Are your
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Do you struggle with setting and a
If yes, you are not alone. Goals have become the only way of achieving dreams by holding people to account, however, they work well for some but not so much for others.
usually set goals because they think they want them, but generally, it is to meet an expectation from somewhere else. It is not really something they want to do.
Goals – The Upside
By setting them for the wrong reasons, more effort must be invested in making them happen, more will power, more motivation which can then lead to disillusionment. Because somehow even if you set them, they can soon become a chore.
Everyone knows that setting goals is a way to achieve what you want. They are used to measure, motivate and create a sense of accountability, a sort of judgement of a person’s worth.
Goals – The Downside But many people struggle with them, you can almost hear the inward groan of despair at the mere mention of goals.
Why? I believe people set goals because they think they ‘should’, ‘could’, "must", "have to", however it is not really what they WANT. Think New Year’s Resolutions? Perhaps there is a good reason they do not last beyond the end of January! People
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What’s the alternative? I believe by changing the word to INTENTIONS changes perspective. It implies less pressure than a goal. Notice (mindfully) the subtle and more positive difference in the energy around the word? It feels less constraining, more flexible, doesn’t it? Intentions can still be a plan, still be SMART, still be monitored, but are less of something to beat yourself up with – the only person setting the requirements after all, is you!
Commitment After setting your intention, you still need commitment, right? – How much do you really want it? One way is to rate yourself out of 10, with 10 being absolute commitment to 0 – highly unlikely.
Over 8 – Well done you! You are on your way! Between 5 – 7 – Good job! Knowing you have room for growth and still be human, will allow you to be kinder for those times when you slip up. Under 5 – who is this
really for? You may believe it is for you, but is it really? Have a rethink about what you want instead? This is not about letting yourself off the hook, but it is about being more realistic, you still have a life to lead! Rather than give up, know there is always tomorrow!
