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STACY KENNEDY photographer

Stacy is a photographer that specializes in high school senior and commercial portraits. Her years in the fashion industry and behind a camera lens has gained her the reputation of creating images that stand out. Check out her portfolio at stacykennedy.com.

REBECCA MEIDINGER

Rebecca is a speaker, Bible teacher, writer, blogger and stay-at-home mom to four wild kids in south Fargo and wife to her awesome husband Paul. As a speaker and bible teacher, it is Rebecca's joy to bring messages of hope, joy and freedom in Christ to groups of teens and adult women. As a blogger, Rebecca shares the real-life challenges of marriage and motherhood. Rebecca loves a hot cup of coffee, a cool morning run, and warm sunshine on her face. Learn more about Rebecca at rebeccameidinger.com.

WASIFA AHMAD HASAN

Wasifa is a dentistry graduate, full-time blogger and makeup artist. She blogs and makes videos about beauty, makeup, fashion and lifestyle on her blog sifascorner.com.

ASHLEY SORNSIN

Ashley is a local health, fitness and life coach with a passion for inspiring and motivating others to live their best life. She started her own business, BUFF Inc., teaches group fitness classes at the YMCA in Fargo, is a health and fitness writer, has appeared on local TV as a fitness expert, and shares her life and expertise candidly on Facebook and Instagram. To work with Ashley for nutrition, fitness and life coaching, contact her online at eatlivebebuff.com.

AUBREY TYSON

Aubrey is a lover of wine, working out, reading, all things Gilmore Girls and Target. She has a deep passion for writing, travel and the entrepreneur lifestyle. Her company Brey Tyson Digital & Design focuses on digital marketing, website design and graphic design for small to mid-size businesses. Mother of two and wife to a Brit, she takes life one day at a time while reveling in the chaos of family life.

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THROUGH December 14

Give to local nonprofits this holiday season through the FM Area Foundation Caring Catalog .

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The cover story was photographed by Stacy Kennedy and written by Rebecca Meidinger, page 60.

WE NEED you THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

you can feel it. The crispness of the air, the twinkling of lights, the smell of baked goods aplenty, the hustle and bustle of plans unfolding — the holidays are near. ‘Tis the season of gathering (maybe virtually this year), gratitude, and glee. But perhaps most importantly, ‘tis the season of giving.

As we look into the holiday season and the new year, it’s the perfect opportunity to reflect on the things we are grateful for and let that gratitude help guide us in how and where to give back. Now more than ever before, charities and people in our community need our help. And now more than ever before, we are looking for ways to feel togetherness, purpose and joy. Helping others solves both.

What if I told you there was a vitamin that increases happiness, increases sense of purpose, helps you live longer, improves heart health, and lowers stress, depression and anxiety … would you take it? That vitamin happens to be called giving.

So how can you experience the benefits and joy of being a Giving Heart?

Giving Hearts Day season has kicked off, with 500 North Dakota and northwest Minnesota charities hard at work and needing our help. We’re inviting you to join this 24-hour “friendraising” event on February 11, 2021. This year, we are thrilled to include Giving Hearts who pledge their time to volunteer, in addition to those who give a financial gift.

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Give the gift of giving

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Save the date! Make donations to charities between Jan 5 – Feb 11 (100% of your donation goes directly to the charity, dollars stay local, and charity matching dollars are available).

Amber DeKrey

is the director of Giving Hearts Day at Dakota Medical Foundation. She is passionate about helping others find meaning and purpose through acts of kindness, service, and giving back to the community. Amber, her husband Brent, and their two girls live in Fargo. They love spending time outdoors and playing family games. Check out GivingHeartsDay.org for ways to get yourself, your family, or your organization involved.

We need people, families, service clubs, businesses, churches and our youth. We need you. This Giving Hearts Day season, let’s create a movement and rally a tremendous community of helpers together.

Local women share why they choose to be a giving heart!

HEATHER MITCHELL w

“I first became involved with Diamond in the Ruff a few years ago through a friend. I was searching for something in my life; I felt a void. Volunteering helped fill that void. I am so proud to volunteer. Volunteering enriches my life in a way I didn’t think was possible. I am so happy seeing a once timid and scared dog thrive in her foster home and become a great pet for a new family.”

Photo of their first foster dog Loki in 2019. FROM LEFT TO RIGHT: Jeff (husband), Loki (foster dog), Heather (volunteer), Tyson (son)

Diamond in the Ruff Volunteer

Local women share why they choose to

ALEXANDRA REBER w Jeremiah Program Volunteer

As a graduate of the Jeremiah Program, Alex knows firsthand how much volunteers mean to those being served.

“I help the Jeremiah Program because it is a meaningful way to give back and have it stay in the Fargo-Moorhead community. This program has given my son and I so much. When I volunteer, I go in with the mindset of not what I can gain but how can I serve others. The moms, children and staff greatly appreciate what all the volunteers do for the Jeremiah Program. Whether it's serving a meal before empowerment or life skills courses, helping to provide childcare, or tutoring moms, it’s very impactful.”

AMBER BLOMBERG + BLUE CROSS BLUE SHIELD ND w Hope Blooms Volunteers

“Hope Blooms’ mission is to inspire hope, happiness and emotional healing through repurposed flowers. Not only does their mission impact individuals in need in the community that receive their bouquets, but it makes such a positive impact on our BCBSND volunteers that help assemble and deliver the bouquets. It’s such a great cause, a rewarding experience, and brightens up everyone’s day who is involved. These small acts of kindness change our lives as volunteers knowing we are providing a beautiful source of hope and comfort to others.”

PHYLLIS CROWE w Emergency Food Pantry Volunteer

"I have the desire to help wherever I can, and want to stay active in the community." Phyllis believes the Food Pantry is essential to our community "to help those who need help by putting food on the table for families in need."

Phyllis has been a volunteer for the Food Pantry for 15 years.

be a giving heart!

ANNE CARLSEN CENTER

We hope that you will join in and make a gift to Anne Carlsen on February 11, 2021 for this year’s Giving Hearts Day! You’re donation DOUBLES with our match! Send a check dated February 11, 2021 or make your secure gift online on February 11, 2021 and please choose the Anne Carlsen Center! app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/14

Who will you nominate?

Support these local charities on Giving Hearts Day, and all year long!

CHRISTIAN ADOPTION SERVICES

Founded in 1985, Christian Adoption Services (CAS) is a non-profit child-placing agency licensed in the states of North Dakota and Minnesota. Formerly known as Christian Family Life Services, we have a strong history of serving clients across the two-state region. Our mission is to display God's love to children, birth parents and families by providing Christ-centered adoption services that have an eternal impact by growing forever families.

We believe that every life is precious and unrepeatable. When birth parents choose to place their child for adoption, their loving sacrifice can be an answer to prayer for a couple wanting to build their family through adoption. CAS is committed to providing quality services both for families considering adopting and expectant parents exploring their options, seeking non-judgmental education and support.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/7

FIRST LINK

Connected in Crisis. Even in crisis, from floods to the COVID-19 pandemic, FirstLink is here for you 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Your donation this Giving Hearts Day will help provide hope, healing and lifesaving resources as we continue to navigate these uncertain times together.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/256

FRIENDS OF THE CHILDREN

The cycle of generational poverty can be broken. You can help us break that cycle.

We select children facing the greatest challenges, including those impacted by homelessness and foster care, and help them change their stories. Each child is matched with a salaried, professional mentor (called a Friend) for their entire childhood, from kindergarten through graduation. 12+ years. No matter what.

Donate today and help change a child’s story.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/1139

HEART OF CLAY

Heart of Clay, Correctional Ministry in Clay County, seeks to impact the lives of men and women in the correctional facility through Christ-centered programming. Following release from incarceration or treatment, safe and sober living environments are provided through Crossing Homes. Volunteers walk along side individuals as they transition into the community.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/966

HERO: Healthcare Equipment Recycling Organization

HERO exists so no individual goes without the medical products needed to preserve their independence, dignity and health. HERO provides affordable healthcare equipment and supplies for all through the collection and distribution of donated materials. Since 1996, HERO has saved 1.7 million pounds of waste from local landfills, served 43,000 individuals, waived $742,737 in fees and served 755 global missions.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/29

HOSPICE OF THE RED RIVER VALLEY

“Everyone deserves quality of life and dignity, especially during the last months of life. Hospice care helps people live comfortably by managing pain and symptoms, but it also means much more. For 40 years, Hospice of the Red River Valley’s has helped people live well in the time they have left, creating more meaningful moments. We support the hopes and priorities of those under our care by helping them achieve what means the most to them. It could be meeting a new grandchild, going fishing with family or simply staying in the place they raised their families and called home. Every moment matters. People need our expert support more than ever; we are on the front lines of providing care during life’s most tender time. We are committed to caring for our patients, no matter the circumstances. Your donation on Giving Hearts Day provides needed comfort, care and connection.”

— Bonnie Oelschlager, Marketing and Communications Manager app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/99

We get involved and use our time, talent and resources to make a difference where we live and work because we all benefit from thriving organizations.

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HOMEWARD ANIMAL SHELTER

Homeward Animal Shelter is a local and community-funded, non-profit animal shelter. Our mission is: “Rescue. Shelter. Protect. Rehome.” We provide a second chance at happiness to lost, abandoned and ownersurrendered cats and dogs.

We’ll bring you and your new best friend together.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/277

JAIL CHAPLAINS

Jail Chaplains offers hope to men and women struggling with life-controlling problems. We model healthy relationships while sharing life skills from a biblical perspective, equipping them for a life of freedom through Christ.

You can be a partner in this life-changing work by making a donation.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/293

YWCA

Change lives with your gift to YWCA this Giving Hearts Day. Afraid and alone, women and children arrive every night at YWCA Emergency Shelter. With your help, we provide safety and services to recover physically, emotionally and financially. Your gift of $44 provides the first night of safety and hope.

app.givingheartsday.org/#/charity/85

Life is complicated.

Approximately 3 million women face unexpected pregnancies every year in the U.S.

FIND MORE LOCAL CHARITIES and ways to get involved at givingheartsday.org.

Partner with us this Giving Hearts Day, as we reach out to women and girls in our area who are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and offer them hope. Your support allows us to provide non-judgmental, decision-making mentoring, that includes adoption education, and other life-affirming supports.

701.237.4473

christianadoptionservices.org

the best skincare practices for winter

HOW TO CREATE A HEALTHY OVERALL WINTER SKINCARE ROUTINE

This year went by super-fast and it feels like just yesterday I was writing last year’s article for winter and holidays. If this pandemic situation has taught me anything, it is the importance of having a healthy routine for our body — including skin and hair. As winter is upon us, let’s talk about winter skincare. With a few adjustments (and my guidance), you can create the best skincare routine for winter.

Eat right and keep it hydrated

Healthy skin comes from within, if you want to make your skin looking and feeling the best you need to keep it healthy by maintaining a healthy diet. In colder times, many of us forego the simple thing that makes our body hydrated — water. Replace the excess caffeine or sugary drinks with water or flavored water.

Switch your products and routine

Replace the water-based gels or lightweight moisturizers for thicker creams and oils. The dry and cold weather in North Dakota is a great opportunity to add oils in your beauty routine. If you have never tried face oil, start by using Josie Maran Argan Oil. It's lightweight, non-irritating and effective, and will convert you to an oil-user.

If you love taking long baths, now is the time to cut it short and incorporate bath oils into your routine. After the shower or bath use spray-in-oil or shea-butter salve and massage it well to seal the water into the skin. The warm bath and massage will help the product to get into your skin and leave it moisturized and hydrated.

Target specific body parts for specific treatments

FACE : Try using facial masks in winter. If your skin is clogged and looking dull, use a charcoal clay mask (L'Oreal Detox & Brighten Clay Mask). If your skin is dehydrated, use a gel or cream overnight mask. (Neutrogena and Ren have some great options.) If your skin is sensitive, use water-based sheet masks (Etude House sheet masks are my go-to).

WORDS : WASIFA AHMAD HASAN PHOTOGRAPHY : Martin Reisch on unsplash.com

Follow Wasifa on INSTAGRAM: @sifascorner

LIP : Do you know there is a condition called "lick eczema"? The more you lick your sore lips the more it will aggravate the dryness. Use a formula that is free of fragrance, flavor and color for everyday use. You can use a lip scrub to get rid of dry flaky skin and finish it off with a lip balm. In this way your lips will be moisturized and juicy all winter long!

HANDS : Dry nails, torn cuticles and rough knuckles are signs of dehydration and not having enough moisturization. Use cuticle oil at night followed by a thick hand cream and Vaseline. Do this every single night. At daytime, use hand cream whenever you wash your hands or feel like your hands are getting dry. Aquaphor Healing Ointment is a great product for this.

FEET : Exfoliating frequently during the shower or doing a foot bath with some Epsom salt and bath oil helps our feet to get the necessary TLC they need. If you are suffering from cracked and flaky feet, foot-peels will be a game-changer. Patchology, Baby Foot have excellent products for your feet.

Adjust your environment

No, you cannot change the super-cold weather of our beloved city, but you can maintain a healthy and skin-friendly environment in your home. Add a humidifier and air purifier. Using a humidifier in your home or office will add moisture to dry winter air and help keep the skin hydrated. When we crank up the heat, it dries out our skin even more. So you can set the thermostat between 68 and 72 degrees to minimize skin dryness.

Don’t forget your scalp

Try massaging your scalp with coconut or almond oil weekly before your shampoo. Add a scalp detox product, e.g., Pacifica Rosemary Detox Scalp Scrub and use it once a week to get rid of dry flaky skin and avoid dandruff. Use deep conditioning masks every 10 days to keep your scalp and hair in the best condition.

Have you already started tweaking your beauty routine for winter? If not, start today. It’s not too late to start something good!

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT skincare and haircare, follow me on my Instagram @SifasCorner

PHOTO CREDIT: NICOLE MIDWEST

holiday gift guide

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Find all of the cutest holiday graphic tees and cozy flannels you need to get through the holiday season!

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Warm their hearts with this spirited holiday bouquet, arranged in a hand-painted, delightfully oversized mug from the North Pole Café! It's food safe for years of seasonal sipping delight. $49.99

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Bison masks. $10 Available at CENTRE FOR HAIR AND WELLNESS Downtown Moorhead : 218-236-6000

Indulgent, on-trend lipstick shades.

Hundreds of colors to choose from.

Custom-blend lipsticks and lipgloss available.

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Gifting solutions for everyone on your list. Choose from bundtlet towers, decorated cakes and other one-of-a-kind gifts, starting at just $6.

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sixLittle tents

SLUMBER PARTY RENTAL MADE FUN and EASY

Mom and daughter team Sarah Hopkins and Kellsie Boumont knew they were taking a big leap by launching their slumber party rental company, Six Little Tents, during a pandemic. It’s the first of its kind in the area, and offers a way for kids (and even adults) to camp “in.”

It can be a memorable way to celebrate a slumber party with friends, a fun camping-in night for siblings or cousins, or just a way for mom and dad to do something special with their kids during this time. “We know it will be a slow start,” says Hopkins, “but we hope it can bring a bit of normal to families with kids.”

The mother and daughter team behind Six Little Tents. Kellsie Boumont (left) and Sarah Hopkins (right).

WORDS + PHOTOGRAPHY : JILL OCKHARDT BLAUFUSS

Six Little Tents provides themed slumber party tents, beds and fun décor setup in clients’ homes, with four design themes: camping, unicorn, princess and boho. In line with their company name, they can accommodate six guests per theme. “We love the idea of the kids being surprised with the setup,” says Hopkins, who once had a daycare and knows how kids can be excited by the little things in life. “It’s fun to see kids excited and enjoy something designed for them.”

After clients book Six Little Tents for a slumber party, Hopkins and Boumont do all the work. “We will come to your location, do all the set up, and return the next day to take it down,” says Boumont.

Each theme offers a unique style and setup that includes an area rug, tents, mattresses, bedding (sheets, pillows, blankets) and differing décor. Plus, every child gets a keepsake to take home. “We hope that the kids remember their unique party for years to come, and tell all their friends,” says Boumont. Hopkins, who once had a daycare, loves the fun of surprising kids with their beautiful setups. “It’s fun to see kids excited and enjoy something designed for them,” she says.

Planning the themes and doing the hunting for all the materials and décor has been a great experience for the two. Boumont cites the fact that she and her mom pair well when it comes to communication and flexibility. It’s made the process of owning the business together go smoothly. “Not only has this been a fun experience, it has also been a way for us to connect and bond and keep our relationship close,” says Boumont.

Check out Six Little Tents’ different slumber party themes and find out more information about how their process works. Both Hopkins and Boumont are happy to speak with you by phone, answer questions by text or email, or answer messages on their social media pages.

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT SIX LITTLE TENTS facebook.com/sixlittletents

Instagram @sixlittletents

701-403-0221 (Sarah Hopkins)

701-640-7768 (Kellsie Boumont) sboumont@yahoo.com

WORDS : ERIN HEMME-FROSLIE, WHISTLE EDITORIAL

honoring family by helping others

A LEGACY OF HOSPITALITY AND GENEROSITY

When Viki Sand thinks back on family get-togethers at her grandparents’ house, she remembers small tables set up in various parts of the house. Spirited games of cards. Jokes. Lots of laughter.

And her grandparents — Olga and Palmer Berg — loving every minute of the crowded chaos.

“My grandparents were orphans,” she says. “I imagine them saying early on in their marriage that they’d never be alone again.”

To honor that love of family, the Berg grandchildren, all 18 of them, established an endowed scholarship at Minnesota State University Moorhead in memory of their grandparents. The cousins grew up together near Hawley and Lake Park and, in many ways, remained friends throughout adulthood. Coming together to support an endowed scholarship has brought them even closer.

“This has rekindled our relationships and has given us something to work on together,” Sand says. She herself is a 1967 graduate of what was then Moorhead State College.

The Bergs never attended college, but MSUM has had a deep influence on their family. One daughter, Bernice, earned her teaching degree from Minnesota State Teacher’s College in 1940. Eleven of their grandchildren, three great-grandchildren and two great-great-grandchildren attended or are currently attending MSUM. One grandson, Gene Schulstad, a 1966 graduate, served on the MSUM Foundation board.

The Olga and Palmer Berg family scholarship is given each year to students who are the first member of their immediate family to receive a college degree. The scholarship ensures that first-generation students have an opportunity to focus on their studies and have less debt when they leave school.

“Our foundation partners with those who want to support MSUM and our students,” says Jenni Walthall, of the MSUM Foundation. “This endowed scholarship has been made possible by an amazing and generous family and will have tremendous impact on many first-generation students. We look forward to continuing to celebrate this remarkable scholarship.”

Felicia Yang of Brooklyn Center, Minnesota, is one of the recipients of the 2020 scholarship. She’s a junior studying animation.

← Over the years, 17 of Olga and Palmer Berg's descendants attended or are currently attending MSUM. Their daughter Bernice, pictured, was the first in the family to receive a teaching degree from Minnesota State Teacher's College.

“(My grandparents) attended many, many graduations,” Sand says. “They saw what a difference public higher education made for our family.”

For her, the scholarship was more than financial aid — it was needed encouragement to continue her education. Her parents are from Laos and came to the United States as refugees of the Vietnam War. They graduated from high school but never went to college. Neither did her two older siblings.

↓ Olga and Palmer Berg were the ultimate hosts. Their hospitality and generosity live on through the MSUM endowed scholarship established in their memory.

When the pandemic struck this spring, her mother lost work hours because of illness and her father lost his job.

“We were worried about the financial situation, so I was thinking about taking the semester off,” Yang says.

Now she can continue with her schooling at MSUM where she also participates in the Asian Multicultural Organization and the Dragon K-pop dance team. She can also focus on getting an internship in the field of movie animation.

“This motivates me to push towards graduation,” she says. “That’s important for both me and my parents.”

Sand says her grandparents always invited guests to join the family for dinner or holiday celebrations. Honoring students with a scholarship in their name feels like an extension of that hospitality.

“We love the stories of our scholarship students,” Sand says. “We delight in hearing what higher education means for them.”

The endowed scholarship also gives the Berg descendants another excuse to gather. They come together each year when recipients are named; this year it was by Zoom. Since the grandchildren started the fund, other family members have contributed. And they all hope their generosity inspires future generations to honor the family legacy.

“This doesn’t just happen with one or two people. It’s successful because it taps into roots that are very deep. It resonates as right and good for our family,” Sand says.

On October 10, the Berg family was introduced to their two scholarship recipients for the year.

PHOTO : David Arntson

A DECADE of dedication to Dys LEX ia

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yourself for energy you didn’t even know you had to find the answers that it seems no one can give you. You spend your nights researching and striving to put the puzzle pieces together to learn how to overcome the challenge in front of you.

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More than a decade ago, Kari Bucholz spent her nights digging deep to find the answers to why her son, Haley, was struggling in school. No matter what she and her husband did, they could not help him, though Haley seemed to work harder than any student in his class. As any loving parents would be, they were determined to help him. On one of her late-night research binges, Kari stumbled upon the term dyslexia and suddenly everything started to click. She was able to slowly start putting the puzzle pieces together and provide Haley the support he needed.

She felt incredibly alone because no one seemed to believe in what they were doing to help him. Knowing it was real, she continued to fight for him. Her research showed her that dyslexia is a learning disability affecting one in five students. In fact, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Jay Leno and Whoopi Goldberg all faced the same challenge! She knew it couldn’t be a mountain too high to climb, but it would take a lot of determination to do so.

ou never know what you are truly made of until you face a challenge you never expected.

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dig deep within

WORDS : ANGEL EVENSON PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY HALEY'S HOPE ↗ Kari Bucholz celebrating a level completion by ringing the bell with student Megan and literacy coach Mel.

↘ Haley Bucholz with the first Haley's Hope graduate Allison Amberg — 2014.

Knowing that 20% of students with a learning disability dropout of school compared to the 8% nationwide dropout rate, Kari was committed to making sure that Haley came out on the positive side of those statistics. As she became even more invested in Haley’s education and learned more about how many children face the same challenge of dyslexia, she developed a deep desire to provide the support that so many parents and students needed.

That support materialized in 2011 in the form of a non-profit called Haley’s Hope. Providing over a decade of dedication to those facing the challenge of dyslexia, Kari now proudly shares that her son Haley graduated high school and is a successful college student. She recollects that the moment the school administrators asked Haley, “How would you like your name to read on your diploma?” was a defining moment. She and Haley looked at each other as she broke down saying, “We did it, Haley.”

Within that decade of time, Kari has never hosted a fundraising event. She always desired to, but nothing seemed to fit the Haley’s Hope mission until now. On January 17, 2021, Haley’s Hope will be hosting “Good Gaming,” a virtual gaming event where teams of three will enroll and compete for a prize valued at over $300. In this new virtual world, this event seemed to fit perfectly with their mission of giving back to the kids, while creating a fun way to connect. The event is open to middle school, high school and collegiate level students, and during the event you will have a chance to bid on who you think will win. You also have the opportunity to grab a “Good Gamer” shirt for you and your child to wear in support of your gamer. All proceeds from this event will benefit Haley’s Hope — so don’t wait; get your gamer registered today.

FOR MORE INFORMATION

on dyslexia and how you can support Haley's Hope, visit haleyshope.org.

WELCOME TO ADULTHOOD

part three: You Better Werk

WORDS : WHITNEY IRISH, VANESSA LYSTAD and TAMI NORGARD

holidays. Besides turkey and sociallydistanced family gatherings, this will also bring questions about their “future” from judgey aunties and other family members.

Kacey is asked by her grandfather, the owner of a successful local business, about some things he has seen her post on what he believes are called “The Facebook” and “Instantgram.” He is concerned these might affect her future job search.

There are no laws in North Dakota or Minnesota that expressly prohibit employers from searching prospective employees’ public social media pages when considering them for employment. Doing so, however, may reveal that an applicant belongs to a “protected class” (i.e., a class protected from employment discrimination).

One such protected class in North Dakota is participation in lawful activity off the employer’s premises during nonworking hours which is not in direct conflict with the essential business related interests of the employer. Participating in social media is certainly a “lawful activity.” However, pictures or posts on social media may relate to unlawful activity, such as drug use. Additionally, even if the content of social media is lawful, employers may find posts to be contrary to their essential business interests, such as posts that are highly offensive, hostile, or threatening in nature. In such cases, applicants may not have any protection if employers choose to not hire them based on this social media activity.

Minnesota does not have such a broad “lawful activity” protection, but does prohibit employers from refusing to hire an applicant because of their use or enjoyment of “lawful consumable products” (e.g., alcohol, tobacco). Again, applicants would not have any protection based on unlawful activity posted on social media

and they may not have any protection if the employer would simply find their posts to be offensive and contrary to the employer’s business interests.

The lesson for Kacey is that if you post on social media and your page is public, beware. Your prospective employer may be watching.

Josh has a new girlfriend and a new job. Gathered around the Christmas tree, Girlfriend opens up a very lavish gift from Josh (who, of course, was trying to impress her and show off for his family). Josh’s mother and his busy-bodied auntie pull him aside to talk with him about his spending and finances.

One tension that develops with young adults and their parents relates to money management and financial freedom. Josh has managed to save some money from a part-time job, but his family does not want to see him waste it on weekends out or trying to impress a new girlfriend.

Likewise, Josh’s parents worked hard to save money into a 529 College Savings Plan to help ease the financial burden of college. Contributions to North Dakota 529 Plans allow for favorable tax deductions for contributors. The money invested grows tax-deferred and is never taxed if withdrawn to pay for educationrelated expenses.

Requiring students to manage their own 529 Plan can help teach money management. The view of what is affordable for rent and computers may be distinctly different if parents make withdrawals from the 529 Plan, versus the student paying for it and watching their 529

Our two young adults, Kacey and Josh, are home for the

Plan balance get depleted. Of course, some periodic oversight is in order to make sure students stick to the rules and will not expose themselves to tax problems.

Young adults can get a head start to growing wealth and financial freedom by investing early. Why start investing in college? The earlier you start investing, the more time your money has to grow. If Josh started investing $200 per month, probably the amount of money he is spending on eating out and/or adult beverages (see our early article about underage drinking) his investment could grow to around $1 million by the time he was 62! There are great resources available for young adults regarding investing and financial management, like Dave Ramsey or Financial Gym.

The investment and financial opinions expressed in this article are from the personal research of the authors, and are intended as educational materials. It is very important to do your own research and analysis before making an investment, based on your own personal circumstances.

FROM THE VOGEL FAMILY TO YOURS

Whitney Irish counsels clients in the areas of estate planning, oil and gas, probate, and trust administration. She works with clients in various stages of life — young professionals, families with young children, business owners and farmers planning for succession.

Vanessa Lystad practices exclusively in employment law, handling administrative complaints, providing advice for North Dakota and Minnesota employers, investigating workplace complaints, and representing employers in employment litigation.

Tami Norgard is one of the firm’s managing partners. Her law practice includes counseling clients in areas involving energy, natural resources and civil litigation, including environmental issues, oil and gas, electric cooperative, land use and water law counseling and litigation.

We wish you much peace and joy during this holiday season.

Whitney Irish, Vanessa Lystad and Tami Norgard (pictured above from left to right) are attorneys at Vogel Law Firm.

Over the last few years, Andrea, of Distinctions by Drea, has been a part of designing more and more custom walk-in showers. Many of our lives are fast paced and the allure of the spa tub, even relaxing as it may be, doesn’t always fit into the time constraints we have on a day-to-day basis. You shouldn’t have to wait for the perfect time to relax and wash the day away, or start the day off focused for that matter.

Beyond the beauty and relaxation that a walk-in shower offers, many clients love reclaiming the space that the once rarely used tub took up in their layouts. These areas allow more function to be added in the layout with the ability to move elements in the space more freely. Efficiency and safety, as we all age, are also positives when considering this type of home improvement.

For this article, we asked, Andrea (Drea), of Distinctions by Drea, to share two of her favorites from her past design work.

THE EMERALD GODDESS

“We all remember the green and burgundy soaker tubs from a few decades ago. Having been of the burgundy variety myself that came with my own home, I found a kinship with the client whose project name will forever be, “The Emerald Goddess.” Removing the large soaker tub and small shower allowed for the design of a beautiful and airy walk-in shower. By reconfiguring the layout and moving the stool, this client also gained the ability to install a larger vanity for their master.”

Isn’t it time to shower yourself with a little pampering?

THE TUXEDO SHOWER

“The Tuxedo Shower” was designed for a client who loves a more modern, edgier and contemporary line in her home. She wanted to say goodbye to the garden tub and hello to the luxury of a walk-in shower that reflected her personal style. I had a blast working on this one!”

Customizing a walk-in shower to reflect personal style preferences is Andrea’s favorite part of the design process when working with a client. Tile selection and layout are key to obtain not only aesthetics, but functionality as well.

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FRESH FROM The FARM

silver bells, silver linings

WORDS : KRISTI BIXBY

As this difficult and strange year heads towards its close, I’m tempted to heave a sigh of relief. Aren’t we all? Along with the relief of putting 2020 in the rearview mirror comes the realization that for me, there have been some bright spots along the way this year — silver linings, if you will. And it is my hope that if you’re reading this, you can say the same.

Most importantly, I am grateful that my family has remained healthy even after a couple of close encounters with the virus. If that weren’t true, much of what have been silver linings for me this year would not have been possible.

I’m so proud to announce that

The Fargo Antiques & Repurposed Market has been voted number one in The Best of the Red River Valley in the annual Fargo Forum poll. We had been striving for this designation after several second-place finishes. Thank you to all who voted for The FARM!

On October 15, The Fargo Antiques & Repurposed Market (The FARM), my dream business, celebrated its fifth anniversary. The FARM has become a destination for collectors, and vintage and antique lovers from across the area. And there was a time not so long ago that I wasn’t sure that would happen. The Small Business Administration estimates that by the fifth year, about 50% of all small businesses have failed. As a long-time professional accountant, I’d seen it dozens of times.

And in 2020? The statistics are brutal. But thanks to an enormous amount of support and help from my family, friends, vendors and, of course, our customers, The FARM is firmly in the 50% that succeed. Thank you.

This spring, I had the honor of being nominated for the FMWF Chamber of Commerce’s Chamber Choice Entrepreneur of the Year Award. Wow! The field was impressive and at the risk of sounding trite, it was truly an honor just to be nominated. Thank you.

As we move into the holidays and the new year, I do so with great hope for the future and gratitude for the past. The Fargo Antiques & Repurposed market and the dozens of small businesses it houses will continue to grow and offer the best antique shopping experience in the Red River Valley in a dynamic, clean, and spacious environment.

We’ll be holding special events like our holiday sale on Small Business Saturday, November 28. We’ll keep our Holiday Hayloft stocked with collectibles and vintage items for all the holidays. And we’ll look forward to seeing friends, new and old, in the new year.

All the best, Kristi

uniquely YOURS

Our homes have become more than just a place to live, especially over the past year. We’re working and schooling our children from home, creating offices and playrooms to accommodate these activities. The home gym has been a fixture for years and has taken on all new importance. But the core of the home remains; an attractive exterior, a functional and beautiful kitchen, and a room to gather as a family.

Footitt Homes has been building custom homes in Fargo, Detroit Lakes, and the surrounding area for decades. Now under the direction of Bob Footitt, Jr., Footitt continues its dedication to quality craftsmanship and attention to detail. Bob is dedicated to making each home unique, a reflection of the homeowners’ preferences for color and the use of space, inside and out. We’ll show you three homes, with common elements but a unique approach to each design.

WORDS : TAMIE ZACCHEA

PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY FOOTITT HOMES

This coastal beauty was customized to satisfy the homeowner’s desire to recreate a beach-like atmosphere on the prairie. The beach was brought inside with soothing blue, white and gray. Shaker-style cabinets from the kitchen design professionals at Wood Specialists bring a traditional feel to the kitchen, while providing the modern conveniences of a large island and concealed appliances from Rigel’s. Undercabinet lighting and pendants from Valley Lights provide adequate yet subtle lighting. Crisp white counter tops and backsplash, and the driftwood gray floor from Floor to Ceiling/Carpet One complete the fresh and relaxing design.

The blue, white and driftwood gray palate continues into the master bath, where crystal fixtures add sparkle to this spacious retreat. Natural light floods through a large window, which features an exterior privacy treatment. Outside, gables and stone recreate a seaside look with grays and whites.

Now contrast this with the sleek and modern earth tones of the next home. The kitchen offers custom features including a large island surrounded by plenty of work and counterspace. In this kitchen, rich wood cabinets and flooring combine with distinct white accents to create a warm yet sophisticated atmosphere.

The homeowner wanted a second kitchen, adjacent to the lower level family room. Footitt and Wood Specialists designed a half moon seating area, which wraps around the galley kitchen. Rigel’s fitted the appliances in this bonus kitchen, including a wine fridge and espresso maker. Pendant lighting hangs from a soffit designed to echo the shape of the seating island. Outside, the warm, inviting colors tie into the interior with warm earth tones and crisp white accents.

There is a decidedly rustic feel to the third home. It starts on the exterior, with a spacious and open front porch done in stone, featuring a roof line echoing a wagon wheel. Thoughtful accents like the corbels along the roofline are typical of the details found on a Footitt exterior. The soaring ceilings in the living room are accented using rustic exposed trusses and a fieldstone fireplace surround that climbs the entire height of the room. Luxurious wall-to-wall carpeting defines the space and blends beautifully with rustic hardwood.

In the kitchen, modern farmhouse accents like the copper pendants and the traditional lines of the range hood work in tandem with modern appliances. A rustic wood tray ceiling repeats the shape of the island. Rich granite countertops and a tumbled marble backsplash tie it all together.

Footitt Homes works with Wood Specialists, Floor to Ceiling/Carpet One, Rigel’s Appliances and Valley Lights on all their projects. They share Bob’s dedication to delivering a beautiful and custom home to their clients, that is uniquely theirs.

For more information, visit footitthomes.com.

olidays can be a stressful time as we prepare to travel to see friends and family, buy gifts, plan meals, and enjoy community festivities. This year, 2020, will give us a holiday season we will not soon forget as we try to navigate them under pandemic precautions. We now have the additional stress of making the “best” decision out of a lot of bad options. Do I spend time with people outside my household for the holidays? Should my family travel for the holidays? How do I continue to keep my kids entertained at home? While I cannot promise you a stress-free holiday season, I can give you some tips for managing the stress of holidays during this odd time.

MANAGING HOLIDAY STRESS DURING A PANDEMIC USE TECHNOLOGY

FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT

The holiday season is a time where people celebrate their faith and spend time with family. When feeling stressed, take a moment to stop and check in with yourself about what is truly important to you about the holidays in order to realign your focus.

TO YOUR ADVANTAGE

If your family chooses not to get together for the holidays, make sure you are using technology to connect! Zoom, Skype, FaceTime and Facebook Messenger are some of the many ways you can have real-time video with loved ones. Make sure to use the technology frequently, particularly if you have family and friends who are more socially isolated (e.g., grandparents, family members who live alone).

WORDS : DESIREE ZIELKE, PH.D, LP

SHOP LOCALLY BY EITHER ORDERING ONLINE OR ORDERING AHEAD

Ordering gifts early is a great way to reduce stress as the holidays get closer. There are lots of deals you can take advantage of even before Black Friday. Local stores are offering online ordering as well as curb-side pick-up. Take advantage of these new opportunities that allow you to shop locally without having to spend a ton of time going from store to store.

MOVE YOUR BODY

Exercise is one of the best stress management strategies you can use as it gets the brain to release feel-good chemicals. There are many ways to exercise that do not involve leaving your home or going to a gym. YouTube has many free exercise videos. There are free apps to download to your phone (e.g., 30 Day Fitness, Seven, Down Dog), and you can do “house walking” and strength training anywhere in your home. Canned goods make great weights and there is no equipment needed for squats and lunges.

MAKE TIME FOR RELAXATION

Enjoy the slower pace of this holiday season! There will be fewer activities to attend which will allow you to really focus on what you enjoy about this time of year. Relaxation can include things like yoga and deep breathing, but also includes activities such as taking a drive to look at holiday lights, watching your family’s favorite holiday movies, and taking time to engage with nature on those beautiful crisp, quiet winter nights.

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Trishia Powell, MSW, LCSW (left) and Desiree Zielke, Ph.D, LP (right)

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ORTHOPEDIC WALK-IN CLINIC

keeps you in the game

WORDS : TARA EKREN, ESSENTIA HEALTH PHOTOGRAPHY : provided by AMBER ERTELT

No matter the season, there’s a sport Liam Ertelt is playing and loving. However, in the fall of 2019, he was sidelined with a broken bone in his foot and the end of the football season was spent on the bench. This is not where Liam wanted to be.

Liam’s mom, Amber, remembers the phone call explaining that he had been hurt during football practice. Working late that evening, Amber didn’t get home until Liam was in bed. After waking up in the middle of the night in pain and not being able to bear weight on his foot, Amber followed her mom instinct and brought Liam to the Essentia Health Orthopedic Walk-In Clinic the next day. “I was shocked, I really didn’t expect it to be broken, but since it was a Friday and he couldn’t put weight on it, I thought it was probably a good idea to get it checked out just in case. I’m glad I did,” shares Amber. “I’ve never had a broken bone and neither have my kids, so I wasn’t really sure what to expect.”

“Everyone hears about walk-in clinics having long wait times. However, we were in the waiting room only a minute or two before we were called back for an X-ray,” says Amber. “I figured the waiting would come once we were in the exam room, but to my surprise, the doctor came in within a few minutes!” Amber remembers, “I loved the attentiveness of both nurses and our provider, Dr. Ostlie, and I was really impressed with how quickly we were seen.”

I loved the attentiveness of both nurses and our provider, Dr. Ostlie, and I was really impressed with how quickly we were seen.

— AMBER ERTELT

Unfortunately for Liam, the X-ray confirmed a broken bone in his foot. For his mom, a million questions flooded her mind and she started asking them all. “Dr. Ostlie was so patient with me and all my questions. He took the time to thoroughly answer everything I asked as well as talk about things I didn’t even think of.” And, after Dr. Ostlie answered all of Amber’s questions, he talked with Liam about his questions. “I was impressed with how he took the time to talk and really listen to Liam,” Amber recalls. “He’s 10, so his big concerns were recess, gym and not being able to finish the football season, but Dr. Ostlie didn’t brush off these concerns because he knew they mattered to Liam.”

“Besides answering our questions and being very thorough in explaining our care plan, Dr. Ostlie provided information and guidelines for his coaches as well to facilitate his return to play,” Amber says. “This was an extra touch that made it so easy to know what he should and shouldn’t be doing and how far Liam could push himself.”

The attentiveness didn’t end at Liam’s appointment. “Through the whole process, I always felt like I could call and ask questions, get advice or get reassurance from Dr. Ostlie,” Amber says.

Amber and Liam left the clinic with a walking cast and made a follow-up appointment for three weeks later. As a kid who follows the rules, Liam was a model patient. “At our follow-up appointment, the break had healed very well, and Liam was back to his sports-loving self.”

“Except for the fact that Liam broke a bone in his foot, we had an excellent experience at Essentia Health,” says Amber.

Don’t let pain or injuries keep you from activities you enjoy. Be seen right away by Essentia’s team of experienced specialists dedicated to developing a treatment plan that’s right for you. Essentia Health’s Orthopedic Walk-In clinic is located within Essentia Health at 3000 32nd Ave. S. in Fargo and open Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

the BUFF life

FAITH:

Lysa Terkeurst stated this in her book, “It’s not supposed to be this way.” What if dust is the exact ingredient God needs to make something even better; would you give up control and allow God to break you? If we want His promises, we must trust His process! Think of your troubles or trials as a piece of pottery. When that piece of pottery is broken, the dust and pieces left can be ground into a dust that’s used to create a new piece of pottery. That dust is the exact ingredient that’s necessary to allow the new piece to be created even stronger than before. The breakdown leads to the breakthrough, when you trust God and give Him control.

two FAMILY:

Whatever your family unit looks like, think of ways you can make a difference in your community, together. There are so many ways to get involved and serve others, especially throughout the holidays. Choose one cause, group or event each month for your family to volunteer with (that’s only 12 times if you do it all year). Not only will this have a great impact on our community, but it will teach humility and bond your family even closer than before!

FITNESS:

Defi ned as the state of being physically fit and healthy, “fitness” not only means physical health, but emotional and mental health as well. As the seasons change, not only in the air, but all around, choose to embrace this change and focus on slowing down. Whether it’s taking a yoga class, taking time to stretch, or starting a morning meditation/prayer practice, find something that helps you slow down and allow yourself to do this each day. Sometimes rest is the very thing our “fitness” is missing.

“Dust doesn’t have to signify the end. Dust is often what must be present for the new to begin.”

WORDS & PHOTOGRAPHY : ASHLEY SORNSIN

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FOOD:

These fudgy black bean brownies are to die for!

There’re so gooey and filled with chocolately goodness, that no one will ever know they’re actually healthy. These are completely plantbased, packed with protein and fiber, they’re gluten-free and use no refined sugar. You’ll never make another brownie recipe again!

Fudgy Black Bean Brownies

Makes 16

recipe:

2 flax eggs (2 tablespoons ground flax/chia seeds + 5 tablespoons hot water)

2 cans black beans (drained/rinsed)

1 cup pure maple syrup (or honey)

½ cup coconut oil (melted)

2 teaspoon vanilla extract

½ cup oat flour (blend oats to make flour)

¾ cup unsweetened cocoa powder

1 teaspoon baking powder

½ teaspoon sea salt

1 teaspoon instant coffee

1 cup dairy-free chocolate chips

directions:

1. Set oven to 350 F, line a 9x9 inch pan with parchment paper

2. Prepare flax/chia eggs and allow to sit for a minute.

3. Add black beans, flax/chia eggs, melted coconut oil, maple syrup and vanilla to blender/food processor.

4. Add wet ingredients to mixing bowl, add oat flour, cocoa powder, baking powder, salt and coffee. Mix.

5. Fold in chocolate chips. Pour batter into prepared pan, top with additional chocolate chips.

6. Bake for 60 minutes. Cool, cut and enjoy!

Rest assured... we’ve got this.

ere are so many reasons why you can live safer and healthier at Fargo Elim – Pioneer House. Stay out of the crowds. We have so much inside including a salon/barber, housekeeping options and three delicious meals each day. We don’t cut corners, we clean them and everything else, with our virus- ghting tactics.

Stay healthy. Wellbeing checks happen several times daily. You can choose as little or as much care as needed. Stay sharp and t with enriching activities and safe exercises. Get Social. Good conversations with friends and sta are right nearby, but not too close!

I’m Heather, community engagement director at Fargo Elim – Pioneer House. Call me, I’ll listen and personalize a video tour for your safe virtual visit! 701-271-1866 | fargoelimcare.org

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HOME CARE : A Safe and Affordable Option

Caring for a loved one can be overwhelming, time consuming and draining to your health both mind and body. Thankfully, there are dependable in-home care options available in our community, so you do not have to go it alone.

Making the decision to choose in-home care is the first step. Once you make that decision, our professional senior care experts will help guide you through the process to ensure compassionate care and comfort at a moment’s notice for your loved one.

One of the most common concerns for families is affordability and payment options. Are home care services covered by Medicare or health insurance? Are there any benefits to help veterans pay for home care? Can life insurance help? Can we use home equity to help pay for the care?

Every day, Senior Helpers works with families just like yours that are starting to learn about the benefits of in-home care. As trusted experts in senior care, we can help you and your loved ones navigate the often-complicated maze of senior care options. We strive to provide you with straightforward answers to assist you in making the most informed decisions.

There are many options available to help you pay for home care services.

Private Pay

Your loved one may have savings or supplementary income available that can help pay for home care, assisted living or nursing home care. Often, family members may contribute to the cost of care for their loved one.

Long Term Care (LTC) Insurance

A Long-Term Care insurance policy can help to offset the cost of home care or assisted living care. We can help you evaluate the policy to see if it covers Senior Helpers’ services.

Veteran’s Aid and Attendance Pension Benefit

Eligible veterans and surviving spouses may be eligible for up to $2,266 per month for health care expenditures. We can help you evaluate this option to see if your loved ones may qualify, and if so, apply for this little-known benefit.

Reverse Mortgage

Reverse mortgages can be very useful for homeowners aged 62 and older whose home is their principal residence and who have a high amount of equity in the home. Evaluate this option with a reputable reverse mortgage specialist.

WORDS : TANYA FERBER

Whole Life Insurance Policies

Whole life policies are designed to build cash value and as cash value builds up, it is often possible to borrow against the policy while keeping insurance in effect. Contact your insurance agent to discuss your needs and possible options.

Additional State and Local Programs

In many states, there are local and state funded programs that offer limited care for seniors who meet certain criteria. Contact us so that we may review the programs available to you in our area. Our goal at Senior Helpers is to handle all the home care details so you can concentrate on spending quality time with your loved one. Even if you are hundreds of miles away, you can trust that we will treat your loved one with the dignity, respect and compassion they deserve.

We look forward to providing your loved one with the help they require to continue living independently at home.

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TANYA FERBER Senior Helpers

Home Care of Eastern North Dakota

Tanya is a Fargo native and holds a Bachelor’s in Nursing from North Dakota State University and a Master’s in Business from the University of Phoenix. She has a passion for being a trusted advisor and helping the elderly in her community and their families navigate options to ensure a better quality of life. Senior Helpers provides dependable and affordable in home care at a moment’s notice. Visit seniorhelpers.com/nd/fargo.

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primary care PUTS YOUR HEALTH FIRST

With primary care, you get one go-to physician or provider

Even though we’re currently in a pandemic, you shouldn’t put your overall health on hold.

Getting started

Throughout the pandemic, Sanford Health has seen two common questions: What if I don’t have a doctor? Where do I start?

Evelyn Fuentes-Dondoneau, MD, is a primary care doctor that specializes in family medicine at the Sanford West Fargo Clinic. She encourages everyone, regardless of age, to establish and maintain a trusting relationship with a primary care physician or provider.

If you don’t have a regular doctor or provider, she says a good place to start is the “Find a Doctor” tab on Sanford Health’s website. Once there, you can search profiles based on qualifications, interests, philosophy of care and more.

This is a great option to get to know Sanford Health’s doctors and providers and find one you might feel comfortable with. You can also read about doctor and patient interactions in the reviews on each profile.

“Real patients write the things they liked about their experience and break everything down about their visit. The reviews give you a sense of other people’s experiences and impressions,” Fuentes-Dondoneau says.

Meeting needs

Once you choose a regular doctor, you can develop a relationship with someone who understands you and your health. By having one main provider, Fuentes-Dondoneau says patients can have more confidence knowing their health goals will be met and they’ll get the best recommendations for preventive care.

“It’s nice to have that one person who knows your story. They know your family history and your disease risk, so they know how to better advise you,” she says. “I actually have quite a few patients where I see multiple generations of their family. It’s a privilege, getting to take care of families together.”

Fuentes-Dondoneau also stressed that even though the pandemic is a huge health event, there are still other things doctors are worried

about. People are still having heart attacks, developing diabetes and getting cancer. And primary care physicians and providers are still trying to help them catch these issues early.

“We can catch things that are scary like cancer early, and that’s why getting these screenings done is so important,” she said. “If someone puts off, let’s say, a colonoscopy and doesn’t come in for a while, then we may catch colon cancer at stage 4 instead of stage 2.”

Building trust

Even when someone feels healthy, they still need a primary care physician or provider to help them stay that way. And then if health concerns do arise, your provider can quickly get you connected with other experts.

“When things get more complicated, we can refer you to a specialist and communicate directly with them on your behalf,” Fuentes-Dondoneau says.

A primary care physician or provide can also be a quick bridge to support for behavioral or mental health.

“The great thing about the setup at our clinic is that we can offer integrated mental health care. If I meet a patient and I think that they need to connect with someone soon, we can get them scheduled within days,” Fuentes-Dondoneau says.

Scheduling first appointment

When scheduling an appointment to get to know a new doctor, the best way to meet them is face-toface through an office visit.

“You want someone you feel comfortable and safe enough with to share your personal concerns and be completely honest and open,” FuentesDondoneau says.

Bring a list of medications, medical history, family history, insurance information, concerns, goals and questions to your first visit. And make sure to tell your provider about your health goals.

“I have patients who want to be healthier and lose weight. We help them with diet and exercise plans and if needed, get them with a dietitian or to a weight loss clinic. Primary care physicians generally stay on top of your health and help you meet your goals, whatever those may be,” she says.

Sanford has implemented many safety precautions to keep people as safe as possible from COVID-19 while seeking care. It’s far riskier to stay away than to come in. To schedule an appointment, a prospective patient can either visit Sanford Health’s website or call a clinic.

“People are still getting sick and having health concerns,” Fuentes-Dondoneau says. “We’re here to take care of them. We’re always working to keep patients and ourselves safe."

LEND A HAND UP hosts Big Boost Week

November 30 – December 4

Will it be your gift that generates a $5,000 big boost for a local family in medical crisis?

This past spring, COVID-19 created heartbreaking disappointment for hundreds of dedicated volunteers, friends and family members when benefits, one by one, were cancelled. The change in plans took away their opportunity to show up in person to share help, hope and hugs to uplift families battling significant medical challenges.

Since rallying people together in a spirit of generosity is central to the mission of Lend A Hand Up, the pandemic inspired the program to quickly pivot toward the development of new ways to help our neighbors.

Lend A Hand Up was launched in 2008, inspired by Dakota Medical Foundation’s initiative to increase financial help for families experiencing substantial medical challenges. Now in its 13th year, Lend A Hand Up continues to offer free and comprehensive resources, including coaching and boost grants that have helped community members raise $18.7M for 542 local families. Up un-

til the pandemic, the vast majority of this generosity was raised through community benefit events.

Now, with in-person benefits no longer serving as a reliable fundraising option, Lend A Hand Up has revamped its toolkit to offer resources like online auction tools and giving pages that lend themselves to virtual benefits.

Program Director Jeana Peinovich states why starting or supporting a fundraiser through Lend A Hand Up offers many advantages. “Unlike most crowdfunding sites, Lend A Hand Up doesn’t charge fees or solicit tips. Resources are free for eligible family fundraisers and all gifts are dis-tributed. Even better, Lend A Hand Up uplifts gifts by adding a 20% boost onto proceeds so families receive more help.”

Peinovich states that with a holiday season at hand, isolation and expenses are magnified for families battling health issues. In the spirit of giving,

Lend A Hand Up has created a new event called “Big Boost Week” to further inspire help for families right now and in a bigger way.

Gifts of any amount made to the Lend A Hand Up program now through December 4 will allow one charitable gift to boost help for all active family fundraisers. In addition, donations supporting this neighborhood giving concept will be eligible for “big boost” daily drawings. Drawings will be held November 30 through December 4, with winners able to recommend the family funds that receive big boosts valued at $1,000 to $5,000. Up to $15,000 of big boosts will be distributed through daily drawings supported by Lend A Hand Up program sponsors and Dakota Medical Foundation during “Big Boost Week.”

Families eligible to receive help through “Big Boost Week” are pre-approved through program criteria confirming their local residency and medical challenges.

We know you’re trying to figure out how to navigate the holidays under pandemic precautions, so here are some tips to help you manage the stress of the holidays during this odd time.

• Focus on what is Important. Check in with yourself about what is truly important in order to realign your mind.

• Use Technology to your Advantage. If your family chooses not to get together for the holidays, make sure you are using technology to connect!

Among those gaining community support are the family of Jay Fischer , a toddler with a rare bone marrow disorder that awaits a stem cell transplant.

Derek Sway, a husband and father of three young children who was recently removed from life-support following a sudden, severe lung infection.

Oak Reile, former assistant principal and activities director at Ben Franklin Middle School who suffered a neck fracture and spinal injury.

» Turn the page to meet more families eligible to receive help

• Shop Local and Order Online. Take advantage of early online deals and curb-side pick-up instead of going from store to store.

• Move your Body! Exercise is one of the best stress management strategies you can use as it gets the brain to release feel-good chemicals. There are many exercise apps and YouTube has FREE videos.

• Make Time for Relaxation. Do yoga, read, watching your family’s favorite movies and take time to engage with nature on those beautiful crisp, quiet winter nights.

Michelle Erfle-Johnson , a single mother who is battling stage III breast cancer.

Cody Binstock, a 21-year-old who suffered a C5 spinal cord injury when diving off a dock this past July 4 on Lake Melissa.

Kudzai Katema, an Eyecare Associates employee in his 20s who suffered a stroke. All Kudzai’s family members remain in Zimbabwe, unable to afford the trip to visit him.

Jackie Scheel , A CCRI employee battling stage IV kidney cancer.

Avery Moxness , a teenager who is recovering from recent surgery to remove a brain tumor.

Brent Blake , a Detroit Lakes boys and girls hockey coach for many years who is battling stage IV brain cancer.

Gina Buchanan, a single mother of three small children who lost her soulmate in a car crash while pregnant and is now battling breast cancer.

Bryan Hanson, a husband and father of two young children who is awaiting a liver transplant.

Julian “Duane” Elofson , former owner of Moorhead Tastee Freez and member of Overland Stage Band who is losing his mobility due to a progressive disease similar to ALS.

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Joan Meidinger, After a long brave battle with Stage IV Colon Cancer, Joan was recently transferred to Hospice care.

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Peterson, a young wife and mother who helped daughter Braelyn recover from leukemia. Nikki is now without treatment options for her own battle with brain cancer.

Larissa Willett and Katie Mastel

are working professionals pursuing their Master of Business Administration degrees at North Dakota State University. While their careers don’t have much in common, they’re both continuing their education to strengthen their business network and become stronger leaders.

NDSU’S MBA PROGRAM strengthens networks and builds leadership

“Pursuing my MBA is something I’ve wanted to do since very early on in my professional career,” says Willett. “My goals have been to develop as a strategic thinker, improve my analytical and critical thinking skills, expand my communication skills, widen my view on a variety of business topics, and become an overall stronger leader.”

Willett has spent her professional life working in various accounting and finance roles. She discovered in high school that she was good with numbers. She held several accounting roles at Target Corporate in Minneapolis early

in her career. But the desire to be back in this region led to a job as a controller at SJE Inc., in Detroit Lakes, Minnesota.

Mastel recently earned her undergraduate degree from NDSU in marketing. Her minor was political science. During her time as an undergraduate, Mastel served as the student body vice president and also interned at the Fargo Moorhead West Fargo Chamber of Commerce. She’s currently their government affairs and advocacy manager, where she leads public policy and advocacy efforts to advance pro-business policies.

LARISSA WILLETT

KATIE MASTEL

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Mastel says the NDSU MBA program will help develop stronger management skills and prepare her for future opportunities.

“There already have been numerous opportunities to apply coursework to my current job as a manager,” Mastel says. “This educational step will certainly strengthen both my technical and general competencies, making me a more valuable employee and team leader. Because of the invaluable diverse skills taught in the MBA program, my education will certainly lend itself well for the rest of my career, no matter what path I take.”

Life-long learning is important to both Willett and Mastel. The management and leadership skills taught in the program, along with the in-person learning environment at NDSU, encourage strong collaborations to widen their professional networks.

The NDSU MBA program’s class schedule makes it easier to balance pursuing a graduate degree with managing a full-time career. Most courses are held just one night a week for eight weeks, with expanded distance learning options for remote students.

“I have two young boys at home, so it has been a team effort to balance everything. But I am hopeful they will remember me furthering my education and it will instill in them the importance of education,” Willett says.

Willett is in her final semester at NDSU and will graduate this winter. Mastel just started in the MBA program and expects to graduate by winter 2022.

“I would absolutely recommend the MBA program for those already in or seeking management roles. I would expect this program to enhance my leadership skills and provide excellent connections,” Mastel says.

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THE BEST OF WOMEN WORKING TOGETHER

WORDS : AUBREY TYSON PHOTOGRAPHY : MIKE SMITH

HighRoad Partners is shining a light on what it means to be a strong company, that today, is an all-female team. The dedicated team at HighRoad offers insurance and HR solutions for individuals and businesses across the Fargo-Moorhead area. At the forefront of this team is Michelle Kommer.

Kommer has spent the last twenty years of her career serving in executive leadership roles in a variety of industries like financial services, energy, manufacturing and health insurance. More recently, Kommer served the State of North Dakota's labor and commerce commissioner.

“While I have held a number of different roles and titles in the past several decades, throughout every position I’ve held, whether in operations, legal or HR functions, I’ve always had a focus on business process improvement. During my time serving as North Dakota’s labor commissioner and then commerce commissioner, I have learned many invaluable lessons that I have carried with me into my role as owner of HighRoad Partners, most significantly, the importance of strong ‘people systems,’” says Kommer.

Working as a public servant, Kommer was inspired by the courage required of business owners to start, operate, maintain and grow a successful business. Kommer also attributes her time in commissioner roles to teaching her what it means to take the high road, not only in life but in the building of professional relationships. After completing her term

Having an all-women team is unique and a delight; every day I get to see how healthy, supportive female relationships enhance the quality of the service we provide.”

— MICHELLE KOMMER

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as commerce commissioner, Kommer, with the support of her family, and in particular, her husband Toby Kommer (also a business owner), decided it was time for a new adventure.

In October of 2020, Kommer began working to grow HighRoad Partners alongside Tammy Halverson, owner of HighRoad’s predecessor organization, Arneson Ovsak, to add to its service offerings. Both Kommer and Halverson share the same fundamental beliefs about building client relationships and what it means to work with an empowered team of women.

“When Tammy and I met, I knew that our ideals and fundamental beliefs came together for a reason. We, along with our team at HighRoad, strongly believe in cultivating lasting relationships with our clients. Having an all-women team is unique and a delight; every day I get to see how healthy, supportive female relationships enhance the quality of the service we provide. I also believe that the unique leadership qualities of women are what makes us successful at our work. In addition to deep expertise, our business requires great listeners, compassion and patience to come up with the best possible solutions for our individual policyholders as well business clients,” says Kommer.

The HighRoad Partners team specializes in individual health policies, namely, Medicare supplemental policies which can be complex and intimidating for people reaching retirement, as well as employer group health insurance, and now, “in-sourced” HR services for businesses. By offering these perfectly matched groups of solutions, HighRoad Partners can help a client make what would otherwise be a stressful choice, and assist businesses with important but timeconsuming aspects of running a business, in order to create tailor-made services for clients.

Through the fostering of healthy and lasting relationships, the team with HighRoad works diligently to support their clients while cheering on one another as they build a business surrounded by joy, optimism for a better tomorrow, and the shared goal of success for their client.

Building More Than Buildings

Gretchen Olson chose MSUM’s degree in Construction Management because of its small class sizes and unique blend of construction knowledge and business know-how.

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There’s so much more to construction management than hammers and nails. Until I started in this program, I didn’t realize how many different types of people are needed to put a building together.”

– Gretchen Olson Project Manager TF Powers Construction Co.

Linda Hilbrands

Mooo-ooom!

Linda is drawing on the walls again!” Big sister’s voice rang out as young Linda was caught red-handed yet again, drawing on her bedroom walls with whatever tool she could find — marker, crayon, pencil. “I’ve loved art for as long as I can remember. If I couldn’t find paper, I’d just use the walls,” Hilbrands laughs. Now, having moved past the walls, Hilbrands holes up in her basement storage room/art studio, with the aroma of coffee wafting through the rafters, worship music filling the air and easels loaded, ready and waiting. Acrylics and brushes are scattered in every color and size imaginable as she settles in to create and embrace the beauty that comes. Looking back on those days when her only canvas was the nearest wall, she rejoices that God is still faithfully growing and using that which he planted in her heart so long ago.

ABOVE LEFT: A floral painting on display inside the boutique. ABOVE : Linda Hilbrands works on a painting at home in her studio. BELOW : The Hilbrands Family

As a teenager Hilbrands took every art class she could squeeze into her schedule. When it was time to consider college, she knew that while she didn’t want to teach art, she definitely wanted to pursue her passion of creating beautiful things and spaces. Through the fashion merchandising program at Minnesota State Community and Technical College, Hilbrands found both her niche and her best friend and future business partner Melanie Wendel. In learning to stage homes and businesses to be warm, chic and welcoming, her creativity was piqued and eyes opened to the then mostly unknown art of repurposing. “I would just see normal, everyday items that might be considered garbage, like maybe an empty glass bottle, and in my mind picture what it could be. Melanie and I started fixing up old furniture even before it was a cool thing to do. For us it mostly started out of necessity as being poor, young, married college students. We didn’t have any money but we wanted our homes to have personality and fashion on a dime!”

Married to her high school sweetheart Paul, Hilbrands had dreams of starting a family. In the waiting, she found ways to earn an income doing what it was that God had created her to do. Renting a booth at the Crafter’s Mall of Fargo gave her a space to display and sell her paintings. As she prayed over her painting career, her brand HeavenlyChic Designs was born. “I really wanted people to feel like they could have a little bit of heaven in their homes.”

With creativity flowing through the family veins, Hilbrands traveled with her parents and sister to craft fairs throughout the region, showcasing her painting, her dad’s woodworking, and her sister and mom’s crafty handiwork. Having since lost her dad, memories of laughing and working together through hours upon hours of craft fair travels fill her heart with joy. She and Wendel also continued to grow their collection of repurposed décor, eventually setting up a little shop in the Hilbrands’ living room and advertising by word of mouth. When they outgrew the living room, they moved to the Moorhead Antique Mall, where they were able to design and stage their own little store.

While her art flourished, the Hilbrands’ hopes for children began to wilt. Infertility tests, treatments, procedures and the devastation of two miscarriages filled the decade of their 20’s. Her artwork was a solace of safety and comfort during times of heartache and stress. Creating beauty was a balm to her soul. But after 10 years of struggle they miraculously and joyfully welcomed twin baby boys into their family, and Hilbrands knew it was time to put the paintbrushes down. “I’d waited so long for Samuel and Jordan that I didn’t want anything to distract me from being a mom. God was nudging me to just enjoy my kids and not let anything else get in the way.” Six years later a surprise baby girl, Mary, entered the world to complete their family.

Unable to turn off her creative brain, Hilbrands still found spare minutes in the nooks and crannies of her busy days to create and sell repurposed items both out of her home and at the Antique Mall with Wendel. When their paths crossed with the owners of Livin the Dream boutique in Moorhead, a partnership was born. The Livin the Dream team shopped from Hilbrands’ home studio, choosing items from her abundant collection of pretty things. Four and a half years ago when Livin the Dream sold to Mary Sue Olhauser and Paula Otto and became Burlap Rustic Chic Boutique, Hilbrands and Wendel didn’t miss a beat. They contacted the new team and dove right back into partnership selling their repurposed artwork. It soon became clear to the Burlap team that this dynamic duo had a knack and a niche for staging spaces. They were hired on as the Burlap design team, weekly transforming the store to a place of respite, where a frazzled customer could step through the doors and feel instantly at home: warm, cozy, welcoming, lovely, peaceful.

Another joy each winter has been decorating homes for the annual Fargo-Moorhead “Homes for the Holidays” tour, which allows them to transform everyday homes into beautiful wintry Christmas wonderlands that anyone would love to enter, snuggle into, and never leave.

LEFT TO RIGHT: Linda Hilbrands and Melanie Wendel inside the home they decorated for Homes for the Holidays in 2019.

BELOW : The dining room of the same home featured a pastel village painting by Hilbrands that perfectly matches the decor.

When her boys became men and her daughter a teenager, Hilbrands began to hear God whispering that it was time to pick up her paintbrushes again. As God’s voice ruminated in her soul, her creative heart began to beat faster. She hadn’t known if she would ever return to painting. Was it really time for this hibernating passion to wake up? After 18 years, would the bristles still work magic in her hands? Yes. Her brushes had been patiently waiting, and now it was time. And she had more to give than ever. Years of heartache and infertility followed by the immense joys and deep challenges of parenting swelled her heart with a capacity to communicate more emotion and insight in her painting than ever before.

So, amid much prayer and excitement, Hilbrands put a fresh canvas on her easel and filled her home with the familiar aroma of acrylic. It was as if her hands had never stopped; they knew just what to do. The team at Burlap welcomed Hilbrands’ incredible artwork into their shop as she reflected the ambiance and style of the store in her paintings. Before long, Hilbrands’ calendar was booked with the eager requests of shoppers: “This is so beautiful! But could you paint me one with these colors, or this size, or in this tone …” Her bristles haven’t had a moment to dry out yet. And the artwork doesn’t stop with the painting; her husband, who is a computer guru by day but a hobbyist and wood-worker by night, custom designs and handcrafts every single frame.

For Hilbrands, the thrill and wonder of creating never gets old. Leaning into the master Artist for inspiration, she gleans from Him the creativity and imagination that goes into every work of art. Sometimes a painting takes an un-anticipated turn, resulting in a finished work that is quite different than she initially imagined. “Each painting has a life and personality of its own. Sometimes you just have to go where the painting takes you. It’s exciting to begin a new work and never quite know for sure exactly what it’s going to be until it’s done.” For this reason, she gives each painting the time, love and tenderness it needs. “A painting cannot be rushed. If I do rush a piece, it certainly won’t be right. When I think a painting might be finished, I let it sit on an easel in my home for at least a week. As I walk by it, it speaks to me about whether it’s done or wants more.”

And the journey of her artwork isn’t just in the creative process. Much of her art is now traveling upon completion rather than staying local. The reach of social media has brought inquiries from as far away as Europe and Australia, causing Hilbrands to marvel over the connections that painting has brought into her life. “I’ve developed so many relationships and friendships that I never would have if I hadn’t picked up my brushes again.” This global reach has also spurred Hilbrands to pursue her next artistic goal: prints. Still a work in progress, developing prints of her paintings would significantly reduce both the purchase price of a piece as well as the shipping costs, greatly increasing the opportunities for her art to find homes around the world.

Through all the twists and turns, Hilbrands’ prayer for her artwork has remained the same — that each work of art would radiate the beauty and hope of heaven into the home it inhabits, bringing healing and peace to people’s lives. Indeed, from the days of drawing on the walls to now painting for the world, Hilbrands’ life has been marked by the Artist’s touch, a heavenly chic design.

see more of Hilbrands' artwork, follow her on Instagram @heavenlychicdesigns or Facebook

MORE THAN EVER

Your Gifts Can Make a Di erence for Local Nonprofi ts

WORDS : COURTNEY LARSON, Communications and Marketing Director, FM Area Foundation

When the FM Area Foundation began collecting entries for the 2020 Caring Catalog, the words “now more than ever” kept showing up. These are words you have most likely heard or even said yourself in the past nine months. It has been a challenging year for everyone and that includes local nonprofits. Needs have increased, and organizations have shifted services, adjusting to limited staff and finding innovative ways to fundraise in place of in-person events. In a survey sent to nonprofits earlier this year, 65% said they had to cancel a significant fundraising event and 67% of charities expected an increased demand for services. .

With the holiday season here, now is the perfect time to give back and support the organizations providing needed services to people in the Fargo-Moorhead area. One way you can do that is by giving to a cause you care about, and the FM Area Foundation Caring Catalog makes it easy to do just that.

The Caring Catalog, created by the FM Area Foundation in 2018, helps make giving meaningful and effective. It connects community members to many local charities through just one link. This year, the Caring Catalog is available November 24 through December 14 and features 97 local nonprofits. It is online, and there is also a printed version of the catalog, which can be found at 11 Hornbacher’s and Cash Wise locations starting the week of Thanksgiving.

Each participating organization is fundraising for a special project or program and can request up to $10,000. Gifts of all sizes are welcomed and appreciated. In the online listing, once an organization reaches their goal, their request will show “fully funded.”

“The Caring Catalog is designed like a crowdfunding platform. Think GoFundMe, but for charity. It’s a great way for many people to give what they can to help reach a larger goal,” says Lexi Oestreich, program director at the FM Area Foundation.

THERE WILL BE a variety of fun giving incentives this year. And thanks to generous sponsors, Funday Mondays are returning, along with GivingTuesday matching dollars, and some fun new giveaways like Caring Cash and more!

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You can browse the Caring Catalog from the comfort and safety of your home and make your holiday shopping more meaningful by learning about nonprofit organizations in the areas of basic human needs; the arts; education and youth; community building; and health, wellness and senior services. All Caring Catalog nonprofits serve either Cass County, North Dakota, or Clay County, Minnesota, so when you give, you know your dollars will go to work right here in the Fargo-Moorhead area.

Requests range from Family HealthCare’s denture program, which provides access to dentures for patients who cannot afford them; to 4 Luv of Dog Rescue’s work in providing emergency medical needs for animals in their care; to helping Fraser, Ltd. keep their doors open overnight this winter to provide a safe and warm place for youth in crisis; and many, many more.

To fully fund every Caring Catalog project, our community would need to collectively give $816,150 between November 24 and December 14. Gifts made through the Caring Catalog are tax-deductible. Credit card fees are covered by the FM Area Foundation and there is no fee for nonprofits to participate, so 100% of your donation goes to the charities you choose to support.

The FM Area Foundation’s mission is to promote philanthropy to create stronger communities. For sixty years, the Foundation has been helping people give back, and more than $54 million has been awarded in grants to nonprofits and scholarships to students. This is possible because of charitable funds that have been established at the FM Area Foundation since 1960 by families, individuals and businesses wanting to make a lasting impact and support a variety of charitable causes in the Fargo-Moorhead area and beyond.

“As the community foundation, we provide services, such as endowment and legacy giving, tax credits, scholarships and donor advised funds. The Caring Catalog is just one more way we hope to encourage the spirit of giving in the communities we serve,” says Oestreich.

As we head into the final weeks of 2020, please remember nonprofits do need your support — now more than ever.

Visit areafoundation.org/caringcatalog to give back to the place you love November 24 through December 14. [ aw ]

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What You Should Know About Disorderly Conduct Restraining Orders in North Dakota

WORDS : IAN MCLEAN, SERKLAND LAW FIRM

If you ever find yourself the victim of intrusive or unwanted acts or words that you believe are intended to adversely affect your safety, security or privacy, you should consider obtaining a “disorderly conduct restraining order.”

Q:

What is a disorderly conduct restraining order?

A:

A disorderly conduct restraining order is a court order which typically orders an individual to cease or avoid the disorderly conduct or to have no contact with the victim.

Q:

What is disorderly conduct?

A:

In North Dakota, disorderly conduct is defined as intrusive or unwanted acts, words or gestures that are intended to adversely affect the safety, security or privacy of another person. Examples of disorderly conduct could include threats, bullying, harassment or abuse.

Q:

Who may seek a disorderly conduct restraining order?

A:

A person who is a victim of disorderly conduct or the parent or guardian of a minor who is a victim of disorderly conduct. A disorderly conduct restraining order can be utilized if someone is victim of disorderly conduct by a family member, friend or even a stranger.

Q:

How does a person obtain a disorderly conduct restraining order? A:

A person must file a petition and affidavit with the court which, at a minimum, must allege facts to show the name of the victim, the name of the person engaging in disorderly conduct, and the specific facts or circumstances supporting the allegation the person engaged in disorderly conduct.

The North Dakota Supreme Court website provides a draft petition/affidavit (with instructions) which a person can fill out and file with the court.

Q:

What happens after I file for a disorderly conduct restraining order?

A:

The court will review your petition. If the court finds the petition alleges reasonable grounds to believe that an individual has engaged in disorderly conduct, the court will likely grant a temporary disorderly conduct restraining order ordering the individual to cease or avoid the disorderly conduct or to have no contact with the victim. The sheriff will serve a copy of the temporary restraining order on the person who is alleged to have been engaging in the disorderly conduct. As the name suggests, the temporary restraining order is only effective for a temporary set of time, typically fourteen days.

Q:What happens after the Court grants a temporary disorderly conduct restraining order?

A:The court will hold a hearing within two weeks on whether to extend the temporary disorderly conduct restraining order and grant a disorderly conduct restraining order. At the hearing, the person requesting the restraining order must show evidence the other individual has engaged in disorderly conduct. The other individual will be provided an opportunity to present their own evidence. If the court finds that the victim has proved there are reasonable grounds to believe the other person has engaged in disorderly conduct, the judge may grant a disorderly conduct restraining order which cannot last more than two years.

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These meetings are led by our Grief Support Coordinators Sonja Kjar and Ann Jacobson. 701-237-6441 griefsupport@boulgerfuneralhome.com

Ian McLean

This article was prepared by Ian McLean, an attorney with the Serkland Law Firm in Fargo. McLean practices in the areas of general commercial litigation, personal injury, estate litigation, legal malpractice and education law. For more information, call 701-232-8957, email imclean@serklandlaw.com or visit serklandlaw.com.

This article should not be considered legal advice and should not be relied upon by any person with respect to his/her specific situation.

"Living with Grief" is our monthly drop-in meeting on the first Tuesday of the month held at Boulger Funeral Home. please check boulgerfuneralhome.com for future dates.

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Sometimes angels choose fur instead of wings. These are just a few of our furry angels awaiting their forever homes.

WILMA

MARSHMALLOW

PEANUT

BY CIARA BERG

Prep time 15 minutes Cook time 25-35 minutes | Serves 4-6

ingredients:

1 loaf gluten free white bread (19 ounces)

3 cups chicken broth

1/3 cup vegan butter

1 bundle green onions, finely chopped (green parts only)

1 cup lactose free milk (for dairy-free, substitute with chicken broth or unsweetened almond milk)

¼ teaspoon black pepper

½ teaspoon salt

1 tablespoon sage

½ tablespoon basil

½ tablespoon oregano

½ tablespoon rosemary

2 eggs, whisked

directions for Bread cuBes

Preheat oven to 375°F

Cut bread into cubes. Spread bread cubes on a large non-stick baking sheet. Bake 15-20 minutes or until pieces are golden brown. Be sure to toss the pieces a couple of times so all sides get done. I let the bread cubes sit overnight to make sure they are completed dried out, but letting them sit overnight is not necessary.

directions for stuffing

Preheat oven to 425°F

Spray a 9 x 13 inch baking pan with cooking oil. In a large pot add chicken broth, butter, chicken broth, green onions, black pepper, salt, sage, basil, oregano and rosemary. Bring to a boil. Boil for 5 minutes. Fold in bread cubes. Fold in whisked eggs. Spread stuffing mixture into greased baking pan. Bake for 12 minutes. Enjoy!

Uffda “KITCHEN SINK” SOUP

BY IZZY WYCHOR

ingredients:

Use what you have, as much or as little as desired, hence the title — just not the actual kitchen sink.

Protein: tofu, egg, shrimp, chicken, beef, turkey, pork

Veggies: peppers, carrots, snap peas, onion (red, yellow or green), mushrooms, edamame, kale, spinach, celery, corn, peas, bok choy any vegetable, really

Noodles: ramen, udon, lo mein, spaghetti, veggie spirals

Broth: chicken broth, beef broth, miso broth, water and ramen seasoning, and/or Uffda Sauce ingredients (see recipe on the right)

Herbs and Spices: garlic, salt, pepper, red pepper

flakes, ginger, sesame seeds, cilantro

Living your Best Life Extras: chow mein noodles, fried wonton wrappers, water chestnuts, side of egg rolls the options are endless

My name is Ciara Berg. I am a self-taught cook and love learning in the kitchen. I strive to create recipes for those with gluten and dairy sensitivities and/or allergies. Check out my growing food blog for more recipes. ccmb123.wixsite.com/mysite-1

uffda sauce ingredients:

This recipe is based on one serving, and can be altered to taste. If you like sweet, use more brown sugar or sesame oil, if you want to clear out your sinuses, dial up the hot chili paste or garlic.

3-4 tablespoons soy sauce

1-2 teaspoons sesame oil

2-3 teaspoons ground ginger

Minced garlic (It always says "two cloves;" I put 2 giant spoon fulls I'm not gonna tell you how to live.)

2 teaspoons hot chili paste (sambal oelek)

2 teaspoons mirin (or white wine)

½ tablespoons light brown sugar

directions:

Cook protein choice (or take out leftovers).

Chop up all your goodies. If you're going to boil noodles, bring water to a boil. If you're doing ramen in the microwave, find the bowl you're going to use to heat that up, follow package instructions. Cook egg to preference in a separate pan. Heat a frying pan to medium.

Once your fry pan is hot, add a drizzle of olive oil and add veggies (minus kale or spinach) and cook for 3-4 minutes. Start to add Uffda Sauce ingredients. After veggies have cooked down a bit, and sauce has started to thicken, lower heat and add in protein (minus the egg option).

If using Ramen, this is when you pop it in the microwave, or start cooking your noodles and warming up your broth choice. If you're going to add kale or spinach, this is a good time to put it in the bowl you're going to use for serving.

Dump time: After things finish up noodles cooked, protein and veggies with sauce are at a low simmer, and broth heated/ramen done this is when you put it all in your bowl. Top with sesame seeds or other extras. Sit, slurp, smile.

Izzy Wychor is a speechlanguage pathologist, certified personal trainer, and recipe lover, who owns and operates The Uffda Co., a health and wellness company based in Moorhead. Check them out at theuffdaco.com.

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"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and find me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord." — JEREMIAH 29: 11-14

Dr. Khaled Rabadi