almost everyone. Being kind sounds simple, but it makes life much more enjoyable.

Jeff Sandgren (52) about his father, Pete: My first memory in life involves my dad. I was 3 years old, and John F. Kennedy had been assassinated. My dad and I watched the funeral on a black and white TV. I remember a wagon carrying the president’s flag-draped coffin. And I remember my dad crying. It was the first time, and one of the few times, I saw him cry. Dad taught me it’s okay to cry.

Brett Petsinger (30) about his father, Duane: My dad is very patient, generous, and caring. He is ethical and hard-working. He always puts his family first. I loved working side by side with him on the farm, especially anything that involved hard physical labor. He taught me that it was important to treat people as you’d want to be treated and he taught me about the value of hard work. Richard Warner (68) about his father, Bill: My dad was born in 1910 in Brooklyn, NY. He followed the family tradition of working in NYC harbor as a pilot. One of the best days I remember is when we went to Ebbetts Field to watch the Dodgers play the Giants (1952 or 1953). I got to play catch with Jackie Robinson and Roy Campanella before the game. Dad always said to do the best you can in whatever you did. Also, try to make a difference in what you do.

Mike Wolsky (35) about his father, Gary: My dad has always been my hero. One thing that I really appreciated growing up was that my dad made it a point to be at every single sporting event or activity that I was involved in—I don’t think he missed a single one. Because that meant so much to me, I try to make the same effort to be present for all of my girls’ various events so that they know that they can count on me and they always know their daddy is supporting them and cheering them on.

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What is an intervention?

An intervention is the time when family members come together to engage an outside expert to intervene with them in the life of their loved one who is struggling with an addiction. An intervention usually has four parts. The first visit with the interventionist is to assess the situation and figure out what to do next. Next, you practice what you want to say and who should say it. The third visit is the actual intervention. And the fourth visit is to debrief about how things went. We encourage the family to continue their own counseling after the intervention. Intervention is really for the family; treatment is for the loved one. Just by taking action, the family gains strength and the loved one can get help. Lost and Found Ministry offers respectful, confidential interventions. Call 218-287-2089 for more information or email us at interventions@lostandfoundministry.org. Lost and Found Ministry 111 7th St S., Moorhead 218-287-2089 www.lostandfoundministry.org

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Taking a little time to help kids in our community can be a small action that makes a big impact. Notice youth already in your life—at church, in your family, your neighbors, etc.—and make it a habit to talk to them, give them encouragement, and show interest. Let the child know that he or she is important to you. Find out what interests them and have conversations around that interest. Something as simple as a smile and a kind word can lift a child’s outlook. For more formal involvement, consider volunteering as a mentor. Spending consistent time with a child can have a dramatic impact on their life. At Big Brothers Big Sisters we see improvement in youth’s academics, sense of future, self-esteem, relationships, and ability to make good decisions. For more information on how you can be a Big Brother or Big Sister, call 451-4900. Children need adults. When you make a lasting difference in a child’s life, you have positively impacted their life, as well as yours.

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Summer fun is here. Now is the perfect time to focus on keeping your child’s eyes healthy. “Parents are well aware of the need to protect their child’s skin from overexposure to the sun, but they’re surprised to learn eyes also need consistent protection,” says Kimberly Gilbertson, an optometrist at Sanford South University Eye Center & Optical in Fargo. Children’s eyes are particularly susceptible to damaging rays from the sun. They spend a lot of time outdoors, plus the lenses inside their eyes are more transparent, which lets in more UV light. The damage can be short and longterm: • Single episodes of intense overexposure can cause photokerotitis, a condition similar to sunburn. • Many episodes of overexposure over decades can lead to retinal pigment changes that set the stage for macular degeneration, a condition that can ultimately cause vision loss. UV light has also been linked to the development of cataracts. “In the past 10 years, research has underscored the cumulative effects of UV light,” says Dr. Gilbertson. “We now know kids need the protection of sunglasses.”

Choosing sunglasses The most important factor when selecting a pair of sunglasses is UV protection. “Whether you buy an inexpensive or expensive pair, you’ll want to select sunglasses that offer 100 percent UVA and UVB protection,” says Dr. Gilbertson.

Oher factors to consider: • Lens type. Polycarbonate lenses are shatterproof, making them the best choice for kids. A gray tint allows greatest accuracy in seeing colors, but no matter what color tint, make sure you can see your child’s eyes through the lenses. If you can’t, the lenses are too dark. • Comfort. Wrap-around styles and soft, adjustable straps make sunglasses comfortable for kids of all ages, even babies. Young athletes might opt for sports goggles. • Attractive and fun to wear. Today’s sunglasses come in several colors, styles, sizes, and shapes. “Involve your kids in the selection,” says Dr. Gilbertson. “If they like their sunglasses, they’re more likely to wear them.” Eye protection is equally important for children who wear eyeglasses. Good choices include clear lenses with UV protection or transitional lenses that darken outside. Older kids who wear contact lenses have the option of UV protection built into their contacts, however Dr. Gilbertson does not view these as a replacement for sunglasses. “Even though you might have UVprotected contact lenses, you’ll still want to wear sunglasses to protect the outer structures of the eye such as the lids,” she says.

This medical update was brought to you by Sanford Health. Learn more at childrens.sanfordhealth.org.

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Make it a habit Research indicates only about 17 percent of parents try to incorporate sunglasses into their child’s everyday life. “It’s definitely a challenge because kids are so active. Protective gear like sunglasses and brimmed hats might seem like a big inconvenience, but for lifelong eye health, we know it’s worth starting this habit, and starting it early,” says Dr. Gilbertson. “We also know parents can be excellent role models.” As you set the example for your kids, keep in mind: • The most critical time for wearing sunglasses is 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. “Even on cloudy days, you should be wearing sunglasses during these times,” says Dr. Gilbertson. “UV light is still getting through.” • Sunglasses are especially important around water, sand, or snow. All reflect UV light.

Make an eye appointment If your child is due for an eye appointment, call Sanford Eye Center at (701) 461-5100. Dr. Gilbertson and the American Optometric Association recommend the first eye exam at 6 months of age, with subsequent exams every two years (more often if advised).

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Calendar of Events

To include your event in our family-friendly calendar, email shendricksen@TheVillageFamily.org. Deadline for August/September calendar is July 1, 2013 Although we strive to be as accurate as possible, please call ahead to verify information, registration requirements, or event fees. Due to limited space, we are unable to include all submissions.

JUNE 2013 EVENTS 6.1 Saturday • Buffalo River 5K/10K Trail Run. 8 a.m., MSUM Regional Science Center, Glyndon, www.buffalorivertrailrun.com • FM Kennel Club Dog Show. 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Hartl Ag/Expo/Exhibit Hall buildings, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-2822200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • National Cutting Horse Event. 8 a.m., Horse/Schollander Arenas, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 6.2 Sunday • FM Kennel Club Dog Show. 8 a.m.-4 p.m., Hartl Ag/Expo/Exhibit Hall buildings, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-2822200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • National Cutting Horse Event. 8 a.m., Horse/Schollander Arenas, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com 6.3 Monday • Lil’ Fishermen’s Derby. 5-7:30 p.m., Dike East, 100 2nd St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27)

•F M RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.4 Tuesday •F irstChoice Clinic “Swinging Fore Life” Golf Marathon. Rose Creek Golf Course, 1500 Rose Creek Parkway, Fargo, 701-237-5902 •C ommunity Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Osgood School Park, 5400 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) •F M RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “My Way: A Musical Tribute to Frank Sinatra.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.5 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com •H appy Harry’s RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com •F M RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “My Way: A Musical Tribute to Frank Sinatra.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

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6.6 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Happy Harry’s RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com • FM RedHawks vs. Lincoln Saltdogs. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Madison Park, 3010 11th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Cruisin’ Broadway. 5-9 p.m., downtown Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • “My Way: A Musical Tribute to Frank Sinatra.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.7 Friday • Happy Harry’s RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.happyharrysribfest.com • Red River Dance Company Showcase. 6 p.m., Shanley High School, 5600 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-280-0004 or www.redriverdance.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

• “My Way: A Musical Tribute to Frank Sinatra.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.8 Saturday • Share a Story. 10:30 a.m.-4 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2811002 or www.bn.com • Happy Harry’s RibFest. 11 a.m.-11 p.m., Riblet Fest for kids from 11 a.m.-2 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargoribfest.com • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.9 Sunday • FM RedHawks vs. Winnipeg Goldeyes. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Classical Music Festival. 1-6 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • Gasper’s School of Dance Spring Gala. Tickets available at Gasper’s School of Dance. 6:30 p.m., NDSU, Fargo, 701-2349440

6.10 Monday • Trout Fest. 5:30-8 p.m., North Woodhaven Pond, 4300 44th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-4996060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 6.11 Tuesday • Golf for Kids’ Sake. 10 a.m., Meadows Golf Course, 401 34th St. S., Moorhead, 701-2373369 or bmitzel@fmrealestate.com (See ad pg. 28) • Moorhead RiverArts. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-2995340 or www.moorheadparks.com (See ad pg. 29) • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, www.4luvofdog.org • Journeying Home: Hospice of the Red River Valley Conference. Open to the community. 7-9 p.m., Ramada Plaza & Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 800-2374629 or www.hrrv.org/journeyinghome • “The World Goes ‘Round.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

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6.12 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “The World Goes ‘Round.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www. mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.13 Thursday • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Clara Barton Park, 1451 6th St. S., Fargo, 701-4997788 or www.fargoparks.com • Music Montage. 7-8:30 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 Broadway N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “The World Goes ‘Round.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.14 Friday • Teddy Bear Parade. 10:30 a.m., Dike West parking lot, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Midwest Kid Fest. 11 a.m.-7 p.m., Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • FM RedHawks vs. Gary SouthShore RailCats. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “The World Goes ‘Round.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.15 Saturday • American Diabetes Association Tour de Cure. Bike ride with routes for everyone. Invite others to form a team and ride to help stop diabetes. Call 701-234-0123 or visit www.diabetes.org/ tournorthdakota for details • HARD CHARGE Fargo. Four miles of mud, obstacles, and

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challenges for every skill level. Visit www.hardcharge.com/fargo for more information. RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Gary SouthShore RailCats. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 6.16 Sunday • Father’s Day at the Zoo. Free admission for dads. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • FM RedHawks vs. Gary SouthShore RailCats. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Fantastic Father’s Day. Free admission for dads. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org 6.18 Tuesday • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “Godspell.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ strawhat 6.19 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Wild West Jamboree. Music by Silverado, carriage rides, petting zoo, and western games. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • “Godspell.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ strawhat 6.20 Thursday • Big Screen Movie Matinee. Bring your blanket or lawn chair. Bleachers available. 1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-4997788 or www.fargoparks.com • Summer Splash. Open swim, games, and diving contest. 2-4 p.m., Moorhead Municipal Pool, 800 19th St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • “Godspell.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.21 Friday • Skateboarding Day. 4 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Winnie the Pooh Kids!” Presented by FMCT’s Discovering Theatre Program. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Godspell.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.22 Saturday • Doctor Doolittle Day. Kids can bring a stuffed animal and get in free. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-2779240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Winnie the Pooh Kids!” Presented by FMCT’s Discovering Theatre Program. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org

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6.23 Sunday • 5th Annual Autism Ride. Registration at 10:30 a.m., Dilworth VFW, 1501 Center Ave. W., Dilworth. Drawings and silent auction at 5 p.m., Mexican Village, 3155 45th St. S., Fargo. Contact Tami at tg_nielsen@ yahoo.com or Denise at niseegirl@hotmail.com 6.24 Monday • Movie Night in the Park. Dusk, Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 6.25 Tuesday • Moorhead RiverArts. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.cityofmoorhead.com (See ad pg. 29) • “Lend Me a Tenor.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 6.26 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Thoroughly Modern Millie Jr.” 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Lend Me a Tenor.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

6.29 Saturday •R un or Dye. Register at www.runordyecom. 9 a.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo •S candinavian Hjemkomst & Midwest Viking Festivals. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 26) •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com •B MX Jam. 3 p.m., Dike West Skate Park, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com •F M RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 6 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • WWE Live! 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701241-9100 or www.fargodome.com 6.30 Sunday •F M RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

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6.28 Friday •S candinavian Hjemkomst & Midwest Viking Festivals. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org (See ad pg. 26) • “The Tortoise vs. The Hare – The Greatest Race.” 2 p.m. & 4:30 p.m., Cheney Middle School, 825 17th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org •F M RedHawks vs. Kansas City T-Bones. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Lend Me a Tenor.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat

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JULY 2013 EVENTS 7.2 Tuesday • Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Sun Celebration: A Trollwood Showcase. Entertainment from Trollwood Academy, Conservatory, and Totally Trollwood Academy. 5-9:45 p.m., Trollwood Performing Arts School, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 7.3 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 7.4 Thursday • 4th of July Celebration. Old-fashioned family celebration with BBQ picnic, train rides, and costumed historical figures. Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org • Happy Birthday USA. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org 7.6 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.7 Sunday • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com

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7.8 Monday • Waterama. Noon-3 p.m., Madison Pool, 1040 29th St. N., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.9 Tuesday • Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at 1 p.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Waterama. Noon-3:30 p.m., Island Park Pool, 616 1st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Moorhead RiverArts. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.cityofmoorhead.com (See ad pg. 29) • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Bennett Park, 1900 58th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 6-8 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Same Time, Next Year.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate. edu/strawhat 7.10 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at 1 p.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • “Same Time, Next Year.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 7.11 Thursday • Community Play Day. 9-11 a.m. & 1-3 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at 1 p.m., RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Big Screen Movie Matinee. Bring your blanket or lawn chair. Bleachers available. 1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Elephant Park, 100 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-4997788 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Music Montage. 7-8:30 p.m., Great Northern Park, 425 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “Same Time, Next Year.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 7.12 Friday • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at noon, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com

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• “Winnie the Pooh Kids!” Presented by FMCT’s Discovering Theatre Program. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • “Same Time, Next Year.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 7.13 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at noon, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • USA Wrestling. 2 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • “Winnie the Pooh Kids!” Presented by FMCT’s Discovering Theatre Program. 2 p.m. & 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • Summer Grind. Register at 3 p.m., event starts at 3:30 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 7.14 Sunday • USA Wrestling. 9 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Red River Valley Fair. 11 a.m.-8 p.m., Midway opens at noon, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • Streets Alive! Noon-5 p.m., downtown Fargo-Moorhead, www.fmstreetsalive.org 7.15 Monday • USA Wrestling. 9 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com

• Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Fargo Rock Concert. 7-9 p.m., Dike West, 310 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.16 Tuesday • USA Wrestling. 9 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Hawaiian Beach Blast. Beach party music and activities. Bring a lawn chair or blanket. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Rendezvous Park, 1055 32nd Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Roosevelt Park, 1220 9th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.17 Wednesday • USA Wrestling. 9:30 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com

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7.17 Wednesday (cont.) • Soroptimist International of Fargo Annual Garden Tour. 1:307:30 p.m., call Rachel at 701-235-1547 or Judy at 701-261-3157 • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux Falls Pheasants. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.18 Thursday • USA Wrestling. 9:30 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., downtown Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Centennial Park, 4101 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Soroptimist International of Fargo Annual Garden Tour. 1:307:30 p.m., call Rachel at 701-235-1547 or Judy at 701-261-3157 • Watermelon Festival. Fresh watermelon, inflatable games, and activities. 2-4 p.m., Gooseberry Park Large Shelter, 100 22nd Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

Summer Reading Program at the Fargo Public Library

June 3 - August 3

• “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.19 Friday • USA Wrestling. 9 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-9 p.m., downtown Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • Street Dance + Picnic on the Plains. “Great Art Free-for-All” at 3 p.m., picnic at 5 p.m., performance by The Cactus Blossoms at 7 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.20 Saturday • USA Wrestling. 10 a.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Fargo Street Fair. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., downtown Fargo, www.downtownfargo.com • All About Enrichment Day. 10 a.m.-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 7 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.21 Sunday • Sports Car Club of America Auto Test Course. Midway, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 Main Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 or www.redrivervalleyfair.com • German Folk Festival. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • “Oklahoma!” Presented by Gooseberry Park Players. 1 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theater, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 or www.gooseberryparkplayers.org

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7.22 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Movie Night in the Park. Dusk, Island Park, 302 7th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 7.23 Tuesday • Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

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• Moorhead RiverArts. 5:30-8 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.cityofmoorhead.com (See ad pg. 29) • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Rabanus Park, 4315 18th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat 7.24 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2811002 or www.bn.com • One Last Splash at the Vets Pool. Water fun and games for youth 12 and under. 2-4 p.m., Veterans Memorial Pool, 131 6th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Family Fun Concert. 7-8:30 p.m., Trollwood Park, 3664 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th

Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/strawhat • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.25 Thursday • FM RedHawks vs. St. Paul Saints. 12:30 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • Park It. 1-4 p.m., Jefferson West Park, 1904 4th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate. edu/strawhat • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m.,

Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.26 Friday • Midwest Waterfowl Fest. Noon-8 p.m., Scheels parking lot, 1551 45th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Brat CookOut Fundraiser. 11 a.m.-6 p.m., Cash Wise Foods, 1401 33rd St. S., Fargo, 701-2050190 or www.4luvofdog.org • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” Presented by Straw Hat Players. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate. edu/strawhat • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.27 Saturday • Midwest Waterfowl Fest. Noon-8 p.m., Scheels parking lot, 1551 45th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27)

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Animal Care 101 Animal Olympics

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7.27 Saturday (cont.) • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Brat CookOut Fundraiser. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Cash Wise Foods, 1401 33rd St. S., Fargo, 701-2050190 or www.4luvofdog.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 7:02 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org 7.28 Sunday • FM RedHawks vs. Sioux City Explorers. 1 p.m., Newman Outdoor Field, 1515 15th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-235-6161 or www.fmredhawks.com 7.29 Monday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • The Little Red River Band. Concert band music and entertainment for the whole family. Bring a lawn chair. 7 p.m., North Elmwood Park, West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 7.30 Tuesday • Tie-dye Tuesday. T-shirts extra or bring your own. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Community Block Party. 5:30-8 p.m., Unicorn Park, 1603 3rd Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) 7.31 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Family Fun Concert. 7-8:30 p.m., Village West Park, 4415 9th Ave. Circle S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com (See ad pg. 27) • John Hiatt & The Combo. All ages show. 8 p.m., Fargo Theatre, 314 Broadway, Fargo, 701-239-8385 or www.fargotheatre. org • “Shrek The Musical.” Presented by Trollwood Performing Arts School. 8:30 p.m., Imagine Amphitheater, Bluestem Center for the Arts, 801 50th Ave. S.W., Moorhead, 218-477-6500 or www.trollwood.org

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Call or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required. Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org • Summer Reading Program. Begins June 3 (See ad pg. 30) • Dig Up Some Magic with Jeff Quinn. All ages. June 3, 3:30 p.m. • Storytime & Craft. June 5, 10 a.m. • Dinosaurs Rock! Learn about dinosaurs with NDSU geologist Jessie Rock. Geared toward school-age children. June 5, 2 p.m. • Crafts for Teens. June 6, 13, 20, July 11, 25, 2 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies, birth-18 mos. June 6 & 20, July 18, 6:30 p.m. • Chess Club. All ages and abilities invited. Thursdays (except July 4), 5:30-8:30 p.m. • Free Friday Movie. Call for titles. Fridays, 1 p.m. • A Visit from the Red River Zoo. For kids of all ages. June 11, 11 a.m. • Blue Plate Special: Storytime for Adults. Bring a bag lunch. June 12 & July 10, 12:15-12:45 p.m. • Mini Robot Races. For teens. Preregistration required. June 27, 2 p.m. • Troll Stories with Storyteller/Author Lise Lunge-Larsen. June 27, 6:30 p.m. • Big Diggers. The City of Fargo Public Works Department will bring some great big diggers to the library courtyard. July 2, 2 p.m. • Teen Movie: “The Hobbit.” July 3, 2 p.m. • Crafts for Adults & Teens. Preregistration required. July 13, 2 p.m. • Exploring Caves with Expert Spelunker Nick Seaton. July 15, 2 p.m. • Clay County’s Prisoner of War Camp. Presented by Historian Mark Piehl. July 15, 6:30 p.m. • Cave Art. Learn about prehistoric paintings. Geared toward school-age children. July 16, 2 p.m. • Annual Kids’ & Teen Talent Show. Preregistration required. July 17, 6:30 p.m. Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org • Summer Reading Program. Begins June 3 (See ad pg. 30) • Crafts for Teens. June 4 & 11, July 9 & 23, 2 p.m. • Dinosaurs Rock! Learn about dinosaurs with NDSU geologist Jessie Rock. Geared toward school-age children. June 5, 6:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies, birth-18 mos. June 6 & 20, July 18,10 a.m.

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• Free Friday Movie. Call for titles. Fridays, 1 p.m. • Tea Time Book Club. June 10 & July 8, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime & Craft. June 13 & July 15, 2 p.m. • Introduction to Geogaching. June 17, 6:30 p.m. • Tie-dye T-shirts. For teens. Preregistration required. June 18, 2 p.m. • Mini Robot Races. For teens. Preregistration required. June 25, 2 p.m. • Troll Stories with Storyteller/Author Lise Lunge-Larsen. June 27, 2 p.m. • Teen Movie: “The Hobbit.” July 2, 4 p.m. • Crafts for Adults & Teens. Preregistration required. July 13, 2 p.m. • Teen Chef Competition. Pre-registration required. July 30, 2 p.m. Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org • Summer Reading Program. Begins June 3 (See ad pg. 30) • Storytime & Craft. June 4, 3:30 p.m.; June 13, 11 a.m.; July 17, 10 a.m. • Crafts for Teens. June 5 & 12, July 10, 2 p.m. West Fargo Public Library 109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org • Events & Crafts for Summer Reading Program Participants. Call or visit the library to register • Summer Reading Program Opening Celebration. June 1, 2-4 p.m. • Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays, 10:15 a.m. • Storytime with Craft. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays, 1:30 p.m.; Thursdays, 6:30 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group; bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Digging into Magic. Magic show with Jeffrey Salveson. June 5, 6:30 p.m. • Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m. • Video Gaming. All ages welcome. June 15 & July 13, 2-4 p.m.; June 26 & July 24, 6:30-8:30 p.m. • Saturday New Release Movie. Call for titles. June 22 & July 20, 2 p.m. • Animals that Dig. Red River Traveling Zoo visits the library with live animals. July 8, 6:30 p.m. • Don the Bug Man. July 16, 6:30 p.m. • Digging into Music. Music petting zoo with Fargo Eckroth Music. July 25, 6:30 p.m.

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• Summer Reading Program Closing Celebration. July 27, 2-4 p.m. Moorhead Public Library 118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org • Senior Computer Practice. Mondays, 2-3 p.m. • Storytime. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m.; Wednesdays, 10:30 a.m. • Craft Time. Tuesdays following storytime • Baby Bounce. For parents and babies (up to age 2).Thursdays, 10 a.m. • Saturday Movies. Call for titles. June 15 & 29, July 13 & 27, 2 p.m. • Origami Club. All ages and experience levels welcome. June 3 & July 1, 6:30 p.m. • Local Author Talk: Steve Grineski. June 5, 7 p.m. • LEGO Club. June 13 & July 11, 6 p.m.; June 22 & July 27, 2 p.m. • YELL in the Library. Teens: Play games, have snacks, volunteer, plan events, and more! June 17 & July 15, 7 p.m. • Classics Book Club. June 18 & July 16, 7 p.m. Summer Reading Program Events: • Pet Show. June 4, 6:30 p.m. • Garden Party. June 5, 2 p.m. • Time Capsules. June 12, 2 p.m. • Plant the Seeds of Change. June 19, 2 p.m. • Teen Mineral DIY. June 24, 7 p.m. • Fossils & Rocks. June 26, 2 p.m. • Dig into Regional Art at the Rourke. July 3, 2 p.m. • Gooseberry Park Players: “Oklahoma!” July 10, 2 p.m. • Mother Earth Pep Rally. July 17, 2 p.m. • Teen Pirate Social. July 22, 7 p.m. • In the Banks of the Red River. July 24, 2 p.m. • Pirate Academy. July 30, 2 p.m.

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Early Childhood Family Education (See ad pg. 35) Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S., Moorhead, 218-284-3400 or https:// communityed.moorhead.k12.mn.us • Birds, Bees, Flowers, Trees (Birthkindergarten entry) • Family Fun (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun with Little Ones (Birth-3 yrs) • Family Fun with Older Ones (3 yrskindergarten entry) • I Can Sing a Rainbow (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Ones & Twos (12-36 mos)

Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or www.essentiahealth.org • Birthing Center Tour • Breastfeeding Class • Car Seat Safety • Great Expectations • Lamaze • Mom’s Helpers • Tender Transitions Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org • Plane Camp

FM Ambulance 701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com • BLAST Babysitting Course • First Aid • Heartsaver CPR F/M Communiversity 218-299-3438 or www.fmcommuniversity.org Fargo Park District 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Accelerated Artists • Artmania • Arts Sampler • Father’s Day Fun • Kayaking 101 • Me-n-My Shadow • Penny & Pals Workshop FirstLink 701-293-6462 or www.myfirstlink.org Fraser, Ltd. 2902 University Dr. S., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Infant/Child & Adult CPR/First Aid Gasper’s School of Dance & Performing Arts 524 7th St. N., Fargo, 701-234-9440 or www.gaspersschoolofdance.com • Summer Dance Intensives Hospice of the Red River Valley 1701 38th St. S., Fargo, 701-356-1500 or www.hrrv.org • Grief Journeys Moorhead Community Education 218-284-3400 or https://communityed. moorhead.k12.us Music-n-Play 408-857-4341 or www.music-n-play.com • Parent-Child Music Classes (Infant-4 yrs) MSUM 218-477-2579, www.mnstate.edu/ msumcollegeforkids, or cfk@mnstate.edu • College for Kids Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Youth & Adult Art Experiences Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or www.ag.ndsu.edu/ casscountyextension/home-and-family • Parents Forever Red River Dance & Performing Company 2921 Fiechtner Dr. S., Fargo, 701-280-0004 or www.redriverdance.com • Dance Mania Day Camp • Summer Dance Intensives • Youth & Adult Dance/Fitness Classes Red River Zoo (See ad pg. 31) 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Critter Camp • Junior Zookeeper Program • ZOOniversity

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Sanford Health Community Education 1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org • Baby’s First Ride • Baby Signs • Better Choices, Better Health Workshop • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • C.A.R.S. (Children & Restraint Systems) • Family & Friends CPR • Infant Massage • Labor – What to Expect • Lamaze • Our Family is Having a Baby • Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home for Baby • Weight Loss Surgery Informational Seminars

• Gymnastics Summer Session • Movin’ & Groovin’ Camp with Penny & Pals

Main Ave., Fargo, 701-3658868 or www.tntkidsfitness. com • Flippin’ Fun Gymnastics Camp • Flippin’ Fun Tumble & Chant Camp

Cass County Museum 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www. bonanzaville.com

The Village Financial Resource Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 or www. HelpWithMoney.org • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education West Fargo Park District 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Red River Valley Fair Camp YMCA 701-293-9622, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org

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Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-2995511 or www.hcscconline.org •P rairie Daughters: The Art and Lives of Annie Stein and Orabel Thortvedt •M innesota on the Map. June 1-July 28 •R ed River Watercolor Society National Juried Watermedia Exhibition. June 17-July 28 Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Wing Young Huie: Hidden Fargo in Plain Sight •M odern Spirit: The Art of George Morrison. Begins June 16

• I n Memoriam: Timothy Ray & Steve Kramer. Begins June 22 •B eyond Convention: New Work by Jessica Wachter. Ends June 23 •B rian Frank: Pet Portraits. Begins June 28 The Rourke Art Museum & Gallery Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org •5 4th Midwestern: Signed. Sealed. Delivered. Begins June 18 •G reg Montreuil: Wrestling with Space. Ends June 23 • The Brothers: Two Ways of Seeing. Ends July 7

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By Tammy Noteboom

Morgan Almer with his ‘98 Buick

re you tired of having a car payment? Drive a beater. That’s what one of The Village Family Service Center’s financial counselors, Morgan Almer, does. He has saved thousands of dollars over the years. Right now Almer drives a tan, 1998 Buick LeSabre, and it’s going on 275,000 miles. “If you have a $30,000 car and something minor goes wrong, like the window doesn’t go down, you feel like you have to get it fixed. You can’t have an expensive car with a broken window. But when my window quits working, I don’t care,” says Almer. The same way he doesn’t care that the air conditioning doesn’t work and there’s a dent in the driver-side door. He keeps up on the regular maintenance and only worries about repairs necessary for safety and to keep the car running. And if the Buick needs a repair that’ll cost him more than $1,000, he’ll sell it for scrap and find another car.

A Depreciating Asset Unlike a home, a car is not an investment— it is a depreciating asset. Stacey Johnson, producer of Money Talks News, says a new car is guaranteed to lose thousands of dollars before you even get it home. For example, according to Kelley Blue Book, a 2013 Ford Fusion will lose $7,845 of its value in the first year. 36

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If you’re not comfortable with the reliability of a beater—say you have to get your kids to school and yourself to work, and you can’t afford to be stranded without a car—financial experts still recommend you buy a used car versus new.

Depreciation Chart 2013 Ford Fusion Year MSRP New $24,515 1 $16,670 2 $14,954 3 $13,238 4 $11,522 5 $10,051 Source: Kelley Blue Book

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If you finance the full amount, the value of the car will decrease much more quickly than the loan—which means, for a time, you will owe more on the car than it’s worth. And it’s no fun to be stuck with a vehicle because you can’t afford to pay the difference between what you owe and what you can sell it for. If you hold onto the car long enough, you’ll eventually reach a point where you owe less than the car is worth. But Almer says you’re better off letting someone else carry the financial burden caused by the first few years of rapid depreciation.

The Reliability Argument Almer says reliability is the biggest argument he gets for why people think they need to drive a newer car. Most people think they need a reliable car to get them back and forth to work, school, and to the grocery store. He believes this argument is flawed. In the 15 years he has driven a beater, he has never been stranded on the side of a road. He’s had to make repairs, but has been able to catch a ride with a friend when his car has been in the shop.

The other argument Almer hears is that a used car will “nickel and dime” you—again he doesn’t buy it. “You can do a lot of repairs for what could be a $300 or $400 monthly car payment,” he said. According to a June 2010 Kiplinger article, unless you have to replace the engine, an old car is almost always cheaper to own than a new one. Many of us think that once a car passes 100,000 miles, it’s just a matter of time before we end up with a huge repair bill, but this isn’t the case with cars today. Tyson Hugie, author of the blog, Drive to Five, which chronicles his car’s journey to 500,000 miles, says his first car didn’t even have a sixth digit because cars weren’t expected to run that long. “Modern engineering has produced vehicles that are easily surpassing the first 100,000 miles without even needing major scheduled maintenance. People need to get out of the idea that a car at 100K is a ticking time bomb.” The key to keeping your costs down is regular maintenance. “Change your oil. Change your filters. Change your antifreeze— that’s how people get cars to last 200,000 miles,” says Lauren J. Fix, a consumer auto expert quoted in an article on Bankrate.com. When it starts costing you more to maintain your car than a car payment (or if safety is an issue—for instance, the frame is cracked), get rid of it and find something else. Tammy Noteboom recently bought a new vehicle, and after doing the research for this article, plans to drive it until the wheels fall off!

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Lightning is the most underrated weather hazard. It is the third greatest storm-related killer in the United States and causes nearly $1 billion in damages each year. Lightning makes every single thunderstorm a potential killer, whether the storm produces one single bolt or 10 thousand bolts. In the United States, there are about 25 million lightning flashes every year. In 2012, 28 people lost their lives and hundreds of people were permanently injured by strikes. People struck by lightning suffer from a variety of long-term, debilitating symptoms, including memory loss, attention deficits, sleep disorders, chronic pain, numbness, dizziness, stiffness in joints, irritability, fatigue, weakness, muscle spasms, depression, and more. Understanding the dangers of lightning is important so you can get to a safe place when thunderstorms threaten. 38

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If you hear thunder—even a distant rumble or a crackling aloft—you are already in danger of becoming a lightning victim.

How Thunderstorms Develop

Thunderstorms often begin to develop early in the day when the sun heats the air near the ground and pockets of warmer air start to rise in the atmosphere. When these pockets of air reach a certain level in the atmosphere, cumulus clouds start to form. Continued heating causes these clouds to grow vertically into the atmosphere. These “towering cumulus” clouds may be one of the first signs of a developing thunderstorm. The final stage of development occurs as the top of the cloud becomes anvil-shaped.

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How far away was that lightning? The sound of thunder travels about a mile every 5 seconds. If you count the seconds between the flash of lightning and the crack of thunder and divide by 5, you get the number of miles away from you (10 seconds is 2 miles). As a thunderstorm cloud grows, precipitation forms within the cloud. A well-developed thunderstorm cloud contains mostly small ice crystals in the upper levels, a mixture of small ice crystals and small hail in the middle levels, and a mixture of rain and melting hail in the lower levels of the cloud. Air movements and collisions between the various types of precipitation in the middle of the cloud cause the precipitation particles to become charged. The lighter ice crystals become positively charged and are carried upward into the upper part of the storm by rising air. The heavier hail becomes negatively charged and is either suspended by the rising air or falls toward the lower part of the storm. These collisions and air movements cause the top of the thunderstorm cloud to become positively charged and the middle and lower part of the storm to become negatively charged.

The electric field within the storm is not the only one that develops. Below the negatively charged storm base, positive charge begins to pool within the surface of the earth. This positive charge will shadow the storm wherever it goes and is responsible for cloud-to-ground lightning. However, the electric field within the storm is much stronger than the one between the storm base and the earth’s surface, so most lightning (approximately 75-80 percent) occurs within the storm cloud itself.

How Lightning Forms

Lightning is a giant spark of electricity in the atmosphere or between the atmosphere and the ground. In the initial stages of development, air acts as an insulator between the positive and negative charges in the cloud and between the cloud and the ground; however, when the differences in charges become too great, this insulating capacity of the air breaks down and there is a rapid discharge of electricity that we know as lightning. Lightning can occur between opposite charges within the thunderstorm cloud (intra-cloud lightning) or between opposite charges in the cloud and on the ground (cloud-toground lightning).

What is Thunder?

Thunder is the sound made by a flash of lightning. As lightning passes through the air, it heats the air quickly. This causes the air to expand rapidly and creates the sound wave we hear as thunder. Normally, you can hear thunder about 10 miles from a lightning strike. Since lightning can strike outward 10 miles from a thunderstorm, if you hear thunder, you are likely within striking distance of the storm.

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There is no safe place outside when thunderstorms are in the area. If you hear thunder, you are likely within striking distance of the storm. Too many people wait far too long to get to a safe place when thunderstorms approach. Unfortunately, these delayed actions lead to many of the lightning deaths and injuries in the U.S. The best way to protect yourself from lightning is to avoid the threat. You simply don’t want to be caught outside in a storm. Have a lightning safety plan—a place to shelter— and cancel or postpone activities early if thunderstorms are expected. Monitor weather conditions and get to a safe place before the weather becomes threatening. Substantial buildings and hard-topped vehicles are safe options. Rain shelters, small sheds, and open vehicles are not safe.

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Where to Go

Where NOT to Go

What to Do

What NOT to Do

While no place is 100 percent safe from lightning, some places are much safer than others. If you hear thunder, get inside a safe place immediately; avoid contact with plumbing and anything plugged into an electrical outlet; stay off corded phones; and stay away from windows and doors. Remain there for 30 minutes after the last lightning or thunder. Lightning is one of the most capricious and unpredictable

characteristics of a thunderstorm. It is the first thunderstorm hazard to arrive and the last to leave. Remember, YOU are ultimately responsible for your personal safety and should take appropriate action when threatened by lightning. June 23-29 is Lightning Safety Awareness Week. Just remember: When Thunder Roars, Go Indoors! Information compiled from NOAA and the National Weather Service.

The safest location during a thunderstorm is inside a large, enclosed structure with plumbing and electrical wiring. These include shopping centers, schools, office buildings, and private residences. If lightning strikes the building, the plumbing and wiring will conduct the electricity more efficiently than a human body. If no buildings are available, then an enclosed, metal vehicle such as an automobile, van, or school bus makes a decent alternative.

Not all types of buildings or vehicles are safe during thunderstorms. Buildings which are NOT SAFE (even if they are “grounded”) have exposed openings. These include beach shacks, metal sheds, picnic shelters/pavilions, carports, and baseball dugouts. Porches are dangerous as well. Convertible vehicles offer no safety from lightning, even if the top is “up”. Other vehicles which are NOT SAFE during lightning storms are those which have open cabs, such as golf carts, tractors, and construction equipment.

Once inside a sturdy building, stay away from electrical appliances and plumbing fixtures. As an added safety measure, stay in an interior room. If you are inside a vehicle, roll the windows up and avoid contact with any conducting paths leading to the outside of the vehicle (e.g. radios, CB's, ignition, etc.).

Lightning can travel great distances through power lines, especially in rural areas. Do not use electrical appliances, especially corded telephones, unless it is an emergency (cordless and cell phones are safe to use). Computers are also dangerous as they usually are connected to both phone and electrical cords. Do not take a shower or bath or use a hot tub.

The Village Counselors are here to help. In-office counseling available for individuals, couples, parents, and children. Online counseling also available.

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hildren know well the thrill of finding a hidden prize, be it colored eggs at Easter or miscellaneous items on a scavenger hunt. Adults reminisce over youthful adventures when they pretended to be pirates or treasure hunters. The good news is that a modern treasure-seeking hobby exists for adventurous hearts of all ages: geocaching. Geocaching is the 21st century’s outdoor treasure-hunting challenge that uses a GPS device to navigate to a set of coordinates with the goal of finding a hidden geocache (container). You can geocache alone, with family and friends, or with new acquaintances who share your love of adventure. Why do people geocache? Ryan Harmon of Fargo says, “It introduces me to new parks and areas I’d otherwise never discover, even within my own community.” Harmon enjoys the mystery, knowing that a cache could be within reach at any moment. He has geocached with his parents and siblings, too. Harmon’s brother-in-law, Jared Zimney of West Fargo, says when you’re geocaching it feels like you’re part of a “secret club.” Are you daunted by the fancy lingo or technology? Use this guide to learn a little geocaching history, familiarize yourself with the process, and get your family started on its own geocaching adventure!

History

The year 2000 was a big year in the hobby that would become geocaching. Early in May, the government unleashed the global positioning system (GPS) as we know it today. Dave Ulmer then started the “Great American GPS Stash Hunt” by hiding a treasure near Beavercreek, Ore. He posted the GPS coordinates in an internet GPS users’ group and people immediately began looking for it. The first person to find Ulmer’s treasure documented the coordinates on his own homepage and gradually built a “GPS Stash Hunt” mailing list. By the end of May, the term geocaching had been created. It combines “geo,” meaning earth, with “cache,” which refers to a temporary hiding place. Jeremy Irish started geocaching.com in September 2000. At the time, the world had 75 known caches. The new website ignited widespread media reports that caused the hobby to spread from technology/GPS enthusiasts to all walks of life. Today, more than two million geocaches can be found around the world.

Finding a Cache

First you’ll need to find a geocaching database. While the primary online resource for geocaching is geocaching.com, you can identify other websites through a web search. Once you’ve chosen a geocaching database, enter your postal code to find caches near you. Select one that sounds fun, and enter the designated coordinates into your GPS device. If you have time to spare, jot a few extras in a notepad—take note of the cache name as clues for your hunt and read others’ online logs for additional clues. The logs can also let you know if the cache has been taken away for repairs or lost entirely.

What is a Cache?

A traditional cache consists of a waterproof container with a log sheet inside. Larger caches may also include a writing utensil and trinkets to trade. Geocaches are then cleverly hidden to add to the treasure-seeking fun. When discovered, the geocacher enters the date and his code name on the log sheet and then returns the cache to exactly the same spot for the next person to find.

The first step to finding any treasure is uncovering a map. The geocacher’s map is a GPS device.

Getting Started

The first step to finding any treasure is uncovering a map. The geocacher’s map is a GPS device, like a Garmin or a GPSenabled mobile phone. The important function is a place to enter coordinates for your cache. If using a smartphone, you can choose from a selection of apps to enhance your experience, too. Avid geocachers give the full-featured geocaching app ($9.99) a thumbs up, but if you want to check out the sport before making the investment, free apps are also available. If you do not have a piece of technology with a GPS function, you will need to acquire one—merely printing a map from the computer may challenge your patience and your kids’ attention span. Geocaching.com has a comprehensive guide for buying a GPS device as well as a page dedicated to GPS user reviews. You can also visit your preferred technology vendor for advice and purchasing.

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Acronyms & Words to Know

Before you set off on your trek, take note of the relevant vocabulary. Some of this information will help you prepare for your family outing, and some of it will assist you toward the end of your adventure. Micro Caches—These are about the size of a 35mm film container. A nano cache is a micro cache sub-type and is particularly small, commonly sold in the size and shape of a thimble. Many include magnets so they can be stowed against a lamppost, street sign, or guardrail.

Muggles—People who are not geocachers. In the Harry Potter series, magic is not to be seen by non-magical muggles; in the geocaching world, the general rule of thumb is not to let non-geocacher “muggles” catch you looking for a treasure.

BYOP—Bring Your Own Pen. Cache owners use this to let you know to bring something to write with. Some caches are too small to include a writing utensil.

DNF—Did Not Find. This note is helpful if you know you’re in the right place but can’t find anything. Check the online log to see if someone else DNF this cache before you discount your ability as a treasure hunter.

SWAG—Stuff We All Get. Larger cache containers sometimes include trade items, such as stickers. You are free to take and leave items as you please. CITO—Cache In, Trash Out. This type of cache is great for anyone who enjoys mixing volunteering with fun. Bring a garbage bag (along with your coordinates and pen), and leave the area a little cleaner after you find the cache.

FTF—First to Find. When a new cache is posted, cachers race to be the first to find it. You can use this term in the physical cache log or online. TFTF—Thanks For The Find. This acronym can be entered into the physical cache log or online.

Ryan Harmon of Fargo discovers a cache hidden and disguised in a shrub.

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Now start hunting! Your children may enjoy using your technology to tell you which way to turn and how many feet away you are from the destination. The GPS device will get you in the right area, but your creative mind will be the key in finding the treasure. If directed to a cluster of trees, you might find a log sheet tucked in a false bird, hidden in an egg, inside a decorative nest, or even stowed in a pinecone that can only be differentiated from all others by the ornament hook that attaches it to a branch. Hunting as a family will not only provide you with distinctive minds to decipher the clues, but also different eye levels from which to search. Once you find the cache, sign its logbook and check out the SWAG (Stuff We All Get; see sidebar above for more terms). Some logs ask cachers to leave more than just a name and date, such as the “Crazy little thing called…” cache that invites finders to log a favorite song by the band, Queen. Be sure to capture a photo of whoever was the first to find the treasure. Once you’ve celebrated your discovery, place it back in the exact location you found it.

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Return to the geocaching website and log into your account. As you log your visit, you will be prompted to include the date of your find. You can include a comment, such as if you and your kids particularly liked a find or if you were participating in some other event when you made the find. This is also where you can post if you were unable to find the cache. Beware not to spoil others’ fun by giving away too much detail about the location of the cache. Some logs show the history of the place. The “Dome Away from Home” cache log notes dozens of reasons people were at the Fargodome: the Fargo Marathon, the Kiwanis Pancake Karnival, a Bison football game, or a concert. Many at the “American Blvd #14 – Pines” cache in Minneapolis mention a trip to the Mall of America or to deliver someone to the airport. “-TwoCs- Keystone” in South Dakota has had recent visitors from Wisconsin, Pennsylvania, and even Austria. Wherever you are, wherever you’re going, a geocaching adventure is bound to be afoot! For more acronyms, caches, and local events, visit geocaching.com. Happy hunting! Courtney Taylor is a freelance writer living in Fargo, ND. She has been a geocacher since 2011. family

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Scratch Art Fireworks

• White construction paper • Crayons • Black tempera paint • Paint brush • Unsharpened pencil

Color stripes with a variety of color crayons on the white construction paper; bright and bold colors work best. After the sheet is filled with color, paint over it with black tempera paint. Let the paint dry. Once the paint has dried, use the pencil to scratch off the paint and make firework designs (smaller children may need some help.) You can glue strips of paper around the edges of the paper to create a “frame” for your fireworks picture. (Submitted by: Toddler I Room at Nokomis I) Aaron, Age 2

• 20-oz. package vanilla flavored almond bark • Pretzel rods • Red, white, & blue jimmies You’ll need a couple of shallow bowls—one to hold the sanding sugar and another to catch the jimmies as you sprinkle them over the pretzels. Work with just half the almond bark at a time to keep it from solidifying. Put half of the almond bark in a medium-sized, microwavable bowl. Microwave for 1 minute, then stir. Continue microwaving at 30 second intervals (stirring between each), until completely melted.

• Strawberries • Blue sanding sugar • Wax paper PRETZELS: Spoon melted bark over one end of the pretzel rods, shake off excess. Sprinkle jimmies over the bark and place on wax paper to dry. STRAWBERRIES: Pour blue sanding sugar into a shallow bowl. Dip or spoon the melted bark to cover two-thirds of the strawberry. Then dip or spoon sanding sugar to cover the lower half of the bark. Place on wax paper to dry.

Sidewalk Paint • Small containers (or muffin tin) • Water • Cornstarch • Food coloring* • Paint brushes Pour 1/4 cup of water and 1/4 cup of cornstarch into each of the containers. Add a few drops (4 to 5) of food coloring and stir to mix. Take your paint outside and decorate your sidewalk! *Some food dyes may stain surfaces. family

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Fathers are men who give daughters away to other men who aren’t nearly good enough...so they can have grandchildren who are smarter than anybody’s.” —Paul Harvey

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Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call him father! —Lydia Maria Child

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To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today. —Barbara Johnson, American literary critic A 2-year-old is kind of like having a blender, but you don’t have a top for it. —Jerry Seinfeld “Children keep us in check. Their laughter prevents our hearts from hardening. Their dreams ensure we never lose our drive to make ours a better world. They are the greatest disciplinarians known to mankind.” —Queen Rania of Jordan

Nothing I’ve ever done has given me more joys and rewards than being a father to my children. —Bill Cosby

“In many ways, I came to understand the importance of fatherhood through its absence— both in my life and in the lives of others. I came to understand that the hole a man leaves when he abandons his responsibility to his children is one that no government can fill. We can do everything possible to provide good jobs and good schools and safe streets for our kids, but it will never be enough to fully make up the difference. That is why we need fathers to step up, to realize that their job does not end at conception; that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one.” —President Barack Obama (June 19, 2009) 46

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For over 120 years, The Village Family Service Center has helped area children and families improve their lives. The Village was founded as a home for orphaned children, and for decades provided a sanctuary for those who often had no other place to go. Times have changed, and we discovered it wasn’t just kids who needed help. Every year, The Village reaches out to more than 75,000 people, and we are constantly adapting our services to meet the needs of modern life. From individual and family counseling to child care, mentoring and adoption to financial counseling and workplace issues, The Village is a place for all individuals and families. As the definition of family evolves, so do we and no matter how you define family, at The Village, you will never go it alone.

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