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A S I S AT D O W N AT M Y D E S K L A S T M O N T H TO W R I T E , I glanced

at the television for an update on Hurricane Dorian—the fourth devastating hurricane to unleash its fury on our beautiful coastline in only three years.

And that got me thinking about the storms in our own lives and how life itself is “hurricane territory”—a place in which we find ourselves battening down the hatches and searching for safe harbor time and time again.

Though I’m fortunate enough to have never faced cancer, I have been weathering a whopper of a storm recently, one that had me feeling as if I were alone on a tiny life raft about to be swallowed up by the turbulent waves that were crashing all around me. Making matters worse, the lack of a caring response by someone dear to me increased my feelings of isolation, vulnerability, and terror. My guess is that is what a cancer diagnosis must feel like, too—as if you are all alone in the middle of a tempestuous storm, barely able to stay afloat.

It doesn’t matter how strong we are, all of us endure times in our life in which our hearts are breaking and we feel like we’re sinking. It’s then that we discover our “lifeboat” people—the ones in our lives who don their life vests, climb aboard, and face the storm beside us, no matter how wild the ride. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the middle of a relationship storm; it doesn’t matter if your storm involves a health crisis, like breast cancer; it doesn’t matter if your storm scares the bejeebies out of them…your lifeboat people will not hesitate to get in your boat and man an oar.

Sometimes the people who hop in our boat are exactly who we expect, and sometimes, those we expect to weather the storm with us abandon ship. We learn a lot about them, either way. I realized that the people who bailed during my recent storm are never going to be who I need them to be, and that’s ok—they have their own voyage to sail. The people who did hop in my lifeboat came in all kinds of forms: family and friends, acquaintances, strangers, and even, I’m convinced, a few angels. Some of them did some really heavy rowing, keeping my boat on the surface when I was sure it was going under, and some of them simply placed their hand around my waist, letting me know they were there if I needed them, that they wouldn’t let me drown.

I know that there are clear skies and smoother sailing ahead of me—after all, every storm runs out of rain. Not only that, I’ve got a boatload full of family and friends who I’m not about to let down. And should they ever find themselves in the midst of their own hurricane, I will be by their side and they will hear me say loud and clear, “I am in your boat.” w

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LIVE, LEARN, Life takes practice! And though they don’t always come wrapped in a shiny red bow, the lessons we learn along the way are invaluable gifts that are worth sharing. Here are a few learned by some of the women featured in this issue:

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A profound lesson awaits you on page 52 where MARTHA JOHNSON of Piedmont

HealthCare shares with us the freedom in forgiveness:

“SHE IS CLOTHED IN STRENGTH AND DIGNITY AND SHE LAUGHS WITHOUT FEAR OF THE FUTURE.”

“It requires reflection, thought, effort, and even empathy – but it is absolutely worth it. True forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.”

See how a chance meeting at a wedding led ROBIN WHITLOCK (Infinite Wealth Advisors, LLC, in Mooresville) down her own road of romance and to a thriving business to boot! With goalsetting strategies and a never-give-up attitude, Robin shares some insights on page 16.

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Flip on over to page 32 to meet DR. AMANDA KOTIS, owner of Kotis Family Dentistry in Statesville. As a passionate, patient, and inspiring leader with a heart that outshines the sun, Dr. Kotis shares her philanthropic passion with our readers and shows us what kindness is all about.

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How did you meet your husband? I met my husband, Scott, at a

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wedding in Wilmington in 2001. A friend had asked me to accompany her to her cousin’s wedding. I was not looking for love, but Scott and I were introduced at the back of the church as we were leaving, and I knew he was the one. It was already a special day, as it would have been my grandmother’s birthday, who died unexpectedly two years prior. I did not know right away, but Scott had just recently lost his childhood best friend in the terrorist attacks on the Pentagon. It seemed that we were both unknowingly searching for something that day. We married on November 5, 2011, and on January 21, 2013, we brought the love of our lives into this world. Our son, William Ross, is now 6 years old.

What common threads have you seen in your life? I had

attended UNC-Chapel Hill with the intention of attending pharmacy school. However, in 2004, events led me to my career as an investment professional. I started working with a friend in her firm and eventually moved into a VP position. Years later, a group of CPAs/ financial advisors and I decided to start our own firm. From there, I was reunited with a friend who is now my current business partner in our retirement planning practice. The common thread is that the relationships nurtured in 2004 were ultimately stepping stones that led me on my journey to where I am today!

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will be the first to admit that time management is not my strong suit, as I am a woman who wants to make commitments to all things. However, time management is critical – especially as a female entrepreneur. Being aware of your strengths and seeking opportunities to expand those strengths is also crucial.

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Robin Whitlock is a financial advisor, controller, and partner with Infinite Wealth Advisors, LLC, located at 136 Corporate Park Drive, Suite I, in Mooresville.

You can reach Robin at 877.281.8282 or via Robin@infinitewealthadvisors.com.

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I love playing with numbers. So when I am trying to communicate with patients about risk I try to use the statistics in a way that makes sense. It’s not always helpful to know that something may increase your risk by 30% unless you know what the risk was to start with. If your lifetime risk is 1 in 100,000 and you increase that risk 30% then your lifetime risk is still only 1.3 in 100,000. If your lifetime risk is 30 in 100 and you increase that risk by 30% then your lifetime risk is 39 in 100. Someone may accept a 0.3 in 100,000 increased risk, but not a 9 in 100 risk even though those were both a 30% increase from the baseline risk.

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SO, LET’S PLAY WITH SOME NUMBERS ABOUT BREAST CANCER:

STAGE 1 SURVIVAL RATES ARE

In the US 12.4% of women, or 1 in 8, will get breast cancer in their lifetime. has remained constant for about 10 years.

Breast cancer survival is up. From 1989 to 2015 the chance of survival increased by 39%. That adds up to 322,600 lives saved in the US! This is likely due to improved treatment and early detection.

Remember that 12.4% number is a lifetime risk. Someone who is 50 years old only has a 2.3% chance of having breast cancer by the time they turn 60.

SCREENING BASED ON LIFETIME RISK:

We can manage some risk.

There are also risks that we can’t change such as family history, age at menopause, age of first pregnancy, age of first period. Thankfully we have risk calculation models that can take many of these into account and provide a lifetime risk calculation for an individual that we can use to guide your decisions about screening and treatment.

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So, early detection is key!

GOOD NEWS: The risk of breast cancer

That also means that 87.6% of women will never get breast cancer.

If we consider a 50 year old has a 10 year chance of breast cancer of 2.3% we can then calculate the risk based on risk factors. Being obese after menopause increases risk by 2 times, so that take that 10 year risk to 4.6%.

Vigorous exercise can decrease risk by 20-30%, so down to a 1.6%. Daily alcohol consumption can increase risk 20-50%, even one drink a day. So that 2.3% risk becomes 2.76-3.45%.

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Women with a lifetime risk less than 15% may choose yearly mammograms and some may consider every two years, though I prefer yearly.

Mammograms may start as early as age 35 and as late as 45 depending on risk.

Women with a lifetime risk of 1520% should have yearly mammograms and may consider adding a yearly MRI.

When lifetime risk is over 20% a mammogram plus MRI is encouraged.

For women who carry genetic mutations and may have a risk over 70% preventive surgery is an option.

Other options are risk-lowering medications and increased screening.

Studies of regular screening mammogram programs in Canada resulted in a decline in breast cancer death rates by 31-91 per 100,000 women. If you consider that Charlotte has about 200,000 women between age 40-80, the potential for life savings with mammogram has a big impact. w The source of information for this article is The American Cancer Society Breast Cancer Facts and Figures 2017-2018

A Cornelius native, Dr. Lindsey Mashburn is a practicing physician at South Lake Women's Healthcare, 19453 West Catawba Ave., Suite A, in Cornelius.

You may reach them at 704.896.9912 or visit www.southlakewomens.com.

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Her Crowning Achievement: thriving during breast cancer

“ S AY W H AT ? ” T H AT W A S PHAEDRA PISTONE’ S

first thought on November 29, 2016, when she heard those four words that every woman dreads: “You have breast cancer.” After all, breast cancer did not run in Phaedra’s family.

Understandably, Phaedra fell apart when she heard the news: “Everything went numb, my body and soul sank, all I could do was cry,” she recalls. “Mostly, though, Phaedra remembers being terrified: “Cancer is such a scary word associated with so many unknown things to come!” she explains.

Though Phaedra spent hours researching in an attempt to understand what her Stage 1 diagnosis and upcoming lumpectomy meant, she was not at all prepared for the emotional roller coaster that YOUNIQUE BEAUTY

lay ahead. “I may have looked like I was handling it all perfectly on the outside, but inside I was a mess!” she says.

At first, Phaedra was hesitant to share her diagnosis and treatment with others, even friends and family. “I felt alone and scared and couldn’t explain to anyone the true feelings I was feeling,” she remembers. But eventually, it was those fears and feelings of isolation that inspired Phaedra to share her “pink

“I am taking this opportunity to turn my pain into my purpose by empowering, encouraging, and educating women about the importance of early detection with mammograms because that’s what saved my life twice.” ribbon journey” with others: “I want other women facing this disease to know that there are so many people ready to support them in this journey,” she says.

Though Phaedra went through a “Why me?” phase typical of most cancer patients, she didn’t allow her fear to be stronger than her faith. “I reminded myself that I am a wife, a business owner, a daughter, a sister, a fur-baby mom, and that I am strong!” she says.

And then Phaedra put her faith in herself into action and returned to an activity she loved: she entered the Mrs. North Carolina America pageant for the second time

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(her first time had been about one month prior to her diagnosis): “I felt like going back would be very healing because I had worked so hard to get ME back!” she says of her decision.

Her hard work paid off: Phaedra won the North Carolina title and then placed in the top 10 in the national competition.

Then, in November of 2018, she competed in the state pageant again, and once again came home with the crown.

Unfortunately, in April of this year Phaedra’s cancer returned and she endured a bilateral mastectomy in May. But she remains undaunted and continues to provide others with HOPE, her platform in the pageant: “I am taking this opportunity to turn my pain into my purpose by empowering, encouraging, and educating women about the importance of early detection with mammograms because that’s what saved my life twice.” w

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Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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closer to October, a wave of pink begins to wash over just about everything in sight. Pink ribbons on lapels, bracelets, and suit ties. Pink treats in bakery windows; pink dresses on storefront mannequins. Pink water even flows from fountains in the landscapes of local business parks. Breast Cancer Awareness Month brings visual reminders that one in eight women are fighting breast cancer. For one month of the year, breast health is top of mind. A priority, even. But shouldn’t it be a priority all the time?

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Deborah G. Agisim, MD, is Chief of Mammography at Charlotte Radiology and board-certified with the American Board of Radiology. She subspecializes in breast imaging/ mammography and diagnostic radiology. Learn more at CharlotteRadiology. com/our-physicians.

After all, breast cancer is the second most common form of cancer in women – and that’s true 365 days a year. But it’s also one of the most treatable cancers when it’s caught early. Mammography is the only screening method that has consistently proven to save lives— lives—with its ability to detect a lump up to two years before you or your physician can feel it! And early detection is the key to better outcomes.

“The five-year survival rate of women with stage 0 breast cancer is 99 percent,” says Dr. Deborah Agisim, Chief of Mammography at Charlotte Radiology. “That’s huge.

Finding breast cancer early puts us in a much better position to treat and cure the cancer while minimizing the surgery and sometimes eliminating any need for chemotherapy. Screening mammography is empowering women to be proactive about self-care.”

So why aren’t more of us taking advantage of this technology? Studies show that half of women are scheduling annual screening mammograms – while the other half don’t. With busy families, demanding careers,

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and To Do lists a mile long, it can be easy to let our own wellbeing slip down in the order of priorities. But if we compromise our health, nothing gets done. If we’re not here, none of our people are cared for. So we have to be our own greatest advocates. We have to create a shift in priorities, and it can start with a simple 20-minute screening mammogram. Breast health experts still agree that 40 is the age to start, and that we should schedule them every 12 months.

So this October, as the support for the fight against breast cancer reaches its annual crescendo, make a point to bring the focus home – to your house. What changes can you make?

What will motivate you to make that appointment year after year?

We all have a reason to make breast health a priority.

Early detection saves lives.

My children need me.

Mammograms are quick, easy, and covered by insurance.

My peace of mind is worth it.

Most women with breast cancer have no family history.

My health is important. I am reason enough.

Find your reason. Write it down and remember it. Then schedule your annual screening mammogram, and make a point to schedule during that same month every year. It’s a commitment you can make to yourself that far outlasts Breast Cancer Awareness Month. w WRITER BROOKE NEAL

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THE power OF pilates benefits for those in various stages of breast cancer

his physical fitness system which he referred to as Contrology. It puts emphasis on alignment, coordination, and balance as well as breathing, developing a strong core, and strengthening the abdominal area. He also developed exercises that worked to enhance shoulder mobility and strength by working the muscles in the back, focusing particularly on the spine because he thought that was the true indicator of an individual’s health—mind, body, and soul!

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Because breast cancer and treatment may be disruptive to anatomy around the upper chest and shoulders, simply moving one’s arms can cause great pain.

Interestingly, in comparison with other exercise methods, Pilates seems to be especially effective for improving upper-limb pain and functionality. Research has also shown that breast cancer survivors are able to stick with proposed programs, suggesting that this is a successful method of exercise for women in various stages of breast cancer. Here are a few other note-worthy bits of information:

Susan Simko is the general manager and a comprehensivelytrained Pilates instructor at Club Pilates located at 146 Mooresville Commons Way, Unit 25, in Mooresville. They can be reached at 980.260.0000 or via mooresville@clubpilates.com.

Pilates improves range of motion, fitness, functional status, and lymphedema as well as emotional aspects such as quality of life, mood, and pain.

Two of the most common symptoms addressed by physical therapists during patient rehabilitation are shoulder and upper body pain … Pilates specialties!

(Information obtained from www.drsusanloveresearch.org.

Always consult your physician before beginning any exercise regimen.)

Cancer treatment often causes overwhelming fatigue, especially while undergoing chemotherapy.

Pilates can offer a low-impact introduction (or re-introduction) to exercise that can help women regain their strength.

Pilates can also help achieve a more erect posture … many of the exercises work the postural muscles in the trunk and back and it requires you to focus on how your body feels when properly aligned.

One study on patients with breast cancer showed the levels of adherence to the proposed Pilates programs were generally high (mean adherence of 92.3%). These results indicate that Pilates is a feasible exercise modality that can be performed by patients with breast cancer; and it is something they commit to over the long-term.

Women who are at risk for lymphedema can exercise but they have to be careful. Since many Pilates exercises are abdominal, they are a natural fit for those concerned about lymphedema. w

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Whether you are battling cancer yourself, witnessing a loved one fight, or have experienced either of these brutal experiences in the past, I think you would agree. Cancer touches us all in one way or another, and the common denominator across experiences is “the fight.” Some are fighting the battle directly, and others are fighting to keep those that they love comfortable and strong in their journey. The latter is where my experiences with cancer have been.

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I will never forget my first experience with showing a single sign of giving up. The doctor breast cancer. I was 7 years old and was had given her six months to live when she spending the summer with my grandmama was first diagnosed with breast cancer, and and granddaddy Harris at their home, she lived for nearly three years longer than which was one of my happiest places to be. expected. She completely changed her diet My mom, their daughter, of southern-country cuisine was tragically killed in a car to an extremely restrictive For those of you who accident when I was 6. Our macrobiotic diet. She still have experienced or connection was a mutual cooked like a “lady of the are experiencing the comfort, to say the least. My south” for my granddaddy and breast cancer battle, Grandmama Harris was truly family, but she was extremely please know that your one of my favorite humans, with fight is shaping not intentional with what she the voice of an angel and hugs put into her own body. only your life, but like no other. every single life that Even during the routine, daily, 6 a.m. breakfasts at you touch, and many In the 80’s, everyone has to Bojangles with their friends, lives beyond those experience bad hair at least once.

Grandmama took her own direct connections.

At age 7, I was experiencing rice cakes and brown rice with one of my many “bad haircuts.” I remember bok choy to eat, while everyone else consumed standing in Grandmama’s bathroom with her, those oh-so-delicious Cajun filet biscuits. complaining that I missed my long hair, which, not long before, had been down to my fanny. She Witnessing her fight created a fight in me for looked at me and stated, “At least you have hair.” connection to her and others. That connection She pulled back the edge of her wig to reveal a and awareness of her strength and daily battle hairless head with spots of soft peach fuzz. has remained with me throughout my life and was one of the biggest motivators in my This amazing woman had been dealing journey to become a nurse and health and with chemo treatments for breast cancer fitness enthusiast. For those of you who have for over a year, and I was oblivious to what experienced or are experiencing the breast the word cancer even meant. I was brought cancer battle, please know that your fight is into the fold of her journey through a shaping not only your life, but every single life breast cancer diagnosis, and I witnessed that you touch, and many lives beyond those my grandmama fight for her life without direct connections. w

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Government

regulations ban (or severely restrict) the use of food additives and pr ocessing agents in organically grow n foods—this in cludes artificial sweete ners, colorings and flavorings, and preservatives.

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a recent study examined the past 50 years’ worth of scientific articles about the nutrient content of organic versus conventionally grown and processed foods and concluded that “organically and conventionally produced foodstuffs are not significantly different in their nutrient content.” Then why buy organic?

Here are some things to consider before your next trip down the grocery aisle—

actices Organic farming pr soil and

are designed to encourage pollution. water conservation and reduce

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While conventional growers use synthetic

pesticides to protect their crops s, from molds, insects, and disease the es stat organic farmers, USDA, “use insect traps, careful crop selection (disease-resistant varieties), predator insects, or beneficial microorganisms to control pests.”

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met in ord er for food to be labe led “organ ic” by the U.S . Departm e nt of Agricult ure (USDA ).

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For more information on organically grown foods, visit the USDA website at www.usda.gov.

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grit e! c a r g AND

M O S T O F US H AV E E X P E R I E N C E D D E F I N I N G M O M E N T S I N O UR L I V E S — and when we look back, we can

often identify that one passionate, patient, and inspiring leader who guided us in our journey. Dr. Amanda Brown Kotis has been that spirit for a myriad of people who needed guidance and encouragement to find their smile, both physically and spiritually! When asked why she has dedicated her life to being a dentist, she shares, “I love helping people get out of a place of pain and overcome what may seem like insurmountable obstacles to them. It isn’t just a job, it’s a calling.”

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footsteps of her father, Dr. Thomas Brown, and attended dental school at the University of Kentucky.

“Dental school and residency were demanding, but the commitment to want to serve with my hands in a practical way and pure GRIT helped me push through, even being on call every fourth night while nursing a newborn!”

Dr. Kotis says without a doubt that the most inspiring woman in her own life has been her mother, Frieda Brown, a retired clinical psychologist/

"Reiterating her priorities, Dr. Kotis firmly believes that God’s grace, commitment to process, and grit are key ingredients for a successful businesswoman …"

At a young age, Dr. Kotis connected with the human spirit on a deep level, and that connection influenced her to attend the North Carolina School for the Arts in drama. She then turned down the conservatory for drama at Southern California University to pursue a degree in psychology/African studies at UNCChapel Hill. During that time, she studied in Kenya, including a refugee camp in Kakuma, where a calling to serve became clear in her heart. “The complexities of need instilled a desire to be able to serve with my hands, and give from my heart.”

After completing her masters in industrial-organizational psychology at UNC Charlotte, she followed the

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professor. With a lot of challenging experiences, Dr. Kotis has learned from her mother how to balance it all with grace, devotion, and a healthy dose of laughter. “No matter what, there is always going to be adversity in life. If you can’t laugh about it and embrace change, it can put you in a dark place.” She is grateful that her own journey has culminated into a meaningful contribution to the lives of others.

A truly gifted dentist has compassion and vision for the potential of a patient’s smile. Most importantly, for complicated cases, the doctor shouldn’t give up when patients struggle with fear, shame, or other obstacles standing in the way of

optimal health. Dr. Kotis has the rare talent of seeing the “diamond in the rough.” She empowers people to embrace life’s circumstances and realize their potential for a healthy, beautiful smile.

Her compassionate and generous heart is apparent in her personal and professional life. These values have driven her to volunteer with Redeeming Joy, an organization committed to setting up a rehabilitation center for women caught in human trafficking. “My personal goal is to champion the mission of Redeeming Joy to purchase a permanent restoration home.” Dr. Kotis and her husband, Ryan, continue to grow their businesses together including their local start up ULTI FUTBOL, an intense soccer cage experience that has become a craze at events in Lake Norman and Charlotte.

Dr. Kotis now owns her own practice in Statesville and feels her greatest accomplishment is seen in her two children: Tucker (10) and Layla (5).

Professionally, she is grateful for the thriving practice she has built. “I am really proud of my dental practice and the amazing, committed staff. They are highly capable professionals who love helping patients.” You can feel the enthusiasm in the office as the staff discusses how best to help people afford their implants … always with helpful hearts and positive attitudes.

Reiterating her priorities, Dr. Kotis firmly believes that God’s grace, commitment to process, and grit are key ingredients for a successful businesswoman, and her faith has been an anchor in the storms of life.

“I didn’t understand what faith was until there were some days where I had no choice. The only option was to get on my knees, look up, let go, and give it all to God.” Her stories about the transformation of her own career and her family will keep you laughing and crying and, at the same time, inspire you to take your own steps toward growth and change to find your smile—inside and out! w

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Cain Center for the Arts recently announced local philanthropist KATHRYN KEELE

has committed a leadership gift of $2 million to help ensure the creation of the Lake Norman region’s new center for arts and community. The center’s art gallery will bear her family’s name.

LINDA MORENO and

Keith Rene Cottrell recently celebrated their grand opening of Rene’s Sweet Treats, a gourmet donut shop and bakery in Mooresville. The couple relocated to North Carolina from Southern California where Linda worked in the family bakery business which owned six restaurants.

RACHAEL MORRIS

is a local cake artist serving the greater Lake Norman area from her home studio in Denver; along with business partner and spouse Matt Morris they run Three Tiers For Cake. The couple recently appeared on the Netflix show “Sugar Rush”--Season 2, Episode 2, “Light My Fire.”

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Lake Norman Welcome Committee introduces three new Greeters: ROSETTE TAVOLACCI

who recently began welcoming new residents to the Denver/Stanley area and MELISSA CUFF and MARNI CUMMINGS who have joined the Huntersville team. LKN Welcome Committee has been greeting new residents to the area since 1998.

LKNW welcomes two new account executives to our team, TAMMI PHRONEBARGER and KIM CROSS . Kim, a Mooresville native and mother of two, is a UNC-Chapel Hill graduate and has been in sales and marketing her entire career. Tammi is a native Charlottean and has a background in accounting and ďŹ nance. She has two adult children and is certiďŹ ed in homestaging and design.

CONNECT WITH US!

Whether you are a woman on the move, looking for events, new businesses in the area, or are willing to contribute your opinion, follow us by visiting www.facebook.com/lakenormanwoman or e-mail leslie@lakenormanwoman.com.

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SATURDAYS & SUNDAYS, THROUGH NOV. 17:

SATURDAYS & SUNDAYS, THROUGH NOV. 3:

The Amazing Maize Maze Get lost in this giant seven-acre corn maze with over two miles of interconnecting paths. You can also take a hayride around the farm, explore the historic site, have a picnic, or hike the trails. $8-$16 / 10am-5pm Rural Hill Farm 4431 Neck Rd., Huntersville More information: www.ruralhill.net/AmazingMaizeMaze.asp

26th Annual Carolina Renaissance Festival

This 16th-century Europeanstyle art and entertainment festival combines outdoor theater, circus entertainment, arts and crafts marketplace, a jousting tournament, a feast fit for royalty, and much more. $15-$25 / 10am to 5:30pm 16445 Poplar Tent Rd., Huntersville More information: www.carolina.renfestinfo.com

THURSDAY, OCT. 10:

Lake Norman Woman’s Party in Pink Help us honor Breast Cancer Awareness Month in a cruise around Lake Norman that includes food and beverages, contests, a raffle, and live music. $60 / 6-8pm Carolina Grace Luxury Yacht Parking at 19708 W Catawba Ave., Cornelius

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FRIDAY-SUNDAY, OCT. 18 THROUGH 20:

Carolina Balloon Festival

Morning and late afternoon balloon launches, plus live music, tethered balloon rides, an artisan village, Kids Zone, a wine & craft beer garden, great festival foods, and more!

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WEDNESDAY, OCT. 16:

Screenagers: Growing Up in the Digital Age “Screenagers” is the first feature documentary to explore the impact of screen technology on kids and offer parents some answers. Expert panel to follow showing, including LKNW contributing writer and certified teen life coach Cyndy Etler.

Free / RSVP by Oct. 7 Showing starts promptly at 7pm Our Town Cinemas 227 Griffith St., Davidsons More information: Email: davidsonlifeline@gmail.com

Ticket Prices & Hours vary Statesville Regional Airport 26 Hangar Dr., Statesville More information: www.carolinaballoonfest.com

Let us help break the seasonal allergy cycle.

If you’ve suffered with seasonal allergies year after year, it’s tempting to try over-the-counter remedies that may help ease symptoms, but can leave you groggy or drowsy.

Our board-certified allergists can test you to discover exactly what you are allergic to, create a customized treatment plan that over time can lessen the severity of your allergies, and, in many cases, cure your allergies altogether!

Call 704.372.7900 to schedule an appointment at one of our area office locations.

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PINK PAGES!

Editor Leslie Ogle shares a message of hope in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month in 2015.

2015 LKNW Cover Girl and breast cancer survivor Jennifer Perry

2012 cover woman, Dr. Chandra Baker, Catawba Radiological Associates

Michele Schuermann, LKNW Sales Associate, shows her support for cancer survivors back in 2016.

2018 cover shoot with Art Director Chelsea Bren & the ladies of Southern Oncology

The ladies of Lembo Montgomery Cosmetic & Family Dentistry don pink for their cover article in our 2016 Breast Cancer Issue.

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Cool Weather Tips FOR HOME MAINTENANCE

CHECK YOUR DETECTORS With furnaces turned on, the windows closed, and portable heaters in use, fall is a great time to make sure your smoke and carbon dioxide detectors are working.

Smoke detectors are typically good for 10 years, carbon dioxide detectors for about six years. Be sure and check the batteries and expiration dates, too.

CLEAN YOUR GUTTER SPOUTS Home owners often think to clean out their gutters after the leaves fall, but they overlook the down spouts. Use a plumber’s snake to pull clumps of wet leaves and other debris out of them at the same time you clean the gutters.

T H E S O U T H I S K N O W N F O R I T S LO N G S U M M E R S ,

but the tell-tale chill in the air that announces the arrival of cooler weather is just around the corner.

So in addition to thinking about all those pumpkinflavored goodies out there you can’t wait to indulge in, it’s also the time to prepare your house. Here is a fall home maintenance list to help you get your home ready for the cooler months ahead.

REVERSE YOUR CEILING FANS If your ceiling fan has a reverse switch, use it to run the fan’s blades in a clockwise direction after you turn on your heat so that the fan will produce an updraft and push heated air from the ceiling down into the room. This is especially helpful in rooms with high ceilings -- and it might even allow you to turn down your thermostat by a degree or two for greater energy savings.

LET YOUR FINAL MOWING WORK FOR YOU! Mow your leaves instead of raking them. Make sure the fallen leaves are dry, then swap your cutting blade for a mulching blade ($15-$25), ditch your lawn mower bag, and make several passes if necessary to cut leaves into dime-sized pieces that will fall among the grass blades, where they will decompose and nourish your lawn over the winter.

INSULATE THE HOT WATER PIPES Use foam sleeves (you can find them pre-slit at your local hardware store) to insulate the hot water pipes in your basement or crawl space. Be sure to include pipes between the hot water tank and wall and the first three feet of cold water pipes after they enter the house. w

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Dana,

our fearless leader!

SHE’S MY HERO:

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In honor of Boss’s Day and because we just LOVE her, this month’s She’s My Hero is dedicated to you, Miss Dana! And with a kazillion reasons why you are our hero, we’ve pulled together just a few.

She’s got guts. “I’ve known Dana since I was 15 years old when we started high school together in Hickory. Our friendship (along with my identical twin!) has been steadfast and true! From the car accident that took her best friend at 16 to birthing her own set of identical twins at just six months, life’s obstacles have certainly shown up … but Dana shows up too! She’s always up for the challenges life throws at her—seeking to find the opportunity and lessons that lie within.”

—LESLIE OGLE, LKNW EDITOR

She has a heart of gold. It takes a lot to run this kind of publication … you can’t please all the people all the time, but Dana sure comes close! Clients, friends, family— they all rank high in her world and she drops everything to make sure they are happy.

She always has your back. “Dana is my hero because when I started years ago she pushed me to excel, and she is always in my corner cheering for me! I am so blessed to have been part of her publication. Without Dana, my life would not be the same. She has always made me feel that I was working WITH her not FOR her. I know if I ever need anything, Dana will be there!”

—STEPHANIE SULLIVAN, LKNW SALES MANAGER

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If you have an LKNWoman hero in your life, tell us all about her. Email Dana at dana@lakenormanwoman.com with My Hero in the subject line.

She is … simply amazing! “Dana sets an amazing example in her honesty, intelligence, humor, and humility. She is always willing to say when she’s slipped. Laughs at the mistakes. Learns from it, and has a chuckle about it even down the road. This makes her a safe place as a leader and a friend, when we all inevitably do the same!” w —CHELSEA BREN, LKNW ART DIRECTOR

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family

WHY TEEN DRIVERS ARE

taking a back seat your 16th birthday meant one thing: Driver’s License! It was adult; it was freedom; it was what you did. However, in today’s world of technology and kids who have different priorities than the prior generation, A S M O S T O F Y O U R E A D I N G T H I S A R T I C L E C A N AT T E S T T O,

obtaining that coveted piece of paper has taken a back seat, so to speak.

“The share of high school seniors across the country who have a driver’s license dropped from 85.3 percent in 1996 to a record low of 71.5 percent in 2017,” according to data from the University of Michigan’s Monitoring the Future survey (www.pbs.org/newshour/nation).

Here is some other information collected as to why teens are waiting to drive—

States’ strict driving policies or so-called graduated licenses, which require set periods of training and restrict driving privileges at certain ages, have been a deterrent for teens—50-plus hours of supervised driving, coupled with studying and test-taking, does not make the priority list for the teenagers of today.

Technology, social media, and online gaming “connect” teens to each other and their respective worlds so that their need to drive somewhere is less and less necessary.

Many teens now rely on mobile ride-sharing apps and public transportation.

Economics play a factor as well since many teens find it difficult (or are not motivated) to find employment, so bankrolling their car, gas, insurance, etc. does not fit their paradigm.

They have legitimate fears. It is well documented that teens are more likely to be involved in fatal car accidents, and many teens confess that they do not think the risk/benefit ratio is worth it. w

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teens aloud!

Want to have your struggle considered for an upcoming Teens Aloud column? Send Cyndy an email about what’s going on at cyndy@theteenlifecoach.com

teens aloud!

YOUR TEEN, TRANSLATED

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Poor coyote thought the same thing, when he dropped the anvil over the cliff. But *meep-meep!* Roadrunner was always a step ahead of him, with the springboard in place to bounce that weight back up in Wile E.’s face. So…sorry, mom and dad, but…wrong. The car-ascarrot won’t work.

of PART II

Or rather, it won’t work over the long term. It might net an honor roll or two, because a lure that big can produce a temporary shot of effort. But the issue beneath the lack of motivation will live on in your teen’s psyche, ready to hide in the basement playing video games 16 hours a day. That’s because the kid turned on the jets to get the car, but not to get the thing you want them to be striving for: an interest in learning, in achieving.

What does work is simple in words, but a challenge in practice: listening without an agenda, and uncovering your kid’s true long-term objectives.

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WHEN I TELL YOU MOTIVATION IS THE ISSUE PARENTS

reach out to me about, I’m telling you. It is the issue. And these poor parents, they’ve morphed themselves into Wile E. Coyote, devising tricks to get their kids to do what they want: work harder, care more, bring up their grades.

Some parents use the Come to Jesus strategy. Others use the “no cell phone until your homework is done” approach. Some lucky teens have a parent who dangles the two-ton reward: “We’ll buy you a car if you get honor roll.” If that last one doesn’t work, nothing will, right?

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That listening bit. It’s hard for all of us, but especially for parents. The adult knows what’s right for their child, right? Sure, when the kid is young and dumb enough to put their hand on the stove. But when they hit adolescence and start developing their own values and interests separate from their families’, it’s time to turn off our own ideas on what they “should” want and do, and start asking them what they want…and help them flesh out their answers.

When a kid realizes we’re deeply curious about what they have to say, we can help them tap into their own personal idea of an ideal future. And once that thrilling vision is sugarplum-dancing around on their mental screen, their internal motivation revs up, like, “This! Want this!”

From there, with the right questions, we can help a kid backwards-build the roadmap on how to achieve it, from big, long-term goals to mini, short-term ones…and I’ll betcha thirty bucks that, on the right-now end of the map, the short-term goals will include high grades in their current classes. And the best part is that this process? It’s no wily trick; it’s the psychology behind building motivation. No anvil required! w WRITER CYNDY ETLER

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I should go out for a walk but why don’t I do it?

E AC H O CTO B E R B R I N G S

of the importance of regular screenings for breast cancer as well as honoring survivors and remembering those who lost the battle from this terrible disease. Cancer in all its various forms impacts each of us and, ideally, we want to adopt lifestyle behaviors that can support the prevention or the recurrence of cancer.

THE AWARENESS

One lifestyle factor that can be of great benefit for various reasons, which we have all read and heard about a million times, is exercise. The latest edition of Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans, issued by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, offers the following:

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Additional health benefits are gained by engaging in physical activity beyond the equivalent of 300 minutes of moderate-intensity physical activity a week.

Adults should also do musclestrengthening activities of moderate or greater intensity that involve all major muscle groups on two or more days a week.

Kelly A. Stranburg, CEO of Excellence in Wellness— Solutions for Optimal Aging, LLC, is a certified health, aging, and life coach. You can reach Kelly at 704.609.5452 or via www.excellenceinwellnessllc.com.

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For substantial health benefits, adults should do at least 150 to 300 minutes a week of moderateintensity exercise or 75 to 150 minutes a week of vigorous-intensity aerobic activity.

Yet in these fast times of balancing work, family, friends, and more, our own selfcare often falls to the bottom of the list of priorities. There are many reasons why we choose to abstain from daily exercise

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behind the why … despite knowing the long list of health benefits. So how do we ensure physical activity is part of our daily routine?

Identifying the greater WHY behind why you want to be more physically active or start a new exercise routine is critical.

Often, we want to lose weight to fit into certain clothes or get in shape for a special upcoming event. But what is the WHY driving those reasons? If you dig a little deeper, you may discover that you are striving for increased confidence or selfesteem. Once you get to the root cause of the WHY behind the why, sticking to an exercise routine can increase greatly.

Another way to increase adherence to exercise is to identify the obstacles that keep you from being physically active. Do you intend to exercise after work but get home and are tired and overwhelmed with personal or family commitments? If you can identify your obstacles and come up with solutions, that is half the battle. So, in this case, maybe figuring out how to exercise during your lunch break or first thing in the morning is a better option.

Personal trainers and health coaches can also support you in your personal commitment to health and well-being. No matter where you are in your personal health journey, remain positive and know there are approaches and solutions available to help you cultivate and maintain a healthy lifestyle. w

WRITER KELLY A. STRANBURG

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health

earth juice

The Miracle Drink We Tend to Ignore!

BANISHES HEADACHES IMPROVES YOUR MOOD RELIEVES FATIGUE BOOSTS YOUR ENERGY LEVELS RELIEVES CONSTIPATION FLUSHES OUT TOXINS IMPROVES DIGESTION

There are many factors (both internal and external) that affect our need for water, but health professionals agree we should drink eight 8-ounce glasses of water a day, commonly known as the 8x8 Rule.

PROMOTES WEIGHT LOSS PREVENTS KIDNEY STONES BOOSTS YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM IMPROVES YOUR COMPLEXION PREVENTS HANGOVERS ALLEVIATES BACK PAIN REGULATES BODY TEMPERATURE

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woman to watch on GETTING HERE: I am a total unicorn! My current role doesn’t fit with the state government career I left in Maryland or my educational background (sociology and political science). I became Dr. Simon’s patient in 2006 and learned that we both had lived in Michigan and attended the University of Michigan. I was working for Piedmont HealthCare when she joined the group in 2008. I offered to help out, and the rest is history.

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LKNW RECOGNIZES A WOMAN DOING EXCEPTIONAL WORK IN THE L A K E N O R M A N C O M M U N I T Y, A L E A D E R W H O I S PAV I N G T H E W AY T O C H A N G I N G O U R AT T I T U D E S A N D I N S P I R I N G C O N F I D E N C E I N T H E F U T U R E .

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on FACING UP TO LIFE: My father was an abusive alcoholic. Although she tried, my mother couldn’t shield my brothers and me from his illness. Having an alcoholic parent makes everything about growing up harder.

Embarrassment and anger are entwined in your development and become barriers to even the most basic human connection. As an adult, I came to understand my father’s illness, my mother’s reluctance to leave him, and that their choices need not define me. Doing so gave me the perspective to forgive them both and leave the embarrassment and anger behind. on LESSONS LEARNED: It took me a long time to learn that forgiveness is about those who give it. It’s about letting go of feelings of hurt or resentment, while learning from the people or events that cause them. Forgiveness doesn’t require an apology and doesn’t even have to be earned. A flippant “it’s okay” in response to an apology will not get the job done! It requires reflection, thought, effort, and even empathy – but it is absolutely worth it. True forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. on KEEPING IT REAL: I am a “What You See Is What You Get” kind of person. I think my sense of humor and humility are my strong suits. Both qualities keep me from taking myself too seriously and allow me to connect with all kinds of people.

They’ve helped me as I have worked to figure out who I am – and be the best version of her! It’s an exercise from which I think we all can benefit; one that is a much better investment than trying to be someone we’re not. w Martha Johnson is the practice manager at Piedmont HealthCare’s Mooresville Dermatology Center located at 128 Medical Park Road, Suite 201, in Mooresville. You can reach them at 704.235.1827 or via www.MooresvilleDermCenter.com.

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PHOTOGRAPHER CHELSEA BREN

recipe

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Mini Pumpkin Pies ‘Tis the Season! And it’s pumpkin everything so along with fall, cozy fires, and holidays looming, here is a fun pumpkin favorite to make with the kids!

YOU WILL NEED:

. One large can of pumpkin . One bag of small marshmallows . One small bag of chopped pecans (optional)

. 1 teaspoon cinnamon . 1 teaspoon vanilla . Qtr-cup brown sugar . 1 pkg. Crescent Rolls

DIRECTIONS:

Heat oven to 325 degrees and spray a mini1 muffin pan with cooking spray (a regular muffin tin is fine). Line each with crescent roll dough (you may need some flour to help handle the dough as you form it and line the muffin cups, cutting and shaping as needed).

Bake until just golden brown, about 10-12 2 minutes; remove from oven and set to the side to cool.

Combine the pumpkin, cinnamon, vanilla, 3 pecans, and brown sugar in a bowl. Spoon on top of the cooked crescent roll pie crusts in your muffin tin and top with marshmallows.

Pop back into the oven just until the 4 marshmallows brown and the mixture is heated through, about 5 minutes or so.

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Down Syndrome Awareness Month there is a nucleus, where genetic material is stored in genes. Genes carry the codes responsible for all of our inherited traits and are grouped along rod-like structures called chromosomes. Typically, the nucleus of each cell contains 23 pairs of chromosomes, half of which are inherited from each parent. Down syndrome occurs when an individual has a full or partial extra copy of chromosome 21.

I N E V E R Y C E L L I N T H E H U M A N B O DY

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, approximately one in every 700 babies in the United States is born with Down syndrome, making Down syndrome the most common chromosomal condition. Approximately 6,000 babies with Down syndrome are born in the United States each year.

People with Down syndrome experience cognitive delays, but the effect is usually mild to moderate and is not indicative of the many strengths and talents that each individual possesses.

Children with Down syndrome learn to sit, walk, talk, play and do most other activities, though somewhat later than their peers without Down syndrome. Quality educational programs, a stimulating home environment, good health care and positive support from family, friends and communities enable people with Down syndrome to realize their aspirations and lead fulfilling lives. People with Down syndrome attend school, work and contribute to society in many wonderful ways.

Persons with Down syndrome prefer to be referred as differently abled, opposed to retarded, handicapped or someone with an intellectual developmental disability because just about every one of them is differently abled in some way. Persons with Down syndrome have the same wants and dreams as everyone else. People with Down syndrome live alone or with a spouse, with a roommate or family members, in creatively supported settings or in more traditional supported settings.

People with Down syndrome enjoy living in communities with transportation, entertainment, shopping and dining options and places of worship.

People with Down syndrome desire to contribute to society as tax paying citizens, voters, and volunteers. When provided proper support and given the right opportunity, they thrive and give far back more than they receive. Undoubtedly, people with Down syndrome enhance our world. w Pamela Glass is the Director of Development and Strategic Partnerships at Nevins Inc., a 501c3 nonprofit organization. Since 1959, Nevins Inc. has been providing person-centered care and employment services for individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities in Mecklenburg County.

Data from www.nads.org/resources/facts-about-down-syndrome

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Words are magic. They actually change

WORDS

our brain chemistry! As wordsmiths here at LKNW, we are especially fond of words

matter

that will resonate with our readers, in hopes

“ SOMETIMES THE

they will help guide & inspire you:

STRENGTH WITHIN YOU IS NOT A BIG FIERY FLAME FOR

“Some days there won’t be a song in your heart.

ALL TO SEE; IT IS

Sing

anyway.”

–EMORY AUSTIN

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

JUST A TINY SPARK

– M AYA A N G E LO U

–AUTHOR UNKNOWN

“I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship.”

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EVER SO SOFTLY,

You got this,

keep going! “

“i want to tell you a secret that will see you through all the trials that life can offer …

have courage and be kind!”

-CINDERELLA

– L O U I S A M AY A L C O T T

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BETTER ME … BETTER YOU … BETTER WORLD

MIND body SPIRIT

By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nurture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.

WHERE YOUR ATTENTION GOES,

your energy flows …

SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH THE RIGHT TRIBE! YOU’VE HEARD THE PHRASE, “IT TAKES A VILLAGE”? For many years,

I believed that when people used those four words, they were referring to raising children. While that may be where the phrase originated, my view of how that phrase applies to so many other areas has changed drastically.

Whether you have children or not, married or single, you are impacted daily by “your tribe” and their influence on your life. Your tribe is the group of people that you choose to surround yourself with.

For moms, this tribe may initiate from the natural relationships that develop surrounding your children and their schedules—carpooling, playdates, and helping with errands. There is no question that in my crazy and amazingly active, blended family, working mom life, I could not do what I do without the physical help of some very amazing women. But ultimately, you create your circle and have the choice to allow in the support-filled, grace-giving, uplifting women, and block out the judgmental, negative, toxic people that constantly tear you down.

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We all have so many lies ingrained in our noggins, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not loved,” “I’m not important.”

Any of those sound familiar? When our lies creep in, we all need more than “physical support.” All of us yearn to feel the opposite of our lies: acceptance, love, grace, accomplishment. Personally, I want so badly to know 100% that I am a good mom, wife, and friend, but that is not possible to feel when whispers of judgement flow through your village from mouths of the people you trust.

These judgmental experiences have the ability to shake each of us to our studs, but only if we allow them to.

Where your attention goes, your energy flows. I’m choosing to place my focus on the grace-giving, bucketfilling members of my tribe instead of living out of fear of the judgement from others. That focus is propelling me to deeper connection to my tribe and is allowing me to feel free to be myself again.

We ALL are doing the best we can.

You are doing it right … you are enough … you are important, and you are loved loved! During times when you question that and feel exposed, focus on your tribe members who will give us grace and remind us of those truths. We each have the ability to be graceful and uplifting, and to welcome that from others. Who are you choosing to surround yourself within your village? w

In just the past month, I have "I’m choosing to place my focus on the gracefelt and heard the negative giving, bucket-filling members of my tribe instead judgements from women that I allowed into my tribe of living out of fear of the judgement from others." and trusted with my family.

The result has been that I have made Kim Branum is the myself small to make others around me executive director of more comfortable. Subsequently, I took Charters for Charity a summer hiatus from social media; I aboard the Carolina stopped posting to my blog; and I started Grace. This luxury yacht working out by myself or just with my hosts charities and charters alike. Also a hubby. Ridiculous, I know! I miss myself, music instructor and health and fitness writer/coach, Kim can be reached at and all of the imperfections that come 704.778.6885 or www.thegracewithin.co. with me!

WRITER KIM BRANUM

Hear Jessica’s story at iredellstories.org • 704.873.5661

“Iredell saved my life.”

Jessica is a busy mother of 3. When unsteady balance caused her to fall while holding her young son, she knew she needed medical attention.

State-of-the-art imaging services at Iredell Memorial Hospital revealed Jessica had a brain tumor needing immediate attention.

We were there for Jessica when she needed us, and we’ll be there for you and your family too. This is your health — don’t settle for anything but the best.

My health.

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