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event calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 food for thought . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 shutterbug

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oh, by the way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40

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all kids deserve a healthy start . . . . . . . . . . 28

gettin' through it mommy on the mendâ&#x20AC;Śthe fourth trimester . . . 30

shop talk setting the record straight chiropractic care for your kiddo . . . . . . . . . . 32

did you know preschool that goes beyond . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

body + being strengthâ&#x20AC;Śyou can handle it! the many challenges of motherhood . . . . . . . 42

just a thought ego . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

ready, set, grow smile like you mean it! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58

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feature & profiles mod mom profile tanya abraham . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10

mompreneur jodi roperâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; cyclebar. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16

rad dad profile josh christofferson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

cover story ellen rummelâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;the power of joy . . . . . . . . . . 50

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one word that best describes my family… brooke erstad fargo | nd gettin’ through it: page 30 Busy! With my husband and I both having full time careers and 3 kids [ages 5 & under] it's busy! We spend a lot of time with family and friends, and are involved in many youth and amateur sports activities. Our schedules are always full, but we enjoy being busy together!

angie kutzer bismarck | nd body+being: page 42 Crazy. My husband and children are crazy funny [I guess I am too at times]. Our lives as self-employed, goal-seeking, parents with two busy kids are crazy busy. We are all crazy in love with each other; we eat meals at the table often and share the ups and downs of our days. And lastly, we are crazy goofy! Silliness and laughter abound in our car, our home, and anywhere that we are together.

kathleen wrigley bismarck | nd just a thought: page 46 Warriors. We have persevered through some tumultuous life storms.

deb uglem fargo | nd oh by the way: page 40 Close! Tim and I married, moved, and had four kids in our first five years of marriage. The kids are so close in age that I don't think they remember life without each other. Over time the closeness in years has led to a bond that some may struggle to understand or even believe. They celebrate each others' successes, pick each other up in failures, and will defend each other to the end. When Tim and I look at them we can't help but feel the closeness and we are humbled and proud that we may have somehow had something to do with building those relationships.

jennifer sabourin fargo | nd shop talk: page 32 Playful! My husband and I have two young daughters, ages 6 and 2. Our family of four likes to be silly and have fun. Whether we are outside sledding or building a snowman, or inside playing hide and seek, or having a family game night, we enjoy our time together. A family who plays together stays together!!!

jill suppes fargo | nd did you know: page 34 Fun! While everyone in our family is running different directions all day, we still find time to have fun together. Luckily, we all have an excellent senses of humor, especially my husband, so the jokes and one-liners are constant!

kari klingsporn hitterdal fargo | nd food for thought: page 24 Evolving! Just when I think I've got something figured out, whether it is a system for keeping things organized, a stage a child is going through, or a surefire way to keep myself on track to go the gym consistently, something changes. We move to a new house and any organization I had in place is thrown out the window, the kid moves on to the next phase of development and I feel like I am back at square one, or the gym schedule changes and I lose my motivation. And…I'm [mostly] okay with this! I long ago gave up on being on top of everything and, deep down, I know having it all together is just not me. I've tried to teach my kids that people change, plans change, and even our own ideas change: We are all always evolving, hopefully to a better place full of love, hope, peace, and FUN!

product of Minnesota “Lake County”—Middle Cormorant Lake, to be exact—Tanya Abraham is the youngest of Gary and Karen Globstad’s three daughters. When Tanya was eight her mom passed away from encephalitis.

Two years later her dad remarried, adding two more siblings to the family. “Growing up in a blended family produced its own set of challenges for sure,” Tanya says. “But I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Our lives as a whole come together to make us who we are and it is up to each of us how we choose to deal with it.” For the past 18 years Tanya has worked at the United States Attorney’s Office with co-workers she describes as the most talented, brilliant lawyers and legal support staff in the federal system. “Each day I am fortunate to work with a group of justice-driven, passionate people who want to make this world a better place to live,” she shares. Married to Blair for 24 years and mom to Sophia [18] and Olivia -Liv for short- [14], Tanya enjoys time at the lake, playing piano, putzing in her flower garden, and quilting.

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tanya abraham age 44, fargo.nd

if i could pick a song to represent me, it would be… All I Ever Have To Be by Amy Grant—a good daily reminder for me.

outside of my family, i am passionate about… reading and spending time with my friends.

my day goes smoothly when… I come home after work to a house that is picked-up and clean!

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them each for their wisdom, kindness, generosity, and listening abilities. They are truly amazing women and I love them to pieces!!

my biggest pet peeve… people who get after their spouses, children, other family members, or friends in front of others—it is incredibly uncomfortable for all involved, including those witnessing it!

the quality i admire most in my mom is… the quality I admire in many of the moms I know is the unconditional, sacrificial, and unique love that they express for their children. I am continually amazed and in awe of the mother/daughter adult relationships I see in my friends and their moms. I can’t wait to have that with my girls someday!

the parenting trick i’ve learned from my husband is… to find the “fun” in things and to be silly sometimes “just because!”

my biggest splurge or guilty pleasure is… shoes, shoes, and more shoes! Oh! And books – definitely books, as my husband and girls would attest.

looking back, when my kids were young i wish i would have… www.onthemindsofmoms.com

written down and taken more video and pictures of those moments that I thought I would never forget because, as time has passed, I find there are far too many things that have faded from my memory.

the quality i admire most in my closest friend… I have a few really good close friends and I admire

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the best advice i can give my girls is…

my favorite meal has to be…

be “other-centered” [focus on others rather than on self]; be genuine in all things, believe in yourself, and work hard. There’s nothing like a good work ethic. Also, don’t look to others for your self-worth— KNOW your own self-worth.

grilled steak, potatoes, and a glass of red wine on the patio or at the lake.

one thing my husband has given me that i can’t live without…

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our girls—they are my world.

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my proudest mom moment to date was… watching my girls develop their own unique personalities and “come into their own” as happy, confident, and kind people.

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school’s out…what to do spring & summer camps 2017

spring Mini Clay Worlds Dream up your own miniature fairy garden or minecraft world out of clay at this Presidents’ Day Young Artist’s Camp, February 20th, for ages 6-11. In this three-hour camp [9am-12pm] at the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], learn and hone your hand building skills to build a pot and decorate it with mini buildings, trees, hedges, or anything you can imagine! $22 members/$28 nonmembers. Register at http://plainsart.org/learn/school-break-camps-mini-clay-worlds/. Paint Samson’s Portrait: A Watercolor Workshop Learn drawing and watercolor painting techniques as you create a portrait of Samson, star of local artist and author Ellen Jean Diederich’s picture book Samson’s Gift at this Spring Break Young Artist’s Camp, March 16th. For ages 6-11, 9am-11:30am. draw inspiration from artwork at the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], and create your very own watercolor masterpiece while learning interesting facts about sheep and wool. All class participants will receive a copy of Diederich’s 2014 picture book Samson’s Gift. $26 members/$32 nonmembers. Register at http://plainsart. org/learn/paint-samsons-portrait-a-watercolor-workshop/. Animated Ceramic Houses There is no place like home! What does a home mean to you? A house can be a container to hide or house secrets. A house can be a self-portrait or it can be about someone special in your life. It can reflect your dreams or tell a story about a particular place or memory. Ages 11-17 come enjoy this fun two-day Spring Break Teen Camp [March 16th & 17th, 1pm-4pm] and create your own unique and personalized architectural house form. Explore hard and soft clay slab techniques and learn textural and decorative surface techniques for low fire clay bodies. $52 members/$65 nonmembers. Register at http:// plainsart.org/learn/school-break-camp-animated-ceramic-houses/.

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FAITH FaHoCha Bible Camp An interdenominational camp nestled beside South Lake Washington, 25 miles East of New Rockford, ND, we offer a unique camping experience combining a fun filled family like atmosphere with life skill training and Bible study. All from an encouraging, caring and loving staff! Camp dates include: June 11-16 – Varsity Camp [ages 16-18], June 18-23 – Middler Camp 1 [ages 10-12], June 25-30 – Jr. Varsity Camp [ages 14-16], July 5-7 – Beginner Camp 1 [ages 8-10], July 9-14 – Middler Camp 2 [ages 10-12], July 16-21 – Jr. High Camp [ages 12-14], July 23-26 – Beginner Camp 2 [ages 8-10]. For more information, please call 701.674.3211 or 701.351.4835 or visit www.fahocha.org. Inspiration Point Christian Camp + Retreat Center Located on Spitzer Lake, 90 minutes Southeast of Fargo/Moorhead, Inspiration Point is a highly respected Christian camp and retreat center set in the lakes country of Minnesota. From our chef-prepared food service to our clean facilities, from

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the breathtaking setting on Spitzer Lake to the laughter that fills this place, it is all designed to provide time and space for people of all ages to experience and grow in the good gifts of God. Register online at www.ipoint.org or call 218.998.4572 for more information. Registrations paid in full by April 1 receive $30 early registration discount. Registrations paid in full by May 1 receive a $20 early registration discount.

DANCE Fairydell Day Camp This day camp at Red River Dance [2921 Fiechtner Dr S, Fargo] is for children who love fairytales and dancing! Each day, dancers will read a story, enjoy a snack, make an art project, participate in creative movement, and learn a dance that fits to the theme of the day. Family and friends are invited to watch a mini Fairydell Performance held the last day of class. Sessions run: June 13-15, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]; July 11-13, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]; August 8-10, 9am-12pm [ages 3-5] & 12:30pm-3:30pm [ages 5-7]. For more information contact Haylee Thompson [haylee@redriverdance.com or 701.280.0004] or visit www.redriverdance.com.

SPORT American Gold Gymnastics Offering classes for kids ages 18 months to 18 years. Classes develop physical awareness, work on coordination, balance, listening skills, fine and gross motor skills, and incorporate lots of fun! For more info visit www. americangoldgymnastics.com or call 701.280.0400. Camp Summer Splash At Camp Summer Splash our campers will experience a variety of water activities. Campers will also learn the importance of water safety. From swimming to creating waves at the water park campers will have an outstanding time with new friends and staff. Come create a splash this summer at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], July 24-28! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. Spectacular Sports Camp Spectacular Sports Camp will explore the wide world of sports at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], August 14-18. From soccer to racquetball campers will experience all aspects of the game in a positive and encouraging environment. This camp will focus on teamwork, sportsmanship, and giving your best effort at all times. Join the Family Wellness team this summer at Spectacular Sports Camp! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. Super Summer Sports Camp This sports camp is packed with fun for campers of all ability levels. Campers will learn and play sports of all sorts in a positive and encouraging environment at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], June 12-16. This camp will focus on teamwork, sportsmanship, and giving your best effort at all times. Campers will learn new skills, make new

camps friends, and have a blast exploring new sports and activities. Come join our Super Summer Sports Camp to start your summer out with a Homerun! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Soaking Up the Sun Soaking up the Sun is the ultimate summer camp experience combined with high-energy activities and a boat load of water fun at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], June 26-30. Campers will be able to create a splash in our pool and participate in a variety of outdoor activities. Soak up the fun and excitement this summer at Family Wellness! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/.

SELF Camp Foley Grow grit. Investigate independence. For over 90 years, Camp Foley has provided a place for kids to go to experience the Minnesota outdoors while building skills that will help them grow in independence while they investigate who they will become as young adults. Over 40 activities and people from around the world. Come join the Foley Family! Choose from 1, 2, 3, and 4 week sessions June 22-August 17. For more information, email fun@campfoley.com, call 218.543.6161, or visit www.campfoley.com. I AM I CAN Summer Camp for Girls 2017 marks the 27th year of the "I AM I CAN" Summer Camp for Girls, a day camp held at the Academie Agencie in downtown Fargo. This camp is designed to be a fun and learning-filled week [M-F from 10am-5pm] where the camper will develop her self-confidence and self-expression. The camp is open to girls ages 9-13, running June 20-24 and August 1-5. The seminars and events are age appropriate and include but are not limited to attitude, social graces, table etiquette, visual poise and presentation, modeling, fitness, confidence, building, skincare, and wardrobe. To register call 701.235.8132 or visit www.academieagencie.com. Farmers Union Camp It’s like no other camp on earth, where city kids and farm kids have a blast just being themselves! Activities include water games, theme nights, sports, a campfire, talent show, games, skits, educational camp project, co-op store, and banquet. Camps are held at Wesley Acres [near Valley City] and Heart Butte [near Elgin] in June, July, and August. Cost is $100 for four-day, three-night camps for grades 3-6; and $150 for five-day, four-night camps for grades 7-12. [These are Early Bird rates and camps fill up fast, so REGISTER NOW at www.ndfu.org!] Transportation provided. Scholarships often available. For more info, go to ndfu.org/youth/youth-camps, look up North Dakota Farmers Union Youth Program on Facebook, or call 800.366.8331.

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Creative Builders Camp If your child likes a challenge and is always wondering “why?” come find out at Family Wellness Creative Builders Camp. Children will be able to create and

YMCA Camp KODA Activities and Exploration Camp for youth ages 6-11, which includes field trips, science experiments, arts and crafts, swimming, horseback riding and more! Offered at two locations: Fercho YMCA [400 1st Av S, Fargo] and Schlossman YMCA [243 19th Av S, Fargo] with weekly sessions run June 5 - August 11. $195 for YMCA Cass Clay members, $215 for non-members. For more information, contact Keegan Murphy [701.364.4116 or keegan.murphy@ymcacassclay.org] or visit ymcacassclay.org/koda. Family Wellness Camp Imagination Station This camp will provide an exciting, hands-on learning environment filled with activities and healthy choices. Campers will have the opportunity to dive into their imaginations through art projects and theatrical play. This camp will also provide our campers with a variety of activities in the gym and our swimming pool. Dream big with Family Wellness Camp Imagination at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], July 10-14! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo. org/youth-family/camps/. Wild Wilderness Camp Explore the world around you this summer during the Wild Wilderness Camp. Kids will learn about different animals, climates, and even survival skills. Come find your wild side at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] July 17-21! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/.

NUTRITION Camp Fuel Camp Fuel is an all-access pass to exciting new ways of health and fitness. At Camp Fuel, campers will be able to participate in all kinds of activities at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] is for children July 31-August 4, including swimming, group fitness, and a variety of gym activities. Camp Fuel also features a unique approach to the media around us, including an opportunity for campers to create their own public service announcement with KVLY. Come fuel your healthy lifestyles at Camp Fuel! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Creative Cooking Camp Creative Cooking Camp is here to test your culinary skills. In this camp we will focus on creating healthy recipes and enhancing your skills and knowledge within the kitchen. Each child will be able to learn hands-on skills that will help bring out their inner chef. Come test your taste buds this summer at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] June 5-9! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. Cookapalooza At Camp Cookapalooza, campers will not only rock out in the kitchen creating healthy new recipes, they will also get to participate in a variety of fitness classes, activities, and swimming. Come get your party started this summer with Cookapalooza at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], August 7-11! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/ Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/. february • march twenty seventeen | on the minds of moms

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College for Kids & Teens College for Kids & Teens is a summer camp program for students K-12, held on the beautiful MSUM campus [1104 7th Av S, Moorhead], June 12-15, June 19-22, July 10-13, and July 17-20. Expert instructors teach classes that encourage learning, exploration, adventure, and creativity while cultivating an understanding and appreciation for a variety of topics, including: science, art, technology, nature, writing, fitness, and more! Registration opens February 14th, $129 fee. For more information visit www.mnstate.edu/outreach or contact Shireen at cfk@mnstate.edu.

experiment with a variety of fun hands-on science and engineering projects designed for kids at Family Wellness [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo] June 19-23. Come explore why and how at Creative Builders Camp! Family Wellness and YMCA Members: $175/Nonmembers: $195. For more info, call 701.234.7001 or visit www.familywellnessfargo.org/youth-family/camps/.

odi Roper, mom to Jackson [16] and Miah [14], is a North Fargo graduate and received a degree in Exercise Science and Nutrition from North Dakota State University. She has spent the past 25 years in the fitness industry, filling a variety

of roles from personal trainer to management. Each step in her career has provided her the expertise to open her own business this year, CycleBar in West Fargo, just off Veterans Boulevard. CycleBar is a premium indoor cycling studio, offering concierge-level service, premium amenities, and a low-impact/high-intensity cycling experience for all ages and body www.onthemindsofmoms.com

types. Guided by CycleStar® Instructors, riders enjoy exclusive playlists, theatre seating, and advanced bikes providing each rider with their personal performance statistics after each ride. The CycleBar experience aims to calm your mind, elevate your mood and revive your senses. “My passion for fitness and helping others is so intense, it feels like I never go to work,” Jodi says. “Love what I do!”

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jodi roper cyclebar, west fargo.nd

what inspired you to go into business for yourself? After working FOR other businesses and people throughout the years, I have learned so much and I’m grateful for those different positions and roles. Yet I have always felt I was being held back on what I truly wanted to do. I have too many ideas, so much to give, and going into business on your own allows a person to bring some unique and personal ideas to life!

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and fitness needs and by doing so also contribute to local charities? We're very excited to be able to bring this company and its philosophy to Fargo.

who is the person you most admire? Dave Jones. Dave has been a huge role in this business with me and has taught me so much! He’s been my rock on hard days. He’s the humblest man I know [besides my dad] and his business mind, patience, and hard work with me is very admirable!

what has been the biggest challenge in starting your business? I would say patience with construction and hold ups. It’s expected, but still tests patience and adds stress.

what advice do you have for budding mompreneurs? Do your homework and have someone you can totally trust helping you. Going into business on your own is very rewarding and a lot of work. With determination, hard work, and lots of help, YOU CAN DO IT!! Also, make sure you believe in your business and have passion for it! That makes it so much more fun and you don’t feel like you’re working.

what makes CycleBar different and unique?

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I've been a fitness instructor for over 25 years and I can honestly say the CycleBar experience is genuinely unique. From the moment you enter the studio you're treated like a rock star! From the music, environment, amenities, and equipment, everything is premium quality to provide our riders with an amazing fitness experience. CycleBar believes strongly in giving back to the community. Through the CycleGiving program we're able to create fundraising opportunities for local organizations. How great is it to not only take care of your own health

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mompreneur how do you balance family and business? Family is first! In our world today, whether you own a business or work for a business, trying to achieve balance is challenging. We truly make the effort to make our time together as quality filled as it can be. I have great kids and they are excited for this new business as well. We will make it a family adventure!

thing, you can do it! They have seen my business go up and all the work behind it. I pray they see that doing what you love and have passion for is so important and is very doable with the right mindset and tools.

what are your goals for CycleBar? My goal is to really be community based and community involved. CycleBar is a fun place for people to come and get a workout and feel safe, welcomed, and form relationships with like-minded people. CycleBar is a happy place where people can come and “check-out” for a while.

what three words best describe CycleBar? FUN. Friendships. Awesome workout!

what do you hope you are teaching your kids as they watch you be a mompreneur?

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I hope they see that when you work hard for some-

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february events 2, 7, 9, 14, 16, 21 & 23

Safety Shoppe Car Seat Check www.sanfordhealth.org/ classes-and-events Statistically, four out of five car seats are installed incorrectly. Are you sure yours is right? Don’t take a chance. Head to The Safety Shoppe [601 39th St N, Fargo] Tuesdays 10:45am-7:15pm or Thursdays 1:15pm-5pm. Events are free and open to the public. Space is limited and appointments are required. Please note that it will take a minimum of 30 minutes per car seat per car.

Destination Anchor Island www.fargoparks.com Get out of the cold and take a cruise to Anchor Island, 1pm-5pm, at Fargo South High School Indoor Pool [1840 15th Av S, Fargo]. Enjoy a Saturday afternoon at the Caribbean with music, water games,

and prizes. Don't forget to grab yourself a tasty tropical treat while you relax by the water. $2/swimmer; shallowest depth in pool is 4.5 feet so it’s recommend all younger children are accompanied by an adult while they are in the pool.

LEGO© Batman Storytime & Superhero Training Camp 701.241.1495 www.fargolibary.org To the Batmobile! It’s time to get ready for the LEGO© Batman movie! Join Batgirl and Supergirl for a Batman storytime, craft, and superhero training camp at the Main Library [102 3rd St N, Fargo], 11am-12pm. This program will best be enjoyed by superheroes ages 1 - 6. Capes and other costumes are encouraged. No pre-registration is required. For more information, please contact Children's Services at 701.241.1495.

Kid Quest: Great Art Free for All www.plainsart.org Think big, be bold, and create amazing art! The Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], is filled from floor to ceiling with lots of art to spark your creative juices. After visiting the galleries, create an artwork of your choice in the studio. Participants can sign up for one of three sessions [1pm, 2pm, or 3pm]. This event is free and open to the public. Preregistration required.

Butterfly Ball Ticket Sales 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com The very popular semi-formal Father/ Daughter Dance is back! Tickets go on sale starting at 8am ONLINE ONLY. Young ladies age 4-12 can create memories with dad, step-dad, uncle, grandfather, or other male role model at a magical evening of music, dancing, photo opportunities, and more. Light snacks, dessert, and punch will be served. Butterfly Ball dance dates are March 3rd & 4th, held at Ramada Plaza & Suites [1635 42nd St Av S, Fargo]. Dance will start 6:30pm and goes until 9:30pm.

Kids Healthy Cooking: Healthy Chocolate Cookies 701.234.2400 www.familywellnessfargo.org Let’s make some fudgy chocolate cookies with a healthy twist at the Family Wellness Center [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], 6pm7pm! You will be amazed how yummy these cookies are! Ages 5+, 5-7 needs to be accompanied by an adult. Up to 2 kids per adult. $10 members/$18 non-members. Register online.

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Parents’ Night Out 701.277.9240 www.redriverzoo.org Parents, go enjoy a night out while your

kids [ages 4-12 & must be potty trained] come have some fun at the Red River Zoo [4255 23rd Av S, Fargo] starting at 6pm. Once the children arrive they will be greeted by their team leaders and placed into their team for the evening. Each team is themed after one of our animals here at the Zoo and will rotate through multiple stations including crafting, a night hike out to visit our wolf pack, a close-up animal encounter, and rides on the Diederich Family Carousel. Once each team has finished rotating through the stations, we will all gather to enjoy a snack and an animal-themed movie related to our topic of the night. Pickup is any time before 9:30pm. Members $20 first child, $10 each additional child, Non-Members $30 first child, $15 each additional child. This is a consistently SOLD-OUT event, so pre-registration is required.

B.L.A.S.T. Babysitting Camp 701.364.1711 www.sanfordhealthemseducation.org Babysitting Lessons and Safety Training is the initial course for teens and pre-teens on the responsibilities of caring for children. Held at the F-M Ambulance Service [2215 18th St S, Fargo], 9am-3pm, participants will learn CPR and first aid for children, as well as diaper-changing techniques. They will also learn when to call 911 and what will happen if they do need emergency assistance. The course is designed for young babysitters ages 11–15. Limited space. Register online.

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Awesome Art Afternoon www.fargoparks.com Love art, but hate the mess? Bring your kiddo to this interactive art program to have fun while building a variety of takehome projects. All creative materials will be provided. Adult supervision required. 1pm-3pm at Robert D. Johnson Recreation Center [1104 2nd Av S, Fargo].

Hearts & Smiles 701.232.6102 www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org Join the Tooth Fairy at The Children's Museum at Yunker Farm [1201 28th Av N, Fargo], 10am-5pm, for a whole lot of fun with toothbrushes and your Valentine. Members free, Non-Members $5.

Car Seat Safety 701.364.8100 www.essentiahealth.org Did you know that 8 out of 10 car seats are installed incorrectly? Car-seat safety class is a one-hour class with up-to-date car-seat recommendations and car-seat laws. It is suggested you attend this class as early as 6-7 months of pregnancy. Class is open to parents, grandparents, or caregivers and is taught by a Certified Car-Seat Technician. You do not need to bring your car seat with you to class. Registration is required. Class is held at

Essentia Health [3000 32nd Av S, Fargo] from 5:30pm-6:30pm and is free.

Painting, Dinner & Desserts! www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo Join the MOMS Club of Fargo/Moorhead-IR, 6:15pm-9 pm at First Congregational Church [1101 17th Av S, Fargo] for the art of socializing! No art-smarts required! Come paint "Floating Fireworks" with friends. It’s guaranteed to bring out creativity, fun, and laughter! Light dinner, desserts, and beverages will be provided! Dinner at 6:30pm & painting begins at 7pm. Pre-registration & payment are required at Penelope.galleryonthego. com [click Tickets tab, then select MOMS Club of F/M -IR]. Only $35 per person! 50% of funds benefit MOMS Club of Fargo/ Moorhead-IR, whose goal is to support other mothers, families & our community. Questions, please contact Penelope@ galleronthego.com or 701.781.0042.

Dad’s Basic Training 701.364.8100 www.essentiahealth.org This one-evening class, 6:30pm-8:30pm at Essentia Health [3000 32nd Av S, Fargo], is designed for ‘Dads to be’ and is taught by an experienced Dad. Topics covered include adjustments to fatherhood, how to support Mom, and the basics of infant care.

MOMS Café www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo

momscluboffm@gmail.com Come to the First Congregational Church [1101 17th Av S, Fargo], 10am-11:30am, for the MOMS Club of Fargo/Moorhead IR, ND, monthly meeting. Enjoy time with other moms, snacks, playtime for children, and an opportunity to learn more about the club. This event is free and open to moms and children in the Fargo/Moorhead area.

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President’s Day 701.232.6102 www.childrensmuseum-yunker.org Head to The Children's Museum at Yunker Farm [1201 28th Av N, Fargo], 10am-5pm, and find special treats, $5, $1, and Penny Candy. Members free, Non-Members $5.

Post-Adopt Support Group www.ndpostadopt.org Any ND adoptive family or any ND family providing guardianships are invited to attend this group meeting, 9am-10am, at Red River Coffee [2600 52nd Av S, Fargo]. If you have questions, please email postadopt@ pathinc.org or call 701.551.6349. Visit our website for other meeting times across the state of North Dakota.

Youth Ice-Fishing Derby www.fargoparks.com

1:30pm-3:30pm at the South Woodhaven Pond [4202 Woodhaven Dr S, Fargo], which is stocked with perch, bluegill, and northern pike. Holes will be pre-drilled for participants. This is a catch-and-release event for ages 15 and under. There is no entry fee and there will be free hot cocoa and t-shirts while supplies last.

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FPS Kindergarten Registration 701.446.1043 www.fargo.k12.nd.us/registration Calling all Kindergarteners for the 20172018 school year! Fargo Public School registration is 7:30am-4pm on the 27th and 7:30am-6pm on the 28th at the school your child will attend. If you are unsure of your school boundaries, please call 701.446.1043.

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Come on by to see the sights, explore with hands-on activities, and let your taste buds explode with carnival treats. Activities include: large bounce houses, family dance, obstacle courses, and much more. Summer camp registration will be available at a discounted, early-bird price, for all who are interested in signing up at the carnival. All ages welcome, $5 per family donation recommended.

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FPS Kindergarten Registration 701.446.1043 www.fargo.k12.nd.us/registration Calling all Kindergarteners for the 20172018 school year! Fargo Public School registration is 7:30am-4pm on the 1st & 3rd and 7:30am-6pm on the 2nd & 6th at the school your child will attend. If you are unsure of your school boundaries, please call 701.446.1043.

Camp Carnival 701.234.2400 www.familywellnessfargo.org Camp Carnival at the Family Wellness Center [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], 5pm-7pm, is a fun, free, family event where you get to sample activities from our upcoming youth summer camps! Participants will get the opportunity to dip their toes into a little bit of each camp theme from sports to art, and even the wild wilderness.

CPR for Family & Friends 701.234.5570 www.sanfordhealth.org/ classes-and-events

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Come dressed up for tea and bring your favorite teddy bear. Learn etiquette basics through fun games while enjoying bite-sized snacks and refreshments. From 9am-10am or 11am-12pm at Rheault Farm [2902 25th St S, Fargo]. Pre-registration is required.

Preschoolers ages 3-5 are invited to learn about their world & science at this event geared just for them. Science activities and stories will provide a little knowledge and a lot of fun for youngsters! 11am at the Dr. James Carlson Library [2801 32nd Av S, Fargo] or 6:30pm at the Main Library [102 3rd St N, Fargo] on the 9th or 11am at the Main Library on the 10th. All materials provided. Space is limited; pre-registration is required. Register online or call for details.

Teddy Bear Tea Party 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Kid Quest: Happy Heads www.plainsart.org

This is a 2-hour class taught by American Heart Association instructors. This class [6:30pm-8:30pm on the 2nd & 13th, 9:30am11:30am on the 20th] includes infant and child cardiopulmonary resuscitation [CPR], choking, and demonstration of an automated external defibrillator. This class is for anyone caring for baby. This is not an accreditation course, no card. Preregistration required.

Peter the Slug was feeling down, but he set a goal, did his best, and completed the Great Forest Race. Great advice for aspiring artists! After exploring the Plains Art Museum [704 1st Av N, Fargo], we will be making animal hats inspired by the creative illustrations in Peter the Slug and the Great Forest Race. This event, 1pm-4pm, is free and open to the public. Preregistration required.

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Kids Dream Family Film Series www.marcustheatres.com Grab the family and head to West Acres Cinema [4101 17th Av SW, Fargo] at 10am to view your favorite family flicks for just $3.00 [$2.75 Popcorns & $2.75 Fountain Drinks too]! Kung Fu Panda 3, Ice Age Collision Course, The Wild Life, Stokes

Kids Healthy Cooking: Corn Dog Muffins 701.234.2400 www.familywellnessfargo.org Kids will love learning how to make this fun meal at the Family Wellness Center [2960 Seter Parkway, Fargo], 6pm-7pm! Ages 5+, 5-7 needs to be accompanied by an adult. Up to 2 kids per adult. $10 members/$18

Little Squirt Science 701.241.1495 www.fargolibrary.org

Parents’ Night Out 701.277.9240 www.redriverzoo.org Parents, go enjoy a night out while your kids [ages 4-12 & must be potty trained] come have some fun at the Red River Zoo [4255 23rd Av S, Fargo] starting at 6pm. Once the children arrive they will be greeted by their team leaders and placed into their team for the evening. Each team is themed after one of our animals here at the Zoo and will rotate through multiple stations including crafting, a night hike out to visit our wolf pack, a close-up animal encounter, and rides on the Diederich Family Carousel. Once each team has finished rotating through the stations, we will all gather to enjoy a snack and an animal-themed movie related to

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our topic of the night. Pickup is any time before 9:30pm. Members $20 first child, $10 each additional child, Non-Members $30 first child, $15 each additional child. This is a consistently SOLD-OUT event, so pre-registration is required.

St. Paddy’s Day Parade www.fmstpats.com Everyone is Irish today! Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day with a downtown Fargo parade.

All American Girl Tea Party www.altrusafargo.com All moms, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, daughters, friends and of course dolls are invited to this annual fundraising event held at Dakota Medical Foundation [4141 28th Av S, Fargo], 2pm-4pm. Enjoy tea sandwiches, fruit, desserts, lemonade and of course tea. There are activities for all ages and chances to win amazing door-prizes and drawings. And don't forget your dolls! Purchase your tickets at www.altrusafargo.com.

to bring your car seat with you to class. Registration is required. Class is held at Essentia Health [3000 32nd Av S, Fargo] from 5:30pm-6:30pm and is free.

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School’s Out Day Camp 701.365.8868 www.tntkidsfitness.org If school is out for the day, come to TNT Fitness [2800 Main Av, Fargo] to play! The S.O.D.C. ensures your kiddo will receive well over 60 minutes of physical activity, healthy snacks, and a noon meal, quiet reading time, and creative/open play in the gym. Guaranteed to have a fun-filled day and meet new friends!

MOMS Café www.facebook.com/MomsClubFargo momscluboffm@gmail.com Come to the First Congregational Church [1101 17th Av S, Fargo], 10am-11:30am, for the MOMS Club of Fargo/Moorhead IR, ND, monthly meeting. Enjoy time with other moms, snacks, playtime for children, and an opportunity to learn more about the club. This event is free and open to moms and children in the Fargo/Moorhead area.

Zoocation: A Work Together Challenge Trek 701.277.9240 www.redriverzoo.org School’s out? Skip the daycare center or babysitter and send your child [Grade

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1-5] to spend the day at the Red River Zoo [4255 23rd Av S, Fargo], 8am-3pm! Under the supervision of our education department, children will enjoy a mellow day of exploring the Zoo, playing games, and meeting some of our animals up close. A relaxing, yet structured, day at the Zoo. Activities include: an animal encounter, Zoo tour, crafts, games, outdoor play, science experiment, and carousel rides. $45.00 per child for Zoo members / $50.00 per child for non-members.

Awesome Art Afternoon www.fargoparks.com

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Moorhead Ice Show

Love art, but hate the mess? Bring your kiddo to this interactive art program to have fun while building a variety of takehome projects. All creative materials will be provided. Adult supervision required. 1pm-3pm at Robert D. Johnson Recreation Center [1104 2nd Av S, Fargo].

Enjoy this skating showcase at the Moorhead Sports Center [324 24th St S, Moorhead] featuring skaters in our Learn To Skate and Advanced Skater programs and performances by a nationally ranked guest skater!

El Zagal Shrine Circus 701.241.9100 www.fargoshrinecircus.com

Cosmic Bowling www.fargoparks.com Bring the whole family to West Acres Bowl [3402 Interstate Blvd SW, Fargo], 1pm-3pm, and enjoy some bowling! Music and lights will add to the party atmosphere. Prizes will be given away throughout the event. Registration forms will be available in February. Please register early due to limited availability. $9.00 per person [groups of 4 or 5 preferred].

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sausage and mustard pasta with basil

food for thought

shared by | kari klingsporn hitterdal

n the depths of late winter Sausage and Mustard Pasta with Basil is the ideal comfort food, with a unique blend of flavors for a nice and slightly spicy surprise. A short ingredient list consisting of many pantry staples makes it easy enough to put together on a rushed weeknight, or a wonderful addition to a dinner party, as well as a crowd pleaser for the whole family. This is just as good if you want to make it vegetarian: Field Roast brand Italian sausages substituted for the real thing is my favorite. We like to add mushrooms to this pasta, but follow your taste buds to what you prefer. Relish in the coziness at the end of the winter season and warm up to the homey flavors of this savory and satisfying pasta dish!

you need:

how to:

1 pound penne pasta 1 Tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 ½ pounds Italian sausage, hot or mild ½ pound mushrooms, sliced [optional] ¾ cup dry white wine, such as Sauvignon Blanc ¾ cup half and half 3 Tablespoons grainy mustard 2 Tablespoons Dijon mustard pinch of crushed red pepper [optional] 1 cup fresh basil, thinly sliced ½ cup of reserved pasta water - makes 4-6 servings -

Cook pasta per package directions, drain, reserving ½ cup of pasta water, and set aside. As the pasta is cooking, heat olive oil in a large, deep skillet over medium-high heat. Add the sausage and mushrooms [if using] and cook about 8 minutes until browned, crumbling the sausage to desired consistency as it cooks. Add wine and simmer about 5 minutes to reduce slightly, turning the heat down to medium if necessary, scraping up any browned bits from the bottom of the pan. Add the half and half, mustards, crushed red pepper, and pasta water and simmer for 2 minutes. Turn off the heat, add the pasta and half of the basil, and toss to combine well. Sprinkle the remainder of the basil on top as well as a bit more crushed red pepper if desired. Serve immediately! Kari's passion for food, family, and fun has been with her since her upbringing on her beloved Big Floyd Lake near Detroit Lakes, MN. She earned Secondary Education degrees in both Social Studies and English from Concordia College in Moorhead, MN. She enjoyed a brief stint as a caterer and cooking instructor, but has proudly spent most of her motherhood as a stay-at-home mom. Her husband, Brent, and three children, Gunnar, Ava, and Ella, have all [mostly] been eager taste testers to whatever is on the table for dinner. However, these days, having a high schooler, a middle schooler, and a second grader is providing new challenges of feeding everyone homemade and healthy meals, as well as giving her oven an intense workout most weeknights!

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all kids deserve a healthy start story by | american heart association

ll kids deserve a healthy start… who in the world would disagree with that? No one in his right mind! Young children thrive, grow, and begin to develop a lifetime of habits in these early years—that is why it is so important we reach kids in early care and education 28

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settings. Did you know: • 60% of American children spend the majority of their days in early care and education programs • Only 10% of children ages 2 to 18 eat the recommended amount of vegetables and only 40% eat enough fruit. • By the age of five children are consuming an average of five percent of their calories every day from sugary drinks

this & that • Studies show that physical-activity patterns developed during childhood tend to last through adulthood. To ensure our children grow up in healthy environments, it’s obvious clear standards need to be established that help these programs deliver what is best for our children to maintain a healthy weight and achieve lifelong health. The American Heart Association is working with local organizations and partners to do just that and in turn improve the health of kids right here in Fargo/West Fargo/Cass County. how it’s done Working with local child care and early education providers, guidelines are being established that address three key areas: • more healthy stuff First and foremost we must ensure our youngest children have access to the healthy food and drinks they need to develop healthy bodies and minds. The American Heart Association recommends no sugary drinks for children under age 2, and no more than one sugary drink per week for older children. • more moving For the sake of their heart and brain health, children need plenty of active play time—both structured and unstructured—to develop strong bodies and to improve learning. Preschool-age children need at least 60 minutes of moderate physical activity every single day, but observational studies show that is often not met. • less screen time Studies show that excessive screen time can lead to attention problems, school

difficulties, sleep and eating disorders, and obesity. Young children should not spend much time in front of screens. The American Academy of Pediatrics recently released new standards about screen time, which advise limits of one hour per day of screen time for children ages 2 to 5 across ALL settings—home and early care and education. These three building blocks for a healthy life can begin with standards for child care and early education providers. Currently Fargo has standards for child care centers for sugary drinks, physical activity, and screen time. The goal is to expand these building blocks to additional cities and/or state wide, as well as increase the availability of healthy food and beverages. it starts at home Parents should know the policies/guidelines at the child care setting they take their children to. Talk to your provider. You can also support your provider by: • Bringing healthy treats for birthdays • Sending appropriate winter gear so kids can go outside to play • Following the same practices at home [water and milk at meals, serve fruits and vegetables at meals, limited screen time] Yes, all kids deserve a healthy start. Working together we can provide healthy environments and establish habits for a healthy lifetime. For more information please visit www.Heart.org/healtierkids and www. voicesforhealthykids.org.

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gettin’ through it

mommy on the mend… the fourth trimester

story by | brooke erstad pt, dpt, capp, wcs

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here is a good chance that if you are reading this you are a mom. Or at the very least, you must know someone who is a mom [hint: the gal who gave birth to you!]. I am a new mom for the third time and I can tell you that recovery certainly doesn’t get any easier. Not even when you spend your days helping women of our region with their pelvic conditions, as I do! [I am part of a team of Pelvic Rehabilitation Specialists at Apex Physical Therapy & Wellness Center]. Why? Because pregnancy is basically a normal state of dysfunction [or imbalance] that every woman experiences in a little different way. Each of my pregnancies have been individually unique as well as similar and different from the patients that I treat. But the biggest challenge lies in returning our bodies to normal functioning. This post-partum time period is significant enough to be classified as the “fourth trimester.” a look back Our bodies spend three trimesters growing and nourishing a child. To do so the uterus grows exponentially, organs are pushed aside, we rapidly gain weight, our center of gravity shifts outward, hormones alter emotional states and ligamentous laxity, and we endure those kicks from our loved one on the inside. After enduring all of this for 40 weeks [give or take], we deliver our very large baby through a relatively small hole [vaginal delivery] or 30

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through layers of abdominal tissue [Cesarean delivery]. It is amazing how our bodies are able to adapt to allow childbirth, but it’s often not without a price. and you’re there During the first couple weeks after delivery, due to the excitement of a new addition, help from family and friends, and adjusting to a new schedule, we often don’t have time to think about those “forgotten” or “not talked about” symptoms that seem to linger after childbirth. This is the fourth trimester. It is a time of physical, mental, and emotional struggle experienced differently by all new moms. Culturally, we are taught to focus on the baby first during this time because any extra care for ourselves is considered a luxury. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. Restoring our core strength in the fourth trimester is important because if we don’t regain adequate strength, many movements we make that depend on a strong core do not work very well [and most everything we do depends on the core]. Common signs of core breakdown are leakage [both urine and feces], back pain, rectal pain, difficult or delayed healing after delivery, pain with sex, pelvic-organ prolapse [POP], and frequent headaches. Symptoms can vary in severity, but the good news is that most of these symptoms are very treatable. i get it I know I have experienced some of the signs mentioned above and still do at almost a year post-partum. But

gettin’ through it while all these signs are frustrating, it's important to what exercises are right for them and make sure they realize that you do have options to help reduce your are done correctly! recovery time in the fourth trimester. The answer is Hopefully, after reading this, you'll agree with me a Pelvic Rehabilitation Physical Therapist [Pelvic PT]. that Pelvic PT in the fourth trimester makes perfect A what? A Pelvic PT is a specifically trained Physical sense. But we need to help each other out. It is not the Therapist who can help you strengthen muscles injured "standard of care" in the USA to see a Pelvic PT in the from childbirth. That's how I and my team of Pelvic fourth trimester, as it is in European countries [France PT's spend our days. One of the biggest questions we in particular has a wonderful post-partum program]. face in the clinic is: “How do I know when I am ready Pelvic PT is available in our community. I encourage you to return to previous activity?” or “Is it normal to feel to try it out. Tell your friends. Talk to your doctor. Its this way?” Those questions, along with many others, helped me in the post-partum period, not only because are the focus of customizing a post-partum program I had the knowledge of Pelvic PT, but because I refuse to each woman in the fourth trimester. Looking at all to have lingering post-partum symptoms become my different aspects of restoring your body includes: pelvic new normal. floor/core strength, posture and lifting mechanics, scar management, diastasis recti [separation of abdominal Most of us agree that being a mom is the best job muscles], easing return to sexual function, and issues we’ll ever have. But also keep in mind that the joy and with incontinence [leaking]. We all experience childbirth privilege of having and raising a child should be what differently, so customization is a highly important part you remember post-partum. It is also a challenging time of any Pelvic Rehabilitation in the fourth trimester. for mothers receiving minimal support by healthcare providers. Pelvic PT may be just what you need. Whether nope…more than that the fourth trimester has lasted weeks, months, or years, You might be thinking that Pelvic Rehabilitation is just you can choose to be a mommy on the mend. Kegels [another term for pelvic-floor strengthening]. I can assure you that you are wrong! It is a common Brooke is a Jamestown, ND, native and graduate of University of Mary misconception that performing Kegels alone will take with a BS in Exercise Science and a Doctorate in Physical Therapy. She is co-owner of Apex Physical Therapy & Wellness Center in West Fargo care of your post-partum symptoms. That too is wrong. It [www.apexptwellness.com] where she has chosen to specialize in Pelvic can even be detrimental to the healing process because Rehabilitation for all ages of women, men, and children. She is a big the reality is that one out of four women is not able to do fan of gymnastics and is looking forward to watching her daughters, a Kegel correctly, which can delay healing throughout Brogan [4] & Bradie [10 months] perform one day…but not too soon! She the fourth trimester or even cause further damage. also enjoys board games, reading books, and playing almost any type of The guidance of a Pelvic PT can help new moms know sport with her son Blake [5], and spending time with her husband Bryan.

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setting the record straight chiropractic care for your kiddo

story by | dr. jennifer sabourin

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“What do you want to be when you grow up?” When I was asked that question as a young person I confidently answered, “A chiropractor!” Since I was 15 I wanted to be a chiropractor. And now, as a chiropractor for the past nine years, I still love what I do! What an amazing career, to be able to help give pain relief and improved spinal function in a natural, conservative way. Adjustments of the spine, stretches, exercises, nutrition advice, or other home instructions are meant to help make the body stronger and healthier, and when the body functions better, people can enjoy life more. Improved quality of life is one of the changes I appreciate most when caring for a patient. Life should be lived to the fullest, and enjoyed, not dulled due to pain, but chiropractic care for babies and children is a controversial topic. Some parents swear by it, saying it changed their child for the better, others say they wouldn’t even consider getting their child adjusted. Let me tell you what I know. Chiropractic care for pediatric patients [birth to 17 years old] is safe and can be an effective way to help resolve a number of issues. early relief There are many reasons why parents choose chiropractic care for their children. Some parents know their baby had in-utero constraint, or that it was a tough labor or 32

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delivery on their baby, so I have cared for some babies shortly after birth. Other parents bring their baby to me when they notice their baby doesn’t like turning her head one direction, and the parents are starting to see a flattened area form on the skull. With treatments on the baby’s neck, she might start to turn her head both ways, allowing the skull to shape properly. To show their discomfort many babies will arch their backs, like they are trying to stretch a spot or work out a kink. Some babies cry and scream in what parents will describe as pain-filled cries. no cracking When adjusting babies, I use a light, gentle touch, like I am checking to see if a tomato is ripe. I question if parents have this fear of their tiny baby being put on a table and her back and neck being “cracked.” This is not the case. The mom or dad holds the baby so their child is comfortable. If I find an area of joint restriction, or muscle spasm, I use that same gentle touch to correct the problem. There is nothing scary or traumatic for the baby or the parents. Many babies relax during the treatment, and some even fall asleep. alleviating colic and more Some parents bring their children to me to see if I can help with their child’s colic, ear infections, and bedwetting. I do not treat these childhood medical conditions. I treat the patient by doing what I am skilled in. I do

shop talk specific spinal adjustments, give parents home advice, and in many children the symptoms improve or go away without the more invasive medical intervention the parents are trying to avoid. As children enter sports I treat them for spinal pain that can come with pushing a young, growing body. I treat sprains and strains in children. Many parents bring their children to me after their child has a concussion. The brain needs time and rest to heal after a concussion, but the circumstances that led to the concussion usually also cause some neck, shoulder blade, or lower-back pain. the same goals All parents want what they feel is best for their child. I have that same want for my own two children, so that is why I adjust my children. My goal in treating my own children, and every child who sees me in my office, is that if I can minimize spinal issues as they develop in a growing spine, then problems will not accumulate. If small problems don’t accumulate, children can grow into their adult spines with healthy backs, and hopefully not have the pain and spinal problems that 80% of adults in America have.

I am ready to serve! I have received additional training in caring for children and women who are pregnant, because these categories of patients are so special to me. It is a joy to treat pregnant women so I can help lessen pregnancy-related pain and a woman can enjoy the miracle inside of her, instead of saying she can’t wait to get her baby out so she can finally feel better. It is an honor when parents put their trust in me and bring their children to me for help. Whether you seek care for your children, your own pain relief, or are searching for spinal maintenance, I want to help. I will treat you with kindness and respect, and do what I can to help you and your children have healthy spines. I invite you to call us today or visit our Facebook page.

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eyond Boundaries Therapy Services is in the midst of some exciting changes! We are remodeling and expanding our current building to better serve our families with more therapy rooms, a larger waiting room, more gym space, an outdoor playground, and a preschool. Yes, a preschool! Go Beyond Preschool will be opening fall of 2017. It will be housed within Beyond Boundaries Therapy Services in a beautiful addition to our building with access to the courtyard playground.

unique setting & goals Go Beyond Preschool is unique in that a speech-language pathologist will work collaboratively with the preschool teacher to help promote language development, social skills, and play skills in addition to age-appropriate pre-academic skills. The curriculum will have a strong emphasis on language and literacy. Go Beyond Preschool understands that all children are unique, growing, and 34

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developing at their own pace. That’s why the preschool teacher and the speech-language pathologist will work together to set up individual goals, meeting each child where he or she begins and tailoring education to the child’s unique skills and talents, helping them grow in all areas of development. friends to be made Beyond Preschool will serve children 3-5 years old of all abilities. We welcome kids who are developing typically, kids who may need a little boost to help prepare for their school years, and kids who may have struggles and challenges that are longer lasting. At Go Beyond Preschool, we have speech-language pathologists, occupational therapists, and physical therapists on site to help meet those needs if necessary. options for everyone Classes will be offered Tuesday and Thursday mornings; Monday, Wednesday, and Friday mornings; and Monday through Thursday afternoons. The afternoon class

did you know will be geared more towards kindergarten readiness for older preschoolers while the morning classes will focus more on language development, social skills, and play. The class sizes are small, which allows for more one-on-one time with the teacher.

before then! Watch for information about open houses in April. For more information, check out our website at beyondboundaries.us and click on the Go Beyond Preschool link or call 701.356.2606.

Our mission statement says it all: At Go Beyond Preschool, we partner with families, giving children the opportunity to grow and develop into their own special person. We offer a language-rich environment to children of all abilities, providing opportunities to grow socially and academically, while preparing kids to be creative and confident in all aspects of their lives. Go Beyond Preschool is working towards its Bright and Early North Dakota quality rating, an optional program for daycares and preschools to ensure that children receive the quality preschool needed for success in school and life. enroll now! Go Beyond Preschool is open for enrollment! The building will be complete and ready for tours in April 2017, but we are happy to answer any questions you may have

3001 11th St S, Fargo 701.356.2606 www.beyondboundaries.us/go-beyond-preschool Jill has always loved kids, especially the little ones. So when the opportunity arose to help open a preschool, she jumped at the chance! Jill has been a speech-language pathologist for 21 years with the last eight years in private practice at Beyond Boundaries Therapy Services. She received her undergraduate degree at Moorhead State University and her master's degree at St. Cloud State University. She and her husband have three children, Anna [17], Samuel [14], and Megan [9]. Jill's favorite thing is to watch her kids in their activities, hockey and competitive gymnastics, while drinking Caribou turtle mochas!

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of women basketball players, he confesses he ended up paying a little too much attention to one particular player. He failed the class, but succeeded in meeting his future wife, Jenny [Boll] Christofferson! Josh splits his time between working as a firefighter for the Fargo Fire Department [he’s an eight-year veteran] and staying home raising his four daughters - Kelby [9], Jordan [7], Coty [4], and Elliot [2]. On his days off you can find Josh cheering on the UND Fighting Hawks football and basketball teams, and spending time enjoying the craziness that is his family of six…well... eight, if you count the dogs!

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if my kids could describe me in three words, they would be… my oldest daughter says I'm funny, kind, and a storyteller. I'm hoping she still thinks that way in five years!

my wife looks amazing when… she smiles! It gets me every time.

my best dad quality is… I try to keep a level head at home and not get too high or low. Anger, yelling, and anxiety can be contagious within groups of people, but so can staying calm and keeping a level head. We try to teach the kids that if they stay calm, work hard, and keep moving forward, they can be successful.

fire department to respond on their worst day. It's important for me to take ownership of that responsibility and live up to their expectations. It's challenging and extremely rewarding at the same time.

my biggest fear in raising daughters has to be… making sure I've taught them the skills they'll need to handle whatever life throws at them worries me a lot. That, and dating. Luckily, I still have a few years before that starts happening, but I'm already warning my wife that I may move out of the house before I

something i have allowed my kids to do that my wife still doesn’t know about is… breaking rules! My daughters are pretty squaredaway kids, but when Dad's in charge we look for a little trouble! My father was awesome at encouraging us to take risks and step out of our comfort zones, so I try to get my girls to do that, too. We'll get dirty, jump off high things, eat stuff we shouldn't, wrestle around, typical dad stuff, you know?!

what i have learned most from being a dad would be… what it's like to live for someone else. Your daily focus changes when you have four kids depending on you every day.

i am most proud of…

outside of being a dad, i am most passionate about… my work. I'm proud to be a professional firefighter. I think the public expects an intelligent, well-trained

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have to deal with teenage boys knocking at my door!

the tv show i can’t miss…

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Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood, it's my morning "date" with my 2-year-old!

the ability to switch gears and go from one environment to another. There can be mornings when I go from a very intense situation on the job to braiding hair and making sure everyone is ready for school. I think it's important to never let the job get in the way of my family, so I try to enjoy the time I have with my kids, no matter what happened the day before.

i admire my wife’s ability to… my wife is an incredibly hard worker. My kids say that "Dad is the boss, but Mom's in charge." I can work 24-to-48-hour shifts, so she assumes whatever role is needed at home when I'm gone. It takes an amazingly strong person to work a full-time job and run the family with a part-time husband! 38

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the biggest adjustment i never anticipated since becoming a dad… how tough it is to not only focus on what our kids need, but also our needs as a couple. Between the business of the family, work, and daily responsibilities, it's easy to let our relationship time slip. Sometimes making time to go out for a bite to eat or even a hug before work can mean all the difference when you've spent most of the week running around pulling out what's left of your hair!

my idea of fun involves… my wife, my kids, no responsibilities, and some sort of new adventure. Life is good when you can truly stop and spend time enjoying your family.

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felt like I could take on the world and win! If I could capture that feeling, I would bottle it.

I was lucky enough to find myself in Disneyland with a friend. No kids, no husband, no curfew, and six hours to burn before the park closed. I know, hard to believe, but a well-timed blizzard, perfectly located conference, one open schedule, and free lodging led to the perfect storm and there we were. My entire perspective changed as I looked at my friend while the magic of Disney made it snow in southern California. We ran to rides, giggled and screamed, and we left the park with huge smiles on our faces and finished our night at In-N-Out Burger. If Disneyland is the happiest place on earth, then In-N-Out Burger may be heaven on earth. The day’s events made me think anything was possible. I

I guess you could say my perspective has been rattled as of late and I need a big swig from that magic bottle! I recently found myself “kind of” retired for the third time. Right away it was easy. I drank coffee like a champ while watching Live with Kelly. I wore my sweatpants sometimes all day and loved it. A couple weeks later I branched out. I decided I was going to be a chef [okay, with Blue Apron’s help]. I dove in head first. I purchased a garlic press and even some of those oh-so-cute-little dishes that hold all your minced, chopped, and grated items. You know, like the ones Trisha Yearwood and the Pioneer Women use [yes, I even watched the Food Network for a short time]. Really? What was I thinking?

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oh, by the way I couldn’t recognize or even pronounce some of the ingredients, so how could I possibly make Pork Chops and Freekeh Salad with brussels sprouts and clementine chutney in the stated ten-minute prep time [try two hours]. Just not my gift. Much to my husband’s dismay, I canceled Blue Apron. I moved on to what I know how to do. You guessed it: the laundry and dishes were done daily. Then I spent a week visiting my daughter at college, followed by a short visit with the boys. I was on autopilot through most of the holiday season, spending it with the kids visiting, shopping, and eating. Then it all seemed to stop. And all I could think was, ‘I wish I had a swig from that Disneyland-perspective bottle.’ Of course, I wasn’t sitting there wallowing with nothing to do. I had a new business idea and plan, but it took on a different meaning when it wasn’t a part-time adventure or hobby. I started asking myself all kinds of questions. What was I doing and why? What’s, next? Does this even make sense? Can this idea really be a full-time job or, dare I say, career? In short, for the first time in years, I was questioning my own capabilities and didn’t know how to identify myself or move forward. Things were stalling. It was weird. I was relaxed, nervous, anxious all at the same time. It’s not easy to admit, but I was pretty lost, and usually I like to think of myself as someone who has everything under control.

it hit me as I was admiring the art that I can learn a lot from my own kids and specifically from how they approach life. As my kids have gotten older I’ve noticed a calmness in their perspectives. They’re laid back and don’t worry that much but at the same time have so many plans, ideas, and a shoot-for-the-stars enthusiasm. They are also the ones who ask how my new business is going and encourage me to keep pushing forward. So am I excited, nervous, and scared about my new adventure? Yes. Am I going to keep moving forward? Absolutely! I am embracing the change at full speed. And when I need a swig from that magic bottle, I realize now it is a lot closer than Disneyland. I am simply going to look at my kids for inspiration and perspective and know I can do it. You can too! Deb is a city girl from Finley, ND and she and her husband, Tim, have called the Fargo-Moorhead area home for the last 15 years. She graduated from Drake University in Des Moines, IA, with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications. Currently Deb’s day job is working on her next adventure and she welcomes the pleasant distraction that writing brings. She is mom to Jake [23], Tony [22], Nick [22], and Emily [20] and created them for her inspiration. She fills her spare time with golf, HGTV, shopping, and Netflix.

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But I’m lucky because life has a way of giving you what you need when you need it. A family trip resulted in a visit to the Boston Fine Arts Center. I was strolling through the collections of American art pretending I knew what I was viewing [but enjoying it all the same]. I walked into the exhibition HOMiE: In Our Eyes and my perspective changed in an instant. It was amazing. I was looking at an interpretation of what home meant to the artists. The pieces were bold, beautiful, honest, and personal. Each one so different, but all having the same meaning and heart. As I walked through I began to read about the artists and realized they were all kids [very talented kids]. Sounds sappy, but I had a feeling of pride for each one of them. How amazing to put yourself out there! I was inspired and instantly felt confident. I think my personal perspective has super powers and it’s downright manipulative at times. It makes me think differently, sometimes makes me happier, sadder, fatter, and, on rare occasions, thinner. I have spent many years trying to instill a positive perspective in my kids and february • march twenty seventeen | on the minds of moms

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adies, motherhood is like running a marathon every single day. From the moment our eyes open [usually because a little one is face to face with us] until the sacred moment late in the evening when we can barely walk to bed, we are going nonstop. To therapies and lessons and practices and programs and fundraiser deliveries and appointments and haircuts we go. The job of a mother truly is never complete. 42

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All of us have been pooped on, peed on, thrown up on, and so much more. I have even been stabbed in the eye with a fork! Some of the most fatigued moments and days that I have experienced as a mommy [and in my whole life, for that matter] have been a Life Flight with my child as the patient, children’s diagnoses that took years to get and then years to learn about and control, and life-threatening allergies. Motherhood is certainly the most exhausting job that I will ever have! So how can we handle these never-ending challenges,

body + being day after day, without burning out? Because “burnout” is not an option. Who has time for that? Well, of course, theoretically we get strength to go on from the cold oatmeal and left over mac-n-cheese that we eat [I literally just ate cold oatmeal with soggy raisins five minutes ago]. But let’s be real, ladies. We get the most strength for this uphill journey of motherhood from within ourselves. Yes, that’s right, you must dig deep and learn how to keep yourself ready and sane. First, we must trust ourselves. As women, we tend to compare ourselves with others, and always strive to be some version better than we currently are. I’m here to tell you, ladies, all of us are exhausted, all of us are overwhelmed, and all of us love our kids to pieces! Once you learn to trust your own instincts as a mom and not second guess yourself or your success as a parent, the chaos will flow a little better. No, I’m not able to tell you the chaos will go away; but I can confidently tell you that trusting yourself will free you from re-doing and re-thinking during the chaos. We are blessed with a “mommy sense” that only we possess, so trust it! Next, lean on each other. I can’t even begin to count all the parenting dilemmas I have solved seamlessly by asking for advice or help from another mother. Yes, it is always difficult to ask for help; we want to handle things ourselves and appear like we have it all together. But let me tell you, your confidence about your parenting skills will grow immensely with each time you successfully use a tried-and-true parenting method taught to you

by another mom. They have already lived it, so why not skip the research and Googling? The advice of fellow moms, who have been there and already solved the issue that you may be going through with your children, is worth more than you know. Being a “strong” mom does not mean you have to do it all alone. Have you ever heard the saying “There is Strength in Numbers”? Well, it’s so true! The more people you glean information from and ask questions of, the stronger your arsenal of mommy tricks will be! One of my favorite times of any week is when I have the opportunity to have coffee with a group of moms. The stories told are invaluable, because chances are very good that someday I will face the same challenges as the other moms! The best ideas I have implemented in my home have come from these “brainstorming” mommy-coffee dates! Next, give yourself some slack. Ladies, our lives and families are not meant to be a picture-perfect slideshow from a parenting magazine! No. Motherhood is everchanging, and messy, and disorganized. You cannot schedule the challenges of motherhood; they come at random times. In fact, these challenges usually come at the worst possible times. So how could you be prepared for anything that motherhood may throw at you on any given day? The answer is you can’t! So give yourself some slack! Don’t set yourself up in situations where your family is supposed to appear like that picture-perfect one. Roll with it, girl! Your skills for improv, conflict

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body + being resolution, and using a Tide Stick will be much more helpful to you than that parenting magazine ever is!

So hold your head up high, mama! Walk through this crazy, messy, journey with confidence! Know that we all struggle every day to get through this thing called motherhood. The day to day is exhausting, but the month to month is rewarding. The smiles on your children’s faces and the memories that are made in the chaos are worth every moment. The sleepless nights and the stained clothes and carpet are worth it because of the hugs and snuggles you receive in the midst of those frenzied days.

The most important lesson I have learned in mothering [learned the hard way a few times, I might add] is the importance of taking time for yourself. Now, if you are like me, you are probably thinking….’wait a minute, we just covered all the overwhelming tasks in the daily life of a mom; how in the world will I find time for myself?’ I understand completely! But I also can tell you from experience that if you don’t keep your engine tuned and tank above “E,” your whole train [your family] will Mama, you are strong and you can handle this! crash! You are the heart of your family; you are the spoke to the wheel. Without you, mama, your family Angie was raised in North Dakota and currently lives in Bismarck, ND. She is a mom of two energetic and constantly growing boys. Angie started cannot and will not function at full capacity. Therefore, “FromMyLifeToYourHeart” two-and-a-half years ago, out of her passion you absolutely must take time for yourself and time to to share her life experiences and her faith. FromMyLifeToYourHeart refuel. When mom is cranky and unhappy, the whole has a blog on Motherhood and Christianity, and creates and regularly house is dysfunctional. When mom is resentful of not posts social media images to encourage women and everyone on their having anything to call ‘her own,’ the kiddos feel her daily journey through life. Angie also gives many public speeches on all kinds of topics [almost always using her life experiences] and does tension and act out. Take it from a mom who has proven freelance writing. Angie’s goal is to share some piece of her positivity or to herself and her household the importance of “mama faith with everyone she encounters! Find out more about Angie at www. time;” you absolutely must take some time for yourself! frommylifetoyourheart.com and follow her on social media.

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story by | kathleen wrigley

s there such a thing as a ‘healthy ego?’ Can we be masters of our trades without a full-blown ego? Must we be intoxicated with power and pride and self-absorption to be successful? What is success? How is it measured? Why does it matter? And at what point do we stop feeding the insatiable appetites of egos—our own and others’—before realizing the dangerous consequences? I have watched, wondered, and prayed lately as the world witnessed, uncomfortably, the top seeds of the political parties tear at each others' jugulars, trying with all their might to crush the egos of their opponents. Multitudes of people cheer and jive and snicker at their jabs, content that this is the way it works. There are no limits to the depths of the ridicule because the inflammation of egos permits and excuses deplorable behavior. How have we come this far and sunk this low, simultaneously?

I could and—let’s face it—probably should keep quiet. They call it grace when we steel our grit, brace our posture to an upright position, and smile gently for the public. The effort to balance grace with honesty is constant. The truth is: politics is a brutal business. The smart, decent folks in the arena seem to be emaciated and buried in the system by the powerful egos. Countless capable, honorable leaders turn away from public service. The sacrifice is immense. The egos are indomitable. And the fall-out of these enlarged egos is reckless and dangerous. Instead of the long-held reputation for service and honor, we have developed a thick skin for dirty tricks and an acceptance for grossly inflated egos from our public servants. We are passive and have become enablers for behavior we would normally characterize as shameful and disgraceful. Over time, we have chipped away at our once deeply held values. We have become a nation of entitlement, with our giant egos and deservedness. It is no wonder our

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just a thought leaders are on high pedestals. They frequently promise the people something for nothing, dispiriting the hard and holy work of family, education, and occupation. And in return we fill their egos and lift them high, too high for their own—or our—good.

over time, we have chipped away at our once deeply held values. we have become a nation of entitlement, with our giant egos and deservedness.

In the end, the ego is weak. There is a thin line between garnering the wisdom, esteem, and courage to do great and honorable things, and admiring and glorifying ourselves, elevating ourselves and others on a pedestal, from which there may be only one way down—to fall from grace. The ego will falsely hoist us high, but the foundation is fragile.

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We deserve better. More than us: we must demand more for our children, and theirs. When our top-tiered presidential candidates cannot muster a hand-shake greeting at a debate, we have sunk to a new level. I admit: I don’t have thick skin. And I have wondered how these candidates could carry on with their private lives, much less sleep at night. How do they do it? Are they robots? Is the ego that powerful a force to sustain such acts? Either in the political arena or in our personal lives, when we leave our egos aside good things happen and people are positively impacted. Let us not long for the days of handshakes, honor, respect, and a humble vision for leadership. Let us be the generation to demand these characteristics of our leaders and to “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6. Humility is the new black. Wear it well. Fitness is an integral part of Kathleen’s daily routine and helps her sustain her own mental health! Kathleen’s column “ just a thought” has been a regularly occurring piece in “on the minds of moms” since 2009. Kathleen is a Philadelphia native, and has called North Dakota her second home for the last 18 years. Before becoming a mom, she was director for Bismarck’s Child Advocacy Center and was a speechwriter. Kathleen received a BS from Pennsylvania State University and completed her graduate studies at Temple University in Philadelphia. Currently, Kathleen is a graduate student at the University of Mary, pursuing a second master’s degree, this time in School Counseling.

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llen was just as excited as her children, Zach and Alexa, as they waited for Mayor Clayton, the guest bedtime tucker-inner, to make his appearance. The last six months had been tough, but the Rummels were leaving that behind and soaking up every moment of Zach’s Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World. The anticipation of the Mayor’s visit was building. Oh, and the Mayor is a bunny… “We looked out the window, and there's this huge person dressed in a bunny suit, but he's driving this little tiny car,” Ellen says with a smile. “From the moment he arrived it was complete belly laughs from Zach and Alexa. It was just complete silliness!” The Mayor never said a word, but he rummaged through the refrigerator, tripped over furniture, shook out the sheets, and fluffed pillows by beating them against the wall. “The kids were in complete hysterics, and I thought to myself, ‘For a moment that bunny took away any recollection of Zach’s cancer.’ The kids were able to experience a moment of normalcy during a difficult time. That was a life-changing moment. How we can we be the bunny and create moments of joy in the lives of others, where people forget the hardships they are going through?” Since that night, Ellen has called those moments Bunny Moments…and she’s doing her part to be the catalyst of joy in other families.

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team zach “He was a healthy, happy, normal, silly little boy until a Within a week of diagnosis, St. Jude’s sent a plane to few months prior to this day,” Ellen recalls. Zach had Fargo to transport Zach to Memphis. “For the next eight been feeling very tired, had trouble concentrating, weeks Zach received chemotherapy and radiation almost and in general wasn’t feeling well, which resulted in daily,” Ellen says. “He went through some really tough a number of visits to the clinic. “January 21st was the treatments, but he never cried. The only time he ever day he woke up and he looked like he’d had a stroke. cried was the first time they did a lab draw.” The entire right side of his body was non-functioning and he had facial droop.” “Ellen is one of the most caring and hardworking people I know,” Kelly Mondry says of her sister. “Ellen was a Zach was rushed to the hospital. “That was the day of rock throughout Zach’s illness. She fought for what diagnosis,” Ellen says as tears fill her eyes. Her little he needed.” boy had a seven-centimeter brain tumor in an area of his brain called the thalamus. The thalamus has One thing Ellen couldn’t give Zach during that time a number of functions, including voluntary motor was his Westside Elementary third-grade friends

control, concentration, the sleep/wake cycle, as well as back in West Fargo, whom he missed dearly. Westside regulating the senses of sight, sound, taste, touch, and Elementary missed Zach, too, and promptly became a the sense of where a person’s body is in space. “Due to driving force behind Team Zach. “We began receiving the location, they were unable to operate,” Ellen says. gifts and cards from the kids back home,” Ellen says. “Doctor after doctor said, ‘There's nothing we can do. “The staff and students embraced Zach’s difficult journey Your child is probably not going to survive.’ We had one and showered him with so much support and love. He ray of hope - St. Jude Children's Hospital in Memphis.” would look for the mail every day and was so excited because that was his connection back home.” “Zach’s diagnosis came to all of us very suddenly,” Ellen’s mother, Carol Johnson, remembers. “I saw a In addition to handmade cards, Zach’s teachers sent family shattered by something that none of us could do him audio recordings of his classmates reading books anything about. Ellen’s family is close and we consider and the school started Skyping him into the classroom 52

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the power of joy so Zach could see his classmates and his classmates could see their friend. “It was more for social aspects rather than educational,” Ellen says of the Skyping. “He was pretty sick to be able to do much school work, but the connection back home was so important, not only for Zach, but for the kids who were scared for him.” Remembering the impact of those young friends brings tears to Ellen’s eyes. “Looking back, I’m so grateful for all the little things the school and the kids did because it would have been so easy to fall into ‘out of sight, out of mind,’ but that was never the case.”

more you can reassure the kids, and just give them age-appropriate information, this will help them get through a difficult time. The principal, Tabatha Joyce, told me this was her first experience with a student going through a life-threatening illness and she said, ‘I learned that you embrace a crisis and walk the kids through it. You don't run from it.’ I thought that was pretty profound.”

stay strong “We had to be almost bluntly honest with Alexa, because she wanted to know everything” Ellen says of how they approached Alexa with information on Zach’s illness Zach returned home for the end of the school year and and prognosis. “She wanted to know, and she was a Westside Elementary treated him to a hero’s welcome. trooper. She was by his side the whole time, and with “He walked in and the entire school lined the hallway to the support of her school she was able to spend a lot celebrate his return,” Ellen says with a smile. Students of time in Memphis with her brother during cancer cheered, chanted his name, offered high-fives, held treatments. I think maybe that's why she's doing so welcome posters, and showed off haircuts displaying well—because there were no surprises, she was able to the Team Zach logo and his name. “Zach was so happy, process and get support, as hard as that was at times.”

In addition to the kindness of the students, Ellen was so impressed with the Westside parents and staff and how they approached Zach’s journey with the students. “They never hid it from the kids,” she says. “They didn't elaborate and go into anything negative, but I think the

In October 2015 Ellen’s dad passed away unexpectedly. Things seemed to be piling on, but Ellen learned at a young age that life goes on. Ellen’s parents ran a funeral home and both her brothers are currently funeral directors. “We've been surrounded with the aspect of end of life and service to others our whole lives,” she says. Ellen recalls wise words from her mother 18 years ago when her father had a heart attack the same night there was a family service scheduled at their funeral home. “Mom took dad to the hospital, but their belief was you can't leave another family grieving. Dad was february • march twenty seventeen | on the minds of moms

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so proud,” Ellen remembers. “He was a normal kid again. These kids embraced him and made him feel special. He experienced so much joy, and the school went above and beyond. They threw many rules out the window, and did what they had to do to support Zach and the children at Westside throughout Zach’s cancer journey.”

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the power of joy laying in the hospital bed, and mom not only took care of dad, but scrambled back home to arrange help for that grieving family, and dad wouldn't have wanted it any other way.” So Ellen pressed on. The same day her dad passed the Rummels returned to St. Jude’s. A scan showed Zach’s cancer was progressing. There were no further treatment options; Zach was given one month to live. “I'll never forget…,” Ellen says as her voice trails off and she wipes away tears. “We had to tell Alexa, "The doctors have done everything they can to help your brother, but Zach is not going to survive.’" While they didn’t want to make Zach’s prognosis known to the general public, Ellen sent a text to family before leaving Memphis. “I said, ‘We don't want any pity. This is God’s plan, and I want Zach to experience nothing but joy and love, to have a party every day, or twice a day. We're going to just smother him with love and joy.’" Maybe someone slipped the news or Team Zach just knew their friends needed them. “At the airport in Fargo was this mass of people wearing Team Zach green shirts, and they were just…,” Ellen says shaking her head trying to find the right words to convey the wonder she felt in that moment. “Zach was so happy. He was the center of attention and he felt so loved. I know it's hard to understand, but even through a completely devastating journey there was so much positivity, happiness, and goodness shown from people who care.” Ten months after being diagnosed Zach passed away on November 16, 2015. “Ellen has gone through every stage of grief, some lasting longer than others,” Kelly says. “It amazes me how she has pulled through losing Zach.” “Alexa is incredible.” Ellen shares. “Through a difficult journey, she inherited the family resilience, she is kindhearted, focused, and a straight-A student.”

Ellen has also allowed Alexa to grieve in her own way while providing her the support she needs when she needs it. “It's day-by-day,” Ellen says. “Whatever she

One of Alexa’s loves is dancing. Just a few short months after her brother’s passing, Alexa was given an opportunity to do a lyrical dance to the song “Heaven Needed A Hero” by Jo Dee Messina dedicated to her brother. “It was beautiful, I don’t know how she did it, it was therapeutic for her and so many who watched her dance and knew her story” Ellen proudly says. Alexa describes her mom as caring. And for any family going through a cancer battle, she says, “Stay strong… never give up.” She learned that from her brother. bunny moments Those moments of joy when you are simply in that moment with no thought of the past or what lies ahead, “I’ve called them Bunny Moments since our Make-A-Wish trip,” Ellen says with a smile, recalling Mayor Clayton and his antics. Ellen’s experienced a lot of Bunny Moments in the last year. Like her nursing students organizing a benefit for the Rummels. Or the woman walking the hall at St. Jude’s who asked Ellen if she had a child there and, when Ellen said yes, presenting Ellen with a blank $100 check from the stack in her hand, smiling, and walking on to find the next parent she could gift. Or the home visits from their pastor and the meals delivered from their church family. Or the Buddy Bench created in Zach’s honor at Westside to promote friendship and inclusion. Or the cards from friends, family, and strangers. Lots of Bunny Moments and each one inspiring. “How can we create moments in others' lives where they forget about—even for 15 minutes—the hardships they are going through?” Ellen asked herself. Zach was everyone’s friend and always wanted to help others. Helping others would be the best way to honor Zach’s legacy. “We try to do things in his memory,” Ellen says. “On his birthday last year, March third, we did an Act-ofKindness Day.” Ellen and Alexa gathered their friends, family, and Team Zach members for a rally at Zach’s favorite restaurant, Space Aliens. "We would like you to go out and do something in Zach's honor and pay it forward,” Ellen told the group. That would be Zach’s birthday presents this year. february • march twenty seventeen | on the minds of moms

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Ellen has done her best to display positive coping mechanisms, such as joining a Compassionate Friends online group. Compassionate Friends is a national non-profit organization that provides support to families after the loss of a child. “I think a parent who has lost a child can't expect the world to understand, so it’s helpful to talk with people that truly understand.”

needs to get through this is fine, she has amazing friends who have stood by her side the whole time.”

the power of joy The group responded and recipients of Zach’s Actsof-Kindness reached out on Team Zach’s Facebook page with thanks. "It's so nice to see and hear what people are doing in his memory," Ellen says. “It would be really easy to sit at home and remain completely devastated and nonfunctional, but I don't think there's any benefit to doing that. It takes work to carry on but it is so important, especially for Alexa. She wants to be involved in ways to honor her brother’s memory, its therapeutic for her too.”

went to Lend A Hand to use in silent auctions, fundraisers, and to give to the families they help. Ten went to the Roger Maris Cancer Center and we will continue distribute some every month to Roger Maris or the Children’s Hospital. Many have gone to children with cancer in the area that we have heard about. When we started, I wasn’t in a rush to get rid of all the bears right away, so because we had such a great response, we’ll be able to give them out throughout the year and keep Zach’s spirit alive.”

Then there was the Teddy Bear Drive. Maybe the Ellen knows all of this is about so much more than the Rummels’ beloved shorkie puppy that Zach named bears. “If we can give a little joy to a child who is in Beary was the inspiration, or maybe Zach placed it on Zach's shoes, it’s worth it,” Ellen says with a soft smile. his mom’s heart. “It literally popped into my head one “The one thing I learned through the death of a child night and we had it posted on Facebook the next day,” is that if we can all do simple things for somebody Ellen says with a smile. “I think maybe Zach has a little who's struggling, they can have that much more joy bit to do with it too.” in their lives because we're taking away simple things they don't need to worry about. They forget about the As the month of Zach’s one-year death approached, struggles for that moment - Bunny Moments. So how Ellen knew she needed to do something in his honor… can we help others who are struggling? It's not hard. It's something the kids could be involved in, too…some just a matter of stepping forward and getting involved.” Bunny Moments…a teddy bear drive made complete sense. They would collect new stuffed animals and Ellen isn’t sure what will be next for Team Zach, but distribute them to kids fighting cancer. Alexa was in, as knows she isn’t stopping. She has done several public was the rest of their family. The goal was to collect 50 speaking events about Zach’s journey and the acts of bears by the end of November. A quick post on Facebook kindness and inspiration that came from it. “Alexa and the Team Zach Teddy Bear Drive was launched! and I have incredible family, work, and community support, and we are continuously looking at ways to “I knew she’d have many, many more,” Kelly says of her give back to kids in the community with cancer in sister’s 50-bear goal. “People are kind and constantly Zach’s name - we want to pay it forward to others showed that throughout Zach’s illness and their kindness the acts of kindness Zach received during his cancer hasn’t stopped.” journey,” Ellen enthusiastically shares. “We are blessed with amazing support to help carry on Zach’s name.” Kelly was right. Westside Elementary caught wind of the

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plan and soon had signs around school promoting the cause. The Rummels’ church stepped up by donating and offering to house the bears. Kay’s Jewelers [who for the past 17 years has sold teddy bears with proceeds benefiting St. Jude’s hospital] said they would display signs in their store and donate all the bears they sold from the Fargo store to Team Zach. The Team Zach Teddy Bear Drive garnered over 450 bears! With the help of Westside Elementary students, each bear has a tag complete with a picture of Zach and encouraging words for each recipient. “Through all the devastation this is just heartwarming," Ellen says, reflecting on the success of the teddy-bear drive. Now the bears need to be distributed. “Ninety

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lessons This past December Ellen made a final entry on Zach’s Caringbridge website. She shared some lessons she learned from Zach’s life and death: • Death happens, even to children; be prepared to embrace, not run, when it happens. We are grateful to have this experience of being surrounded and supported. • Write down the date of death of a loved one and reach out. We received so many pictures, flowers, fruit bouquets, thinking-of-you notes, and texts on the one-year day he passed. Kids and staff at Westside sent cards. We received so much support from Rasmussen on this day too...grateful. Really

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no one had to acknowledge this difficult day, yet so many did. Take simple burdens away from those struggling. It's not hard to bring a meal, make a phone call, send a note, run an errand, or sit and listen. We received so many kind acts it has been life changing—time to pay it forward. Don't be afraid to talk about the person who died; if we cry it is okay. Our biggest fear is that they will be forgotten. Go to funerals and bring your kids. It's unbelievable the children who still want to be involved and talk about Zach. How many hugs and cards we still get from Zach's friends one year later. Can you imagine if they had to hold everything inside, if they weren't given the opportunity to talk and grieve? Parents and Westside were amazing, it must have been difficult—but when it is, please step back from your own discomfort and let the kids lead the way...we discovered that they will, and it will be from the heart. No matter how hard it is for you to do imagine what it is like for the family. Hug your kids. If they drive you crazy, laugh it off and give them a hug. If they want a puppy or kitty, consider it.

“It's been a journey that is so hard to describe. It's so devastating, but there is always beauty in any situation, even if it's tragic - it’s up to us to find it. I feel like there's magic in Zach’s journey or...there's a reason,” Ellen says softly. “If we can impact other people who are experiencing what we went through and give them something positive...that's what's Zach's life was about. I truly believe that. Yes it’s sad, it’s important to grieve, but there is healing in helping and reaching out to others in need and supporting each other. There is so much good in the world, it is important to remember that even during tough times, and I think Zach's showing us that. There are things that we can do to make a difference in his honor.”

Proud mama of Seely and Shya, and wife to Van Halen super-fan Stu, Sheri is also co-founder of OTMOM. She believes in UND green, Jesus, burnt marshmallows make the best s’mores, coffee…lots and lots of coffee, she has the best mom and dad ever, and without a doubt EVERYONE has a story to share.

• Call, send a card, email, text, just connect with someone you know is hurting. • Buy a stranger coffee. • Provide a meal to someone who needs a break. • Find an organization that’s important to you and volunteer. • When you remember a story about someone who has passed, tell their loved ones. • Leave a gift for a co-worker having a hard day. • Say a prayer when you think of a person you know is hurting. • Just be kind every chance you can! Team Zach on Facebook www.facebook.com/goteamzach Contact Ellen & Team Zach ForeverZach9@gmail.com

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gums, and tongue daily. We love My Dentist’s Choice Dental Wipes that you can easily purchase from Amazon or you can use a soft washcloth. Once teeth begin to erupt, help your child brush without toothpaste or use a non-fluoridated tooth paste until the age of three.

brusha, brusha, brusha… Yes, they are going to fall out, but it’s important to keep those baby teeth healthy. Baby teeth are important not only for general esthetics and chewing, but they aid in speech development, as well as hold the space needed for adult teeth as they begin to erupt.

Pediatric dentists will often recommend beginning care at one year of age for a well-baby exam to help educate parents on oral health. At Smile Care we care for parents as well, so we often educate those parents as their wee one ages. We like to see the child at about two-and-a-half to three years of age, unless there is a cause for concern before that point.

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ig kids are active. Sports, bike riding, and playing with friends are daily occurrences…and so are accidents! What do you do when your big kid comes to you looking like he just beat Mike Tyson for the heavy weight belt and sporting a missing tooth? • baby or permanent All injured teeth should be examined to determine the extent of trauma, regardless of whether it’s a permanent or baby tooth. In some circumstances a baby tooth can be left untreated and monitored until the adult tooth comes in. If a permanent tooth is injured, it’s wise to visit the dentist to restore it back to its shape and function, and assess if additional treatment is needed. • chipped A small chip can be left alone on a baby tooth. If it is a larger chip or fractured tooth, it’s wise to contact your dentist to restore the adult tooth or to make sure the adult tooth behind the baby tooth

is okay and no other facial structures have trauma. • knocked out If an adult tooth is knocked out, the first step is don’t panic. Next, find the tooth and pick it up by the crown [not the root surface]. If it’s dirty, run it under water for about 10 seconds. Don’t dry the tooth or touch any part of the root and keep the tooth moist. Now replant the tooth by placing it in the socket and biting down gently on a wash cloth. The sooner you replant the tooth, the better chance of successful replantation. If you are not able to replant fully, place the tooth in a glass of milk or saline [water is not ideal for long-term storage] and contact your dentist. In this scenario, it’s always recommended you contact your dentist. Consider getting your active big kid a sports mouth guard. They are a great way to prevent injuries during competition.

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oral bacteria creating the acidic environment. Therefore, a long duration of contact and several sugar-exposure events throughout the day create an ideal environment for decay. Our diet plays a huge role in our oral health. High sugar content, sticky foods, and sugary beverages create an ideal environment for decay. Soda, sports drinks, crackers, candy, and foods that can stick to or between the teeth should be limited as they are detrimental to your dental health. On the flipside, water, popcorn, vegetables, meats, cheeses, fruits, and nuts are good for you and your teeth.

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ur teens are old enough and smart enough to understand the need to take care of their teeth. Brush twice a day, floss at least once a day, regular check-ups and cleanings…check, check, and check! Now, cosmetic concerns may be on the list of teeth to-dos.

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turn on the brights Your teen wishes his pearly whites were, well, a little pearlier? Is teeth whitening an option for your teen? Yes, it can be beneficial in select circumstances after a thorough discussion with your trusted dental expert. At Smile Care we have seen positive results from whitening with kids as young as 11 years old. However, we always recommend a consult in these circumstances.

Another option to restore shape, shade, and minor alignment concerns are veneers. A veneer is a porcelain or resin shell that is placed on top of your tooth to improve or change its appearance. It is not recommended on any teeth during a child’s development. If all other options have been discussed with patients, veneers can be a great way to enhance one’s smile.

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