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what's on your mind playland rockstar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32
gettin' through it gearing up…kindergarten ready or wait? . . . . . 34
shop talk experience your dream . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38
did you know jeremiah program…hope & a future . . . . . . . 40
ready, set, grow camp 101: tips for campers . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58
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mompreneur chelsey steinlicht — bright futures. . . . . . . . . 22
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to this point, the title of my life story would be… judith konerza grand forks | nd gettin’ through it: page 34 May I Have this Dance? The rhythm of my days is made up in the relationships I am privileged to be a part of. There are days I am dancing a foxtrot, busy, fun, and a bit wild, hanging on for the ride. Other times find me slow dancing, as I enjoy coffee with a friend, time spent with my family, or reading a good book. At times, it is the rumba, as I juggle multiple things thrown in one crazy moment or season. Most of all, I love a waltz, when the attention to people is at the forefront and the pace is one of joyful movement. No matter the dance, my desire is to accept the invitation to live my life in joyous and meaningful rhythm, with gratitude and grace.
angela smith copley | oh what’s on your mind: page 32 Didn't Go as Planned Because every time I've made a plan or a list for my life, the Lord has made it VERY clear that He had other plans. The journey has often been challenging but I live on the words of the Brazilian writer, Fernando Sabino, "No fim, tudo dá certo. Se não deu, ainda não chegou ao fim." Which loosely translated means "It will all be okay in the end. If it's not ok then it isn't the end."
patricia carlson naples | fl ready, set, grow: page 58 Fake It 'till You Make It I sometimes think that everyone has it all together. The perfect kids. The perfect job. The perfect partner. The perfect personality. But here's the thing I know for sure (thanks, Oprah) - most of us, myself included, are just faking it. On any given day we are being asked to be a specific type of parent, perform a certain task, show unconditional love, and be happy, among myriad other things. There is no way we all know what we are doing! But we don't give up. We just fake it until we make it.
alison ottesen west fargo | nd shop talk: page 38 Choose to Adventure I have always been inquisitive and love to go on adventures, from our backyard as a child to faraway places as an adult. Travel is my passion and the most intense mode of learning. I took the leap this year to create CoExist Travel because by taking away the pressures and stress of planning, people will be able to just relax, explore, and enjoy what the world has to offer. To me that is the greatest takeaway in my new career. “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.” Nectar and Pulse
deb uglem fargo | nd oh by the way: page 46 The Never-Ending Tale Right when I think I have it all figured out and my life is exactly what I think it should and would be everything changes. Another baby, different career, retirement, startup business, a new house, more friends, and I know the list is infinite. The great thing is as soon as I think I have reached my happily ever after there is a happier ever after right around the corner.
kari klingsporn hitterdal fargo | nd food for thought: page 20 Oh, You Mean Now? When Getting It Wrong Proves to be [Mostly] Right Almost nothing I've done seems to have perfectly played out in life- I feel like my timing to do things the "right" way has very often been different than the norm, been criticized by some, and has worked out pretty darn well for my family. I have decided that there is always both a positive and a negative consequence for whatever choice you make, so do what you think is best for your family, even if the timing isn't perfect!
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he oldest of Bruce and Judy Seibel’s three girls, as well as a Fargo South and NSDU grad, Andrea Berge entered the workforce as a Spanish teacher. Two years after marrying Adam and four years into her teaching duties, Andrea
decided to pursue her dream job as a Stay-at-Home Mom after the adoption of the couple’s first son, Timothy [now 14]. Timothy, Luke [12], and Hannah [11], were all infants when the Berges adopted them from North Carolina. “Our two biological kids [Josiah, [9], and Mattea, [6]] rounded out the party over the next five years and, just like that, the van was full!” Andrea jokes. Away from family dinners and supporting her crew at their various activities, Andrea enjoys exercising with girlfriends, digital scrapbooking, spending time with extended family, and occasionally basking in a quiet house watching HGTV all by herself.
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one mom tip i would like to share with other moms is…
the most self-indulgent thing i won’t give up is…
to be real. No mom is perfect, nor can she do it all. It’s too exhausting to put on a show for the world…social media or otherwise. It’s okay, even encouraging, to others when you post the imperfect pictures, go to Target without fresh makeup, or even ask for help when you need it. Our kids are in many activities all over town so we often rely on the Grandparent/Auntie/neighbor reinforcements. It’s good to help each other!
exercise. It gives me energy, keeps me healthy, and, when you work out with friends, it can even be fun. Just don’t ask me to cycle.
i keep my marriage fresh by… sharing regular lunch dates with my man. It’s one of the few times each week when we can have an actual start-to-finish grown-up conversation. It’s amazing.
my must-have accessory is… my phone. Ugh. So boring! But our whole life is safely tucked away in picture files, grocery lists, games to keep kids entertained, and…the SCHEDULE. If I forget it, lose it, melt it on the stove, or leave it on the back of my vehicle as I drive away [all of which I’ve done], our entire existence is quite possibly lost. I bet you wish I would have just said, “Earrings!”
i’m proud of my family’s ability to… cooperate and produce great smiles for family pics. Our “one and done” mentality really comes in handy and eliminates almost all meltdowns.
the person that inspires me is…
my favorite “mom” place to shop is… Hobby Lobby. I love affordable home décor…and a good sale! My kids’ answer to this question was Hornbacher’s…probably because I am there almost every day.
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one of the best books i’ve ever read… is Francine Rivers’ A Voice in the Wind.
the last thing i say to my kids at night is… “I love you…STAY IN BED!”
mother’s day is special to me because…
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it encourages me to take time to say thank you to the moms in our lives and to pray for our kids’ birthmoms, who sacrificially chose a different path for their children. Buuuuut, I must also say that Mother’s Day is usually a bit of a bust in our house. The housework still piles up and our precious kids take bickering to new heights…often in a public setting while trying to “give Mom a break.” When asked during a children’s sermon “How can we bless our Moms on Mother’s Day?” our then-eight-year-old son Tim said it best, “Leave her alone.” Embarrassing… but kinda true.
our favorite family activity… is probably swimming at Grandma and Grandpa Seibel’s pool. It’s the best place to be together, the memories we make are priceless, and it’s free.
my kids would describe me as… caring, funny, kindhearted, athletic, awesome, and “wanna-be” cool. These are their words! I just thought they would say, “Crazy.” 14
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the person i can always count on is… my dad. He’s got a flexible schedule and a generous heart. When Adam and I are swamped and in need of backup, he is the first to offer to haul a kid to or from practice, pick up forgotten grocery items, even bring a vehicle into the shop. He’s also the most devoted fan, attending almost all of the many games, Acro shows, track meets, concerts, and races that fill our busy Berge days. We are so blessed to have him in our lives!
i make time to be involved with… our adoption community. It’s so important to encourage other adoptive families as they navigate endless paperwork and complicated issues in their journey to add a child[ren]. The adoption community is also very vital for me personally as I seek the support of adoptive moms who understand the intricacies, uncertainties, and uniquely messy situations that we often face.
something i want my kids to always remember is… that I love them so fiercely. I would do most anything for them. And what’s more important is that Jesus’ love for them is even greater. I want them to continue to trust Him and let His sacrificial love direct their paths all of their days on earth.
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ART Art Detectives Oh no! Something has gone missing at the museum! Ages 6-9 join the Secret Art Detective Society July 31-August 4 at the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], 9am-12pm, outfit yourself to be an art detective, and help find the museum’s missing object. Instructor Katherine Rieck, $104 members/$130 nonmembers. Register at www.plainsart.org/learn. Busy Bees: Young Pollinator Camp Ages 8-10 bee ready to create some buzz while we make art with a variety of materials including clay, paint, and things from nature at the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], June 5-8, 9am-12pm. $104 members/$130 nonmembers. Register at www.plainsart.org/learn. SELFIE! A Photography + Printmaking Camp “3,2,1 say cheese!” Ages 8-11, Spend this summer camp creating self-portraits July 17-20 at the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], 9am-12pm! Instructor Amanda Heidt, $104 members/$130 nonmembers. Register at www.plainsart.org/learn.
FAITH Camp Good News Tired of kids at home during the summer with nothing to do? Camp Good News, an affordable Christian day camp for ages 6-12 in the Fargo-Moorhead area, has got plenty for your kids to do. Whether it is crafts, sports, robotics, gymnastics, or drama and more, Camp Good News would love to keep your children busy, all while teaching them Biblical principles and character traits. Each full day from 9am-4pm or half day 9am-1pm is jam-packed with fun, as well as a great opportunity to learn about the weekly activity. Camp Good News, sponsored by Child Evangelism Fellowship of ND, is
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DANCE Fairydell Day Camp This day camp at Red River Dance [2921 Fiechtner Dr S, Fargo] is for children who love fairytales and dancing! Each day dancers will read a story, enjoy a snack, make an art project, participate in creative movement, and learn a dance that fits to the theme of the day. Family and friends are invited to watch a mini Fairydell Performance held the last day of camp. Sessions run: June 13-15, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]; July 11-13, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]; August 8-10, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]. For more information contact Haylee Thompson [haylee@redriverdance.com or 701.280.0004] or visit www.redriverdance.com.
camps SPORT American Gold Gymnastics Offering classes for kids ages 18 months to 18 years. Classes develop physical awareness, work on coordination, balance, listening skills, fine and gross motor skills, and incorporate lots of fun! For more info visit www. americangoldgymnastics.com or call 701.280.0400. Camp Summer Splash At Camp Summer Splash our campers will experience a variety of water activities. Campers will also learn the importance of water safety. From swimming to creating waves at the water park, campers will have an outstanding time with new friends and staff. Come create a splash this summer at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], July 24-28! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. MSUM Dragon Diving Camp Improve your diving skills July 30-August 4 or August 6-11 on the MSUM campus in Moorhead, MN. Open to competitive divers age 13 through high school seniors. Divers will work on all five categories and gain experience on one and 3-meter springboards along with trampoline and dry board training. Resident [staying on campus] $490, Commuter [staying at home] $420; includes free T-shirt and swim cap. To learn more or to register, please visit www.msumdragons. com/swim. MSUM Dragon Swim Camp Improve your swimming skills June 11-16 or June 18-23 on the MSUM campus in Moorhead, MN. Open to competitive swimmers age 8 through high school seniors. Swimmers will work on all four strokes, starts, turns, race strategy, motivation, and dry-land training. Resident [staying on campus] $475, Commuter [Staying at home] $375; includes free T-shirt and swim cap. To learn more or to register, please visit www.msumdragons.com/swim.
more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. Super Summer Sports Camp This sports camp is packed with fun for campers of all ability levels. Campers will learn and play sports of all sorts in a positive and encouraging environment at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], June 12-16. This camp will focus on teamwork, sportsmanship, and giving your best effort at all times. Campers will learn new skills, make new friends, and have a blast exploring new sports and activities. Come join our Super Summer Sports Camp to start your summer out with a homerun! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Soaking Up the Sun Soaking up the Sun is the ultimate summer camp experience combined with high-energy activities and a boat load of water fun at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], June 26-30. Campers will be able to create a splash in our pool and participate in a variety of outdoor activities. Soak up the fun and excitement this summer at Family Wellness! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/.
SELF Camp Foley Grow grit. Investigate independence. For over 90 years Camp Foley has provided a place for kids to go to experience the Minnesota outdoors while building skills that will help them grow in independence while they investigate who they will become as young adults. Over 40 activities and people from around the world. Come join the Foley Family!
Spectacular Sports Camp Spectacular Sports Camp will explore the wide world of sports at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], August 14-18. From soccer to racquetball, campers will experience all aspects of the game in a positive and encouraging environment. This camp will focus on teamwork, sportsmanship, and giving your best effort at all times. Join the Family Wellness team this summer at Spectacular Sports Camp! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For
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camps Choose from 1, 2, 3, and 4-week sessions June 22-August 17. For more information email fun@campfoley.com, call 218.543.6161, or visit www.campfoley.com. I AM I CAN Summer Camp for Girls 2017 marks the 27th year of the "I AM I CAN" Summer Camp for Girls, a day camp held at the Academie Agencie in downtown Fargo. This camp is designed to be a fun and learning-filled week [M-F from 10am-5pm], where the camper will develop her self-confidence and self-expression. The camp is open to girls ages 9-13, running June 20-24 and August 1-5. The seminars and events are age appropriate and include, but are not limited to, attitude, social graces, table etiquette, visual poise and presentation, modeling, fitness, confidence building, skincare, and wardrobe. To register call 701.235.8132 or visit www.academieagencie.com. Farmers Union Camp It’s like no other camp on earth, where city kids and farm kids have a blast just being themselves! Activities include water games, theme nights, sports, a campfire, talent show, games, skits, educational camp project, co-op store, and banquet. Camps are held at Wesley Acres [near Valley City] and Heart Butte [near Elgin] in June, July, and August. Cost is $100 for four-day, three-night camps for grades 3-6; and $150 for five-day, four-night camps for grades 7-12. [These are Early Bird rates and camps fill up fast, so REGISTER NOW at www.ndfu.org!] Transportation provided. Scholarships often available. For more info go to ndfu.org/youth/youth-camps, look up North Dakota Farmers Union Youth Program on Facebook, or call 800.366.8331. No Bummer Summer TNT Kids Fitness & Gymnastics [2800 Main Ave, Fargo] is offering weekly camps May 30 – August
18, featuring a different theme each week, fitness/gymnastic stations, sports & games, arts & crafts, pool, park, & field trips, educational lessons, healthy lunch & snacks, & more! For more information visit www.tntkidsfitness.org or email jocelyn@ tntkidsfitness.org.
EXPLORATION College for Kids & Teens College for Kids & Teens is a summercamp program for students K-12 held on the beautiful MSUM campus [1104 7th Av S, Moorhead], June 12-15, June 19-22, July 10-13, and July 17-20. Expert instructors teach classes that encourage learning, exploration, adventure, and creativity while cultivating an understanding and appreciation for a variety of topics, including science, art, technology, nature, writing, fitness, and more! Registration opens February 14th, $129 fee. For more information visit www.mnstate.edu/outreach or contact Shireen at cfk@mnstate.edu. Creative Builders Camp If your child likes a challenge and is always wondering “why?” come find out at Family Wellness Creative Builders Camp. Children will be able to create and experiment with a variety of fun hands-on science and engineering projects designed for kids at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], June 19-23. Come explore why and how at Creative Builders Camp! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. YMCA Busy Beaver Camp Half-Day Camp for preschoolers ages 3-5 which includes field trips, picnics, games, arts and crafts,
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camps swimming, and more! Offered at Fercho YMCA [400 1st Av S, Fargo] with weekly sessions running June 5–August 10. $115 for YMCA Cass Clay members, $135 for non-members. Registration stays open until the week of camp [unless it fills]. For more information, contact Sandy Franchuk [701.364.4123 or franchuk@ ymcacassclay.org] or visit ymcacassclay.org/busybeaver. Family Wellness Camp Imagination Station This camp will provide an exciting, hands-on learning environment filled with activities and healthy choices. Campers will have the opportunity to dive into their imaginations through art projects and theatrical play. This camp will also provide our campers with a variety of activities in the gym and our swimming pool. Dream big with Family Wellness Camp Imagination at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], July 10-14! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. Wild Wilderness Camp Explore the world around you this summer during the Wild Wilderness Camp. Kids will learn about different animals, climates, and even survival skills. Come find your wild side at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], July 17-21! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/.
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to participate in all kinds of activities at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] July 31-August 4, including swimming, group fitness, and a variety of gym activities. Camp Fuel also features a unique approach to the media around us, including an opportunity for campers to create their own public service announcement with KVLY. Come fuel your healthy lifestyles at Camp Fuel! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Creative Cooking Camp Creative Cooking Camp is here to test your culinary skills. In this camp we will focus on creating healthy recipes and enhancing your skills and knowledge within the kitchen. Each child will be able to learn hands-on skills that will help bring out their inner chef. Come test your taste buds this summer at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] June 5-9! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Cookapalooza At Camp Cookapalooza, campers will not only rock out in the kitchen creating healthy new recipes, they will also get to participate in a variety of fitness classes, activities, and swimming. Come get your party started this summer with Cookapalooza at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], August 7-11! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/.
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his recipe is influenced by food I ate growing up with a neighborhood family of Italian ancestry. It also satisfies my desire to eat hearty salads for meals and is influenced by my favorite meal course: appetizers! To truly make this a meal, I serve it with grilled or broiled fish, chicken, or steak, and garlic bread or bruschetta. A true testament of my family’s love for this recipe is the fact that we have been gorging on this salad for months - sometimes multiple times a week—and we still aren't sick of it! you need: 1 large garlic clove I teaspoon salt 3 Tablespoons mayonnaise 3 Tablespoons red wine vinegar 1/2 teaspoon dried or fresh oregano [I use Mexican oregano for an extra earthy flavor] 1/3 cup extra-virgin olive oil freshly ground pepper 12-14 ounces Italian salad blend [it should contain Romaine lettuce and radicchio cabbage; it is also good if the blend contains shredded carrots] 2-3 celery stalks, thinly sliced 1/2 small red onion, thinly sliced 1/2 cup cherry tomatoes 1/4 cup pitted green olives, preferably Sicilian 1/3 cup pepperoncini deli slices 1 cup Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese, shaved [other options: regular or fresh mozzarella sliced or cubed, or any combination of all these cheeses] 4 ounces Italian meat, thinly sliced, such as prosciutto, mortadella, or salami [optional]
For the dressing, combine and blend well ingredients garlic through pepper in food processor or blender. Place all the remaining ingredients in a large bowl, pour dressing over the top, and toss well. Serve immediately. Storing leftovers for later consumption is not recommended as the salad becomes soggy quickly.
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feeding your family TIP: Although there are worse things to offer children to drink than juice, I don’t serve it very often. I find when we have it in the house my kids drink way too much. When consumed in large quantities juice becomes empty calories and replaces water and other nutritious foods they should be getting. The problem? My kids aren’t fans of plain water because they would rather have juice, of course! The solution? Making our own flavored water! This habit has become a fun alternative to the juice junkies they can be. All you need is a large pitcher and a little creativity. Typically, we include a citrus, a sweet fruit, and an herb. Depending on the potency of flavor you like your flavored water to have, I recommend at least three slices and up to an entire sliced fruit of any citrus you like [orange, lemon, lime, grapefruit]. For the sweet element, use any berry, kiwi, apples, or even cucumbers—at least half a cup and up to one cup to ensure the fruit’s flavor is imparted into the water. Finally, add a sprig of some fresh herbs, if you have them. Our favorites are basil, rosemary, and mint. Let the water sit for an hour before serving. Usually, you can add a little water to the pitcher as you drink and the flavor still comes through. This is also a good use for extra herbs or fruit that isn’t as pretty or slightly past its prime! Let your kids experiment with the flavor combinations and keep a pitcher in your refrigerator for the whole family to enjoy! Kari's passion for food, family, and fun has been with her since her upbringing on her beloved Big Floyd Lake near Detroit Lakes, MN. She earned Secondary Education degrees in both Social Studies and English from Concordia College in Moorhead, MN. She enjoyed a brief stint as a caterer and cooking instructor, but has proudly spent most of her motherhood as a stay-at-home mom. Her husband, Brent, and three children, Gunnar, Ava, and Ella, have all [mostly] been eager taste testers to whatever is on the table for dinner. However, these days, having a high schooler, a middle schooler, and a second grader is providing new challenges of feeding everyone homemade and healthy meals, as well as giving her oven an intense workout most weeknights!
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helsey Steinlicht is a native of St Michael, MN, daughter to Jay and Maxine, and sister of Samantha. An NDSU alum, wife for nearly a decade to Dan, and mama to Ellie [10], Lauren [8], Addison [6], and Jake [1], Chelsey added the
mompreneur title to her repertoire in 2013 with the opening of Bright Futures Learning Center in south Fargo. Three months after opening, the center was at capacity. A 2014 expansion saw all 143 spots filled before opening the doors! And now with the addition of a second location opening in May, Chelsey will see her staff of 38 swell to over 80. Fourteen years www.onthemindsofmoms.com
in a variety of roles from teaching to tutoring to managing a variety of education programs, and obtaining the National Director Credential from McCormick Center for Early Childhood Literacy demonstrate the passion Chelsey has for children and early education. “Anyone can establish a child care center,” Chelsey says. “But not everyone can create an environment that becomes an extension of the child’s family, with an emphasis on academic and social growth.” That is Bright Futures Learning Center.
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chelsey steinlicht bright futures learning center, fargo.nd
what is bright futures? Bright Futures Learning Center is an early learning program designed for children 6 weeks to 12 years old and offers the advantages of a small group setting with the benefits of regular wider group interaction through excellent playgroup facilities. We offer developmental and educational activities specified to your child’s age and individual needs. Our commitment is to provide you and your child with the best in child care and education. We believe in the development of the whole child. Our curriculum is designed to focus on the creative, emotional, intellectual, physical, and social growth of each individual.
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the families we serve. We must be adaptable to the needs of everyone as best we can. Our business supports family involvement and well-being. It is important to me that the teachers on our team feel they are trusted, empowered, and part of our work family.
how do you balance work and family life? It’s not about balance—it is about integration. That may be rocking my own baby in the middle of the night or working until the early morning to meet a business deadline. Some days my business requires
what inspired you to open bright futures? My parents will tell you that I had an entrepreneurial spirit from a young age. As the daughter of a business owner, I was given an early example of working hard, perseverance, and that following your passion will help you accomplish your dreams. After college I worked as a Child Care Center Director and learned a lot about the industry.
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After being in an environment which modeled different business values, I quickly learned that to have the quality of program I desired, I needed to create my own business. Creating Bright Futures allowed me to take best business practices and innovative child care concepts to influence and make positive changes for the parent and child experience in the early childhood years.
what is your strongest mompreneur skill? Problem solving on the go! Whether it is family or business life many decisions need to be made.
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mompreneur more time from me and some days my family requires more. My goal is to be present when my own children need me.
what does your typical work day consist of? Our Site Supervisor, Molly Oakgrove, and I share many duties as enrollment and tours have begun for our second location. No two days are ever alike. Our day could consist of government and regulatory compliance audits, meal planning, event planning, problem management, tours, enrollment questions, construction oversight, human resources, inventory control, transportation, curriculum oversight, lost mitten identification, and hugs to all.
what is the most rewarding part of your business? Hearing a teacher say he or she genuinely loves what they do, a compliment from parents about their appreciation of what the teachers have done for them, or the satisfaction of hearing a happy child tell his parent about his day.
do you think there are any misconceptions in the child care profession? Unfortunately, there are many. The biggest misconception is that we are ‘babysitters.’ Our teachers and support staff are specifically trained in many areas of early childhood education. This is a career ‘calling.’ Only a special few do it very well and I am proud to say that we have hired the best child care professionals on our team.
what do you hope you are teaching your kids as they watch you be a mompreneur? I hope to show my children that I was present when they needed me. I hope they see that I was very determined to create a business that positively serves our community and not afraid of working hard to achieve it.
what is the best advice you have gotten as a mom? My mother once told me in my early days of becoming a mom, “One day at a time.” It can be easy to be overwhelmed with the uncertainty of the future. Break it down into smaller steps and take it a day at a time. The other most valuable advice I have received is to live in the moment. There are times when you need to dance in the rain – your child will learn to love and value these unplanned crazy moments.
what is your least favorite part of running bright futures? My least favorite part is having to turn away families because we do not have vacancies in our program. I know from personal experience the challenge of finding quality child care.
what is the most important parenting lesson you have learned watching so many families over the years?
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Healthy Moms for Healthy Babies www.sanfordhealth.org/classes-and-events The Healthy Moms for Healthy Babies series at Sanford Southpointe Clinic [2400 32nd Av S, Fargo] will focus on giving you the tools to develop a healthy lifestyle now and to commit to lifelong changes. Prenatal Nutrition is offered the 1st Sunday of every month from 1:30pm-2:30pm. Stress & Anxiety Management is offered the 2nd Sunday of every month from 1:30pm-2:30pm. Prenatal Yoga is offered every Sunday from 3pm-4pm.
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Peeps® lovers in preschool—6th grade are in for a treat as the Fargo Main Library [102 3rd St N, Fargo] host its first ever Peeps® Diorama Contest for Kids! Create a diorama in a shoe box using one or more
of the gooey marshmallow desserts as characters in a scene. Diorama themes must be based on something you can check out at the Fargo Public Library [books, movies, music, etc.]. Bring your creation to the Children’s Room at the Main Library anytime between April 3-8. Dioramas will be on display during National Library Week, April 9-15, and ballots will be available for voting at the Main Library. Voting will be by popular choice in three different age groups. Winners will be announced April 18 and prizes will be awarded. For additional rules, guidelines, and entry forms, see the library’s website or stop by any Fargo Public Library location.
assistance. The course is designed for young babysitters ages 11–15. Limited space. Register online.
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School’s out? Skip the daycare center or babysitter and send your child [grades 1-5] to spend the day at the Red River Zoo [4255 23rd Av S, Fargo], 8am-3pm! Spring is back and with it many of our friendly pollinators. Bees, butterflies, and even bats all help with spreading pollen around, helping our flowers and our farms grow. Activities will include competing on teams to find pollen, scavenger hunts, observing live pollinators, and pollinator BINGO. We will also explore what colors pollinators like the most by designing our own experiments to test outside. You will also be able to take home your very own bee condo, to attract bees to your gardens. Fees apply and registration required.
Bunny Visits 701.232.6102
childrensmuseum-yunker.org Head to the Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm [1201 28th Av N, Fargo] and meet a fun, cute, bunny!
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B.L.A.S.T. Babysitting Camp 701.364.1711 www.sanfordhealthemseducation.org Babysitting Lessons and Safety Training is the initial course for teens and pre-teens on the responsibilities of caring for children. Held at the F-M Ambulance Service [2215 18th St S, Fargo], 9am-3pm, participants will learn CPR and first aid for children, as well as diaper-changing techniques. They will also learn when to call 911 and what will happen if they do need emergency
Adult Healthy Cooking: Easter Brunch www.familywellnessfargo.org Let’s cook up some healthy and delicious brunch options fit for your Easter table. We will be making a vegetable frittata along with some fantastic brunch side dishes! 6pm-7:30pm at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], $10 Members / $18 Non-Members.
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Join the Holistic Moms Network, 6:30pm8:30pm, at Moorhead Massage and Wellness Center [202 8th St S, Moorhead] and learn about Reiki Therapy with Andrea Paradis.
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Little Squirt Science 701.241.1495 www.fargolibrary.org Preschoolers ages 3-5 are invited to learn about their world & science at this event geared just for them. Science activities and stories will provide a little knowledge and a lot of fun for youngsters! 11am at the Dr. James Carlson Library [2801 32nd Av S, Fargo] or 6:30pm at the Main Library [102 3rd St N, Fargo]. All materials provided. Space is limited; pre-registration is required. Register online or call for details.
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Zoocation Swarming Bee Trek www.redriverzoo.org
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Easter Eggstravaganza 701.232.6102 www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org Meet the Easter Bunny! Hop on over to the Extraordinary Egg Hunt at 11am, 1pm, & 3pm. Spring crafts, live chicks, and tons of other great family activities at the Children’s Museum at Yunker Farm [1201 28th Av N, Fargo] starting at 10am.
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Parent’s Night Out www.familywellnessfargo.org Need a night out? Drop your children, ages 2 weeks to 9 years, off at Family Wellness
[2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], 5:45pm-8:45pm, for a date night or just a night to yourself! Bring your own diapers and nut-free snacks. Preregistration is required and space is limited. Sign up by noon the Friday prior to the event. $12 per child Members / $18 per child Non-Members.
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Harlem Globetrotters 701.364.3672 www.scheelsarena.com The iconic Harlem Globetrotters are coming to the Scheels Arena [5225 31st Av S, Fargo] with their unrivaled family show featuring some of the greatest athletes on the planet. With incredible ball-handling wizardry, amazing rim-rattling dunks, trick shots, side-splitting comedy, and unequaled on-court fan interaction, this must-see event is guaranteed to entertain the whole family, creating memories that will last a lifetime. Ticket prices vary.
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MOMS Café www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo momscluboffm@gmail.com Our monthly meeting will take place at First Congregational Church of Fargo [1101 17th Av S, Fargo], 10am-11:30am and is open to club members and those interested in learning more about MOMS Club. Guest speaker: Financial Counselor Dwight Schroeder from The Village will talk about “Living on Less” with a special focus on stay-at-home moms with young children. A children’s play room is adjacent to
the meeting area and treats will be provided. Note: Although we are excited for our guest speakers, it should be noted that MOMS Club does not endorse any products or services promoted in this presentation.
Love art but hate the mess? Bring your child to Awesome Art Afternoon at the RDF Rec Center [1104 2nd St, S Fargo]. Have fun while building a variety of take-home arts and crafts from 1pm-3pm. Event is FREE.
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Over 200 vendors will be selling antiques, crafts, collectibles, closeout items, and garage-sale items at the Veterans’ Memorial Arena [1201 7th Av E, West Fargo], 7am-1pm. Free parking. To register for a booth please contact the park office. Concessions will be available. $1 admission [17 & under free].
Don’t miss this opportunity to see why our local talent is considered some of the top competitive & show gymnasts in the country! Scheels Arena [5225 31st Av S, Fargo], 3pm start time.
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Youth Fishing Clinic www.courtsplus.org FM Walleyes Unlimited INC., and Court Plus are teaming up to host a youth fishing clinic. Kids will take part in an interactive seminar and practice their fishing skills. Youth of all ages are encouraged to attend the event, 1pm-3pm at Courts Plus [3491 S University Dr, Fargo], and do not need to be a member of Courts Plus. All kids will receive a fishing gift courtesy of the NPAA Future Angler Foundation. If you have any questions, contact Dave Wasness: dave.wasness@fmwalleyes.com.
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Gold-N-Motion 701.280.0400 www.americangoldgymnastics.com
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DivorceCare www.fargohope.org Support group for those experiencing separation or divorce. 6:30pm-8pm at Hope Lutheran Church North Campus [2900 Broadway, Fargo]
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Generation Builders 2x2 Luncheon 701.793.5616 jeremiahprogram.org/ generationbuilders Head to the Courtyard by Marriott in Moorhead, 11am-1pm, and enjoy a fabulous lunch, mingle and socialize, hear transforming stories and enjoy great music while supporting the Jeremiah Program and mission to transform lives two generations at a time. Buy your ticket online or call today!
Healthy Kids Day is a national YMCA day to inspire parents and kids to stay physically and intellectually active all summer long. Join us at Fercho Y [400 1st Av S, Fargo], 1pm-3pm, for a day packed with fun and interactive activities, like Family Zumba, science experiments, swimming, arts and crafts, and so much more! Free to the community.
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The Paper Airplane Guy www.fargoairmuseum.org Fargo Air Museum [1609 19th Av N, Fargo] is proud to announce the upcoming visit from John M. Collins - "The Paper Airplane Guy" - author, educator, and Guinness world record paper-airplane distance holder. Please plan on joining us at 2pm for an afternoon of science, entertainment, & paper airplanes. $10 admission, Kids 10 and under free.
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Lindenwood Park [1905 Roger Maris Dr, Fargo]. Free hotdogs and Pepsi products will be available while supplies last. The event is free of charge and everyone is welcome to attend!
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Studio Art for Kids www.makeroomfargo.com Studio Art for Kids is a weekly studio experience for all kids who are currently in grades K-6 or the equivalent home-schooling level. Each Thursday young artists will gather at Make Room [806 1/2 Main Av, Fargo], 1pm-2:30pm or 4pm-5:30pm, an active gallery space in downtown Fargo with a gallery of rotating art exhibits.
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Journeying Through Grief 800.237.4629 www.hrrv.org Journeying Through Grief is a series of classes designed for those who are recently bereaved. It is intended for adults 18 years and older who have experienced the recent loss of a loved one. The sessions, held at Hospice of the Red River Valley [1701 38th St S, Fargo], 6pm-8pm, will help you better understand the grief process, explore methods of self-care, and embrace and carry memories with you as you move forward. Pre-registration required by April 28th.
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Kite Day www.fargoparks.com Enjoy a favorite pastime for both kids and adults! Bring your kite and show off your flying skills, 12:30pm-3pm, at
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Making Mother’s Day Brunch Cooking Class www.squareonekitchens.com This class will help you make the best brunch ever for Mom and we're mixing things up a bit! This primarily participatory class is structured for 1 adult + 1 child [8 years plus] to give you and a little one the skills to create a beautiful and loving brunch come Mother's Day - or any day - and do we have quite the lineup! We'll make a grapefruit brulee, a fresh way to start any brunch. Next we'll bake a sweet lemon poppy seed with ricotta muffin from scratch followed by a hashbrown 'benedict' that can be made in individual servings to create everyone's perfect breakfast combo. We'll
top this special brunch off with a Nutella Mousse - light, sweet, and wonderful. Wow Mom this Mother's Day with a little prep work in this unique class at Square One [1407 1st Av N, Fargo], 2pm-4:30! $60 for 1 adult + 1 child.
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Junk Market 701.356.6600 www.fargojunkmarket.com Head to the Scheels Arena [5225 31st Av S, Fargo] and look for treasures to take home as you browse repurposed furniture, vintage décor & handmade crafts. Regular admission is $5. Early Bird admission is $20.
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Healthy Moms for Healthy Babies www.sanfordhealth.org/ classes-and-events The Healthy Moms for Healthy Babies series at Sanford Southpointe Clinic [2400 32nd Av S, Fargo] will focus on giving you the tools to develop a healthy lifestyle now and to commit to lifelong changes. Prenatal Nutrition is offered the 1st Sunday of every month from 1:30pm-2:30pm. Stress & Anxiety Management is offered the 2nd Sunday of every month from 1:30pm-2:30pm. Prenatal Yoga is offered every Sunday from 3pm-4pm.
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Car Seat Safety 701.364.8100 www.essentiahealth.org Did you know that 8 out of 10 car seats are installed incorrectly? Car-seat safety class is a one-hour class with up-to-date car-seat recommendations and car-seat laws. It is suggested you attend this class as early as 6-7 months of pregnancy. Class is open to parents, grandparents, or caregivers and is taught by a Certified Car-Seat Technician. You do not need to bring your car seat with you to class. Registration is required. Class is held at Essentia Health [3000 32nd Av S, Fargo] from 5:30pm-6:30pm and is free.
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Kids Healthy Cooking: Banana Chocolate Chip Muffins www.familywellnessfargo.org These healthier muffins will make a perfect breakfast or snack. They freeze well too. Ages 5+, 5-7 need to be accompanied by an adult. 6pm-7pm at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo]. Up to 2 kids per adult. $10 Members / $18 Non-Members
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Holistic Moms Network www.holisticmoms.org Join the Holistic Moms Network, 6:30pm8:30pm, at Moorhead Massage and Wellness Center [202 8th St S, Moorhead] and discuss natural birth and beyond with speakers from the Fargo Birth Circle.
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Meet your neighbors at this fun family event 5:30pm-8pm. Sing your favorite karaoke song, play on inflatable games, take home a craft project, and get your face painted. Enjoy free food while supplies last. May 9th @ Jefferson School Park [1622 3rd Av S, Fargo], May 16th @ Madison Park [3010 11th Av N, Fargo], May 23rd @ Lewis & Clark Park [1807 16th St S, Fargo] and May 30th @ Centennial Park [4101 25th St S, Fargo].
Babysitting Lessons and Safety Training is the initial course for teens and pre-teens on the responsibilities of caring for children. Held at the F-M Ambulance Service [2215 18th St S, Fargo], 9am-3pm, participants will learn CPR and first aid for children, as well as diaper-changing techniques. They will also learn when to call 911 and what will happen if they do need emergency assistance. The course is designed for young babysitters ages 11–15. Limited space. Register online.
Why buy processed crackers at the store when you can make a healthier version at home? Ages 5+, 5-7 need to be accompanied by an adult, 6pm-7pm at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo]. Up to 2 kids per adult. $10 Members / $18 Non-Members
Party in the Park 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com
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Dad’s Basic Training 701.364.8100 www.essentiahealth.org This one-evening class, 6:30pm-8:30pm at Essentia Health [3000 32nd Av S, Fargo], is designed for ‘Dads to be’ and is taught by an experienced Dad. Topics covered include adjustments to fatherhood, how to support Mom, and the basics of infant care.
B.L.A.S.T. Babysitting Camp 701.364.1711 www.sanfordhealthemseducation.org
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Nature Adventure 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com Bring the family outside for some fun and join in on National Kids to Park day! Noon-2pm @ Forest River [76th Av S & Red River] There will be food, crafts, games, and nature activities.
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All ages and abilities are welcome to come make their own LEGO creation at our LEGO Club at the Moorhead Public Library [118 5th St S, Moorhead], 6pm on the 11th and 2pm on the 27th. Supplies provided to build, but make sure to bring your imagination!
It’s the 13th year of running the Fargo Marathon! A week full of events, the Fargo Marathon has something for everyone. From the Cyclothon, Furgo Dog Run, Largest Kid's Race, 5K Walk/Run, 10K, Half Marathon, Full Marathon, and Relays… come out and experience it firsthand.
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Fargo Marathon www.fargomarathon.com
Kids Healthy Cooking: Healthy Cheesy Crackers www.familywellnessfargo.org
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MOMS Café www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo momscluboffm@gmail.com Come to the First Congregational Church of Fargo [1101 17th Av S, Fargo] for the monthly meeting for MOMS Club of Fargo/ Moorhead IR, ND, 10am-11:30am. Enjoy time with other moms, snacks, playtime for children, and an opportunity to learn more about the club. This event is free and open to moms and children in the Fargo/Moorhead area.
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Summer Grind 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com
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MOMS Club of Fargo/Moorhead Open House www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo momscluboffm@gmail.com Head to Gooseberry Park [100 22nd Av S, Moorhead] for an Open House/Picnic with the MOMS Club of Fargo/Moorhead IR, ND, 10:30pm-12:30pm. Come enjoy food, children’s activities, and meet other MOMS Club members. This event is free and open to moms and children in the Fargo/Moorhead area.
The Summer Grind Exhibition at Dike West [310 4th St S, Fargo] provides divisions for beginners, intermediate, and advance. Participants are required to wear a helmet and should bring their own skateboard. Prizes will be given to participants in each
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I never thought I'd write one of those open letters you see all over the Internet. Then today happened. To the mom in her yoga pants, messy bun, and spit-up-covered T-shirt—rocking a stroller with one hand while holding a large cup of what I assume was a caffeinated beverage in the other—watching her toddlers, still in their pajamas, play on the playland at a local restaurant today: I saw you. I saw you as I was sitting in the drive thru still in my pajamas with my own pajama-clad toddler screaming like a banshee in the back seat as I tried desperately not to lose it. Because nothing says mental breakdown like crying in the drive thru. But I digress. 32
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I just want to say great job. Great job getting those babies out to run off some energy on another cloudy, wet, cold winter day. Great job feeding those same babies when maybe all you want to do is take a shower—alone! Or eat a hot meal without small hands helping, or maybe curl up and hide. Great job picking your battles and knowing that toddlers in pajamas at a playland is not the end or beginning of anything. They are dressed, they are comfortable and happy—and who cares if the clothes they're wearing were intended for sleeping. Great job wearing that spit-up like a badge of honor. Great job showing other moms that keeping it together doesn't mean looking Pinterest-perfect—but that nothing can negate the beauty of a mom caring for her babies.
what's on your mind Great job reminding me—and I've no doubt others—to take it moment by moment, breath by breath, day by day. Great job showing the world that although every day is not a great day, there are great things to be found in each and every day—and today, you were one of those great moments for me. Thank you! From a Mommy who Desperately Needed to See You and Your Strength Today Currently residing in the suburbs of Akron, Ohio, Angela was raised an Army brat. She is married to Superman, who goes by the name of Jared when he has his glasses on. She is a mommy of five and mother-in-law
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education. Dr. Joyce Epstein's research has shown when parents have a sense of efficacy and know what to do, they will be more involved in school preparation and involved during their child's school years. These classes open parents’ minds to out-of-the box thinking.
earing Up for Kindergarten, a parent-involvement and school-readiness program for children and parents, was created by researchers at NDSU to support teacher #1 kindergarten readiness and success. The program fosters student readiness for success in kindergarten through “What does it look like to help my child be ready for success in school?” parent education and effective parent practices. Parents interact with their child in a classroom setting and learn I hear that question all the time, and get excited when I right along with their child. Through active participado! That tells me parents are thinking ahead and asking tion in classroom learning centers they experience what their part is in readiness. developmentally appropriate practices with reading, science, math, and sensory motor activities. Parents Parents are a child's first teacher; the value of time have the opportunity to see the world from their child's spent together learning in the early years is priceless, eyes and take away great ideas for teaching at home. with great dividends in preparing children for success in school. Children's minds absorb information through everyday… experience and parents are their frame of reference I am the North Dakota State Coordinator for Gearing Up as to how the world works. That work begins at birth. for Kindergarten and have been in this role since 2012, providing training for the Gearing Up for Kindergarten Preparing children for school begins with talking to your program. I also oversee both state and local programming baby the minute she is placed in your arms, reading with a team from the NDSU Extension service located picture books with her, describing and showing her on campus at NDSU. surroundings, naming and pointing out parts of her body, and interacting with her throughout the day. Children My motto is "Education is every day in every way." With also learn through interaction with others, direct parent a focus on the whole child, not just academics, Gearing teaching, and a variety of hands-on experiences. Up for Kindergarten classes provide education in: child development, social and emotional skills, fine and As children develop, parents and other adults model and gross motor skills, academic preparation, and wellness teach appropriate behaviors again and again. A child's 34
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gettin’ through it brain is continually growing and neural pathways are created through repetition and reinforcement of behavior. As adults, we often think, "Didn't I already tell you that?" The answer is, "Yes," you did, but learning takes place through repetition and reinforcement; actually, research demonstrates it takes 2,000 times in context! ready or not Children in North Dakota may begin kindergarten the year they turn five, if they are five before August 1st of that year. Students must begin school by age seven and attend school through their 16th birthday. Parents can opt for early entrance testing, a practice that varies by district, and has a cost associated with it. So how do I know if my child is ready to start kindergarten? Readiness is more than academics; social and emotional development is just as important, if not more. Parents can begin with asking important questions: • Does my child do well in social situations with other children? • Can my child attend to instructions and follow through with assigned tasks? • Does my child participate well in group settings, taking turns, listening, and interacting? • Is my child able to express wants and needs? • Does my child take turns and share? • Is he capable in group situations and does he enjoy attempting new tasks? • Is he competent with basic-level knowledge of letters, writing his name, number sense, and enjoying reading books?
for more information on a gearing up for kindergarten site near you, call judith at 701.787.4216 or visit www.gearingupnd.org to find a list of the cities where programming is held. online you can also find a video on the educator link with more in-depth program information.
• Lastly, is he confident in new situations and the learning environment? These valuable questions give insight in guiding parents as they prepare for school the year before beginning kindergarten, and in providing insights into their child's readiness. Noted researchers Wesley and Buysse share a common belief with many educators that if a child is ready to learn socially and emotionally, he or she will pick up academic skills and learning necessary for success in school. Readiness also varies by temperament and by individual families. your call Parents ultimately make the decision for school entrance. The Gearing Up for Kindergarten program helps
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gettin’ through it parents understand more about school expectations and allows them to see their child in a school setting. Through participation in this program, parents can observe their child in action and ask a qualified teacher for objective feedback. This allows parents to make a more informed decision—one in their child's best interest—to start school. The decision to start school or wait another year is weighty and parents want to make the best decision for their child. I would encourage parents to look at all aspects of their child, ask trustworthy people in your life what they observe, and, if possible, check with a kindergarten teacher at the school your child will be attending.
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waiting If you decide to wait to send your child to kindergarten, you can use that year to invest time into the areas in need of further growth for your child. Children learn by doing—teach them to take turns. Today Mom decides what's for dinner, tomorrow sister, the next day you get to. This helps children begin to develop a sense of others and fairness. Teach your child the letters of her
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name and how to write it. Practice, practice, practice. Count the number of items in the grocery cart. Show her written numbers up to ten and what that amount looks like. If possible, have her attend a preschool. And most important, read, read, read to and with your child. There are teachable moments only a parent can capture; enjoy being your child's first teacher. Education is every day in every way and parents lead the way for a love of learning and growing their children. A graduate of NDSU with a doctorate degree in Adult and Community Education, and of UND with a master's degree in reading, Judith currently serves in a dual role as State Coordinator for Gearing Up for Kindergarten and as Parent Information Center Programming Coordinator for Grand Forks Schools. Judith provides oversight for Gearing Up for Kindergarten throughout North Dakota and local, onsite implementation for Gearing Up in Grand Forks. She teaches classroom and student management seminars for teachers, paras, and other school personnel, as well as pre-service teachers at UND. Judith and her husband Dave have two grown children, Kim and David, a wonderful son-in-law, Richie, and three adorable grandchildren, Jackson [6], Lucy [4], and Sparrow [2]. Judith and Dave celebrated their 40th anniversary with the purchase of a new hot tub. Next to spending time with their children and grandchildren, it has become their new favorite pastime.
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As I reflect on my childhood, I don’t remember the toys or trinkets I received throughout the years, but what I do remember are the experiences. Those shared memories with my family continue to bring me joy today. When I was 12 years old I boarded an airplane for the first time in my life. My parents had surprised my sister and me that Christmas with the greatest present ever, a trip to California and Disneyland. We were thrilled! Feelings of nervousness and excitement radiated through me as we waited to begin our trip. The wait continued as our flight was delayed due to North Dakota weather. We began to wonder why our usually calm parents were anxious as they repeatedly asked when the plane would leave. Finally, the weather cleared for us to leave and we arrived in Los Angeles around 6pm. Our parents were in a hurry, which rarely happened. They immediately loaded us into our rental car and rushed us off to an unknown destination. We pulled up to The Forum [Home of the Los Angeles Lakers at that time] and I freaked out. Our family loves basketball! I was a huge fan of Magic Johnson from the Los Angeles Lakers and my parents had planned this surprise experience. I smile every time I think of being at the Lakers’ game. The feelings of love, connection, and gratitude I have for my family will stay with me the rest of my life. 38
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When you think back to your own childhood, what do you remember? As you have read, for me it is the experiences and adventures I shared with my family on vacations, road trips, and visits across the country. With so many options today, it has never been easier to travel with your kids in the United States. Kid-friendly hotels, ease of access to destinations, entertainment for both parents and kids, as well as learning opportunities, abound. To help you get started on creating your own experiences and memories, I have selected six of my favorite value family destinations in the United States: top three drivable experiences 1. Yellowstone National Park, Wyoming Multicolored pools swirl around hot springs, forests weave past meadows, and geysers launch huge columns of steaming water toward the sky. Kids will get a kick out of watching Old Faithful erupt, and there's nothing quite like an afternoon hike. They can become young rangers or go whitewater rafting. With dramatic peaks and pristine lakes, Yellowstone is an outdoor enthusiast's paradise. 2. Rapid City, South Dakota A vacation doesn't get much more American than a classic road trip to South Dakota's Black Hills. Mount Rushmore, Wind Caves, Custer National
shop talk Park, and a winning blend of pre-historic history, Native American and Old West legends, wildlife, and pioneering spirit nestle among the beautiful and intimate Black Hills. 3. Chicago, Illinois The possibilities are endless in the Windy City. Catch a Chicago Cubs game, visit Navy Pier and enjoy fireworks, explore and learn at Adler Planetarium, Field Museum, or Shedd Aquarium. Take a break and enjoy Millennium Park with its many concerts and a water feature kids can dance through. top three take-a-plane experiences 1. San Diego, California The family will enjoy wonderfully mild weather all year and tons of activities, including beaches, the San Diego Zoo, Sea World, and Balboa Park. Drive to LEGOLAND for the day, relax at Seaport Village, or catch a game. This city is packed full of entertainment and yet is very peaceful. 2. Orlando, Florida Where else promises to create magical experiences beyond imagination? Disney World encompasses all four different theme parks plus two water parks. If Disney is not your thing, try Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, which includes Harry Potter Universe. After splurging on all of the above, take a quick drive to the coast and relax on one of the many beaches. Another unique experience
is kayaking with Manatees just north of Orlando in Crystal River! 3. Washington DC Loaded with free museums, a free national zoo, and The White House, Washington is a great place to visit as an adult, but surprisingly very kid-friendly. The Museum of Natural History is perfect for the dinosaur lover and the Spy Museum will spark any kid’s imagination. Washington’s official travel website offers a printable activity book for kids loaded with contests, take-a-“selfie” ideas, and scavenger hunts. Washington also offers many free walking tours. It is a piece of living history not to be missed. Experience Your Dream! Alison Ottesen is a travel enthusiast and owner of CoExist Travel in West Fargo, ND. Learn more at www.livetocoexist.com.
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running a household alone. Making ends meet on a very limited budget only increases the demands for single mothers in college. Jeremiah Program is here to provide mothers in the program affordable housing while they make progress toward a college degree and their children attend Jeremiah’s high-quality early childhood education program.
making a difference Founded in Minnesota in 1998, Jeremiah Program is doing its part to empower low-income single mothers to ensure they and their children have the best opportunity for a prosperous future. This two-generation anti-poverty solution with an 18-year history in record-breaking post-secondary graduation rates, increased career-track employment, and decreased public assistance is working to make a difference right here in the FM area.
With land donated by Catholic Health Initiatives and a deeply committed design team composed of professionals from around the Red River Valley, Jeremiah Program will construct a new 32,390-square-foot, three-story, 20-apartment campus at 801 Page Drive in South Fargo. This new permanent supportive housing facility will feature 20 furnished two-and 3-bedroom apartments designed for families headed by low-income single mothers and their young children, ages birth to five years. The first floor will feature an on-site Child Development Center and classroom spaces for program workshops and resident family gatherings. Jeremiah residents pay no more than 30% of their income for rent and utilities, a significant factor in making it possible to pursue their post-secondary education and graduate from the program into a career-track position and independent housing. Construction will take place in 2017 with the goal of families moving in by January 2018.
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id you know half of all children in the United States will live with a single mother at some time during their childhood? Or that the city of Fargo alone is home to 7,371 single, female-headed households, up 88% since 2000? Or that families headed by single mothers are four times as likely to be poor as families with two parents? Parenting is hard and the Jeremiah Program is here to help low-income single moms rise above the statistics.
how it works The cost of living for a single-parent family with one child in Cass County is $41,484 per year, or $19.94 per hour. A college degree is essential for success, with six in ten jobs in the United States requiring a post-secondary degree. A U.S. Department of Education study showed that among single parents under 30, only 2% graduated and earned a Bachelor’s Degree and only 9% earned an Associate’s degree. Single mothers face an especially daunting journey on the path to earning a post-secondary degree. They must juggle classes, homework, childcare, work, and 40
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the results Camaraderie and inter-connectedness develop within Jeremiah’s families as they live and move through the program together. Not only does this community reduce isolation for the single moms, it helps women grow in self-confidence and build social capital. A network of wider community partners also support Jeremiah families through programmatic alliances, in-kind
did you know resources, and volunteers. Additionally, data shows that the impact of Jeremiah Program on families and the wider community persists long after graduation. A 2015 survey of 2010-2014 alumnae showed that 89% are living in safe housing, 91% are employed or continuing their education, and 76% of children are performing at or above grade level. The majority surveyed have moved from below to above the Federal Poverty Line, achieving a national benchmark for prosperity. Further, 80% report a decrease in income from public assistance, demonstrating that Jeremiah families contribute to the economic strength of the wider community.
call 701.793.5616. In addition to your luncheon ticket purchase you can also help raise funds for the Jeremiah Program by participating in the raffle and providing a gift donation at the event. The moms and kids of the Jeremiah Program are an inspiration. Their determination, tenacity, and willingness to grow and meet life’s challenges is something to admire. The Jeremiah Program is an amazing addition to our community. Let’s do our part to make it successful for many years to come!
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your part The Jeremiah Program utilizes volunteers—both individuals and groups—to help with periodic mailings and event planning, as well as support its Empowerment class, which teaches Jeremiah participants the fundamental concepts that are the bedrock of Jeremiah Program. These concepts include accurate self-awareness, interpersonal and relationship boundaries, emotional regulation, self-control, and empathetic responses to life situations. There will also be additional opportunities for volunteering when the apartment building opens in 2018.
Jennifer Taylor, Admn Assistant & Office Mgr 701.793.5616 jtaylor@jeremiahprogram.org
Jeremiah Program derives its name from the Bible’s Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
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You can also support the Jeremiah Program by attending the annual spring luncheon, April 27th, 11am-1pm at the Courtyard by Marriott in Moorhead where steadfast Jeremiah partners and new friends can come together to celebrate the mission of Jeremiah Program, mingle and socialize, hear transformative stories from Jeremiah moms, and enjoy great music. Tickets [$45 for a single seat, $250 for a half-table sponsor, and $500 for a full-table sponsor] can be purchased online at www.jeremiahprogram.org/generationbuilders or
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a piece of dad advice i received that has served me well is… not something I’ve been told, but shown by my parents, and that’s to be present for your kids. They were always there to support me growing up, whether it was something big or small, and I hope to do the same for my kids.
one quality i hope my kids get from my wife… her selflessness. It’s one of her qualities that helps to make her an incredible NICU nurse, mother, wife, and person.
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people might be surprised to know i... am part Japanese. My paternal grandmother was born in Tokyo and raised on the north shore of Oahu, HI. I also have a passion for food and music. I’m a terrible singer and not the best cook, but I’m really good at going to concerts and eating!
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outside of my family, i love to spend time… golfing and fishing. Both of which I love doing with my family as well, it’s just a little more chaotic when we are all involved.
my day goes smoothly because… of my supporting cast around me. At home, it’s my wife. At work, it’s my dental team. If I had to do it alone, it would not be pretty.
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helping the people I get to see everyday. I take pride that I challenge myself to a lifetime of learning
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time with my wife is usually spent… in sweatpants watching TV. It’s always been time for us to be ourselves and connect.
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any time I get to see my kids succeed. Seeing and feeling their pure happiness when they meet or exceed their own expectations never gets old.
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loss, but it was definitely during the Super Bowl. Opponent’s 22-yard line, under 5 minutes with an 8-point lead. Run the ball! C’mon man!
if my wife could throw away one thing of mine it would be…
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any pair of tennis shoes I’m not currently wearing. Apparently “extra pairs of lawn-mowing shoes” is not a thing in her mind.
my wife would say the most romantic thing i have done… doing things to show her I am thankful to have her. Even if it’s as simple as letting her sleep in and bringing her coffee in bed.
my favorite gas station goodie grab… Giant Sunflower Seeds—Kettle Roast. As a college
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baseball pitcher, you may only pitch every fifth day, but you chew sunflower seeds everyday. Basically, you become a professional seed chewer.
a parenting trick that works for me… teamwork. In our house parenting is a full-court man-to-man press. If they divide you, it’s over. And they always go for the weak one, which is me.
something i want my kids to experience… helping people less fortunate than we are. Whether it’s volunteering their time or efforts or donating items, I hope they give to others. I feel it will teach them thankfulness and humility.
the day i would love to live again… either of the days my kids were born. Two of the happiest days of my life…hands down.
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start to talk faster and louder. I have cures for diaper rash to potty training to crying teenagers. So there can only be one reason, and I know it takes a village, but my village has a clear leader and that is my mom. Basically, my mom is just plain cooler than your mom.
ne day my oldest son asked me who came first, the twins or him. He just couldn’t remember life without them. That’s how I feel when I think about when I became a mother. I am not crazy, I do know My mom has had it going on for 50 years. My [older!] when my first child was born. It’s just hard to remember sister turns 50 this year, that’s how I know. When we life before or without those four. The sleepless nights, were young my mom always welcomed our friends with schedules, worries, hugs, tears, and excitement seem no questions asked. We lived a block from school and we as if they have always been there. So the upcoming were “that house.” Some may claim it was convenience Mother’s Day has me thinking. When did I become a real but I say it was comfort. Mom handled four kids in four mother? When did I learn how to care for these little years without missing dinners, school runs to deliver human beings? When did I learn what to do and how forgotten uniforms or homework, and never missed a to do it? Because now, if friends, family, or any random sporting event. On occasion there were cookies and cake mother at Target asks my opinion about anything to do when we got home from school. She made individual with parenting, the words of wisdom come flying out microwave meals before that was a thing. We could of my mouth like I am spokeswoman in the latest and “cook” pancakes or spaghetti whenever our schedules greatest infomercial. I mean, seriously, I think I even didn’t allow for a normal family dinner. She was head 46
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oh, by the way beautician. She gave my sister and I perms, tweezed our eyebrows, cut my brother’s hair, and I am a little embarrassed to admit she let me know when I should start wearing makeup. And I quote, “Deb, a little blush might not hurt.” She was our personal assistant and handled our occasional meltdowns, ranging from name-calling to falling during a track-hurdle final. I still remember the night I came home and said, “Mom, I met a boy.” She got out of bed and we talked for two hours. Yep, that conversation centered around my now hubby. She just has this sixth sense when things are important. She has done so much, but I think her real gift is what she doesn’t do. She has this unbelievable ability to not pass judgement or counsel too much at the perfect time. When I told her I was having a baby and then again the next year when I told her I was having twins, she simply hugged me and said, “Congratulations!” She followed with telling me that it was a perfect way to start a family. I told her I was going back to work, she said, “Great.” I told her I was going to stay home with the kids, she said, “Smart choice.” She simply makes me feel like every decision I make is the right one and she limits her words and judgment. Now when I look at my children as they balance between youth and adulthood I think of my mom. What would she say, and better yet, what wouldn’t she say? I know they are past crockpot meals and high fives and when they are conflicted I think of how my mother would respond. She would let them decide, make their own decisions. Silence is golden.
The one thing I know is that my mom is beyond great [shout out to Dad here, too! If I have ever seen a winning team it would be those two]. She has told me forever that she wants me to accomplish more than she did, see more than she has, do more than she did, and be more than she ever was. Let me just say it’s a tall order. I am not sure if I can reach those heights. But I do know that my mom thinks I can! So I guess what I am saying is that you all know now that my mom is way cooler than your mom. If you don’t believe me yet I have one more story that will seal the deal. I went to visit my mom and dad when they were wintering in California and when she saw me she said, “Honey, it looks like you lost weight.” Mic drop! Deb is a city girl from Finley, ND, and she and her husband, Tim, have called the Fargo-Moorhead area home for the last 15 years. She graduated from Drake University in Des Moines, IA, with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. Currently Deb’s day job is working on her next adventure and she welcomes the pleasant distraction that writing brings. She is mom to Jake [23], Tony [22], Nick [22], and Emily [20], and credits them for her inspiration. She fills her spare time with golf, HGTV, shopping, and Netflix.
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you just do Around October 2007 is when the changes started in Emily, Kate’s daughter. “She was about 18 months old and daycare started to notice things,” Kate remembers. “Things like spinning in circles, and she didn't respond to her name.” Mary Lou remembers starting the garbage disposal in the kitchen and Emily not reacting at all.
language and communication skills combined with rigid, repetitive behaviors. Because of the range of symptoms, this condition is now called autism spectrum disorder [ASD]. It covers a large spectrum of symptoms, skills, and levels of impairment. ASD ranges in severity from a handicap that somewhat limits an otherwise
“I thought maybe she had hearing loss or a hearing disability,” Mary Lou says. But it wasn’t a hearing issue.
normal life to a devastating disability that may require institutional care.
“May 18, 2008, we got our diagnosis,” Kate says. Emily was diagnosed with autism. “It will be almost a decade now that we have had this diagnosis, and it's been a real different kind of rollercoaster.”
According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 68 children in the United States is autistic. The prevalence is also higher in boys [1 in 42] than girls [1 in 189] and it knows no racial, ethnic, income, social, or educational boundaries. Children with ASD have difficulty communicating as well as understanding what other people think and feel. They may display repetitive body movements, be resistant to changes in
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you just do their routine, and be very sensitive to sounds, touches, two worlds smells, or sights that seem normal to others. While Could she do this…could they do this as a family? Kate some people with ASD are cognitively impaired to a wondered about herself, her husband Ken, and their two degree, they may have unusually advanced skills in sons, Noah and Ben [then ages 8 and 3, respectively]. other areas such as art, music, or memorizing facts. “I still question if I can do it,” Kate admits with a smile. “But Symptoms of ASD typically appear in the first three you just have to do it. They're your kids no matterwhat.”
years of life. “We didn't know anything about autism,” Kate recalls of the early days of Emily’s diagnosis.
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Her first step was educating herself. “I started reading anything and everything…whether it was fictional, harmful or not harmful, because we just didn't know Emily’s diagnosis was difficult for grandma too. “In anything about autism,” Kate says. Kate and her husband the very beginning, my mind went immediately to tried different approaches, perspectives, and attitudes. what does this mean that she won't be able to do?” “Finally, I landed on this one Facebook page called Diary Mary Lou recalls reflecting on the activities her four of a Mom,” Kate shares. Jess, the founder of the page, children partook in growing up. “And then I thought, is a mother of two girls, one with autism and close to ‘can't go there!’ And together we decided we wouldn’t Emily’s age. “Her perspective, how she viewed things, let anyone ever tell us what Emily will never be able and how she let her child be her own neurology, really to do, or what she can't do.”
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you just do resonated with me. From her I picked up different autistic authors, autistic writers, autistic bloggers, and just started following them and how they use autism positively in their world.” Kate says one of the biggest discoveries was understanding how autistics interpret the world differently than neuro-typical people do. “Emily smells things we don't smell. She sees things we don't see. She sees them in different perceptions. She notices different things and she's very attuned to people's feelings. So if I'm anxious, she's anxious,” Kate explains. “Knowing all of this allowed us as a family to stop trying to fit Emily’s square body into a round hole. Instead we've just shaved off our edges and became more adaptable.” This adaptation has also changed how Kate sees the world. “All behavior is communication,” she explains. “Even small things like when I’m driving and instead of being mad at the lady that cut me off, I think, ‘well, maybe she's on her way to a therapy clinic,’ ‘maybe her mother is dying,’ ‘maybe she's not feeling well.’ You never know what's going on behind the scenes with people. The outer perception is not always what’s right.” Kate acknowledges that to an outsider Emily can appear to be not listening and is sometimes aggressive or loud, but this isn’t Emily being unruly, nor a discipline problem. Rather, it is Emily working to acclimate to the world around her. “I have to do what is necessary for her neurology to live the fullest life possible,” Kate says. “Not the way I want her to live, but the way she needs to live to be a successful autistic person.” “I'm probably a better parent than I was when Kate was growing up because of what she has taught me about Emily,” Mary Lou says. “I am very much a problem solver and a nurturer and I don't like conflict, but in this case I've tried to really default to Kate. I can't tell her what Emily should be doing; she knows a whole lot more than I do.”
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Mary Lou also thinks she’s a better grandparent because of Emily, too. “She has enabled me to be calmer, believe it or not. When she would first come over I would just be on edge. I couldn't take my eyes off her. Now when she's over here she takes command of the kitchen table, and she's got her markers out and her earphones on and the TV going, and I busy myself in the kitchen and just enjoy her company.”
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Emily’s diagnosis also resulted in a career change for Kate. She currently has four different part-time positions she dedicates herself to that offer her the flexibility she needs to accommodate Emily’s schedule and still provide her the satisfaction of earning an income and making a difference. Four days a week she takes care of three, four, and five-year olds at Weekare Childkare Center. Two nights a week she works with the Fargo Park District’s adaptive programs and Saturdays she manages the Red River Valley Asperger-Autism Network’s Legos and More Program.
needs to be able to advocate for herself, knowing her gifts and limitations.
“You can't be afraid to speak your mind and say your piece, and dictate what you'd like for your child,” Kate says. “For years nobody believed me that Emily was learning how to read and speak through videos.” But she was. Emily learned to turn on the closed captioning of her favorite movies and to navigate the DVD remote to speed up, slow down, and pause scenes, watching the same scene over and over again until she had the movie memorized verbally, and by reading it. “She knows literally hundreds The Legos and More program is something Kate is very of movies and videos and she can read them. But nobody passionate about. While attending an autism conference ever believed me because you don't let kids watch videos she heard a panel discussion of autistic adults. “One all the time, you don't let them just sit there with their of the questions was, ‘when did you notice that you face in their iPad!” It wasn’t a big selling point, but Kate were different?’" They all said third grade. All of them,” incorporated iPad time into Emily’s IEP. Kate remembers. “So I want to start getting kids at the “When you’re first diagnosed, you just have no idea. fourth, fifth, and sixth-grade level just hanging out. People say ‘you have to do this.’ And you follow, but Even if they don't play with each other, necessarily, but then you find out that you have more choices, more they could play board games, sit and draw, do a craft options, more of a voice than you thought you had. I've together, and incorporate all their abilities and their actually sculpted her public education more so than disabilities.” That is what Legos and More is offering. a lot of people, because I don't take no for an answer.” While parents attend the weekly support group, the kids are in the next room being supervised. “Let’s catch “I have always said, since this started, that Emily has them earlier so they know how to, somewhat, navigate brought out the best in Kate,” Mary Lou proudly says social interactions so by the time they get to middle about her daughter. “I never would have thought she school and high school they're at least acclimated to had this in her. This courage. This strength. This ability social situations. That's just what they need. To get to be a voice. I sit in on those IEP meetings and there together and notice everybody's quirks and non-quirks. is nothing that gets by this woman.” Everybody's so normal that they're different. Everybody's their place so different that they're normal. And just hang.” Mary Lou opens her simple, spiralbound notebook and her voice enthusiastically shows me the sketch she has laid out. Emily currently attends Eagles Elementary’s Autism “We have a dream…well, we have several,” she clarifies. Academy and Kate is instrumental in crafting her IEP “But the big dream we have is to have an independent and [Individual Education Plan], which is a legally binding semi-independent residence for adults on the autism agreement that dictates Emily’s curriculum and how spectrum. And It’s not a group home.” she will be taught. “My three goals for her are to communicate, regulate, and advocate,” Kate explains. The complex will have multiple individual apartments that will have more of a home feel than an institutional “Math, reading, social studies, George Washington's the set up. Two to three non-autistic individuals/couples first President, that will come, but none of those will will live on site, offering support and supervision to come without meeting those three goals.” the residents. Mary Lou is working with a non-profit Kate emphasizes that Emily must learn to communicate, in Omaha called Sheltering Tree that offers a similar whether it is with sign language, writing things down, facility for adults with Down Syndrome. Now Mary or using an alternative communication device or app. Lou provides her knowledge of marketing and public Then she needs to know how to regulate herself, how to relations in the nonprofit world and in return Sheltering calm her emotions and know when she needs to exit a Tree provides all the details of building and running situation before having a meltdown. And, lastly, Emily their facility, as well as things they would do differently.
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kate’s picks Here are some resources Kate recommends for all looking to understand autism better: online • A Diary of a Mom – www.adiaryofamom.com/ www.facebook.com/ adiaryofamom • Ask an Autistic - www.youtube.com/user/neurowonderful • Autism Women's Network – www.autismwomensnetwork.org • Autistic Self-Advocacy Network – www.autisticadvocacy.org • Ed Wiley Autism Acceptance Lending Library - www.facebook.com/ EdWileyAutismAcceptance • We are Like Your Child – www.wearelikeyourchild.blogspot.com authors • Sparrow Rose Jones • Amy Sequenzia • Paula Durbin-Westby • Michelle Sutton books • The Curly Hair Project by Alis Rowe • Autism and Neurodiversity in the Classroom by Thomas Armstrong • The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism by Shannon Des Roches Rosa, Jennifer Byde Myers, Liz Ditz, Emily Willingham, and Carol Greenburg www.onthemindsofmoms.com
With the exception of A Diary of a Mom, all other writers and contributors are autistic.
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you just do Mary Lou is enlisting the services of her son Scott, an architect and construction company owner, to provide the design and rendering of the building. “I want to drive up and see gables, and a front porch, and these apartments in the back should look like townhomes,” she explains. The complex will also provide an outdoor, secure, common space where residents can have a barbeque, shoot hoops, or kick around a soccer ball. “They can socialize with others who are on the same playing field.” Mary Lou and Kate try not to look too far into Emily’s future, but they know the concerns loved ones of children on the autism spectrum can experience. “If I hadn't found out about Sheltering Tree, I would've always wondered, ‘Where is she going to live? What's going to happen to her?’" Mary Lou confesses. “There are some things you just have to start thinking about, like guardianship,” Kate says. “When they turn 18, you have to know the process, the paperwork, and the money required to gain guardianship over your 18 year old to make medical decisions or to make sure that they can pay their bills, or take a bus, or things like that. I don't dwell on it, because if I did, then I would be a wreck.” Harbor Homes will offer loved ones peace of mind and residents a community of friendship and support. “It's going to take money. It's going to take work,” Mary Lou stresses. But she also sees the need and the initial positive feedback she’s received when sharing her dream will make this dream a reality. “I'm one of those that says, ‘don't tell me we can't do it…we can do it!’”
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just know Navigating the journey of an autism diagnosis for a decade now has afforded Kate and Mary Lou the wisdom of time and experience. “First,” Kate advises parents of a newly diagnosed child, “they are the same exact child they were the day before you got your diagnosis. Nothing's changed. Now you just have a name for it.”
Kate says of the beneficial perspective she has gained from these resources. “And don’t be afraid,” Mary Lou adds. “If you are noticing any behaviors, if you think there is something, explore, explore, explore, because the sooner you do the more help you'll get. Don't be afraid. If you're afraid of that diagnosis, you're going to go untreated, un-helped for an awfully long time, and miss out on a lot.” Kate also points out the importance of trusting your gut. “Sometimes the doctor's not right – not to discredit them – but sometimes they just aren’t right,” she says. “You have to go with what you feel is best for your child. And if your child’s not responding to a therapy then maybe you need to rethink something. I say just to remain open. The path that I wanted for my daughter is not her path right now. And that's okay. Everybody has a different way of doing things.” And you will have tough days. “Self-awareness is excruciatingly important,” Kate says. “I’ve gotten to a point when I have advocated for myself enough to know what I can and cannot do and I'm not afraid to say no. Use the resources available in our community, like Red River Valley Asperger-Autism Network, Pathfinder Services, or Family Voices. And find your tribe of people that can listen to you when you need it.” Mary Lou is a big part of Kate’s tribe and her lifeline on a bad day. “I call my mom and she's getting better at not fixing it. Just listening, which is all I really need. Just to vent, swear a lot, cry, and then I exhale and keep going,” Kate says with a smile. “I think you’re allowed to give yourself that little pity-party moment and then get on with it,” Mary Lou says. She also reminds her daughter of all the successes she has had and how far Emily has come. “She has an ability to read music, and an aptitude for art,” Kate says of Emily. “She can tell the difference between a Van Gogh, a Monet, and a Warhol.” Emily can also identify a melody and knows if it is composed by Mozart, Beethoven, Strauss, and the like. Next year in middle school she will be learning the clarinet.
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you just do never be able to read, or do this or that—she's pretty much given them the middle finger on all of those. I just don't say, "Never!" you do “Our whole family has adapted,” Mary Lou says, reflecting on the impact of Emily’s autism. “Our four kids, their spouses, and nine grandchildren...we've all learned a lot. When the grandkids are together in the summer, they kind of know what Emily's little quirks are, but then we also know what everyone else’s are.”
…I placed my hand on top of my mother’s, exhaled and began to tell her my fears. “Mom, how am I going to do this someday? How am I going to do this for you? For Dad? I don’t think I can…I hope I don’t let you down, I pray to God I am strong like you. I watched you, and you were amazing—I hope I am amazing for you.” And you know what? She said to me what I have said to more people than I can count when they ask me how I do what I do—how do I have a child with autism—she said to me,
Mary Lou and Kate have also seen their relationship “YOU JUST DO.” evolve. “It has strengthened it. It has made it better,” …You do what you do because that is what God asks of Kate declares. “I think we've become better friends,” you, it is what you do because you love. Mary Lou adds and Kate agrees. They are a good team, supporting each other and reflecting back the common strengths they share. Six years ago, Kate’s grandmother, Mary Lou’s mother, passed away. Kate watched in awe has her mother traversed such a personal, emotional time with grace and strength, but she also began to consider her parents’ own mortality. She shared the experience in an essay:
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ou know all those emails you receive once you register for camp? Read them. It may seem like a hassle but those emails—especially the ‘welcome’ email that usually rolls out a week before camp starts - are filled with all the important information you need to know. read the fine print The welcome email gives details about where to go, what to expect, what to bring to eat, and what to wear; all the really relevant information you need to help you and your child be prepared for the first day of camp. Remember, there is nothing more embarrassing to most teenagers than being the odd one out.
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Sources: Darkness to Light | American Camp Association Protect Youth Sports | www.acacamps.org
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