Area Woman Magazine Oct/Nov '19

Keeping North Dakota Well Means Knowing

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our writers

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature.

These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com .

ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON

Alicia is the creator of prairiestylefile.com, a website that explores the arts, culture, shopping, events and fashion of Fargo-Moorhead and the upper Midwest. She frequently travels across the region in search of what's beautiful and what's next.

STACY KENNEDY photographer

Stacy is a photographer that specializes in high school senior and commercial portraits. Her years in the fashion industry and behind a camera lens has gained her the reputation of creating images that stand out. Check out her portfolio at stacykennedy.com.

CORI JENSEN

Livin' the dream as a mom of four and wife to a smarty pants teacher. She can't live without self-deprecating humor and coffee!

Fortunately, her day job is her dream job on the radio.

BOB 95 with Chris, John and Cori in the morning.

WASIFA AHMAD HASAN

Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full-time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com.

LINDSAY TRUAX

Lindsay is the editor of the website Pink and Navy Stripes, a lifestyle and fashion blog. She loves to help others take the latest fashion trends and make them wearable. Lindsay and her husband have three little girls.

KRISTY OLSGAARD

Kristy is a freelance writer, editor, marketing consultant and word addict. When not reading or writing, she enjoys Bible study, golfing, skiing, playing cards, knitting and learning something new everyday. Most of all, she cherishes making memories with family and friends.

Our cover story was photographed by Stacy Kennedy, page 62.

WHITNEY LYNNE DUDEN

Balancing a life of family, friends and fashion. Whitney lives for laughs, good people and great clothes, with a few other things too. Whitney graduated from UND with a degree in marketing. She goes by the title of "fashion maven" (also known as a fashion influencer). You can see her daily fashion posts, and catch her crazy ideas on Instagram @whitney_lynne.

ANGEL EVENSON

Driven by her goal of leaving you happier than before you met, Angel's main goal in life is laughter. She owns her dream, AKA, where she is a multifaceted consultant. Her expertise ranges from business, sales & marketing to photography, writing & educating. Her man-bun wearing husband and two precious kids keep her grounded, fulfilled and grateful. Stop by for a daily dose of yoga, motherhood and all things life-inspired on her blog angelskeenangles.com and instagram @angelskeenangles.

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JON-MICHAEL SHERMAN

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MEGAN ELGIN

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ASHLEY SORNSIN

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her online at eatlivebebuff.com.

AUBREY TYSON

Aubrey is a lover of wine, working out, reading, all things Gilmore Girls and Target. She has a deep passion for writing, travel and the entrepreneur lifestyle. Her company Brey Tyson Digital & Design focuses on digital marketing, website design and graphic design for small to midsize businesses. Mother of two and wife to a Brit, she takes life one day at a time while reveling in the chaos of family life.

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REMIX fall style: HOW TO

The crisp fall mornings catch me off guard. I feel as if I should still be planning lake weekends, but waking up to the reality of lunch money and school projects is in full swing. Between hockey practice, gymnastics tumbling and daily life, the school year has hit us hard in the Stetz Household. While I’m dreaming of swimsuits my reality is layers, because — brrrrr!

Fall is my favorite season to dress for. There’s something fun and exciting about having the freedom of not having puffy jackets and eight pairs of socks on. Maybe it’s because we can enjoy our cute clothes sans icy sidewalks and freezing our ankles off.

Being that our climate here can get extreme, I believe in playing with pieces to revamp your wardrobe. Lately I have been wearing skirts with different tops, throwing a belt on, or going for heels with jeans.

Let’s start with skirts. What comes to mind? The office? Sunday morning service? Well, there’s a fun way to put a twist on it to dress it down for a more casual spin. Try pairing your favorite skirt with a sweatshirt, sweater, t-shirt, leather jacket or a piece you’d never think to try. It’s easy, comfortable and allows you to wear dressier pieces in a more casual setting. Don’t be afraid to style the outfit with sneakers or a casual shoe.

And belts … oh my! From jeans, to dress pants, dresses and skirts. Belts can take a basic look to another level in seconds. Even when traveling I always make sure to bring a belt because they can do so much, and they require little space. You can see in the photos the added texture the belt brings. But I’ve also styled this belt with a white dress, blue jeans and dress pants. Wear them around your ribs, or your waist — experiment.

STYLE words by WHITNEY LYNNE DUDEN photography by LILY BRUNDIN

Follow Whitney Lynne on INSTAGRAM: @whitney_lynne

Did someone say heels with jeans too? Yes, yes I did. There’s just something about heels. Something good. That moment when you’re walking out the door and your husband yells, “Hey honey, I just made dinner plans,” and you need a “putme-together-quick fix” while in jeans and a sweatshirt … [drumroll] … throw on heels! Yes ladies, a sweatshirt can still be so chic. My secret is cuffing the bottom of your jeans in a messy, “undone” way and slipping into your favorite pumps.

And, I’m going to let you in on one of my big fashion secrets. It doesn’t need to cost a fortune. We have several local thrift stores that support good causes, that have unique, fun pieces. I have a handful of belts and tees from some of our local thrift stores. If you really want to get creative, you can add your own flare by getting scissors and customizing it when you get home.

Tada! That is a closet revamp without having to spend more than ten dollars. I’d love to see what you create too. Tag me in your fun fashion on Instagram @whitney_lynne.

choose the proper products:

There are many types of eyeliner formulas and products on the market. Gel, pencil, powder and liquid eyeliners come in waterproof and water soluble formulas. You just have to pick one and start from there. If you are a beginner, you can use powder shadow as a liner which will work best as it’s forgiving and easy to take off and reapply.

The kind of brush you are using is also pretty important. You can either use a slanted/angled brush or a thin liner brush (like the one I am using).

what else you will need:

After you have chosen the liner and the brush, you will need some other products to make the winged liner look flawless. These are:

1. A skin-toned eye primer or a concealer matching your skin

2. Translucent powder

3. A business card

4. Eye makeup remover

5. Cotton swab

HoW to perfecteyelinerwinged

AN EASY STEP-BY-STEP GUIDE

No matter what age range you fall in, if you have ever done your makeup you must have felt the frustration of doing a flawless winged eyeliner. Eyeliner is probably the first product that made me feel beautiful when I started to do my makeup. Was it flawless? Heck no. But I tried and tried (and am still trying) to perfect the craft.

In my nine plus years of blogging, the most asked question I have come across is, “How do I do a winged eye liner?” followed by, “My eyeliner is smudging/smearing, how to prevent it?” If you are someone who is wondering the same, today you are in luck. I am going to share my easy-to-follow tips for a flawless winged liner.

steps for the perfect wing:

start WitH Your BroWs: By starting with your brows, you will create a guideline. The tail of the brows will help you determine the angle of the wing of the liner. Lightly fill in the gaps of your brows with your preferred brow product. (picture 1)

Create a Clean Base:

By clean base I mean, use a concealer or skin-toned primer. As you can see, I have darkness around my eyes. By using a concealer or a skin-toned primer, the darkness will be minimized and the liner will pop. I am also using a bit of translucent powder to set the concealer/primer. In this way the liner will stay put and there will be no smudging (picture 2)

Hand plaCement and angle:

Chances are you are one of those persons whose finger shakes while doing a liner. To avoid this, place your elbow on a table or on a stack of books so that your hand is rested and you only have to move your fingers. Now rest your ring and pinky fingers on your cheek and hold the liner parallel to your lash line. (picture 3)

start tHin:

Use your brush to do the work for you. With small and gentle press, use the liner brush along the lash line and create a thin line. You can, of course, build it up and go thicker gradually. For now, just make a thin line on the middle of the lash line, and stop there.

use a Card:

Remember I talked about a business card at the beginning? Well, it will come in handy in this step. Take the business card and place it on the outermost corner towards the tail of your eyebrows (picture 4). Now create a small thin line following the card (picture 5).

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Join tHe gaps:

Now that you have created the wing and the base, it’s time to join them. Try to draw a straight line like picture 6, it will create a small space like the picture. Fill the small gap and gradually thicken the line (picture 7).

inner Corner:

Don’t forget the inner corner! Hold the brush parallel to your lash line, touch it on the inner corner and make a line (picture 8). Now your liner is almost complete (picture 9).

Bring out tHe lasHes:

After doing a bold liner, our lashes tend to look non-existent. So curl your lashes and use your favorite mascara to bring them out (picture 10) Use a little bit on your lower lashes too, they will make a huge difference (picture 11)

erase on purpose:

After doing the liner, if you see or feel like they are not looking good, use the cotton swab with a bit of eye makeup remover and gently erase any mistakes. If both liners are not looking equal, you can also use this little trick to even them out.

Getting a perfect winged liner in one swipe is hard. But it’s achievable if you give it some time and patience. Now that you have the basics and tricks to make them perfect — practice, practice and practice some more. You will be the queen of liner in no time.

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pumpkin spice everything nice

who’s ready for pumpkin spice and everything nice? Admittedly, I may have overdone it on the pumpkin spice lattes a few years ago. I still have a few recipes that I enjoy with pumpkin spice. One of them is a protein smoothie that has pumpkin purée in it that I will be making a lot this year. Fall has always been one of my favorite seasons even though it means winter is right around the corner. I love fall weather, I love football, and most of all, I love the clothes. I have always loved wearing hats, cardigans and boots, and it turns out that fall is just the perfect time of year for all of them.

Cooler in the morning and warmer in the evening make fall layers one of my favorite necessities; plus, fall layers mean sweaters and not jackets. Any trend I can rock and have it be practical at the same time is a huge win in my book. I love wearing cardigans with a tee shirt and a scarf. If I am going to invest in a more expensive piece, I like to keep it a more neutral basic color and leave my patterns to my less expensive items like scarves. I love that scarves can be worn with a lot of different outfits, which makes them great for a travel accessory.

You’ll see me sprinkle animal print across a lot of my looks this fall. I am accumulating a little bit of a collection myself. The pattern adds a pop to any outfit so don’t be afraid to mix it in with shoes, scarves and even a top.

It can be easy to think of fall as all browns, burgundies and natural colors, but do not be scared to add some bright colors in there too. You do not have to put away all your favorite colors and try to match the leaves.

Follow Lindsay on INSTAGRAM: @pinkandnavystripes

I like to wear pink but still mix in some more fall tones with a scarf. That is a great way to transition between seasons so that you can wear things for a longer period of time.

One of my favorite colors this fall is mustard yellow. I’m still on the hunt for the perfect mustard yellow top to fit in with all of my fall vibes. Maybe it’s just because it’s Bison football season that I feel like I cannot get enough of that color. Make sure if you find a mustard top you are interested in that you try it on first. It can be a tricky color to wear and you don’t want it to wash you out.

And, finally, hats — my favorite category of all. I enjoy wearing felt hats as much as possible. Hats make an outfit so much more fun. When you first start wearing hats, you cannot take yourself too seriously. I honestly felt a little like an imposter at first. That feeling wears off over time; I promise!

So fall in love with fall with me, and wear outfits that make you happy and bring joy to your life.

FOR MORE OUTFIT IDEAS

check out my website Pink and Navy Stripes or follow me on Instagram @pinkandnavystripes.

Fall is all about layering. Wear this hooded cardigan over your basic tee for a casual look.

MAINSTREAM BOUTIQUE

New location at Blu 32 4600 32nd Ave Ste 108, Fargo 701-356-6684 mainstreamboutique.com

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Machete's Isla Hoop earrings are made from cellulose acetate. This tortoise shell pattern is high quality and non-petroleum based, imported from Italy.

OTHERS

218 Broadway N, Fargo 701-478-8722 othersshop.com

Fall florals add a fun pop of color when paired with this bold open front cardigan. The ultimate blend of cozy comfort and on-trend details!

Perfect for strolling through the autumn colored leaves this fall season.

LEELA & LAVENDER

Shoppes at BLU Water Creek 3265 45th St S, Ste 116, Fargo leelaandlavender.com

New styles arriving daily for the fall season.

FUSION BOUTIQUE

Inside Scheels

Home & Hardware 3203 13th Ave S, Fargo scheelshomeandhardware.com

An animal print clutch adds the perfect pop of pattern to any fall wardrobe outfit. A little statement piece goes a long way!

WILLOW DISTRICT

3265 45th St S, Ste 124, Fargo : 701.630.4766 shopwillowdistrict@gmail.com willowdistrict.com (website coming soon)

Fall styles in sizes XL to 3X.

CURVY DIVAS

1201 13th Ave E, West Fargo : 701-532-3021

Up! The pant with THINCREDIBLE fit™.

TALULA

701-532-1134

Directly south of Costco at I-94 and Veterans Boulevard

Stay warm and cozy this winter with Cougar boots. All styles are waterproof, rated to –11 degrees, and anti-slip.

Exclusive to OLIVE STREET

701-639-6990 : shopolivestreet.com

Directly south of Costco at I-94 and Veterans Boulevard

Brushed gold earrings [perfect for any outfit].

PRIMROSE BOUTIQUE

1115 9th St E, West Fargo 701-541-2386 Facebook.com/PrimRoseboutiquefashion

style at home

This vintage wooden scoop was handcrafted in 1882.

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KOCHMANN BROTHERS HOMES, INC

photo: mike smith

A mother’s legacy

MAMA DUCKS CLEANING FOR CANCER

HATCHES A BUSINESS WITH HEART

With October being Breast Cancer Awareness Month and November being Lung Cancer Awareness Month, I wanted to bring your attention to our program, Mama Ducks Cleaning for Cancer. Mama Ducks is here to help and support those warriors fighting cancer. Being able to give back and make a difference was one of the reasons I started my business in August 2017. My mom and I (like a lot of women) have that Rosie the Riveter attitude. We as women believed we too can accomplish anything we set our minds to. That was my story — a story of love and a legacy honoring my mom.

My mom, Betty Klysen was diagnosed two weeks after I started Mama Ducks. Hearing my mom’s diagnosis, I made the decision I would be her advocate, to go through the journey with her, do anything she needed and fix it — like most daughters. It was Labor Day 2017 that our battle with cancer as a family started.

My mom was diagnosed at Mayo Clinic with small cell lung cancer. She had four tumors, with the largest wrapped around her heart. Everything turns out in my life and I try to look at life through rose-colored glasses, with an attitude that I can fix anything. And it wasn’t until five months later that I learned what the surviving odds were. After the initial treatment, I convinced my mom and dad to move in with my family and receive her treatment at the Roger Maris Cancer Center.

During the next three months, I had the honor to be able to care for my mom by taking her to her appointments, dispensing medications and providing daily care. Like most people battling cancer, she had periods of weakness, brain fog and pain, which made daily routine activities like cooking and cleaning almost impossible and certainly not a priority. I saw how falling behind on regular daily

chores had an impact on a cancer battler’s attitude to fight. And I’d always known that even a healthy person feels stressed and depressed when routine cleaning falls behind.

Before her sixth treatment we were told she was cancer free, every tumor was gone. It was a miracle! We had the most amazing Christmas. Unfortunately, we didn’t know that the cancer was, in fact, in the sheath of her brain.

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SANDRA VIGEN with a photo of her mother, Betty Klysen, who inspired her to start Mama Ducks Cleaning for Cancer.

My mom, Betty Klysen, lost her fight on January 29, 2018.

I couldn’t fix the situation. Because of faith I knew she was at peace. She had done all she could, and it was five months I treasured so much. We were so fortunate to have the time together sharing each moment, and laughing about memories from years before — nothing not said. During her battle I kept thinking how I would have regretted not being able to share each day with her. Some of most treasured moments over those five months were so simple, like holding her hand, praying with her and my dad, cooking for her, and providing her with a clean home.

I know I’m not alone in being able to experience this. We don’t really know what it means to battle cancer until this is your family, your friend or your mom. After her passing I knew I had to give back to honor her.

My mom gave me the courage, strength and encouragement to start Mama Ducks Cleaning for Cancer. I remember making the phone call to her when I was debating whether to stay on the sales hamster wheel or take a chance and make a business for myself. She believed so much in me and told me, “Do it, you’ll be a success.” I had a lot to risk, but she knew there was so much that could be gained. We encouraged each other that fall. Two years later I have twelve employees and a brand people locally know and recognize because she believed in me.

Breast cancer affects so many strong, tough women — including my dear friend Joan and my loving mother-in-law, who were very fortunate to beat breast cancer.

Mama Ducks Cleaning for Cancer gives two complimentary cleanings each month to those battling cancer who need some help. It’s my way of giving back, and honoring my mom’s legacy.

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT

Mama Ducks Cleaning for Cancer please check my Facebook page and website. People can be nominated on our website, mamaduckscleaningservice.com

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feminine

fabulous

by ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON photography by MIKE SMITH

ahouse doesn’t need a big footprint to make a strong design statement. It’s possible to combine a clean, modern look with a proudly feminine aesthetic. This stylish south Fargo home proves that paying attention to the little details adds up to a big impact, no matter the square footage.

The homeowner brought plenty of design and home-building experience to the table, since she’s built a home roughly every five years. She came to Darrick Guthmiller of Fargo’s Kochmann Brothers Homes, Inc. with a distinct vision.

“She’s built before, so she had some pretty strong ideas of what she wanted,” says Guthmiller. “It’s modern elegance.”

The homeowner had previously enjoyed living in a downtown condo. The space suited her and her dogs, but she found herself missing that neighborhood feeling. Seeking a retreat within the city limits, she found a quiet south Fargo neighborhood that offers her the best of both worlds, the convenience of the city without the hectic pace. Guthmiller let the neighborhood’s landscape shape the home’s design.

“There is a park across the street, giving the home owners a nice view,” he explains.

Since many of the garages are tucked away at the back of the lot to maximize this view, the street retains a classic neighborhood feeling. Connections happen spontaneously when people aren’t hustling into the house through their garages after a long day. This is the kind of place where you can imagine people waving from their front stoop, neighbors chatting as they get the mail, local kids riding bikes along the sidewalk in the evening. The homeowner happily reports that her neighbors have become friends.

This little pocket of the city has a classic neighborhood vibe, but the interior of the home is anything but traditional. Sylvia Lunski and her design team at Design Direction in Fargo took the client’s vision and put it into motion.

“She wanted her home to feel elegant, glamorous — and definitely feminine,” says Lunski. “She enjoys a contemporary style that’s sophisticated and timeless.”

The result is a sleek and comfortable home packed with delicious details. This strong and feminine space commands attention without ever raising its voice. Every decorative choice is carefully considered, from the sculptures, plants and books artfully arranged in niches in the walls, to the soothing stone fireplace that blazes in the great room.

The serene gray and white palette unifies the main level. The contemporary look is complemented by colors and elements pulled from nature, including minimalistic flower arrangements, warm wood flooring from Design Direction, a

powder room decorated in a quiet sage green. Clean right angles are softened by a plethora of curves, from the sleek dining room chairs and artful end tables, to the lamps and vases that draw the eye throughout the space.

Lunski and the homeowner worked together to choose soft, welcoming fabrics and bright, painterly pops of color. It’s a tactile space, accented by fuzzy pillows that recall an Old Hollywood starlet’s marabou slippers; elegant tufted ottomans in vibrant shades of pink and teal; and quietly confident leopard print, ikat and graphic black and white patterned accents. Dreamy abstract canvases have an opalescent glow.

The result is quiet glamour, subtle shine. The chandeliers and light fixtures from Valley Lights sparkle with crystal. Even the stainless steel kitchen appliances by Rigels gleam.

eden, dining room, great room, master bedroom and master bath, as well as the laundry room and a powder room are all located on main level. The open layout offers convenience for the homeowner and also helps maximize the 1,900-square feet of living space.

“With this square footage, an open floor plan allows for adequately sized rooms that work well together,” explains Guthmiller.

Design elements like barn doors with rain glass inserts instead of solid wood between the great room and the den save space. This airy design element was echoed throughout the space for both practical and aesthetic reasons.

“The glass allows light to pass through, providing an airy feel,” says Lunski. “It visually opens up the space, while still giving the homeowner privacy. This allows the eye to flow from one room to the next.”

The colors are bolder in the basement than on the main level. The sound system recedes into slate gray walls. Elegant decanters, stemware and bottles stand in as functional objects d’art in the entertaining area. A hot pink accent wall blazes, amplifying the light of a gracious window. (“It doesn’t feel at all like you’re in a lower level when you’re in there,” says Lunski.) A quartet of petal pink chairs cluster around a circular table outside the wine cellar, the perfect place for a tête-à-tête. The wine cellar itself really gets people talking.

“It’s probably the most unique feature in her home,” says Guthmiller. “A lot of people have a wine storage room, but not many have a truly temperature-controlled space like this.”

It’s a distinct room in an unusual home, created specifically for a discerning client with a focused vision of what she wanted. But Lunski says anyone can learn from this client’s aesthetic. “She likes one-of-a-kind pieces with a distinct flavor, reflecting her personality and lifestyle,” she says. “It’s a clean, sleek look with a combination of bold and soft pops of color.”

A house doesn’t need to be large to make an impression. By playing with color, texture and unique design elements, any homeowner can create a richly layered aesthetic that’s entirely their own.

85" Austin Sofa

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NEW LoCatioN brings hope

SINCE 1991, Valley Christian Counseling Center has been providing a place for individuals to heal and reflect through counseling services. With a strong belief and conviction in God's Word, the licensed, professional counselors at Valley Christian Counseling believe His word helps in their role to provide support and comfort to those in need.

Over the years, Valley Christian Counseling Center has grown from renting two offices to renovating a twenty-two-office building as well as opening locations in Jamestown, Hawley, and Fergus Falls. The new location in Fargo-Moorhead allows them to serve the local community with a wide range of services. This includes a children's wing — the Dr. David Todd Center for Children's Therapy, to better help our communities' families, kids and teens.

"We are excited about our new location in Fargo-Moorhead. The mission for Valley Christian Counseling has always been on how we serve our clients and community," says Kris Fraser, developmental coordinator for Valley Christian Counseling Center.

"From our play area in the children's wing to the group therapy room to individual counseling rooms, we are here to provide the best level of service possible," says Dan Borsheim, CEO.

Working hard to create a welcoming and comfortable environment, the children's counselors at Valley Christian Counseling work together with parents and children to collaborate while addressing specific and on-going issues.

"Being a kid, and more specifically, a teen, can be a difficult time for both parents and their children. We are here to break down the barriers and walls while listening without judgment. Our counselors ask questions to help organize thoughts in a way that makes life more manageable. They provide tools that can be used to overcome whatever you may be facing," says Fraser.

There are several reasons why families and children come to counseling, including parent-child conflict, attachment disorders, depression, anxiety, mood disorders, life stressors, trauma and ADHD.

Dan Borsheim, CEO

"The journey to a happier and more fulfilled self can be a tough one. That is why we are here to walk alongside all of our clients. We all go through difficult seasons in life, and no one should have to do that alone," adds Borsheim.

Valley Christian Counseling Center offers a variety of services. These services include individual counseling, premarital counseling, marriage counseling, spiritual direction, men's counseling and Christian consulting services.

"Our counselors have dedicated their lives to helping others that are facing deep struggles,” says Borsheim. “From PTSD to loss and relationships, they are equipped to guide you through life's challenges and valleys. They are here to help invite Jesus into brokenness."

Valley Christian Counseling Center encourages anyone and everyone to consider counseling services for help with even the smallest of difficult situations. Their mission, above anything else, is to care for every client's emotional and spiritual well-being.

We all go through difficult seasons in life, and no one should have to do that alone.

— DAN BORSHEIM, CEO

where hopegrows

kris olson shares hope in a cancer journey

abeautiful new sculpture in the Essentia Health Cancer Center in Fargo allows people recently diagnosed with cancer to find hope. Standing well over five feet tall, metal branches and a bronze bowl beckon you to come and reflect.

Kris Olson, a breast cancer survivor, calls the piece “Where Hope Grows,” and she wants all who enter the cancer center to know the hope she felt during her journey. At the start of their journey, patients are given a coin. As a survivor, they are invited to place their coin in the bowl. The bowl of coins will represent the hope that Olson wants to share with people, providing a visual reminder of all the survivors who have come before them.

Olson and her family donated the sculpture after the death of her parents to honor their lives.

“Breast cancer wasn’t even on my radar,” Olson recounts. I didn’t know of a family history until after my diagnosis in May 2017.”

Her diagnosis of stage 3A breast cancer came at an already turbulent time in her life. Her mom, Merle, had recently died, and the health of her dad, John, was failing. As doctors would later tell her, she was emotionally at risk.

“A diagnosis is just a word,” Olson says she has learned. “There is so much more behind a stage and your diagnosis. Everyone’s pathology is different and every treatment plan unique.

words by TARA

EKREN, Essentia

“If you’ve met two people with breast cancer, you have to know that you’ve simply met two people with breast cancer,” the Fargo woman continues. “Do not put them into one big bucket.”

As she reflects on her experience, Olson says, “The treatment protocol is the same regardless of where you are treated, but the relationships you form on this journey are what sets a place apart. The relationships I formed at Essentia Health made all the difference in my care. I can’t emphasize the relationship enough.”

Olson says she found skilled medical professionals that focused on her specific pathology and developed a plan for treatment. Olson underwent some chemotherapy but ultimately had to stop due to a horrific reaction, she had two surgeries and 19 lymph nodes removed before beginning radiation.

“My diagnosis scared me to death,” Olson recalls. “I just needed someone to tell me it was going to be OK and the people at Essentia did just that. They told me, ‘It’s going to be OK. Here’s what we are going to do, and here are the resources that will help you through.’”

Between Olson and her parents, they endured four different cancers. Neither her mother nor father died of their cancers and, Olson says, “I likely won’t either. There is hope after a cancer diagnosis.”

Olson reflects back and says, “I learned through my diagnosis that no one is the same. Every cancer patient is unique and every single day there are survivors. Hope, compassion and empathy are so important,” she adds. “There are people out there who will help you navigate this journey because you don’t have to be out there alone.”

“Cancer saved my life,” Olson says, acknowledging that statement might be hard for some to understand and certainly not everyone will agree.

“I’ve made many changes to my life after breast cancer,” she explains. “I am much more aware of what I’m putting into my body, including food but also nail polish, makeup and cleaning products in our home. I’m also advocating for selfcare, meditation, good sleep, and my personal wellness is a top priority.”

Olson also changed the way she talks with someone diagnosed with cancer. “I don’t apologize. I don’t even ask if I can help, I just do.”

Bethany • Even de • Knute Nelson

it ’ s about how you live

quality care and emotional support

This November, CHI Health at Home will be celebrating National Hospice and Palliative Care Month. The theme this year, “It’s About How You Live,” aligns with their core values and the quality of care provided to all of their patients throughout the Fargo-Moorhead area.

““Throughout November, we will be working diligently to raise awareness about the compassionate care that hospice and palliative care can provide. Our care programs combine quality medical care with the emotional support that families may need,” says Sandra Buchholz, Fargo director for CHI Health at Home.

Although hospice and palliative care can share overlapping similarities, the two have some differences. Palliative care is a holistic model of care that is provided to people earlier in their course of illness or injury. Hospice care enables patients and families to focus on living as fully as possible despite a life-limiting illness.

The CHI Health at Home team coordinates with patients and their families to design a plan that works best for them. Whether professional care is received at home, in a nursing home or in assisted living, each care-plan is tailor-made.

“In general, a comprehensive palliative care approach includes services to relieve the physical symptoms associated with your illness,” says Jenna Miosek, Fargo clinical coordinator for CHI Health at Home. “It

also helps to cope with its emotional strain and encourages spiritual exploration and reflection. Although these are also components of hospice care, once hospice has begun, the emphasis typically shifts. The main concern then is to alleviate the physical symptoms. This will enable the patient to live as comfortably as possible.”

Hospice and palliative care programs provide pain management, symptom control, psychosocial support and spiritual care to patients and their families when a cure is not possible. These programs combine the highest level of quality medical care with the emotional support that families need most when facing a severe illness or the end of life.

In addition to palliative and hospice care, CHI Health at Home offers home health care. “Home health care has proven to not only be cost-effective, but a path which leads to a better way of living,” says Buchholz. “Our team focuses around providing education to patients, along with chronic disease management, with an emphasis on preventing hospitalizations. The cost of hospitalization and nursing home placement can be a struggle for families; we hope that our home health programs can help alleviate some of that stress. Aside from the financial aspect, we find that our patients are usually happier and heal more comfortably at home.”

The skilled and passionate team with CHI Health at Home includes registered nurses, physical therapists, occupational therapists, speech-language pathologists, medical social workers, home health aides, chaplains, hospice aides and bereavement coordinators.

“If there were one thing I could say to the readers of this magazine, it would be to give home health and hospice a chance,” says Buchholz. “You and your family will lose nothing by trying it. But if you try it and love it, you have a lot to gain.” [ aw ]

How a routine well-child check ended in a von Willebrand disease diagnosis

WhenOlivia Pipinich

went in to Sanford Children’s for her two and a half year well-child check, her parents Tim and Katie Pipinich assumed it would be like any other appointment. Unfortunately, that was not the case.

A few hours after her initial appointment, Katie received a call asking for Olivia to come back in as her blood tests were off.

After the second round of tests, Katie received yet another call. “It was at 5:30 p.m., which I knew was not a good sign. I was told there were abnormalities with Olivia’s blood tests and that she wanted us to go in at 9 a.m. to the new medical center for an iron infusion.”

While receiving the infusion, things took an unexpected turn, resulting in an extended stay at Sanford Medical Center Fargo.

“As she was getting infusions and fluids, she just started to crash,” Katie says. “She started to look worse and worse and we were told we couldn’t go home. We ended up staying there for three days.”

After various tests, questions and days spent in the hospital, Olivia was diagnosed with von Willebrand disease. “Von Willebrand disease is a genetic bleeding disorder

caused by a missing or defective clotting protein called von Willebrand factor,” Jana Suder, a nurse practitioner specializing in hematology at Sanford Health, says.

“There can be bleeding around the brain and spinal cord with a traumatic injury and a high risk for excessive bleeding after surgeries, dental procedures and deliveries. If not appropriately managed, the bleeding can lead to severe iron deficiency anemia, hypovolemic shock, and even death.”

Due to the nature of this disease, von Willebrand is something that will affect Olivia as she grows up and becomes more active. “She can play most sports and participate in any activity but some modifications may be needed to keep her safe,” Suder says. “For instance, she’ll need to wear a helmet when riding bike to protect her from a head injury. She will also need to be careful with high contact sports and most likely require taking medication prior to these activities. If she develops an in-

jury, she will need to be evaluated urgently to make sure we get any bleeding under control before problems arise.”

Because von Willebrand can be unpredictable, Olivia sees Suder for regular blood draws at Sanford Health Center for Bleeding and Clotting Disorders located at the Roger Maris Cancer Center in Fargo.

“Olivia uses a mask and gets nitrous gas any time she has a blood draw because if her heart rate is elevated, even in the stress of a normal blood draw, it can skew the numbers,” Katie says. “It’s extremely hard to read, so she has to be very calm.”

Before going in for an appointment, Olivia’s doll, Ellie, helps her to understand what happens when she gets her blood drawn. “Ellie is actually a medical play doll. She comes with a suitcase that has the nitrous gas mask for the doll, so we practice on her before she gets her blood drawn,” Katie says.

← Olivia during her hospital stay at Sanford Medical Center Fargo where she received iron infusions.

Ellie has been an important piece in helping Olivia remain calm before blood draws. “I can’t even imagine what it was like for a three-year-old brain,” Tim says. “We asked, ‘Can we put this on Ellie like you use your mask?’ And then it was a lot less scary for her.”

Although the Pipinich’s would rather not spend their days at the hospital, their experience at Sanford Health has helped make appointments manageable. “Olivia has always felt comfortable here,” Katie says. “Our experience at Sanford has been really good; I can’t imagine it going any better.”

As Olivia grows, she will continue to require yearly visits to the specialized bleeding disorders clinic, but Tim and Katie have remained positive. “I have my moments where I freak out about really small, insignificant things, but it’s easy to be happy when she’s so happy,” Katie says. “If she’s good, we’re good.”

“It’s really cool to see how resilient, strong and brave a little two and three year old can be,” Tim says. “To see her spark and spirit return has been really nice.”

↖ Olivia practices treatments on her doll, Ellie, before her appointments so she feels more comfortable.

↓ BELOW: The suitcase gifted to Olivia containing medical toys that helps Olivia to understand getting her blood drawn.

9 LIFE LESSONS learned in

the mountains

Travels and adventures lend themselves to expanding perspective. We are able to reflect on life while away from the whirlwind of schedules, career, todo lists and errands. Sometimes in that reflection we have moments of resolution. (When I get home … I’m going to slow down. I’m going to exercise regularly. I’m going to eat healthier. I’m going to meditate. Etc, etc.) And as with many resolutions, once life again consumes our waking hours, it is often the normal routine, a.k.a. the rut, that we fall back into.

After experiencing many failed post-vacation resolutions, I resolved to gain life perspective versus change behavior — an exercise in mindfulness and contemplation.

After a recent week of hiking in the mountains, these were the nine life lessons that remained with me.

1. Look ahead. Adventure, opportunity, excitement, answers all lie ahead. Keep yourself focused forward so you can be ready for what comes next.

2. Be prepared. Wear layers. Anticipate outcomes and be ready.

3. There is no room for fear. That’s it. There is no room for fear.

4. Don’t allow the what-ifs to stop you. Things will go wrong — no question. See #2 and move forward.

5. The harder the climb, the better the view. Even if you reach the top in pain, with blisters, out of breath, and cursing the person who chose the trail, effort is worth it. Don’t give up, because over the next ridge could be the incredible view you’ve been waiting for.

6. Separate from the masses. The road less traveled is the best road.

7. Find your tribe and embrace them. Surround yourself with people who will check on you, sit with you, love you through your moods, and share in your joys. Be sure to return the favor.

8. Tune into your senses. Take intentional moments to see, hear, taste, smell and touch. Take many of them.

9. Always hope. It is because of hope we take the next step, climb the next rise, grasp the next chance and seize the next opportunity. There is no moving forward without hope.

So I came out of the mountains not with a disappointment to be returning to the demands of real life, but with a transformed sense of perspective and a feeling of renewal. Planning a little getaway?

Girls weekend? Family vacation? Second honeymoon? Search out and embrace the life lessons in your travels!

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has 25 years of experience in the behavioral health field as a child and adolescent counselor, program supervisor and administrator. Monica grew up on a farm in northwest Minnesota and has intimate understanding of the dynamics that contribute to farm stress and its impact on farm families. She currently works as the director of business development at Prairie St. John’s in Fargo and owns Eyes on the Horizon Consulting, speaking and training throughout the United States on the topic of farm stress.

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I AM A MOM, BUT I FORGOT I'M A WIFE

I walked down the stairs and took a deep breath as I ran through the things left on my to-do list. It was 8 p.m. and my baby and toddler were finally asleep, but my night seemed to be just getting started. As I turned at the bottom of the steps, I glanced into the playroom that was covered in toys. Among them were the crayons that had been tipped over for the millionth time. Sidetracked, instantly, I started robotically picking up the toys as I told myself “how lucky am I to have this mess to pick up.” The mental relief a clean playroom provided me made the ten minutes it took to clean worth it. On to the next task …

As I walked toward the kitchen, I heard the TV in the other room and rolled my eyes thinking, “Yeah, don’t worry. I’ll get everything else done. You just rest.” Deep down, my sleep-deprived self was seething and ready to blow up the second he said anything. It seemed unfair that he didn’t have to keep a running tally of what had and hadn’t been done … that somehow, I had inherited the role of “life manager” for our family.

My mind started getting the best of me as I angrily put the dishes away. I couldn’t stop thinking about how we struggled to connect like we used to. Somehow it had become easier to attack each other instead of attacking the lists together. Yet when we attempted to connect, his attempts were irritating because it seemed as though he was oblivious to the expectations that I believed had been placed on me, as “the mom.”

He walked into the kitchen and interrupted my self-pity self-talk.

“Hey, babe, I will clean up the dishes. Come sit down and hang out with me. I turned our favorite show on.” I was relieved, but at the same time I felt frustrated. We only had a few hours to check these tasks off our list before we were expected to get some sleep and function at a hundred percent the next day.

I let out a deep sigh, irritated that he was being romantic when, before children, I would have been gushing.

He grabbed my arm and drew me closer as he lovingly wrapped his arms around me and kissed my forehead. Slowly he led me into the living room as we flopped onto the couch. I was reminded once again why I chose this man. He knew how important it was to me that we approached things as partners and he understood without me saying a word. I softened.

As we snuggled in, we laughed at the stupidity of our show. I glanced down at our laced fingers and smirked as memories of us filled

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my mind. Before our beautiful little creatures entered our lives, we were the center of each other’s worlds. Our dreams as individuals and our collective goals were our focus. His free time revolved around friends and basketball games, and mine, yoga and girlfriends. We flourished by chasing our interests and would meet back at home to snuggle and watch our favorite shows.

Life was quite different now as these two humans naturally demanded our attention and energy 24/7. New demands meant less time for us individually and therefore more stress. Less sleep and more stress became a perfect recipe for bickering about things we used to laugh at. His jokes seemed to be less funny and my sassy flirtatious remarks tended to be more snide than endearing.

Lying there I became more aware of how my approach was tarnishing our connection. My selfpity became a wall between us, when communicating my frustrations would have eliminated that wall. Life had drastically changed in the last five years and I was exhausted, so I gave myself grace.

As I pulled his arm around me tighter and kissed his forearm, I internally vowed to voice my frustrations more openly. This connection started it all and built this beautiful life and I would not let my own self-pity stand in the way of nourishing it.

The to-dos can wait until tomorrow. I’m choosing connection over checkmarks.

The man in the nice suit stopped briefly to accept a brochure, then continued on his way. Looking unlike the majority of the campus student population, I took note. Within the hour, he returned. He was a staff member and took his lunch break to look at our positive adoption language brochure.

He opened up to me. I was a friendly stranger on campus sharing about National Adoption Month. Though his experience of step-parent adoption differed from the services Christian Adoption Services (CAS) provides, the information resonated with him. Something was stirring in him as he read appropriate language for infant adoption, and he pondered his own relationship with his birth father.

Many passersby shared a smile, took a flyer, played trivia, or visited for a minute. However, it was the staff member that reminded me how our education program increases awareness year-round, but especially during November's National Adoption Month.

A hand raised, and the student asked, “Does the birth mom ever get to see her baby?” I got the opportunity to answer this question about open adoption and many others in a high school child development class. Christian Adoption Services provides class presentations on adoption in high schools and to college nursing or social work programs as part of our community education.

In the past four years, CAS has shared about adoption to over 1,800 individuals in classes and pregnancy center trainings across North Dakota and in parts of Minnesota. One teacher said, “They all thought you were great and shared such useful information. It opened up their eyes to adoption as an option.”

Without training on adoption, pregnancy centers find most clients will state they are deciding between parenting and abortion. From their perspective, expectant women have never considered adoption or are misinformed about current practices. Unless pregnancy centers take an active role in presenting this third option, it may never come to light.

UNDERSTANDING ADOPTION IN OUR NEIGHBORHOOD is everywhere

The man in the nice suit spent his lunch hour that day thinking about his biological father, and their relationship. You may not know someone's story, but know how impactful your words can be. The friends, classmates, coworkers, neighbors you talk with may have been adopted by a step-parent, or are a birth parent themselves. What words do you use when talking about family? Perhaps you joke that your middle sibling is so different from you that “he must have been adopted.”

Find ways to learn more about current adoption practices and openness, volunteer for a non-profit offering adoption services, or read a new book during November’s National Adoption Month. You are an important part of changing the stigma for expectant parents considering this loving third option.

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WaYs to reprioritize your finances tHis Fall

et’s face it — summer can be expensive between vacations, home improvements, the cost of children’s camps and dining out. Now that the calendar has flipped to fall, you may want to take this opportunity to check in on your financial well-being and ensure you’re on track for the remainder of the year. Here are some tips to help you along the way.

Refocus on your goals. Assess your finances to see if you may have strayed from your financial goals (which, hopefully, you set back in January). If you’re far behind the targets you’ve set, review your spending habits and try to identify which choices and activities have contributed to this. There’s still time to get back on track.

Monitor your credit. Get back in the habit of checking your accounts frequently. Doing so can help you keep an eye on recent purchases and may help detect and prevent fraud. Make sure to monitor your credit score, too. You can request a free credit report from each of the three major credit bureaus at least once per calendar year. Review each report for accuracy and signs of identity theft.

Consider refinancing options. If your mortgage is not at a competitive rate, now may be a good time to refinance before rates go higher. Lowering your interest rate by even a quarter of a percent can potentially add up to thousands of dollars in savings over the life of a loan.

Be strategic with your health and flexible spending accounts. If you have funds in an employer-sponsored flexible savings account (FSA), remember that the money expires at the end of the year. (The IRS allows you to roll over up to $500 to the next calendar year.) It may make sense to schedule health appointments soon, before the school year and holiday season are in full swing. You can use your tax-advantaged account to pay for regular medical and dental bills, eye exams, eyeglasses, chiropractic care and mental health counseling. If you have a health savings account (HSA), the funds don’t expire. Consider using the funds for various health expenses this year, or keep the money invested for future needs, which may include retirement health expenses. You have until the tax filing deadline (generally April 15) to make your annual contribution to the account for the prior year. Contribution limits vary based on certain factors, including whether you have single or family high deductible health plan coverage, so check with your tax professional.

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Increase contributions. Boost your retirement accounts and reduce your taxable income by contributing the maximum amount to your tax-deferred IRA and 401(k) accounts. Your contributions will not be taxed in the current year. Plus, when you eventually withdraw the savings in retirement, you will probably be taxed at a lower rate.

Protect yourself. Review your insurance policies and evaluate if you have the appropriate coverage. A divorce, child’s college graduation, large purchase, home remodel, etc. could cause you to need more, less or different options. Look for savings from bundling policies and pursue eligible discounts (safe driver discount on auto insurance, for example).

As you re-assess your financial well-being this fall, consider working with a financial advisor who can help you sort through potential challenges, identify your key goals and develop a strategy to keep your financial plan on track.

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Hopeful Heart Project

Frankly, there are things you hope you never need to use. Flood insurance, a fire extinguisher, even a seat belt. These come to mind when I think of things that I’m very grateful are there, but I hope I never need. Grief support. You may think, “I hope I don’t need that,” but that’s unrealistic. We all will be, or have been, affected by death. The caveat to grief support that I’m referring to what most pray they will never experience. And that is of a loss of your child.

I’m at the one-year mark for me and my husband having lost our baby girl Willow Jane on November 4, 2018. A life-altering devastation. Our faith in God, deep love as a couple, and friends and family support have been the nucleus of managing our life after our unfathomable loss. And yet, truth be known, it still isn’t always enough for me. It’s not enough for many mamas. Grief is a fluid beast. It’s ever changing and completely individualized. With that, I say this with confidence: Having a support group that knows exactly what you are going through on a personal level is indescribably comforting.

The infant loss support group that I love so much, The Hopeful Heart Project, has been like a refuge for me. I never feel like I’m able to accurately define the level of kindness, compassion

and understanding in its well-deserved totality. Words are plentiful, but when you find a safe space to be able to share about your loss, about your child and about what parenting a baby that’s not in your arms looks like, words can fail. This support isn’t always tangible, and more a feeling and an emotion — like the ease of wearing your favorite sweatshirt on a relaxed Saturday with no pressure to go outside and be seen. Always there and always comfortable.

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. A time when loss parents may share a little more than usual about their baby/ child/pregnancy that they hold in their hearts. If you or someone you know is needing an outlet, I encourage you to learn more about the Hopeful Heart Project.

providing hope, healing and support to parents after the loss of a child

FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: Kayla Sorum, Cori Jensen, and Jen Burgard

Pictured are some of the loss Mom's holding our favorite memory items of our lost babies. Some of the bears shown were specially made in the same length and weight our children were when they passed away. Some brought urns, headbands, pictures, blankets, jewelry, etc. As parents of loss small material mementos hold special tangible reminders.

who:

Hopeful Heart Project is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing hope, healing and support to parents who have endured the tremendous loss of a child.

what:

Hopeful Heart Project was founded in 2017 by Jen Burgard and Kayla Sorum, two area mothers who united over the recovery of the loss of their children at birth. Together, the two felt compelled to offer additional support for parents with similar experiences in the Fargo-Moorhead community and beyond.

The organization provides “hope gifts” to parents immediately following their loss(es). Hope gifts are a collection of self-care items designed to promote reflection and healing in the aftermath of tragedy and trauma. A critical step in ensuring no parent feels alone in their grief journey is connection to others who understand their pain. By hosting various events within the community we are fostering those relationships, as well as growing awareness surrounding pregnancy and infant loss. Hopeful Heart Project also offers the proper tools and support for parents to plan remembrance and/ or memorial events in honor of their child(ren). We want these parents to feel supported and empowered to share their stories and beautiful children with the world.

why:

Families impacted by tremendous grief following the loss of a child are often left without a proper network of support or resources to help with their grief and self care. They can struggle to find a safe place to share their stories of sorrow and joy in their complex lives after loss. This was true for the founders, and finding each other was a turning point in their journey. They now strive to create a network of support for others who have experienced the loss of a child. While nothing can give back what these parents need most, we can all give them a community that stands behind them while remembering their children with them.

FOR MORE INFORMATION

visit hopefulheartproject.org. [ aw ]

JOIN IN THEIR NEXT EVENT,

“Love & Light,” a special concert and event in honor of pregnancy and infant loss, October 11, 6–10 p.m., in the Stone Building, downtown Fargo. For ticket information contact info@hopefulheartproject.org.

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ndsu program helps student discover career path

Erin Ourada received valuable direction from a North Dakota State University academic adviser that helped start a rewarding career in public health.

NDSU microbiology instructor Janice Haggart told Ourada to take a look at the university’s inaugural Master of Public Health program several years ago, and later connected her with Keith Johnson of Custer Health for an internship opportunity. Her classes and summer internship as an environmental health practitioner reinforced her desire for a career in public health.

“I didn’t know anything about public health, but my adviser and my internship really helped me realize the potential of a career in the discipline,” says Ourada, who earned her master’s degree in 2013. “If you’re interested in an ever-changing field of study and career that is challenging and purposeful, then public health is definitely worth looking into.”

As an environmental health practitioner at Custer Health, Ourada enforces health codes relating to food and beverage establishments, on-site septic systems, public swimming pools, body art facilities and public health nuisances. She says oftentimes people in her role are not considered the most popular, but at the end of the day their job is to make sure the environment is safe for those living in it. Ourada takes a great amount of pride in this. “I learn something new every day and almost always feel as though I’ve helped someone live a better life,” she says.

After only five years as an employee, Ourada recently was promoted to lead Custer Health as the administrator. The biggest change from her former position is taking on a management role versus someone with “boots on the ground.” However, her primary passion and obligation of ensuring safe and healthy public spaces will remain. Ourada says she is looking forward to new challenges that come with management, as it provides her with a chance to continue learning.

Ourada credits her career opportunities to her willingness to learn, and to the people she met along the way. She encourages students to engage with their advisors and professors. “If they see a spark or certain quality in you, they will make sure others see it as well,” she says.

Mark Strand, NDSU Department of Public Health professor says, “Erin had a clear goal, and she arranged her learning experiences to achieve that goal.”

Ourada knew she wanted to work in infectious disease prevention in North Dakota, so she sought practicum experience at the State Health Department.

“There’s always a reason to wake up and go to work every day because there is an opportunity to affect change,” says Ourada, who also earned a bachelor’s degree in microbiology at NDSU.

A survey of recent NDSU Master of Public Health graduates showed 92 percent hold a full-time job or are pursuing further education. Of the same alumni polled, 78 percent earn $50,000 or more per year. In North Dakota, there are various public health opportunities available within the State Health Department, Department of Environmental Quality or local public health. There are 28 local public health units in the state.

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— ERIN OURADA

building relationships through missions

spreading love and support with open arms

With ambition and faith, one local dental office worked hard this year to spread their knowledge and love to a much-needed community in Central America. In April of 2019, Maple Family Dental took its mission on the road and landed in Tiquisate, Guatemala.

“Every year, we put together local and oversea mission trips to educate on proper dental hygiene and care, and provide dental services to poverty-stricken communities. This year, our team consisted of eight individuals from North Dakota, thirty-plus from California, Washington, Idaho and Canada, as well as fifteen Guatemalan locals, the biggest team yet,” says Dr. Jonathan Bultema.

Bultema is a native of Fargo. After spending several years in the Navy as a dental officer, Bultema and his family chose to move back home to pursue his dream of building a dental community through relationships and missions.

While obtaining his degree at the University of Southern California School of Dentistry, Bultema began doing missions with the Christian Medical and Dental Association (CMDA) in 2005. He has served in US inner city and rural areas, Mexico, El Salvador, Nicaragua, Guatemala, Venezuela and Ghana, Africa. CMDA pairs dental students with dental professionals on these mission trips as a real-life mentorship. This unique opportunity allows students the chance to spend one-on-one time observing and practicing dental work. The mission trips aren’t just for dental professionals either. Volunteers and other business professionals are encouraged to join.

When Bultema started his practice in Horace, North Dakota, he knew that doing missions with CMDA would be on the top of his list as a way to give back. Working together with the blended team, Maple Family Dental served 530 people on their 2019 trip who were in dire need of dental care.

The team praying before their day begins.

Office manager Tammy Wilke serving wherever the need is greatest.

The team of dentists that served in Guatemala. Dentists came from all over the United States and Canada. Dr. Bultema is pictured fourth from the left.

Entertaining kids as they wait for their parents dental work to be completed.

“We provided over $163,000 worth of dental services,” says Bultema. “It was stunning and rewarding and difficult this year, but we wouldn’t change it for the world. Our team of forty served in an area that less people tend to go to because of the climate. We worked through 102 plus degree conditions, and focused on downing fluids, fighting heatstroke and our physical limitations.”

With assistance from local organizations like Bell Bank and Horace Lion’s Club, Maple Family Dental was able to bring more professionals from the local Red River Valley area overseas. Children received toys after their visit, and often these small gifts become their prized possessions. Every toy, no matter how small, was received with love and appreciation. Once every child received their toy, there was enough left over to spread joy to a local children’s hospital.

Maple Family Dental will be rallying their troops and heading out again to Tecpan, Guatemala, in 2020 for another mission trip at the end of April. They welcome you to contact their office if you would like to make a donation toward their mission trip or to provide toys and soccer balls.

A Guatemalan girl learning which foods are tooth friendly while playing with our dental education supplies.

Dental assistants Kaitlyn Martin and Kait Sundby work with Dr. Jonathan Bultema doing operative dentistry for the underserved.

what women auto know

oWning a Car never Felt so good

Most women would rather grocery shop than bring a car in for repairs. Knowing the price of a pound of hamburger is more within our scope of understanding than the cost of a brake job. And when does an air filter really need to be changed?

Have you ever wished you knew more about car repairs? Or that you could just get a massage while you wait?

Well sometimes wishes do come true. Beth Goerger manages Relaxation Automobile Station in Moorhead, which just opened in August. This new business offers full car repair and salon services in one stop including complimentary chair massages while you wait.

Goerger says, “We want to give people, especially females, a place to fix a car and not feel intimidated. They can get the educational level they want, in-depth or not. We’ll point out what needs to be repaired now, in the near future, or what work might come up in the next six months. And we will tell you when nothing needs to be done.”

In an effort to remove the intimidation factor, a free Auto Basics 101 workshop will be offered every six to eight weeks.

Goerger grew up on a farm near Mantador, North Dakota, and spent summers at her uncle’s farm near Turtle Lake, North Dakota. She says, “I grew up with a wrench in my hand and was educated in the school of hard knocks. Like when my father, Harlan Goerger, converted his 1972 Chevy pickup into a hot rod, I was all in. And my brother, who had a Honda, taught me little tricks on how to repair it with little or no cost.”

Since then Goerger expanded her automotive knowledge by working part-time at Star Fleet Services in West Fargo. They maintained vehicles for international companies like Fed Ex, and local businesses like Sandy’s Donuts. She eventually owned it.

↗ BETH GOERGER

Nationally some larger cities have had success in offering the auto repair service/salon concept. So a group of local business owners wanted to bring to it Fargo-Moorhead. Because they knew Goerger’s mechanical abilities, they presented the idea to her last January hoping she would be interested.

“I absolutely loved the idea,” Goerger says. So they began working on a business plan. “The service department offers all auto repairs; oil, lube and filter service; and detailing. The salon offers full services too.”

Goerger’s automotive knowledge is thorough. “Technology changes quickly in this industry. It’s more computer controlled and no one likes to see that check engine light. But we have the necessary technology to determine what issue needs to be resolved. We work on domestic and foreign cars, including Mercedes, Audis and Jaguars.”

She prides herself on keeping one of the cleanest shops in town, both the waiting room and the shop area. “I can walk a client back to the shop and show them what we’re working on and they don’t have to worry about getting dirty.”

Natural light pours into the welcoming waiting area, which offers a complimentary beverage bar, a children’s play area, two massage chairs and a full service salon.

Ask your husband to pick up the groceries while your car is getting repaired. And let the massage chair recharge your own battery. You’ll realize owning a car never felt so good.

TO LEARN MORE

Check out Relaxation Automobile Station on Facebook, for a glimpse of their facility, educational information and specials. Appointments can be made online at relaxationauto.com.

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Karla Nelson

words by MINNESOTA STATE UNIVERSITY MOORHEAD

photography by STACY KENNEDY

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winningest coach is developing young women into more than athletes

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The head of women’s basketball at Minnesota State University Moorhead has one of the most successful records among Division II coaches. She enters her 20th season as head coach with 19 straight winning seasons. She has led the Dragons to six NCAA tournament appearances and four NSIC regular season titles.

As passionate as she is about women’s basketball, she knows the game is bigger than what is played on the court.

More than a decade ago there was a student athlete on her team who had talent and tenacity, but rebelled against coaching. Her relationship with Nelson was fraught with frustration and disappointment. After her senior season ended, the two stopped speaking.

A few years ago, the coach decided to personally invite the woman to return to campus for an alumni event.

“I set my pride aside and made that phone call,” Nelson says. The former player agreed to come back to campus, and Nelson gained more insight into challenges the woman had faced as a student. The two now keep in contact. “Mending that relationship is my biggest victory,” Nelson says. “That was a huge life lesson for me.”

Nelson, 52, fell in love with basketball before she learned to dribble. Every win and every loss instructs; every player teaches. She has mastered the techniques needed to coach winning teams. And yet, over the years, the game has taught Nelson so much more. She has learned her most important lesson yet: The game is bigger than points scored; it’s about building up the women around her.

Take for instance, her players. During practice, Nelson is ruthless. She shouts demands. Pushes. Challenges. Outside the gym, her concerns transform: How are her players doing in the classroom? What is their work ethic? How are they doing after they leave the program?

“She realizes the impact and influence she has on the sport and wants to make the most of it,” says Doug Peters, athletic director at MSUM. “She’s not trying to develop great basketball players; she’s working to develop great women.”

When Nelson was in second grade, her teacher asked everyone in the class what they wanted to be when they grew up. Most of the answers were predictable: teacher, firefighter, farmer, truck driver. Nelson said she wanted to be a coach.

“I loved playing,” she says. “Sports, and playing basketball in particular, inspired me to do what I needed to do.”

She excelled as a basketball player at Erskine (Minnesota) High School, and became the first athlete in her school to reach the magical 1,000-point club. She went on to play at the University of North Dakota where she was a three-year captain and helped lead her team to the NCAA Division II playoffs as a junior.

A friend, Jean Roise, took over the Dragon women’s basketball program in 1994, and she invited Nelson to join her as an assistant coach. She served six seasons in that role and took the top post when Roise resigned in 2000.

From the start, Nelson brought an intensity to the game that led to sustained success, the holy grail that programs strive for but few achieve. Of the 307 Division II women’s basketball teams, there are only six programs that match or better the Dragon’s recent streak of winning seasons.

“I hire people and recruit people who want to work,” Nelson says. “People don’t realize it, but when you’re in the middle of a season — it’s not fun. Everybody wants to win, but to win, there are prices to pay.”

Jacky Volkert, a 2019 graduate of MSUM and female athlete of the year, experienced those tough standards. On Volkert’s third practice as a Dragon, Nelson ordered the team to perform a drill that the point guard couldn’t do successfully. Every single time Volkert had the ball, Nelson stood nearby and yelled at her.

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“It was super hard,” Volkert says. “Part of me wanted to cry and quit. But she knew what I was capable of and she expected me to do it. I’ll remember that moment forever. She forces you to get uncomfortable and grow — both on and off the court.”

Nelson is famous for her fiery, direct style. This year a recording of a half-game interview went viral when she was asked what her team needed to do to turn a lackluster game around. The coach rattled off the team’s short-comings: “Number one: Give us a presence in the paint. Number two: How about play defense? We didn’t play any defense … and then, rebounding is terrible.” She paused briefly before heading into the locker room. “So, did I cover it all?”

As passionate as Nelson is on the court, she leaves basketball in the gym. Her office door is always open for advice or encouragement.

Volkert saw that side, too, when she faced a frustrating junior year. She didn’t understand her role on a team with a strong group of seniors. As she broke down in the coach’s office, Nelson advised the point guard to put her concerns into perspective.

“She said that if you pick up a rock and hold it in front of your face, it will look like a boulder. If you hold it far away, it will look like a pebble,” Volkert says. “She told me that nothing was too big for me to handle, and those words still help me in all aspects of my life.”

Perspective is good for a program that not only wins, but draws adoring fans and athletes who do well in the classroom. This year’s Dragon program was one of two schools that played in the national tournament and also landed in the top 25 schools for game attendance and athlete GPA.

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elson’s former players joke that the coach has gotten soft over the years. She agrees that her style has evolved over the decades. While she holds her players to strict standards, she’s more likely to treat them as individuals. Each player is a family member with her distinct gifts and motivators.

“My players have coached me in so many ways. Every day they inspire me to do better,” she says. “You need to listen and allow them to make mistakes. After all, they’re 18- to 22-year-old people who are trying to figure life out.”

Those mistakes and life lessons can be difficult. Meghan Roehrich, a 2015 graduate of MSUM, transferred to the university her sophomore year. Over the next three years, Nelson kicked her out of a practice for not listening and benched her during a game for talking back during a huddle. Even as the team fell behind in points, Nelson refused to put her back on the court.

“She wants to win, but she demands respect,” Roehrich says. “She taught me to never settle.”

Roehrich is now a registered nurse at the University of Minnesota Medical Center in Minneapolis. She, like many other alumni, regularly touches base with Nelson, even if it’s to just say hi. “It brightens my day when I see her calling,” Roehrich says.

Outside of her coaching duties, Nelson is a creature of habit. Every day she goes to Moxie Java in Moorhead where she purchases coffee and a bagel. When she orders, staff hand over a jar of peanut butter that she has purchased and leaves stashed behind the coffee shop counter. She walks at least 10 miles each evening, and dotes on her three dogs and three cats. In the summer months, she’s more likely to be found on a golf course than a basketball court.

Likewise, lessons to her players are just as consistent: Be confident. Believe in yourself. Go after what you want. “Honestly, I want them to know it’s okay to be selfish during this point in their life,” she says. “Sports teaches you that.”

The Dragons had their most successful season yet this past year. They sealed their third straight NSIC conference title and won their first NCAA tournament win since 2009. That being said, it wasn’t a pretty season. In Nelson’s words, the team had to “grit a lot of things out” — fight for every basket, every possession, even when they were exhausted.

MSUM and the Paseka School of Business have made me a well-rounded person. I’ve established relationships with faculty who helped me excel in the classroom and created a solid base for business success. Assistant Professor Wooyang was an incredible mentor because he made me believe I could do more than I thought possible.”

– Drew Sannes, Business Administration ’16, Master of Business Administration ’18

Yes, the coach knows how to break down the opposition’s plays with surgical-like precision. She also knows how to coax her players to leave it all on the court.

“She’s done a great job of relating to her players. They play their hearts out for her,” says Lori Fish, head coach at St. Cloud State University, which plays the Dragons each year. “To sustain the level of success she has is incredible. Her teams are well-prepared and well-coached. She makes you bring your A-game.”

Allison Swenson played for Nelson from 2003¬–2008. She is now assistant coach for the Dragon program. As a player, she appreciated Nelson’s blunt style. Now she sees the softer side of a coach who writes thank-you letters to fans and alumni and sends notes of encouragement to other coaches in the league.

“She has a bigger heart than people give her credit for,” says Swenson, who calls Nelson a “burnt marshmallow” — crispy on the outside with a soft, sweet inside.

In fact, opposing coaches reach out to the veteran coach when they need advice. Just as she will answer her former player’s texts and phone calls, Nelson will respond to fellow coaches anytime. “Karla’s always looking for what’s best for women’s basketball and our league,” Fish says. “She cares about the game and is always working to make things better for the rest of us.”

When Nelson first started as a coach, the fear of losing motivated her to work harder, push longer. Losing no longer scares her; it’s part of the game. And winning means so much more than the final points on the scoreboard.

At the end of each season, the team gathers for one last meeting. Then the seniors are invited to the hallway that leads into the locker room. The team watches as each senior picks her spot on her wall and signs her name. It’s a bittersweet moment, this sacred time when all the work, the sweat, the drive is over. At that moment, all that is left are memories of an incredible career playing basketball, growing, winning. And with that, Nelson sends her women out into the world.

My players have coached me in so many ways. Every day they inspire me to do better.

NEW HEIGHTS

Wednesday, October 9 6:30 p.m. Fargo Theatre

The Dragon Women’s Basketball Documentary, New Heights, will be shown Wednesday, Oct. 9 at the Fargo Theatre. Doors open at 6:30 p.m. with a program starting at 7 p.m.

THE EVENT INCLUDES:

NSIC Conference

Championship Ring Ceremony

Q&A with the team and Coach Karla Nelson

30-minute documentary from GO! TEAM member and MSUM Film Studies sophomore Sean Rice

BUFF life

What exactly is “The BUFF Life?”

The BUFF Life is a lifestyle that prioritizes the principles that my company, BUFF, represents: Believers Uniting Fitness and Food. By prioritizing faith, family, fitness and food, it means uniting and connecting a community with these same values. It’s important that we come together to encourage and support one another in all areas of life. Prioritizing these values, I believe you’ll live your best life. Look where you’re spending your time and energy, then choose to prioritize what’s truly important and what really matters to you. Start with these four tips below and implement them over the next months. Are you ready? Welcome to The BUFF Life, I’m so glad you’re here!

FAITH:

Daily devotions help me in my faith walk, as well as focusing on specific bible verses. One verse that has been on my heart is

FAMILY:

I hope you find encouragement in these words and can keep this at the forefront of your thoughts.

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FITNESS:

Fall is the perfect time for family bonding outdoors with so many activities to take advantage of before the snow falls. Prioritize this time with your family — put your phones away and be in the moment, together. Plan a fall picnic, go apple picking, head to the pumpkin patch, play a game of capture the flag, go on a bike ride, it doesn’t matter what you do, just get everyone involved and, most importantly, have fun together.

Fitness doesn’t always have to include super intense workouts. In fact, there’s a huge benefit to overall wellness when there’s appropriate recovery time, that targets the parasympathetic nervous system. This is the “rest and digest” time and is crucial to help achieve balance in busy lifestyles. This doesn’t mean you have to sit still; instead, get outside and enjoy nature walks. A great goal is to reach 10,000 steps. As many days as you can, get outside and go for a walk, even if it’s just 15 minutes. You’ll reap the rewards in so many areas of your life.

1 CORINTHIANS 10:31

“So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do; Do it all for the glory of God.”

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FOOD:

These healthy pumpkin muffins will give you that pumpkin spice fix. And, by reducing sugar, using whole wheat flour and eliminating oil, these are muffins you can feel good about eating. Plus, these are great for the whole family. The kids will start requesting these! I suggest making extra, as these will go fast.

Healthier Pumpkin Muffins

reCipe:

1 ½ cups brown sugar (or try coconut sugar or try using ¾ cup honey)

1 cup unsweetened applesauce

4 eggs (or substitute “flax eggs”: 1 tablespoon ground flax + 2 ½ tablespoons water = 1 egg)

2 cups oat flour (grind rolled oats to make oat flour or substitute whole wheat or all-purpose)

1 ⅓ cups whole-wheat flour

2 teaspoons baking soda

1 ½ teaspoons salt

1 teaspoons ground cinnamon

1 teaspoons ground nutmeg

⅔ cup water

1 can pumpkin puree (15 ounces)

direCtions:

1. Set oven to 350 degrees and prepare muffin tin (use liners or coconut oil spray).

2. In large mixing bowl, beat sugar and applesauce with an electric mixer. Add eggs (or “flax eggs”) and beat well.

3. In large bowl, combine dry ingredients. Add sugar mixture and water, alternately, on low speed. Beat in pumpkin. Spoon into prepared muffin tin, filling each cup ¾ full.

4. Bake for approximately 30 minutes or until toothpick comes out clean.

OCTOBER 1 and

NOVEMBER 5 6:00 – 7:15 PM

"Living with Grief" is our monthly drop-in meeting on the first Tuesday of the month held at Boulger Funeral Home. A topic on loss and grief begins our conversation for the evening. for more info: boulgerfuneralhome.com

These meetings are led by our Grief Support Coordinators Sonja Kjar and Ann Jacobson. 701-237-6441 griefsupport@boulgerfuneralhome.com

THOSE NIGHTS YOU CARRY HOME

Theatre B calls themselves “theater for the brave and curious,” and it’s not a warning. It’s a promise. A promise that an evening there will last for a very long time.

Fargo-Moorhead has no lack of theater. NDSU, MSUM and Concordia all have strong programs. There are the high schools, Trollwood, Gooseberry and FMCT, too.

But Theatre B does something different. Something a bit edgier. Something that gets inside and lingers. These are the plays that ask difficult questions in compelling ways.

“Our primary repertoire is contemporary,” says co-founder Carrie Wintersteen. “We chose that niche because no one else was doing it. The colleges and the community theater have their own goals. But they rarely do something like a four-character, Pulitzer Prize winning drama; a lot of people wouldn’t get to be on stage. Theatre B, with the ensemble approach, can leap at that opportunity.”

Wintersteen tells a story of a woman who drives from two hours away in South Dakota and has been attending for years. When they finally met, Wintersteen asked why she made the trek, often in questionable weather.

“Well,” the woman said, “the first time I came, I came to a show called ‘Next Fall.’ My daughter and I came together. At first we were a little uncomfortable when we realized the show was about a gay couple. We thought about leaving at intermission, but by the end of the show we were rooting for all of the characters. We wanted them to have a happy ending. That show completely changed our understanding of what it must like to be gay. We talked about it all the way home.”

33 Variations, by Moises Kaufman | A musicologist (played by Linda Boyd) races against time to solve the mystery of Beethoven’s 33 Diabelli Variations.

Pictured : John Roberts at the piano, Linda Boyd (FM Symphony), Jay Nelson

1984, by George Orwell, adapted by Michael Gene Sullivan Interrogators attend to their instructions from Big Brother.

Pictured : Tim Larson, Taylor Schatz, Taylor Fay, Jacob Hartje

I Will Not Go Gently, by Jennifer Childs

An eleven-character, one-woman show defying the notion that woman become irrelevant as they age.

Pictured : Carrie Wintersteen

After moving spaces a few times, the artists of Theatre B hope to have found their permanent home in north Moorhead, in the old Lincoln Elementary school. What was once a gymnasium is now a theater space that can seat one hundred. And that’s fitting. A space that used to exercise the body is now a space that stretches the mind.

There are thirteen active members in the Theatre B ensemble. The troupe puts on four mainstage plays each year. One of the brilliant truths of an ensemble approach is seeing the same actors create vastly different roles over time. It builds a relationship between audience and cast, between audience and play, between audience and idea. You trust the players.

Think about two recent performances. “Church and State” let us into the mind and heart of a pro-gun politician struggling with a shooting at his children’s school. “Marjorie Prime” made us wonder what it would be like if, when we died, we could be replaced by our best selves, at any age, to comfort those we leave behind. Forget easy, glossed-over, right versus wrong, simple answers. Forget the soft-focus feel-good fantasy. If the work is at Theatre B, the work has details.

So why is Theatre B doing “Hamlet?” “Many in our ensemble have formal Shakespearian training,” Wintersteen says. “Periodically it’s delightful to do something like ‘Hamlet’ and keep those skills sharp.”

The current season includes “Hamlet.” Then “The Last Schwartz,” a play about a family of adult children who gather a year after their father dies. Then “The Roommate,” about two 50-something women from very different backgrounds who become roommates. Then, finally, “The Father,” a play about dementia as seen through the eyes of the person who has it. A segment of each play was performed at the Theatre B season preview and conversation about them could be measured in both time and space. People were talking about the work in the parking lot, in their homes, on an airplane, in New York and Tucson. People are talking about them still.

theatreb.org | 701-729-8880

The Moors, by Jen Silverman

Love, loneliness, and women’s desires are as timely now as the era of the Bronte sisters.

Pictured : Missy Teeters

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SKETCHERS

Note: All events are subject to change. Confi rm dates and times before attending.

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OCTOBER

18

THE FMBALLET presents SPOOKY BALLETS

Back to the Fargo Theatre stage again, we open our season with Spooky Ballets, with a featured performance of The Headless Horseman. Join us for an evening of fall and Halloween dancers, the audience favorite, Thriller, and more! Don’t forget to dress up and participate in our community costume contest. Purchase tickets at fmballet.org/tickets.

Common interests

Art, theater, food, fitness and ideas: find your own way to connect with the community

OCTOBER 12

FREE Document Shredding

Take this simple step to help protect yourself from identity theft by having sensitive personal documents shredded for free. Sponsored by AARP North Dakota.

8:00 AM – 12:00 PM

West Acres Shopping Center

NOW – OCTOBER 31

Cormorant Area Art Club’s First FAMOUS FAUXS ART SHOW

Members of this club were challenged with the goal of reproducing a famous artist’s painting in a medium different from that used by the original artist. The results are exciting. Among others: a famous lithograph, Navajo Velvet by R.C. Gorman, reproduced in beautiful stained glass; a famous oil painting, Girl in White, Red Background by Henri Matisse, reproduced in water color and acrylic paints; The Umbrella Man by one of the world’s first pop artists, Peter Max, reproduced in watercolor and acrylic; Katherine Louise by Tom Barnes reproduced using the 2D wool felting technique; The Kiss, oil on canvas by Gustav Klint painted now in mixed media; and a Kandinsky painting reproduced in felted wool.

The Atrium at Essentia Health

South University Campus

southwest parking lot 3902 13th Ave S, Fargo

OCTOBER 16

Fargo Passport COOKING FOR HEALTHY LIVING

Get cooking tips, recipes, meal planning and purchasing techniques to help you prepare nutritious, healthy meals from the chefs and culinary artists at the Prairie Roots Food Co-op. Sponsored by AARP North Dakota. FREE, but registration is required. Two classes, register online at aarp.org/fargo.

3:00 – 4:30 PM or 6:00 – 7:30 PM

Sons of Norway 722 2nd Ave N, Fargo

OCTOBER 16

FARGO IDEAS: An Evening of Conversation

Inspired by the Aspen Ideas Festival, Fargo IDEAS will bring the spirit of inquisitive discussion and the exchange of ideas to the Fargo-Moorhead region. Join us for an evening of conversation featuring a collection of moderated panels that will shed light on issues that both shape our lives and challenges our times. A complete speaker line up can be found online at fargoideas.com. Fargo IDEAS is produced in collaboration with the Aspen Institute, Aspen Ideas Festival, Folkways, and Emerging Prairie.

7:00 – 9:00 PM

Fargo Theater

314 Broadway N, Fargo

OCTOBER 17

UNIQUELY FARGO: HUMAN FOOSBALL

Kick your fall into high gear by bringing your favorite table game to life! The event is a tournament structure limited to eight teams. Games are played six on six with a maximum of eight players per team, Registration $40/team. 18+ event.

6:30 PM

Roosevelt Park

1220 9th St N, Fargo

7:00 PM

The Fargo Theatre

314 N Broadway, Fargo

OCTOBER 18

WAGS, WHISKERS & WINE

Enjoy wine tasting, delicious appetizers, music, and fabulous silent and live auction items at the 10th Annual Wags, Whiskers & Wine event. All proceeds benefi t the homeless dogs and cats of Homeward Animal Shelter. For tickets and more info, visit homewardonline.org.

6:00 – 9:00 PM

Delta Hotels by Marriott Fargo 1635 42nd St SW, Fargo

OCTOBER 19

INSPIRE + CREATE

Celebrate everything that STEM has to offer. Make scientific observations and play games while having fun with science.

11:00 AM – 2:00 PM

Rheault Farm 2902 25th St S, Fargo

OCTOBER 26

BLING BLING SHOWCASE

The Fine Arts Club of Fargo annual fall fundraiser, where area artists and vendors will display and sell their art. The $5 admission fee will include coffee and dessert.

9:00 AM – 3:00 PM

Fine Arts Clubhouse 601 4th St S, Fargo

OCTOBER 29

FARGO PASSPORT LEARN TO CURL

Come out and try sliding a 40-pound granite rock down a sheet of ice while sweeping your way to the target at the other end. Learn to curl with help from the folks at the FM Curling Club. Sponsored by AARP North Dakota. FREE, but registration is required. Register online at aarp.org/fargo.

6:30 – 8:00 PM

FM Curling Club

4300 23rd Ave S, Fargo

OCTOBER 31

Courts Plus Community Fitness:

COMMUNITY HALLOWEEN CARNIVAL

This free community carnival is for children of all ages. There are inflatable games from Games Galore, carnival games, face painting and art projects by the Fargo South Art Club, trick-or-treat bags, candy, candy and more candy! Free and open to the public.

3:30 – 5:30 PM

Courts Plus Community Fitness

3491 S University Dr, Fargo

NOVEMBER 2

ST. ANDREW’S ( Scottish ) SOCIETY DINNER AND PROGRAM

Celebration of Scottish foods, bagpipes, dance, songs, tartans, culture and history. Purchase tickets by October 28 by calling 218-287-1646. Contact cynthia.sillers@gmail.com, or call 701-261-5683 from more info.

5:15 PM

Courtyard by Marriott

1080 28th Ave S, Moorhead

NOVEMBER 9

SELBUVOTER MITTEN CLASS

with Jeff rey Wall

Jeffrey Wall is an expert in the Norwegian Stranded Knitting technique. The class will feature the Selbuvoter mittens.

2:00 – 5:00 PM

Prairie Fiber Arts Center

127 4th St S, Moorhead

NOVEMBER 16

AWESOME ART AFTERNOON

Love art but hate the mess? Bring your child to these interactive art programs to have fun while building a variety of take-home projects. All creative materials are provided. Adult supervision required. FREE.

1:00 – 3:00 PM

Robert D. Johnson Recreation Center

1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo

College admissions advising and application planning

OCTOBER 8–11

LIFE 97.9 FALL SHARE

Every gift helps more people right here in the Red River Valley find hope in God through Life 97.9’s uplifting music. The faithfulness of friends like you is behind every uplifting song and encouraging message. That’s what makes Fall Share so important.

6:00 AM – 6:00 PM

Life 97.9 5702 52nd Ave S, Fargo life979.com

OCTOBER 16

FIELDS OF FAITH

Fields of Faith is a student lead, community backed event where high school and college students (and really any age) share the hope of Jesus Christ with classmates and friends. Join us as we lift up the name of Jesus in the Fargo-Moorhead and surrounding areas. It will be a night filled with worship, prayer, a student testimonial, and the gospel laid out by Nick Hall (Fargo’s own who kicked off PULSE Ministry). Check out fmfieldsoffaith on Facebook.

7:30 – 9:00 PM

Sanford Health Athletic Center 1300 17th Ave N, Fargo

OCTOBER 20

HOLY CROSS CATHOLIC CHURCH Fall Festival

Homemade stuffed pork loin dinner, mashed potatoes, gravy, coleslaw, candied carrots, buns, relish tray, pumpkin dessert and apple crisp, beverages and coffee. Adults: $12.00, Ages 6-12: $5.00, 5 years and under FREE. Children’s games, bingo, raffle, silent auction, country store, baked and canned goods, jewelry, 50/50, yard of cards and more.

10:00 AM – 2:00 PM

Holy Cross Catholic Church 2711 7th St E, West Fargo

OCTOBER 25–26

FRESH GROUNDED FAITH, Fargo

One event, many churches, for every woman! Featuring Jennifer Rothchild, speaker, best-selling author and Bible study teacher. She will be joined by Sheila Walsh, best-selling author and speaker and Michael O’Brian, worship leader. Tickets can be purchased online atfreshgroundedfaith.com, by phone at 800-859-7992 or in person at Hope Lutheran Church. $49 groups of 10+ (online/phone), $54 individual, $64 at the door (as available).

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 25, 7:00 – 9:30 PM

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 26,

9:00 AM – 12:30 PM Hope Lutheran Church

3636 25th St S, Fargo hopelutheranchurch.org

readY For CHristmas ?

Shop early and start the holidays out right with these area events

NOVEMBER 2

VINTAGE CHRISTMAS BOUTIQUE

@ Rusty Barn Junque

Join Rusty Barn Junque for our 5th annual Christmas Boutique at the Barn 20 miles northeast of Moorhead. You will have a jolly good time shopping our vintage, repurposed and hand made one-of-a-kind items. Gift items, holiday items, furniture and tons of home décor. Holiday baking from Farm House Bakery will be available.

9:00 AM – 2:00 PM

Rusty Barn Junque

1275 110th St N, Felton, MN

NOVEMBER 7,

BREAKFAST WITH SANTA

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& 21

Come visit Santa and Mrs. Claus for breakfast! Enjoy a hot breakfast and entertainment show. Make a holiday craft with an elf. Tickets $10 for all guests. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Tickets on sale November 8 at 8:00 AM at fargoparks.com.

8:00 – 10:00 AM

Rheault Farm

2902 25th St S, Fargo

NOVEMBER

15

FRASER, LTD.’S FESTIVAL OF TREES

Highlighting artificial Christmas trees sponsored and beautifully decorated by community businesses, organizations and families.

8:00 AM – 5:00 PM

FARGODOME

NOVEMBER 29

COOKIES WITH THE CLAUS FAMILY

A free family event including the Claus family arriving by horse-drawn sleigh at 1:00 PM. Entertainment, sleigh rides, Games Galore, art, face painting, cookie decorating and more.

1:00 – 4:00 PM

FARGODOME

NOVEMBER 30

SANTA VILLAGE

Celebrate the season of giving at Rheault Farm by planning a visit to Santa Village. Located on a 15-acre enclosed farm site, the village is a non-commercial place where children and adults can make holiday memories with Santa and Mrs. Claus. Enjoy the winter wonderland from the Saturday after Thanksgiving until the day before Christmas Eve.

1:00 – 7:00 PM

Rheault Farm

2902 25th St S, Fargo

CONNECT WITH US AT THESE UPCOMING EVENTS.

DRIVER SAFETY CLASS

Oct. 9 & Nov. 13, 2019

FREE DOCUMENT SHREDDING

Saturday, Oct. 12, 2019

PASSPORT TO HEALTHY LIVING EVENTS

COOKING FOR HEALTHY LIVING

Wednesday, Oct. 16, 2019

LEARN TO CURL

Tuesday, Oct. 29, 2019

CAREGIVING TELEPHONE TOWN HALL

Tuesday, Nov. 12, 2019

Learn more at aarp.org/fargo

stronger togetHer Events for group support

OCTOBER 4–6

Jamestown Area Grief Support Team’s WIDOW’S RETREAT

A weekend retreat for widows, allowing them to immerse themselves in healing with no distractions in a relaxing and supportive atmosphere with others who have experiences the death of a husband. For more info contact Eileen Lisko, drlisko@csicable.net, visit jagst.org or JAGST on Facebook.

7:00 PM FRIDAY, OCTOBER 4

THROUGH 1:00 PM SUNDAY, OCTOBER 6

Maryvale Retreat Center 11550 River Road, Valley City, ND

OCTOBER 8

ARTHRITIS CONNECT GROUP

Our in person peer led Live Yes! Connect groups are not the typical arthritis “support group”. Each local Connect group provides supportive social connections and are inclusive to adults with all types of arthritis and rheumatic diseases. And yes, adult loved ones, friends and caregivers are more than welcome!

6:00 PM

Riverview Place 5300 12th St S, Fargo

OCTOBER 11

LOVE & LIGHT

Hopeful Heart Project invites you to a special concert and event in honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Music featuring Lacey Guck and Jon Walters. If you have a child(ren) you would like remembered at the event, please send us an email. We would be honored to include them. hopefulheartproject.org

Please note – this is a 21+ event.

6:00 – 10:00 PM

Stone Building 613 1st Ave N, Fargo

OCTOBER 12

BEAUTIFULLY BROKEN

AN ADOPTIVE MOM’S RETREAT

Come and connect with other adoptive moms at this one-day event. We will have a keynote speaker, workshops, lunch, and time to network, grow and learn with other moms. $30 per person. bit.ly/dlretreat

8:30 AM – 4:30 PM

Community Alliance Church 408 Elm St W, Detroit Lakes, MN

QUOTABLE: "For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord."

— JEREMIAH 29: 11-14

Fargo puBliC liBrarY events

are free and open to the public. A complete schedule of library events is available at fargolibrary.org .

Sundays in October

JAZZ INTO FALL: CONCERT SERIES

OCTOBER 6 – The Max Johnk Quartet

OCTOBER 13 – Mary Marshall Trio

OCTOBERT 20 – KICKS Dixieland

OCTOBER 27 – Kathie Brekke & 42nd Street

2:00 PM Main Library 102 3rd St. N.

OCTOBER 8

One Book, One Community Event for Kids: THE PHYSICS OF FLIGHT

Kids are invited to investigate the science involved in flight and see how form affects function at this program led by instructors and students from the Concordia Science Academy. Space is limited, pre-registration is required. Register online or call the Children's Services at 701-241-1495.

6:30 PM Main Library 102 3rd St. N.

OCTOBER 28

One Book, One Community Event: AUTHOR VISIT WITH KEITH O’BRIEN

An author visit with Keith O'Brien at the Fargo Air Museum and book signing to follow. Books will be available for purchase.

7:00 PM

Fargo Air Museum 1609 19th Ave. N., Fargo

Fargodome events

1800 N University Dr, Fargo

Visit fargodome.com for more info.

CONCERTS

OCTOBER 10

AN EVENING OF WORSHIP WITH CHRIS TOMLIN

And special guest Pat Barrett

7:00 PM

OCTOBER 17

MIRANDA LAMBERT ‘ROADSIDE BARS AND PINK GUITARS TOUR’ with special guest Elle King, Pistol Annies, and Ashley McBryde

7:00 PM

OCTOBER 30

CELINE DION ‘COURAGE WORLD TOUR’

7:30 PM

NOVEMBER 17

SLAYER WITH PRIMUS, MINISTRY & PHILIP ANSELMO W/ THE ILLEGALS SLAYER, the Final Campaign Tour.

6:00 PM

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