SKILLS FOR LIFE
Essential Social Skills and Communication for ALL Teens By Kirt Manecke SOCIAL SKILLS ARE THE TOP FACTOR IN GETTING A JOB, ACCORDING TO HARVARD UNIVERSITY. IS YOUR TEEN PREPARED? SOCIAL SKILLS ARE POWERFUL SKILLS. THEY HELP US MAKE FRIENDS, GET AND KEEP A JOB, AND HAVE A FULFILLING LIFE. SOCIAL SKILLS CAN SOMETIMES BE CHALLENGING FOR TEENS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS. The following activities will help you assist your teen or student in improving communication and social skills:
• What does a lack of social skills look like to adults? To parents? To other teens?
Communicate with adults
• What could have been done to improve communication?
Your teen will gain awareness of the importance of people skills when communicating with adults.
• Have your teen or student describe how they could have used good social skills to improve communication at their event.
Ask: “Think about a recent time in your life when you felt awkward around adults. Some examples are a wedding ceremony and/or reception, a funeral, or meeting adult acquaintances of a family member for the first time. Tell me about the event. Describe the actions of the adults and how you reacted.” (Parent or teacher may share an event from their teen years as an example.)
Discuss and roleplay
Discuss essential social skills and your teen’s experience during that event. Here are some suggestions on how to guide your discussion:
Roleplay scenario: Ted is sitting at a table and face-to-face with his family at a restaurant. Inappropriate communication: While Ted is talking to his mom, he pulls his cell phone out of his pocket, looks down, and quickly checks for messages. Then he puts his cell phone back in his pocket. He does this every five minutes.
• Describe actions that illustrate good social skills used by the adults and your teen.
Professional communication: Ted is talking to his mom uninterrupted while making consistent eye contact. His phone is turned off and either left at home or put away.
• Describe actions that did not illustrate good social skills used by the adults and your teen.
Quiz: You are at the dinner table at home with your family and your cell phone rings, pings, or vibrates. What do you do?
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