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in this issue, I recalled a recent conversation with a friend of mine that made me realize just how well-deserved a celebration of men is—and when I think of outstanding men, I always think of my dad and miss him terribly. Similarly, my friend was missing her dad when she was considering getting a new cell phone, but she was hesitant because she wasn’t sure if in doing so she would lose a voicemail she had saved from her father, who had passed away a few months prior. Hearing his voice gave her great comfort, and she was willing to keep her old phone for all time if it meant she would be able to hear him whenever she wanted. I couldn’t help but feel a little envious…how I wish I could hear my own father’s voice again.

My dad was the smartest man I’ve ever known. He frequently expressed to me, then later to his grandchildren, that we would one day appreciate just how smart he was. He was right--we do. And it’s our guess that he is probably explaining to God right now how if He, too, would do things Sam Jordan’s way, it all might run a little smoother.

Dad was also a patriot. He believed our founding fathers had gotten it right but that we had spent the last 243 years mucking it up. But he believed his grandchildren could get this nation back on track, with his direction, of course.

He didn’t impart his directives with fancy words and eloquent speeches—in fact, his fervor often got the best of him and there was quite a bit of face flushing and fist pounding involved. But though unpolished, his rough-around-the-edges passion provided a model for his grandchildren of what it meant to love your country and to live your convictions.

My father was not a perfect man—he would be the first to admit that. But his imperfections gave color to his character—he had a determination that you could describe as stubbornness; an intensity that could occasionally give one pause; a fortitude that at times made him seem aloof. But his imperfections were also strengths that gave his character its wonderful shape. His determination drove his success; his intensity fueled his passion; his fortitude made him the bedrock of his family.

Though not a man who was comfortable with outward displays, he did show affection in his own way. He didn’t express it in a language that was easy to understand (his typical response to an “I love you” was to nod and grunt something that translated roughly to “I love you, too”), but once you learned his lingo, you could hear Sam Jordan say, “You are my friend,” “Thank you,” “I’m proud of you,” and even, “I love you,” loud and clear.

Life without my father in it has been an adjustment, to say the least…so much of me is made of what I learned from him, and I still find myself reaching for the phone to share a thought with him that I know only he would understand. I do know that I would give up every new iPhone from now to eternity to hear him growl “I love you, too” one more time. So go celebrate all the fantastic men in your world and tell them how much you love them!

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DR. MATTHEW LINEBERGER

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DR. ROBERTO PALMIERI

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TEENS ALOUD: Boys' Club Edition!

HEALTH 20

Smile, Baby!

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Has It Happened To You?

8 THINGS: 8 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Them

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What Do YOU Need Most?

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The Thrill Of The Grill

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Dad's Famous Baked Beans

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LIVE, LEARN, Lake Norman Woman Magazine recognizes the men in our community who are truly a cut above. The men you will read about in this issue have exhibited strength, honesty, hard work, and integrity at its best; and while “men are from Mars and women are from Venus,” we have much to learn from our male counterparts … LKN Men, we salute you!

LEARN HOW TO ENJOY THE NOW. Dr. Wissam

Nadra shows us on page 32 how to eliminate the “what ifs,” in our lives and focus on what matters NOW. “If you visualize your dreams as having already happened, guess what? You’re there!”

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life test us. For an awe-inspiring lesson on strength, courage, and acceptance, get to page 34 fast! Stephen Branum has some valuable insights on surviving trauma and pursuing passion.

GIVE TO OTHERS. DR. ROBERT M. SELDEN, III, OWNER OF SELDEN ORTHODONTICS IN HUNTERSVILLE, IMPROVES LIVES

BY GIVING AWAY SMILES— LITERALLY! FOR A HEART-WARMING REACTION FROM ONE LOCAL WOMAN WHOM DR. SELDEN OFFERED

ANSWER YOUR CALLING.

You will definitely want to take a look at page 30 to find out how a local funeral director knew at age 5 that this was his calling.

Sam James, owner of James Funeral Home, has spent his life dedicated to the families of Lake Norman, and his gratitude and humility make his story all the more special.

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on over to page 36 to see how Italy native Dr. Roberto Palmieri achieved the American Dream.

Arriving in this country with $500 and a single suitcase, Dr. Palmieri is an exquisite example of how hard work, perseverance, and family support lead to success in life.

WHEN THE GOIN’ GETS TOUGH. Man, oh, man can

“THE REAL MAN SMILES IN TROUBLE, GATHERS STRENGTH FROM DISTRESS, AND GROWS BRAVE BY REFLECTION.”

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YOLO! Dr. Reid Spivey,

owner of Anchor Dental in Denver (page 40), has his perspectives in check: “I make an effort every day to list three things that I’m grateful for – I’m thankful for all that God has given me, and I feel it’s my duty to honor Him by doing my best with those abilities.”

ORTHODONTIC TREATMENT, GRAB SOME TISSUES AND

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memorable moments Here is a look back at some memorable quotes and sage advice from our LKN Men found in past issues of Lake Norman Woman Magazine.

In our August 2017 Men’s edition, John Kepner explain ed his attitude of gratitude with ou r readers:

“My relationship with our Lord, my family, friends, and the families we serve in funeral service is so very important.

I start each day with a prayer and strive to do something positive every day.”

the fantastic While exploring Norman ke La of husbands ’s issue, for our 2016 Men the t hi boy did we ! de rlo he mot

Our very first MEN'S ISSUE in 2013!

In 2018, th e father/so n dynamic and Thom duo o as McIlvee challenge n shared w f Dr. Peter s and rewa rds of work ith us the ing with fa mily.

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8 things Their actions speak louder than words. They may not tell you how they feel, but their actions say “I love you,” loud and clear.

A quiet man is not necessarily a sad or angry man…they really do need some time to think about stuff… or about nothing… sometimes!

They like it when you don’t wear makeup— really.

If they offer help while you’re getting ready, it means you’re late.

about them

They may not be showing any sign that they are listening, but they are really listening (most of the time).

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If you think they drive too fast when you’re in the car, you should see their speedometer when you’re not.

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Such is the case with teen boys and their needs. We’re in an era of unprecedented mental health awareness. There’s a bumper sticker for every diagnosis in the DSM V. There are apps and text lines for every struggle teens face. We are listening to adolescent voices like never before. But in my work with boys, I hear the strain of a same old song. While girls get the benefit of inquiry—“Are you okay? Is there a reason you didn’t do the homework?”— boys are supposed to meet the standard, and if they don’t, they’re in trouble.

To understand his route to success, I posed a question: “Think about a kid who’s good at school. Why do you think they’re able to be successful?”

He didn’t give me what is, duh, the obvious answer: they study hard, get to class on time, and speak respectfully to the teacher. What he gave me, instead, was the key to his personal lock: “They know how to ask for help.”

The heavens cracked open; the angels wept. Those words he said to the teacher?

Bad Boy Front. A façade of blame to A mom recently emailed me in a panic. cover his “weakness.” He wants to do Her son, who I was coaching, had said terrible things to his teacher: “You lost my better at school, but he’s struggling not only to understand the material, but with homework. Start doing your job. Don’t ever talk to me again.” I was shocked. The how to ask for help. Because boys? They’re kid I interacted with on Skype every week strong. They’re supposed to man up and was so quiet and polite, I needed to crank do it. When he didn’t have the tools to do the thing, he relied on what he has my laptop volume to hear him. But I did what any well-trained life coach would do: learned: how to act like a tough guy.

I filed mom’s words away and approached If you’ve got a teenage boy in your the kid with a blank mental slate. life, perhaps change the channel from irritation to questioning. Not with a We were working on goals related to direct question—“What’s going on school that day, but he didn’t bring up the bomb that he’d dropped in class. So I with you?”—but instead, ask about his didn’t, either. That’s why coaching works. observations of his peers. “How does it seem other kids handle this?” If your tone It’s driven by what the kid is concerned about, not what the parent/teacher/coach is one of curiosity, I’ll bet you’ll hear the angel’s song. w is concerned about. Instead, we talked about his vision of academic success.

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SOCIAL NORMS ARE LIKE OCEAN TIDES. With each era they dramatically shift, making it appear, on the surface, that things have fundamentally changed. But in the sand beneath the waves, the shape of change isn’t so dramatic. At base level, things have barely budged.

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Want to have your struggle considered for an upcoming Teens Aloud column? Send Cyndy an email about what’s going on at cyndy@theteenlifecoach.com

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Cyndy Etler is a contributing and freelance writer for Lake Norman Woman Magazine. An award-winning young adult author and a boardcertified teen life coach, you can connect with Cyndy at www.theteenlifecoach.com.

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self It has been officially calculated that the chance of an average golfer making a hole-in-one is about

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Golf originated from a game played on the eastern coast of Scotland (in the Kingdom of Fife) during the 15th century. Players would hit a small rock around a course of rabbit runs and natural sand dunes using a stick or club. Golf’s status and popularity quickly spread throughout the 16th century when King Charles I popularized the game in England, and Mary Queen of Scots, who was French, introduced the game to France while studying there. The ancient game of golf has been entertaining, challenging, and frustrating the bajeebers out of us for centuries … so with that said, we thought these fun facts would be par for the course! w

“Golf is deceptively simple and endlessly complicated; it satisfies the soul and frustrates the intellect. It is at the same time rewarding and maddening—and it is without a doubt the greatest game mankind has ever invented.”

–ARNOLD PALMER

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12,500 to 1

The chance of two holes-in-one in a single round is approximately

67 million to 1 Tiger Woods was only 8 years old when he got his first hole-in-one.

The four major events in professional golf are the British Open, the Masters, the U.S. Open, and the PGA Championship. The four events together are called the GRAND SLAM OF GOLF.

An estimated 125,000 golf balls are hit into the water at the 17th hole of the Stadium Course at Sawgrass each year.

The French word “Cadet” means “youngest child” and is where the word “Caddy” comes from.

A golf ball will travel further on hot days because the air is less dense so it takes less velocity to travel.

Only 20 percent of golfers have a handicap below 18; a golfer with a handicap of 18 is called a “Bogey Golfer.”

Golf balls used to be made from leather and chicken (or goose) feathers.

One ball could cost anywhere between $10 and $20.

Only two sports have ever been played while on the moon and one is, you guessed it, golf! The other is the javelin throw.

Some say it is called GOLF because all of the other fourletter words were taken!

Information gathered from www.golfeurope.com and www.collegeofgolf.keiseruniversity.edu.

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Thank God for xylitol gum and face masks because that acidity and bad breath can be curbed … and the added benefit? Less cavities! With less cavities, you can invest in minor restorations or in-office whitening instead of the drilling, filling, and dreaded root canals. As research now suggests, cavity bacteria (and even cancer cells) love sugar, and an unhealthy diet and lifestyle © Mimagephotography | Dreamstime.com can wreak havoc on your oral health.

Halitosis is often due to underlying gum disease or cavities and rampant decay that can lead to detrimental health issues and even the permanent loss of teeth, gums, and bone structure.

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Smile, Baby!

IT’S NOT OFTEN THAT ANYONE GETS EXCITED ABOUT BAD BREATH, BUT MAN THIS DENTIST IS NOW A LOVER OF SOME KETONE-INDUCED HALITOSIS! Especially since

25 pounds ago I was sleeping terribly, could not fit into my old maternity bathing suit, and was about to put myself in a dental sleep apnea device. No amount of exercise and healthy reduced calorie “nutrition programs” touched the rolls my daughter called her “little sister.” Granted, the scrubs I wear to work are kind of like pajamas so I hid it well, but in my heart I wanted to feel light as I played soccer with my son and unburdened with the exhaustion of the extra weight at the end of the work day.

Now that my children were all toilet trained and I was about to hit 40, I set a goal for myself to lose 15 pounds in 40 days. No sooner had I decided on this particular goal did I begin hearing different comments about a ketogenic diet. At church, our pastor, Steven Furtick, made jokes about keto and paleo eating plans in his sermons and many of my friends, even the ones who ran marathons, bragged about their diets of unlimited bacon consumption! So, I told my husband all I wanted for my birthday was his help making keto meals and we were off !

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AS RESEARCH NOW SUGGESTS, CAVITY BACTERIA (AND EVEN CANCER CELLS) LOVE SUGAR, AND AN UNHEALTHY DIET AND LIFESTYLE CAN WREAK HAVOC ON YOUR ORAL HEALTH.

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Here are a few words of advice before embarking on any change to your eating plan: ALWAYS consult a physician before making major changes in your diet and, from my own personal experience, have some chicken broth on hand during the first three days of a ketogenic eating plan.

The chicken broth will help in case you have to endure some of the keto flu symptoms or the keto migraine, which can be common as your body switches from burning sugar for energy to burning fat for energy.

Another tip is to start on a Thursday evening so you have some weekend time to rest if you do experience some of the effects of the switch.

Grab the keto urine test strips off Amazon so that you can celebrate when that test comes up pink and you’ve accomplished the first goal of ketosis. I can’t say enough about the positive changes I have experienced personally that translate to caring for my patients daily!

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Dr. Amanda Kotis and her team at Kotis Family Dentistry in Statesville can be reached at 704.873.4271. They are located at 1207 Davie Avenue, or visit them now at www.KotisFamilyDentistry.com.

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Thank you to Tyler Hampton of Hampton’s Men’s Clothing in Langtree for his enthusiasm and expertise in providing terrific fashions for our featured men.

Hampton’s is located at 120 Langtree Village Drive - Suite 105 – in Mooresville. You may reach them at (704) 230-4458 for information about any of the styles you see in this issue.

this special annual issue are making their mark on our community with their ideas, energy, and passion!

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Jerry Kaufman, finance and operational consultant

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with Exterior Cleaning Professionals in Mooresville, grew up in a rural town in northeastern Pennsylvania.

“I left Pennsylvania to pursue an undergraduate degree at Babson College in Wellesley, Massachusetts, but returned to help run the family business,” he says.

After devoting his time back home, Jerry left once again to become the national sales manager for a large manufacturing company. “This was a great move for me as it allowed me to get out of the northeast in the winter and head south,” he smiles.

Jerry has always had a passion for small- to mediumsized businesses. “When a company becomes too large, you start to lose track of the day-to-day operations in every department, and it’s too easy to lose the personal touch – the element of business that gives you a special sense of pride,” he explains.

Granted, there is more risk in a smaller company, but there is also more freedom to change direction when you realize the need. Jerry says, “I learn more as an entrepreneur than I do working for large companies, and I love that!”

While in Naples, Florida, Jerry met his wife, Ellie.

Growing up in Ohio, Ellie spent her summers on Lake Erie, so after a friend invited the couple to visit Cornelius, and falling in love with the Lake Norman area, they decided to plant their roots here.

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With the prominent motorsports and racing culture, Jerry feels right at home in Mooresville. “I love sports car racing,” says Jerry, “and when I was 25, I found out that I could take my car on a race track, so I bought a helmet and went!” It was the most addictive fun he had ever had, so he eventually bought a race car and started racing with the BMW Car Club Association. Jerry won Rookie of the Year in 2013 and secured two national championships as well. This success prompted him to go into professional racing.

At his first race in Daytona in January 2016, he asked Ellie to marry him during the Fan Walk, just before he got into the car to start the race.

Jerry and Ellie enjoy traveling. Last year they went to Tetiaroa, best known as Marlon Brando’s private island, a small Polynesian atoll near Tahiti. “We had an amazing time and the scenery was breathtaking,” he adds. While Jerry doesn’t see travel plans taking them that far away for a while, he definitely is looking forward to returning to the islands in the future.

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LKKKNN L men My job, as a writer for this fine publication, is to take

folks’ lives—their careers, their families, their struggles and interests—and flesh them out. Bling them up. Add that reader-engagement pixie dust. It’s easy for me to do this, because I love two things in equal measure: other people’s stories and manipulating words.

When it comes to Lineberger Orthodontics’ Dr. Matthew Lineberger, though, all bets are off. Reader, I’d be doing you a disservice if I used my words to tell his tale. It’s painful to admit this, but…Dr. Matthew’s words are better than mine.

So we’re breaking with tradition here. I present to you a first: Men of Lake Norman, Q & A Style.

This writer’s simply-worded Q: “Tell me about you, Dr.

B-Grade Q: “What makes

your business different from the competition?”

Matthew. Where did you grow up? Where did you go to school? Are you married?

Let’s have deets.”

patients, we seek to provide the highest quality, cutting-edge, comfortable orthodontic options. With our waiting/party room, we try to give our patients’ families an unparalleled experience of pampering.

Think Disney meets Ritz Carlton meets Hostess Twinkies meets Neiman Marcus. For your mouth.”

Rapids, Michigan, the town depicted in the cinematic masterpieces known as the American Pie movies.

Played—loosely using the term—basketball at Wake Forest University before transferring to UNC. Went to dental school and orthodontic residency at University of Michigan, which is where I met the fabulous wifey and business partner, Megan. She was extremely attracted to me from the start and aggressively introduced herself the first day of dental school. We now have a crazy amount of kids."

Tapioca Q: “Has anyone

inspired you along the way?

If so, how?”

Dy-no-mite A: “Vanilla Ice.

He taught me that being anything less than the best is a felony.”

To-be-expected Q:

“What are you proudest of both personally and professionally?”

Standard Q: “How did you

Stop-and-stare A: “We

get started in your career?”

have won some cool awards and reached some awesome milestones that we never would have dreamed of,

Wry, brilliant A: “It all began

when I didn’t make the NBA.” AUGUST 2019

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Dr. Matthew’s very funny A: “Grew up in East Grand

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coming out in the ortho world five years ago. One of the faves was starting our Stats-4-Smiles program with Kawann Short of the Panthers, treating one kid for free every time he got a sack. Since then we have treated well over $100,000 in braces just in his name! Many other pro athletes have joined us; some of the guys have even shown up for the appointment or Facetimed when the kiddo got braces.

That’s the good stuff. ” Generic Q: “What obstacles

have you faced? How did you overcome them?”

Oh-no-he-didn’t A: “Dad-bod

and the inability to grow facial hair. I have overcome neither.”

Humdrum Q: “If you could

choose, what would you be doing ten years from now?”

Phantasmagorical A:

“Rollerblading along the beach, waffle cone in hand, jorts loose on the thighs, tan gut slightly protruding out of my Tommy Bahama. Boombox on my shoulder playing Kenny Rogers’ The Gambler, on the way to golf with my wife and fourteen grandkids.”

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SAM JAMES

JAMES FUNERAL HOME

When Sam James was just 5 years old attending his

grandmother’s funeral, he knew he wanted to be in the funeral business. With a natural curiosity and a heart for helping, young Sam went home and declared, “That’s what I want to do when I grow up!”

And he never changed his mind! At 16, Sam got his driver’s license and a job with Mr. John Raymer, in that order. Lake Norman natives like Sam know who Mr. Raymer is when it comes to the funeral business. “I grew up in Huntersville,” Sam says, “in the Long Creek area. My mother is from Charlotte and my father is from Cornelius, so we have been in the Lake Norman area for generations. I remember Mr. Raymer at my grandmother’s funeral … he was so relaxed and clearly a comfort to my grandfather and my parents.”

Sam worked at Raymer Funeral Home as much as possible, soaking up all the knowledge he could and eventually attended mortuary school and got a four-year degree at Erskine College. After returning home from school, Sam again worked for, and eventually managed, Raymer Funeral Home until Mr. Raymer’s death in 2009. After the family sold the business, Sam decided it was time to open his own funeral home and, since opening in 2012, James Funeral Home has put in an onsite crematory and purchased Northlake Memorial Gardens in Huntersville.

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Sam not only had his career picked out at an early age, but he met his future wife, Liz, in the fifth grade. Both attended SouthLake Christian Academy as youngsters and then Erskine College, marrying after graduation.

“We now have two little ones, Henry and Violet,” Sam beams, “and they are the delight of our lives. Both of them grabbed our hearts the moment they were born and have not let go!”

Attributing much to his father, Sam has always looked up to his dad and credits him for his strong work ethic and business savvy. “He is always a good sounding board,” Sam says. “If I am making a big decision, I usually call Dad to talk it through … he ran a successful business and has wonderful words of wisdom.”

When you ask Sam about his business it is easy to see that he is in the business of FAMILY … family IS his business! “The gratitude and privilege I feel to serve the families of our communities is overwhelming at times, but it reassures my faith in God and in my calling as His servant. I will never forget an elderly widower who wrote me a note that simply said ‘you made me hurt less.’ That is the kindest thing someone can tell me.

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bits of each. With a Greek and Lebanese background, he spent his childhood in Dubai, in the United Arab Emirates. He was a boy of only 9 when he got his calling. His mother worked as a translator for the Minister of Health. When he went with her to work, he got to tour one of the hospitals…and there met a child recovering from second-degree burns.

“Her doctor was so sweet and gentle with the little girl,” he recalls, “and the medical team worked so well together. This is when I knew I wanted to be a physician.”

When he was 17, his family moved to the United States. Though his dad’s family was from Brooklyn, Dr. Nadra’s family chose to live in Los Angeles, where his mom’s family had settled upon emigrating to the U.S. Though Dr. Nadra is a product of seemingly all of the cultures and places, when one thing is the thing for him, he immediately recognizes it. In the same way he knew at age 9 that his calling was to be a doctor, he also knew upon meeting his wife, Widad, that she would be his wife and life partner.

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WISSAM NADRA LAKESHORE PEDIATRIC CENTER

We’re all familiar with the movies where

a wise, calm character doles out great advice, the young, frenetic simpleton doesn’t take the advice, and disasters ensue…until the wise calm character reappears and instructs simpleton in how to fix the damage. We all wish we had a bit of wise calm in our lives. I’m here with good news: you can. As long as you have access to a kid who needs pediatric care, and you bring that kid to Lakeshore Pediatric Center in Denver.

Dr. Wissam Nadra is Lakeshore Pediatric’s clinical director and is an amalgamation of so many cultures—and he’s absorbed the best

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In case his reaction to the “sweet, gentle” medical care he witnessed as a boy didn’t convince you that Dr. Nadra is a real-life movie character, give a listen to his reaction to my standard interview question about what makes one’s business different from the competition. “When someone begins to look at others as their competition, they lose sight of what’s right for their own business—in my case, the patients.”

When he envisions his ideal future, Dr. Nadra utters the most perfect line in the whole movie—um, interview: “I would continue to see patients part-time, but my day would start at 10 a.m. after I’ve spent the morning with my wife drinking tea and eating scones with clotted cream.”

Your parting gift is a line from Dr. Nadra, this one a reflection on what he would change in his life. “I would change nothing,” he insists.

“We all think about ‘what if,’ but that to me is sad because ‘what if’ destroys the good about ‘what is.’ If we don’t like the ‘what is,’ then we can always change it. If you visualize your dreams as having already happened, guess what? You’re there!” w WRITER CYNDY ETLER

“I absolutely love making people smile,” Dr.

Selden says with quite the affable smile of his own.

Owner of Selden Orthodontics in Huntersville, this native North Carolinian and UNC-Chapel Hill alumnus has had his sights on making people smile since he was in middle school. “When I had braces, I had to have surgery to move a tooth that was stuck in the bone. I was just fascinated by the whole process of aligning teeth,” he shares.

When the family moved to Huntersville in 2001, Dr. Selden and his wife, Sharay, knew they would need to carve out a niche among the well-established orthodontic practices in the area. “We opened Selden Orthodontics with a simple goal: to provide highquality orthodontic care at a fair price with a family atmosphere,” he explains. They have accomplished that goal by valuing the patient above everything else.

Dr. Selden takes pride in explaining the complicated processes of orthodontics so that the patient better understands the hows and whys behind the care.

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Every year Selden Orthodontics gives away smiles.

There was a young lady who worked behind the sushi counter at a local Harris Teeter; she was always very friendly and helpful and she and Dr. Selden struck up a rapport. “Her teeth did not match her beautiful personality,” Dr. Selden recalls. “After becoming a regular customer, I worked up the courage to ask her if she had ever thought about orthodontic treatment.”

Admitting to the good doctor that she had always wanted to get her teeth fixed but simply could not afford it, Dr. Selden offered to provide her treatment at no cost. “After her transformation,” he says, “she handed me a thank you letter, stating that she had prayed for years to have straight teeth … adding that I was the blessing behind her prayers. It was very moving and gratifying and I feel blessed that I could help her.”

Sacrifice is often one of the keys for success in business, and Dr. Selden understands this saying, “You will have to sacrifice for your patients, staff, and family and lean on God always. When negative things happen, I trust that God has a better plan in store for me.” Dr. Selden is able to smile knowing that truth, and he continues to bless others with beautiful smiles as well.

When Dr. Selden isn’t working, he is participating in his favorite pastime—watching his three children compete in athletics. From competitive cheer, to cross-country meets, to basketball games, most of his weekends are filled with cheering on his children and that suits him just fine ... smiles galore! w

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If Shakespeare were alive and writing today, he might

find an apt subject in Steve Branum. Steve’s life story has been marked by two mighty forces: passion—for his family, his work, his faith—and trauma—witnessing it in others and feeling called to support their healing.

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At a young age, he perceived the nuanced layers of human trauma.

He recognized that trauma wasn’t just the shocking externals seen by the human eye; that trauma was also comprised, for those who experience it, of strength and determination; of ability to adapt and survive.

Steve was an athletic youth, spending his free time having outdoor adventures in his home state of Colorado. Mountain sports and varsity tennis were favorites, but his true passion was cycling. His close friend Mike, with whom he rode bikes, developed a form of childhood cancer, osteosarcoma. Mike fought, and won, the battle…but in the process, he lost a leg. Steve watched as Mike continued to pursue his passion, bike racing, despite his physical limitations.

“It was awe-inspiring,” says a still-astonished Steve. “His courage and strength were such a witness to me.” Steve now knew that trauma was not the fire extinguisher of passion.

After moving from varsity tennis in high school to collegiate national cycle racing in college, he leaned into a new passion/ trauma yin-yang: the emergency medical field. He spent a summer taking an EMT class, secured a position with an ambulance company, then moved on to a job as an emergency department tech.

When he realized that an ER physician to whom he frequently delivered his emergency patients was, in fact, a physician’s assistant,

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the path was suddenly clear: “I decided to put the bike away,” he says, “and put all my focus on prepping to enter a PA program, to fulfill my dreams and develop my skills in medicine.”

On the heels of his graduation, Steve was accepted at Wake Forest University School of Medicine. His role at Presbyterian Hospital in Charlotte began in 1997, when he assumed a role as—wait for it—a trauma PA. When one is trucking in the heavies of human emotion, it’s essential that one maintain balance. Steve does so quite literally, keeping one foot on land and one foot in water. In 1999, he and his best friend started first a limo service, seeking to prevent trauma via an alternative to drunk driving, and later, branched into luxury yacht cruises.

Today that passion has flourished into a 501c3 charity, Charters for Charity. Under the direction of Steve’s wife Kim, their custombuilt, 100-foot yacht “Carolina Grace” is utilized as a free venue for charitable organizations, to raise funds and spread awareness.

In the three years since they formalized Charters for Charity, they’ve helped raise over $100,000 for charitable organizations.

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I think I speak for all of us when I reveal my long-standing daydream:

a native-born Italian leans in close and gazes, with rapt attention, into my…mouth. That dream came true when I visited Dr. Roberto Palmieri at Palmieri Dentistry in Mooresville.

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Dr. Palmieri knew he wanted to be a dentist at age 12. “I always wanted to work with little things and solve intricate problems,” he says, “so the choice was between jewel-making tech or lab tech.” His uncle, who was a lab tech, inspired him to pursue the latter. “In Italy, high schools are more specialized,” he explains. “I decided to go to high school for dental tech.”

On the eve of his 20th birthday, he had eight years of dental tech experience under his belt. He crossed the globe, studied English, was an honor student at UCLA, and graduated with his Doctor of Dental Medicine degree from Temple University in 1998.

Somewhere in the midst all that, he found time to fall in love. He met his wife, a Charlotte native, when she was an exchange student in Italy. They chose to live in the Lake Norman area because, as Dr. Palmieri says, “the lake reminds me of the Amalfi Coast, of the Mediterranean.”

He cites his father as his greatest inspiration. “My father, he always reminded me to work hard, do the best job possible, and do not worry about the money because that will come.”

Drawing from his father’s wisdom, Dr. Palmieri has achieved his dream of using hard work to become a doctor and a business owner, despite the fact that “no one believed I could do it, other than my wife and parents.”

He has now surpassed what his wife and parents envisioned for him. Years after moving to the United State—“not knowing the language, with only a suitcase of clothes and $500 in the pocket”—Dr. Palmieri has recently been accredited by the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry.

The process was rigorous. To receive the accreditation, doctors must demonstrate their excellence and knowledge in cosmetic and restorative dentistry via clinical cases, a written test and an oral examination. Those who hold AACD accreditation are recognized as being among the best cosmetic and restorative dentists in the world.

Still, Dr. Palmieri has known his struggles. When asked about the worst thing that happened to him and how he coped with it, he recounts a time when his best friend—someone he had shared a relationship with for many years—betrayed him. “The event has put some bitterness in my mouth,” he says, “but I cannot put everyone in the same basket.”

Looking back on all the sacrifices he has made, and looking around at his family and friends today, keeps Dr. Palmieri uplifted. “We all think that the grass on the other side of the fence is greener but looks can be deceiving. When difficult moments arise think about sprinkling a bit of fertilizer on your side of the fence.” w

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NASCAR that originally got North Carolina noticed by the Sowa family, it was the beauty of the area and the amazing people that would make it “home” for Kristopher.

Kristopher grew up in Connecticut but his family traveled to the Lake Norman area every year or so for NASCAR. After attending the University of Hartford for mechanical engineering, Kristopher went to UNCC, but again found himself back in Connecticut where he took over a small antique radio business that his grandfather was running.

The Sowas have always been involved in real estate; Kristopher’s parents started a property management company and purchased their first homes when he was just a boy.

For most of his childhood, young Kristopher spent long hours working on the homes, mowing the lawns, collecting rents, cleaning apartments, and so on. Along the way, they purchased multiple other properties that they would fix up and sell … and he was right there to learn it all.

“After being back in Connecticut a while after college,” he shares, “my entire family decided to move down to the Lake Norman area, and we lived in Huntersville before I moved out two years later to Mooresville. I never really thought about becoming a real estate agent until 2014 when my family’s real estate agent suggested it to me. She said that my background in home renovation and design is highly sought after and not many agents have a background like mine, so I was honored … and I absolutely love it! I have so many great clients who I have helped, and their expressions when they find out their offer has been accepted or when they receive an offer on their home is priceless. Picture yourself winning the lottery and most of the time that’s the expression I see or hear. It’s such a rush and makes me so happy!”

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When Kristopher has some “me time,” he enjoys fishing or boating on the lake, and he has an affinity for great BBQ. In fact, not only does he profess to be a bit of a BBQ master, he would like to own a BBQ restaurant and ice cream shop one day—for which he has already purchased the domain names and Instagram handles. I guess you could say Kristopher likes to plan ahead and stay busy! In addition to helping folks win their own personal “lottery” in the real estate market, he is also eager to earn his pilot’s license.

“I’ve been wanting to get my private pilot’s license for years now, and I plan to start working towards that soon as well.

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Growing up in Calera, Alabama, Dr. Spivey credits his family doctor for talking him out of pursuing a career as a physician. “He suggested I should think about going into dentistry and also impressed upon me to not waste my college credits studying what I would learn later in dental school.” While studying at the University of Alabama, Reid changed his major to healthcare management with a minor in computer science— gratefully his pre-med credits transferred seamlessly to pre-dental, and he went on to pursue his career in dentistry at the University of Alabama at Birmingham.

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Dr. Spivey smiles large when he speaks of his parents, crediting them with doing so much right.

“I am the person I am today because my parents put the time and effort into their relationship with my sister and me, which now permeates through our lives,” he says. Time is the advantage Dr. Spivey had over others, not money, because he says they had none. His parents gave him all the time they could spare and more. “They provided the discipline and structure that allowed us to thrive and grow into good people,” he states.

At work, Dr. Spivey credits his staff with a lot as well. He recognizes it is a team effort, and the staff at Anchor Dental do not go unnoticed. “They really do a great job of shouldering their own load and then some,” Dr. Spivey says. “As a team running a business, it’s important that we are all pulling the cart in the same direction. If one of us can’t pull as strongly that day as we typically do, our combined effort is synergistic enough to keep us headed in the right direction.”

His wife, Dr. Julie Spivey (owner of Lake Norman Pediatric Dentistry in Denver) adds, “Reid is the type of person that gives his all in everything, and he continually challenges me to be the best I can in everything I do. I am grateful to have such a considerate, passionate, honest, and hardworking husband. We have the best time exploring new places together, and he makes me laugh and smile like no one else can.”

Dr. Spivey, owner of Anchor Dental in Denver, has

known since the 8th grade what he wanted to do in life.

With an eagerness to learn and an interest in science, young Reid took it upon himself to read his Biology textbooks—completing assignments weeks before they were due. “I even had time to read several chapters over again,” he says. He knew then that science was his strong suit and decided his career path would be healthcare.

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The couple enjoys travel immensely and even spent a couple years living in Hawaii, where they both gleefully immersed themselves in the culture. Dr. Spivey believes his time on the islands gave him a new perspective on life: “My travel experiences around the world have become more enriched. As a result of the combination of the two, I am able to be less judgmental, more open-minded, and can show more grace to others.” w

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We always have a blast photographing the women of Lake Norman, but our

attention turned quickly this summer to the fabulous men of LKN. Check out

these amazing behind-the-scene shots of our 2019 men’s photoshoot at Langtree Village—and a VERY special thank you to the entire team at Hampton’s Men’s Clothing for providing the elegant, stylish wardrobe for our handsome guys!

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CONNECT WITH LAKE NORMAN WOMEN & LKNW

Aren’t those words music to your ears? I think as women, we aren’t asked that question nearly enough—or maybe someone has asked, but we were just too darn busy trying to meet everyone else’s needs that we didn’t hear.

Here aatt LKNW,

the staff has been thinking about what we need more of in our lives. Although we’re at different stages in our journey, all of us at the magazine are masters at multitasking and pretending like we have all that we juggle under control. We are caregivers, housekeepers, bookkeepers, laundresses, chauffeurs, short-order cooks, handy women, decorators, nurses, personal shoppers, teachers, administrators, accountants, go-getters, maintenance workers, designers, landscapers, seamstresses, zoo keepers, and more—and that’s when we’re not working! But still, even with all of that, each of us felt like there was something missing. After some collective soul searching, we realized that we were all longing for more of the same things: more connection, more support, more comradery, and more fun.

Then we thought of you, dear readers, and considered that if we feel this way, perhaps you do too? So we began brainstorming about how we

could get those things—for all of us. We have a vision in mind, a vision for a place where like-hearted women will keep each other strong, authentic, empowered, laughing, loved, and inspired.

But before we dish out the details, we’d like to hear from you! We believe you‘re the best to guide us through the planning process. We want this community to lift you up and cheer you on, so tell us…what do you want and need in your life?

Let us know your thoughts on that question and a few more by going to https://www. surveymonkey.com/r/QYWV73Q and filling out a brief survey. All participants who complete the survey will have a chance to win one of three $50 Amazon Gift Cards!

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National Night Out

Paddle 4 Purpose

Enjoy an evening of family fun, with children’s activities, food, entertainment, and more at this free, public event promoting community safety and crime prevention.

This 8th-annual stand-up paddle board race and fundraiser benefits Big Day at the Lake and the Surfrider Foundation

Price Varies / 7am-1pm Peninsula Yacht Club 18501 Harbor Light Blvd., Cornelius

Free / 6pm-8pm Veterans Park 201 Huntersville-Concord Rd., Huntersville

More information: https://paddleguru.com/races

More information: www.huntersville.org

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Fur Ball Casino Night Try your paw at poker, black jack, craps and roulette, plus silent auction items, hors d’oeuvres, a cash bar, and music. Event benefits Catering to Cats & Dogs.

$60 / 6pm-10pm Heritage House 494 East Plaza Dr., Mooresville

This triathlon is one of the most popular events in North Carolina.

All proceeds support the YMCA’s adaptive water skiers program for children and adults with physical disabilities.

Price Varies / 7am-until Ingersoll Rand 800 Beaty St., Davidson

More information: http://petpilgrimage.com

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SATURDAY & SUNDAY, AUGUST 31-SEPTEMBER 1

239th Anniversary of the Battle of Charlotte

See historic encampments and daily battles (2pm), learn why Charlotte was called “The Hornet’s Nest of Rebellion,” and visit the oldest log cabin in Mecklenburg County.

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Lake Norman YMCA Triathlon

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Hear Jessica’s story at iredellstories.org • 704.873.5661

“Iredell saved my life.”

Jessica is a busy mother of 3. When unsteady balance caused her to fall while holding her young son, she knew she needed medical attention.

State-of-the-art imaging services at Iredell Memorial Hospital revealed Jessica had a brain tumor needing immediate attention.

We were there for Jessica when she needed us, and we’ll be there for you and your family too. This is your health — don’t settle for anything but the best.

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50 PERCENT OF MEN SAY YES! ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION (ED) IS A FRUSTRATING CONDITION that most

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Melissa Lynch is a registered nurse and owner of Purefico Therapy located at 19401 Old Jetton Road, Suite 100, in Cornelius. For more information on the shockwave therapy Extend Wave or any of the many treatment options Melissa offers, visit www.pureficotherapy.com or you may call her at 704.655.2719.

There are many reasons for ED and, thankfully, there are new advances in treatment. Officially called low-intensity extracorporeal shockwave therapy, the procedure is more commonly known simply as shockwave therapy— noninvasive low-intensity sound waves that pass through erectile tissue and restore the natural function by clearing plaque out of blood vessels. It then encourages the growth of new blood vessels. The shockwave treatment offers a cure in that it reverses the problems that cause the dysfunction in the first place, and it has more than a 70 percent success rate. At Purefico Therapy, we have specialized in wave therapy for more than eight years now and are excited to be offering this therapy now to address ED—including focusing on cardiovascular and blood flow problems.

Shockwave therapy triggers a process called neovascularization and when that occurs, new blood vessels form which in turn helps improve blood flow to the region. This type of therapy has been

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men will experience at some point in their life. In fact, experts say it affects about 50 percent of men between the ages of 40 and 70. While it can happen to any age group and for a variety of reasons, low levels of testosterone is often a cause. And testosterone does more than fuel sex drive in men. It also fuels changes in mental and physical energy, maintains muscle mass, and regulates other key features in the male anatomy. But as men age, circulatory and cardiovascular issues play an even bigger role in erectile dysfunction.

used to help heart patients, people with kidney stones, and those with fractures and joint inflammation as well. Extend Wave is one such treatment and is often combined with Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP) for erectile dysfunction and sexual enhancement. Here are some advantages: No drugs

No surgery No downtime Treats the cause, not just the symptoms Proven, clinical long-term results/ noticeable result within three weeks Completely safe with little or no side effects Non-invasive and painless Triggers natural repair mechanisms by increasing blood flow Compatible with other treatments Erectile issues aren’t just a sexual problem—a fulfilling sex life can lead to greater satisfaction in many other aspects of life as men well know. Work and family relationships thrive, and they become more energetic and optimistic in all arenas of life. So reignite your love life.

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TH E D O G DAYS O F SU MME R CA N B E W E A R I N G AN D GRIND IN G . Your motivation can be seriously

lacking during these hot days; however, if you look at them as the beginning of a new season, there can be many possibilities for you and your home. The end of summer is a signal that it is time to start planning ahead for the fall and winter months, and as such, there are many projects you should complete before the colder weather moves in.

In your garden there are many tasks you can accomplish this month.

Harvesting and drying herbs for the season should be on your list. You can air dry them, oven dry them, or even freeze them. A quick online search will explain which herbs do best which way.

Any way you dry them, you will be able to enjoy them all fall and winter long.

Also in your garden, make sure you trim your hedges and evergreens back for the season.

Please be careful though, there are some bushes that really don’t require trimming, and some that need it right after blooming (azaleas). Make sure you research your particular bush before trimming it. This is also the last time of year to fertilize your perennials to encourage that root growth. The rule of thumb in gardening is August 15th as your last date to fertilize your garden.

This does not apply to your lawn, just your perennials.

Please remember to fertilize your lawn September, October, and December.

If you are not a gardener, there are still plenty of things to do around the house to get ready for fall. Now is a great time to reseal your deck to get it ready for the colder temperatures. Make sure you pressure wash it and sand it first, then seal it with stain. Re-staining and sealing your deck will help protect your deck and keep it looking fabulous throughout the year.

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One thing NOT to do right now is transplant anything. Transplanting a plant causes stress, and asking that plant to deal with high heat and a move is just too much. Try to wait until the temperatures drop if at all possible.

Speaking of lawns, you may be seeing brown patches pop up in your yard. This particular fungus loves the heat and humidity of summer, and can start affecting your yard as early as June. Treat it immediately with a fungicide, paying special attention to the edges of the patch, as that’s the area of active growth for the fungus.

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kitchen AS WITH ANY COOKING METHOD, QUALITY INGREDIENTS

are paramount—from steaks to seasonings, buy for quality. This is true of your tools as well so be sure to research accessories such as thermometers, utensils, bakeware, etc. and buy the best.

LET YOUR MEAT COME TO ROOM TEMPERATURE before grilling and

allow the meat to rest after taking it off the grill for about 5-10 minutes prior to cutting/serving.

YOUR OUTDOOR GRILL CAN BE AN EXTENSION of your indoor

kitchen—anything you can bake in an oven (casseroles, pies, brownies, pizza, cake) can be baked on a gas or charcoal grill.

thrill grill!

LEARN AND MASTER THE “4 T’S”—

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Temperature, Timing, Techniques, and Tools.

ALWAYS PREHEAT YOUR GRILL FOR 10-15 MINUTES. Not only will

heat loosen any bits of food hanging onto the grate (which you can then easily brush off), it also helps prevent food from sticking and it is necessary to properly sear certain foods as well.

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KEEP THE LID DOWN. It speeds up

This once simple backyard picnic activity has evolved into a full-blown hobby for many, requiring a formidable skill set.

Grill masters everywhere are creating recipes and techniques that make this a serious craft. From veggies and desserts to full racks of lamb, grilling is a year-round event. Grilling is healthy and delicious.

Grilling is science. Grilling is fun! Here are a few tips and a récipé délicieux to try for your next cookout:

the cooking time and prevents food from drying out. It also traps the smokiness that develops when fats and juices vaporize in the grill, adding that extra flavor you want from grilling.

KEEP IT CLEAN. Buy a good stainless

steel grill brush and use it!

OIL THE FOOD, NOT THE GRATE.

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baked beans INGREDIENTS

• 2 large cans of baked beans • 2 pounds of ground hamburger meat • 3 large yellow onions • 1 tbsp. yellow mustard • Approximately half a bottle of ketchup • A half-cup brown sugar • 1 pound of bacon

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DIRECTIONS Brown hamburger and onions together and season with salt, pepper, and season salt to taste. Mix remaining ingredients except bacon in a bowl. Drain hamburger/onion mixture when done and add to bowl. Cook bacon, but not until crispy. Drain and add to bowl. Empty bowl into casserole dish and cook for about an hour at 350 degrees or until bubbling. Let cool thoroughly before serving.

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BETTER ME … BETTER YOU … BETTER WORLD

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By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.

WHAT THE wind SAYS THIS PAST 4TH OF JULY, MY SON SAILED ON LAKE LANIER WITH HIS

They were aboard a 17-foot daysailer with just enough room for two. This was my son’s first sailing trip and I was thankful for his seasoned captain. They weren’t out long when an unexpected thunderstorm rolled in, but they carefully tacked the little boat to secure moorings. Back on dry land my son remarked, “It was pretty slow for awhile but then things really picked up. You really have to pay attention.” I thought he meant listening to his uncle but my son went on to explain, “You really have to pay attention to the wind.”

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Any seasoned sailor is accustomed to observing the heavens and the seas for any signs of fresh gales that could change their course. But daily life in our climate-controlled environments can dull our senses to the signs God’s creation gives us. Have you considered the wind lately in your plans as help or hindrance?

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Lake Lanier is named for 19th century poet, professor, and church organist Sidney Lanier. He was born in Georgia but died in Tryon, North Carolina, of the dreaded lung disease, tuberculosis.

In those days doctors sent you to the mountains hoping the climate would help. Still at work writing in the foothills, Lanier would pen this message of hope, “Sail fast… ark of my hopes, ark of my dreams; sweep lordly o’er the drowned Past, Fly glittering through the sun’s strange beams...With news about the Future scent the seas….” Read it aloud to yourself and you’ll hear the susurrations formed by your own breath, the wind coming out with sound from deep within you where the soul resides.

Take a deep breath … Lanier would have wanted you to notice.

In ancient times God commanded a man, Noah, to build a boat for his community and creatures as the waves were soon to come. The Bible declares the Lord “said.” Was this a loud

command or a whisper? Noah listened and followed orders. After the flood of rain, a great gale carved new shores. Yet, aboard the ship, Noah still didn’t know when and where to land.

So, he releases not one, but three doves.

The first flew and returned. The second flew and returned with a leaf. The third never returned. Perhaps it flew through the glitter of the “sun’s strange beams” landing at the edge of a new forest.

Noah and the passengers follow by foot, finding higher ground, a journey home aided by the dove, and the wind, and the man who followed the murmur.

God still sends the wind, the Spirit of God, upon us. When this Spirit settled on Jesus it was like a dove from the heavens. The wind blows where it wishes. When it isn’t at your back, there’s still hope in the headwind. You’ll get there. Sometimes we need to be blown off course to arrive at where we’re supposed to be. w

Allan Purtill is the pastor at Hopewell Presbyterian Church in Huntersville. He enjoys ministering with the congregation as they seek to follow God’s unfolding mission in Huntersville and the greater Lake Norman community. The church is located at 10500 Beatties Ford Road or visit them online at www.hopewellpresbyterian.com.

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