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Pop singer Sheryl Crow says it well when she sings “A Change Would Do You Good.” It’s a song that’s been stuck in my head for several weeks now, ever since I officially decided to resign as editor of The Village Family Magazine. “They,” meaning wellness experts, psychologists, and other life coaches, believe change makes you stronger, diversifies your way of life, and keeps you from getting stuck in the same old routines. “They” sure are smart. Unlike some people, who are so wary of change they’ve been eating the same flavor Pop Tarts every morning for the past ten years, I love making changes. But no matter how exciting it can be, it’s always a little sad and poetic at the same time. What I’ll miss the most is reaching out to you and your families and giving you the information you need to make healthy, informed, nurturing decisions about life, love, and wellness. But don’t worry, the magazine is in good hands because it’s a program of The Village Family Service Center. The Village Family Magazine and VFM online will continue its legacy and commitment to our families. And hey, it’s pretty fun to read, too! ––Lonna Whiting About the Cover

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12 The Non-Diabetic’s Guide to Childhood Diabetes

Learn the essential truths, myths, and facts between type 1 and type 2 diabetes and what you can do to help kids and families living with the disease. z parenting

16 Upgrade Your Etiquette

Don’t chew with your mouth open? Check. Keep your elbows off the table? Check. Texting while you’re visiting with others? Oops. Read how to update your manners to match 21st century technology. z consumer

30 The Locavore’s Non-Dilemma

You might think it’s impossible to get fresh, quality meat and produce from our area. Think again. Follow along as writer Lukas Brandon’s family creates a fanciful feast from food grown right in the Red River Valley. z spirituality

34 Death with Dignity

Local caregivers share their insight into end-of-life decisions everyone should consider. z change

36 Taking on the Family Business

Maybe it makes you cringe. Maybe you’d like to try it. No matter how you’d feel being part of a family-owned business, the experience is unique. Two area business owners share why they like working with their families. z wellness

42 The New American Plate: Rethinking How We Eat

The food pyramid is obsolete. In its place is a new program from the American Institute for Cancer Research which demonstrates the recommended balance of plant foods and protein that should cover your plate at mealtime.

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YOUR FAMILY z gary’s opinion

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly By Gary Wolsky, President/CEO The Village Family Service Center We are all quite aware of the wonderful news related to the Bakken oil discoveries in western North Dakota–– the revenue it is bringing to the region and the state, and the positive impact that has on the future of North Dakota, hopefully for decades and generations to come. Wolsky I’ve seen comparison data that soon puts North Dakota as the third largest oil producing state in the country. Other comparisons have been made to Prudhoe Bay, creating a reality that a few short years ago would have been incomprehensible. I certainly have no intent to rain on that party. However, as citizens it is important to remember there is a human downside to this new normal as there typically seems to be in any “boom rush” moment. As the state struggles to catch up from the standpoint of needed infrastructure––

The Minot flood only exacerbates some of these challenges. A good bit of Bakken expansion has been anchored to Minot and due to the recent flood, the challenges that families in Minot are now undergoing are many and monumental. We know from our prior experiences on the front lines of flood work that the families impacted by the flood will, in numerous ways, be impacted for years to come. It isn’t often that a region and a state has so much to cheer about while simultaneously dealing with these challenges. It is clearly the “best of times and the worst of times.” In this area of the state, we are benefitting from the strong financial impact the western boom is bringing to the entire state. We should be concerned that our neighbors out west are also receiving the respect and services they deserve. The opinions expressed in this column are strictly those of The Village Family Service Center CEO. They do not necessarily reflect the views of the organization, staff or boards of directors.

roads, water, etc.––we also need to be very aware of the “human infrastructure” that accompanies a moment like this. The Village has long provided services in the Bakken area. We’ve been there through previous spikes in activity and will be there through this one and long after. We know firsthand that the disruption to family life can take a toll and needs to be addressed. Recent data suggests that the Williston area has seen a 20% increase in preschoolers. That huge increase triggers questions such as, “Are they adequately housed?” and “Are there adequate child care facilities in these communities?” A social worker in the Williston area recently told me they have shifted some personnel that had historically attended to their senior population so they could deal with the influx of child abuse and neglect reports. While we remain excited about the opportunities that Bakken presents to our region, we have an obligation to be sensitive to the downside that is going on every day.

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Not yet rated In Theatres Nov. 23 On vacation in Los Angeles, Walter, the world’s biggest Muppet fan, and his friends Gary (Jason Segel) and Mary (Amy Adams) from Smalltown, USA, discover the nefarious plan of oilman Tex Richman (Chris Cooper) to raze the Muppet Theater and drill for the oil recently discovered beneath the Muppets’ former stomping grounds. To stage The Greatest Muppet Telethon Ever and raise the $10 million needed to save the theater, Walter, Mary, and Gary help Kermit reunite

the Muppets, who have all gone their separate ways: Fozzie now performs with a Reno casino tribute band called the Moopets, Miss Piggy is a plus-size fashion editor at Vogue Paris, Animal is in a Santa Barbara clinic for anger management, and Gonzo is a high-powered plumbing magnate. ––moviefone.com

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YOUR FAMILY z books “Darth Paper Strikes Back: An Origami Yoda Book”

By Tom Angleberger Young Adult Fiction Now Available This Barnes & Noble Exclusive Edition unleashes the latest installment of Tom Angleberger’s Origami Yoda series. Things look bad for Dwight in this sequel to “The Strange Case of Origami Yoda.” Harvey has convinced the powers-that-be to suspend his classmate as an incorrigible troublemaker. Origami Yoda, Tommy, Kellen, and their friends band together to save Dwight by constructing a new case file—but Harvey and his Darth Paper puppet have not finished their evil manipulations. Uproariously fun and high-spirited suspense. ––bn.com

“Still Alice”

By Lisa Genova Adult Fiction Now Available One day, gifted Harvard professor and mother, Alice, sets out for a run and soon realizes she has no idea how to find her way home. It’s a route she has taken for years, but nothing looks familiar. She is utterly lost. Is her forgetfulness the result of menopausal symptoms? A ministroke? A neurological cancer? After a few doctor appointments and medical tests, Alice has her diagnosis, and it’s a shocker–– she has early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. What follows is the story of Alice’s slow but inevitable loss of memory and connection with reality, told from her perspective. She gradually loses the ability to follow a conversational thread, the story line of a book, or to recall information she heard just moments before. To Genova’s great credit, readers learn of the progression of Alice’s disease through the reactions of others, as Alice does, so they feel what she feels––a slowly building terror. ––goodreads.com

“A Place to Call Home”

By Alexis Deacon Illustrated by Viviane Schwarz Children’s Picture Book Now Available Seven little junkyard critters venture out of their small, dark hole on a charmingly madcap quest for a new home, with laugh-out-loud results. When a band of brothers outgrows the dim confines of their birthplace, there is no other choice but to set out into the world on a grand adventure. Timid and terrified at first, they soon find ingenious ways to simulate the safety of their familiar hole. They bravely cross a muddy sea, climb a discarded mountain, survive an appliance-like labyrinth, and finally reach the edge of the world. What will they see there, and will they ever find a place they can call their own? Loaded with visual humor and breathless commentary by the intrepid crew, this comic book-style tale of solidarity and daring will have readers giggling, cheering, and ready to see the world in a new way. ––bn.com

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YOUR FAMILY z mom’s view

“Give us a field full of daisies and we’ll notice the one dead flower in the middle of all that glorious yellow.”

Seeing What’s Right on Thanksgiving By Gwen Rockwood Six-year-old Jack and his dad have a Sunday morning tradition. They like to flip to the back page of the comics in the Sunday paper and try to find the six differences between two similar pictures in the Slylock Fox cartoon strip. It’s sort of a race to see who can find all six differences first. Brain teasers like this one have been around for a long time because they tap into something people do almost automatically —we notice “what’s wrong with this picture.” I don’t know if it’s human instinct or something we’re taught as we grow up, but we’re all pretty good at it. Give us a field full of daisies and we’ll notice the one dead flower in the middle of all that glorious yellow. Our eyes are drawn to the flaw, that thing that’s just a little bit off, no matter how insignificant it is. We do it in our lives, too. We look at a career full of wins and think mostly about the screw-ups or the missed opportunities. We look at a healthy body that works perfectly fine, and we notice how our belly isn’t as flat as we want it to be. In our homes, we see the floors that need new carpet or the kitchen that needs new appliances and miss out on seeing everything that’s right—like strong walls, a solid roof, warm rooms, hot showers, and a fridge full of food—basics that so many people around the world just don’t have and probably never will. As people who’ve been blessed with so much, Thanksgiving is just the kind of “kick in the butt” holiday we need. Because it forces us to take off the “what’s wrong” goggles that magnify every imperfection and, instead, marvel at all the things that are so wonderfully right. And there are a lot of them. Illustration by Trygve Olson Granted, it’s easy to forget about the good stuff sometimes. Our 24-hour a day news culture has a bad habit of finding the food and drinks to stain it with. Here’s to the horrible, the weird, and the controversial and serving up a piping belly that’s no longer as firm as it once was and hot dish of it during every hour of the day and night. Good news to the babies it allowed to grow inside us. Here’s is harder to come by but it’s equally as important. to the thousand little “wrongs” that only prove When we strip life down to what matters most to us, it’s so how “right” we’ve got it. much easier to see what’s right with the picture—family, food, From my family to yours, have a blessed safety, health, freedom, love. It’s great to strive for things to be Thanksgiving. better or to reach for the ideal, but never noticing how good we Gwen Rockwood is a regular contributor to have it would just mean we’re being jerks. And ungrateful jerks The Village Family Magazine. She lives in Arkansas with her are the very worst kind. husband and three kids. Send comments to her at rockwoodfiles@ So… here’s to all that’s right with the picture. Here’s to the carpet stains that remind us what a luxury it is to have carpet and cox.net

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YOUR FAMILY z dad’s view

For Dad of Teenager, Nothing Like a Good Scare By Rick Epstein Every year about this time, our teenage daughter Wendy and her mother have this Sunday-morning conversation: “So,” Mom will ask, “What movie did you end up seeing last night?” Wendy will not name the cheery comedy she’d mentioned while applying for permission and transportation. She will name whichever horror film had been held, caged and snarling, for pre-Halloween release in October. “But the movie wasn’t scary at all,” Wendy will claim. “It was silly. We laughed all the way through it.” I hear this conversation because it takes place in our bed. When Wendy got home from the un-scary movie, she’d rushed in the front door, right up the stairs, into our room. She’d kicked off her shoes and slipped under the covers beside her mom, not taking time to brush her teeth or put in her retainer. After all, what are straight, white teeth to a girl who is running for her life? I know without looking that lights have been left on to illuminate Wendy’s route from the front door into our room. Again, a girl who is fleeing unspeakable evil must concentrate on saving herself, not saving a few dimes on the electric bill. Much as I begrudge the power company those few dimes, I have to admit that I love to see Wendy seeking refuge with us. Now 15, she seldom climbs into this particular lifeboat anymore. I know that her REAL life is not a serene pleasure cruise. A freshman in high school, she is in daily struggles with girls and boys while the messy beginnings or endings of romances launch computer-enhanced repercussions. At her school, dumping a boyfriend can start a war. All the kids from his part of town are instantly aligned against you, and the next thing you know you’re off the A-list for parties and they’re pelting your embassy with rocks and bottles. A new boyfriend takes office, and suddenly his ex-girlfriend and everyone she went to elementary school with are now your enemies, writing mean things on your Facebook page, torturing your spies and burning your plantations. Wendy’s academic life is another battlefield. In the classroom, teachers can be hostile to a young woman who has zero interest in history, math, or literature. They can be prickly about things like homework and tests. Wendy does not just sit quietly in the back of the room, either. She is fresh and silly. Her older sister half-admiringly describes Wendy as a “sassy jackass.” Sometimes I think unconstructively that teaching algebra to Wendy is like putting clothes on a monkey. I mean, it seems like the thing to do, and who doesn’t like to see a nicely dressed monkey? But when you back off and look at the big picture, you might find yourself asking: Why? Well, Wendy asks why all the time and it causes stress all around. My wife and I try to help Wendy, but she knows we want to help her toward goals that she is not really interested in— academic success through hard work and social success through good choices. But we press our guidance on her anyway. My wife is more credible on affairs of the heart because she’s a female, and she’s

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better at micro-managing homework because she’s smart and patient. I sometimes feel like I’m still waiting for my event to be announced. Meanwhile I try to set limits and be supportive of Wendy as a human being. I praise her kind deeds and comical antics, and give her rides to the homes of kids with vigilant parents. Sometimes I’ll chauffeur Wendy and her associates to a movie. Whatever movie she’s seeing, Wendy is surrounded by plenty of anxiety and drama supplied by the people she’s sitting with. Anything horrifying on the screen is a bonus. “It’s the adrenaline,” she explained to me. The fear is especially delicious if she’s seeing something “based on a true story because you know this bad stuff really happened—and it could happen to you.” A movie like that can keep her in our bed for two or three nights. I don’t want Wendy to be upset, but I do like it when a scary movie cuts through the confusion and angst of adolescence and sends her running into the arms of Mommy and Daddy. Wendy sometimes forgets who really loves her, but a filmmaker with a sick imagination and a big special-effects budget can make her remember. Rick Epstein is a regular contributor to The Village Family Magazine.

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Young or Old, Poor Diabetes Management Has Health Consequences during the summer, and it’s typical for them to be thirstier or By Lonna Whiting hungrier than usual because they are naturally more active. Perhaps one of the most misunderstood conditions to It’s not always obvious there’s something wrong right affect human beings of all sizes, shapes, and colors is away.” diabetes. More than twenty-five million Americans have Eventually, a type 1 diabetic’s body will no longer be able type 1 or type 2 diabetes. to produce insulin at all. Insulin injections will be required Misconceptions that the condition is brought on by lazy for the rest of the person’s life. living or poor eating habits are not only Skolness, who helps children and offensive, but dangerous, considering families understand diabetes, believes seven million people have diabetes and The Sanford Project, an proper education and management don’t even know it. Another 79 million initiative of Sanford Health, can help a person with type 1 people are prediabetic, or on the verge of began in 2007 with the sole diabetes live a normal life with little having it. purpose of researching and to no complications. The tricky part, Ignored or poorly managed, diabetes curing juvenile diabetes. For however, is getting kids who are can wreak havoc on an otherwise healthy more information about the naturally less concerned about their person. Diabetes is the seventh leading project and the results of its health to stick to a regimen of glucose cause of death in the U.S. and the total recently completed clinical trial, monitoring and insulin injections. health care costs (and related costs) for “We do the best to teach kids how treatment rack up about $174 billion go to sanfordproject.org. to take care of themselves by focusing annually. Heart disease, kidney disease, on short-term goals. Like, if a child leg disorders, nerve damage, and wants to start driving, we tell them they need to take their blindness are common repercussions of both type 1 and type blood sugar four times a day,” says Skolness. These types 2 diabetes. of incentives help children understand the importance Diabetes is the most common chronic disease in children of regular monitoring in ways they can understand and and adolescents in this country, yet the distinction between accomplish. “We make sure parents fully understand it’s the two types remains blurred to those not directly affected still their responsibility for them to manage their child’s by it. Type 1 and type 2 are really two very different diabetes.” conditions. “For kids, the really chronic part of dealing with diabetes is the mental health part. Kids have unbelievable What is Type 1 Diabetes? expectations, and they get sick of diabetes. Their parents do, Type 1 diabetes occurs when a person’s pancreas can no too,” Skolness adds. longer produce insulin to help distribute energy throughout the body. Historically referred to as “juvenile diabetes” and What You Need to Know “sugar diabetes,” type 1 is most commonly diagnosed in Chances are you already know a child with type 1 children and young adults. It accounts for about five percent diabetes, and you are not aware of it. The American of diagnosed cases of diabetes in adults. Symptoms of Diabetes Association says when a child is diagnosed with type 1 diabetes diabetes the whole family must get involved because it include sudden, Myth: Diabetes is caused by affects diets, unquenchable obesity or eating too much activity levels, thirst and Myth: Diabetes is not a sugar. and other parts of hunger, serious disease. family life. Friends, increased Fact: Obesity is one of the teachers, coaches, urination, Fact: Diabetes kills one risk factors for developing type spiritual leaders, extreme fatigue American every three 2 diabetes, but other factors virtually anyone and irritability, minutes and is the seventh play a role, too. Eating too who has contact and unusual leading cause of death in with a diabetic much sugar could contribute weight loss. this country. Type 1 causes child should About one in to obesity, but in and of itself, know at least the dependence on insulin every 400 U.S. sugar does not cause diabetes. basics about type children age injections or a pump, Scientists believe both genetic 1 diabetes and infant to 20 has for life, and with it the and unknown environmental be able to react type 1 diabetes, perpetual threat of health factors cause type 1 diabetes. appropriately if according to complications. needed. the American Moira McCarthy, Diabetes Association. author of “The Everything Parent’s Guide to Children with Onset of symptoms is often quick; diagnosis may take Juvenile Diabetes,” is a firm believer in educating the nona bit longer. According to Vanessa Skolness, Sanford diabetic along with the child who suffers from the disease. Children’s certified diabetes educator and registered nurse, Here are some of the things McCarthy believes everyone “It takes a month or two to figure out something’s not should keep in mind regarding type 1 diabetes: right with your child.” Skolness says, “Some kids come in

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Type 2 Diabetes Findings from the CDC

the increase in type 2 diabetes during childhood and adolescence.

• Health care providers are finding more and more

• Type 2 diabetes in children and adolescents already

children with type 2 diabetes, a disease usually

appears to be a sizable and growing problem among

diagnosed in adults aged 40 years or older. • The epidemics of obesity and the low level of physical

U.S. children and adolescents. Better physician

activity among young people, as well as exposure

awareness and monitoring of the disease’s magnitude

to diabetes in utero, may be major contributors to

will be necessary.

• Never refer to blood glucose levels as good or bad. Instead, refer to readings as either high or low. Many experts believe there is no such thing as a bad blood glucose reading, because each measurement holds some insight into trends based on what the child may have eaten or which activities she may have been doing at the time of the reading. Plus, the child might get scared when you refer to something as “bad.” They might even think it’s their fault. • If you’re a teacher and you have a diabetic child in your classroom, it’s OK to feel apprehensive, but don’t be afraid. Ask the parents or caregivers as many Myth: People with questions as possible. diabetes can’t participate They will thank you for in athletics. taking appropriate action to maintain the health Fact: Exercise is and wellness of their important for good child. Each child with type health. For diabetics, it is 1 diabetes is unique. especially important to No two children will be remain active. Exercise alike in their symptoms helps to lower blood or reactions. For sugar levels and maintain example, one child might them in the target be fine after a piece of range. Many famous chocolate cake, while athletes are diabetic another might have her including Chicago Bears blood glucose levels quarterback, Jay Cutler, shoot through the roof.

heavyweight boxer, • No matter the age or James “Buster” Douglas type of diabetic, do not and tennis great, Billie purchase sugar-free Jean King. snacks and candies for your diabetic relative, child, or friend. “Sugarfree foods have carbohydrates in them, and also require carb counting and added insulin,” McCarthy says. Instead, provide nutritional sources of carbohydrates such as granola bars or trail mix. • Type 1 diabetics can never “take a day off” from their condition. They will always have to measure their blood glucose levels at least four times a day, even in the middle of the night. • Just because you had a great uncle who had diabetes, don’t assume you know anything about your neighbor’s daughter with type 1 diabetes. Instead, ask your neighbor what you should know in case his daughter needs help when he or another family member is unavailable. You could even offer to store some extra insulin in your refrigerator.

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• Diabetes is not contagious, and it is not always hereditary. While there are higher incidents of type 1 diabetes among siblings who have the disease, there’s no way to indicate who will acquire the disorder and who won’t.

What is Type 2 Diabetes?

Millions of Americans have been diagnosed Myth: Only adults get with type 2 diabetes, type 2 diabetes. historically referred to as adult-onset diabetes. Fact: Many of the risk With type 2, the pancreas factors for type 2 diabetes is still producing and occur in Americans over processing insulin; it’s the age of 40. However, just not working as well as it should. Type with an increase in 2 diabetes is generally sedentary behavior and associated with older age, high calorie consumption obesity, family history by children and young of diabetes, physical adults, diagnosis of type inactivity, and race/ 2 diabetes in those under ethnicity. 20 is rising somewhat. The National Diabetes Information Clearinghouse reports type 2 diabetes in children and adolescents, although still rare, is being diagnosed more frequently. Young people affected with type 2 diabetes belong to all ethnic groups, but it is more commonly seen in non-white groups. American Indian youths have the highest incidence of type 2 diabetes. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, type 2 diabetes in children often produces Myth: People with no symptoms, but the diabetes should never eat condition can sometimes chocolate or other sweets. mimic those of type 1 diabetes. “A youth may Fact: Sweets in feel very tired, have moderation and as part blurred vision, frequent infections, and slow of a healthy meal plan healing of wounds and are appropriate for those sores,” says the National dealing with either type Diabetes Education 1 or type 2 diabetes. In Program. “Because fact, there are times when symptoms are varied, it is those with type 1 diabetes important for health care require sweets to raise providers to identify and their blood sugar levels test youth who are at high to prevent the onset of risk for the disease.” hyplogycemia. Some children will develop a thick, dark,

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velvety-feeling skin around the neck, called acanthosis nigricans. regimen of running and weight training, Skolness often starts A child who has developed type 2 diabetes may also have high with a few baby steps, like swapping out the fries with some blood cholesterol and blood pressure. carrots and apple slices. “We do not ask the families to diet, but While Skolness hasn’t seen a significant rise in the number of we do ask them to change their daily habits,” she says. “You have kids and teens diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, she says nearly to be sensitive and teach them how to be a team about it. It takes all of those who have the diagnosis have a problem with their time, consistency, and perseverance.” weight. As a family member or friend of a family who struggles with “We’re living in a technology-driven world now. Kids aren’t type 2 diabetes, the best thing you can do is be supportive and being shooshed out the door. They’re encourage their efforts to adopt healthier involved with their Kindles and their DS living. If you have an extra bike you’re Myth: Only children get type games,” Skolness says. “There’s a lot more not using, consider giving it to a friend or 1 diabetes. inactivity going on.” family struggling with type 2. This will In fact, Skolness says, it’s not uncommon encourage them to get out for some fresh Fact: Type 1 diabetes for six- and seven-year-old patients to weigh air and exercise. Better yet, go on a bike is often referred to as in at 100 pounds. ride with them, and show them how much juvenile diabetes because Denis Daneman, co-author of “When a fun getting the blood pumping can be. it is typically diagnosed in Child Has Diabetes,” says, “The first line of If you know a little something about children or young adults. treatment is strict dietary management and healthy eating, or you have some recipes However, type 1 diabetes attention to lifestyle issues such as doing stockpiled, share them with the family if can occur at any age. Each more exercise. … An oral medication may they need some help figuring out how to be used to help the pancreas make more prepare better meals. year, 15,000 adults in the Be an advocate for healthy living. Your insulin or to make the insulin work better.” U.S. are diagnosed. support and nonjudgmental attitude will go a long way toward encouraging and What You Need to Know motivating diabetes-affected families to develop lifestyles that Prevention and management of type 2 diabetes in children will dramatically improve their health and well-being. begins with the parents and caregivers, Skolness says, because children almost always learn by example. “You really need to Myths and facts compiled from the American Diabetes work with the parents and encourage the children, and do it all as Association: ada.org and the Juvenile Diabetes Research a family.” Foundation: jdrf.org When weight is a concern, instead of starting children and Lonna Whiting is editor of The Village Family Magazine. parents on a strict diet of plant-based foods and a vigorous

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Good Manners Aren’t What They Used to Be

Upgrade Your Etiquette By Julie Laviolette

Scenario: You’re in a restaurant and the unruly three-year-old at the next table finally takes her seat and proceeds to eat her dinner with her foot propped up on the table. Scenario: You see a teenager texting while his father is trying to talk to him. You can see his eyes darting from cell phone screen to his father and back down to the screen. You wonder if he is really hearing the conversation. Scenario: You’ve sent birthday gifts to your young nieces and nephews over the years and never received a thank you note from them. Where are their manners? Teaching your child to use the right fork or fold their napkin properly may seem like a nice after-thought in today’s world, but modern etiquette experts say proper social graces could make or break your child’s future. These days, etiquette classes teach children not only impeccable table manners, but how to develop skills that will help them network,

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socialize, and interact with others as they grow. “It’s an advantage to learn good manners while you are young, because you take that with you your whole life,” says Elena Brouwer, director and founder of the International Etiquette Centre in Hollywood, Fla. “As you get older, whether you are going on a date or on

a business lunch, you need to know not only how to hold your silverware, but how to interact with others.” Etiquette lessons have evolved over the years, Brouwer says, into a series of life-skills that arm young people for a successful future. “Some people think of etiquette as a young girl carrying a book on her head, but that’s a very old-fashioned

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TIPS FOR THE TABLE • Make sure your face and hands are clean before you sit down. • Put your napkin in your lap. • Use your napkin to wipe your face, not the back of your hand. • Start eating when everyone else does. • Sit upright. • Keep elbows off the table. • Chew with your mouth closed. • Say “please,” and ask, instead of reaching. • Ask to be excused and say “thank you.” • Offer to help clear the table. Source: Emily Post Institute

view,” she says. “We are getting people ready for real life.” Here are modern etiquette tips for parents from experts: Ban electronics from the dinner table Placating your child with a Nintendo DS while you dine out may ensure a peaceful meal, but it’s rude to the other diners and deprives children of social interaction they need to succeed in the real world. “Kids are not getting any practice interacting with others face-to-face,” Brouwer says. Teach by example Don’t tell your kids not to bring their portable video games to the table, then spend the whole meal checking your Blackberry. When it’s dinner time, devote your attention to the people seated at the table. “Children don’t learn by what the parents say, they learn by what they do,” says Brouwer. Don’t text in front of others Texting one person while carrying on a conversation with another is rude. It is like telling the person in front of you that the other is more important, Brouwer says. Teach your kids to give their full attention. Set rules for your kids The biggest manners offense kids

commit today is ignoring their parents or talking back to them, Brouwer says. The solution? “Parents should stop saying they want to be their kids’ best friend. Parents should be in control, and there should be consequences for children who do not follow rules.” Children who grow up without boundaries may have trouble adhering to rules in the workplace and respecting authority. Practice good manners “There are people who always know what to say and how to act. That doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It takes years of trying,” Brouwer says. “You don’t go to two guitar lessons and know how to play a guitar.” Use proper phone manners Teach your kids how to identify themselves and greet the caller when phoning a friend. Make sure your child knows the phone rules in your household. How late can they call out? How late can their friends call? Should they ask you before exchanging numbers with a friend? Show them how to take a complete phone message. “Tell them to smile when they’re talking to a phone answering machine. It makes all the difference,” suggests Lovely Payoute, president of Etiquette Miami in North Miami Beach, Fla.

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Send proper thanks Buy a box of thank you notes for your kids. Teach them to write a thank you note within two days of receiving a gift, even if they thanked the giver verbally at the party, says Payoute. In the note, mention the gift, and if it was monetary, mention what you plan to do with it—but don’t mention the dollar amount. Make a good first impression Teach kids to show respect for adults by standing and making eye contact. Tell your kids which hand to extend for a handshake (some kids don’t know!) and how to make a firm grip. “A proper handshake shows you belong there and have confidence,” Payoute says. Make nice at the table Often a child’s first meal out without parents is at a friend’s house. Teach them to follow the host family’s lead. If everyone serves themselves, do the same. If everyone helps clear the table, then help. And if they don’t like something they’re served? Payoute advises, “Eat the other items on your plate. Don’t say ‘ewww’ and make a big deal out of it. It’s one meal on one evening. You’ll survive.” Julie Laviolette is an occasional contributor to The Village Family Magazine.

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OCTOBER 2011 EVENTS Fees may apply. Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. 10.1 Saturday • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Hwy 169 S., Shakopee, Minn., 800-966-8215 or renaissancefest.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Fargo Moorhead Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon-6 p.m., fmva.us • Autumn Pumpkin Party. Pumpkin painting, fall crafts, and games. 1-3 p.m., North Elmwood Park Shelter, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org • NDSU Football vs. Illinois State. 1 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at 701-231-NDSU or GoBison.com/tickets • “Cabaret.” 7:30 p.m., Hansen Theatre, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 or mnstate.edu/ theatre • FM Derby Girls vs. Sioux Falls Roller Dolls. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, fmderbygirls.com • “The 39 Steps.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701235-1901 or fmct.org 10.2 Sunday • Minnesota Renaissance Festival. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Hwy 169 S., Shakopee, Minn., 800-966-8215 or renaissancefest.com • Fargo Moorhead Visual Artists Studio Crawl. Noon-6 p.m., fmva.us • Chamber Music Concert Series: Flying Fingers. 2 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 650 2nd Ave. N., Fargo, 218-2338397 or fmsymphony.org • “The 39 Steps.” 2 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-2351901 or fmct.org • Concert Choir & Madrigal Singers Concert. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/ finearts 10.3 Monday • Choral Festival Concert. 7 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 10.5 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com 10.6 Thursday • ArtSage Multi-Media Art Exhibit. Artwork and music by area sages. 7:30 a.m.-4 p.m., Crystal Ballroom, Ramada Plaza Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701-205-7818 • Farmers Market & Beyond. 4-7 p.m., South Elmwood parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks. org • “The Foreigner.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.7 Friday • It’s a Chick Thing. Acappella Xpress Women’s Show Chorus teams up with the American Cancer Society to raise funds for both organizations. Food, speakers, silent auction, musical

entertainment, and more. 5 p.m., Dilworth Community Center, 709 1st Ave. N.W., Dilworth, 701-232-8456 or acappellaxpress. com • “The Foreigner.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.8 Saturday • Farmers Market & Beyond. 9 a.m.-1 p.m., South Elmwood parking lot, 500 13th Ave. W., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org • Party in the Pumpkin Patch. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. View pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 • University Symphony Orchestra. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • “The Foreigner.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.9 Sunday • Apple Dumpling Day. Homemade apple dumplings, bake

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10.9 Sunday continued sale, silent auction, and Myron Sommerfield Orchestra. 12:30-3:30 p.m., Riverview Place, 5300 12th St. S., Fargo, 701-237-4700 or riverviewplace. org • Party in the Pumpkin Patch. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • “The Foreigner.” 2 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314 • Fall Choral Concert. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-2317969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • Choirs and Bells Concert. 4 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 10.12 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Easter Seals Goodwill Cake Auction. Easter Seals Goodwill and friends from the community will be decorating cakes to be auctioned off. Decorating starts 5 p.m., auction 5:30 p.m., Hornbacher’s SouthGate, 1532 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-232-1333 or esgwnd.easterseals. com 10.13 Thursday • Music for the Heart Concert. Noon, Sanford Health Atrium, Broadway & 8th Ave. N., Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org 10.14 Friday • Fargo Force vs. Muskegon Lumberjacks. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701364-3672 10.15 Saturday • Step Out: Walk to Stop Diabetes. A fun-filled morning of exercise, food, and festivities for everyone. Check-in 7:30 a.m., walk begins 9:30 a.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo. Register at 888-342-2383 or diabetes. org/stepout • The Big One Art & Craft Fair. 9 a.m.-7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-235-7171 or thebigone.biz • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • NDSU Football vs. Missouri State. 6 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at 701-231NDSU or GoBison.com/tickets

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•H oppin’ Hoedown. For moms and sons ages 4-12. 6:30-8:30 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701499-7788 or fargoparks.com •H omecoming Concert. 6:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 •F argo Force vs. Omaha Lancers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 •M asterworks Concert Series: Copland, Britten & Beethoven. 8 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org 10.16 Sunday •T he Big One Art & Craft Fair. 11 a.m.5 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-235-7171 or thebigone. biz •M asterworks Concert Series: Copland, Britten & Beethoven. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org 10.17 Monday •J azz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 10.18 Tuesday • I dentity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records, limit of 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701235-3328 or 800-450-4019 •A rc of Cass County Annual Meeting & Banquet. Registration 5:15 p.m., dinner and meeting 6 p.m., dance by The Music Man 7-9 p.m., Ramada Plaza Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo, 701293-8191 or arcbuddies@arccassnd. com •J azz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Buxton Hall/Hanson Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 •W ind Symphony Concert. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 10.19 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • I dentity Theft Awareness Shred Day. Free shredding of outdated financial records, limit of 3 banker boxes or 4 shopping bags of material. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Village Family Service Center parking lot, 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-

235-3328 or 800-450-4019 • Wolf Awareness Week Carcass Feeding. 7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org 10.20 Thursday • Fargo Force vs. Sioux City Musketeers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 10.21 Friday • NDSU Chamber Winds. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 10.22 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. View pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 • Minnesota Timberwolves vs. Milwaukee Bucks. 7 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo, 701-2419100 or fargodome.com • Moonlight Monster Mash. 6:30-9 p.m., Fargo Youth Commission, 2500 18th St. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks. com 10.26 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com 10.27 Thursday • RDO Caters Taters for Charity. Potato luncheon, proceeds to benefit Sanford Children’s Hospital. 11 a.m.-1 p.m., Doublewood Inn, 3333 13th Ave. S., Fargo, rdocaterstaters.com • Music for the Heart Concert. Noon, Sanford Health Atrium, Broadway & 8th Ave. N., Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org • “Melancholy Play.” 8 p.m., Lab Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.28 Friday • Celebrating the Greatest Generation: The Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County’s Annual Gala. 1940s tunes, great food, and fun times. Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline.org See ad on page 19

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• “The Mousetrap.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • Fargo Force vs. Green Bay Gamblers. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 • “Melancholy Play.” 8 p.m., Lab Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.29 Saturday • Not Too Scary Haunted House. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • NDSU Football vs. Northern Iowa. 3 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at 701-231-NDSU or GoBison.com/tickets • Night Eyes Howl-oween Event. Come in costume and enjoy trick-or-treating and other activities. 4-7 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • Fargo Force vs. Dubuque Fighting Saints. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 • “The Mousetrap.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “Melancholy Play.” 8 p.m., Lab Theatre, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-3314 10.30 Sunday • Not Too Scary Haunted House. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-2326102 • “The Mousetrap.” 2 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701235-1901 or fmct.org • Spooktacular Party. Games and prizes for kids of all ages. 2:30-5 p.m., Veterans Memorial Arena, 1201 7th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org 10.31 Monday • Community Halloween Carnival. 3:30-5:30 p.m., Courts Plus, 3491 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-237-4805 or fargoparks.com

Sisters. 7:30 p.m., Gaede Stage, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4774610 • “The Mousetrap.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701235-1901 or fmct.org 11.5 Saturday • Adopt-A-Pet Photo Fundraiser. Family photos taken by Jacobson Photo. 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Corwin building, 222 40th St. S., Fargo. Call Jacobson Photo at 800-344-7667 for more information • Dance and Frame Drum Workshop. Participants will learn about frame drums and belly-dancing. 10 a.m.-noon, Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, Moorhead. Contact Kenyon Williams at 218-477-4610 or willdrum@mnstate.edu for more information • We Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • FM Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. View pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-2325856 • Percussion Day Concert. 5 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • FM Derby Girls Home Teams Bout. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Center, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, fmderbygirls.com • “The Mousetrap.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701235-1901 or fmct.org

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11.2 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com 11.3 Thursday • Disney Live! Three Classic Fairy Tales. 6:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at Fargodome Box Office, InForumTix.com, or 855-694-6367 See ad on page 26 • “The Mousetrap.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org 11.4 Friday • The Teddy Bear Band. Bring your teddy bear for music, imagination, and fun. 7 p.m., Fargo Civic Auditorium, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-232-1333 • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s 3rd Annual Silent Auction & Gala. Family-friendly event with food and live entertainment by Cat Sank Trio. 7-11 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 4luvofdog.org • MSUM Percussion Ensemble. Guest artists Shane Shanahan and Fargo-based belly dancing troupe the Shimmy

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• Baroque Festival Chamber Concert. 7:30 p.m., Messiah Lutheran Church, 2010 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 11.6 Sunday • We Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • “The Mousetrap.” 2 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct. org • Baroque Festival Student Concert. 2 p.m., Messiah Lutheran Church, 2010 Elm St. N., Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • Orchestra Home Concert. 4 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • Vocal Jazz Ensemble Concert. 7:30 p.m., Christiansen Recital Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2994515 11.7 Monday • Youth Curling Open House. 6:30-8 p.m., FM Curling Club, 909 17th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com

11.8 Tuesday •W e Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 11.9 Wednesday •C hildren’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com •W e Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 •F M Adopt-A-Pet Adoption Days. View pets available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PETCO, 1126 43rd St. S.W., Fargo, 701232-5856 • “ The Cocktail Hour.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org 11.10 Thursday •W e Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102

• Music for the Heart Concert. Noon, Sanford Health Atrium, Broadway & 8th Ave. N., Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org • Take Back Your Kids. Informational session for parents of children diagnosed with ADHD, ADD, OCD, and more. 6:30 p.m., Green Mill Restaurant, 3340 13th Ave. S., Fargo. Contact TakeBackYourKids@gmail.com for more information or to RSVP • “The Cocktail Hour.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • “Grease.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314 11.11 Friday • We Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12. mn.us

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• “The Cocktail Hour.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org • Fargo Force vs. Cedar Rapids RoughRiders. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701364-3672 • “Grease.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314 11.12 Saturday • Pangea—Cultivate Our Cultures. Multi-ethnic showcase of music, dance, culinary arts, and children’s activities. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline.org • Fetzer Family Chiropractic Women’s Health Fair. 10 a.m.-4 p.m., Hilton Garden Inn, 4351 17th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-356-6700 or fetzerfamilychiropractic@gmail.com See ad on page 24 • Cystic Fibrosis Association Holiday Homes of Hope. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., 800767-3593 or cfanorthdakota.com • We Love U.S. Veterans. Free museum admission for veterans and dependents.

• Masterworks Concert Series: Mozart, Mendelssohn & Shostakovich. 8 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org • “Grease.” 8 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314 11.13 Sunday • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 • Cystic Fibrosis Association Holiday Homes of Hope. 1-5 p.m., 1-800-7673593 or cfanorthdakota.com • The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm’s 22nd Birthday Party. 1-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • Masterworks Concert Series: Mozart, Mendelssohn & Shostakovich. 2 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 218-233-8397 or fmsymphony.org • “Grease.” 2 p.m., Frances Frazier Comstock Theatre Main Stage, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-2993314

10 a.m.-5 p.m., The Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm, 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Zoolute to Soldiers. Free admission for veterans. Noon-4 p.m., Red River Zoo, 4255 23rd Ave S., Fargo, 701-277-9240 or redriverzoo.org • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 • NDSU Football vs. Youngstown State. 3 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at 701-231NDSU or GoBison.com/tickets • Fargo Force vs. Des Moines Buccaneers. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead. k12.mn.us • “The Cocktail Hour.” 7:30 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-1901 or fmct.org

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• “The Cocktail Hour.” 2 p.m., FMCT, 333 4th St. S., Fargo, 701235-1901 or fmct.org • Gold Star Marching Band: Sounds of the Gridiron. 2 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • The Concordia Band Home Concert. 7:30 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us 11.15 Tuesday • “Fiddler on the Roof.” 7:30 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 University Dr. N., Fargo. Tickets available at Fargodome Box Office, InForumTix.com, or 855-694-6367 • Sheila Raye Charles: Behind the Shades. Jail Chaplain’s event and fundraiser. Social and silent auction 5-7 p.m., program and concert 7 p.m., Ramada Plaza Suites, 1635 42nd St. S., Fargo. Tickets available at jailchaplains.com and all Hornbacher’s locations. See on page 23 • Concordia Echo Band Concert. 7:30 p.m., Buxton Hall/Hanson Hall, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 11.16 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com 11.18 Friday • 5th Annual Wine & Dine. Silent auction benefiting Big Brothers Big Sisters and Nokomis Child Care Centers of The Village Family Service Center. 6 p.m., Holiday Inn, 3803 13th Ave. S., Fargo, 701-451-4956 or fmwineanddine.com See ad on page 44 nnua l

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• Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 6-9 p.m., Fargo Civic Auditorium, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-328-4766 or prideofdakota.com • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us • NDSU Opera Workshop Performance. 7:30 p.m., Beckwith Recital Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts • Fargo Force vs. Lincoln Stars. 7:35 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 11.19 Saturday • Pepsi Fall Flatlands Soccer Tournament. Metro Rec Center, 3110 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • Creating Positive Behavior Change. Workshop sponsored by Up With Downs. All day, Hope Lutheran Church South Campus, 3636 25th St. S., Fargo. Register by emailing karaljones@gmail.com or estlouis4@gmail.com • Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Fargo Civic Auditorium, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-328-4766 or prideofdakota.com • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • Awesome Art Afternoon. 1-3 p.m., RDJ Rec Center, 1104 2nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com • Nativities Around the World. A display of nativities from across the globe. 1-4:30 p.m., Flame of Faith United Methodist Church, 1222 6th St. E., West Fargo, 701-799-9468 or 701282-5765 • “The Bremen Town Musicians.” 1 p.m. & 4 p.m., Hansen Theatre, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-477-2271 • Fargo Force vs. Lincoln Stars. 7:05 p.m., Scheels Arena, 5225 31st Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-3672 • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us 11.20 Sunday • Pepsi Fall Flatlands Soccer Tournament. Metro Rec Center, 3110 Main Ave., Fargo, 701-499-6060 or fargoparks.com • Pride of Dakota Holiday Showcase. 11 a.m.-5 p.m., Fargo Civic Auditorium, 207 4th St. N., Fargo, 701-328-4766 or prideofdakota.com • PRISM Concert. 2 p.m., Memorial Auditorium, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515 • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us 11.21 Monday • Percussion Ensemble. 7:30 p.m., Festival Concert Hall, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts 11.22 Tuesday • Holiday Tree Lighting. 5 p.m., Memorial Park Log Cabin, 210 8th St N., Moorhead, 218-299-5340 or cityofmoorhead.com/ parks • Xcel Energy Holiday Lights Parade. 6:30 p.m., downtown Fargo-Moorhead. Visit fmdowntown.com for details • Symphonia Concert. 7 p.m., Centrum, Concordia College, Moorhead, 218-299-4515

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11.23 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com 11.25 Friday • Cookies with the Claus Family. Sleigh rides, Games Galore, and more. 1-4 p.m., Fargodome, 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo. Contact Barb G. at Fraser, Ltd. at 701-232-3301 for more information 11.26 Saturday • Children’s Storytime. 11 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s “Meet the Dogs.” Visit dogs available for adoption. 1-3 p.m., PetSmart, 1630 13th Ave. E., West Fargo, 701-205-0190 • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, new toys, or cash donation. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-478-4100 or fargoparks.com • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us 11.27 Sunday • Santa Village. Free admission with donation of canned goods, new toys, or cash donation. 1-7 p.m., Rheault Farm, 2902 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-478-4100 or fargoparks.com • “Children of Eden.” 7:30 p.m., Moorhead High School Auditorium, 2300 4th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-284-2345, moorheadtheater.com, or moorhead.k12.mn.us

11.30 Wednesday • Children’s Storytime. 10 a.m., Barnes and Noble, 1201 42nd St. S.W., Fargo, 701-281-1002 or bn.com • “Miss Julie.” 7:30 p.m., Walsh Studio Theatre, NDSU, Fargo, 701-231-7969 or ndsu.edu/finearts

PUBLIC LIBRARIES Call or visit your local library for more information or to register. Fargo Public Main Library 102 3rd St. N., Fargo, 701-241-1492, 701-241-1495 or fargolibrary.org • Jazz Into Fall Concert Series. Oct. 2, 9, 16 & 23, 2 p.m. • Pajama Jamboree Family Storytime. Feel free to wear your PJ’s. Oct. 10 & Nov. 14, 6:30 p.m. • The Flicker Tale Readers Book Club. Oct. 11 & Nov. 8, 4 p.m. • eBooks & eAudiobooks Help Session. Registration required. Oct. 12, 6:30 p.m. • Teen Iron Chef Competition. Oct. 13, 4 p.m. • Movies @ Main. Oct. 13 & Nov. 3, 6:30 p.m. • Re-Funk Your Junk. For teens and adults. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 10 a.m. • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. ASL interpreter provided. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 10 a.m. • Paws for Reading. Emerging readers can sign up to read to a therapy pet, registration required. Oct. 15 & Nov. 19, 1-3 p.m. • Fargo Force Visits the Main Library. Hear stories, meet Fargo Force players, and make a small craft. Oct. 18 & Nov. 15, 6:30 p.m.

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• Pumpkin Painting & Caramel Apple Party. For kids and parents, bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 21, noon-2 p.m. • Chemistry Matters. Hands-on science program for kids in grades 4-6, registration required. Oct. 22, 9:30 & 11:30 a.m. • Beyond the Veil: Ghost Stories for Grown-ups. For teens and adults, costumes encouraged. Oct. 27, 7 p.m. • Teen Gaming featuring “Mario Kart.” Nov. 10, 4 p.m. • A Visit With Author Roxana Saberi. Nov. 13, 2 p.m. Dr. James Carlson Library 2801 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-476-4040 or fargolibrary.org • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. ASL interpreter provided. Oct. 8 & Nov. 12, 10 a.m. • eBooks & eAudiobooks Help Session. Registration required. Oct. 10, 6:30 p.m. • Teen Iron Chef Competition. Oct. 11, 4 p.m. • Pajama Jamboree Family Storytime. Feel free to wear your PJ’s. Oct. 13 & Nov. 10, 6:30 p.m.

• Free Friday Movies. Oct. 14 & Nov. 4, 1 p.m. • Magic Tree House Book Club. Oct. 16 & Nov. 20, 2 p.m. • Teen Texting Competition. Oct. 20, 2 p.m. • Pumpkin Painting & Caramel Apple Party. For kids and parents, bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 20, 5-7 p.m. • Teen Gaming featuring “Mario Kart.” Nov. 3, 4 p.m. • Crafty Teens. Nov. 29, 4 p.m.

Northport Branch 2714 N. Broadway, Fargo, 701-4764026 or fargolibrary.org • Storytime for Toddlers & Preschoolers. Oct. 1 & Nov. 5, 10 a.m. • Pumpkin Painting & Caramel Apple Party. For kids and parents, bring one pumpkin per child. Oct. 19, 5-7 p.m. • Northport Class Book Club. Oct. 19 & Nov. 16, 6:30 p.m. West Fargo Public Library 109 3rd St. E., West Fargo,

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701-433-5460 or westfargolibrary.org • Children’s Storytime. Tuesdays, 1:30 p.m. & Thursdays, 6:30 p.m. • Knitty Giddy. Adult group, bring your own supplies. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Ham Radio Group. All adults welcome, children must attend with an adult. Wednesdays, 7 p.m. • Friday Morning Movies. For preschoolers and younger children and caretakers. Fridays, 10:30 a.m. • Genealogy. Saturdays, noon-4 p.m. • Special Movie Releases. Oct. 1 & 29, Nov. 5 & 19 • Board Games & Legos. Open to all ages. Oct. 7 & Nov. 17, 7-8 p.m. • Video Gaming. Wii, Guitar Hero, open to all ages. Oct. 9 & 23, Nov. 13 & 27, 2-4 p.m. • Recycle Calendar Cards. Bring pictures from past calendars to create cards. Oct. 13, 7-8 p.m. • Friends of the Library (FOL) Used Book Sale. Oct. 14 (Open for FOL, new members welcome), 4-6 p.m.; Oct. 15, 10 a.m.-4:30 p.m.; Oct. 16, 1-4 p.m. • 2nd Annual Pumpkin Decorating Contest. All ages invited to participate, call for details. Oct. 17-28 • Tie Dye Socks. Open to all ages, bring a pair of white socks. Oct. 17, 4-5 p.m. • Caramel Apple Day. Free caramel apples and toppings while supplies last, all ages welcome. Nov. 18, 4-5 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for class descriptions, dates, and times Moorhead Public Library 118 5th St. S., Moorhead, 218-233-7594 or larl.org • Scrabble Night. All ages and skill levels welcome. Mondays, 6:30 p.m. • Chess Night. All ages and skill levels welcome. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. • Storytime. Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. & Wednesdays, 10:30 a.m. • Family Craft Night. Tuesdays following Storytime • Baby Bounce Storytime. Parents and babies up to age 2. Thursdays, 10 a.m. • Youth Book Club. Movie and popcorn to follow. Oct. 1 & Nov. 5, 2 p.m. • Wii Wednesdays. Play Wii, board games, and more. Oct. 5 & Nov. 2, 6 p.m. • Hunting for Elusive Creatures with Paranormal Researcher Chad Lewis. Oct. 6, 7 p.m. • Monster Maker. Make a marvelous monster. Oct. 17, 6:30 p.m.

• Jane Austen Book Club: Mansfield Park. Oct. 18, 7 p.m. • Moorhead Library Book Discussion Group. Oct. 20 & Nov. 17, 7 p.m. • LEGO Club. Oct. 27 & Nov. 17, 6 p.m. • Superhero Storytime. Nov. 8, 6:30 p.m. • Meet Author and Adventurer Barry Lane. Nov. 14, 7 p.m. • Northanger Abbey. Nov. 15, 7 p.m. • Old School Gaming Day. Play classic video games on original gaming systems. Nov. 19, 11 a.m.-4 p.m. • Computer Classes. Call for class descriptions, dates, and times

CLASSES Call for information. Pre-registration may be required. Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm 1201 28th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-6102 or childrensmuseum-yunker.org • Young at Art • Yunkie Club Early Childhood Family Education Probstfield Center for Education, 2410 14th St. S, Moorhead, 218-284-3400

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or https://communityed.moorhead.k12. mn.us • Baby Connection (Birth-12 mos.) • Beep! Beep! Vroom! Vroom! (Birthkindergarten entry) • Cooking With Kids (2 yrs-kindergarten entry) • Dynamic Dinos (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Family Fun With Little Ones (Birth-3 yrs) • Game Night (4 yrs-kindergarten entry) • Gym Dads (Birth-kindergarten entry) • I Can Sing a Rainbow (24-48 mos.) • Make It Take It (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Monday Fun-day (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Ones and Twos (12-36 mos.) • Planes, Trains and Automobiles (Birth-kindergarten entry) • Thrilling Threes & Thinking Threes (36-48 mos.) • Weird, Wild, Wacky Art (2 ½ yrskindergarten entry) • Wonderful Wobbly Ones (12-24 mos.)

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Essentia Health OB Education 3000 32nd Ave. S., Fargo, 701-364-8100 or essentiahealth.org. Call for class times and rooms • Basic Training for New Dads • Birthing Center Tour • Car Seat Safety • Developing the Art of Breastfeeding • Great Expectations • Lamaze • Mom’s Helpers • Tender Transitions Fargo Park District 701-499-7788 or fargoparks.com. Preregistration required. • Create and Explore • Infant & Child CPR • Teen Art—Mixed Media Painting • Teen Art—Painting Fraser, Ltd. 2902 University Dr. S., Fargo, 701-232-3301 or fraserltd.org • CPR • First Aid Healing Arts Chiropractic 3240 15th St. S., Fargo, 701-451-9070 or info@healingartschiropractic.com • How to Stay Young the First 100 Years

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Hospice of the Red River Valley 1701 38th St. S., Fargo, 701-356-1500, 800237-4629 or hrrv.org •B eyond Widowhood: Transitions Class • Journeying Through Grief • Youth Journeys Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or plainsart.org. Pre-registration required • Art Experiences • Kid Quest Parenting Resource Center 701-241-5700 or ag.ndsu.edu/ casscountyextension/home-and-family. Visit website for classes offered • Nurtured Heart Approach Sanford Health 1711 S. University Dr., Fargo, 701-2345570, 877-234-4240 or Sanfordhealth.org • Baby Signs •B etter Choices, Better Health Workshop • Breastfeeding Beginnings • Caring for Your Newborn • Car Seat 101 • Embrace Education Series • Family and Friends—CPR •H eartsaver CPR Day Care Providers • Infant Massage

• Lamaze • Our Family is Having a Baby! • Weight Loss Surgery Information Seminar (701-234-2079) • Your Labor Experience—What to Expect The Village Financial Resource Center 1201 25th St. S., Fargo, 701-235-3328 or HelpWithMoney.org. Call or go online for class locations, dates, and other information • Bankruptcy Education • Homebuyer Education • Tenant Education West Fargo Park District 701-433-5360 or wfparks.org • Snowmobile Safety Course. Call 701328-5384 to register

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Goldberg. Oct. 4-30 • Juried Student Exhibition. Begins Nov. 8 Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo, 701-293-8043 or fargoairmuseum.org Fargodome 1800 N. University Dr., Fargo, 701-241-9100 • Fraser, Ltd. Festival of Trees. View beautifully decorated trees during regular business hours and events. Contact Barb G. at Fraser, Ltd. at 701-232-3301 for more information Historical & Cultural Society of Clay County Hjemkomst Center, 202 1st Ave. N., Moorhead, 218-299-5511 or hcscconline. org • Quilt National ’09. Ends Nov. 13 • African Soul, American Heart: Images of Duk Payuel, Sudan. Ends Nov. 13 MSUM Art Gallery Roland Dille Center for the Arts, MSUM, 1104 7th Ave. S., Moorhead, 218-477-2284 or mnstate.edu/art/Gallery.shtml • Anamnesis: Naomi RaMona Schielsman & Keith W. C. Lemley. Ends Oct. 5 • BA/BS Exhibition. Oct. 10-26

• BFA Exhibition 1. Oct. 31-Nov. 23 • BFA Exhibition 2. Begins Nov. 28 MSUM Planetarium Bridges Hall, MSUM, Moorhead, 218-4772920 • Galaxies. Sundays, 2 p.m. & Mondays, 7 p.m. Ends Nov. 21 Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave. N., Fargo, 701-232-3821 or plainsart.org • See Acts of Audacious Daring! The Circus World of Judy Onofrio • You Like This: A Democratic Approach to the Museum Collection. Begins Oct. 6 The Rourke Art Gallery & Museum Museum: 521 Main Ave., Moorhead, Gallery: 523 S. 4th St., Moorhead, 218-2368861 or rourkeart.org • Recent work by Zhimin Guan. Begins Oct. 2 • Stoked: Five Artists of Fire and Clay. Begins Oct. 23 • Recent work by Brad Bachmeier. Begins Nov. 13 The Spirit Room Art Gallery 111 Broadway, Fargo, 701-237-0230 or spiritroom.net

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The Locavore’s NON-DILEMMA

By Lukas Brandon Illustration by Five Foot Twenty Design All human beings were once locavores, meaning we ate what we could hunt and gather locally. Due in part to the environmental and health consequences of modern food production––meats, beans, breads, fruits, and vegetables gleaned from other continents and flown or shipped to our local grocers––many people are becoming more aware of how they purchase food for their tables. For example, those Dole bananas gently ripening on your kitchen counter obviously didn’t come from western Minnesota; they likely came via ship and airplane from a Latin American country such as Costa Rica, a distance of around 2,600 miles. If you loosely calculate the amount of gas it would take to drive bananas from its source in Costa Rica all the way back to Fargo, you would spend about $400 in fuel alone––and that’s if you’re driving a green machine like a Honda Fit. Let’s hope the bananas are still good by the time you get back. While there are some foods we just can’t grow or purchase around the area, tropical fruits among them, becoming a locavore is actually easier than you think. Potatoes, corn, wheat, dairy, bison, turkey, venison, and a virtual smorgasbord of fresh greens and succulent tomatoes can be grown by area farmers and sourced from our fertile North Dakota and Minnesota soils. Don’t feel like you have to give up kiwi, banana, pineapple, or any other tropical delight. Jennifer Maiser, editor of “Eat Local Challenge,” a website for writers to share their experiences of all things locavore, says, “The great thing about eating local is that it’s not an all-or-nothing venture. Any small step you take helps the environment, protects your family’s health, and supports small farmers in your area.” In a nutshell, here are some great reasons you may want to keep it local: 1. By eating locally grown foods, you maintain

a more direct connection to our food supply. Knowing where your food comes from helps you understand its relationship to your body and community. 2. Food is of great importance to our local economy. Farming is a major engine of the economic growth and fate of our region. 3. Eating locally has relevance to promoting sustainable and environmentally less damaging farming and eating habits.

A Feast Fit for (Local) Kings In order to get back in touch with what is readily available in our region, my wife Janelle and I decided to hold a locavore fall feast, inviting family to join us at our home in Moorhead to share the bounty of locally produced food. Janelle and I had a leg up in preparing our locally derived feast due to our membership with the Bluebird Gardens CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) near Fergus Falls, Minn. CSAs are great for families looking to take advantage of local foods without the work of planting, weeding, and tending their own gardens. A CSA is also a fantastic way to eat locally and experience a variety of produce and meat grown and processed close to home. Early in the spring, our first weekly CSA boxes contained lettuces, cabbages, beets, and turnips. As we approached midAugust, my favorites were coming to us in abundance: sweet corn, potatoes, onions, kale, and cucumbers, with squash and pumpkin coming soon. Of course, you don’t need to belong to a CSA in order to sample the veggies of the valley. Odds are good if you don’t garden yourself you know someone who does. I’ve heard in some small towns people have to lock their cars in late summer to ensure their neighbors don’t fill the passenger seat with too much zucchini. Often, you can set up a barter and trade system with neighbors. For example, our (continued on next page)

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If you participated in a CSA this season, you might have a lot of leftover squash, onions, and other hardy vegetables. Before you throw them in the compost, consider preparing them for the freezer. Freezing vegetables is an easy way to preserve them for several months––all the way through winter. The United States Department of Agriculture says freezing fresh meat and vegetables is a safe, healthy way to preserve food throughout the year. “Freshness and quality at the time of freezing affect the condition of frozen foods,” the USDA says. “If frozen at peak quality, thawed foods emerge tasting better than foods frozen near the end of their useful life.” Barbara J. Willenberg of the Department of Food Science and Human Nutrition at the University of Missouri Extension says nearly all vegetables can be frozen for later use. Blanching or scalding the vegetables will slow or stop the action of enzymes, preventing them from continuing to grow and mature. “If vegetables are not blanched, the enzymes continue to be active during frozen storage, causing off-colors, off-flavors, and toughening,” Willenberg says. Here are some tips to freezing those CSA or farmers market veggies: • The fresher the better: The USDA says to freeze foods as fast as possible to maintain quality. “Rapid freezing prevents undesirable large ice crystals from forming throughout the product because the molecules don’t have time to form.” • If you’re concerned about those peas you froze a year ago, don’t just throw them out. Check for odor. If there’s a rancid smell, toss them. However, some veggies may not look fresh from the garden, but they are still perfectly edible and suitable for stews and soups. • Freezer burn isn’t necessarily bad, it just doesn’t have that fresh from the garden look. Cut away freezer burn spots either before or after cooking, though if the food is heavily freezer burned, you might want to just throw it out or compost it.

neighbors grow slightly different vegetables than we do and are eager to swap their bumper crop of tomatoes and peppers with some of our cabbage and potatoes. Another great option is to visit the local farmers markets and vegetable stands that spring up throughout the area in the summer and fall months. Along with vegetables, local vendors may also sell valueadded food products such as salsa and jelly. Don’t rule out area grocery stores either. Produce departments from stores such as Hornbacher’s and Cash Wise include as much local produce as they can get their hands on throughout the growing season. The Main Event: Locally-Raised Meat Preparing the feast was a bit stressful for us, as it was the first, big, Thanksgiving-sized dinner we were in charge of serving. True to our generation, we found most of our preparation and cooking tips through Google. My grandmother sniffed a bit when she was forced to sit through an eHow.com video describing how to make gravy, but hey, it worked for us. For the main course of our local feast we chose to feature the symbol of Thanksgiving––and Benjamin Franklin’s choice to be our national bird––the turkey. Janelle was able

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to procure an early bird from our farmer, Mark Boen, of Bluebird Gardens. Janelle, who is a vegetarian, could not resist sampling the bird and declared it delicious. She paid for it late that night with a tummy ache, so we don’t recommend other strict vegetarians follow her example. If you choose to feature another meat besides turkey at your locavore feast, consider venison as an entree. Several members of my immediate family are avid outdoorsmen and keep a supply of locally produced meat in their freezers in between hunting seasons. Deer hunting provides not only a traditional form of recreation for hunters, but it adds a valuable function in thinning the excess deer population we have helped to create through our land use patterns. Duck, pheasant, and other game birds may also be available close to your own table. Ask around and you may find a hunter with too much meat in the deep freeze who is willing to trade for a portion of your bumper tomato crop. Don’t Forget the Sides The meal was amazing. Our Internet recipes did not steer us wrong, and the turkey and gravy were outstanding. Sweetened beets filled in nicely as a local replacement for cranberries

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(at least the color was the same). My mother picked up a few bottles of wine from the Maple River Winery located in Casselton, adding to the luxury of our local spread. She also brought homemade applesauce made from the fruit of her neighbor’s apple tree and raspberries she grew on her own fence line. Carrots from the neighbor’s garden, located near Portland, N.D., were combined with green beans from Bluebird Gardens, to create a flavorful vegetable dish. In addition to these sides, we had buttery LINKS sweet corn and creamy mashed potatoes, all grown locally. • ndorganics.nd.gov Now that you know how fun • bluebirdgardens.net and easy it can be to eat locally • redgoosegardens.com produced food, why not prepare • mapleriverwinery.com and serve your own locavore • cityoffargo.com fall feast? We discovered the real challenge is not sourcing the ingredients, but choosing from among the many great local options available. A delectable dilemma indeed. Lukas Brandon is a regular contributor to The Village Family Magazine. He lives in Moorhead.

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In the book “The Long Goodbye,” author Meghan O’Rourke writes about waking one night feeling icy cold and with her heart pounding from a nightmare several months after her mother passed away from colon cancer. Her panicky realization was this: Her mother had died, all those she loved would die and someday, she too would die.

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As Meghan realized, death is inevitable. Renowned palliative care physician and public advocate, Dr. Ira Byock, is passionate about improving end-of-life care in this country. Byock believes, “The nature of dying is not medical, it is experiential. Dying is fundamentally a personal experience, not a set of medical problems to be solved.” Modern medicine has produced artificial devices to prolong life, but has yet to find a way to keep people living with a high quality of life after their vital organs have worn out or become severely diseased. People die. And it is our humanitarian duty to one another to ensure that a dignified life is coupled with an honorable death. The mission of both palliative care and hospice care is to ease patient suffering and to help the patients and their families feel comfortable at the most painful time in their lives. Palliative Care Palliative care (which in most cases is received in a hospital setting) is defined as specialized medical care for people with serious or life-threatening illnesses. Palliative care is generally a team approach focused on providing patients with relief from the symptoms, pain, and stress of a serious illness. The goal is to maintain quality of life from the time of the diagnosis onward for both the patient and the family. The National Institute of Health describes what palliative care strives to

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provide to the patient: • Expert treatment of pain and other symptoms so the patient can get the best relief possible. • Open discussion about treatment choices, including treatment for the disease and management of the symptoms. • Coordination of care with all the patient’s health care providers. • Emotional support for the patient and their family. Joe Halvorson, Registered Nurse and Palliative Care Coordinator for Essentia Health in Fargo, insists that enlisting the services of the palliative care unit in no way means the patient or the family is “giving up” on trying to beat their illness or disease. “Palliative care may include aggressive treatments for a potentially curable leukemia that involves tremendous symptom burden for the patient,” says Halvorson. “It could also involve advance care planning with someone who has dementia, heart failure, emphysema, or some other disease that, though chronic and usually progressive, people experience while enjoying very full and rewarding lives.” Halvorson understands the perception exists that palliative care is only dedicated to reducing end-oflife pain. He’s committed to changing this perception through education and evidence. “The goal of palliative care is not to

talk a patient or family out of pursuing treatments,” Halvorson reassures. “There’s no cajoling; no persuasion. We address questions, concerns, or misconceptions; explore the individual’s hopes, goals, and worries; and help the person consider treatment options. My friend and colleague, Nancy Joyner (a palliative care nurse at Altru in Grand Forks), uses the four C’s when caring for patients: comfort, communication, choices, and control. Who, at any stage of a serious illness, would not want assistance and support like that?” Palliative care doctors, nurses and social workers provide direct services to the individual requiring care. They also care for the patient’s family and loved ones by helping them navigate through financial affairs and providing grief counseling and funeral planning assistance. “Thankfully, people seldom face serious illness alone,” observes Halvorson. “We seek to address the holistic needs of the family by addressing their questions and concerns, facilitating coping and grief, and encouraging physical self-care. Many people find books like ‘Gone From My Sight’ by Barbara Karnes and ‘Hard Choices for Loving People’ by Hank Dunn to be beneficial and meaningful resources.” Halvorson suggests that critical conversations about end-of-life care should take place well before a medical

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emergency strikes. He also recommends naming a health care agent in a health care directive to speak on behalf of the patient in the event the patient is unable to advocate on his or her behalf. “Dignity is found in the inherent uniqueness of an individual,” Halvorson affirms. “Palliative care does not take a one-size fits-all approach. Facing serious illness can be scary, alienating, uncertain, and uncomfortable. Palliative care providers make a commitment to walking the journey with patients and their loved ones and work to respect and uphold their values.” Hospice Care “I’m really sorry but the cancer has advanced and we don’t have another option other than starting hospice and focusing on quality care and end-of-life treatment.” These were the dreaded words Rachael Gray, Detroit Lakes, Minn., heard from her mother, Sheri’s, oncologist last year. Sheri Felt survived brain cancer 20 years ago, came through a divorce, watched her two children grow up, and pursued a career in nursing. When the brain cancer returned last year, the tumor was operable and oral chemo was administered. Sheri didn’t respond to the chemo and was given six months to live. One month into the six-month projection, the hospice nurse called Rachael to let her know her mother’s breathing had changed and that she wouldn’t be alive much longer. Rachael and her brother, Zach, joined their mother and played music for her and talked with her, even though she couldn’t respond to them. Sheri died under the care of Hospice of the Red River Valley at Oak Crossing in Detroit Lakes with her children, Rachael and Zach, her mother, and her siblings encircling her on April 28, 2010. “I am a nurse and have cared for many patients in their final moments and truly believe that they deserve to be as comfortable as possible,” says Rachael. Tricia Langlois, MD, Medical Director for Hospice of the Red River Valley in Fargo, shares Rachael’s sentiment. Langlois is a champion of Byock’s perspective in regard to “dying well” (dyingwell.org) and believes there is no universally right way to die. “By allowing a person the opportunity to ‘die well,’ on their terms, defined by that individual, hospice care allows the ultimate way to bring dignity to a dying person,” says Langlois. Kari Dew, Social Work Coordinator for Hospice of the Red River Valley, believes caregiving is the best way for loved ones to bring dignity to the dying. An important part of the hospice philosophy is empowering the family to be the primary

caregivers with support from the hospice team. “Where a patient chooses to die is a very personal decision,” shares Dew. “Often people prefer to be in the comfort of their home, surrounded by their personal possessions and the people who love them.” Dew notes that an alternative setting other than the home is sometimes a better arrangement. Factors such as caregiver burnout, complicated symptom management, custodial care costs, or simply cost may be prohibitive factors that influence this decision. “Caregiving is one of the toughest yet rewarding jobs family members will ever have,” shares Dew. “It requires a great deal of patience and support and is the best gift anyone can give a dying person.” Caregiving may involve everything from day-to-day duties to a long-distance phone call from a loved one. Dew advises caregivers to know their own limitations and be honest about their level of comfort with providing caregiving tasks. Beth Haseltine, Hospice of the Red River Valley Bereavement Program Manager, assists families and caregivers with coping with their feelings in regard to their dying or deceased loved one. “Grief is not linear,” shares Haseltine. “It does not follow a nice, straight path. Many people never completely ‘accept’ the loss of their loved one, but accommodate it into their life.” Some of the individuals Haseltine has worked with who’ve experienced loss feel that if they accept the death it means they agree with it. Instead, they acknowledge the loss and learn to live their life without the physical presence of the person who died. Hospice care aims to manage medical issues and symptoms (pain and discomfort) and also manage the emotionally and socially complex issues the patient and family face during the final stage of life. “We are able to keep the patient comfortable from disease symptoms while providing psychological, spiritual, and social comfort,” says Langlois. “This approach greatly enhances the time the patient has left with their family. We have the right to live with dignity and die with dignity. The choice is ours to make.” In Byock’s article “Dying With Dignity,” he states, “Most of us will be physically dependent and intimately cared for by others before we die. This fact does not destine us to become undignified. It simply confirms that we are human.” Janelle Brandon is a regular contributor to The Village Family Magazine

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Taking on the Family Business Two area business owners share their thoughts about working in the family business By Meredith Holt Photography by Skyloft Photography If you’re familiar with the popular television show “Arrested Development,” starring Jason Bateman, Portia de Rossi and Michael Cera, then you’ve watched how not to run a family-owned business. For those of you who haven’t had the “Arrested Development” experience, the story revolves around levelheaded son, Michael Bluth (played by Bateman), trying to salvage the family-owned business after patriarch, George Bluth Sr., is sent to prison for less-than-ethical business practices. It’s a humorous, understated examination of family business and family life. The reality of familybusiness life, however, is not always humorous—but always unique. Family Business in America A huge portion of America’s wealth rests with familyowned businesses. Anywhere from 80 to 90 percent of all business enterprises in the U.S. are family firms. The Small Business Administration (SBA) estimates that family businesses generate about half of our country’s Gross National Product and account for half of the total wages paid. As defined by the SBA, a family business is any business in which a majority of the ownership or control lies within a family, and in which two or more family members are directly involved. In Fargo-Moorhead, family-owned businesses provide a wide range of services and include Wimmer’s Jewelry, Shotwell Floral, JT Lawn Services, Vic’s Aircraft Sales, Fargo Parts and Equipment, and Valentino’s Restaurant, to name just a few. According to businessweek.com, about 40 percent of U.S. family-owned businesses become second-generation businesses like Gasper’s School of Dance and Performing Arts; approximately 13 percent become third-generation enterprises; and a mere three percent make it to the fourth generation and beyond, like Boulger Funeral Home. Jim Boulger and Matt Gasper share their stories about working with family and contributing to the face of the community. Service to Families Jim Boulger started working for his father at Boulger Funeral Home in 1995 when he was just ten years old. He was the “maintenance man” growing up: delivering flowers, washing cars, mowing lawns, shoveling snow. “I would hear my dad get up in the middle of the night and know that he was working, but was never directly involved,” he says. Jim’s father, Larry, grew up helping his father (also named Jim) with the funeral home. “All of my grandpa’s children were tasked with answering the funeral home line at home when it rang more than three times,” Jim says. Boulger Funeral Home was established in 1897 by John Boulger and Edward Hughes. John’s son, Jim, bought the

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Matt Gasper, left, and his mother Kathy are committed to providing the Fargo-Moorhead community with performance art.

funeral home in 1951. Jim’s son, Larry, joined while he was a student at the University of Minnesota. In 1978, Larry bought the funeral home from his father and has owned and operated the business ever since. “I don’t think he’s ever going to stop working,” Jim says of his father. Boulger’s staff has grown over the years from two funeral directors when Larry took over (himself included) to five funeral directors, one full-time office manager, and six part-time employees today. Jim says he was never pressured to join the family business. His father told him, “Do what you want, go where you want, but if you decide you want to do this someday, I’m here.” “It was always my own decision,” he says. “I wasn’t entirely sure I

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“I get to see my dad every day – not everyone can say that.” —Jim Boulger

Jim Boulger began working in the family business when he was ten years old.

was going to take over the funeral home when I went to college, so I decided to pursue a different career.” Jim first earned a business management degree and then decided to go into the funeral business. He obtained a mortuary science degree in 2008. That same year, Jim joined Boulger Funeral Home as a funeral director. Now Jim and Larry work side by side as the third and fourth generation of Boulgers to serve the area. Each brings different strengths to the business. Larry “is a wealth of knowledge,” Jim says. “I can always go to him for advice and information, and chances are he’s gone through it and knows the right response. He’s got his knowledge base, and I’ve got mine,” Jim says. Jim is using his knowledge to change and transform the funeral home business—a wise move, according to Barbara Spector, editor-in-chief of Family Business Magazine. “In the challenges of today’s business environment (global competition, rapidly evolving technology, etc.), it is generally not a viable strategy to keep following the founder’s business strategy. Each new generation must reinvent the business or else risk suffering the fate of the buggy-whip maker,” says Spector. Boulger Funeral Home is doing just that. Jim focuses on driving their marketing and business management philosophies and making their funeral homes among the most technologically advanced in the nation. “Our generation wants everything online,” he says. Like any business, family-owned or not, there are obstacles. Holidays can be hard for the Boulger family. The on-call schedule makes planning for personal time and family activities difficult, Jim says, adding there were two calls last Christmas Eve. The nature of the job requires around-the-clock service. Throughout the changes and challenges, Jim doesn’t lose sight of the benefits of working with family: “I get to see my dad every day – not everyone can say that.” A Dance Company On the outside, Gasper’s School of Dance and Performing Arts appears unassuming. The studio is housed in a one-story

brick building with royal-blue trim in downtown Fargo. The sound of tap dancers practicing a lively routine escapes through the windows. Inside, 36-year-old Matt Gasper is a whirlwind in the studio, greeting visitors, prepping for his fitness class, and checking in on his mother’s in-progress ballet class. After studying and working as a professional dancer and performer in New York and Los Angeles, Matt Gasper returned to Fargo-Moorhead. When he came back six years ago, Matt planned to stay for one year to help his parents, Eddie and Kathy Gasper, with their new dance studio. He’s still here. Today, Matt works as master instructor at both North Dakota State University and Minnesota State University Moorhead, artistic director of the FM Ballet, and co-owner and master instructor at Gasper’s. Eddie and Kathy Gasper are renowned dancers, instructors, and choreographers. Eddie Gasper’s work on Broadway and in Hollywood included directing for Ginger Rogers and a decade as Bob Fosse’s assistant. He came to the area to serve as director/choreographer at MSUM, was co-artistic director/ choreographer for the Red River Dance & Performing Company for 17 years, and directed the main-stage musical at Trollwood Performing Arts School from 1981 to 1991. He is now retired. Kathy Gasper, or “Mrs. Gasper,” as she’s referred to by everyone—even Matt—comes from a classical background and worked in Broadway, television, cabarets, regional theater, and summer stock productions. She was the director of the dance department at Trollwood from 1981 to 1993. “People always ask, ‘Why don’t you call her Mom?’ I say, ‘Because it is Mrs. Gasper, and for anyone who has met her, they would get it.’ She is my mother and mother to many children that pass through these doors, but we all call her Mrs. Gasper,” Matt says. It wasn’t easy growing up with such talented parents. At about age 12, Matt decided he, too, wanted to pursue a career in dance. “I had to work really hard, if not more, because I was their son,” he says. “It’s like being the kid of the basketball coach.” Matt’s experience with carrying on the family business is clearly not one made of obligation, but of a genuine passion

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for dance and performance. Not all families are fortunate enough to have their sons and daughters so enthusiastic about maintaining the business. Although his father is retired, he remains a constant source of theater expertise, Matt says. “Both are masters and educators in the truest sense,” he says of his parents. “I am very lucky to be able to have such a gift. Fargo-Moorhead is blessed to have these two in the community to share their knowledge with. The Fargo-Moorhead theater community would not be as strong as it is today if they were not here.” When asked what he doesn’t like about working with family, Matt says: “It’s family.” He says it’s important to maintain separation between the work relationship and the personal relationship. “Even though we argue about a piece we are working on or the running of the business, it’s never personal.” In everything he does, Matt follows his parents’ advice: Follow your heart, keep the faith, and if it’s wrong, don’t do it. “Words I live by,” he says. Meredith Holt is a regular contributing writer to The Village Family Magazine. She lives in Fargo.

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Good Breast Health Begins withMinute Knowledge, Medical Article Awareness – Breast Health

ake control of your breast health – Know your risks and get screened.

Breast cancer will change the course for one in every eight women during her lifetime. The good news is, it doesn’t have to go undetected and it can be prevented if you’re willing to take the right steps for detection and prevention. Know your risk “The best thing a woman can do when it comes to the risk of breast cancer, is to be aware of her body and proactive in her health,” says Michael Bouton MD, Sanford Health. Knowing your risk helps you and your physician understand what factors may contribute or increase your chance of getting cancer. Risk factors do not necessarily mean you will develop the disease. “Some risk factors you just can’t change,” says Dr. Bouton, “things like your age or family history of cancer. But lifestyle risks you do have control over.” Generally, living a healthy life, eating a balanced diet, limiting alcohol and exercising regularly improve your health and reduce your risk for the disease.

with a genetic counselor or have more frequent screenings. Low risk? “If your risk is low, that’s great news,” says Dr. Bouton, “however, it’s important you don’t use that as an excuse to ignore your breast health.” Eighty percent of women diagnosed with breast cancer don’t have any family history of the disease.

Get screened Mammograms are highly effective in detecting breast cancer. In fact, they can detect lumps before they can be felt during a self-examination. Sanford Health, along with the American Cancer Society, recommends women in their twenties and thirties have a clinical breast exam every three years as long as they are healthy. During that time, they should continue regular self-exams. Women 40 and over should High risk? have an annual mammogram as well If you have an increased risk of as an annual clinical breast exam. “It’s breast cancer, talk to your doctor. He always good to talk to your doctor or she can speak with you about what about what he or she recommends for it means and what your next steps you,” says Dr. Bouton. are. It may be helpful for you to meet This Medical Update was brought to you by Sanford Health. For more information about Sanford, This Medical Update was brought to you by Sanford Health. visit www.sanfordhealth.org For more information about Sanford, family TheVillageFamily.org visit www.sanfordhealth.org

Be proactive We cannot predict with 100% certainty what the future will bring. But by being proactive and being aware, women can detect breast cancer early, and increase their chances of survival. Call for an appointment today. Digital mammography is easier than ever to access. Sanford Southpointe Clinic, located at 2400 32nd St., has expanded weekday hours and is open all day Saturdays for your convenience. Call (701) 234-7100 to schedule an appointment, or use the new walk-in option. Schedule your mammogram, take your friends, use the walk-in option and spread the word. Get screened! Expanded hours include: Monday – Friday, 6:15 a.m. to 8 p.m. Saturday, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. Walk-In: Monday – Friday, 5 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Saturday, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.

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Our daughter, now 18 months, came home from the hospital with us, and has become so much a part of our everyday life, sometimes I forget she is adopted. What is a good age to begin telling her the story of her adoption?

Children who join their family through the adoption process need to understand a couple basic points: •She grew in someone else’s tummy; and •Her place in your family is permanent. Obviously there is a lot in the middle to fill in, but those are the details that can be expanded upon as she grows. Books, music, baby albums, videos and television are all great ways for parents to bring up the subject of adoption. In those early years it is more about you practicing and becoming comfortable in sharing her story with her, than it is her understanding. If you are comfortable sharing her adoption story with her, she is more likely to bring the topic up when she has questions or thoughts to share.

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The New American Plate: Rethinking How We Eat According to the New American Plate, meat should be By Meredith Holt treated as a side dish or condiment rather than the focus of How many times have you heard (or said), “No thanks, I’m the meal. “Consuming smaller portion sizes of meat can on a diet”? We talk about a “diet” like it’s something we’ll help reduce our calorie intake and still provide the nutrients eventually get off, like a ride at the state fair, when in fact, needed,” Hieb comments. Start by planning meals around the we’re all on a diet. A diet is technically just food and drink produce that’s on sale for the week, she says, or pick an inregularly provided or consumed. season vegetable or fruit to inspire a dish. Our diets can do more for our bodies than give us the basic Convincing evidence links red meat to colon cancer, and energy we need to live. Eating well can help keep us feeling the evidence linking processed meats like sausage, bacon, well. An extra bonus to eating well also includes staving off ham, luncheon meats, and hot dogs to colon cancer is even many diseases––even some cancers. Amy Hieb, an oncology stronger, so limit or avoid red meat and processed meat. The dietitian for Essentia Health in Fargo, says nutrition “is a New American Plate guidelines advise keeping red meat intake variable that we have control over to help minimize our risk to less than 18 ounces per week. Another way to look at it: for developing cancer.” Include 3-ounce servings of red meat in only six of your 21 The American Institute for Cancer Research (AICR) says if weekly meals. everyone ate a healthy diet, was physically active every day, Countless studies show that a predominantly plant-based diet and maintained a healthy weight, approximately one-third of is beneficial in preventing obesity and many chronic diseases. the most common cancers could be prevented worldwide. In addition to helping to prevent cancer, the AICR says a diet The AICR, a cancer charity that fosters research on diet and based mostly on vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and beans can cancer, has released diet recommendations called the “New help prevent heart disease, type 2 diabetes, and stroke. It can American Plate” that aim to change the way we think about also keep your weight in a healthy range. what we eat. You don’t necessarily have to eliminate foods or follow a strict meal plan. Simply combine the food you eat into The Science Behind It All new proportions, or make some substitutions. According to the AICR, vegetables and fruits supply The New American Plate guidelines, based on the expert vitamins, minerals, and phytochemicals that protect the body’s panel report “Food, Nutrition, Physical Activity, and the cells from damage by cancer-causing agents. Phytochemicals Prevention of Cancer: a Global Perspective” are centered on a are compounds found only in plants and include carotenoids, simple concept: Plant foods (vegetables, fruits, whole grains, flavonoids, and saponins. and beans) should cover two-thirds (or more) of your plate. Carotenoids are antioxidants that subdue free radicals that Fish, poultry, meat, and low-fat dairy should cover one-third damage our DNA. Lycopene, a type of carotenoid, is found (or less) of your plate. in tomatoes, pink grapefruit, and watermelon. Lutein, another With these guidelines you can eliminate counting calories, type of carotenoid, is found in leafy vegetables like spinach weighing portions, or memorizing a list of vitamins, minerals, and collard greens. and their sources. You just have to examine your plate and Flavonoids decrease inflammation and impede the growth make sure two-thirds of it is covered in plant-based foods and of cancer cells. Anthocyanin, a type of flavonoid, is found in the remaining one-third is animal protein. The objective is to strawberries, raspberries, and cranberries. Quercetin, another achieve these plate proportions at as many meals as possible. type of flavonoid, is found in apples, pears, and green tea. Saponins, which are found in whole grains and beans, help Replacing the Pyramid control cholesterol, triglycerides, and blood sugar levels and Most of us were taught the United States Department of may prevent the proliferation of cancer cells. Agriculture’s Food Guide Pyramid. In June, the pyramid was Vitamins, minerals, and replaced with “MyPlate,” which phytochemicals (compounds is similar to the New American Guidelines for Cancer Prevention: produced by plants such as the Plate. “Both concepts are focusing • Choose mostly plant foods, limit red meat, familiar beta carotene or folic acid) on portioning your plate, making and avoid processed meat. provide greater benefits when they healthy food choices, monitoring • Be physically active every day in any way for are consumed together, so variety is serving sizes, and monitoring the important to a cancer-fighting diet. 30 minutes or more. number of portions consumed,” Hieb The New American Plate encourages says. • Aim to be a healthy weight throughout life. trying new foods, new flavor In the U.S., meat is typically • Do not smoke or chew tobacco. combinations, and new recipes. treated as the main event. Meals are ––American Institute for Cancer Research Plant foods have low caloric planned around meat, and starches density. Caloric density is the and vegetables are served as sides. average amount of calories in one ounce or one gram of a The AICR aims to reverse that way of thinking by placing a food. Fatty meats, full-fat dairy products, creamy dressings, greater emphasis on plant-based foods.

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and high-fat snack foods have high caloric density. According to Livestrong.com, “The less fat and more water a food has, the lower its caloric density. For instance, a gram of vegetables has a far lower caloric density than a gram of pasta.” Foods with low caloric density can be consumed in a larger volume for the same amount of calories, making you feel fuller with less. The New American Plate guidelines recommend consuming five servings of vegetables and fruits each day. A standard serving of vegetables or fruit is usually only half a cup, so it’s much easier to reach five servings than you’d think. Slice half a banana onto your morning cereal, eat carrots and celery sticks for an afternoon snack, top grilled fish with a mango salsa, and you’re well on your way. The guidelines also include six to eight servings of whole grains such as brown rice, barley, quinoa, whole-grain breakfast cereal, oatmeal, whole-wheat bread, and legumes such as peas and dried beans. Challenges of the New American Plate Incorporating new eating habits isn’t easy, so don’t overwhelm yourself with a sudden and complete change. Hieb says making small, gradual changes is more effective over the long term. A more plant-based diet may increase food costs, but meal

planning and stocking your kitchen with a combination of fresh, frozen, canned, and shelf-stable plant-based foods “can help minimize cost and ensure availability to healthy food choices throughout the week,” Hieb says. Dining out presents its own challenges to eating well. Portions have ballooned over the years, and plate sizes have also increased. Look for meals that follow the New American Plate guidelines, i.e., those in which meat is not the main component. “Choose meals with limited breading, sauces, and gravies, or share a meal,” Hieb advises. Or box up half of your meal as soon as it arrives at the table. And “don’t be afraid to ask for what you want, such as substituting salad for french fries,” she adds. Educate yourself about portion sizes. We tend to underestimate how much food we eat. Measure out a serving size of your favorite foods to learn what a single serving looks like. For example, a serving of pasta, rice, or cooked cereal is half a cup, which looks like a rounded handful for an average adult. A serving of meat, poultry, or seafood is about the size of a deck of playing cards. The New American Plate isn’t restrictive or complicated. The AICR believes, “It’s a fresh way of looking at what you eat every day.”

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Join us for the 5th Annual Wine & Dine Nov. 18.

Wine and Dine is a collaborative culinary experience featuring the perfect marriage of wine and food. Enjoy the evening while raising funds to support Big Brothers Big Sisters and Nokomis Child Care Centers of The Village Family Service Center. Savor a spectacular multi-course meal created by Holiday Inn Executive Chef Jeff Bruggeman. Sample wines from the finest wineries. Savor the sweetness of sparkling wine in a complimentary Riedel Magnum glass. Dance to the live music of The Shakers. Bid on unforgettable items in the silent and live auctions.

$75 per plate • Fargo Holiday Inn Friday, Nov. 18 • 6 p.m. Corporate Table sponsorships available. Call Tasha at The Village Family Service Center at 701-451-4956 or visit Happy Harry’s Bottle Shops for ticket information. Thank you to our generous sponsors:

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YOUR FAMILY z food & fun Cinnamon & Spice Pumpkin Cupcakes

1 (18.25 oz) spice cake mix 1 (15 oz) can solid pack pumpkin 3 eggs 1 ⁄3 cup vegetable oil or unsweetened applesauce 1 ⁄3 cup water ½ teaspoon cinnamon ¼ teaspoon pumpkin pie spice 1 can (16 oz) cream cheese or vanilla frosting Preheat oven to 350°. Spray muffin/cupcake pans or use paper liners (makes 18-24). Using a mixer and a large bowl, blend all ingredients together just until moistened. Beat on medium speed for two more minutes, scraping the bowl as necessary. Fill cupcake cups ¾ full. Bake for 18 to 23 minutes or until wooden toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Cool completely before frosting.

Pumpkin Notepad

Orange and black craft foam Plain white paper Paper punch Green pipe cleaners Scissors Glue Cut two circles from orange craft foam. Cut circles from several sheets of white paper. Punch holes in the top of all circles. Stack the white paper between the two orange circles and line up all holes. Push a pipe cleaner halfway through the holes to hold the foam and paper together. Twist the two ends of the pipe cleaner into a stem. Cut shapes from black foam and glue to the top orange circle to make the pumpkin’s face.

Bat Pencil Topper

Pencil top eraser Black and white paint Black construction paper or cardstock Scissors Glue Cut a triangle from the top of the eraser with scissors, creating two pointed ears. Paint the eraser black and let dry. Cut bat wings from paper or cardstock and glue to back of eraser. Use a toothpick dipped in paint to make small circles for eyes.

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YOUR FAMILY z words & wisdom

“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” —Muhammad Ali

Expressions of Gratitude For the rise and set of the sun each day … I am thankful. For the bounty and beauty of mother earth … I am thankful. For the home where the heart of my family resides … I am thankful. For the enduring devotion of steadfast friendships … I am thankful. For the pleasure of unrestricted laughter and silly moments … I am thankful. For the numerous shoulders that share the weight of my sorrows … I am thankful. For all I have and all I am able to give … I am thankful. For a quiet moment at the break of day to renew my spirit, to pause and say:

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” ––Maya Angelou

Quotables “Tomorrow hopes we have learned something from yesterday.” ––John Wayne “Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” ––Eleanor Roosevelt

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“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ––C. S. Lewis “People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; never throw out anyone.” —Audrey Hepburn

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