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A LITTLE OVER A MONTH AGO, our beloved state was pummeled by Hurricane Helene. Yet, even amidst the devastation, hope appeared—dressed in camouflage fatigues. Nearly 1,000 active duty troops deployed to offer aid in western North Carolina. These brave servicemen and women rescued people from floods, supported overwhelmed hospitals, and coordinated food distributions. Alongside our first responders, American troops brought not only safety and support but also hope to the most vulnerable members of our communities. My own daughter experienced this firsthand when a mudslide blocked the road in western NC, forcing her to spend the night in her car. Early the next morning, the National Guard arrived, clearing the roads and ensuring she could make it home safely. Their presence was a true blessing in the midst of chaos.
America is incredibly fortunate to have a strong military that protects us both abroad and at home. My husband, Rob, served for eight years as a sergeant in the Army, and I couldn’t be prouder of his commitment to keeping others safe. His dedication, like that of so many men and women in uniform, fills me with gratitude. Their sacrifices are real—choosing to leave behind the comfort of family to serve and protect. I have a special appreciation for the military women who not only face the dangers of service but also carry the unique burden of juggling motherhood and family life while on active duty. To those women, I say thank you—for all you’ve done to make our communities and nation stronger.
As these troops and first responders work tirelessly to rebuild communities, they remind us of the profound sacrifices servicemen, servicewomen, and their families make for our safety. Their service, whether on the battlefield or here at home during a crisis, is a testament to their unwavering commitment.
MAMIE LEE EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
In this season of thankfulness, I want to extend my deepest gratitude to our veterans, first responders, and military families. Your efforts, especially in response to Hurricane Helene, have provided strength and healing in the midst of chaos. And as we move forward, let us not forget that these communities will need continued help in the weeks and months ahead. Together, through our support and generosity, we can help them rebuild stronger than ever. W
November CONTRIBUTORS
Marlene Billesdon; Laura Doherty Collins; Annie Hanson; Lindsay Martell; Tia McNelly; Robin M. Mermans; Starr Miller; Katie Stankiewicz
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ice! And though they don’t always come wrapped in a shiny red bow, the lessons we learn along the way are invaluable gifts that are worth sharing. Here are a few noteworthy examples featured in this issue:
Together with WSIC Radio and Katie Stankiewicz (CEO of Willow Equine and Executive Director of Soul to Sole Connection), we are honored to bring you our special Tribute to Veterans edition. From spotlighting local veterans on PAGE 18 to a host of events to help you celebrate on November 11, this issue is packed full of gratitude.
TURNING PAIN INTO PASSION
SPREADING
GRATITUDE
For Jennifer Berube and Leah Fleming with Physician’s Plan Weight Loss & Med Spa in Huntersville, the many layers of gratitude they embody are an integral part of their passion and success. Read their inspiring stories on PAGE 32 and see how they discovered the gift of gratitude.
THAT’S WHAT HE SAID “I once read that it is best not to judge success by how high you’ve climbed but rather by the width of the valley you have just crossed,” shares Dan Amerman, Dean of School at Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy. Skip on over to PAGE 50 to read more words of wisdom and why they resonate with so many.
KEEPING A POSITIVE FREQUENCY
When she lost her dad in a car accident at just 17, Erica McIntosh, owner of Premier Permits of the Carolinas, learned some invaluable life lessons. “The loss was devastating,” she explains, “but it taught me resilience and gave me the confidence that I can rise above anything.” Catch Erica’s positive vibes on PAGE 46.
Dr. Amanda Bailey, a family physician with Piedmont HealthCare Lake Norman Family Medicine, has survived her share of challenges. Not only did her parents have significant health struggles, but her daughter was diagnosed with brain cancer at just 6 months old. Having served in the Air Force, read how she turned her pain into passion and grief into gratitude on PAGE 24. W
All Saints’ Day
NOVEMBER 7: Men Make Dinner Day
NOVEMBER 13: World Kindness Day
NOVEMBER 23: National Adoption Day
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World Peace Day
VETERANS
SPONSORED BY SOUL TO SOLE CONNECTION & WILLOW EQUINE
This Veterans Day, Lake Norman Woman Magazine, WSIC Radio, and Katie Stankiewicz, CEO of Willow Equine and the Executive Director of Soul to Sole Connection (which offers free counseling to all military, veterans, and their families) have partnered to bring you this special “Tribute to Veterans” edition. In the following pages, you will find inspiring stories, philanthropic opportunities, informative content, a calendar of events, and much more as we celebrate and honor Veterans Day 2024.
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BEHIND THEIR EYES:
The military is associated with courage, strength, and pride. Fearlessly leaving their families to protect our freedoms against evil. That is a powerful vision with huge expectations. Go to a foreign country, place your life on the line, and do the unthinkable. The physical sacrifices that the men and women make are bar none. Each service member and their families long for their return, and yet the return is not always a glorious reunion. Once veterans return home, most silently “agree to” or perhaps “surrender to” another mission – “Guardian of the Memories.” Civilians will never know what it is like to bear witness to what their eyes have seen. They have seen and been asked to do things that our minds cannot even imagine.
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The Unseen Depth of Veterans
“THE EYES ARE THE WINDOW TO THE SOUL” –words that have been spoken for centuries—Roman philosophers to the Bible, even Shakespeare. We are still acknowledging those words today. When we take the time to connect with and look directly into someone’s eyes, we can see their joy, fear, hope, or despair. Unspoken words. Thoughts and Emotions. And yet we do not fully know or understand their story.
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The strong muscular physique of the warrior is very different from the tattered and worn emotional and spiritual being. The memories –images, noises, smells – are ingrained in their bodies. Veterans experience physical pain, bodily responses, vivid images, and racing thoughts. Hypervigilance – heart racing, changes in breathing, muscles tensing up, and their eyes dilate. The autonomic nervous system is ready to fight against “the threat.” Joining the military and deployment changes a person. Some can return and try to process through the experiences. Some may withdraw and appear disconnected or disinterested in family, friends, and hobbies. They are trying to navigate this “unknown” way of being – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Life is different, confusing, yet they “must appear” strong, healthy, and unphased. Civilian life and civilians are SO different from the military and wartimes. If you look into their eyes, you can sense their unease, confusion, and anger.
As family and friends, we are overjoyed to have them home safely— eager to share and celebrate. Veterans, however, find reintegration and connection very challenging. It is hard, if not impossible, to verbalize their experiences. Veterans do not want to relive the memories or be judged for their actions. Family and friends are curious about the time they were away and want to help them heal. When veterans are closed off, it is hard and hurtful for everyone. The disconnection isn’t personal or vengeful; it’s a survival mechanism. Each person’s heartache can be seen within their eyes.
Each of us wants to feel happiness, connection, and have a sense of purpose. We seek to be recognized, understood, and accepted. Despite the guilt or shame we may feel inside, we want to be seen. Even the most resistant deserves grace. Simply watching without judgement or even sitting with one another can make a huge difference. Words are not always necessary. Life is different. With time, realistic expectations, and support (maybe even horses!), healing and peace are possible.
“In your eyes, the window to your soul, I find peace.” W
SHOW YOUR GRATITUDE—
Lake Norman Veterans Day Events VETS TOtribute
MONDAY, NOV 4
POW/MIA Silent Walk
9AM DOWNTOWN MOORESVILLE
WEDNESDAY, NOV 6 "Free Coffee Morning"
8-1 RICHARD'S COFFEE SHOP
THURSDAY, NOV 7
FREE Veterans Breakfast
Hosted by Top of the Lake Rotary Club RSVP Required
8-10AM CHARLES MACK CITIZEN CENTER
SATURDAY, NOV 9
FREE Veterans Breakfast
Hosted by the North Meck Exchange Club
8-10AM CORNELIUS TOWN HALL
SATURDAY, NOV 9
"One Nation Under God"
FREE Veterans Lunch
Hosted by the Mooresville/ Lake Norman Exchange Club
11-1 BEHIND RICHARD'S COFFEE SHOP
MONDAY, NOV 11 Glenwood Park Memorial Flag Ceremony 11AM MOORESVILLE
MONDAY, NOV 11
Mooresville's Veterans Day Parade 1PM DOWNTOWN MOORESVILLE
THURSDAY, NOV 14 "Be Someone's Hero" Blood Drive
9-1:30 IN FRONT OF RICHARD'S COFFEE SHOP
THURSDAY, NOV 14 Wreaths Across America Mobile Exhibit 8-1 IN FRONT OF RICHARD'S COFFEE SHOP
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While the role of women in our military has expanded in recent years, women throughout history have stepped up to the challenge and served our country with dignity and honor. Together with Katie Stankiewicz, CEO of Willow Equine and the Executive Director of Soul to Sole Connection, we would like to express our everlasting gratitude by spotlighting a few local Veterans. As we introduce you to these courageous servicewomen, we also extend our heart-felt thanks to ALL who have so bravely served our great nation.
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obstacles, both physically and mentally. I learned valuable skills, plumbing being just one. I learned carpentry, masonry, how to operate heavy equipment (and service it). I was able to work in schools and medical clinics in South America, Moldova, the Marshall Islands, and here at home, and the list goes on. It prepared me well for life.
What were your greatest challenges? The greatest challenge I faced was my need to detach from my children because missing them was too distracting in a combat zone. It was easier not
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to feel at all. Then, coming home and trying to repair bonds that I felt I had to break to survive was not so simple as just loving them again. As a mom, I still carry a lot of guilt, and working through that has been a continued challenge.
What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? We love what we do. We are proud of who we are, and we consider it an honor to have served.
What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? Do not let anyone tell you that you won't or cannot do it. You CAN. Stand your ground. The military will find all of the best parts of you and pull them to the surface. Those parts will highlight the strength that has always been inside of you that you never knew existed. W
Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? Both ... I served peacetime on Active Duty United States Navy and wartime on AGR North Carolina Army National Guard.
What inspired you to join the military? biggest inspiration for joining the military was the life experience and college money. Not only did I receive the GI Bill but also the Navy College Fund which allowed me to attend UNC Charlotte's William States Lee College of Engineering where I completed a Bachelor of Science in Mechanical Engineering and Mathematics.
What is the best part of being in the armed services? Before the military, I had not been exposed to mechanics or aviation through education or extracurricular classes. The USN trained and trusted me at 19 to perform maintenance on multimillion-dollar aircraft engines. Within two years, I was able to inspect and lead a crew of junior personnel on the same engines.
What were your greatest challenges? the greatest challenge would have been at my first unit as a naive female. I felt as though my looks
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challenging to find places/ careers where I fit in and feel comfortable. Figuring out how to serve in the civilian world led me to The Exchange Club of Mooresville - Lake Norman. This has helped me with finding a sense of belonging and purpose.
What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? Your support means a lot! That said, I think women deserve more recognition. I personally do not need to be thanked for my service, but there are females out there who have and are sacrificing everything for their country.
What advice would you give to a female who is considering
Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? I joined on a delayed enlistment after my high school graduation in 1991. I served at Al Udeid Air Base, Qatar and Manas Air Base, Kyrgyzstan during Operation Enduring Freedom and Iraqi Freedom. I also went on a humanitarian mission to Cameroon, Africa.
What inspired you to join the military? My father. He was in the Army and guided me towards the Air Force so I could get a college education. Seeing the world and getting an education were motivating factors and I am grateful I got both. Not only did I get to travel the globe, but I earned my Master of Business Administration degree ... my dad would be so proud!
What is the best part of being in the armed services? Being selfless and serving my country! Making connections has been a huge blessing as well. The people I’ve met through the military have become like family.
What were your greatest challenges? Leaving my son when I deployed was very difficult. I was a single mother, and I had to rely on family and friends to watch my baby. Also, transitioning to civilian life after retirement was a big challenge.
What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? The people who sign up have devoted their life to protect, serve, and honor. They genuinely make ultimate sacrifices. The military community is unlike anything I have experienced as a civilian—the camaraderie is hands down the best!
What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? Ask yourself what you really want for your future; pick a job you want to do and prepare yourself for training—mentally and physically! Have resilience, an internal drive, a sense of humor, and you will succeed. W
A TRIBUTE TO VETERANS:
Honoring Their Service and Sacrifice
VETERANS ARE THE CORNERSTONE of freedom and security in countries around the world. Their sacrifices, bravery, and steadfast dedication to their nation serve as an enduring source of inspiration. As we take time to reflect on their contributions, it's crucial that we express our heartfelt gratitude and understand the depth of their commitment. This tribute honors veterans by recognizing their service and offering ways we can support and appreciate them. With two nephews serving in the military, our family is acutely aware of the daily sacrifices made for our safety and freedom.
Veterans have stood at the forefront—defending the values and freedoms that define our daily lives. Offering them our respect, time, and support is a small token of appreciation for all they have done. Their courage and dedication serve as a reminder of the strength of the human spirit, and by honoring them, we strengthen our own communities. Honoring veterans is not limited to a single day— it’s a lifelong commitment to appreciating their service. Whether through small, personal gestures or larger, community-wide efforts, there are countless opportunities to show our gratitude.
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The Importance of Veterans in Our Society
Veterans have devoted their lives to safeguarding the liberties and rights we hold dear. Through their service and sacrifice, they ensure that future generations can live in a world where democracy, justice, and equality flourish.
How to Honor Veterans
Express Gratitude
A simple, heartfelt “thank you for your service” can make a lasting impact on a veteran. Whether you know them personally or encounter them in your community, expressing your appreciation acknowledges their sacrifices in a meaningful way.
Attend Veterans Day Events
Veterans Day, celebrated on November 11 in many countries, is a perfect occasion to publicly honor veterans. Participating in local parades, ceremonies, or memorial services is a powerful way to show collective support and recognize their contributions.
Community Leadership Veterans often return to their communities with a wealth of skills, leadership qualities, and a deep sense of responsibility. Many go on to serve as mentors, public servants, or volunteers— continuing to give back to society by sharing their experiences and expertise.
Educate Yourself and Others
Take time to learn about the history of veterans' contributions to your country. Share this knowledge with younger generations to foster a greater sense of respect and appreciation for those who have served.
Send Letters or Care Packages
Veterans in retirement homes or recovering from injuries often appreciate small gestures of kindness, like receiving letters or care packages. Sending a thoughtful note or gift can remind them that their service is remembered and valued.
Role Models
Veterans embody qualities such as courage, resilience, and a commitment to a cause greater than themselves. These attributes make them exemplary role models for younger generations, teaching invaluable life lessons about perseverance and dedication. W
MARLENE BILLESDON | HELEN ADAMS REALTY
Marlene Billesdon is a local realtor/broker with Helen Adams Realty. Helping buyers and sellers in the Lake Norman
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WHEN IT COMES TO THIS amazingly beautiful, scary but worth-it world, we all have challenges that can bring us to our knees. And when that happens, it’s best to turn that kneeling position into prayer and positive thought—which in turn will lead you back into your power. That’s exactly what Dr. Amanda Bailey, a family physician with Piedmont HealthCare Lake Norman Family Medicine, has been able to do ... over and over again!
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WylieRae, was diagnosed with SHH medulloblastoma (a type of brain cancer) at just 6 months old. Her treatment spanned the course of almost three years, and just like Dr. Bailey’s father, WylieRae was tough and resilient. “Throughout the majority of that time,” she says, “WylieRae was smiling, loving, funny, and such a trooper ... just as my dad was during his progressive illness.”
Dr. Bailey grew up in Princeton, West Virgina, and attended nearby Concord University where she earned her bachelor’s degree in biology. After graduation, she enrolled at West Virginia School of Osteopathic Medicine and completed her family medicine residency in Pennsylvania. She then went into active duty with the Air Force.
“As a child,” she shares, “I was surrounded by the medical field. I actually enjoyed visiting my pediatrician and initially wanted to follow her path. My father had a type of spinal muscular atrophy and was disabled so that meant lots of doctor visits; and my grandmother was a retired nurse. Additionally, my mother worked at our local hospital as a cashier.”
Dr. Bailey’s inherent passion for medicine, healing, and helping others seems to be written in the stars and fortuitous in many ways. Her daughter,
Now a 5-year-old cancer warrior, WylieRae’s treatment was lengthy, painful, and fraught with complications. Dr. Bailey’s husband was able to stay with their daughter at St. Jude in Memphis while she traveled back and forth to North Carolina for work. They endured multiple chemo treatments, surgeries, setbacks, transfusions, every side effect possible, and a frightening relapse in 2021.
“During our time in active treatment,” she recalls, “we found there weren't many resources for her age group. This led us to founding a non-profit organization called WylieRae's Love, Inc. that sends personalized care packages to children and their parents.We also share their story on our website to show others they aren’t alone.”
Dr. Bailey’s father passed away in 2011. Exceptionally close, they spoke every day, and he was the person she always turned to for advice or just a loving, empathetic ear. While his passing was significant on many levels, it was also the impetus for her decision to leave the Air Force. Her mother had been diagnosed with breast cancer, and Dr. Bailey wanted to return home to care for her.
“I have been through a lot of challenges in my life but what matters most is how you walk through the fire. I believe mountains are placed in our way to show others they can be moved ... and I’ve been blessed to witness the moving of a few—resulting in renewed strength and faith to guide me.” W
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WITH THE HOLIDAY SEASON FAST APPROACHING, the search for the perfect gift begins in earnest. Instead of giving the usual socks, gadgets, and gift cards, why not invest in thoughtful, meaningful gifts such as local art or a weekend getaway. You want your gifts to not only surprise but also enrich your loved ones' lives. Here are a few ideas to inspire you this holiday season:
HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS
Rather than opting for a short-lived trinket, consider giving a gift that adds style and utility to someone’s home—such as a statement chair, a modern side table, or even a cozy armchair. Furniture as a gift might seem unconventional, but it's the kind of present that is both practical and long-lasting.
GETTING TECHY
Smart home gadgets have become increasingly sophisticated, and they make excellent gifts for tech-savvy family members and friends. Devices like smart speakers, video doorbells, and smart thermostats don’t just offer convenience, they help simplify daily tasks and enhance security as well.
MEMORIES IN THE MOUNTAINS
Support our local mountain areas as they continue to recover. For the adventure seekers and nature lovers in your life, a weekend getaway in the mountains is perfect. Whether it’s a stay in a cozy cabin or a day of skiing and shopping, experiences like these create lasting memories and help businesses get back on their feet.
GLAM IT UP
For the entertainer in your life, consider giving beautiful glassware. A set of artisanal wine glasses, crystal decanters, or hand-blown cocktail glasses can elevate any gathering. Not only are these gifts functional, but they also add a touch of elegance to someone’s home—and every time they pour a drink, they’ll think of your thoughtful gift.
SUPPORT LOCAL ARTISANS
One-of-a-kind gifts from local artists and craftsmen can offer a unique, personalized touch. When you give a piece of local art, you’re not only offering a beautiful and unique gift but also supporting your community.
A GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING
For a gift that lasts throughout the year, consider a subscription service tailored to the recipient’s interests. Options abound, from monthly deliveries of artisan coffee or wine, to subscriptions for streaming services, or even curated book clubs. These gifts offer ongoing enjoyment, long after the holiday season is over. W
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STEP 1: START HERE!
ANCHOR PIECE
Select your anchor piece – in the living room, this should always be the sofa. Because of the limited color, style, material, and configuration options for sofas, it’s important to ensure you have the perfect piece before considering paint, décor, or even other furniture. Once you have your anchor, the rest of your decisions become much easier!
LEAVE DESIGN PARALYSIS BEHIND...
WITH THESE 5 EASY STEPS!
WHEN I SEE DESIGN PARALYSIS, it’s often because there isn’t a clear vision for the space and the client is overwhelmed by decisions. Fearing a costly mistake, ending up with a design they hate, or one that will look dated after only a few years, they just stay stuck. The good news is, you don’t have to have everything figured out before you begin. Design is often a one-step-at-a-time process, and in just five easy steps, you too can leave design paralysis behind. While these tips apply to any room, we’re focusing on the living area:
right fiber content for the space and your lifestyle is critical for keeping it clean and long-lasting.
STEP 3: ACCENT FURNITURE
With accent furniture, it’s all about scale – the right pieces will add balance, function, and character to your space. And don’t be afraid to have a little fun. I see a lot of spaces that match perfectly but have no personality. Accent furniture is an easy add-on that can be swapped out as your style evolves—think benches, consoles, cabinets, chairs, chests, shelves, and the like.
STEP 4: PAINT
There are endless possibilities when it comes to paint. That’s why I always choose it last. Regardless of the furniture and rug you choose, there will be an amazing paint color to go with it. But it’s the choosing that is the hard part. Color theory is a literal science. The size of the room, location within the house, temperature of the light, and the other colors in the room all impact the appearance of your paint color. As a designer, I often see people with the perfect layout, furniture, rug, and décor. They are so close to the finish line, but they pick the wrong paint color (or don’t change the old one!) and it impacts the entire room.
STEP 5: LIGHTING & DÉCOR
Always use soft warm light to maintain the right “temperature” and mood. Think carefully about purpose and placement to make your space both welcoming and functional. A balance of texture, personality, and surprise brings just the right level of detail to the room. And don’t forget the plants! Studies show that adding organic es and color boost both mood and brain function. W
TIA M C NELLY | INNBO FURNITURE & DESIGN
Tia McNelly is the owner and operator (along with her husband, Joel) of Innbo Furniture & Design in Cornelius. A 20+ year fixture of the community, Innbo has grown to be one of the premier furniture destinations in the Lake Norman region. Connect with Tia and her team at 704.617.2008 or visit www.innbo.com.
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Gratitude is a powerful force. It almost has its own energy field. No wonder the Bible is so full of the blessings of thanksgiving ... it ’ s how we show love for God and our fellow man. With reams of research showing that gratitude can actually improve our moods and overall health (mind, body, and spirit), it ’ s imperative that we purposefully seek it. And once we do, it ripples through our lives like beaming rays of sunshine.
For Jennifer Berube and Leah Fleming with Physician ’ s Plan Weight Loss & Med Spa in Huntersville, the many layers of gratitude they embody are an integral part of their passion and success.
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gratitude will give you more patience, understanding, compassion, and kindness,” Jennifer smiles. “It’s allencompassing,” Leah adds,” and that is crucial in our line of work.” While the medical world may dictate such characteristics, these traits come naturally to both women.
Jennifer grew up in the foothills of Western North Carolina and received her education from Cabarrus College of Health Sciences, Winston Salem State University, and South University. With nearly 30 years of medical experience (including nursing), she began her work in weight loss and aesthetic injecting in 2006. She has extensive training in a variety of techniques including advanced neuromodulators and dermal fillers, laser treatments, chemical peels, sclerotherapy, and other medical procedures.
“It took me quite some time to be able to pursue my master’s degree and become a nurse practitioner,” she shares. “I originally became a nurse because I’m an empathetic person and had a desire to help people.
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I ended up in the field of aesthetics and weight loss kind of by accident but found it extremely fulfilling to be able to assist patients in looking and feeling their best. There is so much I enjoy about my work—our team is outstanding, and the culture of our workplace and the care that goes into what we do is exceptional. It’s so rewarding to celebrate even the small victories with my patients and see the excitement in their eyes as they get closer to their health goals.”
Jennifer has three grown children: one daughter and two stepsons. She and her husband have an immense love for fur-babies and have rescued many through the years. “He tells me I can’t save them all,” she grins, “but he does know I would if I could ... and so would he!”
Also a North Carolina native, Leah grew up in Sherrills Ford and attended Appalachian State University for her undergraduate degree. Originally wanting to be a health psychologist counseling
patients on creating a healthy lifestyle, she expanded her focus to incorporate holistic medicine.
“That’s when I started contemplating medical school,” Leah recalls. “I knew I wanted to help people, but I didn’t quite know what that role would look like. I eventually decided on the PA route (Physician Associate) and was fortunate enough to attend the Wake Forest School of Medicine where I graduated with a Master of Medical Science Degree. Within a few months of graduating, I started working at Physician’s Plan—focusing mainly on our weight loss patients and slowly integrating aesthetics into my practice.”
Leah has three children: Emerson, 5; Saylor, 4; and Cruz who is 10 months. Most inspired by her mother, who passed away last year from an aggressive form of endometrial cancer, Leah and her mom were best friends. She was an accomplished educator having taught at all levels—from elementary students to college. With multiple postgraduate degrees, she loved learning.
“She had an extensive pedigree of professional and educational accomplishments,” Leah explains. “Yet she made it known that her biggest achievement was raising her children. She taught me the importance of a healthy work/life balance and always encouraged me to follow my heart. As a follower of Christ, she taught us to treat all people the same and to wake up thankful every day for what you have.”
Both Jennifer and Leah are remarkable examples of how to live life with gratitude and kindness. They have discovered, as they hope you will too, that what you focus on grows, so grow the gratitude! The notion that there is always something to be grateful for sparks the poignant and applicable proverb: “I cried because I had no shoes ... until I met a man who had no feet.” W
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WHEN THE SECOND STRIP on the test turned pink, Tia McNelly had never felt so alone. Only 21 years old, single, and just one semester shy of graduating with her interior design degree, the entire future she had planned vanished. Leaning into her faith, Tia poured herself into building the best life for her beautiful daughter and began asking, “How can I use my story to help others?”
Soon after, Tia helped launch Flourish Kenya, a non-profit dedicated to protecting children and young women from cycles of sexual harm, including unplanned pregnancy. While the dream has long been to open a Safe House, funds have always been tight. “But once you meet these young women and children,” Tia explains, “you can’t help but dream big for them.”
After years in her role with Flourish Kenya, and as her husband Joel, a Charlotte Mecklenburg Police Department Captain, approached retirement, they wondered: “Is there a better way to help fuel Flourish Kenya and maybe even make that dream of a Safe House a reality?”
The answer to this question came in the most unexpected way as, after studying under the prior owner for a year, Tia and Joel became owners of Innbo Furniture & Design in Cornelius. While their initial goal was simply to turn part of the business profit into financial support for causes closest to their hearts, they quickly found an additional mission.
“When people are buying furniture it’s often during a major season of life change. That’s a vulnerable space to meet people
in, but another huge honor we consider ourselves to be a part of,” Tia shares.
It’s not uncommon for Tia to hear about stressful moves, medical crises, or the painful process of navigating the death of a spouse from her clients. “At the end of the day, I may not sell a couch or a table, but if someone finds us to be a safe space and leaves feeling heard and encouraged, that’s a genuine win for Innbo.”
Tia’s interior design background would suddenly prove to be very helpful as she navigated endlessly customizable furniture designs with clients. And the design help doesn’t stop at the showroom door. Tia now also specializes in in-home design consultations throughout the greater Charlotte area.
“In the most terrifying season of my life,” Tia shares, “I had to completely give up on my dream of becoming an interior designer. To be able to reawaken that passion over twenty years later and use it to help others create their own safe spaces is a beautiful redemptive thread I never expected to see in my life. And for that work to now bring us closer to the dream of a Safe House for women and children in Kenya ... I just can’t imagine a better full-circle story.” W
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ANN CAMPANELLA, a Cornelius resident, received the 2024 Silver Medal for her memoir, the non-fiction health/medical category in the Readers’ Favorite International Book Awards. Ann’s book tells the story of her daughter’s celiac diagnosis and the challenges her family faced as they transitioned to a gluten-free lifestyle. Celiac Mom is available at Main Street Books in Davidson and on Amazon.
Willow Equine would like to welcome their newest therapist, LINDSEY GAGE who will be facilitating wellness and relationship focused groups with horses. The groups will be focused on psychoeducation, skill building, and reflection to support clients in their goals. All groundbased; no riding. Located in Mooresville, Willow Equine provides mindfulness-based counseling, leadership development, and wellness services—helping clients rediscover their own personal power, authenticity, and confidence.
CHRIS STEINER, owner of Life’s Food (the local Five Guys franchise), and her husband Jeff are heading to Uganda this month—their third trip with Lasting Smiles Uganda, a non-profit primary school that supports education and the health and wellness of children in Kyajja. Each year, Life’s Food donates a portion of their profits to support education, health, child protection, agriculture, and discipleship initiatives in one of the poorest regions of Uganda.
ALLIE GULLATTA, Education Director at Temple Kol Tikvah of Lake Norman, is a fundraiser currently serving as Charlotte Light The Night’s 2024 Emerging Leader Chair with The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society (LLS). With the organization commemorating 75 years, Allie is inviting the public to celebrate this significant milestone by becoming a sponsor of this important event. Connect with Allie at 704.221.4245 or agullatta3@gmail.com to see how you can help.
A childhood nicknameinspired pen name, released her creative You Can which takes readers through life’s adventures from a dog’s perspective. She seeks to inspire and connect with her readers while giving them a warm, fuzzy feeling that only a dog can provide. Available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble websites, local boutiques, or
Greater Charlotte area are nominated and selected as Healthcare Heroes by the Charlotte AND ALLISON “BUBBA” SIMMONS were honored as 2024 Healthcare Heroes. Amy is a Certified Diabetes Educator and corporate wellness nurse, and Allison “Bubba” Simmons has served as the Director of Pastoral Care for Iredell Health System since June 2018.
Celebrating 18 YEARS & LKNW'S next page
Last month, Lake Norman Woman Magazine & WSIC Radio hosted a party at Peninsula Prime to celebrate the magazine’s 18th Anniversary and our next chapter under the ownership of Justin Ckezepis.
YOUR HOME DESIGN AUTOMATING
I OFTEN EXPLORE THE DIVERSE roles within the design industry, including architects, interior designers, decorators, and stagers. Each of us has our own niche and contributes uniquely to the home design process. Architects and interior designers undergo extensive continuing education. My team has dedicated years to mastering design principles, materials, color theory, building codes, and various aspects of interior architecture, including plumbing, tile, millwork, and layered lighting.
When embarking on a project, collaboration with clients and architects is essential to specify the materials that align with the client's vision and budget.
Once we grasp the scope of the architectural plan, the quality of materials and furnishings required, we integrate electrical systems that enhance the architecture, color scheme, and overall design. Staying informed about current trends and options allows us to connect with the right experts when needed. Introducing a Samsung Frame TV can seamlessly blend into a home’s décor by transforming into art when powered off. However, the realm of smart home technology is vast and varied. To gain insights into emerging trends, I spoke with Zach Simpson of SoundVision. Here are his thoughts:
What are the most requested items in home automation?
• Automated Shading
• WiFi
• Media Room Design
• Lighting Control
• Lighting Design
What Has Changed Recently?
The most significant shift in home automation has been in Lighting Control and Design. Clients now have a deeper understanding of decorative lighting, moving beyond traditional setups with just a few recessed lights. We collaborate with architects and designers to elevate the design by incorporating strategic, layered, and integrated lighting into custom home projects. Considering factors like window placement and sun, finishes, and floorplans— we enhance these design features with innovative lighting solutions. Clients are particularly enjoying:
How Are You Helping Clients Discover These Options?
Clients love touring our Experience Center, where they can see all the systems we offer in a realistic home setting.
• Circadian Lighting (HumanCentric Lighting), which adjusts color temperature based on the time of day.
• Advanced Lighting Techniques, including linear lighting, layered lighting, and beam lighting.
• Full RGB Spectrum Lighting, ensuring that the colors of fabrics, art, and finishes appear true and vibrant without distortion from inadequate lighting.
What Else Intrigues You These Days?
Bang & Olufsen speakers, the world’s oldest speaker manufacturer, now has products that combine aesthetic beauty with unmatched performance, offering unique metallic and wooden finishes.
What is an Unexpected Fun Fact?
SoundVision can manage and service all our systems remotely, reducing our in-home service visits by over 65% in recent years. Did you read that? No waiting around for a technician! My job here is done. W
Founder and Principal, StarrMiller Interior Design
Allied ASID, IDS, CAPS
Our resident home-design expert, Starr Miller, has garnered local and national acclaim with more than 30 industry honors. An alumnus of the prestigious Parsons School of Design in New York, Starr has built a strong following as the principal of her sought-after design firm, located in Cornelius, NC.
She feels the composition of a space must originate with the client’s unique perspective. Along with that perspective she brings together her team’s collaboration, design skills and refined processes in a way which results in truly captivating homes for her clients.
StarrMiller Interior Design specializes in full-service interior design projects.
features WOMAN TO WATCH
LKNw RECOGNIZES A WOMAN DOING EXCEPTIONAL WORK IN THE LAKE NORMAN COMMUNITY, A LEADER WHO IS PAVING THE WAY TO CHANGING OUR ATTITUDES AND INSPIRING CONFIDENCE IN THE FUTURE.
on LOVIN’ LAKE LIFE: My family moved to Lake Norman in 1984 when lake living was just starting to catch on. The area was so rural still, yet the sense of community and dense family ties made living in Denver such a unique place. Everyone knew everyone. Lake Norman is a part of who I am today. I grew up living on a beautiful peninsula where our summers were filled with swim parties, cookouts, and weekends with friends on the boat—being whipped around on tubes and water skis. During high school, I worked at The Boat Rack Dry Storage and Marina running the supply store, pumping gas, and managing boat rentals. I’m certain I had the best job on the lake!
PREMIER PERMITS OF THE CAROLINAS & SLIPSKI
Erica
M C INTOSH
Erica McIntosh is the owner of Premier Permits of the Carolinas. Call her with any questions you may have at 704.917.9911, email info@premierpermitscarolinas.com, or visit www.premierpermitscarolinas.com.
on POST-COLLEGE YEARS: I began my career in hospitality working as a chef at The Inn on Biltmore Estate, eventually becoming Catering Director for Western Carolina University. Several years later, I had my daughter, Hayden, who is now 13. I enjoyed living in the mountains, but Denver was calling me home. We relocated back to the lake area where I had my son, Tavin, who is 9. I loved being a stay-at-home mom but as the kids got older, I was ready for my next step in life.
on ENTREPRENEURIAL DRIVE: Owning my own business has always been a dream of mine. A family friend, who is also a dock builder, mentioned that a lot of contractors needed assistance with the permitting process. This felt like the perfect fit for me, so I decided to start Premier Permits of the Carolinas. I now work with many area contractors, both marine and residential, acquiring permits for construction projects. My goal for Premier Permits is to provide a seamless experience for homeowners and contractors alike, as the process can be quite challenging. I work cohesively with all parties to customize any permit package and to ensure state, county, and Duke Energy Lake Services criteria are being met. In addition to Premier Permits, I recently launched a second enterprise as a distributor for SlipSki, which are custom boat and dock cover systems. I am so excited to be able to combine my permitting services with SlipSki!
on POSITIVE FREQUENCIES: Starting over in life isn’t always easy. My family lost my father in a car accident when I was just 17. Needless to say, it shook our world to the core. But it also led us to grow closer as a family. It taught me that life’s successes are not defined by money or status but rather how you live while you’re here. The loss also taught me resilience and gave me the confidence that I can rise above anything. Being able to separate what’s really important has allowed me to rediscover what makes me truly happy. I make it a priority to keep a positive and grateful approach to life and just try to enjoy each day I am given. Be you ... be happy! W
Hanger Hang-Ups
I DIDN’T REALIZE HOW big of a controversial conversation this was in households until I got into the closet/organizing industry. Most women don’t even realize that their husbands feel as strongly as they do about something as simple as the hangers until it moves to the front of the closet, so to speak! In fact, I bet if I polled a dozen couples, the women would say they absolutely love velvet or felt hangers without even being given options. And at least 10 of the husbands (if not all 12!) would say how much they dislike them. It may seem insignificant, but it actually makes a big impact when you’re updating a closet space— aesthetically and organizationally. Here are a few things to consider:
Hangers can be as big a deal as the custom closets
themselves. When you start looking at hardware options for drawers, the hanging rods for your clothes, and other closet accessories, people begin to notice that all their hangers are plastic, wire, or mix-matched— making a beautiful custom closet look cluttered and disorganized ... the very thing you are trying to remedy with your new space.
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Women tend to love the most popular hangers today which are the non-slip, sleek, and space-saving felt or velvet hangers. They come in multiple color options (at least 5-6 colors), 360-degree swivel hook with contoured shoulders, and soft cut notches. With these hangers, there’s no need to worry about clothes falling off or those bothersome bulges on the shoulders after your clothes have been hanging too long.
Men, on the other hand, overwhelmingly dislike the aforementioned type of hanger because they like to slide effortlessly into their shirts or pants ... grab and go! Most say they are not thrilled with the feminine appearance either.
For men, I like to offer a nice compromise with sleek, black, wooden hangers featuring the 360-degree swivel hook. This also provides the shoulder grooves to avoid the bulges or bumps that men’s dress shirts are so susceptible to—plus, this type of hanger is heavy-duty, space-saving, and has easy access so shirts slide right off without stretching the collars.
ANNIE HANSON | THE CLOSET NICHE
Annie Hanson is the CEO/Founder of The Closet Niche located at 197 Byers Creek Road, Suite H, in Mooresville. You can connect with Annie and her entire team at www.theclosetniche.com or give her a call at 704.635.1150.
Bottomline is there are hangers on the market that will appease both sides of the closet. Like the couple who is sharing the space, they pair well! Together, they provide elegance, luxury, functionality, and organization to your closet projects. W
that's what said HE spoiler alert:
MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. Ok, so maybe that fact didn’t really surprise you. After all, it’s been 28 years since John Gray popularized the idea that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. And as much as we love sharing women’s stories, we decided it was time to lend the Martians of LKN our ear, too. This month we share the perspectives of Dan Amerman, Dean of School at Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy.
ALL PATHS LEAD TO NEW BEGINNINGS
In 2010, our friends Doug and Amie Weir let us know they planned to open a new K-12 school in North Carolina, and they were looking for someone with a background in education to help them develop and start the school. They asked me and my wife, Amber, if we had ever given thought to living in North Carolina. It was one of those conversations that you don’t forget, and in the end, we decided to move to Cornelius. I accepted the position of Dean of Students, and we have loved every minute of our decision. Lake Norman is an amazing place to call home!
IF HE COULD TURN BACK
TIME…
SAVORING SWEET MEMORIES
I grew up in Dexter, Michigan, a small town outside of Ann Arbor. It’s a place that had just a handful of traffic lights and a local hometown bakery that we visited on special Saturday mornings. The main restaurant was a drive-up-only A&W hotdog stand. There is still a special place in my heart for a frosty mug of root beer.
LESS WALLS, MORE FREEDOM
I believe it is important to think less about what one wants to do and more about how one wants to live—and for me, I didn’t want to live behind a desk, doing things that I wasn’t very excited about. As an undergrad at Michigan Tech, I was hired as the student coordinator for the school’s orientation program and absolutely fell in love with it! I enjoyed working with all the students as well as working in the world of leadership and programming. It set the stage well for me.
I would tell myself it’s OK to be introverted. It’s a strength as long as you don’t use it as an excuse. I would tell myself not to worry about some of the really big “challenges” in high school and college that seemed world-shattering at the time but were really nothing in the grand scheme of life—that they were invaluable lessons instead. I would tell myself to go the extra mile in everything and to always give more than is expected. And I would remind myself about the authority that comes as a believer in Jesus and to use that authority in my everyday life.
SOME SACRED WORDS
I once read that it is best not to judge success by how high you’ve climbed but rather by the width of the valley you have just crossed. That really resonated with me because it acknowledges that we’re all going to have hard times, but we can do hard things. In the end, the only real failure would be to quit ... or even worse, quit trying all together. One thing I know for certain: Trust in the Lord, and He will provide. W
Dan Amerman is Dean of School at Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy located at 229 Midway Lake Road in Mooresville. You can contact Dan at 704.660.3933, deanofstudents@libertyprepnc.com, or via www.libertyprepnc.com.
DAN AMERMAN, LIBERTY PREPARATORY CHRISTIAN ACADEMY
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How to Stay on Track When Parallel Parenting
HEALTHY AND BALANCED CO-PARENTING
can be a challenging journey for separated and divorced parents. Studies have shown that ongoing conflict causes more psychological harm to children than the divorce itself, so it’s important to find ways to minimize conflict while co-parenting.
While the overall goal is to have a healthy coparenting relationship, if it seems impossible or is high-conflict, a co-parenting style called parallel parenting might be an appropriate solution.
Parallel parenting is an approach that is often explained with the example of a train track. Each parent is a rail and the children cross over the tracks. When the kids are with one parent, they follow that parent’s track. When they’re with the other parent, they follow the other parent’s track. The two tracks rarely, if ever, cross. This co-parenting style allows parents to reduce communication between one another and also accepts the limitations of the other parent. Here are my top four tips to staying on track when parallel parenting:
Communicate Without Emotion
Conflict often comes from communication. As a way to reduce conflict, it’s important for parents to keep their communication unemotional, brief, and business-like. I coach my clients to use the BIFF (brief, informative, firm, and friendly) Communication method created by Bill Eddy.
Engage a Child & Family Therapist
Utilize a Parenting App
To assist with communication, I highly recommend co-parents utilize a parenting app to minimize direct contact with the other spouse, such as MyFamilyWizard. However, there are plenty of platforms to choose from with various features and solutions such as organizing calendars, sending messages, and managing expenses.
Plan for Lack of Flexibility
When a conversation or topic is too sensitive or emotional to communicate electronically through an app or email, turn to a professional for help. A child or family therapist can assist by guiding conversations that need more interaction.
It is common in parallel parenting that each parent’s track may not allow much flexibility or grace. Keep this in mind when creating your custody schedule. Plan ahead and prioritize important dates, events, and vacations. W
ROBIN M. MERMANS | ESQ. OF ROAD TO RESOLUTION
Robin M. Mermans is a collaborative attorney, certified mediator, and coparenting coach and owns ROAD to RESOLUTION: Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Family Law in Charlotte. You can connect with Robin and her team at 980.260.1600 or visit www.roadtoresolution.com.
WORDS matter
Cut these out & use for inspiration wherever you need it!
Words are magic. They actually hange our brain hemistry! As wordsmiths here at LKNW, we are especially fond of words that will resonate with our readers, in hopes they will help guide & inspire you.
“When I needed cancer care,
I CHOSE IREDELL HEALTH”
When Laurence was diagnosed with prostate cancer and needed radiation therapy, he chose the experienced providers at his local, independent health system.
“It’s incredible to think you’re being cured of cancer by this machine that is available in Statesville. I was impressed.”
This is your health — choose the best.
70years of healing
We know how busy life can get—kids, work, family, friends … sometimes just getting dinner on the table is a Herculean feat! So in an effort to save our readers some time, effort, and money here are a few tips, tricks, and hacks that might come in handy in your busy world!
CARAMEL APPLE MULE
Vodka (1.5 oz)
Apple Cider (3 oz)
Ginger Beer (3 oz)
Caramel Sauce (1 tbsp)
Lime Juice (0.5 oz)
Ice (as needed)
Apple Slice (for garnish)
*In a glass, combine vodka, apple cider, lime juice, and caramel sauce.
Stir well and fill with ice.
Top with ginger beer and garnish with an apple slice.
MOIST MAKER
Put a mixture of apple cider and chicken broth in the bottom of your roasting pan. It not only adds an extra layer of flavor, but it also creates a steam that keeps the turkey moist. The drippings make a delicious gravy, too!
TIPS, TRICKS, & HACKS
GLAM UP YOUR TATERS
For a real crowd pleaser, simply make instant mashed potatoes according to directions and then add Boursin cheese (as much or as little as you like). It turns plain ol’ instant potatoes into a gourmet dish. Plus, it’s easy and cost effective for a busy Thanksgiving Day!
EDITIONTurkey Day
CINNAMON CIDER BRUSSELS SPROUTS
TURKEY REVIVAL
Overcooked the bird, did ya?
No worries, just drizzle it with a little warm chicken broth. It will help moisten the meat and add flavor. This is also a good trick for perking up leftovers.
1 tablespoon EVOO
2 cups Brussels sprouts
1 Honeycrisp apple, diced
1 large pear, diced
½ cup spiced apple cider
1 teaspoon cinnamon or pumpkin pie spice
Heat oil to medium temp and cook Brussels sprouts (cut side down), flipping once until browned (about ten to twelve minutes). Add apple and pear; cook until soft (about five minutes). Add cider and cinnamon; simmer while stirring until all liquid cooks off.
MIND body spirit
By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.
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HOW OUR FRIENDSHIPS HELP US MANAGE STRESS, ENJOY LIFE MORE, AND EVEN LIVE LONGER!
HOW POWERFUL IS FRIENDSHIP?
An online article from The New York Times entitled “How to be a Better Friend” points to researchers at the University of Virginia who wanted to find out whether friendship influences how we approach the challenges of daily life. “In an unusual experiment,” the article states, “researchers stood at the base of a steep hill (a 26-degree incline) on the university campus and asked 34 students as they walked by to help them in an experiment. Some students were by themselves; others were walking in pairs. Each student was given a backpack filled with weights equal to about 20 percent of their body weight.
While the students may have had the impression they were going to have to climb the hill, the researchers simply asked them to estimate how steep the climb would be … students standing alone perceived the hill slant as steeper and thought it would be harder to climb while carrying the weighted pack. But students who were standing next to a friend thought the hill looked easier to climb and gave lower estimates of its steepness.
Interestingly, the longer the two friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared.”
Similarly, there have been other studies that support the notion that friendship helps us cope with stress. When female college students were asked to complete challenging math tasks, their heart rates went up. But when they were asked to complete the math problems with a friend in the room, their heart rates were lower.
Research suggests that friends can change our view of challenging situations and lower our stress levels. Having that kind of support essentially helps us share the burdens of life—which in and of itself provides health benefits for mind, body, and soul.
HERE ARE A FEW OTHER FRIENDSHIP FACTS:
One study of nearly 3,000 nurses with breast cancer patients found that women without close friends were four times as likely to die from the disease as women with 10 or more friends.
Friends can run errands, cook meals, babysit, and provide an array of helpful services that do in fact, literally, lighten the load!
People with strong friendships are less likely than others to get sick, perhaps because they have lower stress levels.
Researchers have found that certain health behaviors appear to be contagious and that our social networks — in person and online — can influence obesity, anxiety, and overall health and happiness.
Mike Griffin, CEO Mooresville
Kortney Houston Statesville
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Paul Renegar Statesville
Tonya Shook Hickory
Logan Canipe Lincolnton
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Leyda Martinez Denver
Shana Vielie Statesville
Lauren Yount Maiden
Melissa Armstrong Mooresville
Dennis Long Statesville
Barbi Dellinger Lincolnton
Rich Schrader Mount Holly
This month, we reflect on the power of gratitude — whether it's the honor of helping you find your dream home or paying tribute to those who've served our country. If you are thinking of buying or selling a home, I'd love to help you navigate the process. Contact me to learn more about how I can help you achieve your real estate goals!
