Distinctively Southern Wedding Winter 2020 Issue

COMES tHE BRiDE

THE VIEW FROM THE ALTAR WAS AS ENDLESS AS OUR LOVE.

McCorkle

Lyndsie + Jordan Heatherly

Jill + Stormy Mitchell

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Anna Robertson Ham Marketing & Communications

Johnny Birdsong Publisher | Sales & Development

Shelly Robertson Birdsong Publisher | Editor In Chief

Ron Cheatham Operations

Annie Osteen Managing Editor

Jen Franks Creative Services Director

BRIDE

Dear Readers,

What is the by-product of a wedding? A couple joined together presumably for life, who then in turn create – a family. That image, of families coming together via two people’s commitment and then the family created from there, is the true and lasting result of that beautiful day you planned and hoped for your whole life, up until that point. But, for those of us celebrating anniversaries down the road, that day, is just the beginning.

Married life can be not what you might imagine when you walk down the aisle and all is right with the world in that perfect moment. Marriage is real life and as they say, not a fairy tale. Although, I would disagree to a point, in that, marriage, or your love story, is in fact your fairy tale and whatever that may look like to you. So, just like a princess in a fairy tale, your hero has rescued you from being alone and taken you to be with them and to share all that comes your way – together. No matter what kind of bride and groom, groom and groom, bride and bride, couple you may be – we all are starting down that aisle with the same result in mind – to bind ourselves together with another person for life.

Celebrating marriage and the beauty that is a wedding and even more so the beauty that is a couple, makes me smile every time we do an issue of Distinctively Southern Wedding. It brings back all the hopes and dreams of one special day and revisits all those wishes come true and hearts’ desires fulfilled. For me, to marry my love and have a family, which I have been blessed to do; to see my family and friends who stood with us on our wedding day, stand with us as we christen our son, and take vows once again to love us and hold us up in life and in love; and to watch as the continuation of life moves forward and I can already imagine the day we will stand up with our children as they marry their loves, is what life, love and marriage is all about.

There is so much of our life tied into that one special day, it’s no wonder so much attention is paid. As always, we have strived to put together another volume of more beauty, more ideas, more trends and lessons in love, for you, planning a wedding or being a part of one. We hope you enjoy. We wish you and yours a beautiful day and a wonderful fairytale life.

// Shelly Robertson Birdsong Publisher shelly@robertsonmediagroup.com

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Diamond Buying Insights

From Our Diamond Buyer:

A diamond grading certificate explains the specifics of a diamond but not its overall beauty. A diamond certificate should be used as a guide or tool to help narrow down your search. Actually seeing a diamond is the only way to confirm its true beauty and value.

Have you ever done a diamond search online and wondered why a diamond with the same 4 C’s has such a large range in price? It’s because diamonds are valued by how beautiful they are in-person, not just by what the certificate says.

Not all diamonds are created equal! Clarity is determined by the size, color, location and type of inclusion in a diamond. Higher spectrum grades are now more desirable and thus more expensive. At wholesale, there can be as much as a 20% difference within the same clarity grade.

If you are handed a jeweler’s loupe to see the inclusions in a diamond, be very cautious. A diamond should only be viewed under a microscope at 10X magnification with proper lighting. Only a microscope allows you to see the full internal characteristics of a diamond.

The Fifth C…Cost: Since price is always a factor, many retailers will attempt to push lower spectrum diamonds because they appear to be an incredible “deal.” No matter how incredible the deal may seem, you always end up getting what you pay for.

June 23, 2019

photography by shari + mike photography

Lyndsie Marie Rogers + Jordan Webre Heatherly

Vendors:

Photography // Shari + Mike Photography

Videographer // Hello Tomorrow Films

Wedding planner // Oh Lovely Deer

Reception venue // Locavore Grill

Ceremony // Sea to Sky Gondola

Location // Squamish, B.C. Canada

Wedding Dress // LUD bridal

Menswear // Jos. A. Banks

Florist // A Fox in the Flowers

Cake // Butterlane Bakeshop

Makeup // Denise Elliot Makeup

Hair // Hair by Becca

With a shared love of adventure, the west coast and exploring the world, Lyndsie and Jordan knew exactly where they wanted to take their wedding day…to the mountains of Squamish, B.C. Canada. Wanting a small intimate wedding with closest family and friends while honoring the Lord’s day, they were married on Sunday, June 23, 2019 at Sea to Sky Gondola overlooking the magical coastal forest and surrounding mountains. The wedding party arrived three days prior to the big day to enjoy the trails and scenery before dancing the night away to a hand-picked playlist from the bride and groom.

A few personal touches included Lyndsie and her father, Paul, dancing to their own rendition of “Here Comes The Sun” by the Beatles, being married by Jordan’s father and Pastor, Jerry Heatherly, and exchanging personal vows on a mountain top. A memory of a lifetime for not only themselves but all their guests as well.

How Millennials Are Changing Weddings

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It’s no secret that millennials are choosing to do things differently than generations before them. Their relationships are no exception, as they choose to move in together sooner and get married later than their parents.

When millennials do decide to get married, their weddings look different, too. Gone are the days of religious ceremonies, rice showers, and cans tied to cars, having been replaced by millennials with traditions of their own, such as first looks and sparkler exits. What other wedding traditions are millennials leaving behind? We asked 1,850 newlyweds to find out.

Traditions aren’t the only thing millennials are saying goodbye to. Less than one in five millennial weddings are paid for by the bride’s family – instead, that cost is more often shouldered by the couples themselves. According to respondents, almost half paid for their own wedding, and when they did, they split costs evenly. This includes the wedding dress, which one in four couples bought together.

When receiving financial help from family or splitting costs themselves isn’t feasible, millennials aren’t afraid to turn to others for help: fifteen percent of respondents said they asked for donations to a wedding fund and that on average, thirty percent of guests contributed. In fact, guests donated even more than what respondents said they expected, giving an average of $100 to help bring their dream day to life.

Honeymoon funds are also growing in popularity. When asked, one in five respondents said they asked donations in lieu of gifts. Guests were equally likely to donate to a honeymoon fund as they were to a wedding fund (thirty percent of guests donated), giving an average of $93 each.

Regardless of the traditions, millennials choose to incorporate or leave behind, we can be sure that making the big day their own will make them happiest: ninety-three percent of respondents said it lived up to their expectations.

Methodology

Between October 4th and October 9th, 2019, we surveyed 1,850 people who have gotten married within the last five years. Forty percent of the respondents were men, sixty percent were women, and the average age was thirty percent.

Ladies that Brunch

BY KATIE JACOBS

STYLINGMYEVERYDAY.COM

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BRIDAL BRUNCH THAT SATISFIES ANY SWEET TOOTH WHILE CELEBRATING THOSE CLOSEST TO THE BRIDE

The celebrations surrounding a wedding are memorable occasions that not only honor the bride and groom, but also praise loved ones the couple holds dear. Bridal showers are the perfect opportunity to up the girly factor and choosing a theme is imperative. A bridal brunch or afternoon tea is a perfect gettogether for ladies to socialize and shower the bride with love and gifts.

Brunch is an especially easy affair to pull off. Putting together a menu of brunch favorites like scones, waffles and donuts is fun. Guests are usually available and happy to attend an event in the late morning and they won’t arrive starved (like if you were having lunch).

When my cousin Julianna got married, we threw her a bakery-themed bridesmaids’ brunch decorated with hot pink bakery boxes and garden roses. Because the brunch was limited to bridesmaids (twelve guests total), we were able to do over-the-top invitations: hand delivered tiny bakery boxes filled with cupcakes and mini macaroons with the brunch invitations attached. A little taste of what was to come!

For the party, we decorated a long farm table with pink bakery boxes, vintage cake stands and hot pink garden roses. Height and drama was added with two 36”white balloons anchored by satin ribbon. The cake stands were adorned with brunch favorites - a huge tower of waffles, homemade biscuits with jam, and a big stack of Krispy Kreme doughnuts.

Brunch consisted of ham and cheese croissants, mini frittatas and fruit-and-granola parfaits served in pink depression glass. Guests enjoyed homemade cranberry-orange and cheddar-dill scones with mimosas, tea and coffee as they arrived. We used the bakery boxes that had been used as decorations to pack up the left over baked goods to send home with guests as favors.

CHEDDAR DILL SCONES

4 cups, plus 1 Tablespoon all-purpose flour

2 Tablespoons baking powder

2 teaspoons salt

3/4-pound cold unsalted butter, diced

4 large eggs, beaten lightly

1 cup heavy cream

1/2-pound extra-sharp yellow Cheddar, small-diced

1 cup minced fresh dill

1 egg beaten with 1 Tablespoon water or milk, for egg wash

Preheat oven to 400˚F. Combine 4 cups of flour, baking powder, and salt in the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with a paddle attachment. Add the butter and mix on low speed until the butter is in pea-sized pieces. In a separate bowl, mix the eggs and heavy cream together. Add it all at once to the flour-and-butter mixture and mix until just combined. Toss together the cheese, dill, and 1 Tablespoon of flour and add them to the dough. Mix until they are almost incorporated. Dump the dough onto a well-floured surface and knead it for 1 minute, until the Cheddar and dill are well distributed. Roll the dough 3/4-inch thick. Cut into 4-inch squares and then in half diagonally to make triangles. Brush the tops with egg wash. Bake on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper for 20 to 25 minutes, until the outside is crusty and the inside is fully baked. Makes 16 large scones.

HAM AND SWISS CROISSANTS WITH POPPY SEED MUSTARD

3/4 cup melted butter

1 1/2 Tablespoons Dijon mustard

1 1/2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

1 1/2 Tablespoons poppy seeds 12 croissants

1 pound thinly sliced deli ham

1 pound thinly sliced Swiss cheese

Preheat oven to 350˚F. Line a rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper. In a bowl, mix together 1/2 cup of butter, Dijon mustard and Worcestershire sauce. Slice the croissants, separating the tops from the bottoms. Layer ham onto the bottom of croissants. Arrange the Swiss cheese over the ham. Slather the slice-side of each top with mustard sauce and place the tops of the croissants onto the sandwiches and place onto the baking sheet (the croissant sandwiches can be put close together on the baking sheet, even touching). Pour the remaining melted butter evenly over each croissant and sprinkle with poppy seeds. Bake in the preheated oven until the croissants are browned and the cheese has melted, 10 to 12 minutes. If tops start to get too brown, cover with aluminum foil. Serve warm or at room temperature.

Dress Buying Tips

Many women dream of the day when they can try their dream dress on. To be prepared and make this awaited day run as smoothly as possible, consider these tips so you’re in the know.

Make an Appointment: It is best to call ahead of time to guarantee you will have assistance finding your dress. Try to avoid the weekends when you can, it can be best to go during the weekday when it is less crowded.

Wear Heels to the Appointment: Bring heels of about the same height that you would most likely wear on your wedding day, that way you can truly imagine how the dress will look on the big day.

Shop with Enough Time: Generally, you should start browsing for a dress six months to a year before the wedding. That way, you have time to consider your options and can add in some buffer room if alterations need to be made.

Remember to Factor Other Items into Your Dress: Your budget for your dress may be $2,000 for example, but remember you’ll have extra expenses on top of this for your whole look. You may need alterations and you will need to factor in the cost for shoes, a veil and any other accessories you plan to have.

Don’t Try on a Dress Outside Your Budget: You know you are going to fall in love with it… so do not be tempted in the first place, do NOT try it on!

Keep an Open Mind: It may not look like your style, or maybe it looks a little odd on the hanger, but you never truly know what the dress looks like until you try it on.

Decide Carefully on Who You Want to Bring: Consider bringing a small group of three to five people – mother, mother-in-law, siblings or best friends. Having too many people there might drown out your thoughts and you may end up with no decision on a dress.

Visit Sample Sales or Trunk Shows: On a budget? You may score that dream dress with a pretty good discount. Bring a good crew and be prepared to scour the hangers quickly.

Read the Fine Print: Before you dot the I’s and cross the T’s, make sure you review the contract carefully. You’ll want to have a number of things written down so you are prepared – write down your measurements, price of gown, size, date of delivery, designer and the deposit amount.

Buy a Dress that Fits Now: You may be focused on losing pounds before the big day, but your body won’t drastically change too much in that time frame. It’s also a lot easier to take a gown in than it is to make a small-dress work. You want to be comfortable and look flawless in your dress!

#SOCIAL MEDIA

WEDDING ETIQUETTE 101

Whether you are the happy couple with the big day coming up, or you’re a friend to the couple, here are a few social etiquette tips to remember before and during the wedding.

#TO THE BRIDE AND GROOM

The Announcement. To those who are on their way to a proposal, keep in mind how you want to let family and friends know about the announcement. We love sharing our personal news on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter, but it probably isn’t the best or most personal way to let your close family and friends know. Step away from the social media and give those loved ones a call, you know they will appreciate it more than a tweet!

Engagement Ring Pictures. Yes, we are all dying to hear the engagement story and see pictures of the ring, but keep some of the details to yourself. No one needs to know the details on carat size or cost. Remember what the ring symbolizes, your commitment to one another.

#TO THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY

Be Respectful of the Big News. You may be one of the first to know about your best friends’ engagement and you could not be more excited, but hold off on the congrats until the couple is ready to share the news on their own. You also don’t want to spill the beans about the big news if they have not told some close family members yet.

Let the Photographer Do Their Job. Give some much-needed space to the wedding photographer(s). Let the professionals be the ones capturing the intimate and big moments at the wedding. Also, to note, the flash from your camera/phone camera could also interfere with the photographer’s and overexpose their photos.

Sharing Photos. You are probably very eager to share photos of the new Mrs. and Mr. at the wedding, but check with a close friend to the bride or groom or a family member to see if you can start sharing photos. Also, some couples opt for an unplugged wedding, so remember to respect their wishes and keep that phone in your car. If you can share photos, be mindful of the shots you are taking and double check that it is a flattering picture of everyone. And, definitely don’t share a photo of the bride before the ceremony.

Be Present. It is fun to share the news, giving a visual play-byplay with Snapchat, but while you’re at the wedding, keep it to a minimum. Be present and celebrate with everyone. There’s nothing better than just being in the moment.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES GARY CHAPMAN

In this New York Times Best Seller, you will figure out which one of the five dialects of love you and your partner both lean toward for giving and receiving love. Through humor and some practical advice, author Gary Chapman reveals tips to make the relationship work by discovering how to make one another feel most loved.

THE GIFTS OF IMPERFECTION BRENÉ BROWN

Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity and belonging, shares ten guideposts on the power of wholehearted living and how to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. In the guideposts, Brené shares this journey of how we can engage our minds and hearts to gain the courage, compassion and connection to know that we are enough.

THE REAL THING ELLEN MCCARTHY

THE COUPLE’S GUIDE TO FINANCIAL COMPATIBILITY JEFF MOTSKE

Financial problems can take a toll no matter what stage of life you are in. A lack of communication on finances in your relationship can truly hurt you both. The book is filled with crucial tips to help anyone at their relationship stage achieve financial freedom. Jeff provides the tools to help you discuss your finances, combining finances, planning retirement, all while helping to maintain the strong bond in your relationship. The guide is filled with numerous questions partners need to ask one another.

MUST-READ BOOKS FOR NEWLYWEDS

Step away from the Netflix, newlyweds. The wedding has happened, the planning is done, the thank you notes have been sent… it’s time to engage in a little communication with your spouse. Here are some of the “must-read” books for newlyweds (or those looking to tie the knot soon), to help guide you both through financial struggles, raising a family, how to be a better listener and how to communicate love to one another.

From a Washington Post weddings reporter turned author, Ellen shares the mystery, science and secrets how we find love and make it last, through the hundreds of weddings and relationships she had seen during her days as a reporter. Whether you are on the quest for love or looking to strength your relationship, this book provides a layout to reading the human heart.

ONE DISH, TWO WAYS JANE KENNEDY

Are you and your love picky eaters? The solution? This book! In Jane Kennedy’s cookbook, she offers a handful of meal solutions. The book is filled with recipes for adults, kids and even those “grownups” who may be as picky as the kids (no judgment, of course). With each dish, Jane begins with a base meal that can be added to or deconstructed, depending on the food preferences, allergies and restrictions.

THE SECRETS OF HAPPY FAMILIES

BRUCE FEILER

Bruce shares the secrets of how you and your spouse can align your goals on a range of scenarios; what to have for dinner and how to raise a family. This book provides advice on how to make your family run smoothly and feel authentic to who you are as a couple. The book acts as a blueprint for modern families, with a new approach to family dynamics, inspired by techniques from experts in a range of disciplines; science, business, sports and the military.

|| Happily Ever After ||

FINANCIAL ADVICE FOR

Newlyweds

BY JONATHAN WALKER

Congrats if you are getting married! One of the best books for couples (in my opinion), is Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. Financially speaking, there should be a money counterpart. Learning how you and your spouse will relate to money as one, takes time. Here are five items you can implement that will help you learn your spouse’s financial love languages while combining things financially. It can also help avoid the pitfalls that can easily take place concerning money in your marriage.

Create a budget. A budget is one of the best tools for financial success. It’s easy to set one up, and there are a number of free online tools you can use. To help ease the tension of “new couple” spending, set a purchase limit. Over time, you will learn more about how your spouse relates to money by using a budget.

Set financial goals. It’s a good habit to start setting goals immediately. Write them down and review them often. Set short, mid and long-range goals. Start with $3,000 in an emergency fund.

Have budget meetings often. My wife and I have quarterly budget meetings. It’s important to discuss your financial goals; the amount of debt you each have and what goals you want to accomplish. Maybe one of you fell short in your responsibilities monetarily – this is a good time to discuss that as well.

Update beneficiary information. This could include life insurance, 401k plans, IRA accounts and beneficiaries in legal documents.

Postpone the home purchase. Even if you have dated a long time, marriage comes with adjustments and these adjustments can be stressful. Take a little time to get to know each other and let your marriage settle. Have some fun! You need to get your financial goals in order first, then you can look at a home purchase down the road.

If you want to explore this further, feel free to give our Gallatin office a call at 615.461.8653, or check us out at paulwinkler.net. We can set up a free initial consultation to determine if our office can help you with your current situation.

Jonathan Walker, CFP®, RICP®

*Advisory services offered through Paul Winkler, Inc. (“PWI”), a Registered Investment Advisor. PWI does not provide tax or legal advice; please consult your tax or legal advisor regarding your particular situation. This information is provided for informational purposes only and should not be construed to be a solicitation for the purchase or sale of any securities.

JONATHAN WALKER

We’re in the Money | paulwinkler.net

Jonathan is a Certified Financial Planner™, and passionate about financial planning. His focus is to help clients achieve peace concerning their financial well-being by helping them accomplish their planning goals and objectives.

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OCTOBER 20, 2020

Jill Sholar and Stormy Mitchell celebrated their wedding on October 20, 2019 at the Church at West Franklin. They chose their autumn wedding date because it was the date available for most of their, now, altogether, seven children and seven grandchildren, to attend. Because they chose to have their wedding be a celebration worship of praise to their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they wanted the ceremony to take place at the end of the church’s traditional worship service. Jill and Stormy chose not to have decorations or special floral arrangements. They also chose to not have any special music, other than the church music played during the service and then the hymn "Doxology" sung by the congregation and led by Jill’s father, a semiretired Minister of Music from Kentucky. Jill’s close personal friend and professional photographer, Sandra Kiger, took their wedding pictures as a special gift to the newlywed couple. They enjoyed this most relaxed and beautiful time with family and friends, before and after their exchange of sacred covenant vows.

Vendors:

Photography // Sandra Kiger

Ceremony // Church at West Franklin Hair // Allison Merryman

5 Things Guys Care About for the Big Day

The wedding day is a big deal. There are numerous important factors to plan and prepare for. And most think of the bride’s wants and needs take center stage. But what about the groom? They may sit by and go with the flow for the most part, allowing their bride to choose colors, flowers, cake, food, etc. And maybe they chime in every now and then on the really important things they would like to have. Afterall, it is their wedding day too! We asked a few married guys what their top priorities were for their wedding day, and here’s what they had to say:

5. The Guest List - Celebrating the special occasion surrounded by good friends and family was important to many.

4. The Bar - An important part for some of the men was to provide their guests with good spirits for the celebration.

3. Good Music/Band - Great tunes to dance to was a must for several. It’s a celebration!

2. Great Food - This was said by quite a few of the gentlemen for what was important on their wedding day.

1. Whatever Made the Wife Happy - This was, by far, the number one answer from the guys on what was most important to them for their wedding day!

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Distinctively Southern Wedding Experience Inaugural Wedding Event for Williamson County

Distinctively Southern Wedding Experience to be held Saturday, February 22, 2020, from 1pm to 4pm at The Harpeth Hotel in downtown Franklin, Tennessee.

This year, wedding publication Distinctively Southern Wedding (DSW) will coincide it’s fourth publication with the first ever Distinctively Southern Wedding Experience, a boutique type wedding/vendor event which will focus primarily on Williamson County wedding businesses and services.

“There isn’t another wedding event, to our knowledge, expressly focused on Williamson County bridal offerings,” explained Shelly Robertson Birdsong, Publisher. “We felt like it was an event void we could certainly fill, based on our community based publication and bridal business advertisers already. The DSW product is continuing to grow and, although it is geared toward and represents a middle Tennessee demographic overall, our strongest representation is from the Williamson County market.”

The show will reflect other subtle differences to big box shows –featuring only twenty to twenty-five vendors, who will have an opportunity to creatively display and showcase their services in a much more intimate setting. “They will actually have a chance to have a real conversation with and meet prospective brides and grooms, rather than a cattle call expo mentality where hundreds of brides/grooms come through simply grabbing brochures and moving on,” says Robertson Birdsong. “We want both our brides and our ‘Wedding Experience Experts’ to feel like they actually get to tell the story of their businesses, and brides can possibly learn about unique and special businesses they may not have had a chance to before.”

The Harpeth Hotel will play host to the event, and also is a local wedding venue. Showcasing their facility and wedding services, the hotel will also be providing refreshments for the afternoon,

allowing the hotel, opened in December, to provide guests their own unique wedding experience possibilities in this luxury hotel located in the heart of historic downtown Franklin.

“It’s important we build on what has always made our publications special – that feeling of unique and local. I am much more interested in a small select group of fabulous vendors and brides looking for a specially curated show, than a huge, massive show that doesn’t allow for anyone to stand out,” expresses Robertson Birdsong. “It’s our first time to do this and there is a lot to learn, but we are excited to grow into something very special for Williamson County. We hope the wedding business community here will be equally excited to get behind it and participate year after year. “

If you are a bride or groom with a wedding coming up and wish to attend, the event is free and open to brides and grooms. Reservations are preferred and will sign you up automatically for continued updates and prizes to be awarded both onsite and after the event. Enjoy refreshments, champagne and a tour of the hotel’s facilities, stay for dinner or even book a room for the night. For more information on the hotel, go to harpethhotel. com. To make a reservation for the Distinctively Southern Wedding Experience, go to distinctivelysouthernwedding.com, call 615.428.2595 or email info@distinctivelysouthernwedding.com for more information. Walk-in’s to the event are also most welcome.

Distinctively Southern Wedding, Experience 2020 Preferred Wedding Experts

Always In Bloom, Inc. | Belles Fleurs | Brides By Glitz Nashville | Buff City Soap | Build A Bride | The Estate at Cherokee Dock Couture by Tess Bridal | The Diamond Cellar | EBJ & Company | Franklin Travel Service/Rejuvia Travel | Luxenhaus Day Spa Pandy Cotton Candy | Rejuvenage MD Wellness & Aesthetics | Southern Events Party Rental Company Street Tuxedo | The Harpeth Hotel | The Registry Franklin

The Harpeth’s stunning courtyard offers the perfect setting for a true Southern wedding ceremony or reception. Every bride will feel like a storybook princess as she descends the majestic staircase with all eyes on her.

If you prefer an indoor setting, the Grand Ballroom’s timeless design will serve as the perfect venue for the wedding of your dreams!

CREATE YOUR STORY

Our team is ready to create a memorable experience for you and your guests in our elegant ballroom, breathtaking courtyard or private dining room and lounge.

SPECIAL EVENTS

In addition to hosting your wedding ceremony or reception at The Harpeth, let our creative team help you plan a rehearsal dinner, farewell brunch or bridal event in one of our unique spaces.

CATERING

Your wedding should be magical and unforgettable, and that feeling of enchantment should extend to the food you serve. At The Harpeth, we pride ourselves on providing superior service and a customizable catering experience that your guests will be talking about for years to come.

WEDDING ROOMS

The Harpeth offers discounted room rates and a variety of suite options for your wedding guests.

Contact our Wedding Specialist today at sales@harpethhotel.com or 615-206-7510.

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Wedding Planning Timeline

You are engaged! Now is time to start the planning and it’s never too early to begin. If you have a year before your big day, here is a starter guide for helping you check things off your list, as you prepare to tie the knot!

12 Months Out

□ Determine your budget.

□ Make a guest list.

□ Hire a wedding planner.

□ Decide formality and overall theme.

□ Select the venue; while selecting your venue, throw out that pros and cons list and trust your gut—this decision is about how you feel when you’re there.

□ Select the caterer.

11 Months Out

□ Choose a color theme and start thinking of overall design.

□ Hire vendors who book up quickly, including your photographer, band, DJ, and videographer.

10 Months Out

□ Start shopping for your wedding dress.

□ Book hotel-room blocks for guests.

□ Create your wedding website.

□ Take engagement photos.

□ Start looking at invitations.

9 Months Out

□ Buy your wedding dress.

□ Send save the dates.

8 Months Out

□ Register for gifts.

□ Select the bridesmaids’ dresses and schedule fittings within the month.

□ Meet with potential florists.

7 Months Out

□ Book the rehearsal dinner venue.

□ Hire the ceremony musicians.

□ Order rental items, such as specialty chairs, linens, draping, lounge furniture, white dance floor, etc.

□ Hire an officiant.

6 Months Out

□ Hire a lighting technician.

5 Months Out

□ Book transportation for guests, if needed.

□ Book the newlyweds’ transportation (limo, specialty car, etc.).

□ Book the honeymoon.

□ Buy or rent the groom’s tuxedo.

□ Begin premarital counseling.

4 Months Out

□ Have your final tasting with the caterer.

□ Choose your cake.

□ Buy wedding bands.

□ Select the groomsmen’s attire and schedule fittings within the month.

□ Do a hair and makeup trial.

3 Months Out

□ Order the invitations and hire a calligrapher.

□ Create or plan your menu.

□ Brainstorm guest favors and gift bags.

□ Write your vows.

□ Select readings with the officiant.

□ Start crafting any DIY items if you haven’t already.

2 Months Out

□ Send the wedding invitations; (with RSVPs due one month before the wedding).

□ Send out rehearsal-dinner invitations.

□ Have your first dress fitting.

□ Get your marriage license.

□ Buy wedding-party gifts.

□ Do a floral mock-up with your florist.

□ Give the song selections to your band or DJ.

□ Give the song selections to your ceremony musicians.

1 Month Out

□ Assemble gift bags.

□ Pay your vendors in full.

□ Create a seating chart.

□ Order or make your escort cards and place cards.

□ Have a final venue walk-through.

□ Put cash in tip envelopes for your planner/delegate to distribute.

□ Break in your wedding shoes.

YAY! Final Week!

You made it! Make sure you’re breathing and power through!

□ Practice your vows out loud.

□ Chase any RSVP stragglers and deliver the final head count.

□ Get your eyebrows done.

□ Have a manicure/pedicure.

□ Pack your bags for the honeymoon; don’t forget your passport if you’re leaving the country and confirm all travel arrangements.

...Night Before...

Can you believe it’s here?! It’s going to be a perfect and great day!

□ Eat a healthy meal.

□ Pack a clutch or small bag of personal items.

□ Drink plenty of water!

□ Get a good night’s sleep.

□ Put any boxes, suitcases, bags, and survival kits to bring to the ceremony or reception in the car! Prep for next day madness!

YOUR BIG DAY IS HERE!

□ Eat breakfast.

□ Drink even more water.

□ Take your dress and veil out of the bag early on and have someone steam them if needed.

□ Lay out all the items that you want your photographer to capture.

□ Exchange notes with your partner.

□ Say thank you to everyone around you.

If

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Housed in the upstairs space at Puckett’s Columbia is Guitar & Cadillac Hall—the perfect location for your big day! This rustic, eclectic venue can host up to 250 people in an open space. Pair the ambiance of the Hall with our award-winning food and service, and you’re sure to have the wedding of your dreams!

With four Puckett’s locations in Middle Tennessee and two in East Tennessee (Chattanooga and Pigeon Forge), Scout’s Pub and Americana Taphouse in Franklin, and Deacon’s New South in Nashville, we can handle all of your events and provide something for all tastes—with off-site catering or hosting in our family of restaurants and event spaces.

From bridal brunches and rehearsal dinners to corporate events, the A. Marshall Hospitality team will take care of everything so you can enjoy your special day!

What’s your wedding style?

Pinpointing ones style for their special day can sometimes be easy... And sometimes difficult. Here are some vision boards to help you determine what your style is and help you plan out your thoughts, ideas and inspiration.

Classic Traditional

Rustic

MODERN

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Bohemian

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Personalizing Your Wedding Day

BY CASEY CANNON, EBJ & COMPANY

Planning your picture-perfect wedding is so exciting, let’s make it all about you! Adding in personal touches ensures the day is yours, and not just another wedding you can find on Pinterest. Here are a few places to consider adding in some personal details.

Decor

Your Bouquet

I’ve seen brides wrap their bouquet in some lace from their mother’s wedding gown or add a couple of charms honoring loved ones that have passed. My favorite detail from a recent wedding was a bride that included her grandmother’s small Bible in her bouquet. Her mother had done the same thing for her wedding. Continuing or starting a tradition is a great way to add personalization.

Share photos of the strong marriages that make up your family history. Collect photos starting with your parents’ wedding day going all the way back for generations and display them in unique frames. This makes for such a fun activity for your guests during cocktail hour. Not only will you be honoring those marriages, but you’ll get to see all the different wedding dresses throughout the years (which more than likely will bring some giggles).

The Cake Table

Consider asking your parents, grandparents or even aunts and uncles if they have any cake plateaus that you can use to display your delicious desserts. Showcasing those family heirlooms are sure to draw your guests attention and will really enhance your photos. If you can’t find any special cake stands (or maybe they just aren’t your style), consider using an heirloom cake knife and server or champagne flutes for your toasts.

Your Dances

While your first dance, father-daughter dance and mother-son dance are a sure tradition, you may want to honor another close friend or family member with a special dance. One of my couple’s got married on the bride’s grandparent’s 63rd wedding anniversary. They chose to dance to a special song next to them and then switched off so she danced with her grandfather, and he danced with her grandmother. It was such a sweet moment, and one I know they will cherish forever.

Food & Drink

When creating your wedding day menu consider starting with something you shared together on your first date, or the first meal you made together. As for drinks, you could have a mixologist create a special cocktail just for you. For example, as a nod to the groom’s birth country, one couple decided to have the national drink of Brazil, the Caipirinha. Guests enjoyed this unique cocktail and loved it even more when they learned what the personal detail meant.

Adding in these special touches is a sure way to personalize the day and share more about you as a couple with your guests. Whatever comes to mind just go for it. Don’t think “Is this weird? Is it okay to do this?” If you and your future spouse like it and want to share it with your guests, then you should do it. It’s okay to break tradition sometimes and really create an experience that is totally you. After all, that is what the wedding is about, right?

CASEY CANNON // EBJ and Company

Casey Cannon is the Owner and Lead Planner of EBJ & Company based in Franklin, TN, serving Middle TN and beyond. Her passion

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Crewneck Tees Top to Bottom

Celebrate the bride with your squad! This cotton crewneck tee is perfect for bachelorette parties and a season of wedding planning!

Celebrate the bride and gift her the perfect tee! This cotton crewneck is perfect for bachelorette parties and a season of wedding planning!

Celebrate the mother of the bride! This cotton crewneck tee is the perfect gift to honor mom during a fun-filled season of wedding planning.

Here comes the bride, y’all! Gift your friend, or yourself, this darling tote to carry all of her essentials for the big day. Perfect for bachelorette parties, too.

Gift your friends this darling tote to carry all of their essentials on the big day. Perfect for bachelorette parties and a fun season of wedding planning!

Gift mom this darling tote to carry all of her essentials for the big day. Perfect for a fun season of wedding planning and a great way to say “Thanks, Mom!”

This magnolia design is one we love to feature all year long. These elegant hair pins are perfect for wedding season and beyond.

These elegant hair pins are ideal for weddings, graduations, and every dressy event on your calendar this year!

Sweep your hair back with this darling heart shaped barrette. Add a touch of whimsy to any look — and it suits a range of ages.

Your wedding went off without a hitch and now you’re off on your honeymoon! See how Lilly Pulitzer can help you dress for fun and sun! Lilly Pulitzer offers gorgeous bridal dressing options for the bride-to-be to wear to all wedding events, wedding guest dresses and swimwear for honeymoon and bachelorette festivities. Visit lillypulitzer.com or your local store to see more!

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ELAINE VELOUR ROBE

Give the gift of comfort with this ultra cozy velour robe with wide kimono sleeves and tie sash detail. The Elaine robe is so comfy and soft, you will feel like you are living in the luxury of your favorite resort!

Spaghetti straps and a fitted bodice give you the streamlined silhouette and lightweight feel you crave, while the striped sash and wide legs complete the look with a fab, flowy finish.

NILA JUMPSUIT

RETREAT BRA TOP

SIDE HIPSTER

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Cute and sporty, this full coverage bottom and supportive top will be comfortable all day.

CARLOTTA MAXI DRESS

An allover pattern of wildflowers blooms throughout the delicate lace fabric, while a corded embellishment at the notch necklace catches the eye with bold curves and a hint of texture. There is also a slit on each slide of the long skirt and an easy fit.

LACE BACK BRALETTE & STRING BIKINI BOTTOM

Be beach ready in this fun blue print with classic sting bikini lines.

JULIE SNEAKER

It’s much easier to chase the sun when you’re wearing comfortable shoes. These printed canvas sneakers are perfect to slip on when you are on the go but still want to get there in style.

I HEART YOU EARRINGS

Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. Wear it on your ears with these stunning doorknocker earrings. A domed post topper sits at the top and leads to a bold heart bursting with show-stopping style.

RUFFLE FRONT ONE-PIECE

DAISE STRETCH

MAXI DRESS

Its fitted, flats-length silhouette and bra-friendly style keep you looking fab, while white Lilly Lace trim around the notch neckline and down the sides take your breath away. Where to Wear: Whatever your pre-wedding events may be, this dress is a must-wear.

Pretty in periwinkle blue, this sweet one-piece bathing suit has adjustable straps and full coverage.

NICHOLA MAXI DRESS

The Nichola is a classic fit-and-flare maxi dress that features a flattering ruched waistband and long side slits perfect for pairing with your favorite slides.

HOW TO WEATHERPROOF YOUR BIG DAY

Couples spend untold time planning their wedding to ensure nothing goes wrong. However, the weather is one variable that just can’t be controlled or predicted, no matter how many forecasts you read. To help ensure rain, clouds or a blazing sky don’t spoil your celebration, here are some ideas to use in creating a wet weather contingency plan.

IF IT’S HOT AND STICKY: If the wedding is outside, you’ll need to make sure there’s plenty of shade for your guests, whether it’s under trees or covered by a marquee. Station plenty of jugs of cold water around your venues. Instead of traditional favors, give everyone a paper fan or parasol to keep themselves cool.

IF IT’S COLD AND RAINY: You’ll need plenty of umbrellas on hand to shelter the wedding party whenever they’re outside. Try to take some spares as well for guests who come unprepared. Have a wetweather cover to protect your outfit from head to toe.

IF IT’S OUTDOORS: Beware of sunny days and make sure you sit your guests so they’re not looking straight into the glare of the sun. Burn citronella candles to make sure your celebrations aren’t invaded by insects. Make sure you advise your guests of the dress code and location so they can wear appropriate footwear and clothing, rather than three-inch heels which sink into grass and glamorous frocks that drag through the mud.

IF YOU’RE UNSURE OF THE WEATHER: Schedule your wedding at a venue with both indoor and outdoor venues.

YOU CAN STILL HAVE FUN: Ask your DJ to get in on the act with some weather-themed tunes. Try It’s Raining Men, The Heat Is On, Burn For You or even Sunshine on a Rainy Day. Remember that the weather is one of those time-honored ice breakers, so don’t fret – it gives guests something to talk about. Besides, rainy days are supposed to be good omens for a happy marriage.

Wedding Dresses through the Decades

9th Annual Award-Winning Exhibit Presented by Oaklands Mansion

Stories of our community will come to life through wedding gowns on display at Oaklands Mansion in Murfreesboro, Tennessee. Step back into time and experience the common threads that weave our lives together as we explore women’s history, fashion history, cultural history and the history of our community. Over fifty gowns will be placed on loan and exhibited, most for the first time. The “Wedding Dresses Through the Decades” exhibit in Maney Hall at Oaklands Mansion will take place from January 17th through March 1st, 2020.

Vintage gowns from the past 100 years will be on display along with brides’ photos and stories from their wedding day. During this exhibit, guests will have the rare opportunity to view items from, not only the museum’s collection, but also elegant and fashionable wedding dresses worn by ladies from Murfreesboro and around the country. Also, on exhibit this year are wedding ring quilts on loan from members of our community.

“These treasured garments reveal stories and secrets of the past and have been stored for decades under beds and in the back of closets,” said Mary Beth Nevills, Education Director of Oaklands, “We look forward to sharing with you this year’s exhibit, full of new dresses from our community’s past.”

Witness the changes in fashion from different areas, eras and cultures as we transcend time to the modern-day bride. The exhibit will be open daily, Monday-Saturday 10:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m. and Sundays 1:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m. Admission to the exhibit is $10.00 per person and is open to the public. Mansion tours are available at regular rates during regular museum hours and combination tickets for the exhibition and house tours are available at a reduced rate. Group tour rates are available with a reservation.

This exhibit is sponsored in part by the Human Sciences Department of Middle Tennessee State University, Karen Whitaker Ruby Ribbon, Kelly & Charlie Baum, J. Mullins Jewelry & Gifts, and the Rutherford County Convention & Visitors Bureau. For more information, contact Mary Beth Nevills at Oaklands 615.893.0022 or visit oaklandsmansion.org. Some of the gowns on exhibit are:

Dear Dean,

Zula Zong Reynolds and

Dean Stelle Rising

November 23, 1910

David City, Nebraska

The couple was married on the day before Thanksgiving, 1910. The dress was presented along with a transcription of a note handwritten by the couple’s son, Robert,to his nephew, Dean. This note is dated January 11, 1977 and indicates the happy couple had their wedding photo taken months after their big day.

We really intended getting the wedding dress to the museum, but we have run out of time. Frustrations yes, time no. I’m sure you have a photo of mom wearing it in a seating pose. The locket (we’ve not found) was a wedding gift from DSR. The photo was taken in the summer of 1911.

- R.

Margery Hill Webb & Glen Webb

September 17, 1949

Walnut Hills Christian Church in Cincinnati, Ohio; The bride and groom met on a blind date in Boston while in college. They then separated and went back to their own hometowns but kept in touch through letters. They wrote each other throughout their courtship until right before they got married. They never lived in the same town until they became husband and wife. Their precious love letters are on display along with the photo from their first date! According to the bride’s wedding journal, the cost of the wedding dress was $125.00.

“Our Wedding” By Bride Margery Hill Webb

It was a beautiful September day. I really don’t remember too much…. Luncheon was at the Fox’s house across the street for the wedding party, then swimming in our pool. Everyone seemed to have fun. I stayed out of the sun, who needs a bride with a sun burn and I kept my hair dry and hopefully looking good. Mother was everywhere. She went to the church alone for a look at it. It was decorated by an amazing florist, Frances Jones. Meanwhile, Dad spent the day moaning and groaning about an upset stomach, nerves, with a scotch in one hand and a bottle of paregoric in the other. What a sight… no one had time to worry about me. If I had a problem, just deal with it. I adored my father but he was a real hypochondriac. We were all used to it. My bridesmaids were in and out, preferably out, in their dripping bathing suits. Peg Martin and Phyllis Condit, my Denison roommates were staying at our house to keep me company, thank heavens. They waited on me, teased me, and made me laugh. It really was a fun day.

Finally, mother chased everyone out of the pool and sent them to their homes or hotel. A huge number of the Lima contingent was staying at the Terrace Hilton Hotel downtown. We had sent everyone from Lima and elsewhere maps showing the hotel, the Walnut Hills Christian Church, the Cincinnati County Club and our house with streets and mileage m arked. No one had problems finding their various destinations.

The Lima group at the hotel had their own party. They had the hotel set up a bar and food station, as well as having a barber on duty. Lima-ites always traveled in style. It’s no wonder that when I walked in the back of the church the chatter sounded like a bunch of locusts.

An aside: While we were at Sea Island, a newly married couple from Toledo started telling the Honeymoon group about the noisy and somewhat inebriated people on their floor their wedding night. Glen and I looked at each other and never admitted that they were our family, friends and wedding party…They had their room changed.

We had an 8:30pm wedding, so I had a long time to dress after everyone left. But I had wanted it to be a candlelight service thus the late hour. I dressed, posed for many pictures since the photographer came to the house before going to the church. Everyone had left except for Dad and me. I was so busy trying to keep him calm that I had no time for nerves. We rode in a limo to church, walked up all the steps and went in. Both mothers came up to give me a kiss, the organ was playing and I looked at all the candles, the flowers, and Phyllis in the balcony ready to sing. Her voice was lovely. I remember walking down the aisle with Dad. It was so beautiful, everyone smiling and then we were at the altar where Glen waited with a wonderful smile for me, and the service began… And then trouble. A fly. A fly on Harry Wrights nose. He was the best man and very proper, but all he could do was twitch. And then the fly took off to land on Glen’s face. I tried not to giggle, but was only a little successful. I didn’t dare look at Glen. We got through our vows and left the church, but not before I stopped long enough to take one long last look so I’d never forget the beauty of this very special night.

The Reception: The club was like a fairy land of flowers, people arriving in their long dresses and tuxes, the wedding party in tails and formal length bridesmaid’s gowns in shades of green with bouquets of fall flowers. Everything I had dreamed of. Dinner was served after the guests had gone through the receiving line, though those waiting had cocktails and canapés passed to them. Afterwards, the ushers serenaded me. I began dancing with Glen and then Dad, and also, or so it seemed like, every young man there and a few older ones. The champagne flowed and I nibbled here and there. Chatted with everyone until Mother came to tell us it was midnight and time to get into our traveling clothes and leave. Glen forgot the belt for his pants so he took some ribbing as we came down the stairs. I threw my bouquet and we left. The photographer took a picture from behind showing so many good friends, all waving us off. I love it. We went off to the hotel, The Netherland Plaza, not where the Lima crowd was. It was a wonderful start of our new life together. I was happy with my very handsome, caring and thoughtful husband then and for the next 62 years.

The next morning we started to Sea Island, Georgia. Mother and Dad got ready for a Sunday brunch at our house for the wedding party and the out of town guests, of which there were quite a number with families from Michigan and all over. Dad kept muttering doesn’t anyone have something else to do this weekend???

It was September 17, 1949, and we had almost 62 wonderful years together before Glen died of Parkinson’s Disease. So many wonderful memories of those years with a man I never stopped loving.

Mary McCarty Roberts & James Roberts

September 15, 1956

Central Christian Church in Murfreesboro, Tennessee

AND WORN AGAIN…

Deborah Roberts Horst & Peter Horst

September 5, 1987

National City Christian Church in Washington D.C.

Mary “Carty” Roberts and her groom, Jim, grew up together and saw each other at various social occasions. While Carty was attending college and Jim was home during visits from the service where he was a fighter pilot, romance blossomed and love grew. Thirty-one years after her mother and father were married, their daughter Deborah was honored to wear her mother’s beautiful dress as she married in the stately and historic National City Church in Washington, D.C. The 1991 wedding dress of Jim & Carty’s daughter, Mary, is also included in the exhibit.

Mary Loretta Pieper Marqua & Ron Marqua

November 25,1937 | Covington, Kentucky

On a Thanksgiving Day wedding, the bride wore a white slipper satin gown decorated with thirty-seven covered buttons. The number of buttons represents the year of marriage, 1937. The dress was handmade by the groom’s aunt, Norma Vonderschmitt Keyes, and later worn by the Marqua’s daughter, Pauline in 1970.

AND WORN AGAIN…

Pauline Everetta Marqua Hardiman & Julius (Jim) Hardiman

October 9, 1970 | Hamilton, Ohio

The wedding took place on a Friday and as the couple left St. Ann’s Church, it began to rain. The bride’s mother shared with her the old belief that rain on your wedding day is good luck!

Mary Roberts McMakin & Tom McMakin

June 15, 1991

Central Christian Church in Murfreesboro, Tennessee

The couple began their day with brunch at the beautiful home of Sally & Billy Ledbetter on North University Street. The ceremony took place down the street at Central Christian Church with a reception following at the Stones River Country Club. The 1956 wedding dress of the bride’s mother is included in this exhibit.

(Floor Right)

Olivia Hillman Todd & Reed Todd

August 4, 2018

Oaklands Mansion in Murfreesboro, Tennessee

(Hanging Left)

Brenda Reyburn Friesen & Cameron Friesen

October 12, 1976

The Royal Hawaiian Hotel in Honolulu, HI

This bride fondly remembers sharing her exotic destination wedding with her family and friends and having the most romantic honeymoon!

(Floor Left)

Melissa Weatherford Batey & John Locke Batey, Jr.

April 9, 1977

Murfreesboro, TN

The bride wore a Juliet style dress, which was very romantic at the time. After the wedding, Deputy Sheriff Truman Jones drove the couple to their car which was in hiding at Huddleston Oil Company.

(Hanging Right)

Leah

Jenkins Cannon & Steve Cannon

January 1, 1977

Johnson City, Tennessee

Leah married Steve in Johnson City, Tennessee in 1977.

The couple’s favorite wedding memory is their first look at each other on the front porch of Oaklands Mansion. The dress is a blush tinted strapless dress with rose gold floral overlay and a matching veil.

(Hanging Above)

Soumya Sinha Black & Phillip Black

May 25, 2019

St. Agnes Catholic Church in Scottsbluff, Nebraska

The dress was perfect for the bride’s small frame. It is very delicate on the top with mesh and lace work. The bride cried non-stop as she walked down the aisle! The 1971 wedding dress worn by the groom’s mother is included in this exhibit.

901 North Maney Avenue Murfreesboro, TN 37130 oaklandsmansion.org

Taylor Nichole Kearns + Daniel Joseph Young June 1, 2019

It was the fall of 2009 at the University of Tennessee where fate (and some friends), would bring Taylor Kearns, a Franklin girl, and Daniel Young, who grew up in Germantown (Memphis), together. What began as a great friendship would take another six years to blossom into romance after graduation and jobs brought them back together in Nashville. Daniel took the opportunity to use a Christmas holiday light excursion at Cheekwood in December 2017, to propose to Taylor. They narrowed the venue choice to Cedarwood Weddings on White Bridge Road. And began planning their dream wedding.

To help ward off rain on their wedding day, Taylor and Daniel practiced an old southern tradition passed to them from Daniel’s Aunt Jackie Lees. They went to the venue on May 1, 2019, exactly one month before their wedding day, and buried a bottle of bourbon onsite - upside down, to be specific. As it turned out, June 1, 2019 couldn’t have been a more beautiful day, with low humidity and highs in the 80’s. The arriving guests were welcomed into the front yard of the antebellum mansion with champagne. The 5:30 pm wedding was in a natural field shaded by the sun setting behind the trees, just steps from the covered porches that would eventually seat the 150 wedding guests for dinner.

The officiant was Taylor’s Uncle, Michael Collins. The ring bearers were three nephews, two under the age of two, being pulled in a wagon by the six-year-old. The grandmothers served as flower girls spreading rose petals to the altar. Taylor was escorted by her father, Tim Kearns, to violins and a guitarist playing the melody - Harvest Moon by the Neil Young band.

The dinner was served family style at long farm tables and catered by Actual Food Nashville Catering. Madi Flournoy Photography captured the entire day beautifully. The day went off without a hitch thanks to the amazing staff at Cedarwood Weddings, the wedding part, and most importantly their friends and family!

Vendors:

Ring // La Savell Jewelry

Dress // Rue De Siene

Photography // Madi Flournoy

Photography

Venue // Cedarwood weddings

Catering // Actual Food

Nashville Catering

SECOND TIME AROUND COMBINING FAMILIES WITH A WEDDING

BY ANNIE OSTEEN

Hollywood has done a pretty nice job of painting a cliché picture in our minds of what a wedding is supposed to look like. A girl in her twenties or thirties in a stunning white gown, walking down the aisle of a packed church on the arm of her father towards her groom at the altar. And as much as that scene is still very much a reality to many girls, there are other countless variations of weddings that take place every day. For instance, the weddings that occur that aren’t just for two people but may include an entire family such as second weddings that integrate children. Second weddings, by many different standards, are tricky. The odds are tough and let’s face it, the judgment out there can make second marriages, especially those including the blending of families, innately difficult at the start. Inevitably, despite the love and romance that comes at wedding time, behind the scenes there is a myriad of red tape, hurt feelings, (ex-spouses venting) etc. When you re-marry, addressing your children’s needs and concerns should be part of any and all planning.

Don’t let the world rain on this joyful time! Let the planning begin and if you and your fiancé have children, make sure to involve them on this important occasion for your new family. First of all, let’s preface this with that idea that not all children will be fully supportive or enthusiastic about the idea of Mom or Dad getting remarried. Nothing is ever that easy. However, depending upon their age, some kids will be excited with the idea of having step-siblings to hang out with, therefore the idea of a wedding may not be so bad. Others will be resistant and that’s okay, too. It’s perfectly normal and in due time, they’ll come around. Involving them, or at least giving them the option to be involved, it always a good idea. Put them at the front of the line with you in this.

If the idea is to have a big wedding, the ideal option would be to include the children as bridesmaids and groomsmen, or flower girls and

ring bearers if they’re little. If there’s only one son, he may be asked to be the Best Man. If there’s a young artist in the family, he or she may be asked to create some artwork for the ceremony. You may have one child read a passage from the family Bible during the ceremony, while another child that likes to sing may want to sing a special song during the ceremony.

There are many children who feel as if they are being disloyal to their “other” parent if they participate in the second wedding. As a parent, there are several things that you can do for them without being too incessant. For instance, if your child is a little older, you may consider inviting their best friend to the wedding. Yes, it may cost a little more money but it will be give them a support system to have throughout the day; it will give them someone to talk to and lean on if they start to feel emotional. If you have a bashful child, there are many behindthe-scenes duties that can make them feel included such as helping to address the wedding invitations, attend a cake testing, choose some flowers, or assist with the selection of music for the reception.

Simple ceremonies on the beach are just that…simple. Mom, Dad, the kids and a minister to read the vows. Including the children in your vows is a brilliant way to express that you are committed to being a family, not just “roommates” once the wedding is over.

Second weddings are what you make of them. They can be as personal as you make the first wedding. Some couples opt for the quick civil service wedding, others want the big, church wedding that take a year or two to plan. In either case, involving children in the second marriage ceremony, if applicable, will tell them a lot about what lies ahead for their new family. Letting children come to the front of the line with you on your exciting day is going to make them feel as if they have something to be encouraged about right along with you and that the new family that they’re entering into isn’t going to be as difficult as they may have originally thought.

18 Ways to Plan an Eco-Friendly Wedding

Courtesy of marthastewartweddings.com

Even small details can make a big impact on your big day. Protecting the environment is increasingly important, but luckily, it's also increasingly easy. If you and your soon-to-be-spouse plan to host an earth-loving celebration, you'll be pleased to know that there are plenty of ways to do so. Here are just a few favorite ideas for executing an environmentallyand sociallyconscious event.

Keep Things Biodegradable

Disposable and biodegradable serveware, vessels, and utensils can be a great way to stay organic.

Use Recycled Paper

Save-the-dates, invitations, programs, menus, and thankyou cards can quickly add up to a whole lot of paper. Look for recycled options.

Veer Toward Vintage Besides lending style and sentimentality to your big day, incorporating family heirlooms or special items already in your possession cuts down on consumption.

Glow with Candlelight Set the mood for a romantic evening and cut down on electricity by lighting your reception tables with candles.

Toss It Wisely Have a disposal system that includes recycle containers for cans and bottles.

Recycle Your Wedding Flowers Let your arrangements live beyond the wedding day by donating them to a nursing home, hospital, or shelter.

Donate Leftovers Many food banks across the country will pick up chilled leftovers of unserved food from your rehearsal dinner or reception.

Get Charitable Purchase products from organizations that give back, such as vino from ONEHOPE Wine or tree sapling favors from the Arbor Day Foundation.

LIVE BAND | LIVE, SILENT & WINE AUCTIONS FOOD VENDORS | WINE VINTNERS | SPIRIT TASTINGS

Vendors:

Gown // Couture By Tess Bridal

Photography // L A Y E R S

Wedding Planner // Meredith Events

Venue // Goodwin Manor

Florist // Vase and Vine

Music // Central Arkansas Entertainment

Catering // Crave Catering Company

Cake // Custom Cakes by Michelle Mayer

Bartender // Last Call Bartending Service

Videography // Kio's Photography

Photo Booth // Look at Me Selfies

Invitations // Hobart's Printing

Officiant // Don Delukie

Makeup // Jessica Humerick Stylist I Makeup Artist

Hair // Isabella with Serenity Salon Little Rock

Amanda White and Steve McCorkle met after Steve’s sister suggested, via Facebook, that they go out. Steve proposed to Amanda in Gulf Shores while we were visiting his family there and from there the wedding planning began! They were married at the Goodwin Manor in Little Rock, Arkansas. Amanda’s wedding style was classic, feminine and romantic and she incorporated those elements into the special day. Her gown was designed by Couture By Tess Bridal and was a romantic ballgown silhouette with plunging neckline, off the shoulder sleeves and cathedral train. Her bouquet was a gorgeous mix of pinks, blushes and whites.

The ceremony took place outside at the venue, overlooking beautiful scenery, with a private dinner together in the wine cellar immediately following the ceremony. After that, they all joined friends and family at the reception for celebration and dancing.

WEDDING WINE & SPIRITS 101

How to choose and serve the best spirits for your reception.

When planning your wedding, one decision to be made will be the wine and spirits to serve. Unless you have a coordinator handling the details, you may need to determine how much of everything to buy for your wedding guests. Here are some tips when you are making your wine list for the reception:

1. Menu – Chicken, Beef, Fish...

Wine pairings can make or break the meal. Make sure to offer a variety, but also go heavier on the wine that best pairs with the food served at the reception. A simple tip to remember: Pair chicken or fish with white wines and beef or pork with reds. Don’t be afraid to ask your caterer for their suggested pairings.

2. Season –

It is important to take into consideration the season when choosing your wine selection. Spring and Summer weddings tend to pour more white wine, while Fall and Winter weddings pour more red. Again, always have a variety of red and white, as some guests prefer one versus the other no matter what time of year it is. It is important to also offer other choices served cold when having a wedding outdoors during the hotter months. This is always a good time to add beer or cold signature cocktail.

3. Time of day –

Like the seasons, the time of day your wedding takes place will reflect how your guests will take their libations. Daytime receptions tend to have lighter white wines, while evenings have more of a variety with red and white.

Now that you have narrowed down what you are going to serve, you need to determine how much you will need for the wedding reception. Plan for each guest to have one glass of wine per hour. This can work itself out, as several guests may have more than 1 glass an hour, and several may not drink wine at all. The basic formula to use to determine how many bottles you will need is:

One (750 ml) bottle of wine – five glasses. This can vary depending on your bartender, but for ease of math just plan five glasses per bottle. So, if you have 100 guests for four hours, then plan on 400 glasses of wine.

400 glasses / five glasses per bottle – eighty bottles of wine. Again, this can be varied based on if you have other cocktails involved such as beer, spirits and champagne. But, if only serving wine, then it is a good guideline.

The main thing to consider when choosing your wine is your budget. You do not need to spend your entire budget on the drinks. No one will walk away from your wedding thinking “Gosh, they served cheap wine!” So, start experimenting months before with reds and whites in the lower dollar ranges and see what you like. These less pricey wines are under-rated. You can find some amazing vino to please all palettes for much less than the top shelf fancy brands. Cheers!

Carly Pearce + Michael Ray

October 6, 2019

““Michael has changed my life completely, and the moment I saw him at the altar was just overwhelming -- any heartbreaks or feelings of doubt were worth the struggle to find each other. All of the people we love celebrated with us during the romantic ceremony as rain on the tin roof poured outside and then the party started with all of our best dance moves and some southern food favorites,” laughed Carly. “We are both super close to our families so it was a fun process planning each detail with my mom. Seeing all of the pieces come together though was more magical than I could have imagined and really represented Michael and me as a couple with our individual tastes too.

// Carly

Vendors:

Wedding Dress Designer // Samantha Sleeper

Reception Dress // Hayley Paige

Wedding + Reception Venue // Drakewood Farm

Caterer // Chefs Market

Wedding Cake // Cake Crazi Cakes

Bridal Shop // Ila Bridal

Invitations + Save The Dates // Minted

After Party // Nashville Palace

DJ // DJ Aydamn

Groom’s Ring // Herb Ringquest

Bridesmaids’ Jewelry // Kristalize Jewelry

Bride & Grooms Bridal Party Gifts // Box + Bow

Photography // Rachel Deeb

The marriage of two country music sensations, Carly Pearce and Michael Ray, took place at Drakewood Farm on October 6th, 2019. The evening began with an intimate ceremony followed by a fun, interactive cocktail style reception. As guests moved into the cocktail party, they were greeted with a signature drink named after their hit songs, Don’t Hide the Wine & Think A Little Less. A standout element during this portion of the evening was the grazing table featuring artisan cheese, locally sourced cured meats, fruits, vegetables, pickles, olives, fresh bread, gourmet crackers, nuts and dried fruit, along with seasonal dips and of course, Chef’s famous house-made chips. This elevated spread provided a colorful and inviting display with savory and sweet creations to satisfy every palette. Carly and Michael loved the idea of the grazing table, not only because it was beautiful and bountiful, but because it was a great way to bring guests together.

Carly has a confident sense of style, which was displayed in every detail of the big day (just look at her dress!). One of her creative “wants” was a Mashed Potato Station, which included Chef’s Market sweet potatoes, creating mashed potato nirvana. The styling on the food table was complimented with the same beautiful flowers in Carly’s bouquet and used the venue’s whitewashed antique furniture to display the food. Michael wasn’t too concerned about the design, but boy did he appreciate a well-made cheeseburger. Michael’s idea to add a burger table was spot on as their guests came back for seconds and thirds throughout the evening.

The menu was rounded out with a beautiful selection of mason jar salads as well as a shrimp-and-grits table with smoked gouda grits and grilled shrimp topped with a Cajun Monica sauce. As the evening came to a sweet close, guests enjoyed the “naked” wedding cake by CraziCakes in addition to the Pie and Ice Cream Station featuring pecan, chocolate chess, classic pumpkin and apple caramel.

It was a beautiful night filled with fun, good vibes, great music, dancing and phenomenal food.

Anniversary Gifts by Year: Traditional

and Modern Present Ideas

BY SHELLY ROBERTSON BIRDSONG

Most everyone knows of the age-old practice of giving specific anniversary gifts based on the number of years you've been wed. The idea behind it? With each anniversary that passes, you strengthen your relationship. So, while these anniversary gifts may start out simple, their substance and significance increases as your investment to each other does. Nowadays, each year is associated with anniversary gift "materials" or types, as well as different gemstones and designated colors that tie into and relate to the anniversary year's overall theme.

Once the magic of the wedding day has passed and the bliss of opening all of those gifts and enjoying those first months of marriage has dimmed ever so slightly into routine, but hopefully not mundane, wedded harmony – you continue to celebrate throughout the years (many as we all hope), your anniversary every year, to commemorate your special day. I am a terrible gift giver. No matter the holiday or occasion, so I guess had I paid more attention to a list such as the one below, early on in my marriage, I might have been a better match for my husband. He is a great gift giver. On almost every possible occasion, he puts thought into every token or memento to mark a special day. And wedding anniversaries turned out to be no exception! He must have studied up on this list and keeps a copy in his coat pocket for reference! Every year, for seven years so far – I have received, on our anniversary, a heartfelt gift representing the very things you see below – accompanied, no less, by a description of those things (like you see below), and the correlation to our marriage. Wow. I finally gave up – until this last year I scored with some copper penny cufflinks, with the year of our wedding! That should hold me over for another seven years!

Here, we break down the different traditional and modern anniversary gifts by year. Kudos to the couple that pays attention to and implements these gift traditions each year as a way to honor each passing anniversary of your commitment!

1st Anniversary

Traditional: Paper - Paper is a fitting gift for the first year because it's fragile, just like the beginning stages of marriage. But, if you take care of it properly, it'll last a lifetime.

Modern: Clocks - Time is precious and clocks represent the passing of time and the change and challenges that come with it.

2nd Anniversary

Traditional: Cotton - Cotton's woven threads symbolize how you become more interconnected as time goes on and learn to be more flexible.

Modern: China - Both strong and delicate, china indicates the weaknesses and strengths of any relationship.

3rd Anniversary

Traditional: Leather - Leather represents shelter and security for the third year, much like what a marriage and the home you build with each other symbolizes.

Modern: Crystal or Glass - As a gift, glass and cut crystal both signify and reflect light and beauty.

4th Anniversary

Traditional: Fruit or Flowers - Your relationship has fully bloomed by your fourth anniversary, making flowers or ripe fruit an appropriate gift.

Modern: Appliances - A more practical gift, sure, but electrical appliances also embody how settled you feel in your relationship by the fourth year.

5th Anniversary

Traditional: Wood - Your roots have sprouted much like a tree by your fifth anniversary, so together you can endure anything.

Modern: Silverware - All the meals you've enjoyed together and will continue to share are best commemorated with beautiful silverware.

6th Anniversary

Traditional: Iron - Iron marks your strength because even after six years, you can still maintain a bond.

Modern: Wood Objects - Much like the traditional five-year gift, an item made out of wood suggests the resilience of your marriage.

7th Anniversary

Traditional: Copper or Wool -The metal helps create heat, much like the warmth you give each other. And wool is just plain cozy. Modern: Desk Sets - This may not sound romantic, but work is a huge part of modern life. Gifting a desk set brings a touch of home to their professional space.

8th Anniversary

Traditional: Bronze or Pottery - Like many of the metals, bronze symbolizes strength and indicates that your relationship is getting stronger by the eighth year, too.

Modern: Linen or Lace - Linens and lace are both delicate and refined, and just like love, they're also objects of beauty.

9th Anniversary

Traditional: Willow or PotteryWillow is indicative of flexibility as is pottery because much like a lump of clay, marriage is formed and shaped over time into something beautiful.

Modern: Leather - Leather was used by our ancestors as a way to protect themselves. The material itself is known for how well it endures, which your marriage has also done by the time you reach the ninth year.

10th Anniversary

Traditional: Aluminum or TinAluminum and tin won't rust, meaning they won't wear down. Their pliability and preservation is a symbol for how every successful marriage requires flexibility—especially by your 10th anniversary.

Modern: Diamond Jewelry (ahhhh finally!) - When you've passed one decade, your marriage is as beautiful as a piece of diamond jewelry.

Do not stop here all you romantic couples! Refer to a complete list of each year including colors and gemstones at theknot.com. Here we continue with the major milestones through the ensuing years of love.

15th Anniversary

Traditional: Crystal- Crystal may be delicate but it's also sturdy, like your marriage, which is strong enough to have lasted fifteen years but also another fifteen and beyond. It also represents clarity and transparency.

Modern: Watches - A timepiece in any form signifies the passage of time and all the years you've spent together; plus, all the ones you'll share in the future.

20th

Anniversary

Traditional: China - China shows the delicate and fragile nature of being in love. It needs to be looked after and handled carefully—much like a marriage—in order not to break.

Modern: Platinum - Platinum can stick it out through thick and thin much like you both have after twenty years wed.

And now the biggies:

25th Anniversary

Traditional and Modern: Sterling

Silver - Spending a quarter of a century in love is worth celebrating with such a precious and valuable metal.

No wonder a 25th anniversary celebration is called a "silver jubilee."

50th Anniversary

Traditional and Modern: Gold - Only something as desirable, classic and luxe as gold can represent such an important milestone (dubbed the "golden anniversary"). It shows the prosperity, wisdom, strength and significance of such a long-standing union.

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Wedding Trivia

Ever wondered why we do the things we do with such conviction on our wedding day? Tradition and ageless folklore mostly. Here are just a few examples of how and why certain elements to a wedding are followed.

The traditional wedding cake began in ancient Rome as guests would break a loaf of bread over the bride’s head for fertility.

Ancient Greek and Roman brides wore veils to protect against evil spirits. This tradition lives on today.

Engagement rings are worn on the left ring finger because it was believed that a vein ran from that finger directly to the heart.

The groom carries the bride across the threshold to protect her against spirits from below.

The Western tradition of wearing a weddingwhite dress was begun by Queen Victoria in 1840.