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My Aunt Peggy broke mine. After a brief battle with Alzheimer’s disease, she passed away this past spring, leaving a void in the lives of all who loved her— and there are a lot of people who loved her. Modest and unassuming, Peggy would probably wave away the suggestion, but she was the bedrock of our family. In the midst of uncertainty and change that so marks our world today, she was a steady presence and a reassuring love. If it does indeed take a village to raise a child, then Peggy was my chief villager, stepping in regularly to help raise me when my mom needed backup. She took me to buy my first bra and was kind enough not to tell me that I really didn’t need it. When my mom promised me a puppy for my birthday, but then was unable to get off of work to get it, Peggy drove me the 20 miles each way to make sure I wasn’t disappointed. She took me to a countless number of softball, basketball, gymnastics, and swimming practices, always without complaint (at least not within ear shot of me). She drove through torrential rains and lightening to pick me up so that I wouldn’t be alone and scared during summer storms. She took me in her arms and held me when I wept over the death of the two-year-old son of a family friend. She never said a harsh word to me…well, except that one time when I ate all the Rice Krispies treats. I told Peggy how much I appreciated her loving care of me a few years ago. She responded with her characteristic modesty—surprise even—because to her, helping someone you love is just what you do. I’m glad I got the chance to tell her, though, because it wasn’t long before she didn’t remember that conversation. Or that she had been my chief villager. Or even my name. And that broke my heart. But sooner or later, heartache comes to everyone, or at least I hope so. Because great heartache is the result of great love. And isn’t that what gives our fleeting, challenging lives meaning and joy? I would not pass up the heart connection I had with my Aunt Peggy to avoid the heart pain—not for all the Rice Krispies treats in the world. Instead, I nurse my broken heart with the wonderful memories I have of my aunt. And, because I miss her— because she left a hole in my heart when she left us that will never heal—I cry. How lucky am I? w
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What's Your Family Motto?
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When Every Night Is Family Night!
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LIVE, LEARN, Life takes practice! And though they don’t always come wrapped in a shiny red bow, the lessons we learn along the way are invaluable gifts that are worth sharing. Here are a few noteworthy examples featured in this issue:
EMBRACE LIFE’S MAGIC MOMENTS.
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When COVID-19 took the celebratory march across a graduation stage from LKNWoman Ann McIntosh and her
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daughter, Sarah, they did not let it
to see how Stephanie Lang (Customer Service/HR Manager at Lake Norman Chrysler Dodge Jeep Ram in Cornelius) has taken some of life’s toughest breaks and turned them into opportunity … opportunity to grow, opportunity to embrace the NOW, and the opportunity to fully experience all the magic life has to offer.
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destroy their pomp and circumstance. March on over to page 38 and let this mother/daughter duo’s story inspire you.
FINDING YOUR PATH.
Amie Weir (Founding Member and Head Administrator of Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy) shares her journey with us on page 44. Going from the corporate world to entrepreneurship and then on to start her own private school, Amie is celebrating Liberty Prep’s 10year anniversary—recently moving into a new 28-acre facility.
ARE YOU CREATING PROPER BALANCE IN YOUR WORLD?
Katie Stankiewicz (owner of Willow Equine and Soul to Soles Connection) shows us what hard work, self-care, gratitude, and giving back can accomplish. Trot on over to page 34 for a sit-down chat with Katie in this month’s Coffee Talk— where she reveals her latest strategies in maintaining a proper perspective. w
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We know how busy life can get—kids, work, family, friends … sometimes just getting dinner on the table is a Herculean feat! So in an effort to save our readers some time, effort, and money here are a few tips, tricks, and hacks that might come in handy in your busy world!
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Hydrogen peroxide seems to have an endless list of uses—especially for pet owners. It is often combined with baking soda to create an effective and environmentallyfriendly stain remover and deodorizer.
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Try these ironing tricks: put aluminum foil under the ironing board cover to help reflect heat; if you don’t have a sleeve board, insert a rolled-up towel into the sleeve to avoid creasing; for a quick wrinkle-free result, blast items with steam after spraying lightly with starch; make your own starch at home by adding 1 tablespoon cornstarch to 2 cups of water, stir until dissolved and put into a spray bottle.
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You can remove marks on wood furniture using a walnut. Just cut it in half and rub it into the scratch. Pecans, Brazil nuts, and almonds also work. (*Note: after you rub the nut across the furniture, rub the area with your fingers as this will help the oils from the nut soak into the surface of the wood). w
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on FINDING YOUR GROOVE: I was stuck in a corporate rut and was looking for change … somewhere I could feel like each day I made an impact and could grow into so much more than just “a number.” I had no idea that the automotive industry would be my home. I knew I would most likely have to start over at the bottom of the totem pole, but I was encouraged knowing that I would be learning and growing. The very first position I held at the dealership was serving drinks and snacks in the Café; over the last 14 years I have grown into my management role. This position didn’t come easy … earning the trust and respect of my peers was my top priority. on FAMILY FUN AND FUR BABIES: Growing up in Huntersville, I am a true native. I currently live in Cornelius with my husband, a Cornelius firefighter; my 6-year-old daughter, Olivia, who attends Langtree Charter Academy; and our two fur babies, Jackson and Cheyenne, my first children, who are 9-year-old German Shepherds. We love spending time together as a family and during these crazy times, we make it more of a priority to just do it! Life is too short to put things off. We love to travel, discover new things together, and take on new adventures. on THE POWER OF MOM: My Momma worked hard, showed me how to love, ensured I was taken care of, and taught me to be me. She is always thinking and doing for others and goes the extra mile without complaint. Like all families, we had our share of struggles, but my Momma would never let me know it. She smiled her way through it all and stood strong to ensure we all came out on the other side— stronger and with gratitude intact.
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on THE LEGACY OF DAD: My father’s passing completely turned my world upside down. This fella that I had relied on for advice, to answer all of my crazy questions, and to guide me when I just didn’t have a clue was gone. I couldn’t pick up the phone and call … all of those visits when he surprised me with hot Krispy Kreme doughnuts just to show me he cared were over. I learned that even though we don’t want to think of the unimaginable, we need to be prepared. The weeks after were filled with questions, changes, paperwork, and plans. I remember asking myself: “Do I have these plans? If something happened to me, would I leave a mess for my family to clean up?” It gave me knowledge and power to get my things in order. Plus, the biggest question: “What would people say when I am no longer here? Did I make an impact in a positive way?” on EMBRACING THE MAGIC: My friends will have no problem believing what makes me smile and is my true happy place: Disney World! When I am at Disney, all of my worries and stresses disappear. My inner child comes out and I have a blast from morning to night … it’s magic, and I love to capture the magic moments in life! w
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Stephanie Lang is the Customer Service / HR Manager at Lake Norman Chrysler Dodge Jeep Ram, 20700 Torrence Chapel Road in Cornelius. You may reach her at 704.896.3800 or visit their virtual showroom at www.lakenormanchrysler.com.
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I inadvertently experienced a significant mentoring moment with my grandfather. In the midst of recording an interview with him about his life (he was born in early 1900’s), I asked, “If you could only tell Travis one thing to guide his life, what would it be?” His answer: “A good name is more precious than silver or gold.” Every parent I know wants to ensure that in today’s every changing world, their children adopt timeless values that will serve them well throughout life. Unknowingly, my grandfather helped us identify a key value for our crew. A family motto helps a family define bedrock qualities they hold important. Stephen Covey in his book, “7 Habits of Highly Effective Families,” he suggests that families, like businesses, need common values to function well. Covey states, “A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about – what it is you really want to do and be – and the principles you choose to govern your family life.” A daily benefit of a family motto is that it serves as a reminder in decision making for parents and offers children clear ideals to strive for and guidance with making choices. A family friend’s motto became: We live with a spirit of love and respect for others. When their daughters began to fight, mom would ask, “Is there another way to express your point with a spirit of love and respect right now?” As you can imagine, as the girls grew there were lots of opportunities to reinforce this family quality.
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Every person in a family has different personalities and ways of seeing life. Developing a shared statement bonds a diverse family together. To create a family motto/statement, gather everyone together in a fun nonjudging atmosphere. It can be during a camping trip or in the den. Have something to write on that captures everyone’s answers to reflective questions such as: When people think of our family, how do we want them to finish this sentence: They are a family that _________________.
The result of one or multiple conversations may be a onesentence motto such as, “We encourage and support each other in a kind atmosphere.” Or you might develop a list of statements under the banner, “As a family we value…” Once you finish, celebrate and display your unique family motto! So it’s time to set a date, order the pizza, and make some popcorn. The night can be anything from a fun family activity to a transformative experience. At the very least, you’ll know each other better and experience a mentoring moment. w
What kind of home would you like to invite your friends to? How do we want to treat and speak to one another? What embarrasses you about our family? What do you admire in other families?
Michelle Hoverson is the author of Mentoring Moments with Myself – a collection of letters to her younger self on life, faith, love and leadership. Follow her on facebook @Mentoring Moments With Michelle.
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Home Away From Home The 4,000+
community of Good Soul students couldn’t agree more. They have benefitted tremendously and as a result of the pandemic, have adapted and flocked to the virtual classes. Many say it’s saved them throughout the ordeal. Once the studio has reopened, they’ll find enhancements to make “Oh, Baby, It’s A Wild World” Songwriter Cat Stevens may have their in-person experience even better, including originally penned those words, but after the year 2020 has been the new juice bar, cycle room, and enhanced thus far, it’s certainly a sentiment with which most of us can agree. massage space. But even virtually, Good Soul is a Patti Alvarez, the visionary of Good Soul Yoga in Mooresville, not relief—a place to find solace and mindspace—for only concurs, she offers a solution; or at least a much-needed oasis students such as Chris Robillard, who loves how of friendship and community. “I want to offer students a place the studio has taught her to focus on the now: “I where they feel safe, loved, and welcome, whoever they are and am so thankful for this studio. It is my home away wherever they are,” she explains. “Focus is on the negativity in our from home!” w world these days. But with the right balance of mind, body, and spirit, we can clear our heads of the unhelpful chatter and focus on the positives—and we all have so much positive.”
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a beat,” notes Patti of the willingness of both the staff and the students to adapt to the post-corona world. She adds: “We’ve offered interactive classes on Zoom, semi-interactive classes on Facebook Live, and a gigantic Facebook library of classes students can access anytime, along with daily communications providing mental health support, links to the classes, and options for massage and workshops. Because of our adaptability, Good Soul has become a utopia during these unprecedented times.”
Patti Alvarez is the founder and owner of Good Soul Hot Yoga in Mooresville. For more information about Patti and the studio, visit www.goodsoulyoga.com.
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when EVERY night is family night! PA R E N T I N G I N A N E W A G E … Whether your kids are able to attend a brick and mortar school, are participating in virtual learning, or you’re testing the waters of home schooling, kids need A LOT of interaction, and parents these days may be finding situations, well, less than desirable. In order to help keep your kids engaged, active, and healthy (emotionally and physically!), here are a few suggestions from www.healthychildren.org – • Routines are good.
Bedtime and other routines create a sense of order to the day that offers reassurance to a child, especially in uncertain times. All children, including teens, benefit from routines that are predictable—yet flexible enough to meet the needs of each child. • Use positive discipline.
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Create a reward system so that kids can earn points for completing school assignments, chores, getting along with siblings, etc. Yes, even the things that are “expected” should be part of the reward system since they are “earning” those points. Then they can “purchase” playtime, computer time, etc.
• Use timeouts with a warning.
• Get creative with playtime.
• Create one-on-one time.
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Wake-up and freshen-up then get dressed and ready for breakfast. Some active play in the morning, followed by quiet play and healthy snack to transition into schoolwork. Lunch followed by chores, exercise, some online social time with friends, and then homework in the afternoon. Family time and reading before bed.
• Rewards and privileges.
Everyone is more anxious and worried these days, and younger children may not have the words to describe their feelings. Subsequently, they are more likely to act out their stress, anxiety, or fear through their behaviors. Be certain to notice good behavior and point it out, praising their successes. Redirect and distract rather than scold. Have the entire family write their ideas down and toss in a bowl; then draw to see which activity will be the “project du jour” … build your own putt-putt course; set up the yard for movie night; build a tent in the den and have an indoor campout!
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This discipline tool works best by warning children they will be heading to timeout if the behavior continues. Remind them what they did wrong in just a few words with no emotion. If the behavior continues, put them in timeout for a pre-set length of time (1 minute per year of age is a good guide).
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Our open concept homes are about to change. For those of us renovating or building new homes, it is important to understand how current circumstances will change how we live in the future. This month we start with the kitchen pantry.
In most custom homes built between 1970 - 2005 the pantry has been a larger closet or part of the main kitchen cabinetry.
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In the past 15 years, the scullery or walk-in pantry has emerged as a "want to have" on the custom home feature list. It is now becoming a "must have."
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PANTRY: a room or
closet used for storage (as of provisions) or from which food is brought to the table
SCULLERY: a room for cleaning and storing dishes and cooking utensils and for doing messy kitchen work
A scullery can add to the above a countertop for prep and staging, a sink, a dishwasher, a drink refrigerator, a freezer, a full refrigerator, wine cooler, or even an ice maker. If you can imagine it, it can be done. For the organization enthusiast, this is a great start to have everything in its place. Do not
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These came about due to: • Fact: The open concept kitchen is an entertainment eyesore. • If you had a caterer, a second kitchen/scullery for prep and cleanup is essential. • If you host a neighborly potluck, all the “packaging” must be stored somewhere for later use. • If you are cooking yourself – a hot mess. (At least I am.) • Fact: The advent of warehouse stores, nationwide by the end of the 90’s, caused us to need more storage.
scrimp on organizational lazySusan’s, baskets and labeling. This should give you a great sense of serenity. Final note: This is the perfect space to go for the fun cabinet color and fanciful wallpaper. This is your place to play! With a hidden door. a sweet surprise is just what the doctor ordered.
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Today, we may not be entertaining, however offsetting that, we have our entire family at home, all day, every day. This is our new hectic and we cannot leave it at work. Less clutter and more organization are the perfect counterweight to feeling anxious due to our circumstances. If we can move the chaos out of our main kitchen it feels like a breath of fresh air, just when we need it most.
So, what might a walkin pantry hold within its shelving? • It is the perfect place for storing your Costco purchases • Dog bowls, leashes & food • Small appliances rarely used • Paper products • Posting of children’s artwork, calendars and take-out menus. Leaving this mess on the front of the refrigerator feels unruly and cluttered • Cleaning products
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DIAGNOSIS If you only have reactions when your pet is indoors, there’s a good chance your dog or cat is the culprit. However, the only way to know for sure is to be tested by an allergist. The three most common testing methods include skin, patch, and blood tests.
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Percutaneous or skin testing is when the suspecting allergens are placed on the patient’s back and the skin is lightly scratched. After 15 minutes, the skin is checked for a local reaction. The severity of the allergy is determined by the size of the reaction.
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In patch testing, potential allergens are placed on the surface of the skin and covered with a bandage. In 48 hours, the bandage is removed and the skin is checked for swelling or rash.
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IF YOU HAVE P E T S , it’s important to keep them cool
and comfortable in these hot summer months. This often means keeping or bringing them inside more frequently. If you suffer from allergies, these symptoms are all too familiar: the runny nose and itchy, watery eyes. But how can you know if your symptoms are related to pet allergies and not some other cause?
Here’s an interesting fact: people with pet allergies aren’t actually allergic to dander (pet hair). They’re actually allergic to a certain protein in their pet’s saliva on the dander. Cats, for example, groom themselves with their tongues, creating lots of loose dander covered in saliva. It’s light and sticky, so the dander clings to clothes and shoes, spreading from place to place and person to person.
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People with particular skin conditions or who are taking particular types of medications cannot undergo skin or patch testing. For these patients, we utilize blood tests, also called RAST (radioallergosorbent test). A blood sample is drawn and sent to the lab, where the suspected allergen is added to the sample. Then, the sample is tested to measure how many antibodies the blood makes to fight that specific allergen.
TREATMENT
Avoidance is the best way to treat pet allergies. But no one wants to banish their pet from coming inside their home. Medicines such as over-the-counter antihistamines can alleviate symptoms, but some can leave you feeling drowsy — so be sure to read and follow directions and use with caution until you know how your body will react. Cleaning the air inside your house with a HEPA filter can help to remove the dander from the environment. Allergy shots (also called immunotherapy) are very effective and can, over time, reset your immune response to the protein in dander — lessening or even curing your allergies altogether. w L K N e x p e rt
J. Gray Norris, MD, is a board-certified asthma and allergy specialist with Carolina Asthma & Allergy Center. For more information or to schedule an appointment at one of their locations, you may call them at 704.372.7900 or visit www.carolinaasthma.com. WRITER J. GRAY NORRIS, MD
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Daisy
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Annie Gail
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legs. Laura shared Buttercup’s journey on social media, and the comments came flooding in! Buttercup’s determined spirit and happy demeanor was inspiring thousands of people to keep moving through their own difficulties. Laura quickly realized that her pups weren’t meant to be social media “influencers.” Social media had now become a community of healing and encouragement not only for the Russell family, but also for people all over the world. By December 2018, Buttercup’s hips were making strange sounds during her physical therapy sessions. Upon further investigation, it was discovered that she had extremely severe hip dysplasia, which doctors feel led to the rupture a few months earlier. Buttercup would never walk again. The Russells were devastated.
WHE N T HE R U SS E L L FA M I LY brought home their
third Pembroke Welsh Corgi puppy in February 2017, Laura, a former public relations professional turned stay-at-home mom to four children, decided to dust off her skills and see if she could turn her three pups Reecie, Peanut, and Buttercup (like the Hershey candy) into social media “influencers.” Subsequently, she created @threecrazycorgis on Instagram and Facebook, and each day Laura posted pictures of her pups celebrating wacky and unusual holidays.
In August 2018, 18 months after starting the social media experiment, the Instagram account reached 10,000 followers. Almost a week later, the Russells’ world was turned upside down—Buttercup woke up unable to move her back legs. The emergency veterinarian diagnosed her with a ruptured spinal disc, and Buttercup was in surgery within the hour. With a few weeks of rest, the little pup began physical therapy treatments, and the Russell family adjusted to their new normal of caring for a disabled dog, knowing that Buttercup only had a 50 percent chance of regaining use of her affected
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Laura and her husband, Stephen, decided to go to dinner and a movie to help lift their spirits. The young woman taking tickets at the theater was in a wheelchair. Since the Russells arrived early, Laura struck up a conversation with the woman. She told her about Buttercup, and how the family would like to take this heartbreak and turn it into hope by making their pup a therapy dog. The young woman relayed how she spent a lot of time in hospitals as a child, and that if a dog like Buttercup would have come for a visit, it would have meant a lot to her. After shedding some tears and exchanging hugs, Laura knew that this plan would need to come to fruition. Before the pandemic, Buttercup and Laura spent many, many mornings visiting an assisted living facility … they became very popular! A friend of Laura’s suggested that since Buttercup couldn’t be everywhere at once to bring people joy, a pillow of her likeness should be made and distributed to hospitals and other charities. Thus, the journey began. The Russells partnered with Illinois-based Lifelike Pillows to develop a cuddly, American-made pillow featuring a picture of Buttercup in her special wheelchair on the front and an inspirational saying on the back. Lifelike Pillows launched the website (www.allaboutvibe.com/collections/three-crazycorgis-throw-pillows) where pillows can be purchased, and a percentage of each sale will be used by the family to donate the pillows. Laura and Buttercup are eager for the day they can resume spreading the love! w CONTRIBUTED BY THE BUTTERCUP PILLOW PROJECT
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These doggie biscuits are made much like regular sugar cookies (sans the sugar),
and the kids will have so much fun making them. It’s a great family project and a
perfect gift idea! The dough is stiff and a little sticky, so you will need to roll it
out with a rolling pin and cut out shapes with cookie cutters.
HOMEMADE
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DIRECTIONS
INGREDIENTS
1 Heat oven to 350 and line a baking sheet with parchment paper.
2/3 cups of pumpkin puree (a good source of fiber and good for digestive issues)
2 Beat the pumpkin puree, peanut butter, and eggs (cinnamon if desired) on medium-high until it is well mixed (1-2 minutes).
1/4 cup of peanut butter (look for all-
natural, unsalted peanut butter. Natural peanut butter is a great source of protein, Vitamins B and E, and healthy monounsaturated fats. Caution! The sugar substitute Xylitol is poisonous for dogs and cats so check ingredients; some low-sugar brands may contain this.)
2 large eggs 3 cups whole wheat flour ¼ teaspoon of cinnamon (Optional-cinnamon is safe but always double-check ingredients that may be toxic to dogs.)
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at low speed, beating just until incorporated. Add additional flour a little at a time as needed just until the dough is no longer sticky and you are able to easily “turn it out” (a baker’s term for moving the dough from the bowl to a floured surface. (Hint: Dust your hands with flour so dough is easier to work with.) 4 Knead the dough 3-4 times on lightly-floured surface and roll into a quarter-inch thickness; have fun with your favorite cookie-cutters and place on baking sheet. 5 Bake until the edges are golden brown, about 20-25 minutes and let cool completely (they will get crunchier as they cool).
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getting to the point— medical acupuncture and its health benefits
ACU PU N CT U R E I S A V E RY O L D M E D I CA L A RT
that is part of traditional Chinese medicine and has been practiced for over 2500 years. Traditional acupuncture is based on the theory that channels of energy run in regular patterns throughout the body. These channels are known as meridians and the energy is known as Qi. When the flow of energy becomes obstructed in the channels, medical problems can occur. Needling acupuncture points along these meridians helps to stimulate the flow of energy and restores balance to the body. This promotes the body’s natural healing abilities, resulting in physical and emotional well-being. From a scientific point of view, acupuncture stimulates the nervous system to release chemicals in the muscles, spinal cord, and brain. These chemicals help to decrease pain and trigger the release of other chemicals and hormones which help regulate the body. Medical acupuncture is performed by physicians who are trained in both modern medicine and acupuncture, enabling their patients to benefit from both ancient healing techniques and western medicine. Acupuncture is extremely helpful in treating medical problems related to tension, stress, and emotional conditions. It is safe and well-tolerated and can accelerate the healing process and boost the immune system. Each acupuncture treatment is specifically tailored to a patient’s needs and can be combined with traditional therapies. Multiple acupuncture treatments are often required in order to obtain maximum effects. w
Medical acupuncture works in three different ways: 1 Promotes health and
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2 Prevents illness. 3 Treats various
medical conditions including headaches, back and neck pain, tendonitis, neuralgia, anxiety, insomnia, gastrointestinal problems, respiratory problems, urinary, menstrual and reproductive problems, and more.
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Our First Cup
KATIE STANKIEWICZ WILLOW EQUINE
Just the right blend
The most important aspect to work/ life balance is just that … a healthy balance of work engagements, family time, and self-care. Work can consume so much of your day-to-day activities. Each aspect needs to be made a priority with specific times on your calendar. It is best to mark times where you focus on work, and when you completely shut off. It can be difficult when you own your own businesses and yet it is a must! Allow yourself to disconnect from the screens and distractions and enjoy your family. The other key aspect of balance is the care for yourself. If we do not focus on our own mental and spiritual health, our families and work will suffer. Consider creating the space and time to relax and reconnect with your inner self.
Stay grounded and true to yourself and life will unfold in new and beautiful ways!
Undoubtedly as the pandemic continues, all of our lives have been altered. I try to stay focused on simple pleasures … the enjoyment of family and home create positivity in this new time. My husband and daughter, 7-yearold Natalie Ray, have spent extra special quality time together. Business wise, Willow Equine has offered a constant for both my team and our clients. As mental health statistics soar, we are blessed to offer face-to-face counseling services and our Military program at our farm, while observing CDC guidelines, to help those during this uncertain time.
Grab your travel mug
I was blessed to travel to the south of France (Ariège, in the heart of the Ariège Pyrenees Regional Natural Park) to work with a rare breed of horses called the Merens. This was an incredible once-in-a-lifetime experience which will evolve into hosting more equine-assisted experiences in the future. I will also be traveling to Colorado (fingers crossed) in October to work with business owners and the wild mustangs at the Steadfast Steeds Mustang Sanctuary. It is powerful work to see executives and business owners replace obstacles with creative and strategic solutions. The results of this equine experience enables them to lead their teams with ease. When you combine the mountains, wild horses, and the energy of the participants, powerful transformations occur.
Stop and smell the aroma
Honestly, I am a simple girl at heart; therefore, it is the simple things that make me smile … my daughter’s giggle, watching animals outside, flowers, riding my horse, OR seeing my clients connect to a deeper part of themselves. The pandemic is an invaluable life lesson, if taken as such, in terms of values, resourcefulness, and especially gratitude. Be present and thankful! Connect with those around you. Stay grounded and true to yourself and life will unfold in new and beautiful ways! w
Offering equine assisted psychotherapy and business development, Katie Stankiewicz is a Certified Leadership Coach and Advanced Certified Equine Specialist. She is the owner of Willow Equine (www.Willow-Equine.com) and Soul to Soles Connection, a program dedicated to our military and their families’ mental health. You can reach Katie at 704.237.0644.
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Meet the Newest Member of Our Cosmetic Family. We are excited to introduce our new aesthetician, Laetitia Cloete. Laetitia brings years of experience and a holistic background to enhance our practice and patient service. Call us to schedule your consultation! Introducing Licensed Aesthetician Laetitia Cloete.
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general manager. Additionally, the newly opened Goodbye Body Fat, Lean Life Enthusiasts Spa at 15905 Brookway Drive, Suite 4103, in Huntersville announces the hiring of two new team members:
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Award-winning writer in the corporate arena, REBECCA S. PARKINSON has turned to personal writing and ministry. An author of several books, she just launched a website (nature-reflections.com) posting a weekly blog showing how nature reflects God’s character. She uses photos of wildflowers, mountains, and beaches from the Piedmont, Smokies, Nantucket, and Scotland.
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Southern Oncology Specialists would like to welcome CAROLINE HEYS, PA-C, and BESS WHITMORE, PA-C,
to their oncology team. Both received their physician assistant degree from Wingate University and will be rotating to see patients in Southern Oncology’s four offices: Denver, Huntersville, Mooresville, and Charlotte.
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ANN MCINTOSH EAGERLY ANTICIPATED HER DAUGHTER Sarah’s walk across the stage to accept her diploma from the University of South Carolina School of Law last May. After all, is there anything more satisfying than seeing your child realize her dreams? Sarah was excited for graduation day as well, and not just for the obvious reasons—Ann was graduating too, with a master’s degree in nursing. Knowing that the triumph of the day belonged to them both, the mother-daughter duo could hardly wait for it to come: there would be photos; there would be hugs; there would be a McIntosh celebration like no other.
Then came the pandemic. With a ban on large gatherings, there has been no pomp, no circumstance, and no graduation stage to complete the educational journey of the two McIntosh women. For Ann, it was a non-traditional journey that began with childhood dreams of obtaining a degree. However, Ann’s father passed away when she was only eight years old, leaving her mother to raise Ann and her three siblings on her own. “Financially, it wasn’t in the cards for me to attend college after high school. The desire was there…the money was not,” recalls Ann. Ann earned her associate degree instead. She later enrolled in a commuter satellite program and obtained her bachelor’s degree in nursing. Ann still had dreams of getting a master’s degree—this time, however, a change in priorities interrupted her journey. After an introduction by a co-worker, Ann married Bob McIntosh, and two babies soon followed. Ann put her dream on the back burner to focus on her family, telling herself that “one day she would return to school.” When Sarah and her brother, Bo, left for college, “one day” turned into “today.”
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ANN MCINTOSH AND DAUGHTER SARAH MCINTOSH, PROUD 2020 GRADUATES
Determined to make the dual graduation happen, Ann finished a two-year program in one, making all As while working full time and continuing to be there for her family. Sarah, who hosted her mother at her apartment when Ann was in Columbia, witnessed her determination firsthand: “My mom is the most selfless person I know. It blows my mind that she balanced school full-time while working and being a mom, wife, and grandma. She should add “expert time manager” as a skill on her resume!” Though both women were crestfallen they weren’t able to participate in the rite of passage a graduation ceremony affords, their greatest disappointment was for the other. “A lot of the focus was on me, but I felt bad for Sarah. A law school graduation on the Horseshoe is quite spectacular,” says Ann. Sarah echoed: “I actually felt a lot worse for my mom about the graduation than I did for myself. This was her day to shine!” While COVID-19 may have taken the celebratory march across a graduation stage from Ann and Sarah, the pride they have for one another’s accomplishments is something it can’t steal from them—and that is the sweetest celebration of all. w WRITER DANA JORDAN
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Caring adults can, however, offer a psychological release valve. The adolescent brain craves autonomy and respect. You can meet that need, and be an anxiety balm, by following these steps.
TEENS ARE FACING AN AMBIGUOUS FUTURE.
1 PLAN TO LISTEN. Plan to just listen. When you have an opinion or a solution, keep it to yourself.
Whoever said, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,” was obviously living in a different time. In 2020, that whole first clause needs to go away. We’ve hit a universal rough patch, and there’s no telling when, or if, it will get smoother.
3 FOLLOW THEIR LEAD. They want to talk about thwarted college plans? “Tell me more.” They want to talk about TikTok videos? “Tell me more.” They want to talk about why you don’t need to track them on their cell phone? “Tell me more.” Periodt.
here’s how to help them deal. door. The back door of their parents’ house. The parent’s house where they’ll still be living next year, as they do their college classes online. Online classes like the ones they were thrust into around March of last year. Their last crappy, cloistered year of high school. Can we all say it with them? This sucks.
Many of my teen life coach kids were gearing up for the thrill sprint. They’d been accepted to college. They were connecting with potential roommates. They were about to—finally, finally— be out from under their parents’ roof…and cell phone tracking.
Because nobody knows when it will be safe to quit social distancing, there’s no visible light at the end of the tunnel. The lack of certainty is anxiety provoking, especially for a generation that was highly anxious even before the Corona hit. Sitting at home, unable to go out and interact and distract themselves, kids have So. Much. Time. To. Think. The human brain naturally focuses on fear and perceived threat as a survival mechanism. That tendency, for many teens, is now in overdrive.
Enter the Coronavirus, and it’s all a big “Wait, what?” It’s like they ran smack into a brick wall. The wall right next to the back
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4 MENTALLY SEEK OUT POSITIVES TO COMMENT ON. What is your teen showing success with? How are you seeing their strengths? Here’s a conversation starter: “You seem to be handling all of this really well. Sometimes better than me! How are you doing it?”
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We adults, at least, have experienced some slings and arrows. We’ve developed perspective and coping skills. And for the little kids, ignorance can be bliss. This is all just a big, fun sick day at home! But for teens, there’s no silver lining.
2 BE CURIOUS. The phrase “Tell me more” never gets old.
By interacting this way with your teen, you’re doing a lot of good: validating their feelings, giving space for what they want and need, and drawing awareness to both their positive traits and your awareness of them. Big picture, you’re luring their attention away from the anxiety Sit ‘n Spin. But if all of this feels like too much work, the same goal can be achieved with this conversation starter: “Hey, what’s this TikTok I keep hearing about?” Just…brace yourself. w L K N e x p e rt
Cyndy Etler is a boardcertified teen life coach and award-winning young adult memoir author. Her work has been featured on CNN, NPR, CBS’ The Doctors, Huffpost, Today’s Parent, and other international media. WRITER CYNDY ETLER
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sugar, spice, & everything nice! TH E DIF FER EN CES IN RAISING BOYS AND GIRLS
WH IL E MA NY R ESEA R CH ER S SAY T H AT THE
gap between how we raise boys and how we raise girls is evolving to become less gender specific, there are fundamental differences that need to be addressed. Parents don’t necessarily need to “direct” their daughters towards dolls and their sons towards trucks, but we should understand the differences of the genders—recognizing that there are reasons why your boy is behaving the way he is and vice versa. Here is some information to consider from the American Psychological Association (APA): WHAT’S UP WITH ALL THE ADHD/ADD DIAGNOSES? One
APA study reports that boys are three times more likely to get diagnosed, but the concern is whether we are ignoring “boys being boys.” Since boys develop more slowly (and don’t hear as well), they develop speech skills more slowly too. Males are also high-energy and hands-on so while a girl may sit quietly in the corner studying the pretty pictures and words of a book, a boy would prefer to rip the pages out and try to reconstruct the book. Taking all this into consideration, some are too quick to label these traits as a “disorder.” The truth is that this behavior, while different from that of a girl, may just be normal behavior for boys.
WHAT!? Yes, boys do not hear as well as girls, and many parents are nodding a vigorous affirmation to that one! One APA study found that by elementary school, a boy’s hearing may be “normal” but it still isn’t as sharp as it is for girls. “Most specifically, the range of hearing studied was that of voice frequency. This attributes to one of the reasons that boys require more hands-on learning and discipline than girls do.”
HOW MUCH IS LEARNED BEHAVIOR? The short answer
is A LOT! For example, when a girl starts to walk, parents often coddle and protect while brother is encouraged to be “rough n’ tumbly.” Same goes for interests. According to the APA, “in many research studies where toddler boys and girls were watched by secret surveillance, both boys and girls showed the most interest in toys that are routinely programmed towards females.” Obviously the encouragement to roleplay with dolls, pretend kitchens, and other “girly” toys is not as fostered in boys as it is in girls, so essentially, these types of differences are learned early on in life.
AH, MOM, NOT IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY! Studies have repeatedly shown that moms and dads have less physical contact with boys than with their girls. A trend that starts in toddlerhood, it is something parents should be aware of and rectify early. Boys tend to shy away from affection, sometimes even at an early age, much to the chagrin of their moms. But their rambunctious nature and the parents’ often unintentional “masculinity-pushing” parenting strategies make this almost inevitable. As parents, it is essential you show physical affection to your boys anyway … even if you have to “sneak-a-kiss” while he’s playing in the corner as a toddler or you’re catching a rare glimpse in the hall when he’s a teen. w
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Amie grew up in Flint, Michigan, attended Michigan State University, and came to North Carolina for a job in purchasing when she was just out of college. A mutual friend and fellow Michigan State alum introduced her to her husband, Doug, who had also moved to the area for work. Though Doug had also attended MSU at the same time, their paths had never crossed before—or at least they didn’t think so. But years later Amie discovered Doug in the background of a photo she had taken at school. “It would have been crazy for someone to point him out and tell me I would be living in North Carolina and married to him within two years,” Amie says of the coincidence. Doug and Amie enjoyed their jobs in the corporate world, but before long, opportunity knocked in the form of an entrepreneurial venture in direct selling. The couple answered and have never looked back—their business now spans the globe. As their company grew, Amie discovered that the experience of being an entrepreneur had really changed her life: “Leaving my safe corporate job gave me the freedom and flexibility to be as productive as I wanted to be,” she recalls. And once Amie and Doug decided to expand their family as well, everything changed: “Having children helped me become less selfish, forced me to analyze my priorities, and be in control of my calendar.”
Her daughters Chrissa (now 17) and Lilli (now 15) also changed how Amie thought about education. “I was looking for a Christian education option other than homeschooling that allowed me to be involved, but not be the primary educator,” she explains. Her research led her to the University-Model®, which blends the best attributes of traditional public and private schools with independent study. By using a university-style course schedule, students receive professional instruction three days a week and work independently under a parent’s guidance the other days. Amie put her plan into action, and by 2010, she was accepting applications for what would become the only private Christian school in Mooresville.
AMIE WEIR LIBERTY PREPARATORY CHRISTIAN ACADEMY
AMIE & 10-YEAROLD DARCY
MOST ACCOMPLISHED FOLKS
develop winning systems that have become natural to them over time and that fuel their success. For some it could be systematically executing structured to-do lists; others might implement a methodical training process for their staff. For Amie Weir, founding member and head administrator of Liberty Preparatory Christian Academy, it’s a tried and true system that’s as old as commerce itself: “I take lots of deep breaths and pray,” she explains.
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Amie’s girls have thrived at Liberty Prep: Chrissa graduated salutatorian this year and is now a freshman at Oklahoma City University and Lilli is starting her junior year at Liberty Prep. The school has grown and thrived as well, celebrating its 10-year anniversary and recently moving into a new 28-acre facility. “I always joke that it would have been a lot easier to homeschool than to start a whole new school,” laughs Amie before winking and adding, “Don’t ever let anyone tell you something can’t be done!” w
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THIS MONTH WE HEAR FROM NANCY BEARD (CERTIFIED LIFE COACH AND FOUNDER OF NANCY BEARD COACHING) AS SHE SHARES A CROSS-COUNTRY MOTHER/SON TRIP.
WHEN OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS
I must admit, when my son, Phillip, first brought up the idea of a cross-country road trip, I was a bit ambivalent. Thrilled he and his wife were moving from Seattle to Charlotte, the trip already had a lot of joy associated with it. So while his wife caught a flight with their slightly anxious cat, my son and I embarked on the trip of a lifetime! We drove 2,692 miles in five days traveling through Washington, Idaho, Montana, Wyoming, South Dakota, Nebraska, Iowa, Kansas, Missouri, Illinois, Kentucky, Tennessee, and on home to North Carolina.
“Changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes,” as one Mr. Jimmy Buffett sings, and here at Lake Norman Woman Magazine, we couldn’t agree more! Whether it’s an escape to your favorite beach that you took last summer or an exotic location halfway around the globe that you’re planning for future travel, we want to share those adventures with our readers.
PASSING THE TIME We listened to music, and I learned about new podcasts. We had deep discussions about history, historical figures, politics, life’s challenges, and just life in general. We played games and sang songs.
BISON BURGERS AND BANANA PUDDING
We saw a sign for bison sandwiches so we exited the highway in Oacoma, South Dakota, for AL’s Oasis where we tried a bison burger, which tasted like beef to us. Another good stop is at Wall Drug in Wall, South Dakota—the drug store (it is so much more than a drug store) is so large that they employ almost everyone in the small town. Our other fun food experience was at Hattie B’s Hot Chicken in Nashville … world-renowned for their spicy chicken and award-winning banana pudding.
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ALONG THE WAY
We loved the 80-mile speed limit when we were in Idaho, Montana, and South Dakota. In Washington we saw signs for places with strange names like Snoqaulmie Falls and Yakima. In Montana on Interstate 90 there are green signs with tribal words like Baaxuwuaashe. We stopped in Rapid City, South Dakota, to see Mt. Rushmore and it was well worth it … seeing it in person is quite awe-inspiring!
PRICELESS JOURNEY
Our final day was filled with excitement as we eased our way to the North Carolina state line. Phillip was excited to see his wife and I was excited to see my husband. Taking a cross-country trip was never on my bucket list but I was open to the wonderful opportunity and thankful to see our beautiful country. It was truly a blessing, and I had a couple tears in my eyes when we arrived home due to the happiness I felt having this beautiful gift of five days alone—just me and my boy. w
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“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” –GEORGE BERNARD SHAW
You can keep a dog; but it is the
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what can you do to promote world peace? go home and love your family.”
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Dogs don’t feel sorry for themselves.
They adapt, carry on, and teach us to live in the moment.” –CESAR MILLAN
“The most important work you’ll ever do will be within the walls of your own home.” - Harold B. Lee AMANDA GLOWACKI OWNER / NC REALTOR ® 704-962-7889
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MIND body spirit By mixing the ingredients of attitude and action, we can change the flavor of our own lives. Learn to nur ture your body and soul to lead a more balanced life.
FLIPPING THE SCRIPT:
RECODING & THE SUBCONSCIOUS MIND When you change your narrative, you change your life. As someone who has made it my life’s mission to help others shatter mental limits and live their most fulfilling lives, I fully believe that. I’ve spent years integrating neuroscience and mindset coaching to help people recode the software of their minds for high-speed mindset change at the cellular level. How does that work? Science has proven that our beliefs, not our genes, determine 95 percent of our decision making. Did you know most of these beliefs are in our subconscious? This is our habitual brain – our automatic hard drive. Often the subconscious is like a minefield of limiting beliefs and old outdated “programs” that are no longer worthy of who you are or who you want to become. These limiting beliefs affect all aspects of your life: your relationships, self-esteem, financial prosperity, career, even your health. Recoding your subconscious clears a safe path through those “roadblocks” to a new place of expanded potential in every area of your life. Our brain is like a supercomputer. Our conscious brain is the monitor (the front screen). It can have a few things up on the screen at once, and can do a limited
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amount of things at the same time. In fact, science says our conscious brain can take in 40 bits of information per second. Pretty good, right? Our subconscious brain acts as the hard drive. Not just any old hard drive; a MASSIVE hard drive that can process 40,000,000 bits of information per second! Here it holds every single memory, emotion, and all beliefs. The craziest part is, the majority of these beliefs are installed by the environment we inherited before we were 7 years old. You’ve heard people say, “You’re just like your mother” or caught yourself doing or saying the exact things your parents did or said? We learn all of our habits from our parents and the environment we grew up in. Unfortunately, many of these beliefs are no longer serving us and are undoubtedly self-limiting. People have tried all kinds of techniques – hypnosis, subliminal audios, tapping – to change their subconscious beliefs, but if
you don’t treat it at the root, it’s nearly impossible. With recoding techniques, we uninstall the programs that don’t serve you and install the beliefs that help you be congruent to who you are so you can have all the success in your life and business you desire. Wouldn’t you like to be able to attract what you really want and feel worthy at the same time? I have found with my own experiences and that of my clients, flipping the script at the subconscious has a massive impact on self-esteem, selfworth, success, business, fear, love, relationships, spirituality, and every area of life. w Leaving behind a successful career as a corporate strategist, Hilary Porta has spent the last decade diving deep into neuroscience, neurolinguistics programming, cognitive behavior, industrial psychology, metaphysical anatomy, and Advanced PSYCH-K®. She is the founder of R3 International, Inc. and CEO of H Porta Coaching, a leadingedge transformational company serving her clients through 1:1, group, VIP Intensives, workshops, retreats, and online courses. WRITER HILARY PORTA
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