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INSIGHT 7 MODERN FAMILY... How real
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Real Families: How they make it work
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being a single mom in the spotlight
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11 Health & LIFE NEWS 13 Kimberly Moffit Expert Q&A 14 Flying the Coop 5 ways to
Bold lips and nails
cope when your child moves away
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Teaching your teen to budget 18 Scheduled Chaos
How much is too much? 22 What ails them Teen health
problems you need to know about
INSPIRE 27 Post-Secondary Prep
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raising teens
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Shandley McMurray A London-based freelance writer, Shandley splits her time between travelling the globe, penning articles for magazines like Chatelaine and Time Out New York Kids and preventing her two children from getting run over by double decker buses. She’s convinced her outgoing kids will more than make up for her tame teenagehood.
Robyn Burnett
Robyn is a freelance writer and the author of Crash Into Me: The World of Roswell and Uncovering Alias. She is a regular contributor to SavvyMom.ca, and has written for Avenue Magazine, FoodTV, HGTV. ca, Slice.ca, Momtastic, and The Calgary Herald. Robyn also writes films with her husband, Christopher Giardino. Her biggest hope for her kids as teens is that they have more common sense than she did.
from Liz & Rachel
School’s In
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I remember the day I left for college. It was a tearful goodbye at the airport security gates with my mom, sisters and best friends, and just as I was about to get in line, red-faced and blotchy, my Gran showed up with the biggest stuffed bunny I have ever seen. “This will keep you company in your new place,” she said, wiping away my tears. A thoughtful gesture, for sure. A practical gift that would fit in the overhead bin? Not so much. – Rachel
As mature as 18-year-old me thought I was on the five-hour drive to college, the façade crumbled when I caught a glimpse of my new city’s welcome sign. Panic overtook as I held my breath the closer we got to the building. Once in my dorm, I recall telling my mom that I had made a big mistake and wanted to go back home. She gently refused, brushed the hair off my face and smiled, telling me how proud she was. I went to the washroom to wash my face and when I came back she was gone. After my initial outrage, I looked out the window and spotted her, walking toward the car, blubbering as badly as I was. – Liz
student will love. When it comes to their abodes, the lovely Jo Alcorn of HGTV’s Critical Listing took the time to offer cool and affordable picks for any teen or YA on page 34. As for dealing with the main event – their exit – and how life changes as a result, we asked experts for their intuitive tips on page 14. We also sourced six must-visit couples’ destinations on page 41 should you need a means in which to recover from your emotional distress, and talked to a photo pro about the best ways to freeze time in a family photo session before they go. Lastly, we’re introducing a new feature called Modern Family where we celebrate real families and their triumphs and challenges. As always, we’d love to hear your feedback! If you have a story idea or just want to let us know how we’re doing, we’d love to hear from you. Email us at info@inbetween.ca. ■
Looking back, it’s easy to see that postsecondary beginnings aren’t easy on either side of the fence, but being prepared can help. With that in mind, we’ve dedicated much of this issue to coping with your little bird’s inevitable flight. For example, on page 27 we’ve hand-picked care packages that are brimming with gadgets, accessories and gifts any college/uni bound inbetween
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How real people make theirs work
The Day/Butcher Family Christine Day, 44 ,Brian Butcher, 35, Dylaney, 15 and Christopher, 1
Christine and Brian have been together for four years. Dylaney is Christine’s daughter from her first marriage and Christopher is Christine and Brian’s child together. Dylaney lives with her father in South Carolina, where she attends a golf academy school.
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ON THE CHALLENGE OF STAYING CLOSE Christine: Dylaney left to attend golf school when she was going on 14, so she hasn’t been gone that long, but since she’s not here very much — two weeks at Christmas and two months in the summer — I don’t have a lot of time with her. Even when she’s home she wants to see other members of the family, so I might only see her one or two nights a week. Someone said to me, ‘the thing about teenage girls is their world ends 10 times a day’, and that’s true. They have huge emotional explosions and it’s hard to deal with crying
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phone calls when you don’t really consider what she’s upset about a big deal. It’s teen hormones. What keeps us close is social media and trying to call her a couple of times a week. It’s hard because she’s a teen girl and her dad is a guy’s guy who doesn’t necessarily understand girl issues, so she’ll call me to talk about things that she can’t talk about with her dad. I know it’s difficult for her. ON PARENTING A TEEN Christine: I guess every age has difficult components. When they’re little babies it’s about maintenance and keeping them alive, catching them when they fall, etc. At this age, they’re asking really difficult questions — they’re reading papers, seeing things online. Recently, a friend she knew from daycare when she was little committed suicide. She was very upset and called crying. We had several conversations about that for hours. It’s hard not to be in physical proximity in a situation like that because all I want to do is hug her. At this age it’s all about emotional issues. ON PARENTING STYLE DIFFERENCES Brian: When issues come up with
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“Ultimately I try to remember that we’re now caught in that weird place where she’s half-kid, half-adult.” Dylaney, I stay out of it. I’ll offer my two cents and say, this is my suggestion, do what you want. When it comes to parenting, she’s more lenient and isn’t as intense as I am. She lets things go that I typically wouldn’t. If I see Christopher doing something he shouldn’t do, I will be very vocal about it. She’s more like ‘watch it happen’. Christine: He’s not an active participant in Dylaney’s life. She has her family and her dad so he’s more of a buddy at this point. She’s 15 — he didn’t enter her life when she was two, so they don’t have a step-dad/stepdaughter relationship, but he’ll try to help by talking to me. It’s a lot of him saying, ‘here’s what I think you should do’ and I’ll handle it from
there. He gives advice in the background. ON MEMORABLE MOMENTS Christine: To watch her work hard and master something is wonderful. Sometimes it felt like I was doing it for nothing and that it wasn’t getting through. It’s wonderful when you see them take advice or work through a problem they said they couldn’t. Ultimately I try to remember that we’re now caught in that weird place where she’s half-kid, half-adult. You forget that they’re still young and don’t know everything. She’s less than two years from being an adult — sometimes I think ‘God help her’ and sometimes she’s better than I was at that age. I’m trying to keep my eye on the long game. ■
10 Minutes With...
Rosey Edeh
Three-time Olympian, co-host of The Morning Show on Global TV, and entertainment reporter on ET Canada, Rosey Edeh, 47, chats about her favourite job of all — being mom to 19-year-old Micha.
Q. What does your daughter think of your day job? A. Micha has grown up with Mommy being on TV so she sees it as normal. She is comfortable walking through newsrooms, watching me work on pieces or cutting a story for radio or TV. Q.Has she ever been star-struck by people you’ve interviewed? A. She’s met so many celebrities because she has actually worked the red carpet for ET Canada and we’ve done the red carpet for The Teen Choice Awards together where she was a complete natural. As for celebrities, she knows it’s OK to be excited to meet them, but to be cool. She manages to dance the dance very well. inbetween
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“Although my career choice wasn’t traditional, I crafted it around her and a schedule that worked for me.” Q. What do you love most about hosting The Morning Show? A. Wow! The freedom on this show. It’s broad in its spectrum, meaning I have to be up on everything from pop culture to politics and history since we have an eclectic mix of guests from authors and politicians to former prime ministers and actors. I have learned so much and I love to learn. Q. How do you keep your relationship close? A. Pop culture helps. I read all the books she was into like Harry Potter, Twilight, and Divergent. Even if I wasn’t that interested in the book, I would read it so I could converse with her about them. As a parent, you get a better idea of who your child is by what they read and listen to. We also cook together. It helps us stay connected. I try and give Micha her space but we still go to movies and we definitely shop together! I taught her everything I know. She knows to head to the back of the stores first to hit up all the good sales!
Q. Any final advice on raising teens? A. When they come home, no matter what happened during day, they will know they will be loved and welcomed and adored when they come into your house. That allows them to feel comfortable to open up to you. I know people say ‘ we helicopter parent and praise our kids way too much’ but I don’t think you can praise your teen enough. They should know that they are the reason you are happy. You shine because they shine. ■
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Hate it when your teen stays up late on a school night? Turns out it’s a natural tendency as biological sleep patterns shift toward later times for sleeping and waking during adolescence. Translation: It’s natural for them to not be able to fall asleep before 11 p.m. inbetween
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The average amount Canadians intend to shell out on items such as school supplies, clothing and technology for back to school.
give yourself a nudge
Busy parents looking to reboot their health and get back on track need look no further than the mobile app, Nudge. Designed to make it easier to track health and fitness, Nudge aggregates and indexes all the user’s data into one wellness score called the Nudge Factor, which can be shared to compare scores with friends and family no matter what health platform they use to track their data. In addition, its lifestyle hub serves up weight-loss tips, recipes and health info all at the tips of your fingers. Visit NudgeYourself.com.
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ASK THE EXPERT with Kimberly Moffit
Q. My 16 year old keeps breaking his curfew.
He’s supposed to be home at 11 but lately has been coming home two or three hours later. I’ve tried grounding him but he found a way to sneak out of the house! How do I get him to respect my rules?
A. Dealing with a teenager who
Kimberly Moffit is one of Canada’s most experienced relationship experts and provides practical advice for families, parenting and psychological topics. Kimberly makes regular TV appearances on shows including CTV’s Canada AM, CBC’s The National, City TV News and the Global TV’s Morning Show to name a few.
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for his safety, your own bedtime or his extracurriculars on Saturday breaks rules is no easy task. Adolescents test boundaries for a num- mornings) will help him understand that the curfew is set to protect ber of reasons, including a lack of communication in the relationship, him, not hold him back. If/when he breaks a curfew that not understanding the rationale has been mutually set, it’s imperbehind the rules, and when letting ative to stick to your rules. Impletheir social desires or pressures outweigh the negative consequenc- menting a serious consequence (something he really cares about) es of breaking rules. The first thing I suggest you do is and doing it diligently will make ask what events are happening late it negative enough that he won’t at night. He may be able to provide want to do it again. Adolescents a worthy explanation for extending typically respond seriously to additional work, and not just the the curfew on special occasions (for example, a sporting event party normal staying in or taking away or the school semi-formal). The key their phone or computer. Taking is making sure you’re in agreement him to a soup kitchen, to clean up the neighbourhood or to stock on whatever that curfew time is. shelves at a local food bank not Communicating about the reaonly provide an opportunity for sons behind his current curfew is also important. Why is that specific you to spend time together, but to time important to you? Providing a think about what he has done and how privileged he really is. ■ reasonable explanation (whether inbetween
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Flying the coop Five no-fail coping strategies for when your child moves away to school. by brittany dempster
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Empty Nest
hen Gabriella Nanetti, 18, was
preparing to leave her parents’ home for post-secondary studies, her mother was understandably overcome with emotion. “I was proud of her for making the choice of going away for college, but she’s my oldest child and only daughter, and the reality of her moving eight hours away was weighing heavily on me,” Giuliana Nanetti of Miami, Florida says. “I remember locking myself in the bathroom to cry for a few minutes before I’d eventually wash my face and sit down for dinner with the rest of the family.” Like Giuliana, many parents will be experiencing this rite of passage come September, when they’ll be forced to juggle feelings of pride and heartbreak at their child moving away for school. We asked Sara Dimerman, psychologist, author and creator of helpmesara.com, for her expert advice on how parents can cope. Here are her tips. Keep busy. “Parents often say they find it helpful to keep themselves distracted, especially during the first few days or weeks after their child has left for college or university,” says Dimerman. “Keeping distract-
ed and busy means there is less opportunity to pine for or wallow in the sadness of being apart.” Let it out. Allow yourself to feel the mixture of emotions that will likely arise, sometimes with little warning. “You may be excited that your child has found his or her passion, but may also feel afraid that she may never live in your home again. You may reminisce sentimentally about childhood memories and time marching so quickly,” she says. Feeling a mixture of happiness and sadness is normal. If you can, she advises sharing these feelings with your spouse or friends who may be going through the same experience.
their time away, many students (and parents) say they experience separation anxiety, and Dimerman confirms that the transition to being comfortable away from home is not always easy. “As parents, it’s normal to want to rescue and bring them back home,” she says. “Resist this temptation and instead let your child know that these hiccups are normal and that you’re confident that they can work through them.” Focus on the positive. Although you may feel more sad than happy at first, focus on yourself for a change. Take the opportunity to take more time with your significant other, or catch up with friends and choose to enjoy the freedom that comes with children growing up. ■
Stay in touch. With technology allowing us to stay connected like never before, many parents find that having their children away is not so bad after all. Being able to see your child via Skype, FaceTime or iChat, for example, often makes a difference. Some families arrange specific times of the day or week to connect so that they can look forward to a set schedule. Expect a few bumps in the road. At the beginning of inbetween
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Making the GRADE Before your child leaves for college/uni, give them an important life lesson about money. by rachel naud
reedom comes at a cost. To be
specific, it comes at an average cost of $84,000, which is the hefty price tag associated with an undergraduate degree for students living away from home. And while your college or university student may be dreaming of parent-free living void of curfews, rules and chores, it’s important to bring them back to reality before their new life begins. Cue the sit-down chat about money and budgeting. “The first thing post-secondary students are challenged with is nobody has taught them how to create a budget,” says Raymond Chun, senior vice-president at TD Canada Trust. “They don’t have a sense
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of how much money is coming in and going out. In fact, according to research we’ve done, 38 per cent of undergraduate students wished they had stuck to a budget during school, and 43 per cent said they wished they had curbed spending on discretionary items like nights out with friends, gadgets and coffee.” Turns out their wishes are met with good reason. With the average debt of a graduating university student growing to $27,747, a graduate paying approximately $260 each month towards this debt would take 15 years and more than $19,000 in interest to become debt-free. All the more reason for parents to spend some energy on helping their children understand what a budget is and how to make their money stretch. To help, Chun offers these tips.
Write it down. Chart the income coming in (be it from parents, scholarships or part-time work) and immediately start subtracting the fixed bills, including rent, tuition, utilities, etc. Whatever is left is discretionary. Take that amount and divide it into categories such as restaurants, nights out, etc. “Look at opportunities to spend less in each category,” advises Chun. “For a lot of people, it’s doing small things that add up over a course of a year.” For instance, that cup of coffee they grab on the way to class? It can add up to $200 a month. Show them by making coffee at home and taking it with them, they can save big. Leave your credit card at home. Make it a rule with your son/daughter that if they’re going out on the town, they should leave the plastic at home
Teens & Money
to avoid last-minute temptations. Use free tools. There are many online apps available to Pay it in full. Nearly onehelp you budget and track your third (31 per cent) of students say spending on your smartphone. they wished they had used their Level Money (free on iOS and credit card more responsibly Android) looks at how much at school. Why? Thanks to high you take in each month and interest rates, those impulse pur- your fixed expenses, and plots chases can end up costing way out how well you stick to your more than the original purchase. daily budget. Mint (free on iOS, Case in point: Let’s say they just Android, and Windows Phone) HAVE to have that $400 tablet. is another well-known monIf purchased on a credit card ey-management app that shows with a 19.99 per cent interest rate, you exactly where your money if they only make minimal paygoes to each month. Like Level, ments, it will take three years and Mint automatically sets a budover $137 in interest to pay it off. get for you, and also lets you
manually enter cash transactions as well. Most banking sites also offer their own budgeting online tools. SET UP A SAVINGS ACCOUNT Take a look at the income coming in and set aside a percentage or amount of money that automatically goes into a high-interest savings account. “This gets them into the habit of putting money away so they have it available for large-ticket items, vacations, etc,” says Chun. “It will only benefit them to establish good saving habits early on.” ■ inbetween
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Extracurricular
When it comes to your kid and extracurricular activities, how much is too much? by lara hyde
Before
she entered high school, Alysha Frey, 16, was in Karate lessons three nights a week, teaching Karate once a week, and practicing piano daily in addition to her weekly lesson. On top of that, the Ancaster, Ontario teen was also involved in soccer, student council, art club, the school band and attended her church’s youth group once a week. Although Frey’s schedule might seem extreme, it’s hardly unusual for teens today to have their downtime dominated by extracurriculars. With after-school and weekend activities like hockey, soccer, track, drama, high school glee clubs and yes, even campus cheese lovers’ club, there’s no shortage of activities to suit almost every kid. So much so that studies have found more time than ever before is being spent on extracurricular undertakings. And while there’s no question that enrolling Junior in after-school or weekend activities can positively affect his
academic performance and social behaviour — extracurriculars have even been linked to lowered school drop-out rates and fewer emotional issues in kids and teens — here’s the flip side: when it comes to scheduled activities, it’s very possible to have too much of a good thing. According to Kathy Lynn, a New Westminster, BC-based parenting educator and author, most teens are too structured and scheduled. “There are definitely benefits found in joining clubs, teams and classes, such as the opportunity to learn new skills, make new friends and possibly getting exercise and fresh air. The problem is, overly scheduled kids are so accustomed to being on the go that they often don’t know how to relax. There has to be a balance.” So how do you find it? “For most kids, a team or group activity plus one other extracurricular is enough,” says Lynn. While group activities are great for teaching inbetween
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teens how to function as part of a team, how to build on their strengths, and how to follow the leader or coach, a second activity can allow kids to explore their passion or simply take in another learning experience, she adds. Timing is also important. While some sports and activities eat up more hours than others, depending on your teen’s skill and dedication level, some casual pastimes can turn into full-time undertakings, affecting school and homework. In these circumstances, Lynn says parents should scale back to one activity. “If you never have time to sit down and eat a meal together, your kids are too active. If they are always tired, if they don’t want to go to practice or their grades are suffering, they have too much on their plate.” In Frey’s case, while she felt she had a good balance in her life with all the activities she was involved in, Alysha’s parents were convinced she needed a lighter extracurricular load prior
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to starting high school, where she was enrolled in the International Baccalaureate program. “We rationalized that by dropping Karate, she would free time for her academic workload and also have time for other school-related activities,” says her mom, Heather Frey. Symptoms and Treatment for Overscheduling The results of too much scheduling can be far reaching, especially since overloaded kids often have a hard time relaxing and might not know what to do with free time. “They can easily become over-tired,” says Lynn. “A growing teen needs sleep and if they’ve been constantly busy all day it can be hard to settle once they do get to bed.” She also says kids who have every moment scheduled don’t learn how to enjoy down time. “They’re always looking for someone else to tell them what to do. This can continue into adulthood and lead to a person who simply never
Extracurricular
“If they are always tired, if they don’t want to go to practice or their grades are suffering, they have too much on their plate.” slows down sometimes until some form of illness forces them to stop and reconsider.” Lynn says the best way to help a kid relax is to model how to do it.” “If they see you in perpetual motion, they’ll think that’s the norm and that it’s healthy behaviour.” What’s more, she encourages parents to let kids experience boredom, adding that it will force them to figure out what they want to do with down time. As for teens who live an active and engaged life through their organized activities? “Let them veg out and watch dumb
TV shows,” she says. At the end of the day, parents should keep in mind that extracurricular activities should be about fun and cultivating interests. Encourage your kids to try classes or clubs they’re drawn to, and should your child need a gentle nudge to try an activity that’s outside their box, Lynn suggests paying attention to their interests, and asking him or her to think about pushing their limits. “At this age they probably know what they like, but might not think it’s in the cards. Maybe they think they’re not good
enough, or haven’t got the time or money to pursue what interests them.” Oddly enough, reluctant teens may find that their options for extracurricular activities, especially in urban settings, are surprising. Beyond obvious team sports, encourage them to consider arts and music-based activities, as well as more intellectual pursuits, clubs and community groups. Rubik’s Speedcubing, anyone? ■
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What Ails Them We asked, experts answered. These are the most common teen health issues parents need to know about. by shandley mcmurray
hen they were little, I
It’s natural to be concerned about our worried that my children children’s well-being; even if those children would stop breathing while have somehow turned into risk-taking they slept, break an arm falling know-it-alls who can almost take care off the monkey bars, or get a concussion from of themselves. tobogganing into a tree. As they grew, so did Since you’re going to worry anyway, here my concerns — what if they hung out with are four extremely common health issues a bad crowd, what if they did drugs, what if facing teens today, along with tips on what they flunked out of high school? you can do to both treat and prevent them.
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Teen Health
ALCOHOL ABUSE
What it is: Teens are prone to drinking. In fact, the Canadian Centre on Substance Abuse (CCSA) found that two-thirds of students in grades seven to nine have already consumed alcohol and 83 per cent of Canadian kids aged 15 to 24 are current drinkers. They also tend to binge (drink more than five drinks in succession) and are at a higher risk of suicide. Other associated risks of teenage drinking include liver disease, central nervous system disease, memory problems, neurocognitive damage and physical injuries. Also, teen drinkers are three times more likely to develop mental health disorders such as depression and anxiety, say researchers of a study published in the journal Pediatrics. Symptoms: A craving for alcohol, bloodshot eyes, memory loss, damaged relationships at home and with peers, problems at school, irritability, verbal or physical defensive behaviour and a loss of interest in hobbies and activities. Why teens have it: According to the CCSA, “over 40 per cent of 15-19-year-olds have binged at least once in the past year, and more than one-quarter of drinkers aged 12-19 have binged 12 or more times in the past year.” While there are strong genetic links to alcohol use disorders (if parents have a drinking problem, kids might, too) the CCSA attributes other causes such as lax, abusive or uninterested parents, childhood trauma, academic failure and low bonding with peers and teachers. Treatment: Experts from the CMHO suggest that affected teens find ongoing treatment programs that include things like: family involvement (to help reduce conflict), Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (to help treat underlying mental health issues), interventions (to help stay motivated to remain in recovery) and long term follow-up (alcohol abuse is a chronic condition). Prevention: Be a good role model. Be aware of how much and how often you drink in front of your kids. Don’t let them see you intoxicated. Show them you care. Set a curfew and keep track of where they are and who they’re with. Develop consequences to deal with rule-breaking. Be open. Talk to your kids about the pros and cons of drinking. Be there to listen when they have questions or a problem. ■
OBESITY
What it is: A preventable condition in which excessive amounts of fat and a body mass index (BMI) of 30 or above is present. According to the World Health Organization, the rate of obesity has tripled in the last 25 years, making it the leading cause of death worldwide. Obesity can lead to serious illnesses such as obstructive sleep apnea, anxiety, depression, hypertension, insulin resistance and Type 2 diabetes, says Dr. Claire LeBlanc, Chair of the Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS) Active Kids, Healthy Kids Project Advisory Committee. Why teens have it: Today’s teens favour computer screens and text messaging over a game of pick up at the park. “Their fruit, vegetable and milk intake tend to drop off, many teens tend to skip breakfast and they often don’t get the inbetween
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have a higher risk of mental health problems like anxiety, depression and body dissatisfaction.” Treatment: Instead of attempting to tackle everything at once, recommended nine to 10 hours of LeBlanc suggests focusing on one or two of the following at a time. sleep each night,” says LeBlanc. Add to that a drop in family meals, Boost their diet: Add more fruits, an increase in sugary drinks and vegetables and whole grains. frequent trips to fast-food joints Avoid fast food, don’t skip meals, and you’re left with under-active opt for water instead of juice or kids with poor diets who aren’t pop, and reduce portion sizes. sleeping enough. Pump up the exercise: According to the CPS, a 13 to 17-year-old Symptoms: In addition to sufshould have 60 minutes of moderfering from expanding waistlines, ate to vigorous physical activity at obese teens experience multiple symptoms associated with affiliat- least six days a week. Three days a week, these 60 minutes should ed illnesses. In addition, LeBlanc says, “many have poor self-esteem be filled with vigorous activities such as running or participatand lower quality of life and they
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ing in a fitness class. The other three days a week should include muscle and bone-strengthening exercises, such as weight training or out-of-the-box activities like rock climbing. Limit screen time: No more than two hours of daily recreational screen time is ideal. Keep TVs and computers out of the bedroom and set limits on home Wi-Fi use. Model good behaviour: Monkey see, monkey eat. Make a concerted effort to munch on healthy snacks and meals as a family and enjoy an evening walk. Prevention: Boost your family’s level of exercise, improve your eating habits and cut down on electronics. ■
What it is: A mood disorder that affects the way you feel, think and behave, someone experiencing depression often feels sad, irritable and uninterested in things they used to enjoy. The rate of depression in teens rises from five per cent in early adolescence to 20 per cent by the end of the teen years, and affects more girls than boys, say researchers of a study in The Lancet. Depressed teens often exhibit an increased risk of suicide, obesity, anxiety and substance abuse as well as multiple physical illnesses. Symptoms: Feeling tired and irritable, a significant change in appetite resulting in an increase or decrease in weight, difficulty sleeping and concentrating, feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness and sometimes suicidal thoughts. Depressed teens also tend to shun activities and avoid interacting with their peers in and out of school. Why teens have it: Kids who have a depressed parent are up to four times more likely to develop serious depression, states the CMHO.
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Teen Health According to The Lancet study, other teens develop depression as a result of biological and social changes as well as alterations in hormone-brain relations during puberty. Treatment: Talk therapy: Talking to a mental health professional on a regular basis can help dramatically, and visiting a therapist as a family can also be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioural therapy: A technique that helps teens to challenge and reason through negative thoughts, this can serve as a coping mechanism for the disorder. Go to bed: According to Dr. Mary Carskadon, Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behaviour at The Alpert Medical School of Brown University, the root problem of depression may well be a lack of sleep, so make sure kids are getting between eight-and-ahalf and nine hours of uninterrupted zzzs a night. Medication: There are multiple medications on the market to help treat symptoms of depression. Speak to your doctor to see which, if any, are right for your child. Prevention: While there’s no definitive way to prevent depression, you can try to ward it off by trying a few of these techniques: Reduce and control stress, exercise, talk to family and friends for support, get treatment as soon as you notice there’s a problem, and have your child continue to see a therapist even after they’re feeling better. ■
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What it is: A group of disorders characterized by a chronic feeling of fear, unease, worry or nervousness. Similar to depression, these feelings can impact how kids act and lead to other physical illnesses, including obesity, substance abuse, irritable bowel syndrome, sleep disorders, chronic pain and fibromyalgia. Symptoms: Increased heart rate, dizziness, shaking, sweating, shortness of breath, tiredness, muscle aches, difficulty sleeping, stomach ache, headache and dry mouth. Why teens have it: Genetics can account for a large number of teens with anxiety. According to a study by Dr. Golda Ginsburg, Psychologist at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, 65 per cent of children whose parents suffer from anxiety disorders meet the criteria for an anxiety disorder. Increased pressures to do well at school, stress and exposure to new social situations can also be factors. inbetween
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Treatment: Cognitive-behavioural therapy: This treatment has proved successful at teaching anxious teens to view worrisome situations in a more positive light and alter their behaviour to help combat worries. See a therapist: Anxiety is often well-treated by talking to a professional. See your doctor to find someone who’s right for your teen. Medication: Some medications have aided anxious teens. Speak to your doctor to see if this is a good option for your child. Relax: Meditating, practicing yoga and exercising can help ease stress and worry. Prepare in advance: Avoid anxiety-inducing situations by being organized. If your teen gets nervous before a big test, help him develop good study habits and prepare well in advance. Sleep: A good night’s sleep helps to relieve additional tension caused by overtiredness. Prevention: Getting enough sleep, exercising and eating well can decrease stress, boost your mood and increase a sense of calm. Being optimistic (looking at the positives) can help put worries in their place, and avoiding excessive smoking and drinking (caffeine or alcohol) can decrease feelings of anxiety. ■
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According to the CPS, it’s difficult to determine the age at which adolescence ends. While it begins with the onset of puberty at around age 10, the end (“when an adult behaviour and identity are officially accepted”) should be about age 19. Because this age varies from person to person and province to province, it’s up to your physician to determine when your child is old enough to be treated as an adult — the point at which he may not need you to accompany him to appointments and you may not be briefed on what’s happening with his health. This is always decided on a per case basis, though, so you should discuss it with your child’s doctor. ■
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PostSecondary Packing up your student for college/uni this September? These goods will help them survive the school year.
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elping your child prepare for post-secondary studies can be physically and emotionally taxing. Sure, they’re old enough to leave the nest, but that doesn’t mean they (or you) are ready for what awaits outside the comforts of home. To help ease the arduous transition, we’ve put together school-ready gear to suit any kid’s style. Whether your student is a fashion lover looking to highlight her wardrobe prowess or a gadget fanatic with an eye for all things tech, these pieces will help prepare them for the year ahead.
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Tech WhiZ Cogito POP Smartwatch Offering the practicalities of a traditional wristwatch, it also keeps them updated on the latest notifications via their smartphone. $100, futureshop.ca
Lenovo YOGA 2 11.6” Touchscreen Laptop This two-in-one laptop/tablet has a touch screen that can fold back 360 degrees, making it accessible and workable in almost any situation. $550, futureshop.ca
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iHome Wireless Speaker This Bluetooth-enabled wireless stereo system with built-in speakerphone capability streams wireless digital audio from their iPhone, iPad, Android and most Blackberry Bluetooth devices. Perfect for background music or as a speakerphone when chatting with you. $79, Indigo
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Epson Expression Premium XP-610 Smallin-One Printer This portable, wireless printer prints high-quality documents and photos straight off their smartphone or tablet. Plus it’s light and portable, ideal for easy storage. $100,in select retail stores or at Epson.com
iPad Air 16GB Wifi This high-tech tablet is great for doing homework, surfing the web and keeping in touch with you via FaceTime! And because it weighs just one pound, it’s easily toteable from class to class. $519, Indigo
NuPower Stix 2800mAh Battery Bank Low battery prompts are a thing of the past with this portable battery pack that allows for easy charging of their phone or other mobile devices. $25, futureshop.ca
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Body Glide Anti-Blister, inbetween.ca/ Anti-Chafing and Anticontests Friction Balms These all-natural balms are invisible to the eye, aren’t wet or greasy to the touch, and protect skin from chafing from head-to-toe. $13, The Running Room and Sport Chek
Tikita Active Wear Albenny Structured to support and move with their body so they can concentrate on workouts — not what they’re wearing. $48, tikita.ca
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Athlete Tikita Active Wear Eara These shorts are light, breathable, and designed for comfort. $42, tikita.ca
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Skechers Women’s Equalizer - Oasis Training Shoes Whether they’re part of the track team or just running to class, these kicks will get them there in style. $80, Shoe Company, SKECHERS retail stores
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Stainless Steel Strain-Ready Pots Bring on late-night meals with these functional and pretty-to-display pots. $10 (each), Walmart
Yonanas Healthy Dessert Maker Amazingly creates healthy desserts in an instant using frozen fruits. A must for sweets lovers. $30, Walmart
Adjustable Futon Perfect for small spaces, futons are great for added seating and overnight guests. The fact that they’re easy on the wallet is an added bonus. $88, Walmart
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Inspirational Coffee Cups Say it on a mug. These decorative coffee cups give your student drive to chase dreams while downing java. $10 (each), Indigo
Nutribullet When time is short for breakfast or snacks, Nutribullet is a great option for making smoothies, sauces and more. $88, Walmart
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Alex and Ani Bangle Bar Stack These beautifully stacked bracelets add dimension (and a bit of attitude) to any look. $28 - $48, thebay.com
Guess S/L Embroidered Skirt Dress This cute little number can be worn as a shirt or a dress, instantly allowing your fashion lover to build multiple outfits from one chic piece. $98, Guess.ca
Dr Martens M.I.E. Crafted Douglas Twisted Brogue Boot A bonafide work of art, these beautifully crafted boots will take kids through their school years‌and beyond. $415, drmartens.com
Dr Martens Casual Fusion Classic York Plain Toe Shoe A classic shoe for a classic kid. $135, drmartens.com
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Cake Beauty Rush Brush The perfect on-thego solution, this brush works in tandem with Cake’s Satin Sugar Dry Shampoo Powder and stimulates roots, giving hair volume and texture. $22, Sephora, Murale, or at cakebeauty.com
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Christine Mari B Hello iPhone 4 Case Up their phone’s cute factor with this covering. $38, brika.com
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Christine Marie B Arrow iPad Mini Case Rest assured that even the choosiest student will love this iPad Mini case. $70. brika.com
Not All Who Wander Are Lost Journal This journal will help them keep track of the earthshattering ideas that only surface when they’re day dreaming. $11, Indigo
MEC Cascade Courier A perfect courier bag that’s stylish and suited to any lifestyle. $62, mec.ca
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Fall Into Luxury Baked Eye & Face Palette This portable palette showcases a beautiful collection of baked shadows along with a complimenting bronzer, brush, and liner. $47, Sephora.ca
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CND VINYLUX Weekly Polish System They can put their best hand forward with CND’s newest line of VINYLUX, which comes in an array of shades for fall. $12 each, Trade Secrets
Thursday Plantation Tea Tree Face Wash Foam Helping prevent acne by gently cleansing the skin to remove buildup, it contains 100 per cent pure tea tree oil and chamomile, making it incredibly soothing on skin. $15, abundancenaturally.com
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Whether they’re packing up for post-secondary studies, or just looking to add sophistication to their at-home room, inject style with these affordable, on-trend pieces from Jo Alcorn of HGTV’s Critical Listing.
About Jo Specializing in small space design solutions, designer Jo Alcorn established her successful business, whitewash & co. in 2005 to cater to design needs at any budget. Jo has appeared on HGTV, the Discovery Channel, CBC’s Steven and Chris, CityTV, the Global Morning Show and on BT Toronto. She is also the design face of HGTV’s 2014 Critical Listing. These modular units allow for customization in any configuration you can imagine. Price varies depending on style, Cutler Modern Living, lowes.ca
A handcrafted, solid black walnut desk that will last a lifetime, it easily transitions from student dwelling to home office. $1635, Mirens, mirens.com
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On trend in a chevron pattern, this canvas ottoman is a great way to add a modern touch to any room, and also serves as extra seating for drop-in guests. $40, Canadian Tire, canadiantire.ca
Forget rugs — these easily stowed carpet tiles fit any space and are removable, meaning the pattern can be changed when the mood strikes. $16 per square for this configuration, Flor, flor.com No study haven is complete without task lighting. This version happens to be conveniently cool. $50, bouclair.com
Part of growing up is staying organized. These catch-alls from Neat Freak fit any closet space and are sure to encourage future compartmentalization. $8 - $25, Neat Freak, neatfreak.com
Mirrors add extra dimension to any room, and they’re great for those last-minute checks before jetting off to school or class. $70, The Home Depot, homedepot.ca
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Real Rinna Actress Lisa Rinna on sex, love and the drama of raising teens by robyn burnett & christopher giardino
Normal is overrated!
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olourful and courageous, Lisa Rinna is a force to be reckoned with. Known originally for her roles as the feisty Billie Reed on NBC’s Days of our Lives, and the scheming Taylor McBride on Melrose Place, after 27 years in the industry, Rinna has no intention of slowing down. At 51, the Hollywood mainstay has a resume that includes performances on Broadway in Chicago (with her husband, Harry Hamlin), stints on All-Star Celebrity Apprentice, showing off her moves in Dancing with the Stars, hosting Soap Talk on SoapNet, and writing the New York Times bestsellers Rinnivation: Getting Your Best Life Ever and The Big, Fun, Sexy Sex Book. Lauded for having one of Hollywood’s best over-40 bodies, she’s also released a series of exercise DVDs — Lisa Rinna: Dance Body Beautiful. While it’s safe to say the mom of two teen girls — Delilah Belle, 16 and Amelia Gray, 13 — is anything but ordinary, when it comes to her family, she cantors. “I
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don’t know if there’s anything that makes us unique [as parents] other than the fact that Harry and I are in a business that most parents aren’t. We live a family life just like anyone else.” Rinna is a prime example of how to pursue diverse interests and raise kids. She never shies away from trying new things, and when it comes to her daughters, she strives to lead by example. “You can’t create a passion in somebody — they have to have their own,” she says. “I think living out my own will teach them you can do anything you want in your life.”
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The power of praise! Love praising my kids for how great they are! #lovemykid Praise is one way Rinna tries to inspire confidence in her teen girls. “I think it’s really important to tell them how beautiful they are, how smart they are, and build them up in a way that is authentic,”
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she says, but adds that when it comes to comfortable, ongoing parent-teen communication, it’s not always easy. “I’ve really tried to express that we’re there for them and love them unconditionally,” says Rinna. “It’s tricky because at this age, they want some privacy.” That said, thanks to the geography of Los Angeles, she’s found a fail-proof way to encourage communication. “We have to drive a lot here, and one of the benefits is that you have time in the car where a lot of talking can be done,” she says. “Because we’re not face-to-face in an uncomfortable situation, even if I don’t say anything, I can sit and listen and learn so much. They tell all in the car. You just need to keep your mouth shut and let them talk.” Having worked on soap operas and in reality television, Rinna has heard some pretty colourful stuff. When parenting her daughters — specifically in the trying moments so associated with the teen years — she says she uses advice a doctor offered years earlier. “My pediatrician said, if you can get a handle on tantrums when kids are small, you’ll be much better off when they are teenagers. Because the same thing goes on; whether they’re two or 12, it’s the same kind of tantrum.” As for keeping the girls grounded while living in celeb-ridden Los Angeles? “I don’t think it matters where you live; I try to keep them grounded and realistic in an unrealistic, social media-crazy world.” With 230,000 Twitter followers, Rinna is no stranger to the power of the Internet. Her awareness of this, alongside her own comfort with her sexuality (having shared her methods of overcoming a low sex drive in Rinnovation, written The Big, Fun, Sexy Sex Book and posed for Playboy), makes her very conscious of the importance of talking to her teenage girls about sex. “It’s tricky because it’s the last thing they want to talk
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Enjoying some family time on a sunny Sunday.
about, but you’ve got to talk about it,” she says. “I just make it part of the conversation. I think the more you make something taboo, the more taboo it’s going to be.” She adds that she’s a big believer in waiting, and doing all she can to make sure her daughters are old enough to deal with everything involved with intimacy. “Sexuality is obviously something that they are very well aware of. They know everything at this point thanks to the Internet, but I think it’s really important for parents to instill good morals and values, and let them know what’s right, what’s wrong, when to wait and when they’ll be ready.”
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Kill the stress! #yoga one way Rinna stays balanced is by finding time for herself. “It’s hard, but you’ve got to carve it out. I have to be in a good place or everybody suffers,” she says.
“You have to create opportunities where you can be intimate. If you don’t, you just grow apart.” “I grew up as an only child, so I’m certainly good at making time for myself.
A big stress reliever — as well as her favourite fitness undertaking — is yoga. “I practice quite frequently because it’s the best mind/body/soul workout for me. I go to a class and come out a different person.” She also loves hiking, spin, Pilates and dance classes, but says getting her daughters on the fitness bandwagon can be trickier. “The truth is, if you leave them to their own wills, nothing’s going to happen,” she says. “I use force and say ‘This is what you’re doing right now.’ That works. I threaten, I take phones away or I bargain. It sounds harsh, but it works. Delilah just did dance camp for two weeks. She wanted nothing to do with it, but she went and had the time of her life. That’s how I keep them active: do it by force. I make them be active.” Rinna’s diet choice is her own, however. “I’ve been vegan for two years now and I like it. It can be challenging, but everything’s challenging. It makes me feel better — I get sick less, have more energy, and it seems to work well in keeping me feeling good.”
have to create opportunities where you can be intimate. If you don’t, you just grow apart.” Rinna and Hamlin have worked together on a handful of projects, including TV movie Sex, Lies and Obsession, the critically acclaimed TV series Veronica Mars, and in a Broadway production of Chicago, where Rinna played Roxie Hart to Hamlin’s Billy Flynn. “I just love working with him. I think we got to do the greatest thing [actors] can do together — Broadway every night, eight shows a week.” As for co-parenting? According to Rinna, working together doesn’t make it easier or harder. “You’re together more, so if there’s a decision to be made, it can be made quicker.”
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HH [Harry Hamlin] is always my #TuesdayTreat! The other great element in Rinna’s life is her
long-time relationship with her husband, actor Harry Hamlin. Married for 17 years (together for 21), she says their secret to staying connected is simple: they spend time together. “We just went for an hour-long hike to talk. We often spend a night at a hotel. You
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“When they push you away, pull them in, hug them.” lisa rinna @lisarinna
Being fashionable and a mom… all in a day’s work. While Rinna’s stint on Dancing with the Stars led to the creation of dance fitness DVDs, her latest endeavour, Sing Your Face Off, has inspired some new ideas as well. “I’ve always thought it would be fun to do a cabaret show — that might be something I would do.” Singing is not new to Rinna’s repertoire, however. “I’ve always been singing, I just never really pursued it heavily as a career,” she says. “But I was singing in high school, I did musical theatre. When I first got the role of Billie in Days of Our Lives, she was actually a singer. So it’s been sprinkled throughout my career.” More recently, Rinna is focused on her QVC fashion line, Belle Gray (named after her daughters) featuring casual, chic California-inspired styles. She’s also considering other projects — there are rumours she’ll be joining the cast of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Whatever comes next, Rinna’s attitude is always gung-ho: “If that’s meant to be, then I’m up for it.” lisa rinna @lisarinna
Thank you Amelia and Delilah for choosing me to be your Mom and teaching me what unconditional love is…
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Beating the Hollywood odds. Lisa & Harry have been together for 21 years!
Having written two lifestyle books, Rinna is
no stranger to analyzing what works in her life. “If I was going to add a chapter about raising teenagers, I would [talk] about keeping your kids close and not being afraid to find out exactly what they are doing at all times,” she says. “When they push you away, pull them in, hug them and tell them you love them. Whether you have a nine-to-five job, are a stay-athome mom, whatever it is, [being a mom] is hard. We all know it. We all just try to do the best we can.” ■
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Conscious Coupling etting some one-on-one time with your significant other can seem like mission impossible sometimes. Between the kids, work and other obligations, taking time for two can be challenging. The best way to re-connect is often to pack a bag and head to a romantic destination far away from your responsibilities — kids included. Not sure where to go? Here are six romantic destinations not to miss.
The Fairmont Banff Springs, Banff, Alberta fairmont.com/banff-springs Cost: Prices start at $299 per night Love the outdoors, but too posh to pitch a tent? The Fairmont Banff Springs is perfect for couples who enjoy stunning scenery without having to sacrifice their down duvets. Awarded four stars in both the hotel and spa categories inbetween
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this year at the Forbes Travel Guide Awards, this very special property boasts what are arguably the most stunning views in the country. From its perch at a mile high in the Rockies, “The Castle in the Rockies” blends modern luxury with old-school charm and offers 768 guestrooms, including a Fairmont Gold Floor, 27 holes of internationally acclaimed golf, the award-winning Willow Stream Spa, games and bowling centre, 18 shops and boutiques, tennis courts and horseback riding as well as restaurants, bars and lounges of varying formality and cuisine. The hotel is also in close proximity to three worldclass ski areas and the bustling nearby town of Banff should you and your sweet feel the need to explore. ■
Kenauk Nature, Montebello, Quebec kenauk.com Cost: Prices start at $169 per night
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steannes.com Cost: Prices start at $299 per person for an all-inclusive stay with four meals and $120 in spa allowance Just off a country road in Grafton, ON, lies one of the most relaxing destinations in North America. Perfect for re-energizing body and soul, it’s here you’ll find solace, second-to-none service and attention, five-star meals and spa experiences that will leave you wanting more. Want your partner to feel like a real VIP? Consider booking one of the resort’s extras, such as door-to-door limousine service, or an in-room spa treatment for two. Eight uniquely decorated spa cottages are also available, as are additional facilities at the resort, including the Fieldstone Grotto, eucalyptus steam room, bakery, fitness centre, quiet rooms, outdoor pool, tennis court, treatment gazebos, golf and a boutique. ■
Like hikes in the woods, swimming in lakes and enjoying the great outdoors? Say hello to Kenauk Nature, which spans over 65,000 acres and is the largest private fish and game reserve in North America. With more than 60 lakes within its borders and only one chalet on each lake, a stay here is the true definition of alone time. Located between Ottawa and Montreal, each chalet include a private dock with two kayaks, canoe and row boats, and features a fireplace/wood stove. Special romantic services can also be arranged, such as Champagne on arrival, or dinner prepared for you and your loved one in the comfort of your own chalet. Adventure-seeking love birds can also arrange personalized excursions, such as a bear-watching trip or off-road Land Rover driving. ■
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Four Seasons Resort Whistler, British Columbia
The Carneros, Napa Valley, California thecarnerosinn.com Cost: The Celebrate Romance package starts at $470 for a two-night stay, and includes one breakfast and dinner, and a bottle of sparkling wine on arrival. Surrounded by 27 acres of grapevines, apple orchards, and rolling farmland, this rustic-chic inn features individual cottages with modern interiors, all with fireplaces with polished concrete hearths, cherry floors and French doors leading to landscaped gardens. Natural light floods the cottages, with French doors leading to private gardens, some with fire pits, outdoor soaking tubs and large indoor-outdoor showers. Dine at the onsite restaurant, Farm, which serves produce from the inn’s garden and orchards or The Hilltop dining room, with views of neighbouring vineyards. Walk hand in hand while you pick vegetables and feed the wandering livestock, spend an afternoon enjoying the complimentary local wine and chocolate treats, or relax and unwind while soaking in the infinity pool and hot tub. ■
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fourseasons.com/whistler Cost: Prices start at $315 per night Sure, it’s a skier’s paradise, but spring, summer and fall in Whistler mean myriad opportunities for romance, as well. Among the hotel’s many offerings: bungee jumping, aerial sightseeing, gondola rides, mountaintop dining, tasting tours, summer skiing/ snowboarding, mountain biking, glacier tours, rock climbing, ziptreking and more. And when it comes to pampering, it doesn’t get any better. In addition to the hotel’s five-star rating, unmatched amenities and service, the spa at Four Seasons Resort Whistler, which was voted the best Hotel Spa in Canada for 2014 by Travel + Leisure magazine, makes it the perfect place to unwind, relax and rejuvenate with your loved one. ■
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The Cliff House Hotel, Ardmore, Co.Waterford, Ireland thecliffhousehotel.com Prices start at €180 per night Looking for an excuse to hop the pond? Consider this your invitation. Offering so much more than pubs and sheep, Ireland’s lush, green countryside, beautiful coasts and warm hospitality make it the ideal place to rekindle romance. Case in point: The Cliff House Hotel. Located on the South Coast of Ireland on a cliff in Ardmore Bay, each of the luxurious rooms and suites are sea-facing, so a view is guaranteed. Even from the restaurant, bar, pool and hot tub, the gorgeous bay and beach are still in full view. Guestrooms are spacious, brightly and tastefully decorated, and cater to all possible needs and wants. Other amenities include a selection of delicious Nespresso coffees, a generous choice of reading materials, a deep ceramic bath fitted for
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two and downy bathrobes to name a few. Should you decide to leave the comfort of your room, a few of the hotel’s notable facilities include Michelin starred House Restaurant from Martijn Kajuiter, and The Well Spa, which is a key local attraction. Looking to take in more of the country? The concierge team is exceptionally friendly and happy to customize itineraries to suit your every whim. ■
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Family Portraits
Best face forward
Have you ever looked at your kid and thought, ‘weren’t you just two years old…like yesterday?’ by erin hesselink
othing goes faster than time, especial-
ly when raising kids, which is why capturing the present is so important. To freeze a picture-perfect moment, we asked photographer Jessica Blaine Smith of JBSmith Photography in Toronto, for her expert advice on the do’s and don’ts surrounding a stellar, wall-worthy shot. DO Hire a Professional Photographer Forget iPhone photos. You won’t regret hiring a professional to take your family portrait. Not only do they have the high-quality equipment to capture your family in the best light, their photo-finishing skills are worth their weight in gold. Plus, it’s nice
to just sit back and smile and let someone else worry about getting the shot. DON’T Turn Into a Black Blob Black in photographs doesn’t show detail and can make subjects look shapeless. Also avoid logos and bold or busy patterns, as they will distract from your face. DO Wear Something You Love Clothing choices can make or break a great photo. Your favourite dress is your favourite because you love how you feel when you wear it. Choose pieces you love and you’ll love your images even more because of it.
DON’T Neglect the Little Things Two words: Appropriate undergarments. Choose options that work with your outfits — nude bras are often a safe bet. Don’t forget to bring matching shoes and accessories should an outfit need them, and pay attention to your hands — chipped nail polish is never pretty in photographs. When in doubt, more is more so bring a variety of options and discuss what works best with your photographer. DO Coordinate the Outfits of the Entire Family When choosing clothing for your picture, either select matching pieces (for example, white shirts and blue jeans) or options that coordinate with each other inbetween
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(colours that are the same but outfits that are different). Both will help create a uniform look and give the message that the family belongs together. DON’T Arrive Tired Beauty sleep is always important, but especially so the night before a big photo session. Pass on drinks and late evenings to avoid looking and feeling tired and sluggish, and give yourself enough wake-up time before the shoot to feel your best. DO Make the Most of Your Photo Shoot Approach your portrait session as something fun that you’re doing for yourself — after all, it is a form of pampering. Also think of it in terms of an investment of both your time and money, so make the most of it.
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trust that a great photographer can make all the difference. DO Hydrate Well Drinking water is a must for great skin, and even more so when you’re about to freeze your family in time. Make sure you get enough in the weeks before your shoot, and be vigilant about moisturizing your skin — especially in the winter months. Both steps can go a long way toward helping your skin glow in photos.
DON’T Worry About Your Kids As much as possible, do your best to schedule the session around times when kids are at their best. Obviously moods change and sometimes they may not be in “top form”. In cases like DON’T Worry At All these, trust that a great photogra- Don’t fret about getting the pher can make all the difference. perfect shot; putting too much
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pressure on your family will make for unnatural photos. You want what is real to be captured, so relax, smile and have fun with the shoot! DO KEEP IT UP Making a habit of scheduling regular photo shoots — whether for birthdays, holidays or before the new school year begins — is a great way to commemorate milestones, and track how much your family has changed year by year. ■
The issue: Faulty application The fix: Avoiding streaks and patches comes down to being prepared, so take the time to ensure you do your pre- and post-application due diligence. Before you start, use your favourite body scrub or handfuls of white sugar to perform a thorough buff in the shower, then apply moisturizer to the tops of your feet, ankles, knees and elbows, says Falcon. “The skin in these areas is a bit different, drier and more textured than on the rest of the body, and prone to absorbing product unevenly. Moisturizing them first levels the playing field, if you will.” Once you apply tanner generously, wash your hands immediately following application so you don’t get orange palms. Falcon also advises wiping any residue off toenails after you finish your feet.
Family Portraits The issue: Product uncertainty The fix: While normal skin can use pretty much any product formula — spray, mousse, lotion or oil — dry and sensitive types do better with lotion, which tends to be more emollient and kinder to these skin types. People with oily skin typically don’t have that issue on their bodies, so Falcon advises going with whichever format appeals. As for your face, Evans says that because self-tanners have a tendency to show a little darker because of higher pH level in this area, a good rule of thumb is to use a regular moisturizer and apply your tanner of choice on top. Opting for a face-specific product is also an option, says Falcon, since some have built-in SPF, which protects skin for a couple of hours after application. The issue: That smell The fix: Look for glow moisturizers made with less DHA or no-odour formulas to keep tanner scent to a minimum. “I particularly like St. Tropez Self Tan Luxe Dry Oil because it gives a subtle gleam, but smells lovely and fresh since they designed the product’s fragrance to work with the ‘notes’ typically found in self-tanners. It makes the overall result far more bearable,” Falcon says. ■ inbetween
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Pairing bold lips with bold nails is par for the beauty course this season. Look for deep shades of burgandy or berry for maximum impact. OPI Nail Lacquer in Race Red. $12, opi.com Marc Jacobs Kiss Pop in Strawberry Red. $35, sephora.ca OPI Nail Lacquer in Girls Love Peonies. $12, opi.com Marc Jacobs Kiss Pop in Electric Rose. $35, sephora.ca
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