The Wedding Issue
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Editor’s Note
Coincidence
Elvis Osifo
Editor-in-Chief, Lost in Lagos Plus Magazine IG: @edo.wtf
EDITOR’S NOTE
Locked In!
I don’t come off as a romantic. In fact, my team calls me a ‘love grinch’ because I always approach conversations about love with logic, and I have strong opinions on marriage as a duty. But I do know a thing or two about love.
Love is the most universal yet deeply personal experience of all. You and I have felt it several times. You, in whispered promises and shared laughter. Me, when a recent talking stage called me “a hidden gem,” us, in this very moment, as I write softly to you, and you fall in love more with the Lost in Lagos Plus Magazine. A writer and his reader form a bond. Two becoming one!
This year, The Wedding Issue invites you to explore various bold ways in which two become one. Discover love that defies expectations, rewrites the rules, and dares to be different. Read about couples who created weddings on their terms, those who found ‘the one,’ and those whose expectations did not align with reality.
Inside, celebrity Gele stylist Taiwo Adebiyi shares his top 5 Gele styles for 2025 brides, and Anthony Ihaza sets the mood with a 25-song Old Skool Wedding playlist for
you and yours. Thomas Odey asks the hard question: Why are so many young Christians rushing to the altar? Esther Sopkor delivers a fiery takedown of the “Pick Me” mentality, while Enemona Udile reminds us all: “Na Caterer you be, no be God.” And Oyindamola Boboye tackles the age-old tussle between couples and their African parents.
Don’t forget to check out our top 10 Wedding Destinations in Nigeria, and if you ever find yourself Lost in Nigeria, our event guide will point you to the hottest happenings across the country.
There’s a lot to unpack in this issue. Whether you are a romantic at heart, a curious reader, or someone preparing for your own journey down the aisle, this issue promises to delight.
So, let’s flip the pages together…
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LOST IN LAGOS 9.3 February 2025 Title: The Wedding Issue FOUNDER Tannaz Bahnam PUBLISHED BY Knock Knock Lifestyle Solutions Ltd PRINTER Tee Digital Press EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Elvis Osifo EDITOR Pelumi Oyesanya DESIGN Ernest Igbes CONTRIBUTORS Elvis Osifo, Pelumi Oyesanya, Ernest Igbes, Vida Ojo, Mona Zutshi Opubor, Enemona Udile, Olayeni & Mobolaji Adenuga, Oladapo & Omobolanle Bolarinwa, Adedotun & Temitope Adeniran, Chef Eros, Taiwo Adebiyi, Anthony Ihaza, Thomas Odey, Esther Sopkor, Oyindamola Boboye FRONT COVER CREDITS: Photographer: @wildonecreatives. Designer: ohlanna.bu.zikora. Stylist: @iamisaacjon. Makeup Artist: @esebeaut. Hairstylist: @braid_sbyvera.
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A bit about the Products of the Month
Every month, three products are selected from businesses in Nigeria and shared with you to appeal to your senses. They range from cool, functional items that become indispensable to intimate items that make thoughtful gifts to artefacts you can splurge on and everything in between. This month, I made three picks that perfectly complement a charming groom or beautiful bride on their big day!
Pure Animal Skin Grooms Fan by Onyix Craft
Odogwu Baller
Crafted from authentic animal skin, this traditional grooms fan embodies elegance and heritage. A symbol of prestige and celebration, it is designed to complement ceremonial attire, adding a touch of sophistication to any Odogwu Baller who wears it on his big day. Fit for kings, it is durable and stylish, as it blends cultural significance with timeless craftsmanship.
Bouquet Bridal hoop by Hadassah Bridals A Bride’s Bestfriend
A radiant fusion of culture and elegance, this Colorful Bridal Hoop is a stunning accessory that adds charm to any bridal look. Designed with vibrant hues, it can be seen to symbolise themes like joy, love, and celebration with colours, making it a perfect statement piece for the modern bride. Whether used as a decorative prop or carried as part of the ceremony, this hoop embodies tradition with a contemporary flair, adding a unique touch to the wedding experience.
Silver Earrings
by Belleza
Accessories
Silver Tone Earrings
Made with a radiant silver finish, the Silver Tone Earrings from Belleza Accessories exude grace and charm, perfectly complementing both classic and modern bridal styles. Adorned with delicate crystals and intricate detailing, they capture a dainty sense of romance, making them a stunning accessory for a bride’s special day.
I’m a 20-something-year-old living in Nigeria, so you know I’m constantly tired. I spend way too much time obsessing over self-care, food, tech, and anything else that makes my life easier, making me your perfect plug for anything! Like most people, I find randomly shopping online at odd hours therapeutic, so much so that if you look into your mirror and say “retail therapy” three times, I will appear.
A BIT ABOUT ME:
Featured Columnist
Mona Zutshi Opubor
LOVE OR COINCIDENCE love
Iteach young adults English literature at a school in Lagos. I have a co-worker who also teaches this age group. Because we cover identical material to a small group of students, we often combine our classes. I love working alongside my teaching buddy. He is calm, funny and cerebral. After teaching our joint class, we meet to discuss what went well, what needs work, and what we will do moving forward.
Last week, we began a book that hinges on coincidence, Chronicle of a Death Foretold by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Before diving into a new text, we introduce concepts relevant for understanding. My co-teacher told a personal story about losing his wallet in a taxi in China, and the happenstance that led to its recovery soon after the cab sped away with it. Then he asked if I had a coincidence to share.
I told our students this story: I met my husband when I was a teenager. I was young, and I had never had a boyfriend. We fell madly in love. We were broke university students, so we did things to pass the time that didn’t cost money. We enjoyed taking walks around the Upper West Side of Manhattan and talking about life. We liked to look at the beautiful houses on Riverside Drive and dream of owning a home someday, filled with beautiful children.
One evening, we were midway down the block when my boyfriend froze. He walked back the way we had come and stared at a paper on the ground. He bent to pick it up and flipped it over. It was a label from a child’s birthday party, which said, “My name is [blank]. I am a guest at [blank]’s party.” Someone had scrawled my name and my boyfriend’s name on the label. We stared at the
nametag, unable to say a word. Somewhere, in some corner of Manhattan, were two children who shared our names. But what compelled my boyfriend to stop and flip over this piece of trash?
I told my students that it felt like the universe had sent us a sign, that we were having an epic love story, and that we were fated to be together. Or maybe it was just a coincidence, and there were a thousand other odd things that happened that day that were long forgotten. My co-teacher wrote “patterns” on the board, and we discussed the human tendency to make meaning out of random occurrences. The class continued from there, and it was great to hear the students’ views. They love to puzzle out ideas, which is why teaching them is a pleasure.
Class ended, and we went to the cafeteria to grab lunch. When the psychology teacher sat with us, my co-teacher said, “Mona told the most romantic story in class today about her husband. Can you tell it again?” I blinked, surprised he found my tale worth retelling, but I did.
A benefit of having a trusted colleague is it helps shine a light on things that seem mundane. Life passes, and love evolves. That dreadlocked boy on a New York sidewalk, awed by the majesty of a universe broadcasting directly at us, is sitting across the dining table from me right now, making calculations on a spreadsheet. It is easy to forget the monumental moments that made him into the man who delivered on all the things he promised. We have a home, children and love, just like we dreamed of. And those two lovesick teenagers were right: it is magnificent.
Mona Zutshi Opubor is an IndianAmerican and Nigerian writer. She holds an MSt in Literature and Arts from the University of Oxford, an MA in Creative Writing from Boston University and a BA in English Literature from Columbia University.
Read more at www.monazutshiopubor. com
By Lost in Lagos Plus Magazine
SPOT OF THE MONTH
SkinCure
Located in the heart of Victoria Island, at 310B Akin Ogunlewe Street, the story of SkinCure begins with a founder who saw a glaring gap in Lagos’ wellness scene. In a market where many skincare and wellness centres take a one-size-fits-all approach, SkinCure was created to challenge this norm; blending global expertise with a commitment to individualised care.
Drawing from global expertise, SkinCure was created as a space where tradition meets innovation. Every detail, from the treatments to the client experience, is designed with precision and care, offering a medispa experience rooted in quality, expertise, and personalization. At its core, the medispa is for those who value results-driven care and a bespoke approach to skin and wellness. It’s for individuals ready to invest in long-term confidence and well-being.
When clients step into SkinCure, they are greeted with an ambience that whispers calm and reassurance. Every detail, from the soothing music to the attentive service, is designed to make them feel valued and cared for. The muted tones, soft lighting, and earthy textures create an atmosphere of calm, inviting you to leave the chaos of Lagos at the door. The space spans two floors, each thoughtfully designed to enhance your journey. The ground floor, with its plush sofas and gentle melodies, serves as a serene waiting area, while the subtly lit pathway to the private VIP room hints at the exclusivity that awaits. Whether you’re here for a quick treatment or a full day of indulgence, SkinCure sets the tone for a transformative experience.
The treatments are as meticulously curated as the space itself. From advanced chemical peels that refine and brighten the skin to anti-ageing solutions like Exosome Therapy and Polynucleotides, every service is designed to deliver visible, lasting results. The medispa also offers Wellness IV Infusions to restore balance, Energy Boost Drips to re-energise the body, and Aromatherapy Massages to melt away tension. For those seeking deep detoxification, the Sauna Treatments provide a blissful escape, while the VIP Room offers a private retreat for an immersive, personalised experience. Each treatment is proof of SkinCure’s
unwavering commitment to blending cutting-edge science with the indulgence of luxury skincare.
What truly sets SkinCure apart is its team of highly trained specialists. These experts are skilled in their fields and deeply passionate about delivering personalised care. Every client’s journey begins with a detailed skin analysis, ensuring treatments are tailored to their unique needs. This level of attention to detail extends to the products used, with SkinCure partnering with globally renowned brands like VI Derm Products, DermYoung Skincare Line, and premium Korean skincare lines. It’s this dedication to excellence that makes SkinCure a benchmark for skincare and wellness in Lagos.
For first-time clients, the journey often begins with a Deep Cleansing Facial, designed to remove impurities and restore balance, a Skin Enhancement IV Drip to revitalise from within, or an Aromatherapy Massage to ease tension and promote relaxation. These treatments not only deliver immediate, visible results but also introduce clients to SkinCure’s holistic approach - where self care is not just an indulgence, but an essential pillar of well being. And when clients leave, they carry more than just glowing skin—they leave with a renewed sense of confidence and a commitment to prioritising their well-being.
SkinCure is more than a medispa; it’s a movement. It challenges societal stigmas around beauty and anti-ageing treatments, allowing clients to embrace their choices without a doubt. It’s a place where science and luxury converge, where every treatment is a step toward feeling refreshed, restored, and radiant. In a city that never stops, SkinCure is the pause you need—a sanctuary where skincare becomes self-care, and self-care becomes a way of life.
SkinCure 310B, Akin Ogunlewe Road, Victoria Island t: 091600005331 IG: @skincurehq tiktok: @skincuremedispa website: yourskincure.com
…On Weddings, Memories, and Traditions
Meet Yeni and Mo Adenuga, the ultimate creative power couple! Yeni (Olayeni) is the man behind the lens—a Videographer, Photographer, and Motion Designer with 8 years of turning everyday moments into cinematic magic. Whether he’s working on a project or capturing street photos for fun, Yeni’s passion for visual storytelling is undeniable. Mo (Mobolaji), on the other hand, is the strategic powerhouse—a Product Marketing Manager who thrives on crafting go-tomarket strategies and messaging that make products shine. But don’t let her corporate savvy fool you; Mo is also a content creator at heart, co-managing their personal and couple pages with charm and creativity. Together, they’re a perfect blend of artistry and strategy, proving that love and collaboration can create something extraordinary.
What does “love” and “marriage” mean to each of you?
Yeni: For me, in simple terms love is sacrifice, I am a Christian so I define love in God’s way which is sacrifice. Love is “loving” someone regardless of their faults, shortcomings etc. Marriage reflects love, the same way Christ loves the church. I’m sounding deep now but my wife may tell you she’s not as deep with her response but I assure you she is.
Mo: I’m still at the phase where I shy away from any deep marriage questions because I’ve been calling our 3 months together “marriage internship”, which means that we’re still learning and having fun while at it. But to answer the question, love is accepting each other the way we are while also rooting for each other’s growth in places we fall short. Marriage (at least for me) means having fun while doing life with my best friend. I warned you…I don’t have deep answers.
How did your love story begin? Can you share when you knew that this was “the one”?
Mo: Our love story really began because I shot my shot and kinda sent a message about my feelings – which I deleted immediately after. I knew he was the one after I prayed for
days and got a confirmation that God approved of us being together. This was before I even shot my shot. But other moments where I realised he was the one were different moments of maturity, like how he handled grief, was always kind to others and how he cared for me. I’m a very happy and spoiled wife.
Yeni: Like she said, she shot her shot and it hit the target, mind you I also did some soul searching(is that what it’s called?) before eventually asking her out and asking her to be my girlfriend. I knew she was the one after praying about it as well and even more so when I saw her heart for God and people. I remember when I lost my mum, we had just started our relationship then and it was long distance. I felt her presence like she was physically with me and it felt like home. She is also very smart and knows her onions. Sometimes when she’s giving her opinion or knowledge about something, I’m always in awe.
What kind(s) of wedding(s) did you have?
Yeni: It was an intimate wedding, we made sure we did the things we wanted and did not succumb to societal constructs.
Interview With Olayeni & Mobolaji Adenuga
Mo: We had an outdoor medium-sized wedding.
What inspired the cultural theme and iconic imagery reflected in your wedding outfits and bouquet?
Yeni: Class and royalty o. The way we both agreed on a colour was like magic, we saw and knew it had to be purple. For my suit, like I mentioned my mum passed in 2023 and I wanted to honor her so I thought of printing her images on my suit and it came out really nice
Mo: The inspiration behind our cultural theme was beauty, class and royalty - which is why we chose purple. The imagery on my bouquet was my way of honouring my mum who passed in 2018. I wanted to remember all of her sacrifices over the years.
Why were those particular cultural elements or symbols important to you?
Yeni: My mum was a huge influence in my life, It hurt me that she couldn’t be part of the big day as I was the first person to get married in our family and it was something she looked forward to which is why I needed to honour her.
Mo: Adding my mum’s images to my bouquet was important to me because I wanted myself and others to remember that she was a huge part of my life and without her, I’ll not be the woman I am now. It was my way of wishing she was there “in spirit” even though she wasn’t there physically.
What’s one shocking thing you each experienced during the
wedding planning process or the D-day that you never would have guessed that something like that existed or could happen?
Mo: We made a video about this already but what shocked me the most in the planning process was how strong our community was. We got so many monetary and physical gifts that helped make the planning easy. We knew we had amazing friends and family, but didn’t realise to what extent they would support us. Still mind-blowing.
Yeni: What shocked me the most was also the way people came through like we didn’t even ask for anything but people kept giving and at some point, I was in disbelief. I asked myself “Do people love us this much?” It was really good. I think another thing is how physically exhausting planning is. I remember falling ill two days before the wedding and it wasn’t funny at all, I had to make sure I took enough rest and used proper medication.
What advice would you give couples looking to incorporate personal touches into their weddings to make them uniquely theirs?
Yeni: In as much as they say weddings are for parents and marriage is for couples, please weddings are also for couples. It’s your day, put your personal touches anywhere because you want to look back at your wedding video and smile and be happy you made your personal touches.
Mo: Go for it! Remember that it’s your day and it’s the personal touches you include that make it extra special.
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Love is accepting each other the way we are while also rooting for each other’s growth in places we fall short. Marriage to me means having fun while doing life with my best friend
Interview With Adedotun & Temitope Adeniran
…On Wedding Expectations vs. Reality
What do “love” and “marriage” mean to each of you?
Ade: Love is about commitment and sacrifice, while marriage is built on compromise. Loving someone means choosing to love them unconditionally, no matter the circumstances. In marriage, it’s about making daily compromises to ensure your partner’s happiness and comfort. My guiding principle in marriage is anchored in Ephesians 5:25: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” No marriage is perfect; it’s a continuous journey that requires effort and dedication.
Temi: Love to me is more of a commitment than a feeling. It’s about choosing someone over and over again every day. It’s something that grows stronger when there is trust and respect. Marriage on the other hand is a partnership to me. It’s about two people committed to building a life together, sharing their happy moments, challenges, and dreams.
What kind(s) of wedding(s) did you have?
Ade & Temi: We had a Civil, Traditional and Church Wedding. Before the big day, what were your expectations for how
the wedding would turn out, and how did reality align or differ?
Ade: I thought I’d have plenty of time for content creation, but time just flew by on my wedding day. I didn’t enjoy my traditional wedding as much as I expected because, by the time I entered the hall, it was packed and unbearably hot— imagine wearing Aso Oke in Ilorin’s end-of-March heat! That said, I did enjoy the attention over those two days. Our white wedding, on the other hand, was a lot of fun for my wife and me. We spent most of the time gossiping and laughing, even though our parents tried to rush the reception. Afterwards, we had a great time with our friends. It felt like I was on autopilot—I saw so many people, yet I barely remembered who I’d seen until I watched the videos and looked through the pictures.
Temi: Nothing really except for our traditional wedding. We expected about 70-100 guests, but our families had other plans!!! They invited more people than we anticipated. At the end of the day, the hall was overcrowded. I still had fun and cherished the love in the room.
Say hello to Adedotun and Temitope Adeniran, a couple who bring equal parts passion, creativity, and expertise to their dynamic partnership! Ade (Adedotun) is a Media and Communications Specialist with a knack for marketing and advertising, especially in the world of church communications. When he’s not crafting campaigns, you’ll find him belting out tunes as a self-proclaimed Grammy Award-winning bathroom singer and certified lover boy. Temi (Temitope), on the other hand, is a legal powerhouse. As a Corporate Lawyer and founder of Deer Consulting, she helps business owners easily navigate legal compliance. An ambivert at heart, she thrives on meaningful connections but also cherishes her quiet time, balancing her love for creativity and personal growth with grace.
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Don’t stress over perfection. Things might not go exactly as planned, but that’s okay, what matters most is the love, laughter, and memories you create
What were the most shocking things you each experienced during the planning process that you never would have guessed that something like that existed or could happen?
Ade: Everything was ridiculously expensive, and I never imagined I could spend so much on a two-day event (insert crying emoji). To make matters more complicated, my parents wanted to control many aspects of the wedding. It was our wedding, but it felt more like their ceremony to show off. Wedding preparations were an emotional rollercoaster, but my wife and I stayed grounded by praying and fasting for the 20 days leading up to our big day. I still can’t wrap my head around how much we spent renting a hall for just 6–7 hours!
Temi: Some of the prices we got for vendors and services were far beyond what we expected. Another surprising aspect was how dominating African parents can be in decision-making. We weren’t expecting them to have such strong opinions about every detail. At some point, It felt like we were constantly negotiating to ensure the wedding still reflected our vision while respecting their input.
If you could go back, what would you do differently? What are those things you wish you had known before starting the planning process?
Ade: If I could do it again, I’d take the time to better explain to my parents why I wanted a smaller crowd. I’d also prioritise
redirecting funds to take care of my wife and I before spending on other ceremonial activities.
Temi: Honestly, I wouldn’t change much. I had a very beautiful wedding, and I enjoyed every moment of it. I’m so grateful for my family, they went above and beyond to make the day special. And my friends? They are simply the best! They made the day perfect and so much fun for me. Looking back, I feel nothing but gratitude for how everything turned out.
What advice would you give to couples currently planning the kind of wedding you had?
Ade: Always set a budget and stick to it—never go over what you can afford. Talk to people who have planned weddings before you; their advice will be invaluable. There’s always a vendor that fits your budget, so take the time to negotiate well and choose wisely. Most importantly, hire an event coordinator. They’ll ensure everything runs smoothly on your big day. Remember, a wedding is just a two-day event—don’t overspend or do things just to impress others.
Temi: Also, don’t compromise on photography and videography. These are the memories you’ll look back on for years to come, so it’s worth investing in. Finally, don’t stress over perfection. Things might not go exactly as planned, but that’s okay, what matters most is the love, laughter, and memories you create.
Interview With Oladapo & Omobolanle Bolarinwa
Meet Dapo and Bola, a couple who masterfully balance tech and people skills in their professional and personal lives! Dapo (Oladapo) is a Software Engineering Lead who thrives at the helm of building innovative software products and services, guiding his teams with precision and vision. On the flip side, Bolanle (Omobolanle) is the heart of human resources, leveraging her expertise to nurture talent and create thriving workplace environments. Together, they’re a perfect blend of logic and empathy, code and connection.
…On a Bride & Groom’s
At what point in your relationship did you each know that you had found “the one”? Was it a specific moment, gesture, or feeling that confirmed it for you?
Dapo: We both attended the same university, and I have always admired her in her entirety, she was industrious as a student. We were just friends for the most part as we lived our separate lives. The specific moment would be one evening when I was talking to a friend about Bola and I just said I would marry this girl. This friend laughed it off saying Bola was levels above and there was no way I would nail that. Guess what, I am married to her now lol.
Bolanle: I think it was after university when I realised that even with the distance, I didn’t lose my feelings for him. I was willing to make compromises to keep the relationship and I am a very independent person. It meant a lot for me to let someone in, so I realised that he was the one.
What kind(s) of wedding(s) did you have?
Dapo & Bolanle: We had all of them, the court wedding, the traditional wedding, and also the church wedding.
Independently, what were your roles in the wedding planning process? Were there any specific aspects you were solely involved in?
Dapo: My role was to provide moral and financial support. But truly Bola was exceptional in the planning. Things I specifically did were mostly around planning the honeymoon and some logistics work when I am in Nigeria because we are both not based in the country but I frequent more. I also sorted out the court wedding, truly I just got someone to do it and I paid. Like I said I was providing all the emotional support.
Bolanle: I was majorly in charge of planning everything. I think
I just thrive on knowing that everything is under control, so I was involved in the planning process from A to Z. I had an event planner of course. I mean who will I vent to when Dapo isn’t available or doesn’t understand what I’m talking about?
What was the most challenging part of wedding planning from each of your perspectives?
Dapo: Not getting my wife mad, I did not get the details as much as she wanted me to, my biggest challenge was ensuring I followed through with all I was tasked with.
Bolanle: Not letting my anxiety take over me and my parents taking hold of the entire event.
What was the most shocking thing you experienced during the planning process that you never would have guessed that something like that existed or could happen?
Dapo: I was shocked at the amount of work Bola had to do while we had an event planner. Also, we spent about 2 times the initial budget. Checking my bank statement shocked me!
Bolanle: No matter how much planning you do, something will always go wrong beyond your control and you will have to make compromises. You’ll also need to review your budget multiple times lol.
What advice would you give to couples preparing for their big day?
Dapo: Always listen to your partner.
Bolanle: Trust God with everything and have a tribe of friends and family you trust will come through for you. Also, spend that extra money to get what you want. you’ll only get married once.
Interview With
Taiwo Adebiyi CEO & Creative Director, Taiwo’s Touch
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“In 2025, bridal Gele trends are evolving towards more structured and sculptural styles. It is a true art form that blends tradition with modern elegance.”
For the purpose of this interview, please introduce yourself and share a bit about what you do.
I’m Taiwo Adebiyi, the Creative Director of Taiwo’s Touch, and a professional Gele stylist based in Nigeria. I specialise in creating exquisite headwrap designs that complement different outfits, occasions, and personalities.
Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of styling numerous celebrities, brides, and fashion enthusiasts, making Gele a true art form that blends tradition with modern elegance.
You are known for being the official celebrity Gele stylist in Nigeria. What inspired you and how did all of this start?
My journey into Gele styling started with a passion. I have always been fascinated by the beauty and elegance that Gele adds to a woman’s look. What inspired me the most was seeing how a well-tied Gele could transform an entire outfit, boost confidence, and make a statement. I started practising with friends and family, gradually honing my skills until it became a full-time profession. Working with celebrities happened naturally as my work gained recognition, and it has been an amazing experience bringing unique and iconic styles to life.
What do you consider to be your most viral Gele looks, and who has worn them?
There have been several viral moments, but a few stand out. From the futuristic metallic Gele that stole the show at Sharon Ooja Nwoke’s wedding to the timeless elegance of Chioma, Davido’s wife’s classic Gele pieces during her traditional wedding, these looks trended because of their unique structure, creativity, and how they perfectly complemented the wearer’s outfit and personality.
As an expert, what are your top 5 Gele styles?
1. Avant-Garde Gele – Perfect for bold fashion statements.
2. Infinity Pleats Gele – A timeless classic that exudes elegance.
3. Butterfly Gele – A structured, stylish design that is highly fashionable.
4. Side-Swept Gele – Soft, chic, and perfect for modern brides.
5. Layered Fan Gele – Adds volume and drama for an unforgettable look.
What is your process from getting booked by a client, and conceptualising the style with them to the day of the event itself?
It starts with an inquiry—either through social media, referrals, or direct bookings. Once a client confirms their booking, we discuss their outfit, occasion, and personal style to decide on the perfect Gele design. I also consider their face shape, jewellery, and the overall aesthetic they want to achieve. On the day of the event, I ensure the tying process is seamless, comfortable, and long-lasting, so they look stunning all day.
What common Gele trends do you foresee stylists doing for brides in 2025?
In 2025, bridal Gele trends are evolving towards more structured and sculptural styles. We are seeing:
1. Dramatic, oversized Geles with bold architectural designs.
2. Intricate pleats and layered Geles for depth and texture.
3. Crystal-embellished Geles to add glamour and sparkle.
4. Minimalist, sleek Geles for brides who prefer understated elegance.
5. Custom-dyed Geles that match the exact shade of their outfits for a cohesive look.
What advice do you have for someone looking to get into the business of Gele styling?
First, develop a passion for the craft. Gele styling is an art, and you must be willing to practice continuously. Learn from experts, take courses, and experiment with different fabrics. Social media is your best friend— showcase your work consistently to attract potential clients. Also, invest in good customer service because word-of-mouth referrals can take you far in this industry. Lastly, always stay updated on trends and be open to creativity.
Taiwo Adebiyi is the CEO and Lead Stylist of Taiwo’s Touch International, a renowned fashion brand specialising in innovative and exquisite Gele styling. Since 2017, Taiwo has brought his artistry to notable figures, including political elites, corporate leaders, and celebrities such as Tiwa Savage, Mo Abudu, Chef Chi, Folashade Okoya, and Sharon Ooja Nwoke. With a presence across Nigeria and international communities, Taiwo seamlessly blends tradition with modern elegance.
By Yinka Seth SPOT REVIEW
BLACKS & COOPER
Ihave a yearly ritual with Bolu that dates back to 2019. It started as coffee dates at everyday places like Krispy Kreme to discuss books and ponder existential questions until we both became unbelievably liquid. Now, our dates happen at fancy restaurants. The spot we chose for coffee this time was Blacks and Cooper.
Driving into Blacks and Cooper, you know they take Black very seriously. The exterior is painted in black and stands in stark contrast to the rest of the buildings on the street. Unlike many of the restaurants in Victoria Island, it has a decent number of parking spots in and around the establishment.
However, when I was leaving, it became a tricky situation for those coming in.
The interior is ultra-modern and designed in greys, whites, and blacks. It would easily fit into Wall Street and downtown Brooklyn. Even the ambient music was decidedly 90s American—think Dido, Michael Bolton, and Celine Dion. The last time I heard a playlist that good was in Gusto Lagos in 2023. I even caught myself singing along to a few of the songs, so if you were born in the 90s or the decade before that, it’s a spot worth trying out.
Just like the aesthetic, the menu is direct and classic. I’m a little tired of looking at menus and being unable to tell what kind of food is available because of the design or the fact that fish dishes, steaks, and pasta options are lumped into one long list so the menu helped me reach a decision fairly quickly.
Bolu, the nonsense boy I was meeting up with was late so I got started without him. You know how they say a cappuccino is the perfect drink for waiting so I ordered one. It came out in exactly 7 minutes. Not bad in my estimation. The coffee cream was decorated with beans but the fourth one may have shaken out of place when it came. Wild that it made me like it more. While I scribbled in my journal, I caught wind of the discussion from the adjacent table and they seemed like many couples I’ve seen at restaurants. The lady was a baddie who came for the jpegs while the man seemed not to care in the slightest. Naturally; he needed help with deciphering the menu. The waitress (who attended to both our tables)
Average price for the meal ₦ ₦ ₦: N30,000
carefully walked them through the menu. She was willing to substitute her bacon for something else so the part of me that was raised Muslim gave them thumbs up for inclusivity.
By the time my coffee was done, Bolu had called to let me know he may not be able to make it. I accepted the reality of the fact that men, Yoruba men, are scum (I’m one of them by the way so sheath your sword). Again, the playlist came to my rescue. I ordered a baby bacon benedict, marketed as a dish of fresh toasted homemade brioche, poached eggs, crispy bacon, arugula and hollandaise sauce served with a slice of sauteed potatoes. And it is here that things took an unexpected turn.
My food wasn’t served with arugula even though it was written on the menu. To be fair, it is not an integral part of the dish so why promise what you do not plan to deliver, especially to someone like me who loves to eat vegetables? The brioche bun tasted like a lot of things but not homemade and definitely not made that Sunday morning. The best thing about the food was the eggs. The waitress asked if I wanted my eggs runny or set. I let her know my preference was midway between runny and set and honestly, the result was perfect. When a restaurant makes you perfect eggs, it is a sin not to try their steak. So I made a mental note to go back.
Blacks and Coopers
22 Victoria Arobieke St, Lekki Phase 1 t: 0704 334 4916
IG: @blacksandcoopers
Value for money: it’s excellent—fairly priced and in line with other similar spots. I’d rate it 4/5 for value.
Comfort: The space is practical and functional, though the seating isn’t the most accommodating for taller people.
Service - 4/5: Attentive and responsive staff who are available but not intrusive. However, during my visit, there was a plumbing issue in the restroom, which meant I had to request
hand sanitiser instead of washing my hands. While I assume this was a one-off, it slightly affected the experience.
Overall Rating: ������
Good for:
Work sessions
Business meetings
Casual gatherings
Relaxed dining
By: Vida Ojo
Lost in a City Media
Executive
TOP 10 WEDDING DESTINATIONS IN NIGERIA
Are you tired of the usual wedding celebrations and looking to make your special day truly stand out this year? Whether you’re dreaming of an outdoor ceremony or an adventurous twist, here are 10 perfect destinations in Nigeria for your dream wedding.
Crystal Lake Resort, Oguta, Imo
Crystal Lake Resort offers a relaxing lakeside setting surrounded by nature. With a serene environment and beautiful views, it’s perfect for couples seeking a peaceful and picturesque wedding. Its expansive event hall accommodates up to 1,000 guests, making it ideal for large wedding receptions. The resort’s modern facilities and landscapes ensure a memorable experience for couples and their guests.
Nwaniba Road, Uyo , Akwa Ibom t: 0808 052 7411 IG: @ibomhgr
Obudu
KM 35, Lekki-Epe Expressway Lakowe, Ibeju Lekki t: +234 906 282 9048 IG: @lakowe_lakes 1 3
Kajuru Castle, Kaduna
Turn your wedding into a fairytale at Kajuru Castle, a historic masterpiece built over 30 years ago. Sitting on a hilltop, this unique castle offers medieval-style architecture, a swimming pool and total privacy. The castle is exceptionally beautiful at night, with lights illuminating the surroundings, creating an atmosphere that encourages love. With space for up to 150 guests, it’s perfect for an intimate, royal-themed wedding.
Kajuru Street, Kaduna t: 0704 557 5062
Mountain Resort, Calabar
Picture saying “I do” in front of Obudu Mountain Resort’s beautiful scenery. Surrounded by misty mountains, wavy valleys, and cool mountain air, this destination provides an idyllic backdrop for your wedding. This paradise is the ideal fusion of romance and nature for a day you will always remember.
Obanliku, Obudu Plateau, Cross River t: 0706 924 8531 IG: @obudumountainresort
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Lakowe Lakes Golf & Country Estate, Lagos
Located in Lagos, Lakowe Lakes Golf and Country Estate combines the charm of a countryside setting with modern luxury. It provides rich greenery, sparkling manmade lakes, and a worldclass golf course. it’s a great place for couples seeking a tranquil, nature-filled wedding. With exceptional service and eco-friendly event spaces, Lakowe Lakes is perfect for intimate and grand wedding celebrations.
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Sencillo, Lagos
Situated on Ilashe Island in Lagos, Sencillo is a private resort that provides a luxurious beach house and large outdoor spaces with ocean views. Its vibrant environment makes it an ideal venue for couples seeking a sophisticated and exclusive wedding experience.
Ilashe Island, Lagos
t: 0816 327 5012
IG: @sencillolagos
Plan your dream wedding in the heart of Akwa Ibom at Le Méridien Ibom. This resort is perfect for hosting outdoor events, surrounded by palm trees, lush tropical landscaping, and a spacious golf course. The serene setting guarantees you and your guests an elegant and unforgettable experience, whether you choose a garden ceremony or a grand reception.
Nwaniba Road, PMB 1200, Uyo, Akwa Ibom State t: 07080660000
Jhalobia Gardens, Lagos
Jhalobia Gardens in Lagos offers beautifully landscaped gardens, a lovely ambience, and beautiful water features. Its well-manicured lawns and large space make it a great venue for a memorable outdoor wedding experience.
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Agodi Gardens, Ibadan
Agodi Gardens is not only home to beautiful peacocks, but also offers a perfect blend of tranquillity and adventure. Its peculiar layout includes placid water bodies, abundant green spaces, and scenic walking routes, making it a perfect wedding site for couples who enjoy nature. It’s a spot where you can celebrate love amidst pretty flowers, beautiful wildlife, and gorgeous surroundings.
Parliament Road, Mokola Hill, Ibadan, Oyo t: 0703 643 7869
Zuma Rock Resort, Abuja
What could be more iconic than a wedding near the legendary Zuma Rock? This resort provides couples with a breathtaking outdoor venue facing Nigeria’s natural wonders. The setting combines a balance of adventure and romance, providing you and your guests with an unforgettable wedding experience.
Zuma Rock, KM 6 Abuja - Kaduna - Zaria Express Way, Tafa 910103, Niger t: 0812 337 5147
Airport Road, Ikeja, Lagos t: 0803 725 7855 10
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Almat Farms, Abuja
For couples dreaming of a unique wedding, Almat Farms provides a charming rustic African atmosphere within a ranch-style setting. With its mud-brick houses, grazing horses, and beautiful landscapes, the venue offers an adventurous retreat into nature. Almat Farms artfully blends culture, simplicity, and sophistication, making it the ideal place to celebrate your special day.
Almat Farms, Kuje Area Council, Federal Capital Territory t: 08029510648
Le Méridien Ibom Hotel & Golf Resort, Akwa Ibom
By Chef Eros
IG: @thebillionairechef
FESTIVE SUYA LAMB WITH POMEGRANATE GLAZE & HERB SALAD
For the Lamb
Ingredients:
2 Lbs Lamb Shoulder, Leg, Or Chops (Cut Into Thick Slices Or Cubes)
2 Tablespoons Vegetable Oil
3-4 Tablespoons Suya Spice Blend (Use Your Preferred Spice Blend - Available Online Or From @thebillonairechef & @Ileishome)
Pomegranate Glaze
Ingredients:
1 Cup Pomegranate Juice (Unsweetened)
2 Tablespoons Honey Or Maple Syrup
1 Tablespoon Balsamic Vinegar (Or Red Wine Vinegar)
1 Tablespoon Fresh Orange Juice (For Brightness)
1 Teaspoon Fresh Thyme Leaves (Optional)
Herb Salad (Garnish)
Ingredients:
1 Cup Arugula Or Mixed Greens
1/2 Cup Pomegranate Seeds
1/4 Cup Thinly Sliced Red Onion
Fresh Mint And Parsley (Roughly Chopped)
Juice Of 1 Lemon Or Lime
Drizzle Of Olive Oil
1 Tablespoon Suya Spice Blend
INSTRUCTION
Pat the lamb dry, rub it with vegetable oil, and generously coat it with your Suya spice blend. Let it marinate for at least 1 hour, or preferably overnight, in the refrigerator.
In a small saucepan, combine pomegranate juice, honey, balsamic vinegar, orange juice, and thyme. Simmer over medium heat for 10 to 15 minutes until thickened and syrupy. Remove from heat and set aside.
For the grill method, preheat the grill to high heat. Grill the lamb for 3 to 4 minutes per side for medium-rare or to
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For the oven method, preheat the oven to 425°F (220°C). Place the lamb on a wire rack over a baking sheet and roast for 20 to 25 minutes, flipping halfway through. For extra caramelisation, broil for 2 to 3 minutes at the end.
For the stovetop method, heat a cast-iron skillet over high heat. Sear the lamb for 3 to 4 minutes per side.
During the last minute of cooking, brush the lamb with the pomegranate glaze, allowing it to caramelise slightly. Reserve some glaze for serving.
To prepare the herb salad, toss arugula, pomegranate seeds, red onions, mint, and parsley in a bowl. Dress with lemon juice and olive oil, and sprinkle with Suya spice.
Arrange the lamb on a serving platter and drizzle with the remaining pomegranate glaze. Garnish with the herb salad and additional pomegranate seeds for a festive, holiday-ready presentation.
Pro tip: Serve with sides like Jollof rice, roasted sweet potatoes, or a spiced fonio pilaf for a complete holiday meal. Enjoy!
Biography
Chef Tolu “Eros” Erogbogbo, a celebrated culinary innovator, weaves his Nigerian heritage into every dish, showcasing the vibrant flavours of West Africa on a global stage. Since launching his first restaurant in 2008, he has expanded into diverse ventures, including ILĖ Private Dining Room and ILĖ Bistro in Los Angeles. Chef Eros has catered to prestigious events like Coachella and collaborated with major brands such as NIKE and Disney. In 2024, he debuted his Global food tour, Taste of Culture, blending West African cuisine with global culinary traditions.
preferred doneness.
By Chef Eros
IG: @thebillionairechef
PLANTAIN ICE CREAM WITH PEANUT OIL CAKE
Plantain Ice cream
Ingredients:
1 Cup Whole Milk
1 Cup Heavy Cream
6 Large Egg Yolks
1/2 Cup Sugar
2 Extra Ripe Plantains
Peanut Oil Cake
Ingredients:
800g Granulated Sugar
380g All-Purpose Flour
380g Semolina Flour
16g Kosher Salt
5g Baking Powder
8g Baking Soda
6g Grated Lemon Zest
640g Peanut Oil
6 Large Eggs
700g Whole Milk
140g Lemon Juice
160g Uyayak Syrup
Plantain Ice cream
Instructions:
Preheat your oven to 450°F (bake function) and line a baking sheet with parchment paper.
Peel the plantains and place them on the prepared baking sheet. Bake for about 30 minutes until the plantains are roasted and golden. Remove from the oven and let them cool completely, then slice and freeze overnight.
Bring the milk and heavy cream to a gentle boil in a medium saucepan over low heat.
Whisk together the egg yolks and sugar in a mixing bowl until the mixture is smooth and the sugar dissolves. Gradually temper the hot cream mixture into the egg mixture, whisking constantly to avoid curdling.
Once fully incorporated, return the mixture to the saucepan. Cook over medium heat, stirring constantly, until the custard thickens enough to coat the back of a spoon.
Transfer the custard to a clean container, let it cool to room temperature, and refrigerate overnight.
In a blender, combine the chilled custard and frozen plantains. Blend until smooth. Pour the blended mixture into your ice cream machine and churn according to the manufacturer’s instructions.
Serve immediately for a soft-serve consistency, or transfer the ice cream to an airtight container and freeze until firm.
Peanut Oil Cake
Instructions:
Preheat the oven to 325°F and place a tray of hot water at the bottom to create steam.
In the bowl of a stand mixer, whisk together the peanut oil and eggs.
In a separate bowl, mix all the dry ingredients, whisking thoroughly by hand.
In another bowl, combine the whole milk, lemon juice, and Uyayak syrup.
Gradually incorporate the dry and wet mixtures into the egg and oil mixture in the stand mixer. Mix until fully combined, being careful not to overmix.
Pour 900g of the batter into each lined cake pan.
Bake in the oven for 1 hour. After 40 minutes of baking, top the cakes with crushed cashew nuts.
Check for doneness with a toothpick; it should come out dry.
Let the cakes cool completely in the pans before storing them.
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About the photographer
Habila is a documentary photographer dedicated to capturing the beauty of his environment and telling compelling visual stories. His work is shaped by a deep connection to his Nigerian roots and early advocacy involvement, honing his perspective on identity, culture, and human narratives. Through his lens, Habila presents the world as he sees it—authentic, vibrant, and thought-provoking.
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By Enemona Udile Content Writer
GOD CATERER Na You be YOU NO BE
An Insider Into The Ownership Of The Nigerian Wedding
Whose wedding is it? This is a question I have often asked and has bothered me for years: who is really getting married— the bride, the groom, or the guests? Whose day is it, anyway? Weddings require a significant amount of planning to ensure everything goes smoothly. So, who contributes more to ensure the event is a success?
For example, the typical Nigerian Iya Iyawo (Mother of the bride) gets dressed in all her glory, wrapping her beautiful lace around her waist. The folds of its threads are pride, elegance and grace as she considers it her day. Maybe even more so than the bride, because why does she get an entrance if she’s not a celebrant as well? Event planners work tirelessly, ensuring vendors are up at dawn, orchestrating every detail, and attending to the bride and groom’s pre-wedding needs.
Meanwhile, caterers are already at work, frying puff-puff as early as 5 AM, carefully balancing yeast and flour while the rich aroma of onions and milk fills the air. Their dedication is unmatched—so much so that the phrase “Na caterer you be, no be God” exists because of their meticulous attention to detail. But is it really their wedding too? The only answer that makes sense is—yes. It’s theirs, and in a way, it belongs to all of us.
That’s what weddings are about—beauty, serendipity, and pure joy. But let’s be honest, there’s always someone ready to derail the entire event over the smallest detail. And of course, we can’t forget the men. From the groom to his effortlessly charming groomsmen—whom we all secretly admire but still give a hard time. Among them, there’s always that one guy— the unanimous favourite. Naturally, he’s a player, but does it matter? The moment he steps out in his perfectly tailored Ankara, beard freshly lined up, and a pair of sleek sunglasses in place, it’s game over.
Weddings are one of my favourite events because, just like the Jollof rice that burns ever so slightly to give off that perfect party aroma, everyone plays a role on the day. All for two people—sometimes strangers to us, sometimes even to each other. But do we care? Not at all. We’re here for the owambe, the thrill of celebration. Nigerians know how to party, and at weddings, we take it to the next level.
And then, in the heart of it all, there’s her. The bride—graceful, radiant, yet carrying the weight of a thousand expectations. Everyone fusses over her like a queen on coronation day, ensuring she’s comfortable, but only she knows the pressure beneath it all. The pressure to look flawless, to make sure every detail is perfect, to hold in the emotions that only she understands. If a wedding is to be any fun, you’ll see it first on the bride’s face—how high her Gele stands, how intricately it folds, the excitement in her eyes as she steps into her dress… or the moment of sheer panic if, by some twist of fate, it doesn’t fit.
Meanwhile, her bridesmaids are a force of their own—buzzing around, demanding touch-ups from the makeup artist they never actually booked (“Just small touch-up abeg!”). These women do everything except marry the groom. They splurge on outfits that rival the bride’s, making you wonder if they planned the entire relationship just for this moment. But let’s be honest—without them, would the wedding have even happened?
So, I ask again—whose wedding is it? The groom’s family, his childhood friends, the bride’s parents, or the guests? When you put it all together—every laugh, every dance, every shared plate—you’ll realise the truth. A wedding belongs to everyone who shows up.
LOST IN NIGERIA
Lost in Nigeria? No worries, as we’ve got you covered. Explore the diverse and captivating points of interest scattered across the country, curated just for you. Whether you’re seeking cultural immersion, outdoor escapades or culinary delights, we handpick a selection of upcoming experiences for you to discover and indulge in every month.
Rooftop Rave After Party
Celebrate love and connection at the annual Rooftop Rave After Party! Singles and couples are invited to an unforgettable night of great food, incredible music, and electric vibes at The View Rooftop. Dance under the stars, soak in the ocean breeze and enjoy the perfect blend of romance and excitement. At the Rooftop Rave After Party, unforgettable memories are made, and the magic of Valentine’s Day lives on!
14th February
Lagos
Calabar Love Festival
Celebrate love in all its forms at the Calabar Love Festival on February 14, 2025! This annual event is packed with exciting activities, unforgettable experiences, and joyful moments for couples, friends, and families alike. Explore fun-filled attractions, enjoy vibrant entertainment, and connect with others in a festive and welcoming atmosphere.
14th February
Calabar
Love N Laugh
Experience a night of joy and laughter at Love N Laugh, the annual event that brings comedy and entertainment together spectacularly. Featuring some of the industry’s top comedians, this event promises good vibes, and a chance to unwind in great company. Love N Laugh is the perfect destination to create lasting memories, whether you’re coming with friends, family, or that special someone. See the power of comedy and connection come alive to brighten your evening like never before!
14th February
Port Harcourt
Lagos Tech Fest
Join the 5th annual Lagos Tech Fest, where startups, innovators, investors, and government leaders converge to shape Nigeria’s tech future. Discover cutting-edge solutions, enjoy expanded exhibitions, and connect through dedicated networking lounges and a fun pre-event happy hour. At Lagos Tech Fest, innovation and collaboration drive the growth of Nigeria’s tech ecosystem.
19th February
Lagos
By Esther Sorkpor Content Writer
“PICK ME”
Every milestone, achievement, and experience is a pebble that lines your life’s path. Success is measured by lessons learned and memories shared along the way. For Nigerian parents, however, this journey is marked by one’s marriageability.
I grew up in a family where ambition was applauded and supported. It was important to prioritise excellence in all of our endeavours as we all were a part of a picture larger than ourselves. However, as I grew older, I learned that it was all a ruse. From the moment I sprouted from the ground to when my petals bloomed, I have been a flower groomed for picking. My achievements are only validated by a change in marital status from single to married.
It shows up in subtle ways, such as family devotions where my mother would never fail to add, “Let us pray for [insert single family member’s name], that God will bless them with a good spouse.” Or when my parents would joke about reimbursement of my educational fees through my bride price.
But there are less subtle ways in which marriage is prioritised, ways that cut deeper. There are the aunties who openly berate you at family gatherings for “wasting time,” even as their whispers suggest that your standards are “too high.” Some friends suddenly look at you with pity once they’ve had their introductions, as though your singleness is a problem to be solved. And there’s the ever-constant barrage of societal messages that equate a woman’s
worth with her ability to secure and maintain a husband.
For women, the pressure is suffocating. Men may be mildly encouraged to “settle down” after their careers take shape, but for women, mid-twenties is the countdown. A man in his thirties is “taking his time,” but a woman in the same bracket is accused of “focusing on the wrong things.” By metrics unbeknownst to me, this is when one’s life experiences are deemed “ripe for marriage,” regardless of financial or emotional standing.
Families enforce rigid spousal requirements—hailing from the right tribe, professing the right religion, and having character traits that fit cultural ideals. For others, even being in a relationship isn’t enough; you must be ready to get married on their timeline. God help you if you have unorthodox views—if you don’t want to marry at all, or if you’re queer.
It is not enough to get married; you must stay married. You must know how to keep your husband from straying like a homeless child. Women are told to endure difficult marriages. A single woman is seen as a colossal failure. A societal ill. The performance for marriage never ends. But what happens if we decide to break the stage?
The last time my mum raised my cousin’s name in prayers for a husband, my mouth became a muted microphone, lips syncing Amens without a sound. Scowl lines creased my forehead as I wondered what it would be like when it was my turn.
By Thomas Odey Content Writer
WHY ARE SO MANY
YOUNG GETTING MARRIED
CHRISTIANS ?
Young Christians are in a bit of a dilemma. Aren’t they always? These days, more and more of them find themselves at the altar a little too suddenly for their comfort. It’s a situation that begs the question: why are so many young Christians getting married?
The church, of course, plays a major role in them eventually making the important decision to opt for the married life. Some of the church’s rules for marriage can be found in its doctrines and often serve as practical and spiritual guidelines.
Among these is a sort of courtship “policy” that implies that the longer couples stay in the dating phase of a relationship, the more likely they are to have sex before marriage. That’s fornication, which is a big no-no in Christianity. To avoid falling prey to the lure of premarital sex, it’s fairly common now for Christian couples to date for as briefly as six months before deciding to take their relationship to the marriage stage. As a result, longer courtships, which offer couples better opportunities to learn more about each other and to prepare for a potential married life together, are discouraged.
In church culture, young unmarried Christians are often the subject of gossip and unsolicited inquiries probing into their personal lives, attempting to find the reason for their “singleness”. Christians in their twenties to thirties are often under pressure to get married from their fellow Christians, usually parents or older people who’ve long since crossed over into married territory. Marriage is mostly seen as a sign of maturity and responsibility, traits that are encouraged in Christian society.
Early marriage in particular comes with a certain advantage unique to women. The earlier a woman finds a spouse and settles down, the sooner she can reproduce and make the most of her reproductive health. The Bible says to “be fruitful and multiply”, so having children is seen as a mandate from God. It’s unlikely to find women in the church who willingly choose not to have children. As such, most young Christian couples rush to properly consummate their union hoping to bear children as safely and successfully as possible.
Young Christians are not expected to move out to a “bachelor
apartment” for fear that they’ll be more exposed to the temptations of the world, the prime among which is fornication. More often than not, they are restricted to staying with parents or family who can hold them morally accountable until they get married. For these young people, marriage becomes a “ticket” out of the limitations placed upon them in such a setting. It becomes the only way for them to truly start living independently. It comes as no surprise, then, that as soon as young Christians reach some level of financial stability that enables them to live apart from their parents, they seek to consolidate their independence through marriage. From the chains of parental supervision to the rings of marital obligation; a trade too good to miss out on.
Christianity demands chastity and abstinence from sex before marriage. Young Christians who have witnessed the relative freedom experienced by their non-practising counterparts are oftentimes frustrated with being denied from “living it up”. They are motivated into hasty marriage by a desire to partake in what sex has been presented to them as. Some Christians who have already indulged in fornication see marriage as a means to finally justify sex and absolve them of their past sins.
We see a wave of young Christians getting married now and these reasons come to mind. Various other motivations play a role in this phenomenon, but we’ll skip over that to get to what this really means for Christian society. Some of the aforementioned reasons for rushing into marriage are valid, but there’s no excuse for not doing anything the right way. Ideally, couples should spend enough time with each other to be familiar enough with who they may choose to spend the rest of their lives with. Such an important decision cannot be hastily made nor overrated. Divorce rates are on the rise; a mere coincidence? I think not.
If we’re to live in a society where marriages thrive and are longlasting, healthy representations of the faith, certain things need to change. There’s no specific time to get married. The true value of a marriage lies in its partners’ values. It’s not about their age or past experiences; rather what matters is who they are when they choose to get married and their willingness to stay committed to their partner, to grow as Christians and to raise children who will contribute to the betterment of their family and society at large.
By Oyindamola Boboye Content Writer and Designer
INTIMATE WEDDINGS VS. BIG CELEBRATIONS: GEN Zs CLASH WITH AFRICAN MOTHERS
In Nigeria, there’s a saying that weddings are for the parents— where the couple are just guests at their own event. But times are changing, and so are perspectives. Millennials and Gen Zs are increasingly drawn to intimate, budget-friendly weddings, while African mothers hold firmly to the tradition of grand, lavish celebrations. It’s a clash of values, culture, and generational expectations, playing out in living rooms and family meetings across the country.
For younger Nigerians, smaller weddings make sense. They’re practical, personal, and often less stressful. Many couples would rather invest in their future—whether it’s a dream honeymoon, a new home, or even a business—than spend millions on a single day. There’s also a growing desire for authenticity. Influenced by global trends, they see weddings as a celebration of their love, not a spectacle for the community.
But for African mothers, a wedding is more than just a ceremony— it’s a cultural milestone. As one mother famously quipped, “I bought Iya Lagbaja’s aso-ebi, mine too must be bought!” Grand
weddings are a way to honour traditions, showcase family pride, and bring the community together. To them, a small wedding might feel like a missed opportunity to celebrate their child’s achievements and uphold societal expectations.
So, how can both sides find common ground? It starts with compromise. Some couples choose to have a small, private ceremony followed by a larger reception. Others involve their mothers in the planning process, letting them take the lead on aspects like the aso-ebi or guest list. Open communication is key—discussing priorities and finding creative solutions that respect traditivvvvons and personal desires.
At its core, this tension isn’t just about weddings; it’s about balancing tradition and modernity. It’s a reminder that love and family are at the heart of it all. And while the journey to the altar might have its challenges, it’s also an opportunity to create something beautiful—a celebration that honours the past while embracing the future.
