Lake Norman Woman May 2019

Living a Perfect Day Every Day Through Gratitude PAGE 24

Must-Have Gifts for Mom PAGE 20

featuring Dr. Nicole Naylor & Dr. Amber Brooks of West Lake Dentistry

Deadlines, Distractions & Demands… How to Connect to the NOW In Their Midst PAGE 58

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C A R P E D I E M — S E I Z E T H E D AY. I know that message is right and good. After all, who doesn’t want to enjoy every precious minute, to make each day count, to take the bull by the horns, to experience life fully?

But if I’m being honest, it doesn’t always work for me. In the reality of life, or at least in mine, sometimes trying to relish every moment or find joy in every task makes me a bit apprehensive and overwhelmed. Heck, before you know it, the next day is here and it needs to be seized too.

Though I have to admit, the carpe-ing comes fairly easily when the day in question is one spent on a beach or cruising through the mountains with the top down. On those diems, I can carpe right along with the best. It’s the days that seem to fight back with their chaos and calamities that cause my carpe-ing to fall flat on its face. In fact, those days make me tired and cranky and the only thing I want to seize at their end is the remote control as I sink into the sofa with relief and watch some quality TV, like “Naked and Afraid.”

It’s not that I don’t want to seize my days—I just can’t quite figure out how to do so in this age of the smart phone and 24-hour accessibility.

Because of the modern perception that we are, or at least should be, available all of the time, I find myself constantly rushing to the next thing, with absolutely no time to reflect on much of anything. There is always something to do, somewhere to go, some place to be. When you consider the fact that I spend about a third of my existence sleeping (or wanting to sleep), seizing any single day seems completely outside the realm of possibility.

But maybe the bar doesn’t have to be so high? When I don’t feel like carpe-ing the whole diem, perhaps I can find at least a bit of the day to carpe? Though they might not be spent on a sandy beach basking in the sun, every day—even the ones in which my to-do list seems as insurmountable as Mount Everest—does contain magical moments. Like when I forego “Naked and Afraid” and spend some time in our beautiful garden, watching the lightning bugs twinkling in the dusk; or when my husband surprises me with a kiss on the back of my neck; or one of my sons calls me out of the blue just to say hi.

It’s a baby step, for sure, but I’m going to tape a message to my refrigerator reminding me to “Carpe Momento”—to seize the moment rather than the whole day. Perhaps with a little practice and a little time, an entire carpe diem won’t be out of the question. At the very least, I’m sure to relish every moment of every delicious bite when I seize that piece of cheesecake inside the frig instead. w DANA NIETERS PUBLISHER

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HERE SHE IS: Anna Stowe

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WOMAN TO WATCH: Pamela Hill

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COVER STORY: Seizing Life!

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Must-Have Mother's Day Gifts

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8 THINGS: Eight Patriotic Ways To Celebrate Memorial Day

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MIND, BODY, SPIRIT: Seize The Day By Seizing The Moment

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Make STEAM A Priority

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Talking To Your Teen About Her Body Can Be Tricky

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The Wisdom Behind Wisdom Teeth

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O2 For You! Why Do I Need Oxygen?

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Life takes practice! And though they don’t always come

ISSUE IS ALL ABOUT

wrapped in a shiny red bow, the lessons we learn along the

“SEIZING THE DAY” AND

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page 16 TO SEE HOW

ADVENTURE, TRAVEL, AND

HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF. As a new dentist at only 26

years old, Dr. Nicole Naylor learned early on how to keep her confidence in check. “There will always be doubters,” she shares on page 32, “but you have to rise above and follow your dreams.” Fast forward nearly a decade later, and Dr. Nicole’s thriving business is proof of her tenacity, hard work, and love for her patients.

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CHANGE IS INEVITABLE …

GROWTH IS OPTIONAL.” JOHN C. MAXWELL

ARE YOU FULLY LOVING YOUR LIFE? Turn to page 24

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE CAN BE CONTAGIOUS AND

HELP YOU TAKE A BITE OUT OF LIFE!

LEARNING TO STRIKE A BALANCE. When you’re

to see how the owner of Stony Brook Cabins in Gatlinburg, Tennessee, truly relishes her work and her life—with the love of family and a firm faith in God, Pam has overcome many life challenges and found the joy and gratitude that lie on the other side of struggle.

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Master on the main. Tons of space with almost 4200 sqft. Five bedrooms, three baths. Deck off the back. Walk to Lake Norman Elementary.

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they imagine things like exploring the depths of the ocean, traveling to distant planets, and going back in time to experience dinosaurs first-hand.

Although they do not realize it, children’s minds are wired for STEAM learning (science, technology, engineering, arts, and mathematics) because they are naturally fascinated by those subjects.

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STEAM-related jobs make up the fastest growing segment of the U.S. economy. This is expected to increase over time as children eventually join the workforce. Today, however, too few college graduates are pursuing STEAM-related careers.

Introducing STEAM concepts early on helps promote children’s natural curiosity in these subjects, increasing the chance that children will pursue STEAM-related careers later on in life.

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It is not enough to simply introduce STEAM learning to children, though. These concepts should be presented in a fun, playful way. For example, when children play with blocks, they are not just playing with blocks. Rather, they are building (no pun intended) engineering skills.

STEAM learning is crucial, especially in this day and age. It prepares children for success in school and life while helping them become well-rounded people. The best way to inspire a passion in STEAM learning is for children to have fun with it because research has shown that children experience the deepest, most genuine learning when they are having fun. w

Parents can also help encourage their children’s interests by turning their homes into mini laboratories. This can be as simple as introducing children to things like cooking and gardening. Here are three examples of easy STEAM experiments that can be performed at home: Milk Fireworks: Pour whole milk into a baking pan. Add drops of red and blue food coloring. Add a “squirt” or two of dishwashing liquid, and watch the colors burst and swirl! When the “fireworks” slow down, add another couple of drops of dishwashing liquid to get them going again.

Explanation: The soap separates the fat from the other liquids in the milk, causing patterns to appear.

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The Goddard School has locations in Cornelius, Huntersville and Mooresville.

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Dancing Raisins: Put raisins (or dried corn or macaroni) in a clear cup.

Fill the cup with lemonlime soda. Watch how the raisins bob and sink in the cup. Ask your child what makes the raisins do this. Explanation: The gas bubbles in the soda lift each raisin up, and when the bubbles reach the surface and pop, the raisins sink.

Salt & Vinegar Pennies: Put a quarter cup of white vinegar into a clear plastic or glass bowl. Add one teaspoon of table salt and stir until the salt dissolves. Dip a dull, dirty penny halfway into the liquid, holding it there for 10 to 20 seconds.

Remove the penny from the liquid. What does your child see? Explanation: Salt and vinegar create a weak acid that dissolves copper oxide, which is the tarnish on a dull penny.

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How do you overcome obstacles? I struggle with

everyday challenges just like most women. I have learned to just step back and take a few moments to meditate, gather my thoughts, and realize that whatever the issue is, it is temporary. I try to stay in the most positive light and block the majority of negative thoughts and negative people. I believe that a couple moments of meditation are worth more than any medicine in a bottle.

here she is!

How did you discover your passion?

From as long as I can remember, I have always loved being creative. I started off pursuing a career in architecture but after some soul searching and research, I discovered interior design and realized I had a passion for it. I truly enjoy helping people live or work in a space that they love.

What would your best day include? It’s always a great day to wake up, have a nice big cup of coffee, meet with clients or vendors for a reveal day, then come home to meet up with my boyfriend, Jason, for a lovely dinner … and perhaps settle in with a movie to round out the day. w

i am an LKNw oman because…

“I believe everyone deserves to live a beautiful, full, and rich life. It’s too short not to truly enjoy each moment … and living by the Lake is conducive to seizing the moment and seizing the day!”

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DANVILLE, VIRGINIA

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HUNTERSVILLE

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L I F E - S W E E T H E A R T, JASON POLISENSKY

What is your premier amour? I love to travel! I find myself in Arizona several times a year for mental wellness retreats. I feel that the knowledge and good energy I bring back not only makes me a better person, but also a better designer. I enjoy traveling to Hawaii, the Caribbean, or out west for a ski weekend. I love adventure activities—scuba diving, sky diving, bungee jumping, and zip lining to name a few.

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Anna Stowe is the IDS (Interior Design Society) professional interior designer at Great Design 4 U. They specialize in new construction and renovation services and can be reached at 704.305.0139, or visit them at www.GreatDesign4U.com.

WRITER MICHELLE LOVE

PHOTOGRAPHER TONI LOVEJOY

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we perform many different surgical procedures. One of the most common procedures is removal of wisdom teeth, also called third molars. One of the most common questions that we get is, “Why do we have wisdom teeth if they need to be taken out?” While there are several theories proposed for the presence of wisdom teeth, no one particular theory has been proven. What we do know is that whether they are impacted or erupted, they can and often do present an array of oral health problems.

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Impacted wisdom teeth create a pocket that bacteria can live in and cannot be effectively cleaned out.

When these bacteria multiply, their byproducts destroy the surrounding bone and soft tissue that can damage the adjacent molars and supporting tissues. It can also cause cavities in hard-to-reach places that may not be fixable and can end up causing loss of the adjacent teeth. Additionally, impacted teeth can cause different cysts and tumors to form, which need to be removed. Even when wisdom teeth erupt into the mouth, rarely can they be maintained or kept clean, resulting in similar issues.

The best time to remove wisdom teeth is between the ages of 14 and 20 as a general rule. Everyone in this age group should have a full mouth x-ray, called a panorex, to check the positioning of their

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wisdom teeth so a more individual plan can be formulated. Waiting until one’s late 20s, 30s, or 40s generally makes the removal much more difficult and increases the risks for complications and longer, slower recovery periods.

When patients have their wisdom teeth removed, they should remember that it is a surgical procedure. It involves having anesthesia, surgical removal of small amounts of surrounding bone and teeth, and a recovery period. Some patients feel great the next day while others may take several days to recover.

During this time, patients should limit their activities at home, especially athletics, and stick to a softer diet.

Syringes are given to patients to care for and clean the extraction sites.

Sometimes patients may be slow to heal or have pain that continues beyond a few days. This is generally referred to as a “dry socket.” While dry socket is not dangerous, it can be uncomfortable and refractory to oral pain medications.

In these cases, patients should follow up with their surgeon to have medicine placed directly into the extraction sites to ease the discomfort.

Knowing some of the facts surrounding wisdom teeth and their removal can help you plan to take care of them and prevent future, more serious issues down the road. w WRITER DR. MICHAEL FORAN

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Mainstream Boutique 126 Mooresville Commons Way, Mooresville (704) 662-9306

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HBOT (hyperbaric oxygen therapy) is FDA approved for 13 uses— 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

O2 for YOU! Why Do I Need Oxygen?

By the time you become an adult, you have at least 50 trillion cells and they all need oxygen (O2). Inside the cells, mitochondria use up to 90% O2 to produce energy. As the polarity and pH levels of the cells shift, the components within the body begin a “drawing together” effect. This can prevent red blood cells from getting to where they need to be to give you O2.

Issues like atherosclerosis, high or low blood pressure, size, shape and functionality of the red blood cells, gas exchange issues of the lungs like COPD, asthma, allergies, lipids, vaso-constriction from cortisol, thyroid problems, etc. may prevent O2 from getting to the cells properly. And cells are like batteries—they cannot work if “upside down.”

ALL HUMANS BEGAN LIFE AS A SINGLE CELL.

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What is a Hyperbaric Oxygen Chamber?

Dr. Lora Hurley is a double board certified naturopath physician at Hurley Wellness & Hyperbaric Center located at 1807 South Main Street in Kannapolis. You may reach them at hurleywellnesscenter@gmail.com, 704.270.8530, or visit them at www.HurleyWellnessCenter.com.

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For over 354 years, hyperbaric chambers have been used to simulate going below sea level to increase oxygen for the body. A hard shell Hyperbaric Oxygen Chamber Chamber is an FDA approved pressurized vessel used to administer oxygen at elevated pressure. There are basically two types of chambers (monoplace and multiplace) that are used “clinically.” The main differences are chamber size, number of occupants, and how the oxygen is delivered.

Chambers are pressurized while patients breathe up to 100% oxygen through a mask or a hood.

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Air or Gas Embolism Carbon Monoxide Poisoning Crush Injury Delayed Radiation Injury Decompression Sickness (Bends) Diabetic and Selected Wounds Exceptional Blood Loss (Anemia) Gas Gangrene Intracranial Abscess Necrotizing Soft Tissue Infections Osteomyelitis Skin Grafts and Flaps Thermal Burns

Unless you have one of the above needs, HBOT will be administered at “off label” clinics.

Other complaints HBOT has been used for include:

. Addiction . Autoimmune Disorders . Anemia of any type . Arthritis . Autism . Birth Injury . Chemotherapy/Radiation (“Chemo Brain”) . Brain Aneurysm . Cerebral Palsy . Concussion . Lyme Disease . Migraine . Multiple Sclerosis . Near Drowning . PTSD . Recovery from Plastic Surgery . Sports Injuries . Stroke . Tinnitus . Traumatic Brain Injury

In closing, oxygen acts like a drug and is considered a respiratory depressant and should be used with proper dosing, frequency, and duration to expect a “reproducible outcome” from its usage. w WRITER DR. LORA HURLEY

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woman to watch

on SEIZING GOD’S PLAN: We are a family-owned and family-focused business with a deep faith in God. Even our many repeat guests have become like family to us. I married my husband at 18 and we have two grown children. Both of them started the business and worked with us for the first eight years but then went their separate ways; however, our son, Tim, has come back to the business and we are glad to have him. We came to the area to buy ourselves a vacation home, found one, bought it, and 30 days later I was living here and had purchased an existing cabin rental company. It was very much God’s plan and He led every step of the way. on CATCHING DREAMS: I think believing in yourself is critical. I always knew I could run my own business but followed my hubby of 45 years around throughout his military career. We both agreed it was my turn when we bought this business, and he happily stands by my side while I run things. Family support is vital and makes all the difference. on TENACITY: We were profitable immediately, but it was tentative for a while. When the market crashed, 2008-2010 were particularly rough years for us. People were not doing vacations … they were saving and being careful. We hung on for three years and as the market started to turn, so did our business. We had tripled by that time and continue to grow today. My advice is “Just Do It!” Follow your passions, but do it wholeheartedly with total commitment to success. Don’t just try it … don’t just give it six months to see if it works—commit! You’re all in! Never quit; don’t give up; keep pushing.

pamela a. hill STONY BROOK CABINS, LLC Gatlinburg, Tennessee

PAMELA hill LKNW RECOGNIZES A WOMAN DOING EXCEPTIONAL WORK IN THE

L A K E N O R M A N C O M M U N I T Y, A L E A D E R W H O I S PA V I N G T H E W AY T O C H A N G I N G O U R AT T I T U D E S A N D I N S P I R I N G C O N F I D E N C E I N T H E F U T U R E .

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on LOVING IT: I love what I do and I know I am where God wants me to be, doing what I am supposed to be doing. I love working with people and that is a huge part of my day. I am so very blessed and thankful to be alive and healthy. I had breast cancer in 2011 right about the time our business really turned a corner, but I sailed through treatments and worked the entire time. My faith is strong and I believe God took care of me and made sure I healed to fulfill my dreams and His purpose. Every day is a perfect day because I get another chance, at everything … loving, laughing, making friends, helping guests … I love life and I am thankful. Our goal is to provide quality locations for families to come and make lifetime memories and lifetime friends … oh, and we also rent cabins. (wink!) w Pam Hill and husband, Ed, have been the owners and operators of Stony Brook Cabins, LLC, since 2004. As a full-service property management company licensed by the Tennessee Real Estate Commission, Stony Brook Cabins in Gatlinburg, Tennessee, offers an array of accommodations— from cozy cabins to luxury 16-bedroom cabins. For reservations, call 800.633.5652 or visit them now at www.StonyBrookCabins.com.

WRITER LESLIE OGLE

PHOTOGRAPHER BEASLEY IMAGES

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Use on wood and plastic in the kitchen—the kitchen antibacterial qualities of lemon juice will help kill bacteria that may linger in little nicks on plastic and wooden cutting boards and utensils.

After washing, coat the surface with lemon juice and allow to sit for five to 10 minutes; rinse with hot water and dry well.

Microwaves are notorious for nasty splatters and spills. Cleaning is easy with a quarter cup of lemon juice to two cups of water in a microwaveable glass bowl; place in the microwave and heat until boiling and the microwave is filled with steam.

Let the steam sit for about five minutes then wipe clean with paper towels.

Because marble is so porous, it can stain easily with coffee, tea, or tomato-based foods but cut a lemon in half and dip in salt; rub the stains briskly and then rinse immediately and thoroughly.

Freshen the garbage disposal … don’t throw your lemon wedges and peels into the trash but instead toss them in the sink disposal with plenty of hot water. The lemon oils will cut through grease, and it leaves a fresh, clean scent. (orange and lime peels work too)

Get rid of yellow underarm stains on shirts by mixing one part baking soda, one part lemon juice, and one part water. Use a softbristled brush or toothbrush to rub the solution into the stains and allow the mixture to sit for at least 30 minutes; wash as usual.

Use lemon rinds to polish chrome faucets and cabinet hardware. Rub the rind over the metal, rinse with cool water, and dry with a soft cloth.

To brighten dull aluminum pans, cut a lemon in half and rub the cut side all over the pan. Do not rinse; buff with a soft cloth. Also works on stainless steel, copper, and chrome.

Spiders, ants, and fleas Oh My! Squirt a little lemon juice or leave strips of lemon peel on windowsills, door thresholds, and along baseboards …. They do not like the acidic fragrance. w

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What’s the difference?

AREN’T THEY ALL THE SAME?

YO U W A N T T O M O V E A H E A D

with a project in your home, but you have no idea where to start and who to call to help you accomplish your project needs.

There are many professionals in the design world. Based on your needs there is a professional just for you!

Once you decide what type of professional is the best fit, look on the web and read about professionals in your area. Find someone who fits your needs and personality.

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A DECORATOR is someone who enhances a space based on the structure as it stands. This person may ‘have an eye’ and when truly educated (whether it be from a scholastic institution or the world of hard knocks) can often decorate a space well.

PRICING $-$$$ TIMING (1-8 months)

INTERIOR DESIGNER (sometimes called Interior Architect, but be aware the Architect name is used specifically for licensed architects and should not be miss-represented) A professional Interior Interior Designer Designer is qualified by education, experience, and continuing education to enhance the function and quality of interior spaces. interior spaces. This can include moving noninterior load-bearing walls for renovations or working in coordination with builder, architect, and contractor to build a complete home.

The focus of an interior designer is functionality of the spaces.

Once the functionality is determined the interior designer insures that the aesthetic is reflective of the homeowner using products that match the values and budget of the project. The designer works with all trades to ensure that project is unique to each client. This is NOT a one-size-fits-all scenario. This relationship is in-depth and personal, not reflective of the HGTV overnight experience. (Trust me, I have worked for HGTV shows and can share the difference.)

PRICING $$-$$$$

TIMING (3–24+ months)

HOME STAGER has knowledge of the marketplace, the surrounding real estate competition, the target home buyer psychographics, and their aesthetic aspirations. A Stager will make the home reflect the most targeted buyers as possible to insure a quicker sale.

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A REDESIGNER is a decorator who comes into your home and helps you place your current furniture, art and knickknacks. They can help with paint choices and make suggestions on filling in where needed. They will have a high number of reviews on websites such as Houzz as they can work with many clients in a short period of time.

PRICING $-$$ TIMING (1-4 months)

An E-DESIGNER is a decorator you will never meet in person. They will provide advice and a shopping list to accomplish your goals for your room. This service is often accomplished by students, an assistant, or new decorator working remotely. Products will come from online and catalog sources.

PRICING $

TIMING (4 weeks)

Starr Miller is the president and principal of StarrMiller Interior Design located in Cornelius. Her national award-winning firm specializes in residential new construction and renovations. For more information visit www.StarrMiller.com or call 704-896-3321.

WRITER STARR MILLER

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seizing life!

BACK IN HIGH SCHOOL, were you lucky enough to be in a clique that had that one girl—that one sparkling, awesome girl—whose house everyone gathered at because she, and her home, made everyone feel just right? You could never quite figure out why her place felt so good. It wasn’t that she had all the cable channels, or a pantry full of Hostess snacks, or a mom who was super chill. It was more of a vibe, right? A feeling of kindness and realness and joie de vivre. Where did that feeling come from?

Was it baking out of the heating vents?

Nope. It was coming from the girl herself, emanating from the DNA of her personality.

With the clarity that comes with adulthood, you can spot these girls from a mile away.

When you meet Dr. Nicole Naylor, you know you’re looking at the grown-up version of that girl. When you visit her dental practice, West Lake Dentistry in Denver, you’re entering the business version of that warm, loving home.

When Dr. Nicole speaks, you understand how that captivating, trustcreating DNA works in adulthood. Here, let me show you.

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Dr. Nicole and Dr. Amber Brooks

in dental care. Instead, she brings up her beloved staff.

My biggest achievement has been finding the right people,” she says. “The girls at my office love the practice as if it were their own.

They are simply amazing … and my business associate extraordinaire, Dr. Amber Brooks, has been a godsend! I was fortunate enough to have her join me in 2016.

When I asked Dr. Nicole what motivated her to create West Lake Dentistry, the first words she spoke felt like blankies sewn from words.

“Quality, honesty, and the creation of a space where people could feel trust,” she said. She then moved on to brass tacks, saying that she sought to provide dental care and treatment plans that “truly rebuild confidence and eliminate pain, both immediately and over the long term.”

She gets it … yes, we need immaculate care for our teeth. At the same time, though, we want nurturing support for our self-esteem. She also, it seems, understands something that many businesses don’t—the way to provide care for both the body and the soul is to start with human connection.

“Through a series of connections,” Dr. Brooks adds, “I was put in touch with Dr. Naylor and it just so happened she was looking for someone to join the practice. With our common philosophies of patient care and dentistry in general, we knew right away it was a good match,” she smiles.

So let’s break down why we love Dr. Nicole so much. First, she chose her career for the love of the work—making our teeth healthy and beautiful, thereby boosting our confidence—as opposed to a craving for money. Second, when given the opportunity to brag on herself, she pivots and brags on the people around her.

Third, she’s so confident in her own quality, she can humbly share her struggles.

That caring connection is palpable within West Lake Dentistry’s four walls.

When asked what she is proudest of, professionally, Dr. Nicole doesn’t cite her academic achievements, or her commitment to investing in cuttingedge technology, or her practice’s commitment to continuing education and awareness of developments

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Case in point: when I asked her what obstacles she has faced, she brought up that dynamic we all know, but won’t admit to, the confusing revelation that someone doesn’t like you, despite your striving to be kind and true and genuine. When you’re a business owner in the internet era, your good name can be smeared on the whim of a stranger. “If we get a bad review,” Dr. Nicole smiles, “we try and remedy the situation … but sometimes it’s for reasons beyond our control, so I’ve learned to accept this and just keep giving my best.”

Where does this calm, humble approach come from? For Dr. Nicole, it comes from being a West Virginia girl. She didn’t grow up in a one-stoplight town, she grew up in a no-stoplight town. She earned both her undergraduate and medical degrees at West Virginia University, where she originally, ironically, started as a business major. “I actually dropped my first business class because I disliked it soooo much,” she laughs. The irony continued as, despite her 4.0 GPA, she didn’t get into nursing school. “Life has a way of figuring itself out for you,” she

“In our daily meetings, we stress our priorities which are being genuine, true, and kind. Our patients are first, and I have a group of girls who share that mentality."

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says, reflecting on the signs that led her to dentistry. “I had a good friend whose husband is a dentist … they brought the light of dentistry to me.”

While those friends introduced her to her first love, the dental field, graduate school introduced her to her true love, her husband, an endodontist.

Together for more than 12 years now, they have two children and a deep love for the Lake Norman area.

Maybe that’s what always draws us to girls like Dr. Nicole Naylor.

Quite simply, they bring love to their relationships, their homes, and their businesses. “In our daily meetings, we stress our priorities which are being genuine, true, and kind. Our patients are first, and I have a group of girls who share that mentality. When we say we treat our patients like family, it really is the truth.” w

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ANGELA LANE, CPA,

announces her recent merger with Jamie Hammack, CPA. Together they formed Hammack Lane & Company, PLLC, with two locations: Denver and Huntersville.

LKNWoman CY-ERRA DENAY received her business administration degree with a focus in marketing and is working to promote brands and businesses in the area.

With her love of working with people and sharing their life joys, she hopes to start with event planning and get known within the community.

ALISON KLOPP was named National

Representative of the Year for JostensÂŽ as a yearbook representative. Serving the greater Lake Norman area and beyond (Alison owns the territory from Hickory to South Charlotte and Gastonia to Concord), she consistently ranks in the top 20 in the nation and has been with JostensÂŽ for almost 20 years.

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The Lake Norman Chamber of Commerce is proud to announce and welcome

SYLVIA SPURY as

Executive Vice President.

Sylvia has over 20 years of chamber of commerce experience and will be instrumental in assisting with membership growth, retention, administrative duties, events, and programs.

VANESSA A. RICHARDSON is

a new resident of Lake Norman, a West Point graduate, former military officer, and most recently the owner of Cygnal Consulting, LLC— a project, enterprise, and emergency risk firm consulting to utilities, municipalities, and businesses.

MYNDIE MCFARLAND of

Denver is a children’s book author. Her titles Squigley the Squirrel and The Tale of Oliver Esro can be found at all major booksellers. Myndie also has an architectural business in Denver where she designs residential homes.

CONNECT WITH US!

Whether you are a woman on the move, looking for events, new businesses in the area, or are willing to contribute your opinion, follow us by visiting www.facebook.com/lakenormanwoman or e-mail leslie@lakenormanwoman.com.

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FRIDAY & SATURDAY, MAY 10-11

North Carolina Brewers & Music Festival

SATURDAY & SUNDAY, MAY 11-12

Mother’s Day Weekend At Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden

A celebration of great music, North Carolina, and its craft brewing traditions, this event features eleven bands, brewers, and free tastings.

Celebrate Mother’s Day by strolling the gardens, taking a carriage ride, enjoying lunch from a food truck, sipping a mimosa, listening to live music, and more.

$8-$80 / Times Vary Rural Hill Farm 4431 Neck Road Huntersville

$6.95-$12.95 / 9am-5pm Daniel Stowe Botanical Gardens 6500 South New Hope Road, Belmont

More Information: www.ncbrewsmusic.com

More Information: www.dsbg.org

SATURDAY, MAY 11

36th Annual Race City Festival This outdoor festival features local merchants, arts & cultural exhibits, NASCAR displays and souvenirs, live music, food trucks, and a beer garden. Admission is free.

Asian Festival & Dragon Boat Race Celebrate the culture, traditions, and history of Asian Americans through dancing, sharing traditional meals, observing and appreciating their rich history, and dragon boat racing. No on-site parking.

Free admission / 9am-4pm Ramsey Creek Park 8441 Nantz Road, Cornelius More Information: www.charlottedragonboat.com

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3rd Annual Lake Norman Festival of the Arts

Experience a range of phenomenal creations ranging from beautiful sculptures, photography, glass, paintings, ceramics, one-of-a-kind jewelry, and mixed media.

MAY 2019

SATURDAY, MAY 18

Free Admission / 9am-5pm Downtown Mooresville

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Free Admission / 10am-5pm Birkdale Village 16805 Birkdale Commons Parkway, Huntersville More Information: birkdalevillage.net/events

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Be SCENE with the staff of Lake Norman Woman or the magazine we create!

The 2019 LKNW Amazing Girls gather for their photoshoot at Spare Time in Huntersville. Be sure to check out our June issue for the full Amazing Girls SCENE.

April Cover Girl Naomi Bjerke with LKNW’s Stephanie and Chelsea at a recent photoshoot

scene

with LKNW's adorable Stephanie!

LKNW’s Stephanie pays a visit to Charlotte Parris, co-owner of Mainstream Boutique of Lake Norman in Mooresville.

TAG US IN YOUR PHOTOS WITH A COPY OF LKNW OR EMAIL THEM TO DANA@ LAKENORMANWOMAN.COM TO BE FEATURED!

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LKNW’s Stephanie alongside Lucy Brown, regional manager of LG Electronics of Charlotte (left) and Nevins, Inc. director of development and strategic partnerships, Pamela Glass (above), donning their green for St. Patty’s Day

HAPPY

mother’s day!

If

MOTHER’S DAY GIFT IDEA Specifically designed to cut out and place in a 5x7 picture frame.

the mountain seems too big today, then climb a hill instead;

If the morning brings you sadness, it’s ok to stay in bed; If the day ahead weighs heavy, and your plans feel like a curse; There’s no shame in rearranging, don’t make yourself feel worse; If a shower stings like needles, and a bath feels like you’ll drown; If you haven’t washed your hair for days, don’t throw away your crown.

A day is not a lifetime … a rest is not defeat; Don’t think of it as failure, just a quiet, kind retreat; It’s ok to take a moment from an anxious, fractured mind; The world will not stop turning while you get realigned; The mountain will still be there when you want to try again; You can climb it in your own time, just love yourself ‘til then!

LAURA DING-EDWARDS ©

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Nancy Carrier SHE’S MY HERO:

LKN TOWN:

Hickory

NOMINATED BY:

Publisher, Dana Nieters

REASON FOR NOMINATION:

My mom is pretty darn special. I don’t tell her enough how much I appreciate her, but I am forever grateful for her daily acts of kindness, gentle guidance, solid wisdom, and willingness to always put family first.

She was more of a “submarine” parent than a helicopter parent.

My mom let me sink or swim, even though I’m certain some of my worst plummets were hard to watch. But she knew that I needed to make my own mistakes in order to develop coping skills and learn how to manage life’s challenges. She never let me drown, though, always picking me up off the bottom with support, compassion, chicken soup, or bail money.

She knows not to wear white after Labor Day and other useful stuff.

My mom has saved me a lot of embarrassment over the years. Without her, I would have worn white shoes to many a September gathering or shown up without a bottle of wine for the hostess.

Nothing is TMI when it comes to our motherdaughter talks.

I can talk to my mom about anything, no matter how weird, embarrassing, or silly it may be.

She’ll listen without judgement and with only the occasional “I told you so!” Unfortunately for her, my oldest sons feel the same way and tell her far more than she wants to know about the intimate details of their lives.

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She laughs at all the right times…and knows the right time for other things, too.

Mom always laughs at a story of mine that no one else seems to find humorous.

And if I’m in the midst of one of my rants, she’ll zing in a funny observation causing me to chortle. But when the situation is a bit too serious for a humorous one-liner, I know she’ll pray for me and encourage me and support me no matter what.

She takes my side, even when I’m CLEARLY wrong.

Though my mom holds me accountable and lets me know when I’ve misstepped, woe to anyone else who finds fault with her daughter. I’m not sure this is terribly healthy, but it is nice to know that someone always has my back. It’s my mom, and I can count on her always, even when I don’t deserve it. w

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talking to your teen about her body can be tricky! self-love. “Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter,” Koppelkam writes, “or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals … ."

www.stageoflife.com, more than half of all teen girls have a negative reaction when it comes to body image; 65 percent are afraid of gaining weight; 44 percent skip meals in an attempt to control weight; and 31 percent have been on a diet within the last six months. An hour in front of the television or online, and it is easy to see why our teen girls struggle.

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Koppelkam’s article continues along the same lines with some great advice for girls of all ages:

In a recent article, "How to Talk to Your Daughter About Her Body," author Sarah Koppelkam suggests we don’t talk to our daughters about their bodies per se but instead offer verbiage such as: “You look so healthy”; or “You’re looking so strong”; or “I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Another thing we adults are guilty of is commenting on others’ bodies in front of our teens … many folks agree with Koppelkam when she says, “Don’t comment on other women’s bodies … nope … not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.”

Teaching our children about kindness towards others is very important but be sure to reiterate the importance of

• Prove by example that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

• Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

• Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

• Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake.

• Pass on your love of being outside.

Koppelkam also has some great advice when it comes to exercise and sports, suggesting that we encourage our daughters to participate for the right

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reasons. “Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed,” she suggests. “Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe.

Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.”

The bottom line is that the focus when it comes to girls and sporting activities and exercise should not be on body toning but on how sports makes us stronger and healthier.

Perhaps Koppelkam’s best advice is to focus on what our bodies can do, and not on what they lack or have too much of.

She says: “Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages.

It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants. Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.” w

Source: www.huffpost.com/author/sarah-koppelkam; Author: Sarah Koppelkam

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Early in 2019, Barnes & Noble released research that revealed women authors are significantly outselling men across the country when it comes to books. Here at Lake Norman Woman Magazine, we have seen this first-hand with all the amazing local authors we have met who have finally found bookshelf success! So much so that we have launched our own LKNW Book Buzz Promotional Package especially priced and structured for our Lake Norman women authors.

the

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Women authors are soaring to success!

Please contact Leslie@LakeNormanWoman.com for more information!

“Book publishing today offers authors many more opportunities with a wide array of options,” says local bestselling author and LKNW contributing writer, Cyndy Etler . “Innovations such as e-book publishing and POD (print on demand) services give writers other avenues for publication—especially if they can’t (or don’t want to) find a traditional publishing house to take on their title.”

Cyndy Etler is the author of two award-winning, bestselling titles, The Dead Inside and We Can’t Be Friends, both true accounts of Cyndy’s own remarkable life struggles and triumphs. Also the founder of The Teen Life Coach (www.theteenlifecoach.com) and the creator of 1st Block Revolution, a literacy program for struggling teens, Cyndy offers these tips for writers, aspiring writers, and published authors alike:

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It is work, so schedule it as such.

Often women feel that writing is a pastime or hobby, subsequently lumping it into “leisure time” ... which often winds itself rapidly to the back burner. Even if it’s just the “15-minute rule,” set aside a specific amount of time each day to write.

Find a community. It’s easy to find yourself alone with your laptop too frequently so get engaged with other writers. Check out local community colleges, adult education centers, libraries, online writing courses, bookstores, and coffee shops that host readings—or start your own group.

Be mindful of distractions. If writing at home is too distracting, don’t feel guilty to announce to the family that you’re going to the park, to the library, to the coffee shop … whatever you need to do to concentrate, get in the groove, and get it on paper.

Live well. Be sure to incorporate selflove into your schedule. This means daily meditation/prayer, exercise, eating right, getting recuperative sleep, and laughing a lot! w

Hopewell Presbyterian Church invites you to join us:

Help us create a new worship experience…See you at The Well!

For more information visit hopewellpresbyterian.com or call our office: (704) 875-2291 10500 Beatties Ford Rd

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8 things

Send a soldier a care package

Teach your children how to raise and fold the flag

Attend a parade

8 PATRIOTIC WAYS TO

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Make patriotic crafts to decorate your home

Make a patriotic dessert

Read a book about the holiday to your family

Visit a veteran’s cemetery Visit a war memorial

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balance harmony AND A ND

“I’ve always had a Type A personality,” she admits. From creating a super-organized life with color-coded calendars to participating in many exercise programs, Rachel suddenly found herself sick for six months. “At one point, I was working my full-time job and four part-time jobs simply because I truly enjoyed each one,” she explains. The stress-induced illness included the loss of her voice for four months. “I realized that I really needed to find a balance in doing the things I enjoy, learn to say no, unapologetically, and make adjustments so that my mental and physical health is a priority.” Rachel says that more than anything else the experience strengthened her faith, and she learned that letting go is often the first step before things fall into place. “I remind myself each day to do what helps me live the healthiest life that I actually enjoy living, and celebrate it when I do,” she smiles.

rachel davis Harmony Nutrition & Lactation

So often people aren’t able to live a healthy, enjoyable life.

Rachel recognized that in her own family members and friends. Some had even lost loved ones and it sparked her passion for nutrition. “I was saddened by the fact that many individuals were suffering from ailments that most likely could have been prevented simply by having proper nutrition and wholesome foods,” she explains.

CHARLOTTE, NC

B A L A N C E – I S N ’ T I T W H AT W E A L L

S T R I V E F O R ? Balance comes in many

forms … in work and home, in our meals, in movement and in rest. Rachel Davis, owner of Harmony Nutrition & Lactation in Charlotte, knows how important it is to have balance in your life. The Columbia, South Carolina, native graduated from Pennsylvania State University with a degree in nutritional sciences and became a registered dietitian a short time afterward.

Further curiosity in preventative measures for obtaining good health prompted her to return to school, earning a master’s in public health from UNC-Chapel Hill. Rachel is also a board-certified lactation consultant.

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Along with the love of food, Rachel also loves babies. From a young age, she would watch a variety of cooking shows and shows about babies, and read many books on the topics. “I was fascinated,” she exclaims. Her family instilled in her the desire to serve others and stressed the importance of maintaining health and wellbeing. “This was something I loved and quickly realized it brought me joy.”

Make it a great day!

Rachel’s family continues to be an inspiration to her. “My parents and older brother show me that we should enjoy life and that we can work towards almost anything we put our mind to – by doing so in smart ways, not necessarily working harder,” she says. Her mother has given Rachel her single best piece of advice: Make it a great day! Even though it is a short and simple statement, Rachel gleans wisdom from this. “Every day is a fresh start, no matter what was brought on from the day before, we should be grateful for simply waking up and having another chance to enjoy life,” she concludes. “Enjoy your life, slow down, be patient with yourself, and strive for balance.” w WRITER MICHELLE LOVE

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Eas E asy Chess Bars asy With Cream Cheese

Whip this easy recipe up for Mother’s Day Brunch and it’s sure to be a hit! Get creative by trying different flavor cake mixes such as lemon, strawberry, and chocolate.

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Perks of the job!

Preheat oven to 325

1 and spray a 9×13 dish

with cooking spray.

1 Box of cake mix 3 Eggs 8 oz pkg of cream cheese 4 cups powdered sugar 1 stick butter

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Combine cake mix, 2 melted butter, and one egg to a soft dough. Press into the bottom of the pan.

Mix powdered sugar,

3 softened cream

cheese, and remaining two

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4 crust and spread

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edges are golden brown.

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MEMORIES FROM PAGES PAST

“The right pair of shoes can change your life!”

—Wonder Woman (You can also ask Cinderella or Dorothy).

MAY 2016

In honor of Mother’s Day, in May of 2017, LKNW featured mother-daughter dynamic duo Charlotte Parris and Anitra Mitchell, co-owners of Mainstream Boutique of Lake Norman.

MAY 2019

MAY 2016 Kim Mehta graced the cover in M A Y 2 0 1 8

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The first of our annual salutes to LKN’s female veterans and real-life SHE-roes.

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B E T T E R M E … B E T T E R YO U … B E T T E R W O R L D

MIND body spirit By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.

seize the day

moment

BY SEIZING THE

In today’s world, we are often overwhelmed by stress due to deadlines, distractions, and demands while we run from pillar to post. Interesting, the Chinese pictograph for “busy” is composed of two characters meaning “heart” and “killing.”

It’s easy to spend a lot of time in the past, thinking about what was or what could have been. It’s just as easy to project into the future, worrying about what might happen. This means we’re often not connected to all the amazing things that occur around us at any moment.

Every morning, my husband and I seize the day by sitting in the living room, enjoying a cup of coffee, and writing our gratitude list. We have filled numerous journals with our daily reflections of what we appreciate … the small details of our lives that are easily overlooked.

I practice mindfulness through my daily rounds. I may relish a moment when I am slicing a tomato and smelling the fragrance of freshness, or observe the serenity of my cat, Cashmere, sleeping on the dining room chair, or listen to the relaxing piano music of George Winston wafting through the house. It’s instances like these that land on my gratitude list. They are treasured

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moments I don’t want to forget. Gratitude deepens my mindfulness.

There are some other simple tools I employ that help me to live my precious life with more presence and engage with more moments of my day. For example, if I feel like I am being swept away by my thoughts, I pause and become aware of my senses.

What colors do I see? What can I smell? I stop to listen.

I often touch something close by. These moments of mindfulness assist me to pay attention to what’s right in front of me.

Deep, diaphragmatic breathing is one of the most effective ways that can usher me right into the present moment. By taking deep breaths into my belly, exhaling completely between 10 – 15 times, I become grounded and centered. It reminds me to be right here “in the now.”

And lastly, I’ll connect with nature. Sometimes it is just sitting quietly by my window overlooking my garden with a cup of chai tea. Sometimes it is walking through the forest and appreciating the bird song of a Carolina Wren, the soft sound of the wind moving through the tops of the pines, or seeing the occasional rabbit scurry about. This reminds me that I am surrounded by such beauty if I just take a minute to slow down and notice.

Mark Nepo, the famous poet, philosopher, and author said, “Have the life you want by being present to the life you have.” We can seize our day by savoring more of the moments that comprise our day. Then we can watch how our heart unfurls like a gardenia on the first days of spring with a deepening sense of gratitude for the life we are living. w

Mimi Sherman is a credentialed Mindfulness Meditation Instructor through the Society of Holistic Therapists and Coaches and is a member of the International Association of Meditation Instructors. You may reach her via her website at www.breathe-mindfulness.com.

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