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Monday, January 4, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

The Search for the Absolute You know, you’ve never been alive until you are Self-realized. You’ve been some kind of dead, robotic automaton walking around and just functioning. You’ve been a completely conditioned mass of reflexes: memory, experience, desire; fear, anger, pain. That’s what you are prior to Selfrealization. Self-realization dissolves all that, reveals your true identity as perfect consciousness – and therefore you’ve attained Knowledge. You are That. Aham Brahasmi. I am the Absolute.

So what’s happening in this state when feeling is awakened in Consciousness? The body-mind goes up in flames. It starts to incinerate. You realize that you have never REALLY felt before.

You never actually experienced feeling before Self-realization; and you went numb during Selfrealization, so this is the first time that you are truly feeling. Can you understand what I’m trying to explain?

So feeling…, it’s as if a little baby is given a toy. The child becomes insane with this toy. The child goes mad in its own joy. It’s never before felt anything, ever.

The human body-mind in ignorance has not felt one thing. Everything has been in the conditioned. Then you hit the unconditioned and there’s no feeling and now the incineration begins to happen, which is the mad search for feeling, for the nature of feeling, for the object of feeling, for the subject of feeling – for the subject, the object, and the process of feeling become spontaneously activated in nirvana, in Self-realization. See, we’re going beyond Self-realization now. And so the body-mind begins to incinerate, the mind incinerates, the emotions incinerate.

Everything goes up into this heated Self-embrace.

It may actually take the form of seeking for what you believe to be an outer “other.” You may think you’re looking for someone “out there” or something “out there,” someplace “out there” something you really want to touch with your whole being, something that you’re hungry for, ravenous, consumed in a desire to feel and taste and sense.

You see, there’s no intellectualization going on about this when you’re in this state. This is not something you’re rationalizing. You’re not saying: “well, I’m Self-realized and therefore I’m resurrected in feeling now….” You are seemingly desperate. Beyond that aggravated feeling is consummate Unity where Self and world are one. And every aspect of your human subjective functioning – emoting, thinking, feeling, sensing – all the different senses, all of them arise in Consciousness, all of them function in Consciousness - with Consciousness having permeated right to the surface of every finite aspect of the human being. So, you see, that feeling creates a massive climax, a massive orgasm in Consciousness.

It could take many years to go through this if you are even invited by the Divine into this experience. You can’t produce it deliberately. It’s an inborn hunger that you either have or you don’t have. Some beings will become very “comfortable” in Self-realization. And others can experience these higher states differently…as there are “higher” let’s say qualitatively different states of awakening even beyond this devotional rapture.

You receive a glimpse of something beyond the Observer, beyond Self-realization – a knowing that something more is available. When the Divine descends and enters the human being’s nervous system totally –this is when profound ecstatic states will be experienced.

One of these states is the Kundalini-shakti and its role in all of this is that Shakti is, as Current, activated after Self-realization - perhaps before Self-realization, through Self-realization, and after Self-realization - in these intoxicated states. But that Current gives a blissful feeling of being gripped by the Divine, the feeling of being made love to by the Divine. It intensifies this devotional rapture – this devotional relationship with Being - and then takes one beyond it. After the flash of Self and world as one in Divine Union which eventually will also fade. Any experience will fade; the impressions of it, but the residues of all those states of consciousness will stay with you, the essence of them and actually living of them.

Then you have sahaja samadhi which is absolute relaxation in Consciousness Itself from the depths of pure consciousness all the way to the surface of the body, through the body and to everything and everyone that sees that body or touches it, or is in the vicinity of it. That is sahaja samadhi. That’s the natural state because it has been released of all the different major fluctuations of consciousness. Sahaja just relaxes in the Bliss of It All, which is both feeling and silence and what is beyond them. It is love and detachment and what is beyond them. One lives in this innocence of sweet unknowingness, of Divine Unknowingness.

But in sahaja samadhi you live naturally. If you want to eat, you eat. There’s no more austerity, unless you enjoy that. There’s nothing to do except to enjoy. You are the Enjoyer. You enjoy everything. There’s no more philosophizing about inner and outer and transcendence and immanence, God and karma. There’s no more talk about it. You’re released of it all. It has released you, it has finally let go of you.

And then there are states beyond sahaja samadhi. It depends of what you were born with, what you have acquired through previous awakenings, what kind of spiritual practices you’ve done, the type of practices you are doing now, and most enjoyable: receiving the energy transmission of Oneness Experience.

Who is Alexis?

Alexis is a Oneness Facilitator (transmitter of energy) called Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you; taking you towards Oneness, and enabling you to see the reality of what you are in every moment. Also healing your body, your relationships, and recognizing the divinity in the experience of the present moment….

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to seven hours. She uses techniques and group methods, and demonstrates with ease the ability to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and learn to make decisions with awareness and increased levels of consciousness. For success in this it is necessary to understand completely, open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, January 11, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

How to Keep Your New Year's Resolutions Most people are likely to make a New Year's resolution this year. Their top vows: to lose weight (19%), quit smoking (12%) and exercise more (10%). Sound familiar? Want to break an addiction? Addiction experts have found that even hard-core addicts can successfully break bad habits - by cutting back, instead of quitting altogether. That means adhering to a regimen of moderation rather than total abstinence. So whatever your ultimate goal for 2010, success may depend on tempering your behavior, not aiming for temperance. Here are some tips.

1. Don't Fool Yourself The most important thing is to be honest with yourself. You need to know the difference between enjoying yourself and self-medicating. It's not that self-medicating is necessarily bad - but you should give yourself parameters. If you are adhering to them, great! If not, you need to check yourself. Successful moderators decide in advance how much is "too much" - and stick to their limit, no matter what. Have a cookie a day, if that's what you've deemed acceptable. But if you "cheat" by having "just one more," know that you are only cheating yourself and exacerbating the problem. The point is to learn how to hold yourself accountable.

For those who are concerned about drinking in particular, a free, research-based online tool at this link: http://www.drinkerscheckup.com/index_spanish.htm can help you determine whether you are drinking at unhealthy levels, and what to do if you are.

2. Quit Cold Turkey - Temporarily Theoretically, there are very good reasons to take a break from a behavior, totally, as an initial period of complete abstinence can make it easier for people to moderate behavior, by eliminating the habitual, automatic aspect of the unwanted activity. Experts advise problem drinkers to abstain completely for a month before attempting moderate drinking. If you can't achieve a month of abstinence, the thinking goes, successful moderation is unlikely. The best way to stay on course is frequent self-monitoring; use as many behavior-modification tools, support groups and programs as you can.

3. Do What the Dalai Lama Would Do "Mindfulness-based relapse prevention," uses meditation and other ideas from Buddhist teachings to help people break bad habits. "Between stimulus and response, there's a space, and in that space is our power to choose our response, and in our response lies our growth and freedom, "Mindfulness gets you into that space." Being mindful may involve traditional meditation, in which you sit quietly and observe your thoughts and breathing without judgment. But here, it is also used to focus awareness on thoughts and feelings that lead to unwanted behavior. Simply recognizing the triggers to relapse can help you choose not to give into them. "When there's a fork in road, craving is pulling you one way. Well, what's the other way? You have to look down other road see where it takes you. Then, you have a choice, instead of being on autopilot.

One tactic for resisting those cravings is called "urge surfing." It involves being mindful of the fact that craving is like a wave - it rises to a peak, then falls. This happens whether you yield to the urge or not, though most people erroneously think their craving will escalate endlessly, unless they give in. In fact, succumbing to cravings only reinforces them - resisting, in contrast, reinforces resistance. Watch your urge, note its peak and "surf" it, rather than allowing it to take you over.

Another trick to recognize is that willpower is like a muscle - it gets stronger with use, but ultimately weakens if overloaded. That's why it is recommended to set short-term goals that are "moderately difficult, realistic, concrete and measurable." As with weight-lifting, starting at a level that is challenging but not overwhelming can provide a sense of achievement and success which can give you the drive to take on bigger challenges.

4. Don't Try to Scare Yourself Straight Research shows that in the long term, the pleasure of victory is a better incentive than the agony of defeat. Punishment is a poor motivator, as it sets people up for failure. If all you do is punish yourself for failure, you won't stay motivated to change for very long.

Instead, reward yourself for sticking to your limits and focus on the benefits of changing. For instance, if your goal is to drink less or lose weight, treat yourself to something you want - a new book or DVD each time you successfully resist a tempting dessert or achieve a goal, like a month of abstinence. Success tends to beget greater success. If you do slip back into old patterns, avoid recriminations. Don't say, 'I can't do it’. People make mistakes. If you keep working at it, you will get better over time. That's what the research shows.

For some people, trying to moderate bad habits is not achievable or takes more effort than abstaining altogether - as the philosopher Saint Augustine put it, "Complete abstinence is easier than perfect moderation." Recognizing this by trying and failing can also be a critical step toward behavior change.

5. Get Better Friends Consciously and unconsciously, people tend to imitate those around them. That's why the latest research shows that things like happiness, quitting smoking and obesity can spread like a contagion through social networks. So, surround yourself with friends who can also be role models. Make sure that people you hang out with are people who look and act the way you would like to. Social imitation is the easiest form not only of flattery but of self-improvement.

Social support is critical to changing all kinds of behavior. Good friends can not only help you through slip-ups, but they can also help keep your New Year's resolution from taking over your life. Rather than obsessing about what you shouldn't be doing, think about things you should. The distraction will help you curb bad habits. Focus on your higher goals and positive activities, things that both sustain you and fill your life. If you regularly engage in meaningful activities that give you pleasure - whether it's visiting friends, picking up a hobby, taking a class or doing volunteer work (one of the most gratifying sources of personal joy and meaning is helping others) - you'll simply have less time to crave or engage in the behavior that you want to reduce.

Who is Alexis?

Alexis is a Oneness Facilitator (transmitter of energy) called Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you; taking you towards Oneness, and enabling you to see the reality of what you are in every moment. Also healing your body, your relationships, and recognizing the divinity in the experience of the present moment‌. Conscious awakening is the ability to see reality as it is, without the layers of interference and interpretation imposed by the mind. Oneness Experience is a transfer of Divine energy which helps us to disidentify from conflict and suffering, taking us to states of inner peace, joy, happiness and Oneness.

This transfer of energy called Oneness Experience is universal & useful in all spiritual traditions. It enhances our ability to connect from the Heart with the Divine & with all of the people that we love. Many report that after receiving a Oneness Experience they experience healing on all levels, as well as powerful and ongoing spiritual awakening. Most people are seeking harmony and joy and we have discovered that it is possible for everybody to live in a state of inner freedom, even permanently.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, January 18, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Feeling Alone Together: How Loneliness Spreads Despite the way it feels, loneliness often has nothing to do with being alone. For some people, feelings of isolation are highest during times that are in fact defined by togetherness — celebrations or the holidays, for instance. Walk into a busy shopping mall or a buzzing holiday party this time of year, and even within a crowd — or perhaps especially in a crowd — it's possible to feel unbearably alone.

New research from experts may give us a clue as to why. Although we tend to think of it as a selfcontained emotional state — a condition that affects people individually, either by circumstance or an antisocial personality — researchers now say that loneliness is more far-reaching than that.

John Cacioppo, a psychologist at the University of Chicago, believes it is a social phenomenon that exists within a society and can spread through it, from person to person, like a disease. And while everyone feels lonely once in a while, for some it becomes a persistent condition, one that has been associated with more serious psychological ills like depression, sleep dysfunction, high blood pressure and even an increased risk of dementia in older age.

The latest study by Cacioppo, shows that emotional states and behaviors — including happiness, obesity and quitting smoking — can propagate like a wave throughout a network of people. To examine whether the contagion effect existed with loneliness, he used the same data from — the Framingham Heart Study, an ongoing trial which began in 1948 to identify risk factors for cardiovascular disease. Thanks to the meticulous way the trial was initially set up, investigators noted close family members and friends of each participant to ensure follow-up over the years, Cacioppo now had access to a rich social network for each volunteer in their study — from family members and friends to colleagues and neighbors.

Cacioppo and his team focused on the children of the original Framingham cohort, which included more than 5,200 middle-aged men and women. Starting in 1983, more than 4,500 volunteers were asked to fill out three questionnaires, spaced two years apart, about how many days in the previous week they had felt lonely. Because most of the participants' friends and family members were also part of the Framingham study, the scientists could track, over time, whether one person's report of loneliness had any impact on the feelings of isolation in other members in his or her social network. Researchers were thus able to rule out the possibility that lonely people simply congregated with other lonely people, or that a shared environmental event, such as a fatal fire in the neighborhood, could have triggered mass feelings of loneliness.

The results were illuminating: If one person reported feeling lonely at one evaluation, his closest connections (either family or close friends) were 52% more likely to also report feeling lonely two years later. The effect was strongest among those in close relationships, waning as the connections became more distant, but remained significant up to three degrees of separation — in other words, one lonely person could influence whether his friend's friend's friend felt lonely.

"Loneliness has been conceived in the past as depression, introversion, shyness or poor social skills," says Cacioppo. "Those are incorrect. Research we and others have done suggests that it really is a fundamental human motivational state very much like hunger, thirst or pain."

In other words, loneliness is not so much a symptom of being companionless as it is a driving force behind social isolation. Rather than simply reflecting the emotional state of one person, Cacioppo says, loneliness is more like an indicator of the social health of our species on the whole — a temperature reading, if you will, of how well- or not so well-integrated we are as a population.

That's an important measure, he says, because we are, by nature, a social species; we feed off our interactions with one another and thrive when we are inspired, challenged and supported by one another. While occasional feelings of isolation are perfectly natural and normal, the new study suggests that loneliness can begin to fester in a society like a cancer if it is allowed to transmit unchecked from one person to another.

But how does a person "catch" loneliness? Based on the new data, Cacioppo theorizes that it is passed on through feelings of mistrust and negativity. "People who feel lonely view the social world as more threatening," he says. "They may not be aware they are doing it, but lonely individuals think negatively about other people. So if you are my friend, and I started to treat you negatively, then over time, we would stop being friends. But in the meantime, our interactions caused you to treat other people less positively, so you're likely to lose friends, and they in turn are likely to lose friends. That appears to be the means of transmission for loneliness." People may be spreading their negative feelings simply by frowning or making other unpleasant facial expressions, making hurtful remarks or even adopting uninviting body postures.

Over time, lonely people find themselves banished to the periphery of their social networks; as they lose friends and connections, they are pushed to the fringes, where they are only marginally connected to the community. Viewed that way, say experts, the loneliness factor in a neighborhood or an apartment complex or a workplace may be an indication of how cohesive, and therefore mentally healthy, that population is. "Loneliness can be a signal for when that social connection is fraying," says Cacioppo.

Who is Alexis?

Alexis is a Oneness Facilitator (transmitter of energy) called Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you; taking you towards Oneness, and enabling you to see the reality of what you are in every moment. Also healing your body, your relationships, and recognizing the divinity in the experience of the present moment. Conscious awakening is the ability to see reality as it is, without the layers of interference and interpretation imposed by the mind. Oneness Experience is a transfer of Divine energy which helps us to disidentify from conflict and suffering, taking us to states of inner peace, joy, happiness and Oneness.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to seven hours. She uses techniques and group methods, and demonstrates with ease the ability to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and learn to make decisions with awareness and increased levels of consciousness. For success in this it is necessary to understand completely, open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, January 25, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

17 Surprising Ways to Boost Energy Need more energy? Here are some really surprising, non-caffeinated, ways to rev you up... in just 10 minutes a day! When taking your 10 minute break, the key is your intention. It’s what makes the difference between another 10 minutes wasted in procrastination and 10 minutes that leave you recharged and ready to face the rest of the day.

1. Get on your toes. If you're feeling sleepy at your desk, the best way to wake up your circulatory system is to roll up and down on your toes. As the blood starts flowing, more nourishing oxygen and glucose are transported throughout your body -- so you feel more energized!

2. Get some sunshine. If you’re toiling beneath artificial light all day, use your 10 minutes to get some sun. First, getting outside can be refreshing. Second, a few minutes of sunlight has concrete benefits. It helps the body produce vitamin D, which is important for good health. Sun exposure also boosts serotonin levels, which can improve mood and help you sleep better at night.

3. Eat chia seeds. Favored by the Aztecs for their energy-boosting qualities, you can add these little seeds to all kinds of snacks and recipes.

4. Try aromatherapy or sniff some citrus.. Some people believe that the smells of certain essential oils -- like peppermint, lime, and grapefruit -- can boost energy and alertness. So take 10 minutes to close your eyes and breathe in the scent from the bottle. Or use a spray to spritz the room.

5. Change your socks. It sounds a bit strange, doesn’t it? The advice is to bring an extra pair of socks to work and sometime around 3 p.m. when you hit your slump, take off your shoes and socks and air out your feet for a moment (if you have a private office; give yourself a brief deep foot massage slathering your tootsies with moisturizing lotion) and then put a fresh pair of socks on. Voila! You'll be amazed at how much fresher you'll feel! This trick is especially handy on days with lots of walking.

6. Get Moving. Take a brisk walk outside in the fresh air if possible. If not, instead of emailing a co-worker on the opposite side of the office or different floor, take a walk over and speak in person. This is another way to fit in a walk that will make a difference. Take the stairs. Going up (and down) stairs for 10 minutes is a great way to get your heart pumping. If you’re in an office building, I recommend trying the stairwell as they’re usually deserted -- Because everyone uses the elevator -- you might be able to get 10 minutes alone to trot up and down.

7. Drink Plenty of Water Take a break from your calorie-filled coffee. Staying hydrated during the day is essential to having a healthy body. Drink at least two glasses of water during the day to keep you feeling fresh.

8. Pump up the volume & listen to music. The right music can really change your mood; create a list of songs that always seem to psych you up and then save a playlist on your computer or MP3 player. With just 3 songs you’ve got 10 minutes worth of invigorating music ready to go

when you need it most. Try listening to your iPod while you are washing dishes or cooking dinner at home and shake your stuff as dancing is also a fun way to stay in shape.

9. Stretch yourself by doing simple stretching exercises at your desk helping tired muscles that have been stuck in one position and releasing tension from head to toe. They take only a few minutes. Set the alarm on your cell phone or computer to go off every hour to remind you it's time to get up and stretch. A few suggestions: Repeatedly sit down in your chair and stand up without holding the arms. Shrug your shoulders up to your ears and hold them for a few seconds.

Hug your body, with your right hand on your left shoulder and your left hand on your right shoulder.

10. Laugh. There’s no denying that laughing can make you feel better. So during your 10-minute break, deliberately seek out something that you know will make you laugh -- watching a few clips on YouTube or reading a favorite blog. If you can, involve a friend: Studies show that people laugh more when they’re laughing with others.

11. Do a crossword. When you’re feeling burned out, focusing on a different sort of mental task for a few minutes can help boost energy. Get a collection of crossword puzzles and find a difficulty level that you can usually complete in about 10 minutes. Plenty of Web sites have free crosswords, and some newspapers offer cheap monthly subscriptions for online versions of their puzzles.

12. Try guided imagery. To boost energy, take a virtual vacation while sitting at your desk.

Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Then imagine a peaceful place. It could be someplace you’ve been before -- the beach or the mountains. Try to fill it out with detail. What does it smell like? Is there a breeze blowing on your face? Imagine you’re walking along a path; the farther you go, the more relaxed you get. Once you feel fully relaxed, gradually ease yourself back into the present.

Count to three and open your eyes.

13. Choose a snack with some protein, which will give you longer-lasting energy. Just add some peanut butter to that apple or some low-fat cheese to your crackers.

14. Use cold water. The Romans used to invigorate themselves by plunging into a cold water pool. Without being quite so drastic, you can get a quick energy boost by just splashing cold water on your face in the bathroom.

15. Unleash some feng shui on your desk. Organizing your desk might not sound like an energy booster. But really, working on a surface that’s cluttered with paperwork, sandwich crumbs, and empty coffee cups can really sap your spiritual strength. Taking 10 minutes to organize things NOW might allow you to work more efficiently and energetically for the rest of the day.

16. Breathe deeply. Deep breathing can relieve stress when you’re feeling burned out. Sit down, keeping your back straight. Inhale through the nose while you count to four. Hold your breath while you count to seven. Then exhale deeply through the mouth, counting to eight. Repeat the cycle.

17. Substitute exercise for sitting -- while you work Get rid of your desk chair and substitute an exercise ball; it’s also great for lower-back problems.

All day you are engaging all the muscles in the back, legs, butt and abs to stay balanced. I know one man who put a treadmill in his office and conducted all his business while walking.

He lost weight too!

Please feel free to write me at: alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com Web:www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, February 8, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Happiness is Contagious The next time that you get the flu, there will almost certainly be someone that you can blame for your suffering. There's the inconsiderate co-worker who decided to drag himself to the office and spent the day sniffling, sneezing and shivering in the cubicle next to yours. Or your child's best friend, the one who showed up for a play date with a runny nose and no tissues. Then there's the guy at the gym that spent more time sneezing than sweating on the treadmill before you used it.

Maybe it was the lady on the bus, who continued to sneeze and cough in exactly your direction.

You're right to pass the blame. Pathogens like the influenza virus pass like a holiday fruitcake from person to person, but you probably don't think much past the one who gave it directly to you. An infectious-disease expert, on the other hand, would not be satisfied to stop there. What about the person who passed the virus on to your colleague, the one before him and others earlier still? Contagious diseases operate like a giant infectious network, spreading like the latest YouTube clip among friends of friends online. We're social animals; we share.

So public-health experts are beginning to wonder whether certain health-related behaviors are just as contagious as microbes. If you're struggling with your weight, did you in effect catch a case of fat by learning poor eating and exercise habits from a friend or family member who was similarly infected by someone else? If you smoke, do you light up because you were behaviorally contaminated by smokers who convinced you of the coolness of the habit? Even more important, if such unhealthy behaviors are contagious, are healthy ones--like quitting smoking or exercising-equally so? And what if not only behaviors but also moods and mental states work the same way? Can you catch a case of happy?

Increasingly, the answer seems to be yes. That's the intriguing conclusion from a body of work by Harvard social scientist Dr. Nicholas Christakis and his political-science colleague James Fowler at the University of California at San Diego. The pair created a sensation with their announcement earlier this month of a 20-year study showing that emotions can pass among a network of people up to three degrees of separation away, so your joy may, to a larger extent than you realize, be determined by how cheerful your friends' friends' friends are, even if some of the people in this chain are total strangers to you.

If that's so, it creates a whole new paradigm for the way people get sick and, more important, how to get them healthy. It may mean that an individual's well-being is the product not just of his behaviors and emotions but more of the way they feed into a larger social network. Think of it as health Facebook-style. "We have a collective identity as a population that transcends individual identity," says Christakis. "This superorganism has an anatomy, physiology, structure and function that we are trying to understand."

In their most recent paper, published in the British Medical Journal, Christakis and Fowler explored the emotional state of nearly 5,000 people and the more than 50,000 social ties they shared. At three points during the long study, all the participants answered a standard questionnaire to determine their happiness level, so that the scientists could track changes in

emotional state. That led to their intriguing finding of just how contagious happiness can be: if a subject's friend was happy, that subject was 15% more likely to be happy too; if that friend's friend was happy, the original subject was 10% more likely to be so. Even if the subject's friend's friend's friend--entirely unknown to the subject--was happy, the subject still got a 5.6% boost.

The happiness chain also worked in the other direction, radiating from the subject out to her friends.

The happiness dividend is more powerful if two people not only know each other but also are equally fond of each other. Happiness is more infectious in mutual relationships (in which both people name the other as a friend) than in unreciprocated ones (in which only one is named).

And it's not just in sterile study settings that the contagion of happiness is spreading. Christakis and Fowler noticed that people who are smiling on their Facebook pages tend to cluster together, forming an online social circle like a delirious flock of cyberbirds. And while some of this joy can certainly be traced to the copycat effect--if your friends post smiling pictures, you might feel like a grouch if you don't too--Christakis and Fowler are analyzing the clusters to see if something more infectious might be at work.

Skeptics raise other concerns, ones that go beyond the copycat effect. Couldn't happy people simply be exposed to similar lifestyles or social factors that explain their shared joy, such as favorable weather, low unemployment rates or a winning baseball team? If that were the case, argue the authors, then happiness would spread more uniformly among all the relationships; instead, it varied depending on whether the friendship was mutual or merely one-sided. As the investigators scrutinized these factors, they found that environment didn't have nearly the power that relationships did.

The infectiousness of happiness is only the latest in a series of similar phenomena Christakis and Fowler have studied. In 2007 they published a paper showing that obesity travels across webs in a similar way, with individuals having a 57% greater risk of being overweight if they have an obese friend. The same holds true for quitting smoking, with success 30% more common among friends of quitters than among friends of smokers.

In all these cases, there's a predictable topography to how people influence one another, one that can be reduced to a sort of social map. People who are central to their networks--who in effect are the hub through which most of the other relationships or information flows--may have the most influence on others and in turn are the most influenced by them. But just because you start off at the center of your web does not guarantee that you'll stay there. In the 1970s, smokers were more likely to occupy that focal position in their network of friends and family. Look at a similar social map today, and you'll see that the smokers have drifted to the periphery.

To feel happier, mimic the personality traits of those who are: Be social, even if it's only with a few people; set achievable goals and work toward them; and concentrate on putting setbacks and worries in perspective. Don't worry, as the saying goes. Be happy.

Please feel free to write me at: alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com Web:www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, February 15, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

The Purpose of a Dog by a 6 year old boy Being a veterinarian, I was called to examine a 10 year old Irish Bloodhound named Becker. The dog’s owners: Ron, his wife Lisa and his small boy Shane, were very attached to Becker, and were waiting for a miracle. I examined Becker and discovered that he was dying of cancer. I explained to the family that we couldn’t do anything more for Becker, and I offered to do the painless euthanasia procedure in their home.

We made the necessary adjustments, and Ron and Lisa said that it would be a good idea that their 6 year old boy Shane observed the procedure. They felt that Shane may learn something from the experience.

On the following day, I felt the familiar sensation in my throat when I saw that Becker was surrounded by his family for the very last time. Shane was calm, he caressed the dog for the last time, and I wondered myself if he understood what was happening. In a few minutes Becker went to sleep peacefully and would no longer wake up.

The small boy seemed to accept the transition of Becker without difficulty or confusion.

Afterwards we all sat down for a moment contemplating the regrettable fact that the life of pets is shorter that those of humans.

Shane had been paying close attention and blurted out: “I know why!” Surprised, we all turned around to listen to him. What he said next was astonishing, I have never listened to a more comforting explanation than this one. Afterwards I realized that it changed my way that I perceive life.

He said, “People come into the world to learn how to live a good life --like loving others and being good people, right? “ The 6 year old continued: “Well, since dogs already know how to do all that, they don’t have to remain here so much time like we do!”

– Live simply – Love generously – Feel deeply – Talk nicely Remember, if a dog were your teacher, you would learn things like: - When your loved ones arrive home, always run to greet them.

- Never let an opportunity to go to take a walk pass you by.

- Allow the experience of fresh air and wind on your face to be pure ecstasy.

- Take naps.

- Stretch before waking up.

- Run, jump and play daily.

- Improve your attention span and allow people to touch you.

- Avoid biting when a simple growl would be sufficient. (I like this one a lot)

- On warm days, lie down on your back in the thick grass.

- When the weather is very hot, drink lots of water and lie down under the shade of a tree.

- When you are happy, dance around, moving your entire body.

- Enjoy the simple joy of one long walk.

- Be Loyal.

- Never pretend to be something that you are not.

- If what you want is buried, dig until you find it.

- When someone is having a bad day, stay in silence and lie down close by letting them know that you are there. ยก ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

Testimonial: I felt deep trust, peace, and silence. I have become aware that having concepts and holding onto these concepts itself is creating separation.

Jeog Kyung, Senior Monk & Abbot, Buddhist Monastery & Temple, Korea

Who is Alexis?

Alexis is a Oneness Facilitator (transmitter of energy) called Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you; taking you towards Oneness.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to seven hours. She uses techniques and group methods, and demonstrates with ease the ability to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and learn to make decisions with awareness and increased levels of consciousness.

Please feel free to write me at: alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com Web:www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, February 22, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind 2010 Chinese Astrology Forecast: Year of the Tiger Let’s welcome the year of the Tiger which began on the 14th of February with its particular characteristics given by the great Chinese astrologers. I particularly like the analysis done by someone using the pseudonym ‘Dr. Mao’, as it sums up the essence. Let’s look at a summary of it. I hope that you also enjoy it and find it useful.

This forecast is based on the ancient Tao system of the energetic phases of the Five Elements, and predicts the global trends that affect each of us on a personal level. How can you benefit from this forecast? By taking note of the predictions for health, relationships, and finances, so that you can minimize the negative tendencies and make the most of the positives!

Year of the Tiger: Big Changes Ahead In Chinese astrology the tiger is one of the most dynamic and powerful signs. Its nature is unpredictable, courageous, and explosive. Therefore, the year of the Tiger is usually associated with big changes and social disorder; 2010 is likely to be a turbulent year—on both a global and a personal level. However, those who gain an understanding of it through this article and their own spiritual awareness can cultivate the flexibility to adapt to changes and keep a steady hand on the keel through these rough waters. When you meet the challenges head on and get proactive about your health, you will be all the stronger for it by year's end.

Prediction for your health In the Chinese calendar 2010 is represented by the elements metal and wood. The elemental interaction is symbolized by an ax (metal) cutting down a tree (wood).

The metal element corresponds to the lungs, colon, skin and the immune system. This means that this year, you may be much more prone to developing sinus allergies, infections, asthma, bronchitis, pneumonia, colitis, irritable bowel syndrome, diarrhea, constipation, rashes, compromised immunity or autoimmune inflammatory conditions such as lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and eczema.

The wood element correlates to the liver, gall bladder, and the nervous system, which means this year may be marked with increased stress and tension, depression, anxiety, gallstones, hepatitis, and cirrhosis.

Now that you know the future possibilities for this year, you can make some changes to sidestep potential issues affecting your immune, respiratory, digestive, and nervous system conditions.

1. Eat right for 2010 The foundation of Chinese medicine is that you can avoid illness by eating foods that possess healing properties. 

For this year, I would suggest increasing your intake of the following foods: daikon radishes, turnips, beets, Asian pears, persimmons, papayas, pineapples, cherries, grapes, blueberries, almonds, pine nuts, and flax seeds.

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Keep your liver healthy by eating lots of green leafy vegetables, especially collard greens, Swiss chard, kale, dandelion greens, and mustard greens. Also: barley grass, seaweed—anything high in chlorophyll. Artichokes are a powerful liver protector, due to their silymarin content.

Also, eat herbs and spices that cleanse and perk up your immune system: dill, oregano, cilantro, rosemary, sage, peppermint, turmeric, basil, coriander, fennel, anise, cardamom, ginger, and parsley.

Avoid: dairy, alcohol, caffeine, sugar, wheat, deep fried and fatty foods, processed and refined foods, excessive red meat, tomatoes, eggplants, peppers, and potatoes.

2. Exercise tips for Year of the Tiger Overall, consistent and regular exercise will help you to strengthen your respiratory and cardiovascular systems. 

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I especially recommend learning and practicing mind-body exercises like tai chi or qigong, an all-in-one workout. These gentle, but powerful exercises engage deep breathing to strengthen your lungs with the added benefit of lowering your stress hormones—effectively reducing stress and tension. To learn tai chi and qigong, you can work with a teacher or use instructional DVDs. Take walks and get out in nature to refresh your lungs.

Practice stretching, yoga, or tai chi: being physically flexible can promote the same trait in your personality.

3. Protect with herbal and nutritional supplements Being proactive with your health may also include using herbal and nutritional supplements appropriately to support your health. 

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For this year, I suggest taking herbal formulas that contain Chinese herbs supportive to the health of organ function, such as astragalus, magnolia, chrysanthemum, and Chinese peony. Perpetual shield boosts the immune system, internal cleanse will assist liver detoxification, and exquisite skin to keep the colon clean, thereby keeping the skin clear.

Round out your nutritional program by maintaining a regular intake of fish oil, probiotics, and digestive enzymes.

4. Cleanse your body Undertake cleansing and detoxification programs at the start and throughout the year to support your liver and peak body functions. You can find a whole detoxification regime in this link in English: http://health.yahoo.com/experts/drmao/17381/5-step-detox-to-revitalize-you/ 5. Develop patience Finally, cultivate patience, kindness, and peace so that your interactions with others can promote harmony and love. Some ways to do this are to make daily lists of all the things in your life that you are grateful for, volunteer your help to others in need, and practice stress-release techniques that bring you peace.

In summary, the Year of the Tiger will bring about more change, even turmoil in the world and in your life. However by using this as an opportunity to shape your life, like sculpting a beautiful and useful object out of raw wood or molding from metal you can ride the tiger triumphantly towards your goals so that you can manifest balance, wellness and fulfillment in 2010. Dr.Mao

Monday, March 1, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Can We Stop Aging? Part 1 A cure for aging would be the Holy Grail for Medicine.

There are many ways to heal aging. Many people may choose to take all kinds of medicine which promise miracles and that ultimately end up in large and recurrent frauds made either by charlatans of big pharmaceutical companies or by some trinket hawkers.

My intention in addressing this issue here has to do with the positive attitude we may have towards life and that certainly helps us focus our energies on improving diet, exercising, have happy everyday activities and the joy to live.

I am going to refer to the experiments conducted in 1979 by the psychologist Ellen Langer. She believed that if we changed the patterns of our thinking, we could slow down the process of aging. But the full story of this extraordinary experiment was hidden… up to this date.

How much control do you have over how you will age?

Many people would laugh at the idea that people can influence, through positive thinking the state of their health in old age. A way of mitigating aging is a holy grail for the pharmaceutical and cosmetics industries. Here is what the Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer did 3 decades ago.

Ellen Langer has spent her entire career investigating the power of our mind over our health. Conventional medicine is often accused of treating them as separated entities. “Everybody knows somehow that our minds affect our physical well-being, but I do not think people realize how profound this effect actually is” she said.

In 1979, Professor Langer conducted a revolutionary experiment in which they recruited a group of men over 70 or 80 years old for what she described as a “Week of Reminiscence”. They were not told that they were taking part of a studio on aging, an experiment that would take them 20 years back in time.

The psychologist wanted to know if she could bring the mind 20 years back in time and if the body would show any change. The men were divided into two groups.

Both groups would spend a week at a retreat on the outskirts of Boston. While the first group, the control group, was in fact remembering the life during the 50s, the other half, the experimental group, would be on a journey through time, surrounded by articles from the 50s, they would be asked to act as if they were in 1959.

They watched movies, listened to music of that period and held discussions about Castro marching in La Habana and the last launch of the NASA satellites – all in present tense. Langer thought she could reconnect their minds with their younger

and more vigorous “self” and place them in an environment connected with their past lives.

She was determined to remove any indication that made them act as anything different from healthy individuals. The retreat was not equipped with handrails or items which could help the elderly. From the beginning, she was determined to ensure that they could take care of themselves by their own.

When they got off the bus for the retreat, Professor Langer did not help them to load their luggage inside. “I told them that they could move it inch by inch, that they could open it inside the bus and get a shirt if they wanted”. The men were completely immersed in an era when they were 20 years younger.

Understandably, Professor Langer had doubts. “It has to be understood, when these people came to see if they could take part of the studio and were walking down the hall to get to my office, they looked as if they were living the last days of their lives, so I told my students ´why am I doing it? It is too risky´”.

But soon the men were preparing their own meals. They were making their own decisions and choices. They were not being treated as incompetent or sick. Soon the difference was visible. Over the days, Professor Langer began to notice that they were walking faster and their confidence had improved. By the last day, a man had decided that he could do things without his walking stick. As they waited for the bus that would take them back to Boston, Professor Langer asked one of the men if he wanted to play a game of catch. Within few minutes it had turned into an impromptu game of “touch” American football.

Obviously this kind of anecdotal evidence does not count for much in a studio. But Professor Langer took physiological measurements before and after this experimental week, and found that men improved across the board. Their posture, dexterity, arthritis, speed of movement, cognitive abilities and memory were measurably improved.

Their blood pressure dropped and even more surprisingly, their eyesight and hearing got better. Both groups showed improvements but the experimental one improved the most.

Professor Langer believes that by encouraging the men‟s minds to think more youthful, their bodies followed the example and actually, they became “younger”.

Professor Langer published for first time the scientific data in 1981 but left out many of the more colorful stories. As a young academic, she feared that these stories might taint the experiment and affect the acceptance of the results.

Now after over 30 years of the research into the connection between mind and body, and with the confidence and conviction of a Harvard professor, Ellen Langer has a fuller story to tell.

“My personal view of aging is that one can, not the rare persons but any ordinary person, live a very full life, without diseases, without loss of memory which is debilitating, without many of the things we fear”.

TESTIMONIAL I really enjoyed it and I now feel more at peace with an inner tranquility. I was able to completely forget everything for a moment, When you touched me, I saw immense white light and it made me reflect about the way I live my life.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, March 8, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Just Say No to Aging Part II Lets revisit the same subject matter as last week… We spoke about a provocative new book by Ellen Langer, a Harvard psychologist, which suggests that changing how we think about our age and health can have dramatic physical benefits.

Imagine that you could rewind the clock 20 years. Are you ready? It's 1989. Madonna is topping the pop charts, and TV sets are tuned to "El Super Agente 86" and "La Isla de Gilligan”. The widespread use of the internet is just a dream, and Sugar Ray Leonard and Cindy Crawford are on recent covers of Sports Illustrated.

But most important, you're 20 years younger. How do you feel? Well, if you're like the subjects in a provocative experiment of Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer, you actually feel as if your body clock has been turned back two decades. Langer did a study like this with a group of elderly men some years ago, retrofitting an isolated old hotel so that every visible sign demonstrated that it was 20 years earlier. The men—in their late 70s and early 80s—were told not to reminisce about the past, but to actually act as if they had traveled back in time. The idea was to see whether changing the men's mindset about their own age might lead them to experience real changes in health and fitness.

Langer's findings were incredible: After just one week, the men in the experimental group (compared with the ones in control groups of the same age) had increased dexterity, joint flexibility and less arthritis in their hands. Their mental acuity had increased measurably, and had improved their gait and posture. Outside observers who were shown the men's photographs judged them to be significantly younger than those in the other control groups. In other words, the aging process had in some measure been reversed.

I know this might sound a bit crazy, but stay with me. Langer and her Harvard colleagues have been carrying out similar inventive experiments for decades, and the accumulated amount of evidence is convincing. Her theory, argued in her new book, "Counterclockwise," is that we are all victims of our own stereotypes about aging and health. We mindlessly accept negative cultural norms about disease and adulthood, and these guidelines shape our self-concepts and our behavior. If we could shake off these negative stereotypes that dominate our thinking about health, we can consciously open ourselves to a possibility of living more productive lives even when we are elderly.

Consider another of Langer´s studies on consciousness: this one using an ordinary optometrist's eye chart. It is the chart with a huge E on the top, with lines of letters that get smaller and smaller and eventually become unreadable. Langer and her colleagues wondered: what would happen if we reversed it? The ordinary chart creates the expectation that at some point you will be unable to read. Would turning the chart upside down reverse that expectation, so that people would expect the letters to become readable? That's exactly what they found. The subjects still could not read the smallest letters, but when they were expecting the letters to get more legible, they were able to read smaller letters than they would have otherwise been able to read with the normal chart. Their expectation—their mindset—improved their vision capacity.

That means that some people may be able to change prescriptions if they change the way they think about their vision. But other health consequences might be even more important than that.

Here's another study, this one using clothes as a trigger of the aging stereotypes. Most people try to dress appropriately according to their age, so clothes in effect become a pattern for ingrained attitudes about age. But what would happen if this pattern disappeared? Langer decided to study people who routinely wear uniforms as part of their daily life, and compare them with people who dress in street clothes. She found that people who wore uniforms missed fewer days due to illness or injury, had fewer doctor visits or hospitalizations, and had fewer chronic diseases—even though they all had the same social economic status. That is because they are not constantly reminded of their own aging by their clothing styles. The health differences were even more pronounced when Langer analyzed more economically stable people even focusing on the wealthy. As they presumably can afford to purchase a variety of clothing which provides them a continuous flow of new or different patterns of aging removing their ideas in which they internalize as attitudes and unhealthy expectations.

Langer is not suggesting or promoting that we all wear uniforms. Her point is that we are constantly surrounded by subtle signs that aging is an undesirable period of decline. These signals make it very difficult to age with pride. Similar signals also lock all of us—regardless of age—in niches that are susceptible to illness. We are much too quick to accept diagnostic categories such as cancer and depression, and let them define us. By doing this, we eliminate the possibility of a healthy future.

This does not mean that we will not experience illness, bad moods or a stiff back—or that dressing like a teenager will eliminate those things. But with a bit of awareness, we can try to embrace uncertainty and understand that the way we feel today may or may not connect to the way we will feel tomorrow. Who knows? Maybe if we are open to the idea that things can actually improve, we just might wake up one day feeling 20 years younger.

Richard Wiseman, Professor of Public Understanding in the University of Psychology in Hertfordshire, believes that the results of the Professor Langer´s experiments are fascinating but the big question is what is really causing them. “I think there is a lot happening and the question is which explanations are the truly sustainable ones”. One part of it might be the self-perception, for example, if it makes people smile, they feel happier. The same could happen here, making people act in a younger way, would make them feel younger.

Whatever the cause is, he believes that the study shows that positive thinking can improve results.

“If you take, for example, a heart problem, positive thinking can play an important role (an influence) even though by itself it may not heal your heart, positive thinking will create positive actions such as a healthier diet or more exercise, which will help“.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, March 15, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

From 'Existing to Living’ To actually see reality for what it is, is freedom”…if you are one of the fortunate ones to have this experience it requires a conscious effort to maintain it. You have to really be alert and watch the naming process in which the mind indulges. The problem is exactly that; the mind‟s necessity of this naming process. For example, when a child looks at a tree, it doesn‟t call it a tree, because it doesn‟t know what it is but it is nevertheless experiencing the tree. On the other hand, YOU say that it is an apple tree, coconut tree, mango tree or whatever tree it is, and then you go on to say what a nice fruit it has, adding that you would like to have one…and then the whole commentary begins.

Actually, what is happening is just that; a happening, that‟s all, over which you have no control.

The whole universe is involved in it. But you have a habit of calling it a negative thought, or a negative emotion, you call it jealousy, lust, anger, hatred. The problem is not with anger, not with jealousy, not with hatred rather it is with the mind‟s necessity of naming. Why do you call it anger, lust, and hatred? Why do you name it? Whatever is there is there. And whether the thought is lust or God, both are equally sacred because God is both and there is nothing but God only. The universe is God and God is the universe. So how could you say that this is bad... and this is good?

Obviously that is judgment, as without the polarities of high and low, up and down, front and back, creation would not exist.

If you have an electron, you must have the proton. If you have matter, you must have anti matter.

Both sides are needed as the foundation of creation. So they are all always present. With this in mind, one of the most essential keys to remember is...

It‟s not ever YOUR mind, it‟s the human mind. It has always been so and it will always be so as the basic structure hasn‟t ever changed. Jealousy, lust, anger, hatred and especially fear, all remain the same......but now only the object of your fear has changed and the object of lust and jealousy has changed; maybe in the past it was a spear and now it‟s a new house or a fancier car.

Can you see that only the object of desire and focus of these emotions have changed but clearly the structure remains the same..

What you are secretly hoping is that the mind will somehow change. It is a simple fact that no, the mind will not ever change. The problem is when you say, “I suffer from anger”…as that is precisely where you become unenlightened. There are presently tribes in the world who are more or less awakened people and their language is quite strange. They won‟t say “I am Angry”. In their language they say that, “I angrying, I jealousying, I fearing” because they are seeing it as it is actually happening. That‟s all. So that word fear...there‟s no naming at all. They simply say that something is happening. Not that „I have fear‟, „I have anger‟. These tribal people tend to make it to an awakened state quite easily. The problem with most of us is that we are stuck in the labeling / naming process of the mind.

Now, when you are able to stay alert and carefully observe this, you will see how the mind is involved in this tricky game of naming. That‟s where another problem starts and awareness will help you up to a point. But you must remember that your mind is never going to change. Whether it‟s you or Ramana, Maharishi or Buddha, the mind cannot be changed. What has happened to them is that they have come out of the mind. They no longer identify (themselves) with the mind.

For example: you may now say that „This is my mind‟. That is „Anaatma‟ and in Sanskrit it means false identification. And why is there this false identification? Because of what is called

„Pragnaaparaadha‟ in Sanskrit it means failure of intelligence; which drops away on its own when one awakens.

Now intelligence has flowered in Ramana , Buddha and Ramakrishna. And therefore they don‟t identify with their mind. Their mind is just like any other animal living in the wild. What do you do with a deer in the forest or a lion in the bush? You do nothing, and it is the same thing with your mind. It‟s just there. Stop wasting time and energy wishing that your mind will change.

Know instead that with a little awareness, you will simply stop identifying with your mind. You will just come out of it, kind of like being pulled out of it; like a plug comes out of its socket.

What is really important to know is how we are unconscious to the fact that we are living in a prison of our own making. The strangest thing is that we don‟t even know that we are in a prison as we have so beautifully decorated it with a modern equipped kitchen, a nice dining table with fancy dishes, and installed air conditioning to make it more comfortable for all to spend time there. But that doesn‟t mean that we are really enjoying it as without consciousness, there is no true enjoyment. This is due to our amazing capacity to manage our suffering. You have earned a PHD in the art of managing your suffering. What exactly is the dining table?.. it represents the security of your husband. And the modern equipped kitchen? That‟s the security of your wife.

What are the small chairs? They are for the children, and the air conditioners are for your parents; or name or fame. So name, fame and all attachments, are the furniture of the house. That‟s all fine and you must know that we all do it. What is essential is to realize that in the end, it is still only a prison. When you finally awaken to this reality you must then focus on coming out of this prison because you are not really „living‟.

When you are ready, it is a simple and deliberate choice which creates an energy shift that takes you from „Existing to Living‟. Now, you are just existing...you are mechanically living your life from morning to night, year after year and in the end, what is there...Nothing, you have reached the finale of it all, unfulfilled. So the key is: in order to live, you must come out of the mind.

There is a strong lock on the inside which you must blast open. How to do that?... by first simply realizing that you are in a prison.

And when you do, you may discover that you are still unable to come out. Be alert, and with consciousness; make the decision and Divine Intervention will come and blast the lock from the outside and pull you out. This is called Illumination or Awakening.

Testimonial

It was an experience of relaxation, peace and harmony with all that is, ending with an intense feeling of energy and a new desire to do many positive things in my life. A soldier

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, March 22, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Face to Face with Happiness Part I Do you wish you could spend more of your days feeling fulfilled? Or wonder why you aren‟t happier, despite all that‟s good in your life? If you let mistakes or criticisms bother you, replaying them as a negative inner monologue long after the incident has passed; you are in fact like everyone else, at least most women I know.

I have news that really will put a smile on your face. You can significantly increase your level of happiness—without being granted a surprise inheritance or an elusive 25th hour in every day—by adopting new ways of thinking. You see, while about 50 percent of our happiness quotient is determined by what researchers call our natural “setting point” for happiness, and 10 percent depends on the circumstances of our lives, a whopping 40 percent is entirely up to you—the way you react to events, cope with stress, choose to spend your time and more.

The fact that we actually influence almost half of our happiness is huge, and realizing the role that we play in boosting our inner joy inspired me to share these simple tips with my beloved readers.

By simply changing your approach to certain situations, you can make your inner voice more positive, enjoy your passion (whether it be gardening, an active lifestyle or traveling) and find a sense of purpose which helps you be happier in each of the “rooms” of your emotional house. (I will use the metaphor of your life as a house to allow you to see different areas of your life as rooms: The bedroom for romance, the office for work and money issues, the living room for friendships, etc.)

The pursuit of happiness is sometimes easier said than done. Some scientists have argued that happiness is largely determined by genetics, health and other factors mostly outside of our control. But recent research suggests people actually can take charge of their own happiness and boost it through certain practices.

"The billion-dollar question is, is it possible to become happier?" said psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky of the University of California, Riverside. "Despite the finding that happiness is partially genetically determined, and despite the finding that life situations have a smaller influence on our happiness than we think they do, we argue that still a large portion of happiness is in our power to change."

Lyubomirsky and colleagues last year reviewed 51 studies that tested attempts to increase happiness through different types of positive thinking, and found that these practices can significantly enhance well-being. The results were published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology. Make these habits a regular part of your day to reap more fulfillment, today and every day.

Five things that research has shown can improve happiness: 1. Be grateful - Some study participants were asked to write letters of gratitude to people who had helped them in some way. The study found that these people reported a lasting increase in happiness - over weeks and even months - after implementing the habit. What's even more

surprising: Sending the letter is not necessary. Even when people wrote letters but never delivered them to the addressee, they still reported feeling better afterwards.

2. Be optimistic - Another practice that seems to help is optimistic thinking. Study participants were asked to visualize an ideal future - for example, living with a loving and supportive partner, or finding a job that was fulfilling - and describe the image in a journal entry. After doing this for a few weeks, these people too reported increased feelings of well-being.

3. Count your blessings - People who actually take the time to write down three GOOD things that have happened to them every week show significant boosts in happiness, studies have found.

It seems the act of focusing on the positive helps people remember reasons to be happy.

4. Use your strengths - Another study asked people to identify their greatest strengths, and then find new ways to use these strengths in their lives. For example, someone who says they have a good sense of humor could try telling jokes to lighten up business meetings or cheer up sad friends. This habit, too, seems to heighten happiness.

5. Commit acts of kindness - It turns out helping others also helps ourselves. People who choose to altruistically assist people in need, report improvements in their own happiness. Many dedicate time by volunteering or simply donate money to charity.

Testimonial: I feel deeply connected with nature as I now see that everything is arising and flowering by itself. Jeog Kyung, Sr Monk,Abbot, Bonginsa Buddhist Monastery & Temple, Korea.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: -

Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Monday, March 29, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Face to Face with Happiness Part II Just like anything else worthwhile—your health, your financial security—improving your happiness is a matter of making tiny adjustments in your decision making that have big, long-term payoffs that you will be thrilled with later on. Be conscious of your actions and take note of the following suggestions.

1. Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing The airlines have it right when they tell you in case of emergency; put on your own oxygen mask first before helping the person seated next to you. It‟s not selfish, it‟s self-preservation. The same is true when it comes to caring for all those around you in your daily life. Yes, it‟s wonderful to be giving, especially with your time, but at a certain point you can give too much of yourself, and then it‟s just depleting and you‟re no good to anyone.

When you get to this point, you need to learn to just say no to the next person who asks you to watch their children when you would prefer to simply “chill out” and relax. You can also ask for help from your spouse, your best friend or your child‟s friend‟s mother in sharing carpooling duties, for instance. You‟ll have more opportunities to pursue your own interests and nurture facets of your personality that make you happier, and then you‟ll be more of a giver when you have the energy again.

So whether it‟s signing up for a local Pilates class, going for a walk on the beach after dinner, taking a morning swim, reading in the hammock, meditating on your terrace or doing whatever else it is that replenishes you, you‟ll feel less overwhelmed by too many “have tos” with more “want tos” in your week. Think of it this way: From an empty cup comes nothing. What do you genuinely have to offer to another? You must first fill up your own cup in order to have something to share with others. Taking care of your inner self is as important as taking care of your outer self. Know your limits, and be happy to be healthy.

2. Now is the moment! Enjoy it!

I remember when I was a child, enjoying long, luxurious afternoons with pals in the playground while my mother and her friends watched us. We had hours to explore every inch of the place and it felt freeing. I think of those as perfect moments of my childhood. But when it came time to take my own nephews to the playground, I was always rushing them there and back. I thought to myself: What will they remember? Me saying “Hurry up!” on the way to the park.

My niece, especially, loved to dillydally, and now I understand that for her, pausing on the street to stoop down and watch a caterpillar was more interesting than being at the swings. I had to slow down, too, and say: My memories of the playground may play like a movie on the screen in my mind, but her movie will be of this, the “fuzzy wuzzy” she helped to safety. My thinking had to change from "Get to the playground to have fun!" to "Have fun here, or wherever you may be."

This is it. Now is the moment. Enjoy it! Connect. This could be another perfect moment, for her, if you let it be.

3. Find your sacred space! (Your own “mouse hole”) No matter how much of a people person you are, everyone needs some moments alone each day to recharge. (Think about it: Even your phone gets to recharge!) Time is the one gift you can give yourself each day to be happier and ward off a bad mood, and it doesn‟t cost a thing (or require you to go anywhere). However, when you‟re living with roommates or raising kids or inundated with more work than ever and fewer hours to do it in, claiming time and space to yourself can seem impossible. Fortunately, you don‟t need to jet off to a remote island (though that would be nice) or even sleep in the guest room (also tempting sometimes) to get that precious time alone.

When my niece was 3, she used to crawl into her “mouse hole,” the tiny space under the platform of the plastic slide in her room, and drag a picture book or stuffed animals in and play by herself.

She told me, “You can‟t come in; it‟s a mouse hole and only I fit inside.” The wisdom was clear: Even a kid needs time and personal space to herself, to block out the world and think.

I generally find my time and space when I am swimming or jogging, away from it all. Think of where you feel most relaxed, whether it‟s at a local coffeehouse or even just folding laundry in an unhurried way. Find those peaceful moments, banish all the worries and think about the big picture of what makes you happy. The important thing is to try to figure out what that is and then make more time for it in your life, whether it‟s being in nature, sharing experiences with the ones you love, or helping others find their emotional satisfaction.

Whatever it is, you‟ll feel better just thinking about it. After this mini-break, I guarantee you‟ll feel better and more grateful when you get back to the hustle and bustle of your emotional “house” and your busy life there.

4. Conflict can be OK! This is something we all need to learn. When a friend is mad at you, or you at them (or you are not agreeing with a coworker about the best approach to a project), the hardest thing sometimes is simply calling the person to talk about it. But once you do, you always feel better. Chances are, the thing you disagree over is minor, and you have more in common than not, but you need to discuss the situation to find out where you agree and where you don‟t.

Contact your friend and arrange to get together to talk. Tell her she means so much to you and you want to get beyond this stumbling block, and hear her out; then tell her your point of view.

Rather than assign blame, let her know you‟re sorry for the hurt you caused, or explain that you feel hurt.

Studies show that connecting, especially with friends, is important to your long-term happiness.

While you don‟t need to have everything in common to enjoy many experiences together, you do need to communicate and get past the little disagreements. Find the overlap and learn from each other, celebrate your differences and laugh about them, too. Remember that true friendship means that we don‟t have to agree on everything and we can still be friends. Each one of us is unique and that is why we receive so much from interacting with others. Life is relationship. Take a moment to reflect on that. How would your life be without relationship?

How and where have your life changing events taken place? Has another been involved in your learning? Many times we are not even aware of the gift that is being given to us in the moment as our perception can be negative due to our mind‟s resistance. It isn‟t until later that we look back

on situations and can see how much we have grown from them. So try to live more consciously and be grateful for all those around you that are contributing to your life. And remember that you are actually the one responsible for attracting them into your life. Your vibration resonates outwards and attracts the same back to you. So wake up to the reality that disagreements may just be that needed opportunity to open your mind and see from another perspective. Your next argument could be a gift in disguise designed to liberate you from a belief or concept that is blocking you and keeping you from moving forward in a specific area of your life.. We will experience conflict in relationships, and it doesn‟t mean that we can‟t be forever friends. Healthy conflict is a very important part of life. From the moment that we are born, whether we like it or not; we are relating and depending on an other for our well being. When we take responsibility for the presence of all those in our life, and express gratitude to them; a joyful flowering naturally happens inside of the heart.

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"The course forges good family cohesiveness and further strengthens relationship bonds.

It has given immense benefits to all of us in the form of understanding a better balance in life.” G.M. Rao, Chairman, GMR Group What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, April 5, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Surrender to a Moment of Presence A noisy mind assures that you remain in a constant state of tension, anxiety and nervousness. You pace from one side to another with nervous tics: scratching and screaming in desperation, eventually finding refuge in food, alcohol or television. And the common excuse is, “I‟m in a hurry”, as the pace of society demands it and it becomes your routine. Do not be frightened as it is the rhythm of modern society where everyone is alone among crowds. We are reluctant to smile at our neighbors, and rarely greet others traveling beside us during our daily train or bus commute. We even see our own colleagues as a threat.

Charles Chaplin has demonstrated in his wonderful film "Modern Times" that this madness is inevitable if we allow ourselves to be dominated by the mind and forget about the heart. The mind is worrisome chaos where as the heart is pure harmony and peace.

Surely you think achieving an inner state of tranquility is impossible for you. You say, “I am this way, and my family is the same”, that is how you constantly justify yourself. But it doesn‟t have to be that way, all you have to do is give yourself a little time to find that inner light that connects you with the universe. Did you know that you are part of every star, that your source is cosmic, and that the same laws governing the galaxies also dominate your cells? Did you know that we are one, that all time fits in a second and that the Milky Way fits in a nutshell? It's true.

You have to start believing in the very miracle of your existence.

As you take the time to experience the stillness and allow this to be absorbed into your being, to become a real part of you, you will begin to find a new freedom in life. You will begin to really live and move and have your being within the wholeness of the whole. You will find yourself in your true environment. You will be able to do all things and know that absolutely nothing is impossible, for it is the Divine who is working in and through you, and when the Divine is recognized and accepted, anything is possible.

There are so many times in the day that we think of as “down time.” You‟re not doing anything, but waiting for the next thing to happen. It is habitual to fidget our way through such moments: to shut out the environment and become distracted in thought, on the cell phone, or just spacing out.

Unless we have something specific to focus on, it is often our habit to get identified in thoughts and lose ourselves as they take us in all directions. We value any random speaking, thinking, or action over „presence in the moment‟.

With this practice, you can punctuate your activity with short blasts of „meditative presence‟. In the beginning, you may feel uncomfortable, kind of similar to how your body reacts when you try to quit smoking or decide to stop any kind of addictive behavior. It can feel almost unbearable to be present in the body; as you may feel like you want to burst or scream. But the longer and more often you can do this practice, the easier it becomes, until meditative pauses become something to look forward to, and they even happen on their own. Moments like this, standing in line or waiting to board a plane, are, in fact, great opportunities to be unconditionally present with what is, to practice opening yourself without reservation to reality exactly as it is in this moment. The gift of presence can be practiced. It needs to be valued as a gift and nurtured. Whenever you find

yourself waiting, remember that it is an opportunity for benevolence. Your entire body will respond immediately to this invitation, relaxing, aligning, and revitalizing itself with presence.

Okay, let's focus on this technique “Moment of Presence” * Take a deep breath. Then again, take an even deeper breath, sighing and yawning. * You may even want to stretch your body for a moment. Repeat this until you feel more present in your body. Then take a final deep breath, bringing all of your consciousness to this very moment. * Since you have decided to take this opportunity now, immerse yourself completely in the moment. Sink yourself completely into the now that is happening.

Feel your feet connected to the ground.

Place your heels about shoulder width apart, Turn your feet slightly inward. With your weight balanced equally on each foot, Knees relaxed, not locked. *Open your chest. Breathe and listen to all the sounds around you. *Take everything in. Without judging anything, just experience it for what it is.

Feel the whole environment through your skin. Become sensitive to the atmosphere of the place.

Breathe a little deeper and notice the smells. Expand your vision so that you become aware of everything around you. Relax. *Finally, feel even deeper into all that is, even deeper.. Into your own presence, Into that which is hearing and feeling and seeing. Let that presence expand and permeate everything around you. Expanding and becoming the living blessing of all that is and expressing gratitude for this opportunity to connect with that presence.

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Oneness brings you back into awareness of your spiritual identity. It increases your value, love and respect for yourself and all others around you, especially nature. It awakens your consciousness for all forms of life. Sister Jayanti, Director of the Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual University and member of the World Council of Religious Leaders

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, April 12, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Are you in love? Cupid doesn’t make mistakes Most of us, when we fall in love, think we have arrived at a true and ultimate "answer" to all of our loneliness, personal suffering and aspirations. We have finally found “the one”. Sooner or later, we find something quite the opposite: Hard work.

One thing that all couples have in common no matter which part of the world they are from is: problems in their relationship. At this point, readers may feel „checkmate‟. Don´t fear, as I am not pessimistic, my mind is positive, optimistic and confident. Everything has a positive side. Let´s take a look.

There is a wonderful book by M. Scott Peck, an MD who took a leap of faith into the depths of psychology with „The Road Less Travelled‟. His cardinal insight: the experience of “falling in love” may simply be the “glue” that makes us stick it out long enough. And for what?

"To do," as we say in marriage, is the real purpose of relationships.

When I meet a couple with problems for the first time, I begin by telling the couple: “You are perfectly mis-matched.” Once I‟m sure I have their attention, I continue: As much as you may think you have chosen each other because of beauty or shared interests or whatever, the deeper reason is that unconsciously you know the other person is going to push your buttons. And the purpose of relationships is for you to discover and work on your buttons.

The hope is that each of you will do your own work, and that you will grow together, becoming more and more conscious of your own inner life as it emerges in relationship to the other.

Relationships are loaded with projections: unconscious images from past hurts, unresolved wounds and unmet needs. Within weeks, months or maybe years these start to emerge, and the work begins.

You will experience the other person “pushing your buttons”.

The Ego reaction is to immediately try to get the other to stop pushing them.

The spiritual work is to examine your buttons. The work is, (easily said but not easily done) becoming conscious of those images, owning them in yourself, and choosing to work on them in the context of the relationship. When you find one of your buttons being pushed, step back and ask yourself: “What is that button about?” Go back into your own history to find the origins.

For example, your partner is often late. Yes, it would be great if they were more considerate of you but … I will guarantee that in your history you will find issues about trusting whether people would be there for you when you needed them. That‟s your button. When it gets pushed you feel (more accurately, your ego feels) justified in being resentful.

Now the interesting thing is that your partner will also have an issue (button) about having expectations placed on them. They too need to go back in their history to find the source of their decision to protest these expectations by passive-aggressively showing up late.

When both of you are willing to do the work of examining (making conscious) your own buttons, then you can resolve the issues and change the behaviors. They will no longer need to be late and you will no longer need to be angry about it (which anger actually feeds their resistance to showing up on time).

Another dimension of this work; is why the universe sets us up this way to find perfectly mismatched partners, is as you become more conscious, you actually generate an energy field which helps the entire planet become more conscious. Another obvious way is that you won‟t be playing out your unconscious behavior on your children (or others). And that will be less work that your children will have to deal with as they grow up. Unfortunately, there will still be plenty of work for them, since society is so good at creating chaos. So when you fall in love, enjoy it, but know that like most “highs” eventually there will be a payment required. Now with this new awareness, you can surrender even deeper to your partner in acceptance of yourself. And know that the universe is simply setting you up to take part in this great evolution of consciousness that human beings are such a large part of.

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Realizing that everything is relationship, I now feel more in harmony. When conversing with others, I now am able to listen & observe myself, as I tell my own stories.

Jeog Kyung, Senior Monk & Abbot, Bonginsa Buddhist Monastery & Temple , Korea What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, April 19, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind The Maya of Eternal Time Drunvalo Melchizedek Part I While reading an article on tourism and the importance of the year 2012, provoking many emotions and causing an increase in the flow of visitors to this beautiful once Mayan inhabited area of Mexico; I felt an importance to clarify and focus on what this date really means.

My readers are well aware of my interest to keep you up to date on important global spiritual events. With reference to this date I decided to research a variety of published articles and books written on the subject and watch various movies.

I now would like to share with you an experience of one particular man that I feel has an amazing clarity and intelligence; Drunvalo Melchizedek. He has given a series of very important conferences worldwide on the subject. You can watch them on YouTube in English along with Spanish subtitles. I feel that his point of view is truly valuable and undoubtedly very interesting.

So let me share with you some of his ideas, and inspire you into watching his videos.

To begin with, Drunvalo is extremely proficient on the accuracy of both the Native American calendar, and especially the Mayan calendar: THE HEART OF THE WORLD “The Mayan Calendar is the most accurate calendar ever discovered. Humanity is intrigued with its precision, as it’s more precise than modern mans capacity to believe. Humanity is attempting to comprehend what will occur on December 21, 2012 as this date is emphasized in the Mayan Calendar. And the Mayans have responded to this. The most profound and respected source of information is the president Mr. Alejandro Cirilo Perez of the National Mayan Council of Elders in Guatemala, who represents the Elders of Mexico, Belize and Guatemala”.

Mr. Alejandro states that he wishes to translate into modern language how the Mayans interpreted the year 2012. The Mayans wish to inform us that the world we live in is not what it seems. It isn’t what modern people think and believe; that the world is really solid, fixed and real and that nothing can change it, and that it will go on for eternity with or without our presence. The Mayans state that this is NOT true. This world has images that can be controlled by consciousness. Especially consciousness that is connected directly with the human heart. Mr. Alejandro continues: “We are about to enter into a way of understanding the world just as it occurred in the ancient world. Humanity is about to leave its current situation behind, as all we know is about to change and a completely new world is about to emerge”.

Melchizedek explains in detail his own life’s spiritual development: how he studied physics, mathematics, arts and finally found his destiny in meditation. “I began meditating with the Hindus and studied their mantras. I dedicated my time serious searching for a Hindu guru”.

THE REVELATION One day while I was in deep meditation, says Drunvalo Melchizedek, a phenomenon took place in a room that I was in, something that I didn't expect to happen, as I didn’t ask for it to happen, it just happened. There were two spheres of light that came together and approached me. They

were intensely bright, with very different colors, and were just present, and suddenly inside my head I telepathically heard these words “We are not separate from you, we are just on another level of existence”. I didn't know what it meant, but I began to focus more attention in this area and I realized that these beings began to help me and guide me in my life. Thanks to the support of two key people that helped me tremendously; I began a journey around the world to learn everything that I could. I was also guided by these two spheres of light or angels as they are known in the indigenous Mayan world. They soon led me to a tribe in New Mexico where I spent 14 glorious years with them, awakening to life.

“One particular master, who has since passed on, accepted me as his student and later on a retired Native American Chief, who had been the tribe’s spiritual leader, became another teacher. He taught me about crystals, various rituals and how to understand and change the outer reality by using them to interpret the lines that our ancestors had engraved on rocks to help us transform our lives. I could not reject or deny what was happening and gradually, over a period of 14 years, they gave me an indigenous training that transformed me deeply and prepared me for going out into the world and work with other tribes. The spheres of light then led me to an ancient tribe which had existed before the Hopi tribe, and working intensely with them, I actually found another dimension. Later in 1985 I was led to the Mayans as I was directed to the Yucatan to begin studying ceremonies there.

“I was guided into sacred temples at several sites: Chichen Itzá, Tulum Guatemala, and Lake Titicaca in Peru where I received initiations that gave me an ability to actually witness myself as I learned new things. I had made two important contacts: a Mayan shaman and a priest who introduced me to the National Mayan Council which began to teach me the Mayan way of perceiving the world. The tribe that I was most familiar with in the United States and this particular priest asked me to also attend their ceremonies which were carried out for several years with hundreds of different tribes. Then in 2003, I was invited to perform the ceremonies together with them which took me much deeper, into the real meaning and comprehension of the ceremonies. In 2007 the president of the Mayan National Council approached me to talk.

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period. Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet and evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: Parte 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJjSWrGDwFo Drunvalo Melchizedek At 20 years old, he specialized in physics and mathematics, and later concluded that mathematicians and physicists do not really understand what is happening. He then switched to art history, spending two years in the Arts. Later he studied meditation, mantras, and searching for a Hindu guru and devoted himself to this matter very seriously. He then lived with the Native Indians for 14 years which later brought him to the Mayans who entrusted him with their secrets and wisdom. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, April 26, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

2012: A FATAL DATE Part II In the previous article I spoke about Drunvalo Melchizedek‟s experience, briefly summarizing that after searching for the meaning of life in studying physics, mathematics, arts and meditation; he went to live with the Native Indians in New Mexico, and subsequently had a revelation and eventually ended up living with the Mayan Elders. His experience with them was distinct and much deeper; he found another perception of time, of the world, and of eternity. A very different approach to the modern world: a perspective full of spirituality. He discovered for example, a time connection, a deeper union with the heart, and a much higher consciousness. Perhaps due to his scientific background, his vision is to now focus on the year of 2012; a date predicted by the Mayans and feared by the world society. He so eloquently explains: SPEED OF TECHNOLOGY “We know that human consciousness is evolving, as science has also discovered this evolution and is now fully aware of its depth. If we took all the knowledge that humanity has learned since its inception, over 6,000 years ago, we would end up with so much information; millions of tiny pieces of knowledge. It is stated in the Encyclopedia Britannica that in just fifty years, from the year 1900 to 1950, we learned so much more than we did in the entire last 6000 years! That is incredible! Without a doubt it is so. But afterwards the cycle shortens, in just twenty years; from 1950 until 1970, once again we had learned as much as we did in the entire previous 6000 years.

Later, in the 70s and 80s, again we had learned even more than we did during the whole previous 6,000 years”.

And this process keeps speeding up. There was a time in NASA when the information was flooding in so fast way that the data was unable to enter into their computers so they were forced to change their hardware and software to be able to acquire it. At this very moment we are experiencing an even superior orientation, as the existing curve keeps moving steadily upwards!

Soon we will be learning even much more than we did during those entire 6,000 years. Thinking in this upward curve, we are getting more intelligent as time goes on. However, the Mayans say that we are about to go through a serious consciousness transformation and that we will experience a whole new way of perceiving reality!

INTERLACING HEARTS When we look back at ancient cultures it‟s clear that now we humans are quite different to how we were just 2000 years ago. Not just due to our modern techno toys, but our perception of the world has also changed. The Mayans say that humanity will pass through certain cycles since our chromosomes and DNA are constantly evolving and we have now reached a new phase where we are entering into a whole new level of consciousness.

We can't fully understand the Mayan‟s prophecies without first knowing how the ancient world perceived their ceremonies as we are actually profoundly linked with the Mayans; which goes much deeper than our current level of comprehension. We think that we are superior to our

were intensely bright, with very different colors, and were just present, and suddenly inside my head I telepathically heard these words “We are not separate from you, we are just on another level of existence”. I didn't know what it meant, but I began to focus more attention in this area and I realized that these beings began to help me and guide me in my life. Thanks to the support of two key people that helped me tremendously; I began a journey around the world to learn everything that I could. I was also guided by these two spheres of light or angels as they are known in the indigenous Mayan world. They soon led me to a tribe in New Mexico where I spent 14 glorious years with them, awakening to life.

“One particular master, who has since passed on, accepted me as his student and later on a retired Native American Chief, who had been the tribe’s spiritual leader, became another teacher. He taught me about crystals, various rituals and how to understand and change the outer reality by using them to interpret the lines that our ancestors had engraved on rocks to help us transform our lives. I could not reject or deny what was happening and gradually, over a period of 14 years, they gave me an indigenous training that transformed me deeply and prepared me for going out into the world and work with other tribes. The spheres of light then led me to an ancient tribe which had existed before the Hopi tribe, and working intensely with them, I actually found another dimension. Later in 1985 I was led to the Mayans as I was directed to the Yucatan to begin studying ceremonies there.

“I was guided into sacred temples at several sites: Chichen Itzá, Tulum Guatemala, and Lake Titicaca in Peru where I received initiations that gave me an ability to actually witness myself as I learned new things. I had made two important contacts: a Mayan shaman and a priest who introduced me to the National Mayan Council which began to teach me the Mayan way of perceiving the world. The tribe that I was most familiar with in the United States and this particular priest asked me to also attend their ceremonies which were carried out for several years with hundreds of different tribes. Then in 2003, I was invited to perform the ceremonies together with them which took me much deeper, into the real meaning and comprehension of the ceremonies. In 2007 the president of the Mayan National Council approached me to talk.

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period. Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet and evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: Parte 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJjSWrGDwFo Drunvalo Melchizedek At 20 years old, he specialized in physics and mathematics, and later concluded that mathematicians and physicists do not really understand what is happening. He then switched to art history, spending two years in the Arts. Later he studied meditation, mantras, and searching for a Hindu guru and devoted himself to this matter very seriously. He then lived with the Native Indians for 14 years which later brought him to the Mayans who entrusted him with their secrets and wisdom. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, May 10, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Final Judgment Day 2012 Part IV Drunvalo Melchizedek‟s descriptions and explanations are very interesting. Don‟t you agree?

They are an in depth philosophy regarding the ancient inhabitants of earth, especially the inhabitants of the Yucatan Peninsula and part of Central America, the Mayans. And, everything is centered on the dates that they established, on 2012 and everything that this represents to western culture. I have received several very interesting commentaries regarding these articles from the Mayan world. Eventually, there will be time to publish them; for now there is a lot more we need to explore in the disclosures that have been revealed by Drunvalo in his conferences.

THE INFINITY OF BEING We saw that the ancient world and the modern world need to understand each other to help one another reach a higher level of consciousness. Technological developments may amaze us and also blind us to the point of making us arrogant in respect to antiquity. Accordingly, is it important to deepen our knowledge of their wisdom which we are only just now beginning to realize as I sincerely believe that we have a crowd within us; we are a seed in a great jungle as well as being the entire jungle. We have a cosmic consciousness that goes way beyond us, much farther than our ancestors, far beyond that of the entire human race or even the creation of the galaxy. There is a divine spark in all of us which we need to nurture in order to explore the many aspects within us. Let‟s listen to Drunvalo now: “As we look into nature and the universe, says Drunvalo, we see that the human body and all known life forms, including plants, suns and all heavenly bodies in external reality is guided by a mathematical series of numbers called the Fibonacci sequence. Even in the human body we can appreciate this series starting from each cell all the way to our most diverse parts of the body.

In order to understand exactly why combining the wisdom of the ancient world is of such crucial importance to us in the modern world; we have to understand „sacred geometry‟. And, in order to understand the meaning, it‟s necessary to focus on the so called golden section or aurous number, the Fibonacci number.

THE RHYTHM OF THE COSMOS Let‟s take a look. No matter how long any human being exists, we find that the number 1,6180339 keeps on appearing. It is probably one of the most important proportions of creation.

However, what is most important is that life knows how to apply these numbers, these infinite proportions. Life also knows how to use whole numbers such as 1, 2, 3 etcetera, but we do not know how to apply or how to guess the mystery of this proportion.

The Fibonacci sequence, named after its inventor, refers to the following fact. We have a sequence that commences at 0 followed by 1 and 1 again and then 2, 3, 5, 8, 13, 21, 34, 55, 89, etcetera. And the sequence continues infinitely. What we notice is that if you add a number to the following number you obtain the next number, for example 1 plus 1 is 2; 1 plus 2 is 3; 2 plus 3 is 5. It‟s simple; you add the last number to the previous one in order to obtain the following

number. But if we then divide the number into the previous number, we obtain the same proportion. If we divide 1 into 1 you get 1 and as we continue this process, we start reaching the 1.6180339, the golden mean. We get closer each time; once over, once under but we are reaching this perfection and then this continuity keeps on repeating itself along the sequence.

In order to understand the fact that we need to apply these numbers, we only have to apply single digit numbers and then life applies this continuity not only in the human body but in everything alive on earth. This being can be alive in our planet or in another planet, yet the same thing occurs. What we are discussing; the question is how we can perceive and discover this corresponding evolution in humanity; how is it possible for this to occur.

DOOMSDAY In the modern world, we are at about a level 5 but we don‟t know where we are going because we are completely disconnected from the past. Nevertheless, we are trying to understand our future, so we suddenly remember the past because the ancient world also needs to reconnect with the modern world, in order to know exactly where it needs to go. The ancient world knows it needs us but we do not know that we need them. It‟s our obligation to realize this as the ancient world is willing to recognize us while we are ignorant and unaware that we know nothing about it.

The Mayans had ample knowledge about time, especially the December 21, 2012 date which is a mystery to us, to our modern hearts. We know that this date is important but most of us do not know what it means. In order to understand the importance of 2012, we have to speak about other subjects such as the precision of the equinoxes and other cycles of time as they are all interlocked together. If the Mayan prophecies are right, and modern science confirms them, then what will happen, will be a kind of world change in the immediate future that will unfold into a complete transformation of human consciousness. Does anyone care? The Mayans hoped so.

The academics have studied the Mayan knowledge and their calendar, reaching the conclusion that 2012 is the year of the great doomsday for humanity. Nevertheless, from the Mayan perspective, it is more accurate to refer to it as the birth of the new humanity.”

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period.

Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony. Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet or evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMGi62_KOCI http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5M6BAmhyV08

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟

Monday, May 17, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

SACRED GEOMETRY PART V Throughout his explanations, Drunvalo Melchizedek, has emphasized that the Mayan calendar is the most precise in the world. Its extreme precision has amazed scientists worldwide, which is due to the Mayan elder‟s wisdom that has prophesized what has been heard around the world: that on December 21 of 2012 there will be world cataclysms.

But, this investigator of sacred geometry explains to us how he gained access to the deepest levels of this traditionally somewhat closed Mayan society. The National Mayan Council of Elders of Guatemala includes 440 Mayan tribes residing in Mexico, Belize, Honduras and Guatemala and each tribe has elected an elder. Theses 440 elders are part of the National Council. They elect one member to preside over the entire Council. The current President is Don Alejandro Cirilo. He is a 13th generation Mayan Shaman and knows more about the Mayan people and culture probably than anyone on earth. Naturally, there are other Mayan Councils such as the Grand Itza Mayan Council from the lowlands in Mexico, but we will discuss these later.

CHANGING TIMES In July of 2007, Don Alejandro and his wife Elizabeth went to Drunvalo‟s home in Sedona Arizona, to speak with him and request his assistance regarding the Mayan prophecies. Don Alejandro shared about the 2012 prophecy; explaining that there is a window of time around the December 21, 2012 date which the Mayans call the end of time as we know it. This window began around October 24, 2007 but they did not explain precisely when it opened.

Drunvalo says: “This Mayan elder explained to me that it is extremely unlikely that “the prophecy” will start on December 21, 2012. He simply said that the change or cataclysms would begin sometime during this window of the end of time up to as late as 2015. And, in order to grasp the situation better, we need to understand the importance of December 21, 2012. The precision of the equinoxes is very important. If we multiply the number 5,200 years, which the Mayans are using to measure the cycle, by 5; it equals 26,000 years. And this is what will happen on December 21, 2012.”

“We will now take a closer look at time in order to understand the importance of this “prophecy”. Time is a very elusive concept. For example, if we look at our watch, we see that it is 4:32 in the afternoon. However, normally, this time has nothing to do with our watches but with the rotation of earth. We look at the sun and believe the sun is moving but this motion is also an illusion. The rotation of the earth is what causes this illusion of sunrise and sunset.

There are other movements and cycles connected to the earth and which we understand even less. For example, the angle of the earth‟s axis is tilted to the sun and has an enormous effect upon every human on earth. At this moment it is about 23.5 degrees and it is called obliquity.

This angle to the sun creates our seasons and is constantly changing. The actual tilt of the earth changes from 22.1 to 24.5 degrees over an approximately 42,000 year period. This is a very long period; however, astronomers need to take it into account on a daily basis as they explore the universe.

As a result of this tilt, there are other celestial bodies that are always experiencing these changes because of something called the Milankovitch cycles. They are the summation of all the earth‟s cycles and all other cycles which affect the earth‟s cycles which appear to be constantly changing. The scientific focus of the Milankovitch cycles has been mostly to study the effect they have on the earth‟s climate. Then there is the orbit of the moon which causes the tidal evolution and determines the high and low tides of our oceans, something that affects every person who moves upon the surface of the oceans but which affects the Milankovitch cycles as well. These cycles also affect human emotions and millions of biological cycles of all life on earth such as female menstruation patterns. This all has to do with the rotation of the sun as there are many cycles which affect each other.

THE COSMIC ZODIAC In the year 2000 the earth completed a rotation. It takes the earth 25,771.5 years to make one complete circle and it moves though all 12 signs of the zodiac. According to the ancient Hindus and the Tibetans, each time the axis of the earth moves into a new sign, humanity completely changes in a very specific way. It‟s a little more complicated than what I am saying since the Hindus break up the periods of time into Yugas. So, on December 21, 2012, the axis of the earth begins to point to the sign of Aquarius and according to the ancient world, we begin to rapidly change our consciousness. According to the Maya, this consciousness change does not necessarily begin on that specific day but somewhere within the end of time window.

The sign was found in the blue sphere that was observed in the sky on October 24, 2007, when the fast moving comet by the name of Holmes entered our solar system. No scientist thought much of this cosmic event but then this comet exploded and rapidly became a huge blue sphere in the sky expanding and expanding until it became larger than the sun. Everyone believed that this blue sphere, visible in many countries of the northern hemisphere, was the blue sphere prophecy and therefore the beginning of the end of time. This is how it came about. It was not just a random event; it was one of the biggest events that had ever occurred in our solar system.”

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period. Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet or evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8l-85v2vSQA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NsD7yd3Lo2c

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, May 24, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

2012, DYING FROM FEAR

PART VI

Drunvalo Melchizedek began studying 2012 and its oncoming cataclysm more in depth. As a result, when the Mayan priest, Don Alejandro, visited him in Arizona in July of 2007, he heard part of the Mayan prophecy. He found out that there would be a physical decline in the future, as the end of time approached.

“A physical pole shift always begins first with a magnetic pole shift. Science has noted that the magnetic field of the earth began to weaken about 2,000 years ago and then about 40 years ago the magnetic field began to change in ways where the magnetic lines that had been more or less fixed for a long time began to wander. This resulted in the whales, which had used these lines to migrate, suddenly began to beach themselves on land which we had never seen before. Then birds began to appear in locations that were not part of their migration patterns, because the earth’s magnetic lines were changing. In the 1990’s, the aeronautical maps of the world used for landing airplanes at the airport had to be changed worldwide because the old ones were not valid anymore and today the magnetic lines are so unreliable that the magnetic maps have to be checked every single time that a plane lands.”

The Earth’s Axis Drunvalo continues: “World scientists said they believed that the earth’s magnetic fields would not only move but switch polarity. Then the scientists warned the world that they were expecting a magnetic pole shift any minute. What science knows as fact is that about 13,000 years ago, there was a physical pole shift which coincided with the other end in the precision of the equinox. The end of time which is where we are right now, near to December 21, 2012, the earth’s physical poles will shift a second time. Science knows that when the earth’s physical axis shifts to a new location; it will only take 20 hours, less than one day. So, you will wake up one morning and your world will be completely transformed.

The Earth has shifted its axis hundreds of times over the last few hundred million years and science could never figure this out. Then a theory appeared about 20-30 years ago that there is a 20-40 mile thick crust on the earth and underneath it there is an upper mantle made out of rock which connects the crust to the inner part of the earth. However, what scientists have discovered is that if the magnetic field of the earth goes to zero, and disappears completely which is what they expect to happen very soon, then after about two weeks, the rock formation around the earth turns into a liquid like oil and the outer crust of the earth will be completely free to spin in any direction it wants. It would still take a great amount of energy to move it but nothing like it would require moving the entire earth to a new axis. Scientists believe that the massive amount of ice in the South Pole is off center and if it were to melt it would raise the entire world’s oceans close to 200 feet.

When the surface of the Earth moves towards the center the crust moves with it. The mathematical scientists have calculated where they believe the axis of the Earth is going to go which is almost identical to Edgar Cayce’s calculations. If it is true, we do not know – as it is a theory and nobody has ever seen it happen. The shifting of this pole, if it is to take place, is the world that the Maya wish to talk to you about as they know it will happen. They remember both

pole shifts that science has recorded in recent times and according to the Maya, they lived through both of them as they have been on Earth for at least 26,000 years. Science cannot contradict that because they don’t know where the shifts came from or anything about this Prophecy.

THE PROPHECY But according to Don Alejandro, in the last pole shift, millions of people died simply because they did not understand what was happening. If they only knew and understood the situation, they could have easily transformed their experience into something of strength, grace and beauty.

However, if we do not understand what is occurring, and enter into fear, we can easily die.

Don Alejandro speaks about 30 hours of darkness that happens at this moment when the pole shifts. Some people speak about three days of darkness. Everything will go black and we will be unable to see the stars at night, in other words, we go blind. It is during this period that people die because of fear entering their experience. If we are able to not worry, stay still and relax, everything returns to normal in 30 hours. This is what the Mayan people want us to understand not to be afraid.”

In this manner, he continues: “After the pole shift, where you are located on the surface of the Earth is now probably completely different in relation to the equator as you will be living in a different environment. This must immediately be evaluated or you could die just from extreme cold or extreme heat. There is one piece of the Mayan prophecy that has been told in which the world calls Doomsday but there is something far more important. How do we understand what we should do during a physical pole shift and directly afterwards? For the Maya, it is a vibration that comes from within your heart and this vibration is in perfect resonance with the heart of the Earth, of the sun and of the universe. If we learn to live within this vibration, the living Earth will make certain that we extend ourselves into the new world.

The secret could be said in words but can only be lived to know the meaning. Words are from the brain but what we need to remember has nothing to do with the brain it has to do with the human heart. Within the heart is a sacred space where creation takes place and living within this sacred space changes our relationship to all of nature and to the universe. The brain has an ego that sees itself separate from the reality and also sees itself as the most important part of the reality but within the heart, we are not separate from the reality but instead become one with the reality.

There is no separation and all parts are equal. No human being is greater than any other; we are all the same. Words may describe what we are talking about, but we cannot taste this other way without entering into the sacred space of the heart and feeling and becoming one with this vibration.”

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period.

Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony. Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet or evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4MQdx72ltkQ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puDOLg-6YGE alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, May 31, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

THE NEW FIRE CEREMONY PART VII Don Alejandro explained to Drunvalo that very soon, according to the Mayan calendar, the world was going to enter into the end of time and certain ceremonies must take place in preparation.

“In November of 2007, the result of 60 long distance phone calls brought people from 23 countries of the world together in Guatemala City and from there Don Alejandro and the Mayan Elders took them into the jungles of Guatemala to attend a Mayan Council meeting to share their knowledge and to perform a special ceremony with them. I also invited Grandfather Erik from the Hopi tribe and three elders from the Sierra Nevada of Santa Marta, Colombia, South America.

One of their Chiefs was a Kogi Mamos and the other was an Arhuaco Mamos; his brother. These two tribes are significant because of their ancient past. Don Alejandro explained that the Mayans were originally from Atlantis. Let’s revisit Atlantis for a moment to take a look and see why these three tribes the Hopi, the Kogi and the Arhuacos were so important. Atlantis was a country that was symbolized by three rings or spheres; which were inside of one another. The outer ring stood for the people who lived in Atlantis. The middle ring stood for the priesthood called Mayas and finally the center ring was a bridge between the people and those called the nakkals or naccals. The nakkals were the ones who were speaking directly from the sacred space of their hearts and connected directly with the spirit of mother earth and beyond.”

ALL RACES “The Hopi were Maya and the Mayans are Maya and the Kogis and the Arhuacos Mamos are the nakkals which also include the Wiwa and the Kankuamo tribes in Colombia. When Atlantis sank 13,000 years ago, due to the physical pole shift, the Mayans jumped into their boats and rowed to the Yucatan not far from where Atlantis existed. The nakkals rowed their boats to where Santa Marta, Colombia is now. Eventually all of the various tribes saw their interconnected relationship and began to understand what happened; not only 13,000 years ago but as far back as 26,000 years ago. But this would be the first time since the sinking of Atlantis that all three of these tribes would reunite together to celebrate a common ceremony.”

It was a great historical moment, especially for Grandfather Erik since he was the first Hopi to ever return to Guatemala since they left Guatemala thousands of years ago. The Mayan Council of Elders also took us to Lake Atitlan, one of the most sacred lakes of the Mayan people. There are 13 crystal skulls that were found there, and each one was created every thousand years which we will talk more about later.

This newly formed global group sat with 25 chosen Mayan Elders out of 440 in total who had been specifically selected to share their knowledge The world group sat down with these 25 Mayan elders and they began to explain the Mayan glyph for the number zero. They had never seen it before. We spent 90 minutes on the number zero and then the whole afternoon watching the Mayan Elders begin to recreate their knowledge and then witness them fulfilling the prophecy. Afterwards, the Mayan Council of Elders took us by boat to the far side of Lake Atitlan to a place where only Mayan ceremony is performed; for a fire ceremony. Every person there will surely remember that special event for the rest of their lives.

The volcano perched on the edge of the lake left everyone with this ominous feeling that it would explode at any moment, it had smoke coming out of it and no wonder the Mayan did the fire ceremony there. On a remote beach, with the sound of the waves lapping endlessly, and the deep blue sky forming the heavens above us, Don Alejandro shaped our diverse group into a circle and in near silence, after an hour long preparation, with each stage of the fire ceremony carefully explained, he geometrically created this beautiful arrangement of rocks, herbs, candles and other sacred objects creating the perfect ambience for the life giving fire ceremony. This was very unusual. I don’t know if the fire ceremony has ever been photographed and especially in the way that they did it. They allowed us to watch as they created geometrical images on the ground explaining in detail their significance. With such care they placed each herb inside, laid each candle and every object in its place, describing exactly what all of it meant. This may have never been done before and, according to Don Alejandro, this ceremony had not taken place for 13,000 years.”

MAYA RITUAL “The Hopi, the Kogi Mamos, the Arhuacos Mamos, the members of the Mayan Council of Elders, Don Alejandro, and our humble group from all over the world lowered our heads in prayer as the first flames began to reach to the open sky. Though we were from all over the world and from many different traditions and cultures, we all entered into our hearts and emerged in prayer with one voice and one heart. We prayed for mother earth and for her children knowing that the earth was about to enter into a very violent state of evolution, much like childbirth. Each one of us prayed from our hearts for mother earth to help the entire world and all of life on earth.

This ceremony was about three hours long and about one hour into it as I was watching the flames of the fire and listening to the prayers, the Arhuacos man, who had his eyes closed, lifted his right arm up towards the sky causing all of us to look up and there was, exactly where he was pointing to, a huge eagle just floating over the ceremony about one hundred feet in the air. It was not moving a single feather and seemed to be fixed in space without moving its wings. It stayed there for over ten minutes and then the eagle floated off to the side a few feet, and continued to watch as we performed the ceremony that had not been performed for a very, very, very long time. The prayers, the songs, the chanting, the dancing, the fire, the smoke all rising to heaven where hopefully the intentions would be listened to by our mother earth and father sky. Our hearts were wide open with hope, it was incredible the whole experience. As we climbed into the boats, to return to the other side of the lake, I watched our uncommon group as they walked down the pier; various religions of Christianity, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Taoist, Shinto, Hindu and many more all mixed in between the ancient tribes of Atlantis and the land of the Lotus.” We all got on board for our trip together to learn the secret” The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012. This day will initiate a new 5,200 year period. Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threatens the planet and evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5uhDlxwsYE4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63CyMAgRXyw alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, June 7, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

THE GREAT MAYAN BLESSING PART VIII Drunvalo Melchizedek was required to take a journey through the Mayan jungle for complete purification and he did so very happily. In this aspect, he seems to stray away from the theme that we are following: the Mayan prophecies for 2012. Actually, it is a necessary detour because upon completion, the elders started sharing their wisdom with him. Let‟s accompany him now..

“During the fire ceremony Don Alejandro and the Mayan elders seemed to be waiting for something in particular, and whatever it was; they received it as we soon moved on to another location far from Lake Atitlan for another ceremony. There is an ancient temple site in Guatemala named Tikal that represents the crown chakra of the human body: the entryway into higher consciousness. It is a majestic world of temples that at one time had a residential area built all around the main temples that spanned over an entire ten mile area. It was a huge city that probably housed millions of Maya at one point. I remember looking at an artist‟s description of the city depicting how it probably looked when it existed. It looked like a space age city of the far distant future, not one from a past primitive tribe. The Mayan say that before Atlantis they came from the stars and if you were to look at what had been discovered in Tikal, in the early 1980‟s, you just might begin to believe it. We followed Don Alejandro and the Mayan elders up to a high place where ceremonies had obviously been performed countless times before, and again they slowly and tediously began to recreate the Mayan fire ceremony.”

THE SIGNS “At first it seemed to parallel the first ceremony, until the atmosphere began to slowly change.

Every time Don Alejandro raised his arms towards the enormous trees that surrounded us, the wind suddenly began to blow; moving the trees all around us. It was pretty dramatic. Then the brightness changed as beams of light shone through the trees making it feel like we were in an ancient cathedral located somewhere like southern France. Nearby tourists became interested and found themselves so mesmerized by what was happening that they could not leave. It was a fascinating ceremony with its own unique beauty but I felt that Don Alejandro and the elders were still waiting for something specific to happen. I felt it in my heart but I could not put words to my feelings. I felt that they were looking for a particular sign like that eagle which could only come from Pacha Mama or mother earth. No human being could create it or even influence the outcome as it had to come from mother earth herself. Whatever the signs were they must have appeared for we were eventually asked to move on again. The Mayan elders took us to other remote Mayan temples; ones that I had never even heard of before. They were exquisite and I could feel their importance by the intense power that could be felt in the earth around them. We did not do any ceremonies in any of them as Don Alejandro only wanted us to experience their uniqueness or perhaps he wanted the energies of these temples to experience us.

Perhaps now is a good time to talk about the way the Maya bring their knowledge, experience, wisdom and memories to the present day from such a distant past moment in time. They do this not with their minds but with their hearts, something that the ancient worlds were experts at.

What I am about to tell you did not come from Don Alejandro but instead from the Hunbatz men in the Mexican Yucatan as well as my personal experiences in that land. This information has been held secret until now.”

THE CRYSTAL SKULLS “I have permission to speak about this but I must do so very carefully. This unique pathway of knowledge was created by the Mayan grandmother societies. They consist of 13 crystal skulls which hold the memories of the last 13,000 years. Similar to how our modern day computers preserve memory for whatever we want to remember at a later date; so do the crystal skulls. The first crystal skull came from Atlantis and the second came from the new Mayan world, after our earth‟s pole shifted over 13,000 years ago. Each crystal skull was created every thousand years and contained the memories of the last thousand years. All together there are 13 crystal skulls containing the memories and wisdom of the last 13,000 years. When it was time, every thousand years, a Mayan grandmother was chosen and she would carefully prepare for her destiny. She would begin her distinctive labor by selecting a male shaman who would consciously choose a extraordinary crystal which he would start a unique process of carving it into a replica of a human skull. Different types of crystals were used depending upon the time and the necessity. It could take many years to prepare this crystal skull for the magnificent final ceremony in which the whole tribe had been preparing for over one thousand years. Then the grandmother would select a vital young man or woman (one time she selected both a man and a woman). It was a great honor and a privilege for this young couple or Mayan person to be elected for this very significant crystal skull ceremony. Once the grandmother had successfully chosen the right person for this position, this individual began a very intense and focused training, assimilating all of the Mayan knowledge of the last thousand year‟s generation until completion, which is when the crystal skull ceremony began. This very privileged person would embody that entire generation‟s wisdom, sacred ceremonies, and higher knowledge, along with all of their memories; which would inevitably convert this person into a shaman. When the Mayan elders felt that this person was ready, of course coinciding with the Mayan calendar they would then begin preparing the sacred crystal skull ceremony along with the grandmother.”

SHAMANIC AGREEMENT “The destinies of both this person and the grandmother would then be sealed for that particular one thousand years. In the Mayan crystal skull ceremony, the chosen person along with the grandmother would create a special concoction from natural herbs, psychedelic plants and mushrooms. They would consume this very strong concoction during the ceremony which would lead them on a journey through their hearts that would separate them from their bodies but not from the earth. In other words, they would physically die but they would not ascend to the higher levels thanks to the support of the entire tribe surrounding them in prayer and encouragement.

Their spirits would instead leave their bodies and enter into the crystal skull. Both of them would then take this crystal skull to be their physical body until the end of time.

At some point, when it is decided by the Mayan elders, the Maya will perform a final crystal skull ceremony with all of the 13 skulls. This will be an amazing ceremony performed by 13 Mayan shamans, who could be men or women which will then embody the spirits of these ancient Mayan souls. They will assume and retain all the information that these ancient spirits carry as they invite them into their physical bodies. It will be far superior to a computer as it will also contain all emotional aspects as well. At the time of this ceremony, the present day Maya population will recuperate their entire past which will surpass far beyond the time of Atlantis.

These Mayan shamans will then combine their newly acquired knowledge and memories with those of the 25 Mayan elders that are presently rewriting Mayan history and the Mayan nation will then become whole again, as they will recall their entire history from not only their minds but also from their hearts. That is their plan and I feel that they will achieve it. As for us, the rest of the world, a great blessing will take place as the Mayan nation will again be intact including their ancient and present knowledge, experience, wisdom and memories all united together. This is all part of the Mayan prophecy and you will soon know the truth of this prophecy.”

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012 will initiate a new 5,200 year period.

Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threaten the planet and evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Links to the videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63CyMAgRXyw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLw-5Q8P-40

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, June 14, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

INLAKESH: “YOU ARE ME AND I AM YOU” PART IX For the Mayans a long cycle is ending; both their 5,200 year cycle as well as the precision of the equinox every 26,000 years. They predict that the old world - the one we live in now - is about to disintegrate from natural causes. This means that everything that we now know as normal will dramatically change. Let‟s not lose sight of the fact that this is Drunvalo Melchizedek‟s vision shared through his videos on YouTube, so let‟s continue following his story.

“In this part of the Mayan prophecy that the world is presently focused on; the idea that the poles of the earth are going to shift and humanity will be destroyed, has been called the doomsday of 2012. What is forgotten is at the exact same time, a new cycle will begin and this cycle is indeed an extraordinary one. Recently I was living in the Sierra Nevada Mountains of Colombia with the Kogi and the Arhuacos Mamos tribes. They believe that nine worlds exist in total and humanity is presently experiencing the fourth world and will soon enter into the fifth world – which is exactly the same as what the Mayans believe. So I asked them, “So we still have five more worlds to pass through to reach the highest level of consciousness?” I will never forget their response as they all turned around and looked at me and said, “No, you do not understand Drunvalo, everything in life is to achieve balance, as the fifth world is right in the middle with four worlds on either side. It is the perfect balance within the universe; and there is no higher world.”

“The Maya say something similar, they say that the next world, which they call the Sixth Sun is a world where humanity will reach a new level of consciousness and successfully assume this new level very, very quickly. As the new cycle begins, which also coincides with the end of time, duality consciousness or the good and bad will disappear and be replaced with a unity consciousness which will become absolutely normal for humankind. The human ego will cease to exist as we will newly experience each other as parts of one other, in oneness. In Maya, when they greet each other, they say InLakesh which literally means you are me and I am you. This is an indication of the world that we are about to enter. Furthermore, the Maya predict that the human quarantine that has existed for a long time within the solar system will be lifted. And, when this happens humanity will comprehend that the stars and all life everywhere are interconnected in pure consciousness. According to the Maya our human potential will far surpass levels that in this moment may seem impossible for us and this new humanity will quickly be accepted as truth. In other words, the Maya predict that humankind will no longer be obsessed with finance, politics, war, food, petroleum, etc; as we will soon experience a higher vibration of oneness with the creator and be capable of manifesting all that is necessary. We will become co-creators alongside the creator.”

WITHOUT FEAR OF LIFE “Life is not what it seems, and it‟s not even close to what our parents believed to be true. We presently live in a dream that our mind has crystallized into what we now call reality. We believe

all is fixed and governed by the laws of physics. The Maya believe that you will soon know an ancient part of yourself that goes far beyond the stars and planets as fixed worlds. It will be like awakening from a dream and suddenly realizing that all is only light and pure consciousness. Is it time for us to remember who we REALLY are, which is far beyond just being a human in this physical dimension. InLakesh.”

“Some of the questions that I hear repeatedly are, “How should we behave during this time?

Should we move away from the coastlines? Should we build shelters to live underground? Should we grow our own food?” Many are experiencing their fears on how we should prepare ourselves on a physical level. I don‟t believe that any physical preparation is going to help anybody during this time. I feel that it is more of an inward preparation that is necessary; a transformation of uniting ourselves with the very essence deep inside of us. What we really need to do is move from polarity consciousness into unity consciousness; taking that crucial step from the way that we have been living for the last 13,000 years and shift back into oneness where we were living a long time ago before the fall. Follow your heart and that which you already believe in as there is no reason to fear anything. I personally do not feel any fear and I‟m not worried. I actually feel excitement that these cycles are finally coming to an end and we are being liberated from the pain of thousands of years and new way of existing is about to begin for humanity. We are living in a very special time of great change, a magnificent transformation is on the horizon, and there is nothing at all to be concerned about on those physical levels.”

“Looking at the stars; you can see it for yourself that there is an intense period of tension approaching us. Whether or not it is exactly the time, I don‟t know and the Mayans will also not say. My advice is to follow your heart, believe in yourself, trust in your essence and move in any way you know of from polarity consciousness towards unity consciousness. My traditions say: to move from the mind into the sacred place of the heart. The brain is polarity consciousness and the heart is unity consciousness. Find a way to shift back into that level of consciousness reconnecting yourself with your essence as we have been separated from it for some time now.

This is what I believe.”

BEYOND THE TRAGEDY “Every single person from my tradition says that we will all make it through. Some will have it easier than others but we will make it through. What we are about to experience is similar to childbirth. During childbirth you may see a lot of pain taking place in the mother, you may notice much blood. If a person had never witnessed childbirth they might say that it‟s a very violent experience but the outcome is one in which a new baby enters the world; a new birth begins. We are in that same position right now. We are about to shift into a new level of consciousness; a higher level of existence without polarity; no more judging, no more pain, no more death, no more lots of things and this is a positive step for human consciousness. We have been stuck for over 13,000 years and we are about to finally transform our circumstances and I will continue saying: this is not a time of fear, it is a time of celebration!”

“We have a responsibility to life, to all existence, to the God that lives within us to do the very best that we can in every minute, every second, every precious moment that we are alive as we have the opportunity to move towards oneness; living in peace and harmony. So, we will continue to pay our bills, continue to do everything as usual on those levels so that we can live our lives with the amount of time that God has allotted us to experience this gift fully. And when we take that last breath, whether we die normally having nothing to do with this transition, or this in fact triggers that for us, we will be prepared. It‟s all about trusting in yourself, believing in yourself and knowing that oneness exists in all of life everywhere. If the Mayans are accurate,

Edgar Cayce is right and the scientists of the world are also correct, Yes, we are in the midst a huge transition in the shifting of human consciousness.”

“We all have different ideas about spirituality, about life and these types of transitions. This becomes clear to me as I travel around the world as not everyone agrees with me and I also don‟t agree with everyone else. I‟m simply trying to give you my understanding of what the Mayans are saying. I am doing this for the Mayan people and please remember that this is just one perception as we all understand that there also exist many others. There is no reason to be overly concerned or worried about this, even though it‟s easy to say. Yes, if this is true, this is a huge event. I personally do believe that it is true, but nevertheless we will all soon find out. Maybe it is, maybe it isn‟t, maybe it‟s just a fantasy but we will all know the truth shortly; I‟m sure that we will not have to wait much longer.”

The Mayan Prophecy The Sixth Ahau (Sixth Sun) on December 21, 2012 will initiate a new 5,200 year period.

Beginning on 22 December, the sun will receive a synchronized ray from the center of the galaxy from which a new cycle will be started. It will be the end of a world of materialism and destruction, in which we are living, and the beginning of a new era of respect and harmony.

Before that day, humanity will need to choose between disappearing as a thinking species that threaten the planet and evolve into a new era of integration with the rest of the universe.

Link to the video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLw-5Q8P-40

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, June 21, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Maintain a Positive Outlook In a Negative Environment "Hell," wrote Jean Paul Sartre "is other people." Be that as it may, living in the real world requires us to peacefully exist with all types. Whether the negativity is coming from your spouse, your co-worker, or your best friend, I have compiled a few suggestions for you to rise above it and maintain a positive outlook. In my personal opinion, “Heaven or Hell is simply a state of mind and with a little consciousness; one can responsibly choose their actions or reactions which has a direct affect on one’s inner state of being. When one is connected to inner essence which is presence, peace and tranquility abound and one can remain a witness to all that is happening in each moment without taking any of it personally.

Remember that it's a process. Like anything, your response to negativity isn't going to instantly change overnight. Unfortunately, there's not a switch we can flip to make ourselves less susceptible to bad vibes. But by staying conscious and engaged with proactive solutions, our dealing-with-negativity muscles will grow stronger over time. Meditation of any kind will help immensely with strengthening your connection to presence.

Place limits. When a co-worker corners you and wants to bad mouth the boss, many of us have a natural desire to be empathic. Empathize too much with your colleague’s complaints, and you could find yourself feeling dragged down by negative energy that isn’t even yours. Do listen to your co-worker and be polite, but be firm and remind them that you're very busy and only have a few minutes to spare.

Remember what it's really about. When people lash out at you with a response that is totally disproportionate to the situation, think about where their behavior is coming from. If all you are doing is ringing up their groceries, chances are it's not about you. That negativity is an outpouring of what's going on with them -- maybe they hate their job or are dealing with intense stress. Is their behavior appropriate or kind? Absolutely not, but it's a barometer for the state of their life and not a reflection of who you are. Remember that nothing is ever personal; it is only the ego that reacts as if it is. The ego is programmed with the belief that the world revolves only around it. Unable to live in the moment, it is offended easily and reacts automatically as it survives from dwelling on negative charges from the past. It is quite easy to know when one is identified with ‘ego’ and reacting from that place. Simply notice in each moment what is happening and pay attention to any ‘negative feelings’ that are created. This illusion of ego comes from the mind and is responsible for creating most negative emotions, feelings and physical discomfort. When negativity is present; it is a sure sign that ego is dominating the moment with its reactions.

Consciousness is generated from presence which is heart based and knows only how to live in the moment thus creating tranquility. When one is connected to presence, clarity is prevalent and response happens naturally from an inner peaceful state of being. With a little consciousness one never has to lose precious life energy. On the contrary, identification with ego actually feeds on itself by creating turmoil that causes unnecessary energy loss and suffering with its many illusions. Consciousness creates silence and inner tranquility.

Create a protective shield. This suggestion may be a little too spiritual sounding for some, but give it a try. When you are feeling particularly vulnerable and the world feels especially cruel, imagine a protective shield of light between you and everyone you interact with. It could be a bubble, a white light, or a warm glow, but envisioning a physical barrier surrounding you may help protect your positive energy aura.

Change the subject. When the negativity is coming from your spouse or friend, the situation can be a little trickier. Listen to them, but don't dwell on it with them. Usually what people want is a sympathetic ear. Provide it, and then gently change the subject to a more neutral topic.

Get active. If your friend or spouse is in a bad mood, talking about things -- whether listening sympathetically or trying to focus on the positive -- can be enormously helpful, but even this approach has its limits. Sometimes the best course of action is action. Plan an expedition to a nature park, go to the beach, visit a museum, attend a poetry reading, or go to the movies. Explore a new part of town or simply go play games in a video arcade. It's harder for your loved ones to stay in a bad mood when you're leading the way to have fun.

Create your own positive energy field. Imagine that moods, like water, rise to the highest level.

Your positive energy will keep you buoyant and will most likely, over time; rub off on those around you. In the meantime, the less attention you give the negative unwanted energy, the less space it will occupy in your head, and the more you can enjoy your life. Whenever you can, elect to watch movies that make you feel good, listen to music that makes you smile, and spend time with people who lift you up.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: -

Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Monday, June 28, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Secrets for Living and Dying with a Smile What are the secrets to happiness and meaning? Why do some people find a deep sense of purpose while they are here and die with few regrets while others end their lives bitter and disappointed?

About two years ago, I set out to answer that question by asking several thousand people to identify the one person they knew who had lived a long life and found true happiness. It seemed to me that each of us knows at least one person who achieved true success. After receiving over 1,000 nominations, I interviewed 235 people from the age of 59-106 (who had over 18,000 years of life experience) asking them to reflect back on their lives: What brought happiness? What gave meaning? What did they regret? What did they wish they had learned sooner? What did not matter in the end?

These wise elders were an incredibly diverse group ranging from a town barber to CEO's, from poets to native chiefs, Holocaust survivors to war veterans, and represented all the major religions and cultures of our society. My goal was not to interview famous people but to identify ordinary people who had found extraordinary happiness. What I discovered were five clear themes of what it means to live a happy and meaningful life (and to die with a smile on your face).

The Five Secrets: 1. Be True to Yourself. Each one of us is on a unique human journey, and the path to true happiness is to be true to ourselves. This means finding clarity in what brings us happiness and with our priorities straight; focusing our life on what matters to us. It means reflecting on a regular basis as to whether our life fits our soul. In our daily lives, it means knowing what brings us joy and ensuring that we fill our life with the right elements. It also means following our unique destiny. One of the Latino women I interviewed talked about the importance of following our destiny. The idea is that each of us has a path that is most true to us, which is not so much a destination as a way we are meant to be in the world. For example, I am a spiritual teacher and philosopher by nature, and when I stay close to that path, I experience true joy.

Being true to self often means drowning out other voices that would ask us to live their dreams instead of ours. Ron, a gifted chiropractor, told me the story of how he planned to become a medical doctor but when he visited a chiropractor shortly before starting medical school, he discovered a profession that connected to his true self. Others told him he was crazy but he knew that it was his path. He told me that to follow your heart you must have the discipline to listen and the courage to follow. This means asking if the life we are living is true to our deepest sense of self, and it sometimes requires a step of courage to follow our soul. Are you being true to yourself right now?

2. To Leave No Regrets. It seems to me that what we fear most as we age is not death, but rather to come to the end of our life feeling that we never truly lived. The saddest words ever spoken at the end of life are I wish I had. Tom, a native healer, told me that the great fear at the end of life

is the great incompleteness; that you did not do what you came here to do. One of the most interesting things I discovered in talking to 235 wise people is that almost no one regretted risks they took that did not work out, and most said they wished they had risked more. When I asked these people about major crossroads in their lives, many of them talked about taking risks sometimes large and sometimes small - which wound up bringing great happiness. One of the keys to moving towards what we want instead of what we fear is to focus on the best possible result and not the worst. Are you going for what you truly want in your life or acting with fear?

3. Become Love Not surprisingly, the greatest source of happiness for people and the largest place of regret had to do with people. What I discovered is that those who made people a priority in their lives and who developed deep personal relationships found true happiness. Many of them told me that things rarely brought true joy, whereas family and friends brought lasting happiness.

One way to focus on relationships is to set intentional goals for our personal relationships just like we do in our careers.

Yet the most interesting thing I uncovered is that being a loving person, the choice to give love, is even more important in determining happiness than getting it. These people talked to me about the importance of choosing love and kindness as your way in the world. They taught me that when we choose to be a loving person, we find a deep sense of meaning in life.

4. Live the Moment. One of the most common things people told me was how fast life goes by and how important it is to enjoy each moment. One woman told me when you are young you think sixty years is an incredibly long time, but when you get there, you realize it was only a moment. Among the secrets they shared were how important it is to live in the present, to fully enjoy whatever experience you are having (and not to wish you were somewhere else), and to live with gratitude focusing on what you are grateful for rather than what you don't have. They told me that we have no power over the past and little power over the future. Many of them said that whenever you find yourself saying I will be happy when or I will be happy if that it is important to remember that happiness is a choice we make inside in each moment. One woman told me: You have to stop judging your life and start living your life. Stop keeping score trying to decide if you are winning. Instead, live each day fully and stay in the moment. Are you living with gratitude right now, focusing on enjoying your life rather than judging it?

5. Give More Than You Take. When I asked people what gave their life the greatest meaning, people told me again and again that being of service and knowing that you made things better because you were here was by far the greatest source of meaning. I learned that whether in career or personal life, that it is what we give, not what we take, that gives life meaning. Many of them also reminded me that we have little control over what we get from the world every day (whether people will love us, whether we will win the lottery, etc.) but we have complete control over what we give to the world (whether we choose to be kind, charitable, and to give to others). These people reminded me that everything we take from the world dies with us, but everything we give to the world gets recycled. A wise woman named Susan told me that when we are young, we cry for ourselves, but as we age we learn to cry for the world. Indeed all the spiritual traditions remind us that true happiness comes from focusing on being of service, and in the process, joy finds us. Are you focused on giving or getting each day?

What I also discovered is that it is not enough to know the secrets, we must live them. One man told me many of us know what is important but it is not enough to know, you have to put these things into practice. One of my favorites was sixty-four year old Joel who told me about how he reminds himself each day to live the moment. “When I wake up, the first thing I do is say a prayer

thanking God and the universe that I get to live one more day, and I pray that I will treat it as a gift. At night, just before I go to bed, I have a time of meditation and remember all the things that I am grateful for that day and ask for one more day.”

Someone once told me if you want to live a happy life; ask someone who has lived one. This past year I had the privilege to sit at the feet of 235 of the wisest people I have ever met and I was amazed how clear they were on what mattered, what didn't matter, and how each of us can create a life of meaning and happiness.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, July 5, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Energy Vampires I’ve explained in several articles how to align ourselves with positive energy. That has been my mission on this planet in every place that I have had the opportunity to be. I always tell my readers to focus their energy on actions that fill us with happiness and harmony.

When you are experiencing true joy, it emanates in your sparkling eyes, radiant smile and physical and spiritual health. With the abundance of technology in the world, and so many electrical appliances in our homes and offices we are overburdened by artificial electromagnetic fields.

We know that every good deed we do, will benefit hundreds on the planet, just as every negative action will affect large amounts of people. I feel that we need to help the planet especially by joining in on organized ecological events like global blackouts at least once a year. We must be consciously aware of supporting the environment in every way possible.

I feel we can begin by doing a little something like at least sleeping without electricity.

At night, the natural electrical and magnetic activity dancing between our bodies’s cells slow down. Or at least, it wants to. But if your body is being bombarded by electromagnetic fields (EMFs) it may not be able to find complete rest. You are surrounded by true electric vampires that can reduce your vital energy capacity.

So while I don't suggest you stop living with electricity, I do want you to try sleeping without it.

Turning off the electricity at night is a simple way to allow your body to recover from all the electrical radiation that bombards it each day. Simply turn off all non-essential circuit breakers at night. For example, the only circuit breaker I leave connected is the one running the refrigerator at night.

I'm not an electrician and this is not intended to be an operating manual of any electrical installation. It's common knowledge that appliances continue to draw a small amount of power when they're switched off but still plugged in.

One solution is to unplug electronics and chargers when you aren't using them. Or you can plug cords into a power strip and switch it off whenever you want to cut off all power to appliances.

But many consumers wonder if it's worth the hassle to unplug electronics they aren't using. The answer, of course, depends on your objectives.

While it's true that an "informed and aggressive approach can reduce standby use by about 30 percent," according to scientists, "There are more productive ways to save energy by following these tips."

If it's easy for you to unplug chargers and other electronics when you aren't using them, then go for it. And no-one says you have to unplug everything. You might want to choose the biggest energy hogs or items that are easily unplugged.

But don't stress if you find the job too tedious or difficult to remember. The following actions are all easy and, in some cases, save you more money with much less effort than eliminating energy vampires.

Pick and choose what works best for you from this list, or try everything for an estimated annual savings of about 3000 pesos / $275. 

Activating the power-save function on your computer is a super-easy way to shave up to 1000 pesos - $90 a year off your electric bills. Exactly how much you save depends on whether you use a laptop or a desktop and a monitor and how long you currently leave your computer on for.

Low power mode also helps equipment run cooler so it lasts longer. Get into the habit of turning off your monitor when you walk away for 20 minutes and your computer when you leave your desk for more than two hours, and you'll rack up even more savings.

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Reduce the brightness setting of your television. Select the "home" mode because the "retail" or "vivid" mode (the default setting for most TVs) uses up to 25 percent more power.

While you're at it, activate the energy- and power-saving modes on your TV and other appliances and save around 500 pesos - $43.04 a year.

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Video game consoles, such as the Sony PlayStation 3 and Microsoft Xbox 360, use nearly the same amount of power when they are turned on and left idle as they do when you are actively playing a game or watching a movie.

Save more than 1300 pesos - $100 a year by remembering to turn off your gaming system whenever you're not using it.

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Switching off unneeded lights will save you 240 pesos - $21.04 a year. Does it make sense to turn off the light when you leave a room for a few minutes? Yes for incandescent bulbs. Fifteen minutes is a good rule of thumb for compact fluorescent light bulbs.

Speaking of CFLs,( compact fluorescent light bulbs) Consumer Reports' tests found that each CFL will save you around 60 pesos - $5 a year in electricity costs over a regular bulb.

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Wash your clothes in cold water. You'll reduce your bill by around 200 pesos - $18.58 a year and it's better for your clothes.

Even just switching your temperature setting from hot to warm water can cut a load's energy use by half, according to CFE (the Department of Energy).

In this way you will have more harmony and at the same time save money as well. What do you think? It’s good that you are at least thinking of putting it into practice.

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Monday, July 12, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

10 Relaxation Techniques in 10 minutes It’s sure easy to get swept up in the stress of our day-to-day lives living in these fast paced times.

In times like these, what you really need is a week of aromatherapy, Jacuzzi baths and full body massages, but what you'll settle for is ten minutes of self-centered bliss. Don’t label it being selfish—for in order to keep functioning as a top-notch employee, parent, spouse, or friend you have to take time to refuel. Because honestly, if you're running on empty, how are you going to have anything to give? Here are ten ways to replenish your energy reserves in less time than it takes to actually fill up your gas tank.

Enjoy a cup of tea. You don't have to be British for this one. Just drop a bag of your favorite tea in a proper ceramic cup and add hot boiling water. Pausing for a cup of tea (coffee or hot chocolate) is a relaxing ritual you can include in your everyday life, no matter what drama is swirling around you. Wrap your hands around a warm cup, breathe in the steam, and for just a few moments you can enjoy a moment of peace.

Sing along to your favorite song. Sometimes when I'm plagued by an overfull schedule or a wave of self-doubt passes thru the mind, I listen to a little Celine Dion. Yes, a grown woman turns to "The Power of Love" when she needs a little spring in her step. And the funny thing is, it works: just as faking a smile can make you feel genuinely happier, singing along with your favorite song (even if you don't feel like it) can do wonders for your mood. For the length of that song, you are not a mature adult, holding it together for others around you. You are a rock star, a smokin' hot cabaret singer atop a piano, or even a Rockin nun. So roll up the windows of the car or close your office door and let it rip.

Breathe Deeply. If formal meditation seems too difficult for you, you're in luck. Just focusing on your breath can bring some of the same benefits. Wherever you are -- in the car, waiting in line at the bank -- take a long, slow breath in, relaxing your belly and completely filling up your lungs.

Hold for a moment, and then slowly exhale. Repeat several times. Isn't it kind of amazing how this instant-therapy empties your mind of that running to-do list and calms your entire system?

Bonus points: keep lavender oil handy; rub some between your fingers, and dab on your temples and earlobes beforehand.

Write it down. Sometimes the best thing you can do to quiet your mind is to directly confront it.

Are you worried about a sick relative or how you're going to pay the electric bill? Take a few minutes and just write it down. List everything that's stressing you out and causing you concern.

Just emptying the clutter in your brain will make you feel lighter, whether or not you have the time or energy to focus on solutions right now. You'll get to that soon enough -- but you can't address what's troubling you until you know exactly where that anxiety is coming from.

Stretch your body. You could probably give yourself a mini-yoga class if you know the postures, but you don't need to be a yogini to engage is some great body stretches. Stand up, and keeping your knees soft, fold at the waist and hang your head and arms loose towards the floor.

Let gravity do the work of pulling you down. Then, stand up straight, clasp your hands behind your back and stretch your shoulders and upper back. Gently stretch your neck with slow, easy neck circles or by hanging your right ear towards your right shoulder, then left ear to left

shoulder. If you're feeling especially tense, take a few moments to knead the muscles along the top of your shoulders. If you trade in your desk chair for a large exercise ball; you will also have a great prop to lay backwards over whenever you need an instant stretch! It’s also great for lowerback problems as sitting on it all day engages all the muscles in the back, legs, butt and abs just to stay balanced.

Home Sweet Home. If you are at home, take a hot shower then lie down in bed and try doing a few relaxing yoga poses as stretching your muscles gives flexibility to your body which surely will also affect your thoughts and attitude in the same manner. Remember the Chinese proverb which says that we need to be flexible like a bamboo so that we can resist the strong winds without breaking.

Laugh as loud as you can. There’s no denying that laughing can make you feel better. So during your 10-minute break, deliberately seek out something that you know will make you laugh -watching a few clips on YouTube or reading a favorite blog. If you can, involve a friend: Studies show that people laugh more when they’re laughing with others.

Reset your mind. While sitting quietly in your office, close your eyes for 10 minutes; breathe deeply into your lower abdomen and relax your mind by picturing a clean white paper. Deep breathing can relieve stress when you’re feeling burned out. Sit comfortably, keeping your back straight. Inhale through the nose while you count to four. Hold your breath while you count to seven. Then exhale deeply through the mouth, counting to eight. Repeat the cycle.

Read a few pages of a good book...

Sometimes we just need a break from whatever is happening in the moment and picking up a good book can remove us from our reality that may be causing us stress and inspire us to open our minds by changing our focus for a moment. Afterwards we are capable of returning to the same situation but with fresh eyes and a new perspective.

Try guided imagery. To relax your energy, take a virtual vacation while sitting at your desk.

Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Then imagine a peaceful place. It could be someplace you’ve been before -- the beach or the mountains. Try to fill it out with detail. What does it smell like? Is there a breeze blowing on your face? Imagine you’re walking along a path; the farther you go, the more relaxed you get. Once you feel fully relaxed, gradually ease yourself back into the present.

Count to three and open your eyes.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, July 19, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Live your Passion The treasure which we discover last is the one which was ours from birth. Within each human being there is a spark of divinity waiting to be put into action. And you should know that you are the only one who can initiate that first movement which will change the meaning of your existence. No-one can help you move into the New unless you are willing to do so yourself.

Where is that spirit of adventure within you that enables you to step out fearlessly; with feelings of real excitement and expectation into the unknown? As you are willing to do this you will grow in stature and in strength.

Simply going along in the same old way day in and day out will get you nowhere and you cannot hope to grow and expand spiritually. You have to want to move forward, you have to want to pioneer a new and exciting way of life. Always remember that every journey, however long, starts with the first step, but that first move is always yours. It is the seed of a promising future, but you have to make the move.

If a species does not evolve, it dies. As humans, we have infinite possibilities. That is why we are here – because of our possibilities. We can be anything. We have the abilities of a sage, if we but wish to develop these abilities. We can do or be anything we can imagine – and much, much more. It only depends on us – there are no limits. My suggestion is to live with sincerity and look for what you would really love to do, in the place where you would like to do it, and with the people you would like to be with. Don’t wait. Almost everyone dies sooner or later, nobody can avoid that destiny, but most of humanity lives regretting not having had the courage to try and find their place in the Universe.

Yes, there are terrible things happening on this planet – but at the same time, we are awakening on other levels of consciousness, since everything, even the most chaotic events, are for a higher good. If you observe clearly, you will be able to see that the Earth, that blue planet, the third from the Sun, is also a wonderful place to live in. Unplug yourself from all the restrictions and limiting ideas, and find a way to think, speak and act your own truth. If you were going to die this weekend, would you be very serious about anything you were doing right now?

Would you like to know what will create inner peace? I’ll tell you: be honest with yourself and live your truth while creating harmonious relationships. Allow your feelings to be just as they are, and work towards becoming transparent, without the need to hide yourself due to fear. You will notice that when you are truly satisfied, whatever you are doing (or not doing) is wonderful, because you are radiating a beautiful energy, bliss. Happy people water the seeds of joy, and miserable people water the seeds of misery. Which do you choose to be?

It is one thing to know what your passion is and another to feel that you are capable of making it a reality. To actually go out and do it first requires believing in ourselves that we can, and also to see the wisdom in doing so. These are 2 key elements or ingredients that we require. We need the philosophy that allows us to put our dreams into practice – and then the will to turn the fantasy into a reality.

Work: Job I remember when I first heard the word "job." I was eight years old. I added together all of my older friends' complaints about their jobs and my father's look of exhaustion when he came home from work and I realized in a flash of recognition that I wasn't going to be allowed to simply play the rest of my life. I'd have to make money to live. I'd have to work. I'd have to get a job! Yikes!

After days of pondering my latest life predicament, lightning struck—bright as a newborn sun! A brainstorm to save my spirit! I'd get a job, but unlike my friends and father, I'd find a way to make money doing something I liked. I'd get paid to do some activity that I'd be doing anyway whether I got paid or not.

That's exactly what I've done from the young age of just 8 years old with my first job as a petrol station attendant which began with the fun experience of simply cleaning the windshield of each client. This evolved into pumping the gas for each which eventually led to assuming the responsibility of managing the entire gas station for an owner that chose to believe in and support the abilities of an energized young girl with amazing entrepreneurial skills way beyond her years!

Work/business fascinated me, so I became a connoisseur of it. I evolved into becoming a lover of whatever life put into my path and called ‘work’. And this became part of my journey. Whatever I loved I focused on and formed my own way of making a success endeavor out of it. I devoured books, so I became a writer. I loved connecting with my inner self and dove headfirst into meditation and yoga choosing to visit and live in India to study both profoundly and afterwards sharing it with others which earned me the title ‘spiritual teacher’. I worship the outdoors, and love the adventure of discovering different cultures and most of all helping people, so now I travel the world as a personal coach and international seminar leader.

Align with Your Soul Plan I've discovered that the happiest and healthiest people on the planet are the people who are living their dream—getting paid to do what they love. How can you make your living doing what you love? Align your personality with your soul. When you align your actions and attitude with your true passion in life, you align with your destiny in being here. When you align your life with your true purpose, you are automatically in alignment with the soul plan and passion of every other person on Earth. Thus through natural synchronicity, every other person on the planet assists you in achieving your goals and happiness. So start now. Decide what it is that makes your heart sing.

What would make you actually look forward to waking up in the morning and find you bouncing out of bed dancing your way to the shower? Make a list of a few things that can inspire those feelings in you. And observe your mind as it tells you how silly those ideas are. The mind is the first hurdle to overcome. Let it make its judgments and voice its fears and then go and do it anyway! No it’s never too late, not even if you are heading for retirement. Now is the ONLY time to start creating what you have always dreamed of! You are the only one who can make that happen. So take a hold of the reins of life and yes risk looking like a fool for your happiness by taking responsibility for creating your own destiny. Get clarity on what your passion is, and choose to live it. I can tell you from experience that once you do it, life doesn’t get any better than that. Especially if it involves helping others, as you will find that even the Divine joins in supporting you. Trust in yourself, ask the Divine for support; express your gratitude, go for it and don’t ever look back.

TIP: Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and

more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Monday, July 26, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Take Care of Yourself We are living in modern times and also difficult times as various conflicts are being experienced due to the consequences of the present financial crisis. The consciousness levels are rising fast, diverse social changes are happening, and inevitably all is thanks to the positive energy that governs the universe.

Those that consistently read my articles know that I am always speaking of this. As I am also always insisting that it is necessary to be fully present in the NOW in order to experience happiness. Nothing happens in the past or the future as it all only happens in the present moment and that is what I call having consciousness; when one is aware of this simple fact. To be present is to simply be conscious of everything that you are doing in each moment. This is something that I have learned and confirmed over and over during my many trips around the world. Iâ€&#x;m always enjoying to the fullest each moment, but also very alert and paying attention to everything around me. My experiences have always been positive because I responsibly and consciously choose to be the creator of my life instead of being an unconscious victim out of ignorance as I actually have a choice about what happens to me in this life. Every one of us has the same opportunity to make this choice and our lives will always respond accordingly with immediate results. Do you see the significant difference between those two decisions?

I have also said that even the very worst situation has a positive side to it, consider this: everything is for the good, even though we may not understand it in the moment, as all is divinely guided. With this in mind, it is also intelligent to be prepared and have clarity about how one must act in an emergency situation. For example, if there is insecurity, assaults and kidnappings in your area, we should be aware of what intelligent things we can do in an emergency situation.... I want to share important and useful information that I received from my various groups and conferences that I had with the police and then their many apprehended criminals.

This is for you women, and also for you men to share with your wife, your children and everyone that you know & care about.

1.If a thief asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you... Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. THEN RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 2. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit there (making a list, applying lipstick etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and THIS is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head, DO NOT DRIVE OFF!!! Repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes: bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

3. A few tips about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage, as most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

A.) Be aware: look around you; look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and especially in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door.

C.) Observe the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and on the passenger side... If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. D.) When a person requests that you exit your vehicle to observe your punctured tire, thank them, and DO NOT get out of your vehicle! Lock your doors and leave the area immediately with your so called „flat tire‟.

4. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will.

This tip has saved lives.

5. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. (This is especially true at NIGHT!) 6. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ! RUN, preferably in a zig -zag pattern!

8. We women always tend to be caring and sympathetic: STOP and use your intuition when confronted by a situation as Sympathy may get you raped, or killed.

Many serial killers are good-looking, well educated men, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. They walk with canes, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into their vehicle or with their vehicle, which is when/how they easily abducted their next victim.

9. Don’t give out important personal information freely.

Inside the shopping malls there are people near the entrance of the cinemas doing supposed surveys with the young people (on something interesting like a new film, etc) and they catch their interest with prizes that will be given out as they exit the movie. They request their name, cell phone and home phone numbers, address, name of the city and country of origin, and very discreetly will write down various characteristics like the clothes, color of hair, eyes, etc. Then reminding them to turn off their cell phone while inside of the cinema so that they don‟t disturb others, they wait a few minutes, call that person who they just “interviewed” to verify that their cell phone is off and then they call their home to blackmail their family into believing that they just kidnapped their loved one at the cinema. They are usually successful as the frantic family immediately panics into doing and paying whatever the supposed kidnapper demands of them!

Please share this with all of the women and men that you know.

We may think of warning the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well. Share this with any woman you know that may need to be reminded to always stay conscious and listen to their inner voice. It may save a life.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, August 2, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Consciousness and Presence The consciousness of the present moment is a way of being, in opposition to “something that we do”, so, it is easier to say what it isn´t more than what it is. A trusty indicator that we have entered into the consciousness of the moment is that our experience of life, no matter what it may look like at any given moment, is infused internally with a resonance of deep gratitude. This gratitude is not based on comparison and is not one that only flourishes because our life is going just the way that we prefer or because our experience or life per se, is easier. It‟s about being grateful for the invitation, the journey and the gift of life itself. It is a gratitude that does not require any reason at all. This gratitude is something on which we can depend as the indicator of how present we are in our experience of life. If we are not simply thankful for the fact that we are alive, it is because we have parted from the present moment and we find ourselves in a mental illusory place called “time”.

Very few of us have the capacity to be present in our experiences of life because we were all born in a culture that exists in the world of time. This is what we call “Civilization”. We have been thirsty for progress but, in most cases, progress has taken us to structuring life in such a manner that we do not have to be present when life happens. The more automated our experience of life is, the less involved we are in the art of Living.

In the World of Time, it is challenging to be thankful because nothing seems to develop the way that we think it should. The Past has sorrow and the Future keeps the promise of improvement, while the present moment appears to us as an event that requires adjustments. As a result, we spend all our time pondering on what didn´t work for us in the past, and mentally planning adjustments in the future that we must do to eventually reach that state of peace and realization that we are looking for. Because these adjustments are continuously leading our attention towards an “extraordinary tomorrow”, we have forgotten how to allow ourselves the opportunity to reach any meaningful juncture today. Subsequently the world in which we live now and everything in it are a means to an end. Living like this seems normal. It looks normal because we do not have access to any other mundane experience that qualitatively differs from the one we are experiencing now. We have no other experience to compare to our experience of this moment.

So in living like this, we consistently leapfrog over the present moment. Even though the past is gone and cannot be altered, and the future is not yet formed, we choose nonetheless to occupy mentally those illusory spaces instead of going fully into and experience that unique moment in which we continually find ourselves. So, by living constantly in a mental state that allows us to reflect and project our attention towards those illusory places, we are missing those very real emotional and physical experiences that are happening to us now. We completely forget about this unique moment that contains the vibration and fullness of what life is. We think we are living but that is not the case, we are only existing. We think that we are moving forward, but we are just going in circles like a dog chasing his tail. We are totally mental about everything and, consequently, we have sacrificed our experiences of being physically present and emotionally balanced. And for this reason, our mental state, as advanced as we think it is, has turned into a puzzle full of confusion.

The world of the mind is sheer madness, lucubration. Mental masturbation. The mind continually replays the past; it cannot live in any other way. Or it occupies itself by worrying about the future.

It is always living the illusion of control, and you are its obedient puppet. You have to learn how to connect with your inner self, with your internal essence. Learn how to observe your mind and take advantage of everything that it offers positively; then educate it, tame it into being a puppy that obeys your orders so that you can be its master and stop being its slave. Meditation is a simple way of just sitting and witnessing the mind. To begin you can do any strong activity, it doesn´t matter what, and then simply stay sitting for five minutes completely alert and passive.

Good luck.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, August 9, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

The Mind's Craziness THE PRESENT MOMENT IS VALID - ENTERING IT CONSCIOUSLY IS A PORTAL INTO AUTHENTICITY, INTEGRITY, AND INTIMACY. Present moment awareness is "being fully present within each unfolding moment just as it is without interference - without binding it with the resonance of fear, anger, and grief arising from our unintegrated past". Only when we are present are we vulnerable to receiving, and therefore able to contain, each unfolding encounter as a divinely ordained opportunity to intimately explore the profound possibilities of our humanity. Entering the moment fully requires a behavioral transformation - a shift from unconscious reactivity into deliberate responsibility. This transformation is only authentically accomplished through integrating the underlying imprinted emotional signatures that consistently distract us from being present. No one can accomplish this on our behalf.

In a past article, I told you that when we are constantly creating questions and then answering them, we are in the field of mind, and this game will go on endlessly, twisting and turning without reaching any spiritual solution. The mind has the capacity of creating endless questions with endless answers. It is like peeling an onion, layer after layer without ever ending. In the end, we get nowhere.

I want to make myself perfectly clear, because this is a delicate topic that creates controversy all over the world in the seminars that I teach or assist. Undoubtedly the mind is a fabulous tool, but when we are not awakened, it uses us as its slave: leading us astray in its complicated maze. So, the only solution is to become aware of its habits and manias to be free of its suffering and control. As long as the mind is there reigning and enslaving us to a stereotype of what it supposes we are; it will cut off the wings of our dreams, and deprive us of experiencing reality as it is.

When you lose your - self and identify with the mind you will never find a solution, because the mind inevitably does not want a solution. The mind becomes a kind of separate entity which struggles for its own survival, which is why I recommend that you distract yourself with a completely different activity to what you are accustomed to, by doing that, you are on the way to salvation; as it will also inevitably open your mind. For millennia we have all been living with this same mind. It is as if we are carrying a donkey on our shoulders. And in this way we are unable to experience life, because what we call „an experienceâ€&#x; is not really an experience, but only a thought. For this, you have to get out of your mind to truly experience the presence. In my last article I asked you to detach yourselves from the past and the future and to instead be present.

I suggested that you rid yourself of habits that have conditioned you and turned you into a robot and enjoy the experience of presence which means discovering unconditional love and joy.

The application of one‟s self depends on thought, as thought is measure. The mind is based on thought and all are divided with classifications: divisions of the mind, divisions of thought and the division of oneself. They divide us from the inside, from within our families, our society, our culture, our civilization and eventually the whole planet. We have to end this game and the only way to do this is to wake up from this unconscious slumber, the only way, is to be present.

We are so used to living this state of “not being present” that it seems perfectly natural to us. We actually look forward to it. Nonetheless, it is not natural because it lacks balance and harmony.

We know this because somewhere right in the middle of “leapfrogging” around in this state of mind, we feel that there is something missing. This absence of inner peace that we feel is reflected in the continuous chaos that we experience in our external life. It is also reflected in the way that we are intimidated by any experience that brings us tranquility and silence. The theme of this era is “Where there is noise; there is movement!”

We do not know what we are missing because we cannot remember what it is that we have lost.

We cannot find it because we are endlessly searching among images of our past and or worrying about the future. Our insatiable behavior of needing and wishing is testimony of the void that our present way of living cannot fulfill us. We are removing every stone, every piece of this planet in our desperate search to find peace. Nevertheless, nothing that we do brings us peace because we have long forgotten that peace is not something that “has to be done”. We cannot mechanically install it or obtain it by forceful means. Our state of internal restlessness also manifests itself externally in physical, mental and emotional symptoms of illness. It doesn‟t matter what we take to cure it, it doesn´t matter where we run in our intent to escape from it, it doesn´t matter how we distract ourselves with our constant activities, as true relief continually appears in those moments just beyond our reach. Just like a human being deprived from sleep, we will inevitably fall into a physical, mental and emotional collapse. Our forgetting of this oasis of consciousness in the present moment is also taking us rapidly towards an experience of planetary social disintegration.

This mental condition of “living in time”, of continuously escaping from yesterday and frantically chasing tomorrow without rest or peace, is the predicament that the Presence allocates and alleviates. In assisting us to understand how we, individually, got into this predicament, simultaneously the procedure offers methodic process and tools of perception that empower us to start finding our way out of this illusion. It throws us a rope of consciousness and gives us the necessary energy to get ourselves off the well of our distractions from the past and the future, so we can return to the only solid, safe and peaceful ground: the Present Moment. It is living with presence, with open and activated senses; listening to the whisper of the waves, smelling the abundant paradise of the jungle, caressing the body of our loved ones, gazing at beautiful sunsets and, above all, feeling what it is that we truly are > unconditional love.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into recognizing & appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, August 16, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind Accept the Challenge: No More Complaints!!

Now, the possibility exists that by participating in an entertaining game you can become aware of your constantly complaining and learn how to avoid this attitude by changing it into gratefulness for life, for happiness, for knowledge, for work and for love.

It‟s not like complaining men don‟t exist, it's just that we women have turned complaining into a habit. When we concentrate on the bad aspects of something, we also want the whole world to know about it. And worst of all, we do it hoping that it will free us from our suffering, and that never happens!

We complain if we have nothing to do (“I'm bored”); we complain when we're very busy (“I‟m stressed out”.) We complain if nobody‟s helping us (“Nobody does anything in this house”), and if they do, we complain that they aren‟t doing things they way we would do them (“Let me do it, you‟re doing it all wrong”.)

Modern psychology tells us that this manifestation of female dissatisfaction has a single cause: we need to feel necessary and useful, and so we monopolize everything, hoarding responsibilities, information… and later, of course, we feel tired and we complain. That‟s why, the experts say, it‟s only a question of learning to release that which makes us feel bad, to not „retain‟ people, words, chores, letters, clothes, food…

Although the problem appears to be more „female‟, men also complain. They say things like, “I can‟t stand the stress anymore”, “my chosen football team always loses”, “I do not earn enough money in my job”, “they don‟t let me relax at home”, “my wife doesn‟t appreciate my effort”, “I am tired of paying such inflated school fees”, “the government‟s corruption will never end” and things like that. The “macho” culture places them in roles that force them to be good providers for the home and they forget that they also need to enjoy their life; to take pleasure in spending time with their family in an atmosphere of happiness without complaints.

The „unisex complaint‟ is usually related to resentment. Generally speaking, people who complain a lot feel that they never receive what they deserve. That‟s why they feel bad.

Also, when we complain hoping for a positive response from the other person, we tend to create more rejection in the other person.

Did you know that gossip and criticism are also complaints, but about other people‟s defects? What can be done when confronted by such intimate feelings in which the primary victim is the person experiencing it? Can we escape this never-ending cycle of complaining? Is there a possibility of removing the “yes, buts…” from our vocabulary?

Here are three suggestions which allow us to escape from our „Complaining Self‟ for a while and relax a bit more:

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First try to go for a whole morning, then a whole evening, and then a full day, without complaining about the traffic, the weather, work or household chores.

You will find that, far from feeling that you‟re about to explode like a time bomb, you will feel lighter and more relaxed.

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Avoid surrounding yourself by people who complain a lot, or at least avoid listening to them. Complaints feed more complaints. If we avoid them, we will have less chances of creating them.

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Try to laugh at yourself more. Laugh at your problems; at your imperfections and those of others… being satirical about what is happening to us is a way of talking about it without turning it into a tragedy.

CHANGE YOUR WAY OF LOOKING AT THINGS, AND THINGS WILL CHANGE THE WAY THEY ARE In July 2006, a man named Will Bowen proposed to his congregation “The 21-day challenge”, with the intent of eliminating any traces of complaining and its toxic consequences on people. His proposal was very simple: “you put on a purple bracelet with the inscription A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD and you keep it on for 21 days without voicing a simple complaint or criticism”, even so small as “I have a headache” or “I can‟t do anything right.”

If you emit a single complaint during this period, you should switch the bracelet onto the other wrist and start from scratch. Most participants managed to fulfill the challenge, but it took them a minimum of 5 months, a time period which proves the presence of the COMPLAINT CULTURE in our lives.

A CHALLENGE WHICH WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF YOUR PEERS We now propose that you take up this 21-day challenge of no complaining, criticism or gossip… if you succeed, you will have turned your life into a disease-free paradise. You will find yourself in a better mood, with less aches and pains, better relationships, greater self-confidence, etc. You will be a overall happier and more balanced person.

DO YOU THINK YOU CAN ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE? Six million people have already succeeded since 2006 when Will Bowen launched this campaign in the U.S. Every day more people join in, in an effort to create a better world.

Mexico already has an organization to support “a complaint-free world.” Many people had said that they didn‟t complain too much, but with this exercise they found out that they did it some 20 times a day on average.

COMPLAINING HAS TURNED INTO A PANDEMIC Have you noticed that there is always something to complain about? The weather, the traffic, street crime, lying politicians, health, insufficient money, etc., etc. the only thing we gain by complaining is feeling worse.

WHEN WE CRITICIZE, JUDGE OR COMPLAIN, WE EMIT A HOSTILE ENERGY. WITH THE LAW OF ATTRACTION, THIS ENERGY WILL RETURN TO US MULTIPLIED WHICH ONLY FEEDS THAT WHICH WE ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT, RESULTING IN CREATING AN EVEN BIGGER. PROBLEM. Complaining connects you to lower-energy fields making you weaker and more vulnerable to disease, creating deficiency and conflicts in relationships,. On the other hand, if you speak with GRATITUDE, you connect with higher energy fields: the levels where personal power is developed.

The suggestion is simple – ABANDON ALL COMPLAINTS, AND FILL YOURSELF WITH GRATITUDE… so watch your thoughts and words carefully, and every time you find yourself complaining, express your gratitude about your life, work, health… or for whatever you can give thanks to from your HEART… if you stop and think, you will always find that you have something to be grateful for. Every time that you complain, remember that you will have to start all over again, beginning a new count at day 1.

IF I THINK OF A COMPLAINT OR WANT TO CRITICIZE AND DON’T VERBALIZE IT, DOES THAT ALSO COUNT AS A COMPLAINT? Luckily, it doesn‟t. Only the words that come out of your mouth count in this case.

Those who have succeeded in this challenge realize that it is indeed an exercise in awareness, but after the necessary time period in which it takes you take to accomplish this task, you will even stop criticizing mentally.

GO AHEAD! ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE! Prove to yourself that you CAN do it, and live in GRATITUDE as a „felt‟ experience… ascend to a new level of consciousness and awakening, where the perception of life is harmonious and more expansive.

You don‟t have to put on a purple bracelet; you can use a rock in your pocket or something simpler. The important thing is to become aware that we are often complaining. Don‟t obsess on it, just switch your bracelet to the other wrist and THAT‟S IT. The important thing is to become aware, not to feel guilty. And to keep beginning again until you reach 21 days without any interruption of complaining.

WHY 21 DAYS? Scientists say that it takes 21 days to create a habit. It will take us 21 days to drop the complaining habit and create a new habit of GRATITUDE. I am sure that you will be able to do it!! Try it and see >> good luck.

Monday, August 23, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Live the moment: Free yourself from pain Need a recipe to heal from addiction and past pain? First, make a decision to forgive yourself and others that have caused you pain from your perceptions of past situations. Then accept the responsibility for your pain by giving yourself permission to go deeply into each feeling of discomfort that is still lingering inside, until you reach its root. When you consciously choose to address these issues that are keeping you from experiencing inner peace by creating the time and space to do this, the blocked energy will transform and release creating an opening of the heart for more love and joy to flower. This will also heal your relationships as you will cease projecting your pain onto others.

Trauma and addiction teach us defensiveness, despair, distraction, fear, neediness and offensiveness. Rather than paying attention to our current circumstances, we’re running away from or chasing after something to relieve pain.

We aren't noticing who we are in the moment, instead we are repeatedly seeking ways artificially to alter, numb or heighten who we see ourselves to be. Abstaining from active addiction and living without trauma does not stop the mental, emotional and physical habit patterns from the past. We continue to carry fear and false beliefs and their corresponding defense mechanisms and character defects into our current circumstances and future probabilities.

In our struggles with problems and quests for answers, our energy is often scattered. Our minds can get very busy with possibilities, scenarios, fears and desires. Many times our minds multiply problems rather than solve them, or create solutions that are worse than the original problem.

This fragmented fear based focus is non-productive and indicates a lack of healing.

How the past affects our present Past physical violations and abuse commonly lead to psychological disconnection or disassociation with our bodies. Symptoms of these defenses include: treating the body as an object to be used; neglecting the body altogether; re-enacting abuse; fear, shame and hatred of the body; and developing unhealthy measures to protect and obtain control over the body. This last symptom is seen in the various eating disorders.

Mental and emotional trauma typically results in denial and repression of painful thoughts, feelings and memories. This leads to chronic feelings of confusion, anxiety, depression, fear and anger, as well as emotional constriction, intellectualization and rigid thinking. Once again, we are unable to be fully present to ourselves or others, as all of our present moments are marred by past trauma and fears of the future.

Understandably we don’t wish to feel pain, powerlessness and emptiness. Yet, when we are living in safe and sober conditions, continued resistance to these emotions increases our problems and stress. Paying attention to each present moment as it appears and disappears, and becoming more aware of the observer part of ourselves that doesn't think or act and is not attached to human willfulness, brings a spiritual perspective to learning and maturing.

Meeting your past . . . head on Furthermore, facing and processing emotions from the past, with healthy recovery support, and with the goal of insight and healing, brings us positive energy. This is how we learn to be fully present to who we are without conditions and constraints.

Trauma symptoms additionally interfere with what we have to give to others. We are afraid to be fully present to anything that reminds us of what we have not healed. Yet we unconsciously attract these very experiences, because we hold their energies within us, and because we are endlessly given opportunities to heal.

Until we consciously decide to heal, we respond to others defensively and offensively when some part of them or what they do, say or feel, reminds us of our pain. Therefore, what we have to give to others is an incomplete and distorted version of who we truly are. And how we perceive them is incomplete and distorted as well.

What is "unhealed" in you?

The greatest gifts come from compassionate self-reflection and understanding. When we summon the courage to face the unhealed aspects of ourselves, our work can ultimately transform them into healthy and helpful character traits.

This positive energy increases our conscious awareness and receptiveness to divine direction and assistance. Allowing ourselves to be fully present to who we are as God created us, and allowing each moment to arrive and depart without resistance or attachment, aligns us with God’s will for us. Now we can also give others our full presence, and thus notice all that they are from a human and spiritual perspective.

When we have conflict, we often perceive ourselves to be struggling with external forces. Our blaming of others serves to reinforce negative energies inside of us. If we are more psychologically evolved and conscious, we see the struggles as being between aspects of ourselves. However, internal strife without loving insight also reinforces negative energies.

If we are spiritually evolved, we understand that every conflict is an opportunity to learn something new and thereby expand our understanding and active demonstration of spiritual principles. This enables us to see our fuller presence as both a human and spiritual being.

When we cease resisting the lessons and stop disconnecting from ourselves, and when we exchange negative energies for compassionate inquiry and commitment to personal growth, we begin to realize the magnitude of the flow of divine blessings.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, September 6, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Do You Have a Toxic Personality?

Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to shake it off and other times, not so much.

Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member; you regress into a state of childhood.

Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them: 1. Manipulative Maria: These individuals are such experts at manipulation tactics that you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want. 

Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nacho: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marias of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you." 

Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs unmet.

You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downer: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

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Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jose: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's unique taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'. 

Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo old news. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Karla: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it.

As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible. 

Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Ignacio: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response. 

Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Diego: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you. 

Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nestors: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy.

They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

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Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) The more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is harmful and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending much time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel more centered and a lot happier.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members

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Monday, September 13, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Personality traits to admire and acquire I’ve written numerous articles on difficult people, personalities and relationships: I’ve covered various topics such as: manipulative partners, bullies in schools and the workplace, people who push other’s boundaries to the limit and toxic relationships. Let’s face it: through relationship, life gives us many opportunities to experience people with various attitudes as well as a multitude of character types! As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy. Consciously seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, may actually do us a lot of good. We can create a positive energy field around ourselves by first establishing a foundation of awareness of what is healthy behavior.

Then intentionally choosing to surround ourselves with those who are optimistic, positive and healthy, which will then cause us to also model those positive behaviors.

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who really makes an impression on you …legitimately. Some people have a fantastic outlook on life, even during difficult times. In the middle of chaos some people exhibit patience and tranquility. Maybe they are really humble, although they are extremely gifted. Maybe someone makes you feel special by always saying nice things; praising and complimenting details. All of these are good examples of healthy behavior.

Below, I've listed some of the traits I admire most in people. Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.

1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give.

Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special. While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.

2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.

3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on protecting our ‘image’. Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess. To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving feedback and communication that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.

4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected. Often, sensitive

people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.

5. Integrity: I really think this characteristic is honorable and not always easy to find. In a time when people will do things that are dishonest to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…are you listening?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (reality TV shows) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.

6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits also have the power to make others feel special too.

Oh my how the list could go on! What characteristics do you admire in others? Are there any that you want to cultivate? Here are some great suggestions: Live life and don't just talk about it. The more positive you are in your every thought, word and deed, the more stimulating and inspiring you are to all those around you. To inspire others, you really have to live life and not just talk about it. Everyone likes to see a successful way of life demonstrated, to prove to themselves that it really is possible, practical and workable. What you are presently doing may be something that many others will also need to do in days ahead. That is why all must be tested and proven, so others can see that it works.

Be enthusiastic about life. Wake up and start living! Set your sights high, the higher the better.

Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to limit you or hold you back in any way. Be enthusiastic about life. It is a wonderful life; make it true with your enthusiasm. Learn to be very clear and definite about what you desire in life and never be vague or uncertain. You can do absolutely anything, and you can be all things to all of humanity, when your faith and trust are in the Divine.

Have confidence in your ability to do all things because you are drawing your substance, your all, from the Divine. It is what you are.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, September 20, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Relationships- Toxic or Healthy Part I When I speak about relationships I am not referring to those we have with our significant other: our husband, wife, fiancé, girlfriend or boyfriend…as I wish to speak about relationships in a broader sense of the word. Life is relationship. That is, relationships are what give real meaning to our lives.

If you do not have good relationships, no matter how successful you are in other aspects of your life; you will still feel that you are missing something.

And what it is a good relationship? It is when you can relate to the other without any fear, without pain and without guilt. In other words, it is when you allow freedom and acceptance to reign; when you can truly be yourself and allow the other person to also completely be authentic.

We long to share our lives, to have a deep, soulful connection with another. We feel a strong urge to bond with someone, an inner need that goes far beyond a mere physical drive to reproduce. Do we feel incomplete without another person by our side? Or is there a different purpose, a higher purpose, behind our yearning to experience love? Maybe our souls know that love, and our desire to share and give love, is the true nature of our being. Although the desire for love seems to be deep in our core, it’s amazing how many of us struggle to experience healthy and lasting love.

The following tips are designed to help you become conscious of habits that can destroy a loving partnership as well as advice of how to rebuild once destruction has crept in. As always my intention is to assist you in transforming your fears around love, and give advice on how to sustain harmony in all your relationships…

1. Having an affair with his "potential": Wanting your man to be the best version of himself is admirable, but approaching his looks and personality with "Extreme Makeover" ambition will do little more than erode his self-esteem and leave you both frustrated and resentful. If you and your partner believe that love means acceptance, pushing him to change and criticizing him is going to send him the opposite message. What he hears is 'you aren't good enough!’

How to rebuild: This is where the old 80-20 rule can be used to the benefit of both of you. Spend at least 80 percent of your time together letting your partner know all the things you adore and appreciate about him, so that when you mention something you don't like, it doesn't feel like another item on a long list of failures.

2. Major mood swings: We're living in some pretty anxiety-inducing times, and when life takes a stressful turn, it's not uncommon for couples to start taking out that stress on each other. While the occasional mood swing can -- and should -- be forgiven, being in a relationship with someone whose bad moods outnumber the good ones can make a partner run for cover. Wouldn't you do the same?

How to rebuild: The next time you catch yourself taking a downturn, take a moment to consider what kind of impact your moods are having on your partner and the relationship. For example:

When women become too moody, men start to walk on eggshells because they just don't want to deal with the drama.

3. Gossip: Talking to pals about your love life is a normal part of friendship, but if you're calling your best friend, your sister, and your mom every time your man pisses you off, you're not only going to wind up embarrassed when the storm passes, you'll also find yourself in a relationship with someone who feels violated and judged. As a couple, private information should stay private or you risk damaging your reputation as a couple, which in turn may isolate you from others and sever your relationship. Remember that word of mouth is a powerful force, and it can hurt your reputation if your mate or others brand you as ‘untrustworthy’.

How to rebuild: The next time you log on to his computer and find an improper download, resist the urge to get on the phone and vent to your top five friends. Instead, sit down and talk things out with the one person who can help you work through it. If you're not sure how to approach him about a certain topic, sit down and write him a letter. (Helpful hint: Sit on it for 24 hours to make sure it says what you really want to say and isn't just filled with angry words and blame.)

4. Melodrama: If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. Men tend to favor lowmaintenance girls when it comes to relationships as they are pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when they need to work so hard to make her happy and also calm her down in the same day.

How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner drama queen moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.).

5. "Mom-ing" him: Your man loves his mama and he loves you, but when you're the one telling him to stop watching TV, scoffing at his lack of manners, or informing him that he can't go out drinking with his buddies because he has a "big day tomorrow," it's anything but appealing. He'll not only resent that you're trying to control him, but he'll also likely do what all children do when they're being reprimanded -- rebel. Scolding your mate creates an unhealthy dynamic of parentchild relationship, which automatically puts your partner into a child role and you into the role of mom. Children often do the opposite when they feel as if they don't have a choice, and this is similar for couples.

How to rebuild: Instead of scolding or telling him what to do or not do, try to ask for your needs in a clear and respectful way and avoid using the 'mother' tone. Share with your partner the importance of your needs rather than demanding or scoffing at what he has or hasn't done right.

Also, scolding him like you are his mother can put you in a parent role, which will eventually destroy the love in a partnership. Next week I will continue with more information..

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, September 27, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Relationships- Toxic or Healthy Part II Last week we focused on relating with our ‘significant other’ in relationships. I also want to point out the importance of how we relate in family, work and society because it is in our immediate environment where we have the most power and vitality to project happiness in our lives. Life is relationship. It is precisely our relationships that give our lives meaning. If you don’t have good relationships; even if you have success in all other areas of your life, you will always feel that something is missing.

Let’s continue on this subject with a few more ideas that have worked very well for many people.

We left off last week with number 5, so let’s continue now:

6. Too much together time Spending time with your man is one of the best parts of being in a relationship, but there's a big difference between bonding and being joined at the hip. Many men are attracted to secure, independent women. Once in relationships, women may tend to become more dependent, to demand more time and attention of their partners. This can represent a problem, as often men need more space than women.

How to rebuild: Remind your guy of the independent and fabulous woman he was initially attracted to by indulging in your favorite pastimes and enjoying your friends without him every once in a while. By flashing your independence, you'll not only give him a chance to miss you but also have interesting things to share with him when you meet up.

7. Jealousy: He lets you know how much he loves you constantly, but that doesn't stop you from checking his phone when he's in the shower or sending every pretty girl he talks to eye-daggers. Although a tiny bit of jealousy in a relationship is normal, accusing your man of cheating and questioning his whereabouts every time he walks in will have him feeling controlled, manipulated, and insulted. Jealousy in a relationship, or even personally, is the spiritual equivalent of slowly poisoning the person; just sit back and prepare for the disintegration.

How to rebuild: Unless your man has said or done things to make you suspicious, your jealousy is more about your relationship with yourself than you two as a couple. Back away from his computer and check out your own history. Were you betrayed in the past?

Did you grow up in a household where the fidelity vows were broken? There might be ways in which you are allowing unresolved issues from your past to dictate your present behavior. If you don't feel you can overcome the green monster on your own, don't be afraid to reach out to a qualified counselor who can help you identify the sources of your insecurity and work through them.

8. Getting too comfortable: In the beginning of a relationship, we make sure to look and act our best, but as time moves on, the sweatpants come out and routine takes over.

People tend to get lazy in their relationships, and while it's good to be comfortable, no one wants to be boring or to be bored.

How to rebuild: Men love to be seduced and romanced as much as we do, and part of what makes the courtship phase of relationships so fun is the experience of uncovering the mystery of another and trying new things together. When a woman stops making an effort to look nice for her man and expects him to take care of all the stuff in the romance department, a man begins to feel taken for granted and thinks that she doesn't care about impressing him anymore. Show your guy he's still worth the effort by surprising him with a break from the ratty T-shirt you wear to bed, with a sweet note, or plan a special night out for him ‘just because’. He'll not only appreciate it, he'll also reciprocate.

9. Creating unnecessary problems due to insecurity and lack of communication.

The following story is a good example:

His Diary Her Diary HER DIARY Sunday night I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.

Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing." I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.

On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love you, too."

When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched T.V.; he seemed distant and absent.

Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed and to my surprise he responded to my caress and we made love, but I still felt that he was distracted and his thoughts were somewhere else.

I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep. I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

HIS DIARY Today the Bulls* lost, but at least I got laid. (*Bulls: American Basketball team)

Monday, October 4, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

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Free Yourself from Suffering Our level of consciousness is basic. Some believe that the different levels of consciousness are Egoistic, Mature, Social-planetary, Cosmic and Divine. It is correct that there are several levels.

The truth is that our ego prefers to keep us connected to a lower level of consciousness and with a little work on our part; we can eventually achieve higher states. To make it easier to understand I generally prefer to categorize it into lower and higher consciousness. It is clear that the highest consciousness is infinite in its development as it expands into endless waves similar to how water responds when we toss a stone into it. It responds by creating a small vibracional wave and continues creating another greater and greater, until it finally reaches the border of whatever body of water it is. The spiritual ocean is different as it has clarity of consciousness free from limits and boundaries and endlessly expands into the infinite. We are all part of this same consciousness which also provides us with an unlimited opportunity to continue growing. It is a fact that if we are not growing, we are instead dying. We never remain stagnant as there is always movement.

What is our habitual reaction to suffering? It is to always escape in some form as we have been conditioned to do this. Instead of investigating and confronting our suffering, we choose to resist it which manifests in many ways. We get angry and blame others, or we reject it and fight it aggressively feeling hatred, or we become identified with it and share our misery by talking and complaining about it to others. We feel unfortunate and cry endlessly or try to change it and shout about it because we feel that God doesn‟t love us anymore … When we begin to become more conscious, we can then choose to turn and face it; feeling it and living it totally for what it is, and we find that the suffering soon stops existing. The energy of it is then freed and it rapidly transforms into joy and love; which then allows us to relate to others in a new manner. We begin to relate from this natural state of who we are; unconditional love, an inner state of security of our similarities and not from a state of hostility caused by the fear of our differences.

To grow in awareness; do this simple 10 min technique daily This is a simple 5 step meditation that we need to practice. It is specifically designed to grow in awareness.

1. Invoke the presence of the Divine in which you have a personal relationship 2. Remember beautiful events from the day or life and feel grateful (If the grateful emotion is not used regularly it will disappear. If you don‟t use your arm you will lose your arm. Strengthen gratitude by feeling it. It‟s one of the best medicines for health- physically, mentally and spiritually. Soak in the feeling, and you will heal yourself!)

3. Become aware of any charges and experience the charge.

4. Chant/Sing this Mantra: Suffering is not in the fact but in our perception of the fact- 7 times (This is a re-affirmation, forming a new habit, re-conditioning the brain. To form this new habit sit in the right position, hands in correct mudra position (index finger tip at base of thumb). Breathe in, hold your breath and chant mantra internally.)

5. Seeking forgiveness and forgiving others.

(This will help you „clean the slate‟ for the next day so that you don‟t carry things over.)

Do this each day!

If you do it each day it will become a good habit and will help you grow and live in awareness.

What does awareness lead to? It breaks old habits and once broken; the next time that you become jealous, angry, self-centered, etc you will not be resistant to it. When you stop resisting you become CALM.... which leads to BLISS. What are your habitual responses to feeling discomfort/pain? (Take note of the order that you would normally respond, starting with the most popular) 1. Blame: We Blame someone/people/situation/systems/ourself. Why do we blame? To avoid pain, discomfort as your mind distracts its attention away from pain thus making you feel a little better temporarily.

2. We look for reasons: We look for explanations and analyse the situation. „It happened to me because .....‟ ......‟it‟s all been a misunderstanding‟ We do this to avoid discomfort, as it makes us feel better.

3. Give it a value. „I think „God‟ wants me to suffer‟ „...it‟s a blessing in disguise.‟ We try to give it a value, making it profound so that we can say; “now I feel blessed/alright”.

4. Do something to distract yourself. Eat, go for a walk, chat with someone, work, sleep, watch TV or clean the house. A good way of escaping and avoiding pain.

We need to be aware of what our habitual responses are to discomfort/pain In order to experience suffering; 1. First know that you are suffering 2. Become conscious of our habitual questions, who, why?

3. Ask the right questions for correct focus.

4. Become aware of our habitual response, going by order of significance, 5. Make the decision >Left hand on right thigh, right hand on top of left. (Engage breath, emotion and body).

Take deep breath and say: ‘I am experiencing this suffering fully until it is gone’ 6. Invoke the presence. With the intention; ‘please help me experience this suffering fully!)

7. Experience it until it is gone.

8. Make an affirmation. Sing/chant ‘suffering is not in the fact but in the perception of the fact’ 7 times 9. Express your Gratitud What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, October 11, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Ultimatums - The Do's and Don'ts Tips to help you successfully solve your biggest relationship dilemmas.

We've seen the headlines over and over: "Brad issues Angelina a marriage ultimatum! Marry me or else!" No one knows for certain if it's truth or lies (we're guessing something closer to the latter), but it is, in fact, a situation that many individuals find themselves in. After years of pentup hostility, fed up with the current scenario, one half of a couple lays down the law. Whether it involves getting her to say "I do" or picking up his dirty socks, most of us have given an ultimatum at one time or another. The big question: Is there a right way to do it?

22 year old Laura, was happy to be with guys she loved but weren‟t “the one.” But by the time she turned 34, she knew she wanted to get married and have a family. Soon after meeting 26year-old Jose, she realized that he also shared those same goals. However, their timing was different. He wanted to wait a little longer. She decided she‟d been flexible enough and couldn't afford to continue waiting. She delivered an ultimatum: "I will not live with you until we are married. I want to have children and I would like you to be their father, but I have to have a commitment from you now." Soon after Jose was offered a transfer to another state and Laura said she wouldn't go with him unless they were married. When faced with this choice, he was able to get clearer on what he wanted, too. After a few conversations, some tears (hers) and some patience, he proposed to her within the month.

In some cases, an ultimatum can have a positive outcome. He proposed without feeling like he‟d been coerced because she delivered her ultimatum in a clear and calm manner. She gave him time to think about it, and they had more conversations – but she was ready to walk away if he decided to reject her ultimatum or ignore it by making no decision and telling her she‟d need to wait „just a little longer.‟ I think the constructive way to deal with situations like commitment, substance abuse, infidelity, obnoxious behaviors, etc. is to honestly explain to your partner why it‟s important to you for him or her to transform this particular behavior. This means being clear about the extent to which you find it harmful or painful, and asking your partner to offer you his or her plan to deal with it.‟ I agree that ultimatums can help resolve certain relationship impasses, but there are some key principles to keep in mind: 1. Don’t try to convince him he’s wrong/bad/misguided/ lazy/ irresponsible by not going along with you. If you do, he‟ll likely react in a defensive and uncooperative manner. Instead of telling him what's wrong with him, focus more on what you need. It's perfectly reasonable to ask for what you want. On the other hand, it‟s also reasonable that the other person doesn't want to give you what you want.

2. Do ask what it will take to meet in the middle. If the issue is commitment, and your partner is reluctant or ambivalent, ask him what he thinks it will take for him to know if he‟s prepared to

commit. Then explain why it‟s important to you and what kind of time-frame you feel comfortable with. Also, explore with him what it is that‟s preventing him from committing and whether he thinks the two of you might benefit from counseling.

3. Don’t give an ultimatum when you’re angry. Pick a time that suits you – not too tired, not too angry, but feeling emotionally strong, worthwhile and articulate. Some people get into a habit of not asking for what they want until they‟re angry. It seems as though strong feelings give us the courage to enter into a very important conversation. However, anger can work against you.

Anger is okay but you need to be centered, focused and in control of your emotions.

4. Don’t dismiss your partner’s reasons. Instead, work with them. Listen to his objections and concerns. Try to find the understandable part of his situation. At the same time, continue to be firm about what you want and be willing to make some adjustments based on what he says.

5. Do be respectful in your words and actions. If you don't get what you‟re looking for, be a grown-up and be gracious. That way, you can look back and feel good about how you handled a very difficult situation.

6. Do be willing to follow through. Too many people give ultimatums only to back down when the partners don't deliver, despite their unhappiness with the situation. If your partner is not willing to change in a significant area, such as substance abuse for example, then you have to be honest with yourself and get out of the relationship – or be willing to live with an addict and not be invested in changing them.

Bottom line: Despite the bad press they sometimes get, when they're handled with maturity and respect, ultimatums can be a very effective problem-solving tool. Who knows if Angelina will ever actually accept Brad's proposal, but Brad, if you're reading this, remember to listen to what Angelina has to say, be respectful – and most important, be willing to walk away. We know more than a few other ladies who‟d be happy to take you up on your offer.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, October 18, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Creating healthy relationships In these difficult times successful, happy marriages are not common. I‟d like to say that I‟m a peaceful partner, impervious to boredom, open to whatever adventure life brings, endlessly romantic and especially talented in communication; able to discuss feelings without the faintest wisp of frustration or embarrassment. Almost sounds like a fairytale doesn‟t it? What I can share is living a life of transparency and expressing your emotions in the moment rather than repressing them for future generations is really helpful to your personal well being on many levels. Just observe children in their behavior. They normally don‟t miss a chance to let you know what they are honestly feeling in every moment. . If they have been allowed to express themselves without repression by the parents, they tend to express easily and move on to the next moment without dwelling on what has already happened. They generally don‟t get “stuck” in one particular emotion as they allow the energy to move through them and flow with whatever is happening in the moment whether it is excitement, disappointment, anger or joy. Unlike us adults, we tend to mostly get lost in our minds and identify with what we think that we SHOULD be doing or saying to protect our „image‟, or act from what society taught us to be „proper behavior‟ rather than simply responding honestly and spontaneously to each moment as it presents itself.

I would like to share with you a few good relationship skills I‟ve learned over the years. They‟re not all easy, but you can start to practice them while you‟re dating and it will surely make the transition to marriage much easier.

Be willing to forfeit: the win-win strategy Disagreements are inevitable — as unavoidable as Mondays or the common cold. They don‟t have to be acrimonious, though. And I‟ve learned that in marriage the choice is often to win or to be happy. Being harsh and critical in an argument is only going to hurt feelings and alienate your partner. That‟s fine if you want to rule the roost, but if you want to love and be loved, you‟ve got to care for your partner‟s feelings, especially when you‟re fighting.

When there‟s a lot of goodwill, it‟s amazing what you can say and still feel good about each other. I see couples become polarized in their disagreements, with neither person willing to yield.

The problem is the idea that there has to be right and wrong in an argument. And there really doesn‟t.

Get to the point, nicely In a relationship many partners can be a little sensitive sometimes, and not in the sweet and caring way. Usually in the don‟t-talk-to-me-about-my-shortcomings way. Lots of couples struggle or avoid at all costs discussing the big issues that can split a marriage in two. Who wants to talk about money management, family relationships and child rearing (to name just a few) while you‟re falling in love? These don‟t come up easily when you‟re sipping tea and eating chocolate fudge sundaes.

People tend to also lack in good communication skills and are not direct enough. Know that indirect communication can be really damaging to a healthy relationship.

It is important that couples find ways to discuss these touchy but important subjects BEFORE they get married instead of hoping that marriage will eventually fix any conflicts. It won‟t. You may find yourself legally and emotionally bound to someone with a wicked online gambling habit, one who reacts to problems by escaping into alcohol or someone who thinks children respond best to pain.

Take money habits, for instance. With the economy the way it is now and the financial crisis looming in the news, it would be an easy subject to bring up on a date. Conscious observation is also a wonderful tool as you can learn a lot by watching your partner. Is she always shopping at Liverpool and really shouldn‟t be? Is he always eating at the most expensive restaurants and charging everything on credit cards? Is your partner interested in honestly paying taxes to the government? You could avoid future problems by simply observing and communicating any concerns now rather than later.

The point is not to criticize your partner and attempt to rein in his or her habits. You simply want to know if his or her decisions are in line with your values. If you‟re honest with yourself about your needs, you‟ll know if conflicts are on the horizon.

It‟s best not to take on the task of teaching a person or being anyone‟s personal therapist. Simply identify what you feel and share it.

Recognize that there is an “I” in marriage My partner and I are a team, talking, sharing and negotiating most decisions together. We‟re individuals, too, though, and we don‟t lose sight of that. We encourage each other‟s goals and ambitions because we don‟t feel threatened by them. Healthy relationships have room for that — his interests, her interests. After all, if you‟re not able to address your own needs, no one else is going to do it for you.

Be a copycat Finding that mix of individuality and teamwork isn‟t necessarily easy, but it‟s essential. We simultaneously let each other be who we are while being influenced by each other. My partner had to learn to argue kindly, for instance, giving up the notion of the win. Fortunately he somehow already knew that when we met as I‟m very peaceful and not at all interested in conflict. When there seems to be a problem; I choose presence, become conscious of all details, communicate harmoniously with all involved and solution happens effortlessly all on its own.

One of the key components of a successful marriage is that the husband allows the wife to influence him. While women in general tend to be influenced by men without much emotional difficulty, men are often resistant. A man who allows a woman‟s ideas and attitudes to impact his own is creating an equal exchange within the marriage.

You should learn to appreciate the difference. Each of you has strengths and weaknesses.

Learning to let the strengths come through, no matter who‟s they are, makes for a better team.

Be positive — it’s not just a blood type One of my greatest strengths is a clear and positive outlook on life. Allowing me to shape the outcome of a situation isn‟t always easy, with his undeniable knowledge that everyone has a hidden motive and most people shouldn‟t be trusted. But slowly, over the course of our relationship, I‟ve been able to understand where his attitude comes from by seeing through his eyes once in a while.

People need to learn early on, that there are always going to be problems and situations that need to be dealt with. There‟s always going to be at least two perceptions of every situation, illusions and stress, somebody gets sick or somebody dies, and that‟s all part of life. Successful couples, learn how to give each other the space needed to respond accordingly to whatever situation presents itself and work as a team moving forward in life side by side. Intelligent mates also know to dwell on the good times and not on the bad. I‟m sending you love and support so that you may also be that conscious partner and create a healthy relationship with your significant other. Blessings

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one‟s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, October 25, 2010 QueQui QuintanaRoo Newspaper

Positive Mind

The Wisdom of Inner Silence This week I want to share with you the the wise words of the Tao: Simply speak when necessary and think about what you will say before opening your mouth. Be brief and precise, as each time that you speak a word, a part of your Chi (energy) is released. In this way you will learn how to develop the art of speaking without losing a lot of energy.

Never makes promises you cannot keep.

Don't complain or use words in your vocabulary which project negative images, as your words create energy which produces chi all around you. If you don't have anything good, truthful and useful to say, it is better to stay silent and say nothing.

Learn to be like a mirror. Listen and reflect the energy. The universe itself is the best example of a mirror that nature has given us, because the universe unconditionally accepts our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our words, our actions and sends us back the reflection of our own energy in the form of different circumstances that are represented in our life.

If you identify yourself with success, you will succeed. If you identify with failure, you will fail.

Thus we see that the circumstances in which we live are simply external manifestations of our internal chatter.

Learn to be like the universe; listening and reflecting energy without intense emotions and prejudice, since being like a mirror without emotions, creates clear communication, from a silent and still mental power, removing the necessity to assert personal opinions and avoiding excessive emotional reactions, simply allowing a sincere and graceful communication.

Do not choose significance, be humble, as the more superior, intelligent and arrogant you become, the more you become a prisoner of your own image and live in a world of tension and illusions.

Be discreet, protecting your personal life, so you free yourself from the opinions of others and lead a quiet life turning you invisible, mysterious and indefinable, as inscrutable as the TAO is.

Do not compete with others, become like the earth that nourishes us, which gives us everything that we need. Help others recognize their good qualities and identify their strengths to excel.

A competitive spirit increases ego's growth and inevitably leads to conflict. Have confidence in yourself, and preserve your inner peace avoiding provocation and entering into other's traps.

Do not compromise easily. If you act abruptly without clarity of the situation, you may create complications. Take a moment of inner silence to consider everything that occurs and make your decision later. This increases wisdom and confidence in yourself.

If there is something that you don't know or you don't have the answer to a question you have been asked, accept it. Not knowing is very uncomfortable for the ego, because it likes to know everything, always be right and always gives its personal opinion. Actually the ego doesn't know anything, as it just pretends that it knows all.

Avoid judging and criticizing, the Tao is impartial and non-judgmental, it does not judge people, has an infinite compassion and does not know duality. Each time you judge someone, all that you do is express your personal opinion which is a waste of energy, pure noise. Judging is a way to hide your own weaknesses. The sage tolerates all and does not say a word.

Remember that everything that bothers you from others is a projection of all that you still have not resolved in yourself.

Let everyone solve their own problems and focus your energy on your own life. Take care of yourself, and do not defend yourself. When you try to defend yourself, you're actually giving too much importance to the words of others and in this way; you give more strength to their aggression. If you agree not to defend yourself, you are showing that the words of others do not affect you as they are just opinions and you do not need to convince others to be happy.

Your inner silence makes you impenetrable. Take a break from words every now and then to retrain the ego, which has the habit of talking all the time. Practice the art of not talking. Take one day a week to refrain from speaking, or at least a few hours a day, as your personal life permits. It is an excellent way to know and experience more of our unlimited universe.

Progressively you will develop the art of speaking without speaking, and your true inner nature will replace your artificial personality, revealing your radiant heart and the power in its wisdom of silence. Thanks to this energy you will attract everything that you need to enlighten and liberate yourself completely. But be careful that the ego does not interfere as this power remains even when the ego becomes peaceful and silent. If your ego imposes and abuses this power, it creates a toxic environment for your whole being which eventually becomes poisoned losing its stillness.

Be silent, and cultivate your inner self. Respect the lives of others and all that exists in the world.

Do not try to coerce, manipulate and control others. Become your own teacher and let others be what they are, or what they are capable of being. In other words, live following the sacred life of TAO.

Human Weaknesses I found an article containing some interesting truths and suggestive definitions that can help us understand reality. "Poor" is the one who fails to change his life, accepting the impositions of others in the society in which he lives in, without being aware that he is the owner of his fate...

"Crazy" is the one who does not find happiness with what he has. "Blind" is the one who does not

see his upcoming death from cold, hunger, or poverty because he only has eyes for his miserable troubles and pains... "Deaf" is the one who does not have time to hear a friend´s problem, or answer a brother´s call as he is always caught at work and does not want to waste his time or money on "useless things"... "Mute" is the one who doesn’t say what he feels and hides behind the mask of hypocrisy... "Paralyzed" is the one who fails to walk in the direction of those who need his help... "Diabetic" is the one who is incapable of being sweet ... "Dwarf" is the one who doesn’t allow love to grow... And finally, the worst of all deficiencies is to be miserable because “Miserable" are those who are unable to connect to the universe or God, the ones who cannot find their inner light... as friendship is a love that never dies.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity.

For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

www.livinginoneness.com

Monday, November 1, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

Positive Mind

Consciously working together through Financial fears & strengthen relationships According to social science studies, couples who are financially-distressed in their relationships today, will stick together tomorrow.

Stick it out, rather than walk out is a distinctly anti-Me Generation response to survival fears and unmet wants — the opposite of the Baby Boomer ideology of self-gratification and selfindulgence.

So if both your savings and your relationship are in crisis, how can you tell if the latter is worth saving? I will gladly assist you with a detailed checklist.

All that is needed is a little consciousness to create a more insightful observation into how successful relationships work, or don't. This information can especially be helpful in deciding whether you should stay, or go.

Here is an example designed to show the difference between a conscious person opposed to one that is emotionally identified with the mind/ego: MIND/EGO: I am here to help you fix the story of what happened to you, bolster your selfesteem, personality (ego), and push you into getting what you want.

CONSCIOUSNESS: Entrenchment in ego is the biggest obstacle to intimacy. I am here to help you become more conscious of your conditioning, and how it is keeping you stuck in repetitive patterns.

MIND/EGO: Have some self-respect, stand your ground, and kick him/her out into the street. .

CONSCIOUSNESS: If the purpose of relationships is to show us where our (inner) work lies, there's actually no blame to spread around. You'd instead say, „I‟m so grateful to you for showing me what exactly my work is.'

MIND/EGO: What are the things that you want/need in the perfect man/woman to be happy?

Let‟s get clear what exactly your (ego's) needs are.

CONSCIOUSNESS: If you rush into a relationship because of attraction and chemistry, it's probably best to run the other way unless you can say: "Oh, here is a chance to do my work, and the other person agrees that they'll do theirs." But if you think of the relationship simply as, 'we're going to satisfy each other,' the unconscious will surely present its "bill".

So what things do I recommend that we ask ourselves to discern whether a relationship is worth working on, or leaving?

I have listed the following five "A's". How many of these five "A's" does your relationship have?

1.

2.

3.

4.

5.

Attention Acceptance Appreciation Affection Allowing

And two more, for good measure: Agreement (since a relationship isn't a high-concept thing; it's essentially the sum of a series of kept agreements) Authentic presence If your relationship has enough A's, I prescribe three basic steps for working out any issue — whether it's about falling stocks, a failing career, or a depressed soul. 

Address the problem. Name it. Articulate an issue in the relationship, without blame: "I am unhappy with how much you drink."

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Articulate how it makes you feel, and relate it to something in your past. Report the feelings that go with the problem (processing). Acknowledge how the feeling is fueled by your past. How do you know if it's connected? If you're experiencing it intensely, and taking it seriously, it's connected.

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Make an agreement with your intimate partner about how to change it or transform it into something more acceptable for both of you.

This is the essence of how to be an adult in a relationship, a loaded term at first glance. But my definition of an adult isn't judgmental. In fact, it's invitingly inclusive:

An adult is simply someone who has expanded his or her consciousness thus increasing their potential for fulfillment.

Tips for a more beautiful experience of life together!

Take a 10 - 30 minute walk together every day and while you walk, smile.

Sit in silence together for at least 10 minutes every day.

When you wake up in the morning complete the following statements: “What I most appreciate about my partner in this moment is……”

"And with clear intention, my purpose with my partner is to…...today" Live with the three E's Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy and the 3 F‟s Faith, Family and Friends.

Spend more time together with people over the age of 70 and under the age of six.

Dream more while you are awake.

Together try to make at least 3 people smile each day.

Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, so pass all your tests. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away. Similar to algebra class, but the lessons that you learn will last a life time.

Smile and laugh more, it will keep the negative energy away.

Life isn't fair but it is still very fulfilling with your partner beside you.

Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

Don't take yourselves so seriously. No one else does.

You don't have to win every argument. Make an agreement to disagree.

Make peace with you past, so it won't mess up the present.

Don't compare your life with others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

Burn the smelly candles, use the nice sheets. Serve normal dinners with the special dishes and flatware. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

Forgive everyone for everything. Especially your partner as in this relationship is where you will most learn about yourself.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock oneâ€&#x;s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following:

Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

Transform stress into harmony and motivation.

Achieve more efficiency and emotional stability.

Clarify your purpose and objectives of your existence.

Reconnect with inner wisdom to live your true purpose in life Expand your field of energy and achieve higher levels of consciousness which accelerates growth to surpass all self imposed limits that create fear and suffering.

Obtain a deeper connection and inspirational bond between all group members.

alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Tuesday, November 9, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Numerology - November 2010 November is the 11th month of the year, and we are in a 3 Universal Year (2+0+1+0=3), thus the universal energy for this month relates to the vibration 5 as follows (11 + 3 = 14, 1 + 4 = 5).

The number '5' is the number that represents change. Often obstacles that may have presented themselves in the previous '4' cycle (October), or that required foundational work first will now fall into place, bringing freedom and personal rewards.

In a five month we feel a loosening of routine and constriction and experience a freedom to travel >adventure and be a free spirit.

Five is also the mirror number, where we can sit on a pivotal point of reflecting backwards (numbers 1, 2, 3 & 4) or reflect into our future cycle (numbers 6, 7, 8 & 9)... and this pivotal point is very much heightened in vibration in an '11' month (November is the 11th month of the year).

If we don’t like what we are faced with when we stand on our 5 pivotal point, then simply just change what you are doing. If you keep on doing the same, you will always get the same. If you want something new then do, think, feel etc something new. It really is as simple as that.

Thus if you do not like what you see/experience in a '5' month then CHANGE IT. See article below on energy of 2010, and how we can work with the Universal '3' year in a five month with JOY.

Lunar Energy - November 2010

New Moon 2.51 pm,

Saturday 6th November Moon and Sun in Scorpio Moon - Intuition, unconscious, emotions, nurturing, feelings Sun - Identity, consciousness, self-esteem, vitality, expression

Scorpio (Water) – Passionate, emotional, strong will, psychic The energy from the New Moon up to the full moon is gradually building in strength and intensity. Thus the New Moon is a great time to set your intentions, write down goals or begin new projects for the forthcoming cycle.

This new moon is a very personal time, a time to go within and view your issues with power. Do you own your own power, do you give your power away to others, do you miss-use your power to control - and in acknowledging the truth we have the power to transform and change.

Last month the Sun entered into Scorpio on the 23 Oct and will be in Scorpio most of this month until the 22 Nov. The Sun in Scorpio (stubborn, passionate, psychic) heralds a time of self-reflection.. owning your intuitive senses/gifts for the greater good of all. When you take ownership of how you 'FEEL'... you are then speaking the language of the Universe, and authoring your life's experiences.

Then when the Sun moves into Sag on the 22nd, all that fire energy will liven up things as we count down the days to Christmas. Sag is about freedom, higher ideals, optimism and having fun... so this is a time to remember that the spiritual journey is meant to be enjoyable... throw a party with friends and have a good laugh :)

Full Moon Monday 22nd November Moon in Taurus & Sun in Scorpio Moon - Intuition, unconscious, emotions, nurturing Sun - Identity, consciousness, self-esteem, creative expression Taurus (Earth) – Patient, pleasure-loving, material, determined Scorpio (Water) – Passionate, emotional, strong will, psychic Full Moon energy is powerful as its resonance reaches a peak - thus is the time to consciously connect with/analyze your previous New Moon goals. From Full Moon to the New Moon the energy is gradually decreasing in strength and intensity... thus is a time to release and let go of any areas in your life that no longer serve your higher purpose.

What a combination of energy....and what a brilliant time to really reflect on how you FEEL about your life.

What are you being stubborn about and holding onto (yes we can all explain away WHY we have to hold onto things, and deny the truth of a situation)... but how does holding onto that energy/circumstance really make you FEEL. AND what would it FEEL like if you let go of it?

What a great full moon energy to own the parts of your causing pain and then transform it into something in alignment with your heart/soul.

Interestingly this full moon falls with the Moon at 29 degrees Taurus and the sun at 29 degrees Scorpio... what a great 11:11 doorway energy to work with this full moon (2+9 : 2+9).

saying: “If I have that dream again, I’m going to try to remember that’s it’s only a dream, and be aware of that.” When you learn to be aware that you are dreaming—within a dream—you not only have the power to steer yourself away from the monster and into the arms of Brad Pitt, for instance, but you train your mind to avoid nightmares in the first place. “Lucid dreaming enhances your ability to learn from the dream state”.

8. You don’t have to be asleep to dream.

Turns out, you can dream at your desk at work, in the car, even at your kid’s soccer game. Wakeful dreaming—not to be confused with daydreaming—is real and somewhat easy to do, it just involves tapping into your active imagination. The first step is to think about a recent dream you had (preferably a good one!). Find a quiet contemplative place and bring a dream that you remember back into your waking awareness and let it unfold. Let the dream re-energize. Wakeful dreaming can be used as a relaxation tool, but it can also help your mind process a puzzling dream. It creates a more fluid interaction between unconscious parts of the mind and wakeful parts of the mind.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

Monday, November 15, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Goodbye Insomnia Can’t sleep? You have plenty of company. About half of all adults experience insomnia on occasion, and 1 in 10 battle insomnia on a regular basis, according to the sleep experts. If you fall into one of those groups, chances are you’re already following the tried-and-true rules for a good night’s sleep: Don’t have too much caffeine (especially late in the day), don’t exercise late at night, keep your bedroom at a cool, comfortable temperature, and make sure your bed, pillows and linens are comfy. Those are all good tips, but there are lesser-known things you can try to help you get more rest.

1. Set a Bedtime Alert Most of us already use an alarm to wake up in the morning, but sleep experts suggest setting it at night as well. I tell people to set their alarm for one hour before bedtime, which reminds them to begin what I call the power-down hour. Think about spending the first 20 minutes of that hour taking care of any necessary chores (like walking the dog or making your kids’ lunches), then spend the next 20 minutes on hygiene (washing up, brushing your teeth, etc.), and save the last 20 minutes before bed for relaxation. You don’t necessarily have to meditate, if that doesn’t appeal to you; you can also do deep breathing exercises, read a book or even watch a little relaxing program on TV. 2. Don’t Clear Your Mind Experts say anxiety and depression top the list of reasons people have trouble sleeping. Part of the problem is that many of us just can’t seem to quiet that internal voice that starts rambling on about the worries of the day. Of course, if you can clear your mind, go ahead and do it. But if that’s impossible, don’t force it—you’ll only end up panicking about the fact that you’re not sleeping. Instead, try slowing down your thoughts. Practice saying anything and everything that comes into your mind to yourself in a slow, monotonous, drowsy tone. It doesn’t matter if you’re thinking about what to buy tomorrow at the grocery store or how a big presentation at work is going to go. If you slow everything down and talk to yourself in an even tone, you’ll find it’s that much harder to keep worrying (or stay awake).

3. Count Numbers—Not Sheep Another great way to quiet those racing thoughts is to count backward from 300 by 3s. Unless you’re a math expert, you probably won’t be able to focus on anything else while you’re doing this, which means you’ll end up distracting yourself from your stressful thoughts.

4. Get Up a Half-Hour Earlier Yes, you read that right! If you’re suffering from chronic insomnia, try getting up, for example, at 6:30 instead of your usual 7 wakeup time—no matter what time you fell asleep the night before. You may be extra-sleepy for a little while, but this is hands-down the most effective way to reset your body clock. It works because it teaches your body that it can’t catch up on sleep in the morning, so eventually you’ll start feeling drowsier earlier in the evening.

5. Consider Seeing a Professional A sleep psychologist is someone who specializes in gathering info about your emotions and your

behaviors specifically as they relate to sleep. Often found at sleep centers, a sleep psychologist can usually help resolve your sleep issues in just four to six sessions.

6. Don’t Worry If You Can’t Sleep Right Away You shouldn’t pass out the second your head hits the pillow. If that happens all the time, it’s a sign that you’re sleep deprived. (Nodding off during boring meetings and long movies are sure signs.) Ideally, it should take 15 to 25 minutes from when you lie down to when you drift off to sleep.

7. Go to Bed When You’re Tired If you’re having ongoing sleep troubles, don’t worry so much about the fact that it’s almost midnight and you have to get up in less than seven hours. Forcing yourself to stay in bed when you’re not sleepy is just going to contribute to more tossing and turning. Instead, get up, do something relaxing, and go back to bed whenever you do feel tired. You might end up exhausted the next day (but that was bound to happen either way under these circumstances), and the following night you should have better luck getting to bed earlier.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

Individual Private Sessions and Seminars Besides giving individuals her undivided attention in private sessions, Alexis provides group courses that can last from one day up to a week, in sessions of three to eleven hours. She uses special techniques along with her limitless gift to guide you into a state of deep peace and inner tranquility. People reconnect with their inner wisdom and begin to make decisions from a higher state of consciousness with increased clarity. For success in this it is necessary to open and unblock one’s energy centers (known as chakras), with an intention of expressing more positive attitudes which creates responsibility and increased leadership in both areas of work and family.

The most common results that you will obtain in a session are the following: -

Attain a deep and tangible state of inner peace and tranquility.

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Heal relationships that determine our day to day attitudes and emotions.

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Increased thoughts of health, abundance, wellbeing, joy and happiness.

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Transform stress into harmony and motivation. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, November 22, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Stop Manipulation Many of us like to think the best of people. We like to think that they are for the most part, honest and good willed in their intentions. We also like to believe that they will ask for what they want and not resort to crazy tactics to fulfill their needs. Unfortunately, however, there are times when we come across those who will do whatever it takes to get what they want...including manipulation. Being manipulated never feels good, but the worst part of manipulation is that often, we don‟t even realize that it is happening. Here are a few ways to know if someone is trying to manipulate you: 1.

Buttering You Up: To get their way, manipulators will often make you feel good so that they can then ask you to do something that they want. The person may first compliment you or tell you what a wonderful job you did on something. Making you feel good, will in their mind, make it difficult for you to say no…after all, you wouldn‟t want to disappoint them or give them reason to think you didn‟t deserve the compliment in the first place.

What you can do: Return the compliments and the niceties before saying no.

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Guilt: This doesn‟t only pertain to Catholics and Jewish Mothers; guilt trips have been a successful manipulation tactic for centuries. The saddest part of this strategy is that the victims of this tactic succumb to the manipulators‟ demands because they feel they HAVE to, not because they WANT to. In personal relationships, this sets up a co-dependency that is extremely unhealthy.

What you can do: Ask the individual if they want you to do something because you have to or because you want to. If they say they want you to want to do it, tell them that you don‟t and that they are trying to force you into something you don‟t feel comfortable with.

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Broken Record: Probably the most obvious of formats is the broken record tactic. If a person asks you enough or pushes their agenda enough…constantly repeating the question or request over and over again…in slightly different ways, the victim will inevitably give in and give them what they want. Oye! What you can do: Ask the individual what they don‟t understand about the word “no.” Tell them that asking you over and over again isn‟t going to change anything and that they are inappropriately overstepping boundaries.

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Selective Memory: This one really frustrates me the most. You swear you have a conversation about a plan and everyone is on the same page, and then one day, the manipulator pretends to remember the conversation completely differently, if at all.

What you can do: Record your conversations…seriously! Okay, maybe not. At least have a witness that you can count on to back you up if the person pulls this trick. Call them on the fact that they conveniently change the game to fit their needs.

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Bullying: If a person doesn‟t get their way, they make you out to look or feel like the bad guy…like you are the wrong one.

What you can do: Be firm and tell them that their bullying tactics are inappropriate and unacceptable.

Keep your eyes open for these behaviors and continue to stand your ground to ensure that you aren‟t a victim of manipulation. Face the flatterers and slanderers, those who behave aggressively and toxic in your life. They know that you react from a lack of clarity, but you can avoid being reactive and maintain yourself aware of your daily performance. Discover them so that you can protect yourself. I have only proposed a few examples, but you can certainly find more...Have you seen any other types of manipulative behavior?

The Paradoxical Commandments 1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Do good anyway.

3. If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

4. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

6. The biggest men and women with the grandest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

7. People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.

9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

10. Give the world the best you have and you may get nothing in return. Give the world the best you have anyway.

So, how to fight it? Ready to make the change? Let's fight the battle, warrior friends. Think big thoughts: I feel that everything fills me with power...my life is a great reflection of divine wisdom...I touch the soul of all the people I know... I am brave, fearless... I am full of great ideas...I love deeply...I can do anything..I believe in God's power...I am the Master of my mind!!! Dale Carnegie.

What exactly does Alexis do?

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality „as it is‟ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with „all that is‟.

Monday, November 29, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Break Out of the Fear Trap

Our inner voice can lead the way to abundance – if only we’d give it the chance.

I believe that one of the five filters to abundance is our inability to commit to ourselves. I see this over and over in my work with people. We are afraid to trust ourselves. Our ability to hear and listen to our inner wisdom is weak.

We get a great idea, and go after it. But we have no experience listening to our inner voice. It’s an unused muscle that has no power or strength without our attention. At the first sign of challenge, we immediately go into fear and give up on our projects, our dreams and our heart’s desire.

What’s the answer to ending this negative reaction which leads us nowhere and creates obstacles for success? The answer is to practice conscious thinking with intention. When a limiting thought, feeling or vibration comes into your space, first notice it and then investigate; challenging it with your presence, everything you are, and for everything you want to be. Embrace it as an opportunity to evolve beyond it permanently. This is how you bring an end to negative and punishing legacies in your life.

We live in a time when we have to fight for our right to be awake. The external is stimulating us from every direction, and distracting us from our inner voice. We become crisis responders in our own lives, rather than navigators of our own ship.

The art of listening Listening is not only about the other, it’s also about listening to oneself. In conversations, in relationship with another, the most important thing is to listen to what is happening within you. Be conscious of your thoughts and emotions, and then you will be listening. Be able to see if there is a pleasing, uncomfortable or painful emotion coming from within

you, and watch it. When you chat with someone and you feel awkward, when it’s uncomfortable, there is definitely something that you need to see.

In that moment, the words don’t matter, what’s really important is what is happening within you when you hear those words? What memories do the words activate? What emotions do they create? Be conscious of what they cause within you, in that moment and immediately you will experience a feeling of peace, of stillness. You will respond without reacting. From that state you will begin to relate with the other. From an awareness of what is happening inside of you. Love will flow automatically. And the other will feel it. As you learn the art of listening, you will be able to heal your wounds and begin to truly relate.

Try steering your own ship Last week, a participant told me that she had been practicing the law of attraction, but “it’s” not working. Right then I knew she was not practicing the law of attraction. In the law of attraction we recognize that all creations originate from within. Source is always saying "yes" to us. It is our job to learn why we are having the experiences we are. We must then choose to think, feel and respond differently to those experiences.

If we are victims of circumstance we have no power. We cannot create. We can only respond.

In order to become a true Samurai

Please allow me to present my readers with a letter from the Philosopher Yamamoto Tsunetomo to a pupil and I hope you too will enjoy the experience and wisdom that these words hold.

“The faults of a superior person are just like the sun and the moon. They have their faults, and everyone sees them; they change and everyone looks up to them.” The great Confucius said this, my friend, and I am telling you now because I believe that you will master the art of bushido. You see, in order to become a true Samurai, you must be mindful of your actions. Everyone has flaws and one of the greatest things that distinguishes a man from another are his habits. Aside from bad habits, all men are the same. We all have moral qualities, wisdom, compassion, and courage. However, because we are creatures of habit, we tend to drown ourselves with fears that do not exist and ignorance that plagues our very meaning.

It is because of this that I want you to discipline yourself. Do not be ignorant to the world for it is not perfect. You must always be aware of what is going on around you. I do not mean just in your surroundings either. To be aware you must know what is going on in current affairs along with what has gone on the past. History is the best way to understand your enemy and better prepare for the future.

Whether or not you partake in the art of war, understanding and expecting it is the only way of the Samurai. Men are unpredictable and war is inevitable.

Do not be afraid my scholar, for this life is not one you should become attached to. I know there is a tremendous challenge in avoiding a lavish lifestyle. Material things rule men and they become attached to them, for many, it is material things that define the man. But your beautiful home can burn and your horses can be stolen. If you cling to these things, you are setting yourself up for disappointment and a false sense of emptiness. There is nothing worth losing except for your life in battle. Defending your countryman and your family to ensure a more promising future is all that this life is worth living.

Please do not get my words twisted, for I expect you to remain respectful to those around you and show loyalty by remaining truthful and wise. Always keep your word, my loyal apprentice, for the Samurai’s word is his bond, and if there is anyone that can be trusted, it will be you. It would be a waste or your life to only looking forward to ending it in battle.

Monday, December 6, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Global Consciousness The human family is in the midst of the most significant transformation of consciousness since its emergence in Africa over one hundred thousand years ago. Consciousness has been evolving for billions of years from the first cell to us. We are becoming aware that through our own consciousness the universe can know itself. This awareness reveals incredible new potential for our individual and collective humanity.

Simultaneously, we are the first species on this Earth aware that we can destroy ourselves by our own action. This may be the greatest wake-up call to the evolution of consciousness since the origin of Homo sapiens.

We now realize that we are affecting our own evolution by everything we do. This knowledge awakens in us the aspiration to become more conscious through subjective practices including meditation, reflection, prayer, intuition, creativity, and conscious choice making that accelerate our evolution in the direction of unity consciousness and inspire us to deeply align our collective vision.

THE CHALLENGE At this juncture in human history, urgent global crises challenge us to learn to live sustainably, in harmony and gratitude with one another and with the living universe. The changes required of humanity are broad, deep, and far reaching. Only by acting swiftly and creatively can we birth a planetary culture that will bring well-being to every form of life in the Earth community.

The good news is that a compelling new story of our potential as a whole human species is emerging-a story of collaboration, citizen action, dialogue and new understandings propelled by unprecedented levels of democratic freedom, multicultural exchange, and access to communication technologies. It is nothing less than the story of our collective evolution.

OPPORTUNITIES FOR ACTION We recognize that the inner and outer aspects of life evolve together. A dramatic awakening in consciousness will involve an equally dramatic shift in outward aspects of our lives. In particular, we see the following as vital opportunities for our conscious evolution, both personally and collectively.

Cultivating a Paradigm of Aliveness: We regard the universe as deeply alive and conscious by nature. In a living universe, our sense of subtle connection and participation with life around us is the basis for a compassionate and cooperative approach to living.

Educating for an Evolving Consciousness:

Awakening consciousness is the foundation for all the change we seek to see in the world. We can work to elevate our capacity for conscious reflection and creative action in our personal lives as well as our collective lives as communities. We must support research and educational strategies that optimize human capacities and explore the nature of consciousness.

Restoring Ecological Balance: The balance of planetary ecosystems is fundamental to our survival. We must reverse the pollution of our global commons-the water, air and soil that nourish all life. We must encourage the proliferation of clean, renewable energy sources and expend all necessary resources toward mitigating the effects of climate change.

Encouraging Conscious Media: We must find innovative ways to use the new electronic media as the mirror of our positive evolutionary story, investing in their capacity to reach across differences of generation, culture, religion, wealth, and gender to build a working consensus about our collective future.

Engaging in Social and Political Transformation: More sustainable ways of living will require the support of a more conscious democracy and vibrant civil society from which more enlightened leaders will emerge. All individuals should be encouraged to use their gifts to create participatory, responsible and compassionate models of governance.

Working for Integrity in Commerce: Conscious businesses that are aware of the scope, depth, and long-range impacts of their actions are key to achieving sustainability. Business must become an ethical steward of the Earth's ecology and consciously establish an economic basis for a future of equitably shared abundance.

Promoting Health and Healing: The science of mind-body-spirit health has demonstrated the profound connection between the health of a whole person and the health of the system in which one lives. Whole systems healing, respecting both traditional knowledge and modern sciences, must be supported in physical, social, and spiritual domains.

Building Global Community: The new story is about all of us who share this planet. Together, we can create a culture of peace that eliminates the need for armed conflict, respecting and appreciating the glorious diversity of our human family.

YOUR PARTICIPATION IS VITAL These are just a few possibilities for the evolution of consciousness at this crucial moment in time. Please reflect on them, feel what resonates in your being and calls forth a response on your part. I invite you to discuss them with others, continuing this global conversation by adding to it the wisdom that is uniquely your own..

Together, let us co-create a new narrative of conscious evolution that is a call to individual and collective action, birthing the most significant transformation of consciousness in history. It is our responsibility to create Conscious Evolution together hand in hand in Oneness.

Monday, December 13, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Live the moment: Free yourself from pain Need a recipe to heal from addiction and past pain? First, make a decision to forgive yourself and others that have caused you pain from your perceptions of past situations. Then accept the responsibility for your pain by giving yourself permission to go deeply into each feeling of discomfort that is still lingering inside, until you reach its root. When you consciously choose to address these issues that are keeping you from experiencing inner peace by creating the time and space to do this, the blocked energy will transform and release creating an opening of the heart for more love and joy to flower. This will also heal your relationships as you will cease projecting your pain onto others.

Trauma and addiction teach us defensiveness, despair, distraction, fear, neediness and offensiveness. Rather than paying attention to our current circumstances, we’re running away from or chasing after something to relieve pain.

We aren't noticing who we are in the moment, instead we are repeatedly seeking ways artificially to alter, numb or heighten who we see ourselves to be. Abstaining from active addiction and living without trauma does not stop the mental, emotional and physical habit patterns from the past. We continue to carry fear and false beliefs and their corresponding defense mechanisms and character defects into our current circumstances and future probabilities.

In our struggles with problems and quests for answers, our energy is often scattered. Our minds can get very busy with possibilities, scenarios, fears and desires. Many times our minds multiply problems rather than solve them, or create solutions that are worse than the original problem.

This fragmented fear based focus is non-productive and indicates a lack of healing.

How the past affects our present Past physical violations and abuse commonly lead to psychological disconnection or disassociation with our bodies. Symptoms of these defenses include: treating the body as an object to be used; neglecting the body altogether; re-enacting abuse; fear, shame and hatred of the body; and developing unhealthy measures to protect and obtain control over the body. This last symptom is seen in the various eating disorders.

Mental and emotional trauma typically results in denial and repression of painful thoughts, feelings and memories. This leads to chronic feelings of confusion, anxiety, depression, fear and anger, as well as emotional constriction, intellectualization and rigid thinking. Once again, we are unable to be fully present to ourselves or others, as all of our present moments are marred by past trauma and fears of the future.

Understandably we don’t wish to feel pain, powerlessness and emptiness. Yet, when we are living in safe and sober conditions, continued resistance to these emotions increases our problems and stress. Paying attention to each present moment as it appears and disappears, and becoming more aware of the observer part of ourselves that doesn't think or act and is not attached to human willfulness, brings a spiritual perspective to learning and maturing.

Meeting your past. . .head on Furthermore, facing and processing emotions from the past, with healthy recovery support, and with the goal of insight and healing, brings us positive energy. This is how we learn to be fully present to who we are without conditions and constraints.

Trauma symptoms additionally interfere with what we have to give to others. We are afraid to be fully present to anything that reminds us of what we have not healed. Yet we unconsciously attract these very experiences, because we hold their energies within us, and because we are endlessly given opportunities to heal.

Until we consciously decide to heal, we respond to others defensively and offensively when some part of them or what they do, say or feel, reminds us of our pain. Therefore, what we have to give to others is an incomplete and distorted version of who we truly are. And how we perceive them is incomplete and distorted as well.

What is "unhealed" in you?

The greatest gifts come from compassionate self-reflection and understanding. When we summon the courage to face the unhealed aspects of ourselves, our work can ultimately transform them into healthy and helpful character traits.

This positive energy increases our conscious awareness and receptiveness to divine direction and assistance. Allowing ourselves to be fully present to who we are as God created us, and allowing each moment to arrive and depart without resistance or attachment, aligns us with God’s will for us. Now we can also give others our full presence, and thus notice all that they are from a human and spiritual perspective.

When we have conflict, we often perceive ourselves to be struggling with external forces. Our blaming of others serves to reinforce negative energies inside of us. If we are more psychologically evolved and conscious, we see the struggles as being between aspects of ourselves. However, internal strife without loving insight also reinforces negative energies.

If we are spiritually evolved, we understand that every conflict is an opportunity to learn something new and thereby expand our understanding and active demonstration of spiritual principles. This enables us to see our fuller presence as both a human and spiritual being.

When we cease resisting the lessons and stop disconnecting from ourselves, and when we exchange negative energies for compassionate inquiry and commitment to personal growth, we begin to realize the magnitude of the flow of divine blessings. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, December 20, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

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Maintain a Happy Relationship In my work around the world with couples, I have found that many people decide quickly to just exit out of a relationship without even trying. But here's a theory - how about learning to keep things happy before problems arise, learning small everyday things that can keep little stresses away? Isn't that a great idea? I thought so, which is why I created this list of items that have helped me personally. I'm not saying that I have a fairytale relationship but after many years I have learned that the small yet simple gestures seem to work the best.

1. Communicate-not just about your feelings- but about your day. Share stories with one another about what is going on at work or in a friend's life; share what you saw on the news or in a magazine with your significant other if you found it interesting. Discussing regular day to day occurrences is just as important as staying in tune with each others' feelings. It keeps you in tune with your spouse on a daily basis.

2. Take showers together- it doesn't have to be sexual! My partner and I have done this from the beginning of our relationship, did it start out sexual? Probably. But over time it became an intimate thing, just extra time that we can spend together catching up on the day- it just happens that we are naked and in the shower!

3. Go to the park and swing, slide or just play-it's a young and fun thing to do. It keeps you playful and is a great way to relieve stress. Real life can get so with overwhelming with work, kids, bills, laundry, chores- sometimes a play break is what's needed to alleviate all of that, even if it's only for half an hour.

4. Take walks-morning walks are a great way to start your day, not a morning person? Take an evening walk. Getting fresh air and exercise together is good for your health and the health of your relationship. Walking relieves stress, keeps you fit and allows quality time to be spent together.

5. Date nights-put everything on hold for an hour or two and plan on just doing something alone with your spouse. It can be dinner, a walk, the mall, whatever, just make the time for just the two of you with no one else around, catch up on your day or week or just joke around and have fun.

But making time for just the two of you is important.

6. Play video games or wrestle-a healthy dose of competition is always good and it can be an entertaining way to not only have fun but a great stress buster as well. Just don't take it too seriously and be a sore loser because that would defeat the whole purpose.

7. Have sex-even if you don't want to, you need to keep the sexual chemistry between you and your significant other alive. Being intimate and showing your love for one another is a significant part of your union.

8. Hold hands- it may seem insignificant; however, this small but intimate gesture shows that you care about each other even when you are doing something simple like walking from the car to the grocery store.

9. Give praise-telling your significant other that they are great at something can be a huge ego boost. It shows that you care and that you pay attention and like the way he/she does something.

It's always nice to know that your spouse appreciates the things you do and the way you do them.

10. Be thankful-a simple thank you for taking the trash out, taking the kids to school, fixing that faucet or simply being a great spouse goes a long way. Letting someone know that you are thankful for what they do means a lot.

11. Have time apart-couples don't need to spend 24/7 together. Spending time away with the girls or the guys makes you appreciate one another. Have your own lives apart from one another.

Schedule dinners or mini vacations to keep up with friends.

12. Don't always nag-if you start nagging too much you will create resentment. Reminding someone of something a few times is one thing but becoming obnoxious about it will produce hostility and that's not the outcome that you are looking for. Take a different approach, ask nicely, explain what you need done and by when. The nicer you are the better.

13. Share advice-you never know when great, unexpected advice can come about. My partner and I work in two totally different professions yet we manage to swap advice on work all the time. The advice does not have to be work related, it can be about the kids, the chores, money management, it doesn't matter, be open to sharing different ideas.

14. Pick and choose your battles-Over the years I have learned that life is short and arguments are lame. Now I only get mad at things that I feel are truly important. I've learned to pick and choose my battles. Everyone will have that one battle that they choose to fight, just choose it carefully. Just think "is this really worth getting mad about? Will I still be mad about it this tomorrow morning? Will I even remember this next week?" Most of the time the answer is no.

I've learned that this approach makes for a healthier and happier relationship and definitely causes less stress. alexislivinginoneness@yahoo.com

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Monday, December 27, 2010 QueQui Quintana Roo Newspaper

Positive Mind

A Stroke of Enlightenment Part 1 of a 4 part series American neurobiologist Jill Bolte Taylor became one of the most influential individuals in the United States when her book, My Stroke of Insight, was published. In her book, she shares her profound personal experience of surviving a life threatening stroke. She became a more conscious person with a deep desire to enjoy every moment of her existence. This led her to live life more intensely and with compassion, taking her from a path of personal tragedy into enlightenment.

The intention of this article is not to offer medical recommendations on how to avoid a stroke although it does not hurt to keep our blood pressure under control, check our cholesterol level, limit alcohol consumption, avoid cigarette smoke and remain physically active.

Bolte Taylor’s legacy goes way beyond that, and offers a golden opportunity to learn, from a brain specialist, how one can both suffer and recover from a stroke. Most interesting is how she explains the different brain’s processes; the way in which the two hemispheres of the brain function very differently and our vast, yet repressed, human potential.

The two hemispheres of the brain are like ying and yang, protons and electrons, positive and negative, black and white, good and bad, God and the devil. This information is ground breaking due to its scientific perspective because the subject matter had already been addressed, with remarkable clarity, in the literature over 100 years, for example in Robert Louis Stevenson’s Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

In Eastern meditation, the basis for all beginners commences with the ability to witness your own mind, your ego. The goal is to simply become an ‘observer’ thus disidentifying from the ego as a fundamental process in order to achieve a deeper connection with your higher self, the Universe or, if you prefer, with God. The ego-mind is a combination of all the ideas that we have accumulated and everything that we have learned since our childhood. They are a mask which we need to remove in order for the essence of our being to be freed. You are not just a social security number, I.D. number or a person with a passport in your hand with a name and citizenship attached.

Most human beings on this planet are dominated by the ego-mind and do not even realize the depth of their spirit. We categorize everything; putting all in its appropriate box, separating you from me to justify our aggression, and we critique, judge, and always live either in the past or the future and complain about our dissatisfaction. In this way, we

will never be able to fulfill the vast emptiness of our existence. In general, this is the way in which the left hemisphere of the brain works; it is the ego’s most fundamental ally.

In the Judeo-Christian tradition, its counterpart is the heart. This is where feelings reside.

Extensive research has revealed that the immune system’s thymus gland, (located between the sternum and the heart), is where our most intense emotions and feelings are generated. Others speak of the pineal gland, or the the third eye, as the vessel that captures the electromagnetic waves which turn thoughts into feelings. However, in Jill Bolte’s experience, those feelings are connected with the right hemisphere of her brain.

The logic of the right side of the brain is very different, it moves from the whole of all that is, to this moment, it lives and enjoys only the present, as limits do not exist and experiences oneness with everything, with the cosmos, as it is one with life itself. Art students are familiar with how to activate this part of the brain as their teachers have them draw a crumpled piece of paper, without form; in an effort to exhaust the part of the brain that wants everything quickly and thus is unable to digest or classify lines from its schematic reasoning which doesn’t make sense. As a result of this effort, the still part, which has no sense of time and really enjoys the canvas, gets activated and the great masters are then able to create their masterpieces.

Cuadro Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is an American neuroanatomist specialized in the postmortem investigation of the brain. She is also the national spokesperson for the Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center. Dr. Bolte suffered a stroke in the left hemisphere of her brain in December of 1996. It took her 8 years to recover from this experience. In February of 2008, she offered the following conference at a Ted Talks seminar for specialists, sharing her experience and the discoveries that resulted from it. Also in 2008, Time Magazine named her one of the 100 Most Influential People in the World.

What exactly does Alexis do?

Alexis is a transmitter of energy called Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you; taking you towards Oneness, creating healing in your body, your relationships, and recognizing the divinity in the experience of the present moment….

She motivates and inspires people globally with her gift and capacity of sharing limitlessness; transforming lives with Oneness Experience which initiates a process of awakening the Divine Presence within you. You begin to see and accept reality ‘as it is’ in each moment without the constant mind interference and imposition with its layers of interpretation. This Divine energy heals the body and guides you into appreciating the present moment which ultimately frees you from conflict & suffering in relationships; taking you into higher states of joy, happiness, inner peace and finally Oneness with ‘all that is’.

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