BodyMind Living Magazine :: Navigating Fear :: September 2021 by BodyMind Living

BODYMIND ™

ISSUE No 10 :: Navigating FEAR & UNCERTAINTY :: SEPTEMBER 2021

The self help revolution... Navigated.

THOUGHTS ON NAVIGATING FEAR & UNCERTAINTY...................3 LAURA WIECK

MOVING FROM FEAR TO FAITH............................................8 HALINKA VAN MINNEN

AN INVITATION FOR YOU...........15 WAITING AND WONDERING.....16 LORI HOFFER

THE POWER OF BELIEF................26 DENA HALLE

BODYMIND LIVING SPOTLIGHT WITH SHANA HARTMAN..............36 GIFTS IN THE MESS.......................40 MARY PAT CURRAN

FEAR & UNCERTAINTY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP....................50 CAROLYN ULITSKY

THE INVITATION TO NEW WAYS OF BEING.............................58 LAURIE JUSZKIEWICZ

WHAT IT‘S LIKE TO BECOME A BODYMIND COACH..................67 AMBASSADOR DIRECTORY........68 CERTIFIED COACH DIRECTORY......................................76 CLOSING THOUGHTS..................84 SHANA HARTMAN

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I am beyond thrilled to welcome you into our next issue of BodyMind Living Magazine, focused on navigating fear and uncertainty. As humans, we have a deep need for safety and we also have a need for freedom. Those needs tend to push and pull against each other, and in this month’s issue you will see our amazing BodyMind Ambassadors exemplifying just that.

This push and pull of safety and freedom showed up recently when my family went to the pool. It was a last minute decision that filled up the time between my son, James, waking up from his nap and dinner time. After wrangling him into the minivan and carrying his wiggly toddler body and the pool bag through the parking lot, locker room, and around the pool, we made it to our shady little corner of the pool. He was excited!

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dear reader,

about it creates a rush of oxytocin in my body. So, here we were in the pool. Casey, my partner, and I were playing with James, passing him back and forth through the water and spinning him in circles. It felt fun and safe. And then it happened. It was so soft and so unassuming. There was no grand expression to get our attention. There was just this moment where his grip around my neck lessened and his little hands slipped off. It took me a second to realize what had happened, and when I did, a wave of fear rose up in my body. My stomach dropped. My heart started beating faster. My focus narrowed. I turned my head quickly, scanning the water to make sure he was ok. And there he was with a big smile on his face, floating through the water on his own — fully alive and free in the moment.

Once his swim vest was on, he waddled towards the edge of the pool and jumped in. Immediately upon entry, his arms did what they have always done, they wrapped around my neck as he held on tight.

I took a deep breath to calm myself down.

I love it.

A part of me wanted to break down. My uncertainty in his ability to be on his own and still be safe engulfed my body. Is this what it is going to feel like when he goes to kindergarten by himself? When he drives a car by himself? When he goes off to college by himself?

I love that he needs me. I love how his eyes get super wide after being dunked in the water and he immediately reaches for me and feels safe. I love being his rock. I love being his mom. Just thinking

“Do you see this?!” I motioned to Casey to look at our son, contently chilling in the pool on his own.

Laura Wieck :: NAVIGATING FEAR & UNCERTAINTY

I also worry about him, his safety, his future, and the world he will grow up in. I can do my best to foster his inner knowing as he grows. And at some point, he will have to let go and trust himself. That moment of him letting go is where my greatest fear lies. It is also where his freedom begins. I hear parents all the time say that

Fear and uncertainty are part of life. Part of where we find our aliveness in life is from the fear and uncertainty. How do we stay grounded in those moments where life likes to throw a curveball? (CLICK THE IMAGE ABOVE TO PLAY THE VIDEO) 4

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Another part of me was so proud, seeing and feeling the freedom of this moment. My son was finding trust in himself. He was willing to let go of me — his safety — to trust in the safety that was around him. The skill of knowing that he is always held by something bigger than himself — in this case, his life jacket — will serve him his entire life. As his mother, my goal is to foster that inner knowing as he grows. At that moment, I saw him trust in himself. And it was beautiful.

they want their kids to have a better future, and yet they often grasp onto safety and materialism which only adds to the challenges our kids face — climate change, racial injustice, the list goes on. If we as parents truly want to create a better world for our kids, maybe we need to start doing our own work to create a more equitable and just world for our kids. And that means we have to face our fears and uncertainties. We have to have uncomfortable conversations. We have to demonstrate to our kids what it looks like to step into the unknown. For me to support my son in living his life, learning how to navigate my fear and uncertainty is essential. As I sit here writing this opening letter to you, dear reader, I can’t help but wonder what edge I get to let go of in my own life. In living bodymind, growing a socially conscious business empowering holistic leaders, I often have to let go of the edge to step into the unknown. Having done this time and time again as a mom, business owner, spouse, daughter, friend, and white woman, I know fear and uncertainty show up in these moments of stepping toward the edge. I feel the tug of safety, of what seems known and certain, pulling from behind, asking, “Are you sure? What if it doesn’t work out? What will we lose?” Simultaneously, I sense the heart-opening opportunity of what lies just ahead when I take a step in what’s possible, with fear and uncertainty by my side.

Laura Wieck :: NAVIGATING FEAR & UNCERTAINTY

We invite you to consider what fear and uncertainty mean in your life in this month’s issue. Philip Shepherd reminds us that people who chase safety in hopes of finding freedom, find neither; where people who chase freedom, find both. We need to move through fear and uncertainty to find fulfillment; bodymind living is not about bypassing fear and uncertainty... this shit is hard and it’s messy. And, we are here for it all! Here are some affirmations and questions I play with when facing fear and uncertainty... Affirmation: I am smart enough to figure it out. Question: When have there been other times that I’ve figured it out? What did I do to get through? Affirmation: I’m never stuck. Question: What resources are available to me now to help me get through this?

Life as an entrepreneur and mom means diving head first into fear and uncertainty. Fear and uncertainty are a lifestyle. It’s not that I’m not afraid. I just know how to work with my body’s signals rather than fight them. I also recognize that the theme for this month’s issue evokes different emotions for each of us; thus, we leave it to you, our readers, to trust your own intuitive selves in navigating this issue (or not). We share our stories as a way of creating connection and compassion. We hope to hear your stories on Instagram at @BodyMindLiving. With love, Laura

Halinka Van Minnen :: MOVING FROM FEAR TO FAITH

Here I am again, living in the space of uncertainty. Not the good kind of uncertainty that is exciting and full of hope, but the dreaded kind. The uncertainty that results from a shattered existence. I catch myself in an old pattern of attempting to control everything while I am in this place of uncertainty, fearful that if I allow myself to sit in it, I won’t survive. Yet, the more I try to control, the more my body is plagued by fear until the moment when my fight and flight response has exhausted its limits and I am paralyzed. I’ve allowed fear to run the show. Fear of what is going to happen. Fear of what others think. Fear of disappointing others. Fear that I have failed. Fear of breaking promises, no matter what the cost.

Each time I allow fear to lead I feel like I lose a little piece of myself. I become hyper-vigilant about controlling the external to eliminate any uncertainty and attempt to be completely self-reliant over any fear. My human flesh trying to lead out of habit. I have been here before, and this way of responding to situations of uncertainty doesn’t work. I arrive at a crossroad, having to choose to follow the path of uncertainty with fear as my guide, or navigating a new path where I put my trust in God and allow my faith to be my compass. Although my current situation is different, I have been here before. It was during a time when life was falling apart and I chose to align with God and trust in His promises. This was a decision that was not natural for me but completely foreign… and, if I’m being honest, it wasn’t a decision at all, but a complete surrender, throwing my hands up in the air, exhausting all other options. For the first time I prayed.

Help. I don’t

know what to do. There were no magical answers. Nothing on the external changed. Yet, there was this washing of peace that came over me. A deep breath filled my lungs, and, in the exhale, I was able to release. 9

Halinka Van Minnen :: MOVING FROM FEAR TO FAITH

With each breath the sensations of fear gently released and I felt supported. I’ve learned that “fear not” is in the Bible 365 times, once for each and every day. I find this comforting because I often catch myself living and making decisions out of fear. Trying to break the habit of being self-reliant to control the uncertainty. “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7 As I write this I am stepping forward into another chapter of uncertainty in which the voice of fear has been deafening, and all I can do is remember. Remember to be aligned and surrender to God. Remember that I have walked the path of uncertainty before and not only survived but became stronger.

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I noticed my body in a new way. Experiencing all the sensations without being paralyzed, I was able to feel the fear.

Remember that: “They say it only takes a little faith To move a mountain Well good thing A little faith is all I have, right now. But God, when You choose To leave mountains unmovable Oh give me the strength to be able to sing It is well with my soul. I know You’re able and I know You can Save through the fire with Your mighty hand, But even if You don’t My hope is You alone. I know the sorrow and I know the hurt Would all go away if You’d just say the word, But even if You don’t My hope is You alone.” “Even If” by MercyME

Watch here for Halinka’s favorite tool to use in navigating through fear and uncertainty. (CLICK THE IMAGE ABOVE TO PLAY THE VIDEO)

each time I allow fear to lead

I lose a little piece of myself.

#FromFearToFaith #Aligned #Help #Surrender #Uncertainty #HelpInFaith #SupportInFaith

Halinka Van Minnen :: MOVING FROM FEAR TO FAITH

HALINKA VAN MINNEN Certified BodyMind Coach

Halinka is the creator of The Happy & Healthy Place. With her 14 years as a massage therapist, Halinka learned that just treating physical discomfort only provides a band aid approach. As a BodyMind Coach, Halinka works with women who experience chronic stress and pain, helping them align with possibility so they can live happy and healthy on purpose. Her clients discover they don’t have to live in a constant state of chaos. Instead they learn to treat their bodies as a best friend learning new behaviour patterns that beat stress and decrease pain to allow them to be fully present in their life. Halinka also holds a Health Science degree and is a yoga instructor. Halinka’s faith is her anchor and driving purpose in life. She lives in Ontario, Canada. thehappyandhealthyplace.com IG: @HappyHealthyPlace FB: happyandhealthyplace

I was talking to an amazing Massage Therapist recently. She has been practicing for nearly 15 years and has a schedule that is booked solid with amazing clients. By industry standards, she is definitely ‘successful.’

And that’s when she said it: “I feel stuck. I’ve been doing the same thing, day in and day out for years with my clients. And while I love every single one of them, it’s starting to wear on me.” “I mean, I got into this business to help people heal and I’ve taken loads of CE classes to refine my skills. But it just feels like I’ve hit this invisible ceiling in my business where my income is capped, my time is capped, and my clients keep complaining about the same stuff.” This was the kicker…“You know the worst part — even though I know I’m amazing at what I do, I still feel like I have to justify myself and my rates to compete with new therapists and the franchises. I’ve done everything I can to be successful and I feel like I’ve ‘made it.’ But inside, I KNOW there is a better way and I just can’t seem to figure it out for myself.” Can you relate? I know I can — that is exactly where I was just a few years back. Maxed out. On the brink of burn out. And starting to wonder… how I could continue to do the work I love without working myself to the ground?

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An invitation to you...

I knew there was a better way to work, but I had to charter a new path to find it. I made a commitment to myself that I would figure out how to work smarter, not harder (which, as a Massage Therapist, was no small feat!). I consciously structured my business to honor me so that I could bring my BEST self into my work. The results were clear: — Within 6 months, I doubled my income and had my first 6-figure year. — I CUT BACK the number of clients I worked on (from 25 per week to 12 per week). — My clients took empowered action between appointments (i.e. all the advice I had been giving them for years, they finally followed through) and were getting amazing results. — I felt a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment in my work that had been missing for years. I believe it is time for a *NEW ERA* of bodyworkers. At BodyMind Living, our mission is to help holistic practitioners own their brilliance, break free from trading time for money, and increase their impact and income because the world needs love and light in powerful, practical application.”. ~

Laura

Lori Hoffer :: WAITING AND WONDERING

for both mammograms and full body skin cancer checks. It’s kind of a shitty club to be in, and I know I’m far from alone. Each time I make an appointment, there is this glimmer of fear that surges through my body. “Is this the time they find cancer?” Recently I went in for a 6-month mammogram to check the calcifications in my breast. They’d been holding steady, and when this scan was clear, I’d be taken off the 6-month rotation. I have a favorite mammogram tech. Her name is Sheryl, and she is friendly, wears pigtails, makes jokes, is so respectful, and totally lets me nerd out by showing me the images as she takes them. She checks between each shot to make sure she got what’s needed because some of these

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A couple of years ago I was put on the “6-month plan”

calcifications are nestled way back near my chest wall. Add to that my super dense and cyst-filled breast tissue and taking time between images becomes really important. It also reduces the probability the radiologist will send us back for more images at the same visit. Sheryl makes mammograms fun! I did not have Sheryl on my last visit. I didn’t even catch the name of my tech on the last visit because she didn’t offer it. She didn’t use my name. There wasn’t that underlying sense of friendliness, of comfort. It felt like all business with minimal compassion. She wasn’t mean or rude. It simply felt like she was going through the routine. Like I was another file on her list for the day. Who knows what was going on in her own life. Not me. Maybe not even her. I almost started crying during that mammogram. I’ve never cried during one before. Or any medical appointment. In fact, I seem to be the rare person who doesn’t really mind them at all. It felt so impersonal for this deeply personal event. Feeling like a number versus a person. Unseen. Uncared for. No sense of communication or nurturing. All business with no sense of compassion.

Lori Hoffer :: WAITING AND WONDERING

I sat alone in the tiny closet. Medical gown loosely tied. Waiting. A few minutes passed. A few minutes more. Finally the radiologist came. He did use my name. “Well, the calcifications in the upper lateral quadrant look the same. And I see some changes in the ones closer to the chest wall. It could be actual changes, it could be differences in imaging technique. It’s hard to tell with breasts this dense. So... we want to biopsy those.” Well... motherfuckerareyoufuckingkiddingmedoIreallyneedanotherdamnthingandmoreuncertainty? You see, this past year has (once again) blown up my life as I know it. My massage practice was shut down as the pandemic started, and it has not felt safe to go back to my small, minimal air exchange office. So I got to pivot my business into more full-time coaching more quickly than I’d intended. After all, I’m a self-employed single parent in a career that literally involves being up close and personal with people for an extended period of time.

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She got the images, none of which I saw or was invited to see, and sent me back to the changing room to wait for the radiologist.

Something had to change immediately. I needed income. I have bills to pay, food to buy, and a kid to support. I was also waiting for information and answers about other work opportunities that were presented to me at the time, but had not been clearly and directly followed up on. Feeling pushed off, ignored, and forgotten. Not belonging. Contradictory messages. A delightful mixture of fear and uncertainty all wrapped into one. This plot twist came after rebuilding my life just three years ago. During a few months’ time I dealt with my separation and divorce, prepping and selling a house, finding a new home, and supporting my daughter through navigating those huge changes. Then toss in a fire closing my former office building, quickly finding new office space, my mother’s emergency leg amputation, and immediate family discord leading to a disowning. Hello again, Uncertainty! You really love to bring it, don’t you? The next available biopsy appointment was about 2.5 weeks out. Another friendly woman helped me get it set up, told me what to expect, and answered all my questions. I have a lot of questions. I left, got in my car, and lost my shit. Tears welled into my eyes as the possibility of what could

I “couldn’t” cry for long because I needed to drive home. My daughter was waiting for me. “Things to do” and all that. Plus, tears and driving feel like a recipe for disaster. Two and a half weeks of total uncertainty before the biopsy. Ugh. What would they find? Was this it? Is this my turn for cancer? I told my daughter about my appointment when I got home. I could see the concern and questions in her eyes. One of her deepest fears is that something will happen to me. We’ve talked about it a number of times and it feels like a lot of responsibility to carry. It’s also what keeps me going in life when I’m really fed up and “over it” with the world. Sharing with my daughter was big for me because, like many people, I have this annoying habit of keeping things to myself. I go deep within and deal with all my stuff on my own. Funny thing is I am the first person to remind others “You don’t have to do this alone. Ask for help. Share your thoughts and concerns. Don’t rob others of the choice to make their own decision about helping and supporting you.” And yet, my first inclination is “I will do this myself because

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be going on settled in. I felt into it for a minute, took a breath, grabbed a tissue, and turned the key.

others have their own lives to live and shit to deal with. Nobody should have to deal with mine, too. My stuff isn’t important. And they don’t really even care.” Thanks LoriBrain. Sometimes you’re a real jerk. Plus, I can’t stand the look of “oh fuck, what do I say” on some people’s faces when I do share unpleasant news. We tend to do a terrible job teaching and inviting empathy and support in our culture and are often so uncomfortable with other people’s discomfort that we thrash around like a fish on the dock gasping for air when faced with it. It can feel exhausting supporting someone who is upset about what I’ve told them instead of actually receiving that support for what I share. In fact, I generally feel like I AM the support system, not that I have one. I don’t feel like I have a lot of “my people” to reach out to with MY stuff. So, I navigate fear and uncertainty alone. I know I can depend on myself and that if I can trust anyone with my deepest heart, it’s me. It’s totally hypocritical. I own that. Waiting for that biopsy appointment was like stewing in the energy of uncertainty with a chaser of fear.

Lori Hoffer :: WAITING AND WONDERING

uncertainty are

far from the same for me.

Uncertainty feels sticky and annoying. Irksome. Messy. Uncertainty is full of questions with no idea about the actual answers. It’s like someone has left all the doors of the cabinets open and then just walked away. No closure. Simply standing there exposed. Uncertainty embodies the energy of “I don’t know” and I’m someone who really likes answers and closure. It loves to taunt me and remind me that my “knowing” shows up on its terms and not on demand. It’s sneaky that way. Fear is committed. It takes its job really fucking seriously. Fear brings a heightened awareness that comes with the need to protect self. It’s always feeling “on” and alert to everything around me at all times. Ears perked. Eyes taking in every detail and remembering them “in case” I need them later. Nose on 20

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fear and

high alert. Every inch of my skin aware of the smallest touch or movement. Reflexes primed to react at the tiniest thing. It’s a complete sensory overdrive. Fear knocks my logical brain into high gear figuring out how to make things work. How to solve the problem. What I can do. What is possible. Fear is all business and “How can I survive?” ... .. ... .. I had the biopsy, and it was about as pleasant an experience as it could be. My tech was lovely and we talked about coaching — something she’s considered doing herself for many years. The biopsy table was in no way comfortable and we talked about how it was likely not designed by someone who might use it. Lying face down, my breast was hanging through the hole in the middle of the table, my legs hanging off the end, and my head turned to one side in a most unnatural position. “Find a position you can hold because you won’t be able to move for about 20 minutes.” Nothing comfortable or comforting about that. It’s an odd feeling to feel slight tugging and pressure when you know the action is much more vigorous. I was squeezed into a mammogram machine to help them find the spot and then guide the needle in. There was a hydraulic “clunk”

The procedure was done and they were kind, helpful, and again willing to answer all my questions. My tech was happy to let me take photos of the sample and of my images on the screen. I told her I’d send her the info about BodyMind coaching. The doctor told me I should have the results in two to five days and “longer doesn’t mean anything bad.” That was a simple yet powerful piece of info to have. With the shift from waiting for the procedure to waiting for the results, I had a fascinating awareness show up. Spending the past few weeks living in that enhanced energy of fear and uncertainty began to nourish my old friend, self-doubt. Little stories began parading through my brain saying things like, “You’re not really worth anything” and “What do you bring to the table?” The energy needed to navigate fear and uncertainty was acting as fertilizer for these ingrained patterns I work so hard to change. They can be so loud and so stubborn. How will it feel when I open myself to living in action with myself vs. in reaction to the world around me? (CLICK THE IMAGE TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

as the samples were taken and sucked out. This part didn’t bring up feelings of fear or uncertainty. It raised curiosity about the procedure and how anyone might think this table is in any way comfortable. My guess? The table is built for the convenience of the doctor. Potential patient fear and uncertainty takes a backseat to getting things done efficiently. Our medical system at work.

Maybe they come to visit so quickly and easily because there was so much uncertainty and fear in so many parts of my life growing up. ... .. ... .. I don’t actually know what it feels like to not live in a place of uncertainty and even fear. In the past few years, I’ve awakened to the realization that I’ve lived most of my life in a constant “fight, flight, or fawn” state. And living within these energies for so long they feel sadly normal. They are simply my state of being. When things do arise that seem “sure” or predictable, I notice they often change and once again I’m left in this cycle of wondering. Why? What did I do? Why am I not enough? Too much? What’s “wrong” with me? Why don’t others see and appreciate in me what I see? Maybe I’m somehow “wrong” about myself and my experiences? Both fear and uncertainty can serve as warning to danger, and unfortunately, constantly marinating in their energy actually dulls the messages to “fight, flight, or fawn” when they are critical. It feels like old hat — “What? This again? No problem. We spend all our time here, so you’ll be fine.” Sometimes I wonder what it might feel like to live outside this state of hyper awareness and questioning.

Lori Hoffer :: WAITING AND WONDERING

fear and uncertainty are

far from the same thing for me. #NotEnough #TooMuch #BodyMindLiving #NavigatingFear #NavigatingUncertainty

Lori Hoffer :: WAITING AND WONDERING

How will it feel when I open myself to living in action with myself vs. in reaction to the world around me? ... .. ... .. It took a whole fucking week for the biopsy results to come back. That was a long week. Waiting like that really sucks. I got the results in the morning. The phone rang during an already emotional time with my daughter — her grieving the end of the school year. The end of middle school. The activities 8th graders usually get to do at year end that she did not get to do because of the pandemic. A field trip to NYC for multiple Broadway shows. A trip to indoor skydiving to celebrate the completion of her STEAM certificate — a three year endeavor. A cruise on the Potomac for her entire class to celebrate their promotion to high school. All these things were being “taken away” from her. The day was not unwinding as she expected or wanted and all her grief was bubbling up. Add to that her concern that her mom might have cancer. She’d asked about results multiple times during the past week: “Have you heard anything?” “Did the doctor call?” “It’s been awhile, is that bad??”

To live in a state of certainty and boldness. With a sense of calm and balance.

Tears and emotions were flowing from her like a flash flood sweeping over the banks. The phone rang. It was the radiologist. He sounded chipper. Is that good? The biopsy came back and the results were benign. He read me the report which, as he described it, was full of a bunch of big words that didn’t include things like carcinogenic, cancerous, and some other things. I understood the general message and look forward to seeing it and processing what all those words actually said. I told him thank you and hung up. My daughter stopped, looked right into my eyes, and asked, “Do you have cancer?” Almost no adult I know will easily say that word, and she just blurted that out. She burst into smiling tears when I told her the result was benign. (I’ll never say “I don’t have cancer” because the body is vast and tricky, and who the hell knows what’s going on in other places.) She gave me a big hug. Her entire body let go of some of her own fear and uncertainty of the past few weeks. Clearly this uncertainty… this fear… was weighing on her as well. I’m back on the 6-month plan to check the same area. And then, perhaps, I can go back on the yearly plan. Time will tell because, of course, there’s no way to be certain.

LORINE HOFFER, LMT Certified BodyMind Coach, Big Change Facilitator A childhood fascination with the body/mind connection led Lorine to a lifelong professional focus on helping clients ditch the stress patterns (and aches and pains!) keeping them stuck. Her skills flow from massage to education to psychology and entrepreneurship. This mighty arsenal uniquely qualifies her to help clients reconnect to themselves, partners and kids so they wake up feeling rested, confident, empowered and ready to own the day. Lorine loves to laugh, curse, explore nature, hang out with her insightful daughter, “get to the good stuff” in connected conversations and notice beauty in every day. Described as having both fierce compassion and fierce independence, she’ll hold space for you and hold you accountable to the big changes you’re ready to claim. LorineHoffer.com Lorine@LorineHoffer.com IG: @LorineHoffer FB: LorineHoffer / Lori Hoffer FB: Life Connected

Dena Halle :: THE POWER OF BELIEF

The energy of fear and uncertainty is often what we simply have not yet wrapped our minds around. We all face uncertainty in our lives at one time or another. In some situations, not knowing what lies ahead creates feelings of excitement and hope. In other situations, it can feel like navigating through the Grand Canyon blindfolded. As I write this article, we are still in the transitioning phases of a global crisis and unprecedented time with the outbreak of Covid-19. It quickly became a part of our daily lives, causing us to meet the challenges head on and rapidly change our work and home routines to adjust to a new normal. And, even when we aren’t dealing with a major global crisis, there are many other life events that can leave us feeling fearful and uncertain. 26

For myself, I have experienced two major unpredicted life events and have come to know fear and uncertainty up front and personal all too well in the last two years. Never in my life have I sustained a significant health issue and injuries that required me to adapt so much and endure such treatments and recoveries. But instead of becoming tense with avoidance, reluctance, fear and uncertainty, I accepted my reality, looked fear and uncertainty in the eye and fought like hell. Why? Because this was my survival. Physical and emotional. I chose to believe I could survive and was living it bravely and unapologetically, doing the best I could, learning from each situation — a cancer diagnosis and a devastating bike accident that resulted in pelvis and elbow fractures. Having hope and refusing to give up supported my navigation of fear and uncertainty. I work with athletes, I have been an athlete, I still am an athlete, and I believe the mind is the strongest part of an athlete. Athletes work hard, believe in themselves, and never give up. It’s not only the strength of their arms, legs, core, lungs or heart, but their mind as well that keeps them going. Strength comes from how an athlete handles pressure and pain and problem-solves when things get tough. Shortly after receiving the tough news of my cancer diagnosis and treatment regime, I was reading stories of breast cancer survivors and wrote this mantra down:

Dena Halle :: THE POWER OF BELIEF

Believe your best days are ahead of you. Believe in your power, believe in your strength, don’t stop believing. Some days I looked at these words and they nourished me, but other days I shook my head in disbelief. How could believing make any difference? I told myself believing isn’t enough and I need to do more. Believing doesn’t keep my hair from falling out, make it grow, create more energy, help me look like myself or get me back in motion doing the things I love and need, like hiking, biking and paddling again or brushing and preparing my hair for the day or earning money. My body does that. My legs and arms do that. My strength does that. My athlete mindset told me I needed to be strong physically. Believing, I thought, had no part of getting there. But the more I thought about it and experienced the positive effects of belief like decreased anxiety, a positive outlook, and hope, the more I realized how much power belief holds. I’ve realized that it’s what keeps me going and what keeps me curious. Believing that I will hike 18 miles in a day or bike across the state is what allows me to try.

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Believing forced me to continue to meet with my trainer, take painfully slower walks than usual, and to do the hard things that prepared me to get back to all my activities and plan to try new challenges. Believing that my health and hair would return is what kept me showing up for unpleasant treatments and to be grateful for the opportunity to receive more health and wellness in the future and embrace my balding head baseball hats. Believing I could beat cancer is what gave me the strength and courage to re-evaluate my diet, sleep, relationships, and work routines and implement changes to support my fight. Believing is what gave me the grit to leave a full time job with a 401k to become an entrepreneur and operate my own business on my own terms that gave me the freedom, time, money and flexibility to raise a family and design a life I love. Believing is what separates me from those who never try or those who give up when situations or life feels too hard. Believing is a challenge, but faith in myself and how I will benefit or grow through the process is a strength more powerful than any muscle or lung.

If I believe in the power of my arms and legs and mind, they take me farther and faster than I ever thought possible. It’s like giving myself permission to dream or fly. If I eliminate the limits, the possibilities are endless. And it all starts with my belief. After my bicycle accident, I was told by my physician that I would not be doing the things I loved to do for at least 12 weeks and then the return to those activities would be a slow process. I was devastated. But only for a few minutes. No, just kidding! This sadness lasted several weeks, arriving in various waves of intensity. There were many moments after my accident that even walking with the support of a walker any distance felt nearly impossible. I wanted to believe that one day maybe I would walk on my own again, and perhaps make a few hikes and get back in the saddle of my road bike before summer was over. Belief is what sparked the journey. Belief also taught me about the power of community and the impact that others can have on you. The more vulnerable I became in my illness and my injured state, the more I was able to ask and receive help. Although it didn’t happen instantly, once I

Believing encourages me back into the activities I love to do, gets me up the mountains, on the water to paddle and and back into the saddle of my beloved road bike.

was healthier, I realized that on the long road of recovery I had received a community of wonderful people who were giving and caring and attentive to my needs. My community selflessly took care of me when I needed it — my infusion nurses waited on me and made sure I was comfortable at all times, my physical therapist kept the clinic pool opened for me after hours, my friends listened to me cry and told me it was all going to be OK, my girlfriends and daughter planted all my flower and vegetable gardens, my friends brought dinners into the house or shared a meal with me in their homes, my clients adjusted their schedules to accommodate my rehab and brought me gifts, and my mom and kids watched me struggle and supported me with visits, laughter, medical support and lots of hope. That hope and belief began to grow, and I began to understand more about the power of my mind and my attitude and how those both affected the pain and fear and uncertainty surrounding my illness and injuries. I was able to push past my challenges and believe again in my body’s capabilities and attributes. The trick was simply believing and, in turn, reforming my perception around fear and uncertainty. This new belief system made me hyper aware of my surroundings. Suddenly I became aware of everything. Some days I felt fear

Dena Halle :: THE POWER OF BELIEF kicking in or negative emotions welling up, but instead of letting those feelings influence my actions, I consciously acknowledged my fear, told myself it was OK to be afraid, reminded myself to be patient, and repeated my positive affirmations to cultivate a positive perspective. Believe that your best days are ahead of you. Believe in your power, believe in your strength, don’t stop believing. You are enough. Once I repeated the affirmations enough — and some days I had to repeat this process multiple times — the negative thoughts had no room anymore, leaving me to focus on what I could do, on what my body was adapting to and healing from. It was an essential process for me to choose to believe in myself, rather than let fear, uncertainty, expectation, and doubt get the best of me. Letting go of expectation allowed me to celebrate even the smallest victories, be in the moment and thankful for my current state. Of course, I’m not perfect, I was frustrated by the side effects of treatment, pain and the slow progress. And I dreamed of cycling, paddling, walking and hiking freely, and being present with my clients again.

I still believed that I would do all of these activities again, but that belief had room to breathe. Though I wanted it badly and wholeheartedly, I knew I didn’t need it. I didn’t need to hike, bike, paddle or walk again to be happy and find joy. I didn’t need those things to feel whole and complete. I knew I was enough just as I was. I believed I was enough without that part of me. Even though the activities had always made my life feel brighter, happier and healthier, there’s a difference between needing it and wanting it. Recognizing that separation ignited a fire within me to understand the power of my will, belief, trust and hope, and construct a path to attain what I wanted: to have my physical, emotional, professional and active life back. I know I will face potential obstacles and side effects from my cancer and fractures in the future. But my belief in myself is stronger than ever. I did it. I am a cancer survivor and I have recovered from my accident and fractures.

Nothing is certain in this life, but anything is possible. I believe all things are possible. (CLICK THE IMAGE TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

Dena Halle :: THE POWER OF BELIEF

And through all of this, belief has been my anchor, keeping me from drifting into doubt and despair and sustaining me through fear and uncertainty. Belief that required a quiet strength to cut through the deepest lows and demand resilience. It might not 32

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The greater purpose of my belief has pushed my own boundaries and taught me something from each experience of illness, injury, and recovery.

have been at the forefront of my mind every day, but belief was there: belief in myself, belief in my process and the fight and hard work I was putting in. My belief was restored by engaging in the unknown and believing that anything was possible. In the face of imperfection, setback, or surprise, I believed that a positive outlook and perspective could shape any outcome into a good one. It wouldn’t be easy or uncomplicated, but I pursued, found

What challenges, fears and uncertainties do you need to meet head on? Do you believe in yourself and that anything is possible? Could a positive outlook and perspective shape the outcome of your fear and uncertainty into a good one?

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and had the mentality to meet the challenge of fear and uncertainty head-on.

As I began to return to my normal active lifestyle, I left the fear and memory of the rough moments behind by letting it go and believing in my preparation and capabilities to return to doing what I want and love, not necessarily what I need. I appreciate and acknowledge the journey to get to this point came from the struggles, the support, my community, and the power and desire of my belief to believe “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength,” Philippians 4:13. 33

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do you believe in yourself and that anything is possible? #Belief

#Enough

#AintNoMountainHighEnough #Believe

DENA HALLE, LMT, ACT/L BodyMind Coach, BA Sports Medicine, Licensed Athletic Trainer

Dena is a cancer survivor that is passionate about closing the gap between surviving vs thriving in life, wellness, and business. She guides clients, cancer survivors, wellness professionals and creative entrepreneurs in navigating and revolutionizing their life and business so that they can stop the overwhelm, create ease and build real tangible health and wealth. Dena is a multi-faceted life coach, business mentor and consultant. She combines her knowledge and certifications to create transformational outcomes for her clients. When not working, she travels the world to assist elite athletes and professionals in performing their best from both body and mind. She loves intentional time for exercise, family, friends, hiking, cycling, paddling and floating in the water at her river home and in Maui. DenaHalle.com FB: Dena Halle Massage Wenatchee IG: @StopFeelingStuck

BODYMIND LIVING SPOTLIGHT :: SHANA HARTMAN

navigating fear is

ultimately recognizing that

I A M N OT T HE FE A R .

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BodyMind living is a process for me to stay connected to my inner

source of knowing, where God lives in me, where my truth is constant. The process is messy and a continual practice! ... ... ... ... Through her 20+ years of work mastering the power of reflection and intention, she discovered that we are our own experts regarding our body and mind when we just learn to listen. Her favorite way to listen and get embodied is through writing! In her experience as owner and operator of Synergy Wellness Group LLC, Shana knows this listening (and writing) is easier said than done, and we aren’t meant to figure out this amazing life (or body) on our own. It takes practice, specific actions, and support. She loves to support strong, independent female-identifying business owners in planning, writing, and finishing the books tugging at their heart to be shared with the world, one embodied step at a time. When she’s not supporting others in their writing, she can be found snuggled on the couch with her hubby enjoying homemade popcorn or on an adventure with her family of five, including her kids — a junior in college, a senior in high school, and a fourth grader! Managing Editor BodyMind Living Magazine / Embodied Writing Coach Follow her “Writerly Breadcrumbs” and on Instagram @shanahartman_ 37 37

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I love answering this question even though there is no definitive answer! BodyMind living is a process for me to stay connected to my inner source of knowing, where God lives in me, where my truth is constant. The process is messy and a continual practice! I notice BodyMind living in everything from simple moments, like what I’m choosing to eat for lunch, to more complex moments, like leaving my university job as an English professor to fully claim my purpose as an embodied writing coach. I also am learning how BodyMind living is about being connected to others because I am so connected to myself. We are not meant to navigate anything in this life on our own, so living BodyMind aligned allows me to constantly learn and receive wisdom from others as they learn and receive from me. It’s a beautifully reciprocal process that I am so blessed to experience because of my journey as a BodyMind coach! How do you navigate fear and uncertainty? I want to start off by saying there is no “final answer” to this question, as fear and uncertainty just are in life. They seem to be necessary for almost every aspect of

What does BodyMind living mean to you?

living. Every new experience, new growth edge invites fear in, which I’ve learned through BodyMind living is really our beautiful brain’s way of keeping us safe and, ultimately, making sure we don’t die. It’s a basic survival instinct. When that growth edge has nothing to do with death or harming myself, navigating fear then becomes this interesting dance of who I get to become by taking the next aligned step with fear by my side. I don’t think I ever navigate away from fear, and I don’t think I make choices by pushing through fear either. Because of my connection to myself, I can now sit with fear, feel where it’s living in my body, get curious about what the feeling is trying to say and communicate, and then I get to choose what happens next. I think navigating fear is ultimately about recognizing that I am not the fear. Fear is just a feeling that is being communicated, and I get to decide what I make it mean. Understanding that choice, then, supports me in navigating the uncertainty that shows up just as fear does. I find uncertainty has a lot of questions: “Can I do this? What if it all goes wrong? What if everyone hates me?” Again, I navigate this follow up emotion by trying to tune in and listen. I get to decide which of these questions are mine and which ones I get to return to sender (another helpful framework I

What common advice do you love to share with your clients that you would like to share with our audience? I hear myself most often sharing questions derived from a core belief that our body is our

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learned through Laura Wieck and the BodyMind Coaching team and program). Many are quickly returned to the naysayers who are projecting their own patterns and work on me. Not mine, moving on! The questions that are mine, the uncertainty that I am owning, then shifts into my own work. This is a continual process of choosing me over my gremlins, choosing my God-given purpose over the little voice that believes it is safer to stay where I am. Overall, navigating fear and uncertainty is a never-ending process that I am appreciative of continually working through because it means I’m truly living!

compass. So, I will ask something like the following: “When you tune into your source of knowing, what do you really want to do, say, write, know right now or in this particular circumstance?” Whatever comes up quickly is often the aligned action needed for the client. In my embodied writing programs, I find myself continually reminding the heart-centered business owners I work with to “just write… and then write some more!” We often approach writing our book with this notion that I have to know exactly what I want to write before I write it. In reality, there is no way we can know what needs to be written because we haven’t met those words yet! This is the journey of both embodied writing and BodyMind living — tuning in constantly to discover what our next aligned word and action step is in this world!

Mary Pat Curran :: GIFTS IN THE MESS

Hello uncertainty. At 14 weeks, after the urine test that examined the proteins in my urine, I received a call. An ultrasound was needed. I remember sitting in the dark and cold of that room, alone with the ultrasound tech. My body had to be still, but my mind was racing. You know they can’t tell you what they’re looking for or at, so it was quiet after the polite chit-chat. I anxiously waited for the doctor to look at the footage and then turn to me to let me know there was a problem. My first-born’s intestines were hanging outside of his body. Hello fear and uncertainty. 40

In 1998 I was blessed to become pregnant with my first child, my son, Jack.

It’s strange enough being pregnant for the first time. So many things change during pregnancy: hormones are crazy, the body changes shape, and movements are new. And, so much is already uncertain because it was my first pregnancy. Now, I was given the chance to handle this additional stress and questions: What caused it? Is it my fault? Will he live? Will I live? Not to bog us all down in medical mysteries, it was determined to be one of two things: omphalocele (a genetic disorder with the possibility of multiple issues) or gastroschisis (a non-genetic disorder with, hopefully, less negative outcomes.) I was 26 years old and I was scared. And my family was scared. Questions, doubts and possible scenarios played out in my head the rest of those weeks. Physically, I felt great. I enjoyed being pregnant and feeling him move, but there was no joyous anticipation that typically surrounds the birth of a child. Instead there was a heaviness of heart, body and mind. The uncertainty weighed on my shoulders and darkened my heart. Instead of looking forward with eager anticipation, there was flatness and even dread. No big dreams of what he might grow up to be, no happy ponderings of his future beyond birth. There were only the questions of: Will he live? How bad will it be if he does live? What will happen?

Mary Pat Curran :: GIFTS IN THE MESS To navigate this uncertainty I used the tools at hand. Being raised Roman Catholic, Jack was added to several prayer chains and a novena practice came to me. It was the novena of Mary, the Lady of Sorrows. There’s a booklet with prayers and reflections of all the sorrowful things Mary endured as the mother of Jesus: 1– The prophecy of Simeon 2– The flight to Egypt 3– The loss of the child Jesus at the Temple 4– The meeting of Jesus and Mary on the Way of the Cross 5– The Crucifixion 6– The taking down of Jesus’s body 7– The burial of Jesus This is what I did to find solace. There is depth and beauty to be found in the Sorrows. Seeing these events from Mary’s perspective did help me. In those times of prayer, I did ask that whatever the outcome, I would be ok with it. If Jack thrived, if there were issues that accompanied life, and even if he died. I asked to be able to handle it no matter what it was. I did not ask for joy and positive possibility. I couldn’t find that in me, and I wanted to be prepared for the worst. I wasn’t prepared for the best. Jack was born by cesarean section on a beautiful Friday morning with his grandparents and all his aunts and uncles waiting in the waiting room. (He’s the only one in our 42

family that had the privilege of everyone present for his birth.) I got to peek at him in the incubator before he was taken for his own surgery. Luckily his gastroschisis was repaired. The doctors were able to insert his intestines back into his belly and apply a patch. He was kept in a medically induced coma for about a week, and stayed in the NICU for a month. When I got to see him in the NICU, his healthy eight pound body looked huge next to the precious little premature babies that were also in residence. He was healthy. It was then that the happiness and dreaming began, after seeing and knowing he was healthy and would survive without immediate complications. While the tools I had at hand did help me, I do regret that my body was not able to feed his sense of thriving and joy while he was growing inside me. He was formed healthily regardless of the stress hormones that my thoughts induced my body to make. I wish I had had the knowledge, language, and support of a BodyMind coach who would have helped me feel the possible expectation of a healthy birth. I wish I had been able to provide those feel good hormones to Jack. I wonder what the outcome would have been if I had been able to tap into that as well.

Mary Pat Curran :: GIFTS IN THE MESS

Do you practice facing your fears? I do! Sometimes I even have fun doing it. Training in aerial silks is one way I practice navigating fear and uncertainty. (CLICK THE IMAGE ABOVE TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

I wanted to be prepared for the worst...

I wasn’t prepared for the best. #Gifts #Doubt #Practice #Navigating #3Brains #FearAndUncertainty #Tools #AerialSilks #StarDrop

Mary Pat Curran :: GIFTS IN THE MESS

“I just want to be me.

To be Jack.” And maybe that is the other gift in the mess of that whole experience — he is wholly himself, not one that was conditioned to “succeed” from the womb.

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Jack is currently 22 and doing well. He only had one incident involving his intestines and his body resolved it without surgery. When Jack was 4 or 5, my brother asked him what he wanted to be when he grew up. His answer wasn’t the typical job description little ones give as a response. Instead, he said,

I’m so glad to be aware of and be a part of this BodyMind Living community. I have learned so much about the connection between our bodies and our brains. As I’ve learned more about the body’s three brains (cranial, heart, and gut brains), I can see how I did use that connection to cope. I did use mindset to help me to mentally be ok. Yet, I would have enjoyed really feeling my own body and its wholeness and health to help me trust the process even more. I’m so glad you’ve found this now, wherever you are in your journey. May you reach out for the support you need that you can find right here.

MARY PAT CURRAN, LMT BodyMind Coach

As the owner of Intentional Flow, Mary Pat Curran coaches her clients using her gifts of presence and possibility. Mary Pat (MP) was an educator of adults & youth for 13 years prior to attending massage school. In 2013 she opened her own business and in 2018 began offering BodyMind Coaching as a missing piece for her clients’ transformation. Mary Pat loves helping her clients learn more about themselves so that they can grow into their intentions without having to become someone else to succeed. Through embodying their unique values, goals, and desires. MP’s clients not only reach their goals, they become who they are meant to be. Originally from Chicago, Mary Pat currently resides in Lexington, Kentucky with her hubby, children and dog. IntentionalFlow@gmail.com FB: Intentional Flow IG: @IntentionalFlow LI: Mary Pat Curran

Laura Wieck :: SAFE AND FREE

How do we stay grounded

in those moments where life

likes to throw a curveball?

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#Grounded #BodyMindLiving #Fear #Uncertainty

When I was a kid I LOVED going to the swimming pool. I still do. I remember I had an inflatable little sea horse that kept me safe in the pool. But, I wasn’t allowed to jump off the diving board with an inflatable and I had to learn how to give up that security if I wanted to jump into the freedom of the unknown. Now I’m a mom. What I worry about and fear the most is the world my son is going to grow up in. I worry about the day when we have to take off James’ water wings and face a world that is unnecessarily cruel and oppressive simply because of the color of his skin. I dream of the day when we all have the support and structures around us to fully feel whole. BodyMind Living is about holding space for every body to feel that freedom and that liberation. We all want to feel safe. We all want to feel free. And to live in a world where our kids experience these as well. We need to take an honest look at how we are perpetuating the very things we want to protect our children from. It’s hard. It’s uncomfortable. It requires us to face so many levels of fear and uncertainty, and I dream about what’s waiting for our kids on the other side. (CLICK THE IMAGE ABOVE TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

Carolyn Ulitsky :: FEAR & UNCERTAINTY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

Uncertainty evokes fear. I have often wondered and doubted whether I’d be in another relationship and be in love ever again. Being twice divorced, in my mid 50’s with adult children… how do you start, again? January 10, 2020, I decided I needed a relationship/love coach to get a better understanding of my patterns and beliefs with my relationships. I wanted to know about insecurities and doubts. I really asked for extra support for each module of my coach’s course and a few extra calls to get to the core of my blind spots to intentionally, consciously make different choices. I’ll be honest, it was not easy to face myself, my previous choices, discovering the patterns I was familiar with and how that had played out in my decisions to date and marry the men in my life.

The inner work, reflection exercises and homework assignments

were the tools I needed to build new patterns of self love, self respect, self healing in relationship to myself and then with others. Once that groundwork was excavated and new beliefs laid, giving and receiving love from myself to myself was the next step. I came to realize that I’m great at giving. I did not allow myself to receive. I could not take it in with any comfort. The simple acts of taking myself out to dinner, buying myself flowers, to a simple receiving of a compliment without deflecting it. I struggled. Then came the practice of empowered flirting. WHAT the FUCK?! Communication, verbal and nonverbal, with men. YIKES! Moving through those chapters was intense and then it was time to put all the new stuff I had learned with my coach to the test via online dating in the middle of a pandemic. Online dating was a new concept as I had always dated and met people the old fashioned way, meeting people at social events or activities. I will say that online dating scared the SHIT out of me, and I cried once I put my profile on a popular dating site because I did not know what to do with the interest that was coming in from my profile. My coach had to walk me through the art of scheduling time, making sure my energy and mind were in the best place, and how I could gracefully thank someone for their interest and keep swiping. This was 51

Carolyn Ulitsky :: FEAR & UNCERTAINTY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP a great way to gain confidence and communication with men. For those that are curious, yes, I did find a match on the app. It was short lived and full of richness. I learned even more about myself and the embodiment of self love, self respect, self certainty, and really honoring my feminine self. I did slip into my old habit of over-giver, people pleasing. I quickly realized the imbalance and corrected it. Gratefully, and with the assistance of my relationship coach and two trusted male friends, I was able to navigate the uncertainty and fears I was challenged with upon returning to the dating scene. As I took time to pull the golden nuggets out of that experience and integrate the new parts of me, I shifted my outlook of my life. That uncertainty and fear provided me with magic and joy through a wedding I had the honor of officiating. Preparing to officiate a wedding proved to be an incredible experience as I wrote the couple’s ceremony and wove in their story. I realized it was paralleling my own story and journey of a new relationship and navigating uncertainty and fear. I realized that starting a new relationship really begins with having the courage to communicate and take the risk to follow my heart — the subtle nudges my heart gave me to act. My new relationship story begins with being blessed with friends 52

who wanted to connect me with someone they knew and cared about. It was a simple question of am I open to meeting a friend of theirs. I said I was open. I had already begun to re-write my online profile with the intention of putting myself out there. With all of my learning, I was more clear what I desired in a long-term relationship. As I prepared to possibly meet someone online, my dear friends surprised me with an invitation to an impromptu dinner at my favorite Italian restaurant, and they invited their friend, Bill. This was a casual meeting. He joined us for dessert and it was easy. My friends checked in and knew we both thought the other was nice. Our friends exchanged our contact information. Well, life kept moving forward. I never heard from Bill. A few weeks later I was headed to my friend’s home in Prescott. I got the inkling to ask if it would be ok to drop Bill a text for coffee. It was nerve racking to send that text — feeling the uncertainty and fear of whether I would receive a response.

I quickly put the phone down after sending. I didn’t want to see if he responded or not. I was pleasantly surprised by a response two minutes later.

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It is here where our journey begins of building trust, having the courage to communicate clearly, and taking the risk to answer the call my heart nudged me to take. I will share highlights to illustrate that the growth of self trust and self respect leads to greater vulnerability/intimacy. When I surrendered to the uncertainty and allowed myself to walk through the fear, the next steps of greater growth individually and as a couple begin to take root.

We had a wonderful time connecting and sharing and getting a better understanding of each other. It would be eight days later that Bill worked up the courage to ask me out for dinner.

My schedule was full that day; I had a client session later. I was excited to receive the invitation, and I had the presence of mind to say no gracefully and offer an alternative. First honoring myself and my schedule and keeping the door open.

It takes courage to be present, communicate and connect.

Without uncertainty and fear, there is no joy. Follow that uncertainty and fear, there is adventure, magic and joy waiting for you. (CLICK THE IMAGE BELOW TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

Our interactions continued via text once a week and dinner with our friends or heading to the local ice cream or gelato shop. We enjoyed conversations on many different topics, and laughing with each other. It was time to share deeper parts of myself that most people don’t appreciate. I took a chance to share with Bill one night while eating gelato. Without saying names or personal information, I shared how lately there had been an increase in what was showing up with my clients. As an intuitive, I often receive messages and at times client’s guides and ancestors will show up as well. I was really fearful and uncertain how Bill would react to those incredible sessions with my clients. He surprised me with his enthusiasm and desire to know more. My experience of sharing these different parts of me has not always been met with that level of acceptance and enthusiasm.

Our first dinner out was set for that Saturday, April 3, 2021. It was a wonderful evening that extended to four hours. Many questions, many moments of sharing myself. For example, I was fearful of the question you are reading right now, what’s your favorite book? I was reading four different kinds of books, and I knew it would reveal more about myself. Yet, there was more curiosity on Bill’s part than the fear of judgment I was making up in my head. It felt wonderful to share and not hold back.

Wouldn’t you know it, the next day during my client sessions, more of my intuitive knowing showed up and I met myself and what I do for the first time on a very visceral level. I always understood logically, with my mind, what I offered my clients and the next day after revealing more of myself in this new relationship,

I saw myself. I had trouble containing myself the entire day. I wanted to cry. I actually cried with my clients. I was feeling on a deep level that day, and I had nowhere to process and integrate these new feelings before my date that evening. This next date with Bill offered the opportunity to ask for what I needed. Once again, the uncertainty and fear of asking someone for what I needed, when I was still in the getting-to-know-you phase, presented itself. When Bill arrived to pick me up for dinner, I took a deep breath, answered the door. Bill asked if I was ready and I said, “No.” I said I needed a favor and asked him to step into the house. I asked for a hug, and when he said “yes,” he could give me a hug, I stepped into the embrace and all I could do was cry. I explained that our conversation the night before allowed for more insight to be available and explained my morning session. He gently pulled me away and said, “What a big responsibility.” 55

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As I tell this story, I realize that in this new relationship, I finally wasn’t in any rush and had no expectations of where all this was going. I was beautifully guided to commit to what is present in the NOW. Bill and I were building trust and creating a friendship. It would be weeks (nine weeks, actually) before Bill kissed me. He gently held my face in his hands and tenderly kissed my lips. He apologized for the delay. I was pleasantly surprised — I had been preparing to lean in and give him a hug as I did each time he walked me to my front door after each outing. Our friendship continues to this day and has led to a deeper connection and intimacy as we

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I started crying and shaking. So much was moving through me and he gently and firmly held me and the space so that I could allow myself to surrender, feel, and let my feelings flow.

courageously share the parts of ourselves that others may not have understood before now and often caused them to push us away. What I’m learning in this new relationship is that without uncertainty there is no magic and there is no joy. We gracefully and compassionately are being present for each other, encouraging our individual uniqueness and deepening our self trust, self certainty, and self love and extending it to each other. Yes, I am excited to announce that we are officially a couple. Feeling more confident navigating uncertainty and fear knowing that it deepens my connection to myself and with Bill. I leave you with two simple questions to support you in navigating fear and uncertainty: What uncertainty is creating fear for you at this moment? What is your heart’s call to action at this moment to step into and through the fear?

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Laurie Juszkiewicz :: THE INVITATION TO NEW WAYS OF BEING

When I think of fear and uncertainty, a time in my life comes up that I don’t like to think about, let alone talk about or share in public.

It’s hard because I don’t want to give my power away. I don’t want this moment in my life to define me and be the thing that people think of when they see me or talk to me. AND, at the same time, this article is asking to be written. It is not escaping me that as I am writing this article on fear and uncertainty, I am literally navigating fear and uncertainty. Have you had a time in your life where you KNEW something needed to be shared or acknowledged simply because it just wouldn’t go away no matter how 58

As I am typing this article, I have exactly four days until the deadline to turn the article in. I am just starting it now. It’s not because I haven’t wanted to write it, but because it’s really fucking hard to write this one.

much you wanted it to? It’s like this thing is saying, “I’ll just wait here patiently, looming over you in the background until you are ready to say what needs to be said.” That IS this article for me! Fear and uncertainty can come up when we’re in unfamiliar territory. When we don’t know what the “normal expectations” are or what the “results and outcomes” will be. So often in our lives we have past experiences to go by to help us maneuver through the unknown, the fear, and the uncertainty. But, what happens in those times when you don’t have past experiences to guide you through? What happens when you don’t have those past experiences to lean on? And all you have to go on is what is happening right now? And this is where my story begins! Fear and uncertainty show up in an enormous way when you’re being stalked and harassed. I was uncertain of how long it would last. I was uncertain of how far he would go to hurt me, my family, and my kids. Would I be able to make it through the day without being followed to the gym or to the grocery store? Would he be there waiting for me? Would I be able to stay at the gym for the whole class or would I have

Would I be able to sit in my yard today and enjoy the peace and quiet? Would his awful and mean dog bust through our fence again? Would he drive by the house today letting me know that he was there? Would he have me chased home again tonight on my way home from massage school? Would he show up in the girls’ school again today? NOT knowing what was going to happen from day to day for eight years was the worst. AND, I believe it was preparing me for my future. More on that later. But, when I found out that he was bringing up false charges against me and that I was being criminally investigated for crimes that I did not commit, THAT was the last fucking straw. (I am now able to thank him for this day.) Something inside me broke that day when I read my copy of the police report. What I know now is that I didn’t break, I broke open.

to leave because he had scared my kids or done something to the house again?

I broke open to new ideas and because of these new ideas, I did something different. I went to a police department outside of my town where I wasn’t being investigated. I told the police officer at the front desk what was happening, and he looked at me and said, “You are completely disempowered.” I felt like saying no fucking shit, Sherlock. But, I didn’t. I asked myself, “Had he seriously not listened to a single thing I had just said? Did I leave out the part where I might be arrested? Am I crazy?” You really do feel crazy when you are having this experience. The things that are happening are so out of this world that you even doubt yourself. For years, I couldn’t make decisions on my own while this was happening without calling my hubby or my mom to ask them what I should do. I couldn’t trust myself. I believed that I was the problem. If I could just stay smaller, he wouldn’t see me. I would think “oh he drove by the house again or went into my kid’s school because I must have made him mad, etc.” I know, it’s crazy. I must have had that “you’re an alien” look on my face because the police officer said it again.

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He must have taken a domestic violence course or something. Looking back now with more clarity and groundedness, I don’t think he completely understood what he was saying. But, whatever the case, he believed it and he believed it enough for me! I on the other hand had to go home and actually google what “empowered” meant to help me wrap my brain around it. It took a few days for what he said to finally land in my brain. But, it landed. I laugh as I type this because boy, did it ever land. From that conversation with the front desk police officer, I was able to flip the switch from completely disempowered to playing with

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“You are completely disempowered. You can empower yourself here. You are in charge of you!”

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the possibility of answering his question, “How could I empower myself?” Not just empower myself, but empower myself as I was navigating the fear and uncertainty of my situation. I knew that I could not control my circumstances. I knew that I could not make the harassment stop. But, I could choose to see the situation differently. It wasn’t that I wasn’t mad or seething inside at the unfairness of what was happening to us. I was fucking mad. AND, I knew deep down that I had the power to control my reaction. There was a different choice that I could make. I could tap into my own power. THAT was what I was going to tap into — ME! That felt empowering! That made me feel like I was in the driver’s seat again.

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My ability to change my energy began to open me up to feeling better, calmer, more grounded. Because of this, new possibilities and ways that I could empower myself opened the door for me to be connected to some amazing people in my community that could and wanted to help me and my family! So much help that I could finally begin to free up more and more mental space and start to focus

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My energy began to shift. Not a lot, but, a little, enough to feel it in my heart.

back onto me and my family. Even if it was just going to the gym or to the girls’ cheerleading practice with peace; it was a start. I began saying this paragraph over and over again to myself. It’s a mixture of a line from A Course In Miracles, a quote from Gabby Bernstein, and a line of my own making that I combined to be my empowerment statement: “I choose to see this differently. I have chosen fear. I forgive myself.

I said this over and over again to myself. Especially in those times when the harassment was actually happening! And boy, did my energy shift and expand even more and new opportunities started showing up regularly! We started to feel safer and safer as each week and month went on. I finally felt safe enough to go to therapy and talk about what was happening, so I could begin to

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I choose again. I choose creative possibilities and magical opportunities.”

heal. Therapy was something that I never would have even considered before this. The days, weeks, months became years, and we feel safe and at peace for the most part now. Anger still rears its head some days. Here’s what I have learned from this experience...

Laurie Juszkiewicz :: THE INVITATION TO NEW WAYS OF BEING

What if when fear and uncertainty show up it isn’t a time to look to past experiences for our answers, but rather ask ourselves how we can lean into the fear and uncertainty to help us open ourselves up to new possibilities and new answers? For me, this goes two ways: 1– If you go by past experiences, you are more than likely to get past results. 2– When you don’t have past results to go on or you choose not to do what you’ve done in the past, I believe, you’re likely to get different or, dare I even say, better results. Going with what you know or is known will get you more of what you know. This is why to get somewhere different or to call in a different result you MUST leave your comfort zone and step into the fear of uncertainty. Fear and uncertainty is the invitation. Fear and uncertainty show up on the path to your dreams, visions, goals, and desires. This is why I believe that when fear and uncertainty show up so many people go back to what they know and what they have done in the past because they think it’s safe. We’ve all done it at one time or another.

Being willing to follow the fear and uncertainty brings us the ability to change.

The invitation to new ways of being, thinking, and feeling actually come through in times of uncertainty and fear.

Moving through fear and uncertainty brings you to surrender to stillness. Fear and uncertainty are with us all the time. They don’t go away. What changes is your perspective and perception of fear and uncertainty. You begin to recognize what fear and uncertainty are inviting you in to. It’s about embracing fear and uncertainty and allowing the uncomfortableness of that to move you. For me, fear and uncertainty are also a sign to remind me that I am relying too heavily on me and to allow myself to receive support, guidance, and new creative possibilities and magical opportunities. I allow myself to trust fully in something even when I don’t understand how it works or what it does and just simply trust that it does and will. And, this process just doesn’t happen one day. Navigating fear and uncertainty is a continuous process that gets repeated over and over again. Can you think of a time in your life when you were feeling fear and uncertainty when suddenly things started falling into place? Earlier in my article, I mentioned that I believe my experience was preparing me for something. I believe that the years and years of not knowing from day to day what was coming next and

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Looking back now on this situation, and as my family and I are healing from this terrible experience, I find now that there is a part of me that is grateful for it. You may be thinking, “How can you be grateful for eight years of abuse?” I am NOT grateful for the abuse.

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I am grateful for the opportunities that have come from it. These moments truly have been bittersweet experiences in our lives. I am grateful for the light switch that literally turned on in my brain that spoke to me and said there IS more to your life than this. There IS more to life than just existing and surviving to get through another day. I am grateful that our family has a closeness that I cannot describe. We understand and appreciate and have immense gratitude for peace and quiet, and what a gift it is to be able to walk into our yard and be able to hear birds chirp because we had gone so long without that. To feel the gratitude and appreciation to go out to a restaurant

navigating the fear and uncertainty that was happening during this time were preparing me to know how to embrace fear and uncertainty, accept its invitation, and trust that there was a bigger plan unfolding for us that I could not see! To be able to surrender and trust and be led and guided to my next new level.

with my hubby and truly enjoy our time together because of how many times we sat through dinner looking over our shoulders, jumping at the slightest movements. We enjoy our vacations more than ever because we realize just how precious our time together is. I am immensely grateful that this experience led me to retire from my career as a massage therapist (which I loved but I was limited in how many people I could help in a day) and to finding the meaning and purpose in my life, which is to be a coach and to be of service to others and empower them to see the possibility within them. Now I get to support others in being open to receiving creative possibilities and magical opportunities even in the darkest of times. Has there been an experience for you where you navigated fear and uncertainty and the invitation that came with it? I have asked this question and I am grateful and appreciative that I have hope again because I know what it feels like to feel hopeless. To have hope just about completely extinguished within you to the point where you become consumed by fear, bitterness, rage, resentment, anger, and frustration beyond measure to then digging deep within, opening up to possibility, making friends with hope, and trusting it again, and letting your purpose burn bright.

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Laurie owns and operates her own private coaching practice where she is a manifesting and money coach. She combines her magical woo energy with practical and tangible steps as she guides her clients on a journey inward to discover how they can become financially free from the inside out. She uses Bodymind Coaching as a tool to help her clients uncover their internal beliefs and alignment in the relationship that co-exists between them and the energy of money. When not coaching, Laurie is outside in her zen den or floating in her pool with her family relaxing and just BEing. Laurie loves riding her bike, reading, learning everything she can, traveling to Maui, cooking and playing with her dogs Clarke & Phoebe.

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What is it like to become a BodyMind Coach?

As a master coach and Licensed Massage Therapist with over 12 years experience, I know there’s a better way to work. How? Because I transformed my heart-centered, hands-on business myself.

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It’s my mission to give heart-centered therapists like you the tools to serve your clients and help them achieve lasting results, without you burning yourself out in the process.

Not so many years ago, I was where you might be right now: overworked, exhausted and on the brink of burnout.

When clients came in and lay on my table, I found many opened up and shared their stories. They’d talk about their stresses and frustrations, as well as their hopes and desires. Even when they weren’t actually talking, their bodies would also share stories of what they were ready to release and the dreams they were ready to fulfill. And when their hour was up, I’d spent around 30–45 minutes talking

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At the time I was working as a successful massage therapist. I had great retention rates, clients regularly referred their friends, and consequently, I was always booked solid.

through the self-care steps they should take themselves at home before our next session. IS THIS YOU? I knew my clients wouldn’t get lasting results unless I challenged them to address the habits, behavioral patterns, and limiting beliefs that created their stress in the first place and kept them coming back, session after session. The realization that massage could only really treat the symptoms of my clients’ stress and not the cause, led me to incorporate coaching conversations into my sessions. Once my clients realized the connection between their emotional wellbeing and their physical pain, everything changed. Instead of showing up for sessions having ignored all the aftercare advice I gave them the previous week, they actually began to implement it — willingly! I’ve since coached hundreds of clients using BodyMind Coaching, and now my team and I want to show you how you can use this powerful coaching conversation strategy to transform your business and accelerate your clients’ results, too. — Laura Wieck

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I come from a family of artists and have always been sparked with joy when creating through art and personal expression. My “art” comes to life in many different forms, whether it’s thoughtfully stringing mala bracelets and necklaces, or designing the perfect calming space for my clients. My passion for massage therapy is also art to me — it’s like intuitively painting on a canvas. One of my favorite childhood memories is collecting stones and agates to polish with my father on summer days in Minnesota. To this day, my father has been a huge influence on my love of crystals and healing stones. Recently we attended our first major Gem and Crystal show together. This shared love of stones extended into my late teens as my father and my step-mother at the time gifted me beautiful stone pendants and jewelry. With these gifts came a budding interest in the stones’ amazing healing properties, which made me appreciate the beauty of these pieces even more. Currently, they both create unique handmade jewelry that has inspired me to start creating my own.

When the pandemic hit, like most business owners, I pivoted my business to offer more online self-care products that could be used while at home and incorporated into daily

routines and rituals. I focused on sourcing high quality products, preferably from local, small businesses whenever possible. However, I also started creating some selfcare products myself. One of these products was gemstone malas. Each mala is intentionally designed and hand knotted using 108 high-quality gemstones, a guru bead, and a tassel. The process of creating each unique, one-of-akind mala is very meditative and therapeutic for me. I draw on my experience as a Certified Reiki Practitioner to intuitively select gemstones, creating malas with specific healing properties: grounding, empowerment, protection, courage, to name a few. These beautifully beaded creations have been worn and used by many different cultures for centuries. There are many reasons that people may wear mala necklaces and bracelets such as personal growth, manifesting intentions, grounding with meditation, healing with gemstone energies and self-awareness. Malas are also historically used as a tool in meditation and prayer. Much like a rosary, the owner of a mala may count prayers or mantras around the necklace, pausing at each bead to quiet the mind and ground the body. For this reason, malas are sometimes referred to as “worry beads.”

I invite you to explore the malas I create to see what new energy they might bring to your life. —Christine, BodyMind Coach

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You have all your answers inside of you. What might be possible as you live BodyMind Connected? Dannielle@Tribody Wellness.com IG: tribody_wellness

If you’ve ever felt like you’re navigating life completely alone and you wish you had a wise, trusted support system to help guide you, advise you, and show you the easiest way forward, Tanya is here to show you how to find that person… within YOURSELF! Tanya works with soul-searching women that have a stack of self-help books by their bed but feel like they’re living their lives on autopilot. Her clients know they’re here for a greater purpose… but feel like everyone else’s priorities seem to always get in the way of making that dream happen. tbodsford@gmail.com IG: @tanyabodsford

April Cacciatori BodyMind Coach I provide private and group coaching to those seeking to incorporate a deeper awareness of self care, self love and mindfulness. When you can see your truth and accept yourself unapologetically, the doors to personal freedom open wide. As a certified BodyMind Coach, I guide you to listen to the inner works, where all the answers live. ZensationsMassage.com ZenspirationBoxes.com FB: Zensations Massage IG: Zenspiration Boxes

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You are invited to set down what’s been swirling around in your head, become present in your body and fully engaged with your natural inner source of wisdom.

Tanya Bodsford BodyMind Coach

How would it feel to know that no matter what happens you have a place you can always go to get the best guidance? How about having a solid sense of, “Ah yes, THIS is what it feels like to know and deeply trust myself.” I work with ambitious men and women who are ready to discover how embodiment of their true values brings their personal purpose alive in how they live, work and love.

Dannielle Arceneaux, LMT BodyMind Coach, RYT-200

Victoria Carrier BodyMind Coach I help heart centered, multitasking women, quiet the noise in their busy lives and become more in tune and grounded with their life’s purpose. I enable them to enjoy a life that is fulfilling and rewarding, without the stress, fear or guilt that they are not doing enough. BodyMind Coaching shined a light on habit patterns that no longer served me. I was able to clearly see how I would become challenged. The most amazing part is that I’m no longer taking baby steps, but amazing, giant steps that still honor my values of integrity, freedom, authenticity, connection, abundance and playfulness. VictoriaCarrierLMT.org Lewiston, NY

If you’re struggling to consistently market your coaching business and working too damn hard to find clients and are BEYOND ready to create ease in your business, Karyn will help you clarify your message and organize your magic into content that connects so you can spend more time in your zone of genius — coaching people. KarynClaflin.com IG: balancechampaign

Carly Clark Zimmer is the Program Coordinator and Business Coach for the BodyMind Coaching program. Carly loves making sure the program is running smoothly while helping our members find alignment in their business systems without compromising their embodiment. When she’s not wearing her coaching hat or binging on the latest business and personal development podcasts, she’s practicing her sailing skills and hiking the hills of Ireland where she currently lives with her husband, Devin. CarlyClarkZimmer.com Carly@CarlyClarkZimmer. com IG: @carlyclarkzimmer FB: Carly Clark Zimmer BodyMind Coaching and Consulting

Kim Fish, LMT BodyMind Coach Kim Fish is a seasoned massage therapist and bodywork coach. For 15 years she has helped hundreds of people transform their relationship with their body through addressing and managing pain and stress through group and private self care sessions. She is a current student of yoga teacher training through and has shifted her business to support clients in the space between massage appointments. She teaches safe, simple and effective self care bodywork sequences, breath work, mindful movements and meditation so that her clients can feel supported, embody confidence and take inspired action that aligns with how they want to feel and with the life they are wanting to create. Kimfishbodyworkcoach.com IG: @Kim_Fish_BodyworkCoach DivineAlignmentCoach@ gmail.com 603-969-4815

Now Karyn works with coaches who know they’re here to make change in the world, but feel limited by the way they’re currently marketing their offers.

Carly Clark Zimmer, LMT BodyMind Coach Wholistic Biz Consultant Licensed Esthetician Creative Entrepreneur

As a lifelong introvert, when Karyn started her first business (as a massage therapist) in 2013, she became obsessed with creating content that would bring people to her, so she didn’t have to go out and look for them.

Karyn Claflin BodyMind Coach Copywriter

Fidel Forde BodyMind Coach Motivational Speaker Massage Therapist Yoga Instructor Retreat Leader Fidel is a renaissance man and entrepreneur. He is a proud military spouse to a Navy psychologist and a father of four. He is on a mission to ignite the spark in others — empowering them to live the life they are capable of living and create more time, more impact, more joy, more energy and sustainable success without burnout. Today Fidel teaches heart-centered and impact-driven men, women, entrepreneurs and leaders how to come back home to their bodies, create balance, movement, hustle with grace and tap in to their personal power. FidelForde.com Fidel@FidelForde.com IG: @fidelforde

CERTIFIED BODYMIND COACHES AUGUST 2021

GoldenTouchHealthWealth@ gmail.com IG: goldentouchhlthwealth FB: Golden Touch Health & Wealth LI: @ Laurel Goulden-James

Melanie lives in Columbus, Ohio, and came to BodyMind Coaching through her 30+ year friendship with Laura. She loves getting to know BodyMind members online, and especially in-person at workshops! Melanie@ BodyMindLiving.com

Liz Hargreaves BodyMind Coach I work with driven, passionate individuals who are ready to unleash their full potential to calibrate their body and soul to their highest level of living. BodyMind has guided me back to myself and to my authentic life path; it has become my way of living, teaching and coaching. LizHargreaves.ca movement@ lizhargreaves.ca Victoria, BC, Canada

After recovering from a personal injury, Laurel has a special interest in working with those who are at “the next chapter” and moving forward into how life might be and what might be possible. She has a zest for life, laughter, and a strong faith that as humans we are all blessed with our own special gifts.

Melanie Grimm Certification Manager & Retreat Coordinator, And affectionately called the CBO, Chief Boundary Officer

As a mom, grandma, and BodyMind Coach, it is her mission to help those she encounters to realize and embrace their power from within so that they can bridge the gap from where they are to where they want to be.

Laurel Goulden-James Osteophathic MT, Massage Therapist, Movement Facilitator

Shana Hartman, LMT Managing Editor, BodyMind Living Magazine Embodied Writing Coach Through her 20+ years of work mastering the power of reflection and intention, she discovered that we are our own experts regarding our body and mind if we just learn to listen. Her favorite way to listen and get embodied is through writing! In her experience as an English professor turned BodyMind coach, Shana knows this listening (and writing) is easier said than done, and we aren’t meant to figure out this amazing life (or body) on our own. It takes practice, specific actions, and support. She loves to support our BodyMind Ambassadors in creating amazing content for Body Mind Living Magazine. ShanaHartman.com IG: Shana Hartman

wMelissa leads our Coaching Corners calls and is one of the most grounded and powerful coaches you will meet. Sacredshe.life

Julie Kouyate is a certified BodyMind and sacred living coach. Her passion after years of service to women and guiding their return to their sacred nature, is the act of speaking truth. Speaking truth means saying what’s true and on our hearts, but speaking truth also means freedom of expression. To freely express is to live in total truth and Julie guides that process with embodiment tools that connect us to our spirituality and our divinity. Julie runs 1:1 coaching but also runs a women’s retreat business called “Into the Heart Retreats” along with ceremonies to bring a sacred reverence for life’s big moments, and is working on a course on how to build an alter, what it is, why we use it and what to do while we are at our sacred space. MassageArtistryNYC.com FB: Julie Jaffray Kouyate linktr.ee/kouyatehealingarts

Araina Linton BodyMind Master Coach Araina helps overwhelmed women entrepreneurs reduce stress and create the perfect balance between work and life. She is known for a simple step-by-step process that guides women back to their passion to avoid burnout, feel better, have more time, and build their businesses with ease. Finding a balance between work and life is tough. Sometimes despite your ambition, your dreams can feel a bit out of reach, and it can start to cause stress, frustration, and pain. It can be enough to make you want to give up your business. There is a better way! If you’re thinking about closing the doors to your business, please reconsider — introduce some healthy habits into your hustle! MassageArtistryNYC.com FB: MassageArtistryNYC IG: arainalinton

Melissa lives in the beautiful Finger Lakes Region of New York State. She loves camping, exploring nature, and spending time with her family.

Julie Kouyate BodyMind Master Coach

Melissa brings her 20+ years of devotion to the healing arts and study of the BodyMind Connection to support you in learning and implementing embodied coaching skills.

Melissa Kelley BodyMind Coach Coaching Curriculum Coordinator

Love, Bobbi Jo BodyMind Coach Author & Speaker Foreshadowed by a poem she wrote in her childhood entitled “Lost Dreams,” Bobbie Jo eventually found herself at a crossroads, looking within to once again find who she really was. BodyMind Coaching guided her back to herself. Now Bobbie Jo uses her gift of writing to share inspirational and transformational books as well as guided meditations. Through BodyMind Coaching, she helps others connect with their body wisdom to discover and live their true purpose. It is her passion and purpose to be a channel of love inspiring others in reclaiming and living those “lost dreams,” and confidently expressing the truth of who they really are. Because, the world needs who YOU are. LoveBobbieJo.com 79

CERTIFIED BODYMIND COACHES AUGUST 2021

Learn more about Alina and her simple yet powerful programs. IlluminateYourCore.com IG: illumify.a.nu.mi

Heidi Metro is a total hybrid: Obsessed with practical systems and totally woo. You’ll find her creating in her coaching studio, saging her crystals, and designing Systems with Soul for her incredible clients. After 12 years in a successful massage practice, Heidi combines her degrees in philosophy and massage therapy, with BodyMind Coaching training to coach full time within her company, The New Next Level — BodyMind Coaching. The New Next Level is about empowering womxn to Lead From Within by aligning their purpose, values, and boundaries. When women lead, we change the world. www.heidimetro.com Heidi@TheNewNext Level.com IG: @heidimetro FB: Heidi Metro FB: The New Next Level

Lauren Piro BodyMind Coach I help badass creative womxn who own their own business go from overwhelmed and trapped in the cycle of meeting everyone else’s needs first (including your business!) to feeling grounded, clear, calm, and spacious. Together we create simple systems for success that tap into the rhythms, energies, and cycles of nature. BodyMind Coaching has completely changed my life! In this community, I felt truly heard, supported, and held for the first time in my life. I’ve learned to deeply listen to myself and as a result, I’ve gained trust and confidence in myself and I’ve learned that doing it scared is the way forward. RadRemedies.com FB: Lauren Piro Wellness IG: Lauren Piro Wellness IG: Radicle Remedies

If you are ready to align with the abundant reality that has been lovingly awaiting you — Alina is here to help you explore your intelligent human design, liberate your holistic integrity, and anchor within your Root Chakra!

Heidi Metro BodyMind Coach Massage Therapist

As the founder of Core Momentum Coaching of Illumify A•nu•mí LLC, she creates a safe space for creative, intuitive, highly sensitive individuals to learn how to harness their time, energy, finances, and core momentum to receive abundance, live authentically, and become tethered within spiritual integrity in all areas of their lives.

Alina McGilloway, LMT BodyMind Coach Wholistic Biz Consultant Licensed Esthetician Creative Entrepreneur

Michelle Rockwood BodyMind Enrollment Coach Michelle is a fierce and loving Heart-Centered Sales expert for BodyMind Coaching’s Certification program. She teaches clients the most joyful way to master the sales conversation so they can sell their coaching programs with love, ease and grace. Michelle also runs a program called Sisterhood Rising, it’s designed for badass women ready to reclaim their brilliance. She loves her work and cares deeply for her clients, her family and the world. Michelle is a former yoga teacher with a background in non-profit development and sales. She has lived and worked all over the world and now resides in Denver, Colorado, and loves to ski. When Michelle isn’t working, she’s chasing her three wild boys or playing with her dog Tigo and her new puppy Ruby. TwoArrowCoaching.com Michelle@TwoArrow Coaching.com

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She does this by encouraging clients to honor and love themselves and create a self-care practice that becomes a part of their daily routine. Christine is dedicated to helping womxn discover opportunities to break the patterns and habits around stress to feel best in their body and more present in their lives. Christine and her groundbreaking work is featured here. honumn.com IG: honucoachingandbodywork

Jenn Taylor, LMT BodyMindCoach, Osteophathic MT, Movement Facilitator Jenn Taylor is a heartcentered entrepreneur and CEO of Sacred Connections Coaching & Energy Work. She uses her 15+ years experience in the holistic community to serve and support her clients’ journeys. As a Reiki Master, Intuitive, and Instinctive Meditation Coach she teaches her clients to reconnect with their body and inner wisdom. Her clients know they’re made for more! They want to make a serious impact on their communities and the world and are empowered to make aligned decisions in their lives and businesses. Jenn is a momma to four amazing kiddos. Jenn thrives when she’s adventuring, relaxing on the beach, reading, educating and inspiring others. JenniferTaylor.blog IG: Jennifer Lin Taylor

Christine uses BodyMind Coaching, breathwork, and bodywork, combined with her diverse background in holistic health to best guide her clients to find calm in the chaos.

Christine Tauer BodyMind Coach

Adriana Morales, LMT BodyMind Coach She started the wellness journey in 2013 by attending massage school and soon found out that helping people connect to their bodies was her passion. She then opened up her own business, Transcend Relaxation, specializing in the emotional aspect of chronic pain. In the pursuit of providing integrative support to her clients, she found the BodyMind Coaching method and now she helps women make positive changes in their lives, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Adrianamoralescoach@ gmail.com 909-263-6598 transcendrelaxation.com

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closing thoughts... When I think of fear, I often think of something physical, like my physical body being hurt. Uncertainty feels more like an internal, emotional thing, like when my mind spins over and over when I’m working through something or am in a transition. It’s the parts of life I can’t quite “see” with my literal (or figurative) eyes, yet I work soooo hard to see them. This tug of war between external and internal processing reminds me of a ride at an amusement park (remember those?). When I look at the first climb of the track, my body begins to doubt whether this is safe and fear sets in. However, that fear is driven by uncertainty because I’ve never done this ride before, and I likely just waited an hour to ride it, uncertainty building good solid roots in my body. Then fear takes over again as I go through the motions of following the instructions for the ride, putting away my belongings, and what feels like, leaving my safety in the hands of ride engineers and operators. Almost always the fear subsides as certainty comes to fruition… I see what we are doing, I see where the ride is taking me. I begin to trust even if I can’t see what’s around the next corner or twist. I’m on the ride, and my body is doing the “thing,” I’ve taken the step, the action so the uncertainty doesn’t seem as frightening. So, is action the antidote to fear and uncertainty? Is surrender? Something else?

We live in a world where the steps for navigating fear and uncertainty are super complex in super diverse ways. There is fear and uncertainty for simple daily living, like how walking out the door can invite fear and uncertainty to so many people’s lives. It’s a bit daunting. Who am I to even speak about fear when I’ve never feared for my life in the way others have. (I mean my main story above was about an amusement park ride… hello privilege!) This issue of BodyMind Living Magazine helped me remember that taking action, even just one step, in spite of fear and uncertainty, can support my continued growth as well as supporting my neighbor’s. When we collectively face fear — in whatever form it takes in our lives and walk the uncertain “how” path anyway, we create a ripple, a ripple for dissipating fear. After this month’s issue, my hope is that you receive continued affirmation on your journey to take the next step, and hopefully with the metaphorical or literal hand of another in yours because together we rise*! *“Together we rise” is a phrase used in many sociocultural and political organizations, like the non-profit that supports foster care children, social justice organizations, and more.

Shana exhorts us to continue the conversation about fear and uncertainty and navigating here on social media. Leave us a comment, or send us a message, we want to hear your thoughts. (CLICK THE IMAGE ABOVE TO PLAY THE VIDEO.)

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Articles inside

AMBASSADOR DIRECTORY

CLOSING THOUGHTS

DIRECTORY

A BODYMIND COACH

WAYS OF BEING

NEW RELATIONSHIP

GIFTS IN THE MESS

THE POWER OF BELIEF

WITH SHANA HARTMAN

AN INVITATION FOR YOU

WAITING AND WONDERING

TO FAITH

FEAR & UNCERTAINTY