Area Woman Magazine Feb/Mar '20

CARRIE BRUSVEN

the wedding issue

Nate Boie, CPA

Gerry Haga, CPA

Dan Lindgren

Mathew Hermanson, CPA

Brandon Taylor

Brad Booth

Je Knutson, CPA

Annette Thompson

Erica Christianson

Toby Kommer, CPA

Mitch Martel, CPA

Kelly Triptow

Mary Conlin

Jerry Kuhn, CPA

Natalie Melland

Amanda Tukums

Kim Engelhard

Kayla Kunkel

Cass Meyers

Diane Ulschmid

Justin Fox, CPA

Sara Lau, CPA

Angie Michaelsohn

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Craig Ahmann Karla Wohlers Jeff McKinnon Jodi Glanville Darren Baumgartner Grantley Johnson Shawn Getz Ava Berthiaume

Bobbi Jo Garcia Trudy Buchfink Ashley Meehan Jason Spiess Kim Kankelfritz Patrick Anderson

Travis Anderson Emilee Miller

Bethany Vincent Rachel Ramstad Randall Moen

Carlos Diaz Lana Eichhorn Shannon Neece Tamara Schmidt

Myles Allen Laura Hanson Robert Schmaltz Trent Gehrig

Braxton Counts Chelsey Haukos Paula & Keith Kolle Samantha Koskey Owen Steckler Blake Hill Jeff Maddock Damian Lozano-Johnson

John Kummer Ben Tappe Cari Drees Finley Campion Bill Gibson Heather Miller

Joe Swegarden Mary Beth Stensgard

Mick Pytlik Isla & Finley Hovelson Dona Schock

HALEY FROST photographer

Haley is the founder of Haley Frost Creative, a photography and design company in Fargo. She specializes in creating and capturing authentic moments for couples and entrepreneurs in the FM area.

our writers

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com

CAROLYN LILLEHAUGEN

Carolyn loves meeting people and learning their stories. After earning her bachelor’s degree from Concordia in Moorhead, and masters from Linfield in McMinnville, Oregon, Carolyn has enjoyed a career of teaching, mentoring new teachers, building a Shaklee health and wellness business, and writing about some of the interesting people she meets along the way. Carolyn and her husband Mark love traveling, exploring outdoors, and spending time with their four adult sons who happen to live in really interesting places.

Our cover story was photographed by Haley Frost and written by Carolyn Lillehaugen, page 72.

WASIFA AHMAD HASAN

Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full-time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com.

ANGEL EVENSON

Driven by her goal of leaving you happier than before you met, Angel's main goal in life is laughter. She owns her dream, AKA, where she is a multifaceted consultant and coach. Her expertise ranges from sales and marketing to writing, educating & fitness. Her man-bun wearing husband and two precious kids keep her grounded, fulfilled and grateful. Stop by for a daily dose of yoga, motherhood and all things life-inspired on her blog angelskeenangles.com and instagram @angelskeenangles.

MEGAN ELGIN

Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She loves all things creative including her job as the art director here at Area Woman Magazine. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and son, loves camping with her family in the summer, and snuggling on the couch with them in the winter.

our writers

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com .

MARIAH PRUSSIA

Mariah is the owner of MPX Fitness, founder of the NOW Project (501C3), professional MMA fighter, coordinator of fitness at MSUM, motivational speaker, corporate wellness coachh and single mother. Find her online at mariahprussia.com

ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON

Alicia is the creator of prairiestylefile.com, a website that explores the arts, culture, shopping, events and fashion of Fargo-Moorhead and the upper Midwest. She frequently travels across the region in search of what's beautiful and what's next.

AUBREY TYSON

Aubrey is a lover of wine, working out, reading, all things Gilmore Girls and Target. She has a deep passion for writing, travel and the entrepreneur lifestyle. Her company Brey Tyson Digital & Design focuses on digital marketing, website design and graphic design for small to midsize businesses. Mother of two and wife to a Brit, she takes life one day at a time while reveling in the chaos of family life.

SARAH MORRAU

Sarah is a mother, musician, writer, yoga instructor and mental health professional. She loves reading, the ocean, inappropriate humor, word games, working out, Mexican food and tea with milk and sugar. She is grateful for the everyday joys in life and believes you should not let anyone dull your sparkle!

ASHLEY SORNSIN

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her online at eatlivebebuff.com.

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February

MARCH

Note: All events are subject to change. Confirm dates and times before attending.

February 1

FROZEN PRAIRIE

YOUTH POND HOCKEY DAY

Grab your friends and come enjoy a day of hockey played where it all started … on the ponds! Each team has a three game guarantee in this jamboree structured day. All games are two 10-minute halves. Divisions are 10U, 8U, 6U (all divisions coed). Teams can have a maximum of 6 players. $60 per team, this includes a beanie for each player. All games are playing as 4 on 4. Official Frostival event.

9:00 AM – 3:00 PM

Edgewood Public Golf Course

19 Golf Course Ave N, Fargo fargoparks.com

February 3 & 10

S’MORES & MORE

Come join us for a night out with the family! Cook your own s’more, drink hot chocolate, listen to music, and skate on the outdoor rink. Don’t forget to bring your skates. The rink and warming house are available to use during the event. Official Frostival event.

FEBRUARY 3, 5:00 – 7:00 PM

Longfellow Park

20 29th Ave N, Fargo fargoparks.com

FEBRUARY 10, 5:00 – 7:00 PM

Centennial Park

4101 25th St S, Fargo fargoparks.com

February 8

RONALD MCDONALD HOUSE

31 st Annual SWEETHEART BALL

Celebrate Valentine’s Day early with an exciting evening of dining, dancing, bidding on live and silent auctions, and supporting RMHC.

6:00 PM

Delta Hotel in Fargo

1635 42nd St SW, Fargo 701-232-3980

February

8-9 & 15-16

FARGO POND

HOCKEY CLASSIC

The Fargo Pond Hockey Classic showcases the game the way nature intended it to be played … on the ponds! The annual tournament features multiple rinks and a warming tent for those looking to escape the winter elements. There are three divisions to compete in: Novice, Silver, and Gold. Participants can only play in one division. Each division has the same rules and is played at the same location.

Edgewood Public Golf Course 19 Golf Course Ave N, Fargo fargoparks.com

February 8-9 WINTERFEST

VOLLEYBALL TOURNAMENT

Get in on the action at Winterfest! Gather your friends, put a team together and sign up in the men’s, women’s or coed divisions. It is guaranteed to be a good time. Online registration only. Various Times and Locations fargoparks.com

February 13

GIVING HEARTS DAY

Giving Hearts Day is a 24-hour event for charities in North Dakota and northwest Minnesota. Choose your charity at givingheartsday.org.

February 13

CCRI POLAR PLUNGE ON GIVING HEARTS DAY

The CCRI Polar Plunge is an event for the whole family! Plungers will be taking the icy dip to support people with disabilities. There will be campfires, hotdogs and hot chocolate in addition to the plunge entertainment. Admission is free.

3:30 PM

CCRI

2903 15th St S, Moorhead ccrimoorhead.org

February 14 HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

February 15 & March 14

AWESOME ART AFTERNOON

Love art but hate the mess? Bring your child to these interactive art programs to have fun while building a variety of take-home projects. All creative materials will be provided. This program is free. Adult supervision required.

1:00 – 3:00 PM

Robert D. Johnson Recreation Center

1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo fargoparks.com

February 16

THE BOOK OF GODDESSES

Based on a sumptuously illustrated book of the same title by Kris Waldherr, the music is beautiful and evocative, enhanced by readings by women from all parts of the world. Music written by composer Robert Paterson.

2:00 PM

Plains Art Museum

704 1st Ave N, Fargo www.fmsymphony.org/chamber-music-series

February 17-18

CODE NINJAS SCHOOL BREAK

GAME BUILDER'S CLUB CAMP

Game Builder’s Club is a camp where ninjas will build their very own video game each day, and have a blast every step of the way! Games are made in Scratch, a kid-friendly, visual programming language. This camp is fantastic for children of all experience levels to flex their creative muscles and strengthen their problemsolving skills, all while having a great time. Oneday or two-day options available. Call Mackenzie with any questions at 701-404-7620. Register at codeninjas.com/camps/nd-fargo.

8:00 AM — 3:00 PM

Code Ninjas

4480 23rd Ave S, Suite E, Fargo codeninjas.com/locations/nd-fargo

February 21

COLD CINEMA: A WINTER MOVIE NIGHT

Embrace winter by enjoying an outdoor movie in the cold. Get your friends, bring a blanket, grab some popcorn and settle in to watch a favorite winter film. Dress warm, this event takes place outdoors in a covered shelter. Heaters are available outside the shelter. Official Frostival event.

6:00 – 8:00 PM

Rheault Farm

2902 25th St S, Fargo fargoparks.com

MARCH February

February 22

YOUTH ICE FISHING DERBY

Bring your ice fishing rod and try your luck at the annual Youth Ice Fishing Derby. South Woodhaven Pond is stocked with perch, bluegill and northern pike. Registration is at 1:30 PM. Bait is provided (while supplies last). Official Frostival event.

1:30 – 3:00 PM

Woodhaven South Park & Fishing Pond

4802 Woodhaven Dr. S, Fargo fargoparks.com

March 13

CODE NINJAS

MINECRAFT CREATE DAY CAMP

February 21-22

THE 10TH ANNUAL UNGLUED: CRAFT FEST

Join us for our 10th annual Unglued: Craft Fest showcasing the creative work of 70+ makers and creative opportunities all weekend.

Friday night is the ticketed Craft Party Preview with live DJ, included DIY projects with admission, cash bar and exclusive first look shopping ($15 advance, $20 door).

Saturday is free admission with free workshops, young maker’s market, scavenger hunt for kids and adults, craft beer garden, and 70+ makers setting up shop.

February 21, 5:00 – 9:00 PM

February 22, 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Plains Art Museum 704 1st Ave N, Fargo ungluedcraftfest.com

Students will spend the day engaged with fun activities that include game building, coding and robotics! We will also be spending some time working through various STEM activities and getting up off the computers. A bag lunch is all a ninja will need to participate in this fun-filled day. All other materials will be provided. Ages 7-14. Register at codeninjas.com/camps/nd-fargo.

8:00 AM — 3:00 PM

Code Ninjas

4480 23rd Ave S, Suite E, Fargo codeninjas.com/locations/nd-fargo

March 14 & 15

FARGO ICE REVUE

At the end of each year’s figure skating season, students from each of the Fargo Park District skating classes present an ice skating revue. Tickets at door $7 per person. Featured skater is Angela Wang.

March 14 at 7:00 PM

March 15 at 4:00 PM

Southwest Youth Ice Arena 4404 23rd Ave SW, Fargo fargoparks.com

March 19-20

CODE NINJAS MINECRAFT

SPRING BREAK CAMP

Dream up and design your own Minecraft world! Zombies, purple trees and flying pigs - oh, my! (Requires a Minecraft account and Minecraft: Java Edition installed.) Ages 7-14. Register at codeninjas.com/camps/nd-fargo.

8:00 AM — 3:00 PM

Code Ninjas

4480 23rd Ave S, Suite E, Fargo codeninjas.com/locations/nd-fargo

March 21

CELTIC FESTIVAL

The 17th Annual Celtic Festival is a celebration of the rich culture of the seven Celtic nations featuring the intriguing history, arts and traditions of Brittany, Cornwall, Isle of Man, Galicia, Ireland, Scotland and Wales.

10:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Hjemkomst Center

2020 1st Ave N, Moorhead fargoparks.com

April 3-4

BUTTERFLY BALL

Create memories with the special role model in your life at a magical evening of music, dancing, photo opportunities and more. Light snacks, dessert and punch will be served. Make sure to stop by the make-and-take station to create your very own take-home surprise. We encourage guests ages 4-12 to attend with their special role model. All youth must be accompanied by an adult.

6:30 – 9:00 PM

Avalon Event Center

2525 9th Ave S, Fargo fargoparks.com

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Fargo Public Library

All events are free and open to the public. A complete schedule of upcoming events is available at all Fargo Public Library locations and at fargolibrary.org.

Fargo Main Library: 102 3rd St N, Fargo | 701-241-1495

Northport Branch: 2714 N Broadway, Fargo | 701-476-4026

Dr. James Carlson Library: 2801 32nd Ave S, Fargo | 701-476-4040

Children’s Services: 701-241-1495.

The

Fargo Library

Book Clubs

Current list of monthly titles is available a t fargolibrary.org.

TEA TIME BOOK CLUB

Featuring recent bestseller titles. Meets second Monday of every month.

6:30 PM Carlson Library

NORTHPORT

CLASSIC BOOK CLUB

Featuring classic titles. Meets the third Wednesday of every month.

6:30 PM Northport Library

HISTORY BOOK CLUB

Featuring titles about history. Meets last Tuesday of the month.

7:00 PM Main Library

READING THE WORLD BOOK CLUB

Featuring books from a non-Western perspective with a mix of fiction, memoir and travel literature. Meets the first Thursday of the month.

7:00 PM Main Library

Weekly Spring Storytimes for Toddlers and Preschoolers

Sessions are offered now through April 8 at all three Fargo Public Library locations during the week. For details, call, stop in, or visit fargolibrary.org.

BABY RHYME TIME

Lapsit storytimes for babies (birth to 18 months) on the 1st and 3rd Thursday of each month. Babies will experience songs, finger plays, short books, rhythms and rhymes. A great way to introduce books and the library to your baby. One child per lap, please. No registration required.

10:00 AM Carlson Library

6:30 PM Main Library

PAWS FOR READING

Emerging readers can sign up to read to a therapy pet (dog or cat) on the 2nd Saturday of each month. The sessions are 15 minutes each. Space is limited; preregistration is required.

Call 701-241-1495

10:00 AM Main Library

Harry Potter Themed Events

Fans of all ages can celebrate and create with these events inspired by the Harry Potter book series.

February 11

HARRY POTTER TRIVIA

Costumes are encouraged. Pre-registration is recommended; register online or call 701-241-1492.

6:00 PM Main Library

February 15

HARRY POTTER PARTY at the Main Library

Costumes are encouraged. Open to kids of all ages; no registration is required.

1:00 – 3:00 PM Main Library

February 22

HARRY POTTER ESCAPE ROOMS (for kids)

Open to children in grades 1–6. Pre-registration is required; register online or call 701-241-1495.

11:00 AM – 4:00 PM Main Library

February 25

HERBOLOGY: CRAFTING

NEVER-DIE PLANTS FOR THE HOME

Open to teens (ages 11–18) and adults.

Pre-registration is required; register online or call Drea at 701-241-1472 for details.

7:00 PM Main Library

February 29

HERBOLOGY: GROWING EASY

HOUSEPLANTS OF THE MUGGLE WORLD

Open to adults. Pre-registration is required; register online or call Drea at 701-241-1472 for details.

10:00 AM Main Library

March 7

MAGICAL CREATURE CRAFTS

Open to kids ages 6-12. Pre-registration is required; register online or call 701-241-1495.

3:00 PM Main Library

March 9 & 12

TEEN CRAFTS: HARRY POTTER WINGED KEY MOBILE

Open to teens ages 11–18.

Pre-registration is required; register online or contact Sara W. at 701-241-1492 for details.

4:00 PM Main Library

March 21

DEATHLY HALLOWS WREATH CRAFT

Open to adults and teens (13+). Pre-registration is required; register online or call 701-241-1492.

2:00 PM Main Library

More Library Events

FRIDAY MOVIE AT CARLSON

Free movie and popcorn in the community room.

Fridays, 1:00 PM Carlson Library

February 1 & March 7

TEA TASTING AT THE DR. JAMES CARLSON LIBRARY

Taste different teas. Space is limited; pre-registration is required. Register online or call 701-241-1492.

10:00 AM Carlson Library

February 20

GREAT SCIENCE FOR TEENS

Open to teens in grades 6–12. Preregistration is required; register online or contact Bree at 701-476-5978 for details.

6:00 PM Carlson Library

February 22

WRITING WORKSHOP WITH LARRY WOIWODE

Award-winning author Larry Woiwode will lead a writing workshop for all genres. Please bring one copy of a FINAL DRAFT to the workshop. Refreshments will be provided. Space is limited; pre-registration is required online or by contacting Andy: agustafson@fargolibrary.org or 701-476-4040.

2:00 PM Carlson Library

March 14

WRITING WORKSHOP WITH MARCIE R. RENDON AT ATOMIC COFFEE

Join us for a hands-on workshop with author Marcie R. Rendon. Participants will be asked to think and write from their own experiences following the adage of “write what you know.” Rendon will also discuss the process of writing within the context of your own culture and life experiences with the goal of being published. Participants should bring a laptop or notebook to write in. Space is limited; pre-registration is required. Register online or contact Melisa at mduncan@fargolibrary.org or 701-476-4076.

1:00 PM

Atomic Coffee

222 Broadway, Fargo

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WORDS : WENDY REGNER

TOOLS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE

happily everafter

It’s a dream come true! A dream played out fairytale style in the minds of many from the time we’re little girls. Meeting our Prince Charming, being swept off our feet, having the most beautiful wedding and living happily ever after. Ah, my heart flutters all over again as I think about those dreams. I also reflect with gratitude on the way that story was orchestrated in my life. Don’t get me wrong, it’s had its ups and downs. And I’m incredibly thankful for the people and tools that have come into my life and my husband’s over the years to help us celebrate the ups and navigate the downs. Actually, they are a big reason I do the work I do now as a couples’ counselor.

If you are standing on the threshold of saying “I do” or saying “yes” to the person who wants to spend the rest of his life with you, I’m sure there are plenty of dreams and a few butterflies surrounding you right now. Planning your wedding and anticipating marriage should be a wonderfully exciting and happy time. One that will set the stage for a fulfilling life together.

A lot of important things go into ensuring that happy outcome. In my practice I hear every day from people who have solid foundations and views of what a healthy relationship and marriage looks like and how to get there. And, from others who have had negative experiences or examples. We tend to present our “best self” in the dating process. We sometimes say what we think the other person wants to hear so they’re happy with us. But that’s not always what we really want or mean. As the newness wears off and we both settle into our day-to-day real selves, sometimes frustration, disappointment and resentment can settle in too and threaten our satisfaction.

So, I’d like to offer a few thoughts that can help you get started on the right foot and have a long, happy marriage. These areas and more are ones that I cover in the premarital preparation packages I offer to couples getting ready to walk down the aisle into their own happily ever after.

COMMUNICATION

We all communicate; with our words, our bodies, our choices of behavior and activities. Author Gary Chapman, for example, breaks our communication styles down into five “love languages.” They are: words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, gifts, and quality time. Do you know yours? Your partner’s? Do you know how to effectively communicate within them?

EMOTIONAL INTIMACY

It’s common when hearing the word intimacy to think of the physical aspect. But being able to share our most vulnerable thoughts and feelings and feel respected and cherished are things that set

the stage for lasting relationship. And, they precede the most fulfilling physical intimacy. Does your partner share what’s going on in their heart? Do you talk about feelings? Do you feel safe sharing your deepest needs?

HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

We often make assumptions about how others want to be treated. We also assume that our significant other will know how we want to be treated. Those, though, are often faulty assumptions. For example, if your spouse-to-be grew up in a tightknit extended family and loved spending holidays with dozens of people they may assume you did and enjoyed the same. Or, if your mom has been your trusted confidant all of your life, you might assume your partner will be fine with that continuing. Getting married represents necessary shifts and compromises in some of those areas. It will be important for you to communicate what you need, how you feel about current patterns and priorities, and how you will establish new patterns together that work for both of you. Do you see any patterns that could lead to difficulty in the future?

Whether you are standing in the anticipatory glow of getting married, in a satisfying marriage that just needs a little polish, or in the gloomy shadows of a difficult marriage there is hope for health and happiness. I’d love to connect with you and help you find the tools to make your relationship the best it can be.

Wendy Regner To Have and To Hold Couples Care

Wendy is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Fargo. She is a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), American Counseling Association (ACA), a certified SYMBIS pre-marital preparation facilitator, and a certified emotionally focused couples therapy practitioner. She has a passion for helping couples and individuals navigate the challenges life brings and learn to bravely live life to the fullest.

4 TIPS FOR combining finances with your partner

WORDS : AMERIPRISE FINANCIAL SERVICES, INC.

As a relationship grows,

working toward goals together may become more of a financial priority.

If you’re ready to move to the next phase financially, consider the following tips:

1. Communicate early and often

When it comes to relationships, you’ve probably heard the advice that communication is key. This adage holds true when combining finances as well. Be transparent about your spending habits, goals and feelings about money from the start. Whether you decide to establish joint financial accounts or keep them separate, keeping your partner informed can help you both work better as a team.

2. Choose your insurance coverage

Insurance policies can provide a layer of protection over your finances and may help you feel more confident about your ability to handle unexpected events. Make it a priority to review your individual life, dis-

ability, health, car and home insurance policies before deciding what coverage you would like as a couple. If either of you receive benefits through an employer, pay attention to the qualifying events and dates for when you can change your elections.

3. Update the beneficiaries and will

Thinking about what happens if one of you passes away may not be romantic, but it is an important step to protecting your loved ones financially. Discuss with your partner how you’d like assets to be divided and consider formalizing your wishes in a will. Also, update beneficiaries on your financial accounts (e.g. checking, saving and

retirement accounts) and assets if necessary. This is especially important if you were previously married and your former spouse is listed as a beneficiary. In the same vein, if you want your partner to share ownership in any vehicle or property you own update the titles accordingly.

4. Set goals together

Now that you’re earning, spending and saving to support your life together, why not formalize the dreams you share for your future? Set aside time to discuss your short- and long-term goals, such as buying a house, pursuing higher education or retiring early. Communicating your top priorities can help you reach compromise and avoid possible financial disputes.

William Janson

is a financial advisor with Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. in Moorhead. He specializes in fee-based financial planning and asset management strategies and has been in practice for 30 years.

To contact him call 701-235-4171, email bill.j.janson@ampf.com orvisit ameripriseadvisors.com/bill.j.janson/.

We are located at 1401 8th St, S., Suite 2, Moorhead.

Ameriprise Financial, Inc. and its affiliates do not offer tax or legal advice. Consumers should consult with their tax advisor or attorney regarding their specific situation.

Investment advisory products and services are made available through Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc., a registered investment adviser.

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“Mike and I are people who love to laugh, spend time with family and friends, go on adventures, and hang out with our puppy Zoey,” says Kaylin. This Minneapolis couple planned a June 22 wedding day that was full of all those things. They credit friends Carrie and Jamie with introducing them back in 2012. Kaylin says, “Little did we know then that we were meeting our future spouse.” They met again at Carrie and Jamie’s wedding, but didn’t start dating until Kaylin moved to St. Cloud, Minnesota, for her first job out of law school. She says, “The story goes that he texted Carrie and said ‘set that up,’ and the rest is history.”

When asked if anything inspired their wedding choices, Kaylin says, “Well since I had been in 15 weddings (yes, I know that is a lot!), I was blessed to be exposed to a lot of different styles and take little things from each one that I liked.” All that experience came together in an elegant, classic and timeless wedding with a black and white color scheme and lush florals by Love Always Floral. Photographer Abby Anderson says, “When I left their wedding day I thanked Kaylin and Mike for being so open with me and sharing their love in a way that could be felt in every photograph. This wedding day was incredible.”

The traditional church ceremony took place at Sts. Anne and Joachim Catholic Church. Kaylin says their favorite part of the day was “our vows, as cliché as it sounds. We both were just elated that we were becoming husband and wife.”

Following the vows, the wedding party snuck away to celebrate with cocktails at Wild Terra, then headed to the Delta Hotel by Marriott where gold accents, white florals, and flickering candles set the mood at the reception. Guests satisfied their sweet tooth with a donut wall and cheesecake table instead of a traditional cake. Kaylin says, “From the first look to the last dance we had such an amazing time. The day was more than we could have ever hoped for, filled with laughter, love, dancing and a little bit of partying.” The celebration continued with plenty of fun for all on the dance floor, then ended with a sweet sparkler send off for the newlyweds. Guests took home bottle openers and can koozie favors so they could keep celebrating long past sunset.

Kaylin advises future brides, “Keep reminding yourselves that, at the end of the day, your wedding is about you two and the start of your marriage together. Do what makes you happy because you are what matters!” This happy couple left on an Alaskan cruise for their honeymoon following the wedding. They enjoy spending time together watching football or hockey, exploring breweries in their Minneapolis neighborhood, and jet setting across the country.

PHOTOGRAPHER:

Abby Anderson

CEREMONY VENUE:

Sts. Anne & Joachim

Catholic Church

RECEPTION VENUE: Delta Hotels by Marriott

BRIDAL GOWN, VEIL AND HEADPIECE:

Posh Bridal Couture

HAIR AND MAKEUP:

Hair Success (Hair with Rachelle Anderson, Makeup with Pam)

MEN’S FORMAL WEAR:

Halberstadt’s BRIDESMAID DRESSES: Dessy Group

FLORAL DESIGN:

Love Always Floral

DJ:

Harmon Entertainment CAKE + CHEESECAKE:

Nichole’s Fine Pastries

DONUTS:

Sandy’s Donuts

VIDEOGRAPHER:

Brittney & Caleb

FAVORS:

S&S Promotional Group INVITATIONS:

A. Reinke Design

kiersten + kyle

JULY 27, 2019

A year and a half of planning all came together on a hot, humid day in July when high school sweethearts Kiersten and Kyle tied the knot exactly eight years after they began dating — to the day! Their elegant wedding took place at The Woods in Brainerd, Minnesota.

Kiersten planned the wedding to fit their budget, searching all over the state for the vendors that would work best financially. The Woods was a convenient location for family and included the ceremony and reception sites as well as onsite accommodations for the guests and the wedding party. To save money, Kiersten DIYed a lot of the decor with the help of her parents, from the flowers, to the signs, to embroidered handkerchiefs made by her mother as keepsakes for the guests. “The biggest project was a flower chandelier I made to hang above us at the ceremony. It look me almost a year to complete and a ton of trips to the store to get more and more and even more flowers, but I was highly complemented on it so I think it was worth it!” says Kiersten.

Kiersten also lucked out on her wedding dress. She says, “I saw it at David’s Bridal about a year before I was even engaged while dress shopping with a friend for her wedding. When it came time for me to shop for my wedding dress, I described the one I had seen previously to see if they had anything similar and they had the exact dress in store on clearance in my size. Score!”

The ceremony took place outside under the venue’s rustic wooden gazebo decorated with the floral chandelier Kierstan spent all that time making. “We were surrounded by all of our favorite people and loved ones as we promised our love to each other. I had so much fun, whenever I think back I wish we could do it again because it truly was the best day ever,” says Kiersten.

The guests then headed indoors to cool off and celebrate. “My favorite part was having all my groomsmen with me throughout the day, hanging out and keeping me calm as I was about to marry the love of my life. Then having everyone with us as we got to celebrate after the ceremony,” says Kyle.

The couple jetted off to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, following the wedding for a sweet honeymoon. Kiersten offers up a bit of advice to future brides. “Enjoy every minute of it because it goes so fast!” She says, “I loved the process of planning our wedding. It was so much fun to pick out every detail and see it all come together.”

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN PHOTOGRAPHY : SCHERLING PHOTOGRAPHY, ALEXANDRA GAMBLE

VENUE:

The Woods, Brainerd, MN

PHOTOGRAPHER:

Scherling Photography — Alexandra Gamble

DRESS & SHOES:

David’s Bridal

BRIDESMAIDS DRESSES:

David’s Bridal

MEN’S ATTIRE:

Formalities, Bemidji, MN

DJ:

Dynamite Reflections

Entertainment, Brainerd, MN

CAKE & CUPCAKES:

Sweet Life Bakery, Pequot Lakes, MN

OFFICIANT:

Mike Kennedy

HAIR & MAKEUP:

Tina Andrews,

M.J. Capelli, TJ Maxx location, Fargo

ENGAGEMENT RING:

Crown Jewels, Fargo

by Miss Rhonda

Special

katie + steve

DECEMBER 15, 2019

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN PHOTOGRAPHY : KELYN & CO. STUDIO

It’s not often your children know your heart better than you do, but in Katie and Steve’s case, their children brought them together to make one beautiful blended family of nine. Steve’s daughter would babysit often for Katie’s two girls. “Abby kept saying, ‘You have to meet my dad,’” and finally Katie agreed. After four years of dating, adding a two-year-old daughter to the mix, and Katie’s girls asking Steve “When do we get to call you dad for real?” they were engaged on November 9.

An intimate wedding with fifty guests was planned for December 15, chosen so they could get married the same day as Katie’s parent’s 35th year wedding anniversary. Katie says, “I knew I wanted it at Wild Terra. I knew exactly how I wanted everything. Most of the planning was done in two weeks.” She found a number of vendors through Instagram, looking at their photos to find the ones that fit her vision of a simple vintage wedding with a bohemian flair. She personally called all of their guests with the details, rather than sending the invitations. “It was more personal that way and everyone we wanted to be there came.”

Amy Lee with Breathe and Relax Events helped coordinate the decor rentals and set up everything on the wedding day, taking the pressure off Katie and Steve. The Wild Terra staff transformed their upstairs event space from a ceremony venue with couches and chairs lined up in rows, to a dining hall for supper and finally into a dance floor. “They were so accommodating,” says Katie.

Starting off with their first look, which took place on the exact spot they would say their vows a few hours later, everything was shared with their family. Steve’s favorite part of the day was sharing the moment he first laid eyes on Katie with the entire family surrounding them. The wedding party was made up of their seven children, their future son-in-law and Katie’s sister as maid of honor. Katie’s favorite part of the wedding day was the ceremony itself. A family friend officiated the wedding and created a very personal ceremony for them including all of the kids. Katie says, “I’m not an overly emotional person, but I was so emotional I couldn’t hold it together that day. I just felt like it had so much meaning.”

“Everything we had was really personal. It was about the intimacy of us,” says Katie. With the small guest list, she was able to keep costs down and spend money on the things she knew she really wanted without feeling guilty. “If you have a smaller wedding, you can splurge on those things you wouldn’t have been able to with a large wedding,” Katie advises future brides. “It’s supposed to be the most special time in their lives, but it ends up being the most stressed out time. Keep it about you and not your guests.”

VENUE: Wild Terra

PHOTOGRAPHER:

Kelyn & Co. Studio

SECOND

PHOTOGRAPHER:

Chasing Dragonflies

Photography

DECOR RENTALS

AND SETUP:

Breathe and Relax Events

DRESS:

Affairs by Brittany

MEN’S ATTIRE:

Halberstadts

HAIR: Nora Salon

MAKEUP:

Blushed Beauty Bar

FLORIST:

Floret + Foliage

CATERING:

Mosaic Catering

CAKE AND CUPCAKES: Kelsey Grivno, sister of the bride

renae + austin

SEPTEMBER 14, 2019

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN

PHOTOGRAPHY : HALEY FROST CREATIVE

An adventurous couple who love traveling, camping and being outdoors, Renae and Austin knew The Pines was the perfect venue as soon as they saw the original sketches and plans — before it was even built. Renae says, “We wanted to get married outside and their outdoor ceremony spaces are so beautiful.” They took the venue’s natural lighting, gorgeous farmhouse tables and tree-lined trails as inspiration for a whimsical forest-themed wedding day.

The mid-September day started out with drizzling rain and a moody atmosphere that seemed destined to enhance their whimsical forest theme. After a morning of getting ready and enjoying time with their wedding party, the couple met for a first look on one of those tree-lined trails. “It was just the two of us and the photographers, so it was really intimate and relaxed,” says Renae. “It was a really special moment between us before the craziness of the rest of the day started.”

The sun came out just before the ceremony so Renae and Austin could say their vows outside in the open field. Renae carried a lush bouquet of flowers centered on the flower that inspired it. “I saw a post on Pinterest of a bouquet with a king protea in it and knew that I had to have them because of how beautifully unique they are,” says Renae. “I was so glad that the florist was able to add it in my bouquet, and queen proteas in the bridesmaid bouquets, because I absolutely loved how they turned out.” She floated down the aisle in a stunning lace and tulle gown accented with a dusty rose velvet ribbon that complemented Austin’s floral tie and subtly patterned suit. A personalized ceremony officiated by Renae’s uncle was especially meaningful for the couple.

After the “I do’s,” the wedding party finished taking photos while guests entertained themselves with cocktails and yard games handmade by the groom. Everyone sat down inside for dinner at elegant tables laid with greenery, candles and gold accents. Renae says her favorite part of the day was after dinner. “Everything was over and we could finally just relax and celebrate with all of our friends and family and take it all in.”

Renae advises engaged couples to keep focused on each other. “Everyone is going to have an opinion, which can be a little overwhelming. Heed their advice, but in the end it is you and your future spouses’ special day, so your primary focus should be what you two want.” She also credits photographer Haley Frost Creative with creating a wedding day timeline to keep everyone on track. “It was so helpful to distribute to the wedding party and our families so everyone knew exactly where they needed to be and when.”

The newlyweds went exploring, snorkeling and hiking on their honeymoon in Maui. They live in Fargo with their two cats and a dog, Nellie, who loves going on adventures with them in their spare time.

VENUE: The Pines

PHOTOGRAPHER: Haley Frost Creative

BRIDAL GOWN: a&bé Bridal Shop, Minneapolis

BRIDESMAID DRESSES: David's Bridal

MEN’S ATTIRE:

Halberstadt’s

RENTALS: The White House Co.

FLORIST: Love Always Floral

HAIR: Maggie Dahl

MAKEUP: Artistry by Kimberly

CAKE:

Libby’s Cupcakes Etc.

DJ: Complete Weddings & Events

CATERING:

Chef’s Table

RINGS:

Riddle’s Jewelry

SIGNS:

Lettering by Samantha

WEDDING PLANNING 101

how to plan a beautyregimen For your wedding

WORDS : WASIFA AHMAD HASAN Follow Wasifa on INSTAGRAM: @sifascorner

PHOTO : Valerie Elash on unsplash.com

Wedding planning is hard and exhilarating at the same time. From picking up the dream wedding dress to finalizing the venue, it’s stressful! During this colorpicking, food-tasting and shopping time, sometimes we forget that a wedding beauty ritual is something one should start long before the actual wedding date — almost a year to be exact.

If you are getting married soon, or planning your wedding, here is a guide to creating the perfect beauty routine for your wedding and honeymoon.

when to start a beauty regimen for a wedding:

To be exact, start your beauty routine right after your engagement. Many estheticians and skincare specialists will ask you to start a proper regimen 8-10 months before the wedding. I have interviewed many skin specialists for my blog, and they all say the same thing: You will need at least 8-10 months to see a noticeable difference and improvement in your skin as it takes around 28 days for skin cells to turnover.

MAKE AN APPOINTMENT with your dermatologist:

There are thousands (or more) concealers and foundations on the market, but the allure of a healthy supple skin should, without a doubt, be number one on your priority list. We all have some (or a lot of) skin troubles we face daily. This is why you should start with an expert consult. Set up an appointment with your dermatologist. Talk about your skin problems, skin goals and devise a realistic strategy to achieve the healthiest skin.

when: 1 YEAR OUT

exercise:

Depending on your physical activity level, start doing some type of workout to look and feel your best on your big day.

when: 6-8 MONTHS OUT

start eating colorful:

And by colorful, I mean colorful veggies and fruits. I am not talking about a drastic diet change or “juice cleanse.” I am talking about incorporating healthier foods in your diet. I believe in taking care of our skin from within. Which is why a healthy lifestyle is the key to getting healthy skin. Try to lessen salt, excess sugar and fried foods, and drink lots of water. These small changes make a huge difference in 6-7 months. You will notice less puffiness and bloating. (Yes, our grandmas were right!)

when: 1 YEAR OUT

sleep:

Sleep is the time when new cells are being created in all our body tissue — skin, muscle and hair. When we sleep, it's the only time our brain can repair and reorganize, which is why maintaining a proper slumber ritual and sleep time is essential for a healthy mind and body.

when: 1 YEAR OUT

hair removal:

If you want to go to the laser hair-removal route, I suggest starting it as early as possible. It is a pricey and time-consuming procedure, but in the long run the overall result is better than the tradition methods of hair removal. Depending on where you go, sessions can range from $200 to $350, and planning should be done 9 to 12 months before the wedding, as it typically takes 6 sessions spaced 6 weeks apart to see permanent results.

when: 1 YEAR OUT

product upgrade:

Using products with retinol and alpha hydroxy acid help to diminish hyperpigmentation and increase cell turnover. Keep in mind that products with retinol and prescription-strength retinoids can cause redness, peeling and possibly acne at the outset before all those benefits kick in. It will take 4-8 weeks to adjust with a retinol product. Products with hyaluronic acid will help skin retain moisture and look plumper and healthier. So learn about the ingredients available to you, and talk with your dermatologist before you start new products.

when: 8–9 MONTHS OUT ››››

regular facials:

Everyone’s skin is different, so you don’t know how your skin will react after a facial. To estimate how long it takes for your skin to look its best after a facial and time your final treatments accordingly, it’s best to start having regular facials from a professional as early as possible. You can work with your skincare specialist to figure out which facial regimen to follow and what type of treatments should you get leading up to your wedding day that will address any issues or concerns. Even if you do not want to use aggressive methods like peels and deep exfoliation, simple procedures like gentle exfoliation, facial masks and facial massages, if done regularly, will create the perfect base for makeup on your wedding day.

when:

9 MONTHS — 1 YEAR OUT

sun protection:

All the hard work you are doing for your skin will fail if you don’t use a sunscreen while going out. Your skin will be sensitive to sunlight after doing facials or using retinol products, so sunscreen is a must.

when: 1 YEAR OUT

tanning sessions:

Skip the harmful tanning bed and opt for a sunless spray tan, bronzing powder or a tinted body lotion, which are the best options for a luminous glow from head to toe. These will even out skin tone and hide any imperfections like stretch marks, scars, redness and cellulite.

when: 1 MONTH OUT

rest of the body:

The rest of your body will need some TLC too! Start by doing dry-brushing which means massaging your body with a body brush while dry. It produces major skin benefits, including exfoliation and increased blood circulation. Also, start using a gentle cleanser in the shower followed by a moisturizer or oil immediately afterwards. A humidifier for your home also helps your skin by introducing moisture.

when: 9 MONTHS — 1 YEAR OUT

hair color:

Whether you're going lighter or darker, try out the hair color at least six months before your wedding and from a professional colorist. Talk with your hairdresser and show inspirations of what you are looking for. Discuss the maintenance involved after coloring the hair.

when: 6 MONTHS OUT for test driving initial color; 14 DAYS OUT for your last pre-wedding touch-up.

haircut:

Get a proper haircut before the wedding to get rid of the split ends and dullness. Never, I repeat, never try a drastic haircut just before the wedding. Try out extensions if you want some extra length.

when: 6 MONTHS OUT

brows:

Do you pluck your own brows? If yes, then stop all the plucking, waxing and tweezing. Most of the time when we do our own brows, we tend to over-pluck, causing to lose all of our natural arch shape, which can change the facial expression altogether. A good aesthetician can give the brows proper shape to fit our faces before the big day.

when: START 1 YEAR OUT

microblading:

If you have sparse brows and want to go for a better solution, consider microblading. With microblading, you get natural brows without worrying about sweat or water getting in the way of beautiful brows. Just like the lash extension, go to a professional who has a good reputation. Have you seen their previous work? Does it look natural and flawless? If yes, then commit to it.

when: 3 MONTHS OUT

the power of a proper beauty regimen is incredible and it creates the best version of ourselves before the wedding.

PHOTO : Irina Iriser on pexels.com

lash extensions:

Lash extensions are great for brides who don't want to worry about having beautiful fuller lashes from the rehearsal dinner through the honeymoon. It also looks beautiful in pictures and causes less hassle than false lashes. Always go to a renowned lash extension specialist.

when: 1 MONTH OUT

and 3-5 DAYS OUT FOR A TOUCH-UP

dentist:

Wedding pictures are forever and you will most likely have a lot of pictures with your mouth exposed. A gorgeous smile starts with healthy gums and teeth. So talk to your dentist about teeth whitening or investing in braces or clear aligners. Consider splurging on professional-grade teeth whitening.

when: 1 YEAR — 6 MONTHS OUT. Teeth whitening touch up 1 month out.

nail care:

Keep your nails hydrated and healthy by using an oil on your cuticles nightly before bed. Use a hand cream whenever you are washing your hands. Getting a regular manicure is a good way to care for cuticles, nourish nails and also relax your mind. So treat yourself to a professional manicure every few weeks leading up to your wedding to ensure your hands and nails are in perfect condition.

when: Start routine 1 YEAR OUT.

Professional manicure 3 MONTHS OUT.

Final manicure 2—3 DAYS OUT.

Whether you are starting or upgrading your beauty routine, doing a proper wedding beauty regimen is a great way to de-stress and energize yourself before the nuptials. When you follow a beauty regimen well, your makeup will look good, your hairstyle will look amazing and you will feel your best. And who doesn’t want to feel the best in their big day?

the indecisive bride

Follow Angel's Keen Angles on INSTAGRAM: @angelskeenangles FACEBOOK: @angelskeenangles WEBSITE: angelskeenangles.com

A STORY ABOUT A GIRL WHO IS PERFECTLY HAPPY KEEPING IT SIMPLE

: ANGEL EVENSON

Her engagement ring glimmered in the sunlight as she sipped on her vanilla latte. She slowly set her mug down on the wood grain table as the sun caught her ring just right. A bright glare shot right into her eye as she quickly blinked away the sun-induced tears.

“Whooooah, fancy,” she thought. “I’m not quite used to that!” She admired her sparkly ring as she reminisced about how long she had waited for this moment. An engaged woman, soon to be married!

Her smirk faded to a worried frown.

The glimmering of her engagement ring jogged her memory as she started to sweat.

“Four months to go …” she uttered to herself. “I should probably get some stuff done for the wedding. But … I already have my dress picked out and the ceremony spot decided … is there really anything else I need to do?”

She laughed at herself knowing full well there was plenty left to do. Yet, it didn’t seem to matter that much to her. Does it really matter if there are flowers there? Will anyone really notice? Why do they have to wear suits? Can’t they just come in dress pants and whatever is in their closets? Who really cares if they match, it’s kind of edgy if they don’t.

A mental checklist made its way to the front of her mind: Dress … check; Ceremony and reception location … check; Meal … working on it; Dessert … do we really need dessert? (#momthinkswedo, #betterdoit)

Good enough for today. What am I doing this weekend?

WORDS

PHOTO : ASHLEY OBERHOLTZER PHOTOGRAPHY

Her thoughts were interrupted as her phone rang. She hurriedly silenced the blaring ring, reminding herself to change the tone one day, as she read the caller ID. It was her mom. She perked up and puffed her chest out because she’s actually quite proud. Why, you ask? She knew full well that once she answered the phone, the inevitable question of “How is wedding planning going?” would come up, and she could say: “You caught me mid-planning!” #halftrue.

“You caught me mid planning!” #halftrue

Her mom started asking questions.

She started sweating again.

She wiped away the beads as she tried to listen with an intermittent “mmm hmm” to prove she was listening.

The questions kept coming.

She drifted off into her own thoughts.

People care whether they sit on a chair with a chair cover or not? That’s actually a thing?

What’s a “block of hotel rooms?” Music? Spotify, baby! I should probably start working out …

What is an officiant?

Can I wear flip flops? ‘Cause, I’m gonna.

“Are you listening?” Her mom’s voice interrupted the conversation in her head as she choked on her coffee.

She heard her, kind of. “Yeah, Mom, I hear you,” she responded.

The details weren’t her thing. She didn’t want to be pressured to care about things she didn’t really care about. But, hey, if there were people who were more opinionated about how things looked and were willing to pay for them and organize it, have at it!

Have you heard of bridezilla? She is the opposite.

Does she sound like a dream wife? Too bad for you, she’s taken.

Catch more of Angel’s witty and entertaining takes on life at her blog: angelskeenangles.com. [ aw ]

wedding photography we love

PHOTO : ABBY ANDERSON VENUE : OXBOW COUNTRY CLUB abbyanderson.com

PHOTO : TWO BIRDS PHOTOGRAPHY

PHOTO : HALEY FROST CREATIVE

PHOTO : TRUE EXPRESSIONS, KELSEY BUCHHOLZ

PHOTO : SCHERLING PHOTOGRAPHY scherlingphotography.com

No more white, please!

2020 COLOR TRENDS

During an interminable North Dakota winter, amid mountains of white, we find ourselves spending more time not just at home, but inside. It comes with the territory, living where we live. But as winter rages outside, we look around our homes with a more critical eye and think, “Wow, we haven’t painted this room in years!” “How did this hole get here?” “What was I even thinking with that yellow!” If you move the couch, the paint is a different color behind it, the surrounding wall having faded ever so slightly, but the 18 square feet behind the couch untouched by light or eyes for years.

New year, new paint. It’s a good resolution to make, and a relatively easy one to keep. The hardest part can be choosing a color. Every year, the major paint companies name their Color of the Year. Here we present you with some of the Colors of the Year, as a source of inspiration and information.

Naval SHERWIN-WILLIAMS

Sherwin-Williams has named “Naval” it’s Color of the Year. “Naval” is a rich navy and a timeless color, with distinctly Art Deco influences when combined with metals, especially gold. sherwinwilliams.com

For 2020, Benjamin Moore has named “First Light” as it’s Color of the Year. The company describes the color as a “soft, rosy hue blooming with potential,” and a “backdrop for a bright new decade.” benjaminmoore.com

Photo provided by Sherwin-Williams

WORDS : TAMIE ZACCHEA

Back to Nature BEHR

“Back to Nature” is Color of the Year for Behr, sold only at Home Depot. “Back to Nature” is a restorative and revitalizing green, nature’s favorite color. behr.com

Pale Powder VALSPAR

Valspar does their Color of the Year selection differently, selecting 12 colors and providing styling and guidance for each one. One of the colors is “Pale Powder,” a warm alternative to the full cycle of grays of the past few years. valspar.com

Don’t see anything you like? Do you like the idea of green, but not this particular green? Don’t let that stop you. All the paint companies have websites and many offer color guidance right on the site. If all else fails, all the paint companies featured in this article are sold locally and have experts in the stores to help you decide.

Photo provided by Behr

the soft throw down

Someone once said there can never be too many pillows on a couch. Whether that’s true or not, pillows do make a couch more inviting and comfortable. Swapping out your throw pillows entirely, or just adding or subtracting a few here and there, can change the look and feel of the whole room. And it’s a guaranteed way to personalize a new couch that came with pillows you may not love.

WORDS : TAMIE ZACCHEA

It’s also an inexpensive way to embrace trends in color and fabric, without changing your entire decorating scheme.

Blush pink is hot in decor right now. These three beauties from Burlap Rustic Chic Boutique (who dubs this shade “Nordic Blush”) are right on trend. Faux fur, by local maker Raylene Vettel, and chenille options give your room a retro vibe with warmth, texture and comfort.

BURLAP : 3401 South University Drive, Fargo

Speaking of retro, these midcentury round velvet cushions are made by artisan women in India. Available at OTHERS FAIR TRADE BOUTIQUE. 218 North Broadway, Fargo.

it's the little things...

Earth tones and traditional styling are also making a comeback for the new decade. Eco Chic offers some great options that combine the two, like these geometric earth tone pillows on a classic leather sofa. These are down filled and were designed by Joanna Gaines.

ECO CHIC : 3265 45th Street South, Fargo

FEELING CRAFTY?

Use an old sweater and make your own throw pillows. This is especially great if the sweater was going in the trash — reuse, recycle, restyle all at once. Pillow forms are inexpensive and can be purchased at craft and hobby stores.

the BUFF life

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WORDS & PHOTOGRAPHY : ASHLEY SORNSIN

We are well on our way into this New Year, not to mention new decade (wow, can you believe it?). And each new day brings plenty of triumphs as well as challenges. There can be a lot of pressure thinking about following through with some of those resolutions we’ve set — especially as we’ve embarked on a new decade. Let me help you take that pressure off so you can focus on making the next best decision, each moment. Start each day bringing your very best and remind yourself that each person you come in contact with, from your family to colleagues, is doing the best they can at that moment. After all, we are in this together, living ‘The BUFF Life.’ It’s a lifestyle that prioritizes the principles my company, BUFF, represents: Believers Uniting Fitness & Food. I believe that by prioritizing faith, family, fitness and food, we can unite and connect with a community that has these same values. Welcome to The BUFF Life, I’m so glad you’re here!

FAITH: “With God, all things are possible.”

MATTHEW 19:26

Your dreams should be so big that without God, they are impossible to achieve. Sometimes we dream so small, thinking it’s impossible and unrealistic to set those big dreams, but God laughs knowing all things are possible to those who believe in Him. Remember to involve Him in each step, praying about these goals. Be flexible and realize God is working in His perfect timing. I love this Bible verse and am so encouraged by these words. I hope you are too.

FAMILY:

Sometimes the cold days get long (I know, tell you something you don’t already know!). But we love these days, as they make us creative, doing new things that bond us as a family. We especially love getting in the kitchen, whether it’s baking cupcakes, creating our own protein pancakes, or the girls taking charge creating a meal, following a recipe in a kid friendly cookbook and even setting the table. It becomes a pinch of science, a dash of experimenting and a whole lot of bonding, with the bonus of enjoying our delicious creations at the end. Find a new cookbook, choose a recipe and get cooking!

FITNESS:

Make fitness fun! We love being active as a family and it’s extra fun when we can do a MELT fitness class at Maximum Performance and Fitness with Carli and Kendra. It’s important to us that we set the best examples of being healthy for the girls and teach them that being active is part of a healthy lifestyle. It’s great bonding time for us and we give each other lots of high fives. Try a group fitness class that’s family friendly. It’s a great way to get everyone involved.

FOOD:

Overnight oats are such a great breakfast or snack that all ages love. They are so versatile, with tons of add-in options, but the best part is they’re healthy, delicious and satisfying. This recipe is allergen friendly, meaning it’s gluten, lactose and nut free, and I used one of my favorite nut-free butters, natural SunButter. This is super easy to put together and great to meal prep for the week, so whether it’s just you or your whole family, everyone can make something they will like. This recipe is a real all-star that I think everyone will enjoy.

Sunny Monkey

Overnight Oats

Serves 1

recipe:

½ cup oatmeal, gluten free

½ cup coconut milk

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 teaspoon pure maple syrup

1 tablespoon SunButter, natural

½ banana, cut into slices

1 tablespoon mini chocolate chips

directions:

1. Add all ingredients to a 16 ounce mason jar, except banana and chocolate chips.

2. Add cover and shake (this is fun for kids especially); remove cover, add banana slices and chocolate chips.

3. Replace cover and place in refrigerator; keep refrigerated overnight (or at least 30 minutes). This will keep for 2-3 days refrigerated (any longer and the banana will turn brown, but will still be good).

WORDS : AUBREY TYSON PHOTOGRAPHY : BEAUTY MARKS BOUDOIR

becoming balanced

LOCAL PRACTICE HELPING WOMEN LIVE THEIR BEST LIFE

Built on friendship and passion, Becoming Balanced is a new health and wellness practice in Fargo with a focus on women's health. Owned by Dr. Desiree Zielke, a licensed psychologist, and Trishia Powell, a licensed independent clinical social worker, the Becoming Balanced office has a welcoming feeling, especially when “Mom” (Zielke’s mother, Debra) greets you.

"I love the fact that my mom is a part of our office. When I send clients to the front or speak with them on the phone, I tell them to speak with Mom." Laughing, Zielke explains that not only would it be weird to refer to her mom as Debra, but having a mother figure in the office helps remove some of those first appointment jitters that are common among new clients.

Breaking down barriers is a common theme between Zielke and Powell. Guided by their passion for holistic living, they work with clients both together and separately to help them live their best life while managing day to day stresses.

"Although the demographics of our clients range and often differ between the two of us, we have the same goal in mind for every woman we see, which is to help them be the best version of themselves, day in and day out," says Powell.

Becoming Balanced focuses on numerous aspects of a woman's health, including stress management, varying levels of depression and anxiety, self-care, mindfulness, improving communication, and adjustment to life stressors or transitions.

"The clients that I typically see are women who are new moms, women trying to get pregnant, and women who are taking on new roles in their life. Desiree, on the other hand, meets with women who are seeing a large transition in their life, like becoming a caregiver for a parent, entering retirement, living with a chronic medical condition, or working through various states of depression and anxiety. In the spring, one of our focuses will be on postpartum depression. In general, this topic is very sensitive, but it is something that needs to be discussed. It is something that needs to be viewed as a legitimate time in a woman's life when extra support and care is needed," says Powell.

By speaking about and hosting events surrounding sensitive topics like postpartum depression, Powell and Zielke hope to reach members of the community who typically don't ask for help, or view their everyday struggles as something that will eventually subside.

"Women, as a whole, have a tough time asking for help. By holding events and group gatherings, we hope to remove the stigmas and break

down barriers, giving women a chance to learn, vent and digest information in a safe space. It's also a great opportunity to meet other women who may be going through the same life changes," adds Zielke.

Offering events and groups is just one way in which Powell and Zielke reach out to community members. Utilizing their Facebook page, the dynamic duo holds contests with themes and giveaways to help make light of some of the tough subjects while connecting women through a universal concept.

"In January, we are focusing on self-care, so we asked our followers to post comments of their self-care routine. Each post or comment was then entered into the contest. We find it's a fun way to open up a dialogue among women, encouraging them to share the little things, those moments that help them remain centered and in control of their life," says Zielke.

In 2020, Powell and Zielke are looking to expand their services. These additions include a nutritionist who will be focusing on holistic healthy living, individualized yoga sessions, psychotherapy groups, essential oil learning, as well as educational events to discuss numerous topics surrounding women's health.

"Our goal, above all else, is to help women feel safe and secure while they work on themselves. It can be a tough move, asking for help, which is why we make sure every aspect of our office and each member of our team showcases love and support for our clients," adds Powell.

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patient proves you can recover FROM HEART FAILURE

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I knew something wasn’t right,” explains Florence Nesvold. In October 2019, the spry 82-year-old was walking the trail behind her home when sudden shortness of breath and a rapidly beating heart stopped her in her tracks. An avid walker and someone who has been very active all her life, the symptoms were cause for concern.

When the rapid heartbeat didn’t go away, kept her from sleeping, and made it difficult to walk, Nesvold went to her local clinic, Essentia Health-Fosston. From there, she was sent by ambulance to Essentia Health in Fargo. During her stay in Fargo, an angiogram found that while there was no blockage, Nesvold did have congestive heart failure — a surprise diagnosis for Nesvold and her family.

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“Congestive heart failure is a weakened heart that is not pumping as effectively as it should be,” explains nurse practitioner Kristen Hogan. In Nesvold’s case, her heart muscle was weak and not doing a good job emptying blood from the atrium into the left ventricle, then pumping blood from the left ventricle into the body.

The amount of blood pumped by the heart into the body is referred to as ejection fraction. In a normal heart, this number should be 50-70%. When initially tested, Nesvold’s function was 25-30%. When the symptoms of shortness of breath and a rapid heartbeat appeared, Nesvold’s heart was failing. Her body was retaining fluid and causing the symptoms.

It’s important to note that heart failure is something you can recover from. “Patients come in and they are usually scared and think this is the end,” Hogan says. “Your heart can recover. It might take some work on your part, but you can recover.”

“Boom… just like that, I was short of breath and my heart was pounding.

Essentia Health Nurse Practitioner Kristen Hogan

Florence Nesvold

“Oddly enough, I wasn’t too shook up about the fact that all of this was happening. My care at Essentia Health has been fantastic,” Nesvold says. “I feel so comfortable with Kristen. She’s so good at calling me back and fixing any issues or giving me the results of my tests. She’s thorough and takes her time to think things through before ordering tests or prescribing something. Kristen has also been very accommodating and making sure what can be done in Fosston is done there to limit the times we have to travel.” This is one benefit of an integrated health system.

Nesvold was discharged from the hospital with an external defibrillator to wear while she worked to strengthen her heart muscle. With her diagnosis, she was at a higher risk for ventricular arrythmia or abnormal heartbeats that may result in cardiac arrest. The defibrillator can sense any abnormal arrythmias and shock the heart back into normal rhythms.

Nesvold started cardiac rehab to help build up her heart function. After three months of cardiac rehab, medication and lifestyle changes — such as limiting her sodium intake — her heart function has jumped to 45-50%. She’s back to the low end of the normal range, which both Nesvold and Hogan are very happy about.

“Compliancy is very important with heart failure patients. You have to make lifestyle changes and diet modifications such as lowering sodium intake and exercising 150 minutes a week as recommended by the American Heart Association,” Hogan shares. “Daily weight checks are also key. If you gain 2-3 pounds overnight or more than 5 pounds in a week, call and check in.” The weight increase is likely due to fluid accumulation in the body. Keeping on top of these things will allow any issues to be relieved sooner rather than later.

Nesvold is looking forward to finishing her cardiac rehab program and getting back to her normal activities — walking two miles every day, sewing, quilting and moving snow alongside her husband of 62 years, Ernie. As the weather turns nicer, she looks forward to yard work, gardening, canning and more walking.

Nesvold doesn’t plan to slow down anytime soon. Thanks to expert cardiac care at Essentia Health, she doesn’t have to.

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The Heart of a Nurse: HONORING HIS CAREGIVERS BY PURSUING A NURSING DEGREE

WORDS : ERIN HEMME FROSLIE PHOTOGRAPHY : DAVE ARNTSON

Carson Kitch doesn’t remember the nurses who cared for him while he was a baby dying of liver disease. And yet, the Minnesota State University Moorhead student wants to honor their work — and the profession of his grandmother — by becoming a nurse himself.

Kitch was born with biliary atresia, a rare and serious liver disorder that occurs when the bile ducts become blocked. Before he was 1, Kitch received a liver transplant and had open-heart surgery to repair a hole in his heart. “I was a little peanut who was dying,” Kitch says. “I want to give back in honor of those who helped me. It would be selfish not to.”

To achieve his dream, Kitch will be one of the first students to apply to MSUM’s bachelor of science in nursing (BSN) program that starts in the fall of 2020. The university is launching the program to help fill nursing positions in the region.

The career choice also has Kitch following in the footsteps of his grandmother, Ruthie Horob. Horob retired from Essentia Health after 46 years of service as a nurse. She was touched when Kitch announced he wanted to pursue the profession. “For me, it’s a special connection,” she says. “Nursing will be such a good fit for him. All he wants to do is to help people.”

With the BSN program, MSUM now offers students multiple entry points on the professional ladder of nursing education. First-time college students can pursue the pre-licensure baccalaureate, RNs can earn the BSN, and BSN-prepared nurses can earn a master’s degree.

“To fill the huge gap for qualified nurses, we must offer nursing program options to a diverse population of students and students with other educational experiences,” says Carol Roth, co-chair of MSUM’s School of Nursing and Healthcare Leadership.

The BSN will be an eight-semester program. Once students are in the program, they’ll take classes year-round, completing the degree in three years. Applications will start being accepted in March.

Kitch doesn’t remember the more than four months he spent in a hospital as an infant. But his experiences have given him a broader perspective on healthcare than most young adults his age.

MSUM nursing student Carson Kitch with his grandmother and retired Essentia Health nurse, Ruthie Horob.

— CARSON KITCH

At age 15, he requested a cochlear implant to address hearing loss, possibly a side effect of medication he needed early in his life.

“I think those experiences will help if a patient is nervous or scared about a procedure,” Kitch says. “I can listen and give some advice. I can show them empathy.”

He also can share his sense of humor. To entertain younger cousins or friendly visitors, he occasionally gets silly with his cochlear implant magnet, attaching refrigerator magnets, screws or paper clips to his head and watching for the reaction. “You can’t be serious all the time,” he says, shrugging.

At one point in his life, Kitch’s medications filled a Craftsman toolbox. Now, he’s down to one anti-rejection medication that he takes once a day. Through it all, he keeps things in perspective: things could be worse. It’s an attitude that honors his nurses, his donor and his family.

“He’s so compassionate,” says Horob. “It’s what drives him. That’s where his heart is.”

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MARCH IS COLORECTAL CANCER AWARENESS MONTH — YOUNG PEOPLE PAY ATTENTION!

Rachel Ellingson, an attorney in New York City, was adored by her family and friends, and impacted everyone she came in contact with. Her sister, Becca Ellingson says, “She was so full of life and love and compassion. Being around her was the best thing ever.”

Her mother, Pat Monson adds, “When Rach was around you felt so happy — she took the tempo up. She loved love. Anybody who met her, even if just for five minutes, became a friend — even cab drivers in the city.”

In October 2015 Rachel was diagnosed with stage IV colorectal cancer at the age of 33. She passed away when she was just 36.

Becca found out she was pregnant the day Rachel found out she had cancer. Becca’s daughter Adlie and Rachel had a very close bond; everyone who knows them says Adlie bears a close resemblance to her aunt.

Rachel wrote about her niece, Adlie, in her blog, “She is my little earthly guardian angel and I’m so grateful to be her auntie. Even at these darkest times, it’s crazy how full of love one can be.” Rachel, according to comments left on her blog, was the very personification of love. That is why her unexpected and senseless death has left so many stunned and wishing someone had paid closer attention to her symptoms.

Rachel had shared her symptoms with several different doctors, which she had experienced for about nine months before diagnosis. Initially, she was misdiagnosed. According to Monson, 67% of young onset colorectal cancer patients (those 20-45 years old) see at least two doctors for their symptoms before they are diagnosed, and 17% are initially diagnosed with other conditions — typically hemorrhoids or irritable bowel syndrome.

Rachel told her mom it was easy to ignore her symptoms, which included anemia and rectal bleeding, because the professionals weren’t taking note. It got to the point where she could no longer ignore them.

After seeing an internal medicine doctor in New York City, Rachel finally asked for a referral to a gastroenterologist, who did an exam and found the tumor. A biopsy and further scans showed she had stage 4 colorectal cancer that had metastasized to her liver and lungs.

Rachel always embraced life with passion and humor and approached her diagnosis and treatment in similar fashion. The blog she kept during her treatment is filled with quotes, drawings and Rachel pouring out her heart. It highlights the nature of a young woman who had a passion and curiosity for life and spirituality, even as she endured multiple painful surgeries.

Monson is determined that no other young person should be dismissed because of age when complaining of symptoms of colorectal cancer. She knows of several

Every now and then you get ricocheted into these really dark places, but the light that shines from your loved ones is the most brilliant thing you’ll ever see.”

FROM RACHEL ELLINGSON’S BLOG: rachelsremarkableride.blogspot.com

Becca Ellingson (left) and Pat Monson

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young people, including one of Rachel’s best friends, who, because of Rachel’s experience, was checked and found to have precancerous polyps. A friend of Becca’s, whose birthday fell on the day Rachel died, wrote to tell her that because of Rachel, she had a colonoscopy, which saved her life. Her family was counseled to be screened and several others were found to have the deadly disease.

In a short span of time, Rachel’s story has already saved lives. It is Monson’s mission, as it was Rachel’s, to educate young people and health care providers about the symptoms of a disease that has more often been associated with older people. While the incidence of colorectal cancer in people over 50 is declining, it is increasing in younger people and the reasons are unclear.

People must begin talking about colorectal cancer even though it’s an uncomfortable subject. With Rachel as her inspiration, Monson set up a fund through Dakota Medical Foundation with the goal of educating the public, doctors and health care providers who will be evaluating patients.

The fund has printed blue t-shirts with a picture of Rachel and the words “live like Rach” on the front. On the back, under the heading “see something, say something,” taken from Rachel’s blog, is a list of key symptoms of colorectal cancer, including: change in bowel habits; bloody stool/rectal bleeding; weakness and fatigue; and weight loss or gain.

Adlie points to a picture of her aunt Rachel.

COLON CANCER SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS

♦ rectal bleeding or blood in your stool

♦ a change in your bowel habits, such as diarrhea, constipation, or narrow stool that lasts more than a few days

♦ unexplained abdominal pain or cramping

♦ a persistent urge to have a bowel movement that doesn’t go away after you have one

♦ unexplained weakness and fatigue

♦ unintended weight loss

♦ a diagnosis of anemia

♦ women who have bloating that doesn’t go away or happens with unexplained weight loss

Contact your doctor if any of these problems are severe or continue longer than you think they should. If you have any rectal bleeding or blood in the stool, tell your doctor as soon as possible.

In March Monson is speaking to UND internal medicine students and said her goal is to plant in their brains that, if someone presents with those symptoms — despite their age — they get referred to a gastroenterologist for further evaluation of the colon, so that it becomes part of their practice.

Monson stayed with Rachel for several weeks while she was in the hospital and says, “She never gave up. She did not ever look sick and she took great pride in it.” She adds, “Even when it was difficult for her to breathe because of the lung cancer, she would still have the same smile and was more concerned about others.”

The night Rachel died she was surround by beloved family and friends, who had come from all over to be with her. Her mom says, “We had a party — 12 people, friends and family — and took turns going in and out, singing songs. One of her best friends sang and danced to an old high school song by the Dixie Chicks.”

Rachel longed to make it to Sedona, Arizona — known for its healing energy. Although she did not make it there before she passed, her family

went on her behalf in October 2019. Monson says they felt Rachel’s presence, where Rachel sent many signs that were comforting to the family. It became a spiritual journey, Monson says, and they were able to scatter some of Rachel’s ashes there.

Monson finds hope in how the events of the final years of Rachel’s life and her never failing positivity will inspire others to not only go to their doctors, but to be their own best advocates if they believe further diagnosis is needed.

In Rachel’s words:

“If you do one important thing in your life, do this, and LISTEN TO YOUR BODY. Love yourself enough to stop and listen to YOU. You are the most important thing in your own universe. When something isn’t right, your body will tell you.”

From Rachel’s blog, “Rachelsremarkableride.”

Rachel Ellingson was diagnosed with colorectal cancer on October 30, 2015, and passed away on January 6, 2019.

She never gave up. She did not ever look sick and she took great pride in it.

PAT MONSON

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Done with trying to figure out who was with her, against her, or walking down the middle because they didn't have the guts to pick a side. She was done with anything that didn't bring her peace. She realized that opinions were a dime a dozen, validation was for parking, and loyalty wasn't a word but a lifestyle. It was this day that her life changed. And not because of a man or a job but because she realized that life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket.”

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If collecting garbage isn’t your job, then it’s time to kick the trash to the curb. Life has become extremely fast paced. Every second is accounted for — leaving you with an insufficient amount of time to restore your mind, body and spirit. Put on the brakes and stop giving away precious moments of time to individuals and their negative thoughts and energies, who only want to consume the sundae and not pay for it.

Pay close attention to repeated behavioral patterns with friends, co-workers and loved ones. Be especially cautious if you are an empath. Empaths tend to attract the highest volume of narcissists, as well as individuals who attach to their energy source, and extract their energy down to the last ounce. Each of us have moments of sharing our concerns or current life situations. However, when a friend starts to play the victim or blame others for their circumstances or lack of action, it is at that point that either a conversation occurs or a tie needs to

be cut. Listed below are identifying factors to assess what may or may not be causing you unnecessary stress and how to step back into enlightenment.

SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

1. Lack of respect for personal boundaries

2. Placing blame on others for their lack of action

3. Guilt-tripping

4. Feeling drained following a conversation

5. Feeling the need to disengage

6. They pretend to be concerned about your welfare, only to suck you back into the relationship/friendship for their own benefit

7. Easily jealous

8. Verbal tantrums

9. Always the victim

STEPS TO ENLIGHTENMENT AND ENERGYCONSERVATION MODE

1. Start distancing yourself and disengaging from the individual

2. Be clear with your message without being insulting. EXAMPLE: “I care about you. However, it is becoming difficult to maintain our relationship. I feel it’s best that we part ways.”

3. Establish clear-cut boundaries on expectations. EXAMPLE: “I want you to know that I do not want any form of contact from you. I need this time to heal myself and move forward on my journey.”

4. Disconnect or block them from any type of social media. This will protect you from potential contact and prevent you from expending time and energy into following their activities.

5. Focus on you (inside and out)

6. Breathe, restore and enjoy your personal growth

7. LIVE

You have an extraordinary life to live, with limitless potential at your fingertips. By eliminating toxic fumes that may be suffocating your energy field and inhibiting your personal growth, you have the opportunity to open hidden gifts that have been waiting for you to set yourself free.

It is key to understand that everyone has a different journey and vision of how life is meant to be lived. Sometimes we become fixated on the idea of who an individual could become, instead of the reality of who they currently are in the present. It is no longer your responsibility to be the energy collector. It is your responsibility, however, to be your light preserver. Wish them well in their life path and embrace the fruits you are meant to bear. You have one life to live, so live it without restrictions, without barriers, and share your passion with those who know how to give and receive. The floodgates of positive light and love are now open; enjoy the harvest of what you have sown.

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heart health: SANFORD RN USES HER TITLE TO SPREAD AWARENESS

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After losing her mother to heart disease, Sanford Health nurse Jessica Pergande became inspired to live a life dedicated to heart health and encourages everyone to do the same.

“We need to live purposefully and be very intentional every day regarding heart health in order to give ourselves the best chance of living the longest, healthiest lives we can,” says Pergande.

Pergande partners with the American Heart Association (AHA) as part of her platform, “Heart Health: Be Inspired, Live for Life.” She raises awareness and educates the community by volunteering, promoting and attending heart events.

Since her mom died, Pergande has raised over $5,000 for the AHA.

Pergande’s story

On March 12, 2018, Pergande’s mother woke up with sharp pain between her shoulder blades. She immediately knew something wasn’t right and thought it was a heart attack. ER doctors discovered she was actually experiencing an aortic dissection. That’s when blood flows through a tear in the artery wall and then in between the layers of the wall, weakening it.

“She was rushed into surgery, but as soon as she was under anesthesia, the dissection ruptured,” Pergande says. They were able to save her; however, she had multiple strokes from the extended CPR and couldn’t recover. Pergande and her family decided to take her mom, at age 64, off life support on March 15.

“After losing Mom, I began living a life dedicated to heart health, because as I found out, life can change in a second,” Pergande says. “I truly wake up every day with a heart-healthy goal in mind.”

Pergande had wanted to be a nurse since she was 9 years old. She works in the admissions recovery unit at Sanford Medical Center Fargo.

As a registered nurse, she has always believed in living a healthy, active lifestyle. She has always thought, “How can I care for others if I don’t care for myself?”

Education: signs and symptoms

According to the AHA, cardiovascular disease, or heart disease, is the leading cause of death worldwide and in the U.S., where it claims more lives each year than all forms of cancer combined.

A big part of Pergande’s platform is education. This includes teaching about signs and symptoms of heart disease, factors contributing to it and prevention methods.

“It starts with education,” she says. “Nearly 80 percent of cardiac events are preventable.”

Pergande recommends putting less salt and more bright colors on our plates, such as fruits and vegetables. She also encourages adults to get 30 minutes of physical activity a day, while kids should aim for 60.

She encourages people to see their health professionals to make sure their blood pressure is at a healthy level. Some risk factors, such as age, gender, family history and predisposition, can’t be controlled. But she’s confident risk factors can be counteracted with healthy lifestyle choices.

Pergande coaches Solidcore to raise money for the American Heart Association.

Spreading awareness

Pergande makes local news appearances and attends and fundraises at many events. She has been a part of heart walks and she also has put on charity classes at fitness gyms, with all of the proceeds going to the American Heart Association.

Most recently, she held a benefit class at Solidcore, where she is now coaching as another way to inspire the community to take part in physical activity.

Her kids have also found a passion for heart health. Her son was his school’s top fundraiser for the AHA jump rope challenge. Pergande and her children also founded “Lemonade for Life.”

“This has been incredible because it puts kids in the driver’s seat,” Pergande says. “They are the ones donating the funds to the AHA.” She says it makes them feel like superheroes and inspires them to get involved and keep hearts beating.

Pergande is grateful for the businesses that get involved in her platform. She says the most important part, though, is influencing others.

“I’ve received so many messages and emails from individuals telling me it was my social media posts, fundraisers, events, etc., that inspired them to go see their doctor due to symptoms they were having,” she says. “I’ve had people thank me for inspiring them to completely change their diet, and for helping them get off the couch.” Pergande says that kind of difference is the reason she works so hard in the community.

Jessica Pergande poses for a photo with her family.

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NDSU OFFERS lifelong learning from anywhere

Thanks to the internet, lifelong learning is only a computer away. NDSU can make it happen.

“Teachers should be lifelong learners if we want to establish a love for learning in our students,” says Samantha Olson, an elementary music specialist at Eastwood Elementary School in West Fargo. “After completing my undergraduate degree from NDSU, I knew I wanted to continue taking classes to better my craft and advance my pay.”

Olson choose NDSU’s Master of Music in Music Education program because she could complete the majority of the coursework online. She and her husband moved to Iowa so he could complete chiropractic school, and he then pursued an internship in Indiana. During this time, Olson taught music education in each state while earning her master’s degree from NDSU.

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Teachers should be lifelong learners if we want to establish a love for learning in our students.

— SAMANTHA OLSON

“I loved having online courses. I was living in Iowa and Indiana at the time and could complete my course work on my own time. Instructions were clear and professors were always available via email when I had questions,” says Olson.

Instead of writing a thesis, Olson chose to complete a practicum project, which she still uses in her classroom today. Her assignment was to create something new for her classroom.

“What other program allows you to have your final project so applicable to your career?” asks Olson. She created an Orff-Schulwerk-based ukulele curriculum. She compiled a method book that contains five different lessons on how to sequentially teach introductory ukulele using a process that focuses on student choice and creativity. “Going into the project I had zero background on ukulele, but because of my practicum and the fact that I actually use my work in the classroom, I have learned so much.”

After Olson earned her degree and her husband finished his internship, they decided to move back home to West Fargo, where they were both born and raised. Olson teaches students in grades kindergarten through 5th grade the basic elements of music as they sing, say, dance and play. She plans to make Eastwood Elementary her “forever school.”

Olson encourages people passionate about music to pursue music teaching as a profession. “There are a lot of opportunities in the FM and surrounding areas. Our region is booming and schools are being built everywhere. We have a great community for future educators who want to stay in the area.” According to edjobsnd.com there are at least six open music teacher positions in the state.

“I have the best job in the world because I get to spend all day making music with kids,” says Olson, who always knew she wanted to be a teacher. “When I was in high school, I fell in love with music. I joked that when I grew up, I wanted to be Mrs. Jordahl, my 9th grade band and choir teacher. I’d say I’ve come pretty close.”

things just got real WELCOME TO ADULTHOOD

WORDS : WHITNEY IRISH and ANGIE BOSSERT

When your child reaches the age of 18 years, they are considered an adult (despite your uncertainties about that). With this title comes more than just the right to gamble and buy tobacco. From here on out, you as a parent no longer have certain inherent rights related to their medical or financial details. Many assume that until a child is married, the parents remain responsible for any serious decisions if the adult child were unable to make the decision. Unfortunately, this is not always the case and this fact becomes apparent to families only when they are faced with an emergency. However, there are some simple planning techniques you and your adult children can use to protect yourselves from a potentially bad situation. Let’s walk through two scenarios.

Kacey, a 19-year-old art history major, is studying abroad in Italy. Her purse is stolen by a pickpocket. You are attempting to help her with some paperwork at the local embassy, help cancel her bank card and get her a new bank card, but everyone is saying that they can’t talk with you or share information. You even try to get information about her tuition, which you are paying for by the way, and the school won’t tell you anything. How could this have been avoided? Kacey and her parents would benefit greatly from having a general durable power of attorney in place naming one or more parents as agents authorized to make financial decisions on her behalf. This would allow the named agent(s) to manage bank accounts, pay bills, sign tax returns, cancel or apply for a lease, and other similar financial and legal affairs for the adult child. This document could also be used if Kacey were in some sort of accident and she was unconscious and unable to handle her finances. Her parents/agents could continue to pay her bills and handle her legal affairs.

Josh, an 18-year-old communications major, was involved in a car accident while away at college out-of-state and was rushed to the hospital unconscious. You are on the phone with the doctors as you try to arrange travel to be with him, but they are being very uncooperative and will not discuss his status, progress, or treatment with you. How could this have been avoided? Josh’s parents would have better luck with his health care providers if Josh had executed a health care directive with HIPAA authorization. Because Josh is an adult, health care providers are prohibited by law from revealing health information to anybody, even his parents, about him. A proper health care directive naming one or both of his parents as agents would allow them to receive information from providers about his condition and also to make medical decisions on his behalf, including treatment decisions. This is particularly important in the event your adult child is unconscious or incapacitated and a time-sensitive decision regarding his treatment and care needs to be authorized.

In either of these scenarios, because neither Kacey nor Josh had a power of attorney or health care directive, their parents would not be able to help them without seeking court appointment as a guardian and/or conservator. A guardian is appointed by the court to make personal decisions for the adult child, and a conservator is appointed to make financial decisions. In some cases, both are necessary. In order to be appointed as guardian and/or conservator, the parent would need to petition the court for appointment, and a judge would need to evaluate the situation to determine if this was necessary. This can entail notifying siblings and other interested parties, having a hearing with a judge, and testimony from the child’s doctor regarding his or her lack of capacity. Not only is this going to be much more expensive, but it will also take valuable time when a child like Kacey is overseas without money or a passport, or an emergency medical decision needs to be made for Josh.

These two documents are generally thought of for elderly clients who may be facing dementia or memory issues, but in reality, every adult (whether 18 or 81) should have them in place in case of emergencies such as these.

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No other North Dakota law firm comes close to the number of women attorneys as Vogel and we work hard to assure your success. Our wide range of practice areas include:

Family Law / Wills and Estate Planning

Criminal Defense Law / Business Law

Litigation / Immigration Law

Personal Injury and Wrongful Death

Environmental, Water Law and Land Use

Employment Law

Angie Bossert (above right), Vogel Law Firm paralegal, works primarily with the estate planning and probate practice group. She focuses on the practice areas of probate administration, estate planning, trust formation, guardianship and conservatorship law, oil and gas law, and real estate law and transactions.

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Whitney Irish (above left) is a partner at Vogel Law Firm and counsels clients in the areas of estate planning, oil and gas, probate, trust administration. She works with clients in various stages of life: young professionals, families with young children, business owners, and farmers planning for succession.

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MAXIMUM IMPACT with SKAVLEM DESIGNS

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what's your design process?

How? Start in person: I take notes to listen to each client. What audience do you want this message to reach?

What's the best way to do that?

Take it to paper: Then I draw/sketch it out.

What are the actions you want to get in response to your message?

Moodboards or Mockups:

Pre-work still - look and feel. Some projects need a bit more groundwork. Moodboards show the photography style and art direction that can then be easily applied to a project or product. Think of it as a map.

Design Layouts, Edits and Wow: For large projects, getting from How to Wow is not for the faint of heart. But with a well organized designer on your side, the end result can really grab people's attention.

ueSkavlem creates clarity and connections. Her company, Skavlem Designs, is a one-stop shop for writing, design and branding services. Clients come to Skavlem with notes scrawled on napkins and scratch paper and a collection of screenshots, vision boards, words, colors and images as inspiration. They leave with tools that are custom designed to help them connect with their customers in concise and dynamic ways.

Some opt for complete packages, like a branding strategy session or a brand refresh that provides new press releases and updates the company’s “About Us” literature and media kit. A comprehensive approach helps a scrappy startup hit the ground running and enables an established company to launch a new program, product or mission quickly.

“I love to be able to co-create those ideas with people,” says Skavlem. “I really like working with small businesses and helping established businesses expand, to be able to not only be the starting point for people, but also to be able to say, ‘Where do you want to be in five years?’ — and to help them justify that, whether they’re getting a small business loan or just putting together a business plan.”

Other clients opt for a more à la carte approach. They hire Skavlem to revamp a logo, to create an ad campaign or infographic, to generate an email template, an attention-getting social media strategy or a knockout annual report. It’s an efficient way to delegate those pesky tasks that don’t match anyone’s job description or skill set to a professional and get them off the to-do list.

For clients that fall somewhere in between the comprehensive and the pay-as-you-go models, Skavlem offers her services on retainer. It’s a solution for businesses that may not need (or be able to afford) a full-time graphic designer or marketing coordinator, but still want to work with a creative consultant who understands the company’s mission and goals.

Skavlem has no interest in dictating to her clients. The goal is a collaborative process from start to finish.

“Whenever you’re speaking to somebody, the most important thing is how you listen,” she says. “I listen to what they want and need. I try to

leave my ego and my personal style out of it. And it’s really fun to see the light come into their eyes when they say, ‘Yeah, that’s who I am.’”

As a business owner herself, Skavlem knows her customers want to get the most out of their time and money. She empowers them with a few tricks of the trade that they can implement inhouse, along with a few words of caution about when to call the pros.

“I like to help people figure out if they want to try things on their own, or figure out where they want to make an investment,” Skavlem explains. “I give them other options they can try themselves, the things that they can do for free, the things that they can do for cheap.”

While she’s happy to help her clients learn new skills, Skavlem advises going with a trusted, established professional when creating an entirely new graphic design project, especially an image that will be reproduced in multiple formats. This is especially true for logos, since some designers (including friends and family who offer free labor and designers that can be hired online for ultra low rates) may not understand (or be bound by) U.S. copyright or usage licenses, or might alter the same design for several clients in different markets. Saving a few bucks just isn’t worth it.

“No matter who you are, whether you’re just starting out as a business or you’re a Fortune 500 company, your logo is synonymous with who you are,” Skavlem says empathetically. “And not only your trust, but your reliability. So if you start out your business by using a logo that’s not yours, or by tweaking a logo that is clearly someone else’s, you start out that relationship on a bad foot.”

Every image, marketing tool and social media campaign created by Skavlem Designs is crafted to communicate with a client’s customers in the most efficient and aesthetically pleasing way possible. Whether Sue Skavlem designs the entire campaign or just an element, consistency is key. It’s all about the brand.

“If you know what your brand is, it’s like expanding your vocabulary,” says Skavlem. “It helps you speak to more people in more ways.”

“Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

NDSU INTERIM PROVOST finds true passion IN HIGHER EDUCATION

Margaret Fitzgerald has some advice for anyone looking for professional success: Be brave, take risks and have faith in yourself.

Fitzgerald has used that strategy to make her mark as an educator, administrator and leader. After years as a professor and dean, she was recently named interim provost at North Dakota State University.

“I love what I get to do each day at NDSU,” Fitzgerald says. “Life is more enjoyable when you find your true passion. I’m happy to have found mine in higher education.”

The role of provost is central to the functions of a university. The office of the provost is responsible for academic resources and budget, professional faculty matters, academic computing, and the university’s instructional curriculum. It oversees NDSU’s seven academic colleges, graduate school, library, institutional programs, institutional research and analysis, and accreditation.

Fitzgerald says she’s had a traditional academic career. She taught for several years at a university after earning her masters degree. She then went on to earning her doctorate, and eventually tenure as a professor. Later she advanced to administrative work. She’s been associate dean at NDSU’s College of Science and Mathematics, and most recently dean of the College of Human Sciences and Education. Fitzgerald first came to NDSU in 1988.

WORDS : BRYNN RAWLINGS PHOTOGRAPHY : JUSTIN EILER

“In my role as dean, I’ve encountered so many different experiences. You never know what you’re going to come across on any given day. Of course, I look to policy for answers, but I also find it very important to take time to listen and hear the various perspectives to help solve the issue at hand,” Fitzgerald says. “I’ve learned that you can’t predict any given day, so it’s best to be flexible and enjoy the ride.”

Fitzgerald is a strong believer in strengths-based leadership, focusing on the positive attributes of each individual. She builds relationships by taking a genuine interest in faculty research, their passions and what drives them each as individuals.

Fitzgerald attributes much of her success to the great mentors she’s had along the way. Her family also is supportive of her work, encouraging her through each of her achievements.

In her role as interim provost, Fitzgerald is most excited to work with individuals from all areas across campus, both academic and student affairs.

“I always enjoy getting to meet new people and work with colleagues I don’t typically get to work with as often,” she says.

When not at work, Fitzgerald enjoys watching theater performances and often makes time to see a Broadway show or two each year. She also loves to spend time with family and friends at their lake house in Minnesota.

I’ve learned that you can’t predict any given day, so it’s best to be flexible and enjoy the ride.

— MARGARET FITZGERALD

the atmosphere you desire gathered boutique rentals creates

a unique environment for any occasion

WORDS : CAROLYN LILLEHAUGEN

PHOTOGRAPHY : HALEY FROST CREATIVE

Driving into the industrial park in south Moorhead, one sees many large non-descript buildings filling a variety of storage and work-space needs for area companies such as building contractors, electricians and manufacturers. Nestled among these businesses is an oasis of beauty sure to provide inspiration for anyone planning a special event. Gathered Boutique Rentals is an event staging business that helps people create a unique and memorable atmosphere for weddings, office parties, photo shoots or any other special occasion. Entering the front door of Gathered, gorgeous decor instantly creates a sense of warm welcome. Not only are the surroundings lovely, but Carrie Brusven the owner and chief designer immediately makes you feel like a welcome friend.

A CREATIVE AND ENTREPRENEURIAL SPIRIT EMERGES

After graduating from Gustavus Adolphus College with degrees in German and religion, Brusven accepted a position as the office manager at Our Saviors Lutheran Church in Moorhead. She knew it was not her dream job, but at the time, she wasn’t sure what her dream job was. She had an inner longing to do something creative and exciting, even “not normal,” but what could that be? So, in the midst of work, marriage and parenting two young boys, Brusven embraced the process of discernment by reading and researching, as well as surrounding herself with other creative entrepreneurial-type people.

Brusven grew up in Princeton, Minnesota, as the middle daughter in a family with three girls. Her passion for finding treasures out of others’ trash was nurtured early as their family liked to search for antiques at flea markets and auctions. Another frequent activity was creating crafts. It was common for the sisters to put on a movie and pull out craft materials to make things such as friendship bracelets, paper cranes and designs out of beads. “Though I grew up doing crafts all the time, it took a long time for me to realize I was creative,” Brusven shares. “My sister Abby majored in art at Concordia and my artistic expression didn’t seem as official as hers, so I dismissed my abilities.” Yet that inner attraction toward creative expression continued to percolate.

As she was working through years of career discernment, Brusven recognized that her dream job would include creativity, physical activity and a focus on serving people. The world of vintage rentals was an emerging industry and it attracted her attention as a service she could provide to the Fargo-Moorhead community, while simultaneously creating a life of happiness and success for herself and her family. It was an unusual concept, with no other role-models in the area, but it felt right, and so Brusven cautiously began creating this new business as a part-time gig.

A tipping point occurred when Brusven attended a 2013 “Spark of Awesome” retreat featuring international speaker Danielle LaPorte, an advocate for conscious goal setting and entrepreneurship. As she explains, “That weekend was crucial in helping me exercise the courage to move forward. I was terrified of the risk of developing this unusual business around a concept that was completely unknown, but I felt empowered to take the leap. In the midst of the process, I had an astounding revelation about myself, I discovered that I was brave!”

Soon she took another helpful step by attending a workshop for wedding coordinators and designers in California. The main stylist for the event was Jeni Maus, a frontrunner in the vintage rentals industry who was generous enough to visit with Brusven and share some of her expertise. As Brusven admits, “Since there really isn’t a field of study related to the vintage rental industry, I had to learn vicariously by watching what others were doing.” Things like developing contracts and tracking inventory are essential elements of a well-run rental business and she studied other models to develop strategies that would work well for Gathered Boutique Rentals. She not only talked to business owners, she also jumped inside delivery trucks and warehouses to learn about best processes and practices for moving, packing and storing furniture and accessories.

Each step along the way provided learning experiences as Brusven and her husband and business partner Scott Brusven made calculated decisions about business growth. Brusven’s husband Scott is the director of Theatre at Oak Grove Lutheran School in Fargo, and, also managing artistic director of his own company, Ignite Theatre, so his creativity brings a wonderful addition to the Gathered business. Besides that, his ability to build shelving, move furniture, and, in the midst of it all, make Brusven laugh, are tremendous assets.

As the business began to take shape, they determined not to take on debt, so that required they start out small, even occasionally renting out their own family things. Brusven recalls the morning when son Miles awoke and came out of his room saying, “Mom, what happened to all of our furniture?!” No problem, it had been rented out for a wedding, but would be back at the end of the weekend. As they acquired more inventory, the Brusvens initially stored it in their own home, soon taking over the porch, then the basement, next a storage unit, and eventually a space at Sanctuary Events Center. In 2018 the Brusvens acquired property at 2201 14th Ave. S., Moorhead, and now after a year and a half of customizing their warehouse and showroom, they have a beautiful place for Gathered Boutique and Rentals to call home.

blazing

I wanted to create a life for myself that was not lukewarm, but

In this new space they have ample storage for their ever-growing inventory. Five triple decker rows of custom-built shelving 16 feet wide, by 24 feet long, and 8 feet high hold the larger furniture pieces. There are letters on the aisles and pictures on each shelf to indicate the “address” where pieces belong. Other areas of the showroom house collections of vases and glassware, pillows and decorative blankets, wall hangings and mirrors, rugs, candleholders and all types of accessories to add interest to an event backdrop. If you browse through the Gathered Boutique Rentals website, you will notice interesting names for pieces of furniture. Frequently those names relate to where the piece was acquired or something about its former purpose. To hear Brusven talk about these pieces, you can tell she cares for them and loves their unique characteristics and personality.

An added benefit of the new showroom is the ability to host small events on site. The space can comfortably handle 25 to 45 guests for a seated event or up to 50 guests for a social. Included in the rental package is furniture, tabletop decor, dishware and a crew to set it up and take it down. When Gathered Boutique Rentals stages events at other sites, the design team works with clients to cultivate an idea or vision into a fully implemented and beautiful plan. On the day of the event, they bring that design to life and oversee every aspect of set-up including furniture and florals, to dishware and the dessert table. They make sure that every detail is perfectly placed, and when the fun is over, they see that it all comes down and is taken away.

Meeting with clients and discussing their ideas, hopes and dreams for the occasion is the exciting beginning of each event. As Brusven explains, “We love to help people see outside the box and create an experience for their guests that is truly unique, interesting and memorable.” Because the inventory is close at hand in the warehouse it is easy for her to help people envision and consider new options they may never have thought of on their own.

It's a great feeling to talk with a client after an event and hear them express their delight about the unique atmosphere we had created together.

THE BALANCING ACT

As with any entrepreneurial business owner, it is easy to allow work to invade every waking moment. Juggling two busy career schedules while caring for sons Miles (11) and Simon (8) has certainly been a challenge, but as Brusven and her husband describe it, “With our irregular schedules, managed chaos is simply the norm.” They both appreciate the freedom their jobs give them to take the kids to work when necessary, and one unique feature built into their new showroom is a loft hideout for the boys. “It creates a fun space for them to read, play and relax, while we work,” says Brusven. “I love that this business truly is family-run right down to my kids!” Sometimes Miles and Simon help shuffle couches or build platforms. This time of working together has given the boys opportunities to learn valuable lessons about work ethic and what it really means to pursue a dream.

At the end of the day, in spite of being sweaty, bug bitten, bruised, and sporting broken fingernails from schlepping furniture around unusual places, Brusven considers it “a great feeling to talk with a client after an event and hear them express their delight at how much they loved and appreciated the unique atmosphere we had created together.” Reflecting on the benefits of this unusual career, Brusven truly enjoys the flexibility and the opportunity to express herself in a way that adds beauty to the world. As she thinks about the journey of developing this business, Brusven wants to encourage others to be brave and take risks too. She is thrilled to have found her niche. “I wanted to create a life for myself that was not lukewarm, but blazing — and no matter how few hours of sleep I get each night, I'm still excited to get back to work the next day.”

Area Woman’s resident Bookista, Megan Elgin, serves you up with books worthy of spending your entire afternoon with.

Search for Megan on Goodreads or @meganann on Litsy and find out what she’s reading now.

books she loves

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN PORTRAIT : JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS

One of my favorite winter activities is cozying up with a great book. The best winter reads whisk me away to another place or time or feeling, where I can forget it might be below zero outside. Sometimes the escape is literal — a fantasy world, somewhere historical, maybe a different continent. Other times the escape is falling into the character you’re reading and getting a chance to feel as they feel, seeing events unfold from their perspective. So grab a hot drink, your coziest blanket, and escape into these reads.

Daisy Jones & The Six

by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Written as an oral history of a fictional iconic rock band, this novel feels like it should be every bit as real as the Rolling Stones. I devoured this book in a day, falling hard and fast as the characters captured my heart. Set in the 1970s, it follows the band from their rise in the L.A. music scene to the top as they become one of the most legendary bands in the world, where, at the height of success, they inexplicably split. Like a great rock ‘n roll song, it hit me deep in my soul. Now if only the band’s iconic album, “Aurora,” was real enough to be played on repeat.

Far From the Tree

by Robin Benway

This is a heartwarming story exploring family — the family we find, and the one we’re born into. Grace, Maya and Joaquin are biological siblings who were each given up for adoption by their birth mother. After putting her own daughter up for adoption, Grace, who was adopted at birth, goes looking for her biological family. She connects with Maya, also adopted at birth, and Joaquin, who has spent his life in the foster care system. What plays out is a contemporary novel that captures the up and down feelings of coming together and realizing that family will always be there for you, no matter what.

Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love

by Dani Shapiro

A thought provoking memoir, “Inheritance” is a book about identity, paternity and secrets. After submitting her DNA to a genealogy website, Shaprio received the stunning news that her father was not her biological father. What follows is a story of her quest to uncover the family secrets that were hidden from her and unlock her own identity. Shapiro allows the reader to feel her roller coaster emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them. The ramifications and possibilities of her situation are enormous and traumatic, and I enjoyed the way she presents them.

The Bear and The Nightingale

by Katherine Arden

A beautiful tale of winter and magic and folklore set in the icy northern kingdoms of medieval Russia. Vasya is the young and wild protagonist who can see house-spirits and catches the attention of the frost demon from the folk stories she grows up listening to. As her new stepmother convinces the village to renounce their old ways and become more devout, the household spirits can no longer protect the hearth. As misfortune stalks the village and danger circles, Vasya must call on her long hidden gifts to protect her family from the threats they believed to be only folktales. This wintery fantasy novel is perfect reading during the next snowstorm.

NEXT UP:

Finish Vasya's story with books two and three in the Winternight Trilogy.

books to read WITH

THE FAMILY:

The Wolves of Winter

by Tyrell Johnson

A captivating tale of humanity pushed beyond its breaking point, of family and the bonds of love forged when everything is lost, and of a heroic young woman who crosses a frozen landscape to find her destiny. Lynn is the kind of fierce, resourceful, charming heroine I cannot get enough of. Put her with Jax, the strong, silent, Jason Bourne type and set a group of government bad guys on their tails in the midst of a post-apocalyptic nuclear winter and you have a gripping novel I couldn't put down. Johnson is a gifted storyteller with a unique voice I absolutely fell in love with and I so hope we get more from him in the future.

Resistance

by Jennifer A. Nielsen

You may have read “The Diary of Anne Frank” as a child, but “Resistance” is an engaging, contemporary middle grade read written for ages 8-12 that will resonate with modern kids and adults alike. Chaya is a Jewish teenager living in Nazioccupied Poland. After her siblings disappear and her parents all but give up hope, Chaya is determined to make a difference. She becomes a courier, using forged papers and her fair features, and travels between the Jewish ghettos of Poland, smuggling food, papers and even people. Soon Chaya joins a resistance cell running raids on the Nazis’ supplies. The action kept things moving along at a nice pace and holds the attention of younger readers, while still keeping the history lessons intact.

There's a Monster in Your Book

by Tom Fletcher

Illustrated by Greg Abbott

An interactive bedtime readaloud, “There's a Monster in Your Book” will have your littlest ones wanting to read it on repeat. As you read, the story has kids shaking, tilting, and spinning the book to get the adorable little monster out of it. Until he falls off the page and ends up in their room somewhere. Uh-oh! Now you have to get him back into the book and tucked into bed. The playful interactive action keeps little ones engaged with plenty of opportunities for empathy for the little monster. It will have them tuckered out and snuggled into their own beds night after night.

“When you look into your mother's eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.”

— MITCH ALBOM

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