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O N C E A G A I N it’s the time of year

to reflect and give thanks. Heck, Oprah Winfrey practices intentional gratitude all year long, listing nightly five things for which she is grateful at that moment. For some folks, though, overt, conscious expressions of gratitude don’t come easily or naturally; for others, troubled minds and heavy hearts can make gratitude of any measure difficult to contemplate. I find myself struggling with expressing gratitude as the holiday season approaches, though I know without doubt that I’m blessed beyond measure. The problem is that I allow the busyness of this time of year to turn me into a moody, growling, frenzied mess who feels more like climbing Mt. Crumpet and dumping the holidays and all its trimmings and trappings right off the top. My husband knows this all too well—last year at Thanksgiving he fancied himself delightfully funny when he kicked off our “jolly” holiday season by presenting me with a sweatshirt bearing a huge image of the King of Crotchedy himself, the Grinch.

Don’t get me wrong with this next statement; I adore Oprah, and I’m aware that there is scientific evidence showing that expressing gratitude has positive effects on your psychological well-being, your relationships, and your physical health. However, I’m certain I would be less of a holiday curmudgeon and more of a gratitude journaling enthusiast if I were Oprah Winfrey. For us non-billionaire, ordinary folk who have to clean our own turkey fryers, untangle the knotted mess of Christmas lights that went into the box neatly folded 11 months before, and compose family Christmas letters that make our quiet lives seem as extraordinary as those in the letters we receive, gratitude is not always so easily voiced.

about the busy holiday season—there are so many who struggle this time of year with so much more. One thing I know for sure, though, is life’s troubles become more bearable with the healing power of time and the sustenance of God’s goodness. For that we can be grateful. And in the meantime, we can laugh, can’t we? After all, laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict, and so I’m grateful for it, too.

I couldn’t help but chortle when I read the following Thanksgiving quotes. I hope they make you smile, too, and I hope that when it’s your turn to express what you’re thankful for at the Thanksgiving dinner table, you’re able to come up with a list so long everyone has to indulge in a second helping of pumpkin pie while you pontificate.

“Thanksgiving is not a good day to be my pants.” (Kevin James) “[On Thanksgiving], people travel thousands of miles to be with people they only see once a year. And then discover once a year is way too often.” (Johnny Carson) “Thanksgiving—when the people who are the most thankful are the ones who didn’t have to cook.” (Melanie White) Happy Thanksgiving from all of us at Lake Norman Woman!

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KEEPING IT REAL I was drawn toward prenatal yoga because of its positive impact on my own pregnancy with my daughter. And having taught school years ago, I missed teaching children as well. Children bring such an authenticity and open heart to activities, and in this current day and age, the benefits of yoga for children is so great!

I am thankful for my family—my husband of 19 years, our daughter, and our two fur babies. We have challenges like most families, but we always manage to laugh more often than not.

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GLENDA THE GOOD WITCH WAS A YOGI, TOO! I love showing people that yoga empowers them to heal and strengthen their minds and bodies all by themselves!

To quote Glenda the Good Witch from The Wizard of Oz, “You’ve always had the power, my dear. You’ve had it all along.”

LABOR AND DELIVERY’S SECRET WEAPON Yoga can help make labor and delivery easier. By holding safe but challenging poses, a woman is able to tap into her mind and use breathing techniques that can help prepare her body and mind for labor. It also serves as a powerful reminder that though pregnancy changes our bodies, pregnant women can still be very strong!

THANKSGIVING’S GONE TO THE DOGS

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday! My daughter helps me with the cooking while we watch the National Dog Show on TV and discuss our favorite dogs.

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INSPIRATION FROM MOM AND ‘EM There are so many powerful women in my life! My mother inspires me with her patience and loving kindness and my mother-in-law does the same with her strength and confidence. As the survivor of domestic violence, my sister is a huge inspiration to me! I hope to inspire my daughter by showing her that finding your passion, working hard, and not giving up are so very important.

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If you are trying to decide on buying a bar height or counter height table for your space, keep these things in mind: . If your room is 8-9’ high, keep to the lower countertop height. Otherwise, the space will feel cramped.

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Counter stools fit at a counter height table or bar which is 36” high. The stools will be 24-26” in seat height.

GO TEAM! Tips to help you make a barstool selection, just in time for Thanksgiving & the big game.

A S T H E L E AV E S C H A N G E

and Thanksgiving is in view, I typically write about your beautiful table, gracious entertaining, and all things civilized. This year I am going to veer from that and head towards the big screen. That’s right, football! When we discuss being thankful, it is quite possible that someone at my table will indeed be thankful for Nick Saban and the Alabama Crimson Tide.

The trend to build/add on game rooms, wine bars, and man caves continues. In some cases, the great room transforms into an all-out football party room over the long Thanksgiving weekend. With these spaces, a key element has to be the barstool. Everyone wants them.

Turns out, a barstool photo is my number one most-liked photo.

Barstools are HOT! Therefore, I am going to share my tips on buying barstools.

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Bar Stools fit at a bar height table or bar which is 42” high. The stools are typically around 30” in seat height.

WOOD OR CUSHIONED SEAT

. If you are placing the tables at a window or on a deck in front of a main window, choose a countertop height as not to obstruct the view. . If you have tall family members and the height of the room allows for the bar height, go for the bar height table.

BACK OR BACKLESS BACKLESS Is the chair for a quick breakfast perch?

Do you need to save space by slipping the chair under the island to get it out of the way?

BACK Are your guests going to hang out and enjoy a game?

Are you going to do work on your countertop?

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. Choose a wood seat if the chairs

. Swivel chairs are great for getting in and out of without dragging a chair around.

are for quick snack or breakfast use or you have children who might make a mess.

. Choose a swivel chair with memory so that the chair always ends up facing straight at the counter.

. Choose an upholstered seat if you plan to use the chair for more than 15 minutes. . If you are concerned about food and messes, choose a performance fabric.

. Do not buy a swivel chair that does not have a smaller base. I see it all the time in national catalogs, swivel chairs with bases that are just as big as the seat. When the seat is turned the base hits your legs. Awful!

WOOD OR METAL

. Metal arms may nick your countertop when the chair is moved around carelessly, so be careful. . Metal legs can take a beating.

ARMS OR ARMLESS . Arms are great for lounging. . Armless chairs are easier to

get in and out of when they do not swivel. . Arms can make a tight

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can be specified to match your floor or furnishings.

When measuring your space, leave 26-30” from the middle of the first stool to the middle of the next and so on.

Starr Miller is the president and principal designer at StarrMiller Interior Design, Inc. Contact her at 704.896.3321 or visit www.starrmiller.com.

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TIPS FOR BUYING YOUR NEXT CAR D I D YO U K N O W T H AT W O M E N C O N T R O L more

than 60 percent of all personal wealth in the U.S. and account for nearly 85 percent of all consumer purchases?

And, according to CNW Marketing Research, almost 50 percent of primary vehicle buyers are women. That’s why many car dealerships are making meeting the needs of women buyers a top priority.

As with any large purchase, it is important to do your homework.

That way, you can arrive at the dealership(s) with your handy folder full of facts well prepared for the negotiations.

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Shop for financing terms at different financial institutions and get prequalified for an auto loan before you step onto any car lot. Check interest rates at banks, credit unions, or online financial sites to see which offers you the best rate. If the dealer can offer you better, great!

Research the invoice price on the car you want so you can speak intelligently with the sales rep and negotiate accordingly.

Don’t focus on the monthly payment … in good negotiations, you just want the fairest price on the vehicle, and competent salespeople will work with you on that.

Research safety features. Antilock brake systems, electronic stability control, and head-protecting side air bags, for example, are effective and well worth the money.

The bottom line is to prepare well, do your research, and find a dealership that works for you. There are dealers who work hard to make you feel comfortable and at ease. They want to HELP you through the process, not hinder it. Car buying does not have to be a stressful event … it should be fun and exciting!

Be sure to shop around and compare apples to apples … make certain the dealerships are offering you the same or comparable pricing/ packages/deals.

Don’t be emotional … it’s business! Set time limits on how long you will be on the lot to negotiate, test drive, etc., and then be prepared to walk.

Take a friend along. Everyone needs a wingman by their side during important events, and car buying is no different. Having someone with you to discuss options, explore new questions, and simply see things through a different lens will behoove you greatly.

Robin Smith-Salzman is coowner and marketing director at Lake Norman Chrysler Dodge Jeep Ram located at 20700 Torrence Chapel Road in Cornelius. Robin can be reached at rsmith@lakenormanchrysler.com.

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LKNW RECOGNIZES A WOMAN DOING EXCEPTIONAL WORK IN THE LAKE N O R M A N C O M M U N I T Y, A L E A D E R W H O I S PAV I N G T H E WAY T O C H A N G I N G O U R AT T I T U D E S A N D I N S P I R I N G C O N F I D E N C E I N T H E F U T U R E .

on BECOMING A VETERINARIAN:

I was about 8 years old when I saw a veterinarian treat my horse for a very painful colic, and right then I knew that is what I wanted to do with my life! That same veterinarian let me work with his group when I started high school, and I also was able to work intermittently with them during college and vet school. When I was ready to run my own practice, the veterinarian and his wife, who was also a veterinarian, mentored me. They guided me on how to run my practice and make it work for my family life.

on HAVING FUN: I love to ride horses, although my horse has been retired for some time. I enjoy spending time outside brushing him and walking him around my family’s small horse farm. It’s very therapeutic! Most days I enjoy a long walk with my kids, and as a family, we love to travel to the beach. I have done a decent amount of traveling internationally, and hope to take my children as many places as possible when they get to an appropriate age for flying – no thank you to 5-month-olds and airplanes! on LEARNING HARD LESSONS:

There will always be a fire to put out, but you can’t let it continuously get to you. My dad helped me learn this over the past few years as I have tackled small business ownership. He owned a small business for over 35 years, so he has a lot of advice and experience to share from years of trial and error. Some things get easier but there is always something that will need to be dealt with. I believe that you must do what it takes to live the life you want, and don’t let other people’s expectations get in your way.

Dr. Madison Cloninger Mooresville Animal Hospital OWNER & VETERINARIAN

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THINGS CONTRIBUTING TO MY SUCCESS: I meet with a counselor twice

monthly to reflect on how I handle things in my personal and professional life. It is very helpful to take that time to step back, consider what is going on in your life, how you are dealing with things, how you could handle it better, and decide where you want to go instead of just going. It is well worth the time and money!

Dr. Madison Cloninger is a veterinarian and the owner of Mooresville Animal Hospital, 2681 Charlotte Highway in Mooresville. For more information, please call 704.664.4087 or visit their website www.mooresvilleanimalhospital.com.

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MEGAN BYRD and CATHY ULICNY are co-

founders of Snugwicks, LLC, which just launched this past summer. Snugwicks designs and produces wearable, comfortable, absorbent, and innovative pet gear which pampers furry family members while making life as a pet owner a little easier.

CYNDY ETLER is a board-

certified life coach based in Charlotte—specializing in teens, young adults, and youthful adults.

She helps clients understand what they truly want in life, what holds them back from achieving those goals, and how to get around the stumbling blocks with fun, simple strategies.

TRACY PRAY BRADSHAW,

licensed real estate agent with Allen Tate in the Cornelius/ Lake Norman office, recently attained the certification of CLHMS—Certified Luxury Home Marketing Specialist.

Tracy earned this in order to better serve her clients as a luxury listing and marketing expert in million dollar properties and above.

Mooresville resident JENA MARINO,

owner/proprietor of SNIFF N RESCUE Candles, LLC, makes clean-burning, eco-friendly, hand-poured soy wax candles and donates 15 percent of the proceeds to a certified animal rescue each month.

CONNECT Whether you are a woman on the move, looking WITH US! for events, new businesses in the area, or are willing to contribute your opinion, follow us by visiting www.facebook.com/lakenormanwoman or e-mail leslie@lakenormanwoman.com.

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BE SCENE LAKE NORMAN WOMAN is getting out and about each month, looking for great events and the fabulous and exciting Lake Norman people who are making them happen!

So next time you’re at a chamber event, a new business in the area, or just out having fun, look for Lake Norman Woman and our camera.

Who knows, you just might find yourself in next month’s “SCENE WITH LAKE NORMAN WOMAN!”

LKNW's Chelsea and Dana at our November cover shoot at Richard's Coffee Shop in Mooresville

Mooresville Senior High School student and LKNW intern, Caitlyn Yaede, with Art Director, Chelsea, at our November cover shoot

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LKNW’s Dana and Jayme Taylor with the winners of the “Cutest Pet in LKN Contest,” Cash & Waffles

LKNW’s Stephanie with Michelle Love and daughter Carly at a North Lincoln High School pep rally for Michelle’s charity Stand Firm Warrior Foundation

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LAKE NORMAN WOMAN'S PARTY IN PINK LAKE NORMAN WOMAN hosted its First Annual Party in Pink in celebration of Breast Cancer Awareness last month. We had a full boat of party goers decked out in pink as we set out on the Carolina Grace for a sunset cruise around Lake Norman. The festivities included Bra Pong and a Best in Pink contest (congratulations Jeanine Hay), fabulous raffle prizes, the “Crush Breast Cancer” specialty drink, and special recognition for the breast cancer warriors in attendance. A portion of all proceeds will benefit Wind River Cancer Wellness Retreats & Programs. Thank you, all who attended, for advocating for this amazing cause, and thank you to our generous sponsors: South Lake Women’s Healthcare . Lineberger Or thodontics . Mecklenburg Radiology .

Southeast Radiation Oncology Group . More Than Faces Medical Spa . Iredell Health System

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VETERANS While the role of women in our military has expanded greatly over the years, women throughout history have stepped up the challenge and served our country. Lake Norman’s own Christine Williams, pictured here while she was serving in Fort Myers, Florida, was one of the 350,000 American women who served in uniform during World War II. These women not only contributed to the Allied victory, they paved the way for the 203,000 women currently serving in our armed forces, who make up nearly 15 percent of the military. LAKE NORMAN WOMAN would like to thank all the women who have honorably served and continue to serve our great nation this Veteran’s Day: we deeply appreciate the sacrifices you have made to keep our country free. In particular, we would like to extend a special thank you to a few of the women veterans who live and work right here in our community by sharing their stories with our readers.

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Did you serve during wartime or peacetime?

I joined during World War II. We (the women of the WAC) were the first women other than nurses to serve within the ranks of the United States Army. I did my basic training in Daytona Beach and was stationed in Fort Myers. We had a company of 150 women—two entire barracks. We did jobs to replace men who were going overseas for combat. I was in charge of all the personnel files on the base, but some women worked in the motor pools or did other work that was usually reserved for men.

What inspired you to join the military? Our nation was at war! Everything, everywhere was about the war, and it seemed everyone was joining—three of my own brothers were already serving. I wanted to do my part. I guess it was a family thing—eventually, eight out of eleven of my siblings served in the military at one time or another.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? I was born in Rowan County, then moved to Huntersville when I was in the 3rd grade and graduated from Huntersville High School. The WAC gave me the opportunity to see another part of this country. Our barracks was a three-story hotel that had been converted.

When we ate breakfast, we could see the sun coming up over the ocean, and we did our drills right on the beach! We had our own Post Exchange (PX) where we got together and talked when we weren’t on duty. They had a cabin for us on the beach, and they would load us up in the back of a truck and drive us all there. No guys allowed though!

What were your greatest challenges? I was a little homesick. In fact, the first two weeks, I was so homesick, I couldn’t even write home. My mother was worried that I had been sent overseas!

What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? The folks in the military are serving because they love their country. They consider it an honor and a privilege.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military?

Things are different today and a lot of people don’t understand how it was then—how much we loved this country and wanted to win the war. We were happy to make sacrifices to win. But it wasn’t so much a sacrifice as an honor. I wish young people today would see it as an honor, too, and I hope they have as wonderful of an experience as I did.

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and wartime. I was deployed to combat zones in Kuwait and also Djibouti, Africa.

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What inspired you to join the military? As

the daughter of a Vietnam veteran who served 32 years in the Army National Guard, I always admired my dad’s organization, structure, and attention to detail. Midway through my third semester of college, I found myself asking my father a lot of questions about his time in the service and realized I craved more excitement and an overwhelming desire toward something extraordinary. Shortly thereafter, I walked into the recruiting office and made the best decision of my life!

What is the best part of being in the armed services? The special bond you

BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Air Force YEARS SERVED: 1991-2015

share with your fellow service members, the travel, and the opportunity to serve in some of the most unique and rewarding jobs. I was the first woman in my unit to earn my “jump wings” and complete both water survival and combat survival schools. And, as an aerospace physiologist, I instructed over 6,000 pilots on the physiological effects of flight on the human body by training them in the altitude chamber and, what was at that time, the only human centrifuge used for aircrew training. What other “job” encourages you to jump out of planes, eat bugs, and repeatedly expose your body to 9G’s?!

What were your greatest challenges? I

loved my time in the service! So, actually, the biggest challenge has been transitioning from military to civilian life.

What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? We

are grateful for their support! Joining the military and raising your right hand to recite the oath is a commitment that we do not take lightly. Military life impacts not only the service member, but the immediate family members as well. In fact, my husband, Chris, founded “Macho Spouse,” an interactive online resource and educational video library offering life lessons, advice, and support for men who have wives serving in the military.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military?

The same advice I would give a male—bring a positive attitude, initiative, mutual respect, and a sense of humor! Whether you serve for four years or more than twenty years, the military provides a lasting foundation that will help you both personally and professionally.

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PAULA MEIER VEAZIE BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Air Force YEARS SERVED: 1965-1968

Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? I served in the U.S. Air Force during the Vietnam era. I was stationed at Sheppard Air Force Base in Wichita Falls, Texas, disappointed that it wasn’t an SAC (Strategic Air Command) base—the epitome of the Air Force in my opinion. I was assigned to the WAF (Women in the Air Force) Detachment and worked in accounting and finance training and then in budget training.

This is where all the Air Force training for those fields are taught.

What inspired you to join the military? I joined the service just like much of my family did. My mother, father, aunt, and two uncles served in the Army during World War II. I had my mother’s full support when I entered the military. She was a “Rosie the Riveter” at Lockheed in Los Angeles before joining the Army in December 1942. She was a WAC (Women’s Army Corps) in World War II, the first women other than nurses to serve within the ranks of the U.S. Army. I am

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very proud of my military family and they were all proud to have served their country.

What is the best part of being in the armed services?

For me, the very best part was that I met Don, my husband-to-be, three days after coming on base.

We were engaged two months later and married four months after that. We have been married for almost 54 years! I enjoyed meeting people from all over the world, serving my country, and learning leadership skills which carried on throughout my civilian career.

What were your greatest challenges? The greatest challenges back then were dealing with other members of the military who didn’t want to include women, and especially did not want to take orders from them! Airmen didn’t want to take orders from a female, nor salute one. I was 19 years old and the only female in an office of 13 men of various ranks.

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the exception of a first lieutenant who didn’t care for women in the military. I remember some male airmen being surprised that a female first lieutenant in our building had a sharpshooter medal.

What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? I would want Americans to know that the members of our military make all types of sacrifices to keep this country safe and secure. Members of the military sacrifice time with their families, relocate often, and suffer from health problems that they would not have had otherwise. We may not all be on the battlefield, but we should support those who are. I am proud to say I served my country.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? My advice to a young woman wanting to join the military is to go for it! You will never be prouder of your accomplishments.

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Did you serve during wartime or peacetime?

I joined the U.S. Army National Guard in 1973 during peacetime at the age of 18 as one of the first females to enlist in a Field Artillery Unit in North Carolina. I served as an admin/supply technician until 1977 and then transferred to the North Carolina Air National Guard, becoming the first female to join the Flying Squadron as an operation specialist. A full-time technician for 10 years of my service, I spent my remaining years serving as a part-time guardsman. Retiring from the Air National Guard in 1994 with 21 years of service, I remain heavily involved in the military community and civil service through various military organizations.

What inspired you to join the military? My inspiration for joining the military was my father. He had a 30-year career as an Air Force loadmaster. He was responsible for loading, securing, and escorting both cargo and passengers before a flight. I saw a lot of the world while my father was enlisted. I was born in San Diego but have lived in Dayton, Ohio; Trenton, New Jersey; Okinawa, Japan; and Stanley, North Carolina, before moving to Charlotte when I was 11 years old. I retired from the same Air Guard base where my father was stationed.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? I think the best part of being in the military is the extreme feeling of pride and honor of serving. Being in the military has given me a different outlook on life as well. When you travel to other countries and see the conditions people live in, it tends to give you a bigger appreciation for our great country. If I could go back in time, I would do it all again, and more!

What were your greatest challenges? When I went to basic training at Fort McClellan, it was my first time away from home. It was very difficult, but it really did teach me how to survive. Being a female in an all-male unit was also a challenge. I slept in separate sleeping tents, and we had separate bathrooms and showers when we were out in the field. There was separation in those ways, but you also had to jump in and be a part of the team.

BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Army National Guard and Air National Guard YEARS SERVED: 1973-1994

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What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? I truly appreciate Americans who stand up for our flag and put their hand over their heart—be proud and thankful! Soldiers before us died so that we could have our freedom and choice to agree or disagree.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? If a young woman was thinking about joining the military, I would want her to join for the right reasons—to serve and protect her country. I wouldn’t want her to join because she is a woman, but because of the mission.

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JENNIFER ZIEGLER BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Navy Reserve YEARS SERVED: 1993-1999

After working two part-time jobs during my first semester at the University of Buffalo, I was nervous about borrowing the full cost of a college education, and I decided to investigate possibilities available in the military. I learned of a new program that allowed college students to serve as reservists and continue their college studies. I enlisted and left for boot camp in February 1993 in Orlando, Florida.

After my training, I relocated to Greensboro, North Carolina. I waited a year to establish residency in North Carolina and applied to the University of North Carolina at Greensboro and was accepted.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? The best part was the people. I was amazed at the sense of community and the culture of unity in the military commands I served—we were accepted into the fold immediately. Serving in the Navy also expanded my horizons and worldview. I learned so much, and I grew as a person. It allowed me to visit many beautiful places in the world, it brought me into the field of finance, and it sparked my love for running.

What were your greatest challenges?

After your term of duty, typically there are two years of ready reserve attached to your contract when you discharge. My period of ready reserve was from March 1999 through March 2001. After 9/11, every member of my unit was recalled for active duty and had only three days to prepare to leave their families, jobs, and community for one full year.

Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? I served during peacetime.

While in Greensboro, I was attached to the Personnel Support Detachment Unit, which supported Southern European commands.

My service allowed the active duty service members to go on leave to see their families.

What inspired you to join the military? I was a first generation college student in my family and was financially responsible for my higher education expenses.

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What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel?

Every soldier has a story, one that involves sacrifice. The families of military personnel also make great sacrifices. These sacrifices are made to support our freedoms and defend our country. Each time I see a person in uniform, I offer thanks.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? I would encourage women to look at the military as a means of supporting their education. Women can excel and separate themselves by their service. Every interview I’ve ever had, the Navy has stood out on my resume. The Navy continues to pay me back more than I have ever given.

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KATHI HARWARD BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Army YEARS SERVED: 2001-2003

Did you serve during wartime or peacetime?

I served during the beginning of the Iraq war, but never deployed due to a pending medical discharge. I was diagnosed with aerobic and environmental-induced asthma. While the symptoms are controllable in civilian settings, my PT (physical training) test had to be altered, and I was unable to wear the chemical gear during field training.

What inspired you to join the military? My inspiration was to get out of dead-end jobs. I had just moved home and was reevaluating my life. I wanted to work with children and knew that I had to go to college to do so. A friend who was Army Reserve connected me with a recruiter, who told me about the Army’s college benefits. I earned both my associate’s and my bachelor’s degree. My education provided focus and discipline, as I did most of my schooling online while raising two daughters, as well as opening up my career path.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? Meeting my husband! After cleaning up and running errands, I came back to the barracks and found a new recruit talking with my friend who was on CQ (Company Quarters) watch. He made silly comments to me as I spoke with my friend. Later that day, I realized I had left my keys in my room…and locked my door. The recruit crawled into my window, let me in so I could get my keys, and asked me if I’d like to join him and his friends at the fair in town. I said yes, and the rest is history.

What were your greatest challenges? My greatest challenge was still being in the Army, but not deployed, while my husband was deployed. He spent our first wedding anniversary in Iraq. I tried to keep my mind off it by spending time with friends whose husbands were also deployed. While he was able to call and wish me a happy anniversary, we saved our real celebration for when he returned from deployment.

What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? Serving in the military is not a 9-5 job. It is not what some people portray it to be. There is a lot of training a person must complete before they graduate basic training, and that training continues during their military career. It can be both mentally and physically exhausting.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. If joining the military is something you want to do, then go for it!

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VICKY TURNER BRANCH OF ARMED SERVICES: Navy YEARS SERVED: 1980-2005 Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? I joined the military in 1980 during peacetime. Although I was not called to deploy to a combat zone, we entered into a succession of conflicts that continue today. For the majority of my career, women were not assigned to combat zones and were still restricted from being assigned to some jobs.

What inspired you to join the military? The short answer is my mother. Growing up, my mother regaled us with stories of her and my father’s Navy exploits—he graduated from the United States Merchant Marine Academy (1949) and was commissioned a naval officer, and she enlisted in the Navy and served for a couple of years as a photographer’s mate. While neither of my parents were on active duty while raising us, their experiences were part of our daily lives, and we witnessed the camaraderie of belonging to a unique group like the U.S. Merchant Marine

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Academy. My grandmother also served in the Navy during World War I from approximately 1916-1918. She was an administrator, referred to as yeomanette.

We now have a fourth-generation woman in our family serving in the military—my niece graduated from the United States Merchant Marine Academy and is currently serving on active duty in the Navy.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? During my career, I was assigned to a wide variety of challenging, interesting, and demanding jobs. I worked with and for many highly-trained, intelligent, creative, and exceptional people and experienced more than I could have imagined.

What were your greatest challenges? When I joined the Navy, women were becoming more prevalent in areas formerly restricted, and there were few slots for women to be on ships

and a lot of candidates to fill them. Along the way, the career pattern for women changed over and over again in attempts to define our place in the Navy. As a result, at times it was difficult to know what to do and when to do it to ensure our viability within the very competitive environment of the naval service.

What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? Being a member of the United States Navy was a privilege and an honor. It was an extraordinary experience, and I would not have changed a thing.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? “Go for it!” But understand that you will be giving up a part of yourself for the benefit of your unit, your service, and our country, so you need to be “all in.”

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Did you serve during wartime or peacetime? In peacetime, during the post-Gulf War era.

What inspired you to join the military? The biggest inspiration behind my joining the military would have to be the leadership opportunities. The military offers a vast amount of training and education in so many areas. These skills are not only useful in civilian life but also for one’s career, as many companies prefer to hire veterans. The opportunity to travel all around the world appealed to me, as well. Having had the opportunity to be exposed to so many different cultures is something that I will remember fondly throughout my life.

What is the best part of being in the armed services? For me, the pleasure of serving my country was the best part of my service. In addition, the Navy taught me so much about growing up. As a member of the armed services, a person gains invaluable life skills such as consistency and deep loyalty to not only our country, but also to others. I have carried many of these lessons with me into adulthood, and into my career. I also took advantage of the many programs available for education. I was able to complete my master’s degree with very little out-of-pocket expense. The armed services and Department of Veterans Affairs took care of most of these expenses. For that alone, I am eternally grateful.

What were your greatest challenges? It was the first time I was away from my family and friends, and it was a complete lifestyle change. Through this experience, I learned that no matter how uncomfortable a situation is, you can adapt and overcome. Change is always present, and we must learn to adjust to it. This is one of the best life lessons I have ever learned.

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What would you like U.S. citizens to know about our military personnel? We fully grasp that one of the most valuable things, something we should all treasure and be grateful for, is freedom…which is provided to all of us in America.

What advice would you give to a female who is considering joining the military? I highly recommend it. The opportunities are endless, and you will have the honor of serving your country. I would do it all over again!

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as we ask you to remember and salute the women of our military, we also want to recognize the contributions and sacrifices made by the families and husbands left behind. Often forgotten, military spouses play a vital role in the support structure of our armed forces.

THIS YEAR,

“My years as a military spouse are something that I’m very proud of,” says Chris Pape, founder of the non-profit organization called Macho Spouse, which is geared to specifically support male military spouses. “My wife, Dana, served in both wartime and peacetime with the Air Force from 1991 to 2015 when she retired,” Chris continues, “and I saw the need for a platform like Macho Spouse.”

Gaining national recognition in 2014 and 2015, Chris was awarded Air Force Spouse of the Year honors from Military Spouse Magazine, Armed Forces Insurance, and the Air Education Training Command for his work on Macho Spouse. “The ability to forge such strong bonds with my wife, as well as my nation, is something not many get to experience,” Chris offers. “Being part of something bigger than yourself is a true honor and extremely humbling. I’ve met hundreds of incredibly strong, intelligent, and resilient military spouses over the years, and I’m still inspired by their stories.”

Needless to say, the life of a typical military family is challenging because military life puts unique strains on families as they struggle to manage multiple moves all over the world—leaving comfortable routines, friends, and schools. Add to that the stress of multiple deployments of loved ones, the terrifying thoughts of family members being placed in harm's way, and the challenges of finding/maintaining meaningful employment, and one can immediately see the serious stressors that cause many spouses to wrestle with depression, loneliness, and feelings of low self-worth.

“For male spouses,” Chris points out, “the challenges are usually compounded because we are a minority and often find ourselves isolated from the community. This type of low morale has led to higher divorce rates for female service members as compared to their male counterparts, and these negative, life-changing events aren’t good for military readiness.”

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Macho Spouse has grown into an online video library and a social media hub for other men living through similar situations. And, notes Chris, you won’t find a lot of complaining and negativity on this site, but rather encouragement and acceptance of their roles as military husbands.

“While Macho Spouse is the only male-specific resource for military family members,” Chris says, “our social media pages welcome both men and women to share their experiences and offer mentorship to new/young military families. Today there are more women serving in the military than at any other time in history, and Macho Spouse is proud to support them.”

Macho Spouse is an educational video series and online resource for male military spouses. It also offers community building through online forums and an interactive map that allows members to locate male military spouses all over the world. Visit them at www.malemilspouse.com.

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as the two of them have spent many hours in the kitchen together. “Some people may look at my lack of formal training as a weakness,” Ali continues, “but I have no rules to follow when creating desserts and cakes, so it really fuels my creativity!”

College sweethearts and best friends, Ali and her husband, Jacob, have been married for two years. Jacob is a native Charlottean, so the couple decided to relocate from West Virginia back to his home state. “We love the Lake Norman area because you are close enough to the city, but you still get the small-town vibes,” she explains. “Even though it was hard to move to where I didn’t know anyone, moving from West Virginia to North Carolina was a positive, lifechanging event for us.”

After settling in the area, Ali found Smallcakes and its owner, Eve Craig, who continues to inspire Ali through her ability to run a small business so successfully.

“Eve is such a hard worker,” she shares.

“We joke that I am her ‘mini-me’ because we have such similar mindsets and work ethics.” As such, the two find it very easy to work together, making business hours a pleasure and the reasons for Smallcakes’ success even more evident.

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While Ali earned a degree in business from Marshall University in West Virginia, she realized during the process that a normal business career just wasn’t ALI VIA, BAKERY MANAGER

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for her. “I decided instead,” Ali says, “to follow my love for baking and started working for a local baker in West Virginia.

“I’m self-taught,” Ali says, “so everything I know is through trial and error.” Her mom also inspired her passion for baking,

Her first role in a management position has required Ali to learn on the job, facing the challenges that come with the day-to-day business operations as well as managing the employees. “Eve encourages me to perfect my craft as a baker and as a manager,” says Ali, “and guides me to learn as I go.” Ali says that she really doesn’t have bad days. “I’m always happy,” she smiles. She often reminds herself to stay positive and remember that each day is a blessing. “I also remind myself that I have a dream job and that I get to do what I love,” she exclaims. “How great is that!”

For Ali, family is her top priority.

“Without their support, I probably wouldn’t have followed through on this career choice,” she explains. “I often reflect on something my mom would always say when I was growing up: ‘Be so good that people can’t NOT notice your work.’ Ali has applied that motherly wisdom to every aspect of her life, adding, “Don’t forget … life’s short, eat dessert first!”

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THE BENEFITS OF THANKFULNESS A L L O F U S H AV E T H E A B I L I T Y TO C U LT I VAT E G R AT I T U D E — every single day in the simplest of things— not just at Thanksgiving! It takes practice (for some more than others), but when you consciously make the decision to be grateful for EVERYTHING in your world, amazing things begin to happen. Research has discovered again and again that those of us who practice gratitude on a regular and consistent basis, reap an abundance of health and lifestyle benefits:

“Lots of things, from a compliment to a sugary treat, can bring little bursts of happiness,” explains one scientist. “But instant gratification also goes away quickly, which leaves you craving more. Gratitude is something that leads to much more sustainable forms of happiness because it’s not based in that immediate gratification; it’s a frame of mind. If you regularly take time to express gratitude and thankfulness, you’re likely to see results,” the article concludes.

Things such as healthy eating, going to the doctor, and exercise are all common traits, suggesting that giving thanks helps people appreciate and care for their bodies.

People who are grateful have better relationships, not just spousal, but with family, friends, and co-workers as well.

Research has found that feeling grateful helps people sleep better and longer. Positive thoughts before sleep soothe the nervous system, so this is a great time for prayers of thanks, meditation, and writing in your gratitude journal.

Gratitude replenishes willpower over food/booze. There is a connection between gratitude and patience, say psychologists, so feelings of gratitude can actually boost your impulse control, helping you to slow down and make better decisions in health and all other areas of your life.

For more information on the benefits of gratitude, visit www.psychologytoday.com.

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I’ve often heard both seller and buyer clients talk about the stress associated with listing a home or looking for one to purchase. Although the process itself may be stressful, it doesn’t mean you have to BE stressed. Whether you’re buying or selling, it does not have to be a negative event! Here are a few things to consider for sellers as well as buyers: OVER THE YEARS,

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The main thing here is S E L L E R S : to plan ahead and give yourself plenty of time before placing your home on the market. You will need to get your home in top showing condition. Your realtor can assist you with identifying what you should do prior to listing. Some common tasks sellers undertake include: packing all items that are not used every day; clear out closets and garage; sell/ donate/toss items you won’t be moving; update interior paint and make necessary repairs; get your home professionally inspected; have your home appraised for market value; and confirm your property is indeed recorded in your name.

In regards to the financial aspects, you will need to confirm payoff amount(s), and if you have a home equity loan you will also need to confirm that payoff amount. Pull together all your documents on your home that you have (surveys, building plan info, permits, septic design, deeds, repair invoices, etc.), and make a list of any updates/repairs you’ve made to your home over the years that would be of interest to the buyer or your realtor.

Buyers have a B U Y E R S : few stressors that can be alleviated by doing their homework as well—#1 on this list? Get preapproved before doing anything else! Then talk with your mortgage professional about where your down payment and closing cost monies will come from. The second thing to do is to call a realtor and hire them as a buyer’s agent.

You want an agent working on YOUR side, not the seller’s. I once saved a client $10,000 simply by doing my job as buyer’s agent. Had I been working for the seller, they would have had to pay that $10,000 out of pocket themselves at closing. It will save you stress, headaches, and sometimes lots of money having a buyer’s agent.

Finally, have an idea of where you want to move and what you absolutely must have in a home. Your realtor will be a great help with this but having a list of prerequisites will save you a lot of time and possibly save you from missing out on the home of your dreams.

The entire process of selling or buying (and finally moving!) can be stressful at times but by being prepared and staying informed, you will be able to stress less and enjoy the process a little more. Boxes can wait, memories can’t … enjoy the journey!

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Naomi Bjerke is the founder and broker-in-charge at Realty Boutique. Her office is located at 9820 Northcross Center Court, #50, in Huntersville.

You may reach her at 704.931.3133 or visit www.realtyboutiquenc.com.

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exponentially. It allowed me the opportunity to experience life as a single mother, opened the door to a new career, and gave me the second chance to have a happy and healthy marriage with five amazing children.

While I would not wish divorce for anyone, there is life on the other side of a bad marriage, and many times it is far brighter than one could ever imagine.

On a bad day, what keeps you going? On bad days, I take a

What is your favorite pastime? I find

serenity in exercise. I love to cycle with my husband and our “Bikelava” bike group in Charlotte, but my true happy place is on my yoga mat. In a world full of distractions, I cherish the opportunity to reconnect with my breath and inner self. My favorite family pastime is adventure travel (ski, SCUBA, safari, hiking). I find it so rewarding to see our children test their physical and mental boundaries within the context of nature.

What has been your single best piece of advice? “You must love yourself before

you can truly love someone else.” My best friend’s mom, Susan, gave me this advice when I was a freshman in high school and started to date my first serious boyfriend. The older I get the more I realize how much this one woman influenced my life, and in the process, made me a better person. I will forever be grateful for her presence in my life.

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Robin Perrigo-Mermans, Esq., is the owner of ROAD to RESOLUTION— Divorce, Mediation, & Family Law. You can reach her at 704.591.1186 or visit www.ROADtoRESOLUTION.com.

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VETERANS , AS WELL AS THEIR FAMILIES , often suffer

from an array of conditions after they return home. They tend to struggle with new feelings of depression or anxiety and can feel like they are just an observer in their own life. For some, their daily choices, and that of their family members, are now decided and acted out by medical staff personnel. And while healthcare has come a long way in becoming “person-centered” and “home-like,” which are measures to be appreciated, truly living in the moment and being able to celebrate one’s life as it presently is remains a dim glow for many of our veterans.

Humans have an innate desire to belong, to be a part of something bigger than themselves, and the need (perhaps especially for veterans) to know they are making a difference. When our veterans feel they are connected and making a difference, that is when the dim glow becomes a spark … a bright flame.

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dedication to our country and the ideals they hold as truths.

This spirit often comes with great sacrifice. Families—not exclusively spouses and children, but parents and siblings as well— live in a shadow of uncertainty and unknowns as military structure is replaced with civilian life. Some live with the ultimate sacrifice of losing a loved one while others have to accept a “new normal.”

Despite the difficulties, injuries, or lingering effects of military life, veterans forge ahead after discharge. They carry a tremendous

burden society does not always understand nor recognize. The plight of veterans is real. Somehow the magnitude of defending our country does not translate into just rewards.

Healthcare benefits are not equitable; long wait times for services and inadequate standards are the norm.

Until relatively recently, mental health issues had focused more on traditional rather than alternative methods, but advances in psychotherapy have hailed the introduction of equine assisted psychotherapy.

Eagala, an international equine assisted organization, has proven to impact veterans’ and their families’ lives. The Eagala Military Services approach is based on experience and doing. The treatment sessions recreate life experiences, including

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those involving frustrations, high stress, and relationship problems. This provides opportunities for service members and their families to discover their resources and strengths and overcome perceived obstacles to change and grow and heal.

Equine assisted psychotherapy fosters and encourages gratitude and joy to be found in common days, routine jobs, and ordinary opportunities. This mirrored by the horses diminishes adversities and overwhelming emotions. The horses’ eyes hold a reflection … images of hope, unconditional love, mutual respect, emotional connection, and intuitiveness.

The ease allows gratitude to emerge, replacing struggles with confidence, worries with solutions, and hurts with healing. The emergence of a grateful heart.

Katie Stankiewicz is the owner of Willow Equine and Mind, Body & Sole Equine. As a certified leadership coach and equine specialist, Katie transforms personal challenges into authentic successes with the aid of her horses and equine assisted personal development. For more information on her services, visit www.WillowEquinetherapy.com or call 704.237.0644.

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Primary Residential Mortgage, Inc., DBA Element Funding, NMLS #3094. PRMI is an Equal Housing Lender. Some products and services may not be available in all states. Credit and collateral are subject to approval. Terms and conditions apply.

Programs, rates, terms and conditions are subject to change and are subject to borrower(s) qualification. This is not a commitment to lend. North Carolina Commissioner of Banks L-112833. South Carolina Department of Consumer Affairs MLS3094, As Element Funding MLS-3094 OTN#1.

Angela and Brad Roche www.TheMortgagePlanner.net 704-728-0191