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sections did you know

gettin' through it

to love your life…YES, PLEASE! . . . . . . . . . . .14

potty troubles stink— bedwetting, constipation & your kiddo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42

what’s on your mind? embracing the middle . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22

body + being you got this! back on track to your fitness goals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38

resources find help, get advice, make a difference . . . . . 54

just a thought little red mittens . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56

ready, set, grow traveling with kids . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 72

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mod mom profile danyel johnson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18

mompreneur angie bjorgaardâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;sublime aesthetic professionals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32

rad dad profile kirk zink . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

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one day i want to experience… angela smith akron | oh what’s on your mind: page 22 Prince Edward Island with my girls the way Anne did in Anne of Green Gables, minus breaking a slate over Gilbert's head, of course.

patricia carlson naples | fl ready, set, grow: page 72 living like a Golden Girl. My girlfriends are some of the best people I know and to imagine us as Rose, Blanche, Dorothy, and Sophia already gives me fits of giggles.

deb uglem moorhead | mn oh, by the way: page 80 the Triple Crown, which will include me in a dress and a "todie-for" hat sipping on Mint Juleps at the Kentucky Derby, Black-eyed Susan Cocktails at Preakness Stakes, and Belmont Breezes at Belmont Stakes, all while watching the best of thoroughbred racing. And, since you are asking, I also want to experience golf at Pebble Beach!

contributors kathleen wrigley bismarck | nd just a thought: page 56 the accomplishment and pride in writing a book, having it published, and...read.

brooke erstad fargo | nd gettin’ through it: page 42 being a snowbird [even though it wasn't too bad this winter].

maddi sager fargo | nd gettin’ through it: page 42 the joys [and challenges] of having children.

stacey allard fargo | nd body + being: page 38 waking up without an alarm. For now, I depend on it to get me up and rolling for the day. For the record, I have never touched the snooze button. Thank goodness I absolutely love going to work every single day and surrounding myself with positive people. No words can express the value connected to positivity. It's priceless.

kari klingsporn hitterdal fargo | nd food for thought: page 50 a trip to India. It is a place I have been fascinated by since I was a child and the allure of its rich culture has never left me. And, I love Indian food!

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was thrilled to read the book “To Love Your Live” by local author Darcy Simonson. Now before I give you my thoughts I feel like I should provide a disclaimer of sorts. Well, first I know Darcy. Secondly, I really like her! She is sincere, kind, and beautiful inside and out. With all that said, I agreed to do a book review of To Love Your Live before I read one single word. As the time came for me to dig into the book I thought, “what if I don’t like it, then what?” Well, I won’t lie, that’s for sure! And then it came to me. If I don’t like it, I just won’t write the article! I had my escape-route plan! Now, if you have made it this far in the article, you have realized that I am, well, writing the article. Why? Because simply, I LOVED the book! Honestly…cross my heart! So here is why I think you should add this gem to your summer reading list:

the skinny To Love Your Life...who in their right mind would ever say they don’t want to love their life? NO ONE! This book offers advice, self-reflection, and action steps to love YOUR life. It’s not preachy or pretentious, but, rather, honest and genuine. You get to take advantage of Darcy’s expertise, training, and research as she explains the importance of first loving ourselves and quieting negative self-talk. Then she helps you dig into what holds you back, and walks you through determining what you really want in life and seeing, feeling, believing, and putting it into practice. the words I love how Darcy writes. I’m not a person who likes to highlight or markup my books, but I couldn’t resist in this one. My copy is riddled with post-it notes, asterisk marks, and underlines because there are phrases like this: Without self-love, everything else that you build in life is built on shaky ground, often collapsing under the weight of insecurity, uncertainty, self-doubt and fear.

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I love the ocean and lakes but you’ll never find me “in” them. I don’t know how to swim and have no desire to learn. I’m perfectly content on the shoreline, warm and dry.

one word that best describes my parenting style…

if i were to write a parenting manual, the title would be…

“don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.”

something i appreciate about getting older… perspective. As I age I have begun to realize what really matters: family, relationships, experiences, and not taking anyone for granted.

flexible. Having a child with special needs has taught me to be flexible in every facet of parenting.

something i have extras of in fridge… turkey. I have a son who is a really picky eater and struggles with texture. Any chance I get, I push protein.

i am very passionate about… TNT Kids Fitness. My son Tate does one-on-one fitness sessions before school and you will find my son Connor there four days a week in the boys’ competitive gymnastics program. I am on the Board of Directors and we are expanding our facility to serve more children and adults of ALL abilities. I am grateful there is a facility that welcomes and challenges BOTH of my children.

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when i give myself a time out… I head straight to the gym. The gym for me is not just about exercise but also relationships. I’m part of a great group that motivates me and make me laugh daily.

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i feel most beautiful when… I have had the opportunity to shower, wash my hair, put make-up on, and get out of my workout clothes.

ways i bond with my boys…

best mistake i ever made…

I like to take advantage of the quiet time in the car traveling to and from activities to catch up with my oldest son, or that small window of time before bed when the house is quiet and we are able to talk. Tate easily falls in love with a variety of topics. I spend lots of time researching and exploring his latest topic of interest. From fire extinguishers, medical supplies, automated external defibrillators, cleaning supplies, lightbulbs, Titanic, hazardous warning labels, survival suit, PFD’s [personal floatation devices], the human body, safety equipment, and most recently the periodic table of elements.

I always wished for blonde hair as a teenager and into my adult years. About ten years ago I bleached my tresses blonde. I quickly came to the realization that there was a reason God made me a brunette and not a blonde. It was fun to try but I think I’ll stick with au naturale.

my faith, my husband, family, and friends. This fall my husband and I both lost our mothers within two months of each other. It would have been unbearable without the support of our church, friends, and family who lifted us up in our deepest time of need.

if i were a color… I’d be orange…it echoes my personality. I am fun loving, energetic, and a “glass-half-full” kind of gal. I love the color orange from flowers to clothing and home accessories.

tidiest part of my house… my philosophy for my home in a perfect world is “a place for everything and everything in its place.” Instead of watching TV, this is what I strive for. It’s a work in progress, like weeding a garden.

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getting rid of distractions around us and taking the time to connect.

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my ‘pick-me-up’ of choice…

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love books. I've devoured stories for as long as I can remember. I love that I’ve been able to visit a variety of far-off places and have wonderful adventures because of the stories I've read in my life.

Recently, as I was reading one of my many stories, it occurred to me that between the once upon a time and happily ever after, there's a story—you know, a middle. You don't open the book and go right from once upon a time to happily ever after. There is a journey in the middle, a story to be told. Our lives are much the same way; we’re writing a story and there has to be a middle. Too often, I think, we get so caught up in finding, searching, hunting for the happily ever after that we forget 22

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to enjoy normal, every-day events. As religious leader Dieter F. Uchtdorf once said, “We become so focused on the finish line that we fail to enjoy the journey.” In other words, we forget to focus on the moment and really write our story, and that's a shame because that's where the adventure lies. That’s where the twists and turns which make the story interesting are: the ups and downs, the triumphs and the challenges and all the other exciting and scary things that happen in a day, a week, a month. To quote Maya Angelou, “All the moments that make us hold our breath or take our breath away.” I think Dumbledore says it well in Harry Potter when he tells Harry that “it does not do well to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” Now, don’t take that the wrong way,

what’s on your mind? I don’t believe that means don’t dream or plan for the future. I think Dumbledore would be the last person to suggest we stop dreaming and planning. [Yes, I realize I’m referring to a fictional character as a real person and possible life coach. But that’s another article for another time.] What I think he means is don’t lose right now by becoming too wrapped up in the possibilities that are the future. Somewhere I think we missed the message that happily ever after is the dream; it's the promise at the end of the story. Right now we are in the middle. But are we, to paraphrase Dumbledore, so focused on the dream that we are forgetting to live? I recently heard my daughter and her best friend talking about boys and lamenting their lack of happily ever after. They were wondering how long they’d have to wait to find a great guy who adores them. I couldn’t help but think to myself, “Oh, honey, don't wish away the middle. Enjoy the moment. Plan for the future but enjoy the right-now moments. Enjoy what life is teaching you. Relish the memories you’re making because your once upon a time is right now.” I wanted to remind them of what Felicity’s professor tells her in one of

the show’s many angst-filled episodes when he says, “Never pass up an opportunity to be a more interesting person.” And those opportunities are now. But you’ll miss them if you spend all of your time wishing you were somewhere else. We expect this from teenagers, but how often do we, as adults, do the same thing? We make plans and then wait for life to start. Because we believe life starts with the happily ever after, when in reality that’s the end. Life starts with the once upon a time. Life is going on all around us right now. In the burnt meal, in the sick child, in the losses and the wins, in the unemployment, the raise, the hand holding, and variety of other little moments we live every day. I would venture to say that those are the things we will look back on when we eventually reach our happily ever after and say, “Oh, remember when mom died or we were without work for 18 months, we lost the house, we beat cancer…? I never thought we’d survive that. Who knew we were so strong? Oh look there—remember our wedding day and the pouring rain that ended in a double rainbow, the impromptu picnic and kickball tournament with

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what’s on your mind? the kids, the day we became parents, the day our oldest, middle, youngest graduated college? So fun! Such sweetness! I loved that!” That’s the middle and it is where the memories are, the stories you tell over and over again. One of the go-tos in our family is about a camping trip we took to Lake Superior in 2009. We love waterfalls and had pulled off the highway to check out one we stumbled upon as we headed north to Gooseberry Falls. It had been rainy and the trails—which really weren’t trails at all, and were more likely animal paths—were wet and muddy. We started down a drier, rockier path when Mr. Boy found what he believed to be a smoother, faster trail to take. Being able to look up at the trail, the rest of us looked at it and told him “Don’t go that way, it looks slippery, you could fall.” Ever the adventurer, he was sure it was the best option so down he went, slipping only seconds later and sliding down the entire path on his backside. He appeared to be chocolate covered, in mud, and none of us could stop laughing. I’m certain we finished walking the trail and checked out the waterfall, but I couldn’t tell you which waterfall it was or anything about it. I can’t even remember if we took pictures. But I can tell you we took pictures of Mr. Boy’s mud-covered jeans and very clearly remember the laughing continuing as dad made him put on sweat pants, outside the car, in the cold, because “no way that mess was coming in the van.” Our favorite memory didn’t happen at the beginning or the end of our trip. It happened right in the middle and although there were other fun moments and great pictures from the trip, this is what we remember and love telling most about our Lake Superior adventure… the middle. This was the moment where we learned that perspective makes all the difference and that just

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because we can doesn’t mean we should. Thankfully, we learned with no injuries, only a little mud on our butts and a lot of laughter. And when we walk down memory lane and read pieces of our story, we always stop at, “Remember that one time at Lake Superior?” because it’s still funny. We may open a book anticipating the happily ever after, but somewhere along the way we get caught up in the story. And that's what sticks with me. That’s where the lessons are; it is in sharing the characters’ journey that I am changed. Aren't our lives the same way? As we get caught up in the story, the middle, the day-to-day living, we are taught, changed, shaped into who we need to be so we can tackle the next adventure in our life. So I'm challenging myself and you to stop waiting for the end. Trust that the happily ever after will come and it will be great!! I promise it will come, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. But in the meantime, start living your life. Enjoy your story with all its ups and downs. Relish the changes that are happening. Focus less on what might be, and enjoy more fully what is, because that is where the memories are and where the greatness of the story lies. Currently residing in the suburbs of Akron, Ohio, Angela was raised as an Army brat with little stickers on the back of everything she owns to prove it. She works hard to maintain the title of “Mean Mom” to her five children and is married to Superman, who goes by the name Jared when he has his glasses on. Angela can stretch a dollar like nobody’s business, create a meal out of nothing, but cannot, even on her best day, make Jell-O or a decent pie crust. When she is not emailing her missionary son, washing laundry, or changing diapers she works to bring attention to Go Red for Women and raise awareness about relationship abuse. Angela is a voracious reader and writes children’s books to maintain her sanity; otherwise a number of fictional characters take up residence in her brain, keeping her awake at night.

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Community Play Day 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Free Play for all ages at Rheault Farm [2902 25th St S, Fargo], 9am-11am & 1pm-3pm! Play yard games, do a take home craft, climb on the playground and move to music outside in the sunshine!

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Share A Story 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Enjoy stories shared through music, dance and performances by community members and meet Buddy the Dinosaur at Rheault Farm [2902 25th St S, Fargo], 9:30am-3:30pm! Free books, free food and free admission.

Classical Music Festival 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Create & Explore 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Create a masterpiece in this parent and child class. Explore different mediums together while enhancing motor skills, 3:30pm-5pm at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo]. For ages 3-5 plus an adult. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

Trout Fest 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

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Youth ages 15 and under will learn about fly fishing, casting, entomology, conservation, equipment demonstrations, and more at this free catch and release event at

Woodhaven North Park [4406 44th Ave S, Fargo]. Registration is 5:30pm-6:15pm with the derby running 6:15pm-7:45pm. An awards presentation will follow the derby.

8-12 or 22-26

Accelerated Artists Summer 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Grow your child's creativity! Young artists will explore different media such as drawing, painting, collage, and more through creative and fun art projects, 1pm-3pm at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo]. Students ages 9-12 will learn about artistic styles while strengthening existing foundations. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

8 & 15

CPR/AED – Heartsaver 701.364.1704 www.fmambulance.com This course covers basic adult, child and infant CPR plus how to use an AED [Automated External Defibrillator]. Class starts at 7pm and is held at F-M Ambulance Service [2215 18th St S, Fargo]. $50 fee.

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15-19

Moo! Baa! Oink! Head on over to our classroom farm for an incredible barnyard bash. Kiddos ages birth to kindergarten entry learn unique facts about animals you see on a farm, enjoy a story and participate in irresistible ECFE fun. Head to Early Childhood Family Education [2410 14th St S, Moorhead], 9:30am-11am, $6 [$5 reduced fee for Moorhead School District residents].

Challenge your child's creativity, 1pm-3pm at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo]! This combination class offers independent children ages 6-8 a sampling of art projects using various media such as drawing, painting, watercolors and pastels. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

Down on the Farm 218.284.3400 communityed.moorheadschools.org

Artmania Summer 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

9 & 23

Wild West Jamboree 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

Celebrate summer at RiverArts in Memorial Park [210 8th St N, Moorhead] from 5:30pm-8pm! Bring the whole family for an outdoor concert, horse drawn carriage rides, shopping, farmers market & kid’s activities. FREE admission.

Enjoy a Rootin’ Tootin’ good time of activities including music with Silverado, free carriage rides, gunny sack races, barrel car rides, a petting zoo, roping demos, face painting & other western games at Rendezvous Park [1055 32nd Ave W, West Fargo] 5:30pm-7:30pm. Pony rides will be offered for $2. Hotdogs, chips and beverage will be available for $1. Bring your lawn chair or blanket.

RiverArts 218.299.5340 www.cityofmoorhead.com/parks

Music Montage 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Join in an interactive evening of music outside on the park plaza, 6pm-8pm at Great Northern Park [425 N Broadway, Fargo]. An open mic format invites talented local musicians to perform to a crowd of all ages. Get your shot up on the stage or just enjoy the up and coming talent in our community.

Streets Alive 701.356.3132 www.fmstreetsalive.org Get out and get moving down the streets of Fargo-Moorhead, noon-5pm! Bring friends, family and neighbors to walk, run, pedal, stroll or skate together on a 3 mile loop of blocked off roads. Stop along the way for activities, booths and more!

15-19

Penny and Pals Workshop 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Midwest Kid Fest & Teddy Bear Parade 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

24–27

101 Dalmatians 701.235.6778 www.fmct.org

Keep your pups on their leashes! 101 Dalmatians Kids adapts the familiar animated tale of kidnapping villains and courageous puppies for a whole new generation of young performers. The FM Community Theatre [333 4th St S, Fargo] brings this classic to life. Show times vary so be sure to check online for schedule details. Tickets: Adult & Senior $10, Students & Children $5.

26 & 27

Midwest Viking & Scandinavian Festival 218.299.5452 www.hcscconline.org Celebrate Nordic culture from ancient times at the Hjemkomst Center [202 1st Ave N, Moorhead]. Enjoy an outdoor of gathering of craftsmen, musicians and history enthusiasts who are bringing the Viking Age back to life. There will be re-enactors dressed in period clothing, cooking over an open fire, glass bead

making, coin-striking, silver-smithing, wood carving, pottery making and even a battle demonstration. $10 per day for Adults, $5 ages 13-17, and kiddos 12 and under free with a paid adult. Enjoy two festivals for the price of one!

BMX Jam 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Bikers, show off your tricks at the BMX Jam, 3pm at the Dike West Skate Park [310 4th St S, Fargo]. All skill levels can participate in the exhibition. Helmets are required.

Dynamic Dinos 218.284.3400 communityed.moorheadschools.org Bring your little paleontologists and dig for dinosaur bones, make a fossil, search for dinosaur eggs and maybe even discover a new type of giant lizard. Held at Early Childhood Family Education [2410 14th St S, Moorhead] for kiddos ages birth to kindergarten entry, 9:30am-11am, $6 [$5 reduced fee for Moorhead School District residents].

All activities are free, 11am-7pm at Island Park [302 7th St S, Fargo]! Bring a canned food donation to benefit the Great Plains Food Bank to the parade along with your Teddy Bear at the Teddy Bear Parade that starts at 10:30am at the Dike West Parking Lot [310 4th St S, Fargo]. Concessions available for purchase.

Skateboarding Day 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Come out for the annual Skateboarding Day, 4pm at Dike West Skate Park [310 4th St S, Fargo], where you can celebrate with free food and pop while supplies last. Enjoy a day of skateboarding with your friends and listening to music.

Movie Night 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com Watch a movie on an inflatable screen in the Island Park [616 1st Ave S, Fargo]. Movie Nights in the Park are held throughout the summer and start at dusk.

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Every kid loves Penny and her musical pals, Rockin' Robot and Bernie the Bear! Come wiggle, giggle and sing with Penny, 9am-noon at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo]. Kiddos ages 4-5 will learn songs, dances and work with props, then show off what they have learned at a special performance at the end of each session for families and friends. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

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22, 23 & 25

Pepsi Appreciation Day 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com Free pool admission all day on the 2nd at the Davies Rec Pool [7150 25th St S, Fargo], the 23rd at the Southwest Rec Pool [1840 15th Ave S, Fargo] and the 25th at the Northside Rec Pool [801 17th Ave N,

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It’s an old fashioned 4th of July celebration at Bonanzaville [1351 Main Ave W, West Fargo]. A BBQ picnic, train rides, a dunk tank, and so much more! Tour the pioneer village and come for the parade.

Free pool admission all day on the 6th at the Madison Pool & Splash Pad [1040 29th St N, Fargo] and on the 7th at the Island Park Pool [616 1st Ave S, Fargo]. Free Pepsi products and hot dogs will be served at the beginning of the first session while supplies last.

It's that time again! Go get some family fun at the fair. For daily events check online.

Bonanzaville 4th of July 701.282.2822 www.bonanzaville.org

Create & Explore 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Create a masterpiece in this parent and child class at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo], 3:30pm-5pm. Explore different mediums together while enhancing motor skills. For ages 3-5 plus an adult. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

Waterama 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Pepsi Appreciation Day 701.499.6060 www.fargoparks.com

6-9

Arts Sampler 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Children ages 5-7 explore the arts as they get a chance to try a little bit of everything at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo], 1pm-3pm. "Act" on your emotions. "Dance" like the stars. Perfect for those busy kids who like to try a little of everything. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

screen movie matinee of Big Hero 6. Show time 1pm-3pm. Bleachers will be available and Sno-Cones, Popcorn or Pop will be offered for $1 each.

Red River Valley Fair 800.456.6408 www.redrivervalleyfair.com

7, 14, 21 & 28

Party In the Park 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Join us in a different park each Tuesday night, 5:30pm-8pm, for an evening of family fun. Sing your favorite karaoke song, play in the bounce house, create a craft project, get your face painted and take home a balloon animal. See you on the 7th at the Village West Park [4415 9th Ave Circle S, Fargo], on the 14th at the Unicorn Park [1603 3rd Ave N, Fargo], on the 21st at the Rabanus [4315 18th Ave S, Fargo], and on the 28th at the Bennett Park [1900 58th Ave S, Fargo].

Movie Matinee 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

Spend an afternoon having fun with water at the Madison Park [3010 11th Ave N, Fargo], noon-3pm! Play water games and do all sorts of activities that involve water and getting wet.

Music Montage 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Join in an interactive evening of music outside on the Great Northern Park [425 N Broadway, Fargo] plaza, 6pm-8pm. An open mic format invites talented local musicians to perform to a crowd of all ages. Get your shot up on the stage or just enjoy the up and coming talent in our community.

Don’t forget your blanket or a chair when you head out to Veterans Memorial Arena [1201 7th Ave E, West Fargo] for the big

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Farmers' Market & Beyond 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

Fresh produce, berries, herbs, meats, jellies, flowers, hand-crafted items & agriculture products will be available for purchase 3:30pm-6:30pm at the South Elmwood Park parking lot [500 13th Ave W, West Fargo].

9, 16, 23 & 30

Park It! 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Meet the Xcellent Art staff at the park, 1pm-4pm, and create take home arts and crafts. The fun travels weekly to different neighborhoods. All supplies provided and different projects each week. See you on the 9th at Elephant Park [100 19th Ave N, Fargo] on the 16th at Centennial Park [4101 25th St S, Fargo], on the 23rd at Roosevelt Park [1220 9th St N, Fargo], and on the 30th at Jefferson West Park [1904 4th Ave S, Fargo].

13-17 or 27-31 Artmania Summer 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Challenge your child's creativity! This combination class, 1pm-3pm at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo], offers independent children ages 6-8 a sampling of art projects using various media such as drawing, painting, watercolors and pastels. For more info or to register visit us online or call.

Hawaiian Beach Blast 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

16-18

Downtown Fargo Street Fair www.downtownfargo.com

It’s that time again! Time to head Downtown for the 40th annual Street Fair. Open 10am-9pm on the 16th and 17th, and 10am-5pm on the 18th.

B.L.A.S.T. Babysitter's Day Camp 701.364.1704 www.fmambulance.com Babysitting Lessons and Safety Training is the initial course for teens and preteens on the responsibilities of caring for children. They will learn CPR and first aid for children, as well as diaper changing techniques. They will also learn when to call 911 and what will happen if they do need emergency assistance. The course is designed for young babysitters ages 11–15. Limited space. Register online.

Dr. Doolittle Day 701.277.9240 www.redriverzoo.org Dr. Doolittle Day at the Red River Zoo [4255 23rd Ave S, Fargo] means kiddos who bring a stuffed animal get in FREE! Enjoy a great Zoo day and participate in fun activities all about the world of Zoo Medicine!

20-24

Grow your child's creativity! Young artists will explore different media such as drawing, painting, collage and more through creative and fun art projects, 1pm-3pm at the RDJ Rec Center [1104 2nd Ave S, Fargo]. Students ages 9-12 will learn about artistic styles while strengthening existing foundations.

Punk, Rock, Metal! Get your friends and come out to see a live rock show, 7pm-9pm [location to be determined]. These shows are free and all ages are welcome!

Accelerated Artists Summer 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

22 & 29

Concerts in the Park 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Local bands will entertain families with lively music at Island Park [302 7th St S, Fargo] on the 22nd and at Trollwood Park [3664 Elm St N, Fargo] on the 29th, 7pm-8:30pm. Get your face painted, jump in the bouncy castle and take home a craft project. This is a free event and there will be limited concessions for sale. Heavy is the Head [reggae] will be performing on the 22nd and October Road [funky country] take the stage on the 29th!

Fargo Rock Concert 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Rapunzel 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org Head to Cheney Middle School [825 17th Ave E, West Fargo] and enjoy some of our local talent as they participate with Missoula Children’s Theatre rendition of Rapunzel. Shows at 2pm and 4:30pm, adults-$5; ages 6-12 $3 and ages 5 & under free.

German Folk Festival 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Dance to traditional German music produced by German American bands. Explore German displays, presentations and crafts at Rheault Farm [2902 25th St S, Fargo], 11am-5pm. Free admission. German/ American foods available for purchase.

Movie Night 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Watch a movie, starting at dusk, on an inflatable screen in Island Park [616 1st Ave S, Fargo]. Movie Nights in the Park are held throughout the summer.

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Dress in Hawaiian attire and enjoy beach party music with the “Front Fenders” at Rendezvous Park [1055 32nd Ave W, West Faro]. Other activities will include carriage rides, barrel car rides, inflatable games, beach volleyball, giant games, face painting, kite flying and other fun activities. Refreshments will be served for a minimal charge and don’t forget to bring a lawn chair and/or blanket. Event time is 5:30pm-7:30pm and cost if FREE.

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Spend an afternoon having fun with water at the Clara Barton Park [1451 6th St S, Fargo], noon-3pm! Play water games and do all sorts of activities that involve water and getting wet.

Free family fun in the Memorial Park [210 8th St N, Moorhead], 5:30pm-8pm! We wrap up the 2015 RiverArts season with a bang! August 4th brings Slamabama to the stage for an unforgettable show and everyone can participate in the River Keepers fishing clinic. Free horse drawn carriage rides, art and craft vendors, food, free hands on activities, informational booths, and a great playground. Slamabama takes the stage at 6pm.

Free Play for all ages at Rheault Farm [1220 9th St N, Fargo], 9am-11am & 1pm-3pm! Play yard games, do a take home craft, climb on the playground and move to music outside in the sunshine!

Did you know that 8 out of 10 car seats are installed incorrectly? Car seat safety class is a one-hour class with up-to-date car seat recommendations and car seat laws. It is suggested you attend this class as early as 6-7 months of pregnancy. Class is open to parents, grandparents or caregivers and is taught by a Certified Car Seat Technician. You do not need to bring your car seat with you to class. This class is sponsored by Safe Kids. Registration is required. Class is held at Essentia Health on 32nd Ave, Fargo. Classroom location will be posted in main hospital lobby.

Waterama 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

RiverArts 218.299.5340 www.cityofmoorhead.com

3, 6, 10, 13, 17, 20, 24, 27 & 31 Farmers' Market & Beyond 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

5 & 12

Concert in the Park 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Local bands will entertain families with lively music at Roosevelt Park [302 7th St S, Fargo] on the 5th and at Brunsdale Park [1702 27th Ave S, Fargo], 7pm-8:30pm. Get your face painted, jump in the bouncy castle and take home a craft project. This is a free event and there will be limited concessions for sale. Q5 [variety music] will be performing on the 5th and Ditching Delmer [90’s and now rock] will take the stage on the 12th!

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Community Play Day 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

6 & 13

Park It! 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com Meet the Xcellent Art staff at the park, 1pm-4pm, and create take home arts and crafts. The fun travels weekly to different neighborhoods. All supplies provided and different projects each week. See you on the 6th at Madison Park [3010 11th Ave N, Fargo], and on the 13th at Kennedy Park [4501 42nd St S, Fargo].

Car Seat Safety 701.364.8100 www.essentiahealth.org

All event listings displayed within OTMOM are carefully selected to provide diverse options for families. It is always a good idea to call ahead to confirm the information provided. Although it is not possible to list every event happening in the FM area, we encourage organizations to submit events for consideration to events@onthemindsofmoms.com

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29 & 30

Don’t forget your blanket or a chair when you head out to Veterans Memorial Arena [1201 7th Ave E, West Fargo] for the big screen movie matinee of Frozen. Show time 1pm-3pm. Bleachers will be available and Sno-Cones, Popcorn or Pop will be offered for $1 each.

Pioneer Village at Bonanzaville [1351 W Main, West Fargo] comes to life with authentic parades, demonstrations, costumes and crafts.

Bring your friends and indulge yourself! Spend a day at Island Park [302 7th St S, Fargo] shopping in the shade! Find unique items, enjoy excellent food and listen to great music from 10am-5pm.

Get out and get moving down the streets of Fargo-Moorhead, noon-5pm! Bring friends, family and neighbors to walk, run, pedal, stroll or skate together on a 3 mile loop of blocked off roads. Stop along the way for activities, booths and more!

Movie Matinee 701.433.5360 www.wfparks.org

13 & 22

Lego Club 218.233.3757 www.larl.org All ages and abilities are welcome to come make their own Lego creation at our Lego Club at the Moorhead Public Library [118 5th St S, Moorhead], 6pm on the 13th and 2pm on the 22nd. Supplies provided to build, but make sure to bring your imagination!

Pioneer Days 701.282.2822 www.bonanzaville.org

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Island Park Show 701.499.7788 www.fargoparks.com

Streets Alive 701.356.3132 www.fmstreetsalive.org

Potato Days 800.525.4901 www.potatodays.com Lots of fun for the whole family in Barnesville. Parade, games, contests and don't forget… Mashed Potato Wrestling!

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what exactly does Sublime offer? Sublime specializes in minimal to non-invasive medical aesthetic procedures. We want to help you look as young as you feel without surgery.

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what has been the biggest challenge in owning your own business? Organizing my travel between all three locations with my personal and family schedules. It takes a lot of planning and gets a little hectic but it is worth it. The flexibility in my schedule has been wonderful for me and my family.

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s your current weight not where you feel your healthiest, fit you? The thing is, we have all done it before and KNOW we can do it again. Right? We get moving in the right direction then hit a bump in the road. Decision time. What are we going to do? Throw the towel in and go back to where we were or move forward in the right direction and not look back or get frustrated? A setback doesn’t have to be completely defeating. Here are some tips to get you back on track and stay the course of healthy living.

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get back to basics If you have already lost some weight, then it can be easy to feel a little complacent or “get cocky,” where you start second guessing what has worked for you. Start tracking again, drink more water, or just move. Just start again. do what worked for you in the beginning Was it logging your food, walking more steps in a day, drinking more water, weight training, not snacking after supper? What worked best for you may not be what works for the next person. Figure out what has slipped away and work towards getting that one thing back.

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take it one day at a time If you have made lots of changes before, you might think about making all of them at the same time again, but that is a quick way to feel overwhelmed. Just take each day as it comes and make small changes. work on filling half your plate with vegetables each meal Not only are veggies healthy, but they are filling, too. So get ‘em on your plate! workout…no matter what Something is better than nothing. A small workout is better than no workout. Don’t think about it, just get up and move! try some new recipes You will find it hard to get back to healthy eating if you are not excited about the meals you have planned. Instead of just pinning the recipes on Pinterest, actually try them! Plan out the week so you know what’s ahead. food is fuel, not the enemy Stop giving food all the power. Labeling food as bad or cutting things out altogether is setting yourself up for failure. Getting healthy and/or losing weight is about creating a healthy relationship with food. If you can’t do it alone, there is help out there!

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be positive Positivity goes a long way and that includes not being negative toward the way your body currently looks. You may want to change the way your body looks, but constantly saying negative things about yourself is not going to help. You can still love your body as it is at this time and work on changing it to make it healthier.

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remind yourself of how you feel when you are not on track When you eat junk and skip your workouts do you feel like crap? YES! Don’t even think about it, just get out and move. Need some help getting motivated? Call a friend to work out together; what a great way to spend some time together! plan & schedule The saying goes "fail to plan and you plan to fail." Plan out a realistic workout schedule and stick to it. If you need a personal trainer, get one. If you need to phone a workout buddy then do it and schedule in workouts like you would a meeting and don’t back out of it. Plan your meals for the week, because when we flounder we tend to just grab or eat until we figure out what we want to eat. moderate alcohol intake This isn’t an issue for everyone, but for some it is. It can be really hard to make good food choices along with consuming the empty calories from alcohol. Moderation is key.

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get some support The more support you have in your corner, the more successful you will be. Be honest with your family and friends, if you need their support, let them know it. suck it up & get on with it Sorry for the tough love. Yes, it sucks when you get off track and move away from your initial goals. That’s life…and it’s not perfect. You have good days and you have bad days. You have good meals and you have bad ones. Life is full of choices. Choose to change or choose to stay as you are…either way the choice is yours so own it. Remember,”If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten… change is good!” Stacey is mom to Kacee and Kelli, wife to Ron, and personal trainer and friend to hundreds! For over 19 years she has been helping men and women of all ages and starting fitness levels reach their goals. If you need some motivation in a fun, nonthreatening environment, Stacey is the trainer for you. Contact her at: 701.371.1875, stacey-allard@ hotmail.com. When Stacey isn’t at the gym, you can find her spending time with her family, golfing, or simply enjoying the outdoors riding bike or walking the four-legged family member, Josie.

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How to Cope with Cutting by Abby Tow — Executive Director of Imagine Thriving

“Cutting” is a word that parents never want to hear. The idea of it — that a child would purposely injure him or herself — is frightening and difficult to comprehend. According to Karen Conterio, author of the book “Bodily Harm,” cutting usually starts around the age of 14. But that age is getting younger and younger, as kids as young as 11 or 12 are being exposed to cutting through media and their peers — and they’re trying it themselves. Without treatment, cutting may continue into a child’s teen and adult years. Early intervention and therapy is the key to helping your child overcome cutting and finding them a healthier way to cope. WHAT EXACTLY IS CUTTING? Cutting is a form of self-harm in which a person purposely creates cuts, bruises or burns on their body using objects such as razors, knives, glass shards or lighters. These injuries usually occur on the wrists, arms, thighs or chest. WHAT WOULD DRIVE A CHILD TO START CUTTING? Cutting is an unhealthy way for a person to cope with emotional pain. People who cut usually do so to relieve stress, sadness, anger and other emotions that may be difficult for them to handle. Some reasons a child may cut themselves may include: • A desire to regain a sense of control

• A desire to feel alive instead of numb

• A desire to create a distraction from an overwhelming life situation

• A desire to punish themselves for something they feel they did wrong

Cutting may bring someone temporary relief from these emotions, creating an addictive high. But that high is often short-lived as guilt and shame quickly follow and emotional pain returns. This can create a downward spiral of compulsive cutting that becomes more and more difficult to stop.

HOW CAN YOU HELP A CHILD WHO IS CUTTING? Because cutting is a method to cope with emotions that are difficult to talk about, it’s often hard for someone who self-harms to open up about it to others. If you think your child may be cutting, take these steps: • Talk to your child without judgment. Ask them how they’re feeling. Share with them your concerns and your own feelings, and offer your support. Give them plenty of time and space during your discussion. • Encourage them to talk to a therapist. A solution to stopping self-harm is finding a healthier outlet for negative emotions. A therapist may be able to help your child identify the triggers behind those emotions and help them find new ways to cope. Help isn’t far away with Imagine Thriving. If you want to learn more about self-harm and treatment options, visit the Imagine Thriving website at ImagineThriving.org. You’ll find a list of therapists and programs that support mental wellness in children and teens.

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF CUTTING IN CHILDREN AND TEENS • Blood stains on clothing, towels, bedding or tissues

• Frequent “accidents” to explain away injuries

• Unexplained wounds or scars

• Cutting instruments such as razors, knives, needles or glass shards in their belongings

• Isolation and irritability; needing to be alone in a bathroom or bedroom for long periods of time

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ethany is a typical, happy ten-year old who likes to play soccer, spend time with her friends, and play with her little brother. What Bethany doesn’t want you to know is that she also wets the bed and has struggled with constipation since she was potty trained. She doesn’t remember when exactly it started, but she has never liked spending time on the toilet. Sometimes she gets invited to sleep over at a friend’s house, but she never goes. She doesn’t want her friends to know about her bowel and bladder problems. It’s bad enough that she sees the frustrated look on her mom’s face when she brings her sheets down in the morning; she surely doesn’t want to be teased for wearing a diaper, or worse, wetting the bed. She would like more than anything for it to go away. It’s heartbreaking to hear stories like this, but Bethany’s story is very common among boys and girls alike. In fact, even celebrities like Sarah Silverman, Vince Vaughn, and Mark McGuire have publicly shared their struggles with bedwetting. Sure they can laugh about it now, but as many parents of bedwetters know, it’s certainly not funny when you’re living it. Dealing with bedwetting causes frustration, anger, sadness, guilt, and many other emotions. Parents and children with bedwetting issues have a difficult time knowing where

to turn to for answers. What is really happening to their children and children like Bethany? Can they help it? When is it considered a problem? Will it go away on its own? There are answers and help, so let’s clear up some common misconceptions. remember We all start out incontinent [unwantedly leaking urine] as babies and need to develop awareness and control over our bladders, so it is important to remembering that bedwetting is considered normal until age five. Up to 20% of all children in the U.S. remain incontinent beyond the age of five each year. Incontinence only at night, or what is commonly known as bedwetting, has a term all its own: Enuresis. The chances of a child growing out of the Enuresis [bedwetting] on his or her own decreases by about 15% each year the child ages. Without help, children with bedwetting run the risk of being socially withdrawn, bullied, or possibly having some learning difficulties because of their bowel and bladder conditions. The longer the conditions affect them, the greater the effects on their physical and psychosocial development. The most important thing you as a parent can do is try to be patient. Every child suffering from bedwetting doesn’t want it to happen. It is not an act of defiance or rebellion. Sometimes there can be hormonal, dietary, or behavioral changes needed to assist nighttime dryness.

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gettin’ through it the bladder What is really happening to children like Bethany is that the bladder is very irritable for some reason. These reasons can vary from storing too much urine all day, sensitivity to food and drink, or possible family history of bedwetting. When the bladder is irritated it also triggers changes in the pelvic-floor muscles which lie underneath the bladder, offering support and coordination during emptying. These changes in the pelvic floor cause it to be too tight during emptying and eliminating waste through bowel and bladder function. This leads to incomplete emptying and stores more urine than usual. By the end of the day, the bladder is usually overstretched or full of concentrated urine, triggering a very tight pelvic floor. Pelvic floor tightness creates a stressful situation inside the pelvis. Once the child falls asleep and the conscious tightening of the pelvic floor relaxes, out comes the urine. This is actually a very good thing; the body relieves the negative pressures to avoid damaging the urinary system with Urinary Tract Infections or refluxing up to the kidneys. constipation Also commonly found with bedwetting is constipation. Constipation is a very vague term including any or all of these symptoms: • straining during a bowel movement • lumpy or hard stools • less than three bowel movements per week • a sensation of incomplete emptying • manually assisting a bowel movement • having no loose stools unless taking a laxative

Each of these symptoms must go on for three months or more to be classified as constipated. Stool in the rectum can be detrimental to children struggling to stay dry at night because of the increased pressure it can place on the bladder, furthering the stress in the pelvis. Because stool is solid and urine a liquid in the tiny, pressurized pelvic space, the liquid is going to leak out under pressure every time. The pelvic floor muscles also play a key role in defecation because they allow relaxation to let the stool out. If the muscles are unable to relax for any reason, including a large irritated bladder, then the stool may remain in the rectum, furthering the stress and dysfunction in the pelvis and repeating the cycle of bedwetting. the muscles So, since Physical Therapists are musculoskeletal experts and since the pelvic floor is muscles, it makes sense that working with a PT can greatly improve continence. By using a Surface Electromyogram [sEMG] as a biofeedback we are able to determine if the pelvic floor muscles have increased or decreased muscle tone. This is a painless, non-invasive, and effective way to assess the pelvic floor muscles. The best part about using sEMG is that it allows privacy for the child, because a parent or trusted caregiver is able to place the electrodes for the sEMG prior to the treatment. After analyzing the sEMG findings, an individualized plan is made for each child based on the findings during each session.

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The plan usually consists of some behavioral modifications, tracking bowel movements, and of course bladder exercises! The goal of treatments is to improve the isolation and strength of the pelvic floor muscles, normalize the resting tone of the muscles, and to improve the sphincter’s supportive function. Stronger pelvic floors mean better continence at rest and during voluntary emptying of the bladder and bowel so that there is better holding capacity during the night to avoid wetting the bed! Stories like Bethany’s are more common than you’d think. The best news is that the success rate for physical therapy helping bedwetting is greater than 90%. Not only does learning about bowel and bladder health help with bedwetting and constipation in childhood, but it also develops healthy habits for life. We feel so lucky to help change children’s lives and share in the excitement that they have to wake up dry or go to their first sleepover! Helping children like Bethany become the “bladder boss” is one of the best things about our jobs as pelvic floor physical therapists. If you’d like to know more about pediatric pelvic floor physical therapy for bedwetting, constipation, or any other bowel and bladder dysfunctions, call us at Apex Physical Therapy and Wellness at 701.364.APEX [2739] or check us out online at ApexPTWellness.com. We’d love to talk more individually about your child’s condition. Maddi is a Fargo native, graduating from Fargo North before attaining her Doctorate of Physical Therapy from the University of North Dakota. Maddi is a kid at heart and loves to work with pediatrics, geriatrics, and every age in between. She is a “pet mom” and has been busy planning a birthday party for her soon-to-turn-one Springer Spaniel, Moose! She and her husband, Tony, enjoy being at the lake with family and friends, reading, arts and crafts, and spending time in the outdoors.

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Brooke is a Jamestown, ND native and graduate of University of Mary with a BS in Exercise Science and a Doctorate in Physical Therapy. She is co-owner of Apex Physical Therapy & Wellness Center in West Fargo, ND, where she has chosen to specialize in Pelvic Rehabilitation for all ages of women, men, and children. She is a big fan of gymnastics and is looking forward to watching her daughter Brogan [2] perform one day…but she doesn’t want her to grow up too soon! She also enjoys playing monster trucks and cars with her son Blake [4] and spending time with her husband Bryan. The family is excitedly awaiting the completion of their new family home in South Fargo. Brooke and Bryan are very happy to report they haven’t killed each other yet while living in Bryan’s parents’ basement for nine months!

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orn and raised in Carrington, ND, where his parents still live today, Kirk was always an energetic and competitive kid. That drive would eventually take him to Valley City State University, where he wrestled competitively

for four years. Currently a Financial Advisor working in East Grand Forks, MN, Kirk and wife and high-school sweetheart, Karrie, make their home in Hillsboro, ND, with their four kids, Oakly [22], Brooklyn [17], Jensyn [12], and Niko [7]. Kirkâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s enthusiasm and zest for life is bigger than ever and he is the first to admit around the house he is the â&#x20AC;&#x153;hyper one.â&#x20AC;? Even with four kids in the house, he probably creates the most commotion.

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the ideal saturday for me would mean…

golfing in the morning with Karrie and the kids, hanging out at the lake with our extended family and then a beach bonfire.

my life and with two beautiful, young daughters for a long time. That being said, I understand roughly seven percent of what they are talking about or going through on a daily basis.

in our home, we spend the most time…

our one family rule is…

packing and chasing kids from one sporting event to another, but we love it that way.

have fun.

the most challenging part of being a dad right now is… technology. I grew up being able to talk to people [anytime, anywhere] and I try to teach the importance of that to the kids. I firmly believe that the ability to talk to and relate to people on a daily, face-to-face basis is one of the most important parts of adult development.

i really wish i knew more about… females. I've lived with Karrie for more than half of

the most surprising thing about parenthood for me has been… dealing with boy/girl relationships. Yuck. I knew it would be tough, but not like this.

i’m good at… recruiting and coaching kids. I have been the cross-country coach in Hillsboro for seven years now. We started with one or two runners when my older children wanted to compete. With their help and the work of many others, we've built the program

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rad dad into one of the best in North Dakota. Both the boys’ and girls’ teams won the East Region title last year and the girls have won the Class B State title four consecutive years. We expect to have roughly 50 kids competing with us this fall.

hood was the one thing that kept us sane and focused. It didn't matter how tired we were or how long our day seemed, coming home to Oakly made it all worthwhile.

my wife…

a real struggle. Most kids today don't experience the hard work that their grandparents and great-grandparents endured. It's not because they CAN'T do it but because they have never HAD TO do it. Digging your way out of a deep hole builds character that can't be taught in school...self-sufficiency, pride, and confidence.

is awesome. Without her, we wouldn't be where we are today. We've got a great, simple life with terrific kids and she makes everything tick.

a pet peeve of mine… stress. My family can attest to the fact that I very seldom stress. Things are going to happen in life but stressing about them is not going to help...deal with it to the best of your ability and move on.

if i were a candy bar I’d be… PayDay. All parents of four [with two about to be in college] know what I'm talking about.

i’m most humbled by…

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our college years. Those are the days that I think about and realize that we need to appreciate what we have now...be humble. We had the stress of full-time college classes, full-time jobs, a college wrestling season, bills, and a brand new bundle-of-joy earlier than traditionally expected. Karrie used to get up at three a.m. to go to work at the bakery before a full day of college classes and maintaining a home. I juggled my college classes with daily practices and tournament schedules while mixing in part-time jobs. The "stress" of parent-

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something i want my kids to one day experience…

the most lasting childhood memory i have… birthday parties. Growing up in a small town, birthday parties were it. We would have a dozen kids playing football all afternoon and telling stories in the tent all night. I'm so glad my kids are growing up in a small town with the ability to know all their neighbors and feel like a community at all times.

a habit i wish i could break… energy drinks. They are terribly unhealthy and I don't exactly need any more "energy boosts" throughout the day.

growing up i always knew… that I'd be a good dad. I've always loved kids and have always wanted to have a larger family. We've got an absolutely terrific blend of boys/girls, young/ old, athletes/scholars, energetic/laid back...just as I had hoped!

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growing kids, growing appetites

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lmost immediately after arriving at a local hockey arena for a game this past winter my 12-year-old asked me, no less than ten times in 30 minutes, for money to buy something to eat. Given the fact we had just eaten before arriving, I replied rather irritably, “But we just ate!” My sister gently spoke some clarity for me: “Just get her something to eat. She’s hungry, she’s growing, and she is healthy!” My sister is right. We need to feed these growing kids—and well! Over the past several years since having a teenager, I have been shocked at the amount of food we can go through at our house. With a teenage son and a soon-to-be teenage daughter, my mama radar is on high alert when it comes to their eating habits and nutrition, perhaps more so now than when they were young. I am well aware my attitude toward eating is arguably at its most important point of influence for my 50

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teen son and daughter. I have been especially careful the last few years watching what I say about eating and body image as well as what I actually eat. We may not always realize it, but our tweens and teens still look to us and listen to our voices as role models. Although this subject can be a complicated and scary, I try to keep it simple and keep these key ideas in mind when it comes to my teens and their eating habits. empower and encourage healthy habits and food choices Information is power and is especially of importance for older kids. They are smart enough to make their own decisions about eating right, so encourage them in their choices. In our home, we talk a lot about food as fuel for our bodies, so we want to fill it with the best choices we can most of the time. I have found FACS [Family and Consumer Sciences] classes in middle school really piggyback onto these ideas. It’s always good when someone else is backing up our good intentions—and

food for thought FACS courses provide them with skills to plan and make meals and empower kids to take control of these important life skills. snacking Afternoon snacks are okay, but junk food needs to be limited and discouraged. “Fun” food does not have to be boring! Keep a well-stocked pantry with healthy snacks like whole-grain crackers, nuts, fruit, pretzels, yogurt, and fun toppings such as granola or dried fruit, or the homemade black bean salsa recipe in this issue and baked chips or fresh vegetables for scooping. We have a basket we keep on our counter that holds “anytime” snacks. These are foods they don’t have to ask me to eat—they can take one whenever they want something to eat without asking permission. This is a lifesaver! It gives kids the chance to choose what they want to eat and it is pre-approved by parents. Remember, adolescent boys may need as much as 2,800 calories a day for their growing bodies, and teen girls aren’t far behind at up to 2,200 calories a day, so snacks are important for teens! nothing is off limits Healthy balance and moderation is the key for all of us, right? I always say life isn’t worth living if I can’t enjoy a piece of chocolate cake or some lovely cheese once in a while. This is a tough way to live in a world that seems to churn out new fad diets and lists of “never eat this ever again and you’ll look like a supermodel” all the time. And no, I am not a doctor, but common sense tells me to ignore all the hype. I am not an “absolutes” type of person, either, so while I try to encourage healthy

choices, we allow junk food in our home on a [mostly] controlled basis. I find my kids will choose healthier options most of the time because they know they can have chips or candy when it is appropriate. Forbidding your children to eat certain foods may be a dangerous path to take, and there is much scientific evidence to support loosening up and allowing the whole family to enjoy a piece of cake every now and then. Developing healthy eating habits, lifestyle, and self-image rank so importantly to me for both my teenaged son and daughter. Although I try to set a good example, I worry that I am not always the best example to them. But, as parents, perhaps the most important thing we can do to encourage a healthy lifestyle in our children is to admit our mistakes and show our kids we are always trying to be our best selves, which may not be perfect, and nor is it supposed to be. Kids and parents alike need encouragement to be the best and healthiest we can be. So, to mamas and your kiddos, babies to teens, I say: Be you and be healthy! Kari's passion for for food, family, and fun has been with her since her upbringing on her beloved Big Floyd Lake near Detroit Lakes, MN. She earned Secondary Education degrees in both Social Studies and English from Concordia College in Moorhead, MN. She enjoyed a brief stint as a caterer and cooking instructor, but has proudly spent most of her motherhood as a stay-at-home mom. Her husband, Brent, and three children, Gunnar, Ava, and Ella, have all [mostly] been eager taste testers to whatever is on the table for dinner. However, these days, having a high schooler, a middle schooler, and a first grader is providing new challenges in feeding everyone homemade and healthy meals, as well as giving her oven an intense workout most weeknights!

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I can make a batch of black bean salsa in the morning and it is gone before dinner! And who am I kidding? I occasionally DO eat salsa for dinner! But all jokes aside, this salsa recipe is my favorite: It is easy, healthy, inexpensive, and my kids love it! Besides eating it with tortilla chips, it is great tucked inside quesadillas, dolloped on top of gazpacho, or served alongside grilled fish or chicken. Add an avocado if you love them as much as I do or a diced jalapeno for some heat.

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need: 2 15 ounce cans of black beans, drained and rinsed 1 ½ cups fresh or frozen corn ⅓ cup vegetable oil or extra virgin olive oil ⅓ cup lime juice, fresh squeezed ½ cup cilantro, chopped 1 or 2 tsp. cumin ¼ cup green onion, thinly sliced ¼ cup red onion, diced 1 ½ cup tomatoes, chopped salt and pepper to taste [optional] 1 avocado, diced [optional] 1 jalapeno, diced [optional]

how to: 1. whisk lime juice and oil in a medium sized bowl until well combined. 2. add the rest of the ingredients, stirring until thoroughly combined. *if you are using an avocado, carefully fold it in last after the rest of the salsa is well combined so it doesn’t turn to mush.

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find help, get advice, make a difference Prevent Child Abuse North Dakota PCAND is a 501(c)3 not-for-profit organization and Chapter of Prevent Child Abuse America that is dedicated exclusively to the prevention of child abuse and neglect. PCAND, formerly known as the North Dakota Committee to Prevent Child Abuse and Parents Anonymous, has been working to prevent child abuse and strengthen families in North Dakota since 1978. For parenting education, support and materials, visit www.pcand.org. 4 Luv of Dog Rescue This is an all volunteer organization that strives to find loving homes for homeless dogs. They do not discriminate against the breed, age, or medical condition of a dog. The dogs rescued come from regional pounds and owner surrenders. They do not have a shelter. The dogs live in volunteer foster homes so that they can receive the love, care, and socialization they need while we search for their forever home. For more information visit www.4luvofdog.com. Jeremiah Program Empowerment. Education. Success. It is what Jeremiah Program was built on, what participants strive for and what the program helps participants achieve. At Jeremiah Program, low-income single mothers make a commitment to completing a post-secondary education, launching a successful career and creating stability and prosperity for their children—all while living in our affordable, safe housing environment. For more information, call 701.361.3873, email fargomoorhead@ jeremiahprogram.org or visit www.facebook.com/ JeremiahProgramFargoMoorhead. Up With Downs Supporting families of Down syndrome. For more information, contact Kara Jones, 701.446.8056 or karaljones@gmail.com, or Liz St. Louis, 701.212.7877 or estlouis4@gmail.com. Hands & Voices Hands & Voices is a non-profit, parent-driven organization dedicated to supporting families of children who are deaf or hard of hearing without bias around communication modes or methodology. What Works for your Child is What Makes

the Choice Right™ Contact us for more information at 701.484.1605, contact@ndhandsandvoices.org, or visit www.ndhandsandvoices.org. Red River Moms Of Multiples 2nd Tuesday of each month. For more information visit www.rrvmothersofmultiples.org. Children's Consultation Network Provides access to early childhood mental health screening, assessment and consultation, develops and distributes children's mental health resources, provides community education, seeks to diminish stigma, and facilitates collaborative efforts related to children's mental health services, especially for children ages 0-8. For more information, 701.526.1565 or www.halfachild.com. Adoption Play Support Group For more details call 701.200.3285 or email shellemoran@yahoo.com. Parent Professional Learning Network The Parent Professional Learning Network is a Parent Navigator Team with Family Voices of North Dakota offering an opportunity for parents of children with special needs and the professionals who work with them to come together to learn and grow. For more information email parentproflearningnetwork@gmail.com. The Compassionate Friends 2nd Thursday of each month, 7:00pm at Faith Lutheran Church [127 2nd Ave E, West Fargo]. Offering grief support after the death of a child. For more information email chapterleader@ tcffargomoorhead.org, call 701.491.0364 or visit www. tcffargomoorhead.org. Tender Transitions Every Tuesday and Friday from 12:00pm to 3:00pm at Essentia Health South University 6th Floor Conference Room. For all new moms in the FM area. For questions, call701.364.8066. Child Asperger Support Group Every Tuesday from 12:00pm to 1:00pm at Southeast Human Service Center. For additional information visit www.rrvan.org.

resources Beyond the NICU Doors A community support network for parents who have experienced time in a NICU. Monthly gathering starting in September will be the 4th Tuesday from 7-8:30pm at the Anne Carlson Center located behind Subway on the corner of 13th Ave S and 25th St S in Fargo. Gatherings include a speaker and children are welcome as there are toys and space available. This is open to all NICU families regardless of location of NICU experience. This is a cooperative effort between Region V Experienced Parent and March of dimes NICU Family Support. Any Questions please call Moe Schreoder at 701.237.3558 or Colette Christoffers at 701.235.5530. FM Autism Support Group 2nd Friday of each month from 7:00pm to 9:00pm at Pediatric Therapy Partners [2846 Brandt Dr S, Fargo]. For more information call group contact Rachel at 218.287.1184 or visit www. fmautismsupport.webs.com. Fargo-Moorhead Home Schoolers Christian home schooling Moms who want to network ideas and provide support to homeschooling families. For more information contact Karen - jkisgrig@msn.com or701.967.8990. Healthy Steps A health insurance program for North Dakota children age 18 or younger who do not have health insurance coverage, do not qualify or are not fully covered by the North Dakota Medicaid Program, and live in qualifying families. The benefits are offered at no or very low cost. For more information 877.543.7669 or www.healthystepsnd.com. HOPE, Inc. Provides a year-round sports and recreation program for children and young adults ages 2-23 with mobility challenges. We are family-centered and provide extra equipment so the ENTIRE family can play! Contact Adair at 701.866.9002 or adair@hopeinconline.org for more information or visit www.hopeinconline.org. Breastfeeding Support Group Meets once a month from 6:00pm to 7:00pm at Essentia Health. Call 701.364.8100 or visit www.essentiahealth.org for more information and other support group opportunities. Rape & Abuse Crisis Center Crisis intervention, advocacy, and counseling services to all persons who have been victims of domestic violence or sexual abuse. Volunteer or donate. Call 701.293.7273 or visit www.raccfm.com. Rainbow Bridge Visitation & Safe Exchange Because of dedicated individuals who volunteer their time, Rainbow Bridge is able to meet the ever increasing

visitation needs of our families. For more information visit www.rainbowbridgekids.net or call 218.299.7694. FirstChoice Clinic Provides pregnancy confirmation and counseling, prenatal and parenting classes, community referrals to help individuals make life affirming choices. Call 701.237.5902 or visit www.firstchoiceclinic.com. Volunteer or donate at www.teamfirstchoiceclinic.com. Survivor of Suicide Loss 3rd Thursday of each month. Provide a safe, accepted and supportive environment and opportunity to talk openly. For more information contact Mary at 701.219.4110. Birthright Pregnancy testing, counseling, prenatal and parenting education, maternity and infant clothing, emergency supplies of diapers and formula and labor support. All services are free and confidential. To volunteer or donate contact 701.237.0359 or www.birthright.org. Special Olympics Provides year-round sports training for all kids and adults with intellectual disabilities. To inquire about volunteering opportunities go to www. specialolympicsnorthdakota.org. FirstLink Provides telephone support including information and referral of local non-profits, listening and support, crisis intervention and suicide intervention 701.235.7335. South East Regional KIDS Program An Infant Development Service providing home-based family focused services at no cost to families having an eligible infant or toddler under the age of three. For more info, call 701.446.3927. Eating Disorders Monthly Family & Friends Support Group If you have a loved one with an eating disorder, you are invited and encouraged to attend this support group dedicated to providing a comfortable, supportive and confidential environment where you will be provided with information about eating disorders and tools to aid in your loved one’s recovery. This group is open to friends, parents, partners, caregivers and adult children. Registration: For more info contact Kara Woodbury Fladland, LPCC 701.234.4111, or search: http:// www.sanfordhealth.org/classesandevents/ClassDetail/ cb9a7533-e6f9-41cb-b562-3a7c0fc46f45. For more listings, visit www.OnTheMindsOfMoms.com/support. OTMOM does its best to keep information accurate, but organizations are responsible for providing updated information. It is always a good idea to call ahead and confirm information provided. To submit a group or resource for consideration to be posted on our website, email details to info@onthemindsofmoms.com.

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story by | kathleen wrigley

e can learn a lot from a stranger. Human beings are lifted and strengthened by simple gestures. Whether a homeless person or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, we all have innumerable opportunities—and a responsibility—to make an impact on someone’s day, even in the smallest way. President John F. Kennedy said, “One person can make a difference, and everyone should try.” I want to share my journey—my course, so to speak—to the Boston Marathon. Like any race, it commenced at the start line. My road to the Boston Marathon began last summer when Frank Matthews, Chief of the Massachusetts State Police, offered me a bib number to line up with police, firemen, and members of the military to run the Boston Marathon. He invited me to run in honor of my brother, Danny. Dan was a rookie Philadelphia police officer when he was killed in the line of duty 24 years ago.

And level ground. We hit walls that have to be pierced through to keep moving forward. And, like life itself, we are never alone on the journey. And, as important, every step—in life or on a racecourse—is bigger than just one person. Great things happen when we have open, purposeful hearts. The invitation to run the Boston Marathon was not about me at all. And although I was invited to honor my brother, it was bigger than both of us. This was a precious opportunity, and I decided to carry the names of all the Philadelphia and North Dakota fallen police officers on this journey. And, by the way, they returned the favor! Their spirits carried me. It was also a terrific opportunity to reach out further by raising money for The Officer Daniel Boyle Scholarship Fund to help educate children. Donations flowed in, totaling more than $13,000. Each dollar impacts the future of a child. It’s worth repeating the late President Kennedy’s quote, “One person can make a difference, and everyone should try.”

Frank Matthews, a stranger, gifted me with the chance of a lifetime. Getting to the start line of a marathon is a consuming commitment that ripples through all parts of a runner’s life and routines. Family, work, sleep, even eating schedules become carefully charted and monitored for months during the training period. So unless you have no other worldly responsibilities, you don’t get to the start line alone. My husband, Drew, knows what it takes. He’s run four marathons. His support was fundamental and appreciated.

Marathoners often refer to preparing for and running 26.2 miles as a metaphor for life. There are good days and bad. Challenging and easier runs. Uphills. Downhills.

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Preparing for Boston was intimidating. I have two friends, Lynn Beiswanger and Melanie Carvel, who are accomplished athletes. They helped train me. I nursed a 16-month injury that left me in dismal running shape, and I was nervous as all get-out. My “coaches” created a training program and regularly checked in throughout my months of training.

just a thought The road to Boston was lined with helpers, all making a difference. Jen Pepple, owner of the Shirt Shop in the West Acres Mall in Fargo, made an unforgettable mark on this journey. I needed her help designing my race shirt with the names of 312 fallen heroes printed on the back—260 from my childhood home in Philadelphia and 52 from my adult home state of North Dakota. This was a tedious, time-consuming project. Without hesitation Jen poured her heart and soul into this mission. I will always remember her generosity.

Then there’s this…a tiny stranger. My most treasured memory came from a little girl, maybe ten years old. I mentioned the weather. Most of the runners were draped with trash bags or rain ponchos in a feeble attempt to keep warm and dry. Runners and spectators alike were soaked from head to toe. My gloves were drenched. I wrapped the poncho around my fists to keep my hands warm. At about mile 15, I took my gloves off to find a fresh piece of gum in my belt. Unbeknownst to me at the time, I dropped them along the way. My gloves were lost. This child spectator noticed, and did something I’ll remember forever. I don’t know her name, so I’ll call her “Grace.”

Race day was cold and rainy. My forever friend and race partner Steph, a Boston native, dutifully ran on my right side. Together we chopped the 20-to-30-mph headwinds. Father Brennan, Chaplain of the New York “Grace” ran next to me behind the barricade, ripping her City Fire Department, gathered our group for a short little red mittens off her hands and offering them to service just prior to the start of the race. He distributed me to keep warm. I bent down to touch her head and communion and instructed us to make the harsh cupped her cold cheek to thank her, but gently turned elements our friend, to think of the rain as a renewal of down her unbelievably kind offer. She persisted—pacing our Baptismal promise. He told us to, “Pace yourself with herself with God’s grace—offering and re-offering her God’s grace.” This became my mantra throughout the little red mittens. A woman—perhaps her mom—said, hilly course: “Pace yourself with God’s grace, Kathleen.” “Please run with them. She wants you to be warm and I wish Father Brennan knew how his words influenced comfortable.” Tearfully, I accepted her selfless gesture. my journey that day, and in the days since. For the rest of my life, I will fondly remember the wide array of helpers and the part they each played on this joyful journey. I will cherish my savior’s little red mittens. A small gesture by a tiny stranger with a gigantic heart more than warmed my hands; it infused my spirit and strength that propelled the rest of my journey, and has left a permanent mark on my own heart. We rise by lifting others, in big or small ways. Each of us can be someone’s little red mittens. And we should all try.

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Kathleen serves on a number of community and statewide boards, committees, and leadership councils, and enjoys volunteering in church, in her kids’ school, and community programs/events. Kathleen is passionate about victims’ rights and helping to promote balance and fairness in the criminal justice system. She is also deeply interested in advocacy, education, programs, and research relating to the protection of children. Fitness is an integral part of Kathleen’s daily routine and helps her sustain her own mental health! Kathleen’s column “ just a thought” has been a regularly occurring piece in “on the minds of moms” since 2009. This Philadelphia native is married to a fourth-generation North Dakotan and ND’s Lieutenant Governor, Drew, and proudly considers North Dakota her home. They have three children. Before becoming a mom, she was director for Bismarck’s Child Advocacy Center and was a speechwriter. Kathleen received a BS from Pennsylvania State University and completed her graduate studies at Temple University in Philadelphia.

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brave enough bill stansbery

story by | sheri kleinsasser stockmoe

ur interview lasted over two hours. And we learned a lot about Bill. He grew up on a farm outside Sheldon, North Dakota. He met his wife, Dana, in high school. He travels for work and can’t get home to his wife and daughter soon enough. And it’s so easy to like Bill. He’s equal parts of sometimes opposing characteristics. He’s humble and confident. He’s stoic and funny. He’s sweet and soft, yet a pillar of strength. As he talks about some of the challenges he has faced, I think to myself, “This guy is so brave!” Brave enough to share his struggle with infertility. Brave enough to put his wife before himself when she needed help facing a new day. Brave enough to proclaim his relationship with God is a priority. Brave enough to cry. Brave enough to keep moving…

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brave enough Right there in the woodwind section of the Enderlin High School band, 17-year-old, baritone playing Bill Stansbery met his future wife, Dana, on the tenor sax. This typical farm boy, with a warm smile and fun personality, made concentrating on her sheet music difficult. “Our band teacher, Mrs. Palmer, was hilarious,” Dana remembers with a smile. “One day she told us she needed a little space between us!”

one thing we have learned about our marriage is that we are stronger because of the path our lives have taken Today the couple lives in Amenia, North Dakota. Dana is a teacher in Casselton and Bill works for an agricultural manufacturer. The last 19 years together have brought challenges and joy, but there is a constant: “My best friend is my wife,” Bill states matter-of-factly. One thing we have learned about our marriage is that we are stronger because of the path our lives have taken.”

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brave enough to talk A couple years into their marriage, the couple decided it was time to start a family, but things weren’t happening like they planned. “We went in and did some testing to try and figure out what was going on,” Bill says. “We found out the issue is on my side. They basically said, ‘Well, you have a low sperm count,’ which is really awkward to talk about!” he confesses as he shifts in his chair and takes a deep breath before continuing. “I was told I have a low sperm count and for us to get pregnant it was going to be more of a challenge.”

heavy smoking, and some medications. Low sperm count is a common cause of infertility and is present in nearly half of all couples with fertility problems.” The couple processed the information. Adding the stress of infertility treatment to their plates didn’t seem doable at the time. Bill was completing his undergraduate degree at NDSU and Dana was completing her Master’s degree while teaching and coaching volleyball. About four years later, the time seemed right. “We went back in and started the process,” Bill says. And for him the “process” included “providing a sample,” he says with a slight grin. “Hey, I figure if I'm going to do this story, I'm going to throw it all out there!” he laughs. “When you first go into the little sample room and there's a TV and some magazines, and the nurse is handing you a cup, all you can think is, ‘what in the heck did I get myself into?’ Then you do your thing and you pull a cord for the nurse. You wonder how awkward is this actually going to be, but it’s really not awkward for the nurse because she does it every day!” Bill explains. The test revealed Bill’s sperm count had dropped even lower. Subsequent tests found no conclusive answers to what was causing the problem. The couple followed their doctor’s recommendation to freeze some of Bill’s sperm as a precautionary measure and start in vitro fertilization [IVF] treatment. Dr. Cain explains that when a low sperm count is present, the chance of conceiving naturally depends on how severe the problem is. “If the problem is mild or moderate, sometimes the low sperm count just slows the process and causes a delay in getting pregnant,” she says. “But if the problem is severe, then the chance of a natural conception becomes very low. For example, a normal sperm concentration is 15 million per milliliter. If the count is less than one million per milliliter, then the couple will almost always need fertility treatment.” Bill’s problem was severe. “I will never forget the day we truly realized that there was no way we would be having children the traditional way or through anything but IVF,” Dana recalls. Bill was equally disappointed.

A low sperm count can mean different things, explains Kristen Cain, MD, a specialist in reproductive endocrinology at Sanford Health. “It can mean the concentration of “As a guy, you second-guess what your purpose on this sperm in the semen is low, or there is a lower-than-normal earth is,” Bill says of his diagnosis. “If you’re not able percentage of sperm that are swimming well. It can be to literally do what you're supposed to do and father caused by trauma to the groin, surgery, excessive heat children, why are you here? Even three years later, I’m from sitting or driving most of the day, drugs, alcohol, not sure I have actually wrapped my head around that.” 62

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going through the process of ivf, it almost feels like you as a person are laid out for all the world to see. whether or not that's actually the way it is, you feel very exposed

from the brave inside enough out IVF involves combining eggs and sperm outside the body, and once an embryo or embryos is formed, it is placed in the uterus. For women embarking on this form of fertility treatment, the first step involves hormone injections. These hormones produce multiple eggs rather than just one each month.

“The ultrasound couldn't find the heartbeat, couldn't see anything moving,” Bill says softly. “The doctor told us our baby was gone.” Inducing labor was recommended and the couple was given a room to start the labor process. “It’s weird how I can remember everything about that room,” Bill says. “We spent the entire day crying and talking.” They also communicated with their pastor, asking for Bible verses to read.

Bill and Dana were ready to start their IVF journey, but weren’t exactly sure what to expect. “At least for us, it's weird,” Bill says shaking his head. “I gave her the shots every day. The hormone injections, medications, “In those hours of reading the hospital Bible and talkwhatever. And you're sitting there and she's bending ing to God we decided that we were not going to ask over the end of the couch with her pants pulled down. why,” Dana says. “We were not going to question why Her butt is sticking out. It's so surreal that you’re doing it all happened, why we went through the emotional all of this!” rollercoaster, the physical discomfort, and the financial “Infertility is still somewhat of a taboo topic,” Dana burden. It was a waste of our time and energy and we adds. “It is such a lonely place and yet so many people were not going to focus on that.” experience it. There are two reasons we talk about At six p.m., Sophie Lee was born. “They figured out our journey. It is therapeutic for us and it gives light pretty quickly that it was a cord accident,” Bill shares. to matters that others experience and should not be afraid to talk about. There are so many couples out For the next four hours Bill and Dana held their there who have fertility issues and some are male daughter. Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, the infant factors. We want people to know they are not alone.” loss photographers, took pictures that Bill and Dana Bill also acknowledges the stress infertility puts on a marriage. “It was tough. It wasn't the easiest thing on our marriage,” he says. “Going through the process of IVF, it almost feels like you as a person are laid out for all the world to see. Whether or not that's actually the way it is, you feel very exposed.”

treasure dearly. Nurses and doctors offered comfort and Sophie was baptized. “We prayed a lot, talked about what we're going to do,” Bill says of those precious hours with their daughter. “We decided while we were there with Sophie that we were going to try again for a child.”

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The day came to implant an embryo. Eggs were retrieved And then their time together was over. from Dana and Bill provided a sample. But there was a problem. “There was nothing there that was usable,” Bill “Sitting in the hospital bed, after we said goodbye to says. Luckily, the couple had a previously frozen sample. Sophie, was the single most devastating experience in our lives,” Dana shares. “But we were surrounded by God’s “It was very wise decision by our doctor; otherwise we grace every single second of the most awful moments. wouldn't have the chance to have children.” There are things that happened to us that we do not Two embryos were transferred. In the following weeks describe to anyone because most wouldn’t believe it. Bill and Dana learned they would be parents. Most people can’t comprehend the unimaginable pain of going through everything we had already experienced brave enough to grieve and then holding our child’s lifeless body in our arms. December 29, 2011…the couple was approaching the Bill sat behind me holding me during the night and we 30th week of their pregnancy. Dana wasn’t feeling well. prayed. We prayed and asked God for guidance.” She had been having gallbladder issues prior to and throughout her pregnancy and this morning she was After Sophie’s funeral, Bill and Dana needed to get having a horrible attack. While she was in physical away. Nowhere in particular, just away. Sioux Falls pain, she also knew something wasn’t right with the became the destination. “We decided to go to the mall. baby. Bill rushed her to the ER. Dana was taken to the I have no idea why, just to get out of the hotel room,” birthing center. Two nurses came in. Then their doctor. Bill says. “As we’re driving to the mall there was a sign Then the ultrasound tech.

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happiness, joy, scared…such a mix of emotions. on one side, you feel so happy and excited, and on the other you think of what you're missing

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brave enough that said, "Keep Moving." We looked at each other. I went, “Seriously?” It was literally a sign!”

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And the phrase kept popping up: on a billboard, the back of truck, or the random sign complete with an arrow noting the direction. “I really did not want to

keep moving after Sophie was born,” Dana confesses. “I wanted a giant hole to swallow me up. We kept seeing the words, ‘Keep Moving.’ If those aren’t signs from God, I don’t know what is!” And “keep moving” is exactly what they did. “The alternative?” Bill asks. “I don’t want to think about it. I know there were a couple of times where I literally had to pick my wife up off the bathroom floor because

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she'd been in there crying for half a day while I was at work. There were days that she didn’t want to live and there were days I didn’t want to live. I don't know why. I don't know how but we did. Nothing ever really goes back to normal after something like that no matter how hard you try to get back.”

One thing that has helped the couple deal with the grief of Sophie’s death has been their faith. “It gets us through each day,” Bill says. “Dana and I don’t believe that God would bless us with a child only to take her away. We don’t believe that.” Dana agrees. “We hate the saying ‘God only gives you what you can handle.’ God is love, he doesn’t make bad things happen. He didn’t make us experience infertility; He didn’t make Sophie die, give my mom breast cancer,

brave enough or any of the other yucky stuff. God is there in all of those times, but He is the light in the darkness. We love the saying ‘God doesn’t give us what we can handle; God helps us handle what we are given.’” As time passed Bill and Dana were ready to follow through on the promise they made while they held their baby girl months before. They would try for another child. brave enough to keep moving Summer of 2012, Dana and Bill returned to the Sanford Reproductive Clinic. “Fertility issues are overwhelming,” Dana confesses. “Going through the process of IVF is a daunting experience. It is expensive, and not physically the most pleasant experience. However, one of the best quotes that we live by is, ‘when the world says give up, hope whispers, try one more time.’ Amen to that!” Again, the couple went through a series of shots designed to prepare Dana’s body for embryo implantation. And again they became pregnant after one round of IVF. “I think we beat the odds,” Bill says with a smile.” On March 27, 2013, at 4:42 p.m., Jillian Josephine entered the world. “There were so many emotions running through my head that I don't know if I can begin to describe all of them,” the proud daddy says. “Happiness, joy, scared…such a mix of emotions. On one side, you feel so happy and excited, and on the other you think of what you're missing, like who should be there to see her little sister being born. The emotions, it's just so strong that it almost feels like your heart's going to explode.” The family of three enjoys every moment together, however, there have been bumps in the road with concerns over Jillian’s health. As Bill explained, Jillian’s growth curve is perfect, but substantially below what is considered typical. “We've been try to figure out what's going on there and she receives different therapies and early intervention services.”

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Last November Jillian gave her parents a real scare when she suffered multiple seizures. She now takes an anti-seizure medication twice a day and has not experienced any seizures since. Additional testing has revealed a diagnosis for Jillian. “She has a rare deletion on the q arm in her 4th chromosome that explains her hypotonia, seizures, and other issues,” Dana says. ”It is a bit hard to deal with but it is what it is and we are moving forward. She is still her spunky sassy self!” And Bill agrees. “She terrorizes the dog, eats the dirt out of potted plants, and she's a climber,” he says with a laugh. june • july twenty fifteen | on the minds of moms

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“He is an amazing father,” Dana gushes. “We have had a few moments where one of us has gone into pity-party mode and felt angry that Jillian has to experience struggles or that we have to watch her struggle. When one of us says ‘It’s just not fair,’ it’s the cue for the other to say, ‘No, it isn’t fair, but let’s look at the blessings we have instead.’”

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“The biggest joy in our lives right now is Jillian,” Bill says. “Despite the health concerns we have with her, we revel in all of her accomplishments and are so proud we could just burst when she hits another milestone. There are times when we look at her and are so overcome with joy that she is here and she is ours we spontaneously erupt into tears. While I understand that isn’t “manly”

brave enough in some people’s eyes, I couldn’t really care less. She is our daughter and we are so thankful to have her that the opinions of others have gotten moved to the bottom of our list of cares.” brave enough to be selfless “People are going to think I’m nuts,” Bill says as he leans back in his chair and reaches into his left front jean pocket. He pulls out a quarter-sized, bronze-colored token and drops it on the table. One side has a beautiful cross and the other says, “May your loved one shine on you.” “This was given to us when Sophie passed away by one of our godchildren’s parents,” he says as he holds the token between his thumb and first finger. “I carried it in my pocket every day, but shortly after Jillian was born I lost it and I was devastated.” Bill tore the house apart, to no avail. Four months later, on what would have been Sophie’s second birthday, Bill and Dana sat in their living room remembering their daughter and consoling each other as baby Jillian slept in the other room. “We were just sitting there,

TV off and we were both crying,” Bill remembers. “It was dead quiet in our house and all of a sudden, at six p.m. [the same time Sophie was born] we hear this hit the floor,” he says as he holds the token up and drops it on the wooden table we sit at. “This had fallen out of the chair across the room,” he says while choking back tears and holding the token in his palm. “I look at it as our daughter saying, ‘I’m here and I’m with you and I love you.’” This token helps Bill remember and offers him comfort and hope. But as important as it is, he has no intention of keeping it forever. “I keep thinking that one day, whether it be someone I know or not, someday there’s going to be someone that needs this more than I do,” he says as his eyes fill with tears. “Then I can give it to that person and say, “Take this and carry it with you and know that your loved one is with you.” If giving up something that means so much to him can help someone else, Bill is brave enough to do just that. Because he knows, as hard as it might be, you have to keep moving.

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traveling with kids

ready, set, grow

story by | patricia carlson

e all need a break now and then. When it comes to traveling with your kiddos, however, one size does not fit all. The needs of a rookie mom and dad flying cross-country with a baby are vastly different from the seasoned family with multiple kids who are just trying to keep everyone happy. Or quiet. Or both. Knowing what you need to survive a trip at every age group can be a daunting and frightening task. Lucky for you, we’ve compiled a basic road map that should get you through family vacations now and for years to come. Happy trails!

ready se before bringing your infant car seat on board, make sure it is approved for use on airplanes. some car

seats have an approval sticker on them or you can check the manufacturer’s website for information.

wee ones [0–18 months]

ven the fussiest, most unpredictable infant can benefit from a change of scenery. So can you, especially when you’re heading toward the loving arms of a family member who might even let you [gasp!] take a few naps while you’re in their company. The most important tip for traveling with a new bundle of joy is to operate under the KISS policy: Keep It Simple, Silly.

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If you can, plan trips around your baby’s nap schedule. You may feel compelled to pack every article of clothing, diaper, toy, blanket, and gadget you own. Don’t. Your baby will be stimulated enough while on vacation that he won’t require the usual amount of stuff. Cherry-pick

the essentials and then allow yourself a small budget to buy any extras along the way [you were going to buy your baby something to commemorate his/her first trip anyway]. by air Flying can cause the greatest amount of anxiety for any new mom or dad. The lines. The confined space. The germs! But there is a way for all of you to get through it without any turbulence. 1. Book a non-stop flight. If it coincides with your baby’s nap time, all the better. 2. Buy your baby his/her own seat and bring a car seat on board. It’s so much safer and more comfortable than lap sitting. 3. DO NOT use a stroller in the airport. If possible, wear your baby in a carrier. You’ll get through security and terminal transfers quicker and, anyway, it’s free to send your stroller through baggage. 4. Definitely bring along enough breastmilk, formula, and/or food to get you through your travel time, plus an emergency delay [airports do not sell formula]. 5. Before you pack big items like pack-n-plays and strollers, check to see if there is a baby-gear rental agency at your destination. Traveling with your baby will, honestly, be the easiest time in your life for a family vacation.

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hese busy beavers need action, action, and more action! Wherever you plan on going, try to make the actual travel time less than four hours, especially if they’ll be required to sit for that amount of time. The amount of gear you need for these kiddos is starting to thin out but the trade off is that your activity level needs to increase. These will, undoubtedly, be your most difficult traveling years. Forget about museums, movies, or sporting events. Think beaches, national parks, or even cruises. The idea here is to give your tot plenty of room to play and explore without you having to run yourself ragged chasing after him. Here’s a couple of great family holidays to choose from:

cruise Cruises are filled with entertainment. Music, dancing, buffets, poolside games, the list of daily entertainment

If there is one big caveat about traveling at this age, it’s to be aware of your potty-training efforts. Don’t make your child fly or endure a super-long car trip if he or she is just beginning to get a grip on going pee pee in the potty. One embarrassing setback is enough to cause him or her to regress.

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rent a condo/vacation house Think about it. You’ll have your own room. Your kid will have his. You’ll also have a kitchen, a washer/ dryer, and space. Aaahhhh. Now, doesn’t that sound nice? Add in a loving grandparent or even another family with little ones and you’ve got the recipe for a lovely vacation. Your children can play together and help keep each other entertained. You can trade off a night out with the other couple. It doesn’t matter if your rental is on the beach or in a National Park, your tot will stay entertained and you’ll have a nice bed on which to crash as the sun sets.

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ongratulations! In most cases, you are free from the trappings that bound you during baby and toddlerhood. No more naps. No more bottles. No more diapers! Without these constraints, your vacation options have really opened up again. Even better, many kids these ages love traveling. Airplanes and cars are cool—unlimited iPad time! Trains are neat—look at how amazing our country is, and there is a dining car! Buses are huge—I’m so high up in the air! Now is the time to take advantage of their curiosity AND the fact that you’re not hampered by a full-time school schedule.

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it’s disney time If ever there was a time to visit Disney World, this is it. Seriously, it’s the perfect family vacation if you have children of multiple ages. While your preschooler is learning ‘It’s a Small World After All,’ your baby can

be napping in her stroller. While your tween is digging ‘Toy Story Mania!, a teenager can be off on his own riding Space Mountain fifty times in a row. The trick with Disney is to plan ahead. There are TONS of helpful websites and blogs to help you get started and map out your visit depending on ages and interests. Here’s what the Today show recommends for preschoolers: • Do the Magic Kingdom’s Fantasyland, New Fantasyland, and the Buzz Lightyear Space Ranger Spin ride in Tomorrowland in one day • Combine Frontierland and Adventureland into another day • Give one day each for Animal Kingdom and Disney’s Hollywood Studios • Combine a half-day of Epcot with a half-day of poolside rest • If you still have energy to burn at night, try one of Disney’s dynamic shows or parades

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take away any electronic devices [like smartphone or ipads] at night that might inhibit sleep when on vacation. that goes for you, too!

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ids these ages crave adventure so the trick is to plan your family trip around an experience. Skiing in Montana or New England. Visiting a foreign country. Fishing in Alaska. Checking out the Grand Canyon or the Florida Everglades. Big kids want two things in a family vacation: action and the ability to meet new friends. It’s important to note that most of these types of trips aren’t cheap, so if it’s on your radar, start saving a year in advance. get some zzzz’s Big kids will say and do everything they can to keep up with the grown-ups during vacation. It’s free time for them, too! Sleep deprivation, however, can wreak havoc on your kiddos attitude, health, and energy level by day three. To combat this, try to ensure everyone has a comfortable sleeping space. If you can afford more than one hotel room [or a suite or adjoining rooms], do

it. Your big kid should share a room with older kids, not babies or toddlers who have more erratic sleeping habits. And on nights when there isn’t an evening activity, try to get your kids to bed at their regular time. Yes, they may fight you on it, but you’ll all be happier the next day when they can rise and shine with the rest of you.

sources: • www.independenttraveler.com/travel-tips/air-travel/ the-best-and-worst-days-to-fly • www.today.com/parents/disney-world-toddlers-all-ages-I127793 • www.faa.gov/passengers/fly_children/www.ustravel.org/news/ press-releases/spring-break-survey-finds-family-vacationscreate-lasting-memories • tripswithtykes.com/2012/07/29/ best-and-worst-ages-to-fly-with-your-child/ • www.travelandleisure.com/articles/the-age-appropriate-vacation • www.tsa.gov/traveler-information/traveling-children • www.delta.com/content/www/en_US/agency/our-products-andservices/unaccompanied-minors-umnr.html • www.fodors.com/news/story_3285.html

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tweeners [10–12 years]

his age group is notoriously moody and selfish. They’re also easily embarrassed by mom and dad and have short tempers with siblings. The lessons here? • Don’t plan a family trip and expect your tween to babysit her littles. • Don’t sign up for the karaoke contest. • Don’t make them spend every waking minute with you. The more you know, right? get involved A creative way to boost the happiness quotient of a tween on family vacay is to get them involved in the

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most airlines have an unaccompanied minor program where teens can fly alone but get assistance from an airline employee for boarding and transfers.

teens [13–18years]

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phone number of where you’re staying, carry a map of the city, and not be so engaged on his phone that he’s not aware of his surroundings.

expand their horizons [without telling them you’re doing it] For years things like museums and theatre productions, fancy restaurants, and late-night performances were the stuff you could only dream of. Now, you may find you actually have a partner in crime who enjoys them as much as you do!

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Since cities have so much to offer, you’ll really want to tackle this vacation as a team. Give your teen some research duties and then have her pick her favorite attractions. You do the same. Together, come up with your itinerary and then enjoy! It’s a great way to let your teens explore some interests or passions outside of their hometown, without the watchful and/or critical eye of their friends.

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A vacation like this will be one that you’ll remember forever. It wasn’t too long ago that you were worried about how many diapers to pack, huh?

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ommy brain. I am sure you have heard of it and possibly experienced some of the effects. Well, I am here to confirm that mommy brain is real. Neurologists have researched what happens to a woman’s brain during pregnancy and after delivery and have found definite changes in a woman’s prefrontal cortex, midbrain, and elsewhere. That’s right, there is a legitimate reason for the forgetfulness and lack of brainpower. Studies show that when a woman is pregnant activity increases in regions of the brain that control empathy, anxiety, and social interaction. So, you see, it is okay to feel different, forget things, and not be totally there right after baby is born. Research also shows that this fogginess can last up to a year after having a baby. This is where the so-called experts start to lose me. I have done my own research over the last 20-some years and I disagree. I have evidence that mommy brain may be a lifelong condition. Let me state my case. Exhibit A is what I like to call the early years. After I had my first child there were days when I would make myself breakfast and find it uneaten on the kitchen table at dinner time. I would forget or get busy or sleep instead of eating it. There are so many examples of these mind lapses, but here’s one for the record books. 80

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The twins had just entered our family, and let’s just say we were adjusting. Using trial/error to become better, more efficient parents. Trying to establish a new normal where I got enough sleep to function. We had tried the divide-and-conquer route. You take one, I’ll take the other. Brilliant right? It didn’t work. Plan B, rotate nights. Sleep one night, up the next; perfect. It was my night on and things were going great. I thought I had things under control but I couldn’t console one of the babies. That’s when my somewhat-annoyed husband rolled over and said, “Why don’t you feed him?” Like what did he think I was doing all night? In my mind, the kid was eating like a horse. He looked at me and said, “You haven’t fed him in hours.” Then it hit me—I had been feeding one baby twice the food and one wasn’t getting any. Like no food all night. Wow, clearly a case of mommy brain and possibly malnutrition. Different-colored pajamas started the next night. Exhibit B could be titled the middle years. Almost seven years later you would find our family of six visiting friends one great summer afternoon. We said our goodbyes, jumped in the car, and drove off. We were about two blocks away and I looked back to talk to the kids and saw we were one down. Yep, our family of six was now a family of five. We literally left one of our children and drove away. Of course my first instinct was

oh, by the way to blame the kids. “Where is your brother? You have to watch out for each other.” I looked at my husband and I know he read my mind, which was saying, “Holy cow, how do you forget a kid? An entire whole person. That you gave birth to. I have totally lost my mind!” That is when we instituted the head-count policy before leaving any family gathering, grocery store, or our house. It worked pretty well, too, until the Christmas incident when after we got home we got a call asking if we were missing anything. Man, I just can’t win. When you are crazy it takes a village, my friends. Exhibits C, D, and E and counting would be what I am living in now, my present years; the years when I am supposed to be done with mommy brain. Do I dare say I should be back to normal? However, I feel like crazy is hitting an all-time high. For example, I stopped at my mom and dad’s house, jumped out of the car, and then realized that the car followed me into the house. That’s right, a Yukon XL ran right into my parents’ closed garage door. Crunch. I forgot to put the car in park before I got out, not to mention I didn’t turn it off. No kids in the car and no one hurt—I guess if there’s a silver lining, that’s it. This is why I question the so called “experts.” I mean, all my kids were in high school when that happened. Speaking of high school, last year I ordered three year books [for one child] because—you guessed it—I forgot I had ordered one, then two; you get the picture. In addition, I miss my interstate exit at least twice a week. Of course this really isn’t a problem because I am ALWAYS on time and I am NEVER in a hurry. I [think I] lock my car door, only to find that

my hatch back is open when I come out of the store. I always panic and then look around to see if anyone noticed that the crazy lady opened her trunk before entering the store. Also, I have not gotten my memory back. I walk into a room and have no idea why I am there. What did I need again? Was I in a hurry? What day is it? Seriously, what is wrong with me? This seems extra crazy to me considering I am a woman who knows every word to “Sugar” by Maroon 5, along with several popular 80’s tunes lyrics. So there you have it. I have made my point. Mommy brain is a lifelong condition. How does this information help you? Well, I hope the next time you arrive home from the grocery store and realize you didn’t pick up your purchases at the so-convenient drive up [yes, I have done that], or the next time you find the milk in the pantry [wow, does that smell!] you will understand your forgetfulness and accept your mishaps and gain some strength in the sisterhood of mothers. We are all in this together and you need to know you are living a relatively “normal” life. And if you get to work and look down at your feet and realize you have two different shoes on, please know you are not alone. Raised in Finley, ND, Deb has called Moorhead her home for the last 13 years. A graduate of Drake University in Des Moines, IA, with a degree in Journalism and Mass Communications, she is currently Marketing & Communications Director for Wanzek Construction. Deb welcomes the pleasant distraction that writing brings and thanks her children, Jake [21], Tony [20], Nick [20], and Emily [18] for inspiration. Deb and her husband Tim like to spend their free time with their kids and on the golf course.

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