Area Woman Magazine Feb/Mar '21

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A TOUCH OF Blue

It’s about facing the future. And embracing it with open arms.

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To O Readers,

We have known for 36 years that our readers, and women in general, are strong, generous and influential. You’ve proven it once again.

Our holiday issue carried a multiple-page feature covering Giving Hearts Day, the non-profits and charities involved, and the families in need who would benefit.

We’re proud to say that the response from you, our readers, has been tremendous and several of the groups involved in that feature story have called and emailed to thank us for the support. So we’re thanking you.

Countless lives have been changed for the better, in a year when so many people need help, because you read this magazine and took action to help.

The Giving Hearts Day campaign is in full swing, culminating on February 11. Area Woman is committed to helping them have their best year ever, which is why you’ll find more information in this issue about how to help. There’s plenty of time to support these worthwhile organizations for Giving Hearts Day, and they will gladly accept your help all year round.

SOPHIE GRACE PHOTOGRAPHY

TWO BIRDS PHOTOGRAPHY

BRITTANY WALSH Two Birds Photography

Brittany is a Fargo area wedding and portrait photographer. Fueled by Redbull and 90 Day Fiancé reruns, she lives in Fergus Falls with her fiancé and two children. See more of her work at twobirds-photography.com

our writers

are the voice of Area Woman Magazine. They bring to life the Fargo-Moorhead area and the incredible stories of the women we feature. These are the talented contributors showcased in this issue. Learn more about these and our other contributors at areawomanmagazine.com .

JOYCE EISENBRAUN

Joyce Eisenbraun enjoys the opportunities that writing has given to explore new ideas, meet new people and gain a better understanding of the community and the world. A native of North Dakota, Joyce is a graduate of NDSU, enjoys traveling, gardening, and the adventures of grandparenting, and owns her own marketing company. She and her husband, Dennis, live in Fargo.

ANGEL EVENSON

Driven by her goal of leaving you happier than before you met, Angel's main goal in life is laughter. She owns her dream, AKA, where she is a multifaceted consultant and coach. Her expertise ranges from sales and marketing to writing, educating and fitness. Her man-bun wearing husband and two precious kids keep her grounded, fulfilled and grateful. Stop by for a daily dose of yoga, motherhood and all things life-inspired on her blog angelskeenangles.com and instagram @angelskeenangles.

MEGAN ELGIN

ALICIA UNDERLEE NELSON

Alicia is the creator of prairiestylefile.com, a website that explores the arts, culture, shopping, events and fashion of Fargo-Moorhead and the upper Midwest. She frequently travels across the region in search of what's beautiful and what's next.

Megan grew up on the family farm in small town North Dakota and graduated from MSUM. She loves all things creative including her job as the art director here at Area Woman Magazine. She is passionate about reading as many books as possible and loves discussing them with others. Megan lives in Horace with her husband and son, loves camping with her family in the summer, and snuggling on the couch with them in the winter.

SARAH MORRAU

Sarah is a mother, musician, writer, yoga instructor and mental health professional. She loves reading, the ocean, inappropriate humor, word games, working out, Mexican food and tea with milk and sugar. She is grateful for the everyday joys in life and believes you should not let anyone dull your sparkle!

Our cover story was photographed by Taylor Jane Photography and written by Joyce Eisenbraun, page 56.

UNDER THE Romantic Moon

WORDS : TAMIE ZACCHEA PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY ROMANTIC MOON

On a quiet dead end o Highway 10 in Minnesota, just west of Glyndon, is a ve-acre farmstead. Over the past decade or so, Roy and Teresa Gilbertson have been turning their former horse farm into one of the premier wedding venues in the area, Romantic Moon. Roy will tell you his DNA test shows 100% Oslo, so the Norwegian in uence is 100% Roy.

The vision began with the search for a venue for their daughter’s wedding. They toured several locations, but none o ered a single-level, climate-controlled facility, with a rustic farmstead feel. They have now transformed about two acres of their property into a sprawling venue perfect for weddings, but well-suited for other events too.

Roy and Teresa love to give tours, which usually start with what was once the horse barn and is still called the “Horse Barn.” This now houses a changing suite for the bride and her party, as well as a cocktail reception area or a staging area for caterers. Beautifully nished knotty pine tongue and groove lines the walls and ceiling, with the east wall anked by a 16foot bar of Roy’s creation. Sunshine oods the building.

Behind the barn is a bride and groom’s dream for spectacular wedding photos. A high arching bridge spans a small stream with a waterfall which ends in a pool, banked with river rock and lled with koi sh. The bridge leads to the “Castle,” which is tted with an arched door surrounded by vines. Roy carved the door for the Castle, as well as all the breathtaking woodwork featured throughout the facility. Just beyond the Castle is the Bu alo River.

From the Horse Barn and gardens, all paths lead to the unique chapel, a small A-framed building with traditional Norwegian stag horns and dragons adorning the door. The chapel is at the bottom of a gentle slope, upon which outdoor bench seating has been installed to accommodate about 200 guests.

At the top of the gentle slope is the single-level, climate-controlled main hall. Knotty pine and two eldstone replaces create a relaxed, lodge feel in a state-of-the-art building built for the comfort of the guests. Windows surround the building, providing guests a view of the chapel and gardens. The bar is paneled with carved traditional Norwegian scenes, all done by Roy.

A work in progress, the gazebo features a carving of Odin (the main God in Norse mythology) on the front door while Norse runes (symbols or letters) march along the window frames. The gazebo will be used as a gathering room for the groom and guests, and will eventually feature a re pit. Surrounding the gazebo and reception hall is plenty of shaded, open, grassy space for guests to congregate and enjoy the grounds.

Romantic Moon is available all year except March and April. The facility does one event per day Fridays and Saturdays, as well as o ering Sunday and weekday events upon request. Roy and Teresa welcome tours for prospective weddings or other events.

FOR MORE INFORMATION

visit the Romantic Moon website at romanticmoonevents.com. [ aw ]

…AND I LIKE YOU TOO!

WORDS : WENDY REGNER

ARTWORK : CLAUDIA V onmixkit.co

I love you!

Three (little) words every human being wants to hear. The words that seem to solidify our place in the heart of a loved one when we hear them say it — right?

Whether it’s face to face or in writing, we have tons of ways of expressing that love. Words, emojis, smiles, hugs, kisses, hearts … the list is practically endless. Now as a female, writing to a predominantly (I assume) female audience, I’m pretty sure there are plenty of smiling, nodding and dreamy-eyed expressions as you ponder this truth. But, how many of you have stopped to think about whether those expressions hold the same meaning and pack the same punch for the man in your life as they do for you? And if you’ve thought about it, have you asked him?

I grew up with three brothers. At age 19 I started dating the love of my life, who has now been my husband for over three decades. For years, I went about married life patting myself on the back for consistently telling my husband I loved him. Eventually we were blessed to become parents to two sons. And now the testosterone trend continues with two delightful grandsons. Throughout my years in a male-dominated life, I’ve seen that guys’ views on many things in life are di erent from girls’ views. No big surprise there.

But it was within the last ten years that my husband revealed something very important to me that really got my attention. It showed me just how di erent those views and needs are. He told me that he wants, no, needs me to like him. Immediately I began to ask myself, and him, how “like” and “love” are di erent.

As I said, I’ve done life surrounded by males. I’m also a couples counselor and have studied and taught the principles of healthy relationships from various professionals’ perspectives. One day, following a disagreement with my husband, in my attempt to “make up” with him I said, “I love you.” And his response genuinely startled me. He said “I know you love me. I’ve never doubted that. But the way you treat me sometimes leaves me feeling like you don’t like me. And that hurts.” What ensued was a conversation about friendship and respect that opened my eyes to the importance of showing him how valuable he is to me and led to new depth in our relationship.

A quick internet search of what it means to “like” someone produces words like enjoyable, agreeable, admire, look forward to, appreciate. Several of those concepts are included in Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ description of respect in his book “Love and Respect.” Eggerichs, a Christian writer and speaker on relationships, uses the acronyms COUPLE and CHAIRS to illustrate the di erences between love and respect. He shares:

LOVE is spelled:

C loseness: she wants you to be close

O penness: she wants you to open up to her

U nderstanding: don’t try to fix her; just listen

P eacemaking: she wants you to say, “I’m sorry”

L oyalty: she needs to know you’re committed

E steem: she wants you to honor and cherish her

RESPECT (LIKE) is spelled:

C onquest: appreciate his desire to work and achieve

H ierarchy: appreciate his desire to protect and provide

A uthority: appreciate his desire to serve and to lead

I nsight: appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel

R elationship: appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship

S exuality: appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy

Don’t get me wrong, women want and need respect too. But the fact that we are driven by a love-dominated culture makes it extra important to talk speci cally about respect and the impact its presence or absence has on men’s sense of worth and the stability of our relationships.

So how do you know what the man in your life needs to feel liked (respected)? Ask him today! Take his responses to heart. And enjoy the results!

WENDY REGNER To Have and To Hold Couples Care

Wendy is a licensed professional counselor in private practice at To Have & To Hold Couples Care/Journey of Hope Counseling in Fargo. She is a member of the American Counseling Association (ACA), American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), a lifetime member of the Boundaries.me network, a Certified SYMBIS Pre-marital Preparation Facilitator, and a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy practitioner. She has a passion for helping couples and individuals navigate the challenges life brings and learn to bravely live life to the fullest.

VENUE: Plains Art Museum

FLOWERS: Love Always Floral

STYLING & DECOR: The White House Co.

HAIR: Hide Out Salon

MAKEUP: Katelyn Osland

WEDDING DRESS: a&bé Bridal

Shop — Minneapolis

SUITES: Halberstadt’s

CATERING: Urban Foods

CEREMONY & FIRST DANCE

MUSIC: King Sage

Molly + Adam

OCTOBER 17, 2020

Surrounded by sparkling disco balls, a sign proclaiming, “Eat, drink and be married,” welcomes guests to the Plains Art Museum. For high school sweethearts Molly and Adam, this scene perfectly captures their wedding day — a mash-up of modern party meets 70s prom vibes.

The couple began planning their wedding in 2019 a er nearly seven years together. With an initial guest list of 250 people, they were gearing up for a fun modern party complete with a live band and colorful orals. As COVID-19 progressed, their original plans required adjustments and they dropped their guest list down to about 150 people and had to nd a new band when the original one cancelled. Two days before the wedding, state guidelines changed and in one night the guest list needed to be cut down to 50 people which required di cult phone calls to many guests on the list. They took it all in stride and ordered custom masks printed with their names and mini bottles of hand sanitizer for their guests. Molly says, “If things don’t go exactly as planned, don’t sweat it!” She then thoughtfully mentions, “We just want to say how much we appreciate our families and the vendors we worked with who navigated all the twists and turns with us.”

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN PHOTOGRAPHY : FLORAPINE PHOTOGRAPHY

Molly and her bridesmaids got ready at the Hotel Donaldson. She says, “The bridesmaids all wore white dresses that they picked out, and the owers were super colorful, because I could never decide on an actual color scheme for anything. We were inspired by indecisiveness, I guess!” Attired in her V-neck long-sleeved wedding gown and blue headband, Molly headed over to meet Adam for their rst look at the Plains Art Museum, which Adam says was one of his favorite parts of the wedding day. They wandered downtown for photos, then headed back to the venue for the main event. “It wasn’t the day we originally planned, but it was so much more special than we could have imagined,” Molly says. “We had a short ceremony followed by a champagne toast made by Adam’s dad, and a er that we had our rst dance. Then we all ate a ton of delicious food and talked with all of our friends and family.”

The same state guidelines that required cutting the guest list also meant that the couple couldn’t have a dance at the reception or a live band for it. However, folk singer trio King Sage played music for the ceremony and their rst dance. When asked about her favorite part of the day, Molly says, “Our rst dance. We were surrounded by our loved ones and danced to ‘Something in the Way She Moves’ by James Taylor. It was so special!”

Adam also mentions another favorite part of the wedding was “having the opportunity to see friends and family that we hadn’t been able to see for a long time because of COVID-19.” In true 70s style, the couple closed out the evening with artistic disco ball photos, perfectly capturing the essence of their wedding day.

[ aw ]

VENUE: Rustic Oaks

BRIDAL DRESS: Your Day by Nichole

BRIDESMAID DRESSES:

David’s Bridal

MENSWEAR: Halberstadt’s

HAIR: Haven Salon

MAKEUP: BreElle Bridal

FLORIST: Hornbachers

CAKE + CUPCAKES: Gigi’s Cupcakes

CATERING: Chef’s Table

OFFICIANT: Pastor Stephen

Abbott, Prairie Heights Community Church

DJ: Mark Haugen — Minneapolis

VIDEOGRAPHY: Smith Videography

Albert Lea, Minnesota

Bryn + Quinn

NOVEMBER 14, 2020

“Emotional. Heartfelt. Spiritual. Joyful.” This is how Bryn describes the day she married Quinn.

With a change in venue three weeks before the wedding day, cutting the guest list in half, and older family members being unable to attend, it would be easy to focus on how COVID-19 disrupted their wedding day. But Bryn remains grateful, saying, “Because of COVID-19 our wedding day felt extra meaningful. We truly know that the people who were there were willing to take the risk to celebrate with us, because they love us that much.”

The couple met their sophomore year of college at the University of Jamestown. Bryn, a nurse at Sanford Health’s orthopedic surgical services department, and Quinn, a physical education teacher and baseball coach, love the outdoors and staying active. Their rustic chic wedding feels like a natural extension of their love for camping, hiking and skiing.

Their favorite part of the wedding? The ceremony. “It was very emotional for the both of us. We wrote our own vows and hadn’t read them to each other prior to the ceremony so that was really special.” The ceremony took place in the barn with a vintage chandelier overhead.

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN

PHOTOGRAPHY : SOPHIE GRACE PHOTOGRAPHY

Following the ceremony, tables were set for the reception. Wood slab centerpieces Quinn made himself topped with white candles and lush greenery beautifully complement the natural wood backdrop of the barn at Rustic Oaks. Guests were treated to a special touch with their seating cards. On the back of each card, Bryn and Quinn wrote a personalized message for every guest. “We wrote a memory or something the person had taught us. This was inspired by a family friend who did it at their wedding,” says Bryn. “It was super fun writing them and we really wanted to show our appreciation in a personal way to each of our guests.”

Dinner and heartfelt speeches were followed by joyful dancing. Guests were sent home with another personal touch — homemade salsa favors. Bryn’s mom used her large garden to provide the produce for over 300 jars of salsa which were embellished with a tag that said, “Thanks for spicing up our wedding day.” Bryn says, “We worked on salsa for months! We knew how much our guests would enjoy it.”

A er the wedding, the adventurous couple spent a mini-honeymoon in Spear sh, South Dakota, exploring the Black Hills. And now? Bryn has nothing but gratitude for everyone who helped make their day so special. “Sophie is extremely talented and we are so blessed to have had her capture our day,” Bryn says of photographer Sophie Grace. “We absolutely adore our photos.”

Bryn also mentions, “Shanelle at Rustic Oaks was amazing. With everything that could’ve happened or changed, she was always positive and reassured us that Rustic Oaks would do everything they could to make our day just as we’d pictured.”

VENUE: Avalon Events Center

VIDEOGRAPHY:

Caleb Wilkinson, CJW Files

BRIDAL DRESS: RSVP by Alan Evans

BRIDESMAID DRESSES:

David’s Bridal

MEN’S ATTIRE: Halberstadt’s

WHITE ARCH: Avalon Events Center

WOOD CROSS: Borrowed from Hope Lutheran Church

DESSERTS: Sam’s Club

FLOWERS: Mother of the Bride

Heidi + Ryan

JULY 11, 2020

Faith is a recurring theme for Heidi and Ryan — from their rst meeting, to what carried them through wedding planning during a pandemic.

Fargo native Heidi was involved in a campus ministry program called Chi Alpha while studying nursing at UND. Ryan’s brother Mark happened to be the head pastor for the ministry. Ryan, an NDSU graduate who was living and working as an engineer in Alabama at the time, attended a ministry sponsored church event while visiting his brother where he crossed paths with Heidi. A er a short conversation, Ryan knew he wanted to know more about her and the couple spent the next few months getting to know each other better long distance. When a new position brought Ryan back to Minnesota, the couple began meeting in person and eventually started dating.

Originally Heidi and Ryan planned for a wedding one year a er their engagement in May 2019. “In March, it became increasingly apparent that weddings were not going to happen in the near future, so we collaborated with our venue to check for alternative dates,” Heidi says. “With faith, we picked a new date of July 11, 2020.”

As the new wedding date approached, COVID-19 had more curveballs to throw at the couple. One week before the wedding, the vendors they had

WORDS : MEGAN ELGIN PHOTOGRAPHY : SCHERLING PHOTOGRAPHY, ALEXANDRA GAMBLE

booked for their hair, ceremony music and the DJ all ended up contracting COVID-19. “God was faithful in providing great family and friends to take their place and it turned out better than we ever could have imagined,” Heidi says. “The biggest lesson we learned planning a wedding during the pandemic was that the only thing that truly mattered was the love and support of our family and friends.”

The church they originally chose was not available, so the ceremony and reception both took place at the Avalon Events Center. The Millennium Ballroom provided the backdrop to an aisle lined on either side with homemade wooden lanterns and greenery leading towards a wooden cross decorated with white roses. The same wooden lanterns illuminated the center of each table placed in socially distanced rows on either side of the aisle and twinkling lights lit the ballroom from above. “It ended up working out perfectly, where we were able to accommodate friends and family in a safe and socially distanced manner,” she says.

Heidi and Ryan exchanged vows in front of the wooden cross during the ceremony o ciated by Ryan’s brother, the pastor who had a hand in introducing the couple. In place of her wedding band which did not arrive in time, Heidi wore a favorite ring that had belonged to her grandmother who passed away a couple of years earlier. The couple also made sure their faith was included in the ceremony, with worship songs sung by everyone in attendance during which they took communion as a unity ceremony.

The traditional couple chose not to see each other before the ceremony. When asked what their favorite part of the day was, they replied “leaving the reception for a short time to take sunset pictures with our photographer, Alex. It was nice to step away from the party and get a chance to be together and soak in the present. When we returned to the dance, it was great watching all of our friends and family enjoying themselves accompanied by many smiles and sounds of laughter.” A sparkler send-o in front of the Avalon marked the end of the evening as the newlyweds shared one last kiss before saying goodnight to their guests.

Faith continues to guide their daily lives as they live and work in Rochester, Minnesota. “Our wedding day was peaceful, full of God’s love and presence, and was lled with joy as we got to see all of our friends and family together for the rst time in months,” Heidi remembers. “We are grateful for the pandemic teaching us that planning for the marriage is far more important than planning for the wedding.” [ aw ]

Layne + Travis

AUGUST 26, 2020

The best photos require emotion, a beautiful landscape, and a photographer to capture the moment with exquisite timing. These elements also had a hand in bringing together professional photographer couple Layne and Travis.

The couple had a long-distance friendship that grew over the years from di erent states and even continents. A er years of friendship, they met up 24 hours before Travis was set to board a plane with a one-way ticket to Nicaragua. Layne had spent a semester of college overseas and Travis wanted to know her opinions on where to go and what to see. It was this meeting where Travis confessed he’d always wanted to be with Layne and she felt the same way. That turned out to be perfect timing — a few months later, Layne met Travis in Costa Rica and they’ve been together ever since.

Fast forward two years to April 2020, the couple headed west from their home in Bismarck, to Medora, North Dakota, for a weekend of hiking in Theodore Roosevelt National Park. While hiking, they often set up a camera to take photos of the landscape. Travis took advantage of this and set the camera to burst mode to capture the moment he got down on one knee and asked Layne to marry him with the beauty of the landscape stretching behind them.

A badlands proposal turned into a badlands elopement. The couple had planned to get married elsewhere, but COVID-19 meant that making plans to travel and include their parents and siblings, some of whom live out of state, became impossible. “Eloping was always on the table for us. We always talked about going back to Costa Rica or somewhere,” says Layne. “We both have close, large families, so we either wanted everyone there to celebrate with us or to keep it just the two of us, because it would’ve been impossible to choose who to invite.” So they made the decision to elope, just the two of them.

Throughout the process, the couple kept everything secret aside from the few people who helped make plans. A friend of Layne’s was the only one who knew their plans and she supported Layne wholeheartedly while planning the elopement. She also owns an uncommon plants and home goods shop in Colorado and made the bouquet. Unable to ship the owers intact, she drove the bouquet all the way from Colorado to Medora for Layne. The ceremony was o ciated by Travis’ brother who is also a pastor. “My brother wore many hats that day — pastor, best man, maid of honor, he strung the lights and brought Layne’s jacket when she forgot it for the photos, all the things that needed to be done,” says Travis.

VIDEOGRAPHER: Flom Films, Minneapolis DRESS: asos.com

BRIDE’S SHOES: Dolce Vita HAIR: Hi Honey Salon, Bismarck

MAKEUP: Beauty Bar by Chelsea, Bismarck

SUIT: Suit Supply, Denver GROOM’S SHOES, TIE: Halberstadt’s

EARRINGS: Riddle’s Jewelry BOUQUET: Overgrown Home Co., Denver

A private lodge owned by a family friend surrounded by 80 miles of badlands set the stage for the day. The ceremony itself took place on a blu outside of the national park. The couple handpicked the spot for its stunning view of the landscape to showcase all the gorgeous colors present in the badlands. When asked what her favorite part of the wedding was, Layne replies, “Our ceremony was really special. We wrote our own vows. It was about us and what we were promising each other. It was amazing.”

The only people present to witness the ceremony were photographer Brittany Walsh of Two Birds Photography and videographers Josh and Lisa Flom of Flom Films. Layne and Travis chose professionals they loved and picked a date that worked for those vendors. “Our photographer and videographers were the best investment we made and ended up being the most important thing that we could have done,” says Travis. As the sun set over the badlands, the couple shared their rst dance as husband and wife and then they all relaxed over a dinner of Thai food from the couple’s favorite restaurant, Eat Thai, in Bismarck. Layne and Travis spent the night at the cabin, then headed to Montana for a week-long honeymoon before telling their families about the wedding.

When asked if they have any advice for other couples considering elopement, the couple is all for it. “The biggest thing is de nitely do not tell other people, they will try to talk you out of it. Only tell those closest to you on an absolutely need-to-know basis,” says Layne. “The wedding is between you and your spouse. That’s the most important aspect of it, being able to focus on your marriage.” Travis chimes in, noting, “Being wedding photographers, we’ve noticed that nine times out of ten, the issues that arise on a wedding day are about someone other than the bride and groom who want something done one way and someone else wants something di erent.” Layne laughs, “It’s easy to get wrapped up in the shiny objects and pleasing others, but it’s really about your marriage and future together.” She remembers being pulled into the trappings of a perfect elopement herself while looking online. Her friend gently reined her in, saying, “Layne you’re making this stressful for yourself. What can you take out that is just creating chaos for you.”

Now, looking back, Layne and Travis know eloping was the perfect choice for them. “When anyone asks us why or how, it was the least stressful day of my entire life,” says Layne. “We’re wired to think our wedding day is supposed to be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be. We were able to truly focus on us and what it means to us.”

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ONE STEP LEFT KRISTINA LESLIE IN PAIN AND UNABLE TO GO ABOUT DAILY ACTIVITIES

WORDS : TARA EKREN, ESSENTIA HEALTH PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY KRISTINA LESLIE AND ESSENTIA HEALTH

Looking forward to a relaxing week at the lake last August with her family, Kristina Leslie was working with her husband to move kayaks to the dock. In one step, the bank of the lake gave out and Leslie slammed to the ground, landing on a log.

The fall caused intense pain in her lower back that radiated and wrapped around to her hips and down her le leg into her calf and ankle. Her relaxing week at the lake was ruined.

A er a few days, Leslie could no longer bear the pain and completed a virtual video medical visit with Essentia Health. During this visit, she

was immediately referred to the spine program. The program o ers the rst step in dealing with neck, mid-or low-back pain and sacroiliac joint pain. Harnessing experts in all areas of care for pain, the program works to nd the best course of treatment for each patient.

Expecting a lengthy wait to see a specialist, Leslie was pleasantly surprised when she was able to be seen by Physician Assistant Crystal Knutson within two days. “The pain was so intense, I couldn’t walk,” Leslie recalls. “I couldn’t stand long enough to do the dishes or cook a meal and even showering was impossible without sitting down.”

Leslie shares that she felt miserable. “I wasn’t able to do my normal activities, yoga and exercise.” The pain weighed heavily on her mind. Her active lifestyle, and life in general, was on hold.

“I was so frustrated that I couldn’t live my normal life,” recalls the Davenport, North Dakota, woman. “Because I’ve been working from home since March due to the COVID-19 pandemic, I made an extra e ort to get up and move around to get my steps in each day. But a er this fall, that was nearly impossible.”

In addition to missing out on normal dayto-day activities, Leslie couldn’t help her son when he started a new job and moved into his first apartment. “Normally, I would have been hauling boxes up to the third-floor apartment alongside him and my husband, but this time I was restricted to holding open doors,” she says.

↗ ABOVE: Crystal Knutson, physician assistant, neurosurgery

← LEFT: Leslie family (from left, Dale, Kristina, Tyler, Rachel Fix and Tanner)

At her rst appointment, Knutson recommended physical therapy before exploring more invasive treatment options. When physical therapy failed to provide complete relief, an MRI was ordered and showed a pinched nerve. Knutson explains, “A pinched nerve is when too much pressure is applied to a nerve by surrounding bone, cartilage, muscles or tendons. The pressure causes the nerve to become inflamed and it disrupts the nerve’s function, which causes pain, tingling, numbness or weakness.”

Knutson later suggested an epidural steroid injection to relieve the pain. “A previous injury several years ago was helped by an injection, so this was an option I was very open to,” says Leslie.

The injection resulted in an immediate reduction in pain and Leslie says she felt back to her normal self in just a couple of days. She was able to gradually add stretching and yoga back into her daily routine. Her short walks grew longer and longer each day. “Within a short amount of time, I was back to feeling normal again,” Leslie happily shares. “I had a couple follow up visits, but I’ve not had any issues and I’m pain free.”

Looking back on her injury and her experience with the spine program at Essentia Health, Leslie says, “It’s hard to nd the right words to convey how impressed I was with the program and the care I received.”

Leslie also has high praise for Knutson. “I was so impressed with Crystal. She listened to me and understood what I went through last time I hurt my back and that I didn’t have a good experience. Every interaction I had with Crystal, I knew she was really listening to me and that was wonderful.”

“Today, I am back to living my life, being active and going about my normal activities, thanks to the spine program at Essentia Health,” Leslie says.

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IS IT HORMONES?

Common Symptoms that may indicate a Hormonal Imbalance

Have you ever found yourself reacting strongly to something your signi cant other said or did? A er the fact, you may have had a sort of "great and powerful Wizard of Oz" feeling that there was someone behind the curtain, pulling the levers of your mood. Sometimes we all let our emotions get the best of us, but there may be more to the story that we don't always consider: the body's chemical messengers, aka hormones.

While uctuations in hormone levels during different stages of life, and speci cally during PMS, peri-menopause and menopause are quite normal, sometimes those hormones can get too far out of balance, causing unpleasant and confusing symptoms that directly impact mood and behavior. This in turn impacts relationships with loved ones.

Hormonal imbalance and uctuations can cause many uncomfortable symptoms in both women and men. Speci cally in women, commonly seen symptoms include:

Hot Flashes and Night Sweats: This may be indicative of low estrogen levels.

Mood Swings, Depression and Irritability: Neurotransmitters such as serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine may be impacted by low estrogen levels.

Headaches and Migraines: As estrogen levels decrease, headaches and migraines may occur, especially right before or during your period.

Foggy Thinking and Memory Trouble: Estrogen and progesterone level changes may result in memory problems and not thinking clearly.

Low Libido: Women with low testosterone levels sometimes experience a loss of sexual desire.

Fatigue: Excessive levels of progesterone or low levels of thyroid hormones can bring about feeling excessively tired.

Irregular Menstrual Cycle:

A possible sign of too much or too little estrogen and progesterone. If you’re in your late 30s to early 50s, it can indicate perimenopause.

Sleeping Problems:

Sometimes caused by low progesterone levels.

Weight Gain: A drop in estrogen levels may cause sudden cravings leading to weight gain.

Stomach Issues: Fluctuations in estrogen and progesterone can impact food digestion, and potentially cause bloating and other stomach problems.

With all of these various symptoms that present when your hormone levels are too high or too low, it's really not surprising that there are times where you don't feel like yourself at all.

Maintaining our thriving relationships can be hard, but joyous work. Sometimes the symptoms of hormone imbalance can make that work more challenging than it used to be. Addressing the root cause of this imbalance through hormone therapy may prove to be critical in helping to maintain the relationships with those we care about most.

Hormone therapy consists of measuring an individual's current levels of hormones along with an understanding of symptoms and medical history. If appropriate, by supplementing with customized doses of prescription hormone medications, many patients see alleviation of symptoms related to hormonal imbalances, which can help improve relationships.

Medical professionals that have experience specializing in hormone replacement therapy can help patients determine if it may be appropriate and beneficial.

FOR THOSE INTERESTED IN learning more about hormone and wellness consultations, simply text “hormone” to 701-365-6050 or go to: inhealthcompounding.com/balance.

MARCH 30

– MAY 4

6:00 – 7:15 PM each Tuesday

"When Mourning Dawns" is our six-week series that looks at the seasons of the year to guide our conversations about the seasons of your grief. Preregistration is required and space is limited. Please call or email us if you have questions or interest in this series. for more info: boulgerfuneralhome.com

These meetings are led by our Grief Support Coordinators Sonja Kjar and Ann Jacobson. 701-237-6441 griefsupport@boulgerfuneralhome.com

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Every day brings an opportunity to connect with your community and one another. From cooking demos and exercise classes to co ee chats and informative workshops, AARP has so many online options at your fingertips. Find your community at aarp.org/nearyou

John Deutsch is a pharmacist and co-owner of InHealth Specialty Pharmacy in Fargo. InHealth specializes in preparing custom medications with a special focus on women's health and veterinary prescriptions.

VIR S HUNTER

First-year science students at MSUM hunt viruses

We’ve paid more attention to viruses lately. As we watch one particular virus, COVID-19, change our communities in profound ways, we might forget that there are millions of viruses in the world. Minnesota State University Moorhead junior Anna Madsen became an expert on one two years ago.

She took the introductory course, CHEM 275: Research-based General Chemistry Lab, also referred to as “Virus Hunters,” where she discovered a virus that nobody else had yet named and characterized.

The lab has been o ered at MSUM for the past three years. According to Michelle Tigges, associate professor of chemistry and biochemistry and one of the instructors, it introduces students to scienti c research early in their academic careers.

Instead of replicating experiments, students learn chemistry and biology concepts by “hunting” phages, which are the viruses that infect bacteria (not humans). Students then study and document each phage’s characteristics. These details are added to a database established by the Howard Hughes Medical Institute (HHMI) where other scientists can tap the information for further research.

“We get to use our students’ drive to teach people all of the chemistry, math and biology that go into the discoveries that help us,” Tigges says.

The course is part of HHMI’s SEA-PHAGES (Science Education Alliance-Phage Hunters Advancing Genomics and Evolutionary Science) program, a two-semester, discovery-based undergraduate research course.

Tigges was introduced to the program when she attended a microbiology conference. She watched

students present their research during one session and assumed they were graduate students. She later learned they were first-year undergraduate students. That convinced her it would be a great fit at MSUM.

“Usually, students need a lot of background to understand what’s going on in a laboratory setting,” Tigges says. “With this class, you learn everything as you’re working on it.”

In many ways, students in the lab become Indiana Joneses of the microbiology world.

Students discover viruses in bacteria that exist in the soil. The young scientists quickly progress from digging soil samples to practicing a variety of biochemistry techniques. When they run into problems in the lab, they troubleshoot. Eventually, students isolate their viruses, characterize their environment, and sequence their DNA.

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“The overall, big scienti c questions students explore in this lab are interesting, and it’s very doable in the time limits of the semester,” says Sara Anderson, associate professor of biosciences and a lab instructor.

Every semester, rst-year students at MSUM nd and characterize about 10 viruses, Tigges says. Since the students discover the phages, they also get to name the viruses.

Madsen and her lab partner, who happened to be her twin sister, named their phage Etta a er a character from their favorite science ction show, “Fringe.” Junior Kelsey Leach and her partner named their virus Booth a er a character on “Bones.”

“It was a fun and valuable lab experience,” Leach says. “It was my rst major exposure to what research is like in science.”

Both Madsen and Leach have since applied what they learned in their Virus Hunters class to independent research with bacteria that only grow in arctic conditions. Because of the lab, they became comfortable presenting research to their peers and other scientists, which they did at the 2019 Undergraduate Research in the Molecular Sciences (URMS) conference. Leach was also the plenary speaker at the 2019 national HHMI Science Education Alliance Research Symposium in Virginia. They are both hoping to pursue a career in scienti c research.

“I enjoy working in the lab,” Madsen says. “I wanted to go into a research-based career and this class confirmed it.”

While the public has become more aware of viruses and related research thanks to COVID-19, there is much about viruses researchers don’t know. Students in the Virus Hunters course are helping ll in that knowledge.

The discovery of these new phages can have reallife implications. For example, medical professionals have used the HHMI database to identify phages to treat patients with bacterial infections resistant to antibiotics, Anderson says.

“It’s possible that a phage our students nd might someday be used to treat patients directly,” Anderson says. “It’s quite incredible.”

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Don’t neglect urgent health needs, It’s safe to seek care

STAY ON TRACK WITH URGENT AND PREVENTIVE CARE

“We have the ability to keep our COVID patients in one part of the hospital and the patients without COVID in a di erent part of the hospital. We now have the testing ability, the protective equipment and all of the things we need to appropriately screen and separate those people.”

it is encouraged.

“It’s very important for people to understand that our hospitals and clinics are safe places,” says Dr. Jeremy Cauwels, Sanford Health chief physician.

clinic safety measures

Andrew Burgard, a family practice physician in Fargo, shares some key points about clinic safety:

• Employees and patients undergo temperature screenings before entering a facility.

• All locations are following CDC cleaning requirements and cleaning and sanitizing several times a day.

• Social distancing is in effect in all waiting areas.

• Clinic employees must wear a face mask at all times.

• Sanford Health has worked hard to ensure it has a steady supply of personal protective equipment (PPE) for the safety of providers, caregivers, patients and residents.

• Sanford Health is limiting personnel and visitors at its locations.

• Hospitals have separate designated areas for COVID-19 patients.

“I feel that coming into the clinic here is about the safest place you’re going to go into in the community,” Burgard says. “I’m very con dent that we can treat people here safely in person in the clinic.”

At Sanford Health, addressing health care needs is not something that should be complicated by the presence of the coronavirus. In other words, it is OK to keep regularly scheduled appointments and get urgent care when you need it. In fact,

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when to seek urgent care

Many have experienced doubt about where to go in medical situations. It’s helpful to remember that the “e” in ER stands for emergency. The hospital emergency room is for emergency situations only.

At walk-in clinics, you can see a provider without an appointment. Sanford Health walk-in clinics, urgent care clinics and acute care clinics treat urgent health needs. You’ll get treatments for non-emergency medical conditions that need care right away.

Go to the ER or call 911 for:

• Deep wounds

• Heavy bleeding

• Vomiting blood

• Chest pain

• Major broken bones

Go to urgent care for:

• Sprains and strains

• Back pain

• Cold and flu

• Fever

• Minor broken bones

Call 855-726-3329 if you’re unsure about where to go.

maintaining caution

Pandemic visitor policies are still in place at Sanford Health locations. Sanford Health leaders urge the public to maintain personal precautions as well. “If I’m out in a public place, I’m still wearing a mask,” Cauwels says. “Washing your hands is still going to be very important.”

Accommodating those conditions should not include making a decision on seeking medical assistance based on the coronavirus. “Your health care needs are going to continue on,” Cauwels says. “It might be a mammogram or a colon cancer screening, or if you’re a kid, getting a physical for sports or an immunization. All of those things continue to be needs. We want to make sure you’re healthy and doing as well as you can be even during the pandemic. Sanford is open and ready to help you with those needs.”

UPDATING A classic beauty

with

Designer Andrea Coleman of Kitchen

Refresh shares a recent favorite from their team’s work this past year. “There has always been something about an older home that I have always loved,” she says. “The squeak of the oor, the beautiful molding, all the cozy rooms. I could go on and on. It was an absolute pleasure to help our client update this timeless classic in Fergus Falls, yet making sure to add features to compliment the architecture of the home. I remember pulling up to the home and thinking, this is going to be fun! I absolutely love this transformation and could not express how thankful our team was to be a part of it.”

The great part about Kitchen Refresh is their willingness to work with their clients to meet their design goals while keeping their client’s budget in mind. Their team is capable of doing it all, however, they are always open to having clients tackle portions they are interested in, to keep their budget exactly where they want it.

In this project, the client pitched in by removing the old stick-on tile and cleared the walls for Kitchen Refresh team to add board and batten. New ooring, quartz counter tops and tile backsplash were all coordinated with the help of our designer, and installed by the team contractor, Bryan. Kitchen Refresh’s “Opti Gray” cabinet tone tied the kitchen together with their timeless D“Dusty Trail” black-bronze hardware. The jewel of the space was the vintage light that was a must-keep in the space. We love this transformation and could not express how thankful we were to be a part of it.

Let’s Knock the Socks Off Giving Hearts Day Feb. 11, 2021

Those who give $50 or more to St. John Paul II Catholic Schools on Giving Hearts Day will receive a pair of custom Deacon socks!

FRESH FROM The FARM

FOR THE LOVE OF STUFF

: KRISTI BIXBY

PHOTOGRAPHY : Constantinos Panagopoulos on unsplash.com

WE LOVE STUFF .

We cherish things handed down for generations, enjoy new things fresh out of the box and see a new use in the bones of something old.

There can be times in life that the stu we love becomes a burden either to ourselves or the people we love — who are more important than the stu itself. Downsizing, combining households, relocating or a death in the family are situations that happen in everyone’s life. When those circumstances arise, we sometimes are faced with a house full of stu that is overwhelming at best.

Garage sales, estate sales or auctions are always options but can be time consuming and inconvenient, and rarely liquidate completely. For several years, I have been assisting people in dealing with the stu that was loved but has become a burden. Taking a few simple steps before attempting a clean out can help make the whole process easier.

1.

Make sure everyone involved is in the loop regarding the plans to liquidate the items. This is especially important after the death of a family member. If there is a will, be sure to follow any instructions included for disposal of property.

2.

Give everyone an opportunity, when appropriate and possible, to claim items that may belong to them or to which they have an attachment. Make sure everyone’s clear about who is responsible for removing the items they’ve claimed and when.

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If you’re dealing with an entire household, setting up one room as the “keep” room, then going room by room can simplify the process and keep it from becoming overwhelming. This process is crucial to insure nothing gets missed or forgotten. Tape and post-it notes tend to fall off or get removed.

When you’re faced with an overwhelming conglomeration, it can be enormously helpful to have an outsider help. Having someone with no attachment to any of the items involved can help defuse the emotions that can run high. We’ll start with a meeting and consultation, which is free of charge. I will assess the contents, o er a price for the entire contents, and, when an agreement is reached, a contract will be put in place.

For the average house, the complete cleanout takes approximately two days. For large or very full homes, or a hoarding situation, it can take up to a week. We bring our own equipment and are fully insured. What isn’t repurposed or resold in the Fargo Antiques & Repurposed Market is donated to charities such as the Dakota Boys and Girls Ranch and HERO. We keep as much out of the land ll as possible.

Through this process, I have met some wonderful families and made some life-long friends. It has become my passion to help families re-home their stu for the next person to love. Please call The FARM any time to see if I can help you too.

Best regards, Kristi

sensational SIMPLY

WORDS : JOYCE EISENBRAUN PHOTOGRAPHY : BRENT HAMMOND

DABBERT CUSTOM HOMES

o ers an attention to quality that helps make dreams come true

ADAPTABLE and EFFICIENT with a luxurious flair:

Discover the sensational design of the very popular Sarah model, created by Dabbert Custom Homes. Models are now available to tour in Hampton Place 3rd Addition in Moorhead as well as others throughout the FM area. New homes will also be available later this spring in the Cub Creek development in Horace.

The beautiful three-level model provides a robust 2589 square feet of living space, designed for easy care and high e ciency, and priced to appeal at $378,500. Using a transitional style, the vinylsided exterior is a blend of gray and white with light gray stone accents. A three-car garage, with extra-deep 26-foot bays, not only is insulated and drywalled, but complete with a oor drain.

From the extra-wide entrance hall and up the stairs, the view focuses on the open-concept living room, dining room and kitchen. A client favorite, the thoughtfully designed space provides exibility, from entertaining groups to quiet conversations, helping the kids with homework or trying out a new recipe in the well-appointed kitchen.

Tall white painted cabinets line the kitchen area, and are highlighted by rustic black hardware and premium granite countertops in muted grays, white and black. Tucked in the corner is a walk-in pantry with wire shelves. A Dabbert customdesigned curved island provides seating for four as well as great storage in the cabinets below. Whether used as a breakfast counter or bu et table for entertaining, the island’s versatile style ensures it will be a favorite gathering point. Three pendant lights above the island feature glass and ironwork trim with exposed bulbs, matching the ve-light chandelier above the dining area. Stainless appliances support the sleek, modern appeal.

Accent windows line the 12-foot high ceilings around the living space, ensuring ample natural light while providing privacy. Vinyl plank ooring in a longship pattern throughout the main level o ers a neutral background to accommodate many decorating color choices. Just o the dining area, sliding glass doors lead to another custom option: a back deck.

The top level of the home is designed as a quiet retreat. Featuring a master bedroom complete with walk-in closet and bath with dual sinks, it’s the owners’ private space for relaxation. Large windows overlook the front of the home, while two smaller windows provide light and privacy near the bed. The bathroom ooring is a tan linen-look vinyl tile, complementing Windsorstained alder cabinets, again with rustic hardware. Although this model showcases a large walk-in shower, the options to add other custom details are readily available. The walk-in closet provides plenty of room for clothes and accessories.

Included on this oor is a second guest bath and another bedroom that can be used as a child’s bedroom, home o ce or cra space, depending on the owners’ choice. The well-designed laundry facilities conveniently located on this oor make routine chores an easier task.

Heading downstairs, a stained wood handrail tops a glass-insert stair railing — another custom touch from Dabbert Homes designers. All the doors and casement trim, hand-painted in an elegant white, has a smooth, professional nish to complement the light gray walls.

The garden level of the home is carpeted in light taupe, with the coordinating light gray walls and white trim. Two more bedrooms, each with their own spacious closet, o er great guest space or added family rooms. Another bathroom is nished in matching Windsor-stained alder cabinets. With the garden level, all the bedrooms and family room have large windows for natural light. Under the stairs is a large storage area, which can also be nished as a fourth level if desired by the owner.

About the Builder

“We pride ourselves on walking with our clients through the whole building process,” says Megan Grote, client services at Dabbert Custom Homes. “Building can be a scary concept, so we make it enjoyable. Our goal is to provide so much information and communication they can be comfortable in the process. Most clients tell us they have a good time when building with us!”

Taking time in the building process, and having a process of multiple quality control checks throughout the building phases ensures the quality of any project the Dabbert team undertakes, notes Grote. “The term ‘quality’ is overused, but the science of building is so important to our team, we can provide a product that will last,” she says.

“It’s the details that matter,” she adds. One example is the bonus of a nal cleaning and sanitizing of the HVAC system at the completion of the build. “It means your house is truly clean when you move in,” she says. “There’s nothing le in the ductwork or sheetrock dust in the vents — it’s clean and ready for you.”

“As the owner, Don meets every client at the start of the process, and lets them know he and the team are there for them every step,” Grote says. “As another example, he personally does a nal walkthrough with every client before closing. He explains how to maintain their home, what they can expect, and that they can call with questions at any time. His goal is to have people absolutely love their home. Throughout the process and even years later, we’re always a resource for our clients.”

Beautiful, livable space, with the ability to customize to the individual owner’s wishes — it’s the advantage of working with a respected builder. Whether choosing cra sman air, transitional comfort or contemporary panache, Dabbert Custom Homes o ers striking designs, beautifully cra ed details throughout the home, and an attention to quality that helps make dreams come true.

FOR MORE INFORMATION:

Dabbert Custom Homes

5522 36th St S, Fargo

701-205-4979

• dabberthomes.com

Vendors featured in Dabbert homes:

Valley Lights

• Rigel's Appliances

Floor to Ceiling/Carpet One

• Vector Windows

• Winter Masonry

Red River Drywall and Decorating • Onsum Enterprises

Dirt Dynamics • Home Heating • Quality Heating

JDP Electric • Static Electric

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RESILIENCE is REQUIRED

Ten roller coaster years ago

Brad Nordstrom, NDSU’s former strength and conditioning coach, and his wife Angie Nordstrom started Maximum Performance & Fitness (or MPF as their loyal clients like to call it). In the craziest year they have ever experienced, 2020, they celebrated that milestone. But like most small business owners, they weren’t able to actually celebrate. In their milestone year they faced a rst-ever mandated shutdown during the worldwide pandemic. But, if you’re looking for a story of resilience and commitment, you will nd it at MPF. From the owners to the clientele you are surrounded by exactly that: resilience and commitment.

Angie always supported Brad’s dream even though she knew it wouldn’t be easy for him or them as a family. She believed that the risks were worth the potential reward and that the lessons owning a business would provide were ones you couldn’t learn elsewhere. She desperately wanted that for her children. To not only show them what it means to build something you are so passionate about, but what grit looks like.

“I believe that God has given us all a calling in life, and that each of us has received a gi to use to serve one another,” says Angie. “I know without a doubt that Brad has a gi to motivate and lead people. I see it in the way he interacts with clients, how e ortlessly he can strike up a conversation and shoot the breeze with anyone, and how passionate he is about helping people become a better version of themselves through tness.”

Even though they knew this was the right path, it hasn’t been all rainbows and sunshine. Angie recalls always trying to be a listening ear, especially in 2020, and giving advice or throwing out ideas wherever she could. Yet, it’s the support from the outside world that means the most when your livelihood is at stake.

Angie Nordstrom’s journey as an entrepreneur's wife

PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY MAXIMUM PERFORMANCE FITNESS

BRAD AND ANGIE NORDSTROM WITH THEIR CHILDREN.

“Small businesses have closed right here in our community from the pandemic,” says Angie. “I am eternally grateful for those who reached out to my husband when our doors were closed and asked him to continue to bill them each month; those who have shared how great a loss it would be if MPF was not a place for them to go to; those who told him that they appreciate all the e orts we’ve made to keep the doors open; clients who have become like family; clients that will drop their plans for the evening so they can stand in as an actor in a media ad or give a testimonial on our behalf. That is what makes us push forward. It’s so important to celebrate the little wins.”

As business needs varied throughout the year, Angie’s roles have changed. She has done everything from social media content handling, marketing, HR, courier, interior decorator, merchandiser, admin, event organizer and more. “When your spouse goes into business, you do too, so it’s all hands on deck,” says Angie. But burnout is a very real thing, and knowing that, they bought a camper to force them to get out of town and unplug when they could. “Lake-time has been the best self-care investment we have ever made,” says Angie.

Work ethic, perseverance, humility and sacri ce are what she prays her children take from their life of entrepreneurship. “My hope is that they see how hard their dad has worked to grow his business,” says Angie. “Though nothing was handed to him, he paved his own road to his dream.”

She recollected that Brad always tells them “you will make time for it if it’s important to you.” And if you know Brad, he approaches health with the same perspective. MPF is more than a gym, it is a community where your success is their goal.

CHECK OUT MPF at mpfitness.net and sign up for their new year special that includes a body composition assessment and a full month to try their most popular program, MELT, for only $50.

NDSU PROVIDED the path to true passion

i“I like solving people puzzles,” she says. “I really enjoy looking for ways to improve instances where a business or employee feels stuck or slowed down. I like nding ways to make work easier for the team, and for individuals to have autonomy to construct their work in a way that is best for them. They are usually big messy problems and take a lot of communication — mostly listening — to solve, but I nd it really rewarding.”

Stoecker’s career began in fundraising. But when she decided to pursue a master’s degree in communication at North Dakota State University, she learned her true passion for organizational and strategic communication.

She now works as a program manager at Razor Consulting Solutions, a minority and woman owned business that provides professional services and custom technology solutions to a wide variety of clients.

The NDSU communication program not only helped Stoecker nd a new, ful lling career, but also provided tools for future success. While consulting on a business case for a presentation, Stoecker was able to pull research from academic resources learned during her time at NDSU to make the case. This application of knowledge is just one example of how her master’s degree turned theoretical knowledge into practical implementation.

mproving work lives, one puzzle at a time.

That’s what Caitlin Stoecker is most passionate about.

WORDS : BRYNN RAWLINGS PHOTOGRAPHY : JUSTIN EILER

I like solving people puzzles

CAITLIN STOECKER

One of the things that Stoecker appreciated most about her experience at NDSU was the fact that she was in the same classroom as doctoral students and professors who are considered leading experts in their elds. Engaging in discussions and analysis with these people elevated her ability to apply knowledge and solve problems at work.

Stoecker also serves on NDSU’s Communication Advisory Board, o ering a bridge between the industry and academic worlds. She enjoys being able to advise students and answer their industryrelated questions. “I had mentors that helped me in my education and career. This feels like a way to give back and pay it forward in a subject matter that I am most passionate about,” she says.

Stoecker says communication professors at NDSU are personally invested in our local and regional communities. They o er ways to connect students with opportunities that would be a good t.

That support helped Stoecker earn her master’s degree. The exibility of her professors, support of the department, and a path that was tailored to her needs allowed her to earn her degree in 2017 while balancing a full-time career and expanding her family. Stoecker’s rst child came as she pursued her graduate degree. The Stoecker family is expecting their second child very soon.

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connection matters most

One of the most prominent lessons of 2020 is that connection matters. In our previously toobusy lives, we took for granted the simple joys and meaningful impact of being together — as family, friends, organizations and as a collective community. Connection with others is a fundamental piece of who we are, directly tied to our physical, mental and emotional well-being. Connection matters most.

Although we are limited in our ways to connect with others, there are powerful alternatives that can bring us together as a community. We have an opportunity to connect with others, become part of a cause bigger than oneself, and to make a contribution toward improving the quality of life all around us. That opportunity is Giving Hearts Day.

WORDS : AMBER DEKREY PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY GIVING HEARTS DAY

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Deep human connection is the purpose and the result of a meaningful life — and it will inspire the most amazing acts of love, generosity and humanity.”

– MELINDA GATES

PLAINS ART

MUSEUM

Giving Hearts Day is more than just a day. It’s a movement of generosity with an abundance of heart behind it. This year, Giving Hearts Day has expanded its mission to champion volunteerism and donation of goods in addition to raisingnancial gi s. This means there are even more ways you can support and connect with a charity.

We invite you to consider these five Covid-19-friendly volunteer opportunities! There are over 500 volunteer opportunities listed at givingheartsday.org, with more added daily.

1. AMBASSADOR

Personally invite friends and family to support a charity you care about.

2. GRATITUDE CALLER

Write thank you notes or make thank you calls to donors on behalf of a charity.

3. SOCIAL MEDIA ENGAGER

Activate your networks by spreading the good word about the charity or charities you support.

4. RUNNER

There is always something that needs to get from point A to point B.

5. WRITER

Volunteer your skills to write, review or edit something for a charity.

We have also set a big, bold goal to be the most generous region by 2025. To do so, we are driven to become the No. 1 region for volunteerism and the No. 1 giving day in the nation. We are excited to be launching this bold goal, and we challenge our communities to join us in helping someone this Giving Hearts Day! Across our region we can bring together our friends and neighbors to lead purpose-driven lives by li ing up our communities through the giving of time, talent or treasure.

Giving Hearts Day, a 24-hour “friend-raising” event for North Dakota and northwest Minnesota charities, will take place on February 11, 2021. There are 500 charities doing amazing work in our region, awaiting our help to advance their missions. The year of 2020 has been a challenging time for charities to stay a oat. Now more than ever we are asking all of you, our Giving Hearts, to connect and contribute.

Join us this Giving Hearts Day by giving a nancial gi , pledging to volunteer or pledging to donate goods at givingheartsday.org. By connecting with a charity, you will ll your heart, improve your health and make an incredible di erence for those in need.

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Giving Hearts Day is creating A SEASON OF GIVING

in the days leading up to the February 11 event. From now until February 9 at 11:59 p.m., participants can enter to win some great prizes, including the grand prize, a 2021 Chevy Silverado pickup donated by Gate City Bank. Donate to a charity, pledge online to volunteer or donate goods, or post on Facebook about a charity using the hashtag #helpsomeone.

Visit givingheartsday.org/sweepstakes to learn more.

Amber DeKrey

is the director of Giving Hearts Day at Dakota Medical Foundation. She is passionate about helping others find meaning and purpose through acts of kindness, service, and giving back to the community. Amber, her husband Brent, and their two girls live in Fargo. They love spending time outdoors and playing family games. Check out GivingHeartsDay.org for ways to get yourself, your family, or your organization involved.

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Buying abusine

is a bold move.

Her vision was clear. The challenge was determining just what kind of business to start.

Holkup’s route to business ownership was a circuitous one, with stops for a bachelor’s in psychology, a minor in biology, and a master’s in counseling from the University of North Dakota and work as a bridal model. When she took a job at Affairs by Brittany in Grand Forks and worked alongside owner Brittany Anton, a key part of the puzzle emerged.

“She became one of my mentors,” Holkup says. “Brittany had such a reputation for not being pushy and very genuinely caring about her brides. She wanted to help. She wanted them to feel beautiful.”

When Brittany was ready to sell her shop in downtown Fargo, Holkup realized she could build upon this tradition of excellence. A er a decade in the bridal industry — and getting married herself — she became a small business owner in July 2020.

A key part of her mission was to make sure that the wedding gowns on the racks were as unique and breathtaking as the women who would wear them. To accomplish this goal, A airs by Brittany shops very di erently than its competitors.

“Our section of wedding gowns is ever- changing. Most stores order twice a year. We order a couple times a month,” Holkup explains. “We are o the rack, which means we don’t order in dresses for individuals. We only buy one of most dresses. Nobody wants the same dress as anyone else.”

The A airs by Brittany sta can help a bride nd her perfect dress, even if her wedding is just a few months away. As a result, the shop attracts brides who want to stand out, and also decisive brides focused on results.

“I think our bridal shop has a very practical undertone to it,” Holkup says. “There’s no waiting. You know exactly how it fits you. Our brides are the go-getters, the ones with the crazy zest for life. I also feel like they’re always crazy in love.”

The downtown Fargo shop is bustling with these focused and passionate brides, even during a pandemic. But the shopping process has changed a bit to keep everyone safe. The shop is strictly appointment-only on weekends. Weekday walk-ins are available if the shop isn’t crowded.

Buying a business during a pandemic is particularly brave. But Klaudia Holkup doesn’t see it that way.

“I’m a fourth-generation small business owner,” she explains. “I knew from a young age I wanted to own my own business.”

The pampering begins the moment the bride and her entourage cross the threshold. Masked sta members usher her and her guests to one of the two secluded dressing rooms in the shop and help the guest of honor select ve to seven gowns to try on rst. They also switch out gowns as the bride’s vision becomes clearer.

The bride and her guests can order mocktails, nibble on delicate macaroons by Sonder Bakehouse, don customized T-shirts by Shirts from Fargo, or even book a private tting session to make dress shopping extra festive and fun. Even though the pandemic has changed safety protocol, Holkup wants her brides to feel safe and supported during such an important moment.

“People want to feel heard and they want to feel beautiful,” she says. “The bridal dress shopping day is one of the three days that you have in your head. You have your proposal, your wedding dress shopping day and your wedding day. You have a lot of expectations. We’re able to deliver that exciting ‘wow’ moment.”

Holkup revels in helping brides present the most powerful vision of themselves to the world on their wedding day. The bride’s look sets the tone for the entire event.

“It’s the ultimate day to show who you are,” she says. “It’s a day that you are showcasing to the world who you love. That’s the day you want to feel the most beautiful and the most ‘you.’”

Each bride’s wedding look is as distinct as she is. But local brides have a few favorite styles. Dreamy bohemian dresses remain a favorite. In contrast, a fondness for elegant crepe gowns emerged this summer.

Amie Draeger, Affairs by Brittany Real Bride with Klaudia Holkup

Klaudia Holkup (left) with Affairs by Brittany store manager Amanda Schroeder (right)

“We literally cannot keep crepe dresses on our racks,” Holkup says. “I think with the pandemic, people are liking that minimalistic look. It has a very clean undertone with a modern spin.”

A airs by Brittany stocks gowns for brides on the opposite end of the spectrum too. A er a season of sleek austerity and boho romance, designers are embracing a little celebratory shimmer.

“I’ve been noticing the subtle sparkle coming back — the clear sequins, the bugle beads, those sunshine-catching sparkles,” Holkup says. “I’m excited about it.”

Extravagantly ru ed gowns with dramatic texture and volume are also having a moment. They spotlight cascading layers and uttering handkerchief hems. Some even have horsehair hidden in the seams to give the ru es eye-popping depth and de nition.

“It’s so fun to watch the ru es and the layered dresses move,” Holkup says. “It’s a lot of dress and it’s not for everyone. It’s super ultra-feminine — very, very romantic. My brides who have bought that style of dress so far — they are looking for that ‘wow’ factor. They want to walk into the room and not have anybody looking anywhere else but at them.”

Attention-getting brides can opt for distinct accessories as well. A airs by Brittany o ers custom earrings from Fargo’s Clay and Fern Co., as well as a line of unique veils by artisan Julie Harris in a huge range of colors, including purple, blue, even black.

Bold bridesmaid dresses are trending as well. Two colors are especially hot.

“Yellows are making a big comeback, especially a beautiful darker, almost marigold yellow that’s stunning on people,” Holkup says. “I’ve also been seeing a lot more brides having their entourage in black. Nobody ever says, “I look bad in black!’”

Making the bride and her bridesmaids look and feel great is Holkup’s main goal. But she also wants to help support women and girls who may never step into the shop. A big part of why she became a business owner was to help give back to the community.

The shop donated to CreativeK9 Solutions this holiday season. But a family tradition of altruism and a grandmother who survived domestic violence moved organizations like the YWCA onto Holkup’s priority list.

She also serves on the board of directors for Project Dignity, which supplies sexual assault survivors with clothing to wear when they leave the hospital, since their own clothing o en becomes evidence. Holkup’s also a longterm volunteer and committed supporter of the Community Violence Intervention Center, which assists and empowers survivors.

When she’s not volunteering or working, Holkup is at home with her husband Nick, their new baby Norris and their pups Luna and Betsey. It’s a lot to manage. But Holkup says any driven woman could do it, because she’s not doing it alone.

“My number one thing is not being afraid to ask for help,” she says. “Find a dream team and don’t be afraid to utilize them.”

Teamwork and mentorship got Klaudia Holkup into the bridal business. And it’s helped her expand her goals to lift up her entire community. When brides walk into Affairs By Brittany, they don’t just walk out with a dress — they’re honored as the passionate, empowered women that they are.

“I want our brides to know that we’re on their team,” Holkup says. “We’re going to advocate for them, we’re going to help them articulate what’s in their mind and translate that into a dress that ts their wedding vision.”

a Virtual Celebration

Due to COVID-19, it was not an option to gather an audience for the show, so plan B involved nding a venue where performers could safely distance, and would be suitable for livestreaming.

The new plan also included drawing on the expertise of Ariel Wethern, who coordinates and manages social media for the show. Jenkins is especially grateful for Wethern’s skills and her ability to share how to keep the show relevant through social media platforms. She also credits Jon Dahl for his video expertise and with making the livestream accessible on YouTube.

Jenkins is really looking forward to this year, as last year, for the rst time, the main show was cancelled on very short notice due to weather.

Despite recent challenges, the focus for Jenkins and the other board members continues to be supporting young women in the arts — whether providing nancial awards, mentoring

or networking opportunities, or just encouraging them. It’s also what drives her to continue the show, which Jenkins started 24 years ago, along with the support from the performers, award winners and the community.

Sara Smith is a previous award winner and a performer this year, taking the stage with her long-time friend and fellow musician, Sydney Quibell, who is an award winner from last year. Smith says, “We have grown up playing guitar and violin together so it will be a lot of fun being able to play for the celebration.”

Smith credits her music mentors as in uences — Sarah Lang (her longtime violin instructor), Brian Cole (her rst orchestra conductor) and Bud Larsen (the luthier she apprenticed with to build a hardanger ddle).

In addition to playing piano, Smith originally played ddle music but then joined the FM Area Youth Symphony and began taking classical violin lessons as well. For the past 10 years Smith and her family have attended the Old-Time Fiddle Weekend at the International Music Camp which, she says, “was where my love for ddle music and ‘jamming’ began.”

For the first time ever, the annual Celebration of Women and Their Music will be livestreamed on YouTube, allowing the show to continue to reach supporters and new listeners. For founder Deb Jenkins, the signi cance of the livestream is that “anyone, anywhere around the globe can watch the Celebration of Women and Their Music in Fargo.”

WORDS : SARAH MORRAU

PHOTOGRAPHY : PROVIDED BY CELEBRATION OF WOMEN AND THEIR MUSIC

DEB JENKINS

SARA SMITH

SYDNEY QUIBELL

Photo by Doug Scott

Encouraged to apply by her choir teacher Mrs. Lichtblau, Quibell was an award winner last year, and had selected the song “Trust in You” by Lauren Daigle. She says she loves the message the song gives and hopes to share that message with as many people as possible.

Trained in piano through the Suzuki method at a young age, and skilled with other instruments, Quibell credits her parents with inspiring her as a musician. She adds, “I’ve also felt called to be present with music in ministry and lots of individuals from church helped me grow as a musician as well.”

She is looking forward to the show, playing with her dear friend Sara Smith and also her cousin Faith Weibye. Quibell says, “I’m so blessed to have them by my side as I create music with them.”

For the Celebration of Women board and volunteers, the challenge now is to get the word out about the show. Jenkins says it’s about “letting people know that you can be in the comfort of your home in your pajamas with a beverage and popcorn and watch the whole performance. All people have to do is buy a ticket. Then they will receive a link the day of the show.”

THE CELEBRATION of WOMEN and THEIR MUSIC

is Saturday February 20 at 6 p.m., live from TAK Music Venue

For tickets go to: debjenkins.com/ celebrationofwomen.html

PERFORMERS :

Connie Gjermundson

Madison Hokstad — 2020 Award Winner

Janey Hudson — 2020 Award Winner

Rachel Ianiro

Deb Jenkins

Pat Lenertz Band

Sarah Morrau

Taylor Paige — 2018 Award Winner

Sydney Quibell — 2020 Award Winner

Sara Smith — 2019 Award Winner

Jesse Veeder

Nita Velo

Faith Weibye — 2020 Award Winner

Visit the organization's Facebook page for more frequent updates including this year’s award winners.

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NOTE : All events are subject to change. Con rm dates and times before attending.

February 20

CELEBRATION OF WOMEN AND THEIR MUSIC

Coming to you live from the stage at TAK Music Venue, Celebration of Women has decided to livestream our performers and award winners right to you! Purchase your ticket to tune in and experience Celebration in a whole new way.

Performers:

Connie Gjermundson Madison Hokstad — 2020 Award Winner

Janey Hudson — 2020 Award Winner Rachel Ianiro

Deb Jenkins Pat Lenertz Band

Sarah Morrau Taylor Paige — 2018 Award Winner

Sydney Quibell — 2020 Award Winner Sara Smith

Jesse Veeder Nita Velo

Faith Weibye — 2020 Award Winner

Find the link to purchase tickets at debjenkins.com/celebrationofwomen.html. Tickets are $15 each and the money raised at this virtual event goes towards continuing this event and to an endowment fund established with the F-M Area Foundation.

6:00 PM Online

For more information, visit debjenkins.com/celebrationofwomen.html or facebook.com/celebrationofwomenandtheirmusic

February 11 & March 11

PARK CHRISTIAN SCHOOL PREVIEW DAY

Today, you are one of us. Whether you are in first grade or transferring from another high school, you are probably wondering whether PCS is a place where you will make friends, achieve your goals, develop your faith, and have fun. We’re rooting for a yes! Come spend part of a day with us and see for yourself.

8:00 – 11:30 AM

Park Christian School 300 17th St N, Fargo parkchristianschool.org/admissions/overview 218-236-0500

February 22

YWCA WOMEN OF THE YEAR 2021

— NOMINATION DEADLINE

Since 1973, we have been shining a spotlight on exceptional women. They are leaders, mentors, visionaries, angels and heroes. Help us highlight women who shape the Fargo-Moorhead community through their passion, service and significant achievements. Nominate an exceptional woman online by February 22 by visiting ywcacassclay.org/womenoftheyear. Tickets for the hybrid — in-person and virtual — event will be available after nominations close. For questions regarding Women of the Year nominations or sponsorship opportunities please contact Morgan Svingen at woty@ywcacassclay.org or 701-232-2547.

6:00 PM

Delta by Marriott Fargo 1635 42nd St SW, Fargo woty@ywcacassclay.org

February 25 & March 18

PARK CHRISTIAN SCHOOL

KINDERGARTEN EXPLORATION

A hands-on event for incoming kindergarten students and their parents. Come meet our early learning experts. Visit the classrooms, meet administration and experience the difference at Park Christian School.

5:00 – 6:00 PM

Park Christian School 300 17th St N, Fargo parkchristianschool.org/events/ kindergarten-exploration-events 218-236-0500

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"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Then you will seek me and nd me: when you seek me with all your heart, I will be found by you, declares the Lord."

JEREMIAH 29: 11-14

“Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

1 CORINTHIANS 13:13

24 TH ANNUAL CELEBRATION OF

SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 20 TH

6:00 PM • VIRTUAL EVENT

Live from TAK Music Venue

Featuring:

CONNIE GJERMUNDSON

RACHEL IANIRO

DEB JENKINS

PAT LENERTZ BAND

SARAH MORRAU

JESSE VEEDER

NITA VELO

TAYLOR PAIGE - 2018 Award Winner

SARA SMITH - 2019 Award Winner

SYDNEY QUIBELL - 2020 Award Winner

JANEY HUDSON - 2020 Award Winner

MADISON HOKSTAD - 2020 Award Winner

FAITH WEIBYE - 2020 Award Winner

TICKETS: $15 Purchase online at eventbrite.com

MISSION: To recognize artistic passion in women and create opportunities for emerging and established artists by opening avenues for networking, mentoring, support and promotion of their individual talents.

FOR MORE INFORMATION visit our Facebook page or for a complete list of events check out debjenkins.com/celebrationofwomen.html

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