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T H E R E ’ S A S I G N I F I C A N T DAY
approaching, and no, I am not talking about Super Bowl Sunday. I’m not referring to Groundhog Day, either. It’s that holiday that our guys love so much … you know, the one that they’d rather impale themselves on a rusty stake than celebrate. Let’s face it: Guys and gals are just wired differently. The different way that we listen is a perfect example. Studies have found that men listen with only one side of their brain, whereas women use both. As duelsided brain listeners, we are much more likely to remember things than our other halves (I may not remember where I put my car keys, but I certainly remember that irritating thing he said eight months, two days, and 11 hours ago). Likewise, men use single sections of their brain to accomplish tasks, while, when women problem solve, they access many sections of their brains. This explains why men, when they pack for a three-day trip, take three pair of pants, three shirts, and three pair of underwear. Women think about the what ifs, could happens, and every possible scenario in between. That’s why our suitcases generally include 22 pairs of shoes and a parka, even in July. But today, the predominant thought seems to be that men and women should be perceived, and treated, by society and by one another as if they are exactly the same. In my own humble opinion, that’s a recipe for disaster; not only that, it puts men in a situation in which they just can’t win. After all, in this mindset, men are expected to be strong willed and decisive, as long as they’re flexible and open minded. They are expected to treat women as if they are men, as long as they also treat us like ladies. They are supposed to be career oriented and ambitious, as long as they don’t spend too much time at the office. See what I mean? It’s really difficult to be a man today. If I’m being honest, I’m rather glad that men are different from women. Does it drive me insane that they’ll sleep right through a
baby’s ear-piercing wails and they think it’s perfectly ok to drink straight from the milk carton? Well … yes. But, for every manhabit I find annoying, there’s 10 more things about men that I adore. I love the way men smell, especially when they’re sweaty and musky. I love how men think: logically and without overcomplicating things. I love the way they talk—how their voices are low and husky and strong. I love the way they never grow up completely and maintain an appreciation for toilet humor and comic books. I love the way they still see the beauty in women, just as we are, without the Latisse and the Botox and the liposuction we think we so desperately need. I love the way they watch football, as if their entire lives depend on the score. I love the way a man puts his hand on the small of our backs in equal parts tenderness and protectiveness that seems to say, “I’m here for you; you’re safe with me.” In particular, I love and adore my delightfully-different-from-me husband. He is wonderful in so many ways, and not just when he puts the seat down or puts his clothes in the laundry basket or agrees with my opinions. I don’t want to be the same as he ... In fact, I much prefer to work with him in pursuit of our common goals, but with an appreciation for the unique qualities we each bring to the table. So, this Valentine’s Day, I’m going to put on a John Wayne movie, pop open a cold beer for him, give him full reign over the remote control, and celebrate my man!
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SPECIAL FEATURE: Lake Norman's Fabulous Husbands
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COVER STORY: Faith, Family, And Friends
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THE KITCHEN: THE HEART OF YOUR HOME
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she said what?! EILEEN STONER “Chuck planned a wonderful outing to Chagrin Falls in Ohio. The day included a stop at the Popcorn Shop—a historic signature stop—where he ‘popped’ the question! I responded with a resounding, ‘Yes!’”
DANA NIETERS “Gerard and I had a game to see who could hide his troll doll better. I even mailed it to him once. When I opened it in a Christmas gift, I just tossed it behind me. Little did I know he had a big ol’ diamond down his britches!”
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ANNI SIMCOX “When I came in from buying lottery scratchers, Johnny was holding a sunflower, my favorite flower, music playing in the background. Dropping to one knee, he said he couldn’t wait any longer for me to be his wife.”
AMY HALLMAN “Going to dinner on a random weeknight, we locked the front door, and Lee sat on the porch bench like he was looking for something. Then, he got down on one knee. We still have that ‘marriage bench.’”
MICHELE EDWARDS “On February 14, 1997, I was a Charlotte Hornets HoneyBee, and we were dancing on court with Hugo. Hugo turned me around, and Jaren was down on bended knee—in front of 23,000 Hornets fans!”
DR. NICOLE WHITEHEAD “Scott and I’d been dating long distance for six years. A friend convinced me to ‘meet her for dinner’ before I picked him up at the airport. Instead, he was waiting at the table with wine—and a ring!”
LESLIE OGLE “My dear, sweet husband, whom I lost last April, proposed at a cabin in Gatlinburg. We were in the hot tub, and when I returned from retrieving a bottle of wine, he had the ring waiting for me!”
MICHELE SCHUERMANN “Brian surprised me, visiting one night while I was away at college. At the door, he got down on one knee. After popping the question, we popped open a bottle of bubbly and called everyone we knew.”
CHELSEA BREN “An unusually nervous Shamus had set up dinner plans for us one random Friday night. I immediately knew something was up! He got down on one knee in our dining room before our celebratory night out.”
STEPHANIE SULLIVAN “I was getting ready for trick or treat when Ryan got down on one knee. I was completely shocked. He’d asked my parents for my hand, and said I was the only woman he ever loved and best friend.”
KATHY MCLEOD “It was a lucky Friday the 13th for me—in November 1987! A dozen roses were delivered before Ken arrived for a visit. When he arrived, he pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him.”
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To Take To Heart By: Cynthia Sherrill
Everyone’s tax situation is different, and there are many things that can influence an individual- or business-tax situation. Planning for 2016 was made difficult by our political environment and certain economic uncertainty. The following are just a few items to keep in mind as you file your 2016 return and as you start planning for your 2017 year:
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Make sure you have the final version of your broker statement prior to filing your return. Many are not final until February or early March.
2 Sales Tax North Carolina sales tax rules have undergone major changes that affect small businesses and self-employed individuals. Check out your responsibility for charging sales tax on any services you provide or items that you sell.
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If over $250, you must have an acknowledgement prior to filing your tax return. Courts have disallowed charitable contributions in which the taxpayer had not obtained the acknowledgement timely or the acknowledgement did not contain the proper statement as to benefits derived. The deductions were disallowed even when the taxpayer obtained the correct statement during audit.
Congress made the ability to make charitable contributions from an IRA permanent. If you are over 70 1/2 and must take a required minimum distribution (RMD), consider making your charitable contributions directly from your account. This can satisfy your RMD requirement and keep what would have been income from the RMD off your return, thereby reducing your adjusted gross income (AGI), which affects many items on your return.
7 Appreciated Stock
There is a 0 percent capital gains rate for individuals with taxable income in the 10 and 15 percent tax bracket. This could include your parents or your children that are not subject to the kiddie tax. Gifting stock with high appreciation to be sold by them instead of you can save as much as 23.8 percent on your return (There is still some North Carolina state income tax that could be due related to these sales.).
6 Business The IRS reduced the mileage rate for 2017 to 53.5 cents per mile from 54 cents in 2016. A recent law passed that will now allow smallbusiness employers (as defined) to reimburse their employees for their health insurance premiums under certain circumstances and within certain dollar limits. There are many other business tax-planning ideas, which we can help you use all of the provisions that could apply to you.
If you are going to make large contributions, consider giving highly appreciated stock that you have held more than one year, as this will allow you a deduction for the fair market value of the stock, and you will not have to include any income for the increase in the value on your return.
Cynthia Sherrill is a CPA and the managing partner at Sherrill, Blake, & Harrison CPA, PA, where their philosophy is to assist clients in all stages of their lives to give them the most success possible. Her concentration is in difficult tax situations of small businesses, estates, and trusts. Cindy also has her Series 7 and 66 securities licenses. For more information, visit www.sbh-cpa.com, or call 704.966.1849.
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If Alex Trebek read to his contestants the names Bill Hewlett and David Packard, William Proctor and James Gamble, and Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield, they might hit their buzzers and shout out, “What is a successful partnership?” And though they would be correct, there is a dynamic duo right here in Lake Norman that would be a perfect addition to that list: Kim McBee and Gus Testa.
a (work work) match made in heaven
A F T E R A L L , Kim and Gus are quite the pair: they know each other’s birthday (well, that’s easy … they share the same one!), each other’s favorite foods, their worst fears, and their dreams and ambitions. A husband and wife, you might guess. But no, they did not promise to love and cherish one another until death do they part: like the famous pairs named above, they’re business partners.
Kim and Gus are happily married to other people, but they have a relationship—a work relationship—that many of us dream about. They have been business partners since 2004, when they were both residential sales associates at The Farms in Mooresville, a development of Crescent Resources. Though pure instinct inspired them to join forces, it was an intuition that proved correct: In each of their 10 years with Crescent, they sold between $15 to $50 million in volume in
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the Greater Charlotte region. In 2012, Kim and Gus decided to build on their success and formed On Point Carolinas Realty, LLC.
Now, 12 years later, Kim and Gus’ partnership is as strong as ever. But what is it about successful business partnerships that makes them different from those that crash and burn? After all, the “divorce” rate for all business partnerships is well over 50 percent. According to Kim and Gus, the answer is simple: It’s trust. Like a marriage, a longterm business relationship is doomed without complete confidence between the partners. “I have complete trust in Gus,” Kim says. “He is someone that I can totally count on for work-related issues as well as a confidant with personal situations.” Gus’ response? “Ditto.” Trust can be especially important in a relationship in which the partners are quite different in terms of personality
traits. Whereas Gus is laid back, Kim is what he refers to—with a smile—as “quite the taskmaster.” Gus calms Kim down during any crisis, while Kim motivates Gus to reach for the stars. Kim and Gus, however, view their diverse talents as complementary skill sets that allow them to respect each other’s unique strengths and make their business stronger. “For example,” Gus quips, “I don’t need to hone my IT skills—Kim is my go-to when it comes to phones and computer issues!” Perhaps it’s this ability to transform their differences into positives, or perhaps it’s their unwavering determination, reliability, and patience—traits they share as Capricorns and that are so evident in both of them— but whatever the reason, the partnership is flourishing. “We work seamlessly together,” Kim explains. “After working together for so long, we know each other very well. We pick up on each other’s moods, finish each other’s sentences, and read each other’s minds!”
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ASK THE EXPERT: Q: What
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BY DR. JOHN HETTIARACHCHI
laser technology that restores vaginal tissue back to premenopausal appearance and quality. The therapy is a new fractional CO2 laser treatment that is performed in an office setting. It is the only vaginal laser technology that has been scientifically studied in the U.S. with proven success at revitalizing vaginal and vulvar skin, thus treating the common symptoms of pain with intercourse, vaginal burning, painful urinating, recurrent bladder infections, and incontinence. The laser technology helps restore the thick and healthier vaginal layers, folds, secretions, and pH.
A: The good news is that
there is an alternative to intravaginal estrogen.
The Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GMS) is the new terminology used to describe symptoms occurring due to vulvovaginal atrophy caused by low estrogen due to natural or surgical menopause. This syndrome may also occur after removal of the ovaries or chemotherapy treatments for breast cancer. The vaginal canal may become shorter and narrower. The lack of the natural secretions, thinner vaginal lining, folds, and elasticity lead to painful intercourse as well as symptoms of vaginal dryness, itching, burning, or insensitivity with intercourse. The thin vaginal skin tears easier due to the lack of lubrication. Patients may avoid any physical contact for months or years. Women with these symptoms complain of decreased sexual encounters, sexuality, negative impact on marriage or relationships, and self-esteem. Physicians usually prescribe topical estrogen creams which may only be mildly effective. Many physicians are unaware that there are simple, long-lasting, non-surgical options that don’t require chronic medications. As an expert in treating women with these issues, I have prescribed estrogen-based vaginal creams or pills to help overcome the associated symptoms of GMS. The concerns of such therapy include potential side effects, the mess of creams, and the cost of on-going medication needs. Our Cornelius office, The Pelvic Center, is the first and only practice in Charlotte offering The MonaLisa Touch
The MonaLisa Touch is a five-minute, in-office procedure with three treatment sessions. An annual “touch up” is recommended to maintain the youthful vaginal revitalization. The Pelvic Center has treated women with early symptoms and those who have suffered in silence for years. Unfortunately, some of these difficult cases require extra treatments and other pelvic floor therapies. Also, we have been fortunate to treat many women who have survived breast cancer and are on Tamoxifen (anti-Estrogen chemotherapy). These women have been treated with the MonaLisa or THERMiva with significant improvement in restoring intimacy. My greatest reward is providing care to these breast cancer survivors because they’ve never had any options for therapy until now. Other changes seen with GMS are that the vaginal pH becomes imbalanced, changing from an acidic to a more alkaline environment. The normal good vaginal lactobacilli bacteria start to disappear, and the “bad” bacteria begin to dominate, leading to recurrent bladder infections. A cycle of over-prescribed antibiotics may begin. In addition, the lack of estrogen creates physical changes in the pelvis, and this may affect the patient emotionally. An alternate option of the THERMIva radiofrequency technology for vaginal therapy is helpful for some for cosmetic and lubrication related issues with added improvements in urinary symptoms. For those suffering with sexual dysfunction, we offer the “O” shot. It is a concentration of the patient’s own platelet rich plasma (PRP) with growth factors that is injected into the clitoris and “G” spot in the vaginal. These new therapies have restored so many women’s lives back to premenopausal sexual health at our practice. My patients are saying “It’s a life changer!” “It saved my marriage!” and “Why wouldn’t a women want to have this done to recapture their youth?”
Dr. John Hettiarachchi, Fellow of the American College of Surgeons, is board certified in Urology and Urological Surgery and subspecialty certified in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery. The Charlotte Center for Pelvic Health is the first and only pelvic specialty practice in the Charlotte region offering multiple cutting-edge non-hormonal, non-surgical therapies.
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HERE IN LAKE NORMAN. WE ASKED YOU TO TELL US ABOUT YOUR FABULOUS HUSBANDS, AND YOU RESPONDED WITH NOMINATING ESSAYS THAT WERE HEARTFELT, THOUGHTFUL, AND APPRECIATIVE. WE WISH ALL OUR COUPLES MANY MORE YEARS OF WEDDED BLISS!
PAM & MATT ABIRACHED
“Matt is the greatest man I have ever known. From the moment you meet him, you feel like he is your best friend. He makes everyone feel special. He is the one person I can effortlessly spend countless hours with, no matter what we’re doing. On the rare occasion we get in an argument, he won’t let us sleep without working it out, no matter how stubborn I may be. Matt has loved me unconditionally from the moment we met. He has pushed me to be a better woman, encouraging me through school, rough times, and my business. He is the man that every woman dreams of spending her life with, and I am the luckiest woman alive because I get to begin and end each day by his side!”
BROOKE & DREW LYERLY
“My husband has more patience than any man I know! I’m high strung, independent, and a bit much at times, but he has this patient charm that doesn’t allow those attributes to phase him. He waited for three long years for me to figure out that he was way more than a ‘too-gentleman-like, nice-guy friend’ that some good girl (other than I) deserved. Before we started dating, I tried to set him up with friends and it never worked out; finally, I opened my eyes, wised up, and realized I was the good girl who deserved this nice guy. He was husband material and the perfect prescription for me written by God. We married on October 21, 2016. He is the calm to my storm and the patience I need but don’t deserve.”
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“During our 52 years of marriage, I’ve watched my husband grow into the type of person our world needs more of. He is always caring and generous to those who need help, and he is most comfortable when his good deeds are done anonymously. Gene puts the needs of his mother, wife, and children first … every single day. He has yet to retire at 73 because he is worried about his employees, and he is the person you want on your side when things don’t go as planned. Recently, I’ve learned that this husband can also navigate hospital corridors, maneuver wheelchairs, and change surgical dressings. Gene has been the brightest light a wife could ever hope to have during the darkest of days.”
CARA & JASON VIERS
“It was Jason’s dream to own a hair salon one day. I was his client before we fell in love and got married; and now that his dream has come true, he works 10-hour days as the artistic director of our salons while I manage the business administratively. Even with these long hours, he has called and checked in with me every day for the past 20 years. He carries my bags inside each night, and I have yet to open a door for myself when we are together. I feel so adored all the time, even after all these years. He is a rough, tough, rock-and-roll guy with a heart for his family that is soft and super mushy sweet!”
DEBORAH & MARK RAULERSON
“My husband, Mark, is my hero. He is a firefighter, and when the kids were little, he stayed home on his days off and spent as much time with them as possible. He was a great role model, teaching them by example and showing them not only how to do tasks around the house but how to be kind to others, too. He is away from home quite a bit, but I know it’s because he is making a good life for his family and he is making others’ lives better, too. He is the president of the Catawba County Firefighters’ Burned Children Burned Fund, and he helps out with the junior firefighters at a volunteer station. He is a selfless man.”
SHERRI VERTORANO & JOHN SEABECK
“My husband, John Seabeck, is truly one of a kind. He is my partner in everything we do. He is a genuine father and husband—possibly more nurturing than the most perfect mother. He is involved in every aspect of our children’s lives and has been there for me on countless occasions. I’ve had major health issues during the 20plus years we have been together and he’s never given up on me and makes me his first priority. In 2014, I underwent brain surgery to remove a brain tumor that wrecked my life. Although benign, this tumor ravaged me neurologically and physically. John went to every appointment—travelling back and forth to and from Atlanta—to ensure my well-being. He is my Superman!” FEBRUARY 2017 |
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FABI & LARRY PRESLAR
“Larry is my fantastic husband and father to our daughter, Sofi. It was love lightning bolts from head to toe the moment we met. We married six months later and will celebrate 30 years of marriage this year. He is truly a kind and patient man, which I challenge often. Born with neuroblastoma, Larry thrived through surgery and treatments and hasn’t taken the miracle of his life for granted. We work together and play together 24/7. His humor, creativity, and kindness have gotten us through some genuinely hard times. There’s not a day that goes by that we don’t laugh together. At times, it’s been through tears, but mostly it’s from something silly or witty that he says or does. He is a gift to those who spend time with him.”
CARY & RUSH WATSON SARA & MARK THOMAS
“After 18 years of marriage, two children, and two dogs, I was recently faced with the possibility of losing my husband, Mark, when he needed open heart surgery. Don’t worry: The surgery was a great success! Mark is many things to our family: The Provider—he puts family first (unless there’s an N.C. State game on—LOL!); The Rock—at my weakest moments, he keeps me stable; The Critical Thinker—he has made wise decisions with our money and secured our future; and The Believer—we share the same Christian values. Also, Mark gives of himself beyond our family. One year, he wrapped 150 books and delivered them to children; and this Christmas, he put lights on a neighbor’s home whose husband passed away.”
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“Rush is truly an equal partner in both our family and business lives. He is always the other part of my story! When I cook, he cleans the kitchen. When I do laundry, he folds it. When I decorate for the holidays, he puts away the decorations. I wanted the new puppy, but he gets up with her each morning so I can sleep. No matter how hectic his day is, when Rush comes home, he is always engaged. He even tolerates my growing collection of flying pigs and will watch girly movies with me, even though I know he hates them. When I count my blessings each day, I count this fantastic husband twice.”
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faith, family, and friends When you ask Chuck and Eileen Stoner about balancing the parts of their busy lives, you will hear them speak almost in unison: “We rely on faith, family, and friends, and when we add fitness and finance, we believe life will turn out just fine.” By: Leslie Ogle | Photography By: Chelsea Bren
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huck and Eileen, founders of The Stoner Group in Huntersville, began their careers in the world of finance in 1990 and 1996, respectively. They both bring their own personal strengths to their clients, providing personalized care for wealth planning and retirement. Married for 37 years, the couple met while Chuck was working as an animal trainer at Sea World of Ohio in Aurora. The young woman who sold tickets at the gate caught his eye and the rest, as they say, is history. They now have two grown sons: Chuck, 36, and Adam, 27. They also are the proud grandparents of Charlie, 5, and Finn, 2. “We have been blessed and are so grateful for all we have,” Eileen smiles. “Chuck, Jr. and his family live in the same neighborhood as we do, so we get to see them several times a week. It is such a blessing to have several generations of the Stoner family making memories together.”
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Eileen started her career as a neonatal intensive care nurse. She later went on to earn a business degree from Rider College in New Jersey. After their move to North Carolina, Eileen worked in the insurance industry. As Chuck’s financial advisory practice grew, he realized he needed to bring in a partner to help. He saw all the qualities he required in Eileen; her work ethic, attention to detail, and the relationships she built with families when she was a nurse were just a few of the talents Chuck identified. “I pitched the idea to Eileen,” he recalls. “She was initially hesitant to make such a huge change, but it was all meant to be and has worked out incredibly well.” Eileen couldn’t agree more. “I absolutely love my work and being such an integral part of our clients’ lives,” she says. “Nursing, the insurance industry, and being a financial advisor have a lot in common: being able to explain complex scenarios to individuals in ways that are easily understood and having the knowledge, as well as the confidence, to partner with families to make important decisions.” Starting a new career was a challenge that turned into an opportunity for Eileen. She had not envisioned herself being a financial advisor until Chuck saw that potential in her. But as is her style, Eileen embraces learning something new every day and, she points out, there is always something new to learn in financial services. “Chuck gave me the best advice back in 1996,” she says. “In the beginning, I was concerned that I didn’t have enough experience to help an investor. Chuck reminded me that, even though I was new to the business, the knowledge I did possess and would build upon could benefit a client.” Eileen went on to earn the distinction of Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor through the College of Financial Planning, which is the industry’s premier credentialing body. She is a valued member of the team today and takes great pride to help people plan and implement such important life strategies and goals.
The Stoners are indeed centered in faith and family. Chuck’s parents lived with them for many years; although sadly his mother, Sophia, passed away just before last Thanksgiving after a battle with cancer. She was 85, and his father, 91, still resides with them. “My mother displayed enormous strength during the last months of her life,” Chuck says. “Throughout her illness she never complained and relied on her faith to carry her through. She will remain my inspiration for the rest of my life.”
has an identical twin who just moved to Atlanta, and they are looking forward to spending more time together. Additionally, Chuck and Eileen attend Peninsula Baptist Church in Mooresville. Both are so appreciative of their church family, especially the support they offered during Sophia’s illness. He and Eileen are dedicated to supporting Food for the Poor, the largest faith-based international relief agency in the United States.
“Set goals. Get an education. Work Hard. Don’t waste time. Take responsibility. Appreciate all America has to offer. And keep a strong faith in Jesus Christ.”
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Outside the office, Chuck is an avid fly fisherman, and Eileen enjoys baking, crafting, and fashion. Their favorite place to visit is Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Both take immense pleasure in being with their children and grandchildren, and they love Lake Norman and all it offers. Eileen also
When asked what they advise in life, they both profess: “Set goals. Get an education. Work Hard. Don’t waste time. Take responsibility. Appreciate all America has to offer. And keep a strong faith in Jesus Christ.”
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WEDNESDAY, FEB. 1:
JUST EAT IT: A FOOD WASTE MOVIE
5:30 to 8 p.m. Davidson College, Knobloch Campus Center, Alvarez-Smith 900 Room
Statistics report that about 50 percent of our produced food is deemed “unworthy.” Filmmakers Jen and Grant document their year-long challenge to survive on food that would be thrown away.
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WOMEN’S LEADERSHIP CONFERENCE
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9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Davidson College, Chambers Lilly Family Gallery
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This annual conference is an “intergenerational exploration of leadership.” Participate and encourage relationships between students and community members. Registration is open to students, parents, alumni, and community members.
S ATURDAY, FEB. 18:
BLACK HISTORY MONTH CELEBRATION 1 to 4 p.m. Cornelius Town Hall, 21445 Catawba Ave., Cornelius
THURSDAY, FEB. 9:
HAPPY GALENTINE’S DAYPROJECT TIMELY LOVE
5:30 to 9:30 p.m. ICE Martini Bar, 9525 Birkdale Crossing Dr., Huntersville
Join us for drinks, appetizers, socializing, and donations of items for homeless women in Mecklenburg County and Lake Norman. The following items will be collected: New women’s underwear in all sizes (consider plus sizes, too); pads; tampons; deodorant; hairbrushes; razors; and other hygiene items. If you want to help but can’t make the event, drop-off bins will be located in February at Town Halls of Cornelius, Davidson, Mooresville, and Huntersville.
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The Cornelius PARC Department and the Smithville CommUNITY Coalition will host a celebration of Black History Month with children’s activities, memorabilia, speakers, performances, and refreshments.
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SUNDAY, FEB. 19:
MARGARITA NULLER, PIANIST
3 to 5 p.m. St. Alban’s Church, 301 Caldwell Ln., Davidson $15, adults; $10, students under 25; free, children 12 & under
Russian-born pianist and graduate of the St Petersburg Conservatory, Margarita Nuller will perform a piano program with favorites from Beethoven, Schumann, and Chopin. The preconcert, at 2:30 p.m., will include young local performers. After, there will be a wine and refreshments reception with the pianist. Photo courtesy of The Katherine M. Bray Women's Leadership Conference Facebook Page
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as primarily a problem among men. However, the fact is, heart disease is on the rise among women, and is now the number one killer of women in the United States, according to the American Heart Association. As the incidence of heart disease has risen, a record number of women are surviving heart attacks and heart disease. For these survivors, heart disease can mean a life with severe physical limitations and a progressive decline in functional ability. Over time, there can be a serious loss of ability to perform everyday tasks like walking, bathing, and shopping. M A N Y T H I N K O F H E A RT D I S E A S E
The health care community has long known that people who participate in structured rehabilitation programs after a heart procedure or following the diagnosis of a heart condition fare much better than those who do not. These individuals have a lower risk of subsequent heart attacks, a lower risk of sudden death, and improved functional outcomes. Unfortunately, according to Health Care for Women International, women are significantly less likely to participate in these rehabilitation programs than their male counterparts. This may be associated with women believing they are needed more at home or other social factors.
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All rehabilitation programs must be individually designed to improve a patient’s cardiovascular fitness, while focusing on each person’s specific functional goals. These programs are most effective when they include input from both physical and occupational therapists. There must be monitoring of heart function and also education aimed at modifying and reducing cardiac risk factors. For women in particular, these programs should include stress-management tools and group support. Once women become involved in a comprehensive rehabilitation program, which includes an exercise prescription, self-monitoring techniques, behavioral modification and support, they are more likely to maintain a healthy lifestyle and live full vibrant lives. Kevin Corrigan is the rehabilitation director at Huntersville Health & Rehabilitation Center, which provides seven-day-per-week physical, occupational, and speech therapy, with customized programs to improve heart function. In alliance with Novant Health, HHRC focuses on quality patient-centered rehabilitation to help patients participate fully in all aspects of life. For more information, visit www.huntersvillehealthrehab.com, or call 704.912.2222.
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Five Steps To A Healthy Heart Research shows that up to 90 percent of heart disease can be prevented! Reduce your risk by following these five simple steps. 1 EXERCISE.
You don’t have to join a gym—taking the stairs instead of the elevator, walking the dog instead of letting him out into the fenced yard, or going to the mall and taking a couple of laps will increase your heart rate. 2 EAT HEARTHEALTHY FOODS.
Fresh fruits and vegetables are fantastic for heart health. Eat a variety of colors every day. Whole grains and fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids are good choices, too. 3 TAKE HEARTHEALTHY SUPPLEMENTS.
Ask your doctor for recommendations, but supplements can help, especially as we age, when
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our bodies have difficulty absorbing appropriate levels of vitamins and minerals. 4 DON’T SKIP YOUR ANNUAL PHYSICAL.
An annual physical is critical to preventative care. At your appointment, make sure you have your blood pressure and cholesterol checked. Have your doctor explain what those numbers mean for you. 5 KNOW YOUR FAMILY HISTORY.
Your risk of heart disease increases by 17 percent if your father has heart disease, and a whopping 43 percent if your mother is afflicted. If you have a family history, talk to your doctor about undergoing in-depth tests to better understand your own risks for heart disease.
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A Heart With
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Being on the racing circuit presented its own blend of challenges and, as Katie likes to say, she switched from one kind of horsepower to another. Her time at JR Motorsports was demanding, yet rewarding; however, living “on the road” helped her realize that she needed and desired a different career. With a longstanding passion for horses, Katie began to explore equine-assisted personal development. “Horses have helped me through the trials and tribulations of life,” she explains, “so when I found the EAGALA model, I knew this was my true calling.” No stranger to life’s struggles, Katie understands that triumph can emerge from tragedy when armed with the proper insight and attitude. After the death of her uncle, she took stock more than ever of what love and gratitude can do in the wake of such loss and pain.
Katie Stankiewicz WILLOW EQUINE & WILLOW RIDGE COACHING MOORESVILLE, NC
WHEN KATIE STANKIEWICZ,
owner of Willow Equine and Willow Ridge Coaching in Mooresville, greets the day, she does so with balance, harmony, and respect. Not coincidentally, those three words also epitomize her businesses’ philosophies.
Both of Katie’s equine businesses offer a unique approach to traditional therapy and leadership coaching. Offering the Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association (EAGALA) model of psychotherapy and personal development, Katie and her team have seen remarkable results with their clients—from improving substance abuse issues and depression to refining leadership and communication skills.
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“This equine-assisted branch of therapy and personal development is my passion,” Katie says. “My mission is to enlighten clients to their innate abilities. Whether it’s taking the lead in their own health or focusing on work at their company, they reenergize themselves through self-discovery. They are able to transform their struggles into authentic successes, and it becomes a part of their overall wellness plan and life-coping strategies.” Katie grew up in a small town in Massachusetts, where her family spent every weekend together at local race tracks throughout the Northeast. Her love for racing led her to many things, including a career with JR Motorsports as their shock and spring specialist, and eventually to her husband, Jeff, who also worked in the racing world.
“On the evening of November 5, 2011,” Katie shares, “my family’s life changed forever. Our cheerful, tightly-woven family had one of its strongest threads torn away from us. Just two days after his 46th birthday, Uncle Peter had his life cut short during a horrible hunting accident. It was losing him so tragically that forced me to step back and reevaluate things. Life is too short not to be happy, so I focus on faith, gratitude, and empowerment—and empowerment, to me, is a positive combination of values, support, selfdiscipline, drive, and boundaries, along with purpose and dedication. And we focus on all of these elements in our equine-assisted psychotherapy and leadership coaching programs.” Katie and Jeff are blessed with their daughter, Natalie Ray (4), and their home life is a busy one full of laughter, love, two dogs, a cat and, of course, horses. “Live the life you are meant to lead,” Katie advises. “Find your passion and purpose; they are building blocks because loving what you do filters into all parts of your life. Do not be afraid of change.”
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More Than Movement
By: Michele Edwards
to glide, step, or move through a set series of movements usually to music. That is the Merriam Webster Dictionary’s definition of this universal word. But dance is so much more than just movement—it’s a universal language that the entire world can understand. Yes, there are hundreds and thousands of different interpretations and the meaning of dance is different for each person. For me, it is not only the way I’ve chosen to make my living, it’s also an avenue to free my spirit and soul and share a love of my passion for this ever-so-changing art form. DA N C E …
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"Dancing enhances life in so many ways, from increasing your health and confidence to enhancing selfexpression and socialization to maximizing relaxation and fun."
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At the young age of 3 years old back in 1980, my mom enrolled me in my first dance class at a dance studio in Concord, NC. The reasoning for this enrollment was simply to allow me interaction and socialization with other children before I started preschool. Little did my mom know that 37 years later, I would still be dancing. Dance has always been an outlet for me to exercise by body and mind through taking classes, watching videos, attending dance conventions and conferences, participating on a college dance team at Appalachian State University, and even in the NBA arena as a Charlotte Hornets HoneyBee during the
1996-1997 basketball season. Dance has provided me so many amazing friendships along this continued journey and provided me an opportunity to meet and perform with world-renowned teachers and choreographers such as Mia Michaels, Mallory Graham, Wildabeast Adams, Chris Judd, and Tabatha and Napoleon. The most rewarding opportunity through my dance journey is having the blessing of sharing my passion daily at my own dance studio, Studio 73 Dance. Dance is more than movement, more than a series of steps, more than expression, and more than stage performances. It changed my life in so many positive ways. And now I strive to show others how it can change theirs. For children, the benefits are endless. The end goal doesn’t have to be performing on Broadway—maybe your child just needs to experience something new or to get some exercise or maybe to find an outlet for his or her seemingly boundless energy. No matter what the reason, a child will develop mentally and physically through dance. Dance has many benefits for adults, too. Dance is a connection that you are able to make within yourself, to share outwardly your thoughts and emotions through heartfelt knowledge of understanding of touching others through your passion. Dancing enhances life in so many ways, from increasing your health and confidence to enhancing self-expression and socialization to maximizing relaxation and fun. Dance is a way of life!
Michele Edwards is the owner and an instructor at Studio 73 Dance in Huntersville. Now in its 18th dance season, the studio provides dance instruction for children and adults in ballet, jazz, tap, lyrical, hip-hop, contemporary, modern, and praise dance at both the competition and recreational level. For more information, visit www.studio73dance.com, or call 704.875.9911.
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The Kitchen:
The Heart of Your Home By: Kathy McLeod
If you asked homeowners which room they spend most of their time in, my bet is the kitchen would be mentioned most. It’s the gathering spot for meals, for homework, for conversation, and for entertaining friends and family. It’s the heart of the home.
What are your “must haves”? Here’s where you start to list your non-negotiables—those things that you won’t trade off. They might include what you want to keep (e.g., your current countertop), as well as things you want to change (e.g. professional range). Is your heart set on a specific type of countertop? What about cabinets—stained, painted, or both? Do you need a larger refrigerator? Two dishwashers? Are you all about open shelving? These are often a combination of your dream kitchen elements and practical considerations.
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What are your constraints? Everyone has some type of constraint that influences the renovation process. Some of the more obvious ones are budget, timing, and project duration. Others might include plans to sell your house, availability of natural gas for appliances, or the need to use a specific vendor or manufacturer. Identifying these early in the process should minimize mistakes and the need for re-selections.
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renovate or make updates, the choices and decisions can be overwhelming. Knowing where to start can sometimes be the hardest part. These considerations can lead you down the right path. Your insight will enable a design professional to help you create the kitchen you love. What are the pros and cons of your current kitchen? Scratch out a t-chart, and jot down the things you love about your current kitchen on one side. What you’re not so thrilled about add to the other side. How does the flow and layout work for your current and future needs? Which appliances are broken and need replaced? What works? What’s the one thing you love that you want to preserve or replicate? What do you just not like any more? This series of questions provides a great foundation for the next four points.
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How will you use your new kitchen? 2 Functionality trumps all, so it’s the best place to start when thinking about your new or updated kitchen. Is cooking its primary purpose? Or do you use it more as a gathering space? Is it an extension of your living area? Should it work with your outdoor spaces? What will you keep in your cabinets and drawers? How many people will use the kitchen at the same time? How often? How do kids factor in? Prioritize the different ways you envision using your kitchen.
What finishes and elements do you love? Pull out those pictures that inspired you to make a change in the first place! Here’s where you start to focus on “the look” you’re after. Is your heart set on a specific backsplash? What color palette are you drawn to? What types of cabinets catch your eye—traditional, contemporary, or something in between? What about lighting—do you like a little bling, or do you go for a more understated, streamlined fixture? This is where you start to incorporate what you love into your kitchen plan.
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Kathy McLeod, a member of the Interior Design Society, has experience with both new construction and renovation, with residential and with small business clients. For more information, visit www.resinteriors.com, or call 704.500.9198.
Sometimes the cold really can take her breath away. DURING COLD WINTER MONTHS, WEATHER-INDUCED ASTHMA CAN PUT YOUR CHILD’S OUTDOOR FUN ON ICE. If your little one has asthma, you always have to look out for things that can trigger an attack. Things like dust mites, animal dander— and even the cold winter air. Make sure your child’s asthma is well controlled by making an appointment today with one of our 13 board-certified asthma and allergy specialists.
Call 704.372.7900 and schedule an appointment at any of our 11 convenient area office locations, including one right here in Lake Norman!
breathe » live » thrive carolinaasthma.com LAKE NORMAN OFFICE: 19475 Old Jetton Rd., Ste. 100 Cornelius, NC 28031
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anni SIMCOX LKNW RECOGNIZES A WOMAN DOING EXCEPTIONAL WORK IN THE LAKE NORMAN COMMUNITY, A LEADER WHO IS PAVING THE WAY TO CHANGING OUR ATTITUDES AND INSPIRING CONFIDENCE IN THE FUTURE.
on BRANCHING OUT: I was born and raised in Bristol, Virginia. I moved to Charlotte after graduating from Virginia Tech in 2013, to pursue a career in residential property management. I think it’s important for young women to learn to be independent. Don’t rely on others to be happy. There’s an important balance between asking for help and knowing when to just do it yourself. on HER FAVORITE THINGS:
I love the craft beer culture in North Carolina. There are so many different local breweries nearby. There’s also an incredible rum distillery in Belmont. I enjoy camping and fishing, and I fit in as many comedy shows and concerts as I can. Since moving here, I’ve also found that I love pimento cheese! I had pimento cheese soup for the first time recently and I could eat it every day!
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married—and now I’m engaged! My fiancé, Johnny, and I have a pleasantly plump kitty named Jax. Even people who say they hate cats still love my Jax. Johnny and I hope to spread the love and adopt a puppy in the next year or two.
Anni Simcox The Linden and Lakeside Apartments DAVIDSON, NC
on RISKS AND REWARDS:
While I like to try new things, I’m not a risk taker. I am logical and think through every possible outcome before making a decision. Recently, I fell in love with kickboxing. I usually go in the mornings, about four to five times a week. It’s a great way to start the day and to keep in shape—and definitely an awesome stress reliever! Anni Simcox is the property manager at The Linden and Lakeside Apartments in Davidson. For more information, visit www.MyNicheApartments.com, or call 704.837.0027.
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Feeding Your Soul By: Dr. Nicole Whitehead
LAST YEAR, A DEAR FRIEND
began using a recurring hashtag in her social media. The message to her cyber village is #feedyoursoul. The context of her posts have made it clear that she means that you need to feed your soul specifically with things that bring you joy and leave you feeling emotionally nourished. How many busy women do that on a regular basis? Our souls are undoubtedly fed by our families, friends, and careers. However, the reality is that these things often also feed our stress, anxiety, and exhaustion levels. What happens when we do things that have no other purpose than to bring us joy? I recently started taking an adult dance class. I danced seriously once upon a time, but hadn’t taken a dance class since my early 20s. I have been thrilled with the difference that one hour dedicated to just fun and joy makes in my life each week. I return home energized, optimistic, grateful, kinder, and more loving. My husband will now move heaven and earth to make sure that I can make it to my class
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because he adores the person I am when I have had this opportunity to feed my soul. I have come to imagine this time as my weekly “reset button,” where I refill my coffers with the energy I’ll need to do, give, love, and serve all week long. As an undergraduate, my senior thesis was on the effect of mood and attitude on health, healing, and immunity. It is instinctive to most of us that an upbeat mood and positive attitude are good for things like blood pressure and digestion. However, it is fascinating to observe all the other functions that improve when we have a good feeling about ourselves and the world around us. Immune cells are more numerous and work faster. Cells needed for healing and repair are activated and supported more effectively. Our bodies literally are stronger and healthier when we are under the influence of a good mood. Positivity and joy are scientifically proven longevity boosters. When was the last time you did something nourishing to your soul with no other agenda or secondary purpose? For so many
busy modern women, the answer might be months or years ago. For Valentine’s Day, give yourself the gift of permission to carve out an hour each week to do something you love that serves no other purpose but to feed your soul and sense of self. Remember (or learn) what brings you joy, peace, and tranquility. Read, write, run, hike, dance, golf, do yoga, garden, paint—it will be different for each of us. If it truly brings you joy, it will also bring you health and rejuvenation. Don’t worry about getting away from commitments for that hour—a glowing, happy soul is a beacon to others. The people around you will want to keep that beautiful glow going as much as you do. You are worth it— #feedyoursoul. Nicole Whitehead, DC, CACCP, is a chiropractor and owner of Advanced Spinal Fitness in Mooresville. For more information, www.advancedspinalfitness.net, or call 704.663.5142.
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THE MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT ARE INTIMATELY CONNECTED. Because unhealthy thoughts and emotions can create a vicious cycle that leads to unhealthy physical patterns, we can choose a victorious path that includes a positive, healing, uplifting spiral. By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.
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