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YOUR FAMILY z from the editor School is well underway and we decided to find out what parents thought about paying kids cold hard cash for grades. It sparked quite a debate. In our unscientific tally, I’d have to say those who don’t pay for grades were much more verbal about it. Those who do dole out dollars seem to be comfortable with their decision, but less inclined to shout it from the mountaintops. Interesting. My parents didn’t pay me for grades and I don’t pay my kids for grades, either. I was never a proponent of the process until I witnessed the success it could bring. My first exposure to cash for grades occurred when I worked as a paraprofessional with middle school students. I had two students, a brother and a sister, who were truly motivated to get better grades because their parents paid them. These kids struggled with grades and for them, the monetary reward worked wonders. Until I met those two students, I didn’t really support the idea. But, I recognized that kids are motivated in different ways and I believe it’s up to parents to find out what works in their family. In our article, “Paying for Grades,” parents from around the region speak out about this controversial subject. After you get a chance to read it, visit our Facebook page and let us know—are you for it? Against it? Speak out. We’ll share some of your comments in our December/January 2013 issue.
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Family Blog By Janelle Brandon
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when Melissa Cook’s son, Jaxon, was 18 months old, and she was pregnant with her daughter, the Bemidji, Minn., mom realized she needed an easy way to update her friends and family— many of whom lived half a world away—on her family’s adventures in Vojens, Denmark. Cook’s husband, Brendan, is a professional hockey player and played with a team in Denmark last year. This year the family is headed to Germany for the season. Cook, 31, didn’t want to use Facebook for updates because it seemed impersonal and didn’t paint a picture of their family’s experience. She shied away from Flickr for her photos because her story was more than a photo stream. Her solution: create a blog that allowed her to share her adventures with relatives and friends. A blog—short for “Web log”—is an online personal journal hosted on a website on which an individual or group of users record opinions, information, etc., on a regular basis. The blog can feature personal information about interests and hobbies. Cook’s friends and family members love her blog, aptly named “Another Place Called Home” due to her effort to cultivate a home no matter where her family travels. 6 October/November 2012
“I want my children to know that they’re home wherever we live. As long as the four of us are together, we’re home,” she says.
How to Start a Free Family Blog
Creating a family blog is a fantastic project for the whole family. One advocate of family blogging called it an “evolving keepsake.” Blogs are great places to share family milestones, your kids’ achievements, fun photos, and artwork. All you need is a computer, an email address, and an Internet connection to get started. If you don’t have a computer at home, a public library is a great place to access one.
STEP 1: Choosing a Platform
Cook chose to use WordPress.com for her blog, which currently has the largest number of users and the greatest variety of themes for displaying blogs. In addition to WordPress, other popular blogging platforms include Blogger.com, which is owned by Google. Blogger.com is very easy to use but has fewer themes to display words and pictures. For those who’d like to share fewer words, Tumblr.
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YOUR FAMILY z do-it-together com is a good choice to display pictures and graphic art. All of the platforms have social networking features that allow you to share blog updates. Photo-sharing websites Shutterfly.com and Flickr.com also contend in the blogging arena. This choice is a great option for family members who have shared a family reunion or holiday together where many pictures are taken. It is an effective way for a variety of contributors to add and view content in one place. Most platforms have a variety of privacy settings, so consider who you want to have access to your blog when making your selection.
now view their accomplishments online, potentially all over the world. Remember, nothing should be posted that could embarrass or offend anyone, or jeopardize your career or future aspirations. Think before you post.
Your Family’s Life: Private or Public?
Not every blog needs to be available to the public. Some families choose to password-protect their blog so they have more control over the viewing audience. You can make your blog interactive by allowing viewers to add comments, or close the comments section if you don’t wish to moderate comments. You’ll have the capability to delete any STEP 2: Set Up Your Writers comments you deem inappropriate or unnecessary even if the Though Cook is the only contributor to her blog, many comments section is open. families choose to share login Lindsey Groettum, 31, a special information, which allows Try scanning in your children’s education teacher in Denver, multiple members of the Colo., with ties to family in drawings and post their art to your blog. Minnesota family to contribute posts and started a blog on pictures to the blog and stay Blogger.com as a way to open up about connected with family news. the struggle she and her husband endured in their quest to start “I like that I can control the amount of information about our a family. lives that everyone sees,” Cook says. Groettum searched online for support to find others who When allowing multiple authors, everyone should be clear wrote about the private, physical, and emotional experience of on what information is fair game. Maybe your son doesn’t miscarriage but couldn’t find what she was looking for. That want the world to know the story of how he was sleepwalking was motivation for her to share her story. and ate from the family dog’s dish. Be sensitive to your child’s “I posted my first blog entry on the one-year anniversary of needs and get permission from school-age or older kids first as to whether or not they want their art or funny stories posted on the family blog.
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STEP 3: Naming Your Blog
Once you and your family have chosen which blogging platform to use, and who is going to author it, it’s time to name your blog. Do some family brainstorming. Get creative. The name will be part of the blog’s Internet address, so be sure to use a memorable name that isn’t too complicated.
STEP 4: Designing Your Blog
Depending on your skill level, and the skill level of the family members contributing to the blog, make the blog as straightforward or sophisticated as you’d like. Most platforms walk users through the process with videos and forums so you can quickly get your design questions answered. You’ll need to choose a color scheme, font type, and layout. Once you get the hang of it, try adding a “widget”—a tool that allows you to display an archive, photo stream, traffic counter, calendar, or countdown to make the blog more interactive with your audience.
STEP 5: Posting
The final step in getting started is to post the first entry to your blog. Cook used her first post as an opportunity to introduce the purpose of the blog, which was to keep friends and family updated on their adventures on the road. Posts can include text, photos, and even videos. Don’t forget to involve the kids! Try scanning in your children’s drawings and post their art to your blog—show them how others can family
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trying to conceive,” she says. “When I originally signed up for the blog, I thought I’d be sharing pictures and stories about traveling with my husband, Andy.” One of the initial roadblocks to contributing to the blog for Groettum was choosing a theme. “When I found myself feeling hopeless after two miscarriages, I felt like I didn’t know myself anymore because it was becoming difficult to find the good in anything,” reveals Groettum. “I found myself using small milestones to measure my day and it helped me stay positive. That’s when it came to me…the little things. ‘The Little Things’ became the theme and name for my blog.” The response Groettum received from that first post revealing the couple’s struggle was overwhelming. Friends and family showed support for the Groettums and what they were experiencing. Groettum heard from women from all different parts of her life that could relate and were thankful for someone who spoke out about the true and honest feelings that go along with the experience of miscarriages. Since beginning her blog, Groettum feels more confident, less stressed, and calmer. Her husband has even noticed the transformation and sees the blog as a great accomplishment for her, an outlet for her and her feelings and stories. The Groettums are now excitedly expecting their first child in November.
Blogs are great places to share family milestones, your kids’ achievements, fun photos, and artwork.
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Rachel Blumhardt, an outpatient mental health counselor in The Village Family Service Center’s Fargo office, agrees with Groettum and believes there are definite benefits to blogging, but also some negative aspects. “I have often recommended as part of therapy that clients keep a private journal as a healthy outlet to express feelings and process problems,” shares Blumhardt. “The difference, of course, is that a written journal is typically private and blogging is often a very public experience.” Blumhardt believes the unfiltered views of others in response to one’s blog may be affirming at times and at other times detrimental. She feels the overall psychological well-being of the writer doing the blogging is very important in how beneficial the process can be. “If you are emotionally sensitive and the subject matter is such that certain feedback would upset you, then a private journal might be a more appropriate avenue,” says Blumhardt. “Blogging is a great way to document our life,” adds Groettum. “The blog will be a living photo album of sorts for us to look back on and a way to share our life with our children.” Both Groettum and Cook agree that there is one disadvantage to blogging. And that is, communication sometimes slowed with friends and family once they launched their blogs. “Sometimes my friends think that what I post on the blog is the only thing that is happening in my life,” shares Groettum. “I get fewer phone calls and emails because friends and family think they’re keeping up with me by reading the blog.” Cook agrees. “What I share on the blog isn’t the complete picture,” she says. “It’s still important to stay in touch, and my blog doesn’t replace that. Skype is now filling that gap for us when we’re overseas so we can get face time with our family.” Janelle Brandon is wife to Lukas, mom to Dylan (4) and Julia (2), writer, doula, and marketer living in Moorhead, Minn. To learn more, visit www.janellebrandon.com.
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Thankfulness and Thoughtfulness By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center Thanksgiving, a time of gratitude, thankfulness, and reflection, is nearly here. This provides a wonderful moment for us to review the incredible achievements this country has provided Americans since its founding. The opportunities we’ve had in the 236 years since the unprecedented collection Wolsky of minds carved out our Declaration of Independence are unparalleled in the long history of our planet. But while we pay homage to our founding forefathers for the opportunities they offered us, we also need to see the storm clouds forming. Failure to recognize and address what these storm clouds represent, I suggest, will result in irreparable consequences to future generations. Ronald Reagan was fond of saying something to the effect that we are no more than one generation away from forfeiting the contributions of all who have come before us. These “contributions” were represented by values such as independence, self-reliance, honesty, and trustworthiness, among others. In the research that led to his book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,” Dr. Stephen Covey found a clear departure from these core values beginning decades ago. Evidence everywhere reflects the accuracy of his research. Some of this is so self-evident it seems silly to point out. For example, as a nation, we’re spending a trillion dollars per year more than we’re taking in, and this is after tallying up $16 trillion in debt. Forty cents of each dollar our nation spends is borrowed. Can you spend 40 percent more than you earn? Who’s going to pay this debt? Of course, it’s our children and our children’s children. The immorality of this is breathtaking. We hear a great deal about paying our “fair
share,” yet nearly 50 percent of our population pays no federal income taxes. Fair share? Our nation’s financial health (or lack of it) is fundamental to the success of each and every one of us, and this health is clearly in peril. I’ve often said that in this region of the country we live in a “bubble” of good values, good education, and great economic health, and that our elected officials reflect this. They work for us and they know and respect that. But the further we move our decision making from the local to the national level, the more dysfunctional we become. I suggest we can, and should, have the same degree of high expectations nationally as we do locally and regionally. So as we reflect on the gratitude we have and give thanks for our wondrous quality of life, remember that we are our great-grandchildren’s forefathers, and we have an obligation to leave them a suitable legacy. We do this by what we do as well as what we don’t do. Our system of government is based on a citizenry that is well-informed and engaged in our government’s activities, both locally and nationally. While it’s always easy to criticize the endless foibles, missteps, and poor judgments that are all too common from our nationally elected officials, we should remember that we put them in those positions and it’s up to us to hold them accountable and demand good performance. Ultimately we are accountable. Our gratitude for what we have should, in every respect, be immense; but our responsibility to those who come after us is equally immense. Let’s not mess it up. Happy Holidays. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.
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“Labyrinth” PG On Netflix Instant Stream For David Bowie fans, this movie from 1986 is a must see. Sarah is a frustrated teen who lives in a fairytale world—in her mind. When she’s tasked with caring for her baby stepbrother one too many times, she jokingly wishes the goblins would take him away. True to the mystical magic created by director Jim Henson, the goblins do just that. Sarah immediately regrets making the request. David Bowie plays Jareth, the goblin king. He tells Sarah in order to get her brother back she must find her way through his labyrinth to his castle. The labyrinth is filled with a series of horrifying challenges and a host of strange characters. This British-American fantasy film features amazing puppetry and music performed by David Bowie.
PG In Theatres November 21 Jack Frost spends his days whipping about the countryside creating the kind of weather school-aged kids dream of: snow days. Out of nowhere, Jack is kidnapped by the Guardians, a familiar foursome to children’s imaginations the world over: the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and the Sandman. They want Jack to join them in their quest to fight Pitch, the evil villain of this Dreamworks animated tale. Jack is the consummate loner and reluctant to team up with the Guardians, but Santa convinces him he has the skills they need to battle Pitch and keep childhood happy and carefree. The story is n io loosely based on William at im n Joyce’s children’s books. sA rk “Rise of the Guardians” is wo m a fast-moving adventure for ea Dr © the entire family, featuring the voices of Alec Baldwin, Jude Law, Hugh Jackman, Isla Fisher, and Chris Pine.
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Staff Pick: Madalyn “Young Frankenstein” PG Available on DVD This 1974 comedy/horror by director Mel Brooks is certainly not your typical horror film. After inheriting his famous grandfather’s unwelcoming castle and stacks of papers, young Dr. Frankenstein (Gene Wilder) leaves his overbearing fiancee, Elizabeth (Madeline Kahn) and heads to Transylvania to consider the experiments left in his possession. He is greeted by bug-eyed houseboy Igor (Marty Feldman), loving lab assistant Inga (Teri Garr), and mysterious housekeeper Frau Blucher (Cloris Leachman). Ridiculous overacting in scenes such as Igor flying a kite in the lightning while Dr. Frankenstein is trying to bring the monster (Peter Boyle) to life; Igor breaking into song in the lab after frightening Inga and Dr. Frankenstein; and an outrageous game of charades is what really makes this spoof of the original Frankenstein hilarious. The film is shot in black and white to make it feel even more like an old monster movie.
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PG On DVD Recently widowed, 78-year-old Carl decides to fulfill a lifelong dream to travel to Paradise Falls in South America. After tying thousands of helium balloons to his house, Carl finally embarks on his journey, but discovers a stowaway. Russell, an 8-year-old wilderness scout hoping to get his “Helping the Elderly” badge, is on Carl’s porch when the house lifts off. “Up” follows the adventures of Carl and Russell, and a few new friends along the way, as they try to reach Paradise Falls. This 2009 release from Disney Pixar is sure to make you laugh, cry, and possibly seek out your own adventure.
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Baby & Preschool “Go Away Big Green Monster” by Ed Emberley Caldecott Award-winning author-artist Ed Emberley has created an ingenious way for children to chase away their nighttime fears. Kids can turn the pages of this die-cut book and watch the Big Green Monster grow. Then, when they’re ready to show him who’s in charge, they’ll turn the remaining pages and watch him disappear! This lavish reissue features dramatic die-cut eyes and sparkling foil on the cover. Die-cut pages through which bits of a monster are revealed are designed to help a child control nighttime fears of monsters.
Ages 9 to 12 “Liar & Spy” by Rebecca Stead When seventh grader Georges (the S is silent) moves into a Brooklyn apartment building, he meets Safer, a 12-year-old coffee-drinking loner and self-appointed spy. Georges becomes Safer’s first spy recruit. His assignment? Tracking the mysterious Mr. X, who lives in the apartment upstairs. But as Safer becomes more demanding, Georges starts to wonder: How far is too far to go for your only friend? “Liar & Spy” is an inspired, often funny story about destiny, goofy brilliance, and courage. Like Stead’s Newbery Medal-winning “When You Reach Me,” it will keep readers guessing until the end.
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Ages 4 to 8 “The Insomniacs” by Karina Wolf When the Insomniacs move 12 time zones away for Mrs. Insomniac’s new job, the family has an impossible time adapting to the change. They try everything to fall asleep at night—take hot baths, count to one thousand, sip mugs of milk—but nothing helps. Venturing out into the dark, they learn there is a whole world still awake and a beauty in their new and unconventional schedule. Ideal for bedtime reading, this gorgeous and lyrical story celebrates nighttime’s mystery and magic.
Teenagers “A World Away” by Nancy Grossman Sixteen-year-old Eliza Miller has never made a phone call, never tried on a pair of jeans, never sat in a darkened theater waiting for a movie to start. She’s never even talked to someone her age who isn’t Amish, like her. When she leaves her close-knit family to spend the summer as a nanny in suburban Chicago, a part of her can’t wait to leave behind everything she knows. She can’t imagine the secrets she will uncover, the friends she will make, the surprises and temptations of a way of life so different from her own. Every minute Eliza spends with her new friend, Josh, feels as good as listening to music for the first time, and she wonders whether there might be a place for her in his world. But as summer wanes, she misses the people she left behind, and the plain life she once took for granted. Eliza will have to decide for herself where she belongs. Whichever choice she makes, she knows she will lose someone she loves.
Adults “Where’d You Go, Bernadette?” by Maria Semple Bernadette Fox is notorious. To her Microsoft-guru husband, she’s a fearlessly opinionated partner; to fellow private-school mothers in Seattle, she’s a disgrace; to design mavens, she’s a revolutionary architect, and to 15-year-old Bee, she is a best friend and, simply, Mom. Then Bernadette disappears. It began when Bee aced her report card and claimed her promised reward: a family trip to Antarctica. But Bernadette’s intensifying allergy to Seattle—and people in general—has made her so agoraphobic that a virtual assistant in India now runs her most basic errands. A trip to the end of the earth is problematic. To find her mother, Bee compiles email messages, official documents, secret correspondence—creating a compulsively readable and touching novel about misplaced genius and a mother and daughter’s role in an absurd world.
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What Group Are You In? By Gwen Rockwood Fear is a funny thing. It divides people into distinct groups—the “Hey let’s go to the haunted house” group and the “There’s no way I’m going in there” group. With Halloween fast approaching, it’s good to know what group you’re in and why. On our vacation last month, we planned an excursion that sounded like a fun family adventure. During our visit to a beach in the Bahamas, we swam with stingrays—all of which had their stingers removed and were tourist-friendly. The stingray trainers were with us the whole time, so there really wasn’t anything to be afraid of. Even though my brain knew all of this, I let out a frightened yelp the first time one of the big stingrays glided past and rubbed against my leg underwater. My husband, on the other hand, was much more at ease and even fed the stingrays a snack provided by the trainers. The kids had distinct reactions to the initial fear, too. Seven-year-old Jack was at first unnerved by the stingrays but desensitized himself by staying in the water, inching closer and closer until he was comfortable enough to hold a large stingray in his arms with the help of a trainer. (He said it felt like a big, grey, slimy pancake. I took his word for it.) Four-year-old Kate never warmed up to the rays the way her brother did but stayed in the water and watched them swim around us, as long as her dad was holding her above the grey gliders at a safe distance. Nine-year-old Adam’s reaction amused me the most. He has what some people call an “old soul,” which basically means that most of the time he is like a 45-year-old man in a 9-year-old’s body. He walked out into the water fearlessly and stood motionless for a few moments while the stingrays swarmed around us and the other tourists. Then he calmly walked back out of the water toward the pier. I followed him to make sure he was okay. When I asked him if he was afraid, he said very matter-of-factly, “Well, I just don’t like things under the water nosing into my business.” I knew exactly how he felt. The stingrays were fascinating to watch and see up close, but I couldn’t get comfortable with those unfamiliar creatures bumping into me under the surface. Every time I saw one of them coming toward me, I had a flashback to the 1980s when I saw the movie “Jaws.” I couldn’t even take a bath afterward for weeks without constantly scanning the soapy water for signs of a shark fin. Is it rational? No, not even a little. But fear needs no rationale. It exists without logic or reality. It gets its energy from the human mind, which can conjure up all kinds of scary things that wouldn’t happen in a million years. I’m guessing that the people who fall into the “Hey, let’s go to the haunted house” group are the type of thrill-seekers who thrive on the adrenaline rush that comes from not knowing
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what’s lurking right around the corner. Maybe it makes them feel alive. Maybe it makes them feel brave to conquer it. I wouldn’t know. I’m the type who likes to know what’s around the corner or gliding toward me just under the water’s surface. Fear is fine for some people, but, to quote a wise 9-year-old I know, I’d rather not have it “nosing into my business.” From my family to yours, here’s hoping you have a safe and happy Halloween. Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Send comments to her at rockwoodfiles@cox.net. Archives of The Rockwood Files can be found online at www. nwaMotherlode.com.
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Dad’s Phone-Pix Campaign By Rick Epstein Newsrooms used to be noisy with the ringing of telephones, the bellowing of old-style editors, and the clattering of typewriters. But on a recent afternoon, you could hear only the white noise of computers, the subdued warbling of desk phones, and the grim cursing of journalists whose computers had just betrayed them. Suddenly the brooding quiet is cut by loud rap music: I like big butts and I cannot lie. You other brothers can’t deny... It’s my cell phone! I fumble it out of my pocket as the rapper elaborates and a dozen reporters and editors stare. “Hello?” It’s my wife. It doesn’t take me long to figure out that our 15-year-old daughter, Wendy, had borrowed my phone, downloaded Sir Mix-a-lot’s “Baby Got Back” as a ringtone, and set it up to play whenever my wife calls. (For the record: My wife’s butt is only medium-sized, and I’m not just saying that because she might read this. Ask anyone.) Because Wendy generally doesn’t give us the time of day, I was touched that she went out of her way to play her e-prank on me. So I kept that ringtone in place (as if I knew how to undo it) and it makes me laugh every time. Even when my wife calls with grave news, the incongruous theme song has a cheering effect. But when I go into my boss’ office or meet with serious people, I try to remember to switch the phone to “vibrate.” Among the serious people I deal with is Roger, our Director of Artificial Intelligence. I’m the liaison between him and the newsroom computers. With some justification, he regards me as a dull-witted technophobe. When I appear in his doorway, write him a note, or call him on the phone, he cannot conceal his contempt. Appearing in doorways was high-tech back when people first started living in caves, writing a note may have been edgy in 2000 BC, and the telephone hasn’t been new since the 1890s. But when contacted by email, Roger is more sympathetic when he explains that the technical trouble dwells in the hardware or the software or the server or the stars—or whatever else he isn’t responsible for. This made me wonder if maybe Wendy and I could relate better if I communicate with her the way her friends do. They are forever sending text messages on their cell phones, posting comments on each others’ Facebook pages, and phoning pictures to each other. When I talk to Wendy, it’s like speaking bad high school French to a Frenchman. There is little communication, and you get the feeling that the approach is inherently offensive. Did you ever attempt to mount a horse from its righthand side? Try it, and you’ll see what trying to chat with Wendy is like. She’ll shy away or give you a hoof to the head (figuratively). Maybe it’s the sound of my voice. Anyhow, one evening when Wendy was off at a sleepover, I used my cell phone to take a picture of a woman on TV sticking out her tongue and family
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sent it to her. Not exactly a heart-to-heart dialogue on the meaning of life, but we could work up to that. The next morning I was at a garage sale and found a big, red, stuffed parrot that was actually a hat. It wasn’t the kind of thing you’d buy, but it was the kind of thing you’d put on your head, get a picture of, and phone-mail to your daughter (if you’re me). By noon I’d sent a couple more silly pictures and even a few text message words. Now that I had mastered the machinery, it was getting to be fun. I imagined her clicking open the pictures and making that sweet little “mmm” sound she makes that is not quite a laugh, but lets you know you’ve delighted her in a small way. Then my phone chirped and I received a text message: IF U SEND ONE MORE PIX I WILL BREAK UR PHONE. Not the response I was looking for. After my feelings have had a chance to reboot, I’ll give the spoken word another try. Unless new media have been invented by then. Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@ yahoo.com.
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If your tween tells you she has outgrown trick-or-treating this year, don’t be surprised. There comes a time when some tweens feel they are too old (or too cool) to join the goblins parading on Halloween night. Putting on a costume feels awkward and begging for treats is suddenly embarrassing. On the other hand, sitting at home handing out treats doesn’t sound fun, either. If your tween still wants spooky thrills, think about throwing a lively, age-appropriate party as a way to keep your young teen happy, entertained, and safe on Halloween night.
Set the Mood Allow your tween to invite a friend to help plan and decorate the event. They can make or choose a few decorations to ensure the mood is sufficiently gruesome or silly. Dim the lights and hang floor-to-ceiling cobwebs to help create an eerie setting. Plastic bats and tarantulas dangling about can turn a room creepy with very little cost or effort. Don’t forget to invest in a collection of scary sounds to play during the party. Howling wolves and shrieking witches will fill in any awkward gaps in tween conversation.
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The Ick Factor One game that will kick off the party with resounding shrieks and gross guesswork is the “Body Parts Mystery” game. Take several shoeboxes and line each with a plastic grocery sack. Cut a hole in the end of each box, add a little goo, such as gelatin or oatmeal, and then add an everyday grocery item. Tell your guests there is a “body part” in each box, and ask them to reach into the box to feel the gooey mess and then guess which body part is inside. Use your imagination: Grapes or olives coated in slimy Jell-O become “eyeballs;” a blanched cauliflower can be a brain; cooked spaghetti and sauce become “guts;” and a piece of ginger root can be a witch’s crooked finger.
Pumpkin Pizzazz Decorating pumpkins is a classic Halloween activity. If you don’t want to hand out carving tools or deal with scooping pumpkin goop, buy a collection of small pumpkins and a selection of colorful tempera or fluorescent paints. Each guest can paint a pumpkin and you can hold a contest and award prizes for the scariest, silliest, or most original designs.
Bob for Donuts A new way to play this game makes it a fun competition and a bit more appetizing than sticking your head in a barrel of cold water, searching for apples. Buy cake donuts and tie a two- to three-foot long piece of string to them. Suspend the donuts from a clothesline. Position one partygoer in front of each donut. Start the action and watch tweens attack the swinging donuts with teeth any vampire would envy. No hands allowed!
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Strike a Pose Gather a box of old clothes, hats, masks, and costume bits. Let the kids use your phone camera, or better yet, a Polaroid-style camera, to take pictures of each other in goofy get-ups. Tweens love to take pictures of themselves and can take the Polaroids home as souvenirs.
Scavenger Hunt Hide Halloween-themed items, such as plastic vampire teeth, around the house or outside in the yard. Create creepy clues to help the tweens find each item. You can hang ghosts from a tree or plant fake fingers in the dirt to make it appear as if someone has been buried alive and is clawing his way out. Bury a favorite Halloween treat as the final reward. The guests can take their vampire teeth, fake bloody fingers, and other scavenger hunt discoveries home as party favors.
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Screen a Scream Wrap up the evening by screening a favorite scary movie. Some audiences are more squeamish than others, so ask your tween to consult with her friends to pick a movie that provides just the right shiver factor. She may want to pick a classic flick such as “Frankenstein” or “The Creature from the Black Lagoon.” The more contemporary Halloween movies, such as “Harry Potter,” “Hocus Pocus,” or “Beetlejuice,” offer something for everyone to scream about. Check in with your guests’ parents to help choose a movie appropriate for everyone. For tweens who have grown too tall to pass for goblins, an ageappropriate Halloween party can transform an awkward evening into a perfect balance of chills and chuckles. Do it right and your tween won’t miss trick-or-treating at all. Mary Helen Berg is a Los Angeles-based mother of three monsters whose articles have appeared in the Los Angeles Times, Newsweek magazine, and other publications.
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Silence and Solitude: Be Still and Know that I am God. By Rollie Johnson An old orthodox proverb states: “If the Devil can’t make you bad, he’ll simply make you busy.” I couldn’t agree more. If he can’t coax us into being bad or doing bad things, he’ll just make sure we are never alone, quiet, or still long enough to listen to our Creator. Most of us are running at a frenetic pace these days with lives full of noise, busyness, and constant distractions. Much of our activity is necessary for daily life, and most of our pursuits are good and healthy things. But, at times, the hectic pace we endure makes us feel exhausted, discouraged, and empty, like something is missing. Something certainly is missing; time alone with God, who made you and who wants to be in a relationship with you. In her October 21, 2009, Newsweek article, “The Devil Loves Cell Phones,” author Julia Baird writes, “In the middle ages, Christian scholars believed that Satan did not want human beings to be alone with God, or with each other, fully alert and listening. This is why British author Sara Maitland believes the mobile phone is a ‘major breakthrough for the powers of hell.’” I couldn’t agree more. Our society has become like
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Pavlovian dogs who have been trained to jump at the ringtone or buzz of a cell phone. I’d venture to say as you drive along and look around at other cars, at least three-quarters of drivers and passengers are chatting away on a cell phone. Attend soccer practice or a youngster’s game and see how many parents are chatting, surfing, or fiddling with their smartphones. Go out for dinner or coffee with a friend, coworker, or spouse and I’d bet my life that nine times out of 10, one of you will notoriously pause: “Excuse me, got to check this call.” I recently hosted a planning session barbeque with four high school kids from church. As I returned from the deck to the dining room, each of the four kids was seated silently with their cell phone hidden beneath the table, head lowered, texting friends. To me this is the perfect picture of what our modern society has become. We are substituting virtual relationships for real face-to-face conversations and friendships. We do the same with God. The cell phone has only added to our chaotic lives of constant distraction. Mother Theresa was quoted: “We need to find God, and he cannot be found in
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noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature—trees, flowers, grass—grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence…We need silence to be able to touch souls.” She couldn’t be more spot on! At the heart of having a relationship with God, and also experiencing the rewards and benefits of being in this relationship (i.e. peace, contentment, purpose, and meaning), is the fact that we have to simply spend time with God. And this cannot happen in noise, movement, and commotion. It requires silence and solitude, something most of us avoid.
My counselor was right. For many of us who begin seeking regular quiet times, a similar flood will happen as well. Hang in there! Persevere! Stay with it! These instances will eventually pass and you will find greater peace, contentment, and serenity in your sacred space of quiet time. Here are some tips to help you to develop regular quiet times in your life.
It is said that God does not seek out your capabilities (talents, gifts, abilities) but rather he seeks out your availability. He is looking for your availability to merely sit with him and be still. To do this is simple, but not always easy. Many of us refrain from entering into solitude because of the anxiety produced when we sit still long enough to hear the noise and chatter of emotions and feelings we have long avoided. They come rushing into our thoughts the minute we pause long enough to hear them. Years ago, as a young adult, when I was suffering from a bout of depression and anxiety, a wise Christian therapist offered this wonderful analogy which strongly resonated with me. He said, “Rollie, your life is like a speed boat racing across the lake. You’re going a hundred miles an hour all the time. When you run out of gas or energy, it’s like suddenly pulling back on the throttle. The boat lurches to a stop, but all that water you’ve been running away from now comes roaring into the boat over the back transom. You’re flooded with emotions and issues that you’ve previously been avoiding.”
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1. Set aside a regular time each day. Consider early morning or late in the evening before you go to bed. Maybe carve out a time sitting in your car before you enter work. It doesn’t matter where or when. Just do it. 2. In the beginning, keep it short. A simple five to seven minutes is far better than nothing at all. Be patient with yourself. God certainly is. 3. Take a few deep breaths to begin. Deep breathing is physiologically calming to your body, mind, and spirit. It is all interconnected. 4. Know that God has called you here. He is here with you. He is pleased you said “yes.” This is sacred and holy time and space. 5. Turn off technology: cell phones, computers, iPods, radios, etc. You need the space and quiet of silence in order to feel and hear God’s spirit and presence. 6. There is no right or wrong way to spend this time. Prayerfully ask God to gently guide and focus your activity, direction, and thoughts through this time. 7. Know that boredom, anxiety, racing thoughts, restlessness, agitation, and desire for distraction are all normal. Be patient with yourself.
Acknowledge these emotions when they appear. Feel them. Pray about them. Let them pass through you. 8. Rest, sleep, nap when your body or mind asks for it. A big part of quiet time is rest and restoration of body, mind, and spirit. “Come to me all you who are weary and tired, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28. What better place to fall asleep than napping in the strong arms of your loving Heavenly Father? 9. Take a quiet walk through the woods on a hiking trail. Fresh air and the beauty of creation are manifestations of the Creator and can aid in healing, peace, and rejuvenation. 10. God can and sometimes does speak or move in dramatic ways, though the Holy Spirit’s movements, promptings, and callings are more often felt in subtle, quiet, imperceptible ways. Hoping to receive big and powerful insights or understandings or breakthroughs may lead to disappointments or a sense of failing. Be patient with yourself. Silence and solitude are often like farming. We till the soil, we plant the seeds, but it will be weeks and months before we see results, effects, or insights from what was planted. Rollie Johnson is Director of Contemporary Ministry and Men’s Ministry at First Lutheran Church.
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Alzheimer’s
Disease By Sandra Gordon
Every 68 seconds someone in America develops Alzheimer’s; by 2050 someone will develop the disease every 33 seconds and the numbers could reach as high as 16 million.
What is it? Alzheimer’s is a common degenerative form of dementia
(cognitive decline) that occurs when protein deposits referred to as “plaques” and “tangles” form between and within the brain’s nerve cells. Plaques and tangles clog the brain’s circuitry and rob brain tissue of blood and oxygen, causing nerve cells to die. Over time, those with Alzheimer’s lose the ability to learn, think, plan, talk, and remember. The risk of Alzheimer’s increases with age; 5.1 million Americans have the disease, most of whom are over 65. It’s prevalent, but not considered a normal part of aging. “We’re on the cusp of really finding out what’s going on with this disease. If things go well, in three to four years, we may have a treatment for Alzheimer’s that will slow down the progression of the disease dramatically,” says Maria C. Carillo, Ph.D., senior director of medical and scientific relations at the Alzheimer’s Association in Chicago.
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What are key signs? • Memory loss, especially with new information. Don’t
worry—misplacing your keys or wallet aren’t symptoms. With Alzheimer’s, you’ll make major mistakes, such as reintroducing yourself to someone you just met a minute ago, but forgetting the introduction. • Feeling confused or disoriented surrounding routine tasks, such as getting lost in your own neighborhood. • Problems with language. It’s customary with the disease to forget common words, such as the word for toothbrush. You may have trouble organizing your thoughts and expressing yourself— serious enough to interfere with your work or social life.
HowPlaques is Alzheimer’ s diagnosed? and tangles are too small to be detected through a CT
scan or MRI. But a skilled neurologist should be able to diagnose
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Alzheimer’s with a 90 percent certainty through a neurological and physical exam. The diagnosis can be confirmed later with an autopsy.
CanYouyoucan’tprevent it? stop the clock—age is the biggest risk factor for
Alzheimer’s—and genetics may also play a part. But you can potentially reduce your odds by: Eating a “heart-healthy” diet which is low in animal fat and cholesterol and rich in fruits and vegetables and plant oils. What’s good for your heart also helps keep brain blood vessels and arteries healthy so they can deliver the nutrients and oxygen your brain needs to function properly. A heart-healthy diet may also reduce inflammation and oxidative stress—cell damage that may also contribute to Alzheimer’s. Other studies have explored the relationship between fish consumption, omega-3 fatty acids, and Alzheimer’s disease, but the results have been inconsistent. Moderate alcohol intake, however, particularly wine, may be related to a lower Alzheimer’s risk. Exercising regularly. Studies suggest that daily moderate physical activity such as brisk walking may help prevent plaques and tangles from forming. Staying socially connected and mentally enriched as you get older. Continuing to learn new things stimulates the hippocampus, an area of the brain that is the most severely impaired by Alzheimer’s. Being a learning lifer. A study in the Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease found that lab mice with the hallmarks of Alzheimer’s disease that were stimulated by their environment—they were given memory tests through a water maze—had healthier brains and stronger recall than unstimulated mice of the same age. The results are a nod to a theory in humans that continuing to push yourself mentally as you age protects your brain from the protein plaques and tangles that muck up your hardwiring, which characterize Alzheimer’s. But it’s not enough to do crossword puzzles or test yourself on trivia games. “Try new things,” says Carrillo. “If you’re always reading fiction, read an autobiography and test yourself to recall three things you remember about what you read the next day.” Changing up your routine, like continuing to learn new things, stimulates the hippocampus, Carrillo says.
IsThere’s there noa treatment? cure for Alzheimer’s, but four FDA-approved
drugs are now being used that keep symptoms from worsening for an average of six to 12 months for about half those who take them. This delay can buy patients time to make estate and family planning decisions while they’re still cognizant. More drugs are on the horizon; 35 are now being tested. An Alzheimer’s gene, Apo E, has also been identified and a genetic test is available, although it’s not considered reliable. Those with Alzheimer’s live an average of eight years, although some may live up to 20 years after diagnosis. For additional information, visit the Alzheimer’s Association of Minnesota-North Dakota online at www.alz.org/mnnd or the Alzheimer’s Association at www.alz.org. Sandra Gordon writes about health, nutrition, and consumer issues for websites and magazines such as ShopSmart, Arthritis Today, Self, and Prevention. For more about Sandra, visit www. sandrajgordon.com. family
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Ask the Expert
YOUTH ISSUES
Senior Living
Library Circulation Coordinator Lost and Found Ministry
Senior Executive, Bethany Retirement Living
Joyce Linnerud Fowler
Susan Aukes
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How can I help a teen struggling with all the issues they face today?
Young people today are dealing with multiple and complex issues; in school, among their peers, and at home. Whether you are a parent, grandparent, teacher, or concerned friend—there are resources that can provide education, offer support, and suggest where to seek professional help when needed. The Lost and Found Library is a resource library with over 7,500 items available to the public. In response to community request, the following teen resources have been recently added on the topics of: bullying, depression, suicide, anger, self-injury, sexual identity, incarcerated parent, drug use, abuse, and sexting. Items are available in book, DVD, CD, video, and board games format with categories appropriate for adults, teens, and children. We have been providing information and support to our community for the last 25 years. Please call or stop by, and let us help you find the answers you seek today.
Lost and Found Ministry 111 7th St. S., Moorhead, MN 56560 218-287-2089 www.lostandfoundministry.org
all the living options available for seniors, how Q:With will I know when my family member is ready for Assisted Living?
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Assisted Living is a great option for seniors for many different reasons. What many people may not realize is that Assisted Living can be a terrific choice for a senior who simply wants to benefit from the amenities a provider offers. Many seniors who choose Assisted Living remain very independent. The notion of taking advantage of prepared meals, cleaning services, and social events is appealing. Add to that the availability of personal care and nursing services and Assisted Living is an option that provides a great peace of mind for the senior—and for their family, as well! The best way to find out if you or your family member is ready for Assisted Living is to check out a few providers. Make some calls, set up tours, and see what you think.
Bethany on University 201 University Dr. S., Fargo 701-239-3000 Bethany on 42nd 4255 30th Ave S., Fargo 701-478-8900 www.bethanynd.org
ADDICTION
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Program Director ShareHouse, Inc.
Counselor The Village Family Service Center
David Collins, MS, LAC
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Julie Kloster, LSW
What is SAMHSA and what do they offer?
SAMHSA stands for the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (www.samhsa.gov). Here are a few of the many helpful services they offer: • Free publications (and shipping) on almost anything related to chemical dependency or mental health. • Another website called SAMHSA’s National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices (www.nrepp.samhsa. gov) focuses on best practices and is a great place to find effective strategies/interventions. • The Treatment Improvement Protocol Series (TIP); these manuals help improve new counselor skills or help any LAC dealing with complex clients. One of my favorite TIP manuals is Enhancing Motivation for Change in Substance Abuse Treatment (TIP 35). This manual is perfect for counselors who want to provide interventions that meet clients where they are within the stages of change. • The Behavioral Health Treatment Facility Locator (findtreatment. samhsa.gov) helps providers, clients, family or friends find appropriate services.
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y father was adopted through The Children’s Village M in the 1930’s and is now deceased. Is there any way I can find out information about his background?
Yes, even though your father has passed away, you are able to receive information about his placement and adoption. You can request a Non-Identifying or Identifying Search. With a Non-Identifying Search, we search our records and share with you the details about your father’s birth family, his birth, and placement with his adoptive parents. Due to laws of confidentiality, we can’t provide birth family names. If you want to connect with your father’s birth family members, we can complete an Identifying Search. We search for your father’s birthmother (possibly his birthfather), and if she is still living and grants permission, we can put you in touch with her. If she has passed away, we then look for family members or any other children she may have had and help connect you with them. When you are ready to start a search, contact The Village and we will send you the forms you’ll need to complete to get started.
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Keeping Pace with Leading Heart Technology
Heart patients know devices such as pacemakers and implantable cardioverter-defibrillators (ICDs) help protect against dangerous heart rhythms. But sometimes a device needs to be replaced due to infection, a manufacturer’s recall, or the need for a different type of device. Other issues can arise around a lead, the thin, flexible wire that delivers energy from the device to the heart. These situations don’t occur often, but when they do, patients and their families will be pleased to know Sanford Heart in Fargo offers laser lead extraction. Sanford is one of a small number of heart centers in the country to offer this advanced, minimally invasive procedure. When safely removing heart devices, the biggest challenge is the leads. Those that have been in place for six or fewer months are relatively easy to remove. But leads that have been in place for years are difficult due to strong adherence to the heart and blood vessel walls, including build-up of scar tissue. “The level of difficulty in removing the leads is related to the amount of scar tissue that has formed since the device was implanted,” says Dr. Christopher Pierce, fellowship-trained cardiac electrophysiologist at Sanford. “With our advanced capabilities, we’re able to achieve success in a wide range of situations.” Pierce and his team now use a special laser extraction device for difficult-toremove leads. This device, a sheath wrapped in laser fiber optics, is threaded through the targeted vein and over the lead. A controlled dose of laser energy is applied, breaking up scar tissue and releasing the lead so it can be easily removed.
Ken Worden, 70, learned that his pacemaker would need replacement due to a manufacturer’s recall. Sanford Heart Center in Fargo was able to respond with a laser lead extraction performed by fellowship-trained cardiac electrophysiologist Dr. Christopher Pierce. Read Ken’s full story at heart.sanfordhealth.org.
“Laser lead extraction is an impressive solution to a difficult problem,” says Pierce. “It allows precise, specific removal of the leads in addition to all the benefits of the minimally invasive approach: shorter hospital stay, easier recovery, and quicker return to everyday life.”
device checks,” says Pierce. “This is an easy aspect of care to overlook, especially if you’re feeling well. But getting your pacemaker or ICD checked regularly helps ensure safety and best possible results. We want people with heart devices to enjoy high quality of life for many more years.”
Pierce and his team perform laser lead extraction in an operating room while the patient is under general anesthesia. The surgery typically takes two to four hours and usually requires an overnight stay for monitoring and observation.
* Avoid strong magnetic and electrical fields. These can keep your device from working properly. * Know which office equipment/home appliances you should use with caution and which you should stay away from. Most are safe to use. * Always carry a card in your wallet that tells what kind of device you have. * Wear medical alert jewelry that indicates you have a pacemaker or ICD.
A closer look
Do you have a heart device? Tips for best results “For anyone with a heart device, one of the most important messages is to make sure you’re getting your regular
This medical update was brought to you by Sanford Health. For more information about heart health visit heart.sanfordhealth.org.
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Calendar of Events To include an event in our family-friendly calendar, email shendricksen@TheVillageFamily. org. Deadline for the December/January calendar is October 29, 2012. Due to space restrictions, we are unable to include all submissions.
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OCTOBER EVENTS 10.1 Monday • One Book, One Community. Fargo, Moorhead, and West Fargo Public Libraries will kick off a month-long series of events and programs centered around the book “The Giver” by Lois Lowry. Events are for all ages. Complete schedule available at www.fmareaonebook.org • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org 10.3 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 10.4 Thursday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • “44 Plays for 44 Presidents.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218299-3314 10.5 Friday • “44 Plays for 44 Presidents.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218299-3314 10.6 Saturday • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or goldabby@gmail.com • Party in the Pumpkin Patch. Decorate pumpkins and create fall crafts. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon-6 p.m., www.fmva.us • NDSU Football vs. Youngstown State. Homecoming game. 1 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-2419100 or www.fargodome.com • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Visit animals available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 or www.adoptapetfm.org
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• Historic Probstfield Farm Fall Festival. Hay rides, farm tours, and Voyageur fur trader camp re-enactment. 1-5 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701-388-3309 or goldabby@ gmail.com • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo. Register at 701-2939622 or www.ymcacassclay.org/funnights; See ad on page 29 • “44 Plays for 44 Presidents.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218299-3314 10.7 Sunday • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or goldabby@gmail.com • FM Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon6 p.m., www.fmva.us • Party in the Pumpkin Patch. Decorate pumpkins and create fall crafts. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • “44 Plays for 44 Presidents.” 2 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218299-3314 • Choirs & Bells Concert. 4 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 10.10 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Minnesota Timberwolves vs. Indiana Pacers. 7 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com 10.11 Thursday • Paul D. Miller/DJ Spooky: Talk. A talk and multimedia performance by Paul D. Miller/DJ Spooky. 7-9 p.m., Renaissance Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www. plainsart.org • Fargo Force vs. Indiana Ice. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.fargoforce.com • “Anon(ymous).” Presented by Theatre NDSU. 7:30 p.m., Askanase Auditorium, NDSU, 701-231-7969 or www.ndsu.edu/ finearts
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10.12 Friday •S enior Wellness Fair. 1:30-3:30 p.m., Edgewood Vista, 4440 37th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-365-8200 • Wear Pink Open Gym. For every child wearing pink, TNT will donate $1 to the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kids Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • “Anon(ymous).” Presented by Theatre NDSU. 7:30 p.m., Askanase Auditorium, NDSU, 701-231-7969 or www.ndsu.edu/ finearts •F argo Force vs. Sioux City Musketeers. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www. fargoforce.com 10.13 Saturday •S tep Out: Walk to Stop Diabetes. Check-in starts at 7:30 a.m., walk at 9:30 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo. Register at 701-234-0123 or www. diabetes.org/stepoutfargo •U -Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or goldabby@gmail.com •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com •A wesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com •4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org •N DSU Football vs. Indiana State. 3 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com •H omecoming Concert. 6:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 •H oppin’ Hoedown. For moms and sons ages 4-12. 6:30-8:30 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-4997788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Anon(ymous).” Presented by Theatre NDSU. 7:30 p.m., Askanase Auditorium, NDSU, 701-231-7969 or www.ndsu.edu/ finearts •F RESH: A Graffiti & Hip Hop Festival Featuring DJ Spooky. 8 p.m.-1 a.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org 10.14 Sunday •U -Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or goldabby@gmail.com •2 5th Annual Apple Dumpling Day. 12:30-3:30 p.m., Riverview Place, 5300 12th St. S., Fargo, www.riverviewplace.org
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• “Anon(ymous).” Presented by Theatre NDSU. 2 p.m., Askanase Auditorium, NDSU, 701-231-7969 or www.ndsu.edu/ finearts • Chamber Music Series: Flutes & Strings. 2 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 650 2nd Ave. N., Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org • TobyMac Concert. With special guests Chris August and Jamie Grace. 7 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • Youth Symphony Pops Concert. 7 p.m., Davies High School, 7150 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org 10.16 Tuesday • Identity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records; limit 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 • The Arc of Cass County’s Annual Meeting. Tickets can be purchased at The Arc of Cass County. Registration at 5:15 p.m., meeting/dinner at 6 p.m., dance at 7-9 p.m., Ramada Plaza & Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-293-8191 or www. arccassnd.com • Jazz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Buxton/Hanson Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515
10.17 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Identity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records; limit 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 10.18 Thursday • Presentation Prayer Center Luncheon. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo. For reservations, call 701-2374857 or visit www.presentationsistersfargo. com • Fargo Force vs. Youngstown Phantoms. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www. fargoforce.com 10.19 Friday • RACC Harvest Moon Fling. Wine tasting, silent auction, and music by the 42nd Street Band. 7-11 p.m., Courtyard by Marriott, 1080 28th Ave. S., Moorhead, 701-293-7273 or www.raccfm.com • “Woman in Black.” Presented by FMCT. Recommended for ages 12 and up. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 10.20 Saturday • FirstChoice Clinic’s LifeWalk. For the
whole family. 9 a.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-237-6530 or www.teamfirstchoiceclinic.com • The Big One Art & Craft Fair. 9 a.m.5 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.thebigone.biz •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com •F M Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Visit animals available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 or www.adoptapetfm.org •M oonlight Monster Mash. 6:30-9 p.m., Fargo Youth Commission, 2500 18th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks. com • “Woman in Black.” Presented by FMCT. Recommended for ages 12 and up. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 10.21 Sunday • The Big One Art & Craft Fair. 11 a.m.4 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.thebigone.biz 10.23 Tuesday •F irstLink’s Community Volunteer Workshop. Explore ways to create successful volunteer programs. 8:30 a.m.4:30 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-293-6462 or sheilab@ myfirstlink.org
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10.24 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 10.25 Thursday • RDO Caters Taters for Charity. Potato luncheon to benefit Special Olympics North Dakota. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Doublewood Inn, 3333 13th Ave. S., Fargo, www. rdocaterstaters.com • “Woman in Black.” Presented by FMCT. Recommended for ages 12 and up. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 10.26 Friday • Boomers & Crooners: Launching the American Dream Fall Fundraiser. Music by Neil Iverson, food, games, and prizes. 5:30-9 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 ext. 6737 • In the Vineyard. Eventide’s benefit auction and wine tasting. 6:30 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-2912230 or www.eventide.org • Costume Party Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kids Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www. tntkidsfitness.com • “The Barber of Seville.” Presented by
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• “Woman in Black.” Presented by FMCT. Recommended for ages 12 and up. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 10.28 Sunday • Not Too Scary Haunted House. 1 p.m.5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • “The Barber of Seville.” Presented by FM Opera. 2 p.m., Reineke Fine Arts Center, NDSU, Fargo, 701-239-4558 or www. fmopera.org; See ad on page 32 • Spooktacular Halloween Party. Haunted maze, refreshments, and treat bags. 2:30-5 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-4335360 or www.wfparks.org 10.29 Monday • Plane ‘Ole Pumpkins. Carve and paint pumpkins in the haunted hangar. Ages 2-5. 2-4 p.m., Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www. fargoairmuseum.org 10.30 Tuesday • FM Caregiver Conference. Free seminar for anyone caring for an aging loved one. Register by Oct. 22; contact Julie Marxen at 218-299-5514. 9 a.m.-1 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead •P lane ‘Ole Pumpkins. Carve and paint pumpkins in the haunted hangar. Ages 2-5. 2-4 p.m., Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www. fargoairmuseum.org •J ail Chaplains Dessert Social. Silent auction at 5:30 p.m., program at 7 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-0067 or www.jailchaplains.com •L ive at Birdland with Tommy Igoe. MSUM’s Performing Arts Series presents The Birdland Band and drummer Tommy Igoe. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www. mnstate.edu/perform 10.31 Wednesday •R ockin’ Howling Halloween Happenings. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org •P lane ‘Ole Pumpkins. Carve and paint pumpkins in the haunted hangar. Ages 2-5. 2-4 p.m., Fargo Air Museum, 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www. fargoairmuseum.org •C ommunity Halloween Carnival. 3:30-5:30 p.m., Courts Plus, 3491 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-237-4805 or www.fargoparks.com • “Humpty Dumpty is Missing.” Presented by FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org
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NOVEMBER EVENTS 11.1 Thursday • Sanford Dermatology & Laser Clinic Open House. Educational seminars, product displays, and door prizes. 5-8 p.m., Dermatology & Laser Clinic, 4656 40th Ave. S., Suite 130, Fargo, 701-234-8860 • Wags, Whiskers & Wine. Wine tasting and silent auction for the Humane Society Fargo-Moorhead. 6-9 p.m., NDSU Alumni Center, Fargo, 701-239-0077 or www. humanesocietyfargomoorhead.org • “Humpty Dumpty is Missing.” Presented by FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 11.2 Friday • Bring a Friend Open Gym. Bring a friend and receive half off admission. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kids Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www. tntkidsfitness.com • “Humpty Dumpty is Missing.” Presented by FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org 11.3 Saturday • Up With Downs Fall Educational Conference. 8:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m., Hope Lutheran Church, 3636 25th St. S., Fargo. Email karaljones@gmail.com for more information or to register
• Pangea – Cultivate Our Cultures. Multiethnic showcase of music, dance, culinary arts, and children’s activities. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 ext. 6737 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Visit animals available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 or www.adoptapetfm.org • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo. Register at 701-2939622 or www.ymcacassclay.org/funnights; See ad on page 29 • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Silent Auction & Gala. 7-11 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • “Humpty Dumpty is Missing.” Presented by FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • FM Chamber Chorale Fall Concert. 7:30 p.m., Gethsemane Episcopal Cathedral, 3600 25th St. S., Fargo, www. fmchamberchorale.org 11.4 Sunday • “Humpty Dumpty is Missing.” Presented by FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S.,
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Fargo, 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org • The Concordia Orchestra Home Concert. 4 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2994515 •S exual Integrity: The Blueprint for Healthy Families. For parents and junior/ senior high students. 6:30-8:30 p.m., Salem East, 1111 30th Ave. S., Moorhead, chad@salemefc.org • Vocal Jazz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Christiansen Recital Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 11.7 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 11.8 Thursday •A fro-Brazilian Samba Drumming Workshop. 7-10 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead. Contact Kenyon Williams at willdrum@mnstate.edu for details • “Into the Woods.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 11.9 Friday • Wine & Dine. Silent and live auctions, dinner, and music by The Front Fenders. Proceeds to benefit Big Brothers Big Sisters and Nokomis Child Care Centers of The Village Family Service Center. 5 p.m.,
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11.9 Friday (cont.) Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, 701451-4957 or www.fmwineanddine.com; See ad on page 14 • Larry O. Family Fun Show. Tickets can be purchased by calling 701-232-1333. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo • “Marathon 33 (M33).” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-356-2050 or www. westfargotheatre.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead,
218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com • “Into the Woods.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 11.10 Saturday • Day of Percussion. International guest artists, workshops, and percussion demonstrations. 9 a.m.-6:30 p.m., Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead. Contact Kenyon Williams at willdrum@mnstate.edu for details • Cystic Fibrosis Association Holiday Homes of Hope. Tour homes decorated for the holidays. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., 701-2223998 or www.cfanorthdakota.com
• Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • NDSU Football vs. SDSU. Dakota Marker. 2:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www. fargodome.com • FM Derby Girls Northern Pains vs. Sioux City Roller Dames. Season opening bout. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.fmderbygirls.com • “Marathon 33 (M33).” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-356-2050 or www. westfargotheatre.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com • “Into the Woods.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 • FM Symphony Orchestra Masterworks Performance. 8 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www. fmsymphony.org 11.11 Sunday • Zoolute to Soldiers. Free admission for veterans and active duty military members. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www. redriverzoo.org • Cystic Fibrosis Association Holiday Homes of Hope. Tour homes decorated for the holidays. Noon-5 p.m., 701-2223998 or www.cfanorthdakota.com • Happy 23rd Birthday, Yunker Farm! 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • “Into the Woods.” 2 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 • FM Symphony Orchestra Masterworks Performance. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www. fmsymphony.org • “Marathon 33 (M33).” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 2:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-356-2050 or www. westfargotheatre.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 3 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com • The Concordia Band Fall Concert. 7:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515
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11.12 Monday • Veterans Day. Free museum admission for veterans and military families. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseumyunker.org 11.14 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Diary of a Wimpy Kid Book Event. Ages 8-14. 4 p.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 11.16 Friday • Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. Receive a reusable tote with entry fee, or bring your own tote and save $1 on admission. 4-9 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www. prideofdakota.com • Lend a Helping ‘Can’ Open Gym. Bring a canned good or pantry item to benefit needy families. Ages 5-14. 7-9 p.m., TNT Kids Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www. tntkidsfitness.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com • Fargo Force vs. Omaha Lancers. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.fargoforce.com 11.17 Saturday • Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. Receive a reusable tote with entry fee, or bring your own tote and save $1 on admission. 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www. prideofdakota.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. Visit animals available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2325856 or www.adoptapetfm.org • Fargo Force vs. Omaha Lancers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.fargoforce.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com 11.18 Sunday • Art-Mania. Ages 6-12. 9 a.m.-1 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. Receive a reusable tote with entry fee, or bring your own tote and save $1 on admission. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.prideofdakota.com • Rapunzel & The Dragon. Presented by MSUM Children’s Theatre program. 1 p.m. & 4 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/ perform • PRISM Concert. 2 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 3 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com • Mannheim Steamroller. 7 p.m., Gate City Bank Theatre, Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com
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11.20 Tuesday •M oorhead Parks & Recreation Tree Lighting. Meet at the Log Cabin in Memorial Park to listen to the Moorhead High School Carolers, then proceed to the city tree. 5 p.m., Memorial Park, 210 8th St. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or www.cityofmoorhead.com/ parks •X cel Energy Holiday Lights Parade. Starts in Downtown Moorhead along Center Ave., heads west into Downtown Fargo on NP Ave., then north on Broadway, and ends at 6th Ave. N., Fargo. Visit www.downtownfargo.com for more information •S ymphonia Concert. 7 p.m., Centrum, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 11.21 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 11.23 Friday • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com 11.24 Saturday •C hildren’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com •S anta Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, new toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com •F argo Force vs. Sioux Falls Stampede. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.fargoforce.com • “25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee.” Presented by Moorhead High School Theater. 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345 or www.moorheadtheater.com
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11.25 Sunday • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, new toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com 11.26 Monday • Holiday Concert Series: Concordia Sax Quartet. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www. plainsart.org 11.27 Tuesday • Holiday Concert Series: Dave Ferreira Trio. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org 11.28 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Holiday Concert Series: Darin Henze & Friends. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www. plainsart.org 11.29 Thursday • Holiday Concert Series: NDSU Brass Quintet. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org 11.30 Friday • Fargo Force vs. Tri-City Storm. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 or www.fargoforce.com
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Call or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required. Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org • One Book, One Community. Visit www.fmareaonebook.org for information • Job Search Series. Registration required. Oct. 2, 9 & 16, 6:30 p.m. • Fargo Force Visits the Library. Hear stories, meet Fargo Force players, and make a small craft. Oct. 2 & Nov. 6, 6:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies, birth-18 mos. Oct. 4 & Nov. 1, 6:30 p.m. • Star Wars Reads Day. Kids of all ages are invited to a Star Warsthemed reading event including crafts, trivia, food, and a showing of “Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope.” Oct. 6, noon-3 p.m. • Jazz Into Fall Concert Series. Oct. 7, 14, 21 & 28, 2 p.m. • National Fossil Day. All ages invited to learn about fossils. Oct. 17, 6:30 p.m. • Dazzling Dave Performs Yo-Yo Tricks. Registration required. Oct. 18, 1 p.m. • Yo-Yo Instruction Class with Dazzling Dave. Registration required. Oct. 18, grades K-3 at 2 p.m., grades 4-6 at 3 p.m. • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Oct. 20 & Nov. 17, 10 a.m. • Paws for Reading. Kids in grades K-6 can sign up to read to a therapy pet. Registration required. Oct. 20, 1 p.m. • Lemony Snicket Book Club. Grades 3-6. Registration required. Oct. 23 & Nov. 20, 6:30 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating & Caramel Apple Party. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 29, 4-6 p.m. • Eerie Crypt of Creepy Secrets: Ghost Stories for Grown-ups. For teens and adults. Costumes encouraged. Oct. 30, 7:30 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Registration required. Nov. 1, 15 & 29, 4 p.m. • Community Baby Shower. For new and expectant parents to learn tips about reading to babies. Nov. 3, 10 a.m.
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• Train Day at the Library. Kids of all ages welcome. Nov. 10, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. • Beatles’ “Backbeat” Movie. Nov. 13, 6:30 p.m. • Intro to Lefse. For teens and adults. Nov. 15, 7 p.m. & Nov. 17, 10 a.m. • Beatles’ “A Day in the Life”: A Visit with Beatles’ Author Walt Everett. Nov. 18, 2 p.m. • Give Thanks, Junie B. Grades K-4. Registration required. Nov. 23, 2 p.m. • Kids’ Holiday Aprons Craft. Registration required. Nov. 27, 4-6 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies, birth-18 mos. Oct. 4 & Nov. 1, 10 a.m. • Free Friday Movies. Call for titles. Oct. 12 & Nov. 9, 1 p.m. • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Oct. 13 & Nov. 10, 10 a.m. • Unraveled Crafters Club. Oct. 14 & 28, Nov. 11 & 25, 1 p.m. • Magic Tree House Book Club. Grades 1-4. Registration required. Oct. 21 & Nov. 18, 2 p.m. • “Dollar a Day Boys” Civilian Conservation Corps History Program. Oct. 22, 6:30 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating & Caramel Apple Party. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 25, 4-6 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Registration required. Oct. 30, Nov. 13 & 27, 4 p.m. • Tea Time Book Club. Nov. 4, 2:30 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch
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Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Oct. 6 & Nov. 3, 10 a.m. • Northport Classic Book Club. Oct. 17 & Nov. 21, 6:30 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating & Caramel Apple Party. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 22, 4-6 p.m. • Kids’ Holiday Aprons Craft. Registration required. Nov. 26, 4-6 p.m. West Fargo Public Library 109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org • One Book, One Community. Visit www. fmareaonebook.org for information • Homework Center. 3-5:30 p.m., Monday through Thursday on days school is in session • Children’s Storytime. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays, 10 a.m. & 1:30 p.m., Thursdays, 6:30 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group; bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Ham Radio Group. All adults welcome; children must attend with an adult. Wednesdays, 7-8:45 p.m.
• Friday Morning Movies. For preschoolers and younger children and their caretakers. Daycares welcome; please call ahead with number attending. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available for questions. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m. • Board Games Galore! Fun for all ages. Oct. 4 & Nov. 1, 7 p.m. • Friends of the Library Book Sale for Members. Special pre-sale for members of Friends of the Library. Oct. 5, 4-6 p.m. • Friends of the Library Book Sale. Oct. 6, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. & Oct. 7, 1-5 p.m. • Memory Loss Program. Presented by Sanford Speakers Bureau. Oct. 15, 7 p.m. • Spot Visits Storytime. Oct. 25, 6:30 p.m. • Halloween Party at the Library. Children are invited to wear a costume, hear a story, and make a craft. Oct. 29, 6:30 p.m. • Magic Show. Oct. 29, 7 p.m. • Cards for Vets! Create as many cards as you would like, and the library will send them to the Veterans Hospital. Nov. 8, 7 p.m. • 5th Annual Caramel Apple Day. Enjoy a free caramel apple while supplies last. Open to all ages. Nov. 16, 4-5 p.m.
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• YELL in the Library. New club for teens: Play games, have snacks, volunteer, and plan events. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 7 p.m. • Novelist Lorna Landvik. Oct. 17, 1 p.m. • Election Issues. MSUM Political Science faculty will discuss major issues of this year’s election. Oct. 18, 7 p.m. • Adult Book Discussion. Oct. 18 & Nov. 15, 7 p.m. • Wii Zumba. Oct. 20 & Nov. 17, 3 p.m. • Dorothy Lund Nelson. Lund Nelson will share about the Orphan Train Movement. Oct. 25, 7 p.m. • LEGO Contest. Oct. 27, 2 p.m. • Mary Shideler. Author of “The Kayak Lady.” Oct. 29, 2:30 p.m. • Where’s Waldo? Trick-or-treat and find Waldo in the library. Oct. 31, 5-8 p.m. • Saturday Morning Science. A hands-on science workshop for grades 4-6. Sign up to reserve a spot. Nov. 3, 9:30-11 a.m. & 11:30-1 p.m. • Make it Yourself Series: Brown Sugar & Sour Cream. Nov. 14, 7 p.m. • eReader Help Sessions. Call for details • Computer & Technology Classes. Call for details
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Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. Alzheimer’s Association 701-277-9757 or www.alz.org/mnnd The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseumyunker.org • Yunkie Club Early Childhood Family Education Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S., Moorhead, 218284-3400 or https://communityed.moorhead.k12.mn.us • Baby Connection (Birth-12 mos) • Dynamite Dinos (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Date Night (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun with Little Ones (Birth-3 yrs) • Make It, Take It (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Monday Fun-day (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Ones & Twos (12-36 mos) • Planes, Trains & Automobiles (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Storybook Science (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Terrific Twos (24-36 mos) • Thrilling Threes (36-48 mos) • Thursday Play Group (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Weird, Wild, Wacky Art (2 yrs-kindergarten entry) • Wonderful, Wobbly Ones (12-24 mos) Edgewood Vista Wellness Program 4440 37th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-365-8200 • Arthritis: Managing Your Activities • Celiac Disease & The Gluten Free Diet • Food Safety • HERO: The Solution to Costly & Unavailable Medical Supplies • Hydration • Medical Research & Its Impact for Future Generations • Multiple Sclerosis & Parkinson’s Disease • Osteoporosis & Back Pain Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or www.essentiahealth.org • Birthing Center Tour • Breastfeeding Class • Car Seat Safety • Great Expectations • Lamaze • Mom’s Helpers • Tender Transitions FM Ambulance 701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com • BLAST Babysitter’s Day Camp • Heartsaver CPR/AED Fargo Park District 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Adaptive Tae Kwon Do • CPR + First Aid Training • Create & Explore • Teen Art FirstLink 701-293-6462 or www.myfirstlink.org
Hjemkomst Center 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 ext. 6738 • Chip-carved Christmas Ornaments • German Cookie Ornaments • German Feather Christmas Trees • Rag Rugs Hospice of the Red River Valley 1701 38th St. S., Fargo, 800-237-4629 or www.hrrv.org • Journeying Through Grief • Youth Journeys Moorhead Community Education 218-284-3400 or https://communityed.moorhead.k12.us Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Adult & Youth Art Experiences • Kid Quest Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or www.ag.ndsu.edu/casscountyextension/home-andfamily Red River Zoo 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Cool & Creepy Costumes • Give Them Thanks! • Goofy Goats • Rad Roaches
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Sanford Health Community Education 1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org • Baby Signs • Better Choices, Better Health Workshop • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • Car Seat 101 • Family & Friends – CPR • Heartsaver CPR for Day Care Providers • Infant Massage • Lamaze • Our Family is Having a Baby!
• Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home for Baby • Weight Loss Surgery Informational Seminar • Your Labor Experience – What to Expect Sanford Health embrace Education 701-234-7463 or embrace@sanfordhealth. org • Financial Counseling for the Cancer Patient U of M Extension 218-236-2005 • Parents Forever
West Fargo Park District 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • Snowmobile Safety Course The Village Financial Resource Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 or www.HelpWithMoney.org • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education
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Concordia College Cyrus M. Running Gallery 901 8th St. S., Moorhead, 218-299-4623 • When Shall We Spread Our Sails?: Photographs, Poetry & Essays from Concordia’s Summer School in Santorini. Oct. 2-28 • Theatrophilia: Frivolities, Curiosities & Confusions – Recent Work by Eddy Barrows. Begins Nov. 6 Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum.org Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www. hcscconline.org • The Boom: 1945-1960 in Clay County • The Hjemkomst Sagas: One Dream, A Viking Ship, Many Stories
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MSUM Planetarium Bridges Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772920 • The Little Star That Could. Ends Nov. 10 • Cosmic Colors. Ends Nov. 12 • Season of Light. Begins Nov. 29 Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or www.plainsart.org • Graffiti 101: The Foundation of Street Art. Ends Oct. 14 • A Creative Life: Honoring Charles Beck • The Artist’s Studio: Robert Kurkowski • Ice Music: Paul D. Miller/DJ Spooky • No Lumps, Thank You: A Bra Anthology • Our Treasures: Highlights from the Minnesota Museum of American Art • Playful Pollinators. A garden-art project by the 4-H Club at Madison Elementary School The Rourke Art Gallery & Museum Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org • Moritz Götze: Deutsche Kunst/German Art. Begins Oct. 19 • Sherry Lee Short: Reflections from Solitude. Ends Nov. 11
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Every four years, the presidential election puts the spotlight on our country, at its best and at its worst, for the world to see. It’s also a helpful reminder that as parents, one of our tasks is to grow our children into caring, informed, and active citizens. What a great opportunity for us to explain to our children how our president is elected and more importantly, why the election process, warts and all, is at the heart of what it means to be an American. 36 October/November 2012
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Why it matters
Even at a very young age, children can be taught about the government and election procedure. The key is to make it fun, while you draw parallels with what’s actually going on in the news. It’s also important to emphasize why exercising your right to vote as an adult is so important. I remember focusing on two key points when my sons were young. Voting is the ultimate equalizer. Everyone gets one vote, regardless of the job they hold, their connections, or the money they have in the bank. Voting is also communicating. It is one of the most important ways each of us can reach out and communicate with those in power. Voting sends a direct message of what’s important to the voters, even if our personal choice doesn’t make it into office. Suzanne McCabe is the Editor of Junior Scholastic. She’s identified other important concepts which all kids can be taught. “Young people should be aware that the president has a profound effect on their lives and their futures,” says McCabe. She explains that the president nominates members of the Supreme Court, who make important decisions about everything from the children’s rights and freedoms to video game policies! McCabe adds that although kids can’t yet vote, parents can establish a voting habit in their kids. “Studies show that children who accompany their parents to the polling place are more likely to vote when they become adults,” says McCabe. Getting kids involved in politics can certainly help them become more engaged citizens, “which empowers them to help shape the kind of country they want to live in,” she adds.
Beware of “bad guys”
As we expose our kids to the election process, Dr. Virginia Shiller, a licensed clinical psychologist and lecturer at the Yale Child Study Center, suggests we take a cautious approach. “Children from 3 to 8 years old will gradually acquire the worldly knowledge and cognitive skills to understand elections. It is best to avoid exposure to TV shows or heated discussions that could frighten them.” She explains that children have images of “good guys” and “bad guys” from fairy tales and movies, and so positioning a candidate as “bad” may alarm your child (especially if the “bad guy” ends up elected.) For very young kids, Dr. Shiller explains that it’s all about their little world. “A preschooler’s world is very much centered family
on their home, school, and immediate neighborhoods. In any discussion it is best to focus on local elections. As children progress to elementary school, they can start to understand that the policies of national leaders can make a difference to this country and the world.” So once again as parents, it’s up to us to decide how far to take the subject, but getting the conversation started seems always a positive move. Like McCabe, Dr. Shiller stresses that our most important role as parents is to “model that it’s important to be a good citizen and to vote. Take children to the polls with you, or proudly display your ‘I voted today!’ sticker.”
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Create a kid-friendly election
Of course, one of the clearest ways to explain the election process is to recreate it! Lisa Jacobson is the founder and CEO of Inspirica, a nationwide tutoring company that “inspires” kids to do better in school. Jacobson describes how we can convey the power of elections in a fun way. “Create an election for ‘Which is the favorite sport of family and friends?’ Have pictures with names under them of the different sports. Then the child gets a ballot card and writes the name of the sport on it, and places it in the slot of a homemade ballot box.” She suggests that children ask their family members and friends to cast votes, which are then counted up at a predetermined time. During the last election my kids were 8 and 10 years old. We made a poster with pictures of both candidates, and every kid who came over got a chance to “vote” by writing their name on lines which I put under each picture. It got my kids interested in the election and forced them to explain the whole process over and over again to all their friends. They couldn’t wait to see if the national election would match the results of our kid-election. It did, by the way.
Read all about it
An outstanding book, especially for very young children, is “Max for President,” written and illustrated by Jarrett Krosoczka. In this story, Max and Kelly both run for class president. They each create posters, distribute buttons, and announce their platforms for a better school. The story demonstrates the campaign and election process with a pleasant resolution at the end. I found it great to read once through, and then go back and draw parallels to the presidential election the kids have been
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In August, we stopped by Nokomis Child Care Center and had a conversation with the school-aged kids about the upcoming November election. Filled with enthusiasm, the kids were eager to talk to us and share their thoughts about the presidency.
hearing about. The story boiled it down to the essentials that young children should understand, and illustrated the power of the vote, and of the office. There are many other age-appropriate books which cover the election process. Most are available online, at your local bookstore, or better yet, your local library.
Get involved
Growing Leaders is an international nonprofit dedicated to mentoring American youth to become effective, compassionate leaders. Tim Elmore, their founder and president, encourages all parents to go beyond the “talking” and help their kids
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get involved in the process. He suggests our kids want action and interaction, not simple talking points from the candidates, or from parents. “Write a letter to a congressman, make signs that express their opinions, attend a rally, and ultimately, take them to the polls with you on Election Day,” are just a few of Elmore’s ideas. Through it all, he insists, parents must keep an open dialogue with their children, as they will be exposed to a whole host of campaign messages, but may not be mature enough to process it all—especially the negativity. I’m always amazed at the chronically low voter turnout in the U.S. In the 2008 presidential election, only 71 percent of the voting-age population registered to vote. Only 64 percent of the voting-age population actually made it to the polls. Now, the good news. In a 2011 survey, “Teens Speak Up: A National Youth Survey on Civic Engagement and Citizenship,” by Boys & Girls Clubs of America (in partnership with the Case Foundation and Nickelodeon), 10,000 teens in over 200 communities were asked about voting, education, and leadership. A full 80 percent of teens polled agreed that citizens absolutely have a responsibility to vote. They also believe that each and every vote counts! So in 2020 when my youngest finds himself voting for the first time, I hope he has embraced what a privilege and duty it is to have a voice in choosing our leaders. Linda Kastiel Kozlowski blogs at TheWayForMoms.com, is the mother of two young boys, and votes every chance she gets.
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What is the best part about being president?
Jake (6): You get to do whatever you want
What is the president’s job?
Anna (6): To make the rules
Mia (6): He takes care of the United States
Emma (8): Being rich
Casey (6): That you get to tell all the rules and you don’t have to listen to your parents
Mia (6): Getting to live in a big house
What is the worst part about being president?
Elizabeth (7): Living in a big house because you’d get lost
Josh (8): Nothing
Ashton (6): About 100
Felicity (10): Make it so that everyone would have to wear shoes and socks, but not in the summer
Anna (6): You have to do work
How old do you have to be to be president?
Josh (8): Over 18
What would you do if you were president?
Felicity (10): 100
Mia (6): Buy a Cadillac
Ashton (6): Keep everyone safe
Do you know someone you think would make a good president?
Casey (6): He helps people and tells you if you break the law you’ll go to prison
Jake (6): My cousin Michael (9), because he’s nice
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Elizabeth (7): My mom, dad, and brother (4); they like making people safe and my brother likes protecting people
Josh (8): My mom Casey (6): My dad because she’s nice and because he’s nice… she makes sure we have and he’s 32 our rooms clean and she picks up garbage
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When it comes to giving your children cash for good grades, families have mixed reactions. The sides become as polarized as participants in a televised presidential debate. Some adamantly oppose the idea, stating that school should not be treated as a paying job. Others favor a cash incentive. Still others haven’t used money as a reward yet, but aren’t signing off on the idea either.
No to the Dough “It was just expected of us to try our hardest in school,” says Moorhead mother and Fargo preschool teacher, Michele Gedgaud. “I didn’t get paid for grades and I don’t pay my kids for good grades.” Gedgaud stressed the importance of good grades to her kids right from the beginning. She told them they’d need good grades to get into college. “We don’t insist on all A’s, we just ask that they do the best they can and give 100 percent effort.” Kellie Albrecht, mom to 5-year-old Henry, says she finds the concept of paying for grades a funny one. She was not 40 October/November 2012
paid for grades growing up and has no intention of paying her son for grades. “There’s a book called ‘Drive’ by Daniel Pink that argues that payment for something like grades is actually demotivating,” says Albrecht. Pink discusses motivation in great detail in his book. But one of his examples demonstrates when parents reward tasks like getting good grades with money, the grades are then perceived as “work,” which may decrease a student’s desirability to achieve them. To date, there is really no strong evidence that indicates
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paying students for grades works over the long-term. Renowned University of Rochester psychologist Edward Deci argues that rewards might work in the short-term, but over time it may have the opposite effect—especially when the reward is removed. Deci and his colleague, Richard Ryan, have spent decades studying human motivation. In the July-August 2010 Rochester Review, author Karen McCally reports, “Deci’s and Ryan’s most startling finding was that rewards such as prizes and money were not only less effective than behavioral psychologists had long supposed, but under some circumstances could actually diminish people’s feelings of engagement and motivation.” Moorhead parents Amanda and Shawn Bagne do not pay their daughters for grades, either. “Learning is its own reward,” says Amanda, a family and consumer science teacher at Dilworth-Glyndon-Felton Schools. “I think it would be difficult to know where to set the standards. Each child learns so differently.”
The Value of Cash Award-winning “mompreneur” and author Lori Mackey is dedicated to teaching kids valuable lessons in money management. She is the founder of Prosperity4Kids, Inc. Mackey wholeheartedly supports paying kids for grades as a way to teach kids about money. “I’m educating my kids how money works in the world they live in,” says Mackey. “It’s a positive financial plan for the whole family,” explains Mackey. “Parents invest in their kids’ grades now, and with good grades come the opportunities for scholarships and other financial assistance that can diminish college costs.” Luke Klefstad, Grand Forks father to three kids ages 14, 11, and 5, started paying for grades when his kids reached fourth grade. His plan looks like this: $2 for 3’s and 4’s during elementary school and $5 per A in middle school. The kids also get an extra $10 for making the A honor roll. “I set it up for some of the same reasons I had it growing up—as a
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motivator to get and maintain good grades, and a reward for working hard in school,” Klefstad says. Growing up, he and his three sisters were paid for grades. He says the family didn’t have a lot of money back then, nor did they get an allowance, so getting paid was a really big deal. Alex Howard’s family believed in cash for grades, too. Howard, a 2007 Fargo South graduate says, “The most I could get was $20.” It was based on his overall grade point average. An A average was worth $20; B average $10; C average nothing; D average he paid $10; F average he paid $20. “I was the baby of the family, so I think my parents kind of gave up on motivating talks—they just offered me money when I did well.” Howard says his parents used money as a motivator until he was able to get a paying job. Then, he was responsible enough to motivate himself to get good grades and his parents stopped paying for them. University of Chicago economist John List sees cash for grades as simply an incentive plan, something consumers
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deal with every day. He uses the example of the government wanting us to purchase fuelefficient vehicles, so they give us incentives and subsidies to do so. Mackey reminds parents to let the cash reward system grow and change as kids’ abilities show themselves. For instance, when her son struggled with grades, instead of getting rewarded for an A, he was rewarded for improving his grade a letter. And, because Mackey is devoted to teaching
kids about money, the cash for grades went into her kids’ savings accounts. Adding to it regularly, combined with the benefit of compounded interest, gave them a nice start to purchasing their own car when the time came.
Maybe Someday Kjersten and Andy Skatvold of Moorhead, parents of three boys ages 8, 6, and 4, primarily use verbal encouragement and teaching techniques to motivate their boys to do well. Kjersten admits they haven’t ruled out money down the road. “In the future, when they have more of a need for money, I would give it a thought,” says the former Fargo special education teacher. “My hope would be that they are intrinsically motivated to do well for themselves, but I am not naive to the fact that kids do need to have an increased motivator as they grow older.” Tracy Briggs Jensen and Mark Jensen of Moorhead feel similarly. Parents to 10-year-old and 8-year-old girls, Tracy says they have chosen not to pay for grades in favor of other motivators like praise and getting involved with their schools. However, they aren’t opposed to the idea.
“It’s never really come up,” she says. “The girls are pretty self-motivated, so I guess we haven’t felt the need to start. But, never say never. If the situation changed, I would consider it.”
Other Reward Ideas Obviously a cash reward is just one way to recognize a job well done. It’s all about finding a special way to show you appreciate your child’s efforts. Money was tight for Marg Hohnadel, Fargo, when she was raising her four kids, so she wouldn’t always use a monetary reward, but felt recognizing their achievements was important. “I think giving kids an added incentive to do good work is a very positive thing. There is plenty of incentive to do other things for today’s kids.” She would acknowledge her kids’ grades with a special meal, a family outing, or playing a favorite family game. One of the ways the Jensens reward their daughters also teaches them to set their priorities. Their daughters know that if they keep up with their school work, they’re allowed to participate in extra-curricular activities, such as figure skating. But mostly, the family uses encouragement and praise. “They really respond to praise from their teachers and from us,” Tracy Briggs Jensen says. “So when they get a good grade, we give them lots of encouragement. I think that makes them want to keep doing well.” “We make sure to pin up tests, papers, and assignments on the fridge at home so that when our relatives come over they see how well the girls are doing in school,” Tracy adds. “I think a pat on the back from grandparents, aunts, and uncles means a lot to them.” Shelly and Mike Strand of Fargo also motivate their two sons, ages 11 and 8, with verbal praise. They hope to teach their boys that doing well in school is its own reward—but it doesn’t hurt to get a few compliments from Mom, Dad, or Grandma, either. “We talk a lot about the importance of doing their best,” says Shelly, a science teacher at West Fargo High School. “It’s not the grade, but the effort that we are looking for.”
Self-Motivation and a Love of Learning Whatever reward methods you choose, you want your children to do well in school. You also likely want to develop 42 October/November 2012
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two characteristics—a love of learning and self-motivation. As your children age, you’ll realize they need to grasp more of their own educational responsibility, one they’ll take with them for the rest of their lives. Teaching their two boys, ages 14 and 8, to be very selfmotivated with their school work is important to Chris and Michelle Roeszler of Fargo. Michelle, a preschool teacher at Our Redeemer Christian Children’s Center in Moorhead, says their sons are in charge of their homework assignments and know to ask for help if they need it. It’s the same approach her own parents took with Michelle and her brother, she says. “My parents were mostly hands-off,” Michelle says. “They checked in with us to make sure we were keeping up with homework and were there for us if we did need help.” Amanda Bagne says she and her husband talk a lot about their kids’ educations and self-motivation, too. “We need to encourage kids to be self-motivating and accountable for their own success.” All of the rewards, encouragement, and effort now will hopefully lead to an important realization later. “I hope to teach my kids to work hard, even without an incentive other than doing a job well done and having a love for learning,” Michelle Roeszler says. Tell us what you think! You can weigh in with your own thoughts about paying your children for good grades on our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/villagefamilymag. Amanda Peterson is an award-winning writer with a love for the Web, social media, and magazines. She lives in Moorhead with her husband and two children.
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YOUR FAMILY z food & fun
Pumpkin Seed Bracelet Pumpkin seeds (we used a bag of store-bought roasted seeds) Food coloring White vinegar Needle Clear elastic cord (.5mm) Slotted spoon Cookie sheet Set out cups or small bowls to dye your seeds. Pour ¼ cup of water and 1 Tbsp vinegar into each bowl. Add several drops of food coloring to water and vinegar mixture. Try different color combinations and see how the seeds turn out! Drop a handful of seeds into each bowl and stir to make sure all seeds are covered. Let seeds soak for a few hours. Scoop seeds out of bowls with slotted spoon and spread singlelayered on cookie sheet to dry overnight.
Sloppy Joes Plus 2½ to 3 lbs. ground beef 3 green onions Salt/pepper to taste ¾ cup ketchup ¼ cup mustard 1 Tbsp vinegar 2 Tbsp Worcestershire sauce 1 Tbsp brown sugar 28-oz. can Bush’s baked beans Brown ground beef and green onions in a large pot over medium heat. Drain. Salt and pepper generously, to taste. Add remaining ingredients and cook and stir over medium heat until it comes to a boil. Reduce heat to medium-low and cook for 30 minutes, until thickened, stirring regularly. Serve on toasted hamburger buns.
Cut a 10- to 12-inch length of elastic cord. Tie a double knot a few inches from one end. Thread the needle with the cord and push through center of seed, continuing this until you have enough length of seeds to wrap around your wrist. Double knot the ends together, trim extra cord, and you have a colorful fall bracelet!
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Curly Tail Turkey Brown construction paper (for body) Scissors Crayons or markers Red, green, yellow, and orange construction paper (for feathers and feet) Pencil Glue Cut the turkey body from brown construction paper. Draw a face on the turkey. Cut 10 feathers from various colors of construction paper. Curl each paper feather around a pencil, then glue it to the turkey’s back. Cut two feet from orange construction paper and glue them to the bottom of the body. (Submitted by: Pre-Toddler I Room at Nokomis II)
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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom
“Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it, and if I were a bird I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns.”
“ Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got.”
—Janis Joplin
—George Eliot
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Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. —Leo Buscaglia
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A few days ago I walked along the edge of the lake and was treated to the crunch and rustle of leaves with each step I made. The acoustics of this season are different and all sounds, no matter how hushed, are as crisp as autumn air. —Eric Sloane
Thinking
If you think you are beaten, you are; If you think you dare not, you don’t. If you like to win, but you think you can’t It is almost certain you won’t. If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost, For out in the world we find Success begins with a fellow’s will; It’s all in the state of mind.
“Even if something is left undone, everyone must take time to sit still and watch the leaves turn.” —Elizabeth Lawrence
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Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.
If you think you are outclassed, you are. You’ve got to think high to rise. You’ve got to be sure of yourself before You can ever win a prize.
—Robert Schuller
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Free Will Kit Regardless of your life circumstances or estate size, your will is perhaps the most important document you will create. It expresses your values and also effectively provides for the people and charitable causes important to you. To learn how to create a will that ensures your wishes are carried out, contact The Village Family Service Center for a FREE Will Kit. Complete and return the form below, or call Jenny at 701-451-4957. Your FREE Will Kit includes:
“How to Make a Will that Works” brochure “Will and Estate Planning Basics” booklet “Personal Affairs Record” organizer Seven Important Reasons You Need a Will 1. Without a will, your state’s laws—not you— determine how, when, and to whom your property is distributed. 2. You can designate the guardian for dependents under your care. 3. You can name your executor to manage and settle your estate.
4. You can designate beneficiaries for items such as heirlooms, art, jewelry, or real estate. 5. You may create trusts to provide for your spouse, children, and others. 6. You can support your favorite charities. 7. You can reduce (or maybe even eliminate) estate taxes and save taxes in a survivor’s estate if you make use of the estate tax exemptions.
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