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Table of contents Carmen Harra: The 30 Dr. Numerology of Love 7 Kinds of Love 52 The Relationships You Should Know About

68 5 Key Differences Between

Chemistry and Compatibility in Relationships

76 6 Secrets to Cultivating

Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner

Ultimate Guide to 84 The Resolving Love Karma

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Rewriting Your Story: How Affirmations Can Change Your Life

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The Power of Healing Family Rifts: Nine Actions for a Happier Home

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Exploring the Warning Signs: Red Flags in a New Relationship

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Decoding Your Love's Compatibility: 13 Ways to Assess If They're the Right Person for You

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Soul Mates Across Time: Understanding Past Life Relationships

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Editor’s Note Numerology is the belief in the mystical significance of numbers and their influence on human life and relationships. Some individuals find value in numerology as a tool for understanding themselves and their romantic relationships. While numerology is not scientifically proven and should not be used as the sole basis for making important relationship decisions, it can still be interesting and thought-provoking. Here are some ways in which numerology may be considered important in romantic relationships: Numerology can help individuals gain insights into their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, and life paths based on their numerological profiles. Understanding oneself better can contribute to healthier relationships by

Numerology can be used to calculate the Life Path Liane Buck numbers of both partners in a romantic relationship. Some people believe that certain Life Path numbers are more Editor-in-Chief compatible with others, and this information can be used as a conversation starter or a point of reflection. By understanding each other's numerological profiles, couples may gain insights into their communication styles and potential areas of miscommunication. This awareness can lead to more effective and empathetic communication.

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promoting self-awareness and personal growth.

Numerology can offer alternative perspectives on conflicts within a relationship. It can encourage couples to explore different approaches to resolving issues and finding compromises. Numerology also considers personal years and cycles, which can indicate periods of change, growth, or challenge in a person's life. Couples can use numerology to plan important milestones or navigate challenging phases together. Engaging in numerology discussions with a partner can be a fun and meaningful way to support each other's personal growth and self-improvement journeys. It can inspire individuals to work on areas of their lives that may benefit their relationships. In Dr. Carmen Harra's latest book, "Plus One: The Numerology of Relationships," she delves deep into the profound significance of numbers as the universal language. Often overlooked in their daily use, numbers serve as the conduit through which the divine communicates with us, offering guidance, encouragement, warnings, and a gentle reminder of our higher nature. These numerical codes, imprinted upon us from birth, encapsulate our divine DNA and the expansive tapestry of our destiny. This illuminating exploration shines a light on the ever-shifting energies that numbers bring into our romantic connections. It goes beyond the realms of mere free will or common sense, unveiling the deeper forces at play. Dr. Carmen Harra's "Plus One" serves as a captivating guide, unveiling the enigmatic dance of numbers in the realm of love and offering profound insights into the mystical tapestry of our relationships.

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Dr. Carmen Harra is a household name at OMTimes, and her influence extends far beyond as she clinched the prestigious Ommie Award for 2022's Most Influential People. This accolade is just one testament to her remarkable career as an accomplished author, writer, radio show host, and TV personality on OMTimes. Carmen Harra's journey to becoming a world-renowned intuitive psychologist and relationship expert is as fascinating as inspiring. Her early fame as a European singing sensation set the stage for a life filled with unexpected twist s and turns. She originally traveled to America for a singing engagement, but destiny had other plans. In the United States, she encountered the love of her life, leading her to decide to stay.

In this new chapter of her life, Carmen boldly reinvented her career trajectory. She embarked on a path of profound self-discovery, eventually earning a Ph.D. in Psychology. Her transformation was remarkable, and she quickly emerged as a leading expert. One of Carmen's pivotal moments came in 1998 when she began writing her first book, "Everyday Karma." She knew this book would become an international sensation, transcending borders and languages with translations in over 20 countries. Carmen's unique insights into human nature and spirituality struck a chord with readers worldwide.

For the past 28 years, Carmen has dedicated herself to helping over 40,000 individuals rediscover inner peace, reclaim their personal power, and rekindle the flames of joy in their lives. Her clients represent a diverse spectrum of society, ranging from ordinary individuals next door to Hollywood celebrities and prominent politicians. Carmen's approach to transformation is nothing short of extraordinary. OMTimes: How does Your Book "Plus One: The Numerology of Relationships" describe the role of numbers in our lives, according to the given text?

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Carmen Harra: Numbers are the language of the universe; they are the medium through which Spirit speaks to us, encourages us, warns us, and reminds us of our higher nature. In the physical world, we use numbers every day, from phones to bank accounts, but what many of us don't realize is that each of us was born with a unique set of numbers that contains divine DNA. Just as we have a genetic makeup, so too do we possess a spiritual composition that can reveal the full scope of our destiny. The role of numbers in our lives is to encompass our fate, and understanding our numerology can help us make the most of our free will.

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OMTimes: Can you explain the "life path number" concept and its relationship significance? Carmen Harra: Your numerological code was established on the day you took your first breath. It contains your life path number and other numbers of importance. These numbers are responsible for your strengths, weaknesses, inclinations, and behaviors. They make up your archetype, a set of characteristics embedded in your subconscious.

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Your life path number steers you toward certain types of partners and dictates the decisions you make in relationships. If your life path number is 1, your archetype is Independent since this number is associated with autonomy and ambition. This means your personality is characterized by a strong sense of identity, a need to do things on your own, and a reluctance to give part of yourself to another person. You can imagine some of these traits aren't the most favorable to maintaining an enduring bond with another person. Plus, One teaches you how to mitigate tendencies that might be harmful to your relationship so that you can break out of the limitations of your life path number and archetype and achieve the commitment you want and deserve.

OMTimes: What unique perspective does "Plus One" offer in understanding the dynamics of past and present relationships through numerology? Carmen Harra: Initial compatibility can be traced through numerology, but numbers also predict how a relationship will likely unfold in time. Plus, One can teach you how your numerology affects your past and present relationships. My book analyzes every combination of life path numbers on the basis of the seven kinds of relationships that exist. Understanding all sides to your life path number and your partner's defines your dynamic and potential together. OMTIMES/ JANUARY 2024

OMTimes: How can the study of numerology help individuals understand their spiritual DNA, and what insights can it provide into their inherent tendencies, strengths, weaknesses, and talents? Carmen Harra: The study of numerology can shed light on the full spectrum of a person's character. A life path is the manifestation of a series of strengths, weaknesses, tendencies, talents, and more. It can guide a person toward making the most beneficial decisions for them, reveal the best time to make changes that will reap positive results, and help them understand how to overcome challenges to which they're predisposed based on their numbers.

OMTimes: The Role of Free Will in Shaping Destiny: Considering the concept of a predetermined spiritual DNA outlined in numerology, how does free will interact with these predetermined elements? Carmen Harra: When a soul chooses to reincarnate in the physical form, it signs a contract with the universe. This is spelled out through a person's birthday or the day their Spirit chooses to reenter the world. You may amend your soul contract, but only to an extent: many of the events and situations inscribed within your birthday will find a way of manifesting. OMTIMES/ JANUARY 2024

OMTimes: Can people significantly alter their life path through conscious decisions and actions, or are they largely following a prescripted destiny? Carmen Harra: You were meant to be born at a certain time, in a certain part of the world, and into a certain family. For the most part, you will have to pass through the situations that were set up for you long before you reincarnated. These are your individual lessons to help you resolve your karma on Earth and liberate your soul. You also have free will, of course, so if you don't like what your numerology says about you, you have every right to try to change it. Numerology empowers you to reach a thorough realization of your predestined course and the capacity of your volition.

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OMTimes: In what ways does numerology suggest that specific life events, like relationship dynamics, health predispositions, and the timing of major life changes, are influenced by one's birth date and associated numbers? How can understanding these influences empower individuals to make more informed decisions in their lives?

Carmen Harra: Like the tides of the ocean, time comes in cycles. There are cycles in which you should act and cycles in which you should wait; cycles in which you should plan and cycles in which you should build; cycles in which to begin things and cycles in which to end things. At any given moment, you are under the influence of numbers that are conducive to particular actions and not others. Numerology reveals the timing of our lives. Elements like pinnacles and personal years signal the potential to shift our circumstances. By being aware of our life cycles, we can work with them to bring about the transformations we want to achieve.

OMTimes: What is the significance of the "soul code" as described in the book, and how is it determined?

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Carmen Harra: The sum of your birthday, month, and year constitutes your life path or soul code. It indicates your temperament and physical vulnerabilities. It can also unearth hidden talents and natural abilities you didn't know you had. To calculate your soul code, start with your date of birth. Add your birth's month, day, and year together, then reduce it to a single digit. For example, if you were born on January 16, 1984, you would add 1 + 1 + 6 + 1 + 9 + 8 + 4 = 30. You would then add 3 + 0, which equals a soul code of 3. OMTimes: Carmen, please tell us how the concept of missing numbers from one's soul code influences one's life and personal growth? Carmen Harra: Your soul code is composed of the numbers you have and missing numbers. We're all missing some numbers from our code; no birthday contains every number from 1 through 9 because each one of us is passing through a process of evolution. The fact that your soul has chosen to reincarnate proves that you're still undergoing the cycle of completion. Missing numbers are sometimes more telling than existing numbers because they accentuate the lessons you must learn throughout life. It is extremely soul-satisfying to cultivate qualities you're lacking, to fill in the gaps left by missing numbers. You will find it immensely rewarding to work on independence if you're missing a 1, introspection if you're missing a 2, communication if you're missing a 3, and so on.

By examining both the numbers you have and the numbers you don't, you can piece together a complete puzzle of your soul's standing and the journey that awaits you on Earth. OMTimes: Can you explain the relationship between numbers and planets in the context of Jewish Kabbalah and Greek numerology as outlined in the chapter? Carmen Harra: Jewish Kabbalah is a set of esoteric teachings meant to explain the relationship between the eternal God and the finite universe. The ancient Kabbalists acknowledged that numbers govern our emotions, karma, health, and, notably, our relationships. They recognized that every number is made up of a specific energy and associated each digit from 1 through 9 with a planet. Ancient Greeks, the inventors of Western numerology, also attributed numbers 1 through 9 to planets as they were understood at that time. This includes the Sun and moon, which the Greeks took to mean celestial objects. OMTimes: How does the strength of a planet corresponding to a number in one's soul code affect one's life and efforts during different months of the year? Carmen Harra: In astrology, every planet exerts a particular influence over us.

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On the basis of the movements of each planet through our solar system, during some months, one planet may have a more dominant energy than others. If the planet corresponding to the main number in your soul code is weak during a certain month, the universe will not support your efforts on that month.

For example, if your life path is a 1, your energy is that of the Sun, and this means that warmer months, such as March, April, July, and August, are far more conducive months than months such as October, November, or December when the Sun's impact on the Earth is weaker.

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OMTimes: What are the four great pinnacles in numerology, and how do they relate to life stages and personal transformation? Carmen Harra: The pinnacles are four stages of life summarized by major changes and mental shifts; they are fundamental turning points that offer you the opportunity to rearrange elements in your life. You may find yourself standing at a crossroads during the transition from one pinnacle to the next. Recognizing them can give you a glimpse into what lies ahead or what you've left unresolved and prepare you to fix what's broken. In addition, each pinnacle is assigned a number from 1 to 9 on the basis of your birthday. The first and fourth pinnacles last 30 years, and the second and third pinnacles last about nine years. Each pinnacle epitomizes a unique form of transformation.

OMTimes: How do you describe the impact and significance of the four basic emotions anger, fear, sorrow, and love - on our lives and decision-making processes?

Our four basic emotions impact our state of mind and day-to-day actions. The impact depends on which emotion we engage in daily since we become used to operating on certain emotions. If you're constantly frustrated, your brain is prepared to receive more "frustrated" nerve cells. It anticipates daily emotions and produces corresponding nerve cells in preparation. This becomes a vicious cycle until you find yourself asking, "Since when did I become so frustrated over every little thing?" By then, the neural connections are already well formed and influencing your decisions. This is why it's paramount to both your relationships and well-being to explore your emotions and understand how they affect your life. OMTimes: Can you explain the concept of how anger and hatred differ in their duration and impact on an individual's psyche, as mentioned in the book?

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Carmen Harra: Hatred and anger are sibling emotions. You're angry at something, and vice versa when you hate something. But hatred lingers in our system much longer than anger does. Anger is characterized by a peak of the emotion followed by a crash. Conversely, hatred can dwell in the subconscious mind for many years, even a lifetime. You may not be angry with your friend anymore because she stole your boyfriend many years ago, but the hatred against her remains deep within you, and it can rear its ugly head at any moment. It is pivotal to heal yourself of both anger and hatred for no one's sake but your own.

OMTimes: What role does love play in counteracting the negative effects of the other three emotions? Carmen Harra: Love is your fourth great emotion, and it is the only emotion capable of conquering the other three. It is the feeling that possesses the most healing qualities. When we're shown love, we are automatically soothed and relieved. Unconditional love never fails to pick us up, both emotionally and physically.

OMTimes: How can emotions become addictive, particularly in the context of neurological patterns and brain chemistry? Carmen Harra: Emotions can turn into addictions because of the chemistry of your brain. Within your brain exist nerve cells that are constantly reaching out to other nerve cells. Over time, these nerve cells establish an alliance. These mechanisms of the human brain hold true for any habit we adopt: the more we do something, the more our brain promotes that action. It gets used to anything, good or bad, sometimes supporting behaviors that are harmful to us. Our emotions, too, can become addictions, so much so that I believe they are the most undetected forms of addiction in today's world. Only if we make mindful efforts to mitigate our feelings can we pacify their effects.

OMTimes: Can you elaborate on the concept of life paths, being particularly susceptible to certain emotional patterns or addictions, as discussed in the book Carmen Harra: Each of the nine life paths is susceptible to certain emotions. Because emotions radiate from the core of our being, they act as markers for life paths: they help distinguish different

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personalities from one another, lay out the inclinations of each, and set up predictable patterns of behavior. Every one of the nine numerology archetypes has dominant emotions that can hurt or help his relationships. For example, the Extrovert can hurt his relationships by being superficial, gullible, and dramatic. He can help his relationships by being self-aware, optimistic, and creative.

OMTimes: In what ways do you suggest that emotions, when they become addictions, impact our decision-making and overall behavior, and what are the implications for managing these emotional tendencies? Carmen Harra: When we lose control over our emotions, they become addictions, dominating our thoughts and actions. We no longer operate from the seat of logic but from the same old emotions that have taken hold of us. These traits are conveyed by our emotions so that what we feel turns us into who we are. If you constantly feel and act on low or harmful emotions, you'll erect unnecessary obstacles for yourself. More so, what you feel translates into how you feel. Your emotions are an indispensable factor in your overall health. Being emotionally burdened can beget illness and disease. To achieve health on all levels and function optimally, you must stabilize your thoughts and master your emotions.

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OMTimes: How do you describe the concept of karma, and how does it differ from the common perception of karma as merely a form of "payback"? Carmen Harra: Many people have a skewed perception of karma. While "payback" karma exists, the true nature of karma is much more encompassing and merciful than serving vengeance. Karma is not some malicious force that brings your bad deeds back to you; it is the first and foremost law of the universe. Karma is the reaction to every action, the memory of every one of your thoughts, intentions, and actions from this and prior lifetimes. More specifically, it is the memory of your soul, an imprint on your spiritual DNA that materializes throughout your life in the form of people you meet and things that happen to you. Your karma is attached to your being and belongs to you in the same way your physical features belong to you. Your karmic lessons are necessary to learn for soulful evolution and personal fulfillment.

OMTimes: Can you explain the significance of déjà vu in karma and past-life relationships, as outlined in the book? Carmen Harra: When we share pastlife karma with someone, we feel an instant attraction to the person. From the moment we meet him or her, we are filled with a deep-seated sense of familiarity. OMTIMES/ JANUARY 2024

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We may get flashes of our past lives or a strong impression of déjà vu, as if the moment has already occurred, perhaps in a different setting or a different time. Your soul recognizes the human experience as an opportunity to settle issues you may not have gotten to in your last life, and this includes people you knew in your former lifetimes.

OMTimes: According to your viewpoint, how does unresolved karma from past lives manifest in our current life and relationships?

Unresolved karma from past lives manifests in our current lives and relationships in patterns—repetitions that are often unwanted and keep us stuck in the same unhappy cycles. Many of the things—good or bad— that are happening to you are not new; they're karmic episodes replaying from former lifetimes. Karma works in highly predictable ways: it carries over from prior incarnations, setting you up for the same scenarios.

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OMTimes: What steps do you suggest for recognizing and resolving karmic patterns in our relationships? Carmen Harra: Recognizing and resolving karmic patterns in our relationships is a multi-step process that starts with awareness of our karma and its origins. The first step to resolving karma is recognizing where, how, and why it started. Then, the work of resolving karma begins with identifying your own patterns and observing how they play out. After that, it takes vigilance to remain observant and make new decisions each time a similar situation comes up, and an opportunity for changing habits presents itself. It's especially difficult with the old issues that go back several lifetimes. Mastering karma is not easy, but it absolutely can be done.

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even kinds of love relationships exist. The

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #1 – TRANSITORY RELATIONSHIPS

one you attract represents the inner work performed

and the lessons you’ve learned.

A transitory relationship acts as a bridge between two phases of evolution, enacting change or

THE 7 TYPES OF LOVE RELATIONSHIPS (AND HOW TO KNOW WHICH ONE YOU’RE IN)

easing transitions. For example, such a relationship can teach a person their first lessons in love, or it may aid someone in coping with separation, loss, or divorce until they heal and

Relationships become confusing

feel ready to embark on a new, long-

when emotions blind us to their

term commitment.

true purpose. Deep attachment can force you to stay in a relationship

Transitory relationships are marked

meant to end a long time ago, and

by desire, physical chemistry,

pride can make you walk away

excitement, and adventure but

from a person who’s actually your

lack dedication and authenticity.

soulmate. At some point in your

Instead, they mostly involve a love of

relationship, you’ll ask yourself,

the five senses. Such relationships

“Why is this person in my life?”

often commence when a person is vulnerable or after a serious

That answer depends on the type

relationship ends. The partners in

of relationship you’re in. Seven

this kind of relationship generally

kinds of love relationships exist,

don’t become too attached and

each serving a unique purpose to

can let go of each other without

your evolution. The one you attract

much trouble. No serious sacrifices

represents the amount of inner

or advancements are made in

work you’ve performed, the lessons

a transitory relationship.

you’ve learned, and the timing of your life. Reflect on your own

This type of relationship is almost

relationship as you learn about the

always temporary but serves

seven types to reveal where your

a greater purpose in gently pushing

love really stands:

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the next. The relationship typically fizzles out once they evolve and

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #2 – TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

are left behind. If you find yourself in a transient relationship, know

A toxic relationship is like trying to

it is necessary, but only for now.

mix oil and water; you can stir them

Unless genuine emotions arise, your

as much as you’d like, but the two

relationship will conclude at the right

substances will never blend. It’s

moment. Don’t expect devotion and

the most problematic of the seven

undying loyalty, or you may become

because it operates at the lowest

discouraged. Simply allow it to run its

energy. You might ask why anyone

predestined course. Try not to stress

would stay in a relationship that’s

or overthink things; just have fun!

plagued by constant bickering and

This is your time to enjoy yourself and

never-ending arguments, but you’d

the person in your life until a better

be surprised to learn what habit

opportunity appears on your path.

makes of us. Toxic relationships

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occur when two people who are

sense of unease. Toxic relationships

simply not meant to together try to

are identified by disputes over

defy all odds. On top of the partners

little things. The partners will turn

being utterly incompatible, their

defensive, if not downright hostile,

relationship turns sour because they

toward each other, one constantly

refuse to do their work. By being

misinterpreting what the other says

careless, negligent, and inconsistent,

and does. For example, one partner

even two people who match well can

could be putting away the dishes,

turn a relationship toxic.

and the other will charge him for putting them in the wrong cabinet.

Neither partner in this type of

Bigger issues are usually also at play,

relationship feels good or at peace.

such as cheating, manipulation,

Even if the relationship is more

withholding, or abuse. Small and

toxic for one person than the other,

large differences characterize a

both partners will feel a nagging

toxic relationship; it’s never just one

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matter. Ironically, the partners return

to seek more normal and compatible

to each other at the end of the day,

companionships.

sometimes like nothing happened; they’ve become dependent on their pernicious bond. Because no work is

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #3 – STAGNANT RELATIONSHIPS

being done to resolve the plethora of problems, the next day delivers the

A stagnant relationship can start

same disasters.

off great and steadily expand until it meets a plateau it can’t get past.

This relationship will eventually end,

Such is the defining feature of this

most likely because each partner

type of relationship: hitting a brick

will have reached his or her limit.

wall that makes everything stop in

Escaping f rom such a relationship is

its tracks. It’s not necessarily that

the best thing that could happen for

the partners did anything wrong or

both partners because it frees them

that they’re not performing the right

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work, like in a toxic relationship, but that the relationship has reached its capacity. At that point, it cannot get any further. Think about what happens to a body of water, such as a pond that doesn’t flow: it becomes infested with bacteria. So, a relationship must also stream forward with momentum and clarity, or it risks becoming lifeless. Stagnant relationships are prevalent. I am f requently visited by clients who state their relationship was chugging along smoothly until it hit a bump in the road that caused it to come to a grinding halt. One client recently reported that she had been dating a great guy with whom she got along well but that several circumstances

screen without a meeting, the couple

prevented them from moving in

decided to date people they could

together: either he had to move f rom

actually see face-to-face. These are

his apartment or his daughter from

just two of many examples of how a

a previous marriage needed a place

relationship can become stagnant.

to stay, preventing my client from moving in. The relationship was never

If the obstacle truly can’t be

able to overcome this hitch and died

surmounted, then the relationship

out. Another client stated that she

will come to a close. The timing

had met a wonderful man online who

depends on how long either partner

lived overseas. The two chatted daily

wants to hold on to the other despite

and felt a mutual, growing affinity for

not being able to take steps in the

one another, but seeing each other

right direction. If you find yourself in

was next to impossible: the pandemic

a stagnant relationship, you’ll have to

hit, and after a year of talking over a

evaluate this for yourself: how long

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can you stand by without making

social standing. Many relationships

progress? Even if it drags on for a

that are meant to end continue

while, a static relationship will sooner

because both partners have become

or later dissipate.

so used to each other that they find it difficult to part ways. In short, they settle for one other. They may share

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #4 – COMPROMISE RELATIONSHIPS

a house and children, making them feel obliged to stay together despite not feeling fulfilled or fully in love.

A compromise relationship is the

Relationships based on compromise

most common of the seven types.

keep us stuck in a comfort zone. It is

It occurs when two people form a

crucial to your well-being to evaluate

union based on an arrangement of

whether you’re truly satisfied with

comfort, such as financial stability or

your partner or merely comfortable.

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Being in a compromise relationship

feel this truth in their hearts but

can become stultifying and

dismiss their intuition. The defining

downright boring; most result in one

quality of a compromise relationship

or both partners straying outside

is that one or both partners feel

for romance, excitement, and love.

complacent but not complete.

Ultimately, most also result in divorce or separation simply because the

This type of relationship can be

perks of comfort can’t compare to a

complimentary, but more in

genuine connection. In my practice,

terms of advancing in the physical

I often hear my patients declare that

world: generating income, buying

their spouse is a great parent to their

properties, raising kids, and so on.

children and provider for their family,

Each partner follows specific roles

but they know their relationship is

and contributes to the success of

a compromise deep down. They can

the couple’s mutual goals. In terms

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of a relationship that’s based on arrangement, it is the free will of either partner to remain or separate. I’ve

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #5 – COMPLIMENTARY RELATIONSHIPS

seen compromise relationships that have lasted a lifetime because neither

A complimentary relationship is

partner wanted to let go of the other.

stronger than a compromising relationship but is a step down from

If you find yourself in a compromised

a soulmate bond. Complimentary

relationship, know that the decision

relationships are harmonious and

to stay or go is your own. However,

uplifting in nature, with each partner

if you crave a love that will nourish

balancing the other physically,

you deeply and wholly, you owe it

emotionally, and mentally. Of

to yourself to seek your soulmate

course, they can still share mutual

(yes, you have one!). No matter how

interests like finances, but a special

comfortable you are or what material

spark in this type of relationship

gains you’ve made, it is your birthright

is not present in a compromise.

to give and receive unconditional love.

Complimentary relationships are

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usually for the long term or lifelong; they generally remain consistent and don’t diminish over time like transitory, toxic, or stagnant ones. Those who are in this kind of relationship will still experience their share of problems. Because there is no smooth sailing in relationships, the partners in a complimentary relationship can still fight over little things, disagree on fundamental matters, and split up if they’re not mindful. Unlike karmic relationships, which are dictated by an action that has to take place, there is plenty of room for f ree will in complementary relationships. This means that

though they don’t quite fit like two

the partners should regard their

pieces of a puzzle (like a soulmate

relationship as a blank canvas:

relationship), the partners in this

although you are a great match, the

relationship will feel a substantial pull

relationship will be what you make of

toward one another. Complimentary

it. Water it, and it will bloom. Neglect

relationships remind us that our

it, and it will wither away. Even

choices can be just as powerful as

though it will take a lot to destroy this

the hand of destiny in shaping the

bond, its integrity can still be broken.

course of a relationship.

The partners in this relationship

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #6 – KARMIC RELATIONSHIPS

can make beautiful things happen if they know each other. They can travel the world, raise a happy family,

A karmic relationship is like a stage

and make lasting memories, among

play: it involves some sort of plot that

other things. They can even run a

must unfold within the relationship,

successful business together. Even

such as breaking behavioral

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patterns or cycles of events. This

you. This relationship can be prone

type of relationship denotes past

to disagreements as the two souls

lives shared by two partners, hence

try to find solutions to old problems.

a strong feeling of familiarity

They may also feel a deep-seated

or “knowing” this person from

desire to be dutiful or sacrificial

somewhere. Two souls that have

for one another, sensing the need

passed through certain experiences

to cooperate to reach higher

together will find each other again

ground. Regardless, those in karmic

to close what was left open.

relationships are guaranteed to learn a lot of necessary lessons, both as a

A karmic relationship is almost

couple and as individuals.

always described as intense: when it’s good, it’s great, and when it’s

After the karma is settled, however,

bad, it’s awful! But there’s instant

the relationship may come to an end

magnetism from the beginning, and

because its role has been rendered.

the person is simply irresistible to

Sometimes, karmic partners can

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also be soulmates. If they are, the

you by helping you in other ways.

relationship will endure beyond

Or, maybe you had children with

the completion of the karma.

this person in a previous lifetime

Karmic relationships are enriching,

and reunited to start a family

progressive, and enlightening,

again. Karmic relationships are

whether temporary or long-term.

powerful and passionate and can

If you find yourself in a karmic

be tremendously positive once you

relationship, you have attracted a

grasp the transcendent nature of

soul you knew before. Try to pinpoint

karma.

the reason why this person is in your life once more: what is it that you must resolve, enact, or change in

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS #7 – SOULMATE RELATIONSHIPS

yourself, in each other, or with each other? For example, maybe your

A soulmate relationship is a one-

partner hurt you in a past life, and

of-a-kind bond reaching deeper

now he or she must make it up to

than physical or emotional levels.

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Soulmate relationships are far and

When two soulmates have found

few, but when they do occur, they

each other, the feeling is likened

often last the test of time. This

to two pieces of a puzzle that align

kind of relationship is marked by

perfectly. First, soulmates can’t wait to

a profound connection between

come home to their significant other

two people, one that may even

after a long day, and they may even

be difficult to convey. Soulmates

be linked telepathically, one partner

just get each other: they can finish

sensing what the other feels, needs,

each other’s sentences, are best

and fears at all times. They never tire

friends as well as lovers, and share

of one another and can work and play

an “us against the world” mentality.

together because of how well they

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complement each other; one elevates the other in thought, potential, and ability. Perhaps most importantly, soulmates are on parallel paths, and their lives and perceptions evolve in the same direction over time. Thus, the relationship is spared petty arguments and bursts with compromise and compassion. This is not to say that soulmates won’t stumble into problems along the course of their journey, but that they’ll be able to resolve their issues more easily than couples who aren’t bound by soulful ties. Very few things in this world can break up two soulmates because their connection is otherworldly. Soulmates can also have mutual karma to work on, but unlike in a karmic relationship, they won’t sever ties once their pastlife business is finished. If you find yourself in a soulmate relationship, congratulations! This

or her side, knowing that your souls

is the purest, highest, and most

have reunited at last.

unconditional relationship type. Be thankful for your union because

It can be difficult to disentangle our

many people wish they could meet

emotional knots and understand

their heart’s other half. Be as involved

the core function of a relationship.

in your relationship as possible and

However, detaching ourselves from

dismiss insignificant problems from

our feelings just enough to assess

the outside world. Together, you are a

the authenticity of a relationship can

sublime force. Treasure your partner

make a world of difference in the

and take joy in every moment by his

quality of love we give and gain.

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5 Key Differences Between Chemistry and Compatibility in Relationships HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE COMPATIBLE? Uncover the difference between chemistry and compatibility in relationships. Learn how shared values and life goals are the key to long-term happiness. The following is an excerpt from our book, Committed: Finding Love and Loyalty Through the Seven Archetypes

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efore commitment comes

in time. No matter your partner's

chemistry, the initial force

archetype, genuine chemistry is

that attracts you to one

measured by the values you hold

another. While it's true that

in common. True compatibility

some archetypes "match" better with

is sharing similar life goals and

others, compatibility is a universal

beliefs about commitment. These

law that applies to all enduring

must match so that you can evolve

relationships. Many people, however,

together, not apart.

have a skewed perception of what it means to be a match. Compatibility

Compromising when disagreements

isn't looking into each other's eyes and

arise!

seeing stars; it's seeing the same stars when you look up at the night sky—

One of these beliefs has to do with

seeing the world with the same eyes.

the way you handle arguments. It's unrealistic to think your relationship

Our clients say, "I felt chemistry right

won't be subject to conflict; conflict

away," or, "We're totally compatible."

is inevitable and must be addressed.

However, when we ask them to

What matters most is how you move

define what they mean by chemistry

past it. But if you both need to be

or compatibility, they answer

right all the time, your disagreements

something along the lines of, "You

will never cease. If you both need

know, that spark." And "spark" means

to talk over each other to get your

getting along without effort, sharing

points across, know that your

a laugh, or holding a meaningful

neighbors will eventually call the

conversation. We can all agree that

police because of all the shouting.

chemistry feels like internal fireworks going off, but we also know that

Knowing how to compromise on your

fireworks fizzle out quickly. And when

disagreements is much more helpful

they wear out, what will remain?

than always agreeing. Specifically, you both have to be willing to commit

Sharing chemistry is fun, not to

to your differences as much as you

mention necessary. But it isn't

commit to your commonalities. You

indicative of a person's capacity to

don't have to have the same religion,

remain loyal or devoted, especially

background, or upbringing as your

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partner because compatibility is

Therefore, both sides must be

being able to say, "To each his own,"

willing to say "I'm sorry" as often as

and accepting the discrepancies

needed. You won't be able to keep

between you. Compromise is the

up a relationship with a person who's

happy medium that keeps two

unwilling to budge from his position.

people together for the long run. Make sure that, regardless of his

This becomes particularly important if

archetype, the person you choose

and when you choose to start a family,

to spend your life with is willing

as both parents have to share one

to put aside differences to keep the

parenting style. The more you see eye

relationship in good standing.

to eye with your partner, the more you can agree on more significant

Being able to apologize is also a

issues and raise your children without

significant factor in compatibility.

dissension. Even when one parent

If you refuse to admit fault and your

disagrees with the other, he still has

partner refuses to admit fault, you're

to back his partner up in front of their

both refusing to resolve a problem.

children. Your kids will respect you

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more as parents if they see that you're

investing. Ensure you understand the

able to co-parent smoothly. Make sure

limitations of your partner's career

that you and your partner can apply

and determine whether he has a

the same methods when it comes to

backup plan. As a financial expert,

your children.

Suze Orman said, "Opposites attract, but I wouldn't bet my money on

As much as compatibility is felt within,

financial opposites."

it exists on the material side of your relationship. So, your earning and

Having parallel views about work

spending habits must match from the

and money will help you spend more

beginning. It will pose many problems

time together, which is essential to

if one partner likes to save his hard-

keep up compatibility. For example,

earned money while the other loves

if your partner works at night and you

to blow it away on luxuries or if one

work during the day, understand that

partner has to pay everything for the

this will cause problems. Or, if your

other. Both partners have to be on

partner is always busy and has no

the same page in terms of saving and

time to spend with you, you won't feel

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like you're in much of a relationship.

over time. When you first meet

When it comes to the notion of time,

your partner, he might be on the

you have to run on the same clock or

same path as you. He might like

set aside days to spend together.

everything you want and have the same hobbies, making you think,

And when you are together, if

Wow, this is great. We have so many

you're compatible, you'll show

things in common! But in one, five,

each other the same level of

or ten years f rom the time you

affection. Emotionally speaking, one

meet, he might not like any of those

partner shouldn't be warm while

things anymore. And you might

the other is cold. The attention you

not either. You could grow to have

give should be given to you, too.

individual tastes and want to do

It's a mark of incompatibility when

different things. Perceptions shift,

one person always gives love and

and your partner can transform into

affection that's not reciprocated.

a new person. What then?

Another inconvenient truth about

You'll find yourself asking, "Where is

compatibility is that people change

the man I fell in love with?"

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This is why you have to

compensate for what the other

compensate for each other's

doesn't have.

weaknesses; what he lacks, you have, and vice versa. If you're good

Be careful of being with someone

at managing time, but your partner

who tends to bring up what you lack,

isn't, you can help him organize

what you're not good at, or what

his schedule and be punctual.

you're sensitive about whenever you

And if he's good at saving money,

get into an argument. A certain level

but you're not, he can help you

of respect must always be upheld

balance your checkbook and cut

within your relationship. Even with

down on unnecessary spending.

the patience of a saint, any woman

Alone, you're incomplete, but

will reach a breaking point and

together, you're supposed to be

either lash out or leave if her partner

whole. You aren't complementary

constantly disrespects her. Authentic

if you're both lacking in the same

compatibility transcends personality

areas. You'll experience the same

types. It's a deep-seated connection

problems repeatedly because

that survives in time because it's

neither partner will be able to

grounded in life principles.

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6 Secrets to Cultivating Emotional Intimacy with Your Partner

By Carmen Harra

motional intimacy is not

The secret to a deep, purpose-driven

only essential to a healthy

life is not to perceive but to feel. We

bond, but it also builds

can see, touch, smell, taste, and hear

long-term harmony and

the world around us, but we cannot

stability between two partners.

truly sense the living spark until we

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feel it. When we watch a movie, it’s

I married him in three weeks, and we

not the scenes we glimpse but the

remained together until he passed

emotions they evoke that make us

away many years later. I believe what

laugh or cry. We must feel all that

kept us together was sharing this

we do—even become intimate with

extraordinary ability to feel each other

it—to grasp its full meaning. This

at all times: he could detect what was

holds especially true in relationships;

bothering me. Likewise, I knew just

we might be physically attracted to

what to bring him before he could

someone, but only when we engage

ask. We maintained our relationship

our emotions do we connect with

not by seeing each other day to day or

that person.

going about the routines of life but by being emotionally intimate.

I met my husband a mere days after I landed in America. Whether it

The magic of intimacy is that it

was fate, coincidence, or pure luck,

can be of the soul. Far surpassing

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physical intimacy, emotional

and close your eyes as you take

intimacy is the glue of any loving

turns saying your wishes out loud.

bond. To be emotionally intimate

Speak in the present tense, as if

means to be empathetically in tune

your dreams were coming true right

with your partner, feeling his fears,

now. You can say things like, “I see

desires, wishes, and needs as if they

us walking into our new home. It’s

were your own. Implement these

a big, brick house with a garden in

six keys to deepen the emotional

f ront,” or whatever it is you both

intimacy of your relationship:

want to achieve. Make this a nightly or weekly habit. Visualizations are

1. See it together. Visualization

profoundly intimate rituals that

exercises can empower your

inspire you to strive towards mutual

relationship. You’ve probably already

goals.

tried this with your partner without even realizing it: imagining your

2. Reinforce your love. When you

future together. Take it one step

speak loving words to your partner,

further. Hold your loved one’s hand

speak them with conviction. This

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means saying a full and excited

3. Pay attention to body language.

“I love you” instead of a hurried “love

The emotions we experience

ya.” Reinforcing your love entails

manifest in physical gestures. Pay

actions as well, like making tiny

attention if your partner heaves a big

sacrifices that mean the world to

sigh when he crosses his legs, where

your significant other: being on time,

he places his hands, and so on. Most

remembering to call, etc. Emphasize

movements are subconscious, but

his importance in your life. Hold your

each one is purposeful. When you

lover close and experience every

note small, inadvertent movements,

element of his being: smell his hair,

you can discern his level of comfort

feel his back, listen to his heartbeat.

as well as what situations cause him

Please close your eyes and tell him

to be uneasy. In time, you can know

what he means to you. Compliment

what your partner is thinking just by

and uplift him. Don’t think too much;

watching how he holds himself.

speak f rom the seat of your soul. Giving and receiving love without

4. Make eye contact. You might

restraint is the most intimate act.

want to avoid looking at your

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significant other in the eye when

Maintain mindful dialogues in which

you’re upset with him. Remember

you explore important topics. Ask

that nothing is as effective at

questions to help your partner release

conveying (or betraying) your

his thoughts, but don’t make the

sentiments, even in such moments

conversation seem like an interview.

as eye contact. Words may reach

Ask about one relevant matter, then

the brain, but a glance can reach

let him talk as much (or as little) as

down to the soul. Eye contact can be

he wants. Listen to his tone, choice

intensely intimate. Get into the habit

of words, and hesitation in saying

of looking your partner in the eye

certain things. Your partner may be

when addressing him to lock in the

trying to tell you how something

potency of your words and intentions.

makes him feel but may have trouble conveying it. Consider the overall

5. Engage in quality conversation.

quality of your conversations: Are

The quality surpasses quantity

you speaking enough, and if so, what

when it comes to conversation.

is the basis of your talks? Are you

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reaching helpful conclusions together

in their totality to heighten intimacy.

or harmful conclusions against each

Excitement, passion, pleasure,

other? The right kind of speech

and joy—these feelings should be

encourages and heals. When all else

captured in their greatest spectrum.

fails, simply ask, “How do you feel?”

Share positive sentiments that bring you closer together. Dismiss your

6. Allow emotions to flow. Some

fears of becoming vulnerable and

people are af raid to open up and feel

allow your feelings to flow.

because they believe it’ll somehow make them weak or more susceptible

Emotional intimacy is not only

to being hurt. Heavy emotions like

essential to a healthy bond, but

anger, bitterness, and resentment

it also builds long-term harmony

should be released in healthy ways so

and stability between two partners.

as not to disrupt the dynamic of your

Practice my six secrets to emotional

relationship. Pleasant emotions, on

intimacy and reach the passionate

the other hand, must be experienced

peak of your relationship.

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In the cosmic symphony of existence, numbers emerge as the eloquent messengers of the universe. They stand as ethereal bridges, connecting us to the divine, where the Spirit's whispers convey guidance, encouragement, warnings, and tender nudges toward our higher selves. Each of us bears a numerological code, an ancient and sacred inscription etched into the fabric of our being from the moment of our birth. Within this code resides our divine DNA, a luminous blueprint that orchestrates the grand tapestry of our destiny. These numbers, teeming with potent energy, dance seamlessly into the realms of our thoughts, emotions, and actions, intricately weaving themselves into the narrative of our relationships. In the enthralling narrative of 'Plus One: The Numerology of Relationships,' we embark on an enchanting voyage into the profound impact of numbers on the tapestry of love. 'Plus One' unfurls the arcane wisdom concealed within the numerical tapestry and its tangible manifestations in the realm of love. Equipped with this sacred knowledge, you will stand poised to decipher the intricate patterns of your numerological identity, chart the course to your ideal connection, and unearth the irrefutable truths beneath the surface of your relationship. Embrace the magic of numerology and embark on a transformative odyssey toward a deeper comprehension of love and the profound connections that grace our lives.

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The Ultimate Guide to Resolving Love Karma And Finding Happiness in Relationships By Carmen Harra

Break free from repetitive patterns in love and create a fresh start with Dr. Carmen Harra's expertise.

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f you feel stuck in your love life,

among people or “passed down”

unresolved old love karma may

through generations.

be to blame. Old love karma is particularly effective at blocking

Your karma is yours, just like your

relationships from progressing. Many

eye color, voice, and blood type. It

misconceive their karma as “what

belongs to your being, although you

goes around comes around,” but

can’t see it the way you see your

this narrowly explains an elaborate,

physical features when you look in

eternal principle. The truth is that we

a mirror. But karma makes sure its

all carry karma, both good and bad.

presence is felt, manifesting as the

Your karma can draw its origins in

repetition of events, situations, and

your past lives, and chances are that

people in your life. It will knock at

you’ve created a bit of new karma

your door time and time again until

through your current experiences,

you open and say, “I get it!” In terms

too. Karma can also be shared

of love, unsettled old love karma

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will cause you to experience similar

Carry out these six steps to resolve

scenarios over and over, such as

your old love karma and attract

meeting the same types of partners

a new relationship with unlimited

and enduring the same heartache,

potential or help your current

until you become aware and take

relationship overcome karmic

appropriate action. If you want to

hurdles:

clear your love karma once and for all, you must welcome it as you

1. Understand your karma. If you

would an old (but annoying) friend.

want to change a story’s ending,

You must come to terms with it,

you have to revisit its beginning.

accepting what has happened while

Understanding your karma requires

acknowledging that you hold the

that you return to the origin: When,

power over what will happen. A clean

where, how, and why did this pattern

karmic slate sets your soul free to

start? What exactly keeps repeating?

fulfill your highest purpose and to

Is it that you keep bringing in

give and receive the love you deserve.

partners with toxic qualities

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(cheaters, addicts, narcissists, etc.),

respond as we did before. If we do,

that identical problems pop up

we repeat the karmic cycle. It’s like

in your relationships, or that your

playing a video game: Go down the

romances all end in disappointment?

road where you know the monster

Identify the issue and its source:

is hiding, and you’ll never get past

Did your parents suffer similar

that level! You have to remember to

circumstances, or was it something

take the road that’s clear. A real-life

that happened to you as a child?

example would be that if you keep

Recognizing the reality of your karma

attracting “bad” partners, yet you

entails a bit of introspection, but

turn down good guys and give every

it’s the first step toward true karmic

notorious cheater a chance, how

resolution.

do you expect to meet an honest person? Reverting to habit will keep

2. Respond differently. Karma likes

you stuck in frustrating patterns.

to test us by steering us towards

Break the behaviors that tie you to

the same situations to see if we’ll

negative karma. Implement new

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past. I advised her to move, let go of this ordeal, and start over. As my client settled into her bright new home, her health started to improve, and she even met a new partner. Don’t be afraid to leave behind a place that is burdened by bad energy or impeding you from a happy relationship. 4. Practice forgiveness. No one can hurt you if you forgive them because forgiveness is a strong act that takes away their power. When you forgive, you regain control of your karma. So forgive your former intentions, thoughts, and actions to

partners, your parents, your younger

reap new results.

self who didn’t know any better, your mailman—forgive everybody!

3. Change the environment. Staying

Forgiveness breaks down hardened

in a place that carries bad memories

karma and detaches it f rom you. It

won’t lead to personal progress.

helps you move forward by gifting

Sometimes, the best way to close

you with wisdom, resilience, and

a karmic door is to remove yourself

new drive. A great way to start

from an environment that’s heavy

the process is to acknowledge

with reminders of the past. One of

who has hurt you and determine

my clients was so devastated by

whether you still harbor emotions

her husband’s betrayal that she

like resentment or bitterness.

developed cancer. After she divorced,

Even if someone caused you

my client continued living in the

harm a decade ago, the memory

same house and suffering from the

can still rear its ugly head in your

same illness. Karma can attach itself

relationships. Know that no matter

to a place and trap us both physically

what happened or what was done

and emotionally in the pain of the

to you, you always have the ability to

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heal yourself; Forgiveness is the glue that makes you whole again. 5. Generate good karma. One of the best ways to eradicate negative karma is to replace it with positive karma. The general rule behind good karma (as well as most religions) is to do what you want to be done to you. When it comes to love karma, this means not interfering in other people’s relationships, not being with someone who’s already taken, and treating your partner with honesty and respect. Be careful not to succumb to situations that trigger new karma, like retaliating against

yourself: “I am letting go of old karma

lovers who have caused you pain,

that has held me back from finding

acting egoistically or deceptively to

unconditional love” and “I welcome a

get your way, or leaving a lot of loose

relationship with endless possibilities

ends when you walk away from a

into my life.” If you’re already in

relationship. When in doubt, follow

a relationship, you can say: “I’m

the Golden Rule.

sending the bad karma back where it began. I’m f ree to manifest love,

6. Perform cleansing rituals.

loyalty, and joy in my relationship.”

Small, symbolic acts performed

This breathing exercise is one of the

with mindfulness and meaning can

many rituals you can repeat each day

reshape your karmic reality. Close

to move out of stagnant karma and

your eyes and inhale deeply, feeling

purify your love energy.

your core fill up with fresh air. Hold your breath for a few seconds, then

Your karma may be part of you, but

exhale slowly. As you exhale, imagine

it’s a part you can improve. Follow

any dark, pent-up energy being

these steps to clear old love karma

released f rom your being. Affirm to

and foster a fulfilling relationship.

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Need Help Overcoming Loneliness? A Relationship Expert's Guide to Overcoming Post-Pandemic Loneliness

By Dr. Carmen Harra

oneliness is a universal

post-pandemic loneliness and

emotion, but it should

rekindle meaningful connections.

never dominate our lives. As we navigate the post-

The Persistence of Loneliness:

pandemic world, it's essential to recognize that lingering loneliness

Despite the return to social

can be a sign of deeper issues. This

activities post-pandemic, many of

guide will explore how to conquer

us still grapple with loneliness. It's

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essential to understand that these

you feel afterward, and let these

feelings aren't mere inconveniences

interactions ease your way back into

but rather signals from our inner

a vibrant social circle.

selves, indicating a need for change Choose Comfort: The lifting of

and growth.

restrictions doesn't mean you Six Relationship Expert Tips

must accept every invitation. Be

for Reconnection:

selective, attending events where you genuinely feel valued and

Take It Slowly: Re-entering social

comfortable. Consider your emotions

life after lockdowns can be daunting.

before accepting an invitation –

Don't force yourself into extensive

your well-being matters more than

social gatherings if you're not ready.

temporary distractions.

Start small and gradually increase your interactions. For instance,

Surround Yourself with the Right

attend an event for a short time,

People: As Robin Williams wisely

then extend it gradually. Assess how

noted, true loneliness arises when

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we're with the wrong people.

an emotional diary for a month,

Evaluate your relationships;

recording your daily feelings. This

if someone consistently makes you

process will help you pinpoint the

feel uncomfortable or undervalued,

sources of your loneliness and

it's time to reconsider that

identify potential solutions.

connection. Seek out genuine and kindhearted individuals who

Create Positive Ripples: Doing

appreciate your authenticity.

good deeds connects you with a community and reinforces your

Uncover Emotion Origins:

sense of purpose. Acts of kindness

To combat isolation, delve into

trigger feel-good hormones,

the roots of your loneliness. What

reminding you of your power to

triggers these feelings? Are they

impact the world positively. It

linked to past traumas, losses, or

deepens your connection with

a sense of emptiness? Maintain

others and reaffirms our shared

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human purpose: to love and be

the Divine. Strengthening this

loved. A single compassionate act

connection brings profound

can change lives and eradicate

comfort and fulfillment.

loneliness f rom your heart and mind.

Loneliness is a challenging emotion, but it's within our power

Seek the Divine Within: Even in

to conquer it. As we navigate

solitude, remember that you're

the post-pandemic world, let's

never truly alone; you're perpetually

heed our inner signals and take

connected to a higher self and the

proactive steps to revitalize our

Divine. No matter past betrayals or

relationships. By understanding the

abandonment, you have yourself

sources of loneliness and nurturing

to rely on. Embrace a faith-based

meaningful connections, we can

mindset that assures you're always

banish isolation and embrace

accompanied and protected by

a richer, more fulfilling life.

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Rewriting Your Story: How Affirmations Can Change Your Life

By Carmen Harra

nlock Your Potential:

Words are responsible for everything

Harness the Power of

we hold to be true; We believe the

Affirmations to Rewrite

things we believe because someone

Your Life! Affirmations

spoke to them to us. But in our day-

are a wonderful tool to enhance

to-day lives, we rarely recognize the

your life positively!

magnitude of our speech. We tell OM TIMES | January 2024

ourselves both good and bad things

and “I am ready for love” are just a

every day, often without paying

few of the endless declarations you

attention to what we’re speaking into

can make to replenish your well-

existence. Out of habit, we might

being and re-center your soul. You

say, “I’m scared,” I’m tired,” “I’m

will feel calmer and more grounded.

desperate,” “I’m stuck,” or “I’m not

Recited with purpose and conviction,

good enough.” We don’t realize that

the right affirmation can shift your

such phrases eventually become the

perception entirely.

truth of our lives. Because what we keep thinking, we speak. What we

The key is personalizing your mantras

keep speaking, we do. And what we

so they come from your heart. Make

keep doing, we become.

them specific to your circumstances. So instead of saying a vague, “I am

A major step to changing your life

powerful,” say, “I am powerful enough

is changing how you relate to your

to overcome my breakup and attract

problems and, by extension, how you

a dedicated, loyal partner.” Pick your

speak about them: When a problem

favorite affirmations from the list

comes up, what words do you use to

below, change them as needed, and

describe the situation? Do you tell

repeat them throughout the day.

others that you’re “helpless” and a

You will see that with time, these

“victim?” Then you will continue to

empowering statements will come

be. You have to take control of the

effortlessly. By Carmen Harra

things that threaten to take control of you. This process starts with a

Affirmations are a wonderful tool to

simple “I am.”

enhance your life positively!

“I am” is the single most important

Words are responsible for everything

phrase you will ever speak because

we hold to be true; We believe the

what follows these two words dictates

things we believe because someone

who you are: what you believe and

spoke to them to us. But in our day-

invite into your life. “I am” becomes

to-day lives, we rarely recognize the

even more meaningful when you re-

magnitude of our speech. We tell

define yourself throughout the day:

ourselves both good and bad things

“I am confident,” “I am beautiful,”

every day, often without paying

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attention to what we’re speaking into

describe the situation? Do you tell

existence. Out of habit, we might

others that you’re “helpless” and a

say, “I’m scared,” I’m tired,” “I’m

“victim?” Then you will continue to

desperate,” “I’m stuck,” or “I’m not

be. You have to take control of the

good enough.” We don’t realize that

things that threaten to take control

such phrases eventually become the

of you. This process starts with

truth of our lives. Because what we

a simple “I am.”

keep thinking, we speak. What we keep speaking, we do. And what we

“I am” is the single most important

keep doing, we become.

phrase you will ever speak because what follows these two words dictates

A major step to changing your life

who you are: what you believe and

is changing how you relate to your

invite into your life. “I am” becomes

problems and, by extension, how you

even more meaningful when you re-

speak about them: When a problem

define yourself throughout the day:

comes up, what words do you use to

“I am confident,” “I am beautiful,”

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and “I am ready for love” are just a

favorite affirmations from the list

few of the endless declarations you

below, change them as needed, and

can make to replenish your well-

repeat them throughout the day.

being and re-center your soul. You

You will see that with time, these

will feel calmer and more grounded.

empowering statements will come

Recited with purpose and conviction,

effortlessly.

the right affirmation can shift your perception entirely.

35 AFFIRMATIONS THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE

The key is personalizing your mantras

By Carmen Harra

so they come from your heart. Make them specific to your circumstances.

Affirmations are a wonderful tool

So instead of saying a vague, “I am

to enhance your life positively!

powerful,” say, “I am powerful enough to overcome my breakup and attract

Words are responsible for everything

a dedicated, loyal partner.” Pick your

we hold to be true; We believe the

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things we believe because someone

keep speaking, we do. And what we

spoke to them to us. But in our day-

keep doing, we become.

to-day lives, we rarely recognize the magnitude of our speech. We tell

A major step to changing your life

ourselves both good and bad things

is changing how you relate to your

every day, often without paying

problems and, by extension, how you

attention to what we’re speaking into

speak about them: When a problem

existence. Out of habit, we might

comes up, what words do you use to

say, “I’m scared,” I’m tired,” “I’m

describe the situation? Do you tell

desperate,” “I’m stuck,” or “I’m not

others that you’re “helpless” and a

good enough.” We don’t realize that

“victim?” Then you will continue to be.

such phrases eventually become the

You have to take control of the things

truth of our lives. Because what we

that threaten to take control of you.

keep thinking, we speak. What we

This process starts with a simple “I am.”

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“I am” is the single most important

the right affirmation can shift your

phrase you will ever speak because

perception entirely.

what follows these two words dictates who you are: what you believe and

The key is personalizing your mantras

invite into your life. “I am” becomes

so they come from your heart. Make

even more meaningful when you re-

them specific to your circumstances.

define yourself throughout the day:

So instead of saying a vague, “I am

“I am confident,” “I am beautiful,”

powerful,” say, “I am powerful enough

and “I am ready for love” are just a

to overcome my breakup and attract

few of the endless declarations you

a dedicated, loyal partner.” Pick your

can make to replenish your well-

favorite affirmations from the list

being and re-center your soul. You

below, change them as needed, and

will feel calmer and more grounded.

repeat them throughout the day.

Recited with purpose and conviction,

You will see that with time, these

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empowering statements will come

please others. Instead, I work to

effortlessly.

fulfill my authentic self. 3. I am in control of my life.

35 LIFE-CHANGING AFFIRMATIONS

I reject anything that harms me and embrace everything that

I am more powerful than my

delivers joy. I am a master over my

pain. I have the strength to defeat

circumstances.

any adversity. I break through

4. I am worthy. I deserve the

barriers and leap over hurdles.

incredible things that are coming

Nothing is as great as my own

to me. 5. I am attracting the perfect

power. 2. I am in love with who I’m becoming. I give up on trying to

person for me. The universe is sending me a committed,

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9. I am talented. I have been given endless skills that I utilize each day. 10. I am emotionally pure. A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love. 11. I am extremely successful. My career is growing, expanding, and thriving. 12. I am happy. Today, I choose joy over suffering. I am content with my accomplishments and blessings. 13. I am loved. I am appreciated, admired, and respected by the people who matter most to me. 14. I am resilient. My ability to overcome challenges is unfailing. I am leaving my pain in the past. I am healing. 15. I am purposeful. I am meant to faithful, and unconditionally loving

be here to impact this world in

partner.

profound ways. My divine destiny

6. I am healthy, stable, and sound. My body is in excellent shape, and my mind is at ease. I accept my flaws and embrace the totality of

is unfolding before my eyes. 16. I am limitless. My soul is eternal. My potential is infinite. 17. I am fearless. My uncertainties are simply melting away. My

who I am.

doubts are replaced by faith.

7. I am unstoppable. I am determined to reach my goals and make them a reality. I remain

18. I am beautiful. I radiate charm and grace.

undeterred from my dreams.

19. I am alive right now. I choose to

8. I am superior to negativity. I rise

engage fully and deeply in this

above my troubles.

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20. I am bold. I have the courage to

attention to divine signs. I am well-

take necessary risks that shape

guided in my endeavors every step

my future for the better.

of the way.

21. I am evolving. I am becoming

24. I am proud of myself. I have

the best version of myself.

achieved so much already and will

I am growing smarter, wiser,

achieve so much more.

and more enlightened every

25. I am all-knowing. I already know

moment. I make wise decisions

all that I need to know, and all the

that lead to my ultimate good.

guidance I need is within me.

22. I am desired by my significant

26. I am free. My spirit soars. No

other. I am irresistible to the

burdens weigh me down. My life

person I love. Our bond is

is uncomplicated, unbound, and

fortified each day.

free to take its predestined course.

23. I am in tune with the universe.

27. I am vibrant. I am brimming with

I listen to my intuition and pay

creativity and new ideas. I am

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Everything I set my mind to, I accomplish. I treat myself with patience, compassion, and kindness. 31. I am protected. The divine watches over me at all times. Everything that is happening is happening for my greater good. 32. I am magic. I manifest what I envision. I have the ability to bring anything I choose to reality. I am planting the seeds for a brilliant future at this very moment. 33. I am at peace. I choose to see others with forgiving eyes, especially those who have hurt me. I understand the bigger reason and accept all things as excited to meet like-minded

they are.

people and connect with the

34. I am detaching from negativity.

wonderful world around me.

I walk away from anything that does not serve me. There is only one place for positivity in my life.

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35. I am the architect of my life.

The Unity Pow-wow 28. I am reborn. My life is just

I built its foundation and chose its

beginning. My path is carved

contents. I decorate my life with

towards greatness.

hope, healing, and happiness.

29. I am unafraid to say no. I do only what I feel comfortable

Being aware of your words will

doing. I stand up for myself

multiply your inner power and help

whenever necessary.

you uphold a positive perspective.

30. I am my own best friend. I can rely on myself for anything.

Practice the above mantras to feel inspired, enabled, and uplifted.

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Committed conveys a deep understanding of the seven love archetypes that exist, along with their unique strengths, weaknesses, and varying capacities to uphold a dedicated relationship. It leads us on a journey of self-discovery as we shed old fears and knock down emotional barriers to cultivate a truly committed relationship with a partner who best complements our archetype. Through timeless wisdom and extensive experience, Dr. Carmen Harra and Alexandra Harra help us advance down the path toward the love we deserve. Committed will make you reevaluate the way you think about love. It is a relationship manual that unfolds in two parts: the work you’ll need to perform on the inside and the seven distinct archetypes you’ll encounter on the outside. The goal of Committed is to help you find and keep the love you deserve: an authentic, impassioned relationship that fills you with excitement each morning and puts your mind at ease every night. “Committed is a practical manual for anyone seeking to build and maintain a stable relationship. It offers grounded, realistic advice for readers to strengthen their bond with their significant other and get loyalty from the one they love.” —Dr. John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

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The Power of Healing Family Rifts: Nine Actions for a Happier Home By Carmen Harra

The Power of Healing Family Rifts: Nine Actions for a Happier Home

ou can choose to heal

NINE WAYS TO HEAL FAMILY RIFTS

family rifts or allow them

& BECOME MORE FUNCTIONAL

to grow wider—to help your family become

more functional or dysfunctional.

The larger-than-life bond of family shines through sorrows and joys alike.

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The divine connection within a family

be family members you can’t stand

is a light that cannot be dimmed,

and others you would have nothing

no matter the distance between

in common with. But your family

its members. Family relationships

would be perfect for working on your

are complex, intense, and powerful

karma. These details were etched

at best. They require not only

into your karmic contract, which

patience but an understanding of

outlined who your family members

both their psychological and karmic

would be, what challenges you would

components.

have to face with each of them, and what you would have to do to solve

As a soul on the other side, you

the problems between you.

agreed to reincarnate into a certain family to further your spiritual

Because you have f ree will, you

evolution. Of course, the family you

can heal family rifts or allow

would be born into wouldn’t be

them to grow wider—to help your

“perfect” by any means: there would

family become more functional or

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dysfunctional. Even if your family

comes between families in ugly ways.

members don’t always cooperate,

It can devastate a family because the

the choice to encourage healthy

members begin to see themselves

dynamics is yours. Here are nine

as individuals disassociated from

actions you can take every day to

the whole. Pride causes us to lose

fortify deeper and happier bonds

the sense of unity and only look out

with your loved ones:

for ourselves. Many clients say they haven’t spoken to their parents or

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #1 – PUT YOUR PRIDE ASIDE.

siblings in years. When I ask them why, I usually receive a “proud” answer: “They hurt me . . .” or “They

Pride is the number one cause of

did this to me. . ..” The answer always

familial grief. That’s because our ego,

implies a “me” factor—that’s pride

the generator of our pride, makes us

showing its ugly head. In a family,

stubbornly hold on to the notion that

it’s easy to find reasons not to get

we and only we can be right. Pride

along—after all, just because you’re

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family doesn’t mean you’re not completely different. But you can remain close by letting go of pride and having a sense of humor about conflicting ideas and preferences. Pride makes us do foolish things we regret, but it should never cause us to ostracize someone we care about. Don’t be so proud that you allow a resolvable matter to become a karmic rift in your clan.

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #2 – SET LIMITS FOR OTHERS AND YOURSELF. Setting boundaries means protecting yourself f rom egos triggered by old issues and karma that are probably

the emotions have settled. Then,

carried over f rom past lifetimes.

you’re better able to tolerate each

It means making choices like not

other. Limit the time the gathering

drinking to the point of doing

lasts, too, and make it easy for family

something you’ll later regret, not

members to take their leave without

letting your f rustration build without

drama ensuing. Avoid conversations

taking some time out to defuse

and activities that have led to

your anger, and not attending a

conflict in the past. Relationships

gathering where you know you’ll

require a degree of discipline, and it

encounter someone who clashes

becomes your responsibility to steer

with you. Whenever possible, avoid

clear of scenarios that play on your

situations that are bound to become

weaknesses or push others’ buttons.

bad ones. Know the limits of your

That way, you can achieve a healthy

patience. If your family is driving you

degree of separation f rom others so

crazy lately and you’re under much

they can’t negatively influence your

stress, limit your interactions until

well-being.

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HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #3 – MEDITATE AND REFLECT ON MODULATING YOUR EMOTIONS.

to clear your heart and mind of any lingering anger, irritation, or f rustration before stepping out to be in the company of others. A quick five-minute meditation will help

Many times, it is we who stir the

relax you and turn your mood from

pot of drama. Our own escalating

anxious to excited. Perform this

emotions can quickly turn a day

check-in with yourself throughout

out into a disaster. When you leave

the day to keep the emotional

the house, don’t just check if you

waters in your home calm.

have your cell phone and wallet— check how you feel and why you feel this way. Take a moment and ask

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #4 – SETTLE OLD DIFFERENCES.

yourself: Do I feel tense, irritable, or stressed today? Will these feelings

If there’s been discord between you

create f riction with others or make

and someone else, don’t leave the

it difficult for me to enjoy myself?

situation unsettled, as old problems

If the answer is yes, take a moment

tend to become recurring problems.

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Make a list of anyone with whom you

no grudges. You will feel a surge of

share unresolved conflict—friends

serenity when you truly forgive and

you don’t see eye to eye with, family

forge ahead.

members who make you irate, even people with whom you’ve had a bad falling out. Remember, all your relationships affect one another. A

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #5 – REFRAIN FROM PROVOCATION.

spat with your mother will affect your relationship with your daughter, even

There is no need to give in when

if they live many miles apart. Promise

someone is pushing your buttons.

to resolve these differences you have

Take a deep breath and commit to

with others one way or another,

resolving the situation within yourself

even if it’s sending the individuals

before asking the other person to

on your list a quick e-mail wishing

change their behavior. Work on your

them well and sending them peace.

own issues and then say gently,

Detach f rom negative memories by

“I know you probably don’t realize

surrendering your ego and stating

it, but when you do [name the

to the other person that you hold

behavior], I feel [name how you feel].”

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Give the other person the benefit

related in this life so that you could

of the doubt and an opportunity to

learn f rom each other. Walking away

apologize and shift their behavior.

f rom an argument instead of giving

Don’t take the behavior personally;

in to it will command respect and

your family member may be

recognition and open the doors for

disrespecting you at that moment,

love and kindness to flow f reely.

but have deep respect for you overall. Whenever someone provokes you, be the bigger person and distract

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #6 – GIVE PEOPLE TIME.

yourself f rom your emotions by reminding yourself that you are

Change is a process, not a result,

above arguments. The greater truth

and it requires time. People may

is that your souls chose to be closely

need to change, but it takes a while

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to see this and begin working on themselves. The best thing you

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #7 – WEAR THEIR SHOES.

can do for a family member who is difficult to handle is to gently push

As they say, “Be kind, for everyone

them toward the changes they need

you meet is fighting a battle you

to make while being patient and

know nothing about.” You must

offering unconditional support.

try to imagine what it’s like to walk someone else’s path in life (even

The best way to help someone

if you think you can imagine it, it’s

change is by showing them what

probably nothing like you imagine).

change looks like—change yourself

It’s easy to pinpoint the shortcomings

to reflect the behaviors they need to

of your family members—they

work on. For example, if you have a

may be judgmental, hypocritical,

family member who is always bad-

or annoying. But it’s more difficult

mouthing everybody, don’t indulge

to understand the roots of their

in this behavior yourself. Tell them

weaknesses. You might think you

you won’t partake in gossip or

know them well because you have

spread negative words about others.

lived with them for years, but you

In time, they’ll understand they can’t

can’t truly know what is going on

get away with it in front of you. They

in another person’s heart because

may even understand that what

you haven’t lived that person’s life or

they’re doing is wrong and modify

fought their battles.

their behavior. In the meantime, don’t nag them or criticize them

Your family wants what’s best for

constantly. Allow them to evolve at

you, but they may have trouble

their own pace. Rising above the

expressing that or go about it

behaviors of others sets you up as an

completely inappropriately. When

example for change. Your patience

you understand this, you learn not

may be tested as the people in your

to take their words and actions that

family perform their inner work, but

may be out of line too personally.

this gives you a chance to expand

You begin to see the roots of their

your tolerance threshold for others,

weaknesses surface, the bare wound

making you a better, more evolved

of their failings. Appreciate that sort

person.

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to wear each other’s shoes, even if

we realize it or not, even f riends

the size doesn’t fit, to understand

and coworkers can play a big role

where others are coming from before

in our family dynamic. The energy

judging or blaming.

of everyone around us seeps into our relationships, often without our

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #8 – BEWARE OF EXTERNAL INFLUENCES.

awareness. The best thing we can do is be mindful of our influences and keep our relationships as separate as we can. This is not to say you should

External influences are often the

cut off the people you love. But when

cause of family dramas. For example,

a person’s energy has become toxic,

you may have problems with your

you can—and must—keep them at

mother because of your sister or

arm’s length. Set firm boundaries.

argue with your mother-in-law

You may have to say, “I appreciate

because she is pressuring you to

your concern and advice, and I’ll

parent in a certain way. Whether

consider it,” and make a note to

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yourself not to discuss the situation with that person any further.

HEAL YOUR FAMILY RIFTS #9 – HAVE BONDING RITUALS.

You can also compromise with the people affecting your relationships

People sometimes wince at the

and those affected by them. Stand

idea of “family bonding” because

up firmly but politely against people

they think it entails seeing distant,

who are negatively impacting your

somewhat irritating family members

relationships. Show them love and

on special occasions under less-

compassion, but do not tolerate their

than-pleasant circumstances. But

unnecessary impressions on other

family bonding can happen at any

aspects of your life. In terms of family,

time, whether gathering to watch a

appreciating the young and old alike

movie together or simply walking the

and absorbing the unique wisdom of

family dog around the block. Even

each family member without letting

arguments have their place in a family

them influence you will strengthen

that wishes to have strong bonds

the bond of kinship.

because you share emotions with OM TIMES | January 2024

your family members. The process of

members, being attentive to their

making up, healing, and learning after

needs and trying to incorporate

an argument can leave you closer

activities they like to do. The less

than before. Conflict is an opportunity

you look at forming bonds as a

for all parties to grow and master their

chore, the less it becomes one, and

karma. It also is an opportunity for

the more it turns into a pleasure.

developing greater trust and intimacy.

Change your mentality f rom “I need

The key is to make the conflict as

to get along with this person”

loving as possible—to be patient and

to “I want to get along with this

truly listen to and respect each other.

person.” Put effort into getting along with your parents and children.

Bonding can occur whenever

Ask them about their feelings and

you spend time with your family

their stories. Do you know what

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your father wanted to be when he

Practice these nine actions to

grew up or whether his passions

resolve family problems and enjoy

were encouraged? Do you know your

a healthier dynamic with your

mother’s greatest disappointment

loved ones. If their behavior is too

or your stepdaughter’s biggest

intense or your bond is f rayed,

fear? Better yet, can you relate to

value them and wish them healing.

their anecdotes, or do you share

Pray for them, and pray for yourself,

similar experiences? Look past the

too. Try to protect them while

behaviors that bother you and open

protecting yourself. Your karma will

your heart to hear their unique

remain unstained, and your bond

stories. Beyond the complications

will heal in this lifetime. Love them

and disagreements, there is a greater

today as they are, and don’t forget

reason they are in your life.

to love yourself. OM TIMES | January 2024

Exploring the Warning Signs: Red Flags in a New Relationship By Carmen Harra

Honor yourself by walking away

partner ignites your intuition.

from an unhealthy relationship

Discover the 10 red flags you should

sooner rather than later if your

never ignore in a new relationship.

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10 RED FLAGS YOU SHOULD NEVER

words, and actions more closely.

IGNORE IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

Refrain f rom making excuses for

this person just because you’ve hen properly

developed feelings. Be honest

perceived, Red

with yourself and acknowledge

Flags can avoid a

when your partner isn’t making

lot of trouble for

you happy. Take divine signs

you. So, You meet someone who’s

seriously. It’s not an accident if

simply charming and irresistible.

you come across something that

You’re excited about this person

proves this person isn’t who he

and begin dating, spending more

says he is or is acting in bad faith.

and more time together. Everything

Remember: people lie, but your

is going great, except that your

intuition doesn’t.

new partner slips into certain “bad habits” here and there. You reassure yourself that this is normal. But is it?

2. IT’S COMPLICATED FROM THE BEGINNING.

Little tendencies can be early

The perfect partner doesn’t exist

indicators of more significant

because we all carry a bit of

issues that will rear their ugly heads

baggage. That’s normal. What’s

in time. Honor your wellbeing by

not normal is a person who hauls

walking away from an unhealthy

entire loads f rom their past into

relationship sooner rather than

your present life. Your partner may

later if your partner gives off the

have children f rom a previous

following red flags:

relationship, but his kids shouldn’t be making your life miserable. Your partner may have trust

1. YOUR INTUITION IS NAGGING YOU.

issues f rom past experiences, but he shouldn’t force you to prove

The first source that will reveal to

your every move. If a relationship

you something is wrong will be

starts this burdensome, it will only

your inner voice. Pay close attention

worsen in time. Release it f rom

to gut feelings that ask you to

your life and find a simple and

analyze your partner’s intentions,

straightforward love.

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3. HE DOESN’T WANT TO COMPROMISE.

4. HE HAS MOOD SWINGS. Steer clear of the person who veers

The couple that can’t compromise

to moody extremes because this

can’t survive. A person’s (in)ability

will ruin your emotional stability.

to compromise quickly becomes

It is an important red flag…Your

evident. At this point in the

partner shouldn’t leave you

relationship, your partner should

exhausted by the end of the day!

offer compromise freely, and you

You become what you’re around. If

should take turns accommodating

you’re exposed to anger, bitterness,

each other. The fact that he doesn’t

or resentment, you might find

means the relationship will require

yourself mimicking these emotions.

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coaster that will take a mental and

a person must also be charitable with

physical toll on you. If your partner

his time, affection, advice, and good

shifts f rom delighted to depressed

intentions. Stinginess, greediness,

in seconds, understand that a

and egoism are serious red flags.

psychological imbalance exists.

While you shouldn’t expect to receive

And if he or she gets angry over

the world on a silver platter, you

everything, know that this anger

should expect your partner to offer

may spill onto you one day, too.

help when you’re in genuine need. The person who wants to share his

5. HE’S NOT GENEROUS.

world with you is preparing for a future with you. Generosity is rare, so

Generosity takes many forms, the

be grateful for the partner giving in

most obvious being monetary. But

all senses of the word.

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6. HE’S CHRONICALLY UNFAITHFUL.

we believe we can change people or

Mom used to say, “Once a cheater,

they’ve been in past relationships.

always a cheater.” I don’t quite agree

We experience deep disappointment

because people possess the free will

when we realize that we can’t change

to break even their most addictive

anybody; he must change himself.

mold their character or that they will somehow be “different” from us than

patterns. But if you discover your new partner being disloyal from this early on, spare yourself the heartbreak and move along. Chances are that he was

7. HE TREATS OTHERS POORLY.

prone to dishonesty long before you

Be careful getting too attached to

and will continue to be unfaithful

someone who talks down to others, is

throughout your relationship. Often,

rude without reason, or has negative

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relationships with family members.

This is a major red flag, and one of

People who have problems release

the most f requent complaints I hear

them upon others, and these

f rom my clients is that their new

problems can’t be resolved until they

partner doesn’t initiate conversation;

look within and eliminate the root

they have to be the ones to send

cause. Your partner may treat you

the first message, or there’s no

nicely initially, but the same issues he

telling when he’ll actually call. Even

has with other people in his life will

worse is when he shows a pattern of

creep into your relationship.

disappearing and then reappearing as if nothing happened. Beware

8. HE COMES AND GOES.

of settling with a partner who’s

It’s demoralizing when your partner

You will find yourself telling this

doesn’t check up on you regularly.

person the same thing over and

emotionally ignorant or distant.

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over again, and it’ll go in one ear

he will treat you. If your partner

and come out the other. One of the

is self-destructive, how can he

most outstanding qualities you can

make you whole? Suppose he’s

find in a partner is someone who’s

completely careless with his

emotionally in tune with you.

home, job, belongings, health, finances, or appearance. In that

9. HE DOESN’T TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF.

case, chances are he won’t be able to lend you the care you need and deserve. Look for someone who handles himself responsibly,

How someone treats (or mistreats)

lovingly, and gently so that he can

himself is reflective of the way,

treat you the same way.

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10. HE CAN’T COMMIT – BIG RED FLAG!

one serious relationship? It will be difficult for your partner to keep up long-term love if he’s used to jumping

Lasting relationships are the deeply

from romance to romance. A partner

fulfilling bonds we crave, but not all

who both expresses the desire for

of us can commit. It would be best if

commitment and reinforces words

you were with a partner who wants

with actions is a real treasure. Our

to fortify a relationship with you

impulses often betray our true nature.

through time and understands the

Reflect on these ten red flags before

hard work needed to do so. Consider

engaging in a new relationship, and

your partner’s dating history: have

put your own safety and tranquility

they been able to uphold at least

first. Here to healthy relationships!

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Decoding Your Love's Compatibility 13 Ways to Assess If They're the Right Person for You

By Carmen Harra

ssess your love's

Relationships: How to Know If

compatibility and

They're the One

determine if they're the right person for you with

these 13 insightful questions.

Few things are as exciting as the prospect of new love; you light up

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at the idea of finding someone who

change? Even more importantly,

cares, can give you the love you

how do you expect it to evolve?

deserve, and's just right for you. Yet, at the same time, you hesitate: But is

2. How does he regard family?

he the right person? You wonder one

Does he have close ties with

thing: if they're the one for you?

his family members? Is family a priority? Even if your partner

To answer that question, you must

has experienced familial rifts, has

first understand why you met this

he cared enough to try to work

person: some people come into

things out? How a person tends

your life for a season, others to teach

to his family speaks volumes

you a lesson, but everyone comes

about the way he will treat you

for a reason. They are thoughtful

when you become a part of his

questions. I would suggest you

household.

carefully and honestly answer a few questions. Reflect on these

3. Can you both compromise?

questions to determine your love's

If ever there was a secret to

compatibility, quality, and durability.

a lasting relationship, it is compromised. Do you and your

QUESTIONS TO DETERMINE IF THEY'RE THE ONE FOR YOU

partner believe in compromise over separation? Is he willing to give and take with you on

What does your future look

essential matters? A relationship

like? Can you imagine building

without compromise is a road

together? Can you envision

with a guaranteed dead end.

yourself growing old with this person? If your partner possesses

4. Do you speak the same

serious character flaws—like

language? By language, I don't

addiction, abusive tendencies,

mean having the same system

or pathological lying—you may

of speech; I refer to mentality. Do

not really see a future by his

you share the same views and

side. Visualize your relationship

aims? Similar morals and values?

in five, 10, or even 20 years down

Partners with parallel goals are

the road. How do you expect it to

more likely to remain together

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than those whose ambitions span opposite directions.

6. Do you need him? Partners who are meant to be don't just want each other. They need

5. What emotions does he

each other. Theirs is a union that

trigger? A person who evokes

swims a deep ocean. After a hard

mostly anxiety, worry, and pain

day, they yearn for each other's

is not the right person for you.

embrace. They need their other

But a person who steadies the

half's consoling words, healing

emotions within you, bringing

presence, and unique touch. This

tranquility and harmony, is like

kind of love transcends wanting—

water to a rose garden; this is

it's a longing f rom the seat of the

a partner who can help you

soul. So, ask yourself: Do you need

bloom into your highest, most

him, and does he need you?

incredible self. Remember that the greatest gift anyone can give you is peace of mind.

7. How does he compare to other partners? Have you brought into

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your life a partner who's a copy

tolerance that will undoubtedly

of a former love? Or does this

test your patience. Can you

person hold positive qualities

"stand" all of your partner's faults?

that previous partners lacked?

Every one of his bad habits and

If you don't completely heal

ill manners? Similarly, do you

f rom and resolve the karma of

appreciate his way of being? Can

past relationships, you'll likely

you genuinely adapt to his taste?

attract a similar companion once

Unconditional love calls for us to

more. Compare the patterns in

accept our partner's weaknesses

preceding relationships with your

in the same way as his strengths.

present love to ensure that you're 9. Do you see the potential for

progressing.

improvement? Human beings 8. Can you tolerate his

are highly prone to error. You'll

weaknesses? Relationships

never find a "perfect" partner;

require a certain degree of

we all need a bit of work. Every

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person who walks through your

soulmate signs. Among them

life will leave flawed footprints.

is a strong feeling of déjà vu, an

What matters is a person's

us-against-the-world mentality,

potential to improve in time,

a curious intensity, and a

and what makes someone a

comforting sense of security.

good partner is his willingness to better himself each day.

11. What has he taught you? The right partner will double

10. Do you share a soulful bond?

as your teacher. Two souls in

A soulmate is like the missing

sync will have much to learn

piece of our puzzle. Soulful

f rom one another. Whether

bonds are few, but when they

they are lessons in love, work,

occur, they're obvious to both

finances, forgiveness, or any

partners and pass the test

other element of life, the ideal

of time. One of my previous

partner will motivate your

entries, "The 10 Elements of

mind to expand and your

a Soulmate," outlines telltale

spirit to evolve.

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12. Is he generous? Not just to you

daughter for the first time. I just

but to others. While you won't

knew that with this person, such

be offered everything on a silver

beautiful things were bound to

platter, you deserve a fair partner

happen. The right kind of love

who gives back as much as he

offers hope, and the right partner

takes. Do the gift you freely with

makes you believe in miracles. So,

his time, affection, and attention?

what blessings do you feel can

Such rewards are invaluable.

develop in your own relationship?

13. Do you expect miracles? Often,

Sharing chemistry with someone

you can anticipate the course

is a rare treasure. But knowing

of your relationship before it

early on whether a partner is

unfolds. When I met my husband,

right for you is equally necessary.

I instantly saw the miracles that

Think about the answers to these

would manifest between us:

questions to discover your partner's

taking our first steps into our new

true place in your life and reveal if

home and holding our newborn

they're the one.

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WHOLELINESS

Embracing the Sacred Unity That Heals Our World

Standing on the brink of the greatest shift in human history, we've begun at last to seek change. We sense that our purpose lies in repairing what is broken, in healing ourselves and our planet, in shattering the old illusions that have kept us from reaching our true potential. Institutions are crumbling and we feel frightened by the general turmoil. How will we pass through this transformation which is sure to affect us all? Internationally renowned clinical psychologist, Carmen Harra, explains that we must embrace wholeliness: the unity of humanity, the Divine, and the universe. Only by perceiving that we are both individuals and at one with the whole can we begin to eradicate our fears and draw on divine support during this crucial time. Dr. Harra shows how we can:         

reconnect to the Divine source, rediscover meaning to life, recognize the need for change and accept the large-scale changes headed our way, regain trust in ourselves, others, and the spiritual realm, reawaken our creativity to envision a better world, heal diseases and ailments the natural way, address the suffering we’ve caused to the humanity through history, expand universal awareness and elevate our consciousness, and achieve a state of abundance, generosity, and joy so rich that we overflow with compassion.

Reclaim the wisdom of the ancients, who understood that we are all interwoven into the sacred fabric of consciousness. Achieve wholeness on a mind-body-spirit level. Wholeliness is the nourishment we need to emerge from this challenging time as soulful beings, unconditionally fulfilled.

About Carmen Harra Best-selling author of 6 books, Carmen Harra, Ph.D., is an intuitive psychologist and TV personality who's been featured on The View, Good Morning America, the Today show, and many more. Harra’s extensive training in couple’s and cognitive therapy, combined with her uncanny intuitive abilities, have made her an internationally sought-after advisor offering guidance to over 25,000 clients including many members of the Hollywood elite. Visit her at: www.CarmenHarra.com

For more information or to purchase the book, click the cover or visit:

CarmenHarra.com

Soul Mates Across Time: Understanding Past Life Relationships

By Ascending Hearts

iscover the captivating

into the depths of our spiritual

realm of past lives

essence and unlock the hidden

and the profound

memories that shape our present

connections that

existence, transcending the

bind us to our soul mates. Delve

boundaries of time.

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The idea of encountering a soul mate f rom a past life, someone

RECONNECTING WITH THE ECHOES OF PAST LIVES:

who resonates with our very essence and shares an unbreakable

Before we delve into the intricacies

connection that transcends time,

of soul mates, it's essential to

is a concept that has fascinated

grasp the essence of past lives

humanity for ages. However, these

and how they interweave with

past life relationships' true depth

our present existence. At its core,

and significance often elude us. In

the concept of past lives revolves

this exploration, we dive into the

around the belief that our existence

profound concept of past lives and

extends beyond the physical plane,

the deep connections that bind us to

manifesting as an unending stream

these kindred spirits.

of consciousness. OM TIMES | January 2024

Our current physical reality is just one

the memories and records of all our

facet of this intricate tapestry, akin

past experiences on the physical plane,

to a framework for our experiences

even though we rarely tap into this

and growth. While we navigate this

profound wellspring of wisdom.

earthly realm, we accrue knowledge and confront various choices. However, accessing the entirety of the universe's

THE PERFECT HARMONY OF SOUL MATES:

elements is deliberately limited to ensure our learning and experiences

The concept of soul mates and their

remain unadulterated.

origins can vary across belief systems. In ancient Greek philosophy, it was

In this context, our physical bodies

believed that our astral forms were

serve as transient vessels for our

once whole and then divided into two

spiritual essence, akin to a "skinsuit."

parts. Some described these original

Within the depths of our souls reside

forms as spheres with four arms,

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four legs, two faces, and two trunks. In contrast, the Kabbalah tradition suggests that for every created soul, another is formed as its perfect counterpart, like two opposing poles destined to balance the universe. Another perspective emerges within the tapestry of ancient wisdom, suggesting that we have multiple soul mates within our soul families. This implies that many of us have shared lifetimes in various roles and relationships. Regardless of the belief system, one consistent theme emerges: soul mates are seen as our complementary counterparts, completing the intricate puzzle of our existence and elevating

leaving them with a haunting

us to a more evolved state. In their

feeling of having met before.

presence, we unlock our fullest

However, fully recognizing this

potential, though it's important to note

connection goes beyond the scope

that this connection isn't guaranteed

of our current physical plane, as

to manifest in every lifetime.

our access to past life memories remains dormant, stored within the

SENSING THE ECHOES OF PAST LOVE:

spiritual realm. The encouraging news is that

Recognizing a soul mate from a

recognizing a soul mate from a past

past life can be a profound and rare

life is possible once our experiences

experience. Many have encountered

are archived in the spiritual realm.

individuals with whom they share

This connection transcends matter,

an inexplicable, deep connection,

bodies, and time, accumulating the

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wisdom of countless generations

that our current life is an extension

traversing the physical plane.

of a vast, continuous history, yet it possesses unique attributes

DISCOVERING LOVE REVISITED:

that may differ from our past

Profound self-awareness and

This is where meditation and

heightened perception are

spiritual exercises come into play,

essential to identify love from past

refining our senses and attuning

lives. The key is understanding

us to the universe's subtle signals.

incarnations.

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These practices enable us to be more receptive to these ancient echoes. Signs of recognition may manifest when you suddenly meet someone, and an immediate, profound empathy envelops the encounter. This sensation can be a signal from the universe, revealing that this connection extends far beyond your current understanding of time. It's important to note that this connection might not always be characterized by fiery passion but rather a serene, nurturing bond. Society often conditions us to perceive such connections solely as romantic love, but they can encompass various forms, including maternal love, siblinghood, or deep, lifelong f riendships. The key lies in comprehending the nature of this connection.

In conclusion, past life relationships are a tapestry

Moreover, acknowledging that

of profound connections that

even if you rediscover an old

transcend time and physicality.

love from past lives, it doesn't

Recognizing them requires inner

necessarily dictate that you must

growth, self-awareness, and an

be together in this lifetime. Life

open heart to accept the intricate

unfolds in unique ways, and

ways in which love revisits our lives,

this love might serve a different

enriching our journey through

purpose this time.

time and beyond. OM TIMES | January 2024

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