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YOUR FAMILY z from the editor October/November 2013 Vol. 17, No. 5 Publisher The Village Family Service Center Gary Wolsky Tammy Noteboom Editor-in-Chief Kelly Lynch Graphic Design & Layout Jared Zimney Advertising Sales Manager Joy Ryan Advertising Sales Jeff Meyer Calendar Editor Shayna Hendricksen Copy Editor Shayna Hendricksen The Village Family Service Center Board of Directors Carrie Bjorge, David Dougherty, Richard Duysen, Judy Green, Matthew Hallaway, Dr. Richard Hanson, Tammy Hauck, Richard Henderson, Karen Mellum, Nancy McKenzie, Tom Nelson, Dr. Joy Query, Becky Walen

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I have an admiration for activists—for people who feel so passionately about something that they’ll direct all their energy to proclaiming what they feel is the right and just cause. Our founding fathers were activists, and their dedication to the pursuit of freedom is one reason I get to live in a free country today. While I have opinions, and some are quite strong, I’m not the kind of person who would heatedly argue about a topic or “get up in your face” about it. That’s just not my style. Gary Wolsky’s column about health care reform in our August/September issue drew a number of passionate responses, both positive and negative. I am incredibly proud to be the editor of a regional magazine that would garner so many responses from readers. It demonstrates that our magazine is connecting with people in the community. Fantastic! The comments ran the gamut from support to outrage, but each person took the time to put their thoughts into words and let their feelings be known. Isn’t that what democracy is all about? We have always welcomed and appreciated reader responses. In this issue, we dedicate an entire page to surveying readers and gathering their thoughts (see page 35). The survey is also available at our magazine website, www.villagefamilymag. org. If you are able to take a few moments to fill out the survey and submit it by November 30, you’ll be eligible to win one of two $50 gift cards to Hornbacher’s. Past survey responses have shown how much readers depend on our familyfriendly events calendar. We try to make it as comprehensive and accurate as possible. Readers should be aware the magazine goes to press well before many of these events are completely planned out, so sometimes details change. Contact information is included in the calendar for your convenience. The surveys allow readers to tell us the types of articles you like to read and we use your input to plan our editorial calendars in the future. Three articles readers enjoyed from past issues have recently received accolades from professional organizations. Amanda Peterson, a regular contributor, received a first place in the Feature StoryMagazine category in the 2013 North Dakota Professional Communicators Contest for her story about the Neo-natal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). She also received a first place in Specialty Articles-Green/Environment with her articles about backyard gardens and recycling. That same combination entry received a first place at the 2013 National Federation of Press Women Communications Contest. Visit our website to read these award-winners, “Life in the NICU,” “Planning a Family Vegetable Garden,” and “Project Recycling.” Congratulations, Amanda! Thanks for reading,

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By Denise Hellekson A commercial on television the other day caught my attention. It was from AARP, and it showed different people who looked to be in their early 60s in different aspects of daily life. When the camera focused on them they would say things like, “When I grow up, I want to own a bookstore,” or “When I grow up, I want to join a jazz band.” The commercial was about retirement, and it reminded me how our view of this stage of our lives is changing. Not so long ago, retirement was seen as an event marking the withdrawal from active involvement in the world of work; a time of endless days of leisure and idle busyness. The new view of retirement sees it as a process, not an event; a time of exploration, life enrichment, creative change, and personal growth. Many people who “retire” find a new career path and rejoin the workforce in a different capacity. The new view of retirement has been called a time of renewal, and there are a couple of reasons for this change in perspective.

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With increased health and longevity, people are living longer and remaining active well into their senior years. Baby boomers, as with all developmental stages they have passed through, have not been willing to fade gracefully into the sunset. They have redefined retirement as a more active, meaningful time of life. Although the attitude about retirement is changing, the focus for preparing for this stage of life is still primarily on financial considerations. Very little is offered on how to plan emotionally or socially for this major life transition. In fact, it has been said that most people spend more time planning a two week vacation than they do their retirement, which could last for the next 30 or 40 years. Whether you plan to retire in six years or six months, you can start preparing and planning now for this next phase of your life. Here are some ideas to get you started:

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1. Take stock of your retirement situation. At what age do you plan to retire? Will you be helping to care for aging parents? Helping to raise grandchildren? Are there any special health concerns you will need to consider? Do you plan to work part time? Do you have social interests and friends outside of work, or has your main focus been your career? What are your dreams and interests? What gives you a sense of purpose and meaning? 2. Gather information on what to expect. Talk to friends and family members who have retired and ask them what they found to be the hardest part. What one piece of advice would they give? If they had to do it again, what would they do differently and why? What do they enjoy most about retirement? Bob Stein retired last January after 13 years with the City of Fargo as a senior planner. Stein’s advice: “View retirement as an opportunity to reinvent yourself. There are many wonderful opportunities—look around and find the ones that excite you, and then do them.” Check out resources such as “What Color is Your Parachute for Retirement,” by Richard Boles and John E. Nelson, or “Your Retirement Quest,” by Alan Spector and Keith Lawrence. Books like this can be very helpful in explaining the stages of retirement, and providing selfassessments and helpful tips on how to create a retirement that is meaningful and unique to you.

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3. Communicate with those closest to you. Share your plans for retirement with family and friends. If you are in a relationship, make sure you and your partner communicate openly and honestly about your dreams and your concerns regarding retirement. Do you both have the same expectations? How much time do you plan to spend together? Do you plan to retire at the same time? (Research indicates it can be helpful to retire at separate times, in order to help each person adjust individually.) 4. Practice retirement now. This is especially helpful for people who have made their career their main priority. Pick one retirement dream and start cultivating it in your life now. It can help you develop interests, relationships, and an identity outside of work; set healthy limits and find balance; and make work more productive and fulfilling. One last thing to keep in mind: Although financial security is indeed a factor in creating a satisfying retirement, there has been a great deal of research that indicates the size of one’s nest egg is not what drives happiness. As Alan Spector says, “The greatest issue is not running out of money, but of running out of meaning.” Begin planning today to create a retirement that is fulfilling, meaningful, and uniquely your own! Denise Hellekson provides EAP counseling, training, consulting, and crisis response services for The Village Business Institute.

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Recognition and Thanks

By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center The eleventh hour of the eleventh day of the eleventh month. A day set aside by a grateful nation to pay homage to the millions who defended our country, its freedom, its way of life, and who have done their part at ensuring the next generation can have the same opportunities as the last generation. Every veteran’s experience is unique. Some Wolsky return with stories of travel, comradeship, and positive experiences, along with the knowledge they were prepared to step into combat if required. Some return permanently damaged—physically and emotionally—and need our support for extended periods of time. Some, of course, will never return. Regardless of the circumstances of their service, our nation called and they answered. That’s worth something. It’s worth remembering that we, as the most successful experiment in government in the history of our planet, got to where we are by standing on the shoulders of those who came before us. In every respect, veterans since 1776 have been “paying it forward” for all of us. Please remember to thank them for their service.

On another note In the last issue of The Village Family Magazine, I devoted my editorial column to my personal beliefs about Obamacare. I want to thank the many folks who took the time to respond to my thoughts. As you might guess, there was both support and opposition expressed and much of it said with gusto on both sides. I’m also grateful to Joel Heitkamp for the opportunity to engage in a good discussion on his radio program around this important policy debate. Democracy succeeds only to the extent that its citizens are knowledgeable and engaged in the issues that impact them. Open and robust discussions around policy and directional matters have always been a part of our local and national makeup as well as a key part of our nation’s unparalleled accomplishments in its 237-year history. It is in this spirit that my editorial is written and why it has a place in our magazine. Finally, thank you for the numerous comments that recognized the value and contribution The Village makes to our community and region. It is very gratifying to see that even those who took issue with my position could respect and acknowledge The Village’s long history and successful work with kids and families. Thank you all. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff, or boards of directors.

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PG On DVD This Academy Award-winning movie is a coming-of-age story about a boy named Pi who is the son of a zoo owner in India. The family decides to move to Canada and take the animals with them to be sold there. The trip across the Pacific turns treacherous when a storm destroys the ship. Pi survives and is set adrift with a zebra, an orangutan, © 20th Century Fox a hyena, and a Bengal tiger nicknamed Richard Parker. “Life of Pi” entertains with stunning visuals. Wrote one reviewer, “The film is as much about Pi’s self-discovery and his bonding with the tiger, as it is about the triumph of the human spirit!”

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Not yet rated In Theatres November 27 Walt Disney Animation Studios kicks off the holiday movie season with this big-screen, comedy adventure. “Frozen” is loosely based on the Hans Christian Anderson story, “The Snow Queen.” Voice stars include Broadway legend Idina Menzel as Elsa, a magical queen in self-imposed exile who has inadvertently frozen the kingdom, and Kristen Bell as Anna, the queen’s sister. Anna teams up with Kristoff, a rugged mountain man (voiced by Jonathan Groff) and his reindeer, Sven, on an epic journey to find the queen and save the kingdom.

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PG-13 On Netflix Instant Stream This epic adventure dazzles with non-stop action. Through his own recklessness, the Mighty Thor (Chris Hemsworth), reignites an ancient war and his father, Odin (Anthony Hopkins), banishes him to Earth. Living among humans, Thor falls in love with a beautiful, young scientist named Jane Foster (Natalie Portman). Thor becomes a hero as he fights the dark forces of his world, Asgard, when they are sent to invade Earth. If you like action and fantasy movies, you’ll love “Thor.” It’s another fun, superhero movie from Marvel Studios.

PG Available on DVD A gifted cellist named Lyla (Keri Russell) spends an enchanted evening with a talented guitarist named Louis (Jonathan Rhys Meyers). Their circumstances keep them apart. Months later, Lyla is pregnant and gets into a terrible accident. Thinking he’s saving his daughter’s career, Lyla’s father (William Sadler) takes the newborn to a New York City orphanage and tells Lyla he died. The © Warner Bros. Pictures boy, named Evan (Freddie Highmore), hears music everywhere—in the light and the wind and the air—and believes it is a sign his parents are out there, somehow tied to the music. Evan runs away from the orphanage and goes to New York in search of his parents. The movie details Evan’s journey to musical fame and the eventual, heartwarming reunion with his long lost parents. While the plot may be a little complicated for young children, “August Rush” is set to a score filled with magical music for the entire family.

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Baby & Preschool “Hello Baby: On the Go” by Roger Priddy A car and a fire engine, a train and a boat…there are so many things on the go for busy babies to discover in this chunky board book. Each of the clearly outlined pictures is designed using bright, bold colors. Alternating black and white backgrounds provide a high contrast of both color and shape for baby to focus on and enjoy.

Ages 4 to 8 “Pete the Cat and His Magic Sunglasses” by Kimberly and James Dean Pete the Cat is back in New York Times bestselling artist James Dean’s picture book “Pete the Cat and His Magic Sunglasses,” written by Kimberly Dean. Pete the Cat wakes up feeling grumpy— nothing seems to be going his way. But with the help of some magic sunglasses, Pete learns that a good mood has been inside him all along. Fans of Pete the Cat will love watching him take his positive outlook and transform a grumpy day into an awesome day!

Ages 9 to 12 “Twerp” by Mark Goldblatt Julian Twerski isn’t a bully. He just made a big mistake. So when he returns to school after a weeklong suspension, his English teacher offers him a deal: If he keeps a journal and writes about the terrible incident that got him and his friends suspended, he can get out of writing a report on Shakespeare. Julian jumps at the chance. And so begins his account of life in sixth grade—blowing up homemade fireworks, writing a love letter for his best friend (with disastrous results), and worrying whether he’s still the fastest kid in school. Lurking in the background, though, is the one story he can’t bring himself to tell, the one story his teacher most wants to hear.

Teenagers “The Fall of Five” by Pittacus Lore This is the fourth novel in the New York Times bestselling “I Am Number Four” series by Pittacus Lore. After facing off with the Mogadorian ruler and almost being annihilated, the Garde know they are drastically unprepared and hopelessly outgunned. To defeat their enemy, the Garde must master their Legacies, learn to work together as a team, and discover the truth about the Elders’ plan for them. And when the Garde receive a sign from Number Five, they know they are close to being reunited once more. Could it be a trap? Time is running out, and the only thing they know for certain is they have to get to Five before it’s too late.

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Adults “Someone Could Get Hurt: A Memoir of Twenty-First-Century Parenthood” by Drew Magary No one writes about family quite like Drew Magary. The “GQ” correspondent and “Deadspin” columnist’s stories about trying to raise a family have attracted millions of readers online. And now he’s bringing that unique voice to a memoir. In “Someone Could Get Hurt,” he reflects on his own parenting experiences to explore the anxiety, rationalizations, compromises, and overpowering love that come with raising children in contemporary America. In brutally honest and funny stories, Magary reveals how American mothers and fathers cope with being in over their heads and how stepping back can sometimes make all the difference. It’s a celebration of all the surprises—joyful and otherwise—that come with being part of a real family.

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How to Be in the Bee By Gwen Rockwood There are a few things my oldest boy inherited from me that he’s not crazy about—the smattering of freckles across his nose, pale skin that sunburns when we walk past a running microwave, and feet that stay at subzero temperature. The gene pool can be cruel at times. But perhaps I made up for it a little by passing down my spelling skills. In an age of spell check and auto-correct, spelling is a lost art. But in elementary school, it comes in handy during the annual spelling bee. Adam studied for the spelling showdown for about a week. His little brother, Jack, quizzed him on tricky words, giving him one Skittle candy for every word he spelled correctly on the study sheet. (In our house, Skittles have been unscientifically linked to increased brain power.) On the big day, I wished Adam good luck and told him to take his time while spelling the words. My husband and I took our seats in the auditorium as spellers filed on stage. A teacher explained the rules and then, one by one, each kid took a turn at the microphone. “Cloth,” said the judge when Adam stepped up for his turn. I held my breath and hoped it hadn’t been a mistake to skip over the easier words on the study list. We’d been so concerned about the long words that I hadn’t bothered to quiz him on shorter ones. “C-L-O-T-H,” Adam said slowly and deliberately. “That’s correct,” the judge said, and I exhaled in relief. The rounds continued and the words got much harder. “Provincial,” “recipient,” “flirtatious,” “fantastically,” “recyclable.” One by one, contestants left the stage after hearing the dreaded “ding” of the bell that indicates the word was spelled incorrectly. There were only two kids left standing, and ours was one of them. Adam looked focused and excited. I, on the other hand, could barely stand to watch. And I regretted telling him to take his time as he spelled the words because every time he paused between letters, my breath caught in my throat and my heart stopped for a few seconds as I braced for the wrong letter to dash his hopes. Watching your kid in the final round of a spelling bee is a little like waiting for a bomb to be diffused and hoping like crazy that the right wire gets cut. After several more rounds, the judge called this word out to Adam: “Empirical.” Adam began the word with the letter “I” instead of “E.” The dreaded ding rang out. The other competitor spelled one last championship word to claim the title and the spelling bee was over. But what happened in the next 30 seconds was the best part. As applause filled the room for the winner, Adam walked over to him and shook his hand in a move that made him look much older than his 11 years. It’s the moment I’ll remember most from the spelling 12

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bee—the one where he showed character and goodwill. When my husband and I finally got through the throngs of students and reached out to hug him, that’s what I whispered in his ear, how proud I am of who he is and not just what he can do. Soon 8-year-old Jack walked up to us with tears in his eyes because he’d been rooting so hard for his brother to win. So we assured him this was a great moment and not one for sadness. Because when you do your best and lose with integrity and grace, it is most definitely a “win.” Gwen Rockwood is a syndicated freelance columnist. Her new book, “Reporting Live from the Laundry Pile,” is available on Amazon and at Nightbird Books. Email her at rockwoodfiles@ cox.net or write to her in care of this magazine.

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Kids Who Curse By Rick Epstein

My oldest daughter Marie was about 4 when she said her first dirty word. She’d come in from playing with the neighbor kids and said, “Daddy, Heather called Billy an ____.” It was a vulgar term for a well-known bodily orifice. Long ago, a kid who said a word like that would have her mouth washed out with soap. (The scent of Ivory soap still brings back the taste and feel of those emotionally supercharged scenes of crime and punishment.) Thus an important lesson was learned: Don’t use foul language unless you want a big reaction. Adults universally agreed that bad words were a big deal, so those words had power. I remember at age 9, sitting in the neighbors’ yard with a few contemporaries, holding a whispered discussion on what word was absolutely the dirtiest. One boy nominated the F-word and another favored the S-word. I’d heard both words, of course, and somehow knew that the F-word was the king. What did it mean? Opinions varied. The one kid who offered the correct definition was jeered by the rest of us. Not too long after that, I was in the backyard with my little brother, Jim, who was about 6. We had one of those old snow sleds that are shaped like a contact lens, made of aluminum and measuring about three feet across. I was passing the time by heaving it into the air like a huge Frisbee. It wasn’t going very high—only high enough for little Jim to wander under it. It struck him a stunning blow on the head and he fell to the turf. My heart went out to him in his moment of misfortune. That’s what it was—a misfortune, an accidental twist of fate. But I had a bad record for being the catalyst for these twists. Jim staggered to his feet screaming, “I’m telling Mommy!” “Wait a minute!” I said, gently restraining him. “Jim, if you don’t tell, I’ll teach you the dirtiest word in the entire English language.” He hesitated and then he was mine. “OK,” he said. Really he wouldn’t be giving up much. He’d probably have something else almost as bad to report to Mom within 24 hours. “But first, you have to promise that you’ll never ever say this word,” I said, realizing I could beat a sled-throwing rap only to be convicted of corrupting the morals of a little brother later on. He agreed and I taught him the dreaded F-word. “What’s it mean?” he asked. “I don’t know,” I said, “but it’s very dirty.” Jim was angry. I’d cheated him—a four-letter word, delivered incomplete, without a definition, and even if he could find out what it meant, he had vowed not to use it. Reacting to the uptightness of the old days, my wife and I decided to under-react to bad words. So when Marie used her dirty word, I said casually, “I guess you know that’s not a nice word to say. Right?” “I know,” said Marie, “but I’m only saying what Heather said.” (Only 4 and she’d mastered a fine point of schoolyard law—that quoting a curse word is nowhere near as bad as using one afresh. Luckily she couldn’t cite the landmark case that helped establish this principle—Slackwood Elementary School v. Ricky Epstein.) family

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And that was the end of it, for then anyway. When I was a kid, saying dirty words was considered immoral. It was in a class with assault, theft, and cruelty to animals. But my wife and I made it merely a matter of etiquette. How’d that work out? Marie is 23 now and she hardly ever curses. She’s naturally refined. Her 20-year-old sister Sally, the college girl, curses a lot. She’s naturally crude. Our youngest, Wendy, age 16, never curses around me. I pay her $3 a week not to. A better parent wouldn’t have to do that, but I see it as a touch of household elegance at an affordable price. And what of my little brother? He’s 53 now— and completely out of control. I never should have taught him that word. Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@ yahoo.com.

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By Laurie Neill In mid-August, Kim (not her real name) got off the bus in Moorhead from South Carolina with nowhere to go and three adolescent kids in tow. She was fleeing a domestic abuse situation back home, and each move was one of desperation. She ended up at Churches United for the Homeless in Moorhead. However, there were no beds open. Ann Leuthard, Director of Supportive Services, knew that turning them away was not an option. It is just not safe for women on the street. She found herself asking, and not for the first time: “What in the world are we going to do?” Leuthard has seen her share of people who, for any number of reasons, have found themselves in need of shelter and services. In order to help others understand the scope of the work they do, John Roberts, Director of Shelter Operations, shared a snapshot from one night of shelter life. On August 8, 2013: There are 91 people staying in the shelter. Among the 91 are 13 families. Five of these families do not speak English. Some families are observing Ramadan, a holy Muslim time that involves fasting between sunrise and sunset. At least three of the residents, and perhaps more, are suffering from severe mental health issues. Twentyone are in overflow, and two of those are unaccompanied teenage sisters who are in the U.S. seeking asylum and speak very little English. Several adults are in various stages of recovery from substance use. Some parents are ill-equipped to parent children. A steady stream of community folks comes through for food from the food pantry. An average of 11,000 meals and snacks are prepared at Churches United each month. Roberts says, “Some days bring joy as we see a resident succeed in a manner they

never dreamed possible. Other days we feel agitated and frustrated because we don’t know what to do to help the many who need help.” When asked what keeps him and the rest of the staff going in this roller coaster reality, he readily quotes the mission statement of the shelter: to provide shelter and support in a spiritual setting. “The spiritual setting,” Roberts says, “is defined by our organizational ethics of love, grace, hospitality, and service. That’s what drives us.” While there may be many reasons people find themselves homeless, Leuthard says there are some evident trends. “We see more and more people coming here with little cash, perhaps staying with the friend of a friend—like these three boys from Sacramento who were looking to resettle. They come here because they hear the job market is so good.” But what they don’t always realize is how hard it is to find housing. “In Moorhead, there is a one to two percent vacancy rate on affordable housing, so the reality is that even if they do find housing, they can’t afford it.” Also, because the job market is

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so good, employers can be pickier and scrutinize who they hire. If there are any red flags at all, like a criminal background, it is very hard to get hired. And almost always, people coming to this area looking for work are not prepared for the harshness of winter. The other trend contributing to the rise in the homeless population is what is referred to as “secondary refugees,” families that have resettled in the United States, but their resettlement money and assistance has run out. In the previous two years, only one family came to Churches United as a secondary refugee. To date this year, Churches United has seen five secondary refugee families. Leuthard tells the story of a family from Somalia that got off the plane in Georgia, where they received money and assistance for three months. Once the money was gone, they became desperate. “What we are finding,” says Leuthard, “is that they find themselves with low income and low assistance. Someone tells them to come to Fargo, so they get off the bus here with nowhere to go.” To complicate matters, they often do not speak English or understand how to get around. “It goes beyond just communicating,” says Leuthard. “They need help filling out paperwork, learning the bus schedule, the school system, how to get to the grocery store.” In instances like this, Churches United works closely with Cultural Diversity Resources in Fargo. “Their assistance is tremendous and invaluable.” Issues of poverty, addiction, mental and physical health, landlord problems, criminal history, and limited affordable housing options in our community also contribute to homelessness. “Except for the rare few, no one,” Leuthard points out, “chooses to be homeless.” But Churches United, and other agencies in our community, are committed to helping in any way possible. Leuthard says the emergency overflow aspect of Churches United came about after they were unable to accommodate a woman and her children. One of the staff members ended up driving them to a shelter in Detroit Lakes. “After that,” explains Leuthard, “we started the conversation about emergency overflow. We can’t put

women and children on the streets. Jane [Alexander, Executive Director of Churches United] said, ‘we have a chapel with carpet on the floor and blankets, how can we turn them away?’ After that, we took the pews out of the chapel. We used our board room and computer room as places where people could sleep.” That is where Kim and her three children were sheltered. But emergency overflow is only a temporary solution. What do you do when the emergency becomes the norm? In all likelihood, the homeless situation in Fargo-Moorhead will increase as more and more people come to this part of the country looking for a new start. There is no easy solution. FargoMoorhead is lucky to have agencies, such as Churches United, to look after those who are in such need, but we must remain diligent in our quest to help. “We are the safety net that rests below all the other safety nets to catch the least and the lost of our community, and increasingly from across the world,” says Roberts. “It is not easy work, but it’s work worth doing; not just for the good of those who need it, but for the good of all.” In October, our community will come together in an effort to raise awareness and funds for the homeless population of Fargo-Moorhead through “Homeless & Hungry.” This event strives to give participants a brief experience on what it means to be homeless and hungry. Those involved fast for 24 hours, sleep outside in a cardboard box, collect food and clothing for area shelters, and participate in several educational workshops. Homeless & Hungry involves churches, schools, businesses, and individuals, but is not about denominations, specific organizations, or individuals. This event is about the Church coming together to help “the least of these” (Matthew 25:40). For more information, go to www.fmhomelessandhungry.org. Laurie Neill is the Family Life Pastor at First Lutheran Church.

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“Every time I’m thanked, it makes every second of military service I gave meaningful,” says Devlon “Jamie” Olson of West Fargo, N.D.

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Olson comes from a long line of veterans and says it feels wonderful to be thanked for his service. He served four years in the U.S. Navy as a Petty Officer and was part of Desert Shield and Desert Storm. Olson continues to serve and give back to veterans; he is the Commander of West Fargo VFW Post 7564. Each year, November 11 is set aside to honor and thank our nation’s veterans. This day of celebration, recognized internationally as Remembrance Day, Armed Forces Day, or even Poppy Day, originated in 1918 on the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month when an armistice was declared between the Allied nations and Germany, effectively ending World War I. Initially dubbed Armistice Day, it became a holiday in the United States in 1938, and was intended to honor veterans of World War I. In 1954, President Eisenhower changed “Armistice Day” to “Veterans Day”—a holiday dedicated to honoring American veterans of all wars. Regardless of the name, even 95 years after the original armistice, the important purpose of the day remains the same: to celebrate and honor living veterans for their bravery, patriotism, and willingness to serve. The United States Census Bureau counted nearly 22 million veterans in the United States, including more than 56,000 veterans in North Dakota and nearly 370,000 veterans in Minnesota. Veterans Day is an annual opportunity to express our deepest thanks and respect to these military men and women. Dan Job of Bismarck, N.D., a recent retiree after a 40-year career in the Army and National Guard, has received various special forms of gratitude for his service over the years, both on and off Veterans Day. “There have been many times I’ve been at a restaurant in uniform, both with my family or with other servicemen, and our bill has been paid for. Sometimes it’s been taken care of anonymously, other times strangers will thank me and let me know they paid the bill,” shares Job. “I know there are people who cannot serve. I like to think this is their way of serving, by showing support. It feels good when people recognize our service and sacrifice. Even simple gestures are meaningful.” Surely, we all know, freedom is never free. Military men and women place themselves in dangerous situations; in foreign, often hostile, lands; and put their personal lives on hold. While the majority of Americans are civilians who have never directly experienced war, we all equally enjoy the comforts and blessings of freedom, security, and safety because of the sacrifices of service men and women. On Veterans Day, we celebrate them! A national ceremony takes place in Washington, D.C., at the Tomb of the Unknowns in Arlington National Cemetery, complete with a bugler playing “Taps” and a flag ceremony. Most community VFW posts, American Legion clubs, and AMVETS host flag-raising ceremonies, parades and other festivities. The Red River Valley Veterans Concert Band has a full day of performances throughout Fargo-Moorhead on

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November 11. Their schedule can be found at www.rrvvcb. org/schedule.html. Area businesses offer discounts to veterans. Many churches celebrate with special worship services. Leo Gregoire, Jr., a Navy veteran, and his wife, Mary, have attended Catholic Mass on Veterans Day for the past several years. “We pray for the safety of those who serve and for our country,” says Gregoire. As a Vietnam War vet, Gregoire comes from an era of servicemen who were not initially thanked, or supported, for their service. He says being thanked today means even that much more, and helps make up for not being appreciated then. Gregoire also goes out of his way to thank active military men and women for their service. Job celebrates Veterans Day by participating in community events, visiting the North Dakota Veteran’s Cemetery in Mandan, and talking about “old times” with other veterans and civilians. “Veterans Day is a day to spend with family and remember that all gave some and especially some gave all,” reminds Olson. “I wish everyone would participate at a local military service organization, like AMVETS, American Legion, or the VFW.” There are many ways to thank and support veterans, both on Veterans Day and year-round:

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1. Write letters. Send words of encouragement and thanks to deployed military troops. Through organizations like Operation Gratitude (www.operationgratitude.com) and A Million Thanks (www.amillionthanks.org), you can write notes to currently deployed service members, wounded warriors, and veterans of previous conflicts. 2. Send care packages. Food, books, magazines—these are luxuries to those deployed and far from home. Because of increased security and mail restrictions, the Pentagon asks people to purchase authorized, pre-made care packages. Consider sending a care package through Books For Soldiers (www.booksforsoldiers.com), Any Soldier (www.anysoldier. com), or Operation Homefront Hugs (www.homefronthugs. org). 3. Donate. Give materials and/or make monetary donations to causes and organizations whose proceeds support veterans, active military, and their families, such as the Wounded Warrior Project (www.woundedwarriorproject.org), the North Dakota National Guard Foundation, or the North Dakota Veterans Home. 4. Visit. Don’t forget about veterans in hospitals and nursing homes. Give your time. Ask them to tell you their stories, listen, and express your gratitude. 5. Celebrate! Welcome our troops when they return home. Let them know their sacrifice is appreciated. The Fargo American Legion Color Guard welcomes veterans at Hector International Airport, Fargo. Contact the American Legion to learn when celebrations will take place and how you can participate at (701) 237-4013. 6. Volunteer. Do local veterans need rides to and from doctor appointments? Could the VA hospital or Veterans Home use volunteers? Look for ways to give back to those who have given so much. Both the Fargo VA Medical Center and the North Dakota Veterans Home welcome volunteers. Contact the Fargo VA at (701) 239-3700, Ext. 9-3395, or the North Dakota Veterans Home at (701) 683-6548 to learn about specific volunteer opportunities and assignments. family

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7. Visit memorials. Make a visit to area veteran memorials and honor those who served our country. Check out the Veterans Memorial Bridge on Main Avenue between Fargo and Moorhead, the Veterans Memorial in West Fargo at 9th Street and 17th Avenue, or the All Veterans Centennial Memorial on the state capitol grounds in Bismarck. 8. Decorate. Place flowers and flags on veteran graves. Fly the American flag. Express patriotism while thanking those who serve. 9. Reflect. Even though Veterans Day is primarily a tribute to America’s living veterans, and should be more of a celebration than a somber remembrance, it is always appropriate to observe a moment of silence for those who gave their lives for their country. 10. Say thanks. When you see service men and women in their uniforms, go out of your way to simply say thank you. Be sure to thank their family members for their sacrifices, too. Most military men and women do not join the service for accolades or recognition. However on this one day, Veterans Day, take a moment to celebrate them and offer your heartfelt thanks. Bonnie Oelschlager is a freelance writer, marketer, and proud supporter of our nation’s veterans. She lives in Fargo, N.D., with her husband and two boys.

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Are You a Lousy Tenant? According to the National Multi Housing Council, 32 percent of Americans are renters. Locally, those numbers are higher. Based on the 2010 census, 42 percent of the people in Cass and Clay counties are renters. If you’ve been a great tenant, you’ll reap the benefits. But if you have a blemished past, you could face everything from higher rent to lower credit scores. Let’s look at the pitfalls of being a lousy tenant, and then some tips on how to turn it around. 20

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1. You’ll pay penalties Say you have a problem paying rent on time, and the landlord charges $50 if you are late and $5 for each day you don’t pay up. If you’re four days late, that’s an extra $70. Make that a monthly habit and that’s $840 you’ve thrown away.

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2. You might lose your place If you break your lease, your landlord can evict you, leaving you scrambling for a new place to live—and now with a black mark on your rental history. But even if you aren’t evicted, nothing says your landlord has to let you live there once your lease is up. In many locations, it’s up to the landlord—not you—to renew the lease. If you’ve been a problem tenant, he may not roll out the welcome mat for another go-round.

landlord rent or late fees, he can legally recoup those costs from your security deposit. Instead of getting a check in the mail after you move, you might see an invoice.

5. Hello, lawsuit If the amount you owe the landlord after your move exceeds your security deposit, you could wind up in court. Under landlord and tenant laws, your landlord has the right to sue you in civil court for damage repair and unpaid fees. If the court decides in your landlord’s favor, it will show up on your rental history, and Experian says it will stay on your credit reports for seven years.

3. The rent just went up If your landlord does renew the lease, you could see a jump in your rent. Unless you live in a rent-controlled building, your landlord can raise the rent at the end of every lease, and if you’ve been a problem, she doesn’t have any motivation to keep rent low so you’ll stick around.

6. Finding a new rental will get harder All it takes is Internet access and a small fee for any landlord to read up on your rental history. If a landlord sees past problems, he may deny your application altogether, wasting your time and your application fee. What’s worse: You may not get the apartment you really wanted and have to settle for something else. This could mean a longer commute to work, a crappy apartment, or a sketchy neighborhood.

4. Goodbye, security deposit Your security deposit is refundable if you’ve been a stellar tenant. If you caused damage, didn’t clean up after your move, or left owing your

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And when you do find an apartment, you might pay more than someone else. Some landlords will approve tenants with a spotty past, but they might charge a higher upfront security deposit or raise the rent.

7. Your credit score could take a hit It used to be that your rent payment history would show up in your credit reports only if the landlord sent the debt to collections or won a civil suit against you in court. But in 2011, major credit bureau Experian announced that it was including on-time rental payments gleaned from tenant data service Experian RentBureau in its credit reports if a renter opted in for that. The move was widely hailed as a way for people with thin credit files to build better credit scores—in this case, Experian’s VantageScore. Experian reportedly had planned to begin including late rent payment history in its reports the following year. However, an Experian spokesperson said recently, “We do not incorporate negative rental payments into our

scores.” RentBureau has data on more than 9 million tenants and is seeking to increase the number. Meanwhile, the Chicago Tribune reported last year: Starting March 1 [2012], certain FICO scores will begin to include rent payment data collected by CoreLogic Credco, a specialty credit reporting agency. At first, the new scoring will be available only to mortgage lenders, which check your credit score before approving you for a home loan. But, said Joanne Gaskin, director of product management global scoring at FICO, “In the future we hope to offer something similar to credit card companies and other lenders.” So a rent payment that is more than 30 days late has the potential to hurt your credit score if your landlord reports payment history to a credit bureau or third-party service.

Be a better tenant How do you avoid all this? Being a stellar tenant really isn’t hard. Here are a few pointers: Pay your rent on time. Always pay your rent no later than the due date (or before if you want brownie points). If you’re running late, immediately tell your landlord why and when she can expect payment. Landlords are human; they’ll understand as long as you don’t make a habit of it. Follow the lease. Always read the lease before signing. If you see a rule you don’t think you can—or should have to—follow, find another rental or get the landlord to change it in writing. Once you sign the lease, you are legally expected to follow it. Don’t make changes. Always get written approval from your landlord before you adopt a pet, let your significant other move in, or make changes to the property. Don’t wreck the place. That property is your landlord’s investment. Source: www.moneytalksnews.com Written for Money Talks News by Angela Colley, with Karen Datko contributing.

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Coordinated Cancer Care: From Patient to Survivorship Services

When Kristin Erickson was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, she had a clear goal in mind. The 42-year-old mom, with two teens at home, found a lump in her breast and then tested positive for the gene for breast cancer. Surgery, chemotherapy and radiation would save her life. “I was in fighter mode. I knew I was going to beat this,” says Erickson. “I was not going to let it get me down.” Seamless services Erickson was walked through every step of the process at Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center, where nurse navigators made her appointments and answered questions. The busy mom tried to keep life normal: making it to basketball and soccer games and even working out. And then the treatment was over. Erickson, who had a preventive bi-lateral mastectomy and hysterectomy because of her high, ongoing, genetic risk for cancer, was moving into a new stage of life, which was much less clear. Her body was different. She had thoughts about whether her cancer could possibly come back. She needed help figuring out what was next. “Initially it was, ‘yeah I’m done!’” says Erickson. “But in reality, you realize it’s never done. I’m bald and my fingernails are cracking and my body is deformed and you realize that even when you’re done with treatment, it’s a lifelong thing.” What’s next? For many patients, the real questions arise after their treatment is done, says Sanford Health cancer specialist Dr. Preston Steen. Cancer treatment can

affect a patient’s entire lifestyle and sometimes adjustments need to be made to deal with the “new normal” of life after cancer. “People survive cancer and they’ve had all this support; and suddenly it’s all done,” says Dr. Steen. “Our program offers information about diet, exercise and getting back to normalcy. After cancer, patients need a plan for followup.” From the first diagnosis, Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center doctors take a team approach to cancer. Doctors and nurse navigators work to give patients the information they need and reduce the number of sleepless nights. The next step is survivorship services, the oncologist says. “It’s about coordination of care and consistency of follow-up care,” says Dr. Steen. “We provide those details with depth and take the time to help patients in planning for a future.” Erickson’s team at Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center referred her to their embrace survivorship clinic, making new plans for the next phase of life. She sat down with doctors, physical therapists, social workers and dieticians to figure out what needed to happen in the coming weeks and months. Survivor sessions embrace helped Erickson continue her “seamless” experience of taking treatment into recovery and survivorship. She continues to follow up with doctors for regular checkups and is planning for a breast reconstruction surgery next summer. “For the first time in almost a year, life is getting back to normal,” says Erickson. “There are still physical signs that I went through chemo, but I’m positive and looking to the future.” Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center now offers patients like Erickson additional weekly drop-in sessions offered at no cost to all cancer patients and survivors. Patients have a free

solution to help address those concerns that arise after cancer. Drop in sessions are offered at 11 a.m. on the following days: • Physical Health clinic (facilitated by physical therapist) on the first Thursday of each month • Emotional Health (facilitated by social worker) on the second Thursday of each month • Nutritional Health Clinic (facilitated by Dietician) on the third Thursday of each month • General Health (facilitated by nurse) on the fourth Thursday of each Month. Erickson encourages any cancer patient to take advantage of opportunities for education and support during and after treatment. Throughout her journey with breast cancer, she had plenty of people to lean on and learn from, she said. “We each have to fight our own battles and face what comes our way,” says Erickson. But I have met some of the most amazing people. The kindness of people has touched me in so many ways.”

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Calendar of Events

To include your event in our family-friendly calendar, email shendricksen@TheVillageFamily.org. Deadline for December/January calendar is October 30, 2013 Although we strive to be as accurate as possible, please call ahead to verify information, registration requirements, or event fees. Due to limited space, we are unable to include all submissions.

OCTOBER 2013 EVENTS 10.1 Tuesday • History Education Day. Educational stations with costumed interpreters. 9 a.m.2 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org • “Scenes from Moby Dick.” Presented by FM Opera and Plains Art Museum. 7:30 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-239-4558 (See ad pg. 27) 10.2 Wednesday • History Education Day. Educational stations with costumed interpreters. 9 a.m.2 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org

• Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • “Scenes from Moby Dick.” Presented by FM Opera and Plains Art Museum. Noon, Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-239-4558 (See ad pg. 27) • Under the Streetlamp Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com • “The Laramie Project.” 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/theatre 10.3 Thursday • Farmers’ Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood Park parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org

• “The Laramie Project.” 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/theatre • “Scenes from Moby Dick.” Presented by FM Opera and Plains Art Museum. 7:30 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-239-4558 (See ad pg. 27) 10.4 Friday •B uffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 3-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-4982684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch. com • “The Laramie Project.” 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/theatre

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10.5 Saturday • Star Wars Reads Day. A celebration of literacy and all things Star Wars. Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Fargo Buddy Walk. Join Up With Downs and celebrate all people with Down syndrome. Registration and activities at 9 a.m., walk at 10 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.UpWithDownsFargo.com • Party in the Pumpkin Patch. Decorate pumpkins and create fall crafts. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701-3883309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org • FM Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon-6 p.m., www.fmva.us • Kid Quest: Whale of a Time! Please register two weeks in advance. 1-4 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org (See ad pg. 31) • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. Register at www.ymca.org/ funnights. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo (See ad pg. 33) • “The Laramie Project.” 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/theatre

10.1-10.2 History Education Day at Bonanzaville 10.6 Sunday • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701-3883309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org • FM Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon-6 p.m., www.fmva.us • Autumn Pumpkin Party. 1-3 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • The Rose Ensemble Presents The Roots of Bluegrass. 7 p.m., Glasrud Auditorium, Weld Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 10.7 Monday • MSUM Wind Ensemble. 3 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271

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10.9 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 10.10 Thursday • MSUM All Choirs Concert. 7:30 p.m., Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd, 4000 S. 28th St., Moorhead, 218-477-2271 10.11 Friday • Senior Wellness Fair. 1:30-3:30 p.m., Edgewood Vista, 4440 37th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-365-8200 • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 3-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Think Pink Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Fargo Force vs. Des Moines Buccaneers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “The Dining Room.” Presented by Fargo-Moorhead Community Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.12 Saturday • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701-3883309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org

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• Patrick Bettendorf Author Event. Noon, Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • Hoppin’ Hoedown. 7-9:30 p.m., Roosevelt Gym, 1026 10th St. N., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “The Dining Room.” Presented by Fargo-Moorhead Community Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.13 Sunday • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701-3883309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org • Apple Dumpling Day. 12:30-3:30 p.m., Riverview Place, 5300 12th St. S., Fargo, www.riverviewplace.org • Moorhead Fire Department Open House. 1-4 p.m., Station 1, 1120 1st Ave. N., Moorhead • “The Dining Room.” Presented by Fargo-Moorhead Community Theatre. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org • FM Area Youth Symphony Pops Concert. 7 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-388-4536 or www.fmays.org 10.16 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Identity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records; limit 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 10.17 Thursday • School’s Out Day Camp. Grades K-5. Call for details. 7 a.m.6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Identity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records; limit 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 8 a.m.-1 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Fargo Force vs. Cedar Rapids RoughRiders. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “The Dining Room.” Presented by Fargo-Moorhead Community Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.18 Friday • School’s Out Day Camp. Grades K-5. Call for details. 7 a.m.6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • “The Dining Room.” Presented by Fargo-Moorhead Community Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org

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10.19 Saturday • Crying Hills Antique Show. 9 a.m.5 p.m., Hartl Ag Building, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 • The Big One Art & Craft Fair. 9 a.m.5 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.thebigone.biz • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org • “The Dining Room.” Presented by FargoMoorhead Community Theatre. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.20 Sunday • Suedes Fall Swap Meet. 8:30 a.m.-noon, Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.com • Crying Hills Antique Show. 9 a.m.4 p.m., Hartl Ag Building, RRV Fairgrounds, 1805 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2200 • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • The Big One Art & Craft Fair. 11 a.m.4 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.thebigone.biz • U-Pick Heirloom Pumpkin & Squash Patch. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Probstfield Farm, 11th St. N. & 43rd Ave., Moorhead, 701388-3309 or pumpkin@probstfieldfarm.org • “The Dining Room.” Presented by FargoMoorhead Community Theatre. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org

10.16-10.17 Identity Theft Awareness Shred Day

• Holiday Parent’s Night Out. Ages 6 wks11 yrs. Call 701-364-4166 to register. 5:30-9 p.m., Fercho YMCA, 400 1st Ave. S., Fargo • Halloween Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com

Fri. Oct 25 • 7:30pm Sun. Oct 27 • 2pm 701.239.4558 www.fmopera.org

10.23 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 10.24 Thursday • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre Fargo-Moorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.25 Friday • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 3-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-4982684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com

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• Fargo Force vs. Team USA-18. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre Fargo-Moorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org

Tues. Oct 1 • 7:30pm Wed. Oct 2 • 12:00pm Thurs. Oct 3 • 7:30pm 701.239.4558 www.fmopera.org

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10.25 Friday (continued) • “The Merry Widow.” Presented by FM Opera. 7:30 p.m., Reineke Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-239-4558 or www.fmopera.org (See ad pg. 27) 10.26 Saturday • Step Out: Walk to Stop Diabetes. The American Diabetes Associations’s signature fundraising walk with music, food, and kids’ activities. Registration at 7:30 a.m., walk starts at 9:30 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-234-0123 or www.diabetes.org/stepoutfargo • Boo at the Zoo. Trick-or-treating, educational booths, and animal encounters. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-271-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Not Too Scary Haunted House. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • Children’s Halloween Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • Moonlight Monster Mash. 6:30-9 p.m., Fargo Youth Commission, 2500 18th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • “Twelfth Night.” Presented by Aquila Theatre. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218477-2271 or www.mnstate.edu/perform

• “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre FargoMoorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 10.27 Sunday • Buffalo River Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-6 p.m., 14447 Hwy. 10, Glyndon, Minn., 218-498-2684 or www.buffaloriverpumpkinpatch.com • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre FargoMoorhead. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org • “The Merry Widow.” Presented by FM Opera. 2 p.m., Reineke Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-239-4558 or www.fmopera.org (See ad pg. 27) • Spooktacular Party. 2:30-4:30 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org • P!nk Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com 10.29 Tuesday • University Orchestra Concert. 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 10.30 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com 10.31 Thursday • Not Too Scary Haunted House. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Community Halloween Carnival. 3:30-5:30 p.m., Courts Plus, 3491 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Boo-nanzaville. Haunted Tram Tours on site. 5-11 p.m., Bonanzaville, 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre FargoMoorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org

NOVEMBER 2013 EVENTS 11.1 Friday • Gluten Intolerance Education Conference. 5:30-7:30 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, www.gluten.net • Junior League Jubilee. Tickets available at www.fmjrleague.org/ fundraising/. 7 p.m., The Venue, 2525 9th Ave. S., Fargo • Fargo Force vs. Chicago Steel. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre FargoMoorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org

Disney Live! returns to the Gate City Bank Theatre - FARGODOME!

Tickets start at $15! Sun. NOV. 3

1:30 PM & 4:30 PM

Gate City Bank Theatre - FARGODOME

Buy tickets at www.disneylive.com, inforumtix.com, Gate City Bank Theatre - FARGODOME Box Office or call (855) 694-6367 Regular TIcket Prices: $15 • $20 • $30 VIP • $45 Front Row Additional fees may apply.

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11.2 Saturday • Youth Journeys. Grief support workshop; pre-registration required. 9 a.m.-3:30 p.m., Hospice of the Red River Valley, 1701 38th St. S., Fargo, 701-356-1500 or www.hrrv.org • Gluten Intolerance Education Conference. 10 a.m.-3 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, www.gluten.net • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Kid Quest: Playful Puppets. Please register two weeks in advance. 1-4 p.m., Plains Art Museum, 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org (See ad pg. 31) • Saturday Fun Night. Grades K-6. Register at www.ymca.org/ funnights. 4:30-9:30 p.m., Schlossman YMCA, 4243 19th Ave. S., Fargo (See ad pg. 33)

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• 4 Luv of Dog Rescue Silent Auction & Gala. 7-11 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • Fargo Force vs. Chicago Steel. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce. com • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre Fargo-Moorhead. 7:30 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 11.3 Sunday • “Diary of a Wimpy Kid Book 8” Release Party. Games, activities, and giveaways. Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www.bn.com • Disney Live! Three Classic Fairy Tales. 1:30 p.m. & 4:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com (See ad pg. 28) • “Young Frankenstein.” Presented by Music Theatre Fargo-Moorhead. 2 p.m., The Stage at Island Park, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, www.fmct.org 11.6 Wednesday • American Heart Association National Eating Healthy Day. Sign up for a free toolkit at www.heart.org/ nationaleatinghealthyday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 11.7 Thursday • RDO Caters Taters for Charity. Potato luncheon to benefit Project Ignite Light. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Doublewood Inn, 3333 13th Ave. S., Fargo, www.rdocaterstaters. com • Wags, Whiskers & Wine. Fundraising event for Humane Society FargoMoorhead. 6-9 p.m., NDSU Alumni Center, Fargo, 701-239-0077 11.8 Friday • Bring a Friend Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com 11.9 Saturday • Cystic Fibrosis Holiday Homes of Hope Tour. Tickets available at Hornbacher’s beginning Oct. 1. 701-222-3998 • Pangea: Cultivate Our Cultures. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 (See ad pg. 32) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com

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11.16 FM Derby Girls Season 5 Opening Bout

• Masterworks Concert II. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org 11.10 Sunday • Cystic Fibrosis Holiday Homes of Hope Tour. Tickets available at Hornbacher’s beginning Oct. 1. 701-222-3998 • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com • Zoolute to Soldiers. Free zoo admission for active duty military and veterans. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-271-9240 or www. redriverzoo.org • Happy 24th Birthday, Yunker Farm. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseumyunker.org • Masterworks Concert II. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-478-3676 or www.fmsymphony.org 11.11 Monday • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com • School’s Out Day Camp. Grades K-5. Call for details. 7 a.m.-6 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-3658868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com • Hooray for Veterans & Their Families! Free admission for all veterans and their families. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org

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11.12 Tuesday • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com 11.13 Wednesday • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com 11.14 Thursday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com 11.15 Friday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com • “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com 11.16 Saturday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com

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11.21 Thursday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •M SUM Jazz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Glasrud Auditorium, Weld Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 11.22 Friday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •P ride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 4-9 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.prideofdakota.com • Thanksgiving Food Drive Open Gym. Ages 5-14. 7-8:30 p.m., TNT Kid’s Fitness, 2800 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-365-8868 or www.tntkidsfitness.com •F argo Force vs. Omaha Lancers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com • “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com 11.19 Lady Antebellum at Fargodome

11.16 Saturday (continued) • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • FM Derby Girls Season 5 Opening Bout. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.fmderbygirls.com • FM Chamber Chorale: British Choral Music. 7:30 p.m., Gethsemane Episcopal Cathedral, 3600 25th St. S., Fargo, www.fmchamberchorale.org • “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com 11.17 Sunday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • 2014 U.S. Olympic Team Trials for Curling. Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, www.2014usacurlingtrials.com • Art-Mania. Ages 6-12. 1-3 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West

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Fargo, 701-433-5360 or www.wfparks.org •4 Luv of Dog Rescue “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 or www.4luvofdog.org • “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 2:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com 11.18 Monday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org 11.19 Tuesday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •L ady Antebellum Concert. 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 or www.fargodome.com 11.20 Wednesday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com

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11.23 Saturday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •P ride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.prideofdakota.com •C hildren’s Thanksgiving Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or www. bn.com • “Swashbuckled! A Pirate Adventure.” Presented by MSUM Children’s Theatre. 1 p.m. & 4 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2267 or evertel@mnstate.edu • “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 7:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com •M SUM Percussion Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Glasrud Auditorium, Weld Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 11.24 Sunday •F raser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org •P ride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 11 a.m.-4 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, www.prideofdakota.com

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• “Joseph & The Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” Presented by West Fargo High School Theatre. 2:30 p.m., West Fargo High School, 801 9th St. E., West Fargo, 701-499-1971 or www.westfargotheatre.com 11.25 Monday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org 11.26 Tuesday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • City of Moorhead Tree Lighting. Listen to the Moorhead High School Carolers and watch as we turn on the lights for the official city tree. 5 p.m., Memorial Park, 8th St. & 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-2995340 or www.moorheadparks.com • Holiday Lights Parade. Downtown Fargo-Moorhead, www.downtownfargo.com 11.27 Wednesday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com

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• Fargo Force vs. Team USA-17. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce. com 11.28 Thursday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org 11.29 Friday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Cookies with the Claus Family. Sleigh rides, Games Galore, art, and more. 1-4 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org 11.30 Saturday • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes & Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701281-1002 or www.bn.com • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, toys, or cash. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks. com • Fargo Force vs. Dubuque Fighting Saints. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-7656 or www.fargoforce.com

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Call or visit the library for more information. Pre-registration may be required. Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1472 or www.fargolibrary.org • Weekly Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Registration required. Call for details • Chess Club. Open to players of all levels. Thursdays, 5:30-8:30 p.m. • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). Oct. 3 & 17, Nov. 7, 6:30 p.m. • Jazz into Fall Concert: Mary Marshall Trio. Oct. 6, 2 p.m. • Blue Plate Special: Storytime for Adults. Bring a bag lunch. Oct. 9 & Nov. 13, 12:15-12:45 p.m. • Science for Teens. Oct. 10, 4:30 p.m. • Community Baby Shower. New and expectant parents can learn tips about reading to babies and early literacy. Oct. 12, 10 a.m. • PAWS for Reading. Grades K-6. Registration required. Oct. 12 & Nov. 9, 1 p.m. • Jazz into Fall Concert: Nat Dickey & Friends. Oct. 13, 2 p.m. • Lemony Snicket Book Club. Grades 3-6. Registration required. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 4 p.m.

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Fargo Public Main Library (continued) • The Biology of Scary Stuff. Teens and adults invited to learn about vampires, zombies, and other scary stuff. Oct. 15, 7 p.m. • National Fossil Day. All ages invited to learn about fossils. Oct. 16, 6:30 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 17, 11 a.m. • Star Wars Party. Kids and teens of all ages invited to a Star Wars-themed reading event with crafts, trivia, and activities. Oct. 18, 1 p.m. • Saturday Storytime. Oct. 19 & Nov. 14, 10 a.m. • Jazz into Fall Concert: Jazz Nickel. Oct. 20, 2 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Oct. 24, Nov. 7 & 21, 4:30 p.m. • Jazz into Fall Concert: Christopher Hanson Jazz Quartet. Oct. 27, 2 p.m. • Superstition: Ghost Stories for Grown-ups. Costumes encouraged. Oct. 29, 7 p.m. • International Games Day. Teens and kids welcome to play games from all over the world. Nov. 2, 2-4 p.m. • Veterans Day Celebration with the 188th Army Band Brass Quintet. Nov. 10, 2 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details

10.12 Patrick Bettendorf “Ruby’s Tale” Book Signing at Barnes & Noble

pangea Cultivate Our Cultures Food

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Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-476-4026 or www.fargolibrary.org • Weekly Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Registration required. Call for details • Saturday Storytime. Oct. 5 & Nov. 2, 10 a.m. • Northport Classic Book Club. Oct. 16 & Nov. 20, 6:30 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 17, 4 p.m.

10 am - 4 pm

Admission is FREE Hjemkomst Center 202 1st Ave N Moorhead, MN 56560

This activity is made possible by the voters of Minnesota through grants from the Minnesota State Arts Board and the Lake Region Arts Board, thanks to a legislative appropriation from the arts and cultural heritage fund.

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Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or www.fargolibrary.org • Weekly Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Registration required. Call for details • Baby Rhyme Time. Lapsit storytime for babies (birth-18 mos). Oct. 3 & 17, Nov. 7, 10 a.m. • Tea Time Book Club. Oct. 6 & Nov. 3, 2 p.m. • Science for Teens. Registration required. Oct. 8, 4:30 p.m. • Free Friday Movie. Oct. 11 & Nov. 8, 1 p.m. • Saturday Storytime. Oct. 12 & Nov. 2, 10 a.m. • Unraveled Crafters Club. Oct. 13 & 27, Nov. 10 & 24, 1 p.m. • Pumpkin Decorating. Please bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 17, 2 p.m. • Magic Tree House Book Club. Grades 1-4. Registration required. Oct. 20 & Nov. 17, 2 p.m. • Teen Crafts. Registration required. Oct. 22, Nov. 5 & 19, 4:30 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details

West Fargo Public Library 109 3rd St. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5460 or www.westfargolibrary.org • Children’s Simply Stories. Tuesdays, 10:15 a.m. • Storytime with Craft. For preschoolers and their caretakers. Tuesdays, 1:30 p.m.; Thursdays (except Nov. 28), 6:30 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group; bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Friday Morning Movies. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Genealogy Saturdays. A staff genealogist will be available. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m. • Saturday New Release Movies. Call for titles. Oct. 26, Nov. 9 & 23, 2 p.m.

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• Read to a Dog! Please pre-register. Oct. 10, 6:30-7:30 p.m. • Friends of the Library Book Sale. Members only sale Oct. 11, 4-5:30 p.m.; sale open to the public Oct. 12, 10 a.m.-4 p.m. & Oct. 13, 1-4 p.m. • Author Cory Perala. Oct. 12, 10:30 a.m.-3 p.m. • Time for Magic! Oct. 17, 6:30 p.m. • Teacups Book Club. Open to all adults. Oct. 14 & Nov. 18, 7 p.m. • Thank a Veteran: Make Veterans Day Cards. Supplies provided. Cards will be given to Veterans Hospital residents. Nov. 7, 6:30-8 p.m. • How to Put Your Garden to Bed. Nov. 14, 7 p.m. • 6th Annual Caramel Apple Day. Open to all while supplies last. Nov. 15, 4-5 p.m. • Homework Center. Grades 1-8. Mon.-Thurs., 3-5:30 p.m. on days school is in session • Tech/Computer Classes. Call or stop in to register Moorhead Public Library 118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or www.larl.org • Open Computer Practice. Mondays, 2 p.m. • Origami Club. Mondays, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime Plus. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime. Wednesdays, 10:30 a.m. • Baby Bounce. For parents and babies (up to age 2). Thursdays, 10 a.m. • Author Steve Grineski. Oct. 1, 7 p.m. • Wii Wednesday. Oct. 2 & Nov. 6, 6 p.m. • Storyland Grand Opening. Ages 2-8. Oct. 5, 10 a.m. • The “Not So Silent” Auction. Wine tasting, live music, book sale, and silent auction. Please pre-register. Oct. 5, 7 p.m. • Affordable Care Act Public Information Session. Oct. 7, 4 p.m. • Sean Emery. Oct. 8., 10 a.m. • Lego Club. Oct. 10 & Nov. 14, 6 p.m.; Oct. 26 & Nov. 23, 2 p.m. • Make It Yourself. Please pre-register. Oct. 10 & Nov. 14, 7 p.m. • Classics Book Club. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 7 p.m. • Mary Shideler. Oct. 17, 7 p.m. • Adult Book Club. Oct. 17 & Nov. 21, 7 p.m. • Saturday Matinee Movie. Oct. 19, 2 p.m. • Yell in the Library. Teens: Play games, have snacks, volunteer, plan events, and more! Oct. 21 & Nov. 18, 7 p.m. • Minnesota Railroads with Steve Glischinski. Oct. 24, 7 p.m. • Model Train Days. Oct. 26 & 27 • Kevin Bowe. Oct. 31, 2 p.m. • Dangerous Literature: Books that Challenge Authority. Nov. 5, 7 p.m. • ‘Minnesota’s Gangster Past – Land of 10,000 Crimes’ with Chad Lewis. Nov. 7, 7 p.m. • Storyland Adventures: Explore the World of Spot. Nov. 9, 10 a.m. • Computer Classes. Call for details

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Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Super Science Saturdays • Yunkie Club Early Childhood Family Education (See ad pg. 26) Classes for infants to kindergarten entry. Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S., Moorhead, 218-284-3400 or https://communityed.moorhead.k12.mn.us • Baby Connection • Curious Cruisers • Down on the Farm

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• Dynamic Discoverers • Family Fun • Family Fun with Little Ones • Fun with Science • Let’s Play School • Little Chefs • Music, Music, Music • Ones & Twos • Wonderful, Wobbly Ones • Wonders of Science Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or www.essentiahealth.org • Breastfeeding Class • Car Seat Safety • Great Expectations • Lamaze • Mom’s Helpers • Tender Transitions FM Ambulance 701-364-1758 or www.fmambulance.com • BLAST Babysitting Course • First Aid • Heartsaver CPR/AED FMCT Children’s Studio Theatre 701-235-6778 or www.fmct.org Fargo Park District 701-499-7788 or www.fargoparks.com • Create & Explore • Penny & Pals Workshop • Teen Art – Wood Working

Parents enjoy a night out

while the kids join us at the YMCA for climbing, gym games, XerZones and more!

SATURDAY FUN NIGHTS!

Fall/Winter 2013 - 2014 Dates: October 5 November 2 December 7 & 14 January 4 February 1 & 8 March 1 April 5

Time: 4:30 - 9:30 p.m. | Grades K - 6 Member Fee: $18 Non-Member Fee: $25 14 & Location: Schlossman YMCA | Fercho YMCA ( Dec. Feb. 8 only )

To Register Call 701.293.9622 or www.ymcacassclay.org/funnights Clip this out, hang it on your fridge, & schedule your nights out!

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Red River Zoo 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or www.redriverzoo.org • Pint-Sized Explorers • ZooVentures

10.5-10.6 FM Visual Artists Studio Crawl Art by Punchgut (Crawl #36)

Sanford Health Community Education 1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-234-5570, 877-234-4240 or www.sanfordhealth.org • Baby Signs • Baby’s First Ride • Better Choices, Better Health Workshop • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • C.A.R.S. (Children & Restraint Systems) • Family & Friends CPR • Infant Massage • Labor – What to Expect • Lamaze • Our Family is Having a Baby • Safe & Sound – Preparing Your Home for Baby U of M Extension 218-236-2005 • Parents Forever The Village Financial Resource Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 or www.HelpWithMoney. org • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education

Fraser, Ltd. 2902 University Dr. S., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or www.fraserltd.org • Infant/Child & Adult CPR/First Aid

MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS

Girl Scouts Dakota Horizons 701-293-7915 or www.gsdakotahorizons.org. Non-members welcome • Science, Technology, Engineering & Mathematics Event

Cass County Museum 1351 W. Main Ave., West Fargo, 701-282-2822 or www.bonanzaville.org

Healing Arts Chiropractic, PC 3240 15th St. S., Suite C, Fargo, 701-451-9070 • How to Stay Young the First 100 Years Hospice of the Red River Valley 1701 38th St. S., Fargo, 701-356-1500 or www.hrrv.org • Youth Journeys Moorhead Community Education 218-284-3400 or https://communityed.moorhead.k12.us Music-n-Play www.music-n-play.com • Parent & Child Music Classes Plains Art Museum (See ad pg. 31) 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • Kid Quest • Youth & Adult Art Experiences Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or www.ag.ndsu.edu/casscountyextension/home-and-family • How Much is Enough? • Nurtured Heart Approach • Parents Forever

YMCA 701-293-9622, 701-281-0126 or www.ymcacassclay.org • Healthy Family Home

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Call for additional information.

Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or www.fargoairmuseum. org Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or www.hcscconline.org • Prairie Daughters: The Art and Lives of Annie Stein & Orabel Thortvedt • The Vikings: Master Mariners, Traders, Colonists MSUM Art Gallery Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 701-388-6512 or schliesman@mnstate.edu • BA/BS Exhibition. Ends Oct. 17 Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-551-6100 or www.plainsart.org • FMVA Studio Crawl Preview. Ends Oct. 7 • Wing Young Huie: Hidden Fargo in Plain Sight • T.L. Solien: Toward the Setting Sun • Kim Bromley: The Moby Dick Series The Rourke Art Museum & Gallery Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-236-8861 or www.therourke.org • Molly Yergens: Wandering & Wondering: Painting the Nature of Spacial Experience. Ends Oct. 27

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7th Annual Wine & Dine November 15, 2013

Life isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t easy for many of the children in our community, and the proceeds from Wine and Dine impact the lives of children in a positive way through Big Brothers Big Sisters and Nokomis Child Care Centers, both programs of The Village Family Service Center. This yearâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Wine and Dine is sold out, but you can help by donating Silent Auction items or making a cash donation for the 7th Annual Wine & Dine at the Fargo Holiday Inn, Friday, November 15. Your Silent Auction item/cash donation will help strengthen our community by strengthening the lives of individual children, right here, right now. Call Jenny at The Village Family Service Center at 701-451-4957 to make your donation.

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By Kelsy Johnson

s a health-conscious consumer, it is wise to know the facts about protein in order to make better dietary decisions. While the food industry would like us to think we are not getting enough on a daily basis, protein deficiency is nearly nonexistent in the American diet. A wide variety of foods contain protein. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the list includes: • meats, poultry, and fish • legumes (dry beans and peas) • tofu • eggs • nuts and seeds • milk and milk products • grains, some vegetables, and some fruits (provide only small amounts relative to other sources)

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What is protein?

Protein is an essential nutrient found in every human cell. The body uses protein to build and repair bones, muscles, cartilage, and blood. When a person consumes protein, the body breaks it down into amino acids. Animal protein sources such as meat, poultry, fish, and dairy are considered complete proteins because they have all the essential amino acids the body cannot produce on its own. Most plant-based proteins like grains, seeds, nuts, and legumes contain some, but not all, of the essential amino acids, so they are called incomplete proteins. Those who follow a vegetarian diet can still get all their essential amino acids by eating a broad variety of plant-based proteins. villagefamilymag.org

How much do I need?

Opinions about how much protein a person requires and the best sources vary. Every diet plan, fitness magazine, bodybuilder, nutritional chart, and health guru has different guidelines. Since so many foods contain protein, adults eating a varied diet don’t have a problem consuming an adequate quantity. In general, the CDC suggests the average woman should have 46 grams of protein daily and the average man, 56 grams. For reference, a three-ounce piece of meat typically contains 21 grams of protein. A glass of milk has eight grams. An eight-ounce portion of October/November 2013

yogurt has 11 grams and a cup of dry beans has 16 grams. Portion sizes are a lot smaller than what most people think. Three ounces of meat is about the size of a deck of cards. That’s tiny compared to the size of a steak or a burger you might order at a restaurant. “An eight-ounce steak is more [protein] than I need in an entire day, and I’m consuming it in a single meal,” says Nikki Johnson, a licensed registered dietician for the Cass County Youth Nutrition Program. Certain groups, including athletes, pregnant women, and nursing women, require more protein. For athletes, the amount needed varies by activity level, length of the workout, and frequency. Paul Bekkum, owner of All Seasons Full Body Chiropractic Clinic, says athletes who do not eat enough protein notice the side effects in terms of performance and recovery. One of the first indicators of poor protein levels Bekkum notices as a chiropractor is fibrosis, a condition where connective tissue forms knot-like adhesions in place of muscle fibers. The result is usually restricted range of motion and slower recovery time after exercise. “Athletes are going to notice it the most,” Bekkum says. “They’re going to have muscle soreness and they’re not going to make gains.” Pregnant and nursing women need additional protein— somewhere from 10 to 20 grams more. The increased protein helps build and repair tissues in both mother and child. Vegetarians and vegans also have special protein recommendations. While meat sources include all of the essential amino acids the body requires, most plant-based proteins do not. It takes careful planning and a variety of healthy foods to ensure that all the essential amino acids are present in a vegetarian diet.

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Children and protein

Children don’t require as much protein as adults to maintain a healthy diet. The CDC’s recommendation:

Children ages 1 – 3 Children ages 4 – 8 Children ages 9 – 13 Girls ages 14 – 18 Boys ages 14 – 18

Grams of protein needed each day 13 19 34 46 52

When children go through picky eating phases, parents worry they are not getting enough protein or other nutrients. Johnson says that almost every child gets plenty of protein, regardless of their diet. “Even if a child were to be drinking their recommended amount of milk in a day, they would be just fine,” Johnson says. A child who won’t eat meat, for example, might not have the most balanced diet, but she probably gets enough protein from non-meat sources like milk or grains.

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Since protein plays such an important role in maintaining the body’s many functions, its popularity is no surprise. Touted as a key ingredient for weight loss, muscle gain, appetite suppression, and energy sustainment, protein seems to have it all. Continued on page 40

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Tacos two ways:

featuring animal-based protein or plant-based protein.

Ground Beef Tacos

1 lb. lean ground beef 1 medium onion, finely chopped 2 teaspoons chili powder 1 teaspoon cumin ½ teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon pepper ½ teaspoon garlic powder 1 cup salsa taco shells shredded lettuce chopped tomato shredded cheddar cheese sour cream

In a large nonstick skillet, sauté ground beef and onion over medium heat until meat is no longer pink; drain. Stir in chili powder, cumin, salt, pepper, garlic powder, and salsa. Mix thoroughly. Reduce heat to low; cover and simmer 6-10 minutes. Fill taco shells with beef mixture, top with cheese, lettuce, tomatoes, and sour cream.

Lentil Tacos

1 cup dried lentils, rinsed 1 clove garlic, minced 1 cup onion, chopped 1 teaspoon olive oil 1 heaping tablespoon chili powder 2 teaspoons ground cumin ½ teaspoon dried oregano 2½ cups vegetable broth 1 cup salsa taco shells shredded lettuce chopped tomato shredded cheddar cheese sour cream In a large nonstick skillet, sauté the onion and garlic in oil over medium heat until tender. Add the lentils, chili powder, cumin, and oregano. Stir well for one minute. Add broth. Bring mixture to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 30 minutes. Check for tenderness. Add water if needed and continue cooking until the lentils are tender. Remove cover. Cook for 6-8 minutes more or until mixture is thickened. Mash lentils slightly. Stir in salsa and heat through. Fill taco shells with lentil mixture, top with cheese, lettuce, tomatoes, and sour cream.

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Following the CDC guidelines of 46 grams for women and 56 grams for men, how easy is it to get the proper amount of protein daily? We asked two women (one vegetarian, one not) and one man to give us a list of all the foods they ate in one day. Then, we calculated grams of protein.

Female #1

Female #2

Male

Snack: Fruit

Snack: Dry cereal

Lunch: Gluten-free burrito with vegetables

Lunch: Cheese slices with tomato on rice crackers

Lunch: Spaghetti with ground beef and tomato sauce, garlic bread

Snack: Cheese stick, gluten-free crackers

Snack: Grapes

Breakfast: Greek yogurt with fruit and flax meal, juice, coffee

Dinner: Gluten-free pasta with chick peas and vegetables, milk, frozen yogurt bar

Breakfast: Oatmeal with brown sugar, coffee

Dinner: Steak, potato with sour cream, zucchini Protein tally: 79 grams

Breakfast: Dry cereal with soy milk

Dinner: Two cheeseburgers on buns, grapes Beverage: Raspberry tea Protein tally: 95 grams

Snack: Cottage cheese on rice cakes Protein tally: 70 grams

Continued from page 38 Several weight loss programs emphasize high protein and low carbohydrates. Athletes and active adults are also encouraged to eat lots of protein to build and repair muscles. In response, the general population believes they need more of this essential nutrient in their diets, which can lead to increased consumption of unhealthy amounts of fat and calories. The grocery industry is making a fortune off our unfounded fears that we are somehow protein deficient. According to research firm Mintel, 19 percent of new food and drink items released in 2012 made high-protein claims. Health food marketing is exploding as companies recognize that protein-enriched products sell. Research shows consumers browse nutrition labels for protein content before they make a purchase. For example, the Special K brand connects protein to weight loss through a variety of products like bars, cereal, and even flavored water. The market has seen an influx in these kinds of foodstuffs. Walk through the dairy section at the grocery store and see the explosion of Greek yogurts taking over the traditional

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varieties with the words “more protein” emblazoned on their labels. Naomi Hass, a licensed registered dietician at Sanford Health, has noticed a rise in concern about protein. “Our American culture wants to find a new fix or a new culprit,” Hass says. “It’s a new buzzword. Protein is on people’s minds as a health food.” Unfortunately, these fortified products are not as healthy as natural food for a couple of reasons. First, while they may contain all the essential amino acids as meat, they usually don’t have the variety of vitamins and minerals. “If people are going to rely on these sources, they are going to miss out on zinc, iron, fatty acids, and vitamin B12,” Hass says. Because of the lack of nutrients, Hass suggests this category of food should be treated as a supplement. The second reason why food with added protein might not be the best choice is that many of these options are loaded with extra calories. Parents may be tempted to purchase protein-fortified snacks for their young athletes. Shakes and bars even come in kid-friendly versions. In general, these items are costlier and higher in calories than villagefamilymag.org

natural food. Some meal-replacement protein bars exceed 300 calories. For children, that’s too much for a quick snack, Johnson says. Young athletes benefit from a snack filled with carbohydrates and protein to aid muscle recovery, but Johnson and Hass recommend a glass of chocolate milk for a post-workout drink rather than a nutrition shake. It’s cheaper and contains fewer calories.

Keep it real

The best protein options come from their natural state in animal and plantbased forms. While processed products may be convenient, a serving of beans or a chicken breast will give you more nutrients for fewer calories and less money than a protein-fortified food. Getting your daily protein from a variety of plant-based and animal sources ensures you are receiving the essential amino acids, vitamins, and minerals necessary for a balanced diet. Kelsy Johnson works as a nonprofit and freelance writer in Fargo. She divides her time between her two passions: storytelling and martial arts. family

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By Laura Amann My nephew can stick 12 French fries up his nose. My daughter’s friend regularly hangs up the phone on her mother, and my son’s buddy refuses to play if he doesn’t win at Mario Kart. But my children seem to raise the most eyebrows. Their issue? They are shy. I have raised four (formerly) shy kids. They all cried at preschool. They all quivered at the word “babysitter.” None of them could look an adult in the eye until about age 8, much less answer a question. I’ve peered reassuringly through a doorway at ballet class while holding a baby on my lap. I’ve sat in the preschool hallway waving at my 3-year-old. I’ve perched on a rickety stool and given the thumbs-up during piano lessons. But I’ve also learned that with steady perseverance and encouragement, my children eventually gain the confidence and assurance they need. Their shyness didn’t last forever. We live in a time where kids are encouraged to be assertive, strong, and outgoing. These are wonderful traits to have, but it’s also important to remember that some people are naturally just more quiet, bashful, or hesitant. “Shy” shouldn’t be a bad word. Based on comments I hear, I think many parents feel quiet children must be pitied while outspoken kids are to be lauded. “Don’t be shy,” parents admonish their children when the kids clam up before a stranger or in an unfamiliar situation. Are they really being shy? Or just sizing up the unknown? Now, I have nothing against rambunctious, crazy kids. My husband comes from a family of daring and outgoing siblings. The stories of their wild antics growing up are one of the things that makes me love them. But shy kids are a concept they have trouble understanding. 42

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Happy Thanksgiving from The Village Family Magazine!

The differences between our families came to a head in the middle of a family vacation. My husband and I were being pressured to put our kids in all-day ski school. We struggled between the allure of a few cherished hours of freedom on the slopes and the fear that the kids would most likely be miserable. Eventually, we were coerced into doing it and it was a disaster. My son and daughter never even made it out of the lodge and onto the slopes. When we came to pick them up, my son lay crumpled on the dirty floor where my daughter watched over him, tear-stained. My mother-in-law was astounded. “What is so hard about it? I mean, why can’t they just stay inside and color then? What is so hard about just coloring?” She didn’t intend to be cruel, but she simply could not grasp the challenges that new situations pose to shy children. The funny thing is, once I changed my mindset and stopped forcing my kids to do things they didn’t want to do, our struggles subsided. I worked with what I’d been given. Too scared of ballet? Let’s wait. Crying at the thought of a playdate? Just hang out with the siblings then. We all relaxed. Shy or outgoing, all children have issues. We all have issues. Most of the time, we grow out of them. Not always, of course; that’s what makes the world such an interesting place. My 8-yearold daughter recently came home with a project asking her to list three things that describe her. “I like to read, I’m a good friend, and I’m shy,” she proudly wrote. No apologies necessary. Laura Amann is a freelance writer whose four children exhibit varying degrees of social assertiveness. family

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ADOPTION

TEEN BEHAVIOR

Director Adoption Option The Village Family Service Center

Family Program Coordinator ShareHouse-Genesis

Sheila Kapaun, LADC

Sue Grundysen, MSW

Our daughter, now 18 months, came home from the hospital with us, and has become so much a part of our everyday life, sometimes I forget she is adopted. What is a good age to begin telling her the story of her adoption?

Children who join their family through the adoption process need to understand a couple basic points: • She grew in someone else’s tummy; and • Her place in your home is permanent. Obviously there is a lot in the middle to fill in, but those are the details that can be expanded upon as she grows. Books, music, baby albums, videos, and television are great ways for parents to bring up the subject of adoption. In those early years it is more about you practicing and becoming comfortable in sharing her story with her, than it is her understanding. If you are comfortable sharing her adoption story with her, she is more likely to bring the topic up when she has questions or thoughts to share. November is National Adoption Awareness Month. Adoption Option 1-800-627-8220 www.lssnd.org www.TheVillageFamily.org

does family participation in the addict’s Q:How treatment impact ongoing recovery?

As we have learned, addiction is an illness that affects not only the addict/alcoholic, but the entire family system. Denial is a strong defense mechanism and, unless it is broken, the addict may never realize the severity and significance of their illness and the family dysfunction. During the treatment process, family members share documentation in a supportive and non-judgmental way by outlining the impact addiction has had on them. This breaks the silence and breaks the grip of addiction on their lives. Often we hear from recovering addicts/alcoholics that they recall the memory of their family’s sharing to encourage their continued growth and recovery. ShareHouse offers a family education program that meets weekly. It is open to the public for families that have questions and/or need support. You can call me with any questions at 701-478-8440. There is no charge for participation in the family education program. ShareHouse, Inc. 701-282-6561 www.ShareHouse.org

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Yum, Yum, Yummy Dessert

Crafty Wooden Letters • Wooden letters of your choice (available at craft stores) • Scrapbook paper • Scissors • Paint • Mod Podge (glossy or matte) • Sponge brushes • Ribbon, embellishments • Hot glue gun

Step 1: Choose wooden letters to make whichever word or name you like. Lay a sheet of scrapbook paper face down on flat surface. Flip wooden letter upside down and trace around letter with a pencil. Repeat with each letter. Cut the traced letters from scrapbook paper (try to cut just inside the traced line so paper will not overlap wood). Step 2: Use a sponge brush to paint a thick layer of Mod Podge onto the front side of letters. Carefully line up the paper letter on top of the wooden letter and smooth down over the Mod Podge. Let dry. Step 3: When the letters are covered in paper, use sponge brush to paint over the top of the paper with Mod Podge. Apply two coats, allowing to dry between coats. Step 4: Paint the sides of the wooden letters and blend a bit of paint into the edges of scrapbook paper.

1 14.3-oz. package regular Oreo cookies 6 Tbsp. butter, melted 1 8-oz. package cream cheese, softened ¼ cup granulated sugar 2 Tbsp. cold milk 2 8-oz. tubs frozen whipped topping, thawed 2 3.9 oz. packages chocolate fudge instant pudding 3¼ cups cold milk 1 7-oz. Hershey bar Crush the entire package of Oreo cookies into fine crumbs and place in large bowl. Stir in the melted butter until well distributed. Press the crumb mixture into the bottom of a 9x13 inch baking dish. Place in refrigerator. Mix the cream cheese with a mixer until light and fluffy. Add 2 tablespoons milk, ¼ cup sugar, and mix well. Stir in one 8-ounce tub of whipped topping. Spread cream cheese mixture over the Oreo crust, return to the refrigerator. Combine the two packages of instant pudding with the 3¼ cups milk. Whisk for several minutes until pudding begins to set. Spread the pudding over the cream cheese mixture. Grate half of the Hershey bar over the pudding layer. Spread the second tub of Cool Whip over the chocolate shavings. Finish off the final whipped cream layer with more chocolate shavings. Freeze for one hour to set or refrigerate for 5-6 hours.

Step 5: Finish with a final coat of Mod Podge if desired. Use a hot glue gun to add ribbon and other decorations. (Photos courtesy Amy Scoville) Kyle, Age 3

Fall Leaves • Clear contact paper • Tissue paper (red, yellow, orange, brown) • Scissors Cut two pieces of contact paper about 6x8 inches. Remove protective backing from one of the pieces and lay contact paper on the table, sticky side up. Tear tissue paper into pieces and place them onto the sticky side of contact paper. When the contact paper is covered with tissue paper, use the other rectangle of contact paper to cover the tissue paper. Use a pattern or free-hand cut a leaf shape from the rectangle. (Submitted by: Toddler II Room at Nokomis I)

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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom

Life is no “brief candle” to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations. —George Bernard Shaw

A foot has no nose

Of the many interactions I had with my mother those many years ago, one stands out with clarity. I remember the occasion when mother sent me to the main road, about twenty yards away from the homestead, to invite a passing group of seasonal work-seekers home for a meal. She instructed me to take a container along and collect dry cow dung for making a fire. I was then to prepare the meal for the group of work-seekers. The thought of making an open fire outside at midday, cooking in a large three-legged pot in that intense heat, was sufficient to upset even an angel. I did not manage to conceal my feelings from my mother and, after serving the group, she called me to the veranda where she usually sat to attend to her sewing and knitting. Looking straight into my eyes, she said “Tsholofelo, why did you sulk when I requested you to prepare a meal for those poor destitute people?” Despite my attempt to deny her allegation, and using the heat of the fire and the sun as an excuse for my alleged behavior, mother, giving me a firm look said, “Lonao ga lo na nko.” “A foot has no nose.” It means: You cannot detect what trouble may lie ahead of you. Had I denied this group of people a meal, it may have happened that, in my travels sometime in the future, I found myself at the mercy of those very individuals. As if that was not enough to shame me, mother continued, “Motho ke motho ka motho yo mongwe.” The literal meaning: “A person is a person because of another person.” Source: “African Wisdom” by Ellen K. Kuzwayo

My heart is drumming in my chest so hard it aches, but it’s the good kind of ache, like the feeling you get on the first real day of autumn, when the air is crisp and the leaves are all flaring at the edges and the wind smells just vaguely of smoke—like the end and the beginning of something all at once. —Lauren Oliver Role modeling is the most basic responsibility of parents. Parents are handing life’s scripts to their children, scripts that in all likelihood will be acted out for the rest of the children’s lives. —Stephen R. Covey

People who have attained things worth having in this world have worked while others idled, have persevered when others gave up in despair, have practiced early in life the valuable habits of self-denial, industry, and singleness of purpose. As a result, they enjoy later in life the success so often erroneously attributed to good luck. —Grenville Kleiser 46

October/November 2013

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