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Creative Director • Dianna Bowes Celebrating the baby boomer women
Editor, Creative Director Dianna Bowes ads@fabulousat50.com www.fabulousat50.com Feature Editor Laurie Slipchuk Young Laurie@fabulousat50.com
our story Mission: To INSPIRE, EDUCATE and EMPOWER the baby boomer woman! Be Fabulous! was designed specifically to be an event magazine to be presented to our guests at the Annual Fabulous@50 Experience and Martini Party. But something magical happened! Dianna Bowes took a look around and realized there was nothing in our community that was discussing the needs of the seasoned woman. Be Fabulous!, much like the Fabulous@50 tradeshows, seminars, the meetup group and the Fabulous@50 on-line membership, filled a gap. Since 2010, Be Fabulous! has spotlighted inspirational women on it’s cover and covered topics that mid-age women want to read about. The vision of creative director, Dianna Bowes, was to publish a magazine that would be written by baby boomer women for baby boomer women. Fabulous@50 and Be Fabulous! is more than a magazine, more than a tradeshow, more than a membership, it is a community! Find out more by going to our website.
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{LIFE IS JUST A PHASE}
Moving
Forward With Your Honey
Sometimes we get it backwards when it comes to romantic relationships. In the dating phase we give a lot of attention to what we should wear or what activity we should do. If we make it to the point of planning a wedding, we become consumed with colour schemes, flower choices, and menus. All our energy goes into our one and only honey. We tend to front load most of our time and energy into the beginning of a relationship and then once the commitment is made, we revert to cruise control. Statistically you have a 50-50 chance of making a long term relationship work. What sets apart those couples whose relationships stay sweet for decades? They understand that relationships take work. You can’t coast through it and expect it to last. Work doesn’t have to mean unpleasant or hard.
It simply means as a couple you need commitment and focus. Pause for a minute and think about your relationship with your partner. How much thought do you give to the success of your relationship? Solid relationships need ongoing focus and attention. Here are some ideas to help you keep things humming along with your honey: • Keep getting to know your spouse. Once you think you know everything about your partner, you will begin to miss new things to learn. Over time our preferences change and our interests shift. Couples who don’t take the time to keep up to date with each other, wake up one day as strangers. Keep the same curiosity you had about your partner when you first met. Know each other’s likes and dislikes, current stressors and worries and hopes and dreams.
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Think of this as a life-long conversation. • Make a life list together. People often think a life list, or bucket list, is something that you do near the end of your life but that misses the whole point of it. Begin by creating individual life lists. Write down all the things you would like to learn, experience and try during your life. Then sit down and compare lists. Find common life goals and use them to do some annual or long-term planning. At the beginning of each year, choose a life goal to work on together. This activity also reinforces that although you are part of a couple, you are still an individual with your own unique life goals. Talk about how you can support each other in achieving your individual goals. Remember that a life list is a dynamic activity. It’s meant to grow and change along with your interests. • Give up needing to be right all the time. We all have our preferences and opinions so it’s easy to feel the need to defend our way of doing things. Lots of minor disagreements are about things
that are really not important such as the best way to complete a task. Throughout the course of your relationship, there will be lots of things that you will need to negotiate. Save your energy for the things that really matter. It’s okay to let your spouse be right. • One of the wonderful things about a long-term relationship is a feeling of comfort and familiarity. That can also be a danger zone. When we become too comfortable, we often begin to take things for granted, especially about our partner. It’s easy to think that your spouse knows how much you care so you don’t have to show it as often. Express your appreciation in small ways through words and gestures, and you will continue to strengthen your bond. b Laurel Vespi is a certified life coach, author and motivational speaker who helps women live more mindfully no matter what phase of life they are in. Learn more and get resources and inspiration for mindful living at stonecirclecoaching.com
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The Food
Revelation
I’ve been on a quest to get along better with food, from investigating new ways of eating, to medical treatment options, to getting back into the kitchen and exploring the tastes that I actually enjoy. In doing so, I’ve learned from an obesity specialist who teaches that we have a set point in our physical and emotional selves that pushes our body back to our highest weight for many reasons. I’ve spoken often with holistic nutritionist Loretta Kozak Friedrich from Sprout Natural Nutrition, I’ve met with dieticians and diabetic nurses, and done lots of research and taken courses on topics like integrative nutrition and the culinary arts. I don’t know about you, but I have come across so much contradictory information that it can be hard to get it straight, but lucky for me, I am a diligent researcher, and I have found the right people to speak with. Diabetes
In addition to diabetes, I have always given too much time to work and not enough time to my health. I also have a hard time passing a certain drive-thru without a stop for a meal, hence the extra visits to a counsellor and nutritionist. Why is it hard to be someone who “eats right” or has a good blood sugar level? Shouldn’t it be easy to get up in the morning and go about our day in a way that benefits us with a return of health and happiness? The simple answer is
that it’s hard because we are all so very different. We like different things, we have different lives, and each of us has a different tolerance for and preferences for a range of food and nutrients. This is why some people thrive as vegetarians or vegans or raw foodists, and others need meat and fish as part of their diets. It’s also why there is no single, simple answer in the quest for a healthy diet, or a healthy body. I have been overweight for most of my adult life, and like so many of us do, I’ve tried everything I could think of to get a grip on my weight and my health. I’ve had counselling, kept a food journal, done exercise classes that helped me get all nice and sweaty, and I’ve worn grooves in the sidewalk walking laps around my neighbourhood. I’ve changed the way I dress to camouflage my curves, and at times I have even cut my hair different to help me look ten pounds lighter. Sound familiar?
Many people I have spoken to supported the eat less, exercise more philosophy. My dietician even gave me free passes to the gym. “Eat less, and go work out,” she encouraged. However, Loretta and all the research I was doing on integrative nutrition were telling me something else, something more, and it really has changed things drastically in the past few months.
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It took a four week stay with my Mum, out in the country to kickstart things this spring. Dad was away, and I was staying with Mum to keep her company. She lives in a small town where there are limited options for places to shop, although there is an abundance of junk food available between the two corner stores and the gas station. Mum likes to eat healthy anyway, so it wasn’t a stretch for us both to commit to driving into the nearest city and shopping for great fresh produce, and visiting the farmer’s market, despite the reality that a trip for groceries alone is a two hour commitment. During the experiment at mum’s, my blood sugar was in the normal range seven times. That was something I had not seen in years, and I am pretty sure the difference came from eating the right proportions of foods that are right for me. Fish, vegetables, and fruit were regularly on my plate. Potatoes were okay. I avoided things that I know tend to be harder for my body to deal with including pasta, rice, and bread. Ireland
Then I took a trip to Ireland with my son. We felt like we were on this culinary tour as we ate our way around the country, and experienced how cuisine evolved from one region to another. We visited pubs and restaurants that were exclusively committed to local products - from meats, grains, vegetables, and jams, to the recipes they used for Irish Stew, scones, and Caesar salad (much healthier versions than what I typically encounter in Canada), to the desserts. Okay, I have to watch the desserts and the scones, but I made sure to try some while there too. Between the stay at mum’s and the trip to Ireland this summer, I have finally accepted the truth about me and food. I love food, and being restricted to food I have no connection to or at least like
leads me to do things like head through the drive through for satisfaction before I head home to eat the “healthy” meal with my family. Loretta knew this the moment I met her, and I think that’s why we have such great conversations about lifestyle, and food, and nutrition without ever resorting to creating a “diet.” My work over the past year has really helped me accept that the best results for me come from the right combination of nutrients and minerals that both fuel and nourish, but the formula for that combination is different for everyone. I feel the most energetic and fueled up when I eat foods that are locally produced and part of what I would say are my traditional, regional, diet. Yes, I have to eat more vegetables and fruit than I did as a kid who was happier with meat, potatoes, and ice cream, but I don’t do as well with things like commercial protein shakes, cleansing, or juicing. Flavors
Instead, I have made a commitment to not ever get takeout in a drive through (if I want it, I have to get out of the car and go get it), and I’ll be at the farmer’s markets to continue finding local, great food that satisfies my need to taste flavours that satisfy, and keep me healthy. In the meantime, I’m working on recipes and a lifestyle that gives me the room to create some great meals that are quick and easy, and wonderful to eat. If you’d like to join in this adventure or you have questions about bringing your own eating habits in line with the rest of your life, let me know. b Dr. Pam Robertson is a certified coach, engaging speaker, and best-selling author. She is a coach with Fabulous @ 50 and in addition to helping people with career and business conundrums, she is working on eating to live instead of living to eat. You can reach her at 1-780232-0083 or email pamrobertson@live.ca. Celebrating baby boomer women • 9
Just Eat It It is Thanksgiving time when we celebrate the fall harvest, however this month you will not read about squash recipes or the beauty of root vegetables. While I am deeply grateful for our food – and would showcase any of them willingly any month – I wish to address a topic that has been bothering me. It’s become a fire in my belly even more so since the end of September when I watched the screening of Just Eat It: A Food Waste Story. So before the main holiday season is upon us, I thought you may want to do something about wasting food. Look deep into your fridge, waaayy back into the corners of it and see what’s hanging around. Are there wilted vegetables or shriveled up fruit in the crevices of the crisper? What is lingering in the shadows of your food pantry – do you have stuff stored there from “1989?” Forgotten food turned into waste?! Oiy. I looked up the history of the saying “waste not, want not.” It basically means the wise use of one’s resources will keep one from poverty. This proverbial saying
was first recorded in 1772 but had an earlier, even more alliterative version, willful waste makes woeful want. Pretty much pokes you in the eyeballs reading it, hey? Ah yes, while I didn’t grow up with that phrase reverberating in our home it was considered a sin to waste food. I can appreciate the reasoning behind it especially when my parents were born during The Great Depression. Food was to be eaten, not found in the rubbish! Statistics show that on average, we toss away about 25% of what we purchase. I’ll guess that number is even higher when you include trashing stale crackers, and canned foods that smell funky. I also read that we could be feeding the hungry with what we throw away and that rotting produce in landfills may be contributing to greenhouse gas emissions! Just doesn’t make sense, does it? How to stop wasting precious food 1. Do a pantry purge. When I’m helping clients do a pantry purge, we read labels and discuss what is needed for their healthy diet and tasty meals.
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Get in there and dig out the expired before you haul in the next load of food. 2. Eat out of the fridge. I challenge you to only eat – unless it is so dead, or the aroma spells trouble – what is in your fridge, freezer and pantry until it’s all gone! The idea is to be aware of what you have, get creative using the food, and be realistic about your next food purchase. Don’t wait. Do this before you get “too busy”! 3. Buy in-season produce. I firmly believe that if you create meals centered on inseason produce, you likely won’t throw away as much. Bonus: fresh produce tastes better, offers more nutrition, and even looks more appealing than frozen or canned. 4. Share with someone. If you got the latest deal then share with a friend! In all likelihood, you won’t be able to use all 30 pounds of fresh fruit – unless you freeze or can them yourself – or 4 bags of carrots in a week. We’re probably not going to need 26 packages of crackers for the bunker in case of the next world war, so stop buying more than you realistically need! Just because it’s a sale, doesn’t mean you need to spend more than you would have if it wasn’t a bargain. (If it sounds like I’m talking to myself, you’d be partially correct.) 5. Ethical consumption. It seems obvious that we should just buy enough for what we need but in this age of materialism and consumption we can easily get caught up in the hype. Let’s commit to being ethical and mindful about what we choose to purchase for all our sakes. Just because you can (buy), doesn’t mean you should. I usually close with a recipe but this time, I encourage you to come up with a soup that uses most of the soon-to-expire vegetables found in your fridge or freezer. To give you an idea: chop up one small
onion, 4 carrots, 2 celery sticks, and ½ small head of broccoli or ¼ small head of cabbage in 8 to 10 cups of vegetable or chicken broth. Add pearl barley, noodles or rice. Feel free to experiment with the amounts of each, and use other vegetables like green beans, peas, or cauliflower if it suits your fancy. Add some locally purchased bread (or thaw out one that’s in the freezer, or ... make a loaf using some of that flour sitting in the fridge) and enjoy! b About Loretta Friedrich, C.H.N, NNCP Loretta is a Nutritional Consultant, Sprout Natural Consulting – Clinical Practitioner, educator, speaker, food lover, community supporter, health advocate, and owner of Sprout Natural Nutritional Consulting. Visit www. SproutNaturalNutrition.com for information.
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Oops! Pardon Me! Is Etiquette a Thing of the Past?
It’s Friday night. The hall is seething with people clambering to get to the various trade tables to try the new wine releases. I politely inch my way in toward the table to sample a product, only to be pushed out of the way as arms outstretched with wine glasses shove past me demanding some wine from the poor representative doing her best to remain professional. It’s the usual crowd. Women dressed to the nines teetering on heels too high for them, swaying from drinking too much and thinking they all look sexy. The men never dress up, drink too much and get louder and louder as the evening wears on. Welcome to the Fall Season’s Wine & Food Shows. Now before I am chastised for commenting on this, please know that I completely get it. After all, it’s a giant cocktail party where you have a chance to dress up, go out with your friends and sample dozens of different beverages and small plates of food for a minimal cost. What I can never quite understand is why people feel they have to try absolutely everything, become intoxicated, often rude and
therefore forget that the whole reason the show is held in the first place is to introduce you to some new wines, beers, whiskies, whatever, that now you will likely never remember anyway! I have experienced working behind the tables at these shows and also been a guest attending the event. Some have been for trade only and some for the general public. While one might expect the trade to display better behaviour at these things, it is certainly not the case. Sadly, the one common denominator at Food & Wine shows is a distinct lack of basic manners and etiquette. Old Fashioned Manners
Manners should not be deemed “Old Fashioned”. Manners distinguish us from the animals. They are learned behaviours, but it seems there is a shortage of teachers. Displaying manners is the way a civilized society shows respect for each other. With the present state of society having such little regard for politeness and respect of others, many liken this state of affairs as the beginning of outright anarchy.
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••• Manners should not be deemed “Old Fashioned”. Manners distinguish us from the animals. They are learned behaviours, but it seems there is a shortage of teachers. ••• Much has been written about the right way to behave when exhibiting at a show. So while I’m not out to save the world one manner at a time, I would like to share with you some thoughts and ideas of how to make attending these shows a more pleasant experience for all by learning how to navigate them using the lost art of etiquette. 1. Dress comfortably but please, do not lash on the perfume, aftershave, hairspray etc. You are at a tasting and overly smelly things will interfere with both your ability to taste and everyone else’s. Don’t chew gum either. 2. Eat something before you arrive. While there may be food there, going starving to a tasting is setting yourself up for trouble. 3. Ask questions of the person serving you. Show some interest and initiative and you will engage the person and may just learn something about what they are pouring. 4. There are always spittoons on the tables. Use them! You don’t have to drink every drop. It is a “tasting” after all. Learn to politely spit into the bucket, or take a smaller sip and pour out the rest. It’s perfectly OK. 5. Don’t feel you must taste at every table. If you approach a table unsure of the wines, ask some questions. If you simply don’t want to taste their 5 Chardonnays, don’t! Simple. Move on. 6. When it’s busy, move away from the table once the pour is made so you can sip it without blocking someone else’s
chance to get a taste. This allows the crowd to move between tables better without having to line up behind people. 7. Don’t ask to try the most expensive wine at the table first. Taste and quality don’t have to be pricy. If you only want to try one item at that table, ask for a recommendation based on what you prefer, or what the signature product for that brand is. 8. Don’t yell, ask for bigger pours, or criticise the server when she refuses to pour a second for you. There’s a thing called Liquor Laws that determine the size of a tasting pour and servers are responsible for observing this law. Besides, becoming a boor is well, so boring. 9. If you have tasted things that you really like, tell the server. She will let you know where the product can be purchased so you can try it again at home. 10. Don’t forget to say “Excuse me” when you bump into others because it’s so crowded. Smile at people, respect their space. It’s surprising how demonstrating some pleasantries to others comes back to you in spades. So simple really. b There’s a new group in town! YEG Women in Wine. Check the Facebook page or www. yegwomeninwine.org for information. Alison Phillips is the co-owner of Aligra Wine & Spirits in West Edmonton Mall. She is ISG Level II Certified and a French Wine Scholar. She enjoys tasting, talking and writing about wines & spirits, travelling around the world and discovering exciting people and places.
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FAN FEEDBACK Question? What are your Relationships Based On? Joanne: This time around, I chose a relationship built on mutual love, respect and support. Filled with laughter, adventure and wink, wink. Loretta: Unconditional love, honest communication, and soul-stirring passion. Shirley: Our relationship is built on commitment to each other. I have only been married once in my lifetime. I married Angelo when I was 29. We’ve been married for 21 years now. Our first year of marriage was a total shit show; disaster! LOL fighting. annoying each other. counting who does what and doesn’t do what. silent treatment. awful. We were at war with each other. I was talking divorce. He on the other hand; refused. He said “let’s fly the white flag and end this insanity. We shall never mention the “D” word again. Pam: Well this is a tricky one, but since you’ve asked... I’ve been divorced twice and a single person for far more years than I have been. I know what I am looking for when I think of a partner, because they are the same qualities I look for in my friends: love, laughter, and trust.
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MASCULINE
Here’s a question. If you had to choose, would you rather die having accomplished all of your goals but never having had a deeply meaningful relationship? OR Having experiencing the most deeply meaningful relationship possible but not having accomplished a single goal? You can’t have both. You have to choose one or the other. Don’t worry. There are no wrong answers. Both answers are right. Here’s another way to look at it. Would you rather ravish your partner or be ravished by your partner? Sexual Energy
The answer to these questions indicates your dominant sexual energy – either masculine or feminine. And it has nothing to do with your gender or your sexual orientation. Whether we are heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or even asexual, it is helpful to leave behind stereotypical definitions of male and female and to think instead of masculine and feminine energy. Both the masculine and the feminine
FEMININE
and the Arc of Sexual Attraction
move within each of us. And at the same time, one or the other dominates nearly all of us. If you answered yes to the first question, that you would rather meet your goals, then you tend to operate primarily out of masculine energy, no matter what your gender or sexual orientation. If you answered yes to the second question, that you would rather have a deep relationship, then you tend to operate out of feminine energy. Sex Lives
Men and women who are in their masculine essence are goal oriented and purposeful. They want to get things accomplished. Men and women in their feminine essence are nurturing and creative. They are willing to go with the flow. The masculine drive is for freedom; the feminine drive is for fullness. Both paths, that of freedom and of fullness, lead to spiritual bliss.
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••• As a general rule, women need to feel close to their intimate partner in order to desire sex. It is very often emotional and relationship barriers that
prevent women from experiencing healthy sexuality. And no pill can fix that. ••• We are not frozen or static in our energy field. We can and do move back and forth between masculine and feminine energy all the time as we are comfortable and as the situation requires. So how does this affect our sex lives? There will always be a mystery as to why we are attracted to someone else, but one aspect of sexual attraction is sexual polarity. In this case opposites attract. Masculine energy attracts feminine energy and vice versa. If you and your partner are operating in different energies (and it doesn’t matter which is in the masculine and which is in the feminine) you can expect a sexual arc of attraction. But if you are both operating in the same sexual energy field, there will most likely NOT be a spark of sexual attraction.
The good news is that you can change your energy field! Just by being aware of it, you can consciously choose to switch from your current energy to the opposite. You can even change within the sex act itself as you move from submission to dominance and back to submission again. As long as we operate in the opposite energy as our partner, we can find connection and excitement while the sparks fly! b Barbara Lee is the author of Sacred Sex: Replacing the Marriage Ethic with a Sexual Ethic and Tension in the Tank: Embracing Interfaith Mysticism Without Leaving the Church. An ordained interfaith minister, Barbara has crafted the tools that lead to higher self-esteem, healthier relationships and a deeper respect for the many facets of sexuality. You can read more about Barbara at www.dontdoesntwork.com.
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It all started as an annual martini party for friends in Dianna Bowes’ home...a bunch of girlfriends kicking back and enjoying midlife.
Zandra Bell (AKA Shirley Best) takes the stage at the 2014 Fabulous@50 Experience
Lucky Number Seven This Celebration kicks off it’s 7th year and 3rd year at the River Cree Casino, The Fabulous@50 Experience brings something new to guests every year. The theme of the Edmonton show is “Old Vegas”, with a few surprises for our guests. The Fabulous@50 Experience will feature 70 exhibitors, speakers and entertainers, your typical girlfriend-topics (communication, Menopause, and personal development), plus a fashion show featuring our fashion exhibitors and a martini bar.
Above: Audience enjoys the humor of Zandra Bell at the 2014 event. Below: Dianna Bowes (Creative Director of Fabulous@50) and Bonnie Jean (Ealanta Photography).
This show is designed for the baby boomer woman, but we welcome and encourage you to bring your sisters, mothers, daughters and collegues to celebrate YOU! Add martinis, great shopping, inspirational speakers and a few surprises and the event is not to be missed.
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Above: Anita Dyrbye- our Diamond Sponsor will be on stage to talk about the Hot Topic Menopause. Below: Stiltwalkers greeted the Red Hat ladies as they entered the venue for the 2014 Fabulous@50 Experience and Martini Party at the River Cree. Power in the Marketplace
As most of us already know, babyboomer women hold a lot of power in the marketplace and Alberta businesses understand that, too. While sharing a coffee or martini with friends, enjoy perusing the local businesses, all while supporting a fabulous women’s charity, Edmonton-based Suit Yourself . This event creates an excitement in the community every year. “We are drawing people from all over Alberta” says Dianna Bowes, the event organizer. Calgary and Victoria
And to make things interesting, there are shows in Calgary (Nov 1, 2015) and Victoria (June 2016) Go to our website www.fabulousat50. com for more information and to purchase tickets. Celebrating baby boomer women • 19
Joining master of ceremonies, Laurel Vespi, is a stellar lineup of experts in their fields. Anita Dyrbre of From The Earth Naturally (Vivica – Our Presenting Sponsor), Michelle McDougall , Petra Remy –Taylor Remy Investment Group - our Emerald Sponsor, Dr. Rose Backman (The Unstoppable Woman), and Joan Peterson (AMA Travel) plus a special guest will all be sharing information that speaks to women in mid-life. Swag Bags and Swagulous Coupons
Door prizes will include a grand prize trip from AMA Travel to Las Vegas, and dinner at Sage Restaurant and a show at the River Cree Casino! Plus, the first 250 women through the door will be greeted with a custom designed swag bag with a gift and the next 750 will receive a empty swag bag to fill with fun stuff. Plus a Swagulous coupon book with special offers from local businesses will be given out to the first 1000 women.
Above: Fun is had by all, even the exhibitors. Mariana Konsolos and Loan Gowers enjoy the Mardi Gras theme at the 2014 event. Below: Speaker Jo Dibblee and Emcee Laurel Vespi on stage.
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Above: Suit Yourself Executive Director Lori McConnell. Below: Fabulous@50 Volunteer Susan Drover gets ready to hand out the swag bags...Mardi Gras Style.
Tickets can be purchased at Tixonthesquare or through local businesses check our website for more information www.fabulousat50.com. Come join a fabulous group of women and raise a glass and toast to midlife at the Fabulous at 50 Experience and Martini Event on November 7th at the River Cree, The Big White Tent 10am - 5pm. or November 1st in Calgary. Dianna Bowes Creative Director Fabulousat50.com All photos by Ealanta Photography Celebrating baby boomer women • 21
The Real Reason You’re Afraid to Change As the years go by, it seems as though time moves faster than ever. There never seems to be enough time in a day. There are so many changes going on around us and in our own worlds. You may be experiencing an upcoming change in lifestyle with children moving out of home or children boomeranging back into your home. You may be grieving or trying to fill a void of a loss of a spouse through death or divorce. You may have remarried and having a hard time sharing your life again. Some of the changes you face every day do not seem as big like changing your hairstyle, applying for a new job, or even going back to school. For others, these changes may seem like no big deal. How you handle change comes from how challenging you perceive the change to be. Change can be hard especially when it is sudden and circumstances change on a spin of a dime. Other changes you may not even notice because they were so incremental. Why then is change difficult for many? Change disrupts our habits and routines. Change pushes us out of our comfort zones. You may have heard phrases like
“That's just the way we do things around here” implying that things must stay the same. Another phrase is “It didn't work the last time someone tried that”. Think about that statement. The timing could have been wrong. You may have more knowledge or experience on the subject that others did not have in the past. This is a new situation - requiring fresh ideas and the right person for the job. You might not even be aware that your habit or routine is causing the problem in your life until someone starts bringing it to your attention. Change requires self-awareness. Hanging on to the Past
In the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, Marie Kondo states that a person who resists change or has trouble letting go is hanging on to the past or has fear of the future. You can't move forward by looking backward. Fearing the future paralyzes you from taking action in going after what you say you want. Excuses begin to emerge because you don't want to go to the edge of your comfort zone. It's safe there. It's familiar. Your comfort zone keeps you as you are and not as a person you have yet to become.
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••• The real reason you’re afraid to change - is because of you! You may be hung up on all the “what if ’s” and standing in your way of your new signature or your new favorite pastime.
••• In the book Excuses Begone by the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, he referred to excuses as one's own beliefs, perceptions, or stories that one tells themselves to become the truth. What do you believe to be true? As you examine the change, you may say to yourself, this change looks like it could be too hard or take too much effort. Listen to what you say to yourself. Do you think that you're too young or too old? Do you think that you're not smart enough or even too smart for that matter? Do you tell yourself that you have no money or no time? Sweat equity doesn't cost a dime. Hard work will not kill you. You can learn more. You can make more money. And you can use your time wisely. We all have a choice. It all depends on how badly you want to make a change. Awareness
Without a little bit of tension to make you a bit uncomfortable and bring the possibility of change to your awareness, the change will not occur. You need to have the drive and desire to see yourself different than you do in this moment to initiate change. Change begins with the awareness that something needs to change. You then need to plan and prepare for the change in order for it to be successful. You may need to read more information or talk to someone who may have experienced the change you are about to make. Ask questions along the way and take action. Remember you can course correct along the way. If your hair is cut too short, it grows. If you try a new hobby and realize
you don't like it, you learned something new about yourself and you can always sell the supplies. There is no harm at any age or ability to discover more about who you are and who you have yet to become. The real reason you're afraid to change- is because of you! You may be getting hung up on all the “what if's” and standing in your way of your new signature or your new favorite pastime. Fresh Beginning
Change represents progress and fresh new beginnings. Allow yourself to fully experience each season of life. When you make a decision and plan and prepare for change, you create expectation and excitement about the possibilities and opportunities in your future. Choosing to move forward and away from your past does not mean you are you erasing memories. It means you are choosing to live a more abundant life by creating more. The uncertainty of the future will always be there but realize that when you truly trust yourself. You will be able to navigate the changes you encounter. You have lived through change before-you know what to do-breathe it all in and take the next step. Change starts at the edge of your comfort zone. b DEBRA KASOWSKI, BScN CEC is an award-winning best-selling author, transformational speaker, blogger, and Certified Executive Coach. She is certified in Appreciative Inquiry and in EQi -2.0/EQ360. Debra Kasowski International helps executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations boost their productivity, performance, and profits. It all starts with people and passion. www.debrakasowski.com Celebrating baby boomer women • 23
Women understand aging is a natural process of life. Aging well is an integrated process of body, mind and soul. Each plays an important role in how well we function as we age.
Absolutely Fabulous & In Harmony with your Menopause
My name is Anita Dyrbye and I’m on a mission on behalf of all women–including myself–as we go through menopause! Night sweats, mood swings and fatigue should not disrupt our lives so I gathered a team of renowned naturopathic doctors and scientists and set to work! I am passionate about my mission because I fiercely believe we all have the right to authentic, clean, safe natural products that we can trust as an alternative choice for managing menopause symptoms naturally and without additional hormones. I have demonstrated my commitment with nine years of hard work and relentless attention to detail because that’s what it takes to build a natural health product using only Canadian-grown botanicals and manufacturing with vigorous quality controls right here in Alberta. At last! On November 7th 2015, I’m proud to present to you a real Canadian-made product called VIVACA® for menopause that will rock your world! We understand that as women we know our bodies best; it’s time to empower ourselves to make the right choice.
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In addition we offer a comprehensive, selfempowering and educational support series called the Menopause Myth Buster Parties. 10 key segments to give women the confidence to move through each of the three stages, perimenopause, menopause and post-menopause with ease. We even have a segment for husbands! They’ve asked us for information on how to support their spouses through menopause and we’ve delivered! Doing it right, doing it naturally.
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New! Introducing VIVACA®
An innovative full spectrum botanical liquid supplement to alleviate the symptoms of Menopause Including night sweats, hot flushes, mood swings and fatigue VIVACA® a non-hormonal liquid supplement clinically tested in collaboration with Canadian Naturopathic doctors, microbiologists, organic chemists, herbalists, product formulators and evaluated by menopausal women for effectiveness. VIVACA® comes in 3 delicious natural flavours; Lime, Lavender and Mint. Simply add a single daily dosage of liquid concentrate to 16 ounces of water. Kept in liquid form it improves the body’s absorption rate. It’s so easy! VIVACA® powerful formulation contains four key ‘whole’ botanical extract concentrates: Red Clover, Rhodiola Rosea, Black Cohosh and St. Johns wort VIVACA® meets and, in some cases exceeds, the regulatory safety standards of the FDA & Health Canada, NHPD (Granted an NPN product license) VIVACA® 100% Canadian grown and produced, (safe from heavy metals & pesticides). We know our growers they take the care to select the best plants because they are committed to growing it right for their family as well as yours. You deserve no less! A quality plant = a quality product. VIVACA® available in 6 day and 90 day supplies. Be part of the conversation and learn more www.vivaca.net Yours truly, Anita Dyrbye Founder
VIVACA® is the first to offer a comprehensive 90-Day self-help kit for menopause symptoms. Designed with important tools so that you can easily disc can affect symptoms. The kit* includes: 90 day supply of VIVACA product, a Menopause journal, an electronic hot flush counter, a Menopause book and a re-usable water bottle for your VIVACA. *may be used as a tool to work more effectively along side your healthcare practitioner.
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What are you grateful for? Practice a life of gratitude with this purse-sized gratitude journal designed by Fabulous@50 founder Dianna Bowes and photos by Bonnie Jean McAllister of Ealanta Photos. A thoughtful gift for a special friend, your mother, graduation or even for a bridal party. Available online at www.fabulousat50.com Watch for the NEW “Travel Themed “ Gratitude Journal. You can also find us at the Crystal Ranch in Stettler • The Painted Door in Beaumont • Downtown Tixonthesquare Local Artists Shop in Edmonton
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A Connecting Cheat Sheet: 10 Easy Hints to Help You Move Beyond “Surface” Networking and
Make Deep Connections If you want to join the women-helpingwomen movement, you’re already looking for opportunities to make deeper, more meaningful connections, support each other, and make the world a better place. But just going to the conference or fundraiser or team meeting isn’t enough. You have to know what comes next— what to say or do to connect with other women in ways that yield real relationships and change lives (including yours) for the better. Here, excerpted from my book, Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life, I offer 10 tips to help you supercharge your new connections: • Make the mental shift from “What can I get from you?” to “What can we create together?” Simple as it sounds, this really is the first step and the key to successful connections. When we think of networking as a self-serving exercise, we really don’t want to do it. It feels bad. But when we infuse sharing and giving into the process, suddenly it feels good. And it works. • Go to functions alone. This will force you to meet people rather than spending the whole time chatting with friends and colleagues. At first, it’s really hard for some women to do this (probably most of us), but we are hardwired to connect. When you get over your initial anxiety, you will see how natural (and fun) it feels. • Sit beside a woman you don’t know. Like showing up alone (though perhaps a bit less scary), this will force you to get to know someone new. Be friendly: Introduce yourself, introduce her to others,
find something in common. • Have three or four good “go-to” questions in the bag. This will be a huge help in case a conversation grinds to a halt. (Awkward!) It doesn’t matter what the questions are, but you might consider thought-provokers like “If time and money were no object, what would you be doing right now?” or “What is one goal you’d like to accomplish before you die?” or “What have you done lately that was fun?” • Practice being interested rather than interesting. The old style of networking involved a lot of “selling” your skills and showcasing your knowledge. Resist the urge. Instead, when you’re talking to someone new, ask her about herself and really listen to her answers. • Probe for people’s passions. Then stick to that topic for a while. You can tell when someone is excited about a subject. Her eyes light up. Her voice gets animated. When this happens—whether it happens when she mentions snow skiing, Civil War history, or helping African women support their villages—keep the conversation going along these lines. Passion is a powerful energy source for making connections. • Read three relevant articles before the event. If you are at, say, a business convention, you might want to scour the trades for new trends, products, and processes. This gives you fodder for discussion. The idea isn’t to use it to “show off” or impress the other person but to bolster your own confidence, which makes you comfortable enough to connect.
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• Gravitate toward women who are smarter than you. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you have to be the smartest, most interesting, most successful person in the group. Try not to feel threatened by other amazing women— instead, ask yourself what you can learn from them.
create the satisfying and purposeful lives they want to benefit themselves, their families, and their communities. O’Reilly is the founder of Women Connect4Good, Inc., and for seven years she has interviewed inspiring women for online podcasts available on her website. For more information, please visit www.drnancyoreilly.com and follow the author on Facebook and Twitter.
• Ask, “What can I do to help you?” (Then follow through.) This may catch people off guard. They probably expect you to ask for an interview or a chance to pitch your product. When you ask a woman if you can, say, introduce her to an influential colleague or bring your therapy dog to the children’s hospital she runs, she will be delighted. • Avoid phoniness at all costs. Be real. Don’t hide or downplay your true nature or your beliefs to fit in or to make sure the person you’re connecting with likes you. Healthy relationships are built on transparency, and people respect this… even if you don’t agree on everything. b Nancy D. O’Reilly, PsyD, is an author of Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life and urges women to connect to help each other create a better world. As a clinical psychologist, motivational speaker, and women empowerment expert, O’Reilly helps women
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Every Body is Beautiful Throughout our lifetime we have many relationships, and none are so important as the relationship we have with ourselves. Within that, the most challenging aspect is the relationship we have with our own bodies. For women this is a relationship that is often wrought with great conflict and disharmony. Recently I met a woman named Karin, who’s passion is helping women have a kinder and more positive relationship with their own bodies. She speaks with a quiet confidence that exudes power and compassion. Karin is on a mission and has a message to share: 1. Every body is beautiful 2. Magic happens when women get together 3. Your relationship with your body literally lasts a lifetime - make friends with yourself; become your best friend! Karin has lived all over the world and she notes that, no matter where she went, women had the same insecurities about their bodies. We worry about the extra fat on our bellies, stretch marks from having babies, uneven breasts, scars from operations; all telltale signs of the full lives we have lead. We are frequently embarrassed or ashamed of our bodies and we can be very self-deprecating. This is something that Karin witnesses in her business every day. As a young woman, Karin was frustrated with not being able to find beautiful undergarments to fit her unique figure. Her solution was to make her own lingerie. When she moved to Canada two years ago, she made the choice not to return to corporate life and, instead, to pursue her passion and share her talents with other women. 30 • Be Fabulous! e_Magazine I www.fabulousat50.com I October • 2015
She is the creator of Mrs. Weaver’s Finest Unmentionables. A custom made lingerie company located in Calgary Alberta. Karin is very skilled at creating beautiful and comfortable lingerie, but she also has a gift for creating a safe place for women to share their vulnerability. Bra making is a very intimate endeavour and the women who seek out her services often arrive with issues that are very painful to share. They may have had a mastectomy, have breasts of different sizes, or feel ashamed of their bodies in some way. For some women, looking in the mirror is a painful process. Karin knows that this is not just about creating pretty bras and panties. She knows that she plays a role in helping to transform the relationship women have with their bodies. Her greatest joy is to empower a woman to drop the veil of self criticism and see herself as beautiful ... possibly for the first time. In Support of Charities for Women
One day, Karin shared a dream with her hairdresser. She wanted to create a calendar to celebrate “Every Body is Beautiful” and she wanted this calendar to be an annual fundraiser in support of charities for women. Specifically, she wanted to start by supporting the efforts to fight breast cancer. Before she knew it, Karin was sitting in her kitchen, surrounded by people she had only just met. Her hairdresser had rounded up women, mostly in their 40s and 50s, willing to be in the photographs, an amazing photographer, a skilled make up artist, and three eager hairdressers. That day, the magic happened. All of the women were transformed from tussled hair, no makeup and wearing sweats, to glamorous beauty’s with freshly coiffed hair and beautiful vintage lingerie. The photo shoot took place in Karin’s own parlour, which is decorated with vintage furniture. In this elegant setting, the ladies
stepped through their fear and insecurities to successfully summon and project the grace and beauty of women. The photographer commented that it was one of the best shoots she had ever done. Celebrating being a woman is truly empowering. b These calendars will be on sale at the Calgary, Fabulous@50 Experience and Martini Party, being held on November 1, 2015 at the Coast Plaza Hotel. Joanne Neweduk is the Director and Community Leader for Fabulous@50 Calgary. She is the mother of three young adults, an oncology nurse, certified life coach, and facilitator. She is a co-author in the award winning book Frock Off: Living Undisguised and frequent contributor for Be Fabulous e-magazine. Joanne has a decades long involvement with volunteerism, event planning, and is currently the president of a humanitarian charity, Medical Mercy Canada. She is enthusiastic with every endeavour she takes on and derives great joy from collaborating with others and seeing wonderful things transpire. Celebrating baby boomer women • 31
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{TEA WITH SUE}
How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. I love thee to the level of everyday’s Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. I love thee with a passion put to use
It’s easy to remember my feelings as a young girl when reading Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s beautiful poem for the first time. Her words uplifted and inspired me. I yearned to feel that depth of love for someone special.
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints, --- I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life! --- and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death. by Elizabeth Barrett Browning (1806-1861)
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As I re-read this poem, it could certainly describe a depth of feeling for one’s beloved spouse. In her case it did. But it could also describe a person’s love for a child – or, dare I say it – love for oneself. It’s been said that whatever attribute you see in someone else is also in you, otherwise you would not recognize it. So if I see you as funny, courageous, and smart, I, too, am also that. If that’s so, they why do we give so little credit and love to ourselves, who are as worthy as anyone else we know and love? At a recent Fabulous at 50 event, one woman, an image consultant, sadly reported that some of her clients couldn’t point to even one thing they liked about their bodies. I echo her concern. When I worked with university students and asked them to write a list of 100 things they liked about themselves, most had trouble getting past five – yet a list of things they didn’t like – done in five minutes flat! Of course it’s not hard to track the reason we learn to focus on the negatives about ourselves. My mother was particularly concerned about me “getting bigger than my britches”. Just because I was good at something didn’t mean I could toot my own horn. To stay safe, it was important to be modest, self-deprecating, and humble. As a kid, I absorbed those teachings like a sponge. While I rarely feel superior to anyone – a good thing – my resulting feeling of inferiority – not so good. I was so saturated with the need to appear less than, it took monumental effort in my 20’s to overwrite those programs. I still struggle with self-love, particularly as I age and my body shape-shifts. A mentor recently reinforced the
importance of self-love as the vehicle for spreading love to others. Knowing the wisdom of that approach, I‘ve decided to ramp up my efforts to love myself and express myself in the most magnificent way. For years I’ve believed staunchly in other people’s magnificence. I see it so clearly – even when they do not. Now I’m beginning to accept that I, too, have my own brand of magnificence. What would our world be like if we honored our own and each other’s magnificence? My challenge to you – write a list of 100 things you like about yourself – talents, skills, attributes, personality, physical characteristics, values, accomplishments – nothing is excluded. I suspect that by the time you reach 100, you’ll begin to get a glimpse of that magnificence that’s been there since before you were born. After all, who are the most important ones to build loving relationships with? Ourselves – first. How do you love you? Count the ways! b As a speaker and a writer, Sue believes in the magnificence of everyone. For Tea with Sue, e-mail her at sue@suepaulson.com or visit her website: www.suepaulson.com.
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{Fabulous@50 Featured Member}
Anita Dyrbye What is your vision of great leadership? Great leadership is all about being a good role-model first. In addition to being a good role model, I believe in respecting the thoughts and opinions of others because my truth is not necessarily someone else’s truth. I firmly believe in self-empowerment and motivation of self and others. (Don’t depend on other people to motivate yourself to accomplish what is important in your life.) Altruism, if you’re going to give then to do it freely and really understanding the concept of ‘not expecting something in return’. Lastly, ‘Love’: The power of LOVE, RESPECT and HONESTY of self-first, creates a humble person worthy of the respect and trust of others. Anita Dyrbye
Anita’s Favorites Color: Blue, White
Flats or Stilettos: Stilettos Martini/Wine: Martini Sweet Treat: Dutch Licorce Vacation Destination: Amsterdam, Half Moon Caye Book: Sacagawea Movie: Elizabeth Charitable Cause: Edmonton Humane Society, WIN House Edmonton
When life knocks you down, what lifts you up? My mother’s voice telling me it’s okay to feel sorry for myself for ONE DAY only, then pull up my ‘big girl panties’ and get back out there! What would you like to share with younger women about “being beautiful”? No matter how beautiful you think you are or perhaps you think you’re not, beauty always starts with ‘SELF LOVE’. All the rest of it is in how you carry yourself with confidence when you walk into the room.
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Anita and Grandson
Anita at Lab.
It’s a known fact that positive emotional energy is what turns heads and makes others want to connect with you. Each day, start your day by dressing yourself with pride and in celebration of being you!
Relationships: I am a more rounded person because of relationships
How have business and/or personal relationships shaped your life? I have become a wiser, stronger person through:
• Has taught me to love unconditionally • Be proud of others and myself. • Has taught me to compromise and be realistic • Love is many things and comes in many forms. I love much!
Business:
• Keep my love for humour alive and strong
• Success comes in many forms big and small. I’m forever grateful for that
Although I’m far from perfect, I know if I died today, I have lived a good life.
• Sacrifice and not becoming bitter about it. Some focus much of their time on immediate family; I focus more of my time on the ‘bigger picture’ because the world is my family, my house.
What is it in nature that feeds your soul?
• Perseverance, staying the course knowing it does not come easy. • Focus on staying the course of my intention. It’s easy to deviate and forget where I’m going. • Accepting failure: I see these as learning opportunities and have become better for it. • Humbleness, I don’t need to be a ‘big shot’.
Nature is magical, pure, unadulterated and real. Nature is my soul, my church, and my spirit. Nature is truth, nourishing, healing and sometimes Nature is harsh. I am connected, and I am on a mission. What makes you laugh? Light hearted attitudes, being silly. Being spontaneous, and deviant (I came from a long line of ‘deviant’ family members), who laughed when they should have cried sometimes. Laughing releases the same endorphins and crying. . . I’d rather laugh. b Celebrating baby boomer women • 41
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1. Cut vanilla bean in half lengthwise and scrape seeds from pod; discard pod or reserve for another use. Combine seeds, oats, dried fruit, skim milk powder, wheat bran, brown sugar, flaxseed, cinnamon, salt and nutmeg. 2. Divide oats mixture among 8 wide-mouth half-pint (250 mL) jars. Jars will be about half full. Seal jars. 3. Store in refrigerator for up to 2 weeks. May be frozen. Makes 8 jars. To Make Breakfast in a Jar: Uncover 1 jar. Pour ¼ cup boiling water over oats mixture and stir to combine. Let stand for 2 minutes. Serves 1. Nutritional analysis per serving: 214 calories, 2.3 g fat, 5.6 g protein, 45.5 g carbohydrate, 6.1 g fibre, 165 mg sodium
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UPCOMING EVENTS
Fabulous@50 Experience & Martini Party Saturday, Nov 7, 2015 Mark your calendar’s right now! This is the best women’s event in Edmonton and has won the International Stevie Award for “ Best Event”and “Women Helping Women” categories. Enjoy the Old Vegas theme! Click here for more information or to become a vendor.
Fabulous@50 vendors and team members have fun at the Vendor Meet & Greet at the River Cree Casino. Pam Robertson educates the Fabulous@50 Vendors about unmarketing and Social Media. Read my Blogs on www.fabulousat50.com
Community Night Monday, Oct 19, 2015 Carrot Community Cafe Join us for a fun evening. Speakers Carrie Kohan, Sue Paulson and singing duo Stephen and Nikki. Register by clicking here.
Making Memories While You Can..: . Last May my niece Alicia got married in the beautiful state of California. Our family decided to make it a family trip, my son and his girlfriend drove down from B.C. Dianna B.
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UPCOMING EVENTS Calgary, AB
Join the Fabulous@50 Experience Calgary MeetUp group for information and invitations to lots of events in Calgary. Our monthly meetings (first Thursday of the month) offer time to socialize; be inspired; learn something new; and meet new friends. For more information
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Meet - Joanne Neweduk Calgary Director
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Meet - Annie Pool Victoria Director
annie@fabulousat50.com For more information click here. Read my blogs on www.fabulousat50.com
Update From Annie “Last month was full of many wonderful surprises for Victoria Director, Annie Pool. In the September Be Fabulous! issue, she posted an update about her upcoming webinar, “Dying to Live, Lessons From Machu Picchu.” She planned to host her online class just in time for Thanksgiving to share an inspiring message of hope with women who are struggling with life threatening illnesses during the holidays. Life had other plans, however. In a sudden change of events, she recently sold her condo in downtown Victoria and booked a trip to Bali, Indonesia for over three months. There, she plans to write her upcoming book about how she used the power of intentional travel to heal herself from incurable cancer. She will be hosting her online class from Bali in December - date and time to be announced in next month’s issue. If you would like to learn more about how you can break through fear so you can achieve the health you desire, please email Annie at: annie@fabulousat50.com.”
Annie in Machu Picchu, Peru.
UPCOMING EVENTS Victoria, B.C. “SAVE THE DATE! June 2016 It’s no surprise that the first Fabulous@50 Experience and Trade Show in Victoria on June, 2016 will be called, “Passport to Fabulous@50.” Travel has played a pivotal role in changing Annie’s life -helping her overcome every obstacle in her life, including incurable cancer in 2014. Stay tuned - Annie will be posting more details about this exciting travel-themed Fabulous@50 event in the future issues of The Be Fabulous! Magazine.” 46 • Be Fabulous! e_Magazine I www.fabulousat50.com I October • 2015
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Featuring
Anita Dyrbye Vivica
PRESENTS ®
“Old Vegas Theme”
Petra Remy Your Future! Your Goals! Your Confidence
Sat. Nov. 7th, 2015 • 10-5 PM River Cree En tertainment V enue www.fabulou sat50.com
a Trip Wfoin Las V r 2 to From egas AM Trave A l
• Inspiring Spea kers • Door Pr izes • Great Shoppi ng • Martini Pa rt y • Fun! Winne r of the 2014 In
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Michelle McDougall Happiness
Dr. Rose Backman Unstoppable Woman
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Joan Petersen Travel Solo AMA Travel
2 for 1 Bring a friend to the Fabulous@50 Experience and Martini Party. www.fabulousat50.com {Clip and bring to door}
Sat. Nov 7, 2015 River Cree -The Venue, 300 E Lapotac Blvd, Enoch, 10 am - 5 pm
2 tickets for $20.00 (Bring this ticket to door on Nov. 7 and get 2 tickets for 20.00) (West-end of Whyte Mud Freeway )
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